Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is about the secret to successful change. That
Speaker 1: is acknowledging that life is going to change far less
Speaker 1: than we think it will. January one is a day
Speaker 1: like any other day when you know that you see
Speaker 1: what truly can change, and ultimately that is empowering. Lots
Speaker 1: of people set New Year's resolutions in late December for
Speaker 1: whatever reason. We believe that the clean slate of the
Speaker 1: new year will inspire us to live in a way
Speaker 1: that we haven't lived before. I am not saying it
Speaker 1: never happens, but I have also noticed that it doesn't
Speaker 1: happen often. And that is true for a very simple reason.
Speaker 1: Nothing is actually going to change in January. You are
Speaker 1: going to be the exact same person you were before.
Speaker 1: Your life is going to be the same unless you
Speaker 1: are making a huge change like moving or getting a
Speaker 1: new job or going back to school. January three is
Speaker 1: a Monday. This year, it will be a normal Monday.
Speaker 1: January four, there is a normal Tuesday, and if something
Speaker 1: didn't happen on let's say Monday, December, there's no real
Speaker 1: reason that two weeks later, the stars will have aligned
Speaker 1: any differently. Whatever scheduled constraints existed before will still be there.
Speaker 1: Challenges modulate at times, but they tend to be replaced
Speaker 1: with fresh ones reliably enough. Perhaps this sounds depressing, but
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be. Instead, if you want to
Speaker 1: do something in January, when you know that nothing changes
Speaker 1: in January, you can ask yourself a different question, When
Speaker 1: could I do this thing today? As in now? If
Speaker 1: you want to go to the gym more regularly, ask
Speaker 1: yourself when you could go today. If you want to
Speaker 1: eat more healthfully in the new year, ask what that
Speaker 1: would look like at today's meals. If you want to
Speaker 1: take a month off from drinking alcohol, ask how that
Speaker 1: would play out in light of tonight's dinner with clients.
Speaker 1: Perhaps there is simply no way that the intention could
Speaker 1: happen today. That's fine, but understand that life won't look
Speaker 1: any different in January. If it is impossible today, then
Speaker 1: perhaps the intention isn't reasonable for your life. Good to
Speaker 1: now best to change the expectation. But hopefully this question
Speaker 1: will put you in a or problem solving practical state
Speaker 1: of mind. When could you go to the gym today.
Speaker 1: If you look at your schedule and think creatively, maybe
Speaker 1: you could pull it off, or maybe you can come
Speaker 1: up with another idea, like going for a long walk
Speaker 1: at lunch. You see that the intention is better framed
Speaker 1: as just being more active. You test out asking for
Speaker 1: seltzer at the bar with your client and you see
Speaker 1: that nobody bats an eyelash. This would give you more
Speaker 1: confidence for future social or business situations. If something can't
Speaker 1: happen today, there is a good chance it won't happen
Speaker 1: in the future. But if you can make it happen today,
Speaker 1: then that will give you some practice with your intention.
Speaker 1: You can hone the skills necessary to make it happen
Speaker 1: in the future too. So that is the secret of
Speaker 1: successful change. Ask if you can do it today, make
Speaker 1: it happen today, and then you will be able to
Speaker 1: make it happen in the new year as well. In
Speaker 1: the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's
Speaker 1: to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd
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