WEBVTT - Cart Before the Horse 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:00.640 Hoping to. 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:03.200 We talked back where we encourage you to hustle hard, 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:06.800 laugh louder, and always keep it cute. So grab your coffee, 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:13.440 cocktail and crown because it's about a go. Damn. 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:22.079 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion. He talks. 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:26.800 What's up, y'all, it's your girl, aj Holiday, what's up, Tam. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:30.000 Dam y'all, it's TVAM. I love y'all so so so 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:31.440 very much. I love you. 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:32.960 I love you more. 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:44.120 On your weekend, girl, y'all. My weekend was horrible, Okay. 0:00:44.320 --> 0:00:48.080 I had to rush my kid to the emergency room. Damn, 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:49.800 Dosha the fucking cat man. 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:52.880 What happened to Dasha? 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:57.640 She ate a stimulant, a prescribed stimulant that I must 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:01.000 have dropped on the floor at some point, and I 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:05.959 just felt like losing Isaiah. Sitting up in the vet. 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:08.559 I was just waiting for the police to come looking 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:12.240 for a prescription, like I just knew I was going 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:16.479 to fucking jail. Bitch. I was in there boohoo, crying 0:01:16.800 --> 0:01:21.080 like a baby, okay, and cried even more when I 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:22.320 got the goddamn bill. 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:25.560 Okay. 0:01:26.680 --> 0:01:27.880 I was distraught. 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:30.560 So she's getting back to normal kind of now. So 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.520 she actually had to stay in the hospital overnight on Friday, 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:36.399 and y'all avet don't be playing if y'all work somewhere, 0:01:36.400 --> 0:01:38.880 and they offered some goddamn vet vet assurance paid on 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:41.920 a couple of dollars every couple of months a lot 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:44.240 of people. I didn't even tell people for real what 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:46.080 was happening with my cat, because. 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:50.480 The one two people. 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:54.120 I did tell is like I'm crazy for trying to 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:58.480 save my cat's life, like they would just get another cat. 0:01:58.880 --> 0:02:03.960 Rest of all, Yasha cost me twelve hundred dollars for 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:07.400 that fucking cat. The breach is her kittens could sell 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:11.000 upwards three thousand dollars a pop. I'm not just letting 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:12.320 my cat die regardless. 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:13.320 I will even eat. 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:16.480 Meat, So imagine me letting the cat die. 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:18.880 So I'm gonna do whatever. 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:21.960 It takes to keep her healthy. And am your animals 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:24.520 become like family. You know you're not just gonna let 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:26.040 them die if you can afford it. 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:29.560 Yeah, I don't even necessarily like I can afford it, 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:30.840 but I don't want to afford it. 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:31.720 That's the problem. 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:34.680 I did not want to afford this VET bill, but 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:36.840 I cried a lot, and by the time I went 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:39.200 to go pick her up on Sunday, it was half 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:43.920 the price. I was like, oh my god, that's gonna 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:46.120 put me in a major for that. Your hardship, I 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:51.799 cannot bitch when I say I was acting out in there. 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:54.520 I was acting out in there, and like once I 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:56.680 knew she would be okay, Like I was acting out 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:02.800 more so about the bill, right, Yeah. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:04.799 It'd taken her to the vig. You should have had 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:09.079 her like organized. Listen, when I ever Adderall, it made 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:11.239 me feel like I could do everything. You should have 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:13.840 had Dossa organized some episodes. 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:18.160 The house not make her its an intern, no, but 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.040 it has like an average. It's so weird because you know, 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:24.079 cats are very like finicky when it comes to food, 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:28.360 but it's something in the stimulants that they like that 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:30.480 they're attracted to the smell of it, the taste of it. 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:33.440 So this is like a common thing that happens with cats. 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:35.120 So if you have like a kid that's on adderall 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:38.480 or or what's the other one, red Lin and shit 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:41.600 like that, like, and you have animals like for whatever reason. 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:43.520 Cats like Adderall. 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:47.160 She ate majority of the pill I came home once 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:50.000 I got home Saturday night and looked underneath the fucking dresser. 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:52.200 I see like the little pieces. 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:57.880 Oh my god, this cat really like and I remember. 0:03:57.520 --> 0:03:59.640 I just feel like you didn't take advantage of that. 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.920 She couldn't do anything, like It's like it's like somebody 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:05.680 had control altlite her shit. 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.680 Like she was just standing in one spot looking. 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:09.320 I sent you the. 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:12.920 Video how she was looked at Hi. She couldn't do nothing. 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:17.160 They couldn't so it makes their heart rate rise real high. 0:04:17.160 --> 0:04:18.760 Like her shit was like her blood press was like 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:22.240 one ninety six over something. Oh wow, yes, so they 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.400 had to like dip her in an ice bath. Shit 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:26.560 was real serious. Like Dasha was on her way out 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:28.159 of head to meet her maker, the cat maker. 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:29.080 Damn. 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:33.440 And I my heart cannot take losing another animal, I said, 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:35.960 my heart cannot take losing another animal like Bella is 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:37.920 stole my screen saving on my cell phone. That's how 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:41.440 much I missed that dog. Dasha is ten months girl. 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:41.880 I could not. 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:44.920 I wouldn't have been able to function for at least 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:47.440 a week or two. Yeah, and then I had some 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:50.800 family shit going on. Yeah, it was Memorial Day. I 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:52.960 laid my ass down, bitch. I went to Belks and 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:55.680 Dillers like an old bitch dude to check out these 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.120 Memorial Day sales on some sheets and pillows and shit 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:01.599 old lady stuff. And I brought my ass back to 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:04.839 the house shift. I hope your weekend was better. 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:08.200 I mean, it ain't hard. 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:17.480 To top that, stupid I'm sorry, hard to talk that. 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:24.839 I got on a plane and we went somewhere. I'm 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:29.440 somewhere else right now, nice, and I went on a day. 0:05:29.800 --> 0:05:31.640 They don't sound like you're trying to tell us or 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:34.240 the listeners me or the listeners where you at week 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:36.760 on a plane and. 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:40.400 You just know I got on a plane, y'all, and 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:45.000 I got to come back home on Thursday morning, and 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:45.800 I'm still here. 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:53.359 You spending the night, bitch. 0:05:57.560 --> 0:05:58.320 I'm happy for you. 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:04.360 Sign let's get into scenes. 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:11.520 Because you're sending all right. So, okay, I know the internet. 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:17.120 Seeing what's happening between remy Ma and Papoos and Clarissa's shields. 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.160 I don't think she's really in the equation per se. 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:20.960 Are they actually divorced already? 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:23.520 No, that's the issue. 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:27.560 Yeah, okay, And so now you're publicly online like regardless 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:31.400 of what Papoos is saying remy Ma could go to court. 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:33.880 He bet it has a real life proof right because 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:39.120 he is online publicly with his girlfriend. Remy Ma went 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:42.000 live like captain on his live with him talking shit 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:45.240 or added him to her live right to check the shit. 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:48.039 He was just talking on his live and like you 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:50.160 know how you it's like somebody call your phone. You're 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:52.760 on live, like your screen comes up it's him and Carissa, 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:56.279 like a picture like his avatar is him and Carissa. 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:00.799 So she has a lot of ammo hey for court 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.240 if she wants to put something, throw some fidelity and 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:04.120 fidelity in there. 0:07:04.360 --> 0:07:05.400 Don't get from him. 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:08.159 No, she ain't gonna get well, but he can get 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:10.920 from her. So she could prove that he was the one. 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:14.000 You know, maybe she wouldn't have to pay as much alimony. 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:17.480 Oh you see, because she is the bread woman where 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:20.280 we we say she's the bread winner. Papoo says that's 0:07:20.320 --> 0:07:24.760 not true. But I don't know. Maybe she had I 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:25.120 don't know. 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:28.800 All I know is real me my but and I 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:37.880 play with Cliversa. You see him stocking shoes, baggy your ass? 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:39.400 Yes, yea. 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:44.240 Lady alone. She looked like a house was about to 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:52.160 drop on the play. 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:53.360 Ada looked like a mouse was chewing on the tip 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.880 of them shoes. Bitch, she don't give a fuck, She 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:56.880 don't give a fuck. 0:07:58.160 --> 0:07:58.800 Don't play with. 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.560 That, lady. Mom, you're gonna have to catch another shooting 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:02.440 charge because you. 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:04.480 Can't be here over and we talk. 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:08.640 Absolutely. I think she's a very sweet girl, just real innocent. 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:13.000 She's real innocent, and she just authentically who the fuck 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:17.160 she is, like she ain't trying to be nobody else. Okay, obviously, 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:19.640 because that girl had on tights, y'all. Remember them tights 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:22.160 your mom and them black dark ass tights going to church. 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:24.720 You ain't even start wearing, no, shearstock because he was 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:30.000 grown child. Those those are fucking tights black one quite. 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:34.440 It was too big? Give it wicked with each other? 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:41.040 What of the Bronx wicked witch of the Bronx? 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:45.000 Bitch where she from? 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:48.640 And the Brons people? Crazy? Child? 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:48.839 Girl? 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:52.360 My lashes stick it to the bottom yet the Brons 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:53.200 people crazy? 0:08:56.160 --> 0:09:02.000 I love you, So you know this, Okay, So y'all. 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:05.079 When we first started this podcast, I was actually engaged 0:09:05.120 --> 0:09:08.360 to somebody, right, and the relationship ended, and I know 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:10.120 I probably shared a lot of like not even a 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:11.760 lot because it was a whole lot of shit that 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:14.520 transparred in that relationship. But I know I probably talked 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:16.640 a little bit of shit, right And you know he 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:18.960 would actually tell me he feels like I'm trolling him 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:22.000 on the podcast. Now, mind you, nobody knows who he 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:25.720 is though, right, So, remy Ma and Patpoos have always been, 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.680 you know, especially since she came home from prison before 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:32.240 everybody just thought, you know, he's just holding it down somewhere, 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.880 waiting on remy Maudy that she actually comes home to 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:37.800 get married. They're like the symbol of black love for 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:40.640 many years, and now here they are like spilling the 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:44.640 super beans, okay about their relationship because now they're at 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:48.080 odds and they're breaking up. Is that the same thing 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:51.440 I was doing? I yeah, I don't think so. 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:52.920 I mean kind of. 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:57.880 I don't think so, Like I would never drag somebody 0:09:57.920 --> 0:09:59.680 I once loved like that. 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:02.319 How they're doing now? 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:04.680 I know Remy is a is a loving woman because 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.320 the way she packed that nigga stuff up nice and 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:10.240 neat in these little plastic bags she probably ordered off 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:13.600 Amazon thirty in a bunch. She packed this shit up 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:17.520 real nice. But you know, if you only got clothes 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:20.000 out of house. You ain't got no steak in at 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:22.559 home for real, right, all you got is closed. There 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:25.600 ain't no furniture you could take. You just got clothes 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:25.960 in the place. 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:29.120 Take the TV, my nigga. 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:31.680 It was a whole bunch of bends and clothes. So she, 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:34.160 I mean, she packed it out real nice for him. 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:37.120 I just hate that because I remember when people used 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:39.920 to say that they were goals. You know. That's why 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:42.760 you can't make nobody your goals. You just have to 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:46.280 make your goals and make it just about you and 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:50.319 not nobody else shit, because people should be falling apart. 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:54.200 Yeah, man, And you never know, Like the internet is 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:56.600 not a real place as much as we as much 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:59.880 as it's a part of our lives. You know, I 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.400 had an idea for a book. I won't say the 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:03.120 name of it, but. 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:06.400 It's like. 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:11.920 It's a one big it's one big filter the internet 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:14.720 mm hmm. You know, you do not know what is 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:17.960 actually going on with anybody just by looking at pictures 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:19.480 and what they choose to show you or even what 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:20.439 they choose to say. 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:21.760 On live and shit like that. You don't know. 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:25.360 You never know. So you know, she said that he 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:27.880 was cheating her the entire time he was in she 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:29.839 was in prison. I mean, I don't consider it cheating. 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:31.360 If I go to jail for eight years, nigga have 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:34.240 at it, Okay. If we be together when I come home, 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.520 then so fucking be it. I would never want anybody 0:11:36.559 --> 0:11:39.280 to put their life on hold for me, right, So 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:40.280 I don't consider that cheating. 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:42.280 You never assumed that they were, you. 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:45.640 Know, right, Like, I think that was the aine. 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:47.600 As far as I'm concerned, long as you do it 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:52.040 quietly and don't embarrass me, go ahead, you know. 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:53.760 Yeah, I agree. 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:57.000 Shit, even even now, I just don't want to hear 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.240 about it. I just I don't want to see about it. 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.200 I don't want to hear about it. Don't play in 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:02.920 my face. Do it quietly. 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:03.640 That's love. 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:07.160 It is love when your significant other never finds out 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:09.320 did you fuck somebody else? That is a love. 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:11.320 That is like a epitome of love. 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:15.160 Because shit gonna happen, especially when you with somebody for many, 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:17.920 many years. Like I just think, I think there are 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:20.360 people that could be in committed relationships for a very 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:22.600 long time and never you know, never cheat. 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:24.479 But what are the odds? 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:25.280 Right? 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:26.559 The odds are. 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:29.040 Very slim, so I just think they need to have 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:31.080 It's like, where did this respect go? 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:33.920 Y'all just said, fuck respect. I don't like this nigga 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:34.200 no more. 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:37.400 We need together and I'm gonna just embarrass him as 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:38.200 much as possible. 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.440 Hurt people, hurt people, that's what they say. 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:46.560 Yeah, I don't never want that type of love, even 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:47.280 from a friend. 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:49.320 You know what I'm saying, Even from a friend. I 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:50.959 don't like you. 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:53.240 Wanna get on a public platform and talk crazy about 0:12:53.280 --> 0:12:55.880 me and people know who I am. It's just different 0:12:55.880 --> 0:13:00.640 when people know who you're talking about. So seeing what's 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:02.520 going on with them didn't make me think about you know, 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:05.360 the shit I probably talked, which probably nobody even remembers 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:06.200 the things I've said. 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:10.880 They don't, especially the people who know him, who though. 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:17.520 The fuck? But do people know him? Let me stop 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:21.640 being shady, okay anyway, Yeah, I want papoos and read 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:23.560 me to be better. Y'all have a daughter. The internet 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:26.240 is fucking ink, is not pencil. You cannot erase the 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:29.120 things that you've done. And we see how smartness little 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:31.079 girl is. I'm pretty sure she'd be on YouTube. She's 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:33.400 probably gonna be seeing some of the things that you 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:35.320 said about her dad and some of the things he 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:36.280 said about. 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:39.880 Her, Like, it's just it's not cool. It's not cool. 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:43.320 You have to remind yourself that people delight in your misery. 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:45.880 Don't give them nothing. Don't give them. 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:51.360 Nothing, Pam Dust, Yeah, that's why I What else is 0:13:51.480 --> 0:13:52.079 that going on? 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:57.600 Chiall? Okay? So, a New York couple charged guests three 0:13:57.720 --> 0:14:00.640 hundred and thirty three dollars to attend their wedding. Out 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:03.920 of three hundred and fifty invites, only sixty people showed up. 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:07.920 So he says this Nova and Remo Styles redefined wedding 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:10.480 norms by inviting guests to purchase three hundred and thirty 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.680 three dollars tickets to attend their twelve hour celebration across 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:16.880 New York City. This fee wasn't about covering calls. It 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:20.640 symbolizes the age of number three three three, representing change, growth, 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:24.000 and strength. Proceeds were donated to a foundation supporting couples 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:29.480 facing infertility challenges HMM. Originally planning for three fifty guests, 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:31.880 the Styles faced the challenge of narrowing their lists to 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:36.320 sixty two to logistical constrains. Oh so, it wasn't like 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:40.760 sixty people showed up out of three fifty. They narrowed 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:44.400 their guests down to sixty. Mm hmm, okay, that's fair, 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:46.800 and then all sixty people showed up with three hundred 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:47.720 and thirty three dollars. 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:50.280 Yeah, and it says by introducing the ticket system, they 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:53.600 allowed friends and family to self select their participation, leading 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:58.800 to more intimate gathering. Despite initial skepticism, the event sold 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:03.000 out and the couple express no regrets, nothing that the 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:08.680 experience clarified, oh, noting that the experienced clarify the depth 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:09.840 of their relationship. 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:13.920 Okay, so it wasn't what we thought initially. 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:17.360 That is not tacky like take away the donation thing 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:20.680 like them donating the money and all that stuff, and 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:24.840 other cultures people help, they help, they help their the 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:27.600 loved ones have these weddings like we see the African weddings. 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:29.840 I want me an African wedding, like I need y'all 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:31.640 motherfuckers to show up and throw bands on me. And 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:33.240 I want to sit there and act like I don't care, 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:35.440 because that's what the woman is supposed to do. Y's 0:15:35.520 --> 0:15:37.920 supposed to act unbothered. Why he throw money on her? 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:39.560 I want to do that, and the bitch ain't gonna 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:42.800 never smile, Like I'm mean running them pockets, your family, 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:46.600 pay the dowry, all that shit, Like why aren't we 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:49.200 Black Americans don't support enough? 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:52.880 They don't support each other enough. 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:56.040 I agree, but I don't think you should charge to 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:58.400 get your support. 0:15:57.320 --> 0:16:01.160 I think the people who actually love you, they're gonna 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:03.080 pay that three hundred and thirty three dollars. So maybe 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:05.160 that's even a way to wean out people who really 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:07.800 what if they don't come in to eat, What. 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:09.360 If they don't have three hundred and thirty then. 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:12.440 You shouldn't in the wedding. So you'll come to the. 0:16:13.440 --> 0:16:16.160 That's the part. That's the part for me, because it's 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:18.520 people that I love who may not have three hundred 0:16:18.520 --> 0:16:21.000 and thirty three dollars to throw up my occasion. They 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:25.000 got kids, you know, they got responsibilities and three three 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:28.520 three for me might not be in the budget, you know, 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:29.880 so they can't come. 0:16:30.440 --> 0:16:34.080 Well, yeah, maybe we'll have we'll have a difference, a 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:38.280 separate celebration. But I think that there's nothing wrong with 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:44.440 people providing their love loved one financial assistance when getting married. 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:46.800 I think that it's a I think it's a great 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:48.680 thing if we plan a whole year in advance. 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:50.040 You know what I'm saying. 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:51.960 I feel like y'all should have three hundred and thirty 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:55.040 three dollars by next year. If not, we need to 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:57.280 evaluate some other shit. You know what I'm saying, Like 0:16:57.560 --> 0:16:59.760 you got to reevaluate your whole life. If you can't 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:02.560 say three hundred and thirty three dollars for your loved one. 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.320 Well, if I got four kids, all of them need 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:08.920 something all the fucking time. I don't have no help. 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:12.280 The three three three just ain't showing up right now. 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:15.040 It's going to all kinds of shit. 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:19.639 They you just I don't I wouldn't feel like you 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:22.960 don't love me, right, Yeah, I wouldn't feel like you 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.200 don't love me right, But maybe you just you can't 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:27.879 attend right now? People need to get more in the 0:17:28.520 --> 0:17:28.879 like you. 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:32.320 Nobody come for free. You can't make no exceptions. 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:34.560 What I'm saying, if I were to if a person, 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:36.600 I wouldn't say, I wouldn't I wouldn't do this personally, right. 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:39.560 But if a person decides to do something like this, yeah, 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:41.399 that would mean you can't attend, and it's okay to 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:43.360 miss out. On things you want. You shouldn't have fomo 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:46.000 about it. This is just something you might have to 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:46.560 miss out on. 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:49.920 People come, wedding is a lot of times are for 0:17:50.119 --> 0:17:50.679 other people. 0:17:50.960 --> 0:17:51.600 You know what I'm saying. 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:53.800 A marriage costs as much as a marriage license. 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:57.040 So people are spending upwards twenty thirty forty fifty thousand 0:17:57.040 --> 0:17:59.720 dollars on a wedding for people. Half the people don't 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:03.960 even your gift for real, So who's the celebration for? 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:06.760 So help me celebrate? 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:07.400 I love. 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:11.200 Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with people asking 0:18:12.440 --> 0:18:15.480 for help. I don't even think it's help. I just 0:18:15.520 --> 0:18:17.760 think everybody should just contribute. I think it should just 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:20.199 be a routine thing. I think it should just be 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:20.720 the culture. 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:23.399 Well, bitch, let me tell you this. You have a 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:26.800 wedding where you go charge me upwards of three hundred dollars. 0:18:27.160 --> 0:18:28.360 You better tell me you. 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:30.880 Paid three hundred dollars for Beyonce tickets. You pay fifteen 0:18:30.920 --> 0:18:33.320 hundred for Beyonce tickets, So you mean to tell me 0:18:33.320 --> 0:18:38.640 you want to see Beyonce get We're rather probably fifteen 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.879 hundred for this strange ass bitch and your best to 0:18:42.000 --> 0:18:44.120 get married, and you probably in the wedding too. 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:45.680 I might have paid for your dresses. 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:54.800 I had pp you should have got you. 0:19:01.000 --> 0:19:03.359 That is terrible, man. You see what I'm saying, Like 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:05.320 people have money for the things they want to have 0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:09.280 money for. Even a woman with four kids and no assistance, 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:11.760 like she got a habit, she's supporting that she not 0:19:11.840 --> 0:19:13.920 spend three hundred and thirty three dollars on some weed, 0:19:14.520 --> 0:19:18.360 some wine something. If you love me, save the three 0:19:18.400 --> 0:19:20.800 hundred and thirty three dollars, man, and come to my 0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:21.919 wedding and show out with me. 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:24.240 Is there going to be a zoom link that. 0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:28.280 That's gonna caught you do? 0:19:28.560 --> 0:19:34.639 I'm charge ten dollars for the zoom link and the 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:36.880 shit gonna cut off every forty five minutes because I've 0:19:36.880 --> 0:19:43.040 got no subscription. No man, But I understand. I understand 0:19:43.040 --> 0:19:44.679 both sides and things like, yeah, you can't pay for 0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:47.159 some shit you don't have, But I know that people 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:50.560 find money for things they actually want to do, right, 0:19:51.040 --> 0:19:53.879 So it's just what you what you deem important, That's 0:19:53.920 --> 0:19:58.600 that's it. It's the same thing with destination weddings. If 0:19:58.640 --> 0:20:02.959 you can't get there like then you just won't be 0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:04.520 at the wedding. I won't think you don't love me. 0:20:04.560 --> 0:20:07.320 You couldn't get there, so I might have a destination 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:09.600 wedding and whoever could get there will be in attendance. 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:12.480