WEBVTT - A Normal Life w/ Julia Roberts 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:03.640 Welcome to Go, Ask Alli, a production of Shonda Land 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:08.000 Audio and partnership with I Heart Radio. I think like 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:10.240 vaginas have a lot to say. I think we should 0:00:10.320 --> 0:00:13.080 let them speak out of it and they'll just talk. Yes, 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:16.040 one of the hardest things to absorb for those who 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:18.800 are new to these kinds of fights. Again, if we 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:21.400 want all of them, we wouldn't be here. If you 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:25.200 see a monster, don't try to run away. Step right 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:26.920 up to it and say, what do you have to 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:29.160 teach me? Why are you? In my mind, I want 0:00:29.160 --> 0:00:31.440 to be the person who has cancer and doesn't run 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:34.000 a marathon, Like, do I have to work that hard? No, 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:43.800 it's the best excuse not to run a marathon. Welcome 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:46.760 to go, Ask Allie. I'm Allie Wentworth and my guest 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:50.800 today is Julia Roberts. I don't need any more of 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:54.600 an introduction except to tell you that if you're ever 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.040 greeted at the door by Julia Roberts, she'll probably be 0:00:57.080 --> 0:00:59.800 in bare feet and geane cut offs, with her hair 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:04.360 up very Aaron BROCKOVICI, She's probably made some banana bread 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.039 and before you know it, you are curled up on 0:01:07.080 --> 0:01:10.760 the couch laughing your ass off playing some kind of 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:13.280 a board game, maybe with a little Coca Cola and 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:21.319 Johnny Walker. She's the warmest, coziest, funniest, smartest woman ever. 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:30.080 Hy Annie, Hey, you know I was. I was in 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:34.360 this little upholstery store today, like a little hole in 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:36.759 the wall, and I was looking at fabrics, as one 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:40.160 would be, yea, And I was looking at fabrics because 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:41.880 I wanted to reduce some chairs. And I was like, 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:45.520 you know what, Julia, she'd be game for this. She'd 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:48.960 be all over this fabric. Why am I here alone? 0:01:49.360 --> 0:01:51.920 Why are you there alone? It's an impossible task to 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:56.040 do alone. I think I agree. But if you were there, 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:57.280 we would I would have been like, what do you 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:58.800 think of the blue stripe? What do you think of 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:01.600 the green? And you would tell me get it? Tell 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:05.080 me about your day. What was your day? What was 0:02:05.120 --> 0:02:08.839 my day? You know what? My day had a nice 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:13.680 kickoff because we are at a moment of the school 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:16.480 year where it was brought to my attention at dinner 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:22.040 last night with my children that sophomores and seniors, which 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:26.959 is what we are on Tuesdays, go to school a 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:30.120 half an hour later. What it's like, I am all 0:02:30.160 --> 0:02:34.360 in on this. Yeah, that's a fantastic role. It's so great. 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:38.799 And I also love that some clever person had the 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:43.280 forethought to make it sophomores and seniors, and on Thursdays 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:49.000 it's freshman and juniors, so that clearly siblings. Mom doesn't 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:50.680 have to get up and go early and then go 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:55.880 again late. So good it all is. And so yes, 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:59.080 you have a child who's a sophomore, but we both 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:04.200 have seniors who are going to leave the nest we do. Yeah, yeah, 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:07.799 I'm not. I'm not. I'm not good with it. I'm 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:10.720 really not. I keep telling Harper that it's her job 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.480 as the younger daughter to stay home and care for 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:17.600 aging parents and never marry. That's what spinsters are supposed 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:21.399 to do. Have fun for her. She's she said, sign 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:24.880 me up. But it's it's daunting. I feel like your 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:28.440 kids were just babies, you know. It's nice though. I 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:35.680 feel like, in an interesting way, in this moment, all 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:39.560 five of us or yeah, I'll include Henry, and that 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.840 all five of us kind of feel the same way 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:50.640 right now. We're all equal parts like excited and kind 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:52.840 of overwhelmed with the amount of stuff that has to 0:03:52.880 --> 0:04:03.680 be accomplished and trying to savor every moment of now. Yeah, 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:06.320 and it's so nice that we're kind of all feeling 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:12.240 the same way. It's great. God, it just must got you. 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:15.720 When they walk out the door, I can't, I cannot even. 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:17.880 I mean, poor Henry is going to have Danny and 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:20.080 I just sit and just like, Hi, Hi, what you doing? 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:22.560 What do you want to do? Let me tell you something. 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:26.000 Elliott left and both George and I cried and I 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:29.560 had a big mac. And then since she's gone, that's 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:31.719 what we do with Harper. We sit across her table 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:35.160 for her and we go, so tell us about your boyfriend, 0:04:35.400 --> 0:04:37.359 So tell us what what do you think about? And 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:41.000 she just goes, no, we're not doing this. No, because 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:44.760 she's my quieter one. She keeps her cards close to 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:48.240 her chest so she's not cracking. So. But one are 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:50.920 the interesting things, and I think about it a lot 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:55.279 with both of us, is we have very good marriages. 0:04:56.279 --> 0:05:00.560 We are lucky enough that we still are very attracted 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:04.640 to our husbands. And I think that's a great thing 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:07.960 as an empty nester, because George and I have lots 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:13.239 of plants. Well, listen, I have said so many times 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:19.400 in the past few weeks. I cannot imagine what people 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:25.000 are feeling that don't want to make out anymore or 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:27.479 even be in the same room anymore, and then the 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:30.640 people that bring them into the same room are leaving. Yeah, 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:33.600 what can you imagine? No, I mean, and you have 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:37.520 to it's got to be like a slow crash. You 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:41.080 know it's coming. What you know, you just you wasted 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.120 the last twenty years not talking to each other, you know, 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:47.119 and then you're just sitting there with TV trays, going, 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:49.800 oh my god, now what Well, there's nothing wrong with 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:52.320 a good night with a TV tray, but yes, but 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:55.520 not every night. Yes, but but you know, so that's 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:59.279 that is a positive. That's how I look at it. 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:01.520 That is a us. Yes, that is a plus that 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:04.040 we're still we're still making out and now we can 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:07.240 make out without everybody saying you grow stop it or 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:08.760 your all of a sudden, you look at your phone, 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:14.400 there's a text, I'm still in the house. Uh huh, oh, well, 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:19.480 you're obviously louder than we are. But so when I started, 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:21.880 you know, tonight, when I was getting you know, my 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.400 lemonade and setting up my computer, you know what I thought, 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:29.279 I thought, I don't know you as movie star Julia 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:33.040 Roberts at all. I don't know you like that. I 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:37.120 know you as my friend in gene Shorts who just 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:39.640 wants to shoot the ship and talk about life. And 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:43.320 so when I first sat down to do this podcast 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:46.280 with you, I thought, there's so many things I can't 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:50.600 say or talk about with you because it's being fucking recorded. 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:53.440 Well that isn't that the weird thing about doing any 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:56.920 kind of work thing with a friend. I mean, yeah, 0:06:56.960 --> 0:07:01.080 it's bizarre. It's truly bizarre, because even when I was 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:03.280 looking at, you know, a bunch of things to talk about, 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:06.200 I was just like, it doesn't seem natural for me 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:09.600 to say, Like, so when you were doing America's Sweethearts, 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:12.480 did you you know, I'm like, screw that. I'm going 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:15.000 to talk to my friend, which is a much more 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:19.160 interesting conversation. Um, and and one of the things I 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:21.360 do I'll start with because I do want to talk 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:26.120 about Ticket to Paradise. Ticket to Paradise start because you're 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:29.360 about to do your big press tour with that. First 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:33.800 of all, thank you for making a movie like Ticket 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:38.760 to Paradise right at this time when COVID is still 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:43.000 rearing its ugly head, and the world seems to be 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:47.480 on fire, and I'm crying about female reproduction rights every 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:51.880 five minutes, and I got to sit back and be 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:56.960 carried away in a like old school, great Hollywood romantic comedy. 0:07:57.000 --> 0:08:00.840 So thank you for that. It's what Origin and I 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:08.320 wanted to do, is we wanted two just give everybody 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:11.360 a break, give ourselves a break, you know, make a 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:15.080 movie that we were wanting to see, Try to make 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:17.960 people laugh, try to make people just sit and smile 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:23.520 and really just feel good. Right. Yeah, yeah, It's just 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:27.640 the simplest, the simplest thing. Just you just want people 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:31.920 to go have a nice time and not be stressing 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:35.360 about all that there is to stress about, of which 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:37.920 there is a lot. But also, after Martha Mitchell, this 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:42.760 must have been just kick your fucking heels up, after 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:49.360 crazy Martha Gosh, after being slapped around by shot slapped around, 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:53.000 And also, I mean that was such a you know, 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:57.120 I mean, put aside all the emotional content and the 0:08:57.200 --> 0:09:01.720 physical content and the you know, everything that I had 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:06.040 to emulate in order to be her, there was also 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:09.480 the pages and pages and pages and pages of dialogue 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:15.080 to learn every day, and yeah, you know, there we 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:19.040 were kind of you know, running our lives and and 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:22.120 having these huge amounts of homework to do every night, 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:25.280 and then I go off to Australia by myself. I 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:29.960 have nothing but time on my hands, and I have 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:36.880 you know, six lines like what what? And then the 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.000 next day I have you know, ten lines or what. 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:42.120 But it just was like I kept waiting for, oh, where, 0:09:42.200 --> 0:09:44.199 where's the scene where I'm really going to be up 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:46.520 all night, you know, trying to get that in there, 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:48.400 and it just it was all it just all had 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:51.679 a simple flow and and uh, you know, of course 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:55.520 being with George is is uh, you know, you guys 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:59.040 just joke around. I mean, come on, it's just you 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:03.520 guys turned into two little dirty toddlers together and you 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:06.160 just prank each other and joke each other and have 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:08.440 the best time, right we we do. We have such 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:11.720 a good time. We love making each other laugh. We 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:15.400 love to play games, We love to sing songs. We 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:18.120 would sit there waiting for, you know, the monsoon rains 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:22.960 to pass and just be singing songs at the top 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:28.120 of our lungs um and you know, just like truly 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:30.800 carrying on. We just carry on. That's what we do. 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:37.240 We carry on um, yes, I you can see that 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:40.640 right away with the witty banter. But also, by the way, 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:42.280 you know what the best part of the movie is, 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:44.360 And I mean, I don't know if I'm gonna get 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:47.080 in trouble from whoever made the movie or get blacklisted 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:50.520 when George passes away at the very end. That part, yep, 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:54.160 that I just I didn't see it coming. It is surprising, 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:58.040 is um No, when you guys play beer pong and dance. 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:03.360 I could watch ninety minutes of that. And by the way, 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:06.040 you were truly having a good time. I can tell 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:09.360 when you were having fun. We had so much fun. 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:14.280 And I will say this, it was so hot. We 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:20.079 were sweating. Um we were not holding back. We had 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:24.920 our co actors, all the youngsters there were just like 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:29.520 the first take because basically all our director was like, 0:11:30.000 --> 0:11:33.200 here's the space, stay in it. This is where I 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:38.040 can see you, and just don't hurt yourselves or anyone 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:41.960 around you. That was pretty much, you know, all that 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.320 we had to do and anything else we could just 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:48.320 and just the first take. You should have seen these kids. 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:53.760 They were just like they couldn't believe their eyes, They 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:57.760 couldn't believe what they were saying they were like, and 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:01.280 it was hysterical, and George and I were this is 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:06.240 where the the alchemy of friendship. We were feeding off 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:08.680 each other. We were making each other laugh. I am 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:12.160 so proud of how absolutely drunk we seem in that scene. 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:18.040 We were stone cold, sober, we were hot and sweaty 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:20.800 and like my hair was sticking to my neck, like 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:23.439 all the things that I don't like, and we look 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:25.280 like we're having the best time because we were just 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:28.760 sort of like egging each other on and and it was. 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:31.240 It was hysterical. It was so fun. It was so fun. 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:34.319 We probably could have done it for hours and hours, 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:36.920 but you know, they were like, okay, stop, we've had enough. 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:40.680 You need to stop now. It was I was. I 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:44.520 watched it with George, and George goes, she's drunk, she's drunk, 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:46.480 I got I don't know. I don't think she needs 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:48.760 to be drunk to be having fun with Clooney. I 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:52.200 think that she's actually just having a good time. And 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:56.000 we also were trying to like out with each other 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:59.560 with you know, what line we could say this time 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:02.160 for this or what joke could be here? What you know? 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:05.600 I don't know. We just We're constantly trying to to 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:08.720 raise the bar and to make everybody around us laugh, 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:11.719 and you know, that's pretty much our life goal. But 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:16.199 he did it perfectly. There's a lot more to come 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:25.680 after the short break and we're back with more. Go 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:31.120 ask Gali, did I ever tell you my George Clooney story. Oh, 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:33.920 I'm going to tell it to you. I think he 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:38.960 is the kindest, nicest, funny. I think he's just such 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:43.360 a great guy. And George knows him. My George and 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:46.240 we were living in d C. And I had lunch 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:51.320 with these like mean girl moms because my kids had 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:53.599 just started school. They were like the intimidating moms with 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.960 the head bands and the broken bags. And I had 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:58.840 like bell bottom jeans on and a turtleneck and I 0:13:58.920 --> 0:14:01.200 was like, oh god. And we were sitting at the 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.320 Four Seasons in Georgetown having lunch and they were like, well, 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:06.680 are you going to participate in the auction and blah 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:09.400 blah blah. And I thought, Oh my god, they're gonna 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:11.800 they're gonna just eat me up. These women are gonna 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.960 just I'm They're like pit bulls on a tiny baby, 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:18.960 little chihuahua. And he walked in George Clooney walked in. 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:22.040 He was doing press for something and he walked by 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:25.320 and I said, hey, George, and he said, hey, Ali, 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:28.440 how's it going. I said good? And the women were, 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:30.320 you know, their eyes were falling out of their heads. 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:33.000 And he said, how's George. I said good. He goes, hey, 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:35.440 let's make him jealous. Get out your phone and gave 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:39.000 me a big old kiss while he took my phone 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:43.080 and took the picture. So not only did I make 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:47.360 my George jealous, but those women worship the ground I 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:51.320 walked on for a year. I bet, oh, that's good. 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:54.960 But what kind of a guy? Come on? You couldn't 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:58.080 have written it better? I know, I know, And I went, 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:01.800 I will love George Clooney. What the day. On my 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:04.720 death bed, I will say I love George Coney and 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:06.800 I love Julia Roberts. That's what I'm going to say 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:09.120 on my death bed. And George is your George is 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:13.000 gonna be like hello over here, anyone I'm gonna say, 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:16.320 I said, George, you don't know what I mean. So 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:20.040 you you cat, you leave Martha Mitchell and you go 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:23.560 to Australia and you are quarantined for a long time 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.840 because I texted you and I thought about you a lot, 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:29.920 and I thought, how is she feeling without her family 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:34.600 in a house in Australia right now? So that part 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.720 isn't wasn't fun, was it? And I actually read somewhere 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:41.120 I love like I read somewhere about you that uh 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:44.280 that Amal and George were like family, like you guys 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:47.520 all got to kind of be together. Yes. Well, during 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:52.720 the quarantine we were all in Sydney and they were 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:57.680 very far away from where I was. Um. And it 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:05.840 was when we were freed and sent to uh Hamilton's Island, 0:16:05.880 --> 0:16:09.280 this beautiful little island that we were on for like 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:13.440 five or six weeks filming that on this island, their 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:18.200 house was just sort of just above my house. And 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:23.120 so if I were in my yard, say, for example, 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:28.320 and I called up to their house, maybe they could 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:34.840 hear me. Did you throw things out their window? Um? No? 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:41.000 But I often was like breakfast ready, I love that. 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:44.080 And their kids were there too, yes, And you know, 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:47.680 I have to say, there was a lot of of 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:54.880 mental preparation that went into being away. I didn't realize 0:16:55.040 --> 0:17:01.520 that COVID in Australia was quite so complex X and 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:06.960 it kept my family away longer than I could have anticipated, 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:09.640 which is probably good because maybe if I had known 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:12.440 how long we would be a part I, I probably 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:15.320 wouldn't have done it. I wouldn't have had the guts. 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:18.320 I wouldn't have thought that. You know, especially when you're 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:21.680 doing something that's joyful and that is like you're trying 0:17:21.720 --> 0:17:28.480 to make this this planet of of fun. You know, 0:17:28.520 --> 0:17:30.440 you don't want to just be bummed out. I mean, 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:34.520 that's not how I work anyway. And um, and I 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:38.879 think that that my family was so great about it, 0:17:39.000 --> 0:17:44.120 and I kind of just mentally had myself so prepared 0:17:44.280 --> 0:17:48.720 for it that I did better than I expected with 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:51.560 the time away because I've never I've never been away 0:17:51.560 --> 0:17:54.240 from Danny that long, but I'd certainly never been away 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:59.080 from the kids that long. And um, how many scarves 0:17:59.119 --> 0:18:02.280 did you knit? I? What did I knit? Over there? 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:04.040 I did knit some things, but you know, it was 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:06.480 really really hot, and so there just comes a point 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:09.760 where you're like, yeah, it's all kind of disintegrating in 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:14.320 your hands. Um, I've read a lot of books. Uh, 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:18.919 but the quarantine was hard. Yeah, of course it was. 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:23.439 It just mentally it's it's weird. And I had uh, 0:18:24.200 --> 0:18:26.960 I realized like months and months later, I don't I 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:28.800 don't know. Danny and I were talking to somebody and 0:18:28.880 --> 0:18:31.520 something about, you know, like, you know, getting older, and 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:33.480 I said, well, listen as a fifty three year old 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:36.200 woman with three kids, blah blah blah. And he said 0:18:36.240 --> 0:18:39.359 to me later, he goes, you know, sweetheart, maybe the 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:42.040 I mean, you do what you want, but this is like, 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:44.600 is this what we're doing now? You're fifty three? And 0:18:44.600 --> 0:18:47.879 I go, yeah, what are you talking about? Yeah, this 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:50.440 is fifty three years old. What we're talking about bees well, 0:18:50.560 --> 0:18:55.760 because you're fifty four. And I go, and you know what, 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:58.719 I think it's because I had my birthday in quarantine 0:18:59.520 --> 0:19:02.560 that it didn't That's what it is. Stick because I've 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:06.199 never been weird about my age. And he was like, 0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:09.000 can we just can we just check in on this, 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:11.359 just you and me, like is this what we're going 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:12.800 to say now? And I was like, what are you 0:19:12.840 --> 0:19:15.080 talking about? But I really think because my birthday was 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:17.399 in quarantine and I love to celebrate my birthday and 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:20.359 it's always so fun and friends and food, and I 0:19:20.400 --> 0:19:23.520 think it didn't happen. So I had to like really 0:19:24.040 --> 0:19:27.120 force myself it doesn't count. It doesn't count. Danny, you're 0:19:27.160 --> 0:19:30.919 fifty three. I'm pretty sure I'm fifty four all right, 0:19:31.080 --> 0:19:34.280 soon to be. So let me ask you a question. 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:40.400 I I look at you, and I I mean, you're 0:19:40.920 --> 0:19:45.920 you're beautiful, but you're so you're beautiful because you're so 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:49.399 natural and you know who you are, and that's what 0:19:49.480 --> 0:19:53.639 I love about you. And when I look back at 0:19:53.680 --> 0:19:56.480 your career, which I did this afternoon, I thought, how 0:19:56.600 --> 0:20:00.399 is she? How is she this cool, grounded woman that 0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:03.480 makes banana bread for me and plays Mexican train and 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:07.160 has these amazing kids in this solid marriage. Why isn't 0:20:07.160 --> 0:20:10.240 she in rehab? Like? Why are you okay that the 0:20:10.240 --> 0:20:15.440 fame you had when you were young was extraordinary? Well? 0:20:15.640 --> 0:20:19.440 What do you attribute that to your your family? Your well? Listen, 0:20:19.520 --> 0:20:22.920 I think, not that I ever want to give all 0:20:22.960 --> 0:20:29.679 credit away, but I for sure think that meeting Danny 0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:33.200 when I did, the two of us having the relationship 0:20:33.240 --> 0:20:36.760 that we have, that we understand each other so well, 0:20:37.520 --> 0:20:44.880 that we are so in sync. There's just no other 0:20:46.000 --> 0:20:49.560 way I want to live my life. Then right next 0:20:49.600 --> 0:20:54.680 to this person, um and our priorities are compasses are 0:20:54.720 --> 0:20:57.840 just they're so aligned. I mean who who knew that 0:20:57.880 --> 0:21:02.920 this person was there? And I think that so the 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:06.880 really the truly grown up part of my life is 0:21:08.480 --> 0:21:11.720 I think a testament to to that, to to finding 0:21:11.720 --> 0:21:15.960 each other when we did, and and and just the 0:21:16.000 --> 0:21:18.520 good fortune of really finding your person. You know, it's 0:21:18.560 --> 0:21:21.560 like you find your person, and then all these things 0:21:22.119 --> 0:21:25.639 just are like sparks that come from that. You're not 0:21:25.720 --> 0:21:30.800 even driving the bus anymore. It's all just stardust. And 0:21:30.840 --> 0:21:38.760 then before that, I think it's I just think that 0:21:38.840 --> 0:21:48.080 for whatever reason, I never felt truly um, it was missed. 0:21:48.119 --> 0:21:53.520 My work wasn't ever really my identity. And I also 0:21:53.600 --> 0:21:56.399 think I was really lucky that, you know, kind of 0:21:56.400 --> 0:22:01.879 the way that my career went had what there was 0:22:01.920 --> 0:22:04.280 like a linear progression to it. You could sort of 0:22:04.359 --> 0:22:07.880 chart the syntax of one movie to the next, or 0:22:08.720 --> 0:22:11.800 this getting to be more of something, or this getting 0:22:11.840 --> 0:22:13.320 to be more of something. Now it just seems like 0:22:13.359 --> 0:22:17.600 people are just like like, yeah, you don't know who 0:22:17.680 --> 0:22:21.000 someone is, and then the next day there they're the 0:22:21.040 --> 0:22:23.639 only person on the planet Earth who who has talent. 0:22:24.200 --> 0:22:27.480 You know, the trajectory is so steep now, um, but 0:22:27.560 --> 0:22:31.680 the longevity isn't. Yeah, well that's the only difference. Yeah, 0:22:32.000 --> 0:22:34.320 it's interesting though, I don't know. I just somebody was 0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:37.239 asking me the other day something about like, you know, 0:22:37.320 --> 0:22:39.520 how do you have a normal life? And I you know, 0:22:40.440 --> 0:22:42.600 and I think, well, how do you not have a 0:22:42.640 --> 0:22:45.480 normal life? You know, I can sit here all day 0:22:45.520 --> 0:22:50.000 and say, can I get a cappuccino? Um, and maybe 0:22:50.000 --> 0:22:55.280 a cookie? Mm hmm. Let's see, that's so funny because 0:22:57.040 --> 0:23:00.000 I know you with a normal life. I can't imagine 0:23:00.000 --> 0:23:02.760 the other life, you know what I mean, Like I 0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:05.040 understand the person that's calling out for the cookie and 0:23:05.119 --> 0:23:07.840 isn't going to get one, not the other person, you 0:23:07.880 --> 0:23:11.560 know what I mean, Like that's on a set. There 0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:14.760 are My needs are a little bit more. Um, I'm 0:23:14.800 --> 0:23:18.880 sure there there are people who who I'm sure take 0:23:18.920 --> 0:23:23.919 a real interest in that afternoon need for coffee. Yes, 0:23:24.000 --> 0:23:28.040 and I appreciate them, of course you do. But again, 0:23:28.480 --> 0:23:32.480 the person I know is um would be making cookies 0:23:32.520 --> 0:23:36.399 for everybody else. And it's funny what you say about Danny, 0:23:36.480 --> 0:23:39.720 because I so understand that, and I think that I 0:23:39.760 --> 0:23:43.679 wasn't anchored in a way that I was when I 0:23:43.720 --> 0:23:46.800 met George, And by the way, talk about he was 0:23:46.840 --> 0:23:49.720 the last person I thought that that was going to 0:23:49.800 --> 0:23:51.760 be my person. If you had said to me before 0:23:51.800 --> 0:23:54.760 I met him, Oh, you're gonna George Stephanopolis is your person, 0:23:54.800 --> 0:23:58.800 I would have fallen off my chair laughing. But but 0:23:58.920 --> 0:24:02.320 it's amazing when you meet somebody and all the important 0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:05.600 things are there, like the really like deep funded like 0:24:05.640 --> 0:24:08.680 we can walk into a house together and both go yep, 0:24:08.840 --> 0:24:11.320 this is the house, or you know, those kind of 0:24:11.440 --> 0:24:17.040 big decisions that are you know, almost not not able 0:24:17.080 --> 0:24:20.560 to verbalize. We go yep, that's it. That's it, with 0:24:20.600 --> 0:24:24.520 the kids, with everything. And so I do understand that completely. 0:24:24.600 --> 0:24:26.840 And I used to think certainly at the beginning of 0:24:26.840 --> 0:24:29.240 our marriage. I was like, oh, you know you're you're 0:24:29.280 --> 0:24:31.440 the anchor. You're the anchor. I don't what do I do? 0:24:31.720 --> 0:24:35.040 And George said, um, I never felt joy until I 0:24:35.080 --> 0:24:38.280 met you. And I was like, all right, I'll take that. 0:24:38.440 --> 0:24:44.199 What I'll take that. I know so loving um. And 0:24:44.280 --> 0:24:48.359 I always imagine like you and Danny the kids in 0:24:48.600 --> 0:24:52.800 some western e kind of acres of land. I mean, 0:24:52.840 --> 0:24:58.040