WEBVTT - Consistency Is Currency

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<v Speaker 1>M m hm. This is welcome back to Good Mom's

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<v Speaker 1>Bad Choices. I'm Erica and I'm Mila. Happy Wednesday, Bitches

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<v Speaker 1>had hoes, bitches a house, bitches and nose and everything

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<v Speaker 1>in between.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy hump Day. How are you feeling? I feel good.

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<v Speaker 1>It's money March, Baby, it's money March. It's first of all, wait, rewind, we're.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel really good because it's International Women's Day today.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, it is.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know what that means, baby, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Do know it means. Today is our birthday. Today is

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<v Speaker 2>the Good Mom's birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>It's our five year anniversary. We have been doing this

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<v Speaker 1>shit for.

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<v Speaker 2>Five other fucking years yours. Wow. Wow wow wow wow.

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<v Speaker 1>And what and what a testament that lands today an

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<v Speaker 1>actual episode day drop on a Wednesday. A Also that

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<v Speaker 1>it is money Mars. We're focusing on money and like

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<v Speaker 1>really being able to reflect on the growth of this

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful baby that we've nurtured and created.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my goh, so much growth. I just can just

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<v Speaker 2>see us in the dining room right now in my head,

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<v Speaker 2>all the levels, all the angles of the dining room,

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<v Speaker 2>the bedroom, everywhere, everywhere you name it. We've podcasted. I

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<v Speaker 2>know it's wild.

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<v Speaker 1>And like even the releasing of our first episode, Sex

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<v Speaker 1>Apps and Kids. If you haven't listened to our first episode,

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<v Speaker 1>it's titled sex Apps and Kids, And we didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>realize we.

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<v Speaker 2>Were releasing it on International Women's Day.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't think we did. It was just like

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna release it on this day. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>happened to like look on Instagram and it was like

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<v Speaker 1>it's International Women's Day.

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<v Speaker 2>We're like, oh, perfect, that makes sense. Yeah, we were like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>this makes this makes sense. I know. I mean even

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<v Speaker 2>that that episode Secks Ups and Kids, we didn't really

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<v Speaker 2>record it thinking that I was gonna be our first episode.

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<v Speaker 2>It was supposed to be a test, and then we

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<v Speaker 2>were like, I don't have another hour to do this,

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<v Speaker 2>let's just put this one out. Yeah, and just jet,

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<v Speaker 2>I wish you would have listened to it before we

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<v Speaker 2>came just genuinely the growth, like personally individually, like where

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<v Speaker 2>we came from to where we are, it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>And like really having no expectation to make really any money.

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<v Speaker 1>I still like think back on so many parts of

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<v Speaker 1>our journey and like not really knowing or not really

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<v Speaker 1>having any clarity on why we're doing what we're doing,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, Like, I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>why I asked you to start a podcat has to

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<v Speaker 1>be honest. I mean, I know there was some sort

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<v Speaker 1>of intention. I think I like wanted to just do

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<v Speaker 1>something with somebody. But it wasn't like I had these

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<v Speaker 1>big plans.

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<v Speaker 2>No, but weren't gonna like we're gonna do We're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>we're gonna make all this money. It was just like that,

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<v Speaker 2>it's something to do, let's do it. Like we were.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we were bored, lonely, desperate for change. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, we had no clear intention because it wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>like we're gonna, hey, do you want to serve business

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<v Speaker 2>with me? That definitely wasn't the the first mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And that's probably why we've been successful, honestly, because

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<v Speaker 1>there wasn't this pressure that I think a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people put on themselves to be super successful. Even now

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<v Speaker 1>in this podcasting space, Like there's so many podcasts now

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, we can hit up all the time

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<v Speaker 1>about you know, just how to start one, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't have the answers for that because there really were

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<v Speaker 1>no rules here. I think, like when you move with

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<v Speaker 1>just honesty and excitement and just without like the hope

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<v Speaker 1>to make a million dollars in podcasting, Like that's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of the secret.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that it's a secret not overthinking it and

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<v Speaker 2>not overthinking it, because one thing we didn't do was

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<v Speaker 2>overthink it, and it was intentional, but it was really

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<v Speaker 2>just like our only intention was to come to show

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<v Speaker 2>up and tell the truth, like, hey, don't lie, don't

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<v Speaker 2>sugarcoat shit, and here we are, here we are. We've

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<v Speaker 2>done a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>a lot, a lot, a lot of a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>things in five years. My love, a lot of events,

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of meetups, a lot of new friends, a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of trips, a lot of tears, a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>community building. Literally, I'm just thinking of like Joshua Tree

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<v Speaker 2>and fucking getting our hair braided and doing your eyelashes

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<v Speaker 2>on camera while we were recording a podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, and just and the kids like interrupting, like

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<v Speaker 1>all of our episodes and the elevator music and us

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<v Speaker 1>recording on two iPhones and the drama trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>the fucking videos off the iPhone, editing Amazon microphone, editing

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<v Speaker 1>an iMovie, like putting up episode like editing till three

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning so that I could release the episode

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<v Speaker 1>at eight am. Like just so so much blood, sweat,

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<v Speaker 1>fucking tears.

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<v Speaker 2>And making no money at all. We didn't really know

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<v Speaker 2>why we were doing it. We just knew we had

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<v Speaker 2>to keep going.

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<v Speaker 1>We weren't making a dollar, not one fucking dollar. In fact,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys breaking news. We were lying about some of

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<v Speaker 1>the ads that we were like placing in the podcast

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<v Speaker 1>early on. They were our friends. Oh yeah, like that,

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<v Speaker 1>what was it for? Like the model experience. Model Experience

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<v Speaker 1>was ventured Souls. It was like beauty blender. It was

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<v Speaker 1>like a bunch of just random things that we just

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<v Speaker 1>made up because.

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<v Speaker 2>We were manifesting getting adds. We were manifesting.

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<v Speaker 1>So much lying on media kits as we knew eventually

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<v Speaker 1>we'd hit those numbers, and we have like times ten.

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<v Speaker 1>So congratulations, thank you on five years of dedicating yourself

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<v Speaker 1>to this and sitting down every week to talk and

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<v Speaker 1>reflect and grow and heal and push.

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<v Speaker 2>Forward the collective. Congratulations. Congratulations, we have come a very

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<v Speaker 2>long way. We're not in the dining room, We're in

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<v Speaker 2>our own studio. We have our book on the dining

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<v Speaker 2>room table. I mean not the dining room table, the table,

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<v Speaker 2>the coffee table. And we just came back from Costa

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<v Speaker 2>Rica from leading our sixth retreat, and we're wearing our merch.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, guys, if you haven't checked out our merch, we

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<v Speaker 1>have a new drop. It's our first sweatsuit drop. It's

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<v Speaker 1>super cute. It's a redo of our really popular Manifest

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<v Speaker 1>University sweatshirt that we did a few years ago, and

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<v Speaker 1>so we reimagined it and know, I think I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>just model it because you know, the youtubes love the modeling.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you're if you're listening, go on YouTube right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we're modeling. Okay, okay, let's see. She's wearing the

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<v Speaker 2>full Manifest Universe, straight up Manifest University sweatsuit. It's teal,

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<v Speaker 2>it's pink, it's cute, it's uniformed, it's screamed spiritual storty

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<v Speaker 2>and turn around. I look that cute. But and on

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<v Speaker 2>the back get down says words or spells because they

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<v Speaker 2>are now watch what you say. You should see her

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<v Speaker 2>on her knees.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on my knees.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, bend over, baby, so we can see how it

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<v Speaker 2>so it's it really works. It's stretches. It's good for

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<v Speaker 2>work and play.

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<v Speaker 1>It's super comfortable, you can still.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, you know, shake the mass. It's pigment dyed. I've

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<v Speaker 2>been wearing it for like three days straight, so I

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<v Speaker 2>know this ship.

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<v Speaker 1>Me and Mela showed up to the airport in the

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<v Speaker 1>same fucking sweatsuit like twice.

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<v Speaker 2>Tweetled Bean tweetled dumb. You gotta represent it, we do.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh also, I'm wearing our Reimagine long sleeves heather gray,

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<v Speaker 2>black as fuck, mam as fuck, and of course fine

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<v Speaker 2>as Fuck tea that was re released on uh in

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<v Speaker 2>Black History Month.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, that's our Oh and then this is the

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<v Speaker 1>children's meet with the kids. If you want to match

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<v Speaker 1>with your with your with your mini me, we have

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<v Speaker 1>the mini manifest University. And look what it says on

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<v Speaker 1>that back.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>I am magic because the children are magic and they

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<v Speaker 1>need to always remember that they're walking manifestation, walking affirmation.

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<v Speaker 2>So these are our These are our designs.

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<v Speaker 1>By the these are our designs.

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<v Speaker 2>We are the designers, with the designer of all the

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<v Speaker 2>cute people always are like so who designed your march?

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<v Speaker 2>And like us sweet us designer.

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<v Speaker 1>We are Canva artists.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know why you're telling everybody business.

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<v Speaker 1>Because they need to know that it's fucking you can.

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<v Speaker 1>You too can be a merch designer. It's not like

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<v Speaker 1>some secret shit. I think people look at businesses and

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<v Speaker 1>they feel like things are unattainable. They think like even

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<v Speaker 1>our like the success that we've had, is unattainable. They

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<v Speaker 1>think that like creating their own online store is unattainable,

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<v Speaker 1>Creating their own retreat business is unattainable. Writing a book

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<v Speaker 1>is unattainable. It feels overwhelming. It feels like something that

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<v Speaker 1>you have to wait for, You have to get to

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<v Speaker 1>a certain level in order to do certain things, and

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<v Speaker 1>you will fucking your dreams and will crash and burn waiting.

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<v Speaker 2>That's true, you can't wait. I think that's our biggest

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<v Speaker 2>testament to like this is that we just did it

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<v Speaker 2>and we didn't wait, and we didn't let anyone tell

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<v Speaker 2>us it was too much and the name was too uh,

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<v Speaker 2>too taboo or the things we're talking about too or

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<v Speaker 2>too risque, and we committed to whatever we said we

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<v Speaker 2>were going to do, and we did that shit consistently,

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<v Speaker 2>even if we didn't really know, like the law long

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<v Speaker 2>term goal as they came up, we rose to the

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<v Speaker 2>occasion and like we were ready when opportunity came. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we manifested a lot of shit and we sold ourselves

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<v Speaker 2>high because we had like high regard for our brand

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<v Speaker 2>and our business even without the entire full, bigger picture.

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<v Speaker 1>And that leads me to today's affirmation, which I think

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<v Speaker 1>should just be commit to your shit and the money

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<v Speaker 1>will come.

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<v Speaker 2>Commit to your shit and the money will come.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just commit to your passions. Like if you say

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do it, then just do it, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't have to be crazy. I think we

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<v Speaker 1>like try to like overwhelm ourselves with these major goals

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<v Speaker 1>and like these major milestones that we have to hit.

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<v Speaker 1>And one thing I learned from my mom was just

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<v Speaker 1>do one thing every single day to push the needle forward,

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<v Speaker 1>Just one thing. It doesn't have to be the whole

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<v Speaker 1>fucking thing. And this is the thing I've had to

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<v Speaker 1>learn too, because I'm one of these people, like I

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<v Speaker 1>get really a lot of anxiety if like there's things

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<v Speaker 1>left unchecked on my checklist that I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>could have accomplished in the day, and like I've had

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<v Speaker 1>to release that I've really like tried hard over the

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<v Speaker 1>last few months to release that because it does nothing

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<v Speaker 1>for me. It is nothing for Jamila, it is nothing

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<v Speaker 1>for anyone in my business by me like making everyone

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<v Speaker 1>feel like everything is super important. Granted there is a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of important shit that's happening, but it's all going

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<v Speaker 1>to get done. It's all going to get done. And

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like my value has a lot of my

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<v Speaker 1>value has been linked to how much work I get done,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, And I think that's that's something that I

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<v Speaker 1>think a lot of women, I think men and women

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<v Speaker 1>we struggle with. It's like our value is really linked

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<v Speaker 1>to our productivity. And once we kind of release that,

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<v Speaker 1>it becomes so much more stress free, it becomes so

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<v Speaker 1>much more enjoyable. And you start to realize that, like

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<v Speaker 1>no one was waiting for that thing to be posted,

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<v Speaker 1>No one even knew it was gonna get posted, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>except you, bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, there's like this fine balance too, because like

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<v Speaker 2>some of the one of the greatest pieces of business

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<v Speaker 2>advice we ever got was from mel Robbins, and she

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<v Speaker 2>was like, don't disrespect your business and don't let anybody

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<v Speaker 2>else disrespect your business. And you know, like this this

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<v Speaker 2>entire journey has been a lot of things, a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of like learning about ourselves, I mean, and then learning

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<v Speaker 2>about ourselves in this space like as bosses and as

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<v Speaker 2>businesswomen and making hard decisions and making fucked up fucking

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<v Speaker 2>up and learning from them and taking l's and getting

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<v Speaker 2>passed up on and just like and taking risks like

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<v Speaker 2>it's risky, and we took personal risks with this podcast

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<v Speaker 2>because it's not easy to tell like all of our

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<v Speaker 2>business and like be vulnerable. But you know, it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>what's it saying scared money? Don't make money? So it's

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<v Speaker 2>just like this fine balance between respecting your shit and

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<v Speaker 2>also like understanding that like shit always will get done.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know, just like the journey of becoming a

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<v Speaker 2>boss ass bitch in business has been, it's not like

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<v Speaker 2>always that easy. And even to this point, it's like

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<v Speaker 2>it becomes even more anxiety written because there's more writing

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<v Speaker 2>on the line, there's more people writing on you. There's

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<v Speaker 2>more like it's just a higher price to pay when

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<v Speaker 2>shit doesn't go as planned. So I've had to do

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of like I don't know we were talking

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<v Speaker 2>about sorry, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, I was just saying, like just you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>was just sharing that my product, my value has a

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<v Speaker 1>lot has been linked to my productivity and feeling like

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<v Speaker 1>I have to get everything done all at once.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yes, and I agree. And I also think that

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<v Speaker 2>we are very lucky that we found a business that

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<v Speaker 2>also brings us like personal fulfillment. And I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>it would have been as successful because like, it wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>about the value in the beginning. It was just about

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<v Speaker 2>like needing to get something out, you know, like what was.

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<v Speaker 1>The value to us it was a value, and how

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<v Speaker 1>it affected our well being, how we felt after talking

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<v Speaker 1>for an hour to two hours with each other and

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<v Speaker 1>then putting it out there, because I think it really

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<v Speaker 1>like we put it out there. We barely listened to

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<v Speaker 1>it and just put it out. But I felt better

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<v Speaker 1>after sitting and talking to you about whatever the fuck

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<v Speaker 1>was bothering me, right, And then somehow that also made

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<v Speaker 1>someone else feel better because they were maybe feeling the

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<v Speaker 1>same way too, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>The spiritual equity that it brought, the spiritual fulfillment that

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<v Speaker 2>it brought like leads and led to financial like financial

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<v Speaker 2>fulfillment because there was like a bigger fulfillment that it

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<v Speaker 2>was like holding and caring, and I couldn't understan. I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't understand it at first, but I think there is

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<v Speaker 2>something like we have conversations with our friends all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes that as honest as us, but like also the

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<v Speaker 2>releasing it into the universe, and now I'm letting it go,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and I don't care what anybody says, and

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<v Speaker 2>even for me, because I'll talk about stuff or I'll

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<v Speaker 2>think about stuff, but then I won't like ever think

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<v Speaker 2>about it or pick it back up. It was a

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<v Speaker 2>way to just be like and there's nothing you could

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<v Speaker 2>do about it, you know. Like it's been definitely been

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<v Speaker 2>a factor in like self acceptance for me because it's

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<v Speaker 2>just like, for sure he said what I said.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there also came a point though in our

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<v Speaker 1>business where we were like and it's there does I

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<v Speaker 1>think there comes a point in everyone's business, no matter

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<v Speaker 1>what your passions are, if you're passionate about something and

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<v Speaker 1>like you really actually want to you know, monetize the

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<v Speaker 1>business or really start to like, you know, enjoy the

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<v Speaker 1>fruits of your labor. Besides getting messages from women that

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<v Speaker 1>are like me too, there was a moment I think

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<v Speaker 1>in our I don't know what to think. It was

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<v Speaker 1>like I think it was like year three, which is

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<v Speaker 1>not that long ago, and it was like December, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think I said to you, like, we have to

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<v Speaker 1>make money next year. And I think once we like.

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<v Speaker 2>Flicked that on, like, well, if we don't make money,

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<v Speaker 2>what are we actually doing? Like like what the fuck?

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<v Speaker 2>Like we're working hard, but for what?

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<v Speaker 1>M M. But I think like, okay, we've established that

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<v Speaker 1>we're like we're here, we are with the shits. We're

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<v Speaker 1>all about you know, sharing, elevating the community, supporting our community,

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<v Speaker 1>they're supporting us, But like what else, Like how we how?

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<v Speaker 1>What is how do we create even more value here?

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<v Speaker 1>And I think once we started really like taking time

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<v Speaker 1>and space to really think about it, things just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of started happening. I think we started to actually become

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<v Speaker 1>more intentional, whereas before we were just like Okay, it's

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<v Speaker 1>because every week was like we're just trying to catch up,

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<v Speaker 1>keep up, keep up. Oh my god, there's another Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, it's another week. Oh my god, it's another episode.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. They told us we can't take any seasons.

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<v Speaker 1>They told us that this is the best way to

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<v Speaker 1>do it. We got that advice early on with podcasting,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know if that's actually like sound advice

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<v Speaker 1>at this point in you know, podcasting.

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<v Speaker 2>Consist of like not taking off any breaks. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we certainly did it. And I don't know if that

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<v Speaker 2>like killed us or like made us super committed, because

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<v Speaker 2>after you've done it every week for two years or

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<v Speaker 2>three years, you're like, this is not going to be

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<v Speaker 2>the end all, like things are starting to cost money.

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<v Speaker 2>We need to do this and slowly and surely, like

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<v Speaker 2>I think as soon as you write, as soon as

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<v Speaker 2>you made that decision, slowly, like honestly, like the biggest

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<v Speaker 2>beginning for us of making money was like, yeah, we

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<v Speaker 2>started to like create little small batch merch runs, but

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<v Speaker 2>the book and that was not something we seeked out.

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<v Speaker 2>It like found us. And even that entire first year

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<v Speaker 2>of writing the proposal of our book, like we didn't

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<v Speaker 2>know that there was like a financial gain on the

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<v Speaker 2>other side. I don't really know what the fuck we thought.

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<v Speaker 2>We were just like, let's write this thing. It took

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<v Speaker 2>us a year to write, and then finally we took

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<v Speaker 2>all these meetings and at the end of all these meetings,

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<v Speaker 2>our agents were like, Okay, now you get to choose,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, well, how do we choose? And they're like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>whoever offers you the most money and we were like what, well,

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<v Speaker 2>how much should they be offering? Guess I was like

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<v Speaker 2>really looking forward to hearing whatever like these numbers, and

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<v Speaker 2>they're like, well, hopefully in the six figures. I said, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>why didn't you say that sooner? I literally I think

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<v Speaker 2>we're in New York, are on a call, and we're like,

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<v Speaker 2>what the fuck are they talking about? And sure enough,

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<v Speaker 2>that first like we got the highest bidder and the

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<v Speaker 2>highest bidder head was Harper and we had six figures,

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<v Speaker 2>and we we made a decision that that day this

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<v Speaker 2>was gonna this wasn't this wasn't going to be the

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<v Speaker 2>last of our biggest checks we ever got. And that

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<v Speaker 2>was just that was the only decision that had to

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<v Speaker 2>be made. And literally when we went to go write

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<v Speaker 2>the book in Costa Rica, we created the Good vibera

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<v Speaker 2>treat on accident and then that really shifted things for

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<v Speaker 2>our business, and we grew that business in one year

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<v Speaker 2>because we were really committed. I think once you do

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<v Speaker 2>something like for no pay consistently for three years, like

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<v Speaker 2>you really don't have you don't have fear, Yeah, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like I can do this, I can do anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuck it, I did it for this long without money.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuck it, let's try and make some money.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like it was, it was and yeah, and here

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<v Speaker 2>we are. And then we made six figures in the

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<v Speaker 2>first year with that business because we said out loud,

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<v Speaker 2>this is not going to be the last time that

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<v Speaker 2>we do this.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's something to be said too about the Tribe.

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<v Speaker 1>I shout out to the Tribe and everybody listening, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, being able to speak to you guys directly,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, form relationships with so many of you,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we've done a lot of talking one on one

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<v Speaker 1>with many many of you, and whether that's in social

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<v Speaker 1>whether that's on our discord community, whether that's you coming

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<v Speaker 1>to the Good Vibe retreat, whether that's you coming to

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<v Speaker 1>our meet up, coming to our live shows. Like we've

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<v Speaker 1>definitely like created bondships with a lot of a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people. And because of that, you guys kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like do the work for us, spread the message. That's

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<v Speaker 1>really like the secret to our growth is like other

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<v Speaker 1>people sharing other good moms, other people sharing us. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I think that because we were so genuine and

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<v Speaker 1>continue to be genuine in our commitment to you and

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<v Speaker 1>commitment to creating spaces for you guys to feel safe.

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<v Speaker 1>The community has in turn supported us and our dreams.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that there's no amount of monetary there's

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<v Speaker 1>no amount of money that can build that kind of

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<v Speaker 1>that kind of.

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<v Speaker 2>What's the word I'm looking for.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say following, but just trust, trust,

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<v Speaker 1>And I think a lot of it had to come

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<v Speaker 1>without money because it had to be really genuine. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people missed that step. They

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<v Speaker 1>missed the step of like cultivating community.

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<v Speaker 2>Genuine community, not yeah, like just genuine trust, genuine relationship relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't skip over that part if you're if your

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<v Speaker 1>business is community based, there's no way to skip over it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care how many fucking Instagram ads you run,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care how many panels you speak on. Like

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<v Speaker 1>the groundwork happens at the ground and you have to

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<v Speaker 1>build the community, and it takes time, and it takes honesty,

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<v Speaker 1>and it takes commitment.

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<v Speaker 2>It takes for you to really be committed to it

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<v Speaker 2>in order to build that and like, yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>even with each other, you know, I think, like even

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<v Speaker 2>not really knowing each other in the beginning, and like

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<v Speaker 2>the trust that we've built. I think the more we

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<v Speaker 2>began to trust each other, the momentum grew and like

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<v Speaker 2>what we saw that we could accomplish together. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just like it's like a web. You know, it

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<v Speaker 2>started here and this friendship. You know, even within the

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<v Speaker 2>relationship with ourselves, you know, we had to build like

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<v Speaker 2>a certain kind of confidence and trust in ourselves to

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<v Speaker 2>be like, let me tell the truth and not be scared,

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<v Speaker 2>and then tell this other person and then in turn

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<v Speaker 2>tell all these other people. And it does. It creates

0:22:38.000 --> 0:22:41.040
<v Speaker 2>a space where people were like, oh, these crazy bitches

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<v Speaker 2>are talking about what they did and that they smoke

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<v Speaker 2>weed or they went to Coachella and did this or

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<v Speaker 2>whatever it is. But it creates a space where you

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<v Speaker 2>know that, like, this is not a place you have

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<v Speaker 2>to come perfect, you know, like this is just a

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<v Speaker 2>place where you can come as human as you want to.

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<v Speaker 2>And that has really created trust because you've heard me cry,

0:22:58.720 --> 0:23:01.120
<v Speaker 2>You've heard me fuck up, heard us cheat, you've heard

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<v Speaker 2>us like, you've heard all the things you know, like,

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<v Speaker 2>and I am not one I even sitting here and

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<v Speaker 2>having this conversation is like I'm like, I'm not. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't believe that I've been vulnerable as vulnerable on like

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<v Speaker 2>a public platform because that's not really Like I'm honest,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's not my thing to be like crying in

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<v Speaker 2>public amongst a bunch of strangers that I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's like this is how genuine this faces that

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<v Speaker 2>we just like there are times we really couldn't help it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, or like we're not trying to perform. It's

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<v Speaker 2>not performative, it's not performative. It just is so like, yeah,

0:23:36.440 --> 0:23:39.520
<v Speaker 2>the community is really why we have grown, like been

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<v Speaker 2>so successful, and I'm so grateful, so so grateful because

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<v Speaker 2>I realize like most of our community are not our

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<v Speaker 2>personal friends.

0:23:48.480 --> 0:23:52.480
<v Speaker 1>But they've been turned given us confidence as business owners

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<v Speaker 1>and entrepreneurs. Like their support and your support has literally

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<v Speaker 1>made me be fearless, has really made me write these

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<v Speaker 1>chapters in this book and say fuck it. And and

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<v Speaker 1>for me, like I feel like that's harder for me

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<v Speaker 1>than it is for you, you know, Like I'm not,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a little bit like let me just wait, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I said when I sat when I sat

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<v Speaker 1>down and wrote, you know, my parts of this book

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<v Speaker 1>I said, like I've only given piece like parts and

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<v Speaker 1>pieces a protecting certain people that I don't you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I think about my daughter and just like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the things that she might read about read later on

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<v Speaker 1>in this book, I think about, you know, my child's father,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know the ways that I continue still to like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't want to say protect him but

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<v Speaker 1>not give him power. Really was what it is in

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<v Speaker 1>my voice and in my power in this space, because

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<v Speaker 1>early on he wanted to attribute his he wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>make it seem as though, like the reason why I

0:25:01.600 --> 0:25:04.879
<v Speaker 1>have a podcast is because of him, which you know,

0:25:04.960 --> 0:25:09.000
<v Speaker 1>you did make me a single mother, that's a fact, congratulations.

0:25:10.080 --> 0:25:13.160
<v Speaker 1>But the tribe is what made has made me feel

0:25:13.200 --> 0:25:14.840
<v Speaker 1>safe and saying you know what I'm gonna put it,

0:25:14.840 --> 0:25:16.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm laying it all out, and I've laid it out here,

0:25:17.119 --> 0:25:20.920
<v Speaker 1>but really writing it down has been like extremely powerful

0:25:21.440 --> 0:25:24.040
<v Speaker 1>but made me feel confident. It's like this is my business,

0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:28.520
<v Speaker 1>like whether I'm whether I say it or not, you know,

0:25:28.920 --> 0:25:33.199
<v Speaker 1>and even creating the retreat, like me and Meil have

0:25:33.359 --> 0:25:38.119
<v Speaker 1>never been on a retreat, just like we've never started

0:25:38.119 --> 0:25:42.000
<v Speaker 1>a podcast, just like I've never opened up a podcast studio,

0:25:42.680 --> 0:25:45.760
<v Speaker 1>just like I've never written a book, just like I've

0:25:46.000 --> 0:25:50.600
<v Speaker 1>never been a mom or I've never designed jewelry or

0:25:51.480 --> 0:25:53.160
<v Speaker 1>never designed clothes or jewelry.

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<v Speaker 2>And like all the never's.

0:25:56.320 --> 0:25:57.600
<v Speaker 1>They don't scare me anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>I could do that. Yeah, everything I think of something

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<v Speaker 2>that we don't have. In fact, I'm like, never done it,

0:26:03.760 --> 0:26:05.920
<v Speaker 2>Fuck it, let's just do it. Let's try that. Yeah,

0:26:06.000 --> 0:26:08.879
<v Speaker 2>have you ever started a cannabis business? Nope, No, no,

0:26:09.080 --> 0:26:11.160
<v Speaker 2>never do that. I think we could do it. Yeah,

0:26:11.440 --> 0:26:14.600
<v Speaker 2>we just do a little market research, you know, never

0:26:14.640 --> 0:26:16.439
<v Speaker 2>styled a shoot, never made a deck. You know how

0:26:16.440 --> 0:26:19.480
<v Speaker 2>many decks I've made for our various companies, how many pitches,

0:26:19.520 --> 0:26:22.560
<v Speaker 2>how many times we've pitched ourselves for knows how many

0:26:22.640 --> 0:26:25.640
<v Speaker 2>fucking emails LinkedIn's that we've like just searched, how many

0:26:25.720 --> 0:26:28.320
<v Speaker 2>lists of brands we'd like to work with, how many

0:26:28.359 --> 0:26:32.160
<v Speaker 2>knows we've gotten like a lot, a lot, a lot

0:26:32.200 --> 0:26:35.040
<v Speaker 2>a lot. But I think just having clarity on what

0:26:35.080 --> 0:26:36.600
<v Speaker 2>our brand was, and you're right, like the only reason

0:26:36.640 --> 0:26:38.320
<v Speaker 2>we have clarity on what our brand was and that

0:26:38.359 --> 0:26:41.200
<v Speaker 2>it's okay is that our community has said so. Like,

0:26:41.200 --> 0:26:43.080
<v Speaker 2>like I said, We've had friends literally be like, I

0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:45.399
<v Speaker 2>really don't like I think that like bad Choices is

0:26:45.400 --> 0:26:50.600
<v Speaker 2>not a good name, and you know, saying all your

0:26:50.600 --> 0:26:53.480
<v Speaker 2>business is not like like likable or people are not

0:26:53.520 --> 0:26:56.159
<v Speaker 2>going to be associated with it, and brands telling us

0:26:56.200 --> 0:27:00.800
<v Speaker 2>we're explicit or like having having titles like make Come

0:27:00.840 --> 0:27:05.280
<v Speaker 2>Taste Good Again and what was it one with Kanye.

0:27:06.720 --> 0:27:08.359
<v Speaker 1>Make America? Oh?

0:27:08.600 --> 0:27:11.879
<v Speaker 2>Is that what the Rachel zoul is all? Yeah, Rachel

0:27:11.960 --> 0:27:16.000
<v Speaker 2>zols Kanye some of our earlier on you.

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<v Speaker 1>If you guys are just catching up on our show,

0:27:18.560 --> 0:27:20.880
<v Speaker 1>I really would to encourage you to go to the beginning,

0:27:21.119 --> 0:27:22.879
<v Speaker 1>because Wow.

0:27:23.119 --> 0:27:24.879
<v Speaker 2>It's the wild wild West over there. It is the

0:27:24.880 --> 0:27:25.280
<v Speaker 2>wild one.

0:27:25.320 --> 0:27:27.840
<v Speaker 1>It's the wild wild West of podcasting. Not much has

0:27:27.920 --> 0:27:31.000
<v Speaker 1>changed now, but I think we've just grown more. And

0:27:31.119 --> 0:27:34.080
<v Speaker 1>like we were saying a lot about land as shit

0:27:34.800 --> 0:27:37.040
<v Speaker 1>that you know, maybe one day we'll come back to

0:27:37.119 --> 0:27:40.880
<v Speaker 1>haunt us. For example, how to tell if your man

0:27:40.960 --> 0:27:44.719
<v Speaker 1>is gay or bye? Five ways to find out if

0:27:44.720 --> 0:27:46.680
<v Speaker 1>your man is gay or bye, because we're experts, because

0:27:46.720 --> 0:27:49.280
<v Speaker 1>we're super experts in that, and that is super duper

0:27:49.440 --> 0:27:52.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm prosthetic in this in this climate this day, it was.

0:27:52.440 --> 0:27:54.560
<v Speaker 2>Like my idea too, I said, I know I've wrote

0:27:54.600 --> 0:27:59.560
<v Speaker 2>down some ideas, how about this, people, the girls are

0:27:59.560 --> 0:28:02.760
<v Speaker 2>gonna lie this, and it was like, such stupid shit.

0:28:03.800 --> 0:28:08.160
<v Speaker 2>If we put this arm like this, Oh my goodness,

0:28:08.280 --> 0:28:10.200
<v Speaker 2>there's a lot of things in there that probably are

0:28:10.240 --> 0:28:13.040
<v Speaker 2>not going to be popular next year and two years

0:28:13.040 --> 0:28:15.919
<v Speaker 2>from now. I'm not popular right now, but honestly, we

0:28:15.960 --> 0:28:18.720
<v Speaker 2>didn't start the podcast become popular. We started the podcast

0:28:18.720 --> 0:28:22.440
<v Speaker 2>to find our people. And I've just learned that our

0:28:22.480 --> 0:28:25.440
<v Speaker 2>people are our people, you know, even like I even

0:28:25.560 --> 0:28:29.960
<v Speaker 2>going to the retreat, it's always a beautiful like example

0:28:30.040 --> 0:28:34.679
<v Speaker 2>of like what a versatile like just community that we

0:28:34.800 --> 0:28:38.400
<v Speaker 2>have because I know, like I know, like you know,

0:28:38.520 --> 0:28:41.680
<v Speaker 2>we're obviously black, and we've said, like we talk about race,

0:28:41.760 --> 0:28:44.760
<v Speaker 2>and we joke about race and spirituality and we make

0:28:44.800 --> 0:28:46.840
<v Speaker 2>fun of a lot of shit because we're silly. But

0:28:46.880 --> 0:28:49.280
<v Speaker 2>then like we go to the like retreat and there's

0:28:49.280 --> 0:28:51.960
<v Speaker 2>so many different types of women for so many different places,

0:28:52.000 --> 0:28:54.680
<v Speaker 2>and it reminds me that everybody gets our sense of humor.

0:28:55.520 --> 0:28:59.120
<v Speaker 2>It's fine, everybody gets it, you know, everyone feels included

0:28:59.200 --> 0:28:59.720
<v Speaker 2>and safe.

0:29:00.000 --> 0:29:02.640
<v Speaker 1>Well there's that, but then there's also women that don't

0:29:02.640 --> 0:29:05.280
<v Speaker 1>get it. But then they keep listening. Yeah, like there's

0:29:05.280 --> 0:29:07.000
<v Speaker 1>been women that are like you triggered me when I

0:29:07.080 --> 0:29:10.400
<v Speaker 1>first heard you. Yeah, like I actually really hated your voice.

0:29:11.600 --> 0:29:13.440
<v Speaker 1>Your voice triggered the fuck out of me. But then

0:29:13.440 --> 0:29:15.360
<v Speaker 1>I had to ask myself why, and so I kept

0:29:15.360 --> 0:29:20.760
<v Speaker 1>listening shout out to Dutch so and I love that.

0:29:20.840 --> 0:29:24.840
<v Speaker 1>I love those stories too, because it just really, it

0:29:24.920 --> 0:29:29.360
<v Speaker 1>just it shows that a there is like there is

0:29:29.480 --> 0:29:32.720
<v Speaker 1>something of value here that keeps people coming back, even

0:29:32.800 --> 0:29:36.240
<v Speaker 1>if they don't necessarily subscribe to anything that we talk

0:29:36.280 --> 0:29:39.280
<v Speaker 1>about anything any ways that we live, any ways that

0:29:39.320 --> 0:29:42.040
<v Speaker 1>we raise our kids, any ways that we navigate our

0:29:42.080 --> 0:29:45.680
<v Speaker 1>love lives, our relationships. But yet they still come back

0:29:45.720 --> 0:29:52.120
<v Speaker 1>because there's something here that feels relatable, feels even if

0:29:52.120 --> 0:29:55.080
<v Speaker 1>it's not relatable, it feels maybe aspirational at times. And

0:29:55.120 --> 0:29:56.640
<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of times too, that's part of

0:29:56.680 --> 0:29:59.520
<v Speaker 1>the business too. It's like people want to be inspired.

0:30:01.000 --> 0:30:03.400
<v Speaker 2>I think people have this idea that there's like this.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, in ways, there are this level of fearlessness,

0:30:06.440 --> 0:30:09.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, because we are saying things like people usually

0:30:09.120 --> 0:30:13.440
<v Speaker 2>don't say, I'm being like incredibly honest and all those things,

0:30:13.560 --> 0:30:18.080
<v Speaker 2>but like, I am really really scared about our book

0:30:18.120 --> 0:30:23.400
<v Speaker 2>coming out. I am getting increasingly more anxious. And it's

0:30:23.440 --> 0:30:29.040
<v Speaker 2>something different about like that black and white printed you

0:30:29.040 --> 0:30:30.920
<v Speaker 2>can turn the page and put it in my face

0:30:30.960 --> 0:30:35.160
<v Speaker 2>and I have to read it like I'm I'm really

0:30:35.560 --> 0:30:39.520
<v Speaker 2>really scared and I've like I'm anxious about it, you know,

0:30:39.560 --> 0:30:41.960
<v Speaker 2>And I realized, like damn, I gotta go like talk

0:30:42.040 --> 0:30:44.360
<v Speaker 2>to people and let them know it's coming, and that

0:30:44.480 --> 0:30:46.080
<v Speaker 2>I've said certain things, and like.

0:30:47.480 --> 0:30:50.000
<v Speaker 1>Same, there's some people. There's certain people I'm not going

0:30:50.080 --> 0:30:51.880
<v Speaker 1>to talk to. You can just read it, yeah, but

0:30:52.360 --> 0:30:54.600
<v Speaker 1>there are certain people that I feel like deserve to know,

0:30:55.160 --> 0:30:57.800
<v Speaker 1>like what I've shared, whether or not I've already shared

0:30:57.800 --> 0:31:01.320
<v Speaker 1>it on the podcast or not. Like it's our book

0:31:01.360 --> 0:31:04.120
<v Speaker 1>is actually out for pre order now. Click the link

0:31:04.160 --> 0:31:07.400
<v Speaker 1>in this episode description to pre order our book. But yeah,

0:31:07.480 --> 0:31:11.000
<v Speaker 1>it's printed and it's coming out and I can't take

0:31:11.040 --> 0:31:14.480
<v Speaker 1>it back, and I don't want to take it back.

0:31:14.560 --> 0:31:17.000
<v Speaker 2>I think the biggest lesson in this entire thing is

0:31:17.160 --> 0:31:21.200
<v Speaker 2>like feel the fear and do it anyway. Feel the

0:31:21.240 --> 0:31:23.480
<v Speaker 2>fear and do it anyway. Like I'm scared as fuck,

0:31:23.640 --> 0:31:26.800
<v Speaker 2>but it's coming, Like like I get like all this

0:31:26.840 --> 0:31:28.600
<v Speaker 2>shit is new to me, Like I've like you said

0:31:28.640 --> 0:31:30.440
<v Speaker 2>I've never run a studio, We've never done a lot

0:31:30.440 --> 0:31:32.719
<v Speaker 2>of shit. It's all new, you know, I've never had

0:31:32.760 --> 0:31:35.920
<v Speaker 2>a team of ten people. That's never happened. And then

0:31:36.040 --> 0:31:38.840
<v Speaker 2>like it's just something that just like we've risen to

0:31:38.880 --> 0:31:41.960
<v Speaker 2>the occasion. We never fucking put a podcast out edited video,

0:31:42.080 --> 0:31:44.640
<v Speaker 2>but we did. And I think like the biggest lesson

0:31:44.640 --> 0:31:46.320
<v Speaker 2>of all this is like, if you want to do it,

0:31:46.400 --> 0:31:52.280
<v Speaker 2>just do it and stop stop letting fear like stop

0:31:52.320 --> 0:31:55.480
<v Speaker 2>you from even starting. You've got to do the shit

0:31:55.520 --> 0:31:56.959
<v Speaker 2>and then once you get there, you figure it out.

0:31:57.000 --> 0:31:59.120
<v Speaker 2>And I'm scared right now. I'm scared yesterday. I'm scared

0:31:59.160 --> 0:32:01.920
<v Speaker 2>next week. But I'm not gonna not do it. You know,

0:32:02.120 --> 0:32:06.440
<v Speaker 2>Like everything is going to be scary, especially the older

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:09.360
<v Speaker 2>you get, you have more I have, the stakes are higher.

0:32:09.600 --> 0:32:12.520
<v Speaker 2>But one of my biggest things is like I would

0:32:12.560 --> 0:32:15.400
<v Speaker 2>hate to grow old and like about to be out

0:32:15.440 --> 0:32:18.000
<v Speaker 2>this bitch and then have like Matt, like have so much,

0:32:19.720 --> 0:32:24.760
<v Speaker 2>uh have so much like disappointment about things I wish

0:32:24.760 --> 0:32:27.480
<v Speaker 2>I would have done. That's my biggest fear in life,

0:32:27.600 --> 0:32:29.880
<v Speaker 2>always has been, is like I would hate to get

0:32:29.880 --> 0:32:31.560
<v Speaker 2>to the end of this bitch and be like I

0:32:31.600 --> 0:32:32.600
<v Speaker 2>should have could have would have.

0:32:32.840 --> 0:32:34.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I should have tried this. I should have tried that.

0:32:34.640 --> 0:32:36.280
<v Speaker 1>I should have put that on. I should have just

0:32:36.400 --> 0:32:38.720
<v Speaker 1>fucking said I don't care, like I'm going to show

0:32:38.800 --> 0:32:42.800
<v Speaker 1>up this way. And I'm still working through those things too,

0:32:42.840 --> 0:32:45.200
<v Speaker 1>Like there's certain parts of my of who I am

0:32:45.280 --> 0:32:47.960
<v Speaker 1>that I still feel like I could show up even

0:32:48.040 --> 0:32:54.120
<v Speaker 1>more authentically, and and it's the fear.

0:32:53.960 --> 0:32:54.520
<v Speaker 2>Is still there.

0:32:54.640 --> 0:32:56.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I feel like it's like a constant

0:32:56.640 --> 0:32:59.600
<v Speaker 1>evolution too, because I'm constantly growing and finding out new

0:32:59.600 --> 0:33:04.280
<v Speaker 1>parts of about myself and.

0:33:02.640 --> 0:33:04.560
<v Speaker 2>And how to cope with them, how to cope with that,

0:33:04.680 --> 0:33:06.400
<v Speaker 2>you know, how to cope with the fear and like

0:33:06.480 --> 0:33:08.160
<v Speaker 2>live with it. I literally was like, do I need

0:33:08.200 --> 0:33:13.800
<v Speaker 2>a call my therapist? But maybe shit? But like it's

0:33:13.800 --> 0:33:16.200
<v Speaker 2>the doing it anyway.

0:33:16.280 --> 0:33:19.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there's just so many and there's just so many

0:33:19.000 --> 0:33:21.320
<v Speaker 1>things too, like in this world too, that like they

0:33:21.360 --> 0:33:23.120
<v Speaker 1>feed us and they show us like, hey you can

0:33:23.120 --> 0:33:24.720
<v Speaker 1>try this, Hey you can try that, Like want to

0:33:24.720 --> 0:33:26.239
<v Speaker 1>try this, want to try that, And there's certain things

0:33:26.280 --> 0:33:27.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, all right, I don't try that.

0:33:28.080 --> 0:33:29.840
<v Speaker 2>But they also make you feel like you can only

0:33:29.840 --> 0:33:32.320
<v Speaker 2>be good at one thing, you know, like even like

0:33:32.360 --> 0:33:33.760
<v Speaker 2>I've done it, Like, oh, you know, I do this,

0:33:33.840 --> 0:33:36.240
<v Speaker 2>I do that. I'm a dancer, I make I'm a cook.

0:33:36.560 --> 0:33:38.720
<v Speaker 2>I also do me Like, oh, I could do use security,

0:33:38.800 --> 0:33:41.680
<v Speaker 2>Like you got to choose one, but you don't, you know,

0:33:41.760 --> 0:33:43.440
<v Speaker 2>you could do it. You could do them all. You

0:33:43.440 --> 0:33:45.440
<v Speaker 2>can make one business and make them all and make

0:33:45.480 --> 0:33:48.280
<v Speaker 2>it all makes sense. It's not like no one can

0:33:48.320 --> 0:33:51.160
<v Speaker 2>tell you what you're good at except you, And it's

0:33:51.160 --> 0:33:53.520
<v Speaker 2>like it's unfortunate that we think that we needed like

0:33:53.560 --> 0:33:58.040
<v Speaker 2>a certain level of I don't know, like I don't know,

0:33:58.160 --> 0:34:00.840
<v Speaker 2>cerification or title or success us in order to say

0:34:00.880 --> 0:34:04.240
<v Speaker 2>you're an artist or you're this or you're that. But like, yeah,

0:34:04.240 --> 0:34:05.520
<v Speaker 2>you can beat there with the fuck you want to be.

0:34:06.080 --> 0:34:08.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I do, though, think that you need to You

0:34:08.960 --> 0:34:11.000
<v Speaker 1>can't be good at everything all at once, though, Like

0:34:11.040 --> 0:34:13.400
<v Speaker 1>you do have to like decide what you're gonna do.

0:34:13.480 --> 0:34:17.240
<v Speaker 2>You can one thing at a time. Yeah. Yeah, we've

0:34:17.280 --> 0:34:21.560
<v Speaker 2>definitely shifted a lot, but mostly we like we've been

0:34:21.600 --> 0:34:23.399
<v Speaker 2>consistent as fuck with this and then we're like let's

0:34:23.440 --> 0:34:25.279
<v Speaker 2>try this and see how this goes, and let's try this,

0:34:25.880 --> 0:34:28.520
<v Speaker 2>but like first let's get a good grip on this.

0:34:28.640 --> 0:34:32.920
<v Speaker 2>And the podcast has been like our our rock, our

0:34:32.960 --> 0:34:34.799
<v Speaker 2>foundation has.

0:34:34.680 --> 0:34:38.520
<v Speaker 1>I just feel like people look at certain people's successes

0:34:38.840 --> 0:34:45.400
<v Speaker 1>and they think they're special, like they've been given something special,

0:34:45.719 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 1>and like I can't do that. I don't know how

0:34:49.200 --> 0:34:53.239
<v Speaker 1>to do that. And I think I'm here to say

0:34:53.280 --> 0:34:55.880
<v Speaker 1>like there's really nothing so unique or special about me

0:34:56.080 --> 0:34:57.120
<v Speaker 1>or Jamila, like.

0:34:57.680 --> 0:35:00.000
<v Speaker 2>No, we are special and unique, but so are you.

0:35:00.080 --> 0:35:02.160
<v Speaker 1>We are but just I just I'm more so mean

0:35:02.200 --> 0:35:02.760
<v Speaker 1>to say.

0:35:02.960 --> 0:35:04.840
<v Speaker 2>We're not doing anything that you can't do or no

0:35:04.880 --> 0:35:07.440
<v Speaker 2>one else can do. And that used to be my

0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:09.919
<v Speaker 2>most annoying part of watching award shows when people would

0:35:09.920 --> 0:35:11.680
<v Speaker 2>think people and they're like, I just want to say

0:35:11.760 --> 0:35:13.640
<v Speaker 2>that anyone can do this, and I'd be like, bait,

0:35:13.719 --> 0:35:17.120
<v Speaker 2>shut up, bere at the Academy Awards. But but now

0:35:17.120 --> 0:35:20.000
<v Speaker 2>I get it. I actually get it, and I think

0:35:21.600 --> 0:35:26.560
<v Speaker 2>we are just so blessed that we we realized early

0:35:26.920 --> 0:35:34.040
<v Speaker 2>that our gift is just literally showing up as ourselves. Yeah,

0:35:34.239 --> 0:35:38.920
<v Speaker 2>as weird, as fucking quirky, as like as triggering as

0:35:38.920 --> 0:35:40.960
<v Speaker 2>it can be for some people. I know people hate

0:35:41.000 --> 0:35:45.680
<v Speaker 2>when we say nigga, you know, like, I'm sure there's

0:35:45.680 --> 0:35:47.520
<v Speaker 2>a lot of shit that irritates us about people like

0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:49.960
<v Speaker 2>that's a part of being human. I might remind you

0:35:49.960 --> 0:35:52.440
<v Speaker 2>of somebody something about me might like same with Erica,

0:35:52.520 --> 0:35:54.719
<v Speaker 2>Like there are so many there are so many factors,

0:35:55.120 --> 0:35:58.279
<v Speaker 2>but it doesn't fucking matter. Like showing up as your

0:35:58.360 --> 0:36:02.320
<v Speaker 2>complete self is like I think half the battle, especially

0:36:02.320 --> 0:36:05.040
<v Speaker 2>if you want to you want to pursue a career

0:36:05.080 --> 0:36:07.960
<v Speaker 2>in something that doesn't feel against who you are. I

0:36:07.960 --> 0:36:10.279
<v Speaker 2>feel like if you want to feel like follow I

0:36:10.280 --> 0:36:13.440
<v Speaker 2>think anything. When you follow your purpose, it's gonna be

0:36:13.480 --> 0:36:15.439
<v Speaker 2>so aligned with who you are. It's not gonna hurt

0:36:15.480 --> 0:36:17.560
<v Speaker 2>to get up and go every day. It's not gonna

0:36:17.560 --> 0:36:19.520
<v Speaker 2>be a go against everything, you know what I mean.

0:36:19.600 --> 0:36:23.400
<v Speaker 2>Like when we're at the retreat, I'm literally like leading

0:36:23.440 --> 0:36:28.800
<v Speaker 2>a mushroom ceremony and I'm topless, like being super serious

0:36:29.320 --> 0:36:33.480
<v Speaker 2>in a like sister circle, like everybody, can everyone take

0:36:33.520 --> 0:36:36.080
<v Speaker 2>deep breaths? I literally I want to go. Yeah, we're

0:36:36.080 --> 0:36:38.680
<v Speaker 2>both the titties out, titties out in the jungle like

0:36:39.520 --> 0:36:43.279
<v Speaker 2>and like then our women, the women are like can

0:36:43.360 --> 0:36:44.759
<v Speaker 2>I think I need to get naked? I'm like a

0:36:44.840 --> 0:36:48.800
<v Speaker 2>naked yeah. And I'm just like spreading sage around naked

0:36:48.840 --> 0:36:51.720
<v Speaker 2>women while they're just so freaking their bodies and comfortable

0:36:51.719 --> 0:36:55.040
<v Speaker 2>in the jungle. I'm like, I did this. I didn't

0:36:55.600 --> 0:36:58.520
<v Speaker 2>I sent out the siren to call these women to

0:36:58.600 --> 0:37:02.400
<v Speaker 2>come feel so comfortable and so themselves that they said

0:37:02.400 --> 0:37:05.280
<v Speaker 2>fuck it at three o'clock on the afternoon in the jungle,

0:37:05.400 --> 0:37:07.200
<v Speaker 2>in the middle of the yoga shalla, I'm about to

0:37:07.239 --> 0:37:10.759
<v Speaker 2>get butt ass naked and listen to these sambals with

0:37:10.880 --> 0:37:15.960
<v Speaker 2>Milan Erica, Like, ha, do we not said all the

0:37:16.000 --> 0:37:19.000
<v Speaker 2>weird shit we've done, told all the stupid stories, like

0:37:19.080 --> 0:37:22.160
<v Speaker 2>all the dumb shit. Maybe someone would would feel like

0:37:22.280 --> 0:37:25.560
<v Speaker 2>weird about showing up and like doing these weird things.

0:37:25.560 --> 0:37:30.319
<v Speaker 2>Like you guys, we were like very weird women. But

0:37:30.040 --> 0:37:30.640
<v Speaker 2>we but we.

0:37:30.600 --> 0:37:33.200
<v Speaker 1>Go through all the same exacttion as everyone else. Like

0:37:33.600 --> 0:37:36.880
<v Speaker 1>I bleed, I fucking sometimes I pee on myself.

0:37:37.280 --> 0:37:40.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I've told I totally freak somebody out.

0:37:41.120 --> 0:37:43.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure everyone was, Like I try to like

0:37:44.239 --> 0:37:46.759
<v Speaker 2>take it to wait till like day three to get

0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:49.160
<v Speaker 2>too weird at the retreat, you know, but like I

0:37:49.200 --> 0:37:52.120
<v Speaker 2>really had to pee, Like we really had to pee,

0:37:52.360 --> 0:37:55.240
<v Speaker 2>And there's so much grass everywhere, so I'm like I'm

0:37:55.280 --> 0:37:57.319
<v Speaker 2>not walking all over there, so I just gently walk

0:37:57.400 --> 0:37:59.920
<v Speaker 2>my ass up the yoga shalla into the grass, squatted

0:38:00.040 --> 0:38:01.560
<v Speaker 2>over the grass and pull my bathing suit to the

0:38:01.560 --> 0:38:03.520
<v Speaker 2>side and pete in the grass. And I saw someone

0:38:03.560 --> 0:38:07.160
<v Speaker 2>look over at me like huh, and I'm like yeah,

0:38:07.200 --> 0:38:10.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm yeah, sorry. I'm not sorry though, because we don't

0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:14.360
<v Speaker 2>say sorry. It's a retreat. But I got a pee

0:38:14.480 --> 0:38:16.560
<v Speaker 2>and it's the most human nature thing. But like my

0:38:16.640 --> 0:38:19.919
<v Speaker 2>bladder is very is not as unreliable at this point.

0:38:19.960 --> 0:38:21.719
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if it's because I'm thirty five. I'm

0:38:21.719 --> 0:38:23.759
<v Speaker 2>about to be thirty five. Well that's why you need

0:38:23.760 --> 0:38:25.759
<v Speaker 2>to do yard lab. That's why you need to try

0:38:25.800 --> 0:38:27.799
<v Speaker 2>yard lab. Oh you know what I did. I tried

0:38:27.840 --> 0:38:29.160
<v Speaker 2>it a little bit and it's so weird you don't

0:38:29.160 --> 0:38:29.759
<v Speaker 2>even feel it.

0:38:30.080 --> 0:38:32.719
<v Speaker 1>I know, no, because bitch, last time, I was in

0:38:32.760 --> 0:38:34.120
<v Speaker 1>Costa Rica. Do you remember when I was in the

0:38:34.440 --> 0:38:37.840
<v Speaker 1>grocery store and like you guys, this is really embarrassing.

0:38:37.920 --> 0:38:40.200
<v Speaker 1>This is we're going off topic real quick. But I

0:38:40.239 --> 0:38:41.719
<v Speaker 1>was in the grocery store at Costa Rica and I

0:38:41.719 --> 0:38:44.560
<v Speaker 1>don't know if it's because it's warm there or like

0:38:44.960 --> 0:38:48.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm thirty five now, I was thirty four at that point,

0:38:49.960 --> 0:38:52.160
<v Speaker 1>but I'm sitting and I'm like, but I'm like looking

0:38:52.200 --> 0:38:54.480
<v Speaker 1>at bread and I'm like I look down and I'm like,

0:38:54.880 --> 0:39:00.360
<v Speaker 1>did I what is what? What is running down my life?

0:39:00.520 --> 0:39:04.120
<v Speaker 1>And I realized that I was peeing myself?

0:39:05.080 --> 0:39:06.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I was.

0:39:06.160 --> 0:39:09.080
<v Speaker 1>Like, what the fuck is this?

0:39:09.320 --> 0:39:11.839
<v Speaker 2>Did you feel like you had to pee? No? Like

0:39:11.880 --> 0:39:13.160
<v Speaker 2>that was the weirdest part of all.

0:39:13.200 --> 0:39:14.719
<v Speaker 1>And like when I was out there, like I was

0:39:14.719 --> 0:39:18.160
<v Speaker 1>feeling like that kept happening, Like I don't know, It's

0:39:18.200 --> 0:39:22.560
<v Speaker 1>like sometimes I've heard that there's like anxiety induced incontinents.

0:39:22.840 --> 0:39:25.479
<v Speaker 2>Oh for sure for me in my own anxiety, and.

0:39:25.600 --> 0:39:27.160
<v Speaker 1>I would like to think like I'm at my lowest

0:39:27.200 --> 0:39:30.680
<v Speaker 1>anxiety when I'm in Costa Rica. However, at that point

0:39:30.719 --> 0:39:33.960
<v Speaker 1>in the retreat business, we were doing absolutely every fucking thing,

0:39:34.080 --> 0:39:37.920
<v Speaker 1>including holding space for like fifty women. So probably what

0:39:38.080 --> 0:39:40.640
<v Speaker 1>did have a little bit of anxiety? You have anxiety,

0:39:42.080 --> 0:39:44.640
<v Speaker 1>But no, I've been I've been not since then, but

0:39:44.960 --> 0:39:47.400
<v Speaker 1>recently I've been starting to use yr lap And you know,

0:39:47.960 --> 0:39:50.759
<v Speaker 1>I feel like talking about the pelvic floor muscle, like

0:39:50.800 --> 0:39:52.640
<v Speaker 1>women get really weird about this, but it's something that

0:39:52.680 --> 0:39:55.200
<v Speaker 1>like we all experience, especially as you get older. You

0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:56.640
<v Speaker 1>don't even have to have a child to have in

0:39:56.640 --> 0:39:59.480
<v Speaker 1>continents like you bitch, you know, if you sneeze and

0:39:59.520 --> 0:40:01.279
<v Speaker 1>you be on your yourself a little bit, you know

0:40:01.280 --> 0:40:02.640
<v Speaker 1>what the fuck I'm talking about. If you have to

0:40:02.680 --> 0:40:05.839
<v Speaker 1>wear pantyliners in your thong daily, you know what I'm

0:40:05.840 --> 0:40:07.680
<v Speaker 1>talking about, and that really can fuck with like your

0:40:08.360 --> 0:40:11.000
<v Speaker 1>mental and like, granted I haven't gotten there yet, but

0:40:11.080 --> 0:40:13.279
<v Speaker 1>I was not about to get there, and so I

0:40:13.280 --> 0:40:15.680
<v Speaker 1>started using your lap and literally I just like put

0:40:15.680 --> 0:40:17.319
<v Speaker 1>it in. I read a book and it does these

0:40:17.400 --> 0:40:21.319
<v Speaker 1>kegel exercises for me. It's actually I barely feel it,

0:40:22.000 --> 0:40:26.760
<v Speaker 1>and I had no problems ever since. Girl. Well, in fact,

0:40:26.760 --> 0:40:30.800
<v Speaker 1>my orgasms are much stronger because I have been also

0:40:30.880 --> 0:40:34.200
<v Speaker 1>trying to in this new year, my goal was to

0:40:34.200 --> 0:40:38.160
<v Speaker 1>stop using vibrators because I'm a slave to my vibrator.

0:40:38.840 --> 0:40:40.720
<v Speaker 2>Specifically the rose mine broke.

0:40:40.840 --> 0:40:43.680
<v Speaker 1>So thought it's probably for the best, honestly, like I

0:40:43.719 --> 0:40:46.520
<v Speaker 1>really love the rose shout out to anyone who gave

0:40:46.560 --> 0:40:50.040
<v Speaker 1>us one. But I started to feel like my pussy

0:40:50.080 --> 0:40:52.440
<v Speaker 1>was getting desensitized, Like for real, I was like when

0:40:52.480 --> 0:40:55.399
<v Speaker 1>I touched my pussy with my hands, like I would

0:40:55.400 --> 0:40:58.440
<v Speaker 1>get frustrated, like the fact that it was like taking

0:40:58.520 --> 0:41:01.239
<v Speaker 1>longer than I wanted to get. So I've been really

0:41:01.280 --> 0:41:04.000
<v Speaker 1>trying to focus on, you know, self pleasuring, especially in

0:41:04.040 --> 0:41:05.960
<v Speaker 1>school in Tandra school, Like you're not telling you to

0:41:06.040 --> 0:41:09.520
<v Speaker 1>use the death's definitely encouraging you to use your hands.

0:41:09.600 --> 0:41:13.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I was cheating. I mean. The thing for me,

0:41:13.400 --> 0:41:16.560
<v Speaker 2>it's so crazy, is like there there are so many

0:41:16.560 --> 0:41:19.680
<v Speaker 2>things that women are trained to, you know, condition to

0:41:19.760 --> 0:41:22.719
<v Speaker 2>keep up, you know, like get botox, get all the

0:41:23.160 --> 0:41:26.080
<v Speaker 2>all the highest skincare, go to the gym, you know,

0:41:26.200 --> 0:41:29.680
<v Speaker 2>like like all these things you do yoga, all these

0:41:29.719 --> 0:41:32.239
<v Speaker 2>things that we do to take care of ourselves our hair,

0:41:32.320 --> 0:41:35.040
<v Speaker 2>our nails, our skin, just to keep it like up

0:41:35.080 --> 0:41:40.560
<v Speaker 2>to par, taking vitamins, but we forget about our woman,

0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:42.759
<v Speaker 2>our pelvic floor, and like these are the things that

0:41:42.760 --> 0:41:46.960
<v Speaker 2>support us through our lives. Birding babies, having orgasms, like

0:41:46.960 --> 0:41:49.960
<v Speaker 2>the most two important things that are like our bodies

0:41:50.040 --> 0:41:55.040
<v Speaker 2>perform and we don't think to do the necessary exercises

0:41:55.080 --> 0:41:56.520
<v Speaker 2>and like hegels are one of them. It's not like

0:41:56.560 --> 0:41:58.040
<v Speaker 2>we don't know what they are, we just forget to

0:41:58.080 --> 0:42:01.680
<v Speaker 2>do them. And even like yeah, in Tantry school, it's

0:42:01.800 --> 0:42:04.160
<v Speaker 2>like a part of a lot of the meditations is

0:42:04.200 --> 0:42:07.600
<v Speaker 2>like extra like holding in your keegel floor and exercising

0:42:07.640 --> 0:42:10.920
<v Speaker 2>and doing your kegels and so especially like for me,

0:42:11.120 --> 0:42:13.560
<v Speaker 2>when I like I can, I'll be holding pee, but

0:42:13.640 --> 0:42:16.400
<v Speaker 2>like that very last moment, as soon as like I

0:42:16.400 --> 0:42:19.000
<v Speaker 2>can see the toilet, my bladder's like, aha, fuck you,

0:42:20.480 --> 0:42:22.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm kidding, Like I'm like, oh, am, I I'm too

0:42:22.760 --> 0:42:24.759
<v Speaker 2>old for this, right, Like why am I peeling my

0:42:24.760 --> 0:42:26.720
<v Speaker 2>pants a little bit? And hopefully I'm.

0:42:26.560 --> 0:42:28.120
<v Speaker 1>Not worry you're not using your lap, bitch.

0:42:28.440 --> 0:42:31.360
<v Speaker 2>I know I'm gonna go use my yar lap because

0:42:31.600 --> 0:42:35.120
<v Speaker 2>I definitely sprinkle a little bit and hopefully, like that's

0:42:35.120 --> 0:42:37.640
<v Speaker 2>another reason I've been wearing panties because if I don't

0:42:37.760 --> 0:42:39.879
<v Speaker 2>or panties and I'm really fucked, and if I'm wearing

0:42:39.920 --> 0:42:41.880
<v Speaker 2>a skirt or something, it's just it's just it's a

0:42:41.880 --> 0:42:42.279
<v Speaker 2>real thing.

0:42:42.320 --> 0:42:44.520
<v Speaker 1>And women really, like I feel like women like really

0:42:44.560 --> 0:42:47.640
<v Speaker 1>suffer in silence around so many things when it comes

0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:51.040
<v Speaker 1>to you know, our womb our pussies, like whether it's

0:42:51.200 --> 0:42:54.399
<v Speaker 1>the scent, whether it's how it feels, is it tight enough?

0:42:54.440 --> 0:42:57.480
<v Speaker 1>Am I peeing on myself? Can I squirt? Is that pee?

0:42:57.680 --> 0:43:00.600
<v Speaker 2>Like the don't look like that other pussy is my pussy.

0:43:00.680 --> 0:43:02.400
<v Speaker 1>Is my pussy lips too long? Are they too short?

0:43:02.560 --> 0:43:04.360
<v Speaker 1>Like you know, is it like there's ween?

0:43:04.600 --> 0:43:05.279
<v Speaker 2>Is it too dry?

0:43:05.880 --> 0:43:09.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? It tastes good, but there is I feel like

0:43:09.520 --> 0:43:12.239
<v Speaker 1>pussy upkeep and we ignore it because we just are

0:43:12.320 --> 0:43:15.799
<v Speaker 1>ashamed or we feel like, h I'll get to it.

0:43:15.960 --> 0:43:17.920
<v Speaker 1>Or maybe it was just that one partner, maybe like

0:43:17.960 --> 0:43:20.000
<v Speaker 1>he's just not pleasing me, and it's like, no, bitch,

0:43:20.800 --> 0:43:22.879
<v Speaker 1>your pelvic floor is falling and.

0:43:22.880 --> 0:43:25.600
<v Speaker 2>You gotta you gotta work on her, work on her. Yeah,

0:43:25.719 --> 0:43:28.239
<v Speaker 2>it's like she's worth keeping up too, and it's not

0:43:28.239 --> 0:43:30.680
<v Speaker 2>something to ignore. We are so trained to ignore our

0:43:30.840 --> 0:43:33.640
<v Speaker 2>entire like beneath our belly buttons. You know, it's like

0:43:33.719 --> 0:43:35.440
<v Speaker 2>you want to be too sexual, it would be over like,

0:43:35.840 --> 0:43:38.799
<v Speaker 2>but it's it needs to be cared for. And it's

0:43:38.800 --> 0:43:41.319
<v Speaker 2>true your love makes it super easy. So there's no

0:43:41.360 --> 0:43:44.279
<v Speaker 2>need to like suffer in silence anymore. There's no need

0:43:44.280 --> 0:43:47.000
<v Speaker 2>to ignore her. Like she's a part of you, she's important,

0:43:47.360 --> 0:43:49.800
<v Speaker 2>she deserves pleasure and like sometimes like you need to

0:43:49.800 --> 0:43:51.359
<v Speaker 2>put a little little extra work.

0:43:51.440 --> 0:43:53.560
<v Speaker 1>And I'm here to say I think when you start

0:43:53.600 --> 0:43:57.120
<v Speaker 1>really acknowledging your womb, you become even more and more

0:43:57.160 --> 0:44:02.400
<v Speaker 1>powerful in all spaces, including business, like including how you

0:44:02.440 --> 0:44:06.640
<v Speaker 1>show up in your relationships, including just feeling overall empowered.

0:44:06.719 --> 0:44:08.839
<v Speaker 1>I know it sounds crazy like to kind of like

0:44:09.360 --> 0:44:10.880
<v Speaker 1>blend those two things together.

0:44:10.719 --> 0:44:14.520
<v Speaker 2>Emily said from week one. She said, I had a

0:44:14.600 --> 0:44:20.480
<v Speaker 2>premonition that our power is directly connected to our womb,

0:44:20.560 --> 0:44:23.120
<v Speaker 2>and we forget that. If we ignore our womb, we

0:44:23.200 --> 0:44:26.520
<v Speaker 2>are not in contact with our power. We're not like

0:44:26.960 --> 0:44:30.040
<v Speaker 2>we're not We're ignoring parts of ourselves and in one

0:44:30.080 --> 0:44:32.520
<v Speaker 2>of the most powerful parts. You will forget your own

0:44:32.600 --> 0:44:35.600
<v Speaker 2>power if you're not connected with her, and society will

0:44:35.640 --> 0:44:36.640
<v Speaker 2>already make us do that.

0:44:37.719 --> 0:44:42.040
<v Speaker 1>I think even just like overall health in general is

0:44:42.080 --> 0:44:45.400
<v Speaker 1>so important when you are trying to be successful, like

0:44:46.239 --> 0:44:50.800
<v Speaker 1>you can't You can't expect to be able to really

0:44:50.880 --> 0:44:56.799
<v Speaker 1>fully nurture your creativity, your ideas, your passions. If you're

0:44:56.840 --> 0:45:00.759
<v Speaker 1>not taking care of yourself like you kill but you're

0:45:00.800 --> 0:45:02.719
<v Speaker 1>not at your you're not going to be operating at

0:45:02.719 --> 0:45:03.759
<v Speaker 1>your highest capacity.

0:45:04.760 --> 0:45:07.680
<v Speaker 2>Now that we've we're at this point where we have

0:45:08.080 --> 0:45:12.680
<v Speaker 2>so much shit going on, I realize like the importance

0:45:12.760 --> 0:45:14.920
<v Speaker 2>of just taking care of my mind, body, soul, or

0:45:14.960 --> 0:45:16.359
<v Speaker 2>else I'm not gonna be able to keep up all

0:45:16.600 --> 0:45:19.040
<v Speaker 2>the all the work I've put into all the manifesting.

0:45:19.440 --> 0:45:21.359
<v Speaker 2>If like, if I get to this point and I have,

0:45:21.719 --> 0:45:25.200
<v Speaker 2>if I haven't cared for myself spiritually and in health,

0:45:25.280 --> 0:45:27.440
<v Speaker 2>like I'm going to be fucked. I'm not gonna be

0:45:27.480 --> 0:45:29.719
<v Speaker 2>able to keep up with all this momentum because we

0:45:29.760 --> 0:45:32.200
<v Speaker 2>all we are moving really quickly. And I realize, like, okay,

0:45:32.200 --> 0:45:33.920
<v Speaker 2>but you need to go have a seat and breathe,

0:45:34.320 --> 0:45:36.000
<v Speaker 2>but you need to go, like you need to wash

0:45:36.040 --> 0:45:38.920
<v Speaker 2>your face at night. You know, we're moisturizer. Okay, Like

0:45:39.000 --> 0:45:42.680
<v Speaker 2>it's like it's true. I'm like, wow, I'm an adult.

0:45:42.680 --> 0:45:46.920
<v Speaker 2>I need to I need to fucking moisturize my hands

0:45:46.920 --> 0:45:47.479
<v Speaker 2>and my neck.

0:45:47.800 --> 0:45:50.600
<v Speaker 1>I realized the spiritual aspects has been missing, kind of

0:45:50.600 --> 0:45:53.560
<v Speaker 1>missing in my in my life. You know, we talk

0:45:53.600 --> 0:45:57.160
<v Speaker 1>a lot about that. But like the dedication to my

0:45:57.280 --> 0:46:02.360
<v Speaker 1>practices I feel like has really helped me in the

0:46:02.400 --> 0:46:05.760
<v Speaker 1>last few months immensely, especially even as a business owner.

0:46:05.760 --> 0:46:10.040
<v Speaker 1>My patience and like my optimism, like it's just different

0:46:11.360 --> 0:46:13.880
<v Speaker 1>like I was. You know, we did this challenge with

0:46:13.960 --> 0:46:17.160
<v Speaker 1>open the Open app in January that really like set

0:46:17.200 --> 0:46:19.319
<v Speaker 1>me up for the rest for this year. And then

0:46:19.360 --> 0:46:21.920
<v Speaker 1>I continued off. I continue to do it in February,

0:46:22.400 --> 0:46:25.160
<v Speaker 1>and then I came back from Costa Rica and I

0:46:25.239 --> 0:46:28.080
<v Speaker 1>went a few days without, you know, doing my practices,

0:46:28.120 --> 0:46:30.520
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I actually and then I meditated

0:46:30.560 --> 0:46:33.840
<v Speaker 1>actually today, and I was like, okay, no, I cannot

0:46:33.880 --> 0:46:36.520
<v Speaker 1>fall off. I'm not starting back all over again, Like

0:46:36.560 --> 0:46:38.440
<v Speaker 1>I am not doing this to myself. It's like when

0:46:38.440 --> 0:46:40.279
<v Speaker 1>you start exercising and you get to a point where're like,

0:46:40.320 --> 0:46:41.719
<v Speaker 1>I feel good and then you like want to fall

0:46:41.880 --> 0:46:43.480
<v Speaker 1>fuck and fall off and you have to start all

0:46:43.480 --> 0:46:45.680
<v Speaker 1>over again. Like that's the same shit when it comes

0:46:45.680 --> 0:46:49.320
<v Speaker 1>to like your the dedication to your practices. And I

0:46:49.360 --> 0:46:52.400
<v Speaker 1>am was like, no, bitch, come back, come back. And

0:46:52.440 --> 0:46:55.040
<v Speaker 1>even today's meditation was whack as hill. Okay, I was like,

0:46:55.080 --> 0:46:57.240
<v Speaker 1>I didn't meditate, shit, I sat there, I did something,

0:46:57.719 --> 0:47:00.040
<v Speaker 1>but it's okay. I know that, like at least I

0:47:00.040 --> 0:47:03.080
<v Speaker 1>dedicated that fifteen minutes of time to just even if

0:47:03.120 --> 0:47:05.160
<v Speaker 1>I was even if I was sitting in silence and

0:47:05.200 --> 0:47:06.920
<v Speaker 1>my mind was going to this, this, this, and that,

0:47:07.000 --> 0:47:09.400
<v Speaker 1>I still sat down and said, Okay, I'm this is

0:47:09.440 --> 0:47:11.520
<v Speaker 1>my this is my practice, and I'm doing it. And

0:47:11.560 --> 0:47:14.680
<v Speaker 1>I think, like you have to carve out time for

0:47:14.760 --> 0:47:19.960
<v Speaker 1>those practices while you're trying to nurture and build a business.

0:47:20.200 --> 0:47:22.600
<v Speaker 1>You can do without it, but like that's one thing

0:47:22.600 --> 0:47:25.120
<v Speaker 1>that I'm learning right now. It's really hard to do

0:47:25.160 --> 0:47:27.120
<v Speaker 1>it later. That's what I'm thinking learning right now. That's

0:47:27.160 --> 0:47:32.680
<v Speaker 1>been super transformational. And just like honestly, like, yeah, believing

0:47:33.080 --> 0:47:35.759
<v Speaker 1>in whatever it is, what you believe in, whether that's

0:47:35.800 --> 0:47:41.239
<v Speaker 1>a god, whether that's whatever it is, Like having an

0:47:41.280 --> 0:47:48.400
<v Speaker 1>anchor is really really important because if you don't have

0:47:48.440 --> 0:47:50.600
<v Speaker 1>an ancher, you don't have faith, then none of this

0:47:50.600 --> 0:47:51.480
<v Speaker 1>shit is gonna work out.

0:47:52.120 --> 0:47:54.879
<v Speaker 2>It's so true. And it's that's my that's hard as

0:47:54.880 --> 0:47:57.719
<v Speaker 2>hell for me, like to take time for myself and

0:47:57.840 --> 0:47:59.719
<v Speaker 2>just to like to be like this is you're gonna

0:47:59.719 --> 0:48:02.200
<v Speaker 2>be half later because I get super anxious and then

0:48:02.239 --> 0:48:05.839
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, bitch, because you haven't carved out time. It's hard,

0:48:05.840 --> 0:48:07.200
<v Speaker 2>but it's for you. You know, you do it for

0:48:07.239 --> 0:48:08.799
<v Speaker 2>your kid, you do it for everybody else, and it's

0:48:08.840 --> 0:48:13.080
<v Speaker 2>like are how important are you to you? And like

0:48:13.680 --> 0:48:16.920
<v Speaker 2>that's difficult for me, But I also realize like if

0:48:16.960 --> 0:48:19.719
<v Speaker 2>I want to have longevity, then I absolutely have to

0:48:19.719 --> 0:48:21.360
<v Speaker 2>do it or else I'm going to fuck myself and

0:48:21.400 --> 0:48:23.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to be able to keep up, and

0:48:23.360 --> 0:48:24.960
<v Speaker 2>my thoughts are going to move really quickly, and I'm

0:48:24.960 --> 0:48:27.320
<v Speaker 2>going to be super anxious about if I told everybody

0:48:27.360 --> 0:48:29.479
<v Speaker 2>in the book what I said, and like all these things,

0:48:29.480 --> 0:48:32.720
<v Speaker 2>and it's like I've realized at this point, it's like, bitch,

0:48:33.520 --> 0:48:37.040
<v Speaker 2>there's nothing like you gotta either like to step into it,

0:48:37.120 --> 0:48:40.200
<v Speaker 2>or you're gonna constantly be living in the present, living

0:48:40.200 --> 0:48:41.880
<v Speaker 2>in the past, living in the future, and you're going

0:48:41.960 --> 0:48:45.160
<v Speaker 2>to be anxious all the time, like worrying about things

0:48:45.200 --> 0:48:48.240
<v Speaker 2>that don't need to be worried about, wasting time, wasting

0:48:48.239 --> 0:48:50.880
<v Speaker 2>time in the present, worrying about shit that you can't change.

0:48:51.080 --> 0:48:53.600
<v Speaker 2>Is a waste of fucking time. Mm hmm. It's like

0:48:53.640 --> 0:48:55.880
<v Speaker 2>a waste of your life because there's always gonna be

0:48:55.960 --> 0:48:59.680
<v Speaker 2>something to be stressed about, always, forever always.

0:49:00.120 --> 0:49:02.359
<v Speaker 1>I finished my meditation and then I was like, don't

0:49:02.400 --> 0:49:04.440
<v Speaker 1>look at your phone. Don't look at your phone, because.

0:49:04.160 --> 0:49:06.600
<v Speaker 2>You're gonna get And then I was there stressing.

0:49:06.600 --> 0:49:09.160
<v Speaker 1>So I waited like ten minutes, and you know, my

0:49:09.200 --> 0:49:10.960
<v Speaker 1>meditation kind of went to shit because we had a

0:49:10.960 --> 0:49:14.000
<v Speaker 1>little hiccup today and I was like raw, and.

0:49:13.960 --> 0:49:16.840
<v Speaker 2>I wasn't helping, like hyping you up, and then Luna

0:49:16.920 --> 0:49:20.200
<v Speaker 2>was hyping me up. So it's just you don't like that.

0:49:20.280 --> 0:49:21.440
<v Speaker 2>I was waiting for you to give me the light.

0:49:21.440 --> 0:49:23.080
<v Speaker 2>I felt like if I held it, you would have

0:49:23.120 --> 0:49:23.560
<v Speaker 2>a lighter.

0:49:24.040 --> 0:49:34.160
<v Speaker 3>You had it, it was green, Oh, I have it?

0:49:35.920 --> 0:49:40.840
<v Speaker 2>Okay. Anyway, do you have any other money business advice

0:49:40.880 --> 0:49:42.640
<v Speaker 2>you'd like to give the people for money March?

0:49:48.400 --> 0:49:51.799
<v Speaker 1>Just whatever is a value to you. If whatever, if

0:49:51.840 --> 0:49:54.759
<v Speaker 1>you've had something, if there's something that you find valuable,

0:49:56.040 --> 0:49:58.440
<v Speaker 1>other people will find it valuable too. You just have

0:49:58.480 --> 0:50:05.360
<v Speaker 1>to figure out how to make it easily digestible, Like

0:50:05.480 --> 0:50:07.799
<v Speaker 1>do you think we made it easily digestible. I think

0:50:07.840 --> 0:50:10.399
<v Speaker 1>there's been times, Yes, yes I do. But I also

0:50:10.400 --> 0:50:12.480
<v Speaker 1>think that there's been times where like we've you know,

0:50:12.640 --> 0:50:15.120
<v Speaker 1>overthought things. And that's that's one thing I know about us.

0:50:15.520 --> 0:50:17.279
<v Speaker 1>Don't let us sit on some shit for too long,

0:50:17.760 --> 0:50:19.360
<v Speaker 1>Like we're not good at that. We're not good with

0:50:19.400 --> 0:50:21.239
<v Speaker 1>those kind of things we are really good at, like

0:50:21.600 --> 0:50:25.319
<v Speaker 1>quick intuitive decision making. Like if you let me sit

0:50:25.400 --> 0:50:27.720
<v Speaker 1>with a decision for too long, I'm gonna over fucking

0:50:27.760 --> 0:50:30.560
<v Speaker 1>think it and then it's gonna get fucked up. You know,

0:50:30.800 --> 0:50:35.360
<v Speaker 1>like like you just but that's not always everyone else's,

0:50:35.600 --> 0:50:38.279
<v Speaker 1>you know, way that they process things. You know, I

0:50:38.320 --> 0:50:40.800
<v Speaker 1>think in when we have that reading with Aaron Claire Jones,

0:50:40.840 --> 0:50:43.959
<v Speaker 1>she's a human design expert. She came on our show

0:50:44.000 --> 0:50:48.200
<v Speaker 1>and gave us our human design I'm a projector Jamalism manifestor.

0:50:51.400 --> 0:50:53.120
<v Speaker 1>I realized that that's my superpower.

0:50:53.360 --> 0:50:53.680
<v Speaker 2>It is.

0:50:53.719 --> 0:50:55.520
<v Speaker 1>I always knew it, but I thought like, well, maybe

0:50:55.520 --> 0:50:58.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm I shouldn't be so instinctive, like I should just

0:50:58.200 --> 0:51:01.799
<v Speaker 1>there or what's not non instinctive? What's the word where

0:51:01.800 --> 0:51:03.520
<v Speaker 1>you're like make decisions too quickly?

0:51:06.520 --> 0:51:07.040
<v Speaker 2>You know what I mean?

0:51:07.080 --> 0:51:12.280
<v Speaker 1>Hey, that word? But that's when I make my best choices,

0:51:12.840 --> 0:51:15.960
<v Speaker 1>Like my first mind is always the best mind. So

0:51:16.600 --> 0:51:20.959
<v Speaker 1>you know, find whatever you find value in. Start there.

0:51:21.680 --> 0:51:22.879
<v Speaker 1>Like if you're like I don't know what, I don't

0:51:22.880 --> 0:51:24.439
<v Speaker 1>know what my calling is, whatever, what do you find

0:51:24.520 --> 0:51:24.880
<v Speaker 1>value in?

0:51:24.960 --> 0:51:25.400
<v Speaker 2>What is it that?

0:51:25.560 --> 0:51:27.160
<v Speaker 1>Like? What is the problem you're trying to solve in

0:51:27.160 --> 0:51:29.000
<v Speaker 1>your everyday life?

0:51:29.360 --> 0:51:29.560
<v Speaker 3>You know?

0:51:29.640 --> 0:51:32.080
<v Speaker 1>For me, it was like I needed to someone who

0:51:32.080 --> 0:51:34.799
<v Speaker 1>could relate to my experience. That was the problem I

0:51:34.840 --> 0:51:36.600
<v Speaker 1>was trying to solve. That was what I needed. And

0:51:36.640 --> 0:51:39.000
<v Speaker 1>so when I met Jamila I was like, boom, that's it.

0:51:40.120 --> 0:51:42.520
<v Speaker 1>I started there and then everything else kind of manifested

0:51:42.520 --> 0:51:47.040
<v Speaker 1>from there. You know, our our retreat business has been

0:51:47.360 --> 0:51:51.080
<v Speaker 1>wildly successful. We've only had this business for a year,

0:51:51.719 --> 0:51:54.279
<v Speaker 1>one fucking year. People think people like, you've only done

0:51:54.280 --> 0:51:55.279
<v Speaker 1>it for a year, but like, you've been doing this

0:51:55.320 --> 0:51:57.640
<v Speaker 1>for years. I'm like, no, bitch, it's been one year,

0:51:57.760 --> 0:52:02.080
<v Speaker 1>one year, and we've made a great amount of money.

0:52:02.160 --> 0:52:04.000
<v Speaker 1>You know, that's been able to support us. It's been

0:52:04.000 --> 0:52:06.480
<v Speaker 1>able to support our dreams, it's been able to support

0:52:06.480 --> 0:52:10.040
<v Speaker 1>our kids, and you know, even more so than the

0:52:10.080 --> 0:52:11.799
<v Speaker 1>podcast for.

0:52:11.840 --> 0:52:17.759
<v Speaker 2>Sure, You guys, Podcasting doesn't make you rich. Podcasting will

0:52:17.800 --> 0:52:20.520
<v Speaker 2>not make you rich unless you're fucking Joe Budden and

0:52:20.640 --> 0:52:25.120
<v Speaker 2>fucking but other than Joe, Joe Rogan.

0:52:25.640 --> 0:52:29.360
<v Speaker 1>And even Like and even Joe Like, they have different

0:52:29.440 --> 0:52:32.240
<v Speaker 1>legs to their things are making money while they sleep.

0:52:32.360 --> 0:52:33.440
<v Speaker 2>That is the secret.

0:52:33.480 --> 0:52:37.279
<v Speaker 1>You will always be working day to day if you

0:52:37.440 --> 0:52:39.440
<v Speaker 1>haven't figured out how to make money while you sleep.

0:52:39.480 --> 0:52:41.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't know where I saw that quote online or something,

0:52:41.520 --> 0:52:44.080
<v Speaker 1>but it's true. You have to have multiple streams of

0:52:44.080 --> 0:52:45.640
<v Speaker 1>income or else you're just going to be a slave

0:52:45.680 --> 0:52:48.000
<v Speaker 1>to your nine to five Unless you want to be

0:52:48.040 --> 0:52:49.600
<v Speaker 1>a slave too. Nine to five. Some people really like

0:52:49.640 --> 0:52:54.880
<v Speaker 1>that lifestyle, and that's cool. You're not a slave to

0:52:54.960 --> 0:52:58.239
<v Speaker 1>me though. For me, I feel like a slave in

0:52:58.239 --> 0:53:01.960
<v Speaker 1>that way. I need flex I need creativity. I need

0:53:02.000 --> 0:53:05.400
<v Speaker 1>to be creating on some on a few different realms

0:53:05.400 --> 0:53:11.040
<v Speaker 1>in order to feel fulfilled. So that's how I feel.

0:53:11.160 --> 0:53:14.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm pulling all these crazy cards. I streight and pull

0:53:14.560 --> 0:53:16.719
<v Speaker 2>another one. Then this one came.

0:53:21.960 --> 0:53:27.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to pull the death card, but yeah,

0:53:27.000 --> 0:53:31.160
<v Speaker 1>I know that's it. Just dreams. Find something of value.

0:53:31.760 --> 0:53:35.879
<v Speaker 1>The money will come be. Just make take one step

0:53:35.920 --> 0:53:40.160
<v Speaker 1>at a time, work towards your goals, one thing every

0:53:40.160 --> 0:53:43.400
<v Speaker 1>single day. Make sure you take care of your mind, body,

0:53:43.440 --> 0:53:50.279
<v Speaker 1>and soul, and your pelvic floor most importantly, your mind, body, soul,

0:53:50.400 --> 0:53:53.920
<v Speaker 1>pelvic floor very very important, even for the men's you

0:53:53.920 --> 0:53:54.880
<v Speaker 1>guys have public floors.

0:53:54.880 --> 0:53:55.160
<v Speaker 2>Also.

0:53:55.360 --> 0:53:59.640
<v Speaker 1>You need to do kegels also, and maybe do some

0:53:59.680 --> 0:54:03.080
<v Speaker 1>steaming retention to put your put that chi energy back

0:54:03.080 --> 0:54:04.799
<v Speaker 1>inside of you, because some of you guys are really

0:54:04.800 --> 0:54:08.880
<v Speaker 1>fucking depleted. Edging, not even edging, because edging, at some

0:54:08.920 --> 0:54:13.000
<v Speaker 1>point you release, I mean, don't calm, nigga, put that

0:54:13.040 --> 0:54:15.560
<v Speaker 1>ship back inside. Let that ship go back to your brain.

0:54:15.640 --> 0:54:19.920
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you'll be a little bucking smarter. Maybe ye know,

0:54:23.360 --> 0:54:26.600
<v Speaker 1>so we pulled to is a tarot time I pulled

0:54:26.600 --> 0:54:33.319
<v Speaker 1>the seven swords, I'm gonna read it reverse. Maybe this

0:54:33.440 --> 0:54:34.839
<v Speaker 1>is for somebody listening.

0:54:36.280 --> 0:54:38.200
<v Speaker 2>Trying to read it any other way than they can read.

0:54:40.880 --> 0:54:43.959
<v Speaker 2>The seven of swords often appears reversed when you feel

0:54:43.960 --> 0:54:47.560
<v Speaker 2>like a fraud and are suffering from imposter syndrome. You

0:54:47.560 --> 0:54:49.960
<v Speaker 2>may doubt yourself and your abilities. For example, if you

0:54:49.960 --> 0:54:52.239
<v Speaker 2>have started a new business, you may ask yourself, who

0:54:52.280 --> 0:54:54.520
<v Speaker 2>am I to be doing that? Know that this is

0:54:54.600 --> 0:54:56.759
<v Speaker 2>fear talking, Get out of your head and trust that

0:54:56.880 --> 0:54:59.600
<v Speaker 2>you have everything you need to make a new venture

0:54:59.680 --> 0:55:03.720
<v Speaker 2>six us. Similarly, the seven of Storis reverse can suggest

0:55:03.760 --> 0:55:06.399
<v Speaker 2>that you are deceiving yourself, trying to trick yourself into

0:55:06.400 --> 0:55:08.520
<v Speaker 2>believing something even though it is out of integrity with

0:55:08.560 --> 0:55:11.799
<v Speaker 2>your true self. Integrity with your true self, You may

0:55:11.800 --> 0:55:14.279
<v Speaker 2>attempt to fool yourself that everything is okay when it

0:55:14.320 --> 0:55:17.520
<v Speaker 2>does not. You now it is time to get real

0:55:17.600 --> 0:55:19.880
<v Speaker 2>with where you are and confront your situation head on.

0:55:21.680 --> 0:55:24.120
<v Speaker 2>As a card of inner deceit, the reverse seven of

0:55:24.160 --> 0:55:27.759
<v Speaker 2>swords represents keeping his secrets hidden from others. You may

0:55:27.800 --> 0:55:30.960
<v Speaker 2>be harboring a dark secret that you will you hope

0:55:31.000 --> 0:55:33.840
<v Speaker 2>will never be revealed. Keeping the secret may bring you

0:55:33.880 --> 0:55:36.640
<v Speaker 2>stress and tension, along with deeper feelings of guilt and shame.

0:55:37.120 --> 0:55:40.520
<v Speaker 2>While the thought of confessing may be horrifying, it will

0:55:41.200 --> 0:55:45.200
<v Speaker 2>free you from the negative emotions you're experiencing. First, forgive yourself,

0:55:45.239 --> 0:55:47.720
<v Speaker 2>then confide in someone you trust you will not doubt.

0:55:47.800 --> 0:55:50.359
<v Speaker 2>You will not doubt feel much lighter as you will

0:55:50.360 --> 0:55:53.080
<v Speaker 2>no doubt feel much lighter as a result.

0:55:56.000 --> 0:56:02.839
<v Speaker 1>So stop lying to yourself. Be honest with yourself. Are

0:56:02.880 --> 0:56:07.240
<v Speaker 1>you happy with where you're at? Also, know you are capable.

0:56:07.320 --> 0:56:07.960
<v Speaker 2>You can do it.

0:56:08.280 --> 0:56:10.359
<v Speaker 1>You don't have to like look at other people and

0:56:10.440 --> 0:56:15.520
<v Speaker 1>seek outwardly and doubt yourself because you see other people's successes.

0:56:15.560 --> 0:56:19.120
<v Speaker 1>That's super easy to do on Instagram. It's super easy

0:56:19.160 --> 0:56:22.239
<v Speaker 1>to do just looking anywhere where you see people you

0:56:22.280 --> 0:56:25.399
<v Speaker 1>know getting the things that you want or you feel

0:56:25.400 --> 0:56:26.040
<v Speaker 1>like you deserve.

0:56:29.960 --> 0:56:32.520
<v Speaker 2>I pulled the death card after it says death is

0:56:32.560 --> 0:56:35.040
<v Speaker 2>probably the most figured and misunderstood of all the cards

0:56:35.040 --> 0:56:38.359
<v Speaker 2>in the deck. Most people freak out word. They will

0:56:38.360 --> 0:56:41.320
<v Speaker 2>suddenly kneel over and die as soon as this card apires. Relaxed.

0:56:41.320 --> 0:56:43.880
<v Speaker 2>The death card can be one of the most positive

0:56:43.920 --> 0:56:45.920
<v Speaker 2>cards in the deck after a period of pause and

0:56:46.000 --> 0:56:49.080
<v Speaker 2>reflection with the hanged man. The death card symbolizes the

0:56:49.160 --> 0:56:51.239
<v Speaker 2>end of a major phase or aspect of your life

0:56:51.239 --> 0:56:56.520
<v Speaker 2>that you realize is no longer serving you, opening up

0:56:56.520 --> 0:56:59.440
<v Speaker 2>the possibility of something far more valuable and essential. You

0:56:59.520 --> 0:57:03.400
<v Speaker 2>must close one door to open another. You need to

0:57:03.440 --> 0:57:05.600
<v Speaker 2>put the past behind you in part ways, ready to

0:57:05.600 --> 0:57:08.680
<v Speaker 2>embrace new opportunities and possibilities. It may be difficult to

0:57:08.760 --> 0:57:10.640
<v Speaker 2>let go of the past, but you will soon see

0:57:10.640 --> 0:57:15.120
<v Speaker 2>its importance and the promise of renewal and transformation. If

0:57:15.160 --> 0:57:18.400
<v Speaker 2>you resist these necessary endings, you may experience pain, both

0:57:18.400 --> 0:57:21.800
<v Speaker 2>emotionally and physically. But if you exercise your imagination and

0:57:21.880 --> 0:57:28.120
<v Speaker 2>visualize a new possibility, you allow more constructive patterns to emerge. Hmm,

0:57:30.280 --> 0:57:40.680
<v Speaker 2>don't play yourself, Stop playing yourself? Do you have any

0:57:40.920 --> 0:57:43.200
<v Speaker 2>anything else to add to the podcast?

0:57:43.280 --> 0:57:49.960
<v Speaker 1>My Love? Fuck the Fear and do it anyway?

0:57:50.280 --> 0:57:55.040
<v Speaker 2>Fuck the fear and do it any motherfucking way. Yolo.

0:57:58.880 --> 0:58:01.400
<v Speaker 1>Well, you guys hopefully know where to find us, but

0:58:01.440 --> 0:58:03.240
<v Speaker 1>if not, make sure you go follow us at Good

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<v Speaker 1>Mom's Underscore Bad Choices, check out our retreat. We just

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0:58:13.080 --> 0:58:18.600
<v Speaker 1>is in a new location, Mexico. I'm almost saw you

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<v Speaker 1>If you need to find your tribe, come through. If

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<v Speaker 2>Order our book, please right now. Just do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Please just do it. Thanks. Buy it for a friend too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, buy it for a mom. If you're not a

0:59:08.920 --> 0:59:10.720
<v Speaker 1>mom by buy it for a mom, Buy it for

0:59:10.720 --> 0:59:13.600
<v Speaker 1>a new mom. This is really a book that I

0:59:13.680 --> 0:59:17.080
<v Speaker 1>wish that I had prior to having a child, honestly,

0:59:17.680 --> 0:59:20.520
<v Speaker 1>not even like yeah, like even prior to having a kid.

0:59:21.000 --> 0:59:23.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, I wish I would have could have

0:59:23.520 --> 0:59:25.400
<v Speaker 2>come on handing in a lot of points prior to

0:59:25.400 --> 0:59:28.040
<v Speaker 2>having a kid, having a kid, being newly single as

0:59:28.080 --> 0:59:29.240
<v Speaker 2>a mom. It could have come in.

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<v Speaker 1>Handy many many Yeah, there's many points in which this

0:59:32.920 --> 0:59:37.560
<v Speaker 1>book could have I feel helped me, But.

0:59:37.560 --> 0:59:40.360
<v Speaker 2>I made all the mistakes for you. So give it

0:59:40.400 --> 0:59:42.240
<v Speaker 2>to a friend, save her.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that's it. Check out our merch on our

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