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Speaker 1: our first stop on October twenty first at the tear

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Speaker 1: because the night is going to be filled with naughty

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Speaker 1: a Good Mom show, So I cannot wait to see you.

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Speaker 1: That's October twenty first at the tear a Gram Ballroom.

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Speaker 1: Click the link in this episode description and get your

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Speaker 1: tickets today. If you're not aware of who you are

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Speaker 1: and really just taking care of yourself, you can easily

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Speaker 1: be told anything.

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Speaker 2: And what's funny is because it's cultural too in our culture,

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Speaker 2: blacks and browns or kurvy. This is whybbl's are very popular,

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Speaker 2: not popular, right, But at the end of the day,

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 2: You can have all the surgeries in the world and

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Speaker 2: have the nicest body in the world is you. It's

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Speaker 4: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 4: I'm Meila, Happy Wednesday, Happy Hemp Day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, how you doing?

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Speaker 4: I feel good. I drink coffee so I feel energized.

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Speaker 4: Oh how is that with this burst of the energy

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Speaker 3: I haven't had coffee in two days, and this is

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Speaker 4: How come we haven't had coffee in two days? We

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Speaker 4: We wore like nighttime sunglasses every day, which is obviously

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Speaker 4: They have to be like light or else I'll be

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Speaker 4: Shout out to Nikki who took care of us and

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Speaker 4: And just shout out to all the women and moms

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Speaker 1: You guys, we have none other than health coach, mom

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Speaker 3: Massie. Thank you ladies for having me.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Good Mom Show.

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Speaker 3: I'm so excited to be here. Really really cool, dope,

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Speaker 3: Did you come here to California? No? New York? Okay,

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Speaker 2: that I have a blood condition that causes my asthma.

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00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:44,399
Speaker 2: So I couldn't even perform sports because I had a reaction, right, And.

441
00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:48,480
Speaker 3: I literally started.

442
00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:53,480
Speaker 2: At the time, a boyfriend of mine, my first boyfriend

443
00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:56,639
Speaker 2: I ended up in good hands with, who is now

444
00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:58,920
Speaker 2: one of my best friends, was a personal trainer, and

445
00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:02,119
Speaker 2: I fell into this DEPRESSI where I mean, I'm almost

446
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:06,520
Speaker 2: five nine, I'm tall, right, and I went down to

447
00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:09,440
Speaker 2: maybe one hundred and fourteen pounds to my lowest, looking

448
00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:13,119
Speaker 2: almost anorexic, loosing all my hair, my gums. I mean,

449
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:15,160
Speaker 2: now it's coming back, thank God, after the baby.

450
00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,680
Speaker 3: But I was lost. I quit school, I dropped out.

451
00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 3: I just didn't want to do anything I lived.

452
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:28,520
Speaker 2: I lived that crazy life that you would never think

453
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:34,200
Speaker 2: eleven years now the person that I've become, and everything

454
00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:42,040
Speaker 2: I did was to help myself be a different person. Mentally,

455
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 2: I was weak. I felt weak mentally, and even my

456
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 2: emotional intelligence wasn't there. Right, So when I say that

457
00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 2: I fitness, I didn't do it for the body, even

458
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 2: though I had body this morphia. Because I'm from the Caribbe,

459
00:21:56,520 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 2: I'm supposed to have curbs. I'm supposed to and I'm

460
00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:02,280
Speaker 2: here an ectomore. Most people do not know as well.

461
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 2: I have to do very hard things to keep a

462
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:08,639
Speaker 2: little bit of weight right. So coincidentally, you know, I

463
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:16,720
Speaker 2: just started doing doing training little by little. I couldn't

464
00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 2: even run a block without losing my breath and having

465
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:24,119
Speaker 2: an asthma attack, right, And I started sharing my journey

466
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:28,160
Speaker 2: little by little, and then it just became something huge. Wow,

467
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:32,240
Speaker 2: Because I was speaking out of honesty, So people followed

468
00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:35,360
Speaker 2: a journey. It's very difficult to do that now, right,

469
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:38,920
Speaker 2: But back then, when Instagram it was just a filter

470
00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 2: app and it started to develop, people were following my

471
00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:46,560
Speaker 2: journey and they were relating to what I was feeling.

472
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:51,880
Speaker 2: Because I've been extremely open about my entire life. Right,

473
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:55,919
Speaker 2: it's only up until three years ago that I've had

474
00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 2: to remain very quiet and very private for reasons that

475
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,800
Speaker 2: we're going to probably we talk about later on. But

476
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 2: I fell in love with fitness. What it did to

477
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,439
Speaker 2: my brain, what it did to my confidence. I get

478
00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 2: goosebumps still talking about that story, because I will never

479
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 2: go back. What you feel when you I mean looking

480
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 2: back eleven years ago, Oh my god, I was like

481
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:22,920
Speaker 2: a marionette to what we call today the I guess

482
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 2: like the system, you know, this shoe box that you

483
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:29,639
Speaker 2: have to feel these ideas. I had to open up

484
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 2: my mind about a lot of things. In fitness really

485
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 2: truly gave me power and for a.

486
00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:40,920
Speaker 3: Very long time.

487
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 2: Once I got in the groove of things that I

488
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,640
Speaker 2: just wanted to mentally feel better, and all was doing

489
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,400
Speaker 2: was like cardio and doing things that going outside, going

490
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:52,680
Speaker 2: for walks, I started working on my strength because I

491
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 2: felt weak mentally and physically. And the strength that you

492
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,959
Speaker 2: see and everything that I do today has stemmed from

493
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:03,920
Speaker 2: that very beginning, the confidence that fitness gives you. And

494
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:07,520
Speaker 2: I've always been this way always. I want to be

495
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 2: the best and see the fullest potential that I can be.

496
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 3: Period. So that's how it all started. No, fitness is

497
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 3: very important.

498
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: I teach it, I coach it, and I do it

499
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 2: in a way that is bs free, Well we can

500
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 2: say bullshit free. I'm not going to be the person

501
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:28,119
Speaker 2: that is going to tell you what you want to

502
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,760
Speaker 2: hear or sell you a dream. I'm going to give

503
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:35,359
Speaker 2: you the tools so that we can slowly find a

504
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 2: process to get you up to speed and take your

505
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 2: power back with your body, with your health, with I

506
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,160
Speaker 2: mean most of the things that I do is now

507
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,439
Speaker 2: life coaching, because it sounds like therapy.

508
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 1: It sounds like it's like a therapy, which I think

509
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 1: in nately, I think once you start getting into shape

510
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: and start working on your body or it, eventually it

511
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:01,239
Speaker 1: inevitably also starts to affect your mind or train your

512
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 1: mind in a way.

513
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:04,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, in a capacity you know if you let it.

514
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:07,159
Speaker 1: But you know, sometimes I mean, as you know, and

515
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 1: if you're listening, like I get it, like I'm one

516
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 1: of those people that is like on their fitness journey

517
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:12,200
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god.

518
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:14,679
Speaker 3: I feel so fucking good. I feel amazing, and.

519
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: Like one thing comes into my life to kind of

520
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: like say, put a wrench in it real quick, and

521
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 1: then it's like am I going to take the wrench

522
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: or I'm going to go And then I don't know,

523
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:27,159
Speaker 1: like it's it's always the consistence is the consistency for me,

524
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 1: And I don't know why it's so hard to take

525
00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 1: care of yourself. It's not, but it feels like it

526
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:34,399
Speaker 1: is in this, in this in the day that in

527
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 1: the space and time that ran with our being moms,

528
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: being entrepreneurs, Like I want to travel, Like, oh shit,

529
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 1: I'm going to go away for a week. How am

530
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 1: I going to make sure that I stay active in

531
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: that week? And then I come back and I'm not

532
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:48,480
Speaker 1: making excuses. O god, I'll go back in a few days.

533
00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 5: You know.

534
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 1: It's really like the commitment to yourself like anything like

535
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:55,160
Speaker 1: whether that's therapy, whether that's you know, you're building something

536
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 1: that you're that you're passionate about and also like taking

537
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 1: care of this thing, only now we only get one

538
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:02,960
Speaker 1: of I think if I see people. I was on

539
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,320
Speaker 1: the airplane today and there was this woman. She didn't

540
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 1: even look that old, but like she needed to get

541
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 1: up a wheelchair, and I was like, oh my god,

542
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 1: Like I'm so grateful that my legs work, like you

543
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:15,360
Speaker 1: take for granted, like just little things that just come

544
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: naturally until you don't have that shit because he I mean,

545
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 1: it should happens. But also like you know, because it's

546
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 1: your own, because of yourself. We don't become old because

547
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 1: we age.

548
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 2: We become old because we stop moving and doing the

549
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 2: things that are going to keep us young and keep

550
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 2: us sexy.

551
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,159
Speaker 3: There has to be some sort of vanity that you

552
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:35,919
Speaker 3: have to have in.

553
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:39,439
Speaker 2: Self respect and self worth that you look at yourself

554
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:41,160
Speaker 2: and you learn how to cope in the right ways.

555
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 2: I mean, I could grab the glass of wine. I

556
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 2: mean it's easy when when you don't have other tools

557
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,399
Speaker 2: to manage with your children. I mean it raising a

558
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:53,480
Speaker 2: child on your own as a single mom is it's

559
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 2: already hard. So learning the tools to be able to

560
00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:02,639
Speaker 2: be more efficient in and troubleshoot what you want, it

561
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:08,360
Speaker 2: takes planning right. But these things are doable. So that's

562
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 2: what fitness teaches you in the beginning if you've never

563
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 2: done it. Because imagine, like I've been verbally abused let

564
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 2: other people, I would say, you don't you allow people

565
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 2: to make you feel certain things, you know, not even

566
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 2: loving my body for.

567
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 3: What it was, for who I was. So think about

568
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 3: emotional abuse, all of it. Now you can't do that.

569
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,679
Speaker 2: There's even now because most people ask me if I'm

570
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 2: dating and whatnot and prospects. It's like you have to

571
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 2: come correct because I know from a mile away what

572
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 2: you're bringing to the table, and that's okay with me.

573
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 3: You know, it's okay with me. I'm still single and

574
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 3: will be for a very long time.

575
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 4: Yeah. It's like if you're not if you're not aware

576
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 4: of your self worth, then you're more susceptible to emotional abuse,

577
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,440
Speaker 4: you know, because then you believe it. If you don't

578
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:10,239
Speaker 4: know who you are, which you know what you are,

579
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 4: people can say is anything to you and then it'll

580
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 4: affect you. But I'm reading a book and it discusses

581
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 4: like specifically how women are loved from like childhood into

582
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:22,439
Speaker 4: adulthood and that you know, we generally don't have complexes

583
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 4: with our bodies until puberty, and at that point we're

584
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 4: we kind of be we kind of adopt the understanding

585
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 4: that we have to show up a certain way in

586
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 4: our bodies, and then our self worth is tied to that.

587
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 4: And then that's when like at puberty, at your mom

588
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 4: is like put on earrings or you're not dressing like

589
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 4: a lady, or like there's this like at puberty, you

590
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:44,240
Speaker 4: start to understand how your appearance affects your worth and

591
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 4: like even like I'm skinny, you're curvy, and like having

592
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 4: even having such different body types, we're all affected by

593
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 4: society's standard of what beauty is and how you're supposed

594
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 4: to show up. And then like that, you know, if

595
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:01,239
Speaker 4: it doesn't look like this, and you're too skinny, if

596
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 4: you're too if you're to this, then you're to that.

597
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 4: And it's just like how those standards start to like

598
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 4: warp how you feel about yourself, and like we're all

599
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 4: beautiful women and we're all gonna look differently, but like

600
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 4: how you feel is generally like the most the most

601
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 4: important catalyst of everything else. You know, It's like you

602
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 4: might be thicker than you know, and I might be skinny,

603
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 4: and I've been skinny for my whole life and I'm

604
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,840
Speaker 4: still and also like felt like too skinny and not

605
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:30,479
Speaker 4: curvy enough, and like, but it's just crazy how if

606
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 4: you're not aware of who you are and and really

607
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 4: just taking care of yourself, you can easily be told anything.

608
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 2: And what's funny is because it's cultural too, in our culture,

609
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:43,560
Speaker 2: blacks and browns or curvy, right, this is why bbls

610
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 2: are very popular, popular, right, But at the end of

611
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:48,960
Speaker 2: the day, it's not the bl that's going to maintain

612
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 2: a family together.

613
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 1: Right.

614
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 2: You can have all the surgeries in the world and

615
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 2: have the nicest body in the world is you. So

616
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 2: it's how you show up for yourself is what you

617
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 2: do every single day that it's it is self self

618
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 2: love and self worth goes far beyond than what you

619
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 2: look like.

620
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 3: And I always say we should never be in denial,

621
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 3: you know, and there's a lot of us who are

622
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 3: in denial. At the end of the day, you you

623
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 3: know what you have to do to get on the

624
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 3: other side. How how you get to the.

625
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 2: Other side, right, is what's important because at the end

626
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 2: of a day, like I'm referring it back to saying like,

627
00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:35,480
Speaker 2: you know who you are, you accentuate the you know

628
00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 2: your body the way that you want to accentuate it. Right,

629
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 2: So if you don't, if you're not where you want

630
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 2: to be, then let's fix it. And let's fix it

631
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 2: from an area that comes from love instead of hate.

632
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 2: Right like, okay, Like, let's not be a denial girl

633
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 2: like you let yourself go ooh, I'm here to help together.

634
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 2: Let's go, let's do this, right, Let's get you back

635
00:30:57,320 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 2: to being who you feel like you want to be.

636
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 2: And he's transcending even body types.

637
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 1: Right. Well, we give this thing on our show where

638
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: we play a little game called Trigger and I would

639
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 1: love to play with you to get to know you

640
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 1: a little better quickly. Basically, I say a word and

641
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 1: then you say the first thing that comes to your mind. Okay,

642
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 1: don't overthink it, you might get nasty. And when's your birthday?

643
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 1: That's part of trigger base is Yeah, it is in

644
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: this one, okay, because it's never been in there before.

645
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 3: You want my son, my moon, my you don't give

646
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 3: us a la.

647
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 1: We might as well, what is it?

648
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 3: Actually?

649
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 1: What is it?

650
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 3: Oh God turner?

651
00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 2: Actually, but my son is in sash Okay my moon

652
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 2: is in Gemini. Oh my my venus instant Scorpio.

653
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 3: Okay, which you're rising? Do you're rising?

654
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 5: Oh?

655
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 3: Your fire baby?

656
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're so you're you're rising and your sun

657
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: are our fire and then your moon is what's Gemini air? Yeah?

658
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 1: I don't know what the Andrew Latina, you're a fucking firecracker.

659
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 1: The hate of what fire signs?

660
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:19,560
Speaker 3: Which is a sign?

661
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 4: Air signs?

662
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: Specifically Geminii. He's an Aquarius. Oh, I love Aquariuses. Yeah,

663
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 1: I mean I think there's specific signs that do. I

664
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 1: always say like it's the unhealed versions of these signs.

665
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 1: And granted not everyone's no one's healed, right, but like

666
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:40,959
Speaker 1: the ones that have you haven't even been no acknowledge

667
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 1: that they needed to do any sort of work at all.

668
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,680
Speaker 1: Those are the ones you gotta be careful. Those are

669
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 1: the terrifying ones because I'm a Scorpio, and Scorpios, you

670
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: know we are. We're already kind of like, you know,

671
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 1: we're a little tricky. So when do you even say

672
00:32:55,400 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: tricky not tricky like like sneaky. Well, yes, but if

673
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 1: you're done wrong, yeah, but I think you know, we

674
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: can just be evil in ways and there's certain signs

675
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 1: that don't really have evil in them, you know, you know,

676
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 1: and so I you know cancer too because she's cancer.

677
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 1: Very highly emotional you know too, Like just as much

678
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:26,840
Speaker 1: as a scorpio bitch. I'm not saying that highly emotional

679
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:31,479
Speaker 1: aspect you are working on yourself can come out hateful.

680
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

681
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: So I feel like, especially with the men.

682
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 3: It's like my dad. My dad is a scorpio. He's

683
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 3: the coolest guy. Yeah, but walk correct.

684
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, he'll love you until he don't until you do

685
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 2: something wrong and then that's it.

686
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 1: Ye, ghosted.

687
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 3: For life.

688
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 1: I could do that.

689
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 3: Okay, here we go, let's play trigger guys.

690
00:33:57,320 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: Bad habits have so many I was gonna say, you

691
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: don't have any bad habits.

692
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 3: Trying to save people?

693
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 1: Captain save ah, that's like that part bad habits of

694
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 1: just women and everyone, because I don't with all the

695
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: red flags like are there for you, are men.

696
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 3: Doing a lot of saving? No?

697
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 1: I don't think so. Yeah, I mean maybe like financially

698
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 1: sometimes it makes them feel good, but that saving like

699
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:37,720
Speaker 1: like brand building of a human that's women's women marriage,

700
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:45,280
Speaker 1: not those eyes marriage, she said, slavery.

701
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 2: A mutual contract, motherhood Jesus is supposed to be quick

702
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:06,239
Speaker 2: on the best thing that ever happened to me. Religion agnostic,

703
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 2: but very Christian?

704
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: Is an agnostic Christian? You don't believe.

705
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 3: But it's not that I'm believing. But we don't know.

706
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 3: You don't know. We just don't know. We just don't know.

707
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 3: But I am. I'm a child of God, very Christian,

708
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 3: born in a very Orthodox That don't make no sense.

709
00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 3: How are you going to be a child of God?

710
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 2: Very Christian? But you're agnostic? Agnostic? Because think about this,

711
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 2: if you're a Muslim, do I hate you?

712
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 3: Well?

713
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 1: Do you think if you choose a religion you have

714
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 1: to hate them, hate one of them?

715
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:39,840
Speaker 3: Well? But most Orthodox religions.

716
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 2: They are there's a hierarchy, and for me, we don't

717
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 2: know we have If you understand world religion, we're all

718
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:53,400
Speaker 2: saying that something higher exists and we're all creating our

719
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:56,799
Speaker 2: different stories. But at the end of the day, most religions,

720
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:01,800
Speaker 2: God is love. So I am not going to hate

721
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 2: on another religion, hate on another person because I am

722
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 2: believing in my opinioned opinion of what is up there.

723
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 2: So that's what I mean when I say agnostic. I

724
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 2: can sit down with anyone and hear you out and

725
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 2: continue to learn. But at the end of a day,

726
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 2: we don't know. We don't know what's up there and

727
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 2: what's waiting. What we do know is that we are

728
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 2: all made out of flesh, and even though we want

729
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 2: to be different and differentiate ourselves from whether it's cultural, ethnicity, race,

730
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 2: believes political, at the end of a day, we all

731
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 2: go through one thing that will have in common. It's

732
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:46,879
Speaker 2: human experienced and death exactly. So that's what I mean,

733
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 2: got it. I know what I know, and I follow

734
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:54,080
Speaker 2: what I follow, but technically we do not know. So

735
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 2: are you also open to adopting certain belief systems of

736
00:36:57,840 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 2: other religions that they resonate with you?

737
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:05,920
Speaker 3: Well, if you look at oh we're going at home,

738
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 3: my mom is going to kill me upset, but she

739
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:18,320
Speaker 3: as well has opened herself to being more receptive. So

740
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 3: what would you ask me?

741
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 2: Again?

742
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 3: Oh?

743
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 1: I was just asking if would you be open to

744
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: adopting a other belief systems and of other religions if

745
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:25,800
Speaker 1: they resonated with you?

746
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 3: Yeah?

747
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, cool, Like being kind and loving your neighbor, yeah,

748
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 1: or like I don't know, whatever it is, like certain

749
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:48,800
Speaker 1: rituals or belief systems in general, like you know, okay, monogamy, tradition,

750
00:37:49,680 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: open relationship, good luck, childhood, special h your childhood, wonderful, obesity,

751
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 1: preventive health, priority, cannabis, and a loos like man, black women, gorgeous?

752
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 1: Favorite artist dead or alive? We're doing this, favorite artists live.

753
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:44,320
Speaker 1: I would say.

754
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 3: Jesus Christ. That is just hard. I was like, Jesus,

755
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 3: what song he got? I'm just so ambiguous with my

756
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:59,720
Speaker 3: with my what him? I would say, I mean total

757
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 3: pad which I will say Bruno Mars. Okay, he was

758
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 3: so talented.

759
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 1: I was expecting Bruno.

760
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 2: Bruno Mars is like an all like old time. You know,

761
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 2: you can just put it anywhere, listen to it. He's

762
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 2: just like whether you're crying, hyped up, motivated.

763
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:18,440
Speaker 1: Did you have you seen his documentary where he was

764
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: like a little Elvis impersonator as a child on the islands. No, yes,

765
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: he was an Elvis impersonator, like a tiny Elvis impersonator,

766
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,919
Speaker 1: like seven years old Hawaii, maybe the younger six in Hawaii. Yeah.

767
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 3: He would get hired for parties and he was the best.

768
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,520
Speaker 1: That's hilarious. That's why he has that You know he

769
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 1: got that little do wop soul ship going on.

770
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 3: I'm gonna change my mind. I'm an artist. I would

771
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:42,760
Speaker 3: say one who one Luis Gera Louise.

772
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:45,480
Speaker 2: If you're if I'm going on the Spanish inside, you

773
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:45,960
Speaker 2: gotta go there.

774
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,399
Speaker 3: He would be the ultimate. Okay is he still alive?

775
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, okay, he's still popping? Oh? Is he cute?

776
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:53,800
Speaker 3: I mean not like that?

777
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 2: Well you just said it like international were like, I

778
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 2: was like, do I need to look at he know,

779
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:01,120
Speaker 2: he's like a dad.

780
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:06,480
Speaker 3: To turn on.

781
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 2: Intelligence, turn off arrogance, masturbation, needed, threesomes, good.

782
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:21,359
Speaker 3: Luck, favorite.

783
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 1: Goods that fire.

784
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:30,240
Speaker 3: She's like, it's my good luck. Not I don't share? Uh, anal,

785
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 3: why not if you're with your partner? Why not?

786
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:37,840
Speaker 1: Favorite porn category?

787
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 3: I don't help one. You don't watch porn? Yeah, it's

788
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 3: not for everybody.

789
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 2: Uh.

790
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 3: Favorite position It all depends in love.

791
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, like in love or like casual sex or two

792
00:40:57,480 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 1: different ones.

793
00:40:57,960 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 3: I mean I don't know what cassual sex is.

794
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: Okay, favorite position in overall sex missionary visionary looking at

795
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: as it's yeah, it's it's it's intimacy.

796
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 3: It's about intimacy.

797
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 1: That's a scorpia venus.

798
00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:11,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like.

799
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, if you break eye contact, I can't trust you.

800
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:22,720
Speaker 3: Oh you can't look at me. It's over.

801
00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 1: Therapy. Essential celebrity crush, m.

802
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 3: Am. I weird that I don't have any like celebrity.

803
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 1: I mean now it's not met some people that I

804
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:48,920
Speaker 1: really that I had.

805
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 2: A crush on and it was a disappointment. So I

806
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 2: don't have any crushes per se, because I need to

807
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 2: know who you are as a person. Do you have

808
00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 2: an I'm a sapiosexual. Do you have any brushes right

809
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 2: now in real life?

810
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 4: Yes?

811
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 3: You do? I do? Oh just one?

812
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:15,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, couple, I have a couple, right And I'm just

813
00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:18,800
Speaker 2: seeing how you're gonna You know, this is a scorpio vibe.

814
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:22,239
Speaker 2: You just take it's low and see if you're down

815
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 2: for the long ride.

816
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:28,359
Speaker 3: How has it takes me a lot to trust people?

817
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,400
Speaker 3: How has dating been as a single mom? Because you

818
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 3: were married a joke? You were married before?

819
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 1: Right?

820
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 3: Yes?

821
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 1: And how long were you married?

822
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 3: For? Three years? Sure? Were you guys with each other

823
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:39,880
Speaker 3: prior to that for a good amount of time as well?

824
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:40,359
Speaker 2: Years?

825
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 1: Eight years and then three years married? Yeah, so no,

826
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 1: not eight years total?

827
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:48,720
Speaker 3: Eight years? Nine years total. Three of those were married.

828
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 3: That's a long time in your a very long time.

829
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 2: And I feel like I don't know how old you are,

830
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 2: but like in a I'm about to be thirty five

831
00:42:56,200 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 2: this year Club listen, thirty five is a different thirty five.

832
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:05,320
Speaker 1: It is, I mean because even my relationship, I was

833
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 1: with my partner for seven years. We got together when

834
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 1: I was twenty two, so he took up all of

835
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 1: my twenties pretty much, like from twenty two to thirty,

836
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 1: you know, And so those are like such integral, moste

837
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 1: parts of your life, those twenties, you know. So I

838
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 1: was it's it shaped me in ways you're naive still, yeah, yeah,

839
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:29,239
Speaker 1: So coming out of your marriage, like how what was

840
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 1: what was that?

841
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 3: Like?

842
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:34,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess choosing to not be married anymore.

843
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 1: I mean, at least for me, Like there was a

844
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 1: definitely like a moment in my relationship where I was

845
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 1: extremely happy for a long period of time. And I

846
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: talk about that too, and even in our book, I say,

847
00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:44,760
Speaker 1: like there were years in which I was totally happy.

848
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 1: I was blissfully Like me and my partner we don't argue,

849
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: like everything's perfect, like he's mean to other people, but

850
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 1: never to me, I say the attention how people treat others,

851
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 1: I know, well, you know, well.

852
00:43:58,040 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 3: It's it was.

853
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 1: I was a dumbach just like, oh my god, I'm

854
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:06,760
Speaker 1: special and be charismatic, and he was extremely charismatic and funny.

855
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:07,880
Speaker 1: So there were all a lot of things that kind

856
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 1: of balance those things out, you know. And you know

857
00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 1: we we're young too, and so is he in ways,

858
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 1: so like there will be challenges, and.

859
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:20,279
Speaker 2: From a very young age, I've always been the same.

860
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 2: I don't think you know, I think we evolve our

861
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 2: personality traits. But I'm very independent. I'm a learner. I

862
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:31,400
Speaker 2: love to learn, and I'm just a force to be

863
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 2: reckoned with in everything that I do. That's how my

864
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 2: parents race me. They raised me with a lot of

865
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: They gave me a lot of confidence. You're gonna be great,

866
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:45,400
Speaker 2: You're gonna do great things. They they always instilled that

867
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 2: in me, especially my dad, until I was on the

868
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 2: other path.

869
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:52,320
Speaker 3: He just is o me, but for other path for

870
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 3: a good reason, right, because I had to learn right.

871
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 3: So I think.

872
00:44:57,920 --> 00:45:02,000
Speaker 2: People grow apart. And for me, the concept of marriage

873
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 2: was very important because if I was going to get married,

874
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 2: it's for life, okay, But that those were not my circumstances.

875
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 3: I didn't get married for those reasons.

876
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 2: I looked at my daughter and I said, is this

877
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:22,840
Speaker 2: the version of MASSI that you want your daughter to

878
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:27,399
Speaker 2: grow up with? Absolutely not. My daughter is not going

879
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 2: to have this idea of me. And he was very

880
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 2: hard to do because you don't want to break that dynamic.

881
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 2: When people get together, you know their weaknesses and their strengths.

882
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 2: It's not like you're weak in this point and I'm

883
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 2: strong in this point, and now I have to feel

884
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:44,359
Speaker 2: a certain way.

885
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:46,320
Speaker 3: But you put those strengths together.

886
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 2: Usually that weakness that you have may be your partner strengths,

887
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 2: right and vice verse, So you work together to grow.

888
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 3: And that never happened.

889
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 2: So I felt like I kept growing and growing and

890
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 2: growing and demanding the best version of myself and just

891
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:06,839
Speaker 2: doing that and just being I'm very just open, like, hey,

892
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 2: do you I'm just gonna continue to do me. But

893
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 2: let this never stop, because I'm never going to stop

894
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 2: being Mossy. And when I'm silenced, that's when it's everything

895
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:21,960
Speaker 2: just fell apart and it was not amicable, and I'm

896
00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:26,439
Speaker 2: still dealing with the repercussions of that, and it's it's tough,

897
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:32,319
Speaker 2: and it's tough to be tough because usually people don't

898
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 2: see like, hey, I'm a human. I have all these

899
00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 2: emotions that I can't even share with you right now,

900
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 2: but I have to remain strong for my daughter because

901
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 2: I had to run and start from scratch and rebuild myself.

902
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 2: So from the from the behind the scenes, my following,

903
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:52,840
Speaker 2: my tribe, I call my my my following, my tribe.

904
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 2: We have connected for X amount of years, eleven years,

905
00:46:56,320 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 2: and you you see this person just over sometimes oversharing,

906
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:03,239
Speaker 2: but oversharing from a point that he's going to be

907
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:06,800
Speaker 2: helpful to another person, and then he just went cold.

908
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 2: There's no sharing, there's no anything.

909
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:10,800
Speaker 1: Was that Was that because you chose to do that

910
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 1: or you felt like you had to protect your relationship

911
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:17,160
Speaker 1: or protect what was going on without influence or craving silence?

912
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 1: Was it was he was?

913
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:21,719
Speaker 4: Did you feel like he was like prohibiting you from

914
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,800
Speaker 4: like just interacting in a way that you generally would.

915
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 3: Have No, I would say most you know, we had

916
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 3: this conversation off before you arrived. But it's you see

917
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 3: this a lot in the black and brown communities.

918
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 2: Usually when breakups happened, there's a lot of he said,

919
00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:46,880
Speaker 2: she said, And then you have to protect the other sides,

920
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:50,720
Speaker 2: protect your family. You have a family that's grieving what's happening.

921
00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:54,120
Speaker 2: You also have a daughter or a child that eventually

922
00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 2: is going to see this and he's going to impact them.

923
00:47:57,520 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 2: So I just didn't want to speak on something that

924
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 2: I was still processing. You're unhappy in a relationship. Relationships,

925
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 2: you have to work and if you're unhappy, let's work

926
00:48:10,520 --> 00:48:11,960
Speaker 2: on the things that we're unhappy about.

927
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 3: And let's putting the hard work now.

928
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 2: If you don't want to put in that heart work

929
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:18,760
Speaker 2: and we are both them happy at least I was unhappy,

930
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 2: then it's time to break ties and we can do

931
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 2: it amicably. But again, breaking ties would mean what would

932
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 2: that mean? That now we're breaking up what we had together?

933
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 2: But it was fine by me because I can start

934
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 2: from scratch and no problem, right, and I can continue

935
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:39,400
Speaker 2: to work with you in that capacity we were a

936
00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:44,439
Speaker 2: great team. Okay, If if we were a great team, great,

937
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 2: we can continue this. All I want is my freedom

938
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 2: because I don't want to be in this marriage. This

939
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 2: is not working for me, and this is not making

940
00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:53,080
Speaker 2: me happy, and this is not how I want to

941
00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 2: raise my daughter right.

942
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 3: But we I really tried, and we tried right. So

943
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 3: eventually when I rebuild everything I.

944
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 2: Had to learn, I didn't have the time to go

945
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 2: on social media and explain these things that were just

946
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 2: unfolding so slow, and it was so aggressive and emotional,

947
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 2: and I just couldn't because that time that I allocated

948
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 2: it to the noise.

949
00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 3: I call it noise and call, and it was very painful.

950
00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 3: That time. I was losing time on how am I

951
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 3: going to rebuild myself? Where do I put this energy?

952
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:36,280
Speaker 3: I had to put it on myself to process how.

953
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:40,359
Speaker 2: Anyone going in like relationship, It takes two, takes two

954
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 2: to make it work, takes two to mess it up

955
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:45,840
Speaker 2: as well. So I'm not in denial. You have to

956
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 2: take into account what you put in your role, you know,

957
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 2: and exactly until you were.

958
00:49:50,760 --> 00:49:52,879
Speaker 3: Just like, well, I guess I've been really doing all

959
00:49:52,920 --> 00:49:54,280
Speaker 3: the wrong things and this is not working.

960
00:49:54,440 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 2: So I'm out.

961
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 3: And it's okay. It's okay for things not to be permanent.

962
00:49:58,480 --> 00:50:01,439
Speaker 2: It's okay to outgrow each other and to say let's

963
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:04,320
Speaker 2: go our separate ways, let's not take this personal and

964
00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 2: just let's see how can we amicably continue our life

965
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:12,279
Speaker 2: and continue to raise our daughter and whatnot. But this

966
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 2: time three years is taking me to truly rebuild everything

967
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 2: where I've had to go back to school to learn

968
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:24,880
Speaker 2: about business management, to learn how I'm going to lead

969
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:28,800
Speaker 2: a team, to be a good mentor to learn areas

970
00:50:29,239 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 2: that I didn't know and under and understood. But I

971
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:35,800
Speaker 2: have this big brain. If it's scary, because it's unknown.

972
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:39,400
Speaker 2: If it's scary, I don't know it. So three years

973
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:44,279
Speaker 2: of empowerment, how to run a business, partnerships, how to

974
00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 2: run partnerships that are symbiotic, they're all partnerships. Because all

975
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 2: of those things, years and years and years of partnerships

976
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 2: were all just gone. Contact lists, all of it was

977
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:58,880
Speaker 2: all gone. And I had to rebuild that and rebuild

978
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:04,080
Speaker 2: myself first. So I at some point I said, I'm

979
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:04,360
Speaker 2: going to.

980
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 3: Quit it all. I don't want to be in the

981
00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:09,880
Speaker 3: on TV anymore.

982
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 2: I don't want to be this person that is sharing

983
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:15,080
Speaker 2: her life because I saw it and I saw the comments.

984
00:51:15,360 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 2: It was crazy, and even to see.

985
00:51:16,760 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 3: It from women right hating on you and like attacking

986
00:51:20,360 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 3: from women, the things that people may say because you

987
00:51:23,640 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 3: never know, you don't have the full story. I cheated

988
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:27,040
Speaker 3: I was the.

989
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 2: One who left who It's like crazy allegations and I'm

990
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 2: here a human being seeing all of this.

991
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:36,839
Speaker 3: Oh, I knew it was not real.

992
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 2: I knew this was fake. Oh look, she had a

993
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:45,480
Speaker 2: perfect life, and what a human being? You know, you

994
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 2: have no idea what I'm going through. And once I

995
00:51:49,520 --> 00:51:54,799
Speaker 2: removed the anchors, it's been great and I wouldn't want

996
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:56,919
Speaker 2: to do it any other way. I'm going to teach

997
00:51:57,000 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 2: my daughter how to be independent in how to be

998
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 2: an asset. What's the point of staying in a marriage

999
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 2: or staying in a relationship when it's not sustainable. So

1000
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 2: I just didn't want to. I made choices or choices.

1001
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 2: I didn't have to get married because I mean just

1002
00:52:20,760 --> 00:52:25,840
Speaker 2: didn't why because we were not there yet and I

1003
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 2: knew it.

1004
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:27,440
Speaker 3: We were just not there yet.

1005
00:52:27,560 --> 00:52:29,239
Speaker 1: Did you feel like when you got married you had

1006
00:52:29,280 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 1: that fear like you kind of knew underlyingly that like

1007
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 1: not like it wouldn't work out, but that there was

1008
00:52:36,280 --> 00:52:37,360
Speaker 1: fear attached to it.

1009
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:39,720
Speaker 3: There wasn't like for sure certainty.

1010
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:45,399
Speaker 2: So there's this mutual contract that we have that we're

1011
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:47,399
Speaker 2: going to remain best friends, that we're going to remain

1012
00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 2: best the best to make decisions for our daughter, for

1013
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:53,799
Speaker 2: our marriage, for the business that we're trying to grow,

1014
00:52:54,560 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 2: and to me, integrity is everything. And when at even

1015
00:52:57,760 --> 00:53:00,799
Speaker 2: feel like a moral compast was a line with mine

1016
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 2: and there was no integrity, I take the things that

1017
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 2: I do very serious, and I take risks on me.

1018
00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:11,319
Speaker 3: I bet on myself.

1019
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 2: Because I know that everything that I'm doing is stemming

1020
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:17,640
Speaker 2: from passion in the education that I've put myself through

1021
00:53:17,840 --> 00:53:21,759
Speaker 2: all this time. And I work very hard. I sometimes,

1022
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:23,879
Speaker 2: you know, I open my eyes. I'm taking my first

1023
00:53:23,960 --> 00:53:26,719
Speaker 2: vacation in the last seven years.

1024
00:53:26,760 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 3: Guys.

1025
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 4: Wow, yes, girl, Yeah, you are too hard for it

1026
00:53:32,719 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 4: to be seven years until you take a break.

1027
00:53:35,160 --> 00:53:38,840
Speaker 3: Well, I'm self funded for the past eleven years, you

1028
00:53:38,920 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 3: know I was able to. I don't know.

1029
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 2: I like to do things my way, and I've had

1030
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 2: opportunities to scale my company and scale it from like all.

1031
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:53,240
Speaker 3: These investors and whatnot.

1032
00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:55,279
Speaker 2: But there's absolutely no way that I'm going to do

1033
00:53:55,400 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 2: that because I'm going to lose my voice and then

1034
00:53:57,920 --> 00:53:59,840
Speaker 2: I'm just going to become a cookie cutting version of

1035
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 2: everything that is out there instead of providing and keeping

1036
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 2: my voice completely just clean for the consumer. The right

1037
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 2: partner will come. The right investors will come one day,

1038
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 2: but I'm not there yet. I'm not ready. I had

1039
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:18,840
Speaker 2: to rebuild eight years of a name in the industry,

1040
00:54:19,360 --> 00:54:22,440
Speaker 2: eight years of doing things in a certain way. At

1041
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:24,759
Speaker 2: the craziest time was a pandemic when I had to

1042
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 2: do it all right. So there was a lot of

1043
00:54:27,400 --> 00:54:31,279
Speaker 2: me putting my head down to work, and not only

1044
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 2: to work, to make sure that everything was at a

1045
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:39,360
Speaker 2: point where I felt safe. I needed to buy a

1046
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:41,320
Speaker 2: home for my daughter. I was able to do that.

1047
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:45,320
Speaker 3: I love what I do. We have a community like

1048
00:54:45,400 --> 00:54:48,880
Speaker 3: my tribe Miami Warrior community is a community just like

1049
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:52,160
Speaker 3: you guys have your audience and we help each other

1050
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:55,959
Speaker 3: with our stories and that's it. I have battered women

1051
00:54:56,560 --> 00:55:00,800
Speaker 3: on my like from nurses to the military, to battered

1052
00:55:00,840 --> 00:55:04,640
Speaker 3: women to too great professionals.

1053
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:07,200
Speaker 2: I mean, there's it's a rainbow of women and we're

1054
00:55:07,200 --> 00:55:09,640
Speaker 2: a community where we help each other.

1055
00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 3: So that to me is very important. And I'm a

1056
00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:14,080
Speaker 3: big feminist. I'm all here for family.

1057
00:55:14,200 --> 00:55:17,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's important to hear stories from women

1058
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:19,399
Speaker 4: like you or just you know, like all types of women,

1059
00:55:19,440 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 4: because I think I think people have a perception. Now

1060
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:26,320
Speaker 4: you're discipline you're strong. You have this amazing self funded

1061
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:29,080
Speaker 4: life and business, and you've built this amazing tribe in

1062
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:32,560
Speaker 4: this community and you know brand and you know, even

1063
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 4: those women get in situations and relationships and and you know,

1064
00:55:36,520 --> 00:55:39,320
Speaker 4: they look up and they're like, huh, I know, I'm smart,

1065
00:55:39,360 --> 00:55:41,000
Speaker 4: but this is getting tricky.

1066
00:55:41,200 --> 00:55:43,200
Speaker 1: Or like even I have gotten into.

1067
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:46,640
Speaker 4: A relationship that's fucked up, even I have ignored red flags,

1068
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:48,920
Speaker 4: even me myself, who's done this and that, and this

1069
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 4: my intuation came in and I I sided with the

1070
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 4: fact that I have a daughter and I want to

1071
00:55:56,360 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 4: build a family, and this is what it will looks like.

1072
00:55:58,160 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 4: And this is what the found, you know, and like

1073
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:03,760
Speaker 4: it's like you have you have the wherewithal to understand

1074
00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 4: when you're making a decision that's like maybe this is

1075
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:08,759
Speaker 4: not my decision, but you have hopes of having a

1076
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 4: you know, a partner that's going to remain you know,

1077
00:56:12,280 --> 00:56:14,920
Speaker 4: respectful and amiblical.

1078
00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:17,360
Speaker 3: Amicable, And you know, I'm amicable.

1079
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:21,440
Speaker 4: Ambilicable, and you know, and even you have made mistakes

1080
00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:23,759
Speaker 4: and not mistakes because obviously it's always for the better,

1081
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:25,760
Speaker 4: it's always for the greater pick like the lesson.

1082
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:28,759
Speaker 3: You know, mistakes are necessary so I mean they teach

1083
00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:29,920
Speaker 3: you that's experience.

1084
00:56:30,080 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 1: Good mom's bad choices.

1085
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:31,800
Speaker 3: Baby about this.

1086
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:34,560
Speaker 2: This is my first time being married, my first time

1087
00:56:34,640 --> 00:56:37,440
Speaker 2: being a mom. Who's telling you that you have to

1088
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 2: have a manual? It's your first time? So can we

1089
00:56:40,239 --> 00:56:43,640
Speaker 2: stop judging each other for our choices? We're gonna make

1090
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 2: that's life. Good choices, bad choices. How we steer and

1091
00:56:48,760 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 2: learn from these choices. I had to so no vacation

1092
00:56:52,080 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 2: for seven years. Guess what if I wanted to continue

1093
00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:58,440
Speaker 2: to be so funded and have a voice in my brand.

1094
00:56:58,840 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 2: I needed to put my head down because I was

1095
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:07,280
Speaker 2: managing a lot of things, managing divorce, managing daughter, managing business,

1096
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:14,800
Speaker 2: managing the run, the persona in the front of managing,

1097
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 2: managing a lot, and you have to put your head down.

1098
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:22,200
Speaker 4: All the while someone's telling you, you know, if you

1099
00:57:22,560 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 4: if we're not together, look at your look at your

1100
00:57:24,280 --> 00:57:26,640
Speaker 4: desperate friends looking for men, You're gonna be just like them.

1101
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 1: I've heard that line very many times. That's why I'm triggered.

1102
00:57:30,960 --> 00:57:33,080
Speaker 4: But like you know, like just planning seeds of self

1103
00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 4: doubt and planning seeds of you can't do this without me,

1104
00:57:37,160 --> 00:57:38,800
Speaker 4: even though you know that you can even though you've

1105
00:57:38,800 --> 00:57:42,120
Speaker 4: built this prior to this relationship, even though the brand

1106
00:57:42,280 --> 00:57:44,760
Speaker 4: is you. It's just like it's those like when you

1107
00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:47,000
Speaker 4: when you let somebody in and you trust them and

1108
00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 4: you kind of feel safe with them, and you let

1109
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 4: them in on secrets and on businesses and on opportunities

1110
00:57:52,920 --> 00:57:55,680
Speaker 4: and partnerships. You give someone not to say never to

1111
00:57:55,720 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 4: trust anyone, you know, but the opportunity to fuck with

1112
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:01,960
Speaker 4: you from the inside out, you know. So it's like

1113
00:58:02,040 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 4: you feel so close with someone and then you have

1114
00:58:03,960 --> 00:58:06,360
Speaker 4: this expectation because that's how you would be and that's

1115
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 4: how you would show up in a relationship.

1116
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 3: But then you see that, like everybody is not great,

1117
00:58:10,480 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 3: and that's why there is important and emotional intelligence that

1118
00:58:14,040 --> 00:58:16,680
Speaker 3: was extremely important two years of therapy to try to

1119
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:19,360
Speaker 3: process everything you try to process like it, I'm blaming myself.

1120
00:58:19,400 --> 00:58:22,120
Speaker 3: I'm like, wait a second, I am too smart for this.

1121
00:58:22,760 --> 00:58:24,080
Speaker 3: When did this happen?

1122
00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:24,400
Speaker 2: Well?

1123
00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:27,080
Speaker 1: Wow, well I think even I think how I think

1124
00:58:27,160 --> 00:58:29,000
Speaker 1: because especially because of the brand you have and the

1125
00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 1: message that you have in the honesty and all these

1126
00:58:30,680 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 1: things you have, you judge yourself even more.

1127
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I'm supposed to know the supposed to do

1128
00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:36,880
Speaker 3: this shit.

1129
00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:40,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, you get mean women not to like to empower themselves,

1130
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:42,480
Speaker 1: to feel strong in their bodies, to feel strong in

1131
00:58:42,480 --> 00:58:46,959
Speaker 1: their minds. Meanwhile I'm feeling weak in mind realizing because

1132
00:58:47,000 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 1: it's like little cuts. It's like we interviewed already who

1133
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 1: she's and we talk about her in our book as well,

1134
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 1: and she is a narcissist expert, and she talks about

1135
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:59,280
Speaker 1: how a lot of times narcissists it's like little paper

1136
00:58:59,360 --> 00:59:03,040
Speaker 1: cuts until suddenly you're bleeding everywhere. You didn't even realize it.

1137
00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:05,280
Speaker 1: And you know, I think a lot of women can

1138
00:59:05,360 --> 00:59:08,160
Speaker 1: relate to that, because sometimes it's not so black and white.

1139
00:59:08,240 --> 00:59:10,560
Speaker 1: It's not like oh he hit me, I'm out, or

1140
00:59:10,680 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 1: like yeah, or like he called me a bitch, like

1141
00:59:13,560 --> 00:59:15,200
Speaker 1: he called me but just ten times I shouldn't be

1142
00:59:15,240 --> 00:59:19,200
Speaker 1: here anymore. No, Sometimes it's just the little tiny things

1143
00:59:19,320 --> 00:59:22,520
Speaker 1: that they just start tapping away at your power.

1144
00:59:22,800 --> 00:59:26,240
Speaker 2: But think about this, how much power it takes to say, Okay,

1145
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:30,480
Speaker 2: I'm out, you did that, but and it's over and

1146
00:59:30,600 --> 00:59:34,000
Speaker 2: guess what I'm doing better and better?

1147
00:59:35,440 --> 00:59:35,560
Speaker 1: Right?

1148
00:59:36,040 --> 00:59:39,000
Speaker 2: And that's the fear if you think about this, living

1149
00:59:39,960 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 2: so unhappy in a situation where you have it. We

1150
00:59:44,160 --> 00:59:47,320
Speaker 2: all have this gut feeling of things that are not

1151
00:59:47,600 --> 00:59:51,680
Speaker 2: aligning with our energy. So are you you're going to

1152
00:59:51,720 --> 00:59:53,480
Speaker 2: say that you're going to stain this for the rest

1153
00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:57,920
Speaker 2: of your life or going through that pain? Change is overwhelming.

1154
00:59:58,040 --> 01:00:00,640
Speaker 2: But if we want a different outcome, we're going to

1155
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:06,400
Speaker 2: have to pivot. Right, And another nail popped off. But

1156
01:00:07,280 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 2: here's a very important you know, And to me, I

1157
01:00:11,720 --> 01:00:15,360
Speaker 2: was just judging myself, like, how like you knew this,

1158
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:19,760
Speaker 2: You literally knew this, and here you are just because

1159
01:00:19,800 --> 01:00:22,200
Speaker 2: you don't like to be in zoom calls and manage people.

1160
01:00:22,960 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 2: Really get your act together, get out and this is

1161
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:30,440
Speaker 2: what you're gonna teach your daughter, hopefully in Dara, who

1162
01:00:30,640 --> 01:00:34,600
Speaker 2: is a very intelligent child. My goal is to make

1163
01:00:34,720 --> 01:00:37,680
Speaker 2: a better version of myself in her, whatever she wants

1164
01:00:37,720 --> 01:00:40,240
Speaker 2: to be. So I've made this commitment to be a

1165
01:00:40,320 --> 01:00:43,160
Speaker 2: mom and it's the best thing ever and it comes

1166
01:00:43,200 --> 01:00:46,880
Speaker 2: with his challenges, right, but that's my little best friend.

1167
01:00:47,240 --> 01:00:50,000
Speaker 2: So I now I need to not only do it

1168
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:53,960
Speaker 2: for the people who follow me, but do it for her,

1169
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:56,720
Speaker 2: do it for my family, do it for myself. Right,

1170
01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:59,080
Speaker 2: I had to prove myself. You know, you get to

1171
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:02,960
Speaker 2: the point where you've accomplished so much and now you're complacent.

1172
01:01:03,480 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 3: Okay, what's the next level. That was the next level.

1173
01:01:07,080 --> 01:01:08,040
Speaker 3: Look for your happiness.

1174
01:01:08,440 --> 01:01:11,880
Speaker 2: Let's go and the amount of learning and the empowering,

1175
01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:18,080
Speaker 2: the empowerment that I have right now, it's it's to

1176
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 2: another level being able.

1177
01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:24,840
Speaker 3: This is why, like I constantly tell women, put your energy.

1178
01:01:25,720 --> 01:01:29,560
Speaker 3: Look that energy that you have. We're all heartbroken, being

1179
01:01:29,600 --> 01:01:35,080
Speaker 3: broken up, live to belittled, all of that. It's awful and.

1180
01:01:35,120 --> 01:01:37,120
Speaker 2: You're gonna feel it. You're gonna start blaming yourself. You're

1181
01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 2: gonna start it's it's tough. But that energy, you can

1182
01:01:41,640 --> 01:01:42,880
Speaker 2: put it towards the other person.

1183
01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:45,440
Speaker 3: This is happening to me or whatever. Take that freaking

1184
01:01:45,600 --> 01:01:49,720
Speaker 3: energy and channel it, transmit, channel.

1185
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:53,640
Speaker 2: It to the point that what you're feeling, those big emotions,

1186
01:01:54,120 --> 01:01:56,800
Speaker 2: it's to actually get you to the other side. Oh

1187
01:01:57,480 --> 01:02:00,240
Speaker 2: you feel like this is going to break me, watch me,

1188
01:02:01,240 --> 01:02:03,600
Speaker 2: watch me, let me shut the noise.

1189
01:02:04,080 --> 01:02:05,120
Speaker 3: Do whatever you want to do.

1190
01:02:05,800 --> 01:02:08,600
Speaker 2: I'm going to focus on X y Z And that's

1191
01:02:08,640 --> 01:02:11,800
Speaker 2: what I did. Strategically, what do I need to do

1192
01:02:11,960 --> 01:02:13,920
Speaker 2: in order to continue to learn and in order to

1193
01:02:13,960 --> 01:02:16,080
Speaker 2: continue to be the best at what I do?

1194
01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:17,120
Speaker 3: Period?

1195
01:02:17,360 --> 01:02:18,720
Speaker 2: Because at the end of the day, Yes, I have

1196
01:02:18,800 --> 01:02:21,320
Speaker 2: a business, but people buy my business because it's symbiotic.

1197
01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 2: You're getting something out of my services, and it's symbiotic

1198
01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:28,920
Speaker 2: you're winning.

1199
01:02:29,040 --> 01:02:29,520
Speaker 3: I'm winning.

1200
01:02:30,760 --> 01:02:34,360
Speaker 2: I always believe like ignorance is bliss, but education is power.

1201
01:02:34,920 --> 01:02:37,600
Speaker 2: So many women came out saying I'm dealing with the

1202
01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:38,120
Speaker 2: same thing.

1203
01:02:38,760 --> 01:02:39,040
Speaker 3: Women.

1204
01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:43,520
Speaker 2: There are colleagues of mine who's they have been stripped

1205
01:02:43,720 --> 01:02:48,040
Speaker 2: down to zero on food stamps. If it wasn't for

1206
01:02:48,200 --> 01:02:54,560
Speaker 2: therapy for the family circle that I have, I don't

1207
01:02:54,640 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 2: know if I would have been afloat because it took

1208
01:02:59,560 --> 01:03:05,040
Speaker 2: emotionally for three years. It was an emotional breakdown, and

1209
01:03:05,160 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 2: you have to process those things, and to.

1210
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:10,080
Speaker 3: Have to see your.

1211
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:13,240
Speaker 2: Daughter going through all of that and you're going through

1212
01:03:13,320 --> 01:03:16,240
Speaker 2: it and still hold it down to be a good

1213
01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:19,800
Speaker 2: mom when your heart is breaking, when your head is breaking,

1214
01:03:20,520 --> 01:03:26,440
Speaker 2: right when you're just so afraid and you're everything is

1215
01:03:26,520 --> 01:03:31,640
Speaker 2: coming at you, that's pretty tough. But learning how to

1216
01:03:31,760 --> 01:03:36,320
Speaker 2: go from the other side. My faith right faith had

1217
01:03:36,320 --> 01:03:38,720
Speaker 2: a lot to do with that. My circle had a

1218
01:03:38,760 --> 01:03:41,240
Speaker 2: lot to do with that. Therapy had a lot to

1219
01:03:41,320 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 2: do with me processing and coming out the other side stronger.

1220
01:03:46,160 --> 01:03:46,880
Speaker 3: What I'm telling you.

1221
01:03:47,080 --> 01:03:47,360
Speaker 2: It is.

1222
01:03:47,640 --> 01:03:48,160
Speaker 3: It is hard.

1223
01:03:48,440 --> 01:03:50,520
Speaker 2: It is a lot of putting your head down your

1224
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:53,560
Speaker 2: desires as a person, right as a woman that you

1225
01:03:53,680 --> 01:03:54,400
Speaker 2: have desires.

1226
01:03:55,680 --> 01:03:58,760
Speaker 3: Imagine if it came to a breakup you were already

1227
01:03:58,840 --> 01:03:59,800
Speaker 3: checked out, right.

1228
01:04:00,120 --> 01:04:02,480
Speaker 2: And you're still a female, You're still a woman, you

1229
01:04:02,600 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 2: still have this concept that you're chasing of what does

1230
01:04:06,400 --> 01:04:09,560
Speaker 2: this family dynamic look like? I want a happy story

1231
01:04:10,480 --> 01:04:12,840
Speaker 2: for my daughter and I. How can I create this

1232
01:04:13,520 --> 01:04:18,080
Speaker 2: environment where it will not look like that anymore? But

1233
01:04:18,200 --> 01:04:21,320
Speaker 2: let's do something that looks like for us, it looks

1234
01:04:21,400 --> 01:04:23,680
Speaker 2: like a family right, And.

1235
01:04:23,760 --> 01:04:24,320
Speaker 3: It is tough.

1236
01:04:24,920 --> 01:04:27,840
Speaker 2: And the crying that I think I aged the past

1237
01:04:27,880 --> 01:04:34,120
Speaker 2: three years, No, seriously, the amount of crying, frustration, sleepless nights, burnouts,

1238
01:04:34,800 --> 01:04:37,760
Speaker 2: trying to help. People have no idea what I've gone through,

1239
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:43,240
Speaker 2: and they would never see it, literally because at the

1240
01:04:43,360 --> 01:04:46,360
Speaker 2: end of the day, I'm pushing through and they're gonna know,

1241
01:04:46,640 --> 01:04:49,640
Speaker 2: you know, once I decide to write only strategies, right.

1242
01:04:49,880 --> 01:04:53,320
Speaker 3: They're gonna know. But it's this is how we get

1243
01:04:53,360 --> 01:04:55,120
Speaker 3: to the other side, by community, by talking.

1244
01:04:55,440 --> 01:04:56,640
Speaker 1: We have to, we have to.

1245
01:04:56,880 --> 01:04:58,960
Speaker 4: This has been like a savior for us, being able

1246
01:04:59,040 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 4: to show up on it, flee and like in friendship

1247
01:05:01,960 --> 01:05:04,680
Speaker 4: and just like the sister circles that we've been into,

1248
01:05:04,800 --> 01:05:08,760
Speaker 4: like bitch, I'm hurting, you know, like a bitch I'm hurting.

1249
01:05:08,800 --> 01:05:11,640
Speaker 4: I don't know, you know, And like but the strength

1250
01:05:11,720 --> 01:05:15,920
Speaker 4: and in the strength and power in the conversation in

1251
01:05:16,040 --> 01:05:19,520
Speaker 4: sisterhood and saying I got you and saying girl, me too,

1252
01:05:19,680 --> 01:05:21,400
Speaker 4: like You're not the only person this happened to. Like

1253
01:05:21,800 --> 01:05:26,000
Speaker 4: that shit is so powerful and truly it's like when

1254
01:05:26,080 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 4: these things happen, especially as moms, you know, especially as

1255
01:05:29,280 --> 01:05:32,440
Speaker 4: moms of daughters, it's like daughters heel and like when

1256
01:05:32,480 --> 01:05:34,680
Speaker 4: you look at a child in the face, especially as

1257
01:05:34,720 --> 01:05:38,240
Speaker 4: a woman, to a small woman, and you're like, there's

1258
01:05:38,280 --> 01:05:40,120
Speaker 4: no way in fucking hell I'm gonna let you see

1259
01:05:40,160 --> 01:05:44,320
Speaker 4: me stay miserable at the hand of somebody else, even

1260
01:05:44,360 --> 01:05:45,160
Speaker 4: if it is your daddy.

1261
01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:48,360
Speaker 2: You know that's gonna be her story. That will be

1262
01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:50,640
Speaker 2: her story now, absolutely not now.

1263
01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:53,160
Speaker 4: And you will inherit this half assed version of me

1264
01:05:53,520 --> 01:05:56,240
Speaker 4: because I've I've subjected you to my energy and we're

1265
01:05:56,280 --> 01:05:59,200
Speaker 4: connected no matter what. But if you transmit that energy,

1266
01:05:59,280 --> 01:06:02,920
Speaker 4: even if it's apart from that dad, that power in

1267
01:06:03,480 --> 01:06:06,880
Speaker 4: thenately inherits to your child, It's like, Oh.

1268
01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 1: I see my mom move, move a bunch of shit around.

1269
01:06:09,200 --> 01:06:10,320
Speaker 1: I see my mom bounce.

1270
01:06:10,360 --> 01:06:12,680
Speaker 4: I see my mom break and build it back and

1271
01:06:12,840 --> 01:06:16,959
Speaker 4: build up multiple times, however, many times. And for women

1272
01:06:17,040 --> 01:06:20,000
Speaker 4: listening to this and who can relate, or are still

1273
01:06:20,000 --> 01:06:22,320
Speaker 4: in a relationship that no longer serves you, or at

1274
01:06:22,360 --> 01:06:24,680
Speaker 4: the very end of that relationship and right now you're like,

1275
01:06:24,800 --> 01:06:25,600
Speaker 4: oh shit, this is me.

1276
01:06:26,480 --> 01:06:28,480
Speaker 1: There is nothing stronger.

1277
01:06:30,000 --> 01:06:33,640
Speaker 4: Than picking up the pieces and doing that shit again,

1278
01:06:33,720 --> 01:06:35,720
Speaker 4: because the version of yourself that you see after that

1279
01:06:36,680 --> 01:06:38,000
Speaker 4: is the best version you'll ever see.

1280
01:06:38,320 --> 01:06:40,760
Speaker 1: And it will take.

1281
01:06:42,120 --> 01:06:45,920
Speaker 4: It will take a fucking ton to get you in

1282
01:06:46,000 --> 01:06:48,720
Speaker 4: the same spot in the same way. Like you know,

1283
01:06:48,840 --> 01:06:51,520
Speaker 4: fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice. Like

1284
01:06:52,920 --> 01:06:55,440
Speaker 4: the person I am coming out of my relationship with

1285
01:06:55,520 --> 01:07:00,360
Speaker 4: my child's father is one hundred million times strong than

1286
01:07:00,400 --> 01:07:04,280
Speaker 4: I was prior to that, because now I know nobody

1287
01:07:04,400 --> 01:07:08,040
Speaker 4: can break me. Yes, nobody can break me. Like when

1288
01:07:08,160 --> 01:07:10,440
Speaker 4: you're in those in the trenches and you're crying and

1289
01:07:10,560 --> 01:07:13,919
Speaker 4: you're you're at the bare minimum of yourself, you don't

1290
01:07:14,200 --> 01:07:17,120
Speaker 4: see or feel yourself anymore, and then you start to

1291
01:07:17,240 --> 01:07:20,840
Speaker 4: rediscover that part those parts of you that you had lost.

1292
01:07:21,400 --> 01:07:24,320
Speaker 4: There's no it's so hard for motherfucker to come in

1293
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:26,880
Speaker 4: and take that away from you again. And you're that

1294
01:07:27,040 --> 01:07:30,200
Speaker 4: much more powerful. And like and like I said, I've

1295
01:07:30,200 --> 01:07:31,800
Speaker 4: said this before, I say this in the book, is like,

1296
01:07:33,120 --> 01:07:36,480
Speaker 4: once you choose you, once you choose your happiness, despite

1297
01:07:36,520 --> 01:07:38,920
Speaker 4: whoever told you it's not important, somebody is going to

1298
01:07:38,960 --> 01:07:41,400
Speaker 4: tell you that your happiness is not important, probably the

1299
01:07:41,440 --> 01:07:44,880
Speaker 4: person benefiting from your unhappiness. But when you start to

1300
01:07:45,040 --> 01:07:49,200
Speaker 4: reclaim those pieces of you, slowly and surely, the gravitation

1301
01:07:49,400 --> 01:07:51,920
Speaker 4: of all the things you want is so fucking powerful.

1302
01:07:52,160 --> 01:07:57,480
Speaker 1: Like women, for lack of better words, were alchemists.

1303
01:07:57,960 --> 01:08:02,040
Speaker 4: And when you choose you, you choose automatically everything else

1304
01:08:02,080 --> 01:08:04,560
Speaker 4: that benefits you, and it comes, it starts to come

1305
01:08:04,640 --> 01:08:07,200
Speaker 4: to you without much effort. But you have to let

1306
01:08:07,280 --> 01:08:10,280
Speaker 4: go of the shit that no longer serves you, even

1307
01:08:10,320 --> 01:08:12,120
Speaker 4: if it's the person you thought was closest to you.

1308
01:08:13,160 --> 01:08:15,919
Speaker 2: Hereie, and this is how you pretty much how you learn.

1309
01:08:16,120 --> 01:08:17,880
Speaker 2: I feel like I went to the school of life.

1310
01:08:18,760 --> 01:08:23,479
Speaker 2: I've had not a lot of relationships, so my.

1311
01:08:23,560 --> 01:08:27,720
Speaker 3: Relationships are long. You're one of those. I'm one of those.

1312
01:08:28,360 --> 01:08:29,240
Speaker 3: I believe in tradition.

1313
01:08:29,800 --> 01:08:33,599
Speaker 2: I believe in traditional values, right, and now I exactly

1314
01:08:33,760 --> 01:08:36,880
Speaker 2: know exactly what I want and I can see it

1315
01:08:36,920 --> 01:08:37,519
Speaker 2: a mile away.

1316
01:08:38,640 --> 01:08:39,639
Speaker 3: I see it a mile away.

1317
01:08:39,680 --> 01:08:41,680
Speaker 2: And this is why, like earlier you ask me if

1318
01:08:41,680 --> 01:08:43,960
Speaker 2: I had a celebritial crush and whatnot. And it is

1319
01:08:44,040 --> 01:08:46,160
Speaker 2: so funny because you're here in La in the little pocket.

1320
01:08:46,439 --> 01:08:49,759
Speaker 2: Everybody knows everybody, and you know they have this idea

1321
01:08:49,840 --> 01:08:52,040
Speaker 2: of you. And I've been set up in so many

1322
01:08:52,120 --> 01:08:55,000
Speaker 2: different dates and with people, and I'm just like, wow,

1323
01:08:56,080 --> 01:08:58,040
Speaker 2: you have these accolades, you have all these money, you

1324
01:08:58,120 --> 01:08:59,600
Speaker 2: have all these fame, and you will have all this,

1325
01:08:59,760 --> 01:09:04,200
Speaker 2: but you you have nothing, no substance, nothing, And now

1326
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:06,960
Speaker 2: I can just say I know exactly what I want,

1327
01:09:07,479 --> 01:09:11,080
Speaker 2: what I would accept, and no, thank you. I have

1328
01:09:11,479 --> 01:09:15,160
Speaker 2: a personal like you have to when you see yourself

1329
01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:18,160
Speaker 2: in patterns, and I saw myself in a pattern saving people.

1330
01:09:19,040 --> 01:09:19,920
Speaker 3: And now I understand.

1331
01:09:19,960 --> 01:09:26,240
Speaker 2: I understood, Hey, you're deserving of someone who's matching your values,

1332
01:09:26,640 --> 01:09:30,080
Speaker 2: your moral compass, who you are as a person. If

1333
01:09:30,280 --> 01:09:34,479
Speaker 2: that doesn't match who you are, it's not sustainable. Because

1334
01:09:34,479 --> 01:09:36,840
Speaker 2: at some point I understood I don't care how to

1335
01:09:37,040 --> 01:09:41,920
Speaker 2: I have no type. My type is I'm as satissexual.

1336
01:09:42,160 --> 01:09:45,679
Speaker 2: I like intelligence. That's what brings me to the next

1337
01:09:45,720 --> 01:09:49,240
Speaker 2: person you know, or or allures me to someone. If

1338
01:09:49,240 --> 01:09:51,160
Speaker 2: you can teach me something, if we can grow together,

1339
01:09:51,240 --> 01:09:54,720
Speaker 2: if you Yeah. But now it's just like now I know,

1340
01:09:55,160 --> 01:09:57,920
Speaker 2: I know what I want when I see it, how

1341
01:09:58,000 --> 01:10:01,040
Speaker 2: it's packaged, how it's presented. That is about actions and

1342
01:10:01,120 --> 01:10:03,240
Speaker 2: net words. You can tell me anything, Okay, I'm just

1343
01:10:03,320 --> 01:10:07,080
Speaker 2: here listening. Okay, let me see how those words are

1344
01:10:07,120 --> 01:10:10,120
Speaker 2: going to translate into actions. What you do, the little

1345
01:10:10,160 --> 01:10:12,920
Speaker 2: things that you do every day, right, how you treat others.

1346
01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:16,920
Speaker 2: How's your relationship with your significant others, meaning your family,

1347
01:10:17,280 --> 01:10:21,240
Speaker 2: your siblings, your friends, How you talk about people right,

1348
01:10:21,560 --> 01:10:25,040
Speaker 2: how you treat other people, how you treat yourself, yourself

1349
01:10:25,760 --> 01:10:28,519
Speaker 2: and even your parents. Because I want a family. To me,

1350
01:10:28,680 --> 01:10:33,200
Speaker 2: that's the ultimate goal. And family can look very different

1351
01:10:33,560 --> 01:10:36,040
Speaker 2: right to me. My family right now, it's Indian. I

1352
01:10:36,360 --> 01:10:40,720
Speaker 2: that's our family. But if I ever Indira has yet

1353
01:10:40,840 --> 01:10:45,200
Speaker 2: to meet someone, she doesn't know anyone but her father,

1354
01:10:46,920 --> 01:10:50,080
Speaker 2: that's it. The day that she ever meets someone is

1355
01:10:50,160 --> 01:10:53,080
Speaker 2: because that's the one and I want it just that way,

1356
01:10:53,640 --> 01:10:56,479
Speaker 2: because she needs to understand, like if someone doesn't treat

1357
01:10:56,520 --> 01:10:59,240
Speaker 2: you well. You wait up until the person that's going

1358
01:10:59,280 --> 01:11:02,799
Speaker 2: to treat you well, because I'm making myself an asset.

1359
01:11:03,200 --> 01:11:07,559
Speaker 3: Especially now you have to have two breadwinners, like both

1360
01:11:07,720 --> 01:11:09,439
Speaker 3: men and women. That's that's it.

1361
01:11:10,280 --> 01:11:14,639
Speaker 2: If you are both an acid to each other, you're

1362
01:11:14,680 --> 01:11:17,360
Speaker 2: not leaving that because you're growing together.

1363
01:11:17,400 --> 01:11:18,000
Speaker 3: You're an acid.

1364
01:11:18,360 --> 01:11:20,320
Speaker 2: You're not looking at your partner and saying like we're

1365
01:11:20,560 --> 01:11:23,280
Speaker 2: all of this. Lack when the balance is uneven is

1366
01:11:23,360 --> 01:11:28,519
Speaker 2: when you start becoming unhappy. Right, So to me, I

1367
01:11:28,720 --> 01:11:31,080
Speaker 2: wanted to go through those experiences, not that I want it,

1368
01:11:31,200 --> 01:11:33,320
Speaker 2: but going through them now you're.

1369
01:11:33,840 --> 01:11:36,600
Speaker 3: Now I am lucky. You need I need Yeah, I

1370
01:11:36,680 --> 01:11:37,000
Speaker 3: needed to.

1371
01:11:37,120 --> 01:11:40,720
Speaker 2: I mean I have no experience literally, people that know me.

1372
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:42,840
Speaker 2: I grew up in a household where I went to

1373
01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:47,920
Speaker 2: Catholic school. My skirts down to here I had to. Yeah,

1374
01:11:48,080 --> 01:11:50,920
Speaker 2: that was my mom growing up. No, you can't shave

1375
01:11:50,960 --> 01:11:53,559
Speaker 2: your legs until you're like sixteen or whatnot.

1376
01:11:54,080 --> 01:11:57,120
Speaker 3: You can't. Yeah, that's how I grew up. So it's

1377
01:11:57,240 --> 01:11:58,680
Speaker 3: very limited in the experience that I have.

1378
01:11:58,800 --> 01:12:01,439
Speaker 4: But now you know I've been Do you think you're

1379
01:12:01,439 --> 01:12:04,240
Speaker 4: going to adopt your mom's way of like raising your

1380
01:12:04,320 --> 01:12:07,240
Speaker 4: daughter like as strict as Catholic school, as like as

1381
01:12:07,400 --> 01:12:09,400
Speaker 4: as traditional as you were raised.

1382
01:12:10,760 --> 01:12:14,439
Speaker 2: No, I'm raising my daughter completely the opposite. And my

1383
01:12:14,600 --> 01:12:15,960
Speaker 2: daughter and I are like best friends.

1384
01:12:16,400 --> 01:12:17,200
Speaker 3: She has a voice.

1385
01:12:17,360 --> 01:12:20,559
Speaker 1: I respect her, whereas in your house is like I'm

1386
01:12:20,600 --> 01:12:23,559
Speaker 1: the adult and this last say.

1387
01:12:23,680 --> 01:12:25,080
Speaker 3: How how does that work?

1388
01:12:25,280 --> 01:12:25,360
Speaker 1: Right?

1389
01:12:25,479 --> 01:12:28,880
Speaker 2: She's an individual, right, She's literally a little individual with

1390
01:12:28,960 --> 01:12:31,880
Speaker 2: her own mind, and she has her personality.

1391
01:12:32,160 --> 01:12:34,240
Speaker 1: Do you think some of that? Do you think being

1392
01:12:34,360 --> 01:12:34,960
Speaker 1: raised that way?

1393
01:12:35,080 --> 01:12:37,240
Speaker 4: I mean, and granted we're all raised, our parents are

1394
01:12:37,320 --> 01:12:38,680
Speaker 4: raised the way they were raised, and we're like the

1395
01:12:38,720 --> 01:12:41,120
Speaker 4: first generation that's like, huh, I might be able to

1396
01:12:41,200 --> 01:12:43,280
Speaker 4: change this. Some some things need to shift. Like we're

1397
01:12:43,320 --> 01:12:47,360
Speaker 4: so we have so much like information about just there's

1398
01:12:47,360 --> 01:12:49,800
Speaker 4: so much awareness that our parents maybe didn't have. But

1399
01:12:49,960 --> 01:12:52,639
Speaker 4: do you think that in ways that like that heavy

1400
01:12:53,360 --> 01:12:59,280
Speaker 4: traditional you know, like upbringing played a part in trying

1401
01:12:59,360 --> 01:13:04,360
Speaker 4: to make your marriage work for so long, possibly like

1402
01:13:04,720 --> 01:13:06,800
Speaker 4: sticking to the rules and the way that and when

1403
01:13:06,840 --> 01:13:08,640
Speaker 4: she thought you were supposed to show up as a

1404
01:13:08,680 --> 01:13:10,799
Speaker 4: wife and as a woman for the family.

1405
01:13:11,280 --> 01:13:12,880
Speaker 2: If I would have listened to my mom, I would

1406
01:13:12,880 --> 01:13:15,439
Speaker 2: have never gotten into that. So I should have listened.

1407
01:13:15,760 --> 01:13:17,200
Speaker 3: Oh, your mom told me everything.

1408
01:13:17,400 --> 01:13:21,160
Speaker 1: Your mom told you the opposite, okayaid the opposite.

1409
01:13:22,600 --> 01:13:25,200
Speaker 3: But hey, you go to school, then you graduate, and then.

1410
01:13:25,160 --> 01:13:27,240
Speaker 2: You meet prince, then you meet this. That's how she

1411
01:13:27,360 --> 01:13:29,680
Speaker 2: wanted me to do it right. And then I went

1412
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:34,120
Speaker 2: against the green and that was just not It just didn't.

1413
01:13:33,880 --> 01:13:34,680
Speaker 3: Work for me.

1414
01:13:34,880 --> 01:13:36,479
Speaker 1: She told you to marry him, and she told you

1415
01:13:36,560 --> 01:13:36,760
Speaker 1: do not.

1416
01:13:37,800 --> 01:13:41,439
Speaker 2: She didn't want that path I moved in before I

1417
01:13:41,800 --> 01:13:45,040
Speaker 2: exactly like all of that, you know, and she went

1418
01:13:45,160 --> 01:13:48,639
Speaker 2: she would have preferred very traditional. And to that point,

1419
01:13:48,840 --> 01:13:52,040
Speaker 2: I will raise Indie in a traditional way that she

1420
01:13:52,600 --> 01:13:56,759
Speaker 2: knows how valuable she is as.

1421
01:13:56,640 --> 01:14:00,639
Speaker 3: A female, you know. And the way that I'm rasing

1422
01:14:00,720 --> 01:14:08,799
Speaker 3: hers to be just academically, just and emotionally just just bigger.

1423
01:14:08,920 --> 01:14:10,640
Speaker 3: She needs to think, well now that she needs to.

1424
01:14:11,400 --> 01:14:14,840
Speaker 2: But teaching her about emotional intelligence, my daughter is like

1425
01:14:15,120 --> 01:14:18,400
Speaker 2: heavily in tune with emotions. She will sit there and

1426
01:14:18,560 --> 01:14:21,960
Speaker 2: she is the most well behaved child. She'll have a

1427
01:14:22,000 --> 01:14:25,640
Speaker 2: full conversation with you. She's just racing her.

1428
01:14:26,120 --> 01:14:28,120
Speaker 1: Saw this beautiful clip of you guys, and it like

1429
01:14:28,240 --> 01:14:29,800
Speaker 1: kind of brought me to tears. It was like you

1430
01:14:29,840 --> 01:14:33,040
Speaker 1: were in the bathroom and she I guess she got

1431
01:14:33,080 --> 01:14:34,559
Speaker 1: it you were during her hair and she got emotional

1432
01:14:34,600 --> 01:14:35,880
Speaker 1: because she didn't want to leave you. I don't know

1433
01:14:35,920 --> 01:14:38,879
Speaker 1: if it was like a parent co parent drop off situation,

1434
01:14:39,000 --> 01:14:41,840
Speaker 1: because I've experienced that too with my daughter early on,

1435
01:14:42,160 --> 01:14:44,320
Speaker 1: where you know, she's just so used to being with me,

1436
01:14:45,120 --> 01:14:49,559
Speaker 1: and you know that exchange would sometimes be a bit

1437
01:14:49,600 --> 01:14:52,920
Speaker 1: traumatizing for her in ways, and traumatizing for me too,

1438
01:14:53,680 --> 01:14:56,640
Speaker 1: and her vocalizing like I don't want to go, you know,

1439
01:14:56,840 --> 01:14:58,559
Speaker 1: and then you know him being like, well you're coming,

1440
01:14:59,000 --> 01:15:00,640
Speaker 1: you know, and just like, oh my god, this is

1441
01:15:00,720 --> 01:15:03,760
Speaker 1: so fucking I never thought we'd be here. But I

1442
01:15:03,840 --> 01:15:05,360
Speaker 1: just thought it was so beautiful how you were able

1443
01:15:05,400 --> 01:15:07,639
Speaker 1: to support her, and how she was able to kind

1444
01:15:07,680 --> 01:15:10,720
Speaker 1: of affirm you as well too. And she said, you're like,

1445
01:15:10,800 --> 01:15:13,320
Speaker 1: tell me what I can do, you know better for

1446
01:15:13,439 --> 01:15:16,439
Speaker 1: you as your mother, and she said you're already amazing. Yeah,

1447
01:15:16,560 --> 01:15:19,679
Speaker 1: And I was like like, literally, I'm gonna get teary

1448
01:15:19,720 --> 01:15:21,599
Speaker 1: eyed thinking about it right now, with such a beautiful

1449
01:15:21,640 --> 01:15:25,679
Speaker 1: moment that like such a young little human is able

1450
01:15:25,760 --> 01:15:27,640
Speaker 1: to vocalize that, And I think there's a lot of

1451
01:15:28,040 --> 01:15:30,920
Speaker 1: there's a lot of children that can, but it's about

1452
01:15:31,200 --> 01:15:34,479
Speaker 1: asking those questions too as a mother and saying how

1453
01:15:34,560 --> 01:15:37,200
Speaker 1: can I support you? Better? Don't I don't have it

1454
01:15:37,240 --> 01:15:39,040
Speaker 1: all figured out, like guide me in ways? And I

1455
01:15:39,080 --> 01:15:41,360
Speaker 1: think as parents and as mothers, sometimes we think that

1456
01:15:41,439 --> 01:15:42,680
Speaker 1: we have to have it all figured out. We don't

1457
01:15:42,680 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 1: want to ask our children those questions because at some

1458
01:15:44,520 --> 01:15:48,200
Speaker 1: point it somehow makes us feel or maybe makes us

1459
01:15:48,240 --> 01:15:49,880
Speaker 1: feel like they're going to think we don't know what

1460
01:15:49,960 --> 01:15:50,400
Speaker 1: we're doing.

1461
01:15:50,760 --> 01:15:52,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, because we don't. Yeah, we don't.

1462
01:15:52,960 --> 01:15:54,960
Speaker 2: It's like, think about this, Like for the moms that

1463
01:15:55,040 --> 01:15:56,840
Speaker 2: are listened to us, it's your first time.

1464
01:15:57,000 --> 01:15:57,200
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1465
01:15:57,280 --> 01:15:59,360
Speaker 1: I always say, I am seven year I'm a seven

1466
01:15:59,439 --> 01:16:01,040
Speaker 1: year old mother, and I'm an eight year old mom.

1467
01:16:01,120 --> 01:16:03,640
Speaker 1: Now I'm an eight year old mom. I only know

1468
01:16:03,760 --> 01:16:05,240
Speaker 1: as much as I know, and.

1469
01:16:05,320 --> 01:16:07,640
Speaker 2: You're just learning as it goes. But one of the

1470
01:16:07,760 --> 01:16:12,519
Speaker 2: things that I honestly I've to me, I love people.

1471
01:16:13,680 --> 01:16:16,439
Speaker 2: I love learning about people, I love talking to people,

1472
01:16:17,160 --> 01:16:18,720
Speaker 2: I love connecting.

1473
01:16:19,400 --> 01:16:22,160
Speaker 3: This is why I love my job. There's nothing that

1474
01:16:22,160 --> 01:16:25,240
Speaker 3: I would see myself doing. I just love it. I

1475
01:16:25,360 --> 01:16:26,080
Speaker 3: am so passionate.

1476
01:16:26,120 --> 01:16:29,120
Speaker 2: I wake up every single day like now when it's stressful,

1477
01:16:29,120 --> 01:16:31,640
Speaker 2: you know, sometimes again it's stressful, but I love what

1478
01:16:31,720 --> 01:16:34,719
Speaker 2: I do and one of the things that I really

1479
01:16:34,920 --> 01:16:39,320
Speaker 2: really did not want to end up doing. Our parents

1480
01:16:39,360 --> 01:16:41,360
Speaker 2: didn't have the tools that we have right now. Millennials

1481
01:16:41,400 --> 01:16:43,840
Speaker 2: really killed it, you know, we really did something, but

1482
01:16:45,439 --> 01:16:48,720
Speaker 2: they didn't have the tools to build emotional intelligence. So

1483
01:16:48,760 --> 01:16:51,960
Speaker 2: I'm telling all the moms out there, whether your child

1484
01:16:52,040 --> 01:16:55,320
Speaker 2: is one years old or eight, learn how they're developing

1485
01:16:56,479 --> 01:17:00,120
Speaker 2: in their minds. Developmentally. You have a frontal lobe that

1486
01:17:00,560 --> 01:17:05,120
Speaker 2: gets mature right at the age of twenty five. This

1487
01:17:05,280 --> 01:17:08,040
Speaker 2: is why children and young people we act well, we

1488
01:17:08,680 --> 01:17:13,160
Speaker 2: pass the twenty five, but they act so erratic, right

1489
01:17:13,479 --> 01:17:16,880
Speaker 2: because this is not fully developed. So in order to

1490
01:17:16,960 --> 01:17:19,720
Speaker 2: save yourself some frustration, why is your kid why you're

1491
01:17:19,720 --> 01:17:21,920
Speaker 2: telling your kid ten thousand times to pick that up

1492
01:17:21,960 --> 01:17:24,439
Speaker 2: and they do it every day, right, and you're just

1493
01:17:25,160 --> 01:17:29,439
Speaker 2: repeating the cycle, learn how they're developing mentally. That way,

1494
01:17:30,000 --> 01:17:32,280
Speaker 2: you're learning like, oh, I have to tell her a

1495
01:17:32,360 --> 01:17:36,479
Speaker 2: thousand times because this part of the brain is not developed. Oh,

1496
01:17:36,760 --> 01:17:39,320
Speaker 2: she tells me that she's forgetting, and now she forgot

1497
01:17:39,439 --> 01:17:42,800
Speaker 2: because of this. Oh, they're not able to understand time

1498
01:17:43,080 --> 01:17:43,840
Speaker 2: or this or that.

1499
01:17:44,120 --> 01:17:44,280
Speaker 1: Oh.

1500
01:17:44,439 --> 01:17:48,360
Speaker 2: So it saved me so much stress not getting from

1501
01:17:48,439 --> 01:17:50,560
Speaker 2: like oh no, that's what you're supposed to do.

1502
01:17:50,680 --> 01:17:55,720
Speaker 3: Okay, good, And I just treat my daughter with you know,

1503
01:17:55,800 --> 01:17:58,080
Speaker 3: there's this industry versus.

1504
01:17:57,920 --> 01:18:05,560
Speaker 2: Inferiority, inferior there you go take it away, industry versus inferiority.

1505
01:18:06,439 --> 01:18:07,880
Speaker 3: Okay, you know so, yeah, you know.

1506
01:18:08,520 --> 01:18:14,759
Speaker 2: So your children from age to six, from six to twelve,

1507
01:18:14,800 --> 01:18:19,479
Speaker 2: I believe six to twelve, they are looking, they're they're

1508
01:18:19,640 --> 01:18:24,439
Speaker 2: forming their identity. And even you can see when your

1509
01:18:24,520 --> 01:18:26,360
Speaker 2: kid is doing something that they knew they were not

1510
01:18:26,400 --> 01:18:29,000
Speaker 2: supposed to do, they're looking at you for a reaction.

1511
01:18:29,920 --> 01:18:33,519
Speaker 2: All she gets from me is a neutral reaction, just neutral,

1512
01:18:34,000 --> 01:18:36,160
Speaker 2: even though I've lost it a couple of times, like

1513
01:18:36,240 --> 01:18:40,759
Speaker 2: oh my god, right, but it's neutral. And India shares

1514
01:18:40,800 --> 01:18:46,479
Speaker 2: with me everything, everything, everything. Hopefully that extends up until

1515
01:18:46,520 --> 01:18:49,479
Speaker 2: she's an adult, because I'm going to teach her, yeah,

1516
01:18:49,680 --> 01:18:51,680
Speaker 2: in school and I we're going to teach you how

1517
01:18:51,720 --> 01:18:53,600
Speaker 2: to be book smart. Let me teach you how to

1518
01:18:53,680 --> 01:18:57,760
Speaker 2: be street smart, how to deal with humans, how to

1519
01:18:57,960 --> 01:19:02,160
Speaker 2: understand other humans, because you're going to have to interact

1520
01:19:02,600 --> 01:19:05,080
Speaker 2: with humans all day, with people.

1521
01:19:04,880 --> 01:19:05,400
Speaker 1: That do not.

1522
01:19:07,200 --> 01:19:07,920
Speaker 3: Know who you are.

1523
01:19:08,479 --> 01:19:12,240
Speaker 2: Have your upbringing, like different things that you do, have

1524
01:19:12,439 --> 01:19:16,360
Speaker 2: different morals and values and just completely different. And you

1525
01:19:16,479 --> 01:19:18,120
Speaker 2: have to let people be who they are and not

1526
01:19:18,200 --> 01:19:21,200
Speaker 2: take things personal and be you know, she's a little

1527
01:19:21,200 --> 01:19:26,360
Speaker 2: Pissi's water baby, right, so highly emotional and that's I

1528
01:19:26,400 --> 01:19:27,640
Speaker 2: feel like she has a superpower.

1529
01:19:27,760 --> 01:19:28,280
Speaker 3: She's gonna be.

1530
01:19:28,479 --> 01:19:31,360
Speaker 2: She's probably gonna be I don't know, in the art,

1531
01:19:32,320 --> 01:19:37,520
Speaker 2: something artistic and creative or something about people, something related.

1532
01:19:37,200 --> 01:19:39,080
Speaker 3: To people and humans.

1533
01:19:39,160 --> 01:19:42,439
Speaker 2: But I highly suggest all the moms listening to me

1534
01:19:42,680 --> 01:19:47,800
Speaker 2: right now, please get yourself some books. There's plenty out there.

1535
01:19:47,960 --> 01:19:50,240
Speaker 2: Maybe we should create a list right for the rest,

1536
01:19:50,439 --> 01:19:54,640
Speaker 2: but for your child's development, even when they're teenagers.

1537
01:19:56,760 --> 01:19:57,720
Speaker 3: I know that that's going to be.

1538
01:19:58,000 --> 01:19:59,759
Speaker 2: People call it like, oh my god, it's so hard

1539
01:20:00,280 --> 01:20:01,880
Speaker 2: and oh my god, like the kids, I have to

1540
01:20:01,960 --> 01:20:03,960
Speaker 2: like drink my wine because the kids are acting up.

1541
01:20:04,000 --> 01:20:07,920
Speaker 2: You should mean Indy, India is just and you do

1542
01:20:08,080 --> 01:20:09,559
Speaker 2: that through behavioral change.

1543
01:20:09,800 --> 01:20:12,360
Speaker 1: Well, I think if you're investing, it's like twofold, like

1544
01:20:12,400 --> 01:20:14,479
Speaker 1: you've got to invest. We're talking earlier about investing in

1545
01:20:14,560 --> 01:20:17,040
Speaker 1: yourself and your mental health and your wealth and your

1546
01:20:17,120 --> 01:20:20,360
Speaker 1: mind and your body, and it's like you've also decided

1547
01:20:20,400 --> 01:20:22,960
Speaker 1: to bring this life earth side. You have to also

1548
01:20:23,160 --> 01:20:26,280
Speaker 1: invest in you've chosen to be a parent, invest in

1549
01:20:27,040 --> 01:20:30,960
Speaker 1: understanding how you can also make them the best version

1550
01:20:31,000 --> 01:20:33,479
Speaker 1: of themselves so that they're not having to do all

1551
01:20:33,600 --> 01:20:36,920
Speaker 1: this rebuilding in their late twenties and thirties and going

1552
01:20:36,960 --> 01:20:39,120
Speaker 1: to therapy. I mean, granted, maybe the therapy is good

1553
01:20:39,160 --> 01:20:42,559
Speaker 1: for even the most you know, well adjusted child a person,

1554
01:20:42,720 --> 01:20:46,559
Speaker 1: but hopefully the goal is to make our children better

1555
01:20:46,600 --> 01:20:48,639
Speaker 1: than us, right and to like really do the work

1556
01:20:48,720 --> 01:20:51,320
Speaker 1: to figure out what that is. To know that these

1557
01:20:51,479 --> 01:20:54,639
Speaker 1: are our souls coming through us that are not exactly

1558
01:20:54,760 --> 01:20:56,000
Speaker 1: like us, so we're not going to be able to

1559
01:20:56,040 --> 01:20:57,720
Speaker 1: parent them the ways that we thought we needed to

1560
01:20:57,720 --> 01:20:58,800
Speaker 1: be parent that we didn't get.

1561
01:20:59,160 --> 01:21:02,400
Speaker 4: I mean, even then, we're only parented as much. The

1562
01:21:02,479 --> 01:21:04,840
Speaker 4: only example of parenting is what we got. And then

1563
01:21:04,880 --> 01:21:06,519
Speaker 4: it takes for us to get old enough and mature

1564
01:21:06,600 --> 01:21:09,200
Speaker 4: enough to evaluate that parenting and say, what did that

1565
01:21:09,280 --> 01:21:11,840
Speaker 4: really work for me? Were those the ways in which

1566
01:21:11,960 --> 01:21:14,160
Speaker 4: I thrived? Or what did that hurt me in ways?

1567
01:21:14,240 --> 01:21:16,479
Speaker 4: That was that traumatic for me? Because I didn't receive

1568
01:21:16,600 --> 01:21:20,320
Speaker 4: this emotional patience or all these things that I wish

1569
01:21:20,360 --> 01:21:22,439
Speaker 4: I could have had. And it's like it's difficult because,

1570
01:21:22,439 --> 01:21:24,840
Speaker 4: like we said, there's no guidebook, but also the only

1571
01:21:24,920 --> 01:21:27,080
Speaker 4: example is what you got. And then you'll find yourself

1572
01:21:27,360 --> 01:21:30,320
Speaker 4: in motherhood doing things that mimic mimic your parents that

1573
01:21:30,400 --> 01:21:32,719
Speaker 4: you don't even agree with, and you have to catch yourself.

1574
01:21:32,760 --> 01:21:37,080
Speaker 4: And it's like mothering yourself as an adult in ways

1575
01:21:37,120 --> 01:21:40,320
Speaker 4: you maybe weren't mothered growing up is like one thing,

1576
01:21:40,479 --> 01:21:43,479
Speaker 4: and then also mothering an actual child at the same time.

1577
01:21:43,880 --> 01:21:46,040
Speaker 4: It's a hell of a job, but it's necessary in

1578
01:21:46,200 --> 01:21:49,320
Speaker 4: order to like mothering yourself in order to show up

1579
01:21:49,600 --> 01:21:52,360
Speaker 4: in a way that's supportive, in a way that's patient,

1580
01:21:52,640 --> 01:21:55,040
Speaker 4: in a way that is you know, when you're running

1581
01:21:55,040 --> 01:21:57,960
Speaker 4: a business and relationships, all these other things that you

1582
01:21:58,080 --> 01:22:01,880
Speaker 4: still have these to give to your child. To not

1583
01:22:02,040 --> 01:22:04,280
Speaker 4: be like I'm I'm done for the day. You know,

1584
01:22:04,479 --> 01:22:06,639
Speaker 4: it's like, no, actually, this is the most important fucking

1585
01:22:06,720 --> 01:22:09,439
Speaker 4: job you have. And so the more tools you have,

1586
01:22:09,720 --> 01:22:13,240
Speaker 4: it gives you the opportunity to kind of like find

1587
01:22:13,479 --> 01:22:15,680
Speaker 4: new ways to parent and realize it doesn't have to

1588
01:22:15,760 --> 01:22:17,519
Speaker 4: look exactly like the way you were parented.

1589
01:22:18,080 --> 01:22:20,080
Speaker 1: Well, and also the circumstances are different too. I mean,

1590
01:22:20,120 --> 01:22:22,280
Speaker 1: like you came from a I think a two parent household, right,

1591
01:22:22,760 --> 01:22:25,840
Speaker 1: and who's the bond is strong. And now you're raising

1592
01:22:26,800 --> 01:22:29,080
Speaker 1: we're divorced. Yeah, three years old they divorced, but but

1593
01:22:29,560 --> 01:22:32,840
Speaker 1: you had it. But but I've been thinking, like about

1594
01:22:32,920 --> 01:22:35,240
Speaker 1: your you're a single parent, like you have your daughter.

1595
01:22:35,280 --> 01:22:37,360
Speaker 1: It's just you two in the house. Her needs or

1596
01:22:37,439 --> 01:22:39,439
Speaker 1: might be different than the needs that you have. And

1597
01:22:39,760 --> 01:22:42,640
Speaker 1: sometimes you don't even know because this is all you know.

1598
01:22:42,960 --> 01:22:45,160
Speaker 1: You have to educate yourself, like you do need to

1599
01:22:45,200 --> 01:22:47,240
Speaker 1: read a book, you do need to listen to a podcast.

1600
01:22:47,600 --> 01:22:49,320
Speaker 1: You do need to tap in with you know, and

1601
01:22:49,640 --> 01:22:52,519
Speaker 1: get different perspectives because what works for you might not

1602
01:22:52,640 --> 01:22:55,080
Speaker 1: work for indie, you know, and like you might see

1603
01:22:55,080 --> 01:22:57,360
Speaker 1: it start to play out like and any mother might

1604
01:22:57,360 --> 01:22:58,880
Speaker 1: see to play out like, oh, well this really worked

1605
01:22:58,880 --> 01:23:00,720
Speaker 1: for me, but for some reason it's not. It's not

1606
01:23:00,880 --> 01:23:02,720
Speaker 1: doing what it's supposed to be doing here. How do

1607
01:23:02,800 --> 01:23:04,599
Speaker 1: I need to shift? How do I need to adjust?

1608
01:23:04,720 --> 01:23:07,040
Speaker 1: Like because even my daughter, she's a rule follower, I'm

1609
01:23:07,120 --> 01:23:10,320
Speaker 1: not really like there's elements of me that are for sure,

1610
01:23:10,360 --> 01:23:12,280
Speaker 1: but there's things about her I'm like, are you my daughter?

1611
01:23:12,479 --> 01:23:13,240
Speaker 1: Like what the fuck is this?

1612
01:23:13,560 --> 01:23:13,720
Speaker 3: You know?

1613
01:23:13,800 --> 01:23:15,880
Speaker 1: And I have to honor that part of her and

1614
01:23:16,000 --> 01:23:18,960
Speaker 1: not try to force her to be like, well, this

1615
01:23:19,080 --> 01:23:19,840
Speaker 1: is easier for me.

1616
01:23:20,560 --> 01:23:21,280
Speaker 3: It's easier for.

1617
01:23:21,400 --> 01:23:23,680
Speaker 1: Me if you just like get on board with this,

1618
01:23:24,640 --> 01:23:26,080
Speaker 1: you know, and it's like, well, this is not this

1619
01:23:26,200 --> 01:23:27,240
Speaker 1: is not her human design.

1620
01:23:28,080 --> 01:23:28,240
Speaker 3: You know.

1621
01:23:28,320 --> 01:23:30,439
Speaker 1: I can't go against that, or I could and then

1622
01:23:30,640 --> 01:23:31,880
Speaker 1: what the fuck's gonna happen there?

1623
01:23:32,240 --> 01:23:32,400
Speaker 3: You know.

1624
01:23:32,400 --> 01:23:34,799
Speaker 2: It's really funny when I see like memes on Instagram

1625
01:23:34,880 --> 01:23:38,040
Speaker 2: about like when kids talk too much, especially around this age,

1626
01:23:38,120 --> 01:23:41,080
Speaker 2: and like the parents like h right, but actually have

1627
01:23:41,200 --> 01:23:42,160
Speaker 2: conversations with Indian.

1628
01:23:42,240 --> 01:23:44,439
Speaker 3: She's super dope. She tells me about her day.

1629
01:23:44,479 --> 01:23:47,479
Speaker 2: I can find out even when she's insecured about certain things.

1630
01:23:48,400 --> 01:23:52,519
Speaker 2: I can find out anything through just her talking and

1631
01:23:52,640 --> 01:23:55,640
Speaker 2: he sur vibe just hearing her and I did this

1632
01:23:55,760 --> 01:23:57,840
Speaker 2: at school and that and that and that. But in

1633
01:23:58,240 --> 01:24:01,400
Speaker 2: having these conversations with her, I know what she needs

1634
01:24:01,479 --> 01:24:02,000
Speaker 2: to be happy.

1635
01:24:03,040 --> 01:24:03,200
Speaker 5: You know.

1636
01:24:04,160 --> 01:24:08,120
Speaker 3: After three pm, my day is done. Like that's it.

1637
01:24:08,400 --> 01:24:10,320
Speaker 2: My phone goes like this, I wake up really early,

1638
01:24:10,920 --> 01:24:14,200
Speaker 2: So these are the sacrifices, Like I wake up five

1639
01:24:14,520 --> 01:24:17,200
Speaker 2: five forty five, from five to five forty five, that's it.

1640
01:24:17,800 --> 01:24:20,200
Speaker 2: But then my day I start a day early, but

1641
01:24:20,360 --> 01:24:22,519
Speaker 2: my day ends when I pick her up from school.

1642
01:24:23,040 --> 01:24:26,040
Speaker 2: So you can be I think in the three years

1643
01:24:26,080 --> 01:24:29,759
Speaker 2: that she's been in school now, probably I have missed

1644
01:24:30,760 --> 01:24:33,280
Speaker 2: maybe two or three picking her up and dropping her off.

1645
01:24:33,760 --> 01:24:36,920
Speaker 2: And he's usually either my brother or like, I don't.

1646
01:24:36,760 --> 01:24:38,240
Speaker 3: Have an nan, I don't have a nanny. I don't

1647
01:24:38,240 --> 01:24:39,760
Speaker 3: have I do all of it right.

1648
01:24:40,439 --> 01:24:45,439
Speaker 2: She my nanny's the school right and it's important to me.

1649
01:24:45,680 --> 01:24:48,040
Speaker 2: So these are sacrifices that I now I have to like, Okay,

1650
01:24:48,080 --> 01:24:51,280
Speaker 2: I have to pivot. If I can't be an absent mother,

1651
01:24:52,000 --> 01:24:55,240
Speaker 2: I can't be a workaholic and be absent because we

1652
01:24:55,439 --> 01:24:56,200
Speaker 2: know what that does.

1653
01:24:56,760 --> 01:24:58,920
Speaker 3: And I'm saying, like, it's not what I'm going to

1654
01:24:59,000 --> 01:25:02,439
Speaker 3: be doing. Most of the time. I'm going to miss

1655
01:25:02,600 --> 01:25:04,519
Speaker 3: some dates, that's a given.

1656
01:25:04,920 --> 01:25:07,280
Speaker 2: I am going to have to work late some days,

1657
01:25:07,640 --> 01:25:09,640
Speaker 2: but most of the time, she's going to remember a

1658
01:25:09,760 --> 01:25:12,439
Speaker 2: mom that went to pick her up, dropped her off.

1659
01:25:12,720 --> 01:25:15,479
Speaker 2: Whatever sacrifices I needed to make, I'll make him. I'll

1660
01:25:15,560 --> 01:25:20,120
Speaker 2: start waking up earlier, I'll put my phone down, and

1661
01:25:20,240 --> 01:25:21,640
Speaker 2: then that's it. There's some days that I have to

1662
01:25:21,680 --> 01:25:24,160
Speaker 2: tell her, like, hey, mommy has to work, you know,

1663
01:25:24,240 --> 01:25:26,439
Speaker 2: and he's going to go over. But we have a routine.

1664
01:25:26,520 --> 01:25:28,599
Speaker 2: We have built a routine. It's just like I've become

1665
01:25:28,720 --> 01:25:33,360
Speaker 2: pretty much a robot. But I can control those things

1666
01:25:33,439 --> 01:25:37,479
Speaker 2: because I have a sustainable approach to a schedule.

1667
01:25:38,360 --> 01:25:40,840
Speaker 3: Hopefully she'ld be on vacation.

1668
01:25:40,720 --> 01:25:43,680
Speaker 1: Since you will be on vacation soon and I command it.

1669
01:25:43,800 --> 01:25:46,200
Speaker 3: How are you going to fit dating into your schedule? Like?

1670
01:25:46,280 --> 01:25:47,960
Speaker 3: How does dating fit into you? Know?

1671
01:25:48,200 --> 01:25:50,280
Speaker 1: This well oiled machine.

1672
01:25:50,520 --> 01:25:53,080
Speaker 2: I co parents, So fifty percent of the time I

1673
01:25:53,360 --> 01:25:57,320
Speaker 2: I having Durrah and fifty percent of the time she

1674
01:25:57,479 --> 01:26:01,080
Speaker 2: goes with her dad. Okay, right, we don't know if

1675
01:26:01,120 --> 01:26:04,880
Speaker 2: that's going to change. But managing dating, I like very.

1676
01:26:04,840 --> 01:26:11,320
Speaker 3: Busy people because you're busy exactly, So managing dating, I

1677
01:26:11,400 --> 01:26:14,519
Speaker 3: have enough. I have like a whole week to myself

1678
01:26:14,640 --> 01:26:14,920
Speaker 3: to do that.

1679
01:26:15,120 --> 01:26:18,000
Speaker 1: Do you feel like it's something that you want to

1680
01:26:18,040 --> 01:26:18,479
Speaker 1: do right now?

1681
01:26:19,160 --> 01:26:21,559
Speaker 4: Are you feeling like I would like companionship, I wouldn't

1682
01:26:21,600 --> 01:26:24,160
Speaker 4: mind someone courting me. Or are you just like I'm

1683
01:26:24,240 --> 01:26:26,840
Speaker 4: still like knee deep and getting my life where I

1684
01:26:26,920 --> 01:26:29,000
Speaker 4: need it to be after this, No, I got my

1685
01:26:29,040 --> 01:26:31,000
Speaker 4: life where I need it to be. So you're you're

1686
01:26:31,080 --> 01:26:32,400
Speaker 4: open to companionship.

1687
01:26:32,880 --> 01:26:34,840
Speaker 3: I'm open to the right type of company.

1688
01:26:34,960 --> 01:26:38,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, not just any because I do have a daughter,

1689
01:26:38,520 --> 01:26:42,639
Speaker 2: and anyone knows like my daughter comes first, yeah, comes first?

1690
01:26:42,680 --> 01:26:46,000
Speaker 3: Then you you know, like I come first, then my

1691
01:26:46,080 --> 01:26:47,840
Speaker 3: daughter comes first, you know? And where do you all?

1692
01:26:48,360 --> 01:26:50,920
Speaker 2: And then if you're okay with that, then great. So

1693
01:26:51,560 --> 01:26:53,800
Speaker 2: I've been open to dating people that do not want

1694
01:26:53,880 --> 01:26:55,240
Speaker 2: children because.

1695
01:26:54,960 --> 01:26:56,160
Speaker 1: You don't want anymore.

1696
01:26:57,160 --> 01:26:58,280
Speaker 3: Because it would.

1697
01:27:03,800 --> 01:27:06,280
Speaker 2: I'm open to people that have children and people that

1698
01:27:06,400 --> 01:27:12,719
Speaker 2: do not have children. I like more mature, more mature

1699
01:27:13,040 --> 01:27:17,800
Speaker 2: minds exactly. So I don't see myself like jumping in

1700
01:27:18,240 --> 01:27:19,280
Speaker 2: and saying like, oh my god, it.

1701
01:27:19,320 --> 01:27:19,840
Speaker 3: Was true love.

1702
01:27:20,080 --> 01:27:22,759
Speaker 2: We're going to get married and have no If that happens, great,

1703
01:27:23,160 --> 01:27:26,960
Speaker 2: I'm open to marriage, traditional marriage. It can work, you know,

1704
01:27:27,479 --> 01:27:30,960
Speaker 2: but for the right person, the person that is going

1705
01:27:31,040 --> 01:27:34,040
Speaker 2: to let me be who I am, because I let

1706
01:27:34,120 --> 01:27:36,599
Speaker 2: you be who you are, let me be who I am,

1707
01:27:37,120 --> 01:27:38,240
Speaker 2: and we're something together.

1708
01:27:38,600 --> 01:27:40,759
Speaker 3: But there has to be a certain level of respect.

1709
01:27:41,680 --> 01:27:45,479
Speaker 2: And my daughter, like again, my stepdad, my step I

1710
01:27:45,920 --> 01:27:49,680
Speaker 2: couldn't tell you he's my dad. That's both of them

1711
01:27:50,120 --> 01:27:54,759
Speaker 2: raised me, my biological dad and my stepdad. And that's doable.

1712
01:27:54,880 --> 01:27:58,879
Speaker 2: I know something out there or someone out there exists

1713
01:27:59,479 --> 01:28:05,320
Speaker 2: that it's going to blend this family idea that I

1714
01:28:05,400 --> 01:28:07,880
Speaker 2: have in my head, and if it doesn't happen, I'm great.

1715
01:28:08,600 --> 01:28:13,120
Speaker 2: There's there are perks of being single, and there are

1716
01:28:13,200 --> 01:28:16,560
Speaker 2: perks in being you know how dope it is to

1717
01:28:16,640 --> 01:28:19,479
Speaker 2: be able to be completely independent, that you don't need

1718
01:28:19,720 --> 01:28:22,360
Speaker 2: anything from anyone and you can just get to pick

1719
01:28:23,360 --> 01:28:25,080
Speaker 2: whatever it is that you want.

1720
01:28:26,200 --> 01:28:28,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's no feeling, there's no one's feelings or you

1721
01:28:28,560 --> 01:28:30,960
Speaker 1: don't have to consider shit. No serious, you don't have

1722
01:28:31,000 --> 01:28:36,439
Speaker 1: to consider anything, and that's very important. Yeah, well, thinking

1723
01:28:36,560 --> 01:28:38,640
Speaker 1: of that and just knowing who the fuck you are.

1724
01:28:39,040 --> 01:28:40,760
Speaker 1: I want to get to part of our show where

1725
01:28:40,800 --> 01:28:42,680
Speaker 1: we have our guest share in affirmation. So do you

1726
01:28:42,720 --> 01:28:44,920
Speaker 1: have an affirmation that you can share? Think I already

1727
01:28:44,960 --> 01:28:45,240
Speaker 1: said it.

1728
01:28:45,439 --> 01:28:49,120
Speaker 2: Just say change is overwhelming, changes every lining, but it

1729
01:28:49,320 --> 01:28:50,480
Speaker 2: is inevitable.

1730
01:28:51,120 --> 01:28:52,320
Speaker 3: If we want a different outcome.

1731
01:28:53,160 --> 01:28:56,639
Speaker 4: Change is overwhelming, but it is inevitable if you want

1732
01:28:56,720 --> 01:28:57,799
Speaker 4: a different outcome.

1733
01:28:58,680 --> 01:29:01,599
Speaker 3: That is a fact, fact, fact fact fact. I think

1734
01:29:01,680 --> 01:29:04,680
Speaker 3: Peter is gonna be hard, but once you embrace it,

1735
01:29:05,320 --> 01:29:06,320
Speaker 3: that's it. I'll lock it.

1736
01:29:06,479 --> 01:29:07,160
Speaker 1: Shift happen.

1737
01:29:07,320 --> 01:29:10,479
Speaker 2: You can't be scared. You can't be scared. You know

1738
01:29:10,640 --> 01:29:12,400
Speaker 2: yourself what you need to do to get to the

1739
01:29:12,439 --> 01:29:12,920
Speaker 2: other side.

1740
01:29:13,000 --> 01:29:14,519
Speaker 3: Just get it done. Break it down.

1741
01:29:15,920 --> 01:29:19,360
Speaker 1: I think like it's like you can't you do you

1742
01:29:20,680 --> 01:29:23,160
Speaker 1: if change is easy? I mean you always hear this, change.

1743
01:29:22,960 --> 01:29:25,519
Speaker 3: These easy, everyone would be doing it. Yeah, but it's

1744
01:29:25,560 --> 01:29:28,000
Speaker 3: a fact. It's really just that simple. It's really you're

1745
01:29:28,000 --> 01:29:28,799
Speaker 3: gonna live a misery.

1746
01:29:28,880 --> 01:29:30,720
Speaker 1: And even if you are scared, you have to kind

1747
01:29:30,760 --> 01:29:32,879
Speaker 1: of say fuck the fear and just do it anyway,

1748
01:29:33,800 --> 01:29:37,960
Speaker 1: because what would be worse is you waking up five

1749
01:29:38,080 --> 01:29:40,080
Speaker 1: ten years from now and you're still in the same

1750
01:29:40,200 --> 01:29:44,400
Speaker 1: fucking loop. And now you're like even doubting yourself even more.

1751
01:29:44,479 --> 01:29:46,920
Speaker 1: The fear is even built even more because you've got

1752
01:29:47,439 --> 01:29:49,520
Speaker 1: strayed so far away from that person.

1753
01:29:49,520 --> 01:29:51,600
Speaker 2: And now this is like a big mountain and you're like,

1754
01:29:51,960 --> 01:29:54,439
Speaker 2: wait a second, how am I even going to climb this?

1755
01:29:55,360 --> 01:29:57,840
Speaker 2: But what I say is usually I don't know if

1756
01:29:57,840 --> 01:30:00,280
Speaker 2: it happens to you guys that when you have lot

1757
01:30:00,520 --> 01:30:02,680
Speaker 2: and you're like, wait a second, how am I going

1758
01:30:02,720 --> 01:30:03,479
Speaker 2: to accomplish this?

1759
01:30:04,320 --> 01:30:05,080
Speaker 3: Break it down.

1760
01:30:05,800 --> 01:30:08,519
Speaker 2: Life is not a race, it's a marathon. So in

1761
01:30:08,600 --> 01:30:11,040
Speaker 2: your head you have to do this yesterday, and you're.

1762
01:30:10,920 --> 01:30:12,559
Speaker 3: Thinking like, well, I want to start this and it's

1763
01:30:12,600 --> 01:30:13,479
Speaker 3: going to take me this This is.

1764
01:30:13,800 --> 01:30:18,000
Speaker 2: Why don't you start by starting Yeah, right, and you're

1765
01:30:18,080 --> 01:30:22,680
Speaker 2: breaking it down right, step by step. Once you accomplish

1766
01:30:22,720 --> 01:30:27,160
Speaker 2: one thing, it's less overwhelming, less scary because you're you

1767
01:30:27,200 --> 01:30:31,320
Speaker 2: already faced your fears like you are afraid because you

1768
01:30:31,400 --> 01:30:32,559
Speaker 2: don't know the outcome.

1769
01:30:32,800 --> 01:30:33,280
Speaker 3: So stop.

1770
01:30:33,720 --> 01:30:37,639
Speaker 2: Obviously, you want to make decisions that are obviously you're

1771
01:30:37,680 --> 01:30:39,439
Speaker 2: not going to say, well, I'm going to put all

1772
01:30:39,479 --> 01:30:41,880
Speaker 2: my eggs in this basket and just throw myself out

1773
01:30:41,920 --> 01:30:46,960
Speaker 2: of a glyph. No, you're making safe decisions. You know

1774
01:30:47,360 --> 01:30:50,160
Speaker 2: what you're capable of, So you're going to take risks

1775
01:30:50,360 --> 01:30:54,160
Speaker 2: based on what you believe you're capable of, which is

1776
01:30:54,400 --> 01:30:57,000
Speaker 2: it's very important what you tell yourself every single day.

1777
01:30:57,520 --> 01:31:00,880
Speaker 2: I never wanted to make myself a victim, he said,

1778
01:31:00,920 --> 01:31:03,040
Speaker 2: I'm not going to go and speak about any like.

1779
01:31:03,160 --> 01:31:04,320
Speaker 3: No, I am not a victim.

1780
01:31:04,479 --> 01:31:06,880
Speaker 2: If I say, well, and this happened to me and

1781
01:31:07,120 --> 01:31:09,600
Speaker 2: this person, and that, you're gonna start believing that the

1782
01:31:09,640 --> 01:31:14,040
Speaker 2: body keeps a score. What you tell your thoughts physiologically

1783
01:31:14,120 --> 01:31:14,800
Speaker 2: change your body.

1784
01:31:15,479 --> 01:31:17,439
Speaker 3: So raise it.

1785
01:31:19,120 --> 01:31:19,840
Speaker 1: Oh you got to.

1786
01:31:22,080 --> 01:31:24,679
Speaker 4: Is it Tarot time? I love, I think it's Tarot time.

1787
01:31:26,120 --> 01:31:28,400
Speaker 4: We pulled Massy pulled the wheel of fortune.

1788
01:31:28,479 --> 01:31:29,080
Speaker 3: Which we haven't.

1789
01:31:29,120 --> 01:31:31,479
Speaker 4: I don't know if you've pulled this recently or this

1790
01:31:31,680 --> 01:31:37,320
Speaker 4: year and the will. The will of fortune means good luck, karma,

1791
01:31:37,760 --> 01:31:44,439
Speaker 4: life cycles, destiny, and a turning point. The will of

1792
01:31:44,479 --> 01:31:46,880
Speaker 4: fortune reminds you that the wheel is always turning and

1793
01:31:47,000 --> 01:31:51,320
Speaker 4: life is in a state of constant change. If you're

1794
01:31:51,320 --> 01:31:53,599
Speaker 4: going through a difficult time, rest assured that it will

1795
01:31:53,640 --> 01:31:56,920
Speaker 4: get better from here. Good luck and good fortune will

1796
01:31:56,960 --> 01:32:00,720
Speaker 4: make their return in time. Similarly, if they are going well,

1797
01:32:00,960 --> 01:32:03,840
Speaker 4: know this too. Know this too will change and life

1798
01:32:03,920 --> 01:32:06,800
Speaker 4: my return to normal soon. This cycle shows why it

1799
01:32:06,880 --> 01:32:09,160
Speaker 4: is so important to cherish the blissful moments in your

1800
01:32:09,200 --> 01:32:11,200
Speaker 4: life and make the most of them while they are

1801
01:32:11,320 --> 01:32:13,760
Speaker 4: within reach, because in a flash they could be gone.

1802
01:32:14,920 --> 01:32:16,720
Speaker 4: The will of fortune is also known as the will

1803
01:32:16,760 --> 01:32:20,320
Speaker 4: of karma and reminds you that what goes around comes around.

1804
01:32:20,520 --> 01:32:23,000
Speaker 4: Be a kind and loving person to others and they'll

1805
01:32:23,040 --> 01:32:25,720
Speaker 4: be kind and loving to you. Be nasty and mean,

1806
01:32:25,920 --> 01:32:28,280
Speaker 4: and you will get nasty and mean, turning back your way.

1807
01:32:28,920 --> 01:32:31,479
Speaker 4: So if you want happiness and abundance, make sure you're

1808
01:32:31,479 --> 01:32:34,840
Speaker 4: sending out the positive juju and kind What you send

1809
01:32:34,880 --> 01:32:37,360
Speaker 4: out in the universe will come back your way. The

1810
01:32:37,439 --> 01:32:39,800
Speaker 4: Will of Fortune card asks you to be optimistic and

1811
01:32:39,920 --> 01:32:42,120
Speaker 4: have faith that the universe will take care of your

1812
01:32:42,160 --> 01:32:46,800
Speaker 4: situation in the best way possible. Meditation and visualization can

1813
01:32:46,880 --> 01:32:50,439
Speaker 4: reinforce your intention to bring increased abundance, good fortune, and

1814
01:32:50,560 --> 01:32:53,360
Speaker 4: prosperity to you. Your life is about to turn in

1815
01:32:53,479 --> 01:32:55,960
Speaker 4: more positive directions if you are willing to grow and

1816
01:32:56,120 --> 01:32:59,920
Speaker 4: expand keep your mind open to all kinds of synchronicities

1817
01:33:00,439 --> 01:33:03,439
Speaker 4: and signs from the universe. The magic of fate and

1818
01:33:03,560 --> 01:33:08,240
Speaker 4: destiny is behind you and miracles are happening. M you

1819
01:33:08,280 --> 01:33:09,680
Speaker 4: know what, I think we need to start pulling the

1820
01:33:09,720 --> 01:33:11,400
Speaker 4: card on camera because people are gonna think that we

1821
01:33:11,520 --> 01:33:13,240
Speaker 4: just like pull this card to just make the shit up.

1822
01:33:13,320 --> 01:33:15,680
Speaker 4: I was thinking that too, because it always goes with

1823
01:33:15,800 --> 01:33:19,679
Speaker 4: the episode, always utterly every time, every time.

1824
01:33:19,880 --> 01:33:22,360
Speaker 2: You know, I believe in in like energy and I

1825
01:33:22,520 --> 01:33:27,120
Speaker 2: believe I believe like we're nothing is you said it?

1826
01:33:27,240 --> 01:33:29,560
Speaker 2: Like look at the little things that the universe is

1827
01:33:29,640 --> 01:33:31,640
Speaker 2: throwing at you all the time, like.

1828
01:33:34,320 --> 01:33:37,000
Speaker 4: Literally, like no matter what you believe, no matter what

1829
01:33:37,160 --> 01:33:40,439
Speaker 4: religion or non religion or whatever higher power, or you

1830
01:33:40,479 --> 01:33:43,040
Speaker 4: don't believe in it at all, Like when you it's

1831
01:33:43,120 --> 01:33:47,600
Speaker 4: again like when you start choosing yourself, the synchronicities and

1832
01:33:47,840 --> 01:33:50,800
Speaker 4: like the signs will be so clear, and like that's

1833
01:33:50,800 --> 01:33:53,240
Speaker 4: happened a lot in our relationship, Like when we when

1834
01:33:53,320 --> 01:33:56,160
Speaker 4: we chose this thing that we chose that we didn't

1835
01:33:56,160 --> 01:33:58,639
Speaker 4: know we were choosing, it was just like very clear

1836
01:33:58,840 --> 01:34:00,800
Speaker 4: that even if it was scary, we should keep going,

1837
01:34:01,120 --> 01:34:03,840
Speaker 4: even if people were like that's crazy, we should keep going.

1838
01:34:04,360 --> 01:34:08,680
Speaker 4: And I think people underestimate the signs, you know. And

1839
01:34:08,760 --> 01:34:11,400
Speaker 4: sometimes it's a stranger like telling you something on the street.

1840
01:34:12,000 --> 01:34:14,840
Speaker 4: Sometimes you're watching TV and it like just affirms something

1841
01:34:14,880 --> 01:34:16,920
Speaker 4: you just told your best friend or you thought you

1842
01:34:17,000 --> 01:34:18,920
Speaker 4: had a thought, and then someone says like, yo, I

1843
01:34:19,040 --> 01:34:21,960
Speaker 4: was thinking about this and it's in alignment. But usually

1844
01:34:22,240 --> 01:34:27,280
Speaker 4: like spirit will send you signs and opportunities and you'll

1845
01:34:27,280 --> 01:34:31,479
Speaker 4: be like, oh shit, thanks, you know, like and it's

1846
01:34:31,560 --> 01:34:33,320
Speaker 4: so true. And even if you're in a position right

1847
01:34:33,360 --> 01:34:36,920
Speaker 4: now where you're struggling to choose yourself or struggling to

1848
01:34:37,000 --> 01:34:39,600
Speaker 4: choose your happiness, like and you're listening to this, this

1849
01:34:39,760 --> 01:34:42,680
Speaker 4: is no coincidence, you know, or you're watching this, like

1850
01:34:42,800 --> 01:34:44,439
Speaker 4: if you're hearing this message at a time in your

1851
01:34:44,479 --> 01:34:47,479
Speaker 4: life where you actually absolutely needed this message. It's not

1852
01:34:47,600 --> 01:34:50,160
Speaker 4: by coincidence that you came and chose this episode and

1853
01:34:50,280 --> 01:34:53,519
Speaker 4: heard this story and this testament. And you know, don't

1854
01:34:53,640 --> 01:34:57,560
Speaker 4: underestimate the signs that God or Spirit gives to you,

1855
01:34:57,720 --> 01:35:01,240
Speaker 4: because a lot of times it's just the sway in

1856
01:35:01,320 --> 01:35:03,920
Speaker 4: which sometimes you need a little kick in the ass

1857
01:35:04,600 --> 01:35:07,120
Speaker 4: and you know, a little like, you know, a little

1858
01:35:07,520 --> 01:35:10,360
Speaker 4: affirmation that it's this is the direction you're supposed to

1859
01:35:10,400 --> 01:35:12,559
Speaker 4: go in, and this is how you're supposed to choose yourself.

1860
01:35:12,640 --> 01:35:16,439
Speaker 4: And I'm a sign taking bitch. I'm like, oh my god,

1861
01:35:16,520 --> 01:35:18,320
Speaker 4: did you hear that blape? Something broke?

1862
01:35:18,640 --> 01:35:19,160
Speaker 1: It's true.

1863
01:35:19,439 --> 01:35:22,040
Speaker 4: Whatever we're talking about is it resonates, you know, like, oh,

1864
01:35:22,080 --> 01:35:24,519
Speaker 4: it's eleven eleven, Like at this very moment, we're talking

1865
01:35:24,520 --> 01:35:28,320
Speaker 4: about this very important thing or this idea or you know,

1866
01:35:28,439 --> 01:35:30,240
Speaker 4: this this whatever the fuck it is.

1867
01:35:31,160 --> 01:35:33,640
Speaker 1: You know, you see an animal emerge, what's a grasshopper?

1868
01:35:33,720 --> 01:35:33,760
Speaker 3: Me?

1869
01:35:34,720 --> 01:35:35,120
Speaker 4: This is me?

1870
01:35:35,320 --> 01:35:38,320
Speaker 1: You know. But and some people think that's crazy, and

1871
01:35:38,960 --> 01:35:39,880
Speaker 1: for some people it is.

1872
01:35:40,040 --> 01:35:43,519
Speaker 4: But you'd be surprised that when you ask Spirit give

1873
01:35:43,560 --> 01:35:47,080
Speaker 4: me a sign, that shit will show up if you're

1874
01:35:47,080 --> 01:35:49,320
Speaker 4: paying attention, and even if you're in a relationship that

1875
01:35:49,360 --> 01:35:52,479
Speaker 4: feels like maybe it's not where you're supposed to be. Literally,

1876
01:35:52,600 --> 01:35:55,720
Speaker 4: that prayer is like, God, if this is not for me,

1877
01:35:56,720 --> 01:36:00,200
Speaker 4: make it so bad that I can't deny it. Show me,

1878
01:36:01,000 --> 01:36:04,720
Speaker 4: you know, like when you say that prayer, literally, within

1879
01:36:04,840 --> 01:36:06,160
Speaker 4: days you will be shown.

1880
01:36:06,240 --> 01:36:07,360
Speaker 1: And I'm not fucking kidding.

1881
01:36:07,760 --> 01:36:09,960
Speaker 4: It's like this the most powerful prayer, Like if this

1882
01:36:10,080 --> 01:36:12,560
Speaker 4: no longer serves me, God, show me that it no

1883
01:36:12,640 --> 01:36:14,800
Speaker 4: longer serves me in a way that I can't deny it.

1884
01:36:14,960 --> 01:36:16,960
Speaker 4: That last part is really the part you need in

1885
01:36:17,040 --> 01:36:20,120
Speaker 4: a way that I can't deny it, because bitches will

1886
01:36:20,320 --> 01:36:24,240
Speaker 4: be in denial for some dick and some love and

1887
01:36:24,360 --> 01:36:26,280
Speaker 4: some fairy tale that may not be your fairy tale,

1888
01:36:26,320 --> 01:36:28,479
Speaker 4: and you might be actually missing out on the fairy

1889
01:36:28,520 --> 01:36:31,559
Speaker 4: tale that you actually deserve because you're so busy trying

1890
01:36:31,600 --> 01:36:33,760
Speaker 4: to make some shit work that doesn't. So, you know,

1891
01:36:34,000 --> 01:36:36,040
Speaker 4: people always ask how do you honor your intuition? How

1892
01:36:36,080 --> 01:36:38,080
Speaker 4: do you honor yourself? And like, sometimes it just takes

1893
01:36:38,120 --> 01:36:41,240
Speaker 4: a little prayer because if you're feeling indifferent, you know,

1894
01:36:41,400 --> 01:36:44,320
Speaker 4: there's already a plant seated that says, maybe this ain't it.

1895
01:36:44,880 --> 01:36:47,040
Speaker 4: So if you just need that one little extra.

1896
01:36:48,760 --> 01:36:49,800
Speaker 1: That will do it, and.

1897
01:36:49,800 --> 01:36:54,360
Speaker 2: There's a level of consciousness also that you're acquiring by saying, Okay,

1898
01:36:54,479 --> 01:36:57,280
Speaker 2: let's say if I'm unhappy and I want to be

1899
01:36:57,320 --> 01:37:00,920
Speaker 2: in an environment where I feel supported, surrounding yourself with

1900
01:37:01,000 --> 01:37:04,599
Speaker 2: the energy that is going to be supportive. So you're

1901
01:37:04,760 --> 01:37:08,040
Speaker 2: starting you're going to start to walk in those thoughts.

1902
01:37:08,680 --> 01:37:10,600
Speaker 2: You're not gonna steer towards the energy that makes you

1903
01:37:10,680 --> 01:37:11,880
Speaker 2: feel X, Y and Z, You're.

1904
01:37:11,800 --> 01:37:12,960
Speaker 3: Going to go the other way.

1905
01:37:13,240 --> 01:37:17,120
Speaker 4: And sometimes that energy, which can be confusing for people.

1906
01:37:17,280 --> 01:37:20,320
Speaker 4: Sometimes the energy, the energy of not being supported is

1907
01:37:20,360 --> 01:37:22,640
Speaker 4: from people you've known the longest. Yeah, and you have

1908
01:37:22,800 --> 01:37:25,519
Speaker 4: to start to recognize even that, like, dam you're my

1909
01:37:25,600 --> 01:37:27,960
Speaker 4: best friend I've known for my whole life. But this

1910
01:37:28,080 --> 01:37:30,679
Speaker 4: doesn't really feel supportive. This doesn't feel good to me anymore.

1911
01:37:30,880 --> 01:37:33,720
Speaker 4: You don't really love and accept me for all that

1912
01:37:33,840 --> 01:37:35,880
Speaker 4: I am. It's difficult for you to do that. But

1913
01:37:36,000 --> 01:37:38,840
Speaker 4: maybe this person I just met this week is all

1914
01:37:39,000 --> 01:37:41,040
Speaker 4: for it, you know, and like you will start to

1915
01:37:41,120 --> 01:37:43,240
Speaker 4: feel when you start to be like read the energy

1916
01:37:43,600 --> 01:37:45,519
Speaker 4: and how people like when you leave people, how you

1917
01:37:45,640 --> 01:37:49,160
Speaker 4: actually feel, if you feel energized, if you feel like motivated,

1918
01:37:49,320 --> 01:37:52,080
Speaker 4: or if you feel like dampleted, depleted or down about

1919
01:37:52,080 --> 01:37:54,280
Speaker 4: yourself or questioning who you are or what you're doing.

1920
01:37:54,560 --> 01:37:56,840
Speaker 3: That's enough for you to know that does that energy

1921
01:37:56,880 --> 01:37:58,479
Speaker 3: doesn't resonate period.

1922
01:37:58,960 --> 01:38:01,479
Speaker 4: And sometimes it's motherfuckers, you know, in your whole life.

1923
01:38:01,520 --> 01:38:04,880
Speaker 4: Sometimes it's family, sometimes it's your lover. But start paying

1924
01:38:04,880 --> 01:38:07,240
Speaker 4: attention to how you feel, you know, when you leave

1925
01:38:07,400 --> 01:38:11,439
Speaker 4: you a conversation or the presence of someone and taking

1926
01:38:11,520 --> 01:38:14,960
Speaker 4: note and just gravitating towards what makes you feel good.

1927
01:38:15,000 --> 01:38:18,600
Speaker 1: And sometimes it's just you until you find that friend.

1928
01:38:19,040 --> 01:38:21,200
Speaker 2: Or sometimes you don't even know that you're the problem,

1929
01:38:21,880 --> 01:38:25,000
Speaker 2: and you have to analyze yourself. Sometimes you can be

1930
01:38:25,200 --> 01:38:27,840
Speaker 2: in your own thoughts and have this constructing your mind

1931
01:38:27,880 --> 01:38:31,040
Speaker 2: that no, this is right, and you may be the

1932
01:38:31,160 --> 01:38:35,320
Speaker 2: one who's that wrong. You may be wrong no, like

1933
01:38:35,520 --> 01:38:38,920
Speaker 2: and there's that's the saddest thing to go through. Like

1934
01:38:39,040 --> 01:38:41,160
Speaker 2: the truth is gonna set you free, but it's gonna

1935
01:38:41,200 --> 01:38:43,400
Speaker 2: either make you really sad or piss you off to

1936
01:38:43,479 --> 01:38:43,840
Speaker 2: begin with.

1937
01:38:43,960 --> 01:38:46,160
Speaker 4: You like, Deah, maybe I'm judging myself because I'm judging

1938
01:38:46,160 --> 01:38:48,599
Speaker 4: everybody else, and that's why I can't get from point

1939
01:38:48,680 --> 01:38:50,880
Speaker 4: A to point B. And you know, and sometimes it

1940
01:38:51,080 --> 01:38:54,439
Speaker 4: requires that you reflect and really examine, like, am I

1941
01:38:54,520 --> 01:38:57,360
Speaker 4: the fucking problem? I'm the toxic person? Am I holding

1942
01:38:57,400 --> 01:38:59,960
Speaker 4: myself back with these you know, limiting beliefs about myself?

1943
01:39:00,240 --> 01:39:03,360
Speaker 4: Am I beating myself up all the time. It's like

1944
01:39:03,479 --> 01:39:05,920
Speaker 4: it really requires for you to like be silent and

1945
01:39:06,000 --> 01:39:08,960
Speaker 4: go within and kind of reflect on your thoughts and

1946
01:39:09,360 --> 01:39:11,760
Speaker 4: the things that you tell yourself. And once you start

1947
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Speaker 4: to do that, it kind of becomes your voice gets

1948
01:39:15,360 --> 01:39:17,200
Speaker 4: louder and you start to realize, like why are you

1949
01:39:17,320 --> 01:39:19,280
Speaker 4: talking about that yourself that way? Why are these the

1950
01:39:19,320 --> 01:39:21,200
Speaker 4: negative thoughts that you're happening, And you kind of have

1951
01:39:21,280 --> 01:39:23,400
Speaker 4: to beat yourself back up, like, bitch, I'm the shit

1952
01:39:24,080 --> 01:39:26,280
Speaker 4: even if you're talking to yourself, Yeah, you know, and

1953
01:39:26,439 --> 01:39:29,960
Speaker 4: like you're powerful and you're worthy and you're you're worth it,

1954
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Speaker 4: and like you got to really, really really practice conditioning

1955
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Speaker 4: yourself to love yourself and.

1956
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Speaker 3: Living authentically yourself, knowing that you are a human that

1957
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Speaker 3: is perfectly imperfect. You're going to make mistakes, You're going

1958
01:39:45,000 --> 01:39:48,000
Speaker 3: to hurt people, but you can change that. Right. If

1959
01:39:48,040 --> 01:39:50,840
Speaker 3: you hurt someone, you can change that. Right.

1960
01:39:51,360 --> 01:39:54,360
Speaker 2: If someone hurts you, you can learn from that and

1961
01:39:54,439 --> 01:39:58,439
Speaker 2: you can change that other person too. By how you

1962
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Speaker 2: come across to me. I know I'm not a perfect human.

1963
01:40:03,080 --> 01:40:05,320
Speaker 2: Like no one it's going to ever look at me.

1964
01:40:05,840 --> 01:40:08,639
Speaker 2: It may look like what I do, Oh, she's perfect

1965
01:40:08,920 --> 01:40:10,400
Speaker 2: what she does. But at the end of the day,

1966
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Speaker 2: I've hurt people, I've disappointed people, I've disappointed myself.

1967
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Speaker 3: I'm a human.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing things for the first time, and whether if

1969
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Speaker 2: I'm doing it, if I'm failing, I'm not going to

1970
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Speaker 2: beat myself up.

1971
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Speaker 3: I know that I am going to continue to try

1972
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Speaker 3: because it's for the first time.

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Speaker 1: Just like you would do your daughter.

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Speaker 4: You know, you don't be up when they fail or

1975
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Speaker 4: when they don't get first place or whatever. You're constantly

1976
01:40:35,400 --> 01:40:38,519
Speaker 4: gently teaching them to be better with themselves. And sometimes

1977
01:40:38,720 --> 01:40:41,560
Speaker 4: the same way you would love on your child, or

1978
01:40:41,600 --> 01:40:43,880
Speaker 4: your niece or your nephew, you have to apply that

1979
01:40:44,000 --> 01:40:47,439
Speaker 4: same level of gentleness and care to yourself. It's like,

1980
01:40:47,479 --> 01:40:49,519
Speaker 4: it's okay, girl, Like we fuck up. It's okay, you

1981
01:40:49,600 --> 01:40:51,599
Speaker 4: made that mistake. It's okay you did this thing. Now

1982
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Speaker 4: we're learning from it and what's next.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 2: If it's a behavior that continues without any learning, that's

1985
01:40:57,360 --> 01:41:01,439
Speaker 2: a different, you know path. But I believe you know

1986
01:41:01,640 --> 01:41:06,040
Speaker 2: we should give people the same benefit of the doubt

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01:41:06,360 --> 01:41:09,519
Speaker 2: that we would like. I always say I like to

1988
01:41:09,600 --> 01:41:12,679
Speaker 2: treat others the way that I would like to treat myself.

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Speaker 3: And even though I.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes fail, right, because I'm human, I am often checking myself, okay,

1991
01:41:20,479 --> 01:41:21,040
Speaker 2: checking myself?

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Speaker 3: How am I doing? As a mom? That's why I

1993
01:41:22,520 --> 01:41:25,679
Speaker 3: ask India, how do you think I'm doing on that video?

1994
01:41:26,040 --> 01:41:27,680
Speaker 3: What do you think I'm doing? Am I doing a

1995
01:41:27,720 --> 01:41:29,120
Speaker 3: good job? Am I doing? Hey?

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Speaker 2: Or to my mom like hey, how do you think

1997
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Speaker 2: I'm doing as a friend or as a daughter?

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Speaker 3: Right? The biggest the biggest.

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01:41:38,360 --> 01:41:41,760
Speaker 2: Awakenings for me have been coming from family that has

2000
01:41:41,840 --> 01:41:45,719
Speaker 2: taught me like, hey, you something is wrong.

2001
01:41:46,280 --> 01:41:48,680
Speaker 3: What's going on? And I think you're doing X y

2002
01:41:48,840 --> 01:41:50,639
Speaker 3: Z and that's not cool?

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01:41:51,960 --> 01:41:54,960
Speaker 2: And I've had to check myself because at the end

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01:41:55,000 --> 01:41:59,360
Speaker 2: of the day, I have to be kind more kind sometimes,

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01:41:59,400 --> 01:42:04,760
Speaker 2: you know. I remember a year after just going through

2006
01:42:04,880 --> 01:42:08,920
Speaker 2: divorce and whatnot, I was mad. I would not let

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01:42:09,000 --> 01:42:11,760
Speaker 2: anyone in. And it wasn't up until someone that I

2008
01:42:11,920 --> 01:42:18,200
Speaker 2: work with that where guys were commenting on the video

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01:42:18,320 --> 01:42:20,400
Speaker 2: that I was working out with. That person told me.

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Speaker 5: You know, how many guys come up to me Mossie, like,

2011
01:42:25,240 --> 01:42:27,200
Speaker 5: they want to take you out. They want to Oh

2012
01:42:27,280 --> 01:42:29,559
Speaker 5: my god, it's like left and right when you leave.

2013
01:42:30,120 --> 01:42:34,080
Speaker 5: It's just but they would never because you look unapproachable.

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01:42:35,360 --> 01:42:36,680
Speaker 5: And mind you, I had to tell him, but I

2015
01:42:36,840 --> 01:42:40,640
Speaker 5: want to be unapproachable at that time. And I you know,

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01:42:40,880 --> 01:42:43,799
Speaker 5: now my energy is more, it's lighter, it's more receptive.

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01:42:44,439 --> 01:42:47,280
Speaker 5: Now things just change because I've processed.

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Speaker 3: All those things.

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01:42:47,680 --> 01:42:48,960
Speaker 1: You're aware, You're like, I don't.

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01:42:49,000 --> 01:42:52,840
Speaker 2: I couldn't get into any relationship without it not being healthy, right.

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01:42:53,280 --> 01:42:56,360
Speaker 2: It was going to come with some level of distrust

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01:42:56,760 --> 01:42:59,080
Speaker 2: or some level part of me that was not going

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01:42:59,120 --> 01:43:03,160
Speaker 2: to let that relationship be healed. Therefore, if you're going

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01:43:03,240 --> 01:43:07,400
Speaker 2: through a breakup, allow yourself the time to heal. That way,

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01:43:07,520 --> 01:43:10,600
Speaker 2: the next relationship that you're in, you're not bouncing and

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01:43:10,720 --> 01:43:14,480
Speaker 2: bringing in all of those traits.

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Speaker 3: That you have to heal or all the things that

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01:43:16,080 --> 01:43:16,679
Speaker 3: you have to heal.

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01:43:16,920 --> 01:43:19,080
Speaker 2: And that's what I find that people just date and

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01:43:19,120 --> 01:43:22,320
Speaker 2: continue to date around and they're all bringing each other's

2031
01:43:22,360 --> 01:43:26,240
Speaker 2: dramas and not out traumas and not really processing. So

2032
01:43:27,000 --> 01:43:30,479
Speaker 2: you can tell when someone is completely or I need

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01:43:30,680 --> 01:43:34,200
Speaker 2: at least not at one hundred percent healed. But when

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01:43:34,200 --> 01:43:38,599
Speaker 2: they're ready, it's a different kind of energy, right, Because

2035
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Speaker 2: what I want now is just I want no drama.

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Speaker 3: I just want peace, quiet happiness.

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01:43:51,000 --> 01:43:53,040
Speaker 2: Not that it's always going to be looking that way

2038
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Speaker 2: at every point, but I know exactly what I want, Like,

2039
01:43:57,840 --> 01:43:58,639
Speaker 2: I want no drama.

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Speaker 4: And you want to be able to exist just says

2041
01:44:00,720 --> 01:44:02,800
Speaker 4: you fucking are because this is who you are and

2042
01:44:02,960 --> 01:44:05,040
Speaker 4: to be loved for who you are, as we all do.

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01:44:05,120 --> 01:44:06,360
Speaker 4: And I think that's the thing, is like we're so

2044
01:44:06,439 --> 01:44:09,200
Speaker 4: busy trying to put ourselves in a box of acceptance

2045
01:44:09,280 --> 01:44:11,800
Speaker 4: and the truth the true acceptance comes when you're not

2046
01:44:11,920 --> 01:44:14,719
Speaker 4: trying to box yourself in and you're just existing boldly

2047
01:44:15,040 --> 01:44:17,240
Speaker 4: because those people will come and be like I like that,

2048
01:44:17,439 --> 01:44:20,759
Speaker 4: I want that. But when you start to like I conformed,

2049
01:44:20,840 --> 01:44:22,439
Speaker 4: I do this and I do this to be likable,

2050
01:44:22,600 --> 01:44:24,719
Speaker 4: then you get all these people that are not really

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01:44:24,840 --> 01:44:30,680
Speaker 4: liking you for you. Speaking of people, do you have

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Speaker 4: any horries?

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Speaker 3: What's a hor like?

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Speaker 1: I'm very like a hotel Oho stories. I have one

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Speaker 1: too from Miami.

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Speaker 3: I just remember, Oh, okay, I was gonna share one

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Speaker 3: from our audience.

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01:44:48,960 --> 01:44:49,920
Speaker 1: Okay, you could share that one.

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01:44:50,000 --> 01:44:51,719
Speaker 4: No, if you want to go and do it. Go ahead,

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01:44:51,960 --> 01:44:55,280
Speaker 4: I can share too, Okay. So I went to Miami.

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Speaker 4: This is not that long, so don't worry. And you know,

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Speaker 4: you know there's a mile High club where you have

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Speaker 4: sex and an airplane which I don't even know how

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Speaker 4: anyone has sex, and that little ass air Yeah, mile

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01:45:05,520 --> 01:45:08,839
Speaker 4: high club, that little ass bathroom. It doesn't seem sanitary,

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Speaker 4: but maybe if you're driving riding private. But I haven't

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Speaker 4: gotten there yet. But anyway, we went on a yeat

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Speaker 4: this weekend and I was like, oh, yeah, we need to.

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Speaker 4: I don't know what it's called for the boat, but

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01:45:20,840 --> 01:45:23,519
Speaker 4: we're going to join that club under the underwater. No

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01:45:23,640 --> 01:45:25,880
Speaker 4: I've I named it the Rock the Boat Club.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay like that.

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Speaker 1: So actually our friend also joined the Rock the Boat Club.

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Speaker 4: We made a truce and she was like, you know

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01:45:34,920 --> 01:45:37,360
Speaker 4: they under the cabin at the yacht there's little rooms.

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Speaker 4: They're a little but they cute, you know, little round

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Speaker 4: bed and I was like, we all got in there

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01:45:42,680 --> 01:45:45,120
Speaker 4: and there was four of us there and I was like, listen,

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01:45:45,360 --> 01:45:46,759
Speaker 4: do you want to use the room at two thirty?

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Speaker 1: We're going to come in at three.

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Speaker 4: And she missed her appointment, but I did not, and

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01:45:52,520 --> 01:45:55,320
Speaker 4: so we went in there and we met in Orlando

2083
01:45:55,439 --> 01:45:57,280
Speaker 4: made a very good suggestion, we need to we need

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01:45:57,360 --> 01:46:00,240
Speaker 4: to you know, usually the boat like dock somewhere, like, no,

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01:46:00,320 --> 01:46:01,800
Speaker 4: we need to go on there when it's moving, and

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01:46:01,880 --> 01:46:02,679
Speaker 4: I was like yeah.

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Speaker 1: So we went down to the bottom when.

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Speaker 4: The boat started moving, and there was like a little

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01:46:07,960 --> 01:46:12,120
Speaker 4: mirror on the bed the headboard, and like there's a

2090
01:46:12,120 --> 01:46:14,920
Speaker 4: little small window, but there's just waves. And then you

2091
01:46:14,960 --> 01:46:16,920
Speaker 4: start like rocking and then he's like giving me some

2092
01:46:17,040 --> 01:46:20,920
Speaker 4: head and I was like, oh, yeah, it's like adding

2093
01:46:20,920 --> 01:46:23,840
Speaker 4: it was like a waterbed but in real life. And

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01:46:23,840 --> 01:46:25,320
Speaker 4: then we were having sex. And then I could see

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01:46:25,640 --> 01:46:27,519
Speaker 4: see myself in the mirror and I was like looking

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01:46:27,560 --> 01:46:29,280
Speaker 4: at because there's also a window at the top, I

2097
01:46:29,280 --> 01:46:31,000
Speaker 4: could see the sky and I was looking at the

2098
01:46:31,040 --> 01:46:32,800
Speaker 4: other window and I could see the water waves, and

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01:46:32,880 --> 01:46:34,920
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, I'm a fucking mermaid.

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Speaker 1: It was really hot. And I was like, probably no

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01:46:39,640 --> 01:46:41,760
Speaker 1: one can even hear us, because yeah, I didn't hear shit.

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Speaker 1: I heard nothing.

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Speaker 4: Anyway, if you ever on a yacht with a small

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Speaker 4: room on the bottom and it's moving, I highly recommend

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Speaker 4: joining the Rock the Boat Club with me in Orlando

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01:46:51,600 --> 01:46:52,439
Speaker 4: because we did it and.

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Speaker 1: It was great. Wow, Wow, this is this is a

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Speaker 1: luxury hotel. This is a luxury hotel on the yacht.

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Speaker 1: Go down to the bottom deck. It was very nice.

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Speaker 1: I have another horri but I think I want to

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Speaker 1: save it for Patreon because it's pretty fucking juicy, is it? Okay,

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Speaker 1: it's a little nasty. It involves poop. Oh god, now you.

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Speaker 3: Have to say it now, I'm all in. I'm interested.

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Speaker 3: It loves poop in ecstasy.

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Speaker 1: Poop and ecstasy. Okay, okay, So if you want to

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Speaker 1: hear this horry, make sure we're not gonna You're not

2117
01:47:24,240 --> 01:47:26,400
Speaker 1: gonna hear right now. You have to actually go join Patreon.

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Speaker 1: Click the link in this episode description. If to hear

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01:47:29,160 --> 01:47:32,959
Speaker 1: this week's hory about poop in ecstasy, I'm joining patreon

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Speaker 1: dot com backslash Good Mom's Bad Choices. Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 4: I just love the openness and the transparency we have here.

2122
01:47:39,240 --> 01:47:40,760
Speaker 4: And I just want to say for the record that

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01:47:41,840 --> 01:47:44,880
Speaker 4: it's true ho shit brings the hose together, and sometimes

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01:47:44,920 --> 01:47:47,519
Speaker 4: that hoe is your husband, and you know that's how

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01:47:47,560 --> 01:47:50,560
Speaker 4: you find like who's acceptance, who has acceptance.

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01:47:50,120 --> 01:47:50,880
Speaker 1: Over the host shit?

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01:47:50,960 --> 01:47:54,200
Speaker 4: And I highly recommend too hose finding each other, because

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01:47:54,240 --> 01:47:56,920
Speaker 4: if you find someone who's square, then you're gonna be

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01:47:57,040 --> 01:47:59,880
Speaker 4: just lusting after hos shit your whole life.

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Speaker 1: Wait, why is the last part? Okay?

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Speaker 5: Eric?

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01:48:02,520 --> 01:48:03,880
Speaker 3: I have a burning question. Need to ask.

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01:48:04,320 --> 01:48:06,320
Speaker 1: Did your friend ever get an email back from the

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01:48:06,400 --> 01:48:08,559
Speaker 1: wife of the guy who catfished you and lied about

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01:48:08,600 --> 01:48:11,920
Speaker 1: his son living in London? I've been listening trying to

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Speaker 1: find an update. What's the wife's Instagram handle? Can I

2137
01:48:14,400 --> 01:48:16,320
Speaker 1: send her your podcast episode where you put them on

2138
01:48:16,400 --> 01:48:19,200
Speaker 1: blast Lord? I'm sure somebody already did, and we don't know.

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01:48:19,360 --> 01:48:21,360
Speaker 1: We never I think we bought the episode is called

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01:48:21,400 --> 01:48:23,760
Speaker 1: him dating a married man, but we never we never heard.

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Speaker 1: Oh they had another baby?

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Speaker 3: They did.

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Speaker 1: They had another baby. She was pregnant.

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Speaker 3: That's what happened.

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01:48:28,800 --> 01:48:31,360
Speaker 4: When we looked last a couple of years ago, she

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01:48:31,720 --> 01:48:35,120
Speaker 4: was having another baby. Yeah, they I don't know if

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01:48:35,160 --> 01:48:39,720
Speaker 4: that was a good good choice, but yeah, wow, that

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Speaker 4: was a good one. And if you want to know

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01:48:40,960 --> 01:48:44,640
Speaker 4: what webrate these your hories, there are ten we keep

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01:48:44,720 --> 01:48:48,080
Speaker 4: reading them. You're doing a good job, girl, girl wow,

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Speaker 4: and we barely get like level ten good ones, and

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01:48:51,240 --> 01:48:52,479
Speaker 4: you seem to keep bringing the.

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Speaker 1: Heat, and if you have any horries, please make sure

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01:48:55,640 --> 01:49:02,480
Speaker 1: to either email them to where pod No Parental Advisory

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01:49:02,640 --> 01:49:05,840
Speaker 1: GMBC at gmail dot com, or you can actually leave

2156
01:49:05,920 --> 01:49:08,519
Speaker 1: us a voice message. You can leave us a voicemail

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01:49:08,600 --> 01:49:11,439
Speaker 1: and confess and will anonymously play your horri on the

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Speaker 1: show or shared a Patreon. The number is eight one

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Speaker 1: three twelve eighty seven. Yep, that's it, but we'll leave

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Speaker 1: all that in the episode description. Massy, thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for joining us. I hope we didn't scary you

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Speaker 1: with that last little bit.

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Speaker 3: No, I mean, I just can't tell you mine. When

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Speaker 3: we turn off their brand.

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Speaker 1: We turn off this Mike, I'm getting all the juice.

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Speaker 3: You know what.

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Speaker 1: I thought you were going to say.

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Speaker 4: They're going to say, you know, I'm all this and that,

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Speaker 4: but I'm a freak, and I was like, I can

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Speaker 4: see that. Something tells me MASSI when like the door

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Speaker 4: is closed.

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Speaker 1: Listen, there's fire in this chart for a reason. It's

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Speaker 1: Scorpio and Venus.

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Speaker 4: Bitch, please Gemini to those little freaks. I'm half Gemini.

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Speaker 4: Tell our audience where they can find you.

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Speaker 3: I am everywhere. I'm like air no.

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Speaker 2: Global global list like just like that everywhere be honest,

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Speaker 2: but on Instagram MASSI m A as y A r

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Speaker 2: I A s in mos vida that io and we'll

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Speaker 2: link everything.

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Speaker 3: That's episode description. Thank you so much for coming on

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Speaker 3: GOTT and chatting with us.

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Speaker 1: You guys, make sure you go and rate and review

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Speaker 1: this episode on Apple Podcast if you haven't, if you've

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Speaker 1: been listening for years and you haven't left a review,

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Speaker 1: sorry watching on YouTube, hit that subscribe button subscribe to

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Speaker 1: our YouTube channel.

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Speaker 4: We have another retreat coming up in Costa Rica for

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Speaker 4: New Year's Eve. It's December twenty eighth to January second,

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Speaker 4: and we're going for New Year's Eve, bitches, So pack

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Speaker 4: your bags, get a babysitter, come heal, come have fun,

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Speaker 4: Come frolic topless, come meet good food.

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Speaker 1: Come be in the Caribbean and dance on the beach

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Speaker 1: on New Year's Eve.

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Speaker 4: And you know, meet your tribe because it's strong out

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Speaker 4: here and we really have cultivated a really amazing group

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Speaker 4: of women who have just good stories and just open

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Speaker 4: hearts and are looking also for friendships and tribes. So

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Speaker 4: if you haven't gone to Good Vibe Retreat, yet, and

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Speaker 4: you've been waiting. Here's your chance. You can make payments.

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Speaker 4: Just put a five hundred dollars deposit. If we make

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Speaker 4: it easy, Just get your flight, put your deposit, make

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Speaker 4: payments and pull up. This is the one vacation you

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Speaker 4: don't have to worry about shit.

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Speaker 1: We've worried.

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Speaker 4: We've done everything for you, all the activities, the place

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Speaker 4: we stay is beautiful, the food is bombed. You literally

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Speaker 4: don't have to think about shit. Let the good moms

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Speaker 4: nurture you. And that's it, all right, guys, We'll see

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Speaker 4: you next week. Love you, bye bye.

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Speaker 5: Oh.

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Speaker 1: This is moll be a Ella a J.

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Speaker 4: Solova record The Lalas and Elasism