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Speaker 1: Get away, Pauline, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Let's debate some more so, dear blog, I had a

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Speaker 2: question because somebody brought this up yesterday.

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Speaker 3: My friends Tatzi actually shout out to her.

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Speaker 2: Her and I were talking about this, and it was

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Speaker 2: really interesting because I never thought of it from a

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Speaker 2: different perspective or like, you know what about this situation.

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Speaker 2: But we've all seen or heard or maybe done the

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Speaker 2: whole Like when you break up with somebody, do you

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Speaker 2: delete the photos off your Instagram right or off your

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Speaker 2: social media? I think that is a question that people

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Speaker 2: agree or disagree with.

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 2: Some people are like, no, what happened, I lived it,

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Speaker 2: photos are saying. Some people are like no, like we're

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Speaker 2: not together, so I'm wiping clean, right? And I thought

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Speaker 2: that was very interesting because her and I had different opinions,

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Speaker 2: and I believe it was just like I would take

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Speaker 2: it off not to be petty, I just would wipe

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Speaker 2: it because it's not relevant to my life, Like it's

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Speaker 2: not like if I'm not with you, why would.

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Speaker 3: You be on my on my Instagram?

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Speaker 2: Personally, I'm like, and I'm not trying to be dramatic, like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I'm to this whole, Like wipe it clean, and like

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Speaker 2: you got to figure out what happened, and like everyone's

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Speaker 2: talking about it, talk of the town.

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Speaker 3: Like to me, it's not that, it's more just I

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Speaker 3: would like a clean slate, like I know what happened.

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Speaker 3: I lived it. It was beautiful or maybe it wasn't.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: But point is, in this fake scenario, it's gone. It happened, right.

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Speaker 4: It was a little weird when you started dating someone

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Speaker 4: new and you know, you go back and look in

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Speaker 4: their social media or like scroll through the grid and

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Speaker 4: it's like, oh, there's the last guy kind and they

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Speaker 4: looked real happy there, you know. But then again, it

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Speaker 4: doesn't mean just because it did happen, right, whether there's

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Speaker 4: a picture of it or not, it happened. Maybe we

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Speaker 4: don't need the reminder. I also think it can be

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Speaker 4: indicative of how the relationship ended, because sometimes you'll see

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Speaker 4: people who people used to date and it's like they're

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Speaker 4: still there, which suggests to me that maybe it wasn't

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Speaker 4: a horrible ending. If someone goes and wipes their social

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Speaker 4: media of a human being, typically that means I want

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Speaker 4: no remembrance of that human which you know, it could

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Speaker 4: mean that they're scorned by that person or that it

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Speaker 4: was a bad breakup or whatever. So I think that

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Speaker 4: can be the deciding factor.

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Speaker 2: That's true too, even if we had the most beautiful,

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Speaker 2: cleanest breakup ever, I would still do it. I just

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Speaker 2: want that clean slay. I just feel like, listen, I

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Speaker 2: know what happened. Maybe I wouldn't delete it, I'd archive

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Speaker 2: it so you know it can always put it back

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Speaker 2: if I want to. But if I get back together,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, you know, just thinking out loud, but

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Speaker 2: I feel like to.

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Speaker 3: Me that that's my choice.

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Speaker 2: But then she asked me, would you de lead a

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Speaker 2: photo of a friend that you broke up with or

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Speaker 2: like you're not friends with no more? And I never

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Speaker 2: thought of that because I don't know. I think, no, like,

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Speaker 2: why would I lead a friend like that?

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Speaker 3: Doesn't to me? But what's the difference.

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Speaker 2: Right at the same time, too, you're asking, you know,

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Speaker 2: you delete your ex, but you won't lead a friend

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Speaker 2: that maybe you fell off with or that like kind

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Speaker 2: of did you dirty or whatever?

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Speaker 3: But you're just not friends with no more? And I

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Speaker 3: guess she has my friend has.

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Speaker 2: Done that, And I'm like, I've never deleted a photo

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Speaker 2: of anybody that's just a friend, like even if we're

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Speaker 2: not cool, no more like that. Now we're just really reaching,

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Speaker 2: Like where's going to wipe clean the whole grid?

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Speaker 3: Like, I don't know, I didn't really think that.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever wiped a friend. I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't know that I've ever been serious enough with

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Speaker 4: anybody in the social media age to be posting their pictures,

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Speaker 4: which is a different conversation for me. It's a higher bar,

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Speaker 4: not because I'm special, but because I think exposing a

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Speaker 4: relationship that I'm in on my social media that's intended

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Speaker 4: for public consumption for the show and whatever else, that

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Speaker 4: I don't know that everyone's ready for that. Come in

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Speaker 4: here and read our text messages for one morning, and

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Speaker 4: you'll realize people just tend and for whatever reason, they

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Speaker 4: think they can be unkind because they don't have to

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Speaker 4: look us in the eye. And so I've told this

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Speaker 4: people I have dated before, Like, you want me to

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Speaker 4: put you up there, but I'm telling you someone's gonna

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Speaker 4: say something really mean and you may not like it

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Speaker 4: and you don't deserve it, but you didn't sign up

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Speaker 4: for that. So I don't know. So I guess I've

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Speaker 4: never had to take anybody down. But I am, I

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Speaker 4: am the king of I'm captain Petty. If i'm if

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Speaker 4: I'm done with you, I will unfollow you. The unfollow,

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Speaker 4: I will unfollow you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And it's like, why why I follow you? Why

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Speaker 1: am I following you?

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Speaker 4: If we're not friends anymore, if we don't talk, there's

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Speaker 4: no reason for me to be seeing your stuff. I

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Speaker 4: could mute you, I guess, and I realized for some

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Speaker 4: people that's very triggering. But no, I won't necessarily erase you.

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Speaker 4: I will unfollow you, which is petty. I know.

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Speaker 3: No, No, I don't you. Yeah, I think if anything,

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Speaker 3: I would the unfollow.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't go delete our photos, Fred, but I would

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Speaker 2: unfollow you if you and I had a crazy falling

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Speaker 2: out or whatever, or me and Jason.

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Speaker 3: No, I know, I'm it's a fake scenario. I was

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Speaker 3: just saying.

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Speaker 2: I don't really saying no, it's not no, guys, I'm

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Speaker 2: just saying, but.

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Speaker 3: No to me, like, I'm not going to lead our photos.

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Speaker 2: We're friends, like it happened, right, I'd soon rather delete

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Speaker 2: a friend than I would delete it X.

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Speaker 3: I just think like, oh interesting, Yeah, like an ex

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Speaker 3: is like a whole. It's a whole. I mean, years

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Speaker 3: and years you spend with someone. I think it looks

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Speaker 3: so goofy to like act like it never happened.

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Speaker 4: If you do me dirty, I'm unfollowing you. If you

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Speaker 4: do me dirty, I'm I'm fine to show the world

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Speaker 4: I don't support what you're.

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Speaker 3: That's when I was gonna make it shows me that

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Speaker 3: you're more pressed about me than if you don't.

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Speaker 2: If you just leave me up there, I'd be like,

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Speaker 2: oh why, I'd ask my current boyfriend, like, why are

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Speaker 2: you so pressed that you need to delete everything?

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Speaker 1: Like you're so mad? I don't know, and I agree

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Speaker 1: with you.

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Speaker 4: That's the reason I'm self critical of the unfollowed because

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Speaker 4: it does sort of give someone else power. It does

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Speaker 4: suggest to them, oh this, Oh I got him, you

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Speaker 4: know with that one. But at the same time, what

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Speaker 4: I'm saying to you is I really don't care about

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Speaker 4: your bs, Like I'm not interested in looking at your

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Speaker 4: stuff because you did me wrong, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, have you ever had to re follow somebody after

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Speaker 3: you'dn did your big one?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Them, Yes, I feel like a clown, right, But we.

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Speaker 4: Don't have we don't have to talk about that, I

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Speaker 4: mean it's frendshell.

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Speaker 1: Next,