Speaker 1: Hell I Suck at Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven
Speaker 1: and I heard radio podcast Hey, welcome doing on the
Speaker 1: episode of help I Suck at Dating. It's Jared obviously
Speaker 1: joined by Dean Angler, and we have a leoh who
Speaker 1: is back with us on the podcast for this week
Speaker 1: because we have two very special guests from the TV
Speaker 1: show Five Guys a Week. That sounds interesting, five Guys
Speaker 1: a Week? It is Alexis and Joyce. Alexis Joyce, how
Speaker 1: are you welcome to the podcast and Wow, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you for having us. Of course, so the general
Speaker 1: premise of the show, from my understanding, uh is that
Speaker 1: you ladies invite five men to live with you four
Speaker 1: weeks because you just want to like fast track to
Speaker 1: getting to know you, which I could not agree with more.
Speaker 1: Let's just cut through the BS. I think that's what
Speaker 1: Bachelor does a lot, and I think it actually works
Speaker 1: out pretty we You cut through the BS and you're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'll find out your favorite color later. But what I
Speaker 1: really want to know is working your heart, so exactly
Speaker 1: tell us your emotional traumas Aleta to tell us a
Speaker 1: little bit about the experience of five Guys a Week okay,
Speaker 1: so I was gonna thread out there. At first I
Speaker 1: had to ask. I was like, is this the right show?
Speaker 1: Is this a dating show? Because the title will definitely
Speaker 1: insinuate something else. Unfortunately, it is just a dating so show. Um,
Speaker 1: I've never done speed dating in my life, so this
Speaker 1: was not speed dating, more like speed living. And it
Speaker 1: definitely was a roller coaster to say the least. I
Speaker 1: had a blast. I got to know these guys more
Speaker 1: than I thought I would. But yeah, it was very interesting.
Speaker 1: So I gotta ask alexis why, um, and why five
Speaker 1: guys a week instead of like shake shack a week
Speaker 1: or in and out a week? Why you decide to
Speaker 1: go with five guys? My misinterpreting the name of the show,
Speaker 1: you're eating? You're it's like a fast food thing, right,
Speaker 1: You're definitely good joke. Thanks, Thanks, I play on for
Speaker 1: a while. I appreciate. Yeah, I love it. I definitely
Speaker 1: did also think it might have been related to five guys.
Speaker 1: So unfortunately, no burgers, no prize, um, yeah no, just
Speaker 1: just five men cooking in my kitchen, or at least
Speaker 1: learning to cook. I would like to say, yea, yeah,
Speaker 1: so could you explain to us like the format of
Speaker 1: the show. Then, so they come into your house and
Speaker 1: it's us like a date in the house. They cook
Speaker 1: for you and all that stuff for So the premise
Speaker 1: of the show is that, like it literally is blind
Speaker 1: like a blind dating from this except they show up
Speaker 1: at your door, like these men are literally delivered to
Speaker 1: our to our houses and we don't know what they
Speaker 1: look like, we don't know their names or Asian nothing,
Speaker 1: and they just stay with us. We live with us
Speaker 1: for but for like five days and for a week,
Speaker 1: and um, yeah, pretty much we had to. We didn't
Speaker 1: have our phones, we didn't have TV, so we really
Speaker 1: had to get down and get to know each other better. Phones,
Speaker 1: no t vs. So what did you guys do? Just
Speaker 1: talked the whole time we talked. We tried to like
Speaker 1: create games, like there's one in my episode. We had
Speaker 1: like a wrapping like game going on. I wasn't great
Speaker 1: at it, but I tried. So. Yeah. Well, and there
Speaker 1: were cameras in your house too, I would imagine right everywhere,
Speaker 1: twenty four hour surveillance. What is that like like that
Speaker 1: that has to make dating a little bit more awkward
Speaker 1: than it normally is. Yeah, I mean, like it didn't
Speaker 1: make things a little bit like because obviously, like I
Speaker 1: didn't want to do I wanted to keep it all
Speaker 1: PG my family, my coworkers watching this. On top of that,
Speaker 1: like you haven't mindful you know of of what the
Speaker 1: public might see here. But for me it came out
Speaker 1: very naturally. I feel like, you know, most of us
Speaker 1: girls are pretty easy going, so but I definitely as
Speaker 1: them like mom of the house, or rather the owner
Speaker 1: of the house that they're staying in. I had to
Speaker 1: like keep these guys like in control. I mean, five
Speaker 1: guys is a lot of testosterone. It was a lot
Speaker 1: for me to handle for someone who dates like one
Speaker 1: guy at month per se. Well, it's nice to just
Speaker 1: kind of knock it out in one foul swoop right here,
Speaker 1: just get it over with exactly this, throw them all
Speaker 1: at the wall, see if one six so joyce. How
Speaker 1: is your experience, UM, in the house with the five
Speaker 1: guys was it? Did you find that there was tension? Awkwardness?
Speaker 1: Were you just in heaven? How did you feel? Well?
Speaker 1: A little bit of all of the above, you know.
Speaker 1: First and foremost, I have to say that all the
Speaker 1: guys on my episode were outstanding, um, every one of them,
Speaker 1: and we're all still in touch. Um, they're all Actually
Speaker 1: when my episode airs, I'm having a little party. They're
Speaker 1: all coming in. Um, we're gonna watch our episode all
Speaker 1: together with some family and friends at a country club.
Speaker 1: So we're excited to coming in a day before we're
Speaker 1: gonna go voting. They the relationships, I think we all
Speaker 1: you know, look, five guys moving in cameras twenty four seven, Um,
Speaker 1: you know, and I'm I'm the old viddie, right. I mean,
Speaker 1: that's the thing about the show, it's there's a variety
Speaker 1: of different ages and a variety of you know, kind
Speaker 1: of all different people, so it's not really geared towards
Speaker 1: just one audience. It's it's really I think if there's
Speaker 1: a wide spectrum of ladies. There were a total of
Speaker 1: twenty of us, all different ages from twenties all the
Speaker 1: way up to the sixties, so the experiences are all different.
Speaker 1: And when you're with Cameras seven, I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm fifty five. If it takes a lot, I'm waking up,
Speaker 1: don't make up. I got guys, Um, you know, twenty
Speaker 1: four seven. But the process works, and the good news
Speaker 1: is that you really get to see who people are
Speaker 1: because you can't be on you know, you go on
Speaker 1: a date, you know, two hours, three hours, and you
Speaker 1: know everybody's on. They're bringing their a game. Now you're
Speaker 1: living with five guys, and the walls come down and
Speaker 1: you really get to kind of peel back and see
Speaker 1: who people are. And I had just an outstanding group
Speaker 1: and I'll be friends with them forever. Um and the
Speaker 1: process works. Um, that's what I have to say. I think, Uh,
Speaker 1: you know, shout out to Lifetime and Original Productions. They
Speaker 1: did a great job in matching me with with my cast.
Speaker 1: They were fun. Don't you think It's so funny? How well,
Speaker 1: at least for me. Every time I see a new
Speaker 1: dating TV show, I'm like, well, they did it again.
Speaker 1: They thought of something completely original. But that's it, Like
Speaker 1: they they run out of ideas and then you hear
Speaker 1: something like this, and I'm like, man, they keep coming
Speaker 1: out with these incredibly original ideas for dating. This one's
Speaker 1: so cool. Like it's true when you live with somebody,
Speaker 1: you learn a lot to screw the first date. Come over,
Speaker 1: let's live together. How do you do the dishes? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Did you guys like delegate responsibilities among the men. You're
Speaker 1: like you're you're on dish duty, You're on trash duty.
Speaker 1: How did you guys do that? Yeah? Yeah, Alexis is
Speaker 1: saying yes and Joyce, but we have Joyce and I
Speaker 1: have a very different like age group of guys, like
Speaker 1: I think minor, you know, literally mid twenties and hers
Speaker 1: are a little bit older than more mature, like they
Speaker 1: know what they want and my guys are still young,
Speaker 1: you know, like it was from and on this age
Speaker 1: I can say like a lot of people at this
Speaker 1: age group don't know how to cook, some of them
Speaker 1: filling with their moms so they get they don't really
Speaker 1: have to clean much. So I had i this is
Speaker 1: my house. I walked in. I was like, using the dishes,
Speaker 1: you sleep the floor, you clean the table, because I
Speaker 1: was not going to live with this mess in my house.
Speaker 1: I feel like they would either be really into that
Speaker 1: or really not there like yeah somewhere like yes, and
Speaker 1: some were like oh no, like she's a good much
Speaker 1: here and I was like, yes, this is why I
Speaker 1: have trouble dating because I'm very bossy. The guys that
Speaker 1: were just like pigs, They're just just leave everything on
Speaker 1: the floor. Yeah that was yeah, it was. It was
Speaker 1: I was immediately like, but to the credit of the show,
Speaker 1: at least you can identify that early on and uh
Speaker 1: and not have to like date him for three months
Speaker 1: and then come to find out he's, you know, a
Speaker 1: slab like that. So that's good. Like popping bottles in
Speaker 1: the first night and I'm like, is this Jersey Shore
Speaker 1: or are you here for love? Baby? Like which one
Speaker 1: is it? And then you kicked them out right to
Speaker 1: start your dominant You'll have to see. But Joyce, you
Speaker 1: were shaking your head now, so you kind of just
Speaker 1: didn't uh, you didn't delegate any responsibilities as much now,
Speaker 1: So I'll tell you my show was certainly different from Alexis.
Speaker 1: Um my guys, I was like princess. I mean I
Speaker 1: was in charge and they were they couldn't do enough
Speaker 1: for me. They were like, you know, fighting to clean
Speaker 1: up and fighting to cook. I made all the guys, man,
Speaker 1: I'm like your guys. Oh, they were awesome. Thumbs up. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, I sent them a letter before the show
Speaker 1: because I wanted to see what their cooking skills are.
Speaker 1: I travel all the time. I can't really have a
Speaker 1: fast food guy. Um, you know, Kenny cook if I'm
Speaker 1: not around, and I asked them to jumble my jumbalaya,
Speaker 1: and they all came, are you prepared with um food?
Speaker 1: And it had to represent something about them, whether it
Speaker 1: was their favorite food, their culture, and I'll tell you
Speaker 1: they were. They came a game on. I will tell
Speaker 1: you I was a little nervous when the one guy
Speaker 1: walked in with a cooler. I was like, Oh, does
Speaker 1: he have a fetish? What's in that cooler? So you
Speaker 1: get a little nervous because you know you're inviting five
Speaker 1: total strangers into your home and you don't really know
Speaker 1: how it's gonna go. And you know you have to
Speaker 1: drill down. You have to get to know who they are.
Speaker 1: And I'm pretty good at that. I'm a pretty good
Speaker 1: read of people. But I just, um, they were all awesome.
Speaker 1: And everybody I always have dated, they always get a nickname,
Speaker 1: and these guys are no different. So um, I have
Speaker 1: funny Man, music Man, we have w T is the
Speaker 1: World Traveler with beans um because beans easy um. And
Speaker 1: that we have has Matt. I'm gonna leave that. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know if has mats and name
Speaker 1: I would want so much. So So you were saying
Speaker 1: the whole cooking thing was kind of like a like
Speaker 1: a test, for lack of a better word, where you
Speaker 1: want to make sure that they're self sufficient and independent
Speaker 1: enough to at least prepare something for themselves. And they
Speaker 1: came with their a game, all of them. That was great.
Speaker 1: I I'll be honest, if I was put in that
Speaker 1: same situation as a guy that was expected to bring
Speaker 1: like a signature dish, if you will, I would fail,
Speaker 1: and immediately I would be I would be kicked out
Speaker 1: right away. So I'm proud of your guys for at
Speaker 1: least being able to step up and and handle that appropriately. Um,
Speaker 1: so did you guys? You guys all didn't live in
Speaker 1: the same house, right, you guys were in separate houses.
Speaker 1: Not not not you and the men, but Alexis and Joyce. Right,
Speaker 1: you guys are in separate houses. And then you were
Speaker 1: saying there was twenty people. Is that was there? Twenty
Speaker 1: uh re leading ladies, twenty different leading ladies. That's amazing.
Speaker 1: That's a hundred guys, Matt, matthe thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: I went to sixth great algebra. Um, that's a lot
Speaker 1: of guys. That's that's very impressive. So are you close
Speaker 1: with all of the other the leading ladies, because you
Speaker 1: two are you two seem very close. You two seem
Speaker 1: like your your best friends. So are you close with
Speaker 1: the restaurant? We're pretty close. Yeah. We have like a
Speaker 1: little group chat and we all support each other. We
Speaker 1: all went through this experience, so I would say yes,
Speaker 1: yea awesome like a sisterhood. Sister sisterhood guys, So we
Speaker 1: all went through the experience and the process work for
Speaker 1: some of us, we didn't work for others. So it's just,
Speaker 1: you know, funny to kind of see everyone show. We're
Speaker 1: so excited about the premier last night. I thought it
Speaker 1: was terrific, and you know, each one of us are
Speaker 1: very different, so I think it will not I think
Speaker 1: it'll be very entertaining and certainly not boring. And the
Speaker 1: women are in charge. So did you guys get to
Speaker 1: did you guys get to talk to one another before
Speaker 1: the men entered your house or like and ask questions
Speaker 1: to be like, Okay, what was your experience, Like do
Speaker 1: you have any advice for me? No, it's just kind
Speaker 1: of you guys didn't talk till afterwards, And yeah, we
Speaker 1: didn't talk to afterwards. Um I did pass along like
Speaker 1: a little message. But we didn't talk to each other
Speaker 1: until after, like literally until this month. So and no
Speaker 1: one knows that the outcome. No one knows anyone's outcome, right,
Speaker 1: So that's what's kind of interesting. So we're all kind
Speaker 1: of rooting and we're seeing a little clips of the shows.
Speaker 1: But you know, we were all on text last night.
Speaker 1: What do you think she's gonna pick? What do you
Speaker 1: think she's gonna pick? This One's rooting for this one?
Speaker 1: Now that's intentional, right, Like, are you guys you just
Speaker 1: kind of keep it interesting for everyone to watch? Or
Speaker 1: are you? Um? Like, how come? How come you guys
Speaker 1: don't know the ending results for each other just because
Speaker 1: it's the show. Everybody's got a tune in. No, I
Speaker 1: like it. I like the cliffhanger. I do like that.
Speaker 1: You guys are true fans right there? My curiosity, Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh. I remember after my first season of being
Speaker 1: on The Bachelorette, it was between Peter and Brian and
Speaker 1: Peter and I were super close, and I would text
Speaker 1: Peter every single day, like, tell me what happened, Tell
Speaker 1: me what happened, and he wouldn't. He wouldn't, he wouldn't
Speaker 1: tell me he's doing exactly what Joyce and Alexis are
Speaker 1: doing right now. Oh it killed me inside. Um, I
Speaker 1: gotta know what was it like? What was the elimination process? Like?
Speaker 1: As time war on, I would imagine you went from
Speaker 1: five to four to three to two? Right? Was that
Speaker 1: a hard part of the show for you guys? For me,
Speaker 1: I can be brutally honest and I think, and I
Speaker 1: will tell you I think on my episode there was
Speaker 1: some really powerful moments. Everyone walked away with a life
Speaker 1: lesson and that's what made I think my episode so
Speaker 1: great to why we're all really great friends? Um, you know,
Speaker 1: everybody really walked away either learning something about themselves, learning
Speaker 1: something about what they wanted of a relationship. Um. You
Speaker 1: know some some of the fellas did get a little
Speaker 1: emotional and and you know, um some have you know
Speaker 1: after the show said, you know, all of the conversations, um,
Speaker 1: you know really made me think. And they've done certain
Speaker 1: things since the show. So for me, I really felt
Speaker 1: like I was on a journey. And as difficult as
Speaker 1: it was to let them go because they're all fabulous
Speaker 1: and you know, I date all of them, but there
Speaker 1: was one, uh, you know, you there's there's you know,
Speaker 1: you're narrowing down and you kind of know what you're
Speaker 1: looking for and what maybe is the perfect fit for you. Um.
Speaker 1: So it was hard, but it was um you know,
Speaker 1: I think we were also honest and all the walls
Speaker 1: had come down. I don't think it was surprised, Sack,
Speaker 1: but that definitely is a good sign. I guess, alexis
Speaker 1: what about you. I think, like any like any you know,
Speaker 1: dating show where elimination is involved, the big the beginning
Speaker 1: is always easy, Like I one guy I was like,
Speaker 1: you better pack your bag and get out, and the
Speaker 1: other like closer to God towards eliminating. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is getting a little bit tough because I really
Speaker 1: have these great guys here. So at the beginning it
Speaker 1: was pretty easy, and then later on it got a
Speaker 1: little bit more difficult. Um, yeah, that's it was. It
Speaker 1: was definitely hard because I think like people like connect
Speaker 1: themselves in the elimination process, so they feel kind of
Speaker 1: like really disappointed. And I really didn't want to hurt
Speaker 1: anyone's feelings. I just was looking for the one, and
Speaker 1: in my from what I've seen in that very little
Speaker 1: bit of time, I had to eliminate them, but they
Speaker 1: were all good sports about it. Well, well, props to you, guys,
Speaker 1: because that would definitely be the most challenging thing for me.
Speaker 1: I have are enough time telling our dog training we're
Speaker 1: not going to use them anymore. Like I can imagine
Speaker 1: telling people on TV that we're not gonna be dating anymore.
Speaker 1: You know, So kodas to you. That definitely takes some
Speaker 1: fortitude for sure. Uh So, going on to the show,
Speaker 1: I gotta ask, what is your family and friends think
Speaker 1: about did they have any like input about you, guys
Speaker 1: going on the show and you think that alexis I
Speaker 1: feel like you're probably close to your family. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I'm actually I'm Latina, what are you Connectory and my
Speaker 1: family and are very very close. This is so unconventional,
Speaker 1: But my family and friends expected this on me because
Speaker 1: I'm not a conventional kind of person, like I do
Speaker 1: very spontaneous random things. So they were like, this is
Speaker 1: her being crazy again, and yeah, Like, I mean they
Speaker 1: all supported me. Um the closer we got towards it,
Speaker 1: they were like, oh crap, we're gonna be on TV.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if I how I feel about this,
Speaker 1: but my family and friends all supported me. They know
Speaker 1: the kind of person that I am, and so it
Speaker 1: can kind of fit with my personality. Yeah, do you
Speaker 1: both live alone? Yes, So let's just who do you
Speaker 1: live with? My dad and I co own a house
Speaker 1: and so I lived in the house that I own
Speaker 1: with my dad because you know or cities. Definitely, these
Speaker 1: guys had to move into the house with you and
Speaker 1: your dad was there. Oh my oh, I honestly like
Speaker 1: dad interact. My dad is a Puerto Rican man, so
Speaker 1: it really would not be easy for these guys. The
Speaker 1: guys would have done running. That's what I want to see. Hey,
Speaker 1: it's a survival of the fittest. They were very, very
Speaker 1: uncomfortable and uh in the time that they got to
Speaker 1: uh meet him, Oh my god, that is amazing. Um
Speaker 1: so joy Sorry, I know Dean as you as well.
Speaker 1: What did your friends and family? What did they think
Speaker 1: when they found out that you were about to be
Speaker 1: on a reality dating show? So I think my son,
Speaker 1: although supportive of the process, was like, does it really
Speaker 1: have to be on TV? You're my mom, and you know,
Speaker 1: I don't think anyone really wants to see the mom
Speaker 1: kissing anyone on TV? So right, So thank you Alexis,
Speaker 1: but um, you know, so I think it. You know,
Speaker 1: it was a little bit challenging for him, so he
Speaker 1: really didn't want to participate. Um and neither did my brother,
Speaker 1: but my cousins and my friends was supportive of it. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm terrible at dating your show, I do
Speaker 1: stay or suck at dating. And you know, they go,
Speaker 1: she goes through him like big candy. She's like big bank.
Speaker 1: Bank gotta go to the you know, I kicked him
Speaker 1: to the curve pretty offense. So they actually said it's
Speaker 1: gonna be awesome for you to not have your computer
Speaker 1: and not have your phone. I did feel a little naked,
Speaker 1: I will say the first couple of days without that.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm a business person. I'm always with my
Speaker 1: phone and my computer and it really and that was
Speaker 1: probably my life lesson is the balance. You know, I
Speaker 1: didn't have a lot of balance and you know, just
Speaker 1: prioritizing um, as my mother continues to tell me, Um,
Speaker 1: you wasting you pretty. You know, I've got to be
Speaker 1: going for a long as I'm getting older, so um,
Speaker 1: you know I have to strive for the balance. And UM,
Speaker 1: it really kind of pushed me to recognize some priorities. Um,
Speaker 1: and so after this it's different. Yeah. I mean, I
Speaker 1: feel like going on reality TV show, which is every
Speaker 1: single one of us have done now and assume I
Speaker 1: have you learned a lot about yourself and you really
Speaker 1: get some life lessons out of it. So I'm very
Speaker 1: happy that both of you felt like that this process,
Speaker 1: we all spoiling anything, was definitely a positive experience. So
Speaker 1: make sure everybody tuning in watch five Guys a week
Speaker 1: every Wednesday starting last night. Last night was the premiere.
Speaker 1: Do you know Alexis Enjoyce when your episodes are airing?
Speaker 1: Can you even say? I'm August three, Lifetime August three,
Speaker 1: and all yours two weeks July. So make sure you
Speaker 1: guys tune in every Wednesday Lifetime, uh, for five Guys
Speaker 1: a week, but make sure you definitely tune in for
Speaker 1: Alexus episode July twenty seven. Enjoys August August three, August
Speaker 1: after weeks. That's great, so you get Alexis one next week.
Speaker 1: Very cool. Well, thank you ladies once again for joining
Speaker 1: us on the podcast. Thank you, thank you. We should
Speaker 1: have gotten you on that show. Five Guys and one
Speaker 1: SHOOTE in my apartment. That's going to get interesting. Oh god,
Speaker 1: that'd be such a good TV that that should be
Speaker 1: some pretty crazy TV. If there's a season two, we
Speaker 1: got to get you on it to the to the
Speaker 1: best of our ability. We have to. We have to
Speaker 1: at least try. But um, hellyeah, thanks for co hosting
Speaker 1: with us. This is an absolute blast. An let me
Speaker 1: know you're just uh, you're a short distance away from work,
Speaker 1: which is great. We can catch you an lunch break, um,
Speaker 1: alves are very cool. Your boss to give you an
Speaker 1: hour and a half off for lunch, Like, that's a
Speaker 1: pretty And I still have another hour so I left early.
Speaker 1: Oh that's amazing. If you guys are hiring, maybe I'd
Speaker 1: rather work here. It's like, wait, and I can wear scrubs. Basically,
Speaker 1: I'm moving to Texas. It sounds like, um um, but
Speaker 1: thank you so much. We're looking forward to hearing from
Speaker 1: you again, getting some updates about your life. Uh, you know,
Speaker 1: five guys in a week, it's a possibility. We'll we'll
Speaker 1: put that on the backboarder for now. But keep sucking
Speaker 1: as much as it does right now. Next season, I
Speaker 1: have some unfortunate news for you, Aliah. It probably will
Speaker 1: continue to suck and to no faults of your own,
Speaker 1: just because dating it's just hard enough as it is.
Speaker 1: You know, it's it's not easy. It's getting harder to us.
Speaker 1: But anyways, thanks for having me, guys. Yeah, thanks for
Speaker 1: joining us. Thanks for so great Jared, I love you listeners,
Speaker 1: Thank you, Alexis and Joyce. Thank you for joining us.
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