1 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:07,520 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and record of stuff. 2 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 1: We never told your production, but I hear radio and 3 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:22,080 Speaker 1: welcome to another edition of Happy Hour. We are pausing 4 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:24,640 Speaker 1: because we have not gotten all of our sex in 5 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: the City stuff together quite yet. We're getting there, y'all, 6 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: We're getting there. But because we are pausing, I've decided 7 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:36,559 Speaker 1: that I want to rant during this Happy Hour. Is that? Okay, Annie, always, 8 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 1: do you have your drink ready? As always, drink responsibly 9 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: if you do so, or whatever you're partaking in, do 10 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: it responsibly, whether that is coffee or tea or whatever. 11 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:50,520 Speaker 1: And also, we are not being sponsored by any specific 12 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:54,480 Speaker 1: company to this episode. We have sponsors, but there's nothing 13 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: specific to this episode. If we mentioned a product, we promised, 14 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: we're not being sponsored by them, so not at least 15 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 1: currently right now. Yes, at this moment while we're recording 16 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 1: dynamic as y'all, if you want to learn more about it, 17 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: I could go on and on and on. I am 18 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,440 Speaker 1: just drinking red wine from a box out of the 19 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: very lovely wine tumbler that you gave me Star Wars 20 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: wine tumbler because I was going to make my classic 21 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: gin and tonic, but I was quite chilled earlier. I'm 22 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: better now, but earlier I was very, very cold, and 23 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: the thought of any cold drink was not gonna fly. No, 24 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: So y'all um, I guess I'm just gonna go ahead. 25 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 1: I don't know if I have COVID or not, but 26 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: there are things in my life and surroundings that may 27 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:43,199 Speaker 1: suggest I do have COVID, even though I've taken five 28 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 1: different tests that says no. So we just admit that. 29 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: So I have not been drinking anything except for they're 30 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:54,760 Speaker 1: a flu or in the citron Ti which we discovered 31 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: at Costco, which is barely an Asian thing that's been around, 32 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 1: which is pretty much like lovely ginger orange lemon mix 33 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: with sugar that you just let's sit and then it 34 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: kind of like solidifies into this lovely gel I guess, 35 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: and then you add it to a tea and it's delicious. 36 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 1: So it has been amazing for our nighttime teas because 37 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:20,360 Speaker 1: then we have also made as a hot taddy nice. 38 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:23,200 Speaker 1: Not today, it's now with my fo flu which I love. 39 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: Again obviously not sponsored. I don't think I want to 40 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,079 Speaker 1: be sponsored by them. That just makes me sad, but 41 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 1: that is my drink of choice today to try to 42 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: get through my little sickness whatever it may be. Uh, 43 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 1: if I do have COVID, oh my god, that's the 44 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,239 Speaker 1: first time I've ever gotten COVID. Thank god I have 45 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: had all of the boosters and the shots because I 46 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:46,920 Speaker 1: believe this is why I can't tell if it's a 47 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: common cold or actual COVID. So you know, if you 48 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: think it help at it, it's send some good vibes 49 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 1: as it is the holidays. But yeah, because it is 50 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 1: the holidays, I decide my rant was going to be 51 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: about the holiday blues. I I get them every year. 52 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:09,079 Speaker 1: I try to bypass them by trying to be cheerful 53 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:11,959 Speaker 1: and doing something that I think would be cheering up 54 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: of me. I guess that was all kinds of bubbled words, 55 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 1: but I'm gonna leave it because it feels nonsensical that 56 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: I know that every year, no matter what I do 57 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:29,959 Speaker 1: during the season, I just get inexplicably sad. And I 58 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:32,519 Speaker 1: say this as like Google, because there's nothing else I 59 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 1: can do other than be sad and watch Ratitui all day. 60 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: Apparently that's my go to movie. But I was thinking 61 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: about this because we've done many episodes about how women 62 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 1: have so much labor during the holidays, whether it's cooking 63 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: or getting families together. My poor sister has taken on 64 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 1: the task of getting all of the family presents, including 65 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,520 Speaker 1: the siblings, so I've been sending her like list so 66 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: this is what we can do, and that includes the 67 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: siblings partners, and that in lose like Sibley's children, that 68 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: they have it like. She's having to handle all of 69 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 1: it to try to take the load off of my mother. 70 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: So I feel very bad. At the same time, I 71 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: thank God for my sister because I don't think she's 72 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: also one that she would want to be the one 73 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: to do it so she can have it organized. It's 74 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:18,239 Speaker 1: kind of one of those two partner like she doesn't 75 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: want it, but she doesn't want anyone else to do 76 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 1: it because she knows she can better handle it. So 77 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: I do feel bad for that, but also feel very 78 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: relieved that I'm not the one doing it, which happens often. Um. 79 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 1: But yeah, so you and I have talked about this 80 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:38,600 Speaker 1: type of intensive labor that becomes a suck essentially to 81 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: what should be lovely times. Do you feel that way too, 82 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 1: because you've already started the Thanksgiving. I know you're the 83 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 1: one that definitely cooks in the family. Yeah, yeah, I 84 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:51,920 Speaker 1: mean this year is very interesting because I don't know 85 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,919 Speaker 1: if I told you this. I was late to Thanksgiving 86 00:04:56,600 --> 00:05:04,039 Speaker 1: because I got tires. I knew you were doing this. Yeah, 87 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: so I got new tires. It took wait longer than 88 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: I thought. This is a long story everybody, but basically 89 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: I had tires that nobody believed should be tires um 90 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:14,720 Speaker 1: but they were fine. Anyway. I got home later than 91 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: I normally do, so my mom did a lot of 92 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: the cooking where I normally don't, and so it's kind 93 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 1: of a flip where I was relieved because it's so stressful, 94 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 1: but it was also I felt guilty because I didn't 95 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:26,479 Speaker 1: do it um. And then Thanksgiving came earlier than it 96 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 1: normally does this year. So we typically go on the 97 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,480 Speaker 1: Saturday after thanksgetting get the tree. We put up all 98 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: the stuff, and that's usually me doing it with my 99 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 1: mom's help. It's kind of a split of responsibility. But 100 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: I'm doing like the decoration stuff. And this year, because 101 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 1: it was so early, she was like, you know, maybe 102 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 1: let's put it off. It's a lot of work. You 103 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,240 Speaker 1: and I can just do a puzzle. And I was like, okay, 104 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 1: but I'm not coming home again until Christmas, so it 105 00:05:52,279 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 1: would be you doing it and not me. And she 106 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 1: kept being like, no, no, no no, I know, it's like 107 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 1: it's a lot of work. We timed it last year. 108 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,159 Speaker 1: It was four to five hours and that was with 109 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: three people. Um, and she was like, okay, well I'll 110 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: ask and she asked my brother and he was like, no, 111 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: do it while she's here. She's here, and so we 112 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: all did it and it was the first time in 113 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 1: a long time where there were four of us, my 114 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: two brothers, me and my mom working on it. And 115 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: we timed it and it took three and a half hours. 116 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: And it's fun. It's something I enjoy. I feel like 117 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 1: I might be in the same vein as your sister. 118 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 1: I enjoy it. But I'm never ever ever going to 119 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 1: say it's not stressful, and I'm never ever going to 120 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:36,080 Speaker 1: pretend it's not like something that is hanging over you, like, oh, 121 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:37,479 Speaker 1: I've got to do this. And for us, like all 122 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: of our degredations are in the addict so you have 123 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:42,919 Speaker 1: to like carry all these heavy boxes down and then 124 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: it's just like a whole ordeal. It's fun afterwards. I 125 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 1: like looking at it, but it is a huge stress. 126 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 1: I would never say it's not. And my brothers were 127 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 1: both kind of like, how do you do this? Like 128 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: we've just kind of been expected to this a time, 129 00:06:57,080 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: like you do. Really, it's just the expectation that you 130 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: need to go ahead and do it. So what else 131 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,919 Speaker 1: can you do? You can't do nothing about this, uh 132 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 1: that you can fix, so just do it, um And 133 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:08,400 Speaker 1: I think that's that's a big part of that. And 134 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: for me, like my own trauma, you know trauma as well, 135 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:16,119 Speaker 1: but like my own trauma of being literally an orphan 136 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: and then coming into the US and trying to acclimate 137 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: really really messed up my view of the holidays. And 138 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 1: I was even talking with my partner about the things 139 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 1: that didn't make me sad and trying to figure it 140 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:32,240 Speaker 1: out as an adult and being told as an adult, 141 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 1: reason I'm sad about the holidays because I don't have kids, 142 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:36,200 Speaker 1: or I don't have a husband, or because I don't 143 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: have a family, like all of these things, and these 144 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: are the reasons you don't like the holidays, Like, Okay, 145 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: I mean, loneliness could be a part of that, But 146 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 1: I will say the best times that I've had in 147 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 1: my holidays sometimes have been with either just friends or 148 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: by myself, Like I feel so much more comfort in that, 149 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: being able just to relax and not think about it. 150 00:07:57,520 --> 00:07:58,920 Speaker 1: And just in case you all do want to know, 151 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 1: the holiday blues is a thing. Of course, it's not 152 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 1: a d s M diagnosis, and it's not necessarily UM 153 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: extensive of everyone, But there is a conversation that those 154 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,840 Speaker 1: who do have mental health issues and our mental health 155 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: diagnosis rather um that you are more likely going to 156 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 1: be affected by the holidays, more likely to have more 157 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: feelings I guess you can say during that time. And 158 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 1: some of the causes that they list off, it's like 159 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: a sleep excess, eating and alcohol use, financial stress, which 160 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 1: I know it's a huge one, isolation and loneliness, like 161 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:38,480 Speaker 1: I said, and unrealistic expectations, and I feel like that 162 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 1: could be a huge one for a lot of us 163 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: as well. Again that financial part two. Um, A part 164 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:47,080 Speaker 1: of the things that I worried about was that I 165 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 1: couldn't give enough, I couldn't provide enough, and trying to 166 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 1: do that and being at that point I was single 167 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 1: and trying to give all of my family presence, my 168 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 1: parents good presence, but nieces and the nephews, good presence, 169 00:08:59,880 --> 00:09:02,960 Speaker 1: like there's a lot to do, and trying not to 170 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 1: just link onto my mother and my father to be 171 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:08,320 Speaker 1: a financial burden as an adult, which it took me 172 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 1: till I was uh late thirties to finally get to 173 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: that point of being able to give what I want 174 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: and not think about it too much. And it's gone 175 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:17,719 Speaker 1: to the point though that that's not even that much 176 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:21,000 Speaker 1: fun because you're worried about trying to be uh spend 177 00:09:21,040 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: just as much as they do or provide just you know, 178 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 1: it just becomes so capitalistic and I sound so old 179 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 1: and so both humbug and those, but it does. It 180 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:32,839 Speaker 1: gets kind of like this is not fun as much 181 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: fun as I thought it would be. Um again, I'm 182 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: very privileged. I've got family, I've got money, So at 183 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 1: this point, like yes, to take beginning three or four 184 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 1: jobs at a time, yes, but you know, all of 185 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: that kind of just piles onto how I feel. Yeah, 186 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:51,040 Speaker 1: And for some reason I told you this before, I 187 00:09:51,040 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: could sit during the holidays every damn time. So maybe 188 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: now I have COVID On top of the fact I 189 00:09:57,280 --> 00:10:00,280 Speaker 1: used to get like strep throat or tonsilitis. I used 190 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:02,079 Speaker 1: to be the sickness and bron kaitas that used to 191 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 1: be the sickness growing up every damn time. So maybe 192 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 1: I've just been like I've been like training to be like, ye, 193 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:13,160 Speaker 1: this is gonna be a bad season. I'm just gonna 194 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: be out. I don't know. We do know your mental 195 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:18,719 Speaker 1: health affects your physical health, Like it could be you 196 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:21,959 Speaker 1: just get worn down or whatever. It makes you more 197 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: susceptible to these things. Maybe maybe that's what it is. 198 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: But yeah, there's a whole lot of things that happened 199 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 1: during the season, and I know, again I'm not the 200 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: only one, and I know there's been so much trauma 201 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 1: when it comes to our politics and the pandemic that's 202 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 1: really brought out all of this to the excess. I 203 00:10:54,559 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 1: will say for me, I feel like it's made it 204 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: easier to avoid people, So that's been nice, but it's 205 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:04,199 Speaker 1: also been really really heartbreaking because I felt like I've 206 00:11:04,200 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 1: lost so many relationships because of this time and point 207 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 1: and trying to redefine what that looks like for me 208 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:14,920 Speaker 1: as an adult without being catastrophic. You know this, it's 209 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 1: got a whole different conversation. Again, there's so many talks 210 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 1: about what's happening around the world, and what's happening in 211 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 1: our own country. We've got a mid term. Yes, we're 212 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:27,120 Speaker 1: voting for the tenth time this last two I swear 213 00:11:27,160 --> 00:11:29,080 Speaker 1: to god, we've been voting three times a year for 214 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: the past four years. Has it not been that way? 215 00:11:32,880 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 1: Is it just in my head? That's what it feels 216 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 1: like it does. And I know we talked about this before. 217 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 1: This is something I actually really appreciative of. But I 218 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 1: get these threatening postcards in my mailbox and it's usually 219 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: from like a high school student, I think, And it's like, Hi, Annie, 220 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: who you vote for is secret, but if you're if 221 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:56,240 Speaker 1: you're begetting record is public here it is please vote 222 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: in this election. Well know if you don't sign with 223 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: like a heart. And I love that people are getting involved, 224 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 1: but calm down. It's like I got a ransom note? 225 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 1: Have you gotten my dog in hostage? Like? Are you? 226 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 1: What is happening? But I really like, we laugh about 227 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 1: all this and we are again at least we're running, 228 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 1: Like at least we are a state that's changing, and 229 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 1: I'm very grateful for that. Um, it doesn't always feel 230 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: like that. It like from five years ago to today, 231 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:32,479 Speaker 1: it's an amazing turnaround, and I'm grateful, but again, it's 232 00:12:32,520 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 1: a lot of stress, and I know people know what 233 00:12:34,840 --> 00:12:37,199 Speaker 1: that feels like, and I know we're not the only ones. 234 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: And to those of you who are in the same place, 235 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 1: I am, I see you, I see you. UM, and 236 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:45,680 Speaker 1: just some of the things that could help and have 237 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:48,120 Speaker 1: helped me, uh, And I just want to share that 238 00:12:48,160 --> 00:12:50,840 Speaker 1: along as Yes, I'm not drinking as much. I will 239 00:12:50,880 --> 00:12:54,000 Speaker 1: tell you that because these seasons are very precarious for me. 240 00:12:54,040 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: I love a good drink, don't get me wrong, But 241 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:58,440 Speaker 1: I also know that sometimes I get a little over 242 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:01,559 Speaker 1: top emotional. I don't want to get to their Getting 243 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:05,680 Speaker 1: help if you can afford it, literally getting therapy, please 244 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: do it. If you're taking medication that has been prescribed 245 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 1: after talking to all the people you need to talk 246 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 1: to and you need it, do that. Take that. Don't 247 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: don't forget that. That's really important during this season, really important. 248 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 1: Resting if you can or at least taking time to rest, 249 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:24,040 Speaker 1: whether it's you don't you can't sleep, but you're you're reading, 250 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:26,320 Speaker 1: You're reading something that you want to get lost in. 251 00:13:26,679 --> 00:13:29,920 Speaker 1: That is something important to do. UM. Taking those times 252 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:32,960 Speaker 1: to be quiet, if you can if that's what you want, 253 00:13:33,080 --> 00:13:35,360 Speaker 1: or taking those times to be loud, Holy crap, if 254 00:13:35,360 --> 00:13:37,480 Speaker 1: you need to go and scream somewhere, fid yourself a 255 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:41,199 Speaker 1: room and just scream. Spend time with people that recharges you. 256 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 1: That is for me, Annie, whom I love, which we 257 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 1: need to get together. So because we're talking about oysters, 258 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:52,520 Speaker 1: because we love oysters are tradition. Yeah, but spending time 259 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 1: with those who do recharge you. Um. Maybe one of 260 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:57,760 Speaker 1: the things that have helped me in the past and 261 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:00,160 Speaker 1: could help you is doing things for others, whether or 262 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:04,280 Speaker 1: it is uh, helping with campaigns. I mean that's something 263 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 1: that you would do. Maybe don't do it so threatening, Lee, 264 00:14:06,120 --> 00:14:08,560 Speaker 1: Let's stop threatening people. Can we stop threatening people? Great? 265 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:12,360 Speaker 1: Thank you? But being a part of that volunteering in places, 266 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 1: there's so many things that need volunteers. Uh, in a 267 00:14:15,360 --> 00:14:21,160 Speaker 1: good organization social organizations, be realistic with the way you 268 00:14:21,400 --> 00:14:24,120 Speaker 1: expect for that holiday. I've had to do this several times. 269 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 1: We have to kind of step back and be like, Okay, 270 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 1: calm down, because I've tried to plan a trip to 271 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 1: Canada and to Iceland every day in the last two 272 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 1: weeks now, and no one's let me do it. Anyway. 273 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:41,040 Speaker 1: But being realistic is good because we do have responsibilities. 274 00:14:41,160 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: It's important to be responsible, but you know, also give 275 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 1: yourself leeway when you can't get everything done. And he's 276 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 1: been very patient as I'm like, God, I'm gonna be 277 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:54,000 Speaker 1: two hours later, and just you know, accept your feelings. 278 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 1: It's okay to be sad. If you need to watch 279 00:14:56,320 --> 00:15:00,040 Speaker 1: Ratatui for the two d time that day, do it. 280 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 1: If you need to watch your nonsensical romance holiday films 281 00:15:04,560 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: like Love Actually, which everybody else tells you is wrong, 282 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 1: do it. I did it last night, y'all did it. 283 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 1: It's on a peacock and it's so problematic when need 284 00:15:13,480 --> 00:15:15,960 Speaker 1: to come back to all the problematic things that I've 285 00:15:15,960 --> 00:15:18,800 Speaker 1: been watching, but I can't help it. It helps me 286 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:23,200 Speaker 1: feel good, okay. Um yeah, And you know again, reach 287 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 1: out if there's something that you need, there's things that 288 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:31,600 Speaker 1: you really are struggling with, there's a way to reach out. Um. Yeah. 289 00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: I just know we're here with you and we see 290 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 1: you and we do and we appreciate you. Um. We 291 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 1: appreciate you all so much. We're so thankful for all 292 00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 1: of you. Yes, yes, we love you, and you also 293 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:55,120 Speaker 1: are my good people's yes, yes, and I will say, uh, 294 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 1: you know, if you can afford it, get a solid 295 00:15:57,400 --> 00:16:00,080 Speaker 1: gift for yourself. That's what I would tell you. And 296 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:02,800 Speaker 1: I always like like during the holidays, if it doesn't 297 00:16:02,840 --> 00:16:06,040 Speaker 1: stress you out too much. That's when people are off, 298 00:16:06,080 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: like your friends are off. So you just go to 299 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 1: a movie together, low key, like nothing big, and that's 300 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:12,840 Speaker 1: that's great. That's all you need. And we have an 301 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:16,920 Speaker 1: episode coming up on people Pleasing, which I think is 302 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 1: pretty related to this and will have more tips in 303 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 1: there as well for how you can kind of like 304 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:25,160 Speaker 1: shut that down if you know that's a problem for you, 305 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:32,880 Speaker 1: So look out for that episode. Perfect. Yes, Well, cheers 306 00:16:32,920 --> 00:16:39,280 Speaker 1: to you, Samantha huge. We all hope you feel better, yes, 307 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: and it cheers to you for listening. Cheers to you 308 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 1: for listening is a fun phrase, but that's what we're 309 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:47,320 Speaker 1: going with. If you would like to contact us, if 310 00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:49,640 Speaker 1: you have any holiday traditions, whether you've got the holiday 311 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 1: blues and you're trying to combat it, are just things 312 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 1: that you love, let us know. You can email us 313 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 1: at Stephanie your mom Stuff at iHeart media dot com. 314 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:58,520 Speaker 1: You can find us on Twitter at mom stub podcast 315 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: or an Instagram at stuff I Never told you. 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