WEBVTT - “I AM SIMPLY BETTER THAN EVERYONE”

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, Hello, Hi, what's up? Hello name?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, my name is Gandom.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice to me too, Gandom, Am I saying that right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you got it?

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for randomly picking up my phone call. Sometimes. I

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<v Speaker 1>all right, I'm gonna tell you something crazy. But I

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<v Speaker 1>mean I saw I used to. I mean, I might

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<v Speaker 1>start doing this up again at some point, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I just for now it's easier. I used to take

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<v Speaker 1>all these phone calls on Twitch and then and then

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<v Speaker 1>I started just like posting Instagram stories for people to

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<v Speaker 1>like call in whenever I'm live doing that. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I today I was like, well, I have all these

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<v Speaker 1>people who texted me, but they've been texting me over time.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was just like, I saw a random text

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<v Speaker 1>from a person who texted me like on Tuesday, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I wonder if phil pick up if

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<v Speaker 1>I randomly call them right now? And you did.

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<v Speaker 2>I did, And you know what, I just woke up,

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<v Speaker 2>like I woke up to the songe call.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I appreciate that. It's not a weird time. It's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't know where you are in the country,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's it's it's it's not a particularly weird time.

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<v Speaker 1>Anywhere in America.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not at all a weird time at all to

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<v Speaker 2>four pm to stay. I happened to stay up until

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<v Speaker 2>two am last night because I was watching this guy's

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<v Speaker 2>thoughts on all forty two Barbie movies and it took

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<v Speaker 2>an hour and forty minutes and I just couldn't. I

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<v Speaker 2>was I was too deep in I needed to know

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<v Speaker 2>his thoughts on all the Barbie movies.

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<v Speaker 1>So the way you phrasing hook, an hour and forty

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<v Speaker 1>two minutes, it's like it was a job that was

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<v Speaker 1>assigned to you.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just so captivated, you know, I love the

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<v Speaker 2>Barbie movies. And you know what, his opinions were simply incorrect,

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<v Speaker 2>Like he was done barbieing the Diamond Castle. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>Barbie and the Diamond Castle is the best one.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I have to say I also I also

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<v Speaker 1>am a deep fan of this kind of bullshit. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be actually, now I think about it, I had I

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<v Speaker 1>had a similar night. I was up until late watching

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<v Speaker 1>like there's all these like dude, there's all these like

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<v Speaker 1>seven hour long videos that and they all have like

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<v Speaker 1>millions and millions of views, like this one has like

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<v Speaker 1>six million views, where it's like ranking every single episode

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<v Speaker 1>of Family Guy, or like reviewing every single episode just

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<v Speaker 1>like in one video, and I'm like, ill watch that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>did this guy? Did this guy do all of the

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<v Speaker 1>Barbie movies in one video or did he kind of

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<v Speaker 1>spread him out?

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<v Speaker 2>He did? No, he did. He had them up in

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<v Speaker 2>three categories. And you know what's insane, He literally dedicated

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<v Speaker 2>three days to watch all of them. So he just

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<v Speaker 2>woke up and started watching Barbie movies and then just

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<v Speaker 2>stopped to sleep essentially, but he watched them all in

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<v Speaker 2>one go.

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<v Speaker 1>And did this guy do this like because he was

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<v Speaker 1>bored or like his clickbait or is he genuinely a

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<v Speaker 1>Barbie movie fan?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know this person. His video

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<v Speaker 2>just popped up on my feed and I clicked on it.

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<v Speaker 2>He didn't seem like a fan. You know, he was

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<v Speaker 2>being very critical and you know, he had some valid points,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't know. I feel like he wasn't the

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<v Speaker 2>best candidate to be ranking them because he didn't seem

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<v Speaker 2>like the person who the type of person who was

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<v Speaker 2>like raised on them kind of. So I would like

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<v Speaker 2>to see someone who has a little bit of more

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<v Speaker 2>personal you know, someone who has a little bit more

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<v Speaker 2>experience and is more immersed in the like Barbie world.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not a big Barbie fan, don't get me wrong,

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<v Speaker 2>but like the movies, some of them, you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>mean I watched some of the kid and they were

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<v Speaker 2>pretty good. They were pretty good good.

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<v Speaker 1>There is something, there's something so awesome, and it speaks

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<v Speaker 1>to and I feel this way too, Like it speaks

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<v Speaker 1>to how the lengths that people will go to just

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<v Speaker 1>avoid their own thoughts. That a man who doesn't even

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<v Speaker 1>care about Barbie and has really no personal investment in

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<v Speaker 1>Barbie made an hour and forty two minute long video

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<v Speaker 1>ranking all the Barbie movies, and then another person who

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<v Speaker 1>also doesn't really care that much about Barbie sat and

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<v Speaker 1>watched the entire video, Like, what the fuck is going

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<v Speaker 1>on on here?

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<v Speaker 3>You know? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well I don't know, it was all right. What

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<v Speaker 2>really offended me was, honestly, Barbie and the Diamond Castle.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you watched that one?

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't seen any of them. I also there's I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>obviously there's like the big famous live action one, but

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<v Speaker 1>I assume this is mostly about all the all the

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<v Speaker 1>animated ones.

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<v Speaker 2>This is yeah, this is all the animated ones. But wait,

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<v Speaker 2>let me tell you this. Barbie and the Diamond Castle

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<v Speaker 2>is about these two girls who live in this tiny

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<v Speaker 2>little hut and their sugar port, right, and then they

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<v Speaker 2>go on to find this Diamond Castle. And the Diamond

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<v Speaker 2>Castle is like it's a whole music thing, so like

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<v Speaker 2>you have to play music for the diamond for the

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<v Speaker 2>Diamond Castle to appear. Like there's it's all about music,

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<v Speaker 2>and there's like evil music and good music. But there

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<v Speaker 2>are these two little puppy dogs in there who are

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<v Speaker 2>the sidekicks, who are absolutely adorable. And then when they

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<v Speaker 2>hear music, they get up on their two legs and

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<v Speaker 2>they start dancing. And he was hating on them so hard.

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<v Speaker 2>He was like, these dogs freaking me out, blah blah

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<v Speaker 2>blah blah blah, and that. At that point, I kind

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<v Speaker 2>of I kind of was like, all right, this person

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<v Speaker 2>is not qualified to be ranking these movies because he's

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<v Speaker 2>dogging on the dogs and that's not okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I read your text message.

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<v Speaker 2>If you would like to?

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<v Speaker 1>Sure? I I actually don't remember. We've been talking about

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<v Speaker 1>Barbie so long. I'll okay, all right, well you sent me,

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<v Speaker 1>you sent me one last year. It looks like I'll

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<v Speaker 1>just read it. I'll read the whole log, and that

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<v Speaker 1>way we'll get it, we'll get an idea of you.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I reread the one that I sent to last year,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, that's a little I mean, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not wrong. Okay, let's read the whole Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's read the whole log, and that'll give us somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>to go from. Okay, all right. November twenty ninth, twenty

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five, you texted me. You said, the words most

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<v Speaker 1>commonly used to describe me are intense, intimidating, mean, rude, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think I'm very nice and I'm always right.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of close relationships in my life

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<v Speaker 1>and they all love me very much. I just hate

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<v Speaker 1>everyone except a few people. No one is interesting. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>simply better than everyone. Now, okay, I'll read the second

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<v Speaker 1>part of the log, but you want it to offer,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll let you offer your commentary or your reflection of

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<v Speaker 1>the cause. It seems like you had a reflection upon

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<v Speaker 1>this in the time.

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<v Speaker 2>You have a reflection upon this.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what's your reflection?

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<v Speaker 2>It's not incorrect. When I mean everyone, I mean like

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<v Speaker 2>the general general outside world, not like people who know

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<v Speaker 2>me and people have been people who are around me.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, man, I just feel like I have

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<v Speaker 2>so many wonderful close relationships that I don't really go

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<v Speaker 2>out into the world like showing interest in people unless

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<v Speaker 2>they do something that kind of stands out to me.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, Okay, I want to be friends with you.

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<v Speaker 2>And I feel like people don't like that. Like when

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<v Speaker 2>I said I'm very nice, I want to revise that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very kind, you know, I'm not very nice, and

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<v Speaker 2>they don't like that. And I'm like, well, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I already have all these things going on for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really have the time or energy to try

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<v Speaker 2>and be nice to you and trying to be friends

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<v Speaker 2>with you. And you know, people read that as me

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<v Speaker 2>being intense, and I can't really say that they're wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't say that I'm simply better than everyone. That's

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<v Speaker 2>a bit much, you know. But also like not a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people like me, Like I work in a

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<v Speaker 2>very social environment, Like I work somewhere with fourteen hundred

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<v Speaker 2>employees and they're all like I like five of them, And.

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<v Speaker 1>So what do you mean what do you mean by

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<v Speaker 1>what do you mean when you say that you like

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<v Speaker 1>the world at large, but you don't like you like

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<v Speaker 1>people as an idea. You say you like the world

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<v Speaker 1>at large, but you don't like the people you interact with.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't recall saying that.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, you said something like, do you remember what you

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<v Speaker 1>said something to that extent I.

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<v Speaker 2>Said, Did I say something to that? I said, I said

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<v Speaker 2>something like everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it was about it was about it was it

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<v Speaker 1>about your being better than it was about like, this

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<v Speaker 1>is a fuck. Well, we recorded it, so it's somewhere someone, someone,

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<v Speaker 1>someone listening to this. Just skip back fifteen seconds, get

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<v Speaker 1>back thirty seconds and tell us a week.

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<v Speaker 2>Gets back fifteen Just get back thirty seconds and tell me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm right. You know it says it in there. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just always right.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's about Well, Okay, so you said something about

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<v Speaker 1>so you don't like Okay, so you said you hate it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like the world at large, like okay, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't Okay, I hate everyone. I hate it is a

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<v Speaker 2>strong word. But I don't really like the general public.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I feel like people are very nice, not

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<v Speaker 2>very kind, and I don't like that. I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>that people are very authentic, and I think it's quite

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<v Speaker 2>difficult to come across people who are authentic and who

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<v Speaker 2>are honest, because there's like this abundance of people pleasers,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, I just can't trust the people pleaser.

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<v Speaker 2>I can only trust people who are like, very much

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<v Speaker 2>straight up because I'm a very straight up person and

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes that offends people. And if if you're a people pleaser,

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<v Speaker 2>chances are I'm never going to know when it offends you,

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<v Speaker 2>and You're just going to keep hanging out with me,

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<v Speaker 2>and you're going to keep being smiley, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>eventually you're going to be like, eh, that thing that

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<v Speaker 2>she said bothered me. And I'm like, well, you never

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<v Speaker 2>you never said that it bothered you, So how are

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<v Speaker 2>you supposed to know?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, let's get into this. Let's get into this and

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<v Speaker 1>then I'll bring up the most recent text. But okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so do you do you the status quo that you're

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<v Speaker 1>describing of everyone thinks I'm mean and uh, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like anyone and all this stuff. Do you desire a

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<v Speaker 1>change in that status quo? Or do you like this?

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<v Speaker 2>Not necessarily because you know, I kind of feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I've filter out people, and like I mentioned, I do

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<v Speaker 2>have a very good community and I have very nice

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<v Speaker 2>close relationships. So it's like it's almost like not not

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<v Speaker 2>not really, you know, I feel like I people don't

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<v Speaker 2>like me, but that's okay, because the only like, only

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<v Speaker 2>cool people like me, you know, And I only think

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<v Speaker 2>that the people that like me are cool. So it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't really matter.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do you say that only cool people.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you, because they're the only people that I think

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<v Speaker 2>are cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Cool, So tell me about the pole. Tell tell me

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<v Speaker 1>about the people that like you.

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<v Speaker 2>The people that like me are just the people who

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<v Speaker 2>are well, I've been told that I'm an acquired taste also,

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<v Speaker 2>so people like me are usually people who have been

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<v Speaker 2>around me enough to kind of see me, just just

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<v Speaker 2>see me more. I don't know how to answer that question.

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<v Speaker 2>I just think they're cool. Well, they're all different in

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<v Speaker 2>their own ways, but they're all pretty magical people. They're

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<v Speaker 2>all pretty unique. They tend to be people who are

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<v Speaker 2>way more real with themselves in the world around them.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, it's kind of people who are a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit like me. They're a little bit more skeptical,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess.

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<v Speaker 1>So, okay, so it sounds like I mean, you're you're

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<v Speaker 1>clearly pretty misanthropic. And so it sounds like you.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what that word means. This is my

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<v Speaker 2>second language.

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<v Speaker 1>Misanthropic means like a general misanthropic means a general disdain

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<v Speaker 1>for other people, like general disdain for people.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there are some very wonderful people in the world,

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<v Speaker 2>like I do. I make music, and a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>times I meet people and instantly I'm like, Okay, you're awesome. Actually,

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<v Speaker 2>but yeah, generally, yeah, I don't really like people.

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<v Speaker 1>So you get along with other people who don't like.

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<v Speaker 2>People pretty much? Yeah, pretty much.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you feel Are you satisfied with your It sounds

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<v Speaker 1>like you are. I mean, are you satisfied with your

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<v Speaker 1>current relationships and community and whatnot.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty satisfied. Not gonna lie to you. Pretty satisfied.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, obviously we all have troubles in our relationships

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<v Speaker 2>in life at some point with some people. But in general, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I've been been pretty satisfied throughout my life with my people. Picker.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, So you texted me yesterday and you said

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<v Speaker 1>between my hometown being bombed, being cheated on by a

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<v Speaker 1>man twenty two years older than me, being in a

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<v Speaker 1>psych ward and finding new love just to say goodbye

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<v Speaker 1>to her before she moves across the country. It is

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<v Speaker 1>safe to say that I am spiraling. Okay, let's go.

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<v Speaker 1>Why don't we do these one at a time.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's do that. Actually I mentioned it in chronological order,

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<v Speaker 2>so that works.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. Are you Iranian?

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<v Speaker 2>Damn? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really?

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<v Speaker 2>Yep?

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<v Speaker 1>What when was the last like? Where in Irani? Are

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<v Speaker 1>You're from Tehran?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm from Tyran. Yeah, I'm from the capitol.

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<v Speaker 1>When the last time you were there?

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<v Speaker 2>I moved here. My three year anniversary is coming up

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<v Speaker 2>pretty quick. The last time that I was there was

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<v Speaker 2>the summer of twenty twenty four, so it's it's been

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<v Speaker 2>a minute.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow mm hmmm.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah what uh?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you grow up in tront I did? Yeah? How

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<v Speaker 1>is your English an accent?

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<v Speaker 2>So? I was raised bilingual? I was raised bilingual. My

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<v Speaker 2>mom made it a point to speak English with me

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<v Speaker 2>constantly so that I would know how to speak English.

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<v Speaker 1>Is uh is your mom? But both your parents are Iranian?

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<v Speaker 2>Both my parents are Iranian. But my mom and my

0:17:39.720 --> 0:17:44.160
<v Speaker 2>grandparents on my mom's side are all like they've all

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<v Speaker 2>lived in America at some point or another, and they're

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<v Speaker 2>all like citizens.

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, so this is all from your mom, Like

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<v Speaker 1>you're like obviously, like when you didn't go to you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't go to did you go You didn't go to

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<v Speaker 1>like an international school or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 2>So every school in Iran teaches English. And I did

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<v Speaker 2>go to a very bougie French school.

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, so you did. Yeah you did go to

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<v Speaker 1>a bogie.

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<v Speaker 3>In school.

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<v Speaker 2>For like three years for not that long.

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<v Speaker 1>But okay, yeah, yeah, m dude, what yeah, go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>Go ahead. And that was just a random on.

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<v Speaker 1>Interesting. I want to go. I want to do a

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do uh an Iran video. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if I want to go right now. It is funny,

0:18:38.960 --> 0:18:42.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you know this, but like I I did it. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I did a video in Iraq and people think that

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<v Speaker 1>I was went to Iran.

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<v Speaker 2>Because it was so good.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh hell yeah, hell yeah, hell well it's what I

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<v Speaker 1>want to I don't say I'm sure you know this

0:18:52.800 --> 0:18:54.640
<v Speaker 1>to say you know about the video, I say, sure

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<v Speaker 1>you know this, Like people think I went to Iran

0:18:57.320 --> 0:19:01.760
<v Speaker 1>because people think that they're the same country. Like I'm

0:19:01.800 --> 0:19:04.720
<v Speaker 1>getting people being like, yeah, dude, it's crazy, it's crazy

0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:06.800
<v Speaker 1>that you were there right before they started bombing it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, this is a totally different place.

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<v Speaker 2>Totally different place, but okay, you should go to Iran.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you would absolutely love it. I think anyone

0:19:17.119 --> 0:19:21.520
<v Speaker 2>who is watching this video should go to Iran because

0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:29.120
<v Speaker 2>there is no danger or well probably not right now,

0:19:29.160 --> 0:19:33.200
<v Speaker 2>like as it's being actively bombed. But it's such a

0:19:33.240 --> 0:19:37.280
<v Speaker 2>beautiful place. It's a very inexpensive trip outside of your

0:19:37.520 --> 0:19:43.120
<v Speaker 2>plane ticket obviously, and it's it's just beautiful, and there's

0:19:43.160 --> 0:19:47.520
<v Speaker 2>such a wide range of things to do, Like there

0:19:47.520 --> 0:19:51.040
<v Speaker 2>are islands in the south that are tropical and super fun,

0:19:51.080 --> 0:19:52.959
<v Speaker 2>and then you can go to the north and you

0:19:53.000 --> 0:19:57.080
<v Speaker 2>can scan snowboard and there are a lot of cool deserts,

0:19:57.160 --> 0:20:01.000
<v Speaker 2>and there's a lot of ancient architecture and museums, and

0:20:01.040 --> 0:20:03.679
<v Speaker 2>the people are just so nice and warm and inviting.

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<v Speaker 2>It's great. It's great.

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<v Speaker 1>That's cool. That's cool. Yeah, Well I can can you

0:20:12.080 --> 0:20:14.600
<v Speaker 1>even like physically, well, you have a you have an

0:20:14.600 --> 0:20:18.480
<v Speaker 1>Iranian passport, right m yes, so you can go. But

0:20:18.520 --> 0:20:21.040
<v Speaker 1>like I can a random America even go right now?

0:20:21.720 --> 0:20:24.359
<v Speaker 2>Yes, yeah, you can. You can get a visa. I

0:20:24.400 --> 0:20:27.480
<v Speaker 2>don't know about right now. Right now, I think that

0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:31.320
<v Speaker 2>the flights are so closed, like I don't think anyone

0:20:31.359 --> 0:20:33.880
<v Speaker 2>can get in and out right now. I know that

0:20:34.600 --> 0:20:37.359
<v Speaker 2>my best friend lives in London and she just wanted

0:20:37.400 --> 0:20:41.639
<v Speaker 2>to go back home because the mental pressure of not

0:20:41.800 --> 0:20:44.520
<v Speaker 2>being around her family while they were being bombed was

0:20:44.560 --> 0:20:46.760
<v Speaker 2>too much and she was like, I kind of want

0:20:46.800 --> 0:20:49.000
<v Speaker 2>to be there if something happened.

0:20:49.080 --> 0:20:51.320
<v Speaker 1>So that's also.

0:20:52.040 --> 0:20:58.879
<v Speaker 2>And she went back. So she flied into Turkey and

0:20:58.920 --> 0:21:00.800
<v Speaker 2>then her parents went, I'm picked here up from the

0:21:00.840 --> 0:21:04.920
<v Speaker 2>border and drove her back. So you can't really fly

0:21:05.040 --> 0:21:07.560
<v Speaker 2>in and out right now. But yeah, you can get

0:21:07.600 --> 0:21:12.080
<v Speaker 2>a visa. You can just go. I would recommend if

0:21:12.119 --> 0:21:15.199
<v Speaker 2>you have any kind of like if you have at

0:21:15.240 --> 0:21:18.520
<v Speaker 2>any point worked for the government, or you've been like

0:21:18.560 --> 0:21:20.440
<v Speaker 2>in the military, but.

0:21:20.560 --> 0:21:23.520
<v Speaker 1>Anything else not done. I have super not done either

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<v Speaker 1>of those things.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, then you're fine.

0:21:28.560 --> 0:21:32.719
<v Speaker 1>The last real job I had was making gifts of

0:21:32.800 --> 0:21:37.760
<v Speaker 1>Rick and Morty for Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>You're safe.

0:21:38.440 --> 0:21:43.840
<v Speaker 1>That counts. If you're safe. What the hell is I

0:21:43.880 --> 0:21:47.200
<v Speaker 1>gonna say? Okay, so do you do you have a

0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:48.240
<v Speaker 1>lot of family back there?

0:21:49.760 --> 0:21:53.040
<v Speaker 2>My whole family is back there. I moved here. My

0:21:53.240 --> 0:21:57.600
<v Speaker 2>uncle's here, but I have my mom and my dad,

0:21:57.760 --> 0:22:03.520
<v Speaker 2>my grandparents, my siblings who or five years old, all

0:22:03.600 --> 0:22:08.399
<v Speaker 2>my friends. Yeah, everyone's background.

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<v Speaker 1>M do you feel like you do you have the

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<v Speaker 1>same because I've heard people like I talk to people

0:22:16.280 --> 0:22:18.520
<v Speaker 1>in Ukraine where they're like, I don't want to leave

0:22:18.560 --> 0:22:21.920
<v Speaker 1>because I don't want to, you know, be away from

0:22:22.720 --> 0:22:26.400
<v Speaker 1>like you know, folks be in there while all those

0:22:26.400 --> 0:22:28.360
<v Speaker 1>is happening. Like do you have that feeling too?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, It's it's hard because of course I have

0:22:34.320 --> 0:22:39.200
<v Speaker 2>that feeling. But also I'm here so that I can

0:22:40.640 --> 0:22:44.640
<v Speaker 2>build a future for myself that is a little bit

0:22:44.880 --> 0:22:49.600
<v Speaker 2>more stable, so that when my family decides to move

0:22:49.720 --> 0:22:53.920
<v Speaker 2>back here, they'll have an easier time because again it's

0:22:53.920 --> 0:22:58.679
<v Speaker 2>my grandparents who are old and can't work. It's my

0:22:58.800 --> 0:23:02.639
<v Speaker 2>mom and then my two siblings who are, like I mentioned,

0:23:02.680 --> 0:23:06.960
<v Speaker 2>five years old and also can't work. And I would

0:23:07.000 --> 0:23:10.440
<v Speaker 2>like to be able to have a life that I can,

0:23:11.480 --> 0:23:14.520
<v Speaker 2>you know, provide for them and ensure that they're comfortable

0:23:15.680 --> 0:23:22.399
<v Speaker 2>because when I was so it's interesting Iran. The big

0:23:22.480 --> 0:23:28.960
<v Speaker 2>cities are divided by districts, and Tehran is twenty two districts,

0:23:29.000 --> 0:23:33.159
<v Speaker 2>and just like the Hunger Games, the higher the district number,

0:23:33.280 --> 0:23:37.280
<v Speaker 2>like the smaller the number, the bougier it is, and

0:23:37.359 --> 0:23:41.119
<v Speaker 2>I lived in District one, which was pretty bougie, and

0:23:41.200 --> 0:23:43.560
<v Speaker 2>I lived in one of the best neighborhoods in District one,

0:23:43.680 --> 0:23:48.600
<v Speaker 2>and you know, safe to say that I was a

0:23:48.720 --> 0:23:54.680
<v Speaker 2>very very privileged person back home. But if you have money,

0:23:55.080 --> 0:23:57.879
<v Speaker 2>it's old money. And the thing with old money is

0:23:57.920 --> 0:24:05.000
<v Speaker 2>that runs out. And because of the currency rates and like.

0:24:06.760 --> 0:24:08.240
<v Speaker 1>I've heard it's crazy the dollar.

0:24:08.160 --> 0:24:15.120
<v Speaker 2>Being so expensive. Yeah, it's like an upper class person

0:24:15.320 --> 0:24:20.679
<v Speaker 2>in America would be lucky if they were like middle

0:24:20.720 --> 0:24:27.240
<v Speaker 2>class here sorry, in Iran, not not in America and Iran.

0:24:28.240 --> 0:24:31.520
<v Speaker 1>And an upper class person oh oh, Like do you

0:24:31.520 --> 0:24:33.760
<v Speaker 1>mean taking like Iranian dollars?

0:24:34.080 --> 0:24:34.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:24:35.000 --> 0:24:37.040
<v Speaker 1>Is it Iran or Iran or I feel like I'm

0:24:37.080 --> 0:24:41.840
<v Speaker 1>interchanged Iran.

0:24:39.800 --> 0:24:42.080
<v Speaker 2>But you can say yeah Iranian.

0:24:42.119 --> 0:24:43.920
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so if you take like us, so I okay,

0:24:44.240 --> 0:24:47.560
<v Speaker 1>it's We had another caller on the podcast who also

0:24:48.280 --> 0:24:51.679
<v Speaker 1>is from Iran, and he was talking about how like

0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:57.359
<v Speaker 1>the fucking currency is so like it is like so

0:24:57.520 --> 0:25:01.600
<v Speaker 1>shitty right now that like it's really it's like you

0:25:01.680 --> 0:25:04.320
<v Speaker 1>lose money going to work because you have to like

0:25:04.600 --> 0:25:08.679
<v Speaker 1>fill up your car or something like that. And so

0:25:08.840 --> 0:25:14.679
<v Speaker 1>that's I mean, that's like when people start rioting, is

0:25:14.720 --> 0:25:15.640
<v Speaker 1>what there's like nothing.

0:25:15.440 --> 0:25:21.439
<v Speaker 2>To lose exactly. Yeah, and then so that's why, yeah, yeah,

0:25:22.480 --> 0:25:30.280
<v Speaker 2>that's why this most recent bombing was so kind of

0:25:30.520 --> 0:25:36.400
<v Speaker 2>conflicting because in January people were rioting dot com and

0:25:36.800 --> 0:25:42.920
<v Speaker 2>the government killed like forty thousand people. Forty thousand people.

0:25:42.640 --> 0:25:44.880
<v Speaker 1>And like a month it's insane.

0:25:44.640 --> 0:25:48.320
<v Speaker 2>And you know, a lot of them were my friends

0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:52.800
<v Speaker 2>and family, Like I have many many friends who were

0:25:53.600 --> 0:25:57.080
<v Speaker 2>I think like eight I stopped counting, And like it's

0:25:57.160 --> 0:26:00.680
<v Speaker 2>kind of hard to know because like internet's been down,

0:26:00.920 --> 0:26:03.679
<v Speaker 2>phone lines have been down, you don't really have a

0:26:03.720 --> 0:26:08.840
<v Speaker 2>way of communicating with people back home. Internet has recently

0:26:09.000 --> 0:26:15.879
<v Speaker 2>started to get back up, but it's still pretty flaky.

0:26:16.000 --> 0:26:22.440
<v Speaker 2>So after that, Trump was like I'm gonna bomb Iran

0:26:22.600 --> 0:26:25.119
<v Speaker 2>blah blah blah blah blah. And then the people in

0:26:25.240 --> 0:26:29.280
<v Speaker 2>Iran were like, fuck, yeah, we're retired of this government.

0:26:29.520 --> 0:26:33.239
<v Speaker 2>We don't want this bullshit anymore. But like at the

0:26:33.280 --> 0:26:38.080
<v Speaker 2>same time, I'm like, come on, you guys, like we

0:26:38.960 --> 0:26:45.840
<v Speaker 2>can't be bombed for that. So when you are vocal

0:26:45.920 --> 0:26:48.880
<v Speaker 2>about not wanting Iran to be bombed, or like when

0:26:48.920 --> 0:26:52.200
<v Speaker 2>I post on my story that like, hey, we need

0:26:52.240 --> 0:26:55.919
<v Speaker 2>to start we need to stop bombing my hometown. Like

0:26:56.040 --> 0:26:59.080
<v Speaker 2>my friends from Iran like reply to my stories and

0:26:59.080 --> 0:27:01.359
<v Speaker 2>I really like, not all of them clearly, but some

0:27:01.400 --> 0:27:05.440
<v Speaker 2>of them like you're a leftist, blah blah blah, we

0:27:05.720 --> 0:27:10.399
<v Speaker 2>want freedom, you are propaganda, And I'm like, no, I'm not,

0:27:10.720 --> 0:27:12.760
<v Speaker 2>actually okay.

0:27:13.280 --> 0:27:16.159
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well it's it's its airmind me. It's it's like

0:27:16.280 --> 0:27:21.080
<v Speaker 1>the Venezuela thing, where like essentially, well yeah, it's like

0:27:21.080 --> 0:27:23.399
<v Speaker 1>the Venezuela thing where like, you know, Trump went in

0:27:23.440 --> 0:27:25.439
<v Speaker 1>and just like it was like let's just go in

0:27:25.480 --> 0:27:27.280
<v Speaker 1>there and like funck shit up or whatever, and they

0:27:27.359 --> 0:27:30.240
<v Speaker 1>like it was like some people in Venezuela like it's

0:27:30.280 --> 0:27:33.679
<v Speaker 1>a double edged sword because uh, we don't want you know,

0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:37.199
<v Speaker 1>like you know, they freed us from the regime, but

0:27:37.280 --> 0:27:40.120
<v Speaker 1>also like what the fuck can they just like do

0:27:40.160 --> 0:27:42.439
<v Speaker 1>whatever Americans do whatever they want? You know.

0:27:43.720 --> 0:27:47.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, it's conflicting.

0:27:49.240 --> 0:27:52.080
<v Speaker 1>They killed the guy, though, so what's who's that guy?

0:27:52.119 --> 0:27:54.920
<v Speaker 1>What's what they killed? What's the guys do?

0:27:55.840 --> 0:28:01.840
<v Speaker 2>So in I I believe it was in the early seventies.

0:28:02.240 --> 0:28:05.040
<v Speaker 2>Don't quote me. I'm not very great at a history.

0:28:06.880 --> 0:28:10.120
<v Speaker 2>The Shah, which was the king of Iran, was overthrown

0:28:10.880 --> 0:28:18.919
<v Speaker 2>by this guy named Homony, and he kind of named

0:28:19.000 --> 0:28:22.160
<v Speaker 2>himself the Supreme Leader, so we have a Supreme Leader,

0:28:22.160 --> 0:28:26.360
<v Speaker 2>and then we have presidents and then all the other stuff.

0:28:26.960 --> 0:28:30.840
<v Speaker 2>And then when he died, he put this other guy

0:28:32.000 --> 0:28:37.240
<v Speaker 2>in charge called Homine, which is different person, similar name.

0:28:38.040 --> 0:28:40.240
<v Speaker 2>And then this guy was a Supreme leader until they

0:28:40.320 --> 0:28:44.280
<v Speaker 2>killed him, and then Iran and they put another Supreme

0:28:44.400 --> 0:28:48.920
<v Speaker 2>leader in place, and he was dead within the day,

0:28:49.120 --> 0:28:52.000
<v Speaker 2>like he got like he was in place in the

0:28:52.040 --> 0:28:54.880
<v Speaker 2>morning and they killed him by three pm, which was

0:28:54.920 --> 0:28:59.800
<v Speaker 2>so funny to me. And then they put the Hominity

0:28:59.840 --> 0:29:03.720
<v Speaker 2>guy is son in charge, so he's in charge now,

0:29:04.760 --> 0:29:10.000
<v Speaker 2>and yeah, yeah, we have a new person in charge.

0:29:10.400 --> 0:29:12.640
<v Speaker 1>M people like better person.

0:29:13.880 --> 0:29:18.080
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, no one likes any of these people.

0:29:18.320 --> 0:29:20.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I guess it's not. Yeah, I mean it is

0:29:20.560 --> 0:29:23.080
<v Speaker 1>kind of like ridiculous to assume that like just because

0:29:23.120 --> 0:29:24.680
<v Speaker 1>like you get rid of the person at top, that

0:29:24.760 --> 0:29:27.840
<v Speaker 1>like they're not just gonna like they're immediately going to

0:29:27.880 --> 0:29:30.880
<v Speaker 1>be replaced with like someone who's like you know what,

0:29:31.000 --> 0:29:35.560
<v Speaker 1>let's just like be chill, right, But that's so like

0:29:35.600 --> 0:29:39.080
<v Speaker 1>the idea of like it is fucking crazy. The idea

0:29:39.120 --> 0:29:42.840
<v Speaker 1>that like the government, like the government is just like

0:29:42.920 --> 0:29:48.120
<v Speaker 1>sending armies just like a kid slaughter fucking citizens in

0:29:48.160 --> 0:29:49.840
<v Speaker 1>the streets. Like that's insane.

0:29:50.360 --> 0:29:55.560
<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you a story. So my mom has

0:29:55.600 --> 0:29:58.320
<v Speaker 2>this friend and one day my mom calls me is

0:29:58.320 --> 0:30:03.719
<v Speaker 2>she's like, my friends son who's fifteen years old, was

0:30:03.920 --> 0:30:07.480
<v Speaker 2>in a park with twenty five of his classmates. So

0:30:07.840 --> 0:30:12.080
<v Speaker 2>twenty five fifteen year old boy, yez. And they were

0:30:12.120 --> 0:30:18.000
<v Speaker 2>in this park and they start like chanting Empire regime stuff,

0:30:18.800 --> 0:30:22.440
<v Speaker 2>and this truck with a machine gun on the back

0:30:22.560 --> 0:30:24.120
<v Speaker 2>drives by and.

0:30:25.600 --> 0:30:25.920
<v Speaker 1>Kills you.

0:30:27.560 --> 0:30:31.280
<v Speaker 2>Right, I know, I know, trigger warning too late.

0:30:31.480 --> 0:30:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, yea, jeez. This is horrible. When was that?

0:30:36.880 --> 0:30:41.320
<v Speaker 3>This is like in January Jesus Christ.

0:30:42.000 --> 0:30:44.880
<v Speaker 1>It's so awful because like I because also like it's

0:30:44.920 --> 0:30:51.280
<v Speaker 1>fucking so awful because I mean, you go to like

0:30:51.320 --> 0:30:54.040
<v Speaker 1>when I went to Iraq, it was like this is

0:30:54.200 --> 0:30:57.120
<v Speaker 1>just this. It was it's like they just ran like

0:30:57.800 --> 0:30:59.880
<v Speaker 1>it is true, like just random fucking but like like

0:31:00.040 --> 0:31:02.880
<v Speaker 1>everyone like those also like those kids like being fifteen

0:31:03.440 --> 0:31:06.880
<v Speaker 1>and like shouting like anti regime stuff. It's like you,

0:31:06.960 --> 0:31:09.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't even know. I mean, maybe I'm not giving

0:31:09.320 --> 0:31:12.200
<v Speaker 1>fifteen year olds enough credit, but it's like they're just

0:31:12.240 --> 0:31:16.520
<v Speaker 1>like they're not even they're not even like they're just

0:31:16.520 --> 0:31:20.920
<v Speaker 1>like being kids. They're just like, yeah, being rowdy kids,

0:31:21.440 --> 0:31:23.400
<v Speaker 1>just being kids. That's so fucking crazy.

0:31:24.200 --> 0:31:30.720
<v Speaker 2>Damn, I know it's pretty crazy. It's yeah, so you know,

0:31:31.000 --> 0:31:34.000
<v Speaker 2>it's kind of a lot to sit with the processed.

0:31:34.160 --> 0:31:40.240
<v Speaker 1>But do you want to talk about uh, the this,

0:31:40.240 --> 0:31:44.280
<v Speaker 1>this older guy. I have your list in front of me.

0:31:47.400 --> 0:31:57.240
<v Speaker 2>I can talk about the older guy, So I am

0:31:57.400 --> 0:32:06.080
<v Speaker 2>it's strange. I am just simply not attracted to men

0:32:06.200 --> 0:32:14.040
<v Speaker 2>who are not twice my age essentially, like oh a boy,

0:32:14.880 --> 0:32:24.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm twenty one. Get yeah, I'm twenty one. But

0:32:25.080 --> 0:32:27.080
<v Speaker 2>it's like I can see a boy in his twenties

0:32:27.160 --> 0:32:29.400
<v Speaker 2>and I can appeat and I appreciate, like, oh yeah,

0:32:29.480 --> 0:32:32.520
<v Speaker 2>you're you're a handsome young man, right, and then as

0:32:32.560 --> 0:32:36.520
<v Speaker 2>soon as they start talking to me, I'm like, please stop,

0:32:37.000 --> 0:32:41.360
<v Speaker 2>please don't talk to me at all. Like all my all,

0:32:41.360 --> 0:32:44.880
<v Speaker 2>my all my friends who are my age are girls,

0:32:45.920 --> 0:32:52.080
<v Speaker 2>and most of my friends are pretty like quite a

0:32:52.160 --> 0:32:54.680
<v Speaker 2>bit older than me, like thirty five to forty five

0:32:55.560 --> 0:33:02.640
<v Speaker 2>years old, and even they are mostly women. I just yeah, yeah,

0:33:03.000 --> 0:33:10.640
<v Speaker 2>I just don't super yet along with men. But anyway, yeah,

0:33:10.920 --> 0:33:14.840
<v Speaker 2>I was into this guy who is forty two at

0:33:14.840 --> 0:33:18.360
<v Speaker 2>the time. I was twenty at the time, and we

0:33:18.400 --> 0:33:23.160
<v Speaker 2>work together and we are hanging out with a lot

0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:27.280
<v Speaker 2>of the same people because again, my friends are usually

0:33:27.360 --> 0:33:33.720
<v Speaker 2>older than me, and we're start hanging out. He's clearly

0:33:34.000 --> 0:33:38.360
<v Speaker 2>into me. I'm clearly into him. We end up having sex,

0:33:38.680 --> 0:33:43.600
<v Speaker 2>and then we're still hanging out and being friends and

0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:46.520
<v Speaker 2>being in these spaces with all these people, and then

0:33:46.920 --> 0:33:52.560
<v Speaker 2>we start kind of having sex regularly, and we start

0:33:52.600 --> 0:33:55.440
<v Speaker 2>hanging out with each other more and I do seasonal work.

0:33:57.080 --> 0:34:03.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm a snowboard instructor, and after the season ended, we

0:34:03.920 --> 0:34:08.600
<v Speaker 2>kept hanging out and it was kind of a it

0:34:08.680 --> 0:34:12.640
<v Speaker 2>was kind of a friends of benefits situation, but it

0:34:12.840 --> 0:34:20.720
<v Speaker 2>was pretty exclusive. I mean, we were also with other people,

0:34:20.880 --> 0:34:25.520
<v Speaker 2>but it was kind of like communicated I was with anyway.

0:34:25.800 --> 0:34:31.000
<v Speaker 2>I was being a little bit more. I was just

0:34:31.040 --> 0:34:34.239
<v Speaker 2>seeing more people than he was really But then at

0:34:34.239 --> 0:34:40.279
<v Speaker 2>some point I wanted to kind of close it up.

0:34:40.719 --> 0:34:44.919
<v Speaker 2>You know, I catch feelings for this guy because I'm

0:34:44.960 --> 0:34:51.839
<v Speaker 2>twenty one, and he agrees to be in a relationship

0:34:51.880 --> 0:34:58.839
<v Speaker 2>with me, and like a week after the like we

0:34:58.840 --> 0:35:04.239
<v Speaker 2>were like, okay, we're in a relationship. He picks me

0:35:04.360 --> 0:35:08.040
<v Speaker 2>up one day and he's twenty minutes late to picking

0:35:08.080 --> 0:35:11.239
<v Speaker 2>me up, which is very odd because he's always on time,

0:35:11.280 --> 0:35:14.040
<v Speaker 2>but I didn't question it because you know, sometimes it happens.

0:35:14.840 --> 0:35:17.279
<v Speaker 2>He picks me up and we go and we hang

0:35:17.280 --> 0:35:19.680
<v Speaker 2>out with our friends, and then as we're driving back home,

0:35:20.320 --> 0:35:24.400
<v Speaker 2>he's like, by the way, I had a random hookup today.

0:35:24.960 --> 0:35:28.120
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, what are you talking about? What

0:35:28.320 --> 0:35:34.360
<v Speaker 2>random hookup did you have? And he's like, I was

0:35:34.920 --> 0:35:38.120
<v Speaker 2>ubering this morning because he used to uber whenever he

0:35:38.280 --> 0:35:45.400
<v Speaker 2>wasn't like working, and I picked up this woman and

0:35:45.520 --> 0:35:52.399
<v Speaker 2>we hooked up, and I was like, are you kidding me? Well,

0:35:52.760 --> 0:35:55.320
<v Speaker 2>this is the whole story. Okay, this is what happened

0:35:55.440 --> 0:35:59.000
<v Speaker 2>that I didn't know. He picks up this woman, right,

0:35:59.200 --> 0:36:04.160
<v Speaker 2>this woman apparently this woman asks him out to breakfast.

0:36:04.800 --> 0:36:07.840
<v Speaker 2>They go have breakfast, they go back to his house.

0:36:08.080 --> 0:36:13.040
<v Speaker 2>By the way, his house is like it's two separate units,

0:36:13.120 --> 0:36:16.719
<v Speaker 2>and the upstairs unit he rents out as an Airbnb,

0:36:17.120 --> 0:36:20.200
<v Speaker 2>and then the downstairs unit he was renovating it.

0:36:21.080 --> 0:36:23.560
<v Speaker 1>But wait, he picks the time. He picks up a

0:36:23.600 --> 0:36:29.400
<v Speaker 1>woman an uber and then takes her to his house.

0:36:30.760 --> 0:36:36.920
<v Speaker 2>Listen, listen the downstairs unit was being renovated, and at

0:36:36.960 --> 0:36:39.919
<v Speaker 2>the time it was still a garage, Like you could

0:36:39.960 --> 0:36:43.640
<v Speaker 2>still clearly tell that this is a garage. So he

0:36:43.880 --> 0:36:50.759
<v Speaker 2>takes her to his garage and this woman goes and

0:36:50.800 --> 0:36:54.279
<v Speaker 2>then they have sex. And then this woman is like,

0:36:55.239 --> 0:37:01.000
<v Speaker 2>my car is impounded or whatever. Can you take me

0:37:01.080 --> 0:37:04.880
<v Speaker 2>to go grab my car or I don't know, some

0:37:04.960 --> 0:37:05.680
<v Speaker 2>bullshit like that.

0:37:05.800 --> 0:37:08.040
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't there.

0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:15.920
<v Speaker 2>I hope, so, I hope so well. I guess she

0:37:16.160 --> 0:37:22.240
<v Speaker 2>was paying him in other ways. But anyway, he takes

0:37:22.280 --> 0:37:28.240
<v Speaker 2>her to get her car situation, whatever, and then takes

0:37:28.280 --> 0:37:33.160
<v Speaker 2>her back home for a second time. And this lady

0:37:34.160 --> 0:37:45.480
<v Speaker 2>sleeps for four hours in this random man's garage.

0:37:43.480 --> 0:37:49.600
<v Speaker 4>Like I don't I don't know about the general public,

0:37:50.719 --> 0:37:57.200
<v Speaker 4>I as a woman wouldn't trust.

0:37:55.840 --> 0:37:58.160
<v Speaker 2>To go into someone's garage and have sex with them,

0:37:58.200 --> 0:38:05.120
<v Speaker 2>but then to nap there for four hours, you know,

0:38:05.400 --> 0:38:11.920
<v Speaker 2>like that that can't be smart or safe to do generally.

0:38:13.480 --> 0:38:16.480
<v Speaker 2>And then he goes to drive her home, which is

0:38:16.480 --> 0:38:18.560
<v Speaker 2>why he was twenty minutes late to picking me up.

0:38:18.600 --> 0:38:21.080
<v Speaker 2>And the fucked up part is that when she was

0:38:21.160 --> 0:38:25.799
<v Speaker 2>sleeping in the bed that I was sleeping in like

0:38:25.840 --> 0:38:30.960
<v Speaker 2>two days ago, he calls me and he's talking to

0:38:31.000 --> 0:38:34.160
<v Speaker 2>me as if he had a totally normal day while

0:38:34.239 --> 0:38:37.480
<v Speaker 2>this chick is sleeping there, and I'm like, oh, oh,

0:38:38.320 --> 0:38:40.319
<v Speaker 2>you know that's pretty gross. And you know what the

0:38:40.360 --> 0:38:42.399
<v Speaker 2>grossest part is, let me tell you this.

0:38:43.000 --> 0:38:47.440
<v Speaker 5>Okay, when he and I were hanging out before he

0:38:47.520 --> 0:38:52.040
<v Speaker 5>told me, he gives me a kiss and I kind

0:38:52.040 --> 0:38:56.080
<v Speaker 5>of just look at him for a second and I'm.

0:38:55.880 --> 0:39:02.720
<v Speaker 2>Like, you smell off, and he's like, I didn't brush

0:39:02.760 --> 0:39:07.200
<v Speaker 2>my teeth, and I was like, m I don't know, man,

0:39:07.280 --> 0:39:10.000
<v Speaker 2>I wake up next to you quite frequently, Like I

0:39:10.160 --> 0:39:13.400
<v Speaker 2>know what it smells like when you don't brush your teeth.

0:39:13.800 --> 0:39:18.240
<v Speaker 2>This man straight up smelled like koochie, Like I could

0:39:18.280 --> 0:39:23.080
<v Speaker 2>literally smell this woman on his breast, and.

0:39:23.040 --> 0:39:28.160
<v Speaker 1>It was while, what is it where you're loved? Why

0:39:28.160 --> 0:39:31.160
<v Speaker 1>do you think you only want to go out with

0:39:31.280 --> 0:39:34.120
<v Speaker 1>guys who are twice your age? Like what is that?

0:39:35.719 --> 0:39:38.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what it is, man, I really don't.

0:39:38.480 --> 0:39:43.879
<v Speaker 2>I think it's kind of well, it's the perspective. I'm

0:39:43.920 --> 0:39:48.319
<v Speaker 2>just a little freaky, and I don't know. I guess

0:39:48.360 --> 0:39:51.160
<v Speaker 2>it's I like it when people are a little bit

0:39:51.239 --> 0:39:55.040
<v Speaker 2>more settled into the person that they are Oh, sure,

0:39:56.640 --> 0:40:01.439
<v Speaker 2>you know, because I feel like I'm like that. Yes,

0:40:01.480 --> 0:40:03.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm twenty one, and I have a lot of change

0:40:03.840 --> 0:40:05.840
<v Speaker 2>to go through, but I think I've always had a

0:40:05.840 --> 0:40:10.880
<v Speaker 2>pretty strong sense of self and I'm attracted to that

0:40:11.200 --> 0:40:14.799
<v Speaker 2>and people and that just happens to be people who

0:40:14.840 --> 0:40:16.120
<v Speaker 2>are a little bit older.

0:40:16.840 --> 0:40:21.680
<v Speaker 1>So you feel like you do you feel you're twenty one? Okay?

0:40:21.719 --> 0:40:23.720
<v Speaker 1>So like have you do you feel like you've changed

0:40:23.760 --> 0:40:26.399
<v Speaker 1>at all since you were?

0:40:26.800 --> 0:40:32.800
<v Speaker 2>Of course? Yeah, yeah, of course I think that in essence,

0:40:32.920 --> 0:40:35.399
<v Speaker 2>I'm the same person. I think I love the same

0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:37.680
<v Speaker 2>things and I have the same values, but I think

0:40:37.719 --> 0:40:44.000
<v Speaker 2>that my outlook has changed. Especially Here's another story that

0:40:44.080 --> 0:40:46.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to get deep into because it's a

0:40:47.520 --> 0:40:49.520
<v Speaker 2>it's a long one and I don't like to dwell

0:40:49.560 --> 0:40:56.640
<v Speaker 2>on it too much. But I was engaged to this

0:40:56.719 --> 0:41:01.640
<v Speaker 2>guy who was again older than me. This was not

0:41:01.760 --> 0:41:05.360
<v Speaker 2>like an arranged thing. This, yeah, it's not an arranged thing.

0:41:05.440 --> 0:41:10.680
<v Speaker 2>My parents actually hated him. And then like two weeks

0:41:10.719 --> 0:41:14.400
<v Speaker 2>before my wedding, I find out that he was married already.

0:41:15.080 --> 0:41:21.960
<v Speaker 1>Whoa, yeah, what's the what's the plan there? What the hell?

0:41:22.680 --> 0:41:23.720
<v Speaker 1>What's the plan?

0:41:25.120 --> 0:41:28.239
<v Speaker 2>I didn't ask too many questions. I didn't ask too

0:41:28.239 --> 0:41:30.680
<v Speaker 2>many questions to be honest with you, Like I kind

0:41:30.719 --> 0:41:34.920
<v Speaker 2>of was like, all right, well bye, you know, I

0:41:35.040 --> 0:41:36.440
<v Speaker 2>kind of just left the country.

0:41:37.080 --> 0:41:42.880
<v Speaker 1>That's this is in Iran. Mm hmmm is that yeah, Okay,

0:41:42.920 --> 0:41:44.560
<v Speaker 1>this is an angering question. But I'm gonna ask you,

0:41:44.640 --> 0:41:45.840
<v Speaker 1>is that like a thing.

0:41:45.719 --> 0:41:49.680
<v Speaker 2>There like stating older?

0:41:51.080 --> 0:41:54.160
<v Speaker 1>No, like having multiple wives.

0:41:54.600 --> 0:42:00.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean, by law, you can have multiple wives, but

0:42:00.160 --> 0:42:02.720
<v Speaker 2>it's not like you can just go about it willy nilly,

0:42:02.840 --> 0:42:06.359
<v Speaker 2>Like there's a whole legal process for it and like

0:42:06.680 --> 0:42:10.359
<v Speaker 2>you have to consent and all of that. But it's

0:42:10.400 --> 0:42:14.200
<v Speaker 2>not practiced. No, it's not practice. It's just there are

0:42:14.200 --> 0:42:17.480
<v Speaker 2>a lot of things that are law but aren't practiced.

0:42:17.600 --> 0:42:21.640
<v Speaker 2>Like alcohol is illegal. We is illegal, but you know,

0:42:21.880 --> 0:42:24.880
<v Speaker 2>premarital sex is illegal. But in a war, I like

0:42:24.920 --> 0:42:27.600
<v Speaker 2>to say, in a world where everything is illegal, nothing

0:42:27.719 --> 0:42:30.960
<v Speaker 2>is yeah, very much accessible.

0:42:31.520 --> 0:42:33.560
<v Speaker 1>When I was in Iraq, I kind of I couldn't

0:42:33.920 --> 0:42:38.680
<v Speaker 1>tell what the deal was with alcohol because like you

0:42:38.680 --> 0:42:43.400
<v Speaker 1>could say, because like people drink, but like you can't

0:42:43.440 --> 0:42:46.520
<v Speaker 1>like go into a store and buy it anywhere.

0:42:47.120 --> 0:42:54.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeap. Yeah, I have maybe fifty contacts not exaggerating in

0:42:54.320 --> 0:42:59.319
<v Speaker 2>my phone whose job is to bring me whatever My

0:42:59.440 --> 0:43:03.000
<v Speaker 2>heart made it desire and like if the if person

0:43:03.080 --> 0:43:05.600
<v Speaker 2>number one is an hour away, person number two will

0:43:05.640 --> 0:43:06.680
<v Speaker 2>be twenty minutes away.

0:43:07.960 --> 0:43:10.520
<v Speaker 1>If you get caught at alcohol today, do you get

0:43:10.560 --> 0:43:11.080
<v Speaker 1>in trouble?

0:43:12.560 --> 0:43:16.600
<v Speaker 2>I mean again, by law, you're supposed to get in trouble,

0:43:16.760 --> 0:43:21.520
<v Speaker 2>but bribery is very common, so you either bribe them

0:43:21.760 --> 0:43:24.400
<v Speaker 2>with money or you like just give them a bottle.

0:43:26.360 --> 0:43:29.719
<v Speaker 2>Like I was. I was driving with one of my

0:43:29.760 --> 0:43:34.759
<v Speaker 2>friends one day and this was a new friend and

0:43:35.400 --> 0:43:39.239
<v Speaker 2>he happened to be in the business of selling marijuana.

0:43:40.200 --> 0:43:42.439
<v Speaker 2>And one day the cops pull us over and they

0:43:42.480 --> 0:43:44.160
<v Speaker 2>stick their head in the car and they're like, it's

0:43:44.239 --> 0:43:47.279
<v Speaker 2>most like we did here. And homeboy tells me to

0:43:47.320 --> 0:43:50.600
<v Speaker 2>open up his glove box and I open it up

0:43:50.640 --> 0:43:53.720
<v Speaker 2>and just big ass bag of weed just plops down,

0:43:54.080 --> 0:43:57.040
<v Speaker 2>like big ass bag of weed. And he literally just

0:43:57.160 --> 0:44:00.000
<v Speaker 2>hands it to them and they're like, have a.

0:44:02.640 --> 0:44:08.319
<v Speaker 1>What's your name again? My name is gandal gand.

0:44:10.320 --> 0:44:17.600
<v Speaker 2>Hmmm yeah. But anyway, that's not even the cheating that

0:44:17.719 --> 0:44:23.239
<v Speaker 2>led me to after he cheated on me, we're talking

0:44:23.280 --> 0:44:29.359
<v Speaker 2>about the current guy. After he cheated on me, he

0:44:29.480 --> 0:44:33.000
<v Speaker 2>really was insistent of keeping me around, and I was like, hey, man,

0:44:33.320 --> 0:44:36.359
<v Speaker 2>We're going to be working together this weekend not weekend, sorry,

0:44:36.440 --> 0:44:40.719
<v Speaker 2>this winter, and I'm going to be seeing you and

0:44:40.760 --> 0:44:42.680
<v Speaker 2>it's going to be really fucking hard for me to

0:44:42.680 --> 0:44:46.000
<v Speaker 2>be around you unless you give me some space so

0:44:46.040 --> 0:44:51.000
<v Speaker 2>that I can process what the fuck has happened. Oh

0:44:51.080 --> 0:44:55.080
<v Speaker 2>by the way, the day after I find out about

0:44:55.080 --> 0:45:03.000
<v Speaker 2>this chick, I call her and I'm like, hey, just

0:45:03.040 --> 0:45:06.760
<v Speaker 2>so you know, like not mad at you, this person's

0:45:06.760 --> 0:45:08.000
<v Speaker 2>in a relationship, and she.

0:45:08.040 --> 0:45:09.520
<v Speaker 3>Was like, oh my god, I'm so sorry.

0:45:10.760 --> 0:45:14.640
<v Speaker 2>And the day after that she texts him and asks

0:45:14.719 --> 0:45:23.160
<v Speaker 2>to borrow forty dollars. So like at that point, I'm like, like,

0:45:23.280 --> 0:45:25.960
<v Speaker 2>who are you even cheating on me with? Like this

0:45:26.040 --> 0:45:31.160
<v Speaker 2>person is just like not to judge her, I don't

0:45:31.160 --> 0:45:34.319
<v Speaker 2>know who this person is. But also, come on.

0:45:36.680 --> 0:45:39.480
<v Speaker 1>Agen, sorry, I almost called you, Gandalf. Can you give

0:45:39.520 --> 0:45:40.160
<v Speaker 1>me your name again?

0:45:41.280 --> 0:45:45.120
<v Speaker 2>My name Tigert works, says Gandalf, so that's also acceptable.

0:45:44.640 --> 0:45:52.480
<v Speaker 1>But your name, says Gandalf. All right, if Gandalf is acceptable, Odal.

0:45:51.920 --> 0:45:52.560
<v Speaker 2>Go for it.

0:45:52.560 --> 0:45:59.560
<v Speaker 1>It's acceptable, Gandalf. Well, Gandalf, I appreciate you away sharing

0:45:59.680 --> 0:46:01.520
<v Speaker 1>all this stuff with us.

0:46:02.680 --> 0:46:03.080
<v Speaker 2>Of course.

0:46:04.480 --> 0:46:06.880
<v Speaker 1>Hm hmmm, do you feel like you got what you

0:46:07.280 --> 0:46:10.760
<v Speaker 1>desired out of this phone call or do you feel

0:46:10.760 --> 0:46:17.280
<v Speaker 1>like do you feel like you feel like there's anything

0:46:17.280 --> 0:46:19.520
<v Speaker 1>more that you wanted to talk through?

0:46:21.040 --> 0:46:27.880
<v Speaker 2>You know, there's so much more. But also you know,

0:46:28.600 --> 0:46:29.680
<v Speaker 2>no matter how much I.

0:46:29.760 --> 0:46:45.640
<v Speaker 3>Go on, there will always be more, of course, So yeah.

0:46:42.120 --> 0:46:50.160
<v Speaker 1>Hm hm hmm, gandalf, I think you know, I get

0:46:50.200 --> 0:46:52.680
<v Speaker 1>why you don't like people. I get why you don't

0:46:52.760 --> 0:46:57.520
<v Speaker 1>like people. Right, Also, uh, but you do you? I

0:46:57.560 --> 0:46:59.840
<v Speaker 1>assume you texted me because you listen to the podcast.

0:47:01.080 --> 0:47:05.960
<v Speaker 1>I do, Yeah, I've had The podcast is about people.

0:47:06.000 --> 0:47:09.400
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't, well, this this podcast is not

0:47:09.440 --> 0:47:14.680
<v Speaker 1>about like liking people necessarily, and and I don't think that. Uh,

0:47:14.760 --> 0:47:16.239
<v Speaker 1>it's more about I feel like it's more about observe.

0:47:16.239 --> 0:47:19.080
<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's it attracts people who are interested

0:47:19.120 --> 0:47:23.600
<v Speaker 1>in more so observing human thought and behavior rather than

0:47:24.680 --> 0:47:29.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, because they love people so much. But when

0:47:29.120 --> 0:47:30.920
<v Speaker 1>you listen to the show, are you do you do

0:47:30.960 --> 0:47:33.000
<v Speaker 1>you like hate the callers all the time?

0:47:34.920 --> 0:47:40.040
<v Speaker 2>No? No, not all the time. I mean there was

0:47:40.160 --> 0:47:46.759
<v Speaker 2>one guy who I saw had very questionable morals, the

0:47:46.800 --> 0:47:47.640
<v Speaker 2>Pegasus guy.

0:47:48.520 --> 0:47:50.399
<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, yeah, the was the most recent one.

0:47:51.800 --> 0:47:57.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I was like, okay, man, maybe the problem

0:47:57.960 --> 0:48:03.080
<v Speaker 2>is within yourself anyway, no offense. True, you're great.

0:48:03.360 --> 0:48:05.680
<v Speaker 1>But oh you remember his damn name.

0:48:08.040 --> 0:48:10.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was very it was interesting. It was an

0:48:10.560 --> 0:48:12.080
<v Speaker 2>interesting one. That was a fun one.

0:48:13.640 --> 0:48:15.400
<v Speaker 1>Gandalf, is there is there anything else you want to

0:48:15.440 --> 0:48:17.680
<v Speaker 1>say to the people of the computer before we go.

0:48:19.520 --> 0:48:22.879
<v Speaker 2>To be honest with yourself and with the people around you,

0:48:23.360 --> 0:48:27.960
<v Speaker 2>even if it's scary, because it kind of sucks to

0:48:28.000 --> 0:48:29.680
<v Speaker 2>be a deceiving person.

0:48:32.400 --> 0:48:35.400
<v Speaker 1>Calling Gandolf I'll uh, I'll see you in the universe

0:48:36.760 --> 0:48:45.399
<v Speaker 1>sounds good bye bye bye bye. Hello, folks, what's going on?

0:48:45.560 --> 0:48:53.880
<v Speaker 1>It's Lyle the Gecko person guy thing. I just woke up.

0:48:53.960 --> 0:48:59.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm a little sleepy. I'm a bit of a sleepy guy,

0:48:59.719 --> 0:49:01.239
<v Speaker 1>and I'm I'm gonna roll with it. I'm not gonna

0:49:01.280 --> 0:49:06.440
<v Speaker 1>judge it. I'm not gonna fight it. I'm gonna be

0:49:07.040 --> 0:49:11.000
<v Speaker 1>a I'm gonna dive into the sleepiness. I'm gonna call

0:49:11.040 --> 0:49:15.319
<v Speaker 1>this a sleepy gek mail. Okay, this is gek mail.

0:49:16.400 --> 0:49:19.560
<v Speaker 1>By the way, this is a segment of the podcast

0:49:19.640 --> 0:49:25.319
<v Speaker 1>where I read viewer mail that people have sent me

0:49:25.719 --> 0:49:33.880
<v Speaker 1>to the email address therapy Gecko mail at gmail dot com.

0:49:34.239 --> 0:49:41.040
<v Speaker 1>These are these are real emails from real people. Probably

0:49:41.680 --> 0:49:43.600
<v Speaker 1>they could be bots, but I don't think they are.

0:49:43.680 --> 0:49:46.920
<v Speaker 1>I think these are real people. I hope they're real people.

0:49:47.719 --> 0:49:51.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm actually, you know, I'm one hundred percent sure

0:49:51.160 --> 0:49:55.640
<v Speaker 1>that they're real people. Except for except for this one

0:49:55.719 --> 0:50:01.720
<v Speaker 1>right here, which says, uh, there's a new log into

0:50:01.719 --> 0:50:09.520
<v Speaker 1>your it's your X account on Mac. That's not a

0:50:09.520 --> 0:50:15.720
<v Speaker 1>real person. I don't think a person physically typed that email.

0:50:18.680 --> 0:50:23.200
<v Speaker 1>Your Google password has changed, that's not a real person.

0:50:27.200 --> 0:50:30.840
<v Speaker 1>But then, but other than that, these are all emails

0:50:30.840 --> 0:50:35.399
<v Speaker 1>from real people. I'll read one or two, maybe three,

0:50:35.719 --> 0:50:42.080
<v Speaker 1>probably one or two, maybe three. Usually when you say maybe,

0:50:42.400 --> 0:50:47.120
<v Speaker 1>when you say maybe, it's a usually like seventy percent

0:50:47.200 --> 0:50:50.040
<v Speaker 1>that it's a yes. This is an actual maybe. There

0:50:50.080 --> 0:50:53.440
<v Speaker 1>needs to be a word between know and maybe. That

0:50:53.600 --> 0:50:59.000
<v Speaker 1>means closer to know than it does to yes, because

0:50:59.000 --> 0:51:02.879
<v Speaker 1>it's almost this maybe you kinda they kind of lean

0:51:02.960 --> 0:51:03.600
<v Speaker 1>towards yes.

0:51:05.040 --> 0:51:05.239
<v Speaker 2>Right.

0:51:05.520 --> 0:51:11.799
<v Speaker 1>Maybe is usually close to a probably maybe and probably

0:51:13.920 --> 0:51:18.359
<v Speaker 1>are too similar. Probably is closer to yes than maybe.

0:51:18.880 --> 0:51:25.799
<v Speaker 1>But once what's what's the probably of no? Probably is

0:51:25.840 --> 0:51:31.640
<v Speaker 1>the maybe of yes, But I want the whatever, the

0:51:31.719 --> 0:51:38.120
<v Speaker 1>probably whatever. The maybe of no is is the chance

0:51:38.200 --> 0:51:45.719
<v Speaker 1>that I'll read a third gek mail. I'm gonna dive

0:51:45.760 --> 0:51:48.120
<v Speaker 1>into the sleepiness. I'm gonna see where it takes me.

0:51:49.280 --> 0:51:53.160
<v Speaker 1>Well anyway, Okay, yeah, these are these are emails that

0:51:53.160 --> 0:51:56.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna read. If you want to send a gek mail,

0:51:56.360 --> 0:52:00.520
<v Speaker 1>you can send one to Therapy Gecko mail at Gmail.

0:52:01.960 --> 0:52:07.640
<v Speaker 1>But otherwise let's read to read some gek males. Okay,

0:52:07.640 --> 0:52:18.040
<v Speaker 1>this is from Madison, subject line Limerens sucks Balls. Just

0:52:18.080 --> 0:52:20.520
<v Speaker 1>wanted to start by saying how big of a fan

0:52:20.600 --> 0:52:24.520
<v Speaker 1>I am of the podcast. I started casually listening to

0:52:24.560 --> 0:52:28.160
<v Speaker 1>you around the beginning of COVID. I really got roped

0:52:28.200 --> 0:52:31.120
<v Speaker 1>into being a regular listener when that guy called in

0:52:31.160 --> 0:52:34.799
<v Speaker 1>to talk about train hopping across the states. Shout out

0:52:34.800 --> 0:52:37.960
<v Speaker 1>to our train hopping homie. Anyway, I wanted to talk

0:52:38.000 --> 0:52:42.760
<v Speaker 1>about out painful limerences Idkay if you've ever experienced this yourself,

0:52:42.800 --> 0:52:46.120
<v Speaker 1>but it's super painful and draining. I've been dealing with

0:52:46.200 --> 0:52:49.040
<v Speaker 1>it since I was a child. Apparently it can be

0:52:49.080 --> 0:52:54.120
<v Speaker 1>caused by autism or childhood trauma. I've been in a

0:52:54.280 --> 0:52:57.400
<v Speaker 1>long term relationship for the past few years, but I

0:52:57.480 --> 0:53:02.120
<v Speaker 1>haven't been happy since the first year. We have lived together.

0:53:02.320 --> 0:53:05.560
<v Speaker 1>For a couple of years now. We broke up briefly

0:53:06.360 --> 0:53:10.759
<v Speaker 1>last November, but we ended up getting back together. It's

0:53:10.760 --> 0:53:13.560
<v Speaker 1>complicated because he's my best friend and I love him deeply,

0:53:13.680 --> 0:53:17.080
<v Speaker 1>but I'm not in love with him. This seems to

0:53:17.080 --> 0:53:20.239
<v Speaker 1>be a consistent problem in my relationships, where I confuse

0:53:20.840 --> 0:53:28.160
<v Speaker 1>deep love for romantic love. Interesting deep love and romantic love.

0:53:29.800 --> 0:53:34.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure if I fully understand the difference. Maybe

0:53:34.600 --> 0:53:39.280
<v Speaker 1>she explains it. I have developed limerens for other people

0:53:39.400 --> 0:53:42.239
<v Speaker 1>three times throughout this relationship, and I feel like a

0:53:42.280 --> 0:53:45.920
<v Speaker 1>horrible person. I haven't cheated on him, but I developed

0:53:46.000 --> 0:53:50.120
<v Speaker 1>feelings for other people in a way that I feel it.

0:53:51.600 --> 0:53:54.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't fully understand why I don't feel romantic or

0:53:54.760 --> 0:53:58.520
<v Speaker 1>physical attraction to him, because he's a really cool person. Okay,

0:53:58.560 --> 0:54:02.239
<v Speaker 1>deep love is like okay, romantic love seems like it's yes.

0:54:02.360 --> 0:54:09.799
<v Speaker 1>Romantic love by this person's definition is more about sort

0:54:09.800 --> 0:54:15.440
<v Speaker 1>of physical attraction. It seems pheromones and what have you.

0:54:17.040 --> 0:54:20.920
<v Speaker 1>I've realized I need to stop settling for people, and

0:54:20.960 --> 0:54:22.840
<v Speaker 1>then I have some issues I need to work on

0:54:23.000 --> 0:54:27.040
<v Speaker 1>in therapy. I will be ending my relationship soon out

0:54:27.080 --> 0:54:30.760
<v Speaker 1>of respect for him. He deserves to be fully loved

0:54:30.800 --> 0:54:33.520
<v Speaker 1>by someone and I no longer want to waste his

0:54:33.920 --> 0:54:37.799
<v Speaker 1>or my time. I am going to be thirty this

0:54:37.960 --> 0:54:40.840
<v Speaker 1>year and it's time to get my shit together. I

0:54:40.880 --> 0:54:45.200
<v Speaker 1>will likely be crashing on my brother's couch because I

0:54:45.239 --> 0:54:48.160
<v Speaker 1>have nowhere else to go. The cost of living is

0:54:48.160 --> 0:54:52.400
<v Speaker 1>absolutely fried in Ontario, so I can't afford my own place.

0:54:53.280 --> 0:54:55.160
<v Speaker 1>I haven't talked to my mom in a few years.

0:54:55.560 --> 0:54:58.520
<v Speaker 1>My dad is not really around very often are able

0:54:58.520 --> 0:55:01.120
<v Speaker 1>to help me. I am thankful to have my brother

0:55:01.160 --> 0:55:04.319
<v Speaker 1>at least, as well as some amazing friends, but I

0:55:04.320 --> 0:55:08.360
<v Speaker 1>feel alone. I feel scared, but I know it's the

0:55:08.440 --> 0:55:10.400
<v Speaker 1>right thing to do. My life is going to be

0:55:10.440 --> 0:55:13.239
<v Speaker 1>challenging soon, as I'm also currently working part time and

0:55:13.280 --> 0:55:16.640
<v Speaker 1>doing a trades program to hopefully get a better job.

0:55:17.160 --> 0:55:21.280
<v Speaker 1>So wish me good luck. Good luck. I am hoping

0:55:21.320 --> 0:55:24.640
<v Speaker 1>to grow as a person from this whole experience. I

0:55:24.680 --> 0:55:26.719
<v Speaker 1>don't think there's really any advice you can give me,

0:55:26.719 --> 0:55:29.440
<v Speaker 1>but I just wanted to rant about this. Sorry if

0:55:29.480 --> 0:55:33.840
<v Speaker 1>that was a hard read, I have raging adhd. Thanks

0:55:33.880 --> 0:55:36.320
<v Speaker 1>for reading. By the way, I will be coming to

0:55:36.360 --> 0:55:41.600
<v Speaker 1>your Toronto show later this year. Thank you, Madison. I'm

0:55:41.600 --> 0:55:48.440
<v Speaker 1>pretty stoked. Love you. Ghek Madison, HM, I don't I

0:55:48.480 --> 0:55:50.800
<v Speaker 1>don't really have well, I don't, I don't really have advice.

0:55:50.840 --> 0:55:52.320
<v Speaker 1>A lot a lot of reading these emails is a

0:55:52.360 --> 0:56:00.000
<v Speaker 1>little bit more about pondering that it is about advice, suppose.

0:56:01.000 --> 0:56:04.839
<v Speaker 1>But I don't think you should feel like a horrible person.

0:56:04.880 --> 0:56:08.440
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think you did the right thing by

0:56:08.480 --> 0:56:13.480
<v Speaker 1>breaking up with this person because and by the way,

0:56:13.480 --> 0:56:16.960
<v Speaker 1>I empathize with that feeling. I think. I think that's

0:56:16.960 --> 0:56:23.600
<v Speaker 1>a common feeling that people have, where they feel a

0:56:23.840 --> 0:56:31.600
<v Speaker 1>strong connection with someone and a deep love for them.

0:56:31.600 --> 0:56:34.440
<v Speaker 1>But yes, not a like someone They're like, I'm not

0:56:34.480 --> 0:56:38.840
<v Speaker 1>that physically attracted to you or romantically attracted to you,

0:56:38.880 --> 0:56:42.160
<v Speaker 1>but I feel a deep love for you. Is a

0:56:42.200 --> 0:56:46.359
<v Speaker 1>common feeling that I think people have because I think

0:56:46.360 --> 0:56:52.239
<v Speaker 1>people I think love is a very complicated thing and

0:56:52.280 --> 0:56:55.440
<v Speaker 1>that it kind of comes from a lot of different

0:56:55.480 --> 0:57:00.520
<v Speaker 1>places in the gut and ideally, I I don't know,

0:57:00.719 --> 0:57:07.600
<v Speaker 1>though I'm truly not a relationship expert by any means,

0:57:08.520 --> 0:57:13.960
<v Speaker 1>but I don't know. Love is weird, Like you feel

0:57:13.960 --> 0:57:18.080
<v Speaker 1>it in many different places. You feel it in your heart,

0:57:18.200 --> 0:57:23.520
<v Speaker 1>your brain, your balls, girl balls, boy balls, whatever you got.

0:57:25.400 --> 0:57:30.760
<v Speaker 1>You feel it sometimes in different. Sometimes you feel it

0:57:30.800 --> 0:57:32.840
<v Speaker 1>in certain parts of your bodies. Sometimes you feel another

0:57:33.840 --> 0:57:35.280
<v Speaker 1>parts of your body, but you don't feel it in

0:57:35.320 --> 0:57:36.760
<v Speaker 1>other parts of your body. You know what I'm saying.

0:57:38.200 --> 0:57:44.600
<v Speaker 1>But you have to kind of decide. That's I think

0:57:44.640 --> 0:57:45.920
<v Speaker 1>the thing is, you have to kind of decide, like,

0:57:45.960 --> 0:57:50.840
<v Speaker 1>do I feel it enough and enough of my body

0:57:50.880 --> 0:57:52.360
<v Speaker 1>and the parts of my body that I want to

0:57:52.400 --> 0:57:55.600
<v Speaker 1>feel it in to be in a relationship and sound

0:57:55.680 --> 0:57:59.160
<v Speaker 1>it sounds like you didn't and so and so you

0:57:59.320 --> 0:58:04.360
<v Speaker 1>let him go, but you're developing feelings for other people

0:58:05.960 --> 0:58:07.760
<v Speaker 1>you don't get to feel like a horrible part is that.

0:58:07.800 --> 0:58:09.320
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think you did again. You did the

0:58:09.400 --> 0:58:14.360
<v Speaker 1>right thing, so you know. But the fact that you

0:58:14.360 --> 0:58:16.400
<v Speaker 1>have the capacity to develop these feelings with these other

0:58:16.400 --> 0:58:17.240
<v Speaker 1>people means.

0:58:17.040 --> 0:58:19.640
<v Speaker 2>That you are.

0:58:25.200 --> 0:58:27.240
<v Speaker 1>It means that.

0:58:29.400 --> 0:58:30.360
<v Speaker 2>You are.

0:58:32.560 --> 0:58:38.720
<v Speaker 1>Capable of feeling these feelings, which is a good sign.

0:58:40.600 --> 0:58:43.720
<v Speaker 1>So I think that there is hope for you in

0:58:43.760 --> 0:58:51.400
<v Speaker 1>the romantic realm of your life to find someone that

0:58:51.480 --> 0:58:58.280
<v Speaker 1>you can have a ragingly good life with. Sorry, I'm

0:58:58.280 --> 0:59:03.440
<v Speaker 1>staring at the word raging. The only time I hear

0:59:03.560 --> 0:59:06.720
<v Speaker 1>raging usually you said you said I got raging ad

0:59:06.960 --> 0:59:09.720
<v Speaker 1>h D. Usually the last the last time I hear

0:59:10.440 --> 0:59:15.600
<v Speaker 1>the word raging, it's usually like a raging boner. That's

0:59:15.720 --> 0:59:18.120
<v Speaker 1>not that's not me trying to be funny. That's just

0:59:19.160 --> 0:59:24.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying every thought that comes to my head. I'll

0:59:24.960 --> 0:59:28.320
<v Speaker 1>see you at the Toronto Show. I'm excited for that.

0:59:28.320 --> 0:59:37.440
<v Speaker 1>That'll be good. M hm m hmm. You're doing a

0:59:37.480 --> 0:59:44.080
<v Speaker 1>trades program? What kind of trade? When someone says they're

0:59:44.120 --> 0:59:46.440
<v Speaker 1>doing a trade program, they mean they usually mean like

0:59:46.560 --> 0:59:53.400
<v Speaker 1>plumbing or electric or something. They're never never now that

0:59:53.400 --> 0:59:58.840
<v Speaker 1>they're like trading things, you know what I mean? That's

0:59:58.840 --> 1:00:03.800
<v Speaker 1>not what that means. This person has a hotmail email address.

1:00:05.040 --> 1:00:08.240
<v Speaker 1>I probably shouldn't say that. I mean, it doesn't really matter.

1:00:09.360 --> 1:00:13.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's an identifying detail. Do they still

1:00:13.680 --> 1:00:17.960
<v Speaker 1>do Hotmail? I want to go to hotmail? What happens

1:00:18.000 --> 1:00:25.440
<v Speaker 1>if you go to hotmail dot COM's so, what happens

1:00:25.440 --> 1:00:27.120
<v Speaker 1>if you go to hotmail dot com? Let's find out?

1:00:28.640 --> 1:00:34.960
<v Speaker 1>Are they still doing hotmail? Okay? It takes you to outlook? Okay.

1:00:36.200 --> 1:00:39.320
<v Speaker 1>Outlook is the same thing as hotmail. Let's do one more. Okay.

1:00:39.360 --> 1:00:42.280
<v Speaker 1>Then maybe that's why I needed a maybe that leans

1:00:42.320 --> 1:00:47.120
<v Speaker 1>towards no, that's why I needed a maybe that leans

1:00:47.120 --> 1:00:51.200
<v Speaker 1>towards no, because I had a feeling. Okay, let's do

1:00:51.240 --> 1:00:59.280
<v Speaker 1>one more. This is from Chris somepartic line just hello.

1:01:00.760 --> 1:01:03.880
<v Speaker 1>That's when. That's when enticed me about this email is

1:01:03.880 --> 1:01:06.320
<v Speaker 1>that it kind of gave itself away and the subject

1:01:07.200 --> 1:01:09.000
<v Speaker 1>we knew. We knew from the start what we were

1:01:09.000 --> 1:01:15.160
<v Speaker 1>getting into. Great Gecko, how's it going? Love? The episode

1:01:15.160 --> 1:01:17.680
<v Speaker 1>with Papa Gecko. Hold on my I have my my

1:01:18.000 --> 1:01:23.280
<v Speaker 1>alarm going off. Let me. I don't know. I don't

1:01:23.280 --> 1:01:24.920
<v Speaker 1>know what I set that alarm for. I think I

1:01:24.960 --> 1:01:28.080
<v Speaker 1>set that alarm for me to do this, but I'm

1:01:28.120 --> 1:01:35.880
<v Speaker 1>already doing it, So hold on what Okay? All right,

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<v Speaker 1>We're good. Great Gecko, how's it going? Love? The episode

1:01:41.200 --> 1:01:44.160
<v Speaker 1>with Papa Gecko. Shout out to my dad. Man, what

1:01:44.240 --> 1:01:46.040
<v Speaker 1>a great guy he is. What a great dad he

1:01:46.120 --> 1:01:49.840
<v Speaker 1>must have been for you. He's a great dad. Look,

1:01:49.840 --> 1:01:53.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm always looking over the fence seeing if grass is

1:01:53.160 --> 1:01:56.120
<v Speaker 1>any greener anywhere. Ooh, looking over the fence. That's a

1:01:56.120 --> 1:01:58.040
<v Speaker 1>good expression for that. I see that, I see what

1:01:58.080 --> 1:01:59.560
<v Speaker 1>you mean, I see what you did there. I like that.

1:02:01.320 --> 1:02:03.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm also learning to be happy with what I have.

1:02:03.200 --> 1:02:05.160
<v Speaker 1>I keep seeing things on the internet of people with

1:02:05.280 --> 1:02:09.120
<v Speaker 1>really well organized shops that are DIY kind of dudes.

1:02:09.560 --> 1:02:12.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm really jealous because my garage doesn't look like theirs

1:02:12.520 --> 1:02:19.040
<v Speaker 1>and they're handy and I'm not. Hey Gak. Just finished

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<v Speaker 1>the episode. What okay, this is Okay? You didn't okay,

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<v Speaker 1>huh okay, Okay, they said Hey Gek again, but they

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<v Speaker 1>there is new information. They didn't just copy and paste

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<v Speaker 1>the email twice. Okay, I'm gonna read it as I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna fix this email for you guys. It says hey

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<v Speaker 1>Gak okay Okay. Also instead of hey GEK. Sorry, I

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<v Speaker 1>know this is I'm being confusing right now. Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>jealous because my garage doesn't look like theirs and they're

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<v Speaker 1>handy and I'm not. I also just finished the episode

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<v Speaker 1>where the caller was talking about having an affair with

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<v Speaker 1>her ex while married. First off, I'm glad you were

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<v Speaker 1>able to help her see things clearly. I remember her.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm having trouble with understanding why people are so quick

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<v Speaker 1>to give up on their partners. Granted there were some

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<v Speaker 1>certain circumstances for her family being the biggest issue, it

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<v Speaker 1>sounded like I don't like the thought of my wife

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<v Speaker 1>just not liking me anymore or wanting to cheat for

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<v Speaker 1>a little to get back. Help me understand why you

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<v Speaker 1>went straight to dump your husband and live life. Why

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<v Speaker 1>not try to work on it? Kids in early generations

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<v Speaker 1>are going to be messed up because moms and dan

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<v Speaker 1>moms and dads just quit marriage when it gets hard. Thanks.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry for the long email, Chris. It is true. I

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<v Speaker 1>think people in this generation give up on uh relationships

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<v Speaker 1>more than the previous generation. I don't. I mean, And

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<v Speaker 1>there's the why I mean, I don't. Our generation is

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<v Speaker 1>more optionality ultimately, I think is why you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean like there's a whether we just have more information,

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<v Speaker 1>we have more knowledge of or I or or or

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<v Speaker 1>perceived doledge I guess of what's out there. But it

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<v Speaker 1>is a tough thing because you you ultimately are always

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<v Speaker 1>going to find like what like if you have a

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<v Speaker 1>if you're in a thing and it has problems, you're

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<v Speaker 1>just going to jump into another thing that also has problems.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's really just about which problems you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you can stomach, you know. I think if you just

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<v Speaker 1>don't like someone anymore, should you stay in a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with that person? Probably not? I think liking someone is

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<v Speaker 1>a it's kind of a bare minimum reason to be

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<v Speaker 1>with them, you know, looking over the fence, seeing if

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<v Speaker 1>the grass is greener anywhere. That's another thing. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>are also always looking over the fence. I like that express.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not thinking about that over the fence. I look

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<v Speaker 1>over the fence sometimes sometimes I'm like, oh, not not well,

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<v Speaker 1>Actually you're looking at garages, so you're looking into the

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<v Speaker 1>garage more than over the fence. Do Yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that's why. That's why you know people people

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<v Speaker 1>do that? Is it should you try to work on

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<v Speaker 1>these I don't think. I don't think. I don't believe

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<v Speaker 1>in like, oh, you should always stay in a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>that's making you unhappy. But I do think you should.

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<v Speaker 1>People should recognize I don't think I think people should

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<v Speaker 1>recognize it or it will always be some sort of problem,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. I think if you're looking for something perfect,

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<v Speaker 1>you're it's not good. It's not gonna exist right, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>there's always gonna be problems. I think maybe maybe that

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's the problem with younger generations more than

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<v Speaker 1>it is that they're always leaving. Is it's that they

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<v Speaker 1>maybe don't recognize is that you have to like. It's

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<v Speaker 1>one thing if you come to the decision that you're

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<v Speaker 1>like I can't handle these specific problems, but it's another

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<v Speaker 1>thing to be like I will eventually find a perfect

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<v Speaker 1>person that's different. You know, you have to abandon that

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<v Speaker 1>fantasy and again, just try to find someone who you

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<v Speaker 1>can you can deal with the problems. Thanks for sending

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<v Speaker 1>this email, Chris.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>They also wrote thanks sorry for the long email. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a suit. This is a super short email. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>a long email at all. You don't have to be

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<v Speaker 1>sorry for anything, Chris. Folks, that was gek mail again,

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to send a gek mail. So this

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<v Speaker 1>is why I needed the not the no. Maybe because

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<v Speaker 1>we're done. We did two gek mails, but I had fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I had fun doing these gek mails. I'm very sleepy.

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<v Speaker 1>I just got back from Japan. I'm jet lagged as hell.

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta run over to California soon because I'm doing

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<v Speaker 1>a show in San Diego on May third at American

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<v Speaker 1>Comedy Company, and then another show in Los Angeles on

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<v Speaker 1>May sixth as part of the Netflix's Joke Festival at

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<v Speaker 1>the Masonic Lodge. If you live in either of those

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<v Speaker 1>two places. You can get tickets right now at therapy

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<v Speaker 1>geckotour dot com. It'd be great to see you. That's it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have anything else to plug. I did it

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<v Speaker 1>premiere last night for my Ukraine documentary. That was really

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<v Speaker 1>that was really fun. We're gonna post the full thing,

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<v Speaker 1>I believe on Monday, YouTube dot com, slash Lyle Forever.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna leave you guys there, but I'll be back

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<v Speaker 1>on Sunday with another episode of the Therapy Eco podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I read every Spotify comment. I'm insane, so hit me up,

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<v Speaker 1>let me know what's good. Thank you guys. Get bless

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<v Speaker 1>Goes on the line taking your phone calls every night, Goes,

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<v Speaker 1>I was teaching you cloud an expert