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Speaker 1: the phone. It's the Fred Show. Iris, Good morning, welcome

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Speaker 1: to the program. How are you good? How are you?

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Speaker 1: We're doing great? Thanks for being here. What's going on

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Speaker 1: with this dude, Matt? We got to know how you

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Speaker 1: met about any dates you've been on, give us some context,

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Speaker 1: some backstory, all that good stuff, and then what's going

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Speaker 1: on now?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Thank you? So yeah, we met on we met online,

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Speaker 2: We met on Facebook dating. Actually, so yo.

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Speaker 1: Walk about that one too often. I heard there's a

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Speaker 1: lot of people on there, though.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, is it like I don't I don't

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Speaker 3: know how I know this, but I saw that there

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Speaker 3: was a part on there that you can make it.

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Speaker 3: You don't know anybody like it will never pop up

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Speaker 3: in anyone that you know.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's a good idea. Not that anyone will be

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Speaker 1: surprised to see me in any form of a dating app.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm single, but I guess if you weren't

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Speaker 1: single and you were trying to poke around on that

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Speaker 1: thing anyway. Okay, so Facebook dating, we don't hear a

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Speaker 1: lot about that, but you you met someone on there?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: No, and and like actually went out on a date,

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Speaker 2: which is rare. Like meeting someone you know online and

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Speaker 2: then actually having it results in a in a real

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Speaker 2: life day feels, uh, feels pretty rare.

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Speaker 1: So why is it rare? Do you not date very much?

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Speaker 1: Or why why is it rare for you to go

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Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like dating these days, especially online

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Speaker 2: dating in general, is really hard to actually meet someone

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Speaker 2: who wants to meet in real life. I'm also a

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Speaker 2: single mom, which complicates things, right, So it's like two strikes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and that could be hard to to coordinate. All right,

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Speaker 1: So you met this guy, you had a great date,

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Speaker 1: You felt like everything went really well, things kind of

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Speaker 1: came together, except you have not heard from him since then,

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Speaker 1: and that's bugging you. As it would anybody.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it feels especially weird because I have to say

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Speaker 5: it was a pretty great date, Like it wasn't just okay,

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Speaker 5: it was a really good date.

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Speaker 2: So to not hear anything okay, they have him ghost

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Speaker 2: me after that just feels very odd. He'd also been

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Speaker 2: really responsive, like up to the date, you know what

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Speaker 2: I mean, like as we were planning it, as we

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Speaker 2: it feels odd. It feels very odd.

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Speaker 1: Well, let me call. Uh, We're gonna play a song.

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Speaker 1: Come back. We'll call Matt. You'll be on the phone.

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Speaker 1: We're going to ask these questions. At some point you're

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Speaker 1: welcome to jump in on the call, and hopefully we

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Speaker 1: another great date that we pay for.

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Speaker 2: That would be amazing.

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Speaker 1: Yes, all right, let's call Matt. You guys met on

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Speaker 1: Facebook dating, which is not a dating app that we

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Speaker 1: hear about very often on waiting by the phone. But

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Speaker 1: you guys connected, You went out, you had great conversation,

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Speaker 1: you really felt like the date went well, and you

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Speaker 6: That is it?

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Speaker 1: All right, let's call him now? Good luck, Iris, Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Hi is Matt. Yeah it is Matt. Hey, Matt, good morning.

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Speaker 1: My name is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show,

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Speaker 1: the morning radio show, and I have to tell you

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Speaker 1: that we are on the radio right now, and I

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Speaker 1: which yet for just a second on the show?

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Speaker 6: I mean it's a little weird day. You said you're

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Speaker 1: I know, it's a little awkward. Thanks for listening, by

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Speaker 1: the way, But no, we're calling on behalf of a

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Speaker 1: woman named Ira Ris, who I guess you met recently

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Speaker 1: on maybe on Facebook dating or something, and then you

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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I went out with her.

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Speaker 6: What's right going on? What's the question here?

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Speaker 1: Okay? Oh? We love bossing over here. Okay. Well, she

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Speaker 1: called us, Matt and told us I had a lot

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Speaker 7: Uh yeah, okay, I mean it's okay, it's a little awkward,

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Speaker 7: but look, uh, you know, Iris was was really nice.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I really liked her when we were talking

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Speaker 6: And she's gorgeous. She's absolutely beautiful.

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Speaker 1: That's the problem. This all checks out. What's the problem? Then?

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Speaker 7: I knew that she a single mom, you know, and

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Speaker 6: I wish I could bring you up, but my son's

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Speaker 7: Okay, okay, and when I you know, she she's yeah,

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Speaker 7: she already told me that her son is seventeen and

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Speaker 1: Get in my mind where I was in my bed.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, mom's kids five, six, seven years old,

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Speaker 3: My, if we want to go down this wad right.

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Speaker 6: So anyway, like you guys agree here that.

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Speaker 1: Seventeen year old, I didn't know where this is going.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know. I didn't know if maybe you're going

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Speaker 1: let me bring iris in. I got iris. You have

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Speaker 1: a lot of explaining to do, girl, Like your seventeen

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Speaker 4: Yes, he does, there is Look, it's it's complicated.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like it, you know.

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Speaker 2: I feel like when you're a parent, there are certain

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Speaker 2: things that you have to do for your child, and uh,

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Speaker 2: and what would be for us.

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Speaker 6: If your seventeen year old sleeps in your bed every night?

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Speaker 1: That's a big issue. I don't immediately take this like

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Speaker 1: I'm really concerned about boundaries here. Like seventeen years old,

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Speaker 1: there's quite the attachment. I mean, what happens I mean,

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Speaker 1: what is he a junior in high school? In high school? No? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like that. I mean, it seems like, you know, help

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Speaker 4: First of all, he's a he's a rising senior. Second

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Speaker 4: of all, look, I I'm not trying to get feisty here,

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Speaker 4: but I'm very surprised that that's the reason, especially because

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Speaker 4: you're you're not a parent, and you don't understand and

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Speaker 4: there's a lot of history and context here that I'm

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Speaker 2: My son's he's and well.

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Speaker 6: That that would be a deal breaker for.

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Speaker 2: You how I choose to parent my child.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, though, I like, you can't honestly, look,

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Speaker 1: no one's judging you or whatever your story is, but

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Speaker 1: you can't possibly tell me that that is something that

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Speaker 1: you know, commonplace, and like, so what happens if this

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Speaker 1: relationship goes somewhere? Do we have to he has to

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Speaker 4: If things were to progress, it would be a while

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Speaker 4: before you meet my son, for you know, obvious reasons.

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Speaker 2: I'm very protective of him. I thought that was understood

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Speaker 5: Bedtime is our special time, but.

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Speaker 2: You know, their afternoons mourning, there are other.

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Speaker 6: I'm sorry you guys, I can't.

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Speaker 7: I mean, this is this is the dilemma, and I

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Speaker 7: think that I am going to withhold the judgment, but

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Speaker 7: just on my side, we're going to get into studies.

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Speaker 5: Now.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure, honestly, I don't know if this is

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Speaker 1: whatever you've been through or however we got here, genuinely,

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Speaker 1: But I can also, in fairness, I can see why

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Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, I would just think, especially because we

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Speaker 2: really supportive of me being a single momb which I

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Speaker 2: don't know, maybe.

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Speaker 6: That was, maybe that was.

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Speaker 1: But no, Yeah, you are welcome to figuring me as

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Speaker 1: a bad guy. But I'm I'm just doing what I

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Speaker 1: understand that you're Yeah, I'm sorry, Max.

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Speaker 7: Somebody finds it understandable. I and I totally support that

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Speaker 7: you are supportive of your son, just not in that way.

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Speaker 7: And granted, like you said, I'm not a parent myself,

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Speaker 7: but I think that I am justified in not wanting

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Speaker 1: There are a lot of single Okay, honestly, I'm not

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Speaker 1: even gonna argue with you, but so it's not for Matt. Iris,

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Speaker 1: I'll ask the question, Matt, would you like to go

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Speaker 1: out with her again? We'll pay for it. No, maybe

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Speaker 1: a hotel room too, I don't know. In the middle

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Speaker 1: of the day. Look, Iris, I'm I wish you the best,

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Speaker 1: and I just you know, I don't, I don't, I don't,

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Speaker 1: just I don't know. I don't know, and so that's

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Speaker 1: not he's not going to be interested. And Iris, I

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Speaker 1: wish you the best in whatever's going on. And uh

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Speaker 1: and and thank you so much for sharing with us.

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Speaker 2: There are a lot of studies about them.

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Speaker 1: It's like reattached trying to make this easy. No, I

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Speaker 1: know there's there's attachment, there's attachment stuff going. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I really I'm not going. I am not qualified for

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Speaker 1: this conversation. So I'm just going to get going. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I got to go ahead and get going now.

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Speaker 1: So I wish you guys both the best of luck. Okay,

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Speaker 1: thank well, thank you