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Speaker 1: This is the most traumatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 1: Chris Harrison and Lauren Zema coming to you at the

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Speaker 1: end of another beautiful week to open up the playbook,

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Speaker 1: and we're bringing up a subject that it shouldn't have

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Speaker 1: shaken me this much, but just the thought of it

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Speaker 1: made me think that these people were psychotic.

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Speaker 2: This is cringe, This is scary, This is unimaginable.

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Speaker 1: Could you imagine a partner that said to you, I

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Speaker 1: don't care what side of the bed we sleep on,

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Speaker 1: and in fact, we're gonna switch from time to time.

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Speaker 1: We don't have specific sides of the bed. We just

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Speaker 1: I guess whatever side we feel like getting in that night,

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Speaker 1: that's where we sleep. There is a couple in la

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Speaker 1: that has gone viral via TikTok or one of those

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Speaker 1: things that they don't have a specific side of the

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Speaker 1: bed and that they switch from time to time for

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Speaker 1: no apparent reason. They just go where the wind blows them.

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Speaker 2: Not even sure if I believe them.

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Speaker 3: This is why is this shaking is so much.

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Speaker 2: This story comes from Yes, the California TikToker who posted

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Speaker 2: and basically said, so, my husband and I just like

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Speaker 2: switch sides. We don't have a specific side, we switch

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Speaker 2: it up, we get in different sides of the bed

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Speaker 2: all the time. Does anyone else do this? And I

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Speaker 2: almost think it was. They call it comment baiting when

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Speaker 2: you like, will post something that's wrong or nuts just

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Speaker 2: to get people to like like your video and for

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Speaker 2: your video to get more views and to get more comments.

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Speaker 2: And I kind of wonder if this is that because

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Speaker 2: it's so wild sounding, because here's what I don't regress.

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Speaker 3: It's so benign. Is it that wild or is it

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Speaker 3: just us that reacted this way?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: I think everyone well, because have you ever known anyone

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Speaker 2: ever who's ever done this? No, everybody has a side

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Speaker 2: of the bed. It's like how you have your side

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Speaker 2: of the closet where all your stuff is. And as

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Speaker 2: I think about that, it is a little unnecessary, Like

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Speaker 2: we don't need a side of the bed. You have

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Speaker 2: a side of the closet because you need to put

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Speaker 2: your stuff away and you need.

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Speaker 3: You don't want to move your stuff every day.

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Speaker 2: Yes, but we don't need a side of the well

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Speaker 2: you know what, No, maybe we do. You have your nightstand,

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Speaker 2: That's what I was going to say.

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Speaker 1: I mean, just why this makes no sense? Logistics of

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Speaker 1: like my side of the bed. There's my book, I

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Speaker 1: have some readers that I use from time to time.

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Speaker 1: There's just stuff over there, right, that is mine.

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Speaker 2: Why are these people switching sides of the bed?

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Speaker 3: They're psychotic?

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Speaker 1: I want to know and reach out to us on

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Speaker 1: the most dramatic pod ever, or of course you can

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Speaker 1: find out loren'szmaur at Chris B. Harrison like DM as,

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Speaker 1: is this as crazy as it sounds to us? Do

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Speaker 1: you do this as anybody else in the free world?

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Speaker 1: Just haphazardly jump into bed? And I would be what's

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Speaker 1: interesting to me? Is is it like calling DIBs? It's

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Speaker 1: like calling shotgun in a car like I would walk in.

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Speaker 3: What are you doing? That's that's my side.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's why I don't believe it is, because then

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Speaker 2: how do they make the decision every night?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 2: You come in the room and you're like, you just pick.

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Speaker 2: I would find myself thinking about it. I would. I

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Speaker 2: don't know. It just doesn't make any sense. Now, I

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Speaker 2: will say we do have this discussion in hotel rooms, yes,

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Speaker 2: And the reason that we have the discussion, and we

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Speaker 2: probably have it every time we go to a hotel room,

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Speaker 2: which side of the bet are you're going to be

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Speaker 2: on and which side of this bathroom counteror do you want?

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Speaker 2: But the reason we discuss it is because it's like,

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Speaker 2: usually I will take the side of the bed that's

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Speaker 2: the middle of the night and have to pee and

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Speaker 2: I have horrible visions. So if I can't see the bathroom,

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Speaker 2: I walk into a wall in an unfamiliar space, it

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Speaker 3: And then in.

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Speaker 2: The bathroom counter in a hotel room, you will usually

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Speaker 2: give me like the side that might have the most

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Speaker 2: space because I more stuff.

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Speaker 1: If there's plugs on one side, or what is more space?

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Speaker 2: That is your side, although a lot of the time

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Speaker 2: just what is our normal side?

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Speaker 1: Yeah we're just in a room on vacation last week,

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Speaker 1: and yeah I was on my right side.

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Speaker 3: So why is that? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: If it's dive into the why why does this make

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Speaker 3: The idea of switching over and over, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what that is.

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Speaker 1: It's but there My thought when I heard about this

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Speaker 1: couple was even in the chaos of not picking until

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Speaker 1: you get to bed. There's probably some sort of method

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Speaker 1: to your madness, Like did you would have had to

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Speaker 1: have thought the night before while I was on the right,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to get on the left. There's still a

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Speaker 1: decision being made in your quote unquote chaos.

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Speaker 2: Theory right, which is why it makes no sense.

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Speaker 1: I think for us, it's just there are things that

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Speaker 1: I think it goes along the same theory of when

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Speaker 1: you're in a hotel room or when you stay somewhere

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Speaker 1: different night one, typically you don't get a great night's

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Speaker 1: sleep because you have this fight or flight deal where

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Speaker 1: your instinct, your body scientifically has been proven to protect itself.

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Speaker 1: You don't feel quite comfortable in the surroundings.

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Speaker 2: Yet your body's going what are the threats in this

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Speaker 1: Yes, so typically you don't sleep great and you question

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Speaker 1: things that has been proven. So I think it may

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Speaker 1: go along the same lines of sleeping on the right

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Speaker 1: side of the bed the same side every night, of

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Speaker 1: you just feel comfortable, you feel safe.

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Speaker 2: That's I was going to say. There's so many factors

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Speaker 2: for me, at least I'm trying to go to sleep

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Speaker 2: that I don't want to change anything up. I've noticed

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Speaker 2: even in our own bed when you're not home, I

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Speaker 2: struggle to sleep, And if I'm alone in a hotel room,

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Speaker 2: I really struggle to sleep. What's interesting is if I'm alone,

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Speaker 2: I still go to my side. I don't like sleep

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Speaker 2: in the middle of the bed. That's why these people

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Speaker 2: are so wacky. I don't trust them. I don't believe it.

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Speaker 3: It's nuts.

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Speaker 1: That's a funny theory too, because I'm the same way.

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Speaker 1: If I am in a hotel room by myself and

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Speaker 1: you're in a big bed, the other side of the

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Speaker 1: bed doesn't even need to be made. Yeah, I mean

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Speaker 1: it looks like a human was not even in the room.

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Speaker 1: My side I sleep, and you know me, I sleep

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Speaker 1: so close to the side of the bed. I slip

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Speaker 2: Can we get one more third opinion on this? I'm

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Speaker 2: going to call in Kendall, producer. Kendall, is this just

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Speaker 2: a side of the bed.

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Speaker 4: You have to, Like I have my aqua for I

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Speaker 4: have my phone charger. I pee all the time during

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Speaker 4: the night, Like it just is a thing.

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Speaker 2: So do you believe these people that they just get

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Speaker 2: a farce.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I guess I have to believe them, but

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Speaker 4: we hope for the best.

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Speaker 3: We hope they're not on Kendall, Are you a forty

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Speaker 3: eight year old woman?

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Speaker 2: Because I am my sleeping socks, I put my vasoline

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Speaker 1: So you and your significant other, you have your side

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't think we change when we go to hotels.

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to think about it. I'm always closest to

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Speaker 4: the bathroom, so it's just always that side of the bed.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: That would probably be the only time we change if

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Speaker 1: we're at a hotel, is that it's just too big

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Speaker 1: of a walk and there's things that you're going to

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Speaker 2: I know some women who always put their husband closest

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Speaker 2: to the door, Yeah, because their thought is like he's

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Speaker 2: gonna protect And then I've really laughed with some women

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Speaker 2: about that because I'm like, once Chris is asleep, like

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Speaker 2: actually think I should be closer to the door because

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Speaker 2: if I see the threat, I'm gonna I'm going to

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Speaker 2: be more likely to wake up scream, and then you

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Speaker 1: By the way those if those two feet really make

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Speaker 1: the difference, we got bigger problems if I had only

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Speaker 1: been on the other side of the bed. That is

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Speaker 1: kind of an old school thing of you know, it's

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Speaker 1: the never having your back to the door type of

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Speaker 1: a feeling. Some women don't feel comfortable just being the

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Speaker 1: closest to the door. I've heard that too, and so

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Speaker 1: they just like sleeping on the other side.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I think ultimately I'm a big need

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Speaker 2: where my stuff is, and like I need to feel

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Speaker 2: that comfort no matter what part of life I'm in

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Speaker 2: or where I am. I'm like, even I was a

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Speaker 2: and I have my stuff here and this is my

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Speaker 2: bed I can go to every night.

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Speaker 1: Well, look, I'm all about spicing it up in the bedroom,

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Speaker 1: changing things up, keeping it fresh.

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Speaker 2: And yet at the same time. We are in no

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Speaker 2: way about that, and stay on your side.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe maybe you know what. Tonight, We're

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Speaker 1: going to go crazy. We're going to role play. We're

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Speaker 1: just going to just jump into whatever side of the

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Speaker 1: bed we want to get into and we'll see how

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Speaker 1: it goes. Let's give it a shot.

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Speaker 4: Great.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait to get zero sleep tonight. Everybody, please

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Speaker 2: dm us and let us know if we're nuts on this.

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Speaker 2: I need to know.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I need to be called out.

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Speaker 1: We all agree these people should be locked up. They

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Speaker 1: are not safe to be roaming around in the free world.

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Speaker 1: Whoever these people are, and if there are more out there,

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Speaker 1: I want to hear from you, but I think we're

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Speaker 1: going to stick to our side of the bed, in

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Speaker 1: our side of the world. Thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: joining us today. Love opening up the playbook, love having

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Speaker 1: these innate, insane conversations with you.

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Speaker 3: We appreciate you.

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Speaker 1: So very much, and we will talk to you again

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Speaker 1: because we have a lot more to talk about.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for listening.

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