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Speaker 1: Strawberry leta subject My holy lover's daily life, A double life,

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Speaker 1: My holy Lover's double life. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in

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Speaker 1: my pastor and my marriage counselor. I went to my

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Speaker 1: pastor a year ago to get spiritual guidance so I

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Speaker 1: was thinking about cheating and had one foot out the door.

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Speaker 1: My pastor is married, so I meet with his wife

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Speaker 1: on Wednesdays for spiritual guidance, and I meet with them

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Speaker 1: both once a week to overcome the boredom in my marriage.

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Speaker 1: Over the course of a few weeks, my pastor found

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Speaker 1: out about my past life as a dancer, and he

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Speaker 1: used it to his advantage. He told me that if

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Speaker 1: He told his wife that it's best for it's best

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Speaker 1: so I lost my mind temporarily and went over to

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Speaker 1: deal with him. He's been paying me for dances for

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Speaker 1: the last three weeks, and not only did it fire

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Speaker 1: my real moneymaker. Although I'm thirty six years old, I'm

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Speaker 1: still in great shape and I have all I need

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Speaker 1: to get the bills paid. Pastor is a lot happier too,

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Speaker 1: and he has told me that my marriage will never

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Speaker 1: and the stability that he provides, but the pastor is

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Speaker 1: well endowed and makes me feel like myself again. My

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Speaker 1: holy lover has a double life, and I'm so confused

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Speaker 1: about what I should do. Should I end my affair

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Speaker 1: with my pastor should you end your affair with the pastor?

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Speaker 1: You ask, well, you know what they say if you

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Speaker 1: got to ask, and I'll answer you this way. Do

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Speaker 1: you want to go straight to Hell? Is that what

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Speaker 1: you're aiming for here? Straight there? Is that what you're

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Speaker 1: trying to do because you're stripping for your pastor? Okay,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you've completely wrapped your mind around that.

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Speaker 1: Of course, he of all people should know better. I

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Speaker 1: mean not only that instead of leading you to Christ,

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Speaker 1: he's corrupting you in the worst way. I mean, nothing

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Speaker 1: about this is right. You know this, Nothing about this

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Speaker 1: is godly, nothing about this as Christian, Nothing about this

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Speaker 1: is helping you in your marriage. Nothing. It's just wrong

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Speaker 1: on every level. I mean, there's some things in life

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Speaker 1: this is one of them. There's nothing redeeming in this letter,

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Speaker 1: and I just got to say it again. You're stripping

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Speaker 1: for your pastor, your lap dancing for your pastor, you're

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Speaker 1: married pastor. The same pastor who talked badly about your man,

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Speaker 1: he talked about that? I don't know. This is terrible.

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Speaker 1: He's in no position, this pastor, to give you any advice.

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Speaker 1: And I don't want you to be confused any longer

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Speaker 1: this pastor. This is foolishness. Have you even considered that

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Speaker 1: his wife may come in his office at some point

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Speaker 1: to live that down? I just don't understand what you're doing.

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Speaker 1: This is craziness. You gotta you gotta let this go.

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Speaker 1: And the pastor does not need to be a pastor. Steve, uh,

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Speaker 1: what It's a lot about vote folk. Uh. Just Stephen

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Speaker 1: Sherley I'm in a three way love affair with a

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Speaker 1: man that is my pastor and marriage counselor. Here's your

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Speaker 1: counseled you. He hadn't counseled you right into his arms.

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Speaker 1: That's the counseling he did. I went to my past

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Speaker 1: I'm counseling this hill. So then you said you had

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Speaker 1: you meet his wife on Wednesdays for spiritual guidance. Now

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Speaker 1: this this is why Wensday's right here, because you go

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Speaker 1: overcome the boredom in my marriage. Wait, I'm confused. You

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Speaker 1: go talk to another man couple to overcome the boredom

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Speaker 1: in your marriage, but you leave your husband at home, right,

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Speaker 1: I don't understand how you accomplished getting over boredom when

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Speaker 1: you got When you're taking up time to meet with

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Speaker 1: them both and just her on Wednesdays, that's two meetings

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Speaker 1: a week where you could be at the house being excited.

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Speaker 1: All right, Hang on, Steve, Yeah, hang on. We'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject my holy

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Speaker 1: Lover's double life. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to Harvey Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject my only Lover's

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Speaker 1: double life, my holy lover's double life, and YO double

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Speaker 1: life too. Hell, I'm a three way love affair with

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Speaker 1: he then counseled you right into his arms. I went

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Speaker 1: I was thinking about cheating that had one foot out

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Speaker 1: that you was thinking about cheating. Oh duly noted. Then

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Speaker 1: your pastor is married too, so you meet with his

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Speaker 1: wife on Wednesday. We're gonna call e wyld Wednesdays. All

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Speaker 1: whacky Wednesdays were having the whacky ass meeting with the

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Speaker 1: You told him see you the gators due all he needed.

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Speaker 1: Let's think about this. You told your husband your board,

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Speaker 1: and you've told you pastor you board. You didn't told

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Speaker 1: don't understand that counselor at all, but okay. He told

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Speaker 1: kind of letter is this? It don't make no sense,

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Speaker 1: But the pastor is well and dobed. It makes me

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Speaker 1: feel like myself again. My holy lover has a double life,

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Speaker 1: and I'm so confused. You got one too about what

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Speaker 1: I should do. Now here's the golden line in this

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Speaker 1: whole thing. Should I end my affair with my pastor? Lady?

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Speaker 1: How to sound to you? Right? Shirley said, do you

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Speaker 1: going on a buddy pass. That's what I think, all right?

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