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Speaker 1: I Do. Part two is a one of a kind

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Speaker 1: of experiment in podcasting and love. Now, if you didn't

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Speaker 1: get loved right the first time, which, let's be honest,

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Speaker 1: we all know most of us probably don't, Our hosts

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Speaker 1: and our celebrity mentors are here to help you get

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Speaker 1: it right the next time. I'm one of the celebrity

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Speaker 1: mentors today and I'm hosting the show. I'm Bob Guinea.

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Speaker 1: You might know me from The Bachelrette from trist the

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Speaker 1: season way way back, and The Bachelor from my own

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Speaker 1: season way way back, and also now the podcast Almost

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Speaker 1: Famous the Ogs, which Tristan I host together. And I

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Speaker 1: know that love is not all roses and helicopters and

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Speaker 1: volcanoes and all sorts of crazy things that happen on

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Speaker 1: the Bachelor franchise, and sometimes you find your forever person

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Speaker 1: the second time around. Right, So today I am joined

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Speaker 1: by two other members of Bachelor Nation. You know my

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Speaker 1: great buddy I love him to death when he was

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Speaker 1: a star of season thirteen. And we've also got a

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Speaker 1: fan favorite from the season of The Golden Bachelorette. Please

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Speaker 1: welcome Jason Mesnik and Gary Levingston to the podcast. Hey guys,

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Speaker 1: and Ba's here. I know, I'm telling you, buddy. Well,

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Speaker 1: you know, I do feel like we are going og

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Speaker 1: status here too, because Jason, I think you and I

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Speaker 1: might be the oldest Bachelor's right from the actual Bachelor franchise.

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Speaker 1: Well yeah, see, the first thing that goes is to

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Speaker 1: hearing I'm telling you. And then Gary, you know, even

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Speaker 1: the Golden Bacherette with Joan. So great to have you,

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Speaker 1: guys man, thank you for being here. Yeah, it's awesome.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 1: So Gary, real quick, tell me you know how you're feeling,

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Speaker 1: you know, coming off of the show. I mean, obviously

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Speaker 1: been responded to you since you've been back home.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's been pretty exciting, you know. I have to

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Speaker 2: tell you, this whole celebrity status thing is far from

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Speaker 2: my retirement world that I was a part of, which

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Speaker 2: pretty it's pretty amazing. Keeping it fun, but also keeping

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think. I think that's probably one of the

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Speaker 1: Jason will agree. You know, one of the greatest parts

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Speaker 1: I was. You know, it's nice the way people respond

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Speaker 1: to you when you're out there and you hear all

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Speaker 1: the nice things and all the great response. I mean, Jason,

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Speaker 1: I remember you and I being out together in Seattle

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Speaker 1: it every day. I mean, you got your real estate

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Speaker 3: I mean obviously, like you know, when you're on their show,

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Speaker 1: Like you look like to be out of high school together?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you look at the Bachelor just a little fatter,

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Speaker 3: you know, It's like I'm like, I'm big boom.

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Speaker 1: You know. That's my life.

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Speaker 1: Hey man, I've often said it, man, you know, like

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, buddy. Now, Amy Roback and TJ Holmes

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Speaker 4: Why can't people just meet people? We see people all

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Speaker 1: So true, right, I mean, we all get so caught

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Speaker 3: You know, It's funny, like I was thinking about this

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Speaker 1: Well, Gary, what about you? I mean, you know, obviously

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Speaker 1: So absolutely, Hey, Jason, you know, I don't think I

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Speaker 1: But you know before obviously, I think the world knows

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Speaker 1: as was I. How how did you meet your ex wife?

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Speaker 1: Good morning, gentlemen. Hi Audrey, thanks so much for colling.

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Speaker 1: So Audrey, you've got a panel of Bachelor Nation experts here.

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Speaker 1: We've got you know, twenty two years ago for the

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Speaker 1: We got Gary from Jones season of the Golden Bachelorette.

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Speaker 1: So you got you got, and you've got different generational

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Speaker 5: I was married for twenty five years.

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Speaker 1: not ready to be a grandma sitting around knitting all

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00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:42,560
Speaker 1: the time, you know, and just being at my back

433
00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:46,800
Speaker 1: and call for babysitting services. But she's also you know,

434
00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:48,840
Speaker 1: my father passed away a few years ago, and all

435
00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:50,520
Speaker 1: of a sudden, she's sort of in this place where

436
00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:52,760
Speaker 1: she's like, she's not out there looking for the next

437
00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:54,960
Speaker 1: level of her life necessarily, She's just out there looking

438
00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:57,160
Speaker 1: for someone to hang out with. And I think one

439
00:20:57,160 --> 00:21:00,280
Speaker 1: of the things that Audie said companionship You said it, Gary, Yeah,

440
00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:03,520
Speaker 1: Audrey basically said it. She's like, you know, she's been

441
00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,000
Speaker 1: engaged three times, but dodge a bullet three times. And

442
00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 1: you know, it's sometimes I think you go down that

443
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,720
Speaker 1: path because that's what you're supposed to do, not maybe

444
00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:13,600
Speaker 1: what you want to do. And I mean, what do

445
00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 1: you guys think about that? What do you think? What

446
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:16,359
Speaker 1: do you think Gary? What do you think? Jason?

447
00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:20,360
Speaker 2: Companionship at our age is extremely important because we don't

448
00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:23,720
Speaker 2: want to go to the movies alone. Something as simple

449
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:26,280
Speaker 2: as going to the movies, something as simple as going

450
00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:30,320
Speaker 2: out to dinner or going to watch a film on

451
00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:35,359
Speaker 2: a Netflix film at home eating popcorn. You know, companionship

452
00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:39,040
Speaker 2: is so very important because I think it adds a

453
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:43,199
Speaker 2: whole nother flavor to the relationship of I don't have

454
00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 2: to be alone, even though you might be in that

455
00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 2: in between stage of losing someone, but also still in

456
00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:55,640
Speaker 2: need of the companionship the relationship in that way, not

457
00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:58,879
Speaker 2: necessarily having to be married, even though it'd be nice

458
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 2: because then you could start planning trips, to go on

459
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 2: trips together and that fun stuff. So sure, the companionship

460
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:09,879
Speaker 2: thing is really super important. Going to someone's birthday party

461
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:12,840
Speaker 2: and having you know, folks over for a glass of

462
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 2: wine or whatever. It's it's critical and you don't want

463
00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:20,600
Speaker 2: to show up alone, you know, especially when everybody else

464
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:22,320
Speaker 2: is coupled up. It's crazy.

465
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm curious about I think aback, like whether bachelor

466
00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,360
Speaker 3: or not. Like it's like when you're younger, whether you're

467
00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:30,240
Speaker 3: at the disco or you're at like i'd go to

468
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:33,640
Speaker 3: the bars, you're looking for who you attracted to right, Yes,

469
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 3: I think about like people would ask me all the time,

470
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:37,280
Speaker 3: like did you know who you're going to pick right

471
00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:38,639
Speaker 3: away on the bats or you're like, well, you know

472
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 3: who you're attracted to, and that's obvious you kind of

473
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Speaker 3: Even in my early thirties.

474
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Speaker 1: That's what I was thinking. But I think as you

475
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Speaker 1: get even me.

476
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:49,480
Speaker 3: Like in my late forties, fifties or sixties, I think

477
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 3: get don't let me. I'm just curious, it changes where

478
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:57,200
Speaker 3: more important. Like the attraction is important, but I feel

479
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 3: like what's even more important is like having common interests. Yeah, right,

480
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 3: so whether movies or some hobby or cooking or golf

481
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:10,840
Speaker 3: or tennis or it is. I wonder if it's possible

482
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 3: to break down those barriers and just find groups of

483
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,119
Speaker 3: people and take out. And I'm not saying I'm not

484
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:18,920
Speaker 3: saying completely eliminate the attraction piece, because I know how

485
00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 3: important it is, but way heavier in saying like I

486
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 3: think if we all went back and said how would

487
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 3: I date? Differently, it's like how important are those common interests?

488
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 3: Where so you're not just like sitting on the opposite

489
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 3: ends of the couch not talking, or sitting on your

490
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 3: phone they're engaging talking about something that's important, like how

491
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 3: do you like get putting yourself in a position where

492
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 3: you're really going to find somebody that has those interests.

493
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 3: So if it is dancing, like I do remember, like actually,

494
00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:49,400
Speaker 3: one of the last things I did before I wanted

495
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 3: to learn how to dance, and before I went on

496
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 3: the Bachelor, I took some sauce lessons, right, and I'm

497
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:57,679
Speaker 3: a terrible fricking dancer, right, But I did put myself

498
00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 3: in a position. I didn't meet any girls that I

499
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 3: would date, but I had an awesome deciment to look

500
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 3: forward to going to it every week.

501
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I was going to say that too. You know,

502
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,520
Speaker 1: one of the things I say to my mom all

503
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 1: the time, and I think it even though Audrey's much younger,

504
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 1: I would think that I would want to say this

505
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:15,880
Speaker 1: to Audrey too if I had a chance to talk

506
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 1: with her about you know, some of this stuff in

507
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:21,200
Speaker 1: a little more detail. And Gary, I love your input

508
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 1: here too. But you know, it's like, you got to

509
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 1: put yourself in the position to meet these people, and

510
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,320
Speaker 1: you know the only way you're going to do that

511
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 1: is by getting out of the house and by you know,

512
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 1: and it can't just be at you know, at children's

513
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: sporting events and things of that nature. Like you've really

514
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: got to put yourself into the mix where it's like okay,

515
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 1: you know, and it does. And you don't have to

516
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,199
Speaker 1: hang out with just single girlfriends, right, You can go

517
00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:48,160
Speaker 1: out with your girlfriends that are married or or or whatever,

518
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: and you can basically say, you know, hey, let's go

519
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:53,439
Speaker 1: out tonight. Let's go to the restaurant, or let's go

520
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: to the bar, or let's go to this, let's go that.

521
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:57,679
Speaker 1: And you know, it doesn't mean you're a drinker, but

522
00:24:57,720 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 1: you can still go to a restaurant and have dinner

523
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,120
Speaker 1: with your friends and then hang on the lounge area

524
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: and relax or you know, I mean, man, in Oregon,

525
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 1: you know, there's so many great places where people go

526
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: in the summertime, Like summer in Oregon is so beautiful.

527
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 1: The Pacific Northwest is amazing. You know, go to Seattle

528
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 1: for the weekend. You could do a whole bunch of things.

529
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 1: I mean, Jason, Jason, you could probably give her a

530
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 1: list of things that do in Oregon that would just

531
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,640
Speaker 1: blow her mind. And so, you know, to that end,

532
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,399
Speaker 1: you know, ladies, grab your pens. Because we're going to

533
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 1: get into this, I think I'd love to see if

534
00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:27,640
Speaker 1: we could give a list of some places and not

535
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:30,679
Speaker 1: just huge generalities, although that's okay as well, but you know,

536
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 1: really kind of dig into a little bit and think

537
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 1: of some places to go that you might meet people

538
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: that are around your age they don't have to be

539
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:44,200
Speaker 1: the same age, but around your age range, and maybe

540
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,399
Speaker 1: with some similar interests, you know, like for example, I

541
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:48,879
Speaker 1: mean she was talking about she's in Jacksonville, Orion. She's

542
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:52,200
Speaker 1: a southern Oregon right out you know, right near California, right,

543
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:57,840
Speaker 1: so we know that there's there's great weather, beautiful coastlines.

544
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, there's so much to do out

545
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:03,119
Speaker 1: where you guys are at, and you know, what are

546
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,400
Speaker 1: some things specifically that we that we could tell her,

547
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 1: you know, I I think of like there's some great

548
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 1: hotels in Portland that have really cool lounges and they're

549
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,439
Speaker 1: not necessarily places that people go to get hammered and

550
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,440
Speaker 1: you know, get carried out of there. The other places

551
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 1: that people go for the architecture and they sit around

552
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 1: in there taking in the vibes of the places, and

553
00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: you know, anything like Jason specific Northwest specifically, you know,

554
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 1: what are a few things you've done.

555
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 3: This occurred to me yesterday, and this place overlaps so

556
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 3: many different things, right, so we we were at the

557
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 3: Fairmount Hotel last night and this what I mean, it

558
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 3: goes so many So when we filmed The Bachelor back

559
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:41,360
Speaker 3: in the day, all the girls stayed at the Fairmont Hotel, right,

560
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 3: and yesterday Mollie was like, I.

561
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 1: Would totally come out like it's kind of this old

562
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 1: school vibe.

563
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 3: And even though she would go sit here and hang out,

564
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 3: every major town has a Fairmount which has got this

565
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 3: old classic feeling. Even if you're not drinking, you can

566
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:59,119
Speaker 3: sit there and enjoy the atmosphere. But on top of that,

567
00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 3: so that's like one place I think that you can

568
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,399
Speaker 3: go on any any given city. But there's also a

569
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,160
Speaker 3: really cool like if she ever came to Seattle, there's

570
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 3: a cool little restaurant right on the lake called Como.

571
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:11,720
Speaker 3: Here in Kirkland, I don't know, yeah, yeah, so Koma,

572
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,680
Speaker 3: Like in the summertime, it's like right on the water.

573
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 3: Boats are there, like you're sitting out on the deck.

574
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 3: And again, like when I've been there, it's always been

575
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 3: with a group of people, right, and people have ranged

576
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 3: in ages from.

577
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 1: Like thirty to sixty, right, and you just have a

578
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:28,400
Speaker 1: good time.

579
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,639
Speaker 3: And again, like I understand like there's a lot of

580
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 3: people that don't drink, but I think putting yourself in

581
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 3: an atmosphere and not being a free even if you

582
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 3: don't drink.

583
00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 1: I have a lot of friends who don't drink. You

584
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 1: can really meet people in a cool place. Yeah. And

585
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 1: then also, you know, Kirkland in particular is such an

586
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:44,000
Speaker 1: awesome area in the Greater Seattle area, and I love

587
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:45,920
Speaker 1: that you I mean, you know, I was in Samamish

588
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:47,919
Speaker 1: on the east Side, and I would always end up

589
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: in Kirkland to see everybody because it was such a

590
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:52,920
Speaker 1: fun vibe. You can find those places anywhere you live

591
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 1: that have kind of a fun atmosphere and energy and

592
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: people are out and about and it's like, you know,

593
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,640
Speaker 1: maybe it's ped malls or whatever it is, so everyone's

594
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:03,919
Speaker 1: walking around and interacting and engaging. I mean, you know,

595
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 1: we have them here in Michigan, and you know, it's

596
00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 1: my favorite place to go because it kind of brings

597
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: that energy of the people out and and you know,

598
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 1: you can be a social butterfly in those situations. You

599
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 1: can say hi to everybody you can, you know, and

600
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 1: like she like I think one of the things Audrey

601
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 1: said that kind of resonated with me was she's like,

602
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 1: I don't wear a wedding ring. I talk to everyone,

603
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 1: you know, and it's and she's open and fun, and

604
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 1: it'd be like, you know, just find find your tribe,

605
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 1: you know, find some people that you can go out

606
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: with and you feel really comfortable with. Have a great

607
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:35,200
Speaker 1: time with those people. And because if you're out looking

608
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 1: nine times out of ten, it's not going to happen.

609
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 1: I firmly believe that have some of the people you're with,

610
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 1: and people will approach you, like, Jason, did you know

611
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 1: that that not that it was like you're a you're

612
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 1: in a parking structure, but you're like, I need to

613
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: meet that person, you know what. It's like, I know

614
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 1: how that.

615
00:28:53,080 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 6: Parking parking rogers for everybody, but listen, guys, Okay, so

616
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 6: here in California right and where she is at and

617
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 6: in particular, outdoor concerts a fun.

618
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 2: Place to go and entertainment is happening. The other big

619
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 2: thing now is also pickleball, where there's lots of people gathered.

620
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 2: It's not as much strenuous activity is going on. But

621
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 2: pickleball is another arena or set of places that people

622
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 2: go to for entertainment.

623
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 1: I love country. Pickleball is awesome. Yeah, you mentioned sporting

624
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: events to Gary, like Portland Timbers right there in Portland.

625
00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 1: I'm not sure how far Jacksonville is from Portland. But

626
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not saying she has to relocate necessarily.

627
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:48,400
Speaker 1: But you know, there's always there's minor league baseball teams,

628
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 1: There's always stuff going on in different areas. Now, okay,

629
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: we've also got some let's talk about some some specific places. Okay,

630
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 1: so we've got some spots here, and I can tell

631
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: you that a few of these places and I will

632
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 1: I will let you know when that I have actually

633
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 1: met people at you know, prior of course to being married.

634
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 1: You know, one play and you guys can let me

635
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 1: know what you think if you've been to these or

636
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 1: if you know of these, you know, destination travel spots

637
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 1: that maybe she would go with a couple of girlfriends

638
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 1: and just sort of again having a great time with

639
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 1: her group. And it resonates right for example, the Pebble

640
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 1: Beach pro am. We were talking about golf right now,

641
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 1: you're on the golf course for four hours. But when

642
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 1: you're walking the golf course watching the pros, it's a

643
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 1: totally different vibe. Right, you got cocktails, you got places

644
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 1: you can stop and get two totally to right. What

645
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 1: do you guys think of that?

646
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 2: I think that's a great idea and what a wonderful thing.

647
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 2: You know, and people are more approachable and they're friendlier,

648
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 2: and they're in this outdoor environment where it brings on

649
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 2: conversation piece or or who are you following? Or you

650
00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 2: can engage a lot easier. What a great thought and

651
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 2: great suggestion.

652
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 1: I agree.

653
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 3: And that's actually interesting because like you know, you're you're

654
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 3: in a place also where if you do like you

655
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 3: might be there because you do like golf. Right, if

656
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 3: you like golf, you're meeting somebody who also has some

657
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 3: common interest and you know that that's something you might

658
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 3: have to do with that price.

659
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: Right, Well, ladies, write this down. That's January twenty seventh

660
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 1: through February second. Right, who knows Gary might even be

661
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 1: there walking around. I'm going Gary, I'm going with Gary too.

662
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 1: I think guys even fun all right, So if it's

663
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 1: still you know it's this year you want to get

664
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: out before the holidays, right, one thing I always love

665
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 1: you go right down town. It was one of my

666
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 1: favorite things to do in the holidays. And when I

667
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: used to work for the Today Show all the time,

668
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 1: I used to love doing it. But they'd always bring

669
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: me out and I'd be right downtown, right in Times

670
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 1: Square or right down by Rockefeller Plaza, you know. And

671
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 1: it's right there at Christmas time where Christmas is vibing

672
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: in Manhattan. You know. That's amazing. That usually starts right

673
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 1: after Thanksgiving and goes all the way through the first

674
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 1: week of January. Art Basil in Miami, right, that's what's that.

675
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 1: That's December sixth through the eighth. I mean, that's something

676
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,240
Speaker 1: that I mean, you talk about people everyone I know

677
00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 1: who's gone to that and I have not. When I

678
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 1: know who's gone to it. My wife's gone to it.

679
00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: She says, it's amazing. The vibe is amazing.

680
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

681
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you're right in Miami, you know, as a curveball,

682
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 1: like you go to the Kentucky Derby every year, don't you.

683
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: I do? I do? And is that like?

684
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 3: I mean, I know it's it's packed and it's maybe

685
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 3: it's a bucket list for some people, but how like,

686
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 3: how fun would that be to meet somebody at an

687
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 3: event like that?

688
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 1: I will I will tell you I have and they

689
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 1: you know it's true, Like, yeah, the Derby first Saturday

690
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 1: in May every year. I've gone now for twenty years.

691
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 1: And uh, when my ex wife and I split up,

692
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 1: it was post bachelor, right and it was before I

693
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: had met Canye and my wife Jessica, and I was there.

694
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 1: I went two years by myself and I met someone

695
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: one year when I was down there who you know,

696
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 1: had just graduated from from you know, UK, and and

697
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 1: we hung out, had a great time, met all of

698
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 1: our friends and family. They met all my friends and family,

699
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 1: and we ended up I ended up working down in

700
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 1: Louisville a few times after that, and it was awesome,

701
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 1: you know, And it was a really again, super organic.

702
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 1: I was with my friends, not looking for anything. Somebody

703
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 1: thinks it's fun that we're having such a great time.

704
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 1: You guys are having a great time over there, like yeah,

705
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 1: come on and join us. You know that kind of

706
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: organic vibe And we all know exactly what I'm talking

707
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: about because we've all had that happen.

708
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 2: Right, totally totally, Yeah, you guys are doing that, and

709
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 2: I'm usually following the college scene, the college football scene.

710
00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 1: Right, So you got.

711
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:23,480
Speaker 2: Another place where you're tailgating and you're inviting folks. In

712
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 2: the beauty of this that you're suggesting is that it

713
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 2: can become an annual thing. Oh, this is where we met,

714
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 2: and you continue going to that location. And how special

715
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 2: would that be to say, yeah, this is where we met.

716
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 2: We go every year, and what a great place to

717
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 2: go and meet some folks. But yeah, great, great, great suggestions.

718
00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 1: I love that tailgating thing.

719
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 3: I remember we were at this is even though like

720
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 3: I was looking to meet people, but we were in

721
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 3: Green Bay for a Seahawks game.

722
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, and the amount of people.

723
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 3: That were just like everybody at every tailgate was just

724
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 3: like come on in, have a broad or beer or

725
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 3: like if you find it like an maybe it's the Midwest, right,

726
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 3: Like going to in the Midwest where people are that welcoming, you.

727
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 1: Don't meet a stranger, you know, So listen to this, guys.

728
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 1: So last year Detroit Lions made it to the NFC

729
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: Championship game. Lines them in my team forever, you know,

730
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 1: and we had some lean years here and I go

731
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 1: to San Francisco for the game with one of my

732
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: buddies who's a big forty nine Ers fan, and I

733
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 1: had always heard that, you know, San Francisco fans are tough,

734
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:24,719
Speaker 1: you know, like they don't they're like outsiders the whole bet.

735
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 1: And I'm all decked in my Lions gear, you know,

736
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 1: and he's in his forty nine Ers gear, and we

737
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 1: were having such a great time. Everywhere we went, the

738
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 1: forty nine Ers fans like, hey, come on, man, and

739
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 1: they were amazing because of the good time my buddy

740
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 1: and I were having and they were in literally that energy.

741
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: So it doesn't even have to be you know, it

742
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 1: could be like just people wanting to meet more fun

743
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 1: people or whatever it might be. But it was like,

744
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,640
Speaker 1: you know, hey, man, if it wasn't us gonna you know,

745
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 1: it wasn't the forty nine Ers, we'd want to be

746
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 1: the Lions, you know. And it was like this kind

747
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 1: of really cool copesthetic vibe. And I know, you know,

748
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 1: Jason's from Seattle, and Seattle and San Francisco datorious. They

749
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: don't get along, but you know, for the record, that's

750
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 1: the football team only because I mean Jason is wild

751
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 1: with everybody. Well, trust me, Like this this year.

752
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,879
Speaker 3: You know, Mollie's from Michigan too, Like, yes, I've never

753
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 3: seen her love football more than this year.

754
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:10,840
Speaker 1: I love it. We'll tell her we're all going to

755
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:15,359
Speaker 1: the super Bowl together, buddy together. But yeah, those are

756
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 1: some great spots.

757
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, don't underestimate the college scene as well. And I'm

758
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 2: more of a college sports fan. I love the Pros,

759
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:25,840
Speaker 2: don't get me wrong. We have so many activities associated

760
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 2: with the Pros. But at the collegiate level there's also

761
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 2: a very long and illustrious history of alumni as well

762
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 2: as a current student base and forensic come in. It

763
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:41,440
Speaker 2: is a fabulous experience to to do the college thing

764
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 2: as well. I'm not sure if she has a university

765
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 2: in her area up there, but what another great venue

766
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,759
Speaker 2: for her to go and say, hey, yeah, you know

767
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 2: this is where. This is a great place to meet folks.

768
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 3: Tell me, I love the alumni thing because you have

769
00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 3: something that you're you're bonded right away, totally totally great idea.

770
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I love it. Yeah, I love I love

771
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 1: the idea too, you know. And one of the great

772
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:07,319
Speaker 1: things about Civic Northwest, and you said it best, Gary,

773
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 1: is the outdoor The outdoor concert scene, and a lot

774
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 1: of it is like really cool with the wineries, right,

775
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 1: like Jason, remember like what is that one that's oh

776
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 1: my god? They give the best concerts out out near

777
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:22,800
Speaker 1: SA Michelle, Cheryl Crow, all these different people, and it's

778
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 1: more of a vibe like you're like, yes there is

779
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,879
Speaker 1: a concert, and yes people are watching it, but there's

780
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 1: also more of the vibe around the concert where everyone's

781
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 1: wine tasting is going on, and it's just a really

782
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 1: chill almost like a coffee shop concert setting in a

783
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 1: major concert venue, you know. Yeah, and those are really fun.

784
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 1: It's it's age appropriate. It's like, you know, I think

785
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 1: that's one of the things. And I've said this many

786
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 1: at times, and Jason, I'm sure you probably agree with this,

787
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 1: but one of the things I really love about how

788
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:54,000
Speaker 1: The Golden Bachelor has been casted was because it could

789
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 1: have been, for lack of better words, a s h

790
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 1: I T show, right, Like it literally they could have

791
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 1: done this as a publicity stunt and had like we're

792
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 1: going to throw in you know, three you know, Chippendale

793
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 1: guys and you know whatever.

794
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 2: They really were blessed with getting the group of guys

795
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 2: that that that were cast for the show, and it

796
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 2: made such a difference because of the illustrious history that

797
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 2: we all have, but the way we all bonded as

798
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 2: a fraternity.

799
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 1: So yeah, it was that. It was a true victory.

800
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And it was all It wasn't any stunt casting.

801
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 1: It was just good dudes, you know. And it's like

802
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 1: I think about that from when I was on Trista

803
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 1: Seson at the Bacheorette and then you know, after that,

804
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 1: I went on to be the Bachelor guy, but it

805
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 1: was like that group of guys, we were genuinely friends.

806
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 1: Like I remember thinking to myself, like, man, I you know,

807
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: I when I when I knew it wasn't going to

808
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,359
Speaker 1: be me and everything else, I was like, you know,

809
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 1: I really feel like and I mean true he was.

810
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,400
Speaker 1: He was like my bunk mate. And in the manswa,

811
00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 1: I was like, I really want Ryan to be the guy,

812
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,399
Speaker 1: you know, like yeah he's in love, like he really

813
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:56,919
Speaker 1: for me. It's like, yeah, you're room for each other,

814
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 1: you're not. And I remember saying that the first night

815
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 1: because I was the older guy. Even then, I remember saying,

816
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 1: I'm like, guys, it doesn't matter if we like each

817
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 1: other or not as to who she's gonna like, so

818
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:06,799
Speaker 1: we might as well make it easy on ourselves and

819
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:08,360
Speaker 1: just get along and like, yeah.

820
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 3: It's funny, like when The Golden Bachelor, it really seems

821
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 3: like they went back to the roots, because like even

822
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 3: when I was on it, you know, a few years

823
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 3: after you, it was still sort.

824
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 1: Of like that. But I think then it.

825
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 3: Was like The Bachelor and Bachelor, I went to it

826
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,760
Speaker 3: like like somehow it followed their Kardashian world.

827
00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 1: Or the whatever the drama.

828
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 3: But I think the Golden Bachelor and Bachelrette really went

829
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:27,759
Speaker 3: back to some of the roots, and that's why people

830
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:28,439
Speaker 3: love it so much.

831
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:30,799
Speaker 1: It was like a reset button for the whole franchise

832
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 1: and hopefully it carries over. You know, a few more

833
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,359
Speaker 1: places to talk about US Open Tennis tournament. These are

834
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 1: places you can go to in different areas geographically, or

835
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: you can make like you guys said, like Dayton Daytona

836
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 1: five hundred every year, Indy five hundred. You know, there's

837
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:47,400
Speaker 1: places that had these pe.

838
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 2: Tennis tournament down here in Indian Wells.

839
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:52,279
Speaker 1: That's as I like it. But you know, it's funny.

840
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 1: You don't even have to go to the actual event,

841
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: right Sometimes it's the parties around the event that are

842
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:58,840
Speaker 1: just like I was the Masters, went to the Masters

843
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 1: a few years ago. I never even made it on

844
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 1: the course. I walked around all the places around it

845
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:04,799
Speaker 1: and had the time of my life. You know, some

846
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:07,759
Speaker 1: of the greatest people. So yeah, I love it, man,

847
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 1: I love it. Great ideas and I think great advice.

848
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:14,399
Speaker 1: You know, I travel a ton. I've probably met people

849
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 1: in adulta louge more than I even care to mention. Yeah,

850
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,319
Speaker 1: even today, I mean I'll I'll literally walk out of there.

851
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 1: My wife will go, do you ever meet a stranger?

852
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, you know, no, I guess I don't.

853
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 1: You know. I love people and I love you know,

854
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 1: getting a chance to talk to them. And you know,

855
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:34,080
Speaker 1: like you said, everybody's got sports, sports teams around them.

856
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:35,440
Speaker 1: Even if it's a little bit of a drive, a

857
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 1: destination for the night. You know, she's obviously comfortable. She

858
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: doesn't need she doesn't need a man, She just wants

859
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 1: to meet someone.

860
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 2: The companionship.

861
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 1: The companionship, right, just like I talked about. Yeah, I agree,

862
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 1: such beautiful. I think those are all just great ideas.

863
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 2: Man.

864
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:53,359
Speaker 1: I love it. When I used to live in LA

865
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 1: and this was something that was you know, it's very

866
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 1: common in La and Gary you could attest. But man,

867
00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:00,320
Speaker 1: I was at the dog park every day. I was

868
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 1: at Runyon Canyon every day. Spot Oh my gosh, and

869
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,960
Speaker 1: I would meet people literally every day and it would

870
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 1: be like, you know, just because you're passing them twice

871
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 1: on this trail, hey, how you doing? You know, and

872
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 1: then by the second time I see you your every day?

873
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 1: What's your story? What do you do? Where do you work? Always? Yeah,

874
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:19,320
Speaker 1: I love it. But it's that's kind of a vibe.

875
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: I think as long as you're not you know, as

876
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 1: long as you're not feeling the pressure of looking for something,

877
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,880
Speaker 1: you're going to find someone you connect with in some way.

878
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 3: Shape or form a romantic and pushing yourself to do

879
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 3: like an interest that you have. Right, so we all

880
00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 3: like something whatever, like like putting yourself in a position

881
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 3: where you're doing that consistently enough where you're going to

882
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:44,160
Speaker 3: meet people.

883
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: Absolutely greed, agreed. Well, we talked about all the hotspots

884
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 1: where you can meet somebody. Let's let's throw out a

885
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:55,319
Speaker 1: couple that are probably good to avoid. So you know,

886
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, I guess some of the

887
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 1: first things that pop up on my mind, and you know,

888
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:02,800
Speaker 1: I'm thinking more more along lines from what Audrey had said.

889
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 1: You know, she's like, I'm not the type of person

890
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 1: that goes out to a bar, you know, but I think,

891
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 1: you know, my I think what's interesting about that is

892
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 1: there's not always it doesn't have to be a negative

893
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 1: connotation about a place that serves alcoholic beverages. Right, Yeah,

894
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 1: you can go you can go to a restaurant that

895
00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 1: has a bar. You can go to a hotel that

896
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:21,360
Speaker 1: has a bar and you can sit in the lounge

897
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:22,839
Speaker 1: area and drink a sprite all night.

898
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 2: You know.

899
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:25,839
Speaker 1: It's like, you know, we talked about that, right, there's

900
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 1: great outdoor venues that you can go hang out at

901
00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 1: where other people might be drinking. Doesn't mean you have

902
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 1: to where else where? What else would be a bad

903
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: place to meet somebody? You know.

904
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:36,839
Speaker 2: It's it's a good point you bring up because I

905
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 2: also think at our age we are done with that.

906
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:43,399
Speaker 2: I think it's age appropriate. Let me put it like that,

907
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:48,399
Speaker 2: where you know you're going out to a bar and unfortunately,

908
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 2: you know it's like a pickup place for these young kids,

909
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:54,120
Speaker 2: and you're like, I'm way too I shouldn't be here.

910
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,799
Speaker 2: This is not what I expect. It's not what I want,

911
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 2: it's not what I'm looking for. So the age appropriate

912
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:01,959
Speaker 2: bar as, I think make a big difference as well.

913
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 2: Someplace you want to avoid going to a younger hipster

914
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 2: kind of place versus someplace else where you can engage

915
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 2: in conversation. Yeah.

916
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:14,800
Speaker 3: And I would wonder too, like for a place for

917
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 3: if women are looking like a place where they just

918
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 3: feel unsafe.

919
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: Yeah. Rights, that's something.

920
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 3: That I don't know if a lot of guys can

921
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 3: really identify with, but like unsafe might be like you

922
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 3: might go to somewhere for coffee during the day, but

923
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:31,359
Speaker 3: if you went to that same same area at night,

924
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 3: you might feel a little bit unsafe. But then I

925
00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 3: would argue my on the flip side, like what if

926
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 3: you went there with a friend?

927
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:39,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, find a place that.

928
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 3: You're comfortable with even if you feel uncomfortable, but you

929
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 3: really want to go there, open it up and bring

930
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 3: somebody with you so you do feel safe.

931
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, I think.

932
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think one of the things you're saying too

933
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:52,839
Speaker 1: is like I got I hope this isn't an inappropriate term,

934
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:54,360
Speaker 1: but I remember people saying, oh, yeah, it's like a

935
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:56,399
Speaker 1: meat market down there or whatever. You know, you don't

936
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 1: want to go to a place where you feel like

937
00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:00,080
Speaker 1: you're on display, right and you're like walking through and

938
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 1: everybody's sizing you up or something like that wouldn't be fun.

939
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 1: I mean, another place probably not a great place to

940
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:07,799
Speaker 1: meet people the gym, right, Oh that's exactly what I

941
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 1: was thinking. Yeah, yeah, like you go to the gym,

942
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 1: you're if I go to the gym, which we can

943
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 1: tell doesn't happen often, but if I go to the gym,

944
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 1: I'm literally there for a purpose, right, I'm there to

945
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 1: get to break a sweat, get in, get out, probably,

946
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 1: you know, don't don't you know, I'm not at my finest.

947
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:24,360
Speaker 1: You know, I probably didn't spend a couple hours getting

948
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 1: ready to go into the gym. I would imagine most

949
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: women aren't going to the gym to meet guys and so.

950
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 2: And it's an interesting point, you mean, because the few

951
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 2: times that I've been to my gym now people are

952
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 2: approaching me and it's like, oh my god, you're scary

953
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 2: and that kind of thing. But I'm trying to get

954
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,839
Speaker 2: in my workout and it's a disruption. So yeah, that's

955
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 2: not obviously a good place you want to meet someone.

956
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:58,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, no way, thank you. Right, all right,

957
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: now I'm gonna throw out a couple place. You guys

958
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 1: give me your immediate gut reaction, okay, whether or not

959
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 1: it might be a good place for Audrey or for

960
00:44:07,280 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 1: anyone to meet someone. First one, we're gonna start with,

961
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 1: let's say farmers market. Heck, yes, Seattle, That's what I

962
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:16,399
Speaker 1: was thinking of set right away.

963
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:16,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

964
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 1: I was also thinking of La downtown Sherman Oaks. They

965
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 1: have this awesome farmers market that people would go and

966
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 1: they'd walk their dogs and they'd walk around. Yeah, I agree,

967
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 1: a great one. How about an auto show or a

968
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 1: boat show.

969
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 3: Let's say, well, I mean that's where I think, like

970
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 3: if you have thatt like, if you if you are

971
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 3: passionate about cars or boats or whatever.

972
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 1: It might be a super interesting place to go because

973
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:44,359
Speaker 1: I don't think most people are going.

974
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 3: There just to meet people. They're going there because it's

975
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 3: it's their common interest, right.

976
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 1: Like I love boats, I want to go look at boats,

977
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:52,360
Speaker 1: or I love cars. I feel like for whatever reason,

978
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 1: I feel like that's that sometimes lends itself to have

979
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:58,640
Speaker 1: more of a couple's activity or a guy's activity. H

980
00:44:58,640 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 1: I don't know what that's problem. That might be sex

981
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:01,839
Speaker 1: for me to say that, but like I always think

982
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:03,319
Speaker 1: of like the auto shows when I used to have

983
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,359
Speaker 1: to work them, like back before the batchel of stuff

984
00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 1: and everything, and I remember it'd be like just a

985
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 1: ton of dudes rolling through there, you know. Yeah, and uh,

986
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 1: if there was a woman, she was typically with someone you.

987
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:17,320
Speaker 2: Know, representing one of the autos that were yeah.

988
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, or they have like a Chrysler pin on

989
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: their shirts. What about like, let's think about like, you know,

990
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: because a lot of times people say that being in

991
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 1: an adrenaline activity like river rafting or ziplining or you know,

992
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 1: running or biking, that that gets your endorphins going. And

993
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 1: you know, what do you guys think of that kind

994
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:37,799
Speaker 1: of stuff like an adrenaline related activity? Does that ever?

995
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 2: That'd be pretty cool? Like I used to do triathlons, right,

996
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 2: sprint trap ons, not government or anything like that. It's

997
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 2: a great place to go and meet people that enjoy

998
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 2: those outdoorsy kinds of things. So yeah, I think that'd

999
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:50,879
Speaker 2: be a great suggestion, well.

1000
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 3: Especially like for for her in organ like even going

1001
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 3: out right like you're gonna get your heart beat up

1002
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:56,880
Speaker 3: a little bit and you're gonna see.

1003
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:59,959
Speaker 1: The same people on the same trail. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

1004
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 1: I think. I think the hiking. I think anything where

1005
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 1: you're out outdoors, like you said, Jason, feeling safe, you know,

1006
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 1: and maybe doing it with people that are I don't

1007
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 1: know not you know again, I mean, I can only

1008
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:16,800
Speaker 1: speak from my own experience, but it's like I feel

1009
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:21,439
Speaker 1: like going in those situations when you're not looking for it,

1010
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 1: like when you've basically said, you know what, I'm just

1011
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 1: gonna go have funt my friends. I'm not going to

1012
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 1: try and you.

1013
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:27,279
Speaker 2: Know all that.

1014
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: Dude. Yeah, common interests. I'm with people I love, I

1015
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 1: feel comfortable and safe and we're enjoying you know. Uh,

1016
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 1: what's the crab Jason is so famous in Seattle the

1017
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:47,919
Speaker 1: oh my god, a dungeness crab crab you eat. I'm like, yeah, due, Jason. Yeah,

1018
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 1: I'm like I mean that, you know, I'm gonna go

1019
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 1: because I love the crab. I love the crab cakes here,

1020
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 1: or I love you know, like you mentioned the Pharamount,

1021
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: Like I love that little bar lounge area on the

1022
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 1: back of that first level when you go upstairs up

1023
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 1: the street level. That's exactly so cool. Yeah, I love

1024
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 1: that place. And then now they did the library kind

1025
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 1: of speakeasy thing on the other side. I mean, you

1026
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 1: talk about great. That's when you said that. I was like,

1027
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 1: oh my god, I forgot how much I love that place,

1028
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:12,239
Speaker 1: you know, and I wouldn't have remembered again.

1029
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:14,800
Speaker 3: And so I was there just yesterday when Molly walked

1030
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 3: in right away, she was like, oh my god, I

1031
00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:18,959
Speaker 3: love this place. I forgot how much I love coming here.

1032
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 3: And it's great for all ages.

1033
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 1: It really is that whole area I love. I love

1034
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: downtown Seattle still to this day, one of my favorite

1035
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:29,759
Speaker 1: downtown areas ever that I visited, and especially when I

1036
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 1: got to live there for four years. It was like

1037
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 1: a dream, you know. It's just like every day I'd

1038
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:35,319
Speaker 1: go down there and just be like, ah, smell the

1039
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 1: fresh air and the whole thing. You know. So let's

1040
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: let's let's transition a little bit here. I think we've

1041
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:43,240
Speaker 1: got some great stuff. We've covered some great information. Hopefully

1042
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 1: Audrey will feel like, you know, we've we've given her

1043
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 1: some good ideas and inspired her a little bit. But

1044
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: let's transition a little bit back into of course, this

1045
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: season of the Golden Bachelorette because we do have of

1046
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 1: course Gary with us, who is just living legend status

1047
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 1: coming off of that show. Buddy, you know, you were

1048
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 1: so fun to watch, Like you mentioned too, the whole

1049
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 1: cast has been so fun to watch, and I loved

1050
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 1: I really loved the casting on Gary season last year,

1051
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 1: and then of course now on Jones season this year.

1052
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:13,800
Speaker 1: You know, with all that, like it's coming down to

1053
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:16,279
Speaker 1: the wire, right, I think you're probably pretty close with

1054
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:20,319
Speaker 1: all the guys that are still left standing. Yes, any

1055
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: and this is not a spoiler alert, right, well, we'll

1056
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: put it out there. No spoiler alerts here, but just

1057
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 1: your personal gut feeling. You know, how are you seeing

1058
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 1: this season play out?

1059
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 2: Well, it's interesting because I know that there is a

1060
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 2: true emotional connection, or at least there was with Chalk

1061
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 2: and Joan when his mom passed away, which was very

1062
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 2: touching for all of us. There was an emotional connection

1063
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,280
Speaker 2: that they both had for some odd reason or another.

1064
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 2: But then as I'm reading more into a guy is

1065
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 2: the other person? I think that would probably be a

1066
00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 2: good fit for who was a fun, loving, outgoing person

1067
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,279
Speaker 2: that would match up well as well. So you know,

1068
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 2: between Chalk and guy is who I'm done putting my

1069
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 2: my bets on.

1070
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 1: And is that only because you didn't like Pascal's choice

1071
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:11,319
Speaker 1: of evening attire?

1072
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 2: You know, I think Pascal is a great guy, and

1073
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 2: we are good friends with each other. I just think

1074
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 2: that he's got a very busy life, you know, with

1075
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:27,080
Speaker 2: his hair studio and the and the hair salon and

1076
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:30,759
Speaker 2: all the things associated with that. Guy and Chalk on

1077
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 2: the other side of that are are guy Our people

1078
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:40,840
Speaker 2: that are men that are looking for love. They're looking

1079
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 2: for love, not that Pascal isn't. He just leads a

1080
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 2: much busier lifestyle than the other two guys.

1081
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:49,000
Speaker 1: It sounds like somebody would really, she'd really have to

1082
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:50,200
Speaker 1: fit into his life.

1083
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:55,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, right, as opposed to them both merging together.

1084
00:49:57,480 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 2: And that's again why I think Guy because he's a

1085
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 2: he's an er surgeon. He would move to Maryland in

1086
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 2: a heartbeat if that were to work its way out.

1087
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 2: And yeah, so those are the two guys I think

1088
00:50:10,760 --> 00:50:11,840
Speaker 2: that she'd done.

1089
00:50:12,760 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I think too.

1090
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 2: You know.

1091
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 1: One of the things I think we've learned from the

1092
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: first season of well from the Golden Bachelor, is that

1093
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:25,239
Speaker 1: everyone at this stage in the game is invested in

1094
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:27,399
Speaker 1: the areas that they live in, right. I mean, whether

1095
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:30,480
Speaker 1: it's because your grandchildren are there, you know, whatever it

1096
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: might be. And you know how many people are going

1097
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 1: to literally uproot and say, Okay, I'm move in here.

1098
00:50:38,200 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 1: You know, it's like it's like you're not going to

1099
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:42,280
Speaker 1: want to vacate those areas where your family is and

1100
00:50:41,960 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 1: where you're where your family, you know, your children, your

1101
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: grandchildren and your children are. So you're gonna need someone

1102
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:51,799
Speaker 1: who's either a completely unattached or be willing to kind

1103
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:55,960
Speaker 1: of be not necessarily by coastal but by city living, right,

1104
00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 1: Like they're gonna have to be willing to go, hey,

1105
00:50:57,480 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: we're gonna we're gonna go two weeks here and two

1106
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:02,759
Speaker 1: weeks or maybe every other weekend we're here, season there,

1107
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 1: in a season here there you go. Yeah, you're gonna

1108
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:07,359
Speaker 1: have to be open to that. And and maybe that's

1109
00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 1: part of it too with Pascal, like you said, and

1110
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 1: like Jason mentioned, plugging into his lifestyle. Obviously, you're right,

1111
00:51:12,680 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: he's not necessarily uprooting and going anywhere. No matter how

1112
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:17,799
Speaker 1: much you might care about someone, it's gonna be a

1113
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:19,840
Speaker 1: lot in distance relationship. Yeah, you've got you've got a

1114
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:24,479
Speaker 1: whole season there man in Palm Spring. Yeah, the same

1115
00:51:24,520 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 1: season all the time, which is perfect every day. Yeah, exactly.

1116
00:51:27,800 --> 00:51:30,040
Speaker 2: I'm listening at the sunshine today. It's in the mid

1117
00:51:30,080 --> 00:51:32,879
Speaker 2: seventies and it's uh, it's that time of year when

1118
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 2: all of the folks come back in in town. You know,

1119
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 2: they leave for the summer and they come back for

1120
00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:39,319
Speaker 2: the winter and spring months.

1121
00:51:39,360 --> 00:51:41,560
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's why traffic's better here in Seattle. Right now,

1122
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:43,399
Speaker 1: they've all left to come down there. They've left there

1123
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: all yuh guys, guys, it's seventy five and mildly sunny

1124
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:49,879
Speaker 1: here in Michigan. So we're kind of got the best

1125
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:52,320
Speaker 1: of both worlds. We got the mildly sunny of Seattle

1126
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:53,800
Speaker 1: and the seventy five of the Palm Desert.

1127
00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:55,240
Speaker 2: Yeah beautiful.

1128
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 1: So, Jason, I got a question for you. So, and

1129
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 1: you are the one who can answer this better than

1130
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 1: better than I know myself. Joan and whoever she chooses

1131
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 1: right the hardest part. And we've seen this all the

1132
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:14,439
Speaker 1: way back to the original First Bachelor, all the way

1133
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 1: through to whatever season one hundred and sixty five that

1134
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 1: we're on now, how how do you adapt and adjust

1135
00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:28,840
Speaker 1: your lifestyles together post show for success, right, because I

1136
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:31,239
Speaker 1: think we've all seen people come off the show now,

1137
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 1: we've even seen a few people come off the show

1138
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 1: and get married and divorced, you know. And I mean

1139
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:40,759
Speaker 1: I can say honestly, it's not easy coming off the

1140
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:45,720
Speaker 1: show and keeping even a dating relationship together. But Jason,

1141
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 1: you've done it, and you've done it in grand fashion.

1142
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 1: I mean, you're happier now. Every time I see you,

1143
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:52,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, God, I love those two together. It's just

1144
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:55,560
Speaker 1: like you guys, you know, in Tristan and Ryan, same thing,

1145
00:52:55,760 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 1: you know, Aaron, Aaron and Catherine. You know, I've seen

1146
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:01,520
Speaker 1: it and it's right now there you go. Joey and

1147
00:53:01,600 --> 00:53:04,279
Speaker 1: Kelsey look amazingly happy right now, and they're committing that

1148
00:53:04,320 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 1: time together. And that's got to be so hard to

1149
00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:07,799
Speaker 1: because he's on Dancing with the Stars as well, and

1150
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 1: he's you know, he's on a dance point. I mean,

1151
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:11,680
Speaker 1: there's a lot going on there. But Jayson, what would

1152
00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 1: be your experience if you had a piece of advice

1153
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:18,440
Speaker 1: to give to Joan and one of these guys, what

1154
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:20,320
Speaker 1: would it be. Well, I think there's a couple of

1155
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 1: things to stick out.

1156
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 3: The first one and I said, this to anybody who's

1157
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 3: asked me for advice is I think only you and

1158
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:29,239
Speaker 3: whoever you choose or your partner is know what the

1159
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 3: truth is.

1160
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 1: Like are you in it for the TV fame and

1161
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:34,040
Speaker 1: all that, or are you really into the relationship?

1162
00:53:34,360 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 3: And you've got to be honest with you because there's

1163
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:37,759
Speaker 3: a lot of people, especially the younger not not talking

1164
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:39,839
Speaker 3: about the golden bachler or bachelorette. I think a lot

1165
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,399
Speaker 3: of people are looking to make make up a really

1166
00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:45,080
Speaker 3: good living from what they've done, right, And you've got

1167
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:46,880
Speaker 3: to the TV stuff, And I think you've got to

1168
00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:49,759
Speaker 3: be honest with yourself. And if if you really do,

1169
00:53:49,920 --> 00:53:52,520
Speaker 3: I think it is helpful to go back to wherever

1170
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:54,680
Speaker 3: you're from, right. Chris Harrison used to say that all

1171
00:53:54,680 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 3: the time, like, don't move to New York, don't move

1172
00:53:56,680 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 3: to LA don't quit your day jaunt, don't you like Yeah, yeah,

1173
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 3: Chris is like you'll be more successful in your day

1174
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:03,120
Speaker 3: job than anything else.

1175
00:54:03,560 --> 00:54:04,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say that.

1176
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 3: And I used to talk to trist about this all

1177
00:54:05,960 --> 00:54:08,319
Speaker 3: the time. And I and I think the other thing

1178
00:54:08,400 --> 00:54:12,799
Speaker 3: is like give it. Like Molly and I were living,

1179
00:54:12,840 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 3: Molly was living in Milwaukee and I was living in Seattle,

1180
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 3: Like don't you don't have to jump in real quick,

1181
00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:21,479
Speaker 3: like like like uplifting your life, uprooting your life and saying, hey,

1182
00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 3: I'm going to move to Seattle or I'm going to

1183
00:54:23,239 --> 00:54:25,440
Speaker 3: move to Michigan, or I'm going to move to Papa Springs.

1184
00:54:25,880 --> 00:54:28,279
Speaker 1: Like that's not real either, Like you meet somebody.

1185
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:30,239
Speaker 3: In a week later that move, I'd say, you get

1186
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 3: a shot where you're going to expose yourself to their life.

1187
00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 1: They're going to experience some of your life and you.

1188
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:38,319
Speaker 3: Know, and again, like whether it's the Golden Bachelor or

1189
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:40,600
Speaker 3: as the show changes a little bit, a lot of

1190
00:54:40,640 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 3: people have kids or grandkids.

1191
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:43,640
Speaker 1: So you want to be able to be real like

1192
00:54:43,680 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 1: and I went through this.

1193
00:54:44,520 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 3: Right, You want to be really sensitive that like that

1194
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 3: really works out and like the people in your life

1195
00:54:51,120 --> 00:54:53,799
Speaker 3: aren't like shell shocked by this other person coming into

1196
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 3: your life and same vice person, but really experiencing where

1197
00:54:57,760 --> 00:54:59,880
Speaker 3: they're from. Like Molly and I dated long distance from

1198
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 3: a year, like we here once a month, I'd go

1199
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 3: there once a month, and we did it. Like again,

1200
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:06,879
Speaker 3: it took a it was a year, and that might

1201
00:55:06,920 --> 00:55:09,280
Speaker 3: be fast for some people, but we gave it plenty

1202
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:10,760
Speaker 3: of time before she moved to Seattle.

1203
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:14,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that that is that's the kind of

1204
00:55:14,560 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 1: advice that, Yeah, that's the kind of advice that you

1205
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:20,399
Speaker 1: need to hear because I think what happens, Uh, there's

1206
00:55:20,440 --> 00:55:23,520
Speaker 1: there's so much pressure, as we all know, you know,

1207
00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:28,319
Speaker 1: and I mean, you know, when when I chose a

1208
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:30,400
Speaker 1: whole by the name of Estella, I didn't propose at

1209
00:55:30,440 --> 00:55:32,560
Speaker 1: the time, and when we came off the show, there

1210
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:34,960
Speaker 1: was just so much pressure to do so many things,

1211
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:37,520
Speaker 1: and my life was going on a million miles an hour,

1212
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:42,600
Speaker 1: and you know, hers wasn't because they didn't know her yet, right,

1213
00:55:42,640 --> 00:55:45,759
Speaker 1: because she hadn't been exposed yet. And and it's the

1214
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 1: way they used to do the show back then. And

1215
00:55:47,680 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 1: I'm not sure if you if you even watched it

1216
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:50,839
Speaker 1: back then, Gary or not, but they would always make

1217
00:55:50,840 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 1: it seem like you were going to pick the other one,

1218
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:54,680
Speaker 1: so that you know, there's like this formulaic thing, and

1219
00:55:54,719 --> 00:55:56,799
Speaker 1: so if you if you were choosing this person, they

1220
00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:58,359
Speaker 1: always made it look like you were choosing this one,

1221
00:55:58,560 --> 00:56:00,319
Speaker 1: so that when you actually chose this one, it was

1222
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:04,040
Speaker 1: shock and awe, but there was also automatic backlash, you know,

1223
00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:06,760
Speaker 1: And so you come off that last night of filming,

1224
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 1: and now it's finally out there and everyone knows we're together,

1225
00:56:09,719 --> 00:56:11,239
Speaker 1: and everywhere you go they're like, why didn't you pick

1226
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 1: the other one? I don't understand, and they're saying it

1227
00:56:13,960 --> 00:56:15,399
Speaker 1: right in front of her, like she's not even there,

1228
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my god.

1229
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:16,480
Speaker 2: You know.

1230
00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:19,919
Speaker 1: It was terrible, you know, and thankfully we're still really

1231
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 1: friendly that both of the last two girls of my

1232
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:23,440
Speaker 1: season and I are and they've both been guessed on

1233
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:26,319
Speaker 1: almost famous dogs by the way, which is crazy. Yeah,

1234
00:56:26,360 --> 00:56:28,719
Speaker 1: oh yeah, yeah, that's been kind of fun. It's been

1235
00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 1: a guest too. Yeah. So it's always Bob's access on

1236
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:31,880
Speaker 1: the show.

1237
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 2: But let me interject because I think something Jason said

1238
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:39,400
Speaker 2: is very important and we don't want to forget. And

1239
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:44,120
Speaker 2: I think that's why the producers have incorporated the family,

1240
00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 2: you know, the hometowns that meet the families, because you

1241
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:52,120
Speaker 2: really take into consideration your loved ones and their thoughts,

1242
00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:55,719
Speaker 2: who are now adult kids and they have marriages, and

1243
00:56:56,560 --> 00:56:59,240
Speaker 2: you want them to have some say in this because

1244
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:03,000
Speaker 2: you really, I don't even trust their opinion, and I

1245
00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:05,839
Speaker 2: think that's another big part of the decision you have

1246
00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:08,640
Speaker 2: to make and who you're going to be with because

1247
00:57:08,680 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 2: it's not just you stand alone anymore. It's now you

1248
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:16,480
Speaker 2: and so many others that decision.

1249
00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:18,920
Speaker 3: You know, it's interesting because, like I think, being on

1250
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 3: the show, you get this natural high. Right there's the TV,

1251
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 3: the cameras, the girls, the dates and everything. But even

1252
00:57:25,720 --> 00:57:28,000
Speaker 3: outside of the show, you're still on a high in those.

1253
00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:29,360
Speaker 1: First few months you're dating somebody.

1254
00:57:29,400 --> 00:57:29,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1255
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 3: Like, and I think you've got to figure out how

1256
00:57:31,400 --> 00:57:34,439
Speaker 3: to put yourself in a position where, like things will

1257
00:57:34,440 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 3: happen after the high, like the real relate. Well we've

1258
00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 3: all been married, right, so the real relationship happens when

1259
00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 3: the high's over, exactly, of in a position where you

1260
00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:47,479
Speaker 3: can really realistically understand what life will be like after

1261
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:48,080
Speaker 3: that high.

1262
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I agree. I agree. Man. Well, hey, Gary,

1263
00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:56,400
Speaker 1: if your phone rings tomorrow and they're like, yes, sir Gary,

1264
00:57:57,040 --> 00:57:58,760
Speaker 1: this is the call, buddy. We want to know are

1265
00:57:58,760 --> 00:58:01,040
Speaker 1: you here? We go Jason doing the call. We want

1266
00:58:01,080 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 1: you to be the next Golden Bachelor. Gary, what are

1267
00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 1: we saying? That's a tough.

1268
00:58:11,640 --> 00:58:14,640
Speaker 2: Because you know, look, you guys have been in that

1269
00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:18,800
Speaker 2: hot seat where you're making decisions about who and when

1270
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:22,560
Speaker 2: and where and why. Uh, it'd be a lot of fun,

1271
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 2: but at the same time it could be very stressful.

1272
00:58:26,880 --> 00:58:29,000
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I have to think about that.

1273
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:29,440
Speaker 1: I haven't.

1274
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 2: I haven't really even thought about that and taking that

1275
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:34,960
Speaker 2: next step. But you know, who knows. Let's see, let's

1276
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:37,400
Speaker 2: see where. Let's see where the big man upstairs takes me.

1277
00:58:37,360 --> 00:58:38,800
Speaker 1: And that you know what's funny about That's where I

1278
00:58:38,880 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 1: will be. You know what's funny about that? Like, I

1279
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:41,400
Speaker 1: think all of it.

1280
00:58:41,480 --> 00:58:43,720
Speaker 3: I think I even called Bob before I did The Bachelor.

1281
00:58:43,760 --> 00:58:44,920
Speaker 3: I think we all called Bob.

1282
00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:48,120
Speaker 1: And we did. Yeah, we talked for sure close.

1283
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:51,000
Speaker 3: I think he's I think what he said and if

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Speaker 3: I could quote wrong, he's like, I'm gonna tell you

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Speaker 3: not to do it, but you're gonna do it anyways.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I actually do think I said that because I

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Speaker 1: I will tell you. I mean one of the things too,

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Speaker 1: What about Golden Paradise. What if they did a Bachelor?

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Speaker 1: You know Golden Bachelor?

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Speaker 2: Is that okay? So I'd probably have to drop about

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Speaker 2: thirty forty pounds, you know. I don't know. If you

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Speaker 2: guys saw that Chippendale dance where Mike Big King showed up,

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking I got a six pack and they didn't

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Speaker 2: slow motion.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking, oh no, when you get older, it's called

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Speaker 1: the keg exactly. Yeah, it's a kegger, it's ager, so

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Speaker 1: you guys you know, yeah, yeah, I love to think

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Speaker 1: about it. Right. Well, Thank you guys both so much

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Speaker 1: for being open to talking about all this stuff. And

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Speaker 1: I mean, you talk about putting yourself out there. You

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Speaker 1: guys both did that today. You both did it when

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Speaker 1: you were on the show. And I think I've already

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Speaker 1: seen it unfold for Jason, but I think we're gonna

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Speaker 1: watch it unfold with you too, Gary. That It's just

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Speaker 1: things are just gonna keep on getting better, buddy, and

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Speaker 1: I and I think you deserve it, and I'm happy

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Speaker 1: for you and and very happy to see what comes

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Speaker 1: next for you, my friend. And you guys are always

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Speaker 1: welcome to join me here where we are just doling

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Speaker 1: out the advice we humanly possibly can to anybody who

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Speaker 1: might be listening. Right, So awesome, awesome, stay close, stay

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Speaker 1: c yes out of that you what you guys all

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Speaker 1: do so very well.

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Speaker 5: Man.

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Speaker 2: You guys mean so much and you matter to so

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Speaker 2: many folks. But I need you to so stay quotes please.

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Speaker 1: We got you, got you, buddy, Jasin and I Are.

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Speaker 1: We're a package deal. You got us anytime you guys.

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Speaker 1: All right, guys, it was so great catch up with

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Speaker 1: both of you. I think a lot of women got

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Speaker 1: a bunch of wonderful information out of our session today.

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Speaker 1: It's a great job, gentlemen. Now, if you guys are

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Speaker 1: we're here for you, Okay, this is what we're doing

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Speaker 1: now right. We're a team and we're gonna dish out.

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Speaker 1: You know, we're gonna I'm gonna bring my guys back

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Speaker 1: whenever we need more. Yeah, that's right. Well, I think

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Speaker 1: we did a great job today, guys. We solving all

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Speaker 1: the world's problems. We gave a bunch of awesome places

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Speaker 1: for women and men to meet. So you know, I

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Speaker 1: think I think we've really delivered on a lot of

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Speaker 1: this for everybody, and if you guys have any success

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Speaker 1: out there at any of the spots we mentioned, call

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Speaker 1: We need to know what we're doing here matters. I

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