WEBVTT - Lisa Goes On a Restrictive Diet

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<v Speaker 1>I won't lend my body out, be out everything that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm made do, won't spend my life trying to change.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm learning to love who I am. I get I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel free, I know who every part of me

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<v Speaker 1>is beautiful, and I will always out way. If you

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<v Speaker 1>feel it with your hays in the air, she'll love

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<v Speaker 1>to the poet there. Let's say you one day and

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<v Speaker 1>time did you and die out? Welcome back out Way family, Lisa. Here,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing a solo episode sharing with you what happened

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<v Speaker 1>when I went on a restrictive diet. Now, heads up,

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<v Speaker 1>this was not a restrictive diet for weight loss or

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<v Speaker 1>anything related to the way my physical body looks. However,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that a lot of people go on other

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<v Speaker 1>types of diets, whether they're not for weight loss, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>there for health or some other reason, and they find

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<v Speaker 1>themselves in a bad spot without meaning to. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people that go on restrictive

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<v Speaker 1>diets for weight loss also find themselves in a bad

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<v Speaker 1>place without meaning to, and it happens very subtly no

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<v Speaker 1>matter what the reason for the restrictions are. Now, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to mention here that the reason that I went

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<v Speaker 1>on a restrictive diet was meant to be very short term.

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<v Speaker 1>It was meant to help me learn something, and most importantly,

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<v Speaker 1>I felt far enough away from my history of disordered

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<v Speaker 1>eating to do this with the understanding that if things

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<v Speaker 1>got murky, it would have to come to an even

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<v Speaker 1>shorter stop than it was intended for. So I think

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<v Speaker 1>that for anybody here who's in recovery or in the

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<v Speaker 1>thick of it, going on any sort of a restrictive

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<v Speaker 1>diet for any of those reasons that may not be

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<v Speaker 1>related to the way you look, should really be done

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<v Speaker 1>with proper assessment of where you are emotionally mentally with

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<v Speaker 1>your relationship to food and self, and getting really real

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<v Speaker 1>and honest with yourself, because I think those things can

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<v Speaker 1>get clouded sometimes and we can convince ourselves that we

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<v Speaker 1>have to do these things, when in reality it's just

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<v Speaker 1>the guys for wanting to control our bodies. So the

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<v Speaker 1>backstory here is that I won't I won't bore anybody

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<v Speaker 1>too much with the details, but I had a baby

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<v Speaker 1>four or five months ago. Hopefully you all know that

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<v Speaker 1>solely and um I have been nursing, primarily so breastfeeding,

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<v Speaker 1>but directly her to my breast and it's been amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>I had no idea how much I would love nursing

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<v Speaker 1>and how connected to it I would be from a

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<v Speaker 1>mindfulness perspective. It has been my saving grace in this

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<v Speaker 1>postpartum time that has been really difficult. Those carved out

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<v Speaker 1>many hours of the day where all I'm doing is

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<v Speaker 1>one thing. I don't think we have many times in

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<v Speaker 1>our life where we are able to carve out so

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<v Speaker 1>much time, too monotask to do one thing, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>so healthy for us and um this became my my

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<v Speaker 1>grounding point of the day. Amiss. The difficulty out of

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<v Speaker 1>the blue nursing became an issue and my daughter was

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<v Speaker 1>not responding to it the way that she normally did,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was upsetting because I felt to blame. I

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<v Speaker 1>felt that I had to figure it out, and I

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<v Speaker 1>also had no alternate ways of feeding her. Fed is best.

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people run into breastfeeding issues

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<v Speaker 1>and turned to formula or donor breast milk or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it is. But for me, I had zero stores of

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<v Speaker 1>breast milk and my daughter, for whatever reason, rejected the formula.

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<v Speaker 1>So I felt very stressed to figure out what this

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<v Speaker 1>issue was and the first place I wanted to look

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<v Speaker 1>was my milk, my diet. She was having reflex like symptoms,

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<v Speaker 1>and I wanted to see if there was anything in

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<v Speaker 1>my diet that could be causing that. Now, a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people have told me, you know, eat anything when

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<v Speaker 1>you're when you're breastfeeding, it doesn't matter. It's all the same.

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<v Speaker 1>And as much as I really did kind of think

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<v Speaker 1>that that was going to be the case, I felt

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<v Speaker 1>like I had to explore that and exhaust that before

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<v Speaker 1>moving on from what felt really good for me and

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<v Speaker 1>what I thought is the best thing for her if

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<v Speaker 1>it would work for us. This requires a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>backstory because I I want to make sure that this

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<v Speaker 1>episode isn't triggering and you really understand where I was

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<v Speaker 1>coming from and the information that I had in my

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<v Speaker 1>mind as a registered dietitian when it comes to elimination diet. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>as registered dietitians, we oftentimes do help people figure out

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<v Speaker 1>what is the root cause of their digestive issues by

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<v Speaker 1>way of what's called the gold standard of the elimination diet.

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<v Speaker 1>So elimination diet, you work hopefully with a professional, and

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<v Speaker 1>you cut out a lot of food and then you

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<v Speaker 1>slowly reintroduce them so that you can figure out what

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<v Speaker 1>the issue is. It is intended to be very short

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<v Speaker 1>term to help you assess what the issue is, figure

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<v Speaker 1>it out, and then resume to hopefully having a normal

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<v Speaker 1>relationship to food and um a healthy and a happy

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<v Speaker 1>one as well. Granted, elimination diets are not my specialty.

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<v Speaker 1>I had to wherewithal to understand what they involve, that

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<v Speaker 1>they are short term and all of that. However, despite

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<v Speaker 1>um what I always tell you all to be really

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<v Speaker 1>cautious of the Internet and to use your own inner knowing,

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<v Speaker 1>I got swallowed up by the noise, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>we all kind of find ourselves there in times of desperation.

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<v Speaker 1>I was desperate to figure out what was wrong, and

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<v Speaker 1>so I looked towards experts. Google. How many times have

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<v Speaker 1>you googled how to lose weight or how to do

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<v Speaker 1>this or that and somebody, an expert comes up and

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<v Speaker 1>they gain your trust immediately, essentially, because you need that

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<v Speaker 1>rescue boat when it's coming by and you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you're drowning. Right, So for me, I've started googling reflex

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<v Speaker 1>baby diet, you know whatever her and I found some

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<v Speaker 1>woman not even a registered dietitian. But keep in mind,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that only registered dietitians are the experts

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to nutrition, So I am open minded

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to that. But I didn't even look

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<v Speaker 1>into this woman's credentials at all or her training. But

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<v Speaker 1>she was offering a free master class on how to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out what's causing the reflux in your baby, and

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<v Speaker 1>so it was free. I was down. I took the course,

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<v Speaker 1>and wow, um, it basically was an even more restrictive

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<v Speaker 1>elimination diet than I could even imagine ever prescribing to

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<v Speaker 1>somebody because of the specific foods that could affect reflux.

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<v Speaker 1>The plan is kind of like there's there's foods that

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<v Speaker 1>you start with and then you introduce more and more.

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<v Speaker 1>But the original list was probably like ten to eighteen foods,

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<v Speaker 1>which might sound like a lot, but it's really not.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, first of all, a lot of the foods

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even enjoy or eat, and then the other

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<v Speaker 1>foods are just kind of random, and it was very

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<v Speaker 1>hard to assemble a meal or a snack given these guidelines.

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<v Speaker 1>So from this process, I got to really take a

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<v Speaker 1>trip down memory lane and remember what it was like

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<v Speaker 1>to be on these diets all the time, and what

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<v Speaker 1>I gained was invaluable compassion for myself, my younger self.

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<v Speaker 1>I gained compassion for people who do have to be

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<v Speaker 1>on restrictive diets for medical reasons, and an understanding of

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<v Speaker 1>how limiting that is and how effective it is to

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<v Speaker 1>the rest of your life, because when we restrict for

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<v Speaker 1>medical reasons or not, if your brain is like mine,

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<v Speaker 1>which if you're listening it, it may be uh, these

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<v Speaker 1>types of thoughts that start to happen and and behaviors

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<v Speaker 1>happen really quickly. So, like I said here, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that it's great to rely on experts. You

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<v Speaker 1>should always check out their their credentials, but really take

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<v Speaker 1>note of when something doesn't feel right for you and

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<v Speaker 1>honor that. I want to share with you what happened

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<v Speaker 1>to me on this diet that were red flags that

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<v Speaker 1>you should look out for when you're on any type

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<v Speaker 1>of diet at all, because I think they're kind of uniform.

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<v Speaker 1>These are the things that happen when we restrict, whether

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<v Speaker 1>it's calories, whether it's food groups, whether it's for a

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<v Speaker 1>very short period of time as mine were intended to be.

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<v Speaker 1>So that you can be on the lookout for when

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<v Speaker 1>things turn south. I don't think this lasted more than

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<v Speaker 1>four or five days. And yet the amount of things

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<v Speaker 1>that started to arise for me and the notes that

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<v Speaker 1>I took to share with you all, it happened so quickly.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that they're also really easy to miss,

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<v Speaker 1>especially when we're going for whatever it is we're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to fix or heal or figure out. It's easy to

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<v Speaker 1>to miss these signs. So I want to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>you about what happened for me so that you can

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<v Speaker 1>be on the lookout and really evaluate what's going on

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<v Speaker 1>and is this healthy or or really helping anymore if

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<v Speaker 1>you are on those sort of restrictive diet plans for

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<v Speaker 1>any number of reasons. So the first thing that happened

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<v Speaker 1>I want to talk about because it's it's very common

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<v Speaker 1>and disordered eating and eating disorders. It's it's probably one

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<v Speaker 1>of the biggest hallmarks of an eating disorder, true eating disorder. However,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think we talked about this at all, and

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<v Speaker 1>it involves cooking for other people. Now, this is a

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<v Speaker 1>telltale sign of one sign. This is a telltale sign

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<v Speaker 1>in the context of any other signs of anorexia. A

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people with anorexia love to cook and create

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<v Speaker 1>food for other people, but they don't eat it themselves. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>for me, I was so hungry and frustrated and bored

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<v Speaker 1>with what I was eating that it did inspire me

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<v Speaker 1>to get back into the kitchen and start playing around

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<v Speaker 1>with the foods that I could have and seasoning them

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<v Speaker 1>in a way that actually inspired me in a positive way.

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<v Speaker 1>Where now I'm back in the kitchen after I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know this pandemic, I've just been eating lots of frozen

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<v Speaker 1>foods and not using my own imagination at all, and

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<v Speaker 1>cooking is very meditative for me. But aside from my

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<v Speaker 1>own meals, I just wanted to be in the kitchen

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<v Speaker 1>as much as I could to. I was cooking Evan

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<v Speaker 1>meals that he could eat and almost drooling over them.

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<v Speaker 1>And again, it sounds kind of fine, like what's the

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<v Speaker 1>big deal about cooking for other people, But I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's an important one to kind of have in the

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<v Speaker 1>back of your mind if you find yourself making all

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<v Speaker 1>these elaborate meals but then not eating them yourself. Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was interesting because that is definitely something that

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<v Speaker 1>I used to do all the time when I was disordered,

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<v Speaker 1>the thoughts about food came in crashing like waves. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>all I could do was think about food, order groceries.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I needed more groceries because I were so

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<v Speaker 1>little foods that I could eat. But my brain was

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<v Speaker 1>just occupied with thoughts of food pretty much at all times.

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<v Speaker 1>I started to make really strange combinations of food. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I was desperate for something to taste good, and I'd

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<v Speaker 1>come up with these strange things, and after a day

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<v Speaker 1>or two of eating them, they became my, Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited to eat them. And I'm not going

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<v Speaker 1>to say what the foods were because I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>it to be triggering to anybody in any way. But

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<v Speaker 1>I mean Evan would kind of look at me and

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<v Speaker 1>be like, that's your dessert, and I'm like, I know, buddy,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, I have, I have. It was only

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<v Speaker 1>five days, so I wasn't fully entrenched in it to

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<v Speaker 1>know that this was normal. But I mean, your brain

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<v Speaker 1>just starts to come up with weird things to put

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<v Speaker 1>together to get any sort of satisfaction from the flavors,

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<v Speaker 1>and you start to really think that that's what good is,

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<v Speaker 1>and it reminded me of the disordered days when I

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<v Speaker 1>would only eat diet ice cream and eat a pint

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<v Speaker 1>of of the this, you know, guilt free ice cream

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<v Speaker 1>at night, and when my friends would come over, i'd

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<v Speaker 1>offer it to them and that I was so excited

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<v Speaker 1>for them to enjoy it the way that I did,

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<v Speaker 1>and they'd be like, that's not ice cream, Lisa. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>At the time, I was too in the thick of

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<v Speaker 1>it to really recognize how my mind or my taste

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<v Speaker 1>buds evolved to consider this to be delicious. But you know,

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<v Speaker 1>here out ten years of this and only doing this

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<v Speaker 1>for a couple of days, it was very obvious to

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<v Speaker 1>me that what I was eating was not a dessert,

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<v Speaker 1>and yet I was calling it a dessert. Another huge

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<v Speaker 1>one is that I was talking about this diet that

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<v Speaker 1>I was on at all times. Granted, we're in pandemic

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<v Speaker 1>mode over here. I know a lot of people traveled

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<v Speaker 1>for the holidays, but Um, having a baby and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>pretty afraid of COVID and all these things that we're

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<v Speaker 1>going on with her digestion, the last thing I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to do was be around anybody. So I haven't been

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<v Speaker 1>around many people. So when I stay talking about my diet.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean mainly to Evan, and I don't think he

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<v Speaker 1>picked up on it, but I did because I'm able

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<v Speaker 1>to be really honest with myself about it. But I

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<v Speaker 1>was looking for validation for doing it, some sort of

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<v Speaker 1>an applause. Um. I wanted to let people know that

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<v Speaker 1>I was doing it, you know, And I caught myself

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<v Speaker 1>needing this external validation, this pat on the back, this

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<v Speaker 1>look at how much you know, discipline I have, look

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<v Speaker 1>at all that I'm doing for our baby. It kind

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<v Speaker 1>of translated to this time. And I certainly know that

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<v Speaker 1>in my previous disordered days, you know, I was always

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<v Speaker 1>telling people about what I was and wasn't eating. And

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<v Speaker 1>I know from being around lots of people now the present, Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's very noisy when other people are on diets because

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<v Speaker 1>they love to talk about it. They love to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about how it's working, or they love to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>how it's not working. But either way, they're talking about

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<v Speaker 1>it because that's what their mind is filled with. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's that validation factor. So that is a

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<v Speaker 1>huge red flag to look out for if you find

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<v Speaker 1>yourself doing that, to really ask yourself, why am I

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<v Speaker 1>doing this? Like, is it really working if it requires validation.

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<v Speaker 1>I found myself in really bad moods. I was hungry,

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<v Speaker 1>I was in hanger moods. Um, I was just frustrated

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. Like I kind of said with with

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<v Speaker 1>the desserts, I had an odd idea of what was

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<v Speaker 1>considered an indulgence, and it happened very rapidly in just

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<v Speaker 1>a few days of what I considered to be a

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<v Speaker 1>sweet or a dessert really changed into something that's definitely

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<v Speaker 1>not a sweet and definitely not a dessert. As mentioned,

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<v Speaker 1>this was only a couple of days, and to be honest,

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<v Speaker 1>on day one, I couldn't even do it. I broke

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<v Speaker 1>the rule on day one, and I started to feel

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<v Speaker 1>like a failure. I felt like I can't even do

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<v Speaker 1>this for a day, and it's for my daughter, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, all those those that negative self talk just

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<v Speaker 1>came flooding back into my mind. And I think that

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that I had to break it because it

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<v Speaker 1>was so restrictive is the same feeling like we need

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<v Speaker 1>to break it no matter what we're on. And I

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<v Speaker 1>find it fascinating because you would think we can do

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<v Speaker 1>anything for a day, right, Like it would be easy

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<v Speaker 1>to just eat butternut squash and salmon plain grills for

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<v Speaker 1>one day, right, I could do that every day? But

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't because of the frustrations that that I had

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<v Speaker 1>felt and the breaking of the rules, which is sometimes necessary,

0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:48.680
<v Speaker 1>like in my case it was it was too restrictive

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<v Speaker 1>and and too unsustainable even for a day. How quickly

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<v Speaker 1>that made me feel like a failure and I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying now that the diet was too restrictive and

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<v Speaker 1>that's it didn't work. But in that moment, I was

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<v Speaker 1>the failure, not the list of approved eighteen foods or

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it was that I could eat. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's really important to take a look at that negative

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<v Speaker 1>self talk, how quickly it comes in, and the conversations

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<v Speaker 1>that that you're having with yourself. As soon as we

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<v Speaker 1>start messing with our healthy relationship to food, the voice

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<v Speaker 1>in our in our brains, or in my brain at least,

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<v Speaker 1>really started to shift. And I think it's something to

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<v Speaker 1>look out for, because again, like I consider myself a professional,

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<v Speaker 1>I help people do this. I'm really good at noticing

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<v Speaker 1>the noise, and yet there it was seeping in. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>really proud of all the work that I've done in

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<v Speaker 1>the past to kind of know even after four days, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think this is even helping my baby. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to stick with it because I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>going to be stubborn or you know, like I said earlier,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of these diets start out for a reason

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<v Speaker 1>but morph into something else because of the control that

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<v Speaker 1>it gives us. I was able to say, this isn't

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<v Speaker 1>working for my mental health, it's not working for my

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<v Speaker 1>physical health. Uh. And if it is improving the milk

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<v Speaker 1>situation in any way, it's certainly um affecting everything else

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<v Speaker 1>far worse. My well being is very poor. I'm miserable,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm angry, and for what reason? Right, I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 1>make nursing a positive experience and yet here I am miserable.

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<v Speaker 1>At what cost? We really have to ask ourselves. So

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<v Speaker 1>those were some of the things that I noticed that

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to share with you. I think it's not

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<v Speaker 1>so often that a professional like me or somebody that's

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<v Speaker 1>been through it, uh and it's really open with it,

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<v Speaker 1>goes on a restrictive diet, and I thought having this

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity to share with you all about it, UM was

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<v Speaker 1>really insightful for me um as a health practitioner, also

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<v Speaker 1>helpful for me as somebody who it's been many years

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<v Speaker 1>since I've experienced those types of thoughts and frustrations and

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<v Speaker 1>negative self talk around food, and I think it was

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<v Speaker 1>also really important to show my younger self compassion for

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<v Speaker 1>all those years that I lived that way. Years years, years,

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<v Speaker 1>and I lived that way, and I thought that's who

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<v Speaker 1>I was. I thought that negative voice was my voice.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that was the only way to be healthy.

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<v Speaker 1>I had no idea how important mental health was, or

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<v Speaker 1>even that mine was hurting at the time, so it

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<v Speaker 1>was it was really an incredible opportunity that I just

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<v Speaker 1>had to share with you all. I also want to

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<v Speaker 1>just reinforce here the importance of working with a professional

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<v Speaker 1>if you do have digestive issues and you are looking

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<v Speaker 1>to consider an elimination diet. Even as a registered dietitian,

0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:32.359
<v Speaker 1>I should have been working with somebody. I should have

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<v Speaker 1>had somebody holding me accountable. I should have had somebody

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<v Speaker 1>helping me weed through the foods themselves. It's a very

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<v Speaker 1>complicated process. It's not as as straightforward as you know,

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<v Speaker 1>eating one food today, adding another one in. It takes

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<v Speaker 1>your body a few days to adjust to figure these

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<v Speaker 1>things out, and because it is emotionally taxing, having somebody

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<v Speaker 1>there to also hold your hand through it, through anything

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<v Speaker 1>difficult is incredibly helpful. So do not do that I did.

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<v Speaker 1>Do not do a webinar and then take matters into

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<v Speaker 1>your own hands, no matter how competent you feel, work

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<v Speaker 1>with a professional and um I believe that the result

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<v Speaker 1>will be not only help you figure out what you're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to figure out much more quickly, but much more enjoyably.

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<v Speaker 1>And having that support system really is key. All right.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to share that quickly with you. I

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that it was interesting and in the least

0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:27.000
<v Speaker 1>it was very interesting to me. And I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>really important to think about these red flags when we

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<v Speaker 1>go on any sort of diet for any sort of reason,

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<v Speaker 1>so that we can always pull the curtain back and say, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on, be real with ourselves, and sometimes throw

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<v Speaker 1>that out the door and prioritize our mental health. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you all for being here and allowing me to

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<v Speaker 1>share this personal story with you. I hope you found

0:18:47.119 --> 0:18:49.840
<v Speaker 1>it interesting or at least insightful. I hope you walk

0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:52.720
<v Speaker 1>away with some concrete things to look for if you

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<v Speaker 1>ever find yourself on a diet for some reason or another.

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<v Speaker 1>As you go through the life cycle, there could be

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<v Speaker 1>many reasons that your health takes a toy us to return,

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<v Speaker 1>and you do need to figure out what's going on

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<v Speaker 1>with certain foods um In my case, I think it

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<v Speaker 1>had nothing to do with diet, but I really had

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<v Speaker 1>to figure it out in order to get there, and

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<v Speaker 1>what came up for me was really interesting and I

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<v Speaker 1>hope that it helps you whenever you need it to

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<v Speaker 1>shine light on some strange things that you're doing and

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<v Speaker 1>helps you take a moment to evaluate where you are

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<v Speaker 1>and where you want to go so that you can

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<v Speaker 1>prioritize your mental health. Thanks everyone for being here, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll see you next week. On that way,