Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 3: Scrub Dub dub. I was very loud in my ears
Speaker 3: mine too.
Speaker 4: Wow, Sorry about that.
Speaker 5: Happy Eclipse days clips of the Tanya and I went
Speaker 5: out and washed the eclipse and our eyes feel weird.
Speaker 3: My eyes actually feel weird, feels placebo, you think so.
Speaker 5: I think you might be right.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I watched the same eclipse with you guys. In
Speaker 1: My eyes feel fine right now.
Speaker 5: So we from home.
Speaker 6: But I used your glasses and I use somebody's paper glasses,
Speaker 6: and I think maybe the paper glasses screwed me.
Speaker 1: That'll happen.
Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, So what are you gonna do about that?
Speaker 5: I think it's just because live it out.
Speaker 4: To see what happens. Yeah, there's not much you can do.
Speaker 2: No, but they did give us a lot of warning
Speaker 2: is not to look at it, you know, directly, So
Speaker 2: sometimes you have to just follow the rules.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Did you go see it? Becca?
Speaker 2: No? I looked up and it was so bright, like, okay,
Speaker 2: so I have I was trying to take a video and.
Speaker 3: I was going on my tippy toes to get closer.
Speaker 5: That's hilarious.
Speaker 4: Sad, sad, there's something sad about.
Speaker 1: It, also inspiring.
Speaker 4: You're so close to the Yeah, about one inch closer.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 2: I have skylights in my house, so the sun was
Speaker 2: in direct you know view.
Speaker 4: Are you bored by my story?
Speaker 5: It's been a long morning. I'm sorry.
Speaker 6: We'll get to market a minute. We're going to get
Speaker 6: to market a minute.
Speaker 4: But anyways, I looked at it and I was like,
Speaker 4: that's very bright.
Speaker 2: But I can't wait to see the photos that people
Speaker 2: put like the Science Channel's posts, right right, Yeah, you're
Speaker 2: not really one that has to see it, and.
Speaker 5: You want to see in the path of totality anyway,
Speaker 5: so we're not going to see much inspiring.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's gorgeous national geography.
Speaker 3: Yeah, make sure you credit for this.
Speaker 4: But okay, so are you having a manic Monday? Mark?
Speaker 5: Wow, it's been a fine Monday's long. Mondays are long,
Speaker 5: and Mondays are hard get back into it.
Speaker 3: To me lately.
Speaker 6: So we do a pitch meeting every morning after the
Speaker 6: morning show. We go around pitch ideas, talk.
Speaker 5: About the next day show.
Speaker 4: What kind of stuffy?
Speaker 6: Yeah, so I'm all gung how excited about this? Beautiful
Speaker 6: scrubber named Jenna that is trying to become a contestant
Speaker 6: on Survivor and is really just putting her dreams out there.
Speaker 5: And I'm like, I hope she gets on. I wish
Speaker 5: you the best.
Speaker 6: Save that crap for your podcast his words exactly.
Speaker 5: I think that is. But the point is.
Speaker 2: Your podcast is if you're not a part of right exactly,
Speaker 2: and I like crap the leader.
Speaker 4: Of the reels TikTok community.
Speaker 5: Perhaps I put it a little harshly, but the point
Speaker 5: was that I think that I hope she gets on
Speaker 5: the show, and I wish you the best. I don't
Speaker 5: think that the Ryan Seacrest Morning You Want KISSFM is
Speaker 5: the best platform to be talking about her necessarily great
Speaker 5: your podcast would be an ideal situation for that. So
Speaker 5: that's all I was trying to say. I might have
Speaker 5: put a little bluntly because I have such a close
Speaker 5: with Tanya. After so many.
Speaker 6: Years working, I pitched like three more ideas. I can't
Speaker 6: remember what they were now at the moment.
Speaker 5: But they weren't great.
Speaker 3: Yeah, take it for your podcast, I was.
Speaker 2: Under I agree that that's more of a podcast topic.
Speaker 2: I do agree, but I do think delivery is everything,
Speaker 2: and I think you were in the wrong if you
Speaker 2: said say that crap?
Speaker 5: Did I not apologize to you? Afterwards?
Speaker 6: I had to tell you. I said, I've been very
Speaker 6: upset with you for the last hour, and so I
Speaker 6: apologize and he apologized.
Speaker 2: This is my biggest Haley and I argue about this
Speaker 2: all the time because she's like, I can't read your mind.
Speaker 2: I need you to communicate if I've done something that
Speaker 2: upsets you. I'm like, why don't you know me well
Speaker 2: enough to know that what you said needs an apology?
Speaker 3: Exactly? Mark, How do you not know me well enough to.
Speaker 4: Know together longer than me and Haley have been together.
Speaker 3: Exactly that it deserves an apology.
Speaker 5: You and I have a different kind of relationship. Though
Speaker 5: I wouldn't say something like that to other people on.
Speaker 2: The staff, nobody else on this shot and make it
Speaker 2: seem like an endearing.
Speaker 5: It is an endearing thing. You and I are close
Speaker 5: enough to just be with each other.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, All right, well that's okay.
Speaker 2: Like everyone has tough Monday mornings, you know, Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: And I had to tell them. I was like, I've
Speaker 3: been upset with you for the last hour.
Speaker 4: Oh Wow, you know you were holding it.
Speaker 3: I wasn't sitting in my chair.
Speaker 5: That's why you left the room.
Speaker 3: Yes, what really?
Speaker 6: Not really?
Speaker 5: That seems harsh. We I thought we I thought there
Speaker 5: was an olive branch.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we squashed it.
Speaker 6: There was an hour there where I was fuming, fuming,
Speaker 6: left the room, left the room, took an extra on
Speaker 6: PAWNI break.
Speaker 3: Actually, I spoke to Easton for a while during that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we had a nice little chat, Yeah, chatting about Mark.
Speaker 1: Tony comes over, She's like, I really hate Mark today,
Speaker 1: and I was like, me too, have a seat.
Speaker 4: No, I'm just kidding me.
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding Mark. I would never say that we're
Speaker 1: talking about weddings.
Speaker 5: So when I got upset, I talked to Easton too.
Speaker 5: He's always uplifting.
Speaker 4: Yeah that's true, that's true.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but we were. We really were just talking about weddings.
Speaker 4: Now, Oh, speaking of what did you do your pinteress board?
Speaker 3: It's a lot harder.
Speaker 6: To do a Pinterest board than one woe thing. But yes,
Speaker 6: I have started my pinteress board.
Speaker 4: What was hard about it?
Speaker 6: I didn't realize I did have one that was made
Speaker 6: from like twenty sixteen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's very own brand, right, so probably hated some Yes,
Speaker 2: make some things I have like.
Speaker 6: A A I don't even know I had some weird
Speaker 6: boards going on.
Speaker 2: I might need you to pull up some of the
Speaker 2: images or you had from twenty sixteen.
Speaker 3: I could do that.
Speaker 6: I can find that. I'm having a hard time finding
Speaker 6: the boards, the photos and the board, so maybe you
Speaker 6: can help me with that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm so confused because in my mind.
Speaker 6: But yes, I have updated my Pinterest board. But now
Speaker 6: I'm kind of stuck a little bit because there's one
Speaker 6: potential where we could be doing our wedding outdoors in
Speaker 6: a backyard or in a ballroom, two very different spaces.
Speaker 6: So I'm like having a hard time with my vision
Speaker 6: because the vision is very different in a ballroom than
Speaker 6: it is in a backyard, you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: Yeah, is your Pinterest to public situation?
Speaker 3: Should probably?
Speaker 6: I mean, I can't imagine I've made a private Why
Speaker 6: would I make in private?
Speaker 5: I don't know. I can't. Oh, okay, maybe maybe Anya
Speaker 5: Brad is it pinterest dot com slash Tanya rad.
Speaker 3: I have no idea.
Speaker 5: Nope, it's not. Nobody else has that. Not you has that?
Speaker 3: Are you sure? It's not me.
Speaker 4: It muld be an impostor shout.
Speaker 5: Out to Tanyadeva.
Speaker 4: Oh a different vibe.
Speaker 6: But yeah, so anyways, that's why I'm just stuck in
Speaker 6: the vision.
Speaker 2: When do you think you're going to make that decision
Speaker 2: if it's going to be in a ballroom or out.
Speaker 6: So here's the thing. When you have a wedding, you're
Speaker 6: going to cut a knock in because.
Speaker 2: No, this is not the same because I am not
Speaker 2: someone who's dreamed about getting married and having a wedding.
Speaker 2: I think everyone thought you would have this literally planned
Speaker 2: by the hour detail as soon as the ring gout
Speaker 2: went on the finger.
Speaker 6: I think the problem is I can't make a decision
Speaker 6: because like, so, if we do it in the backyard,
Speaker 6: which is where we want to do it, our guest
Speaker 6: count is about we're missing fifty.
Speaker 3: People that we would really want to invite.
Speaker 4: If you do it in the backyard, correct, Okay.
Speaker 3: So the number is a lot smaller than we thought.
Speaker 4: Okay, we'd have to cap it.
Speaker 3: And so that fit.
Speaker 6: I was getting really ruthless at the guest list and
Speaker 6: like cutting people left and right, which felt really like sad.
Speaker 3: I was like, I kind of like, actually really want
Speaker 3: them to be there.
Speaker 5: But sorry I spelled it wrong. It is pintries dot
Speaker 5: com slash Tanya Rad twelve years ago. People I can't
Speaker 5: get enough of?
Speaker 3: Oh, twelve years ago?
Speaker 2: Hold on mid break for the wedding talk because this
Speaker 2: is breaking.
Speaker 5: There are only three of them on here. Can you
Speaker 5: name the three people Tanya could not get enough of
Speaker 5: in the year twenty twelve.
Speaker 4: I'm not in college.
Speaker 5: I don't know you were here.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna say maybe the guy from what One Republic,
Speaker 2: Ryan Tennor.
Speaker 5: That's an excellent guest. However, no, no John Mayer either.
Speaker 4: Who were you? I didn't know you in twenty twelve?
Speaker 4: Who was popular?
Speaker 6: These are?
Speaker 5: When I say these, you're gonna be like, oh yeah, okay, hold.
Speaker 3: On, Oh really it makes sense?
Speaker 5: Oka oprah Nope.
Speaker 4: Can you give me men or women?
Speaker 5: I got two men and a woman.
Speaker 3: Even I don't know I made what genre they like?
Speaker 4: Where? What category?
Speaker 5: The women? Should be easy to our music? One is
Speaker 5: a film actor or TV actor.
Speaker 3: Matthew mcconaugh.
Speaker 5: No Taylor Swift, No, no tailors, No, no Beyonce?
Speaker 3: Who is she?
Speaker 4: The woman?
Speaker 1: But the lone woman should be easy?
Speaker 5: You look up so he can't guess it should be
Speaker 5: easy easy, Yes, because of me, because I love her still. Yes,
Speaker 5: you love two of these people you never stopped talking
Speaker 5: about back then, Shakira. No, all right, here's the two
Speaker 5: of them dated each other.
Speaker 3: Oh a couple, John legends.
Speaker 1: So much confidence.
Speaker 5: I remember this. You were heartbroken when these two broke up.
Speaker 5: It was like the end of the world.
Speaker 3: Selena and Justin.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and now you just like hang out with Selena.
Speaker 4: Every know, the casual who knew?
Speaker 5: Thanks Selena. And the last one I'll just give it
Speaker 5: to you is zach Effron, which.
Speaker 1: Went Justin's on there twice. There's a there's a picture
Speaker 1: of him and then a key chain of his face
Speaker 1: in a heart.
Speaker 3: That's my own photo.
Speaker 1: Oh Jesus, is it weird that I own this question
Speaker 1: of answers? Yes, Sonny, I heard you.
Speaker 4: Talk about zac Efron. This is mind blowing.
Speaker 6: Honestly, I don't think I ever had a zac Efron moment,
Speaker 6: but clearly I did.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: The caption is zac Efron's smiley face, and then it's
Speaker 1: the album art for Boyfriend by Justin Bieber, and tiny
Speaker 1: writes Justin Bieber, her heart heart this is my jam
Speaker 1: all caps.
Speaker 3: Yeah that sounds right. That that's me.
Speaker 4: That's definitely me, Yeah, no doubt. Wow, Wow, that was
Speaker 4: really good TV.
Speaker 1: I cannot miss Tanya's pinterested.
Speaker 5: TV. I cannot miss a from twelve years ago. Let's see,
Speaker 5: I got one? What is that one TV?
Speaker 4: I can't miss TV.
Speaker 5: I cannot miss.
Speaker 6: Vampire Diaries yep, as one of them.
Speaker 5: Okay, what is that one? The top?
Speaker 1: The men of Vampire Diaries? Need I say more?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I can't miss in twenty twelve.
Speaker 4: But she have said that's a girl? Uh, Montree Hill
Speaker 4: in there?
Speaker 5: No, neither of those is in there. I can't. Some
Speaker 5: of these are kind of broad.
Speaker 1: When is a show I have never heard of in
Speaker 1: my life? It's on the c W Arrow.
Speaker 5: No, you made out with a guy from Marrow?
Speaker 4: Yeah you did teen Wolf.
Speaker 1: Oh god, there's two c W shows I've never heard.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but.
Speaker 1: They just reveal it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: The Secret Circle.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, the show was so good.
Speaker 3: Okay, if you.
Speaker 6: Have not seen The Secret Circle, you need to watch it, right,
Speaker 6: but streaming somewhere I don't know. But it's like with
Speaker 6: Phoebe Tonkin and yeah, Britt Robertson, such a good show.
Speaker 1: This picture is captioned this is where it all started.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's good. Now one of these again very obvious
Speaker 5: to me. The Bachelor that's on there. Yes, very good.
Speaker 4: Even what I was thinking of though downhill from what's
Speaker 4: going over.
Speaker 1: Let me get your time.
Speaker 5: I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: Just it's fine.
Speaker 2: It's just another man Monday, everybody.
Speaker 3: Ultimately, this is fine.
Speaker 5: I don't there's one more that you should name here
Speaker 5: that I'm.
Speaker 4: Surprised a corner over there.
Speaker 5: You were the reason we talked about the show on
Speaker 5: the radio so much, and then you stopped watching it.
Speaker 5: We still talked about it because you'd already said the president.
Speaker 3: In twenty twelve.
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh, pretty there.
Speaker 3: It is nice. First of all, I.
Speaker 6: Watch it till the end, Yes I did. I know
Speaker 6: exactly who happens? Yes, I know, I know. I for
Speaker 6: sure watch it till the end.
Speaker 5: What is this is that? Also, pretty little Liarus? What
Speaker 5: is that is that? Lucy?
Speaker 1: Lucy Hale? Just as an individual? And then the other
Speaker 1: mysterious CW show is Ringer.
Speaker 3: Ringer another great show.
Speaker 1: No commentary from tinys photo, just a picture of the
Speaker 1: cast and just says Ringer on CW, this is so great.
Speaker 5: You have a Pinterests board called work it Out. There's
Speaker 5: exactly zero photos in it. It's empty, it's blank.
Speaker 3: Who knew I was on Pinterest in twenty twelve?
Speaker 5: You have favorite places and spaces.
Speaker 4: It feels like you were really on it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like can I There's a there's one called books
Speaker 1: worth Reading and two of the posts. One of them
Speaker 1: is a picture of Peta from Hunger Games, and then
Speaker 1: one is it David durhamin Ring?
Speaker 2: Maybe she was on pnderson no idea what she was doing?
Speaker 2: This actually maybe checks out full circle.
Speaker 1: And then a Hunger Games meme that says love is
Speaker 1: a battlefield.
Speaker 5: And Devil wears Proud of Books and Candace Bushnell lipstick jungle.
Speaker 2: Wow, jule I love that was in that?
Speaker 3: Are you sure it wasn't Harry Winston Ring?
Speaker 1: It says David it's a picture of Ring, and it
Speaker 1: says the happiest girls are the prettiest David Yeerman.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 5: And then I see the stuff you put for your wedding,
Speaker 5: and boy, whatever you choose, give me a lot of
Speaker 5: little lights.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, you do, love an.
Speaker 3: We're gonna have junkle lights no matter where we are.
Speaker 2: So you were going getting ruthless with the guest list.
Speaker 2: But then there are people that you were like, I
Speaker 2: think I really want them at the wedding.
Speaker 6: Correct, So now we might move it into a ballroom.
Speaker 6: So that's kind of where we're at. Okay, just deciding
Speaker 6: on which one of the two do you have a
Speaker 6: date set? No, because the day comes after we said
Speaker 6: where oh.
Speaker 2: Okay, So there's totally pressure to make the decision because
Speaker 2: there's no date that you're having to.
Speaker 6: And then if we do it outside in la we
Speaker 6: have to wait for the weather to be good, which
Speaker 6: is really like April to September.
Speaker 4: Hmmm, you just never know, you never know, No, you.
Speaker 6: Don't it really, Sonny, Sonny in eighty this week and
Speaker 6: then it's gonna rain this weekend.
Speaker 2: I think if you don't want to chance the weather,
Speaker 2: you just do inside. I think that'll be just like
Speaker 2: you can invite the amount of people you want.
Speaker 4: Takes the stress off of having to worry about the weather. Right,
Speaker 4: your heels aren't going to dig into the grass, right
Speaker 4: you know?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I got ya, I know. But then we're in
Speaker 6: a ballroom. It's like, you know, not as warm.
Speaker 4: Okay, not as ethereal correct as ethereal.
Speaker 6: Yeah, majestic, some may say, right, I feel like, you
Speaker 6: know the episode of.
Speaker 3: Call Her You know, this episode of Call Her Daddy
Speaker 3: where Alex is like.
Speaker 6: Sitting in the bathtub with the bottle of wine with
Speaker 6: like her veil, being like, ah, no.
Speaker 3: Nobody remember, had an impact on me.
Speaker 6: Clearly nobody else Anyways, That's what I feel like I
Speaker 6: can relate to at the moment.
Speaker 2: Well, do you know in the Notebook when she sees
Speaker 2: that Noah rebuilt the house and then she's in the
Speaker 2: bathtub and she's turning the water on and off and
Speaker 2: she has the veil on with a goss of wine
Speaker 2: before she decides that she's going to go see him.
Speaker 3: No, I don't remember this.
Speaker 2: That's also a reference that had an impact on me. Yeah,
Speaker 2: a cultural moment. Oh, speaking of a cultural moment, when
Speaker 2: they broke up Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that was pretty gut wrenching.
Speaker 3: But they seem to be doing great now.
Speaker 4: Very happy for them.
Speaker 2: But that was just a very impactful public relationship that ended. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like Brad and Jen justin Selena just they didn't affect
Speaker 2: me as much as you Apparently, I didn't have a
Speaker 2: venture's board of anybody.
Speaker 4: So wow.
Speaker 2: But do you know that there is a new duo
Speaker 2: coming to the iHeart podcast world and I want to
Speaker 2: talk about it when we come back.
Speaker 7: From this break, right right, right, all right, we are back,
Speaker 7: And before we took the break, I was talking about
Speaker 7: a new podcast duo best besties A Blonde.
Speaker 4: And a Blonde.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she has like.
Speaker 4: Kind of like me and you, literally me and you.
Speaker 2: But they're from a show that started this here, podcast
Speaker 2: Scrubbing in Grey's Anatomy. Correct, And that is Camilla Luddington
Speaker 2: and Jessica Capshaw doing a podcast amongst us for.
Speaker 6: iHeartRadio or iHeart Radio without a title, because we took
Speaker 6: the best one.
Speaker 2: Honestly, I wonder if they'd want to buy it from
Speaker 2: us how much we could sell for a built in
Speaker 2: audience loyal.
Speaker 6: Yeah, or maybe they could be under our umbrella. That
Speaker 6: would be the smart move to put them onto the
Speaker 6: Scrubbing In umbrella. Does nobody else think that's genius? Yeah?
Speaker 4: I don't see anyone going for that aside from us.
Speaker 1: But it's smart presents whatever.
Speaker 3: Whatever it is.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is their podcast.
Speaker 3: What is it?
Speaker 5: I've not heard title. I think early summer something like
Speaker 5: that is going to start.
Speaker 3: That's early summer soon, that's June.
Speaker 5: Could be June, July, something like that.
Speaker 2: Oh well, we're We've been desperately trying to get Jessica
Speaker 2: Capshaw on this podcast for years, years, and this might
Speaker 2: be our moment we did, might be our chance.
Speaker 3: We did interview her at many moons ago. We interviewed her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I was so obsessed with cal Arizona,
Speaker 2: and I think that may have been an eye opening
Speaker 2: moment looking back on my sexuality journey of like, oh wow,
Speaker 2: I think I'm not saying that like straight people can't
Speaker 2: love and root for relationship.
Speaker 4: But I was like, I'm so invested.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was so invested devastated when they broke up.
Speaker 2: So that's very exciting.
Speaker 6: We love Camilla, We love I do think that she
Speaker 6: had such a great experience scrubbing in that she was like,
Speaker 6: I need to have one of these.
Speaker 4: I just think that every single person who.
Speaker 2: Has a public platform is like, why would I not
Speaker 2: do a podcast? But also sure she came to our
Speaker 2: podcast and said, this is my dream come true to
Speaker 2: do a show with my best friend like Tanya and
Speaker 2: Becca do.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, so I'm gonna do it under the scrubbing
Speaker 3: in umbrella.
Speaker 4: We'll pitch it, we'll pitch it.
Speaker 3: Why not.
Speaker 4: I have no fear of getting rejected old.
Speaker 6: No, No, it happens often often, and I'm unfazed.
Speaker 5: She was back last week, Arizona Robbins back on Grays.
Speaker 5: I'm sure we've all watched and we're all caught up.
Speaker 2: Actually, I was watching the middle of that and I
Speaker 2: had to go. But I was caught up till the
Speaker 2: middle of that episode, so I didn't finish it.
Speaker 5: I'll take it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, was it good?
Speaker 2: I didn't finish that episode, so I can't say I
Speaker 2: just got to where Jessica or Arizona was talking about
Speaker 2: what she was there for.
Speaker 4: Basically, that's pretty early on. I did say I made
Speaker 4: it far.
Speaker 3: I caught up to that point.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh, and is it good?
Speaker 5: Whole?
Speaker 4: It's good, it's good.
Speaker 2: I'm not super invested in anybody, and that's my issue
Speaker 2: right right right, But I don't feel like that's going
Speaker 2: to be permanent. I think I could be invested. You
Speaker 2: know what irks me a little bit about what Grey's
Speaker 2: Anatomy does.
Speaker 5: What.
Speaker 2: I don't know the doctor's names yet, the new doctor's
Speaker 2: names too have.
Speaker 5: I call it little Shepherd, and I don't know what
Speaker 5: is actually a.
Speaker 2: Little shepherd and the girl, but he has the back
Speaker 2: and forth relations.
Speaker 3: She's the new Gray.
Speaker 5: Yes, you Suda, I know you, Suda.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we have you, Suda.
Speaker 2: But little well, I'll call her little Gray and he's
Speaker 2: a little shepherd.
Speaker 5: Little Gray is the one that he they slept together
Speaker 5: when she was about to go get married. Yes, okay.
Speaker 2: And I hate that they drag out a back and
Speaker 2: forth for so long. They did it with Joe and.
Speaker 4: They did it with Owen and Amelia.
Speaker 5: I did have that thought watching this most recent episode
Speaker 5: when she was but she she was like, I don't
Speaker 5: want to see you anymore. Get out of my life.
Speaker 5: I'm like, you know, I guess we got to just
Speaker 5: go through this. Yeah, there's got to be conflict. But
Speaker 5: I hear you. I hear what you're saying. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Anyway, it's the younger generation and we're watching them come up.
Speaker 7: Question.
Speaker 6: Yes, do we know what the podcast is going to
Speaker 6: be about? Is are they going to rewatch Grays like
Speaker 6: a rewatch podcast.
Speaker 5: I don't know that either.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, what are you good for him?
Speaker 5: I to work on it. But we'll see.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I know that's what I'm saying. I thought
Speaker 3: you would have some answer.
Speaker 6: I don't have any, because that would be interesting if
Speaker 6: they rewatched from season one episode one.
Speaker 5: Yes, interesting.
Speaker 2: I would absolutely listen to that. Told the journey with them, yeah,
Speaker 2: from the beginning.
Speaker 5: Would they be better doing that or should they get
Speaker 5: like some of the ogs to do that podcast?
Speaker 3: Well, just get Capshaw's pretty o g.
Speaker 2: No, she's season five though, so I mean she's not
Speaker 2: She's as og as as.
Speaker 3: They can get.
Speaker 6: I mean, Christina Yang's not doing it, not doing it,
Speaker 6: not doing it?
Speaker 5: Hold lot doing? Is he super busy right now? We
Speaker 5: don't really know what podcast.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we don't know why he ever left.
Speaker 3: So when I could see doing it would be uh, George, George.
Speaker 4: Could wait, I don't see him doing that George O'Malley.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I could see George.
Speaker 4: Do you love for him too? I just don't after.
Speaker 3: Maybe Miranda Bailey. Yeah, anyways, I bet.
Speaker 2: They'll have Ellen Pompeo as their first guest. I'm gonna
Speaker 2: make a guess to do. That's why they should be
Speaker 2: under That's what Joey the Bachelor and Kelsey, who he
Speaker 2: chose at the end just posted with Ellen Pompeo at
Speaker 2: this Hulu party?
Speaker 3: Really yeah, why did we go to the Hulu party?
Speaker 4: We don't get invited, Tanya, did you get invited?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I didn't, which is okay.
Speaker 2: It's a younger generation speaking of I've made a decision
Speaker 2: to lean into being a millennial god because thank you,
Speaker 2: oh wow, thank you so much. You know, there's a
Speaker 2: lot of pressure when it comes to social media in general,
Speaker 2: but I have found that, especially being on TikTok, it's
Speaker 2: like leaning in towards what gen Z.
Speaker 4: Likes, and so I've really tried to listen to that.
Speaker 2: But I also, and I'm not saying I'm not going
Speaker 2: to do that, but I'm not going to try to
Speaker 2: be gen Zan to listen to what they have to say.
Speaker 4: I want to hear what.
Speaker 2: They're doing, what the young kids are doing, but I
Speaker 2: don't need to make that me.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you something.
Speaker 2: You're a You're a millennial to to the core, and
Speaker 2: I'm I don't know that I'm leaning in that much
Speaker 2: to my millennial as much as you lean into your millennial.
Speaker 4: But I'm I'm leaning in more than I have been.
Speaker 6: Let me tell you something, about it, Tilly, come over
Speaker 6: to the dark side, because it is so nice just
Speaker 6: to be who you are, just.
Speaker 4: Be not I am who I am.
Speaker 2: But I also think there's I think the people who
Speaker 2: are are aware of what younger people are doing and
Speaker 2: learning new things. I think that's how you stay younger mentally.
Speaker 3: So so young mentally, couldn't be younger mentally. I've got
Speaker 3: the rich.
Speaker 2: Trying to on our on our call that we do
Speaker 2: weekly for the podcast, Tanya is trying to say that
Speaker 2: she has RIZ.
Speaker 5: You do not have RIZ, but it's very sweet that
Speaker 5: you think that you do. First of all, ooz, No,
Speaker 5: if you had RIZ, you wouldn't have needed half of
Speaker 5: our staff to be texting Robbie in the first when
Speaker 5: you first matched on Hinge.
Speaker 3: Well no, so.
Speaker 5: Just could do it themselves.
Speaker 6: No, so, RIZ doesn't translate to online dating.
Speaker 2: I don't mean to interrupt, but can you tell me
Speaker 2: your definition of risk?
Speaker 3: The basic charisma? Charisma?
Speaker 4: Okay, so, okay, just charisma is there.
Speaker 5: I think it's a specific type of charisma. I think
Speaker 5: it's more like it's like a combination of charisma and game.
Speaker 6: Yes, I have game, guys.
Speaker 4: What do you mean you have game?
Speaker 3: I have game, Tony.
Speaker 2: This whole podcast, for like majority before you met Robbie
Speaker 2: was not about was about you not having games.
Speaker 3: Which is the best game. That's the best game is
Speaker 3: not having game.
Speaker 4: It's just me.
Speaker 3: That's how Gamy. I am Gamey Gamy.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you're now claiming that you have which which
Speaker 2: ultimately is you not having game.
Speaker 4: Correct.
Speaker 3: It's like the double bluff and Traders.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: It reminds me of how when I ask you to
Speaker 2: explain something and you just repeat what you said without
Speaker 2: explaining to me.
Speaker 3: What I think we all have on this show. No.
Speaker 4: No, I that you have charm. I think you're charming
Speaker 4: and charismatic, yes, Riz, but I don't think you have game. No,
Speaker 4: And I don't think that's a negative.
Speaker 5: By having Sierra text him for a week before you Actually.
Speaker 2: No, so your game is bringing in others who have game, right,
Speaker 2: I mean, you know whatever it takes.
Speaker 5: For lack of game, which is adjustment you've made.
Speaker 3: It just depends on your perspective, truly.
Speaker 1: See, I don't think Tanya with a little respect, I
Speaker 1: don't think Tany has game. But I just looked at
Speaker 1: the etymology of Riz. I didn't realize it comes from charisma,
Speaker 1: which I would say you have you're when people.
Speaker 2: Okay, So the younger genera gen Z and younger I
Speaker 2: think riz is more, you have game.
Speaker 5: It's it's more.
Speaker 4: I don't think the younger kids like she's got charisma.
Speaker 3: Right, do you think you have RIZ?
Speaker 4: I think I can have RIZ.
Speaker 3: You don't think you use it. I think you use it.
Speaker 2: I don't like the word ooze personally, Riz and ooze
Speaker 2: together is too many.
Speaker 4: Za's No.
Speaker 5: I don't know Becca well enough in terms of like,
Speaker 5: I haven't been out in social events with you, out
Speaker 5: in the wild when you're single to know if you
Speaker 5: have RIZ or not. Yeah, Tanya, we know.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you something to you can have RIZ
Speaker 3: inside a relationship.
Speaker 5: See, I think you're you're you're customizing the definition of
Speaker 5: RIZ to fit your personality.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm. And that's fine.
Speaker 2: But we're talking about the generalization of the word and
Speaker 2: term RIZ, not what you have made.
Speaker 4: RIZ in your life.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I like to do that very millennial. But you do
Speaker 2: have future step children who are alpha.
Speaker 4: I think Jen Alfa jen alpha, and I need to know.
Speaker 4: I need you to ask them.
Speaker 3: If I have Yes, they're gonna say yeah, no, they're not.
Speaker 3: I'll let you know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, let me know, but I need video proof. I
Speaker 4: don't want to you're.
Speaker 3: Gonna tell me you can get it.
Speaker 2: Wow, I can't wait to see that cut up of
Speaker 2: Mark saying you do not have he.
Speaker 5: Riz the episode were told she wasn't cool. I remember
Speaker 5: that episode.
Speaker 4: I was reliving that too during that conversation, like the.
Speaker 5: Best of episode for just a second. Thing.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know what, everybody has that delusional friend and Hi,
Speaker 6: it's me.
Speaker 5: That's fine.
Speaker 3: Problem it's me.
Speaker 4: But you know this about yourself, which I think is
Speaker 4: your charm.
Speaker 5: We were in the car yesterday with my daughter and
Speaker 5: her friend, who are gen z, and I'm the problem.
Speaker 5: It's me. Anti Hero came on the Taylor Swift channel
Speaker 5: on the radio and that was and they were just like,
Speaker 5: I don't like this song. It's just so god high
Speaker 5: on the problem. It's me. And then at the exact
Speaker 5: same time that they both said, God, it's just so millennial.
Speaker 5: And then they're like, laugh that they just said it
Speaker 5: at the exact same time. Anyway, it is my joy
Speaker 5: watching my gen zs mock you millennials for being lame.
Speaker 5: It is so funny to me. It is endlessly entertaining.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think it's because I'm so long.
Speaker 5: It's so fun to watch the next generation become.
Speaker 4: Lame and then gen Z is gonna be lame to
Speaker 4: jen Alpha. It's just part of life, yes, exactly. So
Speaker 4: that's why.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I need I like being self aware of
Speaker 2: my millennialism, but also open to.
Speaker 3: The possibility, attached the alcohol.
Speaker 2: What gen Z is saying and talking about and listening
Speaker 2: and appreciating their input, engaging a little, but not attached
Speaker 2: to needing to be gen Z.
Speaker 6: That's huge, that's huge. I'm so glad you're on the
Speaker 6: other side.
Speaker 4: It's all see these girls.
Speaker 2: I'll be scrolling TikTok and this girl's like, here are
Speaker 2: my skin tips and she's like twenty two with flaw
Speaker 2: like no pores, and I'm.
Speaker 4: Like, okay, okay, I just need these products. And I'm like,
Speaker 4: this is not a product thing.
Speaker 2: This is you.
Speaker 3: Yeah literally, I know, and it'd be like that, Yeah
Speaker 3: that's the problem.
Speaker 4: Yeah it is. But the main message that I'm trying
Speaker 4: to say here is be attached to the possibility.
Speaker 6: I mean open to the possibility, not attached to the outcome.
Speaker 4: Right, So thank you all. For listening to your ted talk.
Speaker 6: Yes, I'm excited about it. I can't wait to see
Speaker 6: this new millennial.
Speaker 4: I don't know if anything's going to change. It's more
Speaker 4: of an internal.
Speaker 3: Oh the freedom I'm gonna feel from you, palpable.
Speaker 5: We need to talk about Tanya's packed. Yes, and we
Speaker 5: have audio to play as well.
Speaker 2: Okay, crazy is it her weird voice a little bit?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I love the weird voice, Donya.
Speaker 5: I mean it's higher.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, you have What what were you saying?
Speaker 6: I'll tell you this is if anybody out there is
Speaker 6: looking for the one, this might be why you haven't
Speaker 6: found them.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, what a teaser. We'll be right back.
Speaker 4: All right, we're back. You were very excited to share something.
Speaker 6: So you were talking about this marriage pact from Blake
Speaker 6: Blake from The Bachelor what's his last name?
Speaker 3: Moins?
Speaker 4: Who was talking about this and our pitch.
Speaker 3: Meeting or like in our meeting that we have with
Speaker 3: Sam every week?
Speaker 4: Who oh oh.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we talked about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Blake and Natalie from Love is Blind Yeah, Blake
Speaker 2: from the Bachelor, Natalie from Love is blinde.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I don't know his last name?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, So Blake Moins from The.
Speaker 6: Bachelor and Natalie Lee from Love Is Blind have a
Speaker 6: marriage packed. Basically, if they're not married by whatever age,
Speaker 6: then they will get married. Okay, and I too made
Speaker 6: one of those when I was younger. How old I
Speaker 6: think I was twenty three at the time, twenty three,
Speaker 6: twenty four, okay, maybe twenty five. And I made it
Speaker 6: with this guy named Andy, who was our engineer at
Speaker 6: the time on the Morning show. If we weren't married
Speaker 6: by the age of forty, we would Mary.
Speaker 5: I think he was younger than that. But let's listen back,
Speaker 5: shall we. Yeah, November one, twenty nineteen, this is when
Speaker 5: we called Andy about it. But here Ryan sets up
Speaker 5: the premise.
Speaker 2: We have a packed, So you have a pack that
Speaker 2: if you're not with somebody or married in how many
Speaker 2: years by.
Speaker 6: The time I'm thirty three, so I have, so you
Speaker 6: have for about six years.
Speaker 3: Well, here's the thing. I think Andy is attractive.
Speaker 5: Andy, come here for a second. Thank you.
Speaker 4: He is a good looking guy, and you think he's smart.
Speaker 3: I think he's attractive and smart, and I do think
Speaker 3: he's nice. Yeah, but we work together.
Speaker 4: So that's.
Speaker 5: Sorry. So that was the original. That was the original
Speaker 5: talk of the pact and I don't have a date
Speaker 5: on that.
Speaker 3: That's fine.
Speaker 6: So that was a pack that I made when I
Speaker 6: was doing calling. In the one my workbook, it basically
Speaker 6: one of the whole chapters was about going through these
Speaker 6: packs that you made and dissolving them because they're basically
Speaker 6: telling the universe I'm good, I don't need your I
Speaker 6: don't need you anymore because I'm good, I made a pact.
Speaker 6: I'm going to get married to this person if I'm
Speaker 6: not married by thirty three.
Speaker 5: That was June fifteen, So.
Speaker 6: You're sending out these signals that you don't need that
Speaker 6: in your life. I called Andy, this guy who meanwhile
Speaker 6: in this very moment has like a girlfriend that he's
Speaker 6: had a serious girlfriend for like how many years?
Speaker 3: He's married now he's married now.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so he's not thinking about the pact. But I
Speaker 6: had to call him to dissolve our marriage pact.
Speaker 5: This was November one, twenty nineteen, And let me get
Speaker 5: Andy online. Andy, how are you?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I got it?
Speaker 3: So Andy.
Speaker 6: I'm working through this workbook and it's basically how to
Speaker 6: call in the love of my life. And I one
Speaker 6: of the practices was if you've made any sort of
Speaker 6: agreements in your past marriage agreements that you need to
Speaker 6: really phone in on why you made that agreement and
Speaker 6: then call that person to dissolve the agreement. So I
Speaker 6: wrote it down. Okay, I made a marriage packed with
Speaker 6: my coworker Andy. I made this pack from a place
Speaker 6: of doubt and fear. This is not the marriage that
Speaker 6: I want. I want to dissolve the pack because I'm
Speaker 6: removing all the obstacles. I have, all the obstacles that
Speaker 6: I've subconsciously put in my way. I want to clear
Speaker 6: the space to call in the one I love and
Speaker 6: I know that I deserve.
Speaker 5: So are you breaking up with them?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 6: So that was November one, twenty nineteen. And when did
Speaker 6: I meet Robbie Yadegar?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: November fifth, twenty nineteen.
Speaker 4: Wow, oh wow. I don't think you would have met
Speaker 4: him if you hadn't dissolved it.
Speaker 6: I don't think so either, Yeah, because that would have
Speaker 6: been in the universe and I didn't need to meet him.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I blocked it. Well that's of power.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So, Blake Moins and Natalie Lee, if you're listening.
Speaker 4: Should we call them?
Speaker 2: Should?
Speaker 3: I want you to know that the marriage Packed might
Speaker 3: not be.
Speaker 6: The best move if they're looking, if they're really for
Speaker 6: the one for the one.
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, it's really interesting.
Speaker 2: You've had people message you and say they did the
Speaker 2: workbook and then they met their person.
Speaker 3: Correct.
Speaker 4: I've seen no negative in this journey.
Speaker 3: I'm with you.
Speaker 4: If people are willing to do the.
Speaker 2: Work and dissolve the packs and read and do homework,
Speaker 2: I see no issue with it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, do you spend that timing to be crazy? November first?
Speaker 6: I called off my uh.
Speaker 2: I also think though, that you believe in the invisible
Speaker 2: string theory, which means that you and Robbie would have
Speaker 2: connected either way. So these are conflicting thoughts that I
Speaker 2: need you to pick aside. Were you all invisible string
Speaker 2: or was Did you call him in because you've dissolved
Speaker 2: your pack?
Speaker 3: You can't. It's like you never know, you can't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they don't align, you know. I've stumped her, y'all.
Speaker 2: She's petting the desk, she's wiping away an invisible surface.
Speaker 3: So have you ever talked.
Speaker 4: To Andy since that? No, he's like, hey, yeah again.
Speaker 6: I think he's like, I'm happily married, please lose my number.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just like straight up.
Speaker 5: Oh, jeez.
Speaker 6: Yeah, he's like, I haven't thought about that in fifteen years.
Speaker 3: But it's fine. So anyways, all right, marriage packs don't
Speaker 3: make them.
Speaker 5: And great work book.
Speaker 3: Great work book.
Speaker 6: Although I found out recently that the one who wrote
Speaker 6: that book is divorced.
Speaker 4: It happens like that sometimes.
Speaker 2: Really, there was a guy who like started all the
Speaker 2: gay conversion therapies, like he was super religious, and you
Speaker 2: know which started these camps or kids would go and
Speaker 2: they would like basically.
Speaker 4: Beat the gay out of them. I don't know, Oh
Speaker 4: my gosh, this is a real thing. People go to
Speaker 4: conversion therapy. It's real.
Speaker 2: But he was one of the ones that started it,
Speaker 2: and now he is married to a man.
Speaker 5: Well that's how it always happens, these people, these politicians.
Speaker 5: The more anti gay they are, the more gay they
Speaker 5: tend to become.
Speaker 2: I've gone to the point where if someone says something homophobic,
Speaker 2: if they take the time to say something homophobic online,
Speaker 2: I just assume that they're battling their own.
Speaker 4: Issues, because why do you care?
Speaker 2: Like I think I I cared very heavily about that
Speaker 2: because I think maybe deep down I was like maybe
Speaker 2: I'm you know.
Speaker 6: Really you cared heavily about it, and your head was
Speaker 6: like super Christian religious.
Speaker 2: I grew up with like that's bad, don't do that.
Speaker 2: So I think I projected a lot. And now when
Speaker 2: I see other people do it, I go, maybe they're
Speaker 2: struggling with their own sexuality anyways, that but yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: so anyways, was there anything else?
Speaker 4: Are we done? I have like more to.
Speaker 3: Talk about, but are we We're not done?
Speaker 4: When you talk about no, I was going to talk about.
Speaker 2: Well, Rebel Wilson had a she released her.
Speaker 4: Memoir memoir memoir, Rebel Rising.
Speaker 5: Yeah it was really correctly by the way Becca memoir, Yeah.
Speaker 4: Oh I really. Yeah's always told me I say it wrong?
Speaker 4: Was that you? Anyway? Rebel Rising?
Speaker 2: And she revealed that she lost her virginity at thirty five,
Speaker 2: which in our society today is like ancient.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2: And I was talking about this on our call. I
Speaker 2: was saying that when I was on the Bachelor, it
Speaker 2: really struggled because I was on the Bachelor with Caitlin
Speaker 2: Bristow and she was very like open and comfortable with
Speaker 2: her sexuality in terms of being very sexual and you know,
Speaker 2: comfortable with that and especially as the bachelorette. And I
Speaker 2: remember that I would get a lot of negativity. For
Speaker 2: I would get a lot of positivity about being a virgin,
Speaker 2: but I got a lot of negativity about it too.
Speaker 2: But people would defend Caitlin and be like who cares
Speaker 2: how like who she slept with or what she does
Speaker 2: with her body, Like you know, I saw people defending that,
Speaker 2: and then I would get so much hate for still
Speaker 2: being a virgin, and it was like, where is why
Speaker 2: are we not talking in the same way about It's saving.
Speaker 6: Crazy to me that people get so much hate for
Speaker 6: being a virgin, Like I don't understand where that comes from.
Speaker 2: Like the same concept though, like it's your body, so
Speaker 2: you get to choose what you do with your body.
Speaker 6: And I think the problem is I think our society
Speaker 6: is so gong ho on the other way, like in
Speaker 6: terms of pushing the just.
Speaker 3: Have sex, have fun, you're young, be free, do what
Speaker 3: you want. Yeah, live it up. And I'm like, not
Speaker 3: everybody's like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say say not everyone can have
Speaker 2: casual sex, and there are people who can and they're
Speaker 2: just like, it's my body and I celebrate it and
Speaker 2: I want to enjoy it with somebody else, right, But
Speaker 2: there's also people.
Speaker 4: That it can cause a lot of pain, pain, and
Speaker 4: like there's a lot of emotional connection to it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think it's I think that if I
Speaker 2: could encourage people, it's that if you are still a
Speaker 2: virgin and you feel like you're behind in terms of
Speaker 2: being comfortable sharing that or feeling confident in yourself, there's
Speaker 2: no time limit for.
Speaker 4: What part of your body you share with somebody.
Speaker 6: Else, or if you're not a virgin, Like I lost
Speaker 6: my virginity at nineteen and I was having like after
Speaker 6: I broke up with this one boyfriend of mine, I
Speaker 6: was like having unattached sex, and I felt so bad
Speaker 6: about myself, Like I hated that period. And I did
Speaker 6: it because everybody told me just do it, say you
Speaker 6: get over him, get under other people.
Speaker 3: And I was like, that's not me.
Speaker 6: And so that's when I decided. I was like, I'm
Speaker 6: not having unattached sex anymore. I want to have sex
Speaker 6: inside of a committed a relationship. And I waited for many,
Speaker 6: many years, and like that, I think is so important
Speaker 6: to recognize what's important to you, what feels right to you,
Speaker 6: and you know, it doesn't matter what other people are doing.
Speaker 2: I think it's just a very celebrated thing of like,
Speaker 2: do what you want, there's no consequences, it's your body.
Speaker 2: But I also think on the flip side there, it's
Speaker 2: okay to do it how you want to, regardless of
Speaker 2: what that looks like. So I thought that was very
Speaker 2: insightful and I'm glad you shared that because I think
Speaker 2: that people reading that will feel.
Speaker 4: A lot better about or it feels interesting.
Speaker 2: I think maybe people who are going through that and
Speaker 2: maybe they're in their mid thirties and they're feeling behind
Speaker 2: or whatever. Seeing someone who's in the public eye and
Speaker 2: who's celebrity saying that that was her experience too, I
Speaker 2: think is really encouraging.
Speaker 6: I think so too. And you don't hear it often.
Speaker 6: You don't so Rebel Wilson. Everybody can pick up that memoir.
Speaker 3: Rebel Rising wherever you get your books.
Speaker 2: Do we have time for an email or are we
Speaker 2: pushing it? We're pushing it, all right, Dona pushing it.
Speaker 2: We do have a Thursday episode this week. We're talking
Speaker 2: to Alexia Umansky.
Speaker 6: Yes, you may know her from buying Beverly Hills, the
Speaker 6: show on Netflix. She is the daughter of Kyle Richards
Speaker 6: and Mauricio Umanski, so we all know that that's been
Speaker 6: in the headlines a lot lately. So we will be
Speaker 6: chatting with her this Thursday, and we can't wait.
Speaker 4: We can't wait. We love you so much, Love you Bye.