Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello, Hi, what's up? Hello name?
Speaker 2: Hi, my name is Gandom.
Speaker 1: Nice to me too, Gandom, Am I saying that right?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you got it?
Speaker 1: Thanks for randomly picking up my phone call. Sometimes. I
Speaker 1: all right, I'm gonna tell you something crazy. But I
Speaker 1: mean I saw I used to. I mean, I might
Speaker 1: start doing this up again at some point, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just for now it's easier. I used to take
Speaker 1: all these phone calls on Twitch and then and then
Speaker 1: I started just like posting Instagram stories for people to
Speaker 1: like call in whenever I'm live doing that. And then
Speaker 1: I today I was like, well, I have all these
Speaker 1: people who texted me, but they've been texting me over time.
Speaker 1: So I was just like, I saw a random text
Speaker 1: from a person who texted me like on Tuesday, and
Speaker 1: I was like, I wonder if phil pick up if
Speaker 1: I randomly call them right now? And you did.
Speaker 2: I did, And you know what, I just woke up,
Speaker 2: like I woke up to the songe call.
Speaker 1: Well, I appreciate that. It's not a weird time. It's like,
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know where you are in the country,
Speaker 1: but it's it's it's it's not a particularly weird time.
Speaker 1: Anywhere in America.
Speaker 2: It's not at all a weird time at all to
Speaker 2: four pm to stay. I happened to stay up until
Speaker 2: two am last night because I was watching this guy's
Speaker 2: thoughts on all forty two Barbie movies and it took
Speaker 2: an hour and forty minutes and I just couldn't. I
Speaker 2: was I was too deep in I needed to know
Speaker 2: his thoughts on all the Barbie movies.
Speaker 1: So the way you phrasing hook, an hour and forty
Speaker 1: two minutes, it's like it was a job that was
Speaker 1: assigned to you.
Speaker 2: I was just so captivated, you know, I love the
Speaker 2: Barbie movies. And you know what, his opinions were simply incorrect,
Speaker 2: Like he was done barbieing the Diamond Castle. I was like,
Speaker 2: Barbie and the Diamond Castle is the best one.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I have to say I also I also
Speaker 1: am a deep fan of this kind of bullshit. I'll
Speaker 1: be actually, now I think about it, I had I
Speaker 1: had a similar night. I was up until late watching
Speaker 1: like there's all these like dude, there's all these like
Speaker 1: seven hour long videos that and they all have like
Speaker 1: millions and millions of views, like this one has like
Speaker 1: six million views, where it's like ranking every single episode
Speaker 1: of Family Guy, or like reviewing every single episode just
Speaker 1: like in one video, and I'm like, ill watch that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: did this guy? Did this guy do all of the
Speaker 1: Barbie movies in one video or did he kind of
Speaker 1: spread him out?
Speaker 2: He did? No, he did. He had them up in
Speaker 2: three categories. And you know what's insane, He literally dedicated
Speaker 2: three days to watch all of them. So he just
Speaker 2: woke up and started watching Barbie movies and then just
Speaker 2: stopped to sleep essentially, but he watched them all in
Speaker 2: one go.
Speaker 1: And did this guy do this like because he was
Speaker 1: bored or like his clickbait or is he genuinely a
Speaker 1: Barbie movie fan?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know this person. His video
Speaker 2: just popped up on my feed and I clicked on it.
Speaker 2: He didn't seem like a fan. You know, he was
Speaker 2: being very critical and you know, he had some valid points,
Speaker 2: but I don't know. I feel like he wasn't the
Speaker 2: best candidate to be ranking them because he didn't seem
Speaker 2: like the person who the type of person who was
Speaker 2: like raised on them kind of. So I would like
Speaker 2: to see someone who has a little bit of more
Speaker 2: personal you know, someone who has a little bit more
Speaker 2: experience and is more immersed in the like Barbie world.
Speaker 2: I'm not a big Barbie fan, don't get me wrong,
Speaker 2: but like the movies, some of them, you know, I
Speaker 2: mean I watched some of the kid and they were
Speaker 2: pretty good. They were pretty good good.
Speaker 1: There is something, there's something so awesome, and it speaks
Speaker 1: to and I feel this way too, Like it speaks
Speaker 1: to how the lengths that people will go to just
Speaker 1: avoid their own thoughts. That a man who doesn't even
Speaker 1: care about Barbie and has really no personal investment in
Speaker 1: Barbie made an hour and forty two minute long video
Speaker 1: ranking all the Barbie movies, and then another person who
Speaker 1: also doesn't really care that much about Barbie sat and
Speaker 1: watched the entire video, Like, what the fuck is going
Speaker 1: on on here?
Speaker 3: You know? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I don't know, it was all right. What
Speaker 2: really offended me was, honestly, Barbie and the Diamond Castle.
Speaker 2: Have you watched that one?
Speaker 1: I haven't seen any of them. I also there's I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously there's like the big famous live action one, but
Speaker 1: I assume this is mostly about all the all the
Speaker 1: animated ones.
Speaker 2: This is yeah, this is all the animated ones. But wait,
Speaker 2: let me tell you this. Barbie and the Diamond Castle
Speaker 2: is about these two girls who live in this tiny
Speaker 2: little hut and their sugar port, right, and then they
Speaker 2: go on to find this Diamond Castle. And the Diamond
Speaker 2: Castle is like it's a whole music thing, so like
Speaker 2: you have to play music for the diamond for the
Speaker 2: Diamond Castle to appear. Like there's it's all about music,
Speaker 2: and there's like evil music and good music. But there
Speaker 2: are these two little puppy dogs in there who are
Speaker 2: the sidekicks, who are absolutely adorable. And then when they
Speaker 2: hear music, they get up on their two legs and
Speaker 2: they start dancing. And he was hating on them so hard.
Speaker 2: He was like, these dogs freaking me out, blah blah
Speaker 2: blah blah blah, and that. At that point, I kind
Speaker 2: of I kind of was like, all right, this person
Speaker 2: is not qualified to be ranking these movies because he's
Speaker 2: dogging on the dogs and that's not okay.
Speaker 1: Can I read your text message.
Speaker 2: If you would like to?
Speaker 1: Sure? I I actually don't remember. We've been talking about
Speaker 1: Barbie so long. I'll okay, all right, well you sent me,
Speaker 1: you sent me one last year. It looks like I'll
Speaker 1: just read it. I'll read the whole log, and that
Speaker 1: way we'll get it, we'll get an idea of you.
Speaker 2: Well, I reread the one that I sent to last year,
Speaker 2: and I was like, that's a little I mean, it's
Speaker 2: not wrong. Okay, let's read the whole Okay.
Speaker 1: Let's read the whole log, and that'll give us somewhere
Speaker 1: to go from. Okay, all right. November twenty ninth, twenty
Speaker 1: twenty five, you texted me. You said, the words most
Speaker 1: commonly used to describe me are intense, intimidating, mean, rude, bitch.
Speaker 1: But I think I'm very nice and I'm always right.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of close relationships in my life
Speaker 1: and they all love me very much. I just hate
Speaker 1: everyone except a few people. No one is interesting. I'm
Speaker 1: simply better than everyone. Now, okay, I'll read the second
Speaker 1: part of the log, but you want it to offer,
Speaker 1: I'll let you offer your commentary or your reflection of
Speaker 1: the cause. It seems like you had a reflection upon
Speaker 1: this in the time.
Speaker 2: You have a reflection upon this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's your reflection?
Speaker 2: It's not incorrect. When I mean everyone, I mean like
Speaker 2: the general general outside world, not like people who know
Speaker 2: me and people have been people who are around me.
Speaker 2: I don't know, man, I just feel like I have
Speaker 2: so many wonderful close relationships that I don't really go
Speaker 2: out into the world like showing interest in people unless
Speaker 2: they do something that kind of stands out to me.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, Okay, I want to be friends with you.
Speaker 2: And I feel like people don't like that. Like when
Speaker 2: I said I'm very nice, I want to revise that
Speaker 2: I'm very kind, you know, I'm not very nice, and
Speaker 2: they don't like that. And I'm like, well, I don't.
Speaker 2: I already have all these things going on for me.
Speaker 2: I don't really have the time or energy to try
Speaker 2: and be nice to you and trying to be friends
Speaker 2: with you. And you know, people read that as me
Speaker 2: being intense, and I can't really say that they're wrong.
Speaker 2: I can't say that I'm simply better than everyone. That's
Speaker 2: a bit much, you know. But also like not a
Speaker 2: lot of people like me, Like I work in a
Speaker 2: very social environment, Like I work somewhere with fourteen hundred
Speaker 2: employees and they're all like I like five of them, And.
Speaker 1: So what do you mean what do you mean by
Speaker 1: what do you mean when you say that you like
Speaker 1: the world at large, but you don't like you like
Speaker 1: people as an idea. You say you like the world
Speaker 1: at large, but you don't like the people you interact with.
Speaker 2: I don't recall saying that.
Speaker 1: Wait, you said something like, do you remember what you
Speaker 1: said something to that extent I.
Speaker 2: Said, Did I say something to that? I said, I said
Speaker 2: something like everyone.
Speaker 1: No, it was about it was about it was it
Speaker 1: about your being better than it was about like, this
Speaker 1: is a fuck. Well, we recorded it, so it's somewhere someone, someone,
Speaker 1: someone listening to this. Just skip back fifteen seconds, get
Speaker 1: back thirty seconds and tell us a week.
Speaker 2: Gets back fifteen Just get back thirty seconds and tell me.
Speaker 2: I'm right. You know it says it in there. I'm
Speaker 2: just always right.
Speaker 1: It's it's about Well, Okay, so you said something about
Speaker 1: so you don't like Okay, so you said you hate it.
Speaker 2: I don't like the world at large, like okay, I
Speaker 2: don't Okay, I hate everyone. I hate it is a
Speaker 2: strong word. But I don't really like the general public.
Speaker 2: You know, I feel like people are very nice, not
Speaker 2: very kind, and I don't like that. I don't think
Speaker 2: that people are very authentic, and I think it's quite
Speaker 2: difficult to come across people who are authentic and who
Speaker 2: are honest, because there's like this abundance of people pleasers,
Speaker 2: and you know, I just can't trust the people pleaser.
Speaker 2: I can only trust people who are like, very much
Speaker 2: straight up because I'm a very straight up person and
Speaker 2: sometimes that offends people. And if if you're a people pleaser,
Speaker 2: chances are I'm never going to know when it offends you,
Speaker 2: and You're just going to keep hanging out with me,
Speaker 2: and you're going to keep being smiley, and you know,
Speaker 2: eventually you're going to be like, eh, that thing that
Speaker 2: she said bothered me. And I'm like, well, you never
Speaker 2: you never said that it bothered you, So how are
Speaker 2: you supposed to know?
Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into this. Let's get into this and
Speaker 1: then I'll bring up the most recent text. But okay,
Speaker 1: so do you do you the status quo that you're
Speaker 1: describing of everyone thinks I'm mean and uh, I don't
Speaker 1: like anyone and all this stuff. Do you desire a
Speaker 1: change in that status quo? Or do you like this?
Speaker 2: Not necessarily because you know, I kind of feel like
Speaker 2: I've filter out people, and like I mentioned, I do
Speaker 2: have a very good community and I have very nice
Speaker 2: close relationships. So it's like it's almost like not not
Speaker 2: not really, you know, I feel like I people don't
Speaker 2: like me, but that's okay, because the only like, only
Speaker 2: cool people like me, you know, And I only think
Speaker 2: that the people that like me are cool. So it
Speaker 2: doesn't really matter.
Speaker 1: Why do you say that only cool people.
Speaker 2: Like you, because they're the only people that I think
Speaker 2: are cool.
Speaker 1: Cool, So tell me about the pole. Tell tell me
Speaker 1: about the people that like you.
Speaker 2: The people that like me are just the people who
Speaker 2: are well, I've been told that I'm an acquired taste also,
Speaker 2: so people like me are usually people who have been
Speaker 2: around me enough to kind of see me, just just
Speaker 2: see me more. I don't know how to answer that question.
Speaker 2: I just think they're cool. Well, they're all different in
Speaker 2: their own ways, but they're all pretty magical people. They're
Speaker 2: all pretty unique. They tend to be people who are
Speaker 2: way more real with themselves in the world around them.
Speaker 2: And you know, it's kind of people who are a
Speaker 2: little bit like me. They're a little bit more skeptical,
Speaker 2: I guess.
Speaker 1: So, okay, so it sounds like I mean, you're you're
Speaker 1: clearly pretty misanthropic. And so it sounds like you.
Speaker 2: I don't know what that word means. This is my
Speaker 2: second language.
Speaker 1: Misanthropic means like a general misanthropic means a general disdain
Speaker 1: for other people, like general disdain for people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there are some very wonderful people in the world,
Speaker 2: like I do. I make music, and a lot of
Speaker 2: times I meet people and instantly I'm like, Okay, you're awesome. Actually,
Speaker 2: but yeah, generally, yeah, I don't really like people.
Speaker 1: So you get along with other people who don't like.
Speaker 2: People pretty much? Yeah, pretty much.
Speaker 1: Do you feel Are you satisfied with your It sounds
Speaker 1: like you are. I mean, are you satisfied with your
Speaker 1: current relationships and community and whatnot.
Speaker 2: I'm pretty satisfied. Not gonna lie to you. Pretty satisfied.
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously we all have troubles in our relationships
Speaker 2: in life at some point with some people. But in general, yeah,
Speaker 2: I've been been pretty satisfied throughout my life with my people. Picker.
Speaker 1: All right, So you texted me yesterday and you said
Speaker 1: between my hometown being bombed, being cheated on by a
Speaker 1: man twenty two years older than me, being in a
Speaker 1: psych ward and finding new love just to say goodbye
Speaker 1: to her before she moves across the country. It is
Speaker 1: safe to say that I am spiraling. Okay, let's go.
Speaker 1: Why don't we do these one at a time.
Speaker 2: Let's do that. Actually I mentioned it in chronological order,
Speaker 2: so that works.
Speaker 1: Okay. Are you Iranian?
Speaker 2: Damn? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Oh really?
Speaker 2: Yep?
Speaker 1: What when was the last like? Where in Irani? Are
Speaker 1: You're from Tehran?
Speaker 2: I'm from Tyran. Yeah, I'm from the capitol.
Speaker 1: When the last time you were there?
Speaker 2: I moved here. My three year anniversary is coming up
Speaker 2: pretty quick. The last time that I was there was
Speaker 2: the summer of twenty twenty four, so it's it's been
Speaker 2: a minute.
Speaker 1: Wow mm hmmm.
Speaker 2: Yeah what uh?
Speaker 1: Did you grow up in tront I did? Yeah? How
Speaker 1: is your English an accent?
Speaker 2: So? I was raised bilingual? I was raised bilingual. My
Speaker 2: mom made it a point to speak English with me
Speaker 2: constantly so that I would know how to speak English.
Speaker 1: Is uh is your mom? But both your parents are Iranian?
Speaker 2: Both my parents are Iranian. But my mom and my
Speaker 2: grandparents on my mom's side are all like they've all
Speaker 2: lived in America at some point or another, and they're
Speaker 2: all like citizens.
Speaker 1: So okay, so this is all from your mom, Like
Speaker 1: you're like obviously, like when you didn't go to you
Speaker 1: didn't go to did you go You didn't go to
Speaker 1: like an international school or anything like that.
Speaker 2: So every school in Iran teaches English. And I did
Speaker 2: go to a very bougie French school.
Speaker 1: So okay, so you did. Yeah you did go to
Speaker 1: a bogie.
Speaker 3: In school.
Speaker 2: For like three years for not that long.
Speaker 1: But okay, yeah, yeah, m dude, what yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 2: Go ahead. And that was just a random on.
Speaker 1: Interesting. I want to go. I want to do a
Speaker 1: I want to do uh an Iran video. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I want to go right now. It is funny,
Speaker 1: I'm sure you know this, but like I I did it. Well,
Speaker 1: I did a video in Iraq and people think that
Speaker 1: I was went to Iran.
Speaker 2: Because it was so good.
Speaker 1: Oh hell yeah, hell yeah, hell well it's what I
Speaker 1: want to I don't say I'm sure you know this
Speaker 1: to say you know about the video, I say, sure
Speaker 1: you know this, Like people think I went to Iran
Speaker 1: because people think that they're the same country. Like I'm
Speaker 1: getting people being like, yeah, dude, it's crazy, it's crazy
Speaker 1: that you were there right before they started bombing it.
Speaker 1: I was like, this is a totally different place.
Speaker 2: Totally different place, but okay, you should go to Iran.
Speaker 2: I think you would absolutely love it. I think anyone
Speaker 2: who is watching this video should go to Iran because
Speaker 2: there is no danger or well probably not right now,
Speaker 2: like as it's being actively bombed. But it's such a
Speaker 2: beautiful place. It's a very inexpensive trip outside of your
Speaker 2: plane ticket obviously, and it's it's just beautiful, and there's
Speaker 2: such a wide range of things to do, Like there
Speaker 2: are islands in the south that are tropical and super fun,
Speaker 2: and then you can go to the north and you
Speaker 2: can scan snowboard and there are a lot of cool deserts,
Speaker 2: and there's a lot of ancient architecture and museums, and
Speaker 2: the people are just so nice and warm and inviting.
Speaker 2: It's great. It's great.
Speaker 1: That's cool. That's cool. Yeah, Well I can can you
Speaker 1: even like physically, well, you have a you have an
Speaker 1: Iranian passport, right m yes, so you can go. But
Speaker 1: like I can a random America even go right now?
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, you can. You can get a visa. I
Speaker 2: don't know about right now. Right now, I think that
Speaker 2: the flights are so closed, like I don't think anyone
Speaker 2: can get in and out right now. I know that
Speaker 2: my best friend lives in London and she just wanted
Speaker 2: to go back home because the mental pressure of not
Speaker 2: being around her family while they were being bombed was
Speaker 2: too much and she was like, I kind of want
Speaker 2: to be there if something happened.
Speaker 1: So that's also.
Speaker 2: And she went back. So she flied into Turkey and
Speaker 2: then her parents went, I'm picked here up from the
Speaker 2: border and drove her back. So you can't really fly
Speaker 2: in and out right now. But yeah, you can get
Speaker 2: a visa. You can just go. I would recommend if
Speaker 2: you have any kind of like if you have at
Speaker 2: any point worked for the government, or you've been like
Speaker 2: in the military, but.
Speaker 1: Anything else not done. I have super not done either
Speaker 1: of those things.
Speaker 2: Okay, then you're fine.
Speaker 1: The last real job I had was making gifts of
Speaker 1: Rick and Morty for Instagram.
Speaker 2: You're safe.
Speaker 1: That counts. If you're safe. What the hell is I
Speaker 1: gonna say? Okay, so do you do you have a
Speaker 1: lot of family back there?
Speaker 2: My whole family is back there. I moved here. My
Speaker 2: uncle's here, but I have my mom and my dad,
Speaker 2: my grandparents, my siblings who or five years old, all
Speaker 2: my friends. Yeah, everyone's background.
Speaker 1: M do you feel like you do you have the
Speaker 1: same because I've heard people like I talk to people
Speaker 1: in Ukraine where they're like, I don't want to leave
Speaker 1: because I don't want to, you know, be away from
Speaker 1: like you know, folks be in there while all those
Speaker 1: is happening. Like do you have that feeling too?
Speaker 2: You know, It's it's hard because of course I have
Speaker 2: that feeling. But also I'm here so that I can
Speaker 2: build a future for myself that is a little bit
Speaker 2: more stable, so that when my family decides to move
Speaker 2: back here, they'll have an easier time because again it's
Speaker 2: my grandparents who are old and can't work. It's my
Speaker 2: mom and then my two siblings who are, like I mentioned,
Speaker 2: five years old and also can't work. And I would
Speaker 2: like to be able to have a life that I can,
Speaker 2: you know, provide for them and ensure that they're comfortable
Speaker 2: because when I was so it's interesting Iran. The big
Speaker 2: cities are divided by districts, and Tehran is twenty two districts,
Speaker 2: and just like the Hunger Games, the higher the district number,
Speaker 2: like the smaller the number, the bougier it is, and
Speaker 2: I lived in District one, which was pretty bougie, and
Speaker 2: I lived in one of the best neighborhoods in District one,
Speaker 2: and you know, safe to say that I was a
Speaker 2: very very privileged person back home. But if you have money,
Speaker 2: it's old money. And the thing with old money is
Speaker 2: that runs out. And because of the currency rates and like.
Speaker 1: I've heard it's crazy the dollar.
Speaker 2: Being so expensive. Yeah, it's like an upper class person
Speaker 2: in America would be lucky if they were like middle
Speaker 2: class here sorry, in Iran, not not in America and Iran.
Speaker 1: And an upper class person oh oh, Like do you
Speaker 1: mean taking like Iranian dollars?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Is it Iran or Iran or I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: interchanged Iran.
Speaker 2: But you can say yeah Iranian.
Speaker 1: Okay, so if you take like us, so I okay,
Speaker 1: it's We had another caller on the podcast who also
Speaker 1: is from Iran, and he was talking about how like
Speaker 1: the fucking currency is so like it is like so
Speaker 1: shitty right now that like it's really it's like you
Speaker 1: lose money going to work because you have to like
Speaker 1: fill up your car or something like that. And so
Speaker 1: that's I mean, that's like when people start rioting, is
Speaker 1: what there's like nothing.
Speaker 2: To lose exactly. Yeah, and then so that's why, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: that's why this most recent bombing was so kind of
Speaker 2: conflicting because in January people were rioting dot com and
Speaker 2: the government killed like forty thousand people. Forty thousand people.
Speaker 1: And like a month it's insane.
Speaker 2: And you know, a lot of them were my friends
Speaker 2: and family, Like I have many many friends who were
Speaker 2: I think like eight I stopped counting, And like it's
Speaker 2: kind of hard to know because like internet's been down,
Speaker 2: phone lines have been down, you don't really have a
Speaker 2: way of communicating with people back home. Internet has recently
Speaker 2: started to get back up, but it's still pretty flaky.
Speaker 2: So after that, Trump was like I'm gonna bomb Iran
Speaker 2: blah blah blah blah blah. And then the people in
Speaker 2: Iran were like, fuck, yeah, we're retired of this government.
Speaker 2: We don't want this bullshit anymore. But like at the
Speaker 2: same time, I'm like, come on, you guys, like we
Speaker 2: can't be bombed for that. So when you are vocal
Speaker 2: about not wanting Iran to be bombed, or like when
Speaker 2: I post on my story that like, hey, we need
Speaker 2: to start we need to stop bombing my hometown. Like
Speaker 2: my friends from Iran like reply to my stories and
Speaker 2: I really like, not all of them clearly, but some
Speaker 2: of them like you're a leftist, blah blah blah, we
Speaker 2: want freedom, you are propaganda, And I'm like, no, I'm not,
Speaker 2: actually okay.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well it's it's its airmind me. It's it's like
Speaker 1: the Venezuela thing, where like essentially, well yeah, it's like
Speaker 1: the Venezuela thing where like, you know, Trump went in
Speaker 1: and just like it was like let's just go in
Speaker 1: there and like funck shit up or whatever, and they
Speaker 1: like it was like some people in Venezuela like it's
Speaker 1: a double edged sword because uh, we don't want you know,
Speaker 1: like you know, they freed us from the regime, but
Speaker 1: also like what the fuck can they just like do
Speaker 1: whatever Americans do whatever they want? You know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's conflicting.
Speaker 1: They killed the guy, though, so what's who's that guy?
Speaker 1: What's what they killed? What's the guys do?
Speaker 2: So in I I believe it was in the early seventies.
Speaker 2: Don't quote me. I'm not very great at a history.
Speaker 2: The Shah, which was the king of Iran, was overthrown
Speaker 2: by this guy named Homony, and he kind of named
Speaker 2: himself the Supreme Leader, so we have a Supreme Leader,
Speaker 2: and then we have presidents and then all the other stuff.
Speaker 2: And then when he died, he put this other guy
Speaker 2: in charge called Homine, which is different person, similar name.
Speaker 2: And then this guy was a Supreme leader until they
Speaker 2: killed him, and then Iran and they put another Supreme
Speaker 2: leader in place, and he was dead within the day,
Speaker 2: like he got like he was in place in the
Speaker 2: morning and they killed him by three pm, which was
Speaker 2: so funny to me. And then they put the Hominity
Speaker 2: guy is son in charge, so he's in charge now,
Speaker 2: and yeah, yeah, we have a new person in charge.
Speaker 1: M people like better person.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no one likes any of these people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess it's not. Yeah, I mean it is
Speaker 1: kind of like ridiculous to assume that like just because
Speaker 1: like you get rid of the person at top, that
Speaker 1: like they're not just gonna like they're immediately going to
Speaker 1: be replaced with like someone who's like you know what,
Speaker 1: let's just like be chill, right, But that's so like
Speaker 1: the idea of like it is fucking crazy. The idea
Speaker 1: that like the government, like the government is just like
Speaker 1: sending armies just like a kid slaughter fucking citizens in
Speaker 1: the streets. Like that's insane.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you a story. So my mom has
Speaker 2: this friend and one day my mom calls me is
Speaker 2: she's like, my friends son who's fifteen years old, was
Speaker 2: in a park with twenty five of his classmates. So
Speaker 2: twenty five fifteen year old boy, yez. And they were
Speaker 2: in this park and they start like chanting Empire regime stuff,
Speaker 2: and this truck with a machine gun on the back
Speaker 2: drives by and.
Speaker 1: Kills you.
Speaker 2: Right, I know, I know, trigger warning too late.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, yea, jeez. This is horrible. When was that?
Speaker 3: This is like in January Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1: It's so awful because like I because also like it's
Speaker 1: fucking so awful because I mean, you go to like
Speaker 1: when I went to Iraq, it was like this is
Speaker 1: just this. It was it's like they just ran like
Speaker 1: it is true, like just random fucking but like like
Speaker 1: everyone like those also like those kids like being fifteen
Speaker 1: and like shouting like anti regime stuff. It's like you,
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I mean, maybe I'm not giving
Speaker 1: fifteen year olds enough credit, but it's like they're just
Speaker 1: like they're not even they're not even like they're just
Speaker 1: like being kids. They're just like, yeah, being rowdy kids,
Speaker 1: just being kids. That's so fucking crazy.
Speaker 2: Damn, I know it's pretty crazy. It's yeah, so you know,
Speaker 2: it's kind of a lot to sit with the processed.
Speaker 1: But do you want to talk about uh, the this,
Speaker 1: this older guy. I have your list in front of me.
Speaker 2: I can talk about the older guy, So I am
Speaker 2: it's strange. I am just simply not attracted to men
Speaker 2: who are not twice my age essentially, like oh a boy,
Speaker 2: I'm I'm twenty one. Get yeah, I'm twenty one. But
Speaker 2: it's like I can see a boy in his twenties
Speaker 2: and I can appeat and I appreciate, like, oh yeah,
Speaker 2: you're you're a handsome young man, right, and then as
Speaker 2: soon as they start talking to me, I'm like, please stop,
Speaker 2: please don't talk to me at all. Like all my all,
Speaker 2: my all my friends who are my age are girls,
Speaker 2: and most of my friends are pretty like quite a
Speaker 2: bit older than me, like thirty five to forty five
Speaker 2: years old, and even they are mostly women. I just yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I just don't super yet along with men. But anyway, yeah,
Speaker 2: I was into this guy who is forty two at
Speaker 2: the time. I was twenty at the time, and we
Speaker 2: work together and we are hanging out with a lot
Speaker 2: of the same people because again, my friends are usually
Speaker 2: older than me, and we're start hanging out. He's clearly
Speaker 2: into me. I'm clearly into him. We end up having sex,
Speaker 2: and then we're still hanging out and being friends and
Speaker 2: being in these spaces with all these people, and then
Speaker 2: we start kind of having sex regularly, and we start
Speaker 2: hanging out with each other more and I do seasonal work.
Speaker 2: I'm a snowboard instructor, and after the season ended, we
Speaker 2: kept hanging out and it was kind of a it
Speaker 2: was kind of a friends of benefits situation, but it
Speaker 2: was pretty exclusive. I mean, we were also with other people,
Speaker 2: but it was kind of like communicated I was with anyway.
Speaker 2: I was being a little bit more. I was just
Speaker 2: seeing more people than he was really But then at
Speaker 2: some point I wanted to kind of close it up.
Speaker 2: You know, I catch feelings for this guy because I'm
Speaker 2: twenty one, and he agrees to be in a relationship
Speaker 2: with me, and like a week after the like we
Speaker 2: were like, okay, we're in a relationship. He picks me
Speaker 2: up one day and he's twenty minutes late to picking
Speaker 2: me up, which is very odd because he's always on time,
Speaker 2: but I didn't question it because you know, sometimes it happens.
Speaker 2: He picks me up and we go and we hang
Speaker 2: out with our friends, and then as we're driving back home,
Speaker 2: he's like, by the way, I had a random hookup today.
Speaker 2: And I was like, what are you talking about? What
Speaker 2: random hookup did you have? And he's like, I was
Speaker 2: ubering this morning because he used to uber whenever he
Speaker 2: wasn't like working, and I picked up this woman and
Speaker 2: we hooked up, and I was like, are you kidding me? Well,
Speaker 2: this is the whole story. Okay, this is what happened
Speaker 2: that I didn't know. He picks up this woman, right,
Speaker 2: this woman apparently this woman asks him out to breakfast.
Speaker 2: They go have breakfast, they go back to his house.
Speaker 2: By the way, his house is like it's two separate units,
Speaker 2: and the upstairs unit he rents out as an Airbnb,
Speaker 2: and then the downstairs unit he was renovating it.
Speaker 1: But wait, he picks the time. He picks up a
Speaker 1: woman an uber and then takes her to his house.
Speaker 2: Listen, listen the downstairs unit was being renovated, and at
Speaker 2: the time it was still a garage, Like you could
Speaker 2: still clearly tell that this is a garage. So he
Speaker 2: takes her to his garage and this woman goes and
Speaker 2: then they have sex. And then this woman is like,
Speaker 2: my car is impounded or whatever. Can you take me
Speaker 2: to go grab my car or I don't know, some
Speaker 2: bullshit like that.
Speaker 1: I wasn't there.
Speaker 2: I hope, so, I hope so well. I guess she
Speaker 2: was paying him in other ways. But anyway, he takes
Speaker 2: her to get her car situation, whatever, and then takes
Speaker 2: her back home for a second time. And this lady
Speaker 2: sleeps for four hours in this random man's garage.
Speaker 4: Like I don't I don't know about the general public,
Speaker 4: I as a woman wouldn't trust.
Speaker 2: To go into someone's garage and have sex with them,
Speaker 2: but then to nap there for four hours, you know,
Speaker 2: like that that can't be smart or safe to do generally.
Speaker 2: And then he goes to drive her home, which is
Speaker 2: why he was twenty minutes late to picking me up.
Speaker 2: And the fucked up part is that when she was
Speaker 2: sleeping in the bed that I was sleeping in like
Speaker 2: two days ago, he calls me and he's talking to
Speaker 2: me as if he had a totally normal day while
Speaker 2: this chick is sleeping there, and I'm like, oh, oh,
Speaker 2: you know that's pretty gross. And you know what the
Speaker 2: grossest part is, let me tell you this.
Speaker 5: Okay, when he and I were hanging out before he
Speaker 5: told me, he gives me a kiss and I kind
Speaker 5: of just look at him for a second and I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, you smell off, and he's like, I didn't brush
Speaker 2: my teeth, and I was like, m I don't know, man,
Speaker 2: I wake up next to you quite frequently, Like I
Speaker 2: know what it smells like when you don't brush your teeth.
Speaker 2: This man straight up smelled like koochie, Like I could
Speaker 2: literally smell this woman on his breast, and.
Speaker 1: It was while, what is it where you're loved? Why
Speaker 1: do you think you only want to go out with
Speaker 1: guys who are twice your age? Like what is that?
Speaker 2: I don't know what it is, man, I really don't.
Speaker 2: I think it's kind of well, it's the perspective. I'm
Speaker 2: just a little freaky, and I don't know. I guess
Speaker 2: it's I like it when people are a little bit
Speaker 2: more settled into the person that they are Oh, sure,
Speaker 2: you know, because I feel like I'm like that. Yes,
Speaker 2: I'm twenty one, and I have a lot of change
Speaker 2: to go through, but I think I've always had a
Speaker 2: pretty strong sense of self and I'm attracted to that
Speaker 2: and people and that just happens to be people who
Speaker 2: are a little bit older.
Speaker 1: So you feel like you do you feel you're twenty one? Okay?
Speaker 1: So like have you do you feel like you've changed
Speaker 1: at all since you were?
Speaker 2: Of course? Yeah, yeah, of course I think that in essence,
Speaker 2: I'm the same person. I think I love the same
Speaker 2: things and I have the same values, but I think
Speaker 2: that my outlook has changed. Especially Here's another story that
Speaker 2: I'm not going to get deep into because it's a
Speaker 2: it's a long one and I don't like to dwell
Speaker 2: on it too much. But I was engaged to this
Speaker 2: guy who was again older than me. This was not
Speaker 2: like an arranged thing. This, yeah, it's not an arranged thing.
Speaker 2: My parents actually hated him. And then like two weeks
Speaker 2: before my wedding, I find out that he was married already.
Speaker 1: Whoa, yeah, what's the what's the plan there? What the hell?
Speaker 1: What's the plan?
Speaker 2: I didn't ask too many questions. I didn't ask too
Speaker 2: many questions to be honest with you, Like I kind
Speaker 2: of was like, all right, well bye, you know, I
Speaker 2: kind of just left the country.
Speaker 1: That's this is in Iran. Mm hmmm is that yeah, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is an angering question. But I'm gonna ask you,
Speaker 1: is that like a thing.
Speaker 2: There like stating older?
Speaker 1: No, like having multiple wives.
Speaker 2: I mean, by law, you can have multiple wives, but
Speaker 2: it's not like you can just go about it willy nilly,
Speaker 2: Like there's a whole legal process for it and like
Speaker 2: you have to consent and all of that. But it's
Speaker 2: not practiced. No, it's not practice. It's just there are
Speaker 2: a lot of things that are law but aren't practiced.
Speaker 2: Like alcohol is illegal. We is illegal, but you know,
Speaker 2: premarital sex is illegal. But in a war, I like
Speaker 2: to say, in a world where everything is illegal, nothing
Speaker 2: is yeah, very much accessible.
Speaker 1: When I was in Iraq, I kind of I couldn't
Speaker 1: tell what the deal was with alcohol because like you
Speaker 1: could say, because like people drink, but like you can't
Speaker 1: like go into a store and buy it anywhere.
Speaker 2: Yeap. Yeah, I have maybe fifty contacts not exaggerating in
Speaker 2: my phone whose job is to bring me whatever My
Speaker 2: heart made it desire and like if the if person
Speaker 2: number one is an hour away, person number two will
Speaker 2: be twenty minutes away.
Speaker 1: If you get caught at alcohol today, do you get
Speaker 1: in trouble?
Speaker 2: I mean again, by law, you're supposed to get in trouble,
Speaker 2: but bribery is very common, so you either bribe them
Speaker 2: with money or you like just give them a bottle.
Speaker 2: Like I was. I was driving with one of my
Speaker 2: friends one day and this was a new friend and
Speaker 2: he happened to be in the business of selling marijuana.
Speaker 2: And one day the cops pull us over and they
Speaker 2: stick their head in the car and they're like, it's
Speaker 2: most like we did here. And homeboy tells me to
Speaker 2: open up his glove box and I open it up
Speaker 2: and just big ass bag of weed just plops down,
Speaker 2: like big ass bag of weed. And he literally just
Speaker 2: hands it to them and they're like, have a.
Speaker 1: What's your name again? My name is gandal gand.
Speaker 2: Hmmm yeah. But anyway, that's not even the cheating that
Speaker 2: led me to after he cheated on me, we're talking
Speaker 2: about the current guy. After he cheated on me, he
Speaker 2: really was insistent of keeping me around, and I was like, hey, man,
Speaker 2: We're going to be working together this weekend not weekend, sorry,
Speaker 2: this winter, and I'm going to be seeing you and
Speaker 2: it's going to be really fucking hard for me to
Speaker 2: be around you unless you give me some space so
Speaker 2: that I can process what the fuck has happened. Oh
Speaker 2: by the way, the day after I find out about
Speaker 2: this chick, I call her and I'm like, hey, just
Speaker 2: so you know, like not mad at you, this person's
Speaker 2: in a relationship, and she.
Speaker 3: Was like, oh my god, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2: And the day after that she texts him and asks
Speaker 2: to borrow forty dollars. So like at that point, I'm like, like,
Speaker 2: who are you even cheating on me with? Like this
Speaker 2: person is just like not to judge her, I don't
Speaker 2: know who this person is. But also, come on.
Speaker 1: Agen, sorry, I almost called you, Gandalf. Can you give
Speaker 1: me your name again?
Speaker 2: My name Tigert works, says Gandalf, so that's also acceptable.
Speaker 1: But your name, says Gandalf. All right, if Gandalf is acceptable, Odal.
Speaker 2: Go for it.
Speaker 1: It's acceptable, Gandalf. Well, Gandalf, I appreciate you away sharing
Speaker 1: all this stuff with us.
Speaker 2: Of course.
Speaker 1: Hm hmmm, do you feel like you got what you
Speaker 1: desired out of this phone call or do you feel
Speaker 1: like do you feel like you feel like there's anything
Speaker 1: more that you wanted to talk through?
Speaker 2: You know, there's so much more. But also you know,
Speaker 2: no matter how much I.
Speaker 3: Go on, there will always be more, of course, So yeah.
Speaker 1: Hm hm hmm, gandalf, I think you know, I get
Speaker 1: why you don't like people. I get why you don't
Speaker 1: like people. Right, Also, uh, but you do you? I
Speaker 1: assume you texted me because you listen to the podcast.
Speaker 1: I do, Yeah, I've had The podcast is about people.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't, well, this this podcast is not
Speaker 1: about like liking people necessarily, and and I don't think that. Uh,
Speaker 1: it's more about I feel like it's more about observe.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's it attracts people who are interested
Speaker 1: in more so observing human thought and behavior rather than
Speaker 1: you know, because they love people so much. But when
Speaker 1: you listen to the show, are you do you do
Speaker 1: you like hate the callers all the time?
Speaker 2: No? No, not all the time. I mean there was
Speaker 2: one guy who I saw had very questionable morals, the
Speaker 2: Pegasus guy.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, yeah, the was the most recent one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I was like, okay, man, maybe the problem
Speaker 2: is within yourself anyway, no offense. True, you're great.
Speaker 1: But oh you remember his damn name.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was very it was interesting. It was an
Speaker 2: interesting one. That was a fun one.
Speaker 1: Gandalf, is there is there anything else you want to
Speaker 1: say to the people of the computer before we go.
Speaker 2: To be honest with yourself and with the people around you,
Speaker 2: even if it's scary, because it kind of sucks to
Speaker 2: be a deceiving person.
Speaker 1: Calling Gandolf I'll uh, I'll see you in the universe
Speaker 1: sounds good bye bye bye bye. Hello, folks, what's going on?
Speaker 1: It's Lyle the Gecko person guy thing. I just woke up.
Speaker 1: I'm a little sleepy. I'm a bit of a sleepy guy,
Speaker 1: and I'm I'm gonna roll with it. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: judge it. I'm not gonna fight it. I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: a I'm gonna dive into the sleepiness. I'm gonna call
Speaker 1: this a sleepy gek mail. Okay, this is gek mail.
Speaker 1: By the way, this is a segment of the podcast
Speaker 1: where I read viewer mail that people have sent me
Speaker 1: to the email address therapy Gecko mail at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: These are these are real emails from real people. Probably
Speaker 1: they could be bots, but I don't think they are.
Speaker 1: I think these are real people. I hope they're real people.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm actually, you know, I'm one hundred percent sure
Speaker 1: that they're real people. Except for except for this one
Speaker 1: right here, which says, uh, there's a new log into
Speaker 1: your it's your X account on Mac. That's not a
Speaker 1: real person. I don't think a person physically typed that email.
Speaker 1: Your Google password has changed, that's not a real person.
Speaker 1: But then, but other than that, these are all emails
Speaker 1: from real people. I'll read one or two, maybe three,
Speaker 1: probably one or two, maybe three. Usually when you say maybe,
Speaker 1: when you say maybe, it's a usually like seventy percent
Speaker 1: that it's a yes. This is an actual maybe. There
Speaker 1: needs to be a word between know and maybe. That
Speaker 1: means closer to know than it does to yes, because
Speaker 1: it's almost this maybe you kinda they kind of lean
Speaker 1: towards yes.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: Maybe is usually close to a probably maybe and probably
Speaker 1: are too similar. Probably is closer to yes than maybe.
Speaker 1: But once what's what's the probably of no? Probably is
Speaker 1: the maybe of yes, But I want the whatever, the
Speaker 1: probably whatever. The maybe of no is is the chance
Speaker 1: that I'll read a third gek mail. I'm gonna dive
Speaker 1: into the sleepiness. I'm gonna see where it takes me.
Speaker 1: Well anyway, Okay, yeah, these are these are emails that
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read. If you want to send a gek mail,
Speaker 1: you can send one to Therapy Gecko mail at Gmail.
Speaker 1: But otherwise let's read to read some gek males. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is from Madison, subject line Limerens sucks Balls. Just
Speaker 1: wanted to start by saying how big of a fan
Speaker 1: I am of the podcast. I started casually listening to
Speaker 1: you around the beginning of COVID. I really got roped
Speaker 1: into being a regular listener when that guy called in
Speaker 1: to talk about train hopping across the states. Shout out
Speaker 1: to our train hopping homie. Anyway, I wanted to talk
Speaker 1: about out painful limerences Idkay if you've ever experienced this yourself,
Speaker 1: but it's super painful and draining. I've been dealing with
Speaker 1: it since I was a child. Apparently it can be
Speaker 1: caused by autism or childhood trauma. I've been in a
Speaker 1: long term relationship for the past few years, but I
Speaker 1: haven't been happy since the first year. We have lived together.
Speaker 1: For a couple of years now. We broke up briefly
Speaker 1: last November, but we ended up getting back together. It's
Speaker 1: complicated because he's my best friend and I love him deeply,
Speaker 1: but I'm not in love with him. This seems to
Speaker 1: be a consistent problem in my relationships, where I confuse
Speaker 1: deep love for romantic love. Interesting deep love and romantic love.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure if I fully understand the difference. Maybe
Speaker 1: she explains it. I have developed limerens for other people
Speaker 1: three times throughout this relationship, and I feel like a
Speaker 1: horrible person. I haven't cheated on him, but I developed
Speaker 1: feelings for other people in a way that I feel it.
Speaker 1: I don't fully understand why I don't feel romantic or
Speaker 1: physical attraction to him, because he's a really cool person. Okay,
Speaker 1: deep love is like okay, romantic love seems like it's yes.
Speaker 1: Romantic love by this person's definition is more about sort
Speaker 1: of physical attraction. It seems pheromones and what have you.
Speaker 1: I've realized I need to stop settling for people, and
Speaker 1: then I have some issues I need to work on
Speaker 1: in therapy. I will be ending my relationship soon out
Speaker 1: of respect for him. He deserves to be fully loved
Speaker 1: by someone and I no longer want to waste his
Speaker 1: or my time. I am going to be thirty this
Speaker 1: year and it's time to get my shit together. I
Speaker 1: will likely be crashing on my brother's couch because I
Speaker 1: have nowhere else to go. The cost of living is
Speaker 1: absolutely fried in Ontario, so I can't afford my own place.
Speaker 1: I haven't talked to my mom in a few years.
Speaker 1: My dad is not really around very often are able
Speaker 1: to help me. I am thankful to have my brother
Speaker 1: at least, as well as some amazing friends, but I
Speaker 1: feel alone. I feel scared, but I know it's the
Speaker 1: right thing to do. My life is going to be
Speaker 1: challenging soon, as I'm also currently working part time and
Speaker 1: doing a trades program to hopefully get a better job.
Speaker 1: So wish me good luck. Good luck. I am hoping
Speaker 1: to grow as a person from this whole experience. I
Speaker 1: don't think there's really any advice you can give me,
Speaker 1: but I just wanted to rant about this. Sorry if
Speaker 1: that was a hard read, I have raging adhd. Thanks
Speaker 1: for reading. By the way, I will be coming to
Speaker 1: your Toronto show later this year. Thank you, Madison. I'm
Speaker 1: pretty stoked. Love you. Ghek Madison, HM, I don't I
Speaker 1: don't really have well, I don't, I don't really have advice.
Speaker 1: A lot a lot of reading these emails is a
Speaker 1: little bit more about pondering that it is about advice, suppose.
Speaker 1: But I don't think you should feel like a horrible person.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think you did the right thing by
Speaker 1: breaking up with this person because and by the way,
Speaker 1: I empathize with that feeling. I think. I think that's
Speaker 1: a common feeling that people have, where they feel a
Speaker 1: strong connection with someone and a deep love for them.
Speaker 1: But yes, not a like someone They're like, I'm not
Speaker 1: that physically attracted to you or romantically attracted to you,
Speaker 1: but I feel a deep love for you. Is a
Speaker 1: common feeling that I think people have because I think
Speaker 1: people I think love is a very complicated thing and
Speaker 1: that it kind of comes from a lot of different
Speaker 1: places in the gut and ideally, I I don't know,
Speaker 1: though I'm truly not a relationship expert by any means,
Speaker 1: but I don't know. Love is weird, Like you feel
Speaker 1: it in many different places. You feel it in your heart,
Speaker 1: your brain, your balls, girl balls, boy balls, whatever you got.
Speaker 1: You feel it sometimes in different. Sometimes you feel it
Speaker 1: in certain parts of your bodies. Sometimes you feel another
Speaker 1: parts of your body, but you don't feel it in
Speaker 1: other parts of your body. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But you have to kind of decide. That's I think
Speaker 1: the thing is, you have to kind of decide, like,
Speaker 1: do I feel it enough and enough of my body
Speaker 1: and the parts of my body that I want to
Speaker 1: feel it in to be in a relationship and sound
Speaker 1: it sounds like you didn't and so and so you
Speaker 1: let him go, but you're developing feelings for other people
Speaker 1: you don't get to feel like a horrible part is that.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think you did again. You did the
Speaker 1: right thing, so you know. But the fact that you
Speaker 1: have the capacity to develop these feelings with these other
Speaker 1: people means.
Speaker 2: That you are.
Speaker 1: It means that.
Speaker 2: You are.
Speaker 1: Capable of feeling these feelings, which is a good sign.
Speaker 1: So I think that there is hope for you in
Speaker 1: the romantic realm of your life to find someone that
Speaker 1: you can have a ragingly good life with. Sorry, I'm
Speaker 1: staring at the word raging. The only time I hear
Speaker 1: raging usually you said you said I got raging ad
Speaker 1: h D. Usually the last the last time I hear
Speaker 1: the word raging, it's usually like a raging boner. That's
Speaker 1: not that's not me trying to be funny. That's just
Speaker 1: I'm saying every thought that comes to my head. I'll
Speaker 1: see you at the Toronto Show. I'm excited for that.
Speaker 1: That'll be good. M hm m hmm. You're doing a
Speaker 1: trades program? What kind of trade? When someone says they're
Speaker 1: doing a trade program, they mean they usually mean like
Speaker 1: plumbing or electric or something. They're never never now that
Speaker 1: they're like trading things, you know what I mean? That's
Speaker 1: not what that means. This person has a hotmail email address.
Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't say that. I mean, it doesn't really matter.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's an identifying detail. Do they still
Speaker 1: do Hotmail? I want to go to hotmail? What happens
Speaker 1: if you go to hotmail dot COM's so, what happens
Speaker 1: if you go to hotmail dot com? Let's find out?
Speaker 1: Are they still doing hotmail? Okay? It takes you to outlook? Okay.
Speaker 1: Outlook is the same thing as hotmail. Let's do one more. Okay.
Speaker 1: Then maybe that's why I needed a maybe that leans
Speaker 1: towards no, that's why I needed a maybe that leans
Speaker 1: towards no, because I had a feeling. Okay, let's do
Speaker 1: one more. This is from Chris somepartic line just hello.
Speaker 1: That's when. That's when enticed me about this email is
Speaker 1: that it kind of gave itself away and the subject
Speaker 1: we knew. We knew from the start what we were
Speaker 1: getting into. Great Gecko, how's it going? Love? The episode
Speaker 1: with Papa Gecko. Hold on my I have my my
Speaker 1: alarm going off. Let me. I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: know what I set that alarm for. I think I
Speaker 1: set that alarm for me to do this, but I'm
Speaker 1: already doing it, So hold on what Okay? All right,
Speaker 1: We're good. Great Gecko, how's it going? Love? The episode
Speaker 1: with Papa Gecko. Shout out to my dad. Man, what
Speaker 1: a great guy he is. What a great dad he
Speaker 1: must have been for you. He's a great dad. Look,
Speaker 1: I'm always looking over the fence seeing if grass is
Speaker 1: any greener anywhere. Ooh, looking over the fence. That's a
Speaker 1: good expression for that. I see that, I see what
Speaker 1: you mean, I see what you did there. I like that.
Speaker 1: I'm also learning to be happy with what I have.
Speaker 1: I keep seeing things on the internet of people with
Speaker 1: really well organized shops that are DIY kind of dudes.
Speaker 1: I'm really jealous because my garage doesn't look like theirs
Speaker 1: and they're handy and I'm not. Hey Gak. Just finished
Speaker 1: the episode. What okay, this is Okay? You didn't okay,
Speaker 1: huh okay, Okay, they said Hey Gek again, but they
Speaker 1: there is new information. They didn't just copy and paste
Speaker 1: the email twice. Okay, I'm gonna read it as I'm
Speaker 1: gonna fix this email for you guys. It says hey
Speaker 1: Gak okay Okay. Also instead of hey GEK. Sorry, I
Speaker 1: know this is I'm being confusing right now. Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: jealous because my garage doesn't look like theirs and they're
Speaker 1: handy and I'm not. I also just finished the episode
Speaker 1: where the caller was talking about having an affair with
Speaker 1: her ex while married. First off, I'm glad you were
Speaker 1: able to help her see things clearly. I remember her.
Speaker 1: I'm having trouble with understanding why people are so quick
Speaker 1: to give up on their partners. Granted there were some
Speaker 1: certain circumstances for her family being the biggest issue, it
Speaker 1: sounded like I don't like the thought of my wife
Speaker 1: just not liking me anymore or wanting to cheat for
Speaker 1: a little to get back. Help me understand why you
Speaker 1: went straight to dump your husband and live life. Why
Speaker 1: not try to work on it? Kids in early generations
Speaker 1: are going to be messed up because moms and dan
Speaker 1: moms and dads just quit marriage when it gets hard. Thanks.
Speaker 1: Sorry for the long email, Chris. It is true. I
Speaker 1: think people in this generation give up on uh relationships
Speaker 1: more than the previous generation. I don't. I mean, And
Speaker 1: there's the why I mean, I don't. Our generation is
Speaker 1: more optionality ultimately, I think is why you know, I
Speaker 1: mean like there's a whether we just have more information,
Speaker 1: we have more knowledge of or I or or or
Speaker 1: perceived doledge I guess of what's out there. But it
Speaker 1: is a tough thing because you you ultimately are always
Speaker 1: going to find like what like if you have a
Speaker 1: if you're in a thing and it has problems, you're
Speaker 1: just going to jump into another thing that also has problems.
Speaker 1: So it's really just about which problems you feel like
Speaker 1: you can stomach, you know. I think if you just
Speaker 1: don't like someone anymore, should you stay in a relationship
Speaker 1: with that person? Probably not? I think liking someone is
Speaker 1: a it's kind of a bare minimum reason to be
Speaker 1: with them, you know, looking over the fence, seeing if
Speaker 1: the grass is greener anywhere. That's another thing. Some people
Speaker 1: are also always looking over the fence. I like that express.
Speaker 1: I'm not thinking about that over the fence. I look
Speaker 1: over the fence sometimes sometimes I'm like, oh, not not well,
Speaker 1: Actually you're looking at garages, so you're looking into the
Speaker 1: garage more than over the fence. Do Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I guess that's why. That's why you know people people
Speaker 1: do that? Is it should you try to work on
Speaker 1: these I don't think. I don't think. I don't believe
Speaker 1: in like, oh, you should always stay in a relationship
Speaker 1: that's making you unhappy. But I do think you should.
Speaker 1: People should recognize I don't think I think people should
Speaker 1: recognize it or it will always be some sort of problem,
Speaker 1: you know. I think if you're looking for something perfect,
Speaker 1: you're it's not good. It's not gonna exist right, Like,
Speaker 1: there's always gonna be problems. I think maybe maybe that
Speaker 1: I think that's the problem with younger generations more than
Speaker 1: it is that they're always leaving. Is it's that they
Speaker 1: maybe don't recognize is that you have to like. It's
Speaker 1: one thing if you come to the decision that you're
Speaker 1: like I can't handle these specific problems, but it's another
Speaker 1: thing to be like I will eventually find a perfect
Speaker 1: person that's different. You know, you have to abandon that
Speaker 1: fantasy and again, just try to find someone who you
Speaker 1: can you can deal with the problems. Thanks for sending
Speaker 1: this email, Chris.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 1: They also wrote thanks sorry for the long email. That's
Speaker 1: a suit. This is a super short email. It's not
Speaker 1: a long email at all. You don't have to be
Speaker 1: sorry for anything, Chris. Folks, that was gek mail again,
Speaker 1: if you want to send a gek mail. So this
Speaker 1: is why I needed the not the no. Maybe because
Speaker 1: we're done. We did two gek mails, but I had fun.
Speaker 1: I had fun doing these gek mails. I'm very sleepy.
Speaker 1: I just got back from Japan. I'm jet lagged as hell.
Speaker 1: I gotta run over to California soon because I'm doing
Speaker 1: a show in San Diego on May third at American
Speaker 1: Comedy Company, and then another show in Los Angeles on
Speaker 1: May sixth as part of the Netflix's Joke Festival at
Speaker 1: the Masonic Lodge. If you live in either of those
Speaker 1: two places. You can get tickets right now at therapy
Speaker 1: geckotour dot com. It'd be great to see you. That's it.
Speaker 1: I don't have anything else to plug. I did it
Speaker 1: premiere last night for my Ukraine documentary. That was really
Speaker 1: that was really fun. We're gonna post the full thing,
Speaker 1: I believe on Monday, YouTube dot com, slash Lyle Forever.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna leave you guys there, but I'll be back
Speaker 1: on Sunday with another episode of the Therapy Eco podcast.
Speaker 1: I read every Spotify comment. I'm insane, so hit me up,
Speaker 1: let me know what's good. Thank you guys. Get bless
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