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Speaker 1: It is time now for today Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,

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Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com.

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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now, and you never know

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Speaker 1: it could be yours. That's right, yours, yours. Buckle up

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter, thanking few subjects. I know

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Speaker 1: what I heard, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty nine

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Speaker 1: year old woman married to a fifty two year old man.

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Speaker 1: We've been married twelve years and we have four kids.

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Speaker 1: I have one child from a previous relationship and he

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Speaker 1: has three kids from three different women. We had to

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Speaker 1: for years. Now that that's all under control, I feel

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Speaker 1: like he's cheating on me, and I'm pretty sure I

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Speaker 1: up from work on Tuesday and we stopped to have

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Speaker 1: a glass of wine before we got home with the kids.

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Speaker 1: He ignored me the entire time and kept on watching

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Speaker 1: something on his phone. We got back in his car

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Speaker 1: and he plugged his phone up to change it to

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Speaker 1: charge it. Whatever he'd been watching at the bar was

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Speaker 1: a woman definitely called his name. He started sweating bullets

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Speaker 1: and fumbling with his phone. I calmed him down by

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Speaker 1: it go. He was quiet as a church mouse all evening,

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Speaker 1: and after I'd had my shower, I went to talk

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Speaker 1: to him. He swears it wasn't him on that video,

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Speaker 1: and whatever that was that I heard, whatever that was

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Speaker 1: that I heard. He handed over his phone and I

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Speaker 1: went through the photos, the videos, and I checked his

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Speaker 1: Internet search history, which had already he had already delete it.

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Speaker 1: I should have confronted him sooner, because he had time

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Speaker 1: to get his blank together, his sugar honey iced tea together.

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Speaker 1: I told him to let me keep his phone for

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Speaker 1: twenty four hours, and he said, there's no way that

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Speaker 1: will ever happen. I know I heard his voice and

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Speaker 1: a female calling his name. If he's innocent, then why

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Speaker 1: can't he give me his phone for a day and

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Speaker 1: get this. He put a passcode on his phone? Am

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Speaker 1: I crazy? Or is he up to something? Please advise? Oh,

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Speaker 1: come come on now, really, you already know what this is.

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Speaker 1: You already know what it is. You heard it with

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Speaker 1: your own ears. You dropped the ball because you didn't

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Speaker 1: address it immediately, and you gave him time to delete

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Speaker 1: his search history and everything. So if it was proof

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Speaker 1: that you needed, well that's over. That's gone. And yes,

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Speaker 1: you are crazy if you think he or any man,

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Speaker 1: up and he certainly won't give it to you if

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Speaker 1: he's guilty of cheating. Come on, so you gotta let

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Speaker 1: that go. It's not gonna happen. It's not about him

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Speaker 1: giving you his phone now. The damage has been done anyway.

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Speaker 1: I just can't believe that he was stupid enough to

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Speaker 1: or whatever. He was watching and ignoring you at the club.

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Speaker 1: No wonder he was ignoring you though, No wonder he was.

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Speaker 1: It was some action going down on his phone. You

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Speaker 1: heard it, You heard it, You had him red handed.

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Speaker 1: You let it slip out of your hands. You knew

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Speaker 1: that was him on the tape, and like you said,

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Speaker 1: you know what you heard. He can't explain or lie

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Speaker 1: his way out of this one because you heard him

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Speaker 1: So what are you gonna do with the trust is broken?

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Speaker 1: I mean, can you forgive him? Is this a deal

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Speaker 1: breaker for him? Can you continue to be married to him?

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Speaker 1: Knowing what you heard? Knowing what you know? How do

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Speaker 1: you plan to move on from this? I mean, I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna tell you to leave him. This decision is

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Speaker 1: the facts. Now do what you're gonna do, Steve. I

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Speaker 1: I feel like he's cheating on me. And here's the

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Speaker 1: he's cheating on me, and I'm pretty sure I heard

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Speaker 1: him having sex with another woman. God, dog, Now dog,

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Speaker 1: that's rale right there. That's rale when they I'm pretty

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Speaker 1: sure I heard him having sex, so that means there's

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Speaker 1: right here. So he picked you up from work on Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: Then y'all stopped to have a glass of wine for

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Speaker 1: y'all got home. He ignored you the whole time and

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Speaker 1: the car, he plugged his phone up to charge it.

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Speaker 1: Now this is how I know how dangerous this is.

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Speaker 1: Because I was riding with my guy the other day

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Speaker 1: and I plugged my phone in. As loud as I

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Speaker 1: plugged my phone in, everything was on the screen. Oh

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Speaker 1: who I was talking to? And everything now wasn't up

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Speaker 1: to nothing. I'm in my car would my driver, and

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Speaker 1: my stuff is on the screen. And I said, ain't clip.

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Speaker 1: Why is my stuff on the screen? I said, man,

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Speaker 1: take that blue too, fall Na Boston, Ain't the blue too?

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Speaker 1: What the hell you talking about? He said, no, you

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Speaker 1: got to cut your phone. He said, nah, man, you

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Speaker 1: got then it's a switch on your phone that that

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Speaker 1: when it's plugged in, it allows your phone to get

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Speaker 1: ran into whatever system is plugged in. All right, coming

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Speaker 1: up in twenty three minutes after, we'll have part two

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Speaker 1: of Steve's response coming up to the Strawberry letter. The

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Speaker 1: subject is I know what I heard. Okay, we'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject

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Speaker 1: I know what I heard. Now, let me tell you

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Speaker 1: about this letter. I've never been more disappointed, then proud,

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Speaker 1: then disappointed again in a man as this fool Hill.

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Speaker 1: Let me just say this is dumb at a whole

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Speaker 1: new level. They have kids, they've been married a while.

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Speaker 1: She thanks to her husband's cheating because and this is

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Speaker 1: the fact that she had I'm pretty sure I heard

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Speaker 1: him having said, God, dog, that's some type of direct

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Speaker 1: up to have some wine on Tuesday before they got home,

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Speaker 1: but he was ignoring her, watching something on his phone.

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Speaker 1: We got back in the car, he plugged his phone

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Speaker 1: up to charge you, fellas, I want you to understand

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Speaker 1: that's new technology in these cars. When you plug it

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Speaker 1: up your card. Your phone is now integrated in the system.

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Speaker 1: That is something on your phone that you can go

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Speaker 1: so it just doesn't automatically adapt when it's plugged into

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Speaker 1: whatever device. I just learned this the other day by accident.

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Speaker 1: I'm just sharing this information. But old dumbass didn't know

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Speaker 1: fumbling with his phone. I camped him down by laughing

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Speaker 1: so stupid ass was watching the video so hard while

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Speaker 1: his wife was there. Your dumbass that you ran your

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Speaker 1: battery down, got in the car to plug it up, busting.

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Speaker 1: But now she played it all and laughed it off.

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Speaker 1: But she wasn't gonna let it go. Now he knew that,

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Speaker 1: So after she had a shower, he was church quiet

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Speaker 1: as church mouse all even that's because he was busy

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Speaker 1: doing what I needed him to doted. He swears. I

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Speaker 1: went to talk to him, he sweared, wasn't him on

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Speaker 1: that video or whatever that was that I heard. He

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Speaker 1: handed over his phone. This is why I got proud

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Speaker 1: of this. Yes, I went through the photos, the videos.

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Speaker 1: I checked this internet, such hit Streight, which he had

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Speaker 1: already deleted, my dog. That's why he was quiet as

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Speaker 1: a church mouth. That ain't quiet. That's focused. That's concentration.

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Speaker 1: Y Oh, that's commitment. I'm proud of this board. And

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Speaker 1: I confront and I should have confronted him sooner, because

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Speaker 1: he had time to get his sugar honey iced teeth together,

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Speaker 1: and he did just that. I was so proud of

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Speaker 1: this man. I told him, let me keep his phone

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Speaker 1: for twenty hours, twenty four hours. He said, there's no

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Speaker 1: way that whatever. Nobody is giving you their phone. No,

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Speaker 1: not even the best of me, not even the best

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Speaker 1: of us, can't because we have too much business. I

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Speaker 1: ain't thank you. We have an empire that could crumble.

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Speaker 1: I'm while you playing, you know, Detective Gadget, trying to

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Speaker 1: hold on the research and all this here, and they

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Speaker 1: ain't no telling what you're gonna try to plant in

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Speaker 1: my phone to further blost to your argument, and you're

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Speaker 1: gonna create criminating evidence again, And I don't know who

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Speaker 1: you know you could take my phone down on your

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Speaker 1: job and here your friends looking at the phone. All

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Speaker 1: of a sudden, I got emails disgusting all this money

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Speaker 1: and all these deals, and you send a biting going

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Speaker 1: through it, deleting and messing up information. There's no way

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Speaker 1: I can give you my phone. No, I know. I

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Speaker 1: I told And get this, He's put a pass code

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Speaker 1: ain't see that code. You're taking phones and going through

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Speaker 1: stuff and looking through history and all like this. Am

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Speaker 1: I crazy? Or is he up to something? Please? Advice advised?

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Speaker 1: You know what his ladies. I don't understand how you

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Speaker 1: know what's going on, but you want us to advise.

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Speaker 1: Advise you on what you heard him? You know his voice? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm not telling her to leave him. That's you and

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Speaker 1: that's something you. I don't care what you do. Let

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Speaker 1: you know what the hell you heard? That's him. You

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Speaker 1: got the facts, that's right, And who ain't got no

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Speaker 1: damn history on their phone? It's just jooney. Now, could

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Speaker 1: I give you my phone? Yes? I could, but I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna need to take that SIM card, all information on

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Speaker 1: the SIM card because I don't even know how to

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Speaker 1: raise nothing. Yeah, next question, Can I give you my phone? No?

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Speaker 1: I can't, but I am willing to buy you a

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Speaker 1: brand new phone. What's wrong with you? Oh, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: turn around into some good will baby. I know you

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Speaker 1: really wanted the phone, and I know how you in

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Speaker 1: my mind, so I bought you a newer gratulation. It's

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Speaker 1: all paid for. I put the Verizon on there in everything.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, baby, No, thank you Steve, and hey baby,

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Speaker 1: you're welcome. Time for you to leave your comments on

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