Speaker 1: Welcome to Go, Ask Alli, a production of Shonda Land
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Speaker 1: one of the hardest things to absorb for those who
Speaker 1: are new to these kinds of fights. Again, if we
Speaker 1: want all of them, we wouldn't be here. If you
Speaker 1: see a monster, don't try to run away. Step right
Speaker 1: up to it and say, what do you have to
Speaker 1: teach me? Why are you? In my mind, I want
Speaker 1: to be the person who has cancer and doesn't run
Speaker 1: a marathon, Like, do I have to work that hard? No,
Speaker 1: it's the best excuse not to run a marathon. Welcome
Speaker 1: to go, Ask Allie. I'm Allie Wentworth and my guest
Speaker 1: today is Julia Roberts. I don't need any more of
Speaker 1: an introduction except to tell you that if you're ever
Speaker 1: greeted at the door by Julia Roberts, she'll probably be
Speaker 1: in bare feet and geane cut offs, with her hair
Speaker 1: up very Aaron BROCKOVICI, She's probably made some banana bread
Speaker 1: and before you know it, you are curled up on
Speaker 1: the couch laughing your ass off playing some kind of
Speaker 1: a board game, maybe with a little Coca Cola and
Speaker 1: Johnny Walker. She's the warmest, coziest, funniest, smartest woman ever.
Speaker 1: Hy Annie, Hey, you know I was. I was in
Speaker 1: this little upholstery store today, like a little hole in
Speaker 1: the wall, and I was looking at fabrics, as one
Speaker 1: would be, yea, And I was looking at fabrics because
Speaker 1: I wanted to reduce some chairs. And I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, Julia, she'd be game for this. She'd
Speaker 1: be all over this fabric. Why am I here alone?
Speaker 1: Why are you there alone? It's an impossible task to
Speaker 1: do alone. I think I agree. But if you were there,
Speaker 1: we would I would have been like, what do you
Speaker 1: think of the blue stripe? What do you think of
Speaker 1: the green? And you would tell me get it? Tell
Speaker 1: me about your day. What was your day? What was
Speaker 1: my day? You know what? My day had a nice
Speaker 1: kickoff because we are at a moment of the school
Speaker 1: year where it was brought to my attention at dinner
Speaker 1: last night with my children that sophomores and seniors, which
Speaker 1: is what we are on Tuesdays, go to school a
Speaker 1: half an hour later. What it's like, I am all
Speaker 1: in on this. Yeah, that's a fantastic role. It's so great.
Speaker 1: And I also love that some clever person had the
Speaker 1: forethought to make it sophomores and seniors, and on Thursdays
Speaker 1: it's freshman and juniors, so that clearly siblings. Mom doesn't
Speaker 1: have to get up and go early and then go
Speaker 1: again late. So good it all is. And so yes,
Speaker 1: you have a child who's a sophomore, but we both
Speaker 1: have seniors who are going to leave the nest we do. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not. I'm not good with it. I'm
Speaker 1: really not. I keep telling Harper that it's her job
Speaker 1: as the younger daughter to stay home and care for
Speaker 1: aging parents and never marry. That's what spinsters are supposed
Speaker 1: to do. Have fun for her. She's she said, sign
Speaker 1: me up. But it's it's daunting. I feel like your
Speaker 1: kids were just babies, you know. It's nice though. I
Speaker 1: feel like, in an interesting way, in this moment, all
Speaker 1: five of us or yeah, I'll include Henry, and that
Speaker 1: all five of us kind of feel the same way
Speaker 1: right now. We're all equal parts like excited and kind
Speaker 1: of overwhelmed with the amount of stuff that has to
Speaker 1: be accomplished and trying to savor every moment of now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's so nice that we're kind of all feeling
Speaker 1: the same way. It's great. God, it just must got you.
Speaker 1: When they walk out the door, I can't, I cannot even.
Speaker 1: I mean, poor Henry is going to have Danny and
Speaker 1: I just sit and just like, Hi, Hi, what you doing?
Speaker 1: What do you want to do? Let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: Elliott left and both George and I cried and I
Speaker 1: had a big mac. And then since she's gone, that's
Speaker 1: what we do with Harper. We sit across her table
Speaker 1: for her and we go, so tell us about your boyfriend,
Speaker 1: So tell us what what do you think about? And
Speaker 1: she just goes, no, we're not doing this. No, because
Speaker 1: she's my quieter one. She keeps her cards close to
Speaker 1: her chest so she's not cracking. So. But one are
Speaker 1: the interesting things, and I think about it a lot
Speaker 1: with both of us, is we have very good marriages.
Speaker 1: We are lucky enough that we still are very attracted
Speaker 1: to our husbands. And I think that's a great thing
Speaker 1: as an empty nester, because George and I have lots
Speaker 1: of plants. Well, listen, I have said so many times
Speaker 1: in the past few weeks. I cannot imagine what people
Speaker 1: are feeling that don't want to make out anymore or
Speaker 1: even be in the same room anymore, and then the
Speaker 1: people that bring them into the same room are leaving. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what can you imagine? No, I mean, and you have
Speaker 1: to it's got to be like a slow crash. You
Speaker 1: know it's coming. What you know, you just you wasted
Speaker 1: the last twenty years not talking to each other, you know,
Speaker 1: and then you're just sitting there with TV trays, going,
Speaker 1: oh my god, now what Well, there's nothing wrong with
Speaker 1: a good night with a TV tray, but yes, but
Speaker 1: not every night. Yes, but but you know, so that's
Speaker 1: that is a positive. That's how I look at it.
Speaker 1: That is a us. Yes, that is a plus that
Speaker 1: we're still we're still making out and now we can
Speaker 1: make out without everybody saying you grow stop it or
Speaker 1: your all of a sudden, you look at your phone,
Speaker 1: there's a text, I'm still in the house. Uh huh, oh, well,
Speaker 1: you're obviously louder than we are. But so when I started,
Speaker 1: you know, tonight, when I was getting you know, my
Speaker 1: lemonade and setting up my computer, you know what I thought,
Speaker 1: I thought, I don't know you as movie star Julia
Speaker 1: Roberts at all. I don't know you like that. I
Speaker 1: know you as my friend in gene Shorts who just
Speaker 1: wants to shoot the ship and talk about life. And
Speaker 1: so when I first sat down to do this podcast
Speaker 1: with you, I thought, there's so many things I can't
Speaker 1: say or talk about with you because it's being fucking recorded.
Speaker 1: Well that isn't that the weird thing about doing any
Speaker 1: kind of work thing with a friend. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's bizarre. It's truly bizarre, because even when I was
Speaker 1: looking at, you know, a bunch of things to talk about,
Speaker 1: I was just like, it doesn't seem natural for me
Speaker 1: to say, Like, so when you were doing America's Sweethearts,
Speaker 1: did you you know, I'm like, screw that. I'm going
Speaker 1: to talk to my friend, which is a much more
Speaker 1: interesting conversation. Um, and and one of the things I
Speaker 1: do I'll start with because I do want to talk
Speaker 1: about Ticket to Paradise. Ticket to Paradise start because you're
Speaker 1: about to do your big press tour with that. First
Speaker 1: of all, thank you for making a movie like Ticket
Speaker 1: to Paradise right at this time when COVID is still
Speaker 1: rearing its ugly head, and the world seems to be
Speaker 1: on fire, and I'm crying about female reproduction rights every
Speaker 1: five minutes, and I got to sit back and be
Speaker 1: carried away in a like old school, great Hollywood romantic comedy.
Speaker 1: So thank you for that. It's what Origin and I
Speaker 1: wanted to do, is we wanted two just give everybody
Speaker 1: a break, give ourselves a break, you know, make a
Speaker 1: movie that we were wanting to see, Try to make
Speaker 1: people laugh, try to make people just sit and smile
Speaker 1: and really just feel good. Right. Yeah, yeah, It's just
Speaker 1: the simplest, the simplest thing. Just you just want people
Speaker 1: to go have a nice time and not be stressing
Speaker 1: about all that there is to stress about, of which
Speaker 1: there is a lot. But also, after Martha Mitchell, this
Speaker 1: must have been just kick your fucking heels up, after
Speaker 1: crazy Martha Gosh, after being slapped around by shot slapped around,
Speaker 1: And also, I mean that was such a you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, put aside all the emotional content and the
Speaker 1: physical content and the you know, everything that I had
Speaker 1: to emulate in order to be her, there was also
Speaker 1: the pages and pages and pages and pages of dialogue
Speaker 1: to learn every day, and yeah, you know, there we
Speaker 1: were kind of you know, running our lives and and
Speaker 1: having these huge amounts of homework to do every night,
Speaker 1: and then I go off to Australia by myself. I
Speaker 1: have nothing but time on my hands, and I have
Speaker 1: you know, six lines like what what? And then the
Speaker 1: next day I have you know, ten lines or what.
Speaker 1: But it just was like I kept waiting for, oh, where,
Speaker 1: where's the scene where I'm really going to be up
Speaker 1: all night, you know, trying to get that in there,
Speaker 1: and it just it was all it just all had
Speaker 1: a simple flow and and uh, you know, of course
Speaker 1: being with George is is uh, you know, you guys
Speaker 1: just joke around. I mean, come on, it's just you
Speaker 1: guys turned into two little dirty toddlers together and you
Speaker 1: just prank each other and joke each other and have
Speaker 1: the best time, right we we do. We have such
Speaker 1: a good time. We love making each other laugh. We
Speaker 1: love to play games, We love to sing songs. We
Speaker 1: would sit there waiting for, you know, the monsoon rains
Speaker 1: to pass and just be singing songs at the top
Speaker 1: of our lungs um and you know, just like truly
Speaker 1: carrying on. We just carry on. That's what we do.
Speaker 1: We carry on um, yes, I you can see that
Speaker 1: right away with the witty banter. But also, by the way,
Speaker 1: you know what the best part of the movie is,
Speaker 1: And I mean, I don't know if I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: in trouble from whoever made the movie or get blacklisted
Speaker 1: when George passes away at the very end. That part, yep,
Speaker 1: that I just I didn't see it coming. It is surprising,
Speaker 1: is um No, when you guys play beer pong and dance.
Speaker 1: I could watch ninety minutes of that. And by the way,
Speaker 1: you were truly having a good time. I can tell
Speaker 1: when you were having fun. We had so much fun.
Speaker 1: And I will say this, it was so hot. We
Speaker 1: were sweating. Um we were not holding back. We had
Speaker 1: our co actors, all the youngsters there were just like
Speaker 1: the first take because basically all our director was like,
Speaker 1: here's the space, stay in it. This is where I
Speaker 1: can see you, and just don't hurt yourselves or anyone
Speaker 1: around you. That was pretty much, you know, all that
Speaker 1: we had to do and anything else we could just
Speaker 1: and just the first take. You should have seen these kids.
Speaker 1: They were just like they couldn't believe their eyes, They
Speaker 1: couldn't believe what they were saying they were like, and
Speaker 1: it was hysterical, and George and I were this is
Speaker 1: where the the alchemy of friendship. We were feeding off
Speaker 1: each other. We were making each other laugh. I am
Speaker 1: so proud of how absolutely drunk we seem in that scene.
Speaker 1: We were stone cold, sober, we were hot and sweaty
Speaker 1: and like my hair was sticking to my neck, like
Speaker 1: all the things that I don't like, and we look
Speaker 1: like we're having the best time because we were just
Speaker 1: sort of like egging each other on and and it was.
Speaker 1: It was hysterical. It was so fun. It was so fun.
Speaker 1: We probably could have done it for hours and hours,
Speaker 1: but you know, they were like, okay, stop, we've had enough.
Speaker 1: You need to stop now. It was I was. I
Speaker 1: watched it with George, and George goes, she's drunk, she's drunk,
Speaker 1: I got I don't know. I don't think she needs
Speaker 1: to be drunk to be having fun with Clooney. I
Speaker 1: think that she's actually just having a good time. And
Speaker 1: we also were trying to like out with each other
Speaker 1: with you know, what line we could say this time
Speaker 1: for this or what joke could be here? What you know?
Speaker 1: I don't know. We just We're constantly trying to to
Speaker 1: raise the bar and to make everybody around us laugh,
Speaker 1: and you know, that's pretty much our life goal. But
Speaker 1: he did it perfectly. There's a lot more to come
Speaker 1: after the short break and we're back with more. Go
Speaker 1: ask Gali, did I ever tell you my George Clooney story. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell it to you. I think he
Speaker 1: is the kindest, nicest, funny. I think he's just such
Speaker 1: a great guy. And George knows him. My George and
Speaker 1: we were living in d C. And I had lunch
Speaker 1: with these like mean girl moms because my kids had
Speaker 1: just started school. They were like the intimidating moms with
Speaker 1: the head bands and the broken bags. And I had
Speaker 1: like bell bottom jeans on and a turtleneck and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh god. And we were sitting at the
Speaker 1: Four Seasons in Georgetown having lunch and they were like, well,
Speaker 1: are you going to participate in the auction and blah
Speaker 1: blah blah. And I thought, Oh my god, they're gonna
Speaker 1: they're gonna just eat me up. These women are gonna
Speaker 1: just I'm They're like pit bulls on a tiny baby,
Speaker 1: little chihuahua. And he walked in George Clooney walked in.
Speaker 1: He was doing press for something and he walked by
Speaker 1: and I said, hey, George, and he said, hey, Ali,
Speaker 1: how's it going. I said good? And the women were,
Speaker 1: you know, their eyes were falling out of their heads.
Speaker 1: And he said, how's George. I said good. He goes, hey,
Speaker 1: let's make him jealous. Get out your phone and gave
Speaker 1: me a big old kiss while he took my phone
Speaker 1: and took the picture. So not only did I make
Speaker 1: my George jealous, but those women worship the ground I
Speaker 1: walked on for a year. I bet, oh, that's good.
Speaker 1: But what kind of a guy? Come on? You couldn't
Speaker 1: have written it better? I know, I know, And I went,
Speaker 1: I will love George Clooney. What the day. On my
Speaker 1: death bed, I will say I love George Coney and
Speaker 1: I love Julia Roberts. That's what I'm going to say
Speaker 1: on my death bed. And George is your George is
Speaker 1: gonna be like hello over here, anyone I'm gonna say,
Speaker 1: I said, George, you don't know what I mean. So
Speaker 1: you you cat, you leave Martha Mitchell and you go
Speaker 1: to Australia and you are quarantined for a long time
Speaker 1: because I texted you and I thought about you a lot,
Speaker 1: and I thought, how is she feeling without her family
Speaker 1: in a house in Australia right now? So that part
Speaker 1: isn't wasn't fun, was it? And I actually read somewhere
Speaker 1: I love like I read somewhere about you that uh
Speaker 1: that Amal and George were like family, like you guys
Speaker 1: all got to kind of be together. Yes. Well, during
Speaker 1: the quarantine we were all in Sydney and they were
Speaker 1: very far away from where I was. Um. And it
Speaker 1: was when we were freed and sent to uh Hamilton's Island,
Speaker 1: this beautiful little island that we were on for like
Speaker 1: five or six weeks filming that on this island, their
Speaker 1: house was just sort of just above my house. And
Speaker 1: so if I were in my yard, say, for example,
Speaker 1: and I called up to their house, maybe they could
Speaker 1: hear me. Did you throw things out their window? Um? No?
Speaker 1: But I often was like breakfast ready, I love that.
Speaker 1: And their kids were there too, yes, And you know,
Speaker 1: I have to say, there was a lot of of
Speaker 1: mental preparation that went into being away. I didn't realize
Speaker 1: that COVID in Australia was quite so complex X and
Speaker 1: it kept my family away longer than I could have anticipated,
Speaker 1: which is probably good because maybe if I had known
Speaker 1: how long we would be a part I, I probably
Speaker 1: wouldn't have done it. I wouldn't have had the guts.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have thought that. You know, especially when you're
Speaker 1: doing something that's joyful and that is like you're trying
Speaker 1: to make this this planet of of fun. You know,
Speaker 1: you don't want to just be bummed out. I mean,
Speaker 1: that's not how I work anyway. And um, and I
Speaker 1: think that that my family was so great about it,
Speaker 1: and I kind of just mentally had myself so prepared
Speaker 1: for it that I did better than I expected with
Speaker 1: the time away because I've never I've never been away
Speaker 1: from Danny that long, but I'd certainly never been away
Speaker 1: from the kids that long. And um, how many scarves
Speaker 1: did you knit? I? What did I knit? Over there?
Speaker 1: I did knit some things, but you know, it was
Speaker 1: really really hot, and so there just comes a point
Speaker 1: where you're like, yeah, it's all kind of disintegrating in
Speaker 1: your hands. Um, I've read a lot of books. Uh,
Speaker 1: but the quarantine was hard. Yeah, of course it was.
Speaker 1: It just mentally it's it's weird. And I had uh,
Speaker 1: I realized like months and months later, I don't I
Speaker 1: don't know. Danny and I were talking to somebody and
Speaker 1: something about, you know, like, you know, getting older, and
Speaker 1: I said, well, listen as a fifty three year old
Speaker 1: woman with three kids, blah blah blah. And he said
Speaker 1: to me later, he goes, you know, sweetheart, maybe the
Speaker 1: I mean, you do what you want, but this is like,
Speaker 1: is this what we're doing now? You're fifty three? And
Speaker 1: I go, yeah, what are you talking about? Yeah, this
Speaker 1: is fifty three years old. What we're talking about bees well,
Speaker 1: because you're fifty four. And I go, and you know what,
Speaker 1: I think it's because I had my birthday in quarantine
Speaker 1: that it didn't That's what it is. Stick because I've
Speaker 1: never been weird about my age. And he was like,
Speaker 1: can we just can we just check in on this,
Speaker 1: just you and me, like is this what we're going
Speaker 1: to say now? And I was like, what are you
Speaker 1: talking about? But I really think because my birthday was
Speaker 1: in quarantine and I love to celebrate my birthday and
Speaker 1: it's always so fun and friends and food, and I
Speaker 1: think it didn't happen. So I had to like really
Speaker 1: force myself it doesn't count. It doesn't count. Danny, you're
Speaker 1: fifty three. I'm pretty sure I'm fifty four all right,
Speaker 1: soon to be. So let me ask you a question.
Speaker 1: I I look at you, and I I mean, you're
Speaker 1: you're beautiful, but you're so you're beautiful because you're so
Speaker 1: natural and you know who you are, and that's what
Speaker 1: I love about you. And when I look back at
Speaker 1: your career, which I did this afternoon, I thought, how
Speaker 1: is she? How is she this cool, grounded woman that
Speaker 1: makes banana bread for me and plays Mexican train and
Speaker 1: has these amazing kids in this solid marriage. Why isn't
Speaker 1: she in rehab? Like? Why are you okay that the
Speaker 1: fame you had when you were young was extraordinary? Well?
Speaker 1: What do you attribute that to your your family? Your well? Listen,
Speaker 1: I think, not that I ever want to give all
Speaker 1: credit away, but I for sure think that meeting Danny
Speaker 1: when I did, the two of us having the relationship
Speaker 1: that we have, that we understand each other so well,
Speaker 1: that we are so in sync. There's just no other
Speaker 1: way I want to live my life. Then right next
Speaker 1: to this person, um and our priorities are compasses are
Speaker 1: just they're so aligned. I mean who who knew that
Speaker 1: this person was there? And I think that so the
Speaker 1: really the truly grown up part of my life is
Speaker 1: I think a testament to to that, to to finding
Speaker 1: each other when we did, and and and just the
Speaker 1: good fortune of really finding your person. You know, it's
Speaker 1: like you find your person, and then all these things
Speaker 1: just are like sparks that come from that. You're not
Speaker 1: even driving the bus anymore. It's all just stardust. And
Speaker 1: then before that, I think it's I just think that
Speaker 1: for whatever reason, I never felt truly um, it was missed.
Speaker 1: My work wasn't ever really my identity. And I also
Speaker 1: think I was really lucky that, you know, kind of
Speaker 1: the way that my career went had what there was
Speaker 1: like a linear progression to it. You could sort of
Speaker 1: chart the syntax of one movie to the next, or
Speaker 1: this getting to be more of something, or this getting
Speaker 1: to be more of something. Now it just seems like
Speaker 1: people are just like like, yeah, you don't know who
Speaker 1: someone is, and then the next day there they're the
Speaker 1: only person on the planet Earth who who has talent.
Speaker 1: You know, the trajectory is so steep now, um, but
Speaker 1: the longevity isn't. Yeah, well that's the only difference. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's interesting though, I don't know. I just somebody was
Speaker 1: asking me the other day something about like, you know,
Speaker 1: how do you have a normal life? And I you know,
Speaker 1: and I think, well, how do you not have a
Speaker 1: normal life? You know, I can sit here all day
Speaker 1: and say, can I get a cappuccino? Um, and maybe
Speaker 1: a cookie? Mm hmm. Let's see, that's so funny because
Speaker 1: I know you with a normal life. I can't imagine
Speaker 1: the other life, you know what I mean, Like I
Speaker 1: understand the person that's calling out for the cookie and
Speaker 1: isn't going to get one, not the other person, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like that's on a set. There
Speaker 1: are My needs are a little bit more. Um, I'm
Speaker 1: sure there there are people who who I'm sure take
Speaker 1: a real interest in that afternoon need for coffee. Yes,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate them, of course you do. But again,
Speaker 1: the person I know is um would be making cookies
Speaker 1: for everybody else. And it's funny what you say about Danny,
Speaker 1: because I so understand that, and I think that I
Speaker 1: wasn't anchored in a way that I was when I
Speaker 1: met George, And by the way, talk about he was
Speaker 1: the last person I thought that that was going to
Speaker 1: be my person. If you had said to me before
Speaker 1: I met him, Oh, you're gonna George Stephanopolis is your person,
Speaker 1: I would have fallen off my chair laughing. But but
Speaker 1: it's amazing when you meet somebody and all the important
Speaker 1: things are there, like the really like deep funded like
Speaker 1: we can walk into a house together and both go yep,
Speaker 1: this is the house, or you know, those kind of
Speaker 1: big decisions that are you know, almost not not able
Speaker 1: to verbalize. We go yep, that's it. That's it, with
Speaker 1: the kids, with everything. And so I do understand that completely.
Speaker 1: And I used to think certainly at the beginning of
Speaker 1: our marriage. I was like, oh, you know you're you're
Speaker 1: the anchor. You're the anchor. I don't what do I do?
Speaker 1: And George said, um, I never felt joy until I
Speaker 1: met you. And I was like, all right, I'll take that.
Speaker 1: What I'll take that. I know so loving um. And
Speaker 1: I always imagine like you and Danny the kids in
Speaker 1: some western e kind of acres of land. I mean,
Speaker 1: I just frolicking, frolicking around, um, although I know that's
Speaker 1: not true because we have older than children or frolics.
Speaker 1: Sometimes there's some frolicking. Sometimes at the holidays, there's frolick ing.
Speaker 1: So would you and you of course cook on the holidays, Yes,
Speaker 1: I know you do. I always feel like, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm not as good a cook as you, and I
Speaker 1: don't think I I am as advanced to cook as you.
Speaker 1: I would like to take some cooking lessons. Um. But
Speaker 1: I do enjoy it when it's not you know, that relentless,
Speaker 1: like on top of you kind of cooking where you
Speaker 1: just feel like you've just cleaned up from something and
Speaker 1: now you're supposed to figure out what the next meal is. Um.
Speaker 1: And I know a lot of moms, a lot of caregivers.
Speaker 1: It's just like the constant pursuit of nutrition and feeding
Speaker 1: people and it can get tiring. Um. But for the holidays,
Speaker 1: I just feel like when you have days on end
Speaker 1: to just be cooking and no one's expecting you to
Speaker 1: be able to do anything else, but you're in the
Speaker 1: kitchen and it's just so fun. I think it's so
Speaker 1: great and it brings me a lot of joy. It
Speaker 1: is fun. So who who's cooking at night, like on
Speaker 1: a Tuesday night and the kids are doing homework? Do
Speaker 1: you and Danny switch off? Do you do take out? Um, Well,
Speaker 1: we used to cook all the time, and now we'll
Speaker 1: do a combination of I mean, he's a great cook
Speaker 1: and he cooks a lot too. Um And right now
Speaker 1: he's away working, so I'm doing all the cooking, or
Speaker 1: we will get take out. Because also there's sometimes it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, Henry's at soccer practice right now. He'll be
Speaker 1: home in a little bit vincive soccer practice till late,
Speaker 1: but then he has a college counseling meeting, and so
Speaker 1: it just kind of becomes like, kind of cook something
Speaker 1: that can just sit here, or should we just order
Speaker 1: something once everybody's done, or so it's kind of like
Speaker 1: it's a little bit of a house and a little
Speaker 1: bit of a dorm. Sometimes. Yeah, there's a big difference
Speaker 1: between three kids and two. I've noticed there's a big
Speaker 1: difference between when the five of us are here and
Speaker 1: my uh cuisine motivation and when it's just me and
Speaker 1: the kids. I realize I really do a lot of
Speaker 1: things to try to impress Danny Motor, even if it's
Speaker 1: just making a particularly delicious salad to go with dinner.
Speaker 1: Like with the kids, I might just make dinner. Yeah,
Speaker 1: with Danny, I might make dinner and a salad and
Speaker 1: a dessert. And I realized that when he's away, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's so sweet to do a lot of stuff trying
Speaker 1: to get his attention. Yeah, that's cute. I think you
Speaker 1: have his attention. I don't think you have to make
Speaker 1: an extra salad for Danny. I think you have it.
Speaker 1: You never know. I think you have it. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I think you're And so you guys, uh, because I
Speaker 1: keep forgetting were on a podcast, you guys switch off.
Speaker 1: So if Danny's working your home, if you're working, he's
Speaker 1: there's always a parental figure in the house. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: which is great. Yeah, they always have a parent Yeah.
Speaker 1: And there's no by the way I can say this,
Speaker 1: there's no um assistance. There's nobody else in that house
Speaker 1: except you and Danny and kids, is there not? Can
Speaker 1: I get a cappuccino and a cookie? You're not gonna
Speaker 1: get it? Excuse me? Hello? No, No, I'm not getting it.
Speaker 1: Not getting it. We're gonna take a short break and
Speaker 1: we'll be right back. Welcome back. So are you worried
Speaker 1: about getting older at all? Like you seem very comfortable
Speaker 1: and everything that is you you don't. I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: not worried, but it would be nice if they would
Speaker 1: give you a little heads up on some of it. Right,
Speaker 1: Maybe we should write a book Ali, Yes, menopause with
Speaker 1: Julian Ali Like, no judgment, it's cool, okay, but just
Speaker 1: maybe a little heads up or just a little like
Speaker 1: here's what you could do too, Maybe just pull that
Speaker 1: a bay. I'll say this. Someone said something I thought
Speaker 1: it was really great to me one time, which was,
Speaker 1: you know, every day you're getting older, period, right, So
Speaker 1: if you're not doing something, one thing something every day
Speaker 1: to try to create a balance to that, it's just
Speaker 1: gonna take over, you know, whether you know you mean
Speaker 1: your face or your heart or your ability to touch
Speaker 1: your toes or whatever it is. So you know, you
Speaker 1: wear some block, you do yoga, you walk five miles,
Speaker 1: whatever it is like, just to create the balance. And
Speaker 1: I think that that's for me, that's a good way
Speaker 1: to look at it where I'm not trying to you know,
Speaker 1: I don't wish that I looked like I did when
Speaker 1: I was thirty five, because that's foolish. But I want to,
Speaker 1: you know, do something. Yeah, no, I listen, I I
Speaker 1: didn't know I had any ego about that until the
Speaker 1: past few years and I went and again for me,
Speaker 1: it was about George, Like I was like, oh, I
Speaker 1: still want to, yeah, you know, beat sexy for my husband.
Speaker 1: But also I'm also like, oh, I guess sexy sexy
Speaker 1: is over, and I'm it's big straw hats and growing
Speaker 1: tomatoes now. But but I want to. But also it's
Speaker 1: like you're I think about death, my mortality, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. Like it's not about like how do
Speaker 1: I keep my tits up? It's like, well, I don't
Speaker 1: want to have any COURTI or vascular disease, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like you start thinking about your health
Speaker 1: in a completely different way. When I got my first
Speaker 1: double a r P card in a mail I did
Speaker 1: take to my bed. They send those early, I think
Speaker 1: just to funk with you. They send him early. They
Speaker 1: sucked with me, and it really they sucked turns me
Speaker 1: against them. If it came on time, you know, a
Speaker 1: little after your fifty, that would be totally acceptable. But
Speaker 1: it comes when you're like forty nine and a half
Speaker 1: and I feel like, fuck you. Yeah. I remember being
Speaker 1: on the cover of a magazine. So my birthday is
Speaker 1: in October and I was on the cover of a
Speaker 1: magazine and it was summer. It was a summer issue,
Speaker 1: like June or July. And it in big letters on
Speaker 1: the cover of this magazine. As I pass it on
Speaker 1: the news stand in New York, say, Julia turns forty,
Speaker 1: And I thought in October not. It's like the a
Speaker 1: RP card. It's like, what are you talking about? It's summer?
Speaker 1: How dare they? Julia turns forty? Not yet? How dare they? Yeah?
Speaker 1: All right, So now we come to because you've got
Speaker 1: soccer pick up, we come to the point where I've
Speaker 1: been asking you a lot of questions. This is go
Speaker 1: ask Ali. So now it is your opportunity to ask
Speaker 1: me a question. Well, I have a couple. Oh god, Well,
Speaker 1: I mean I just think. So there's the classic question
Speaker 1: that's part of the you know, the James Lipton when
Speaker 1: he does the you know the questions at the end
Speaker 1: of the Actor's Studio. And one of them, which I
Speaker 1: think is a great question, and this is the famous
Speaker 1: what is it prous questionnaire? Um, what is your favorite
Speaker 1: curse word? It's a great question. It is a great question.
Speaker 1: Fuck fox a good one. It's just solid fuck. It's
Speaker 1: just solid, and it is the thing that comes out
Speaker 1: of my mouth when I dropped something on my foot
Speaker 1: or when I read something that's a surprised to myself.
Speaker 1: Ship has a sort of darker me, like ship is
Speaker 1: always something bad. Fuck is not always something bad? Oh
Speaker 1: yeah yeah. So for instance, if George said, oh my god,
Speaker 1: Julie's at the door, I'd go, fuck, Yeah, that's not that.
Speaker 1: That's a happy fuck. So yes, fuck. Okay. What's your
Speaker 1: least favorite word and that you're such chice? Yes, moist.
Speaker 1: I hate that word. Hazel hates it too moist. It
Speaker 1: makes me cringe. Wow, nothing's good moist. Yeah, tell Hazel
Speaker 1: like the I agree. Um. What are your favorite say?
Speaker 1: Books to read? Oh? Um, biographies? Okay. Danny and I
Speaker 1: were just standing in a bookstore two days ago, this
Speaker 1: great bookstore in d C. This cute little book story.
Speaker 1: Go in there, and this guy comes up to us,
Speaker 1: and as soon as we walk in, you just see
Speaker 1: there's just great books everywhere. Right. We were like kids
Speaker 1: in a candy store. We were so excited. And I
Speaker 1: wasn't there to buy a book because I just started
Speaker 1: a really great book that I'm in love with, and
Speaker 1: I don't want to. You know, I read one book
Speaker 1: at a time, and um, so we were looking for
Speaker 1: a book for Danny, and the guy goes, yeah, I
Speaker 1: have a look around down here. It's great. It's but
Speaker 1: you know, you go upstairs is bananas. Let's get up
Speaker 1: there where it's bananas. And he was right. There were
Speaker 1: great books absolutely everywhere. And at one point I stood
Speaker 1: in front of the biography section and I said to
Speaker 1: my husband, I just don't read biographies. Really, Oh, I
Speaker 1: love and I would think that I yeah, I would
Speaker 1: think you would. Yeah, yeah, I love fiction. I love it.
Speaker 1: I love fiction because it's like a magic trick. Would
Speaker 1: you ever write a book, it would be I would
Speaker 1: be so full of myself. I would be so puffed up.
Speaker 1: My head would get so big. I would think I
Speaker 1: was everything and a bag of chips. If I ever
Speaker 1: wrote a book, I'd be impossible. Really, I think you.
Speaker 1: I think you'd do a great job with a book.
Speaker 1: I would be I would think I was masterful. I
Speaker 1: just think it's such you take a blank piece of paper.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know how you do it. You
Speaker 1: could how many books have you written? Four? Five? Yes? Five?
Speaker 1: You could do it. You just some coke and Johnny
Speaker 1: Walker and some peanuts. You sit down, you figure out
Speaker 1: where chrome is on your computer, and you just start.
Speaker 1: I think you could. I think you could think about it.
Speaker 1: But it doesn't it doesn't have to be a memoir.
Speaker 1: You can write something else. Well, that's I mean, I
Speaker 1: just I think it's so magical the way people sit
Speaker 1: down and just create a whole universe for us, a
Speaker 1: whole they just it's just incredible. It's incredible. It's hard.
Speaker 1: It's hard. I'm sure it's hard. It looks hard. But
Speaker 1: your voice, like in a book, would be even if
Speaker 1: you if even if you wrote about your childhood or anything,
Speaker 1: because you have such great sayings all the time. I
Speaker 1: love your sayings. I'll I love that. If I'm with
Speaker 1: you and something happens, you go, well that's one for
Speaker 1: the books, And I go, God, that's such a good saying.
Speaker 1: I mean, you could, I would love it. I think
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna make you write a book. Maybe
Speaker 1: that'll be my empty nest uh project. You're gonna be
Speaker 1: working so hard all the time when you're an empty nester,
Speaker 1: you're not gonna have time to write a book. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna have to be your ghostwriter. Yes, aren't the four
Speaker 1: of us going to be traveling the world and like
Speaker 1: working on our Well, that's Hans and Ore. That's my dream.
Speaker 1: You know what else is my dream? You're gonna teach
Speaker 1: me how to play Marson. I'm gonna teach you how
Speaker 1: to say it, and I'm gonna teach you how to
Speaker 1: play Okay, how do you say it? Mangong? You teach
Speaker 1: how to play masong? I really want to learn how
Speaker 1: to play it. And it looks so it's so fun
Speaker 1: gary and daunting. It's so fun. Now, do you have
Speaker 1: a group in this area that you play with? You know?
Speaker 1: I've just just got invited. Actually it was really sweet.
Speaker 1: A few weeks ago I got invited by um, a
Speaker 1: mom at our school who is her son is on
Speaker 1: the same soccer team as Finn, and she's very nice
Speaker 1: and she uh. Danny had been over at their house
Speaker 1: and as he was leaving, he was like, what you
Speaker 1: have a Magen card? What you play? My wife plays?
Speaker 1: And so she texted me one day and said, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm playing Majeng with some friends and uh and we
Speaker 1: need a fourth would you like to play? And I
Speaker 1: just answered her immediately, I was like sure, and I
Speaker 1: just put the phone away because I just thought, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be so nervous. I'm gonna you know, I haven't
Speaker 1: played in so long and I and I didn't know
Speaker 1: the other people that were going to be playing. And
Speaker 1: my kids were so sweet because I was really nervous,
Speaker 1: and they were like, you've got this, mom. Oh, it's
Speaker 1: gonna be great. You're gonna be great, you know, And
Speaker 1: I mean, it's making friends as a grown up. It's
Speaker 1: a sorry, it's a funny deal. And I had such
Speaker 1: a delightful time and everybody was really nice and it
Speaker 1: was great to play. And I've played with a version
Speaker 1: of those ladies one other time, and yeah, but it
Speaker 1: is it's a game to learn on a trip, So
Speaker 1: we should go on a trip because it's something that
Speaker 1: when you play it day after day, then you really
Speaker 1: get it. And here's my next question. When you go
Speaker 1: and play with people you don't know, I imagine it's
Speaker 1: kind of an intimate game, meaning you're playing it for
Speaker 1: a long time, so you do chit chat? Do you
Speaker 1: talk about your lives while you're while each person is
Speaker 1: doing their turn, you talk a little bit, But it
Speaker 1: is you do have to pay attention, okay, Um, and
Speaker 1: we talked. One of the women was new to the game,
Speaker 1: and so there was a lot of instructional talking and
Speaker 1: a lot of talk about strategy or you know why
Speaker 1: some people do this don't do that, And so you're
Speaker 1: really immersed in the game when you're playing, Yes, until
Speaker 1: it's like your regular group that you play with every Tuesday,
Speaker 1: which is what I used to do. And then you're
Speaker 1: you know, catching up and just b ssing and and
Speaker 1: having a big time and playing. Okay, got it. That's
Speaker 1: how I imagine it. That's how it's going to be
Speaker 1: for us. I just have to learn how to play
Speaker 1: majeng right John, Um, all right, go pick up fan
Speaker 1: at soccer. I love you. I love you too, and
Speaker 1: um we'll talk soon. We could really really talk dirty
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