WEBVTT - The secret to successful change

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is about the secret to successful change. That

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<v Speaker 1>is acknowledging that life is going to change far less

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<v Speaker 1>than we think it will. January one is a day

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<v Speaker 1>like any other day when you know that you see

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<v Speaker 1>what truly can change, and ultimately that is empowering. Lots

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<v Speaker 1>of people set New Year's resolutions in late December for

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<v Speaker 1>whatever reason. We believe that the clean slate of the

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<v Speaker 1>new year will inspire us to live in a way

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<v Speaker 1>that we haven't lived before. I am not saying it

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<v Speaker 1>never happens, but I have also noticed that it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>happen often. And that is true for a very simple reason.

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<v Speaker 1>Nothing is actually going to change in January. You are

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<v Speaker 1>going to be the exact same person you were before.

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<v Speaker 1>Your life is going to be the same unless you

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<v Speaker 1>are making a huge change like moving or getting a

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<v Speaker 1>new job or going back to school. January three is

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<v Speaker 1>a Monday. This year, it will be a normal Monday.

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<v Speaker 1>January four, there is a normal Tuesday, and if something

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<v Speaker 1>didn't happen on let's say Monday, December, there's no real

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<v Speaker 1>reason that two weeks later, the stars will have aligned

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<v Speaker 1>any differently. Whatever scheduled constraints existed before will still be there.

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<v Speaker 1>Challenges modulate at times, but they tend to be replaced

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<v Speaker 1>with fresh ones reliably enough. Perhaps this sounds depressing, but

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't have to be. Instead, if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>do something in January, when you know that nothing changes

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<v Speaker 1>in January, you can ask yourself a different question, When

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<v Speaker 1>could I do this thing today? As in now? If

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<v Speaker 1>you want to go to the gym more regularly, ask

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<v Speaker 1>yourself when you could go today. If you want to

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<v Speaker 1>eat more healthfully in the new year, ask what that

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<v Speaker 1>would look like at today's meals. If you want to

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<v Speaker 1>take a month off from drinking alcohol, ask how that

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<v Speaker 1>would play out in light of tonight's dinner with clients.

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<v Speaker 1>Perhaps there is simply no way that the intention could

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<v Speaker 1>happen today. That's fine, but understand that life won't look

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<v Speaker 1>any different in January. If it is impossible today, then

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps the intention isn't reasonable for your life. Good to

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<v Speaker 1>now best to change the expectation. But hopefully this question

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<v Speaker 1>will put you in a or problem solving practical state

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<v Speaker 1>of mind. When could you go to the gym today.

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<v Speaker 1>If you look at your schedule and think creatively, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you could pull it off, or maybe you can come

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<v Speaker 1>up with another idea, like going for a long walk

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<v Speaker 1>at lunch. You see that the intention is better framed

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<v Speaker 1>as just being more active. You test out asking for

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<v Speaker 1>seltzer at the bar with your client and you see

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<v Speaker 1>that nobody bats an eyelash. This would give you more

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<v Speaker 1>confidence for future social or business situations. If something can't

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<v Speaker 1>happen today, there is a good chance it won't happen

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<v Speaker 1>in the future. But if you can make it happen today,

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<v Speaker 1>then that will give you some practice with your intention.

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<v Speaker 1>You can hone the skills necessary to make it happen

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<v Speaker 1>in the future too. So that is the secret of

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<v Speaker 1>successful change. Ask if you can do it today, make

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<v Speaker 1>it happen today, and then you will be able to

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<v Speaker 1>make it happen in the new year as well. In

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<v Speaker 1>the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 1>to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd

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