WEBVTT - Queen Latifah Is On a Mission! 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.720 Hey, fam, I'm Jada Pinkett Smith and this is the 0:00:02.759 --> 0:00:06.080 Red Table Pop Podcast all your favorite episodes from the 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:10.239 Facebook Watch show in audio produced by Westbrook Audio and 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:13.360 I Heart Radio. Please don't forget to rate and review 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:18.600 on Apple Podcasts. Queen Latifa has been my home girl 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:23.560 for so many years. Now she's opening up about a 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:26.560 deeply personal struggle. I was just shocked. I was like 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:31.520 la La. I am on a mission to change the 0:00:31.600 --> 0:00:34.519 shame attached to wait, the stigma attached to it. Was 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:37.960 there ever a time where you felt like your size 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:42.840 were scrutinized publicly? At eighteen, I looked in the mirror 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:44.520 and I said, I have to make a decision. Either 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:47.320 I'm either gonna hate myself or I'm gonna love myself 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:58.040 as a very dark place, dark dark place. Queen Latifa 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:00.520 has been my home girl for so many the years, 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:04.760 and I love her to death. I met Lie long 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:07.920 before she was the Queen of Rap and Oscar nominated 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:11.800 actress and an Emmy winning producer. We were just teenagers 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:13.880 when I saw her perform at a club in Baltimore, 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:17.520 where I grew up. Since then, our bond grew into 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:24.120 a beautiful friendship. Break Ja. We've worked together many times, 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:27.240 including co starring and set it off The Girl's Trip. 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:30.880 I've always admired Live for being a trailblazing icon, pushing 0:01:30.880 --> 0:01:35.360 boundaries and reshaping the conversation around women and beauty. She's 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:38.200 never let Hollywood's image of the perfect body stop her 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:41.560 from becoming one of the greatest entertainers of our generation. 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:47.319 And of course she always makes me laugh. Come on 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:51.120 out here, laugh? Is that my name being called? I 0:01:51.560 --> 0:02:13.040 just heard my name being called a JP. So you 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:16.119 on a mission? I am on a mission right now? 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:27.960 Um two? Change the stigma associated with obesity. Y, let's 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:33.480 take these numbers, two and five Americans obese, four and 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:39.519 five Black women right, obese? Right? But we just look 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:44.760 at ourselves different because some things, you know, their cultural issues. 0:02:45.360 --> 0:02:48.880 Black women we've learned to love through all this weight 0:02:49.880 --> 0:02:54.400 and all this. So I'm involved with a campaign called 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:59.639 this Bigger than Me. It's about the shame attached to weight, 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:02.720 pase being more attached to it. What people talk about, 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:06.640 how they talk about you, the little words people drop. Yeah. 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:10.320 I think if people understood it more then it could 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:14.800 change the conversation. Right why now for you? What happened was. 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:17.800 I hooked up with a trainer, Jeanette, and she broke 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:21.360 down this whole. You know, well, if you know Jeanette, 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:23.520 then you know Janette is not about the plague now, 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:29.200 and she has degrees and she's scientific and mathematic. She 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:32.000 was showing me different body types and she's like, this 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:34.240 is what your b A mayas, this is what your 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:37.760 weight is, and you fall into this category of obesity. 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:47.960 I was mad at that off. It's just thick, I'm saying, 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:54.320 and over where you should be, you know, And I'm 0:03:54.360 --> 0:04:01.000 like obese, right, So I was like, not right because 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:03.520 I didn't see myself that way. That's what I'm saying. 0:04:03.520 --> 0:04:06.280 But that's the problem, and that's why I'm here because 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:10.920 that word brings a connotation with it, okay, and the 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:16.880 connotation is the problem. Obesity and overweight our medical terms 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:19.600 used to classify how much body fat a person has. 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:23.960 Body mass index, or b m I, is the standard 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:28.000 for calculating body fat based on height and weight. The 0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:31.479 National Institutes of Health breaks down b m I into 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:38.600 four categories underweight, healthy weight, overweight, and obese. It's about 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:42.880 just how it's looked at, you know, the stigma. It's 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:49.960 not not enough understanding. I think people find overweight people offensive. 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:56.800 I think people just have a negative, visceral reaction to 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:02.760 people that are overweight. That's part of what lies talking about, right, 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:06.600 and it's how people are treated, how people feel about you, 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:09.240 how people look at and I think at the end 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:11.920 of the day, we put far too much attention on 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:16.360 the exterior aspect of a person, especially when you look 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:20.599 at some of the upsetting research. According to experts, weight 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:27.279 prejudice is the last remaining social acceptable bias. Numerous studies 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:31.080 have found children as young as three believe harmful stereotypes 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:35.159 and biases towards overweight people, including that they are lazy, 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:40.400 weak willed, unsuccessful, and unintelligent. Kind of reminds me of 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:45.480 how people think about black people. A recent news story 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:50.560 revealed some shocking statistics about weight discrimination at work. For 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:53.680 every six pounds a woman gains her hourly paid drops, 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:58.039 two people who are overweight are highed less, promoted less, 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:02.000 and paid less. But see that, I didn't know that 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:07.599 was a thing allowed. I mean, some people doesn't have 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:12.040 different kinds of body types naturally, are just just bigger. 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:14.080 And that's why I was just shocked. I was like 0:06:14.320 --> 0:06:20.360 obese I didn't connect with this obese word as applied 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:22.680 to me. I just thought I needed to stop eating 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:25.320 something and getting the gym. But it did wake me 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:31.320 up in terms of it being not just of physical thing. 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:34.480 This can be a genetic thing, a hormonal thing, meaning 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:38.800 it's a different kind of management. Possibly absolutely well, once 0:06:38.800 --> 0:06:41.159 you're aware of that, then you can maybe do something 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:43.039 about it. Put it like this, if you looked at 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:46.400 obesity as a disease, which it is, you think you 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:48.480 would crack all of these jokes that people do the 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:53.080 same thing with addiction exactly. You recognize addiction as a 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:57.320 disease because it is, then your attitude is different about it. 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:00.719 So that's what you're saying about obesity. We need to 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:04.880 change our thought processes around it. Yeah. For me, it's 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:07.360 not about a weight thing. It's really about health at 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:09.400 the end of the day. But I know a lot 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:13.280 of people who are actually quite thin and are not healthy. 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:17.000 But that goes along with Also when you talk about 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:20.680 black women and obesity, when I think about what foods 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:26.880 we have access to that we're in the price of groceries, 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:30.400 you know, access to healthy foods, it's ridiculous. You know, 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:33.440 there's no reason why we should be eating what we've 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:38.240 had to eat, right and so, and that's historically, I mean, yeah, 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:42.520 that's historic, absolutely exactly. This is why it's such an 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:48.360 opportune time to really get into the subject because at 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:49.920 the end of the day, you want people to feel 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:53.040 good about who they are. But if it's always coming 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:56.840 through a lens of someone else, that's not healthy. Was 0:07:56.880 --> 0:08:00.320 there ever a time where you felt like your eyes 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:07.880 were scrutinized publicly? I've been publicly scrutinized, I think my 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.600 whole career. Yeah, you know what I mean. I just 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:14.520 came out the door looking different. It's like, who is 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:16.960 this girl with this African clothes on and those shoes 0:08:16.960 --> 0:08:22.240 on her? I thought it was hot, thank god, you know, 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:29.760 like they've been trying to figure me out, like from jump, 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:31.760 like where is she? Where is she going with this? 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:35.960 Did you ever feel any kind of scrutiny during Living Single? 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:40.240 That was one of the major ones. It happened a 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:44.360 couple of times. We helped create Living Single. So when 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:46.680 you look at that picture, you see four different women, 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:52.240 four different shades, four different types, and we look like 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:56.080 four women who would live in Brooklyn, right, And that's 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:58.720 who we were supposed to be representing. And we loved 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:01.960 being able to do that because we got brands that 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:05.160 nobody was rocking. We had all kind of guests on 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:08.880 our show that have never been on TV before, rappers 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:13.040 and actors and just cool people. But the word came 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:19.439 down that we needed to lose weight, right those was delivered. 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:22.640 The word the world came down. No one, particularly the 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:27.480 words slow down. That's the word coming down from you know, 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:34.280 shot camp. My part Oh and I Do Yes wasn't 0:09:34.320 --> 0:09:36.560 having it. He didn't make me aware of it, but 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:40.680 you know he obviously it was like, she's not doing it, 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:43.880 not for you, not for anybody. Goodbye, you know pretty much, 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:47.040 what are you talking about? But I thought also about 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:50.720 my cast mates, like how do they feel about themselves? 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:53.480 And then to have to hear this, We're on the 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:57.839 number one show among black and Latino households in America 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:01.800 and you're telling us we need to lose weight. Maybe 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:04.640 you're the one with the problem, because maybe you're the 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:08.280 one that has the issue because the show is a 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:10.679 success and you're telling us we need to lose weight. 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:13.480 But that happened again too, You know that the word 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:15.560 came down again and it was like, come on, enough 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:18.640 of them. You're trying to fit into what somebody else 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:21.679 is telling you about who you need to be. We're 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:25.080 also taught these ideas of beauty. You know, this is 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:27.120 what you're supposed to look like. But when you have 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:32.439 these pictures painted for you and it is implanted over generations, 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:35.920 that's the problem. That's what's been the beauty about. Even 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.600 since the beginning of your career, You've been always speaking 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:43.400 out about the power of that's true. But at the 0:10:43.480 --> 0:10:47.440 same time, when your mom is the ideal beauty for 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:51.760 us as black people, she looked like my little mini 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:54.880 me when we stand next to each other. I have 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.480 to figure out how to find clothes that look right 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:03.319 on me on my side in this world when designers 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:08.040 are not creating those fashion brands that have these sizes. 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:11.000 So it's like if I was a side twenty four 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:13.440 and I'm I got styled, I still want to rock 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:17.440 with the size too is wearing, but the designers are like, no, 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:21.320 we're gonna stop right here, right Okay, have you checked 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:23.559 the stats of the size of the people in the country. 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:25.839 You might want to make some clothes in this side. 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:28.600 What's the problem don't you get it. No, you don't 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:30.720 want to get it. You don't want us to look 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:33.439 like this. You don't want us. I think it gets 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:36.600 back to what I'm like. You don't want us to 0:11:36.679 --> 0:11:40.440 live this fullness. Like I knew when I was wanted 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:43.000 to play basketball, I had to run down the court 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:45.800 like this because my breath would be bouncing because if 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:48.600 the brids weren't very you know, supportive at the time, 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:51.600 you know, but if I wanted to play basketball, that's 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:53.599 what I was gonna have to do. You know. I 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:58.000 think I the brids have changed, they're much better. But 0:11:58.160 --> 0:12:03.200 those look, those things affect you. And telling someone, oh 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:06.720 you too big to play that, you'll never play that sport, 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.520 or you can't handle that, you can't be on that squad, 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:14.880 it crushes people. It crushes your spirit right there. Lizzo 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:18.840 has taken really amazing strides in in that direction, putting 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:24.880 the beauty of bigger bodied individuals. So much for keeping 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:30.480 me happy, for keeping me alive. Thank you. I followed 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:32.320 her when she was just playing the flute and singing 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:36.480 songs for years, you know, before she blew way up. 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:42.360 She has created a language around this that is different 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:46.400 from any language I've heard on the surrounding body type 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:52.680 and Frihanna to Briana with her fancy line and savage 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:57.320 with the models that she has on the runway, like 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:01.400 she goes all in, all sizes, all colors, all different backgrounds, 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:03.560 and spend for you. And that's what you do. You 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:06.520 were inclusive, and then everyone else, you know, winds up 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:09.160 looking like, oh, how do we how do we make that? 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:11.720 You were looking for it and you didn't try. You 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:13.920 didn't have the bravery to just look right in front 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:16.560 of you and see that there's a big place missing 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:20.439 in this market. As your friend, it feels so good 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:23.400 to just see you. I can tell how passionate you 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:25.480 are about this right. Well, I figured that if I 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:27.400 came on Red Table Talk, I could get you for 0:13:27.440 --> 0:13:30.440 at least three more episodes, which is like having days 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:33.040 off at work because you have some more fun, you 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:34.680 know what I mean. Maybe get you to come steal 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:39.520 a few more pagings you know about That's what did happened? Okay, 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:46.000 come back, never bring back. You got flow back in 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:51.320 the building and the family queens and the house. So 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:55.800 we invited us special group of fans to join us 0:13:56.000 --> 0:14:03.079 for this important conversation. Yes, we got some face. Everybody 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:09.240 where's tomorrow? Hey? Ti? To mar is known as the 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:14.000 Curvy Darling. Millions follow her on her various lifestyle platforms. 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:17.480 How are you? I'm so excited to be here. I 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:20.760 started my platform almost ten years ago to change the 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:23.760 narrative that I've been forced in my entire life about 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:26.720 what that lives look like, what that people live like. 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:29.360 So I share my life. I share my experiences, I 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:33.240 share my travel, my fitness, what I'm cooking, falling in love, 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:37.240 and it's my life where I'm the main character and 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:42.960 not my fat, not my body character. I gotta give 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:46.240 one that. It's amazing when you can change that mindset. 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.880 I did have a question for Queen La Tipa. No, 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:53.880 I wasn't there. I didn't do it. You're such a 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:56.600 confident person. I am too, but I can't help that 0:14:56.720 --> 0:15:00.080 negative talk that creeps in from time to time. So 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:04.280 how do you stop that self sabotage? Yes? So I 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:09.440 have definitely had that problem since I was a very 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:14.840 young person, and it would be these flashes that would 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:19.760 just come across me, a flash of pure self hate, 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:28.160 self loathing, uncontrollable, like who just hate me? Just what 0:15:28.600 --> 0:15:32.240 is that? And I would have to really stop in 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:34.760 my tracks and take a minute to try to turn 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:37.720 my mind around. At eighteen, I looked in the mirror 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:39.360 and I said, I have to make a decision. Either 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.760 I'm either gonna hate myself or I'm gonna love myself. 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:47.200 And I'm talking to myself in the mirror as I'm saying, 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:49.800 are you gonna hate yourself? Are you gonna love me? Something? 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:54.520 And I decided to love myself. And it wasn't like 0:15:54.680 --> 0:16:01.320 love came over, but the love was already there. So 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:04.440 it started to rise up more than the self hate 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:07.720 that would pop in because that's a very dark place, 0:16:08.160 --> 0:16:11.600 dark dark place. And there's a few people I've talked 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:15.120 off the ledge who were ready to call it. Every 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:17.400 once in a while, I'll get hit up on online 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:20.400 and I'm like, don't do it, just wait, just get 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:23.240 through tonight. Just ignore them for a minute. You're gonna 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:25.560 be okay. We need you, I need you, I need 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:28.240 you to be all right. Just get through tonight. And 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:30.720 I'm talking about fourteen year old kids, yeah, you know. 0:16:31.680 --> 0:16:34.320 And then I'll get hit up like a little while later, 0:16:34.480 --> 0:16:37.240 like I'm good, I'm doing okay. I made it through 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:39.720 that because if you give it a little time, I 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:43.520 feel like God lets something in to put light in 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:47.920 that space of darkness. But if you at the time, 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:50.920 if you stop too short, then you didn't. We won't 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:53.400 give it the chance that it needs for real. Thank 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:56.800 you so much, and just keep those positive thoughts about 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:59.840 yourself in your head. When that self sabotager comes up, 0:16:59.880 --> 0:17:04.960 you go, I love myself And that's a day, yo. 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:09.760 Blesses that part right there. Way would be brave enough 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.639 to live out there for ten years. Yes, I've been like, 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:19.200 that's not your business. Yeah, yeah right. Remy Vader is 0:17:19.280 --> 0:17:26.840 a content creator and curve model with millions of followers. Hey, Remy, 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:30.639 what did you want to say today? How are you? 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:33.359 I'm so happy to be here. You're all amazing. I 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:36.240 got let go for my job during the pandemic, and 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:40.600 around that time, I gained probably like sixty pounds and 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:43.080 I was struggling with that. And one day when I 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:45.640 was going shopping and soho I live in New York City. 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:48.639 I went to about fifteen stores and not one of 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:52.679 those stores had above a size ten or twelve. Now 0:17:52.760 --> 0:17:55.919 I'm like an eighteen. So I started just being honest 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:59.119 on TikTok about why are we only seeing on social 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:02.680 media the good? No one showing the bad? What about 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:04.520 like the clothes that don't fit you? Or what about 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:07.080 when you border clothes online and you're supposed to look 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:08.720 like what the model looks like. No one looks like 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:12.119 what the model looks like. So I started putting a 0:18:12.200 --> 0:18:14.480 little humor on it to make myself feel better, and 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:17.919 I did these things that I now do called realistic holes, 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:20.359 where I kind of call out the brands and I 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:21.920 showed the good and I showed the bad and I 0:18:22.040 --> 0:18:25.680 tell them to do better. Okay, I look like mud. 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:32.640 What the hell is that? Please revolved, Please just make 0:18:32.680 --> 0:18:36.720 some larger clothing back again with a realistic misguided hall? 0:18:39.520 --> 0:18:42.720 Hell is that something's wrong with I think we do 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:47.080 something crazy? Like around what did I tell I'm done? 0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:52.320 These brands don't even know what they're doing, Like let's 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:54.960 try and laugh about it. But like, it's not our faults. 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:58.320 I'm so grateful. I have people coming up to me 0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:00.040 in the streets every day, like I never left my 0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:02.359 apartment until I saw your videos, like thank you, and 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:06.560 that's amazing. But every day I got tens of thousands 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:10.359 of you fat, well this this, I'm changing these brands 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:12.720 like they're listening. But like then you get that and 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:16.320 it's like why am I getting so upset? And that's tough, 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:20.840 and I've definitely had to ignore a lot of people. 0:19:21.320 --> 0:19:25.000 I've grown thicker skin. I also don't even read it 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:38.040 ye bye bye bye, Like, yeah, it's tough because it hurts. Yeah, 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:40.960 you know what I mean. It hurts with somebody says something, 0:19:41.240 --> 0:19:45.639 you know, snide to you. You know, but you found 0:19:45.760 --> 0:19:51.240 success being yourself, figuring it out for you, not knowing, 0:19:51.480 --> 0:19:53.840 just like a young Queen Lativa didn't know that so 0:19:54.000 --> 0:19:56.680 many women out there wanted to have someone that look 0:19:56.760 --> 0:20:00.840 like me represent them. To add to at Law and 0:20:01.080 --> 0:20:05.920 for YouTube Remy, it's not easy to be a trailblazer. Yeah. 0:20:06.160 --> 0:20:09.240 I just want you to know too that any kind 0:20:09.320 --> 0:20:12.280 of negativity that's coming your way is not about you. 0:20:12.480 --> 0:20:15.840 That is a projection of how that person feels about themselves. 0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:19.280 And I know it's hard, but that is fat and 0:20:19.440 --> 0:20:22.720 that is true. So you keep doing you, You keep 0:20:22.800 --> 0:20:26.480 doing you so beautiful. We're doing a good thing, you 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:29.119 really are. And I hope to run into you in 0:20:29.200 --> 0:20:36.960 New York City walking Thank you, Remy Michelle, You're up next, 0:20:37.040 --> 0:20:41.080 Hey Michelle, Hi ladies, Hello Queen. I just want to 0:20:41.160 --> 0:20:42.879 let you know I was born in a eight so 0:20:43.040 --> 0:20:46.800 I've knowing you, my man so much. So. I'm a 0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:50.920 female rapper. Put blow wind. Now we say Heddlow with 0:20:51.040 --> 0:20:53.640 trade magic and they want to payg on me. I'm 0:20:53.720 --> 0:20:57.159 having issues with thinking I'm supposed to look like everybody 0:20:57.280 --> 0:21:00.440 else just to get my music heard. I thought that, 0:21:00.680 --> 0:21:02.320 you know, I needed to go and get a B 0:21:02.440 --> 0:21:05.000 B L or something. A few years ago I got 0:21:05.080 --> 0:21:09.240 breast implants, and like, every time I feel insecure, I 0:21:09.400 --> 0:21:12.919 can't just run out and get surgery. I can end 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:16.560 up making myself sick. My question to you, Queen is 0:21:17.000 --> 0:21:20.720 how did you have the courage to be yourself and 0:21:20.840 --> 0:21:23.600 not worry about what everybody else looked like around you. 0:21:24.800 --> 0:21:29.600 Well that's a great question, great question, heavy question, but 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:32.200 it's great. My father told me very early if I 0:21:32.320 --> 0:21:35.359 wanted to do things, I have to believe in myself, 0:21:35.400 --> 0:21:38.960 but sometimes I would have to stand alone. That you 0:21:39.160 --> 0:21:42.560 have to be able to have the courage to be 0:21:42.960 --> 0:21:45.800 the only one that's right, because if you don't believe 0:21:45.840 --> 0:21:48.800 in you, you're not gonna get everybody else to bite. 0:21:49.040 --> 0:21:53.199 You know, there's only one single you. You were created 0:21:53.280 --> 0:21:56.639 uniquely to do what you are supposed to do in 0:21:56.720 --> 0:21:58.760 the world of hip hop. I mean, I can't be 0:21:58.840 --> 0:22:00.960 a better Nikki than Nikki. I can't be a better 0:22:01.080 --> 0:22:04.600 Kim than Kim, or Missy than Missy. Light is already light, 0:22:04.960 --> 0:22:07.280 so I can't be light. I can't be a better 0:22:07.760 --> 0:22:10.040 Salt and Pepper than them. I just can't. They are 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:13.400 who they are supposed to be, and they're the best 0:22:13.520 --> 0:22:16.679 at who they are. But I can be the best Latifa. 0:22:17.480 --> 0:22:20.399 You know, So you have to decide for yourself what 0:22:20.680 --> 0:22:24.560 you are willing to do or not do for this business. 0:22:25.040 --> 0:22:28.240 I watched this one over here develop over years. She 0:22:28.400 --> 0:22:31.840 took her time. This wasn't an overnight thing. So what 0:22:32.040 --> 0:22:35.000 you may see is an overnight sensation is not always 0:22:35.040 --> 0:22:38.720 an overnight success. It takes years to develop and find 0:22:39.440 --> 0:22:42.479 you're lane and find your vibe and find your voice 0:22:42.520 --> 0:22:44.879 and really figure out, like what do I want to 0:22:44.960 --> 0:22:49.040 say and who am I exactly? I'm still figuring and 0:22:49.160 --> 0:22:51.680 that's and that's okay because you get to do that. 0:22:52.359 --> 0:22:56.000 But you can't remove a BBL. I'm not saying you 0:22:56.040 --> 0:22:58.040 should have shouldn't. It's your body. I can't tell you 0:22:58.160 --> 0:23:00.359 what to do with it. I could tell was get 0:23:00.400 --> 0:23:03.719 your bars up, but got to get your bars up 0:23:03.760 --> 0:23:05.960 if you want to rack, make sure that's right. But 0:23:06.880 --> 0:23:09.280 your research and you know that might be your passive 0:23:09.320 --> 0:23:11.520 fat and you're stuck with it. So they really put 0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:14.720 some serious thought into it. And I think you're beautiful 0:23:14.760 --> 0:23:18.280 as you are. You know exactly and it will cut 0:23:18.359 --> 0:23:21.399 through there it is. Thank you so much, Queen, I 0:23:21.520 --> 0:23:27.000 really appreciate that. So Shannon loves her body but has 0:23:27.080 --> 0:23:32.240 a concern. Hey Shannon, how are you? I am well, 0:23:32.600 --> 0:23:36.800 Hello ladies. Ever since I was a young girl, my 0:23:36.920 --> 0:23:42.240 mother would always say, you're not fat, you're fluffy. So 0:23:42.880 --> 0:23:45.440 my question is, if I were to lose this weight, 0:23:46.800 --> 0:23:51.119 would I lose my identity? Will I still see myself 0:23:51.160 --> 0:23:54.720 as beautiful? And will I love all of the curves 0:23:54.760 --> 0:23:58.000 that I see when I look in the mirror. I 0:23:58.160 --> 0:24:01.040 understand that fair. Because there was one time I was 0:24:01.119 --> 0:24:03.399 in Louisiana shooting a movie. I don't know if I 0:24:03.480 --> 0:24:05.200 told you all this story, and I was just walking 0:24:05.240 --> 0:24:09.119 down the street and this girl saw me and she 0:24:09.280 --> 0:24:13.080 was like Queen Latifa. She was a full body woman, 0:24:14.119 --> 0:24:17.240 young girl. She was like excited to see me queer 0:24:17.320 --> 0:24:23.040 ra tiva, Oh skinny. I was like, I felt disrespected, 0:24:23.160 --> 0:24:25.760 Like who you're calling skinny? You know what I mean. 0:24:26.600 --> 0:24:28.320 But it was more like I felt like I let 0:24:28.400 --> 0:24:32.200 her down because I wasn't at a larger weight, maybe 0:24:32.280 --> 0:24:34.800 than in the past. I think you are who you 0:24:34.920 --> 0:24:39.159 are regardless. All you need to do is check up 0:24:39.200 --> 0:24:42.239 on your health. How's your heart, how's your lungs, How 0:24:42.280 --> 0:24:44.880 are you doing that? Check yourself out from the inside. 0:24:45.320 --> 0:24:47.320 It sounds like your spirit is in a good place. 0:24:47.560 --> 0:24:49.600 It sounds like your mind is in a good place. 0:24:49.760 --> 0:24:51.359 If you want to lose weight or not lose a 0:24:51.440 --> 0:24:53.840 penn and that's that's up to you, you know. But 0:24:53.920 --> 0:24:56.880 at least you'll be aware of where you are physically 0:24:57.080 --> 0:24:59.320 and which is the most important part you being around 0:24:59.400 --> 0:25:03.359 Because we got black women dying heart attacks, Black and 0:25:03.480 --> 0:25:07.200 brown people are dealing with a lot of stresses and 0:25:07.400 --> 0:25:13.240 those things definitely affect our health. I hope that answers 0:25:13.320 --> 0:25:17.399 your question. It sure does. Thank you so much, Thank you, 0:25:17.920 --> 0:25:24.120 Thank you. Pam. You say your weight kept you from 0:25:24.240 --> 0:25:28.560 getting a promotion, Yes, it did. I was discriminated on 0:25:28.680 --> 0:25:31.720 the job because of my plus size. I was in 0:25:31.800 --> 0:25:34.440 a training room which was supposed to last for twelve months. 0:25:34.640 --> 0:25:37.520 When it came time for my promotion, my supervisor got 0:25:37.640 --> 0:25:41.000 a friend that was very young, very small, and put 0:25:41.080 --> 0:25:44.040