1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:14,960 Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:21,319 Speaker 1: Today's tip is about the secret to successful change. That 4 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 1: is acknowledging that life is going to change far less 5 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 1: than we think it will. January one is a day 6 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 1: like any other day when you know that you see 7 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:42,280 Speaker 1: what truly can change, and ultimately that is empowering. Lots 8 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 1: of people set New Year's resolutions in late December for 9 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:49,239 Speaker 1: whatever reason. We believe that the clean slate of the 10 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: new year will inspire us to live in a way 11 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: that we haven't lived before. I am not saying it 12 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: never happens, but I have also noticed that it doesn't 13 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: happen often. And that is true for a very simple reason. 14 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 1: Nothing is actually going to change in January. You are 15 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: going to be the exact same person you were before. 16 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: Your life is going to be the same unless you 17 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: are making a huge change like moving or getting a 18 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: new job or going back to school. January three is 19 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 1: a Monday. This year, it will be a normal Monday. 20 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: January four, there is a normal Tuesday, and if something 21 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: didn't happen on let's say Monday, December, there's no real 22 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: reason that two weeks later, the stars will have aligned 23 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: any differently. Whatever scheduled constraints existed before will still be there. 24 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: Challenges modulate at times, but they tend to be replaced 25 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: with fresh ones reliably enough. Perhaps this sounds depressing, but 26 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be. Instead, if you want to 27 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 1: do something in January, when you know that nothing changes 28 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: in January, you can ask yourself a different question, When 29 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: could I do this thing today? As in now? If 30 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 1: you want to go to the gym more regularly, ask 31 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: yourself when you could go today. If you want to 32 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 1: eat more healthfully in the new year, ask what that 33 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: would look like at today's meals. If you want to 34 00:02:25,440 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: take a month off from drinking alcohol, ask how that 35 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 1: would play out in light of tonight's dinner with clients. 36 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: Perhaps there is simply no way that the intention could 37 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:42,080 Speaker 1: happen today. That's fine, but understand that life won't look 38 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 1: any different in January. If it is impossible today, then 39 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:52,919 Speaker 1: perhaps the intention isn't reasonable for your life. Good to 40 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: now best to change the expectation. But hopefully this question 41 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: will put you in a or problem solving practical state 42 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:06,639 Speaker 1: of mind. When could you go to the gym today. 43 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: If you look at your schedule and think creatively, maybe 44 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 1: you could pull it off, or maybe you can come 45 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: up with another idea, like going for a long walk 46 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 1: at lunch. You see that the intention is better framed 47 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:23,920 Speaker 1: as just being more active. You test out asking for 48 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 1: seltzer at the bar with your client and you see 49 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:31,399 Speaker 1: that nobody bats an eyelash. This would give you more 50 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 1: confidence for future social or business situations. If something can't 51 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: happen today, there is a good chance it won't happen 52 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: in the future. But if you can make it happen today, 53 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: then that will give you some practice with your intention. 54 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 1: You can hone the skills necessary to make it happen 55 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: in the future too. So that is the secret of 56 00:03:55,320 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: successful change. Ask if you can do it today, make 57 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: it happen today, and then you will be able to 58 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: make it happen in the new year as well. In 59 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's 60 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 1: to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd 61 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: love to hear from you. You can send me your tips, 62 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: your questions, or anything else. 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