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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter. Excuse me. Subject, he had a

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Speaker 1: real wife and a fake wife. It was a colo,

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Speaker 1: it was a cough. I'm sorry. Subject he had a

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Speaker 1: real wife and a fake wife. Dear Stephen Shirlett. Is

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Speaker 1: somebody laughing, Carla? Sorry? Okay, be quiet, please thank you?

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Speaker 1: Get it all out? Are we ready? Subject, he had

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Speaker 1: a real wife and a fake wife. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I have been with a liar for seven years, and

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Speaker 1: I thought we had been married for three years. When

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Speaker 1: we first met. He told me that he is an

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Speaker 1: only child. Three months into our relationship, I went by

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Speaker 1: there was a woman sitting on the porch with two

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Speaker 1: the woman and the girls were. He said it was

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Speaker 1: his sister and her daughters, and they're staying with his

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Speaker 1: had never told me he was an only child. I

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Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait, wait wait that because he had told

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Speaker 1: just misread it, that's all. Okay. That was strange because

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Speaker 1: he had told me he was an only child. I

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Speaker 1: In twenty seventeen, he proposed and we had a big wedding.

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Speaker 1: His mom and his sister didn't come to our wedding.

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Speaker 1: I started asking a lot of questions, but my husband

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Speaker 1: since we got engaged, so I called her one day

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Speaker 1: any parts of that illegal mess. She said, my husband

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Speaker 1: was already married and his wife and his daughters live

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Speaker 1: she is still living with his mom. Lately, he has

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Speaker 1: been begging me to let him come home so we

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Speaker 1: trust him again. He is willing to do whatever it takes,

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Speaker 1: and he wants to give me a real life fairytale

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Speaker 1: wedding this time. What should I do? You should run

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Speaker 1: and keep running and don't stop. Please do not go

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Speaker 1: back to this mess. I mean you're out, Stay out.

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Speaker 1: This man's a liar. He lied to you about everything.

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Speaker 1: He had, a whole wife, whole two daughters, kids, everything.

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Speaker 1: He said he was an only child and that was

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Speaker 1: his sister. How I don't blame you. How could you

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Speaker 1: ever trust him? What is the point in getting married

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Speaker 1: and you can't trust your husband? Do not do this.

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Speaker 1: All these questions that you were asking the mom and

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Speaker 1: everything after the fact in him, you should have been

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Speaker 1: asking those before you got married. I can't believe you

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Speaker 1: didn't know any of this stuff. No, but definitely not

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Speaker 1: go back. How should you handle this a fairytale wedding. No,

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Speaker 1: you had that already. You really did have that. You

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Speaker 1: Keep it moved thing, that's what you should do. Steve.

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Speaker 1: I'm so confused with this letter because this letter has

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Speaker 1: got so much information missing. Yeah, I've never seen a

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Speaker 1: I don't know where this woman. This is just you've

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Speaker 1: been with a lie for seven years. You thought you

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Speaker 1: had been married for three. When we first met, he

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Speaker 1: You went by his mama's how to drop something off

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Speaker 1: He said it was his sister and her daughters. They

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Speaker 1: I mean, right there, whole up, you ain't say nothing.

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Speaker 1: Whoa you told me you were only child? What you mean?

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Speaker 1: That's your sister and then her two? See that right there?

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Speaker 1: You but you ain't say nothing. I never questioned it,

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Speaker 1: were an only child. So you have a sister. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: but we ain't cool and something like that. Give him

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Speaker 1: illegal mask. She said, my husband was already married, had

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Speaker 1: this information before. All right, we'll be back. I got

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Speaker 1: more for you. Yeah. Part two of Steve's response coming

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: woman sitting on your mama's punch with these two little girls.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's my sister and her two kids. They staying

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Speaker 1: Didn't you tell me, you was the only child. Now,

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Speaker 1: she didn't do none of that. She let that go.

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Speaker 1: So then they're getting married and his wife and his

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Speaker 1: this was the same three people you saw on the porch.

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Speaker 1: You didn't think it was strange that some grown ass

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Speaker 1: Then when he told you was his sister, after he

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Speaker 1: was in your faith. Then I felt foolish and realized,

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Speaker 1: my marriage is a sham, and that's against the law.

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Speaker 1: You can't marry somebody and you've already been married. That's

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Speaker 1: a criminal offense. You can go to jail for that.

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Speaker 1: This ain't no. I felt my marriage was a sham.

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Speaker 1: That's a that's a law. You can't do that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you can't do whatever that is. You can't do it.

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Speaker 1: Who wants two wives? I felt foolish and realized my

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Speaker 1: He divorced his wife. Wait a minute, so he divorced

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Speaker 1: his wife. After that, he divorced his wife. But y'all

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Speaker 1: had a wedding. This is illegal. But she's still living

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Speaker 1: with his mom. What what? So his mama still don't

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Speaker 1: love him, but I'll never trust him again. You still

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Speaker 1: to the next one? See fairytale winds have fairy tales

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Speaker 1: in it. Yeah, this's been a nightmare. So now what

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Speaker 1: fairytale wedding? You? Finn the ham off this nightmare? Ass

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Speaker 1: with you? This is your chance. You have a clean out.

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Speaker 1: God got you out of this clean you found out

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Speaker 1: it was a sham. You can get yours an knowed.

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Speaker 1: It's perfectly fine. You can have knowled this because it's

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Speaker 1: Your mother in law know it's illegal. Who is this

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Speaker 1: in his letter said he's doing nothing financially for him

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Speaker 1: because they still live that. So at what point does

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Speaker 1: he man up and take care of his children. There's

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Speaker 1: no point in it. But I'll never trust him again.

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Speaker 1: This is not a good person. I really don't understand

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Speaker 1: where we're at with it. If he's willing to do

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Speaker 1: You need to take care of your children, dog, and

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Speaker 1: you need to do right by this woman that you

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Speaker 1: don't put this burden on your mother that you ain't

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Speaker 1: got enough. Dog, holdup, lady, stude, don't care about this mama.

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Speaker 1: This dude don't care about this lady. This dude don't

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Speaker 1: Shirley told you what to do? Run, rollerblade, skateboard, show

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Speaker 1: ass a bite both lift, hitch hike thing, hitch hike, passport,

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Speaker 1: run escape, do whatever you want to do. Bungee jump,

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Speaker 1: but have a rope that don't take you back up

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Speaker 1: all right. Thank you, Steve. Post you post your comment

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