WEBVTT - Why you should go to happy hour

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to do something social with your colleagues,

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<v Speaker 1>not every day, but at least every few weeks. Many

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<v Speaker 1>years ago, I got a question from a woman who

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<v Speaker 1>was a new mom and was also newly in management.

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<v Speaker 1>She knew that it would be a smart career strategy

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<v Speaker 1>to take her team members out for dinner or drinks.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing so would help them see her in a more

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<v Speaker 1>relaxed setting. They'd start to trust her more. That way,

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<v Speaker 1>if she needed to give tough feedback, it would feel different.

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<v Speaker 1>It wouldn't feel so harsh. It would feel like she

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<v Speaker 1>was on their team. The problem, though, was that she

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<v Speaker 1>commuted on top of her full time job, so she

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<v Speaker 1>only got to spend about ninety minutes with her baby

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<v Speaker 1>before the child's bedtime. She understandably hated the idea of

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<v Speaker 1>giving that time up. So this seemed like quite a dilemma,

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<v Speaker 1>one of those no one can have at all moments.

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<v Speaker 1>But I had a question. Did her team want her

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<v Speaker 1>to take them out every night? Well? No, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care how cool you are. No one wants to go

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<v Speaker 1>out with her boss every night. So I suggested broadening

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<v Speaker 1>her time frame. If she took her team out every

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<v Speaker 1>two weeks or so, that would go a long way

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<v Speaker 1>towards building a better relationship. Her team members would definitely

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<v Speaker 1>feel a lot closer to her if they went out

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<v Speaker 1>every other week. It also meant she'd be spending twenty

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<v Speaker 1>eight out of thirty evenings per month with her baby,

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<v Speaker 1>which seems pretty good to me. Rather than pitt work

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<v Speaker 1>against family, she could take the long view of time.

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<v Speaker 1>Taking the long view of times, she could be the

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<v Speaker 1>kind of manager teams liked and the kind of mom

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<v Speaker 1>who was there pretty much every night. More broadly, as

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<v Speaker 1>we look at this topic, I am always fascinated to

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<v Speaker 1>see how many people think that socializing with colleagues is

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<v Speaker 1>a nice but not critical part of the job. Indeed,

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<v Speaker 1>I've had people tell me that they consider themselves good

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<v Speaker 1>at time management because they don't waste time chatting with

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<v Speaker 1>their colleagues. They shut themselves in their offices, work through lunch,

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<v Speaker 1>and get stuff done. I understand why people might do this.

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<v Speaker 1>Many times, it's because of family responsibilities. People have to

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<v Speaker 1>make a five thirty p m. Daycare pickup, or they

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<v Speaker 1>hate the idea of bringing work home, but there are downsides.

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<v Speaker 1>Being promoted and then managing effectively isn't just about getting

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<v Speaker 1>work done. It's about inspiring other people to want to

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<v Speaker 1>do their best work for you. People want to do

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<v Speaker 1>their best work for people they like and trust. The

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<v Speaker 1>best way to get people to like and trust you

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<v Speaker 1>is to spend relax time with them when you're not

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<v Speaker 1>just giving orders. Even if you have no intention of

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<v Speaker 1>ever moving into management, professional relationships still matter. Other people

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<v Speaker 1>might have insights into office politics, or might have made

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<v Speaker 1>stupid mistakes that they can warn you from making. Learning

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<v Speaker 1>this over a beer can save you all sorts of time.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, it doesn't have to be happy hour. You

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<v Speaker 1>could take your team out for lunch or breakfast. A

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<v Speaker 1>few managers have told me they intentionally start the happy

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<v Speaker 1>hour at four o'clock so people can still leave by five.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a great way to include people who might have

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<v Speaker 1>to get home by a certain time. As for informal

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<v Speaker 1>get to gather as colleagues just do occasionally. If people

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<v Speaker 1>ask you, I'd encourage you to say yes. Sometimes you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to say yes every time, but if the

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<v Speaker 1>answer is always know, people stop asking Saying yes occasionally

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<v Speaker 1>means you stay in the loop. So figure out what

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<v Speaker 1>socially you can do with your colleagues in the next

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<v Speaker 1>week or two. If your office has a creative way

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<v Speaker 1>for busy people to get to know each other, I'd

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