WEBVTT - The Playbook: Bedtime Stories

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<v Speaker 1>This is the most traumatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Chris Harrison and Lauren Zema coming to you at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of another beautiful week to open up the playbook,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're bringing up a subject that it shouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>shaken me this much, but just the thought of it

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<v Speaker 1>made me think that these people were psychotic.

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<v Speaker 2>This is cringe, This is scary, This is unimaginable.

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<v Speaker 1>Could you imagine a partner that said to you, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't care what side of the bed we sleep on,

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<v Speaker 1>and in fact, we're gonna switch from time to time.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't have specific sides of the bed. We just

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<v Speaker 1>I guess whatever side we feel like getting in that night,

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<v Speaker 1>that's where we sleep. There is a couple in la

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<v Speaker 1>that has gone viral via TikTok or one of those

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<v Speaker 1>things that they don't have a specific side of the

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<v Speaker 1>bed and that they switch from time to time for

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<v Speaker 1>no apparent reason. They just go where the wind blows them.

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<v Speaker 2>Not even sure if I believe them.

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<v Speaker 3>This is why is this shaking is so much.

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<v Speaker 2>This story comes from Yes, the California TikToker who posted

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<v Speaker 2>and basically said, so, my husband and I just like

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<v Speaker 2>switch sides. We don't have a specific side, we switch

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<v Speaker 2>it up, we get in different sides of the bed

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<v Speaker 2>all the time. Does anyone else do this? And I

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<v Speaker 2>almost think it was. They call it comment baiting when

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<v Speaker 2>you like, will post something that's wrong or nuts just

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<v Speaker 2>to get people to like like your video and for

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<v Speaker 2>your video to get more views and to get more comments.

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<v Speaker 2>And I kind of wonder if this is that because

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<v Speaker 2>it's so wild sounding, because here's what I don't regress.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so benign. Is it that wild or is it

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<v Speaker 3>just us that reacted this way?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 2>I think everyone well, because have you ever known anyone

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<v Speaker 2>ever who's ever done this? No, everybody has a side

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<v Speaker 2>of the bed. It's like how you have your side

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<v Speaker 2>of the closet where all your stuff is. And as

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<v Speaker 2>I think about that, it is a little unnecessary, Like

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<v Speaker 2>we don't need a side of the bed. You have

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<v Speaker 2>a side of the closet because you need to put

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<v Speaker 2>your stuff away and you need.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't want to move your stuff every day.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, but we don't need a side of the well

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, No, maybe we do. You have your nightstand,

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I was going to say.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, just why this makes no sense? Logistics of

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<v Speaker 1>like my side of the bed. There's my book, I

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<v Speaker 1>have some readers that I use from time to time.

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<v Speaker 1>There's just stuff over there, right, that is mine.

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<v Speaker 2>Why are these people switching sides of the bed?

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<v Speaker 3>They're psychotic?

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know and reach out to us on

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<v Speaker 1>is this as crazy as it sounds to us? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you do this as anybody else in the free world?

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<v Speaker 1>Just haphazardly jump into bed? And I would be what's

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<v Speaker 1>interesting to me? Is is it like calling DIBs? It's

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<v Speaker 1>like calling shotgun in a car like I would walk in.

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<v Speaker 3>What are you doing? That's that's my side.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's why I don't believe it is, because then

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<v Speaker 2>how do they make the decision every night?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>You come in the room and you're like, you just pick.

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<v Speaker 2>I would find myself thinking about it. I would. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. It just doesn't make any sense. Now, I

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<v Speaker 2>will say we do have this discussion in hotel rooms, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>And the reason that we have the discussion, and we

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<v Speaker 2>probably have it every time we go to a hotel room,

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<v Speaker 2>which side of the bet are you're going to be

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<v Speaker 2>on and which side of this bathroom counteror do you want?

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<v Speaker 2>But the reason we discuss it is because it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>usually I will take the side of the bed that's

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<v Speaker 2>closest to the bathroom because I always get up in

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<v Speaker 2>the middle of the night and have to pee and

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<v Speaker 2>I have horrible visions. So if I can't see the bathroom,

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<v Speaker 2>I walk into a wall in an unfamiliar space, it

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<v Speaker 2>has happened.

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<v Speaker 3>And then in.

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<v Speaker 2>The bathroom counter in a hotel room, you will usually

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<v Speaker 2>give me like the side that might have the most

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<v Speaker 2>space because I more stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>If there's plugs on one side, or what is more space?

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<v Speaker 2>That is your side, although a lot of the time

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<v Speaker 2>in the hotel room we still end up sleeping on

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<v Speaker 2>just what is our normal side?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah we're just in a room on vacation last week,

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<v Speaker 1>and yeah I was on my right side.

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<v Speaker 3>So why is that? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>If it's dive into the why why does this make

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<v Speaker 2>us feel so uncomfortable?

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<v Speaker 3>The idea of switching over and over, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what that is.

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<v Speaker 1>It's but there My thought when I heard about this

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<v Speaker 1>couple was even in the chaos of not picking until

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<v Speaker 1>you get to bed. There's probably some sort of method

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<v Speaker 1>to your madness, Like did you would have had to

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<v Speaker 1>have thought the night before while I was on the right,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to get on the left. There's still a

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<v Speaker 1>decision being made in your quote unquote chaos.

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<v Speaker 2>Theory right, which is why it makes no sense.

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<v Speaker 1>I think for us, it's just there are things that

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<v Speaker 1>I think it goes along the same theory of when

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<v Speaker 1>you're in a hotel room or when you stay somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>different night one, typically you don't get a great night's

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<v Speaker 1>sleep because you have this fight or flight deal where

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<v Speaker 1>your instinct, your body scientifically has been proven to protect itself.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't feel quite comfortable in the surroundings.

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<v Speaker 2>Yet your body's going what are the threats in this

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<v Speaker 2>new place?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, so typically you don't sleep great and you question

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<v Speaker 1>things that has been proven. So I think it may

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<v Speaker 1>go along the same lines of sleeping on the right

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<v Speaker 1>side of the bed the same side every night, of

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<v Speaker 1>you just feel comfortable, you feel safe.

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<v Speaker 2>That's I was going to say. There's so many factors

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<v Speaker 2>for me, at least I'm trying to go to sleep

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<v Speaker 2>that I don't want to change anything up. I've noticed

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<v Speaker 2>even in our own bed when you're not home, I

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<v Speaker 2>struggle to sleep, And if I'm alone in a hotel room,

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<v Speaker 2>I really struggle to sleep. What's interesting is if I'm alone,

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<v Speaker 2>I still go to my side. I don't like sleep

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<v Speaker 2>in the middle of the bed. That's why these people

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<v Speaker 2>are so wacky. I don't trust them. I don't believe it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's nuts.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a funny theory too, because I'm the same way.

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<v Speaker 1>If I am in a hotel room by myself and

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<v Speaker 1>you're in a big bed, the other side of the

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<v Speaker 1>bed doesn't even need to be made. Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like a human was not even in the room.

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<v Speaker 1>My side I sleep, and you know me, I sleep

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<v Speaker 1>so close to the side of the bed. I slip

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<v Speaker 1>in and I slip out.

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<v Speaker 2>Can we get one more third opinion on this? I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to call in Kendall, producer. Kendall, is this just

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<v Speaker 2>us or do you agree that you got to have

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<v Speaker 2>a side of the bed.

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<v Speaker 4>You have to, Like I have my aqua for I

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<v Speaker 4>have my phone charger. I pee all the time during

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<v Speaker 4>the night, Like it just is a thing.

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<v Speaker 2>So do you believe these people that they just get

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<v Speaker 2>into bed every night, or do you think this is

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<v Speaker 2>a farce.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I guess I have to believe them, but

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<v Speaker 4>we hope for the best.

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<v Speaker 3>We hope they're not on Kendall, Are you a forty

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<v Speaker 3>eight year old woman?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I am my sleeping socks, I put my vasoline

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<v Speaker 2>in my gloves.

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<v Speaker 1>So you and your significant other, you have your side

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<v Speaker 1>to the bed and you keep it that way.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I don't think we change when we go to hotels.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm trying to think about it. I'm always closest to

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<v Speaker 4>the bathroom, so it's just always that side of the bed.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>That would probably be the only time we change if

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<v Speaker 1>we're at a hotel, is that it's just too big

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<v Speaker 1>of a walk and there's things that you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>run into in the middle of the night.

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<v Speaker 2>I know some women who always put their husband closest

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<v Speaker 2>to the door, Yeah, because their thought is like he's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna protect And then I've really laughed with some women

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<v Speaker 2>about that because I'm like, once Chris is asleep, like

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<v Speaker 2>he's not waking up, so it would take like I

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<v Speaker 2>actually think I should be closer to the door because

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<v Speaker 2>if I see the threat, I'm gonna I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>be more likely to wake up scream, and then you

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<v Speaker 2>can act.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way those if those two feet really make

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<v Speaker 1>the difference, we got bigger problems if I had only

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<v Speaker 1>been on the other side of the bed. That is

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<v Speaker 1>kind of an old school thing of you know, it's

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<v Speaker 1>the never having your back to the door type of

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<v Speaker 1>a feeling. Some women don't feel comfortable just being the

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<v Speaker 1>closest to the door. I've heard that too, and so

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<v Speaker 1>they just like sleeping on the other side.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, I think ultimately I'm a big need

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<v Speaker 2>your your space person, Like I'm okay with not that

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<v Speaker 2>much space, but I need to know this is my space,

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<v Speaker 2>where my stuff is, and like I need to feel

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<v Speaker 2>that comfort no matter what part of life I'm in

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<v Speaker 2>or where I am. I'm like, even I was a

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<v Speaker 2>camp counselor this summer and I was okay living in

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<v Speaker 2>a bunk room with twelve campers and four counselors. But

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<v Speaker 2>I needed to know these are like my three shelves,

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<v Speaker 2>and I have my stuff here and this is my

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<v Speaker 2>bed I can go to every night.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, look, I'm all about spicing it up in the bedroom,

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<v Speaker 1>changing things up, keeping it fresh.

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<v Speaker 2>And yet at the same time. We are in no

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<v Speaker 2>way about that, and stay on your side.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, maybe maybe you know what. Tonight, We're

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<v Speaker 1>going to go crazy. We're going to role play. We're

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<v Speaker 1>just going to just jump into whatever side of the

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<v Speaker 1>bed we want to get into and we'll see how

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<v Speaker 1>it goes. Let's give it a shot.

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<v Speaker 4>Great.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't wait to get zero sleep tonight. Everybody, please

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<v Speaker 2>dm us and let us know if we're nuts on this.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to know.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I need to be called out.

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<v Speaker 1>We all agree these people should be locked up. They

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<v Speaker 1>are not safe to be roaming around in the free world.

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<v Speaker 1>Whoever these people are, and if there are more out there,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to hear from you, but I think we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to stick to our side of the bed, in

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<v Speaker 1>our side of the world. Thank you so much for

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<v Speaker 1>joining us today. Love opening up the playbook, love having

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<v Speaker 1>these innate, insane conversations with you.

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<v Speaker 3>We appreciate you.

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<v Speaker 1>So very much, and we will talk to you again

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<v Speaker 1>because we have a lot more to talk about.

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<v Speaker 3>Thanks for listening.

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