Speaker 1: Second date update. If you thought we were in the
Speaker 1: middle of another hot girl summer, you'd be wrong.
Speaker 2: Oh no, what happens.
Speaker 1: This season is officially boy Sober Summer. If you don't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's not about that, you.
Speaker 1: Don't know what that is. It's gaining traction online right
Speaker 1: now as single women across the country are trying out
Speaker 1: this new trend abstaining from any romantic relationship with men
Speaker 1: whatsoever for the next few months. We're talking no hookups,
Speaker 1: no situationships, no getting back with the exes. That doesn't count.
Speaker 2: Either them's open doesn't count.
Speaker 1: Doesn't One of our listeners, Emma, swore she was gonna
Speaker 1: do this and that lasted for all of six days.
Speaker 3: Oh you're so pretty good.
Speaker 4: I saw it.
Speaker 1: I welcome to the show.
Speaker 5: Hey guys, what happened?
Speaker 2: You were so strong?
Speaker 3: I know, yeah, I like four off online dating. I
Speaker 3: was like, over it, it's too much work. And then
Speaker 3: a few days later I like saw this cool trend
Speaker 3: and I was like, Okay, I want.
Speaker 1: To try that.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and then using that trend like that's how
Speaker 3: I found the guy. A few months later that were
Speaker 3: like calling today, That's how.
Speaker 1: I what was this online trend that you tried that
Speaker 1: turned everything around.
Speaker 3: It was called man of the Month.
Speaker 2: Man of the Month. What does that mean? Is it
Speaker 2: a calendar?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I get it.
Speaker 6: Well, okay, so like you get twelve friends and you
Speaker 6: have them basically set you up on one date a month.
Speaker 3: For the year. Oh you exactly, Like one friend gets
Speaker 3: their shot to be like exactly.
Speaker 4: I can tell what your algorithm is on social media
Speaker 4: because you were doing all the trends.
Speaker 5: Oh you know basically.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean I hadn't heard this one, but it sounds
Speaker 1: like this is kind of rough because it requires that
Speaker 1: you have at least twelve friends.
Speaker 3: So I'm I know some people are less fortunate in
Speaker 3: that area.
Speaker 5: You can shorten it.
Speaker 3: I guess, yeah, double, I don't know. I figure like
Speaker 3: this just feels way better. Like my friends know me,
Speaker 3: you know, they know you know, they know what I'm
Speaker 3: into it, they know all my red flags so they
Speaker 3: can avoid them.
Speaker 1: It's so funny.
Speaker 7: I literally had her friend recently that was like, dude,
Speaker 7: you would be so into this girl.
Speaker 1: She's just a little too put together for you, you know.
Speaker 2: I mean, I get it, but out.
Speaker 1: And I guess it's true because you have like friends
Speaker 1: that are always wanting to say like oh, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I want to set you up with someone, and then
Speaker 1: it never actually happens.
Speaker 3: Exactly, and like almost feels like now I'm putting the
Speaker 3: burden on you, like you keep bringing up, Oh I've
Speaker 3: got this guy, what about this one? Okay, well, here's
Speaker 3: your chance to your homework.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of pressure. I hope they're still.
Speaker 3: Or the opposite, like, I hope it works.
Speaker 2: Was the very first month successful?
Speaker 3: Okay? So the so the first month wasn't.
Speaker 7: Successful, okay, okay, but this month, Yeah, one of my
Speaker 7: friends has a coworker, Lawrence, and yeah, like she showed
Speaker 7: me a picture and everything super cute.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, oh exactly, I'm already excited, and
Speaker 3: so we agree to meet up. We met up for drinks,
Speaker 3: and honestly, like moment one, it was already better than
Speaker 3: any online really anything. Yeah, like he's all dressed nice,
Speaker 3: like he was very cute looking, and like he brought
Speaker 3: me a little thing of flowers.
Speaker 2: He put effort in.
Speaker 1: Yeah I kind of try hard, but yeah.
Speaker 2: That's awesome. Are you texting your friend during the date, Like,
Speaker 2: oh my god.
Speaker 3: Okay, so normally I would, but I really tried. I
Speaker 3: tried to be good.
Speaker 2: Oh I would you usually do a quick snapchat?
Speaker 1: Yes, that's a quick not in front of the guy though, Yeah,
Speaker 1: all right, good right right, you know, all right, that's
Speaker 1: well good. He made a great first impression on you.
Speaker 1: How did the rest of the night go?
Speaker 3: I thought it was great. We had a great conversation.
Speaker 3: I feel like we had a lot in common. And
Speaker 3: there was even like this like awkward, funny moment that
Speaker 3: happened where I was Okay, So I admittedly I was
Speaker 3: wearing a very cute dress, but it was a little
Speaker 3: on the cheap side, admittedly, And I got up to
Speaker 3: go to the bathroom and my like strap got caught. Yeah,
Speaker 3: oh god, Like where where did it rip on?
Speaker 6: The strap?
Speaker 3: You're saying, yeah, like the strap ripped. It was fine,
Speaker 3: Like the dress was tight enough that it didn't. Nothing
Speaker 3: came out right right, right, But what happened was he
Speaker 3: ended up like giving me his jacket so that I,
Speaker 3: you know, wouldn't feel too uncomfortable.
Speaker 4: Like it all sounds so great. I don't understand why
Speaker 4: you'd be on the phone with us.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well, the problem would probably be that he's not.
Speaker 2: Calling her back tell her what's going on?
Speaker 3: I know, so, like, yeah, it's super weird because the
Speaker 3: rest of the night, like nothing crazy happened, Like he
Speaker 3: waited for me, like for my uber, like gave me
Speaker 3: a kiss on the cheek and everything. Yeah, and then
Speaker 3: I just I just stopped hearing from like I never
Speaker 3: heard anything.
Speaker 2: Else at all after the date.
Speaker 3: No, and like she was trying to get a feel
Speaker 3: for what was going on, and he's just not budging,
Speaker 3: like he's not telling her anything.
Speaker 5: So I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 1: Did you tell him about that you're the second man
Speaker 1: of the month and there are there's eleven other men
Speaker 1: of the month that I need to.
Speaker 2: Make me only ten because she'd done one before.
Speaker 1: Oh well yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: Okay, I figured maybe wait, you know, that might might
Speaker 3: scare somebody away, the other guys, but they don't know.
Speaker 3: You don't set up early.
Speaker 1: You might have to go back to boy sober summer.
Speaker 1: Then if that doesn't work, we're going to try and
Speaker 1: help you out though with this guy, Lawrence will come back,
Speaker 1: give him a call and try and get you your
Speaker 1: second date update. Right after this second date update, we've
Speaker 1: got a listener named Emma on the phone who just
Speaker 1: taught us about a new dating hack for women who
Speaker 1: are tired of the online stuff. It's called Man of
Speaker 1: the Month, where you have twelve of your friends set
Speaker 1: you up on a date each month of the year,
Speaker 1: and every friend gets assigned a specific month. That way,
Speaker 1: instead of them just telling you, oh, I really want
Speaker 1: to set you up and then they never actually do it,
Speaker 1: now they have a deadline. It's like a sexy homework assignment.
Speaker 2: October I saw you turning to me, and I even
Speaker 2: takes the entire next five years ago.
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe you can set brook up up on a
Speaker 1: dated and alexis that.
Speaker 5: I can help?
Speaker 2: What's your how young you are?
Speaker 7: You okay with.
Speaker 1: The thing is? That's how our listener Emma got set
Speaker 1: up with a guy named Lawrence. They went out and
Speaker 1: had drinks together and it went so well her clothes
Speaker 1: were literally taking themselves off.
Speaker 2: They were jumping right off of her body.
Speaker 1: It was an accident, I think, so maybe an accident,
Speaker 1: maybe fade. But afterwards he's been totally quiet and the
Speaker 1: friend who set her up doesn't know what's going on either.
Speaker 1: That's why she's turned us for him.
Speaker 4: And it was a romantic moment, right like, your dress
Speaker 4: broke and he helped you out.
Speaker 2: That was awesome.
Speaker 5: Gave your jacket. Jacket was very, very cute.
Speaker 1: It sounds like a real gentleman. We'll see how gentlemanly
Speaker 1: he is when we actually get him on the phone.
Speaker 2: Sound doubtful, he's her, that's not super gentleman.
Speaker 5: I really I really want this guy.
Speaker 3: I don't want to do like these other monks. Like
Speaker 3: I'm hoping this guy is it kind is so cute.
Speaker 5: To hear you don't even want to do this game?
Speaker 7: You like him that much?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1: Because there are ten other men of the month that
Speaker 1: she has left to me. But if this goes well enough,
Speaker 1: we can cancel on them.
Speaker 4: I could do September for you.
Speaker 1: She's desperate to pawn off all of her old single friends.
Speaker 2: Why do you have so many?
Speaker 1: What's the most put together? Look at the marriage. Well,
Speaker 1: let's focus on Lawrence for now. I'm gonna dial I'm here,
Speaker 1: here we go. Hello, Hey, we're looking at a talk
Speaker 1: with Lawrence.
Speaker 5: Speaking.
Speaker 1: Hey Lawrence, we're a radio show. We're called Brook and
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the Morning. What sorry this I know it's confusing,
Speaker 1: but we're a show on the radio. We do this
Speaker 1: segment called what's.
Speaker 8: It called second Update I've done Sorry, Yeah, we're called
Speaker 8: it's a second Date update, and we're trying to help
Speaker 8: one of our listeners that you actually went out with
Speaker 8: the other night to get drinks with named Emma.
Speaker 2: I mean, you guys were set up by a mutual friend.
Speaker 2: I think your coworker set you up.
Speaker 5: Uh yeah, yeah, I know, Emma. It was a little
Speaker 5: it was a little weird. How much do you guys
Speaker 5: know about all this?
Speaker 1: Well, I mean enough, Yeah, we know that you guys
Speaker 1: went out to drinks and she said she had a
Speaker 1: great time. You brought her flowers, she was so sweet.
Speaker 1: You gave her your jacket when her dress had a
Speaker 1: little wardrobe malfunction. Is all that, right?
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the general gist of how things went, But
Speaker 5: it was really confusing.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well that's why we're calling you because she's also
Speaker 1: confused and doesn't know if something went wrong in between.
Speaker 1: It's just you're not calling her afterwards.
Speaker 2: Do you think that she doesn't like you?
Speaker 5: It's all right, So we kind of give you some
Speaker 5: something from my perspective here. So I've got this coworker.
Speaker 5: Her name is Ali and one day out of the blue,
Speaker 5: she came up to me and she said that she
Speaker 5: had the perfect person for me. Okay, but this woman
Speaker 5: is a business professional, she's super cute. She thinks that
Speaker 5: I'm cute too. Now I'm thinking, in the back of
Speaker 5: my head, is this Ali's way of asking me out
Speaker 5: on a date?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 4: Oh, you thought your coworker was talking about herself and
Speaker 4: like a like shee.
Speaker 1: That toy waved it somebody like like somebody you know
Speaker 1: very well? Right, oh god, exactly.
Speaker 5: And look, she never really said that it was a
Speaker 5: setup or anything.
Speaker 2: What she didn't show you a picture of Emma or anything.
Speaker 1: No, because he doesn't care about women's looks. He's not
Speaker 1: that type of guy.
Speaker 2: Everybody cares about it. Sure, before you go out on
Speaker 2: a bland.
Speaker 1: Day, maybe shall remember.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, unless you think that the person you're
Speaker 4: dating is the person standing in front of you, Lawrence.
Speaker 1: You date for personality, right, yeah, always always. So you
Speaker 1: thought at that point your coworker was saying that it
Speaker 1: was her.
Speaker 5: That's what I was thinking, because like, low key, for
Speaker 5: the long time I've had a crush on Ali. Maybe
Speaker 5: this was like her reciprocating it.
Speaker 4: So you thought the flowers you got you were actually
Speaker 4: bringing to Ali.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like, I was just told to go to this
Speaker 5: bar at seven, and in my head, I'm thinking, like
Speaker 5: this could be it.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is so what happened when Emma
Speaker 1: showed up.
Speaker 5: Well, okay, so I get there and this random girl
Speaker 5: comes up to me and she's like, Hi, are you Lawrence?
Speaker 5: And she was like really super sweet, and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 5: do I know you from somewhere? And it's like she's
Speaker 5: my date?
Speaker 4: Icebreaker questions, But she said it was good right off
Speaker 4: the bat.
Speaker 2: In your head you're like, oh she did.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, good on you for like sticking out
Speaker 1: the night.
Speaker 5: I mean, don't get me wrong. For what it was,
Speaker 5: it was still a good date. Okay, I had a
Speaker 5: crush on Allie and that's really.
Speaker 2: That is not going to be good.
Speaker 4: And obviously Ali doesn't know that because she would never
Speaker 4: set you up with Emma exactly.
Speaker 5: And it was just this a whole weird awkward thing.
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, it's gonna get really Yeah.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to tell you the awkwardness might go up
Speaker 1: a notch because actually we have Emma on the phone
Speaker 1: listening to this.
Speaker 5: God oh.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, it did not your fault.
Speaker 2: Not your fault.
Speaker 5: Like I do want to come out and say, like
Speaker 5: I did have a really good time with you and
Speaker 5: it was a lot of fun, and but it just
Speaker 5: that's not what I had in mind.
Speaker 3: Is there?
Speaker 5: And this is gonna sound like super callous with everything
Speaker 5: else going on, but is there any way that we
Speaker 5: can we can slip this around a little bit, like
Speaker 5: can we reversus a little bit?
Speaker 2: You're coming off. She hasn't even processed any of this, dude, chill.
Speaker 3: Right now, Emma, Wow, I don't even know what is happening.
Speaker 2: Are you okay?
Speaker 3: It's neither of our faults. And I think I would
Speaker 3: have been able to get over that if he didn't
Speaker 3: ask me to ask my blend like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: let it like.
Speaker 5: It's settled for a minute. Wow, thing, I promise, like
Speaker 5: under I mean, under different circumstances, if Valley wasn't involved,
Speaker 5: I mean, something could have potentially happened. But like, like
Speaker 5: we've we've had this great relationship at work, and really
Speaker 5: I just thought that this was like she's kind of
Speaker 5: shy sometimes and I just thought this was her way
Speaker 5: of picking up on me and.
Speaker 7: Person Yeah.
Speaker 5: Wow, okay, suck. Yeah, I'll be fine.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is your friend Ali's fault because she
Speaker 1: never said specifically that she was setting him up with
Speaker 1: a different woman.
Speaker 3: I mean I think she probably was not, assuming that
Speaker 3: Lauren thought it that her.
Speaker 2: You don't you and Ali need to go get drinks.
Speaker 2: You need to write up the scripts for your friends
Speaker 2: in the next two months.
Speaker 5: Yeah, don't worry about her. She's got ten dudes lined
Speaker 5: up the rest of the year, so she's gonna be fine.
Speaker 3: Lore, Yeah, I mean I really am going to be fine.
Speaker 1: But oh my god, but.
Speaker 5: Really, really though, I mean, if you do have a
Speaker 5: chance to have drinks with Ali, maybe.
Speaker 2: You liked Ali so much, why didn't you just ever
Speaker 2: ask her out, Lawrence?
Speaker 5: I mean, she's engaged, so I just thought this was her.
Speaker 2: Phone.
Speaker 7: She's not.
Speaker 2: She's not married to make him jealous. Oh my god,
Speaker 2: are you back to Sober Boys summer yet?
Speaker 3: I think so, because I.
Speaker 2: Oh no, Okay, is this count is rock bottom.
Speaker 7: For him?
Speaker 1: Well, we can't know for sure until we offer to
Speaker 1: send you guys out on a date. Now, it could
Speaker 1: come along as the third wheel.
Speaker 5: I mean I'd be okay with like double dating and
Speaker 5: Ally's there.
Speaker 1: It's a big difference.
Speaker 5: Not a full ring on the finger yet you know
Speaker 5: it was a ring on the finger.
Speaker 2: It's just not he doesn't have the wedding band.
Speaker 1: I mean, Lawrence is up for anything as long as
Speaker 1: Alley's there, am I.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm good. He's clearly only into engaged women.
Speaker 1: Maybe you could take Lawrence as your date to Ali's wedding.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you would love to be your plus one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, nobody's gonna stand up and interrupt the ceremony.
Speaker 5: I'm not saying that I wouldn't, but I probably would.
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the morning. You know that made me think,
Speaker 1: why are we not doing more second date updates with
Speaker 1: engaged people?
Speaker 7: Oh?
Speaker 2: I think there's a one word clue there.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I just think it would open up a
Speaker 1: whole new level of drama that we haven't been able
Speaker 1: to tap into.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and maybe lawsuits.
Speaker 1: That's not our problem. So yeah, I'm not happy with
Speaker 1: our producer. He's not getting enough engaged people who are
Speaker 1: looking to stray. So he's fired again from the show.
Speaker 1: But again we'll welcome back eventually. But yeah, that was
Speaker 1: a wild one. So make sure if you're setting somebody
Speaker 1: up on a date that you explicitly say it's a
Speaker 1: setup and it's not with yourself.
Speaker 4: You would think that people would assume it's not with
Speaker 4: you when you are wearing an agagement ring, like it
Speaker 4: feels like you wouldn't have to say that, but the knowledge.
Speaker 2: Of I yah.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: But a lot of men think that a women just
Speaker 1: giving them attention is enough. Yeah, So make sure you
Speaker 1: make that clear and also make sure you follow us
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