1 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, my beautiful people, Welcome to yet another episode 2 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 1: of Cheeky's and Chill. Today is a very special episode 3 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:23,119 Speaker 1: because a very special person is here. Is my guest, 4 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:26,200 Speaker 1: my special guest and very special to my heart. And 5 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: if some of you guessed my fiance, well you're absolutely right. 6 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 1: Hi Vabe, how are you? 7 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 2: It's good. 8 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:35,280 Speaker 1: I'm good. 9 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:37,519 Speaker 2: It's exciting to hear you say my fiance. 10 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: I know, right, Oh my god, I was about to 11 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,639 Speaker 1: say that because the last time you were on the podcast, well, 12 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 1: we didn't have the set first of all, and then 13 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: it was a year ago and we were just boyfriend 14 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: and girlfriend. Yeah we were, and now we're fiances. Yeah, 15 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: how do you feel about that? 16 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 2: I'm excited. It feels great. It's uh, you know, almost 17 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 2: a year later, and I still get excited when you 18 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 2: say my fiance, my fiance. I like saying it too. 19 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: What about when I say my husband? 20 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 2: Oh? I don't know if I can handle that one. 21 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:06,959 Speaker 1: Oh? Why why? 22 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 2: I'm excited for that? 23 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:12,880 Speaker 1: I'm excited. Yeah you're not scared? No, no at all, 24 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 1: not even Yeah, I'm not there anymore. Nothing feel good? 25 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, we can get into that. 26 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:21,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, let's get into that I love that. 27 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:25,039 Speaker 1: Hell yeah, we're gonna have a serious conversation. Mind you guys. 28 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:26,480 Speaker 1: He has no idea what I'm going to ask him 29 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 1: what we're going to talk about. I just wanted him 30 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:29,760 Speaker 1: to come on the podcast because it's a new set. 31 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: I'm so excited that we're just like celebrating three seasons 32 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 1: of Cheeky's and chilling thanks to you guys. And well, 33 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: I want to bring people that I had on the 34 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:39,560 Speaker 1: first two seasons to the set, and of course I 35 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: have to have you on here. So I just have 36 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: notes here just so that I don't forget certain things. 37 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 1: But I'm just gonna let the conversation flow. There's certain 38 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: things that I just wanted to talk about, like, yes, 39 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 1: we are engaged, you guys, And do we have a 40 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: date set for the wedding? 41 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 2: Yes, we do. 42 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: Exclusive with Amelia Sanchez, Yes we do. And I want 43 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 1: to keep it very private, but we do have a date. 44 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 1: It's going to be a small, intimate, like I said 45 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 1: on the podcast, you guys, a small, big wedding because 46 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: we want it very intimate. But it's not gonna be 47 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: like twenty people. That's what I mean by small. 48 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, right, And also it'll be super tight, but also 49 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 2: it's a small wedding, but there'll probably be a lot 50 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:29,279 Speaker 2: of big energy between us, super. 51 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 1: Tight like my face. Eh, it's my podcast. We cut 52 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 1: out whatever we want or not, who cares. We're just in. 53 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: You know, you know me, my love, This is why 54 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 1: you love me? Hi? Are you sure you want this forever? 55 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 2: Yes? 56 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:47,959 Speaker 1: I do. Okay, Well, let's see, there's a lot to 57 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: talk about. Like I mean, it's been a whole year 58 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:51,519 Speaker 1: since you've been on the podcast, so now, yes, we're engaged, 59 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: we have a date. We did the IVF thing. I 60 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: feel great after I did that. Honestly, I feel like 61 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: I can just enjoy our relationship without pressure. How do 62 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: you feel, Yeah, we've talked about it, but you know. 63 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know something on that. Before we did it, 64 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 2: people always said, even like more natural way, people always said, 65 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 2: if you're trying, it's not gonna happen, and if you 66 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 2: just forget about it and let go, it'll happen naturally. 67 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 1: Mm hmm. 68 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 2: When you don't have a backup like IVF, I feel 69 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 2: like you can't just let go of it and not 70 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 2: think about it for sure. And I think this what 71 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 2: this has done for me it truly has let me 72 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 2: let go of it of like not worrying about it. 73 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 2: So now I feel like I don't think about it now. 74 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 2: I think about us having kids and stuff, but I 75 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 2: don't think of the pressure of like, oh my god, 76 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 2: is it going to happen or not? 77 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, for sure, And it really has helped us out. 78 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: Like in our relationship, I feel like it's not. I mean, 79 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: I think I was a little bit more argumentative in 80 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: regards to it, where it's like, Okay, well what if 81 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: I can't and this and that, and like what are 82 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: you gonna do? Or are you gonna leave me here? 83 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:00,240 Speaker 1: And like you know, I would just start bail for 84 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: no reason and he'd be like, dude, get over it. 85 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: But then now I feel like, Okay, I don't have 86 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 1: to worry about that because I want to work this day. 87 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: I sat down with him because couple's therapy has helped 88 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 1: us a lot, guys, Yeah, and I sat down and 89 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 1: I said, look, babe, this is what I'm thinking this year. 90 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,520 Speaker 1: I really want I have Diamond, you know, my whole 91 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: idea with you know, Diamond tour, with the album. I 92 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: was like, I want to give it all that I 93 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 1: got obviously we're both turning a year older, and as 94 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 1: a woman, you know, my eggs are deteriorating, you know, 95 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: their their quality, the quality the eggs aren't as good 96 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: as they were a year ago, two years ago. So 97 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: I was like, I just want to do it. I 98 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: know I had said I didn't want to do it. 99 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 1: We're going to try naturally. Whatever, and we're still going 100 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: to try naturally. 101 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 2: That's the plan, right, Yeah, we're at a place in 102 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 2: our life where I don't think we should stop it 103 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 2: from happening. 104 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, but but way we have a plan though. 105 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:49,720 Speaker 2: I like our I love our plan. 106 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I love our plan. 107 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 2: I love our plan. I love the outcome of our plan. 108 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: Yes, but if it happens, you mean I. 109 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:01,480 Speaker 2: Wouldn't I'd be extremely excited. Yeah, but knowing our plan 110 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 2: is super exciting to sea. 111 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: Yes, me too. That's why I'm like, I want us 112 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: to be on the same page where it's like okay, 113 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 1: because I follow like my little calendar thing. If you 114 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 1: guys don't have a period tracker, ladies, it's awesome, but 115 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:13,880 Speaker 1: like you like put it in there, like okay, I 116 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: started my period today, I finished my period, and it 117 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 1: like helps you like on the calendar with like your 118 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 1: rutility day. So it's like it's not that we're not 119 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: going to do it those days, but we got to 120 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: be just extra careful because we're on we have a plan. 121 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 1: I just want to make sure because I'm something. I mean, 122 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 1: I don't feel like I'm pressuring you. Like I just said, hey, 123 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: this is what I would like, and you like agreed, 124 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:35,200 Speaker 1: You're like hell, yeah, Like, let's do this and then 125 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:37,560 Speaker 1: next year we'll talk about, Okay, let's start banging it 126 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: out and seeing what happens. Yeah, and have fun what 127 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:41,599 Speaker 1: we're doing it. 128 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely, I think we're having because we're. 129 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 1: Still banging it out, but now like now intentionally. 130 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 2: I think we're having the most fun, right, Yeah, because 131 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 2: of the pressure is off. 132 00:05:52,279 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like we haven't sure. 133 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 2: We haven't even talked about since we've done this, we 134 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 2: haven't talked about do you think we can have kids 135 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 2: or not? Like we haven't even had that conversation because 136 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 2: we don't think about it anymore. We're not worrying about it. 137 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. Honestly, I think it's one of the best things 138 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:07,840 Speaker 1: I could have done. It was very emotionally like it 139 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 1: was a lot, you know, I think, but you were 140 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 1: with me the entire way, and I'm so grateful for 141 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:14,160 Speaker 1: you because I told him already that like you would 142 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 1: mix the medicine for me, like you would help me. 143 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 1: You were there holding my hand, trying to go to 144 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: every appointment, only missed one because you had to work, 145 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,359 Speaker 1: and I was like, don't feel bad, go but you 146 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 1: wanted me to FaceTime you and everything, like he's been 147 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:26,359 Speaker 1: very he was very good. And you know what, like 148 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: we just celebrated three years. I can't believe that it's 149 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:31,360 Speaker 1: gonna it was three years. I mean, I don't know 150 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 1: who asked this the other day, but they're like, does 151 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 1: it feel like three years? And I'm like, it doesn't. 152 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 1: It feels like shorter. That's a good thing, right. I 153 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 1: don't feel like, oh my god, I'll go with this 154 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:40,919 Speaker 1: guy forever. Like I feel like it's so brad now, 155 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: I'm like three years already because we were never foun 156 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: we have. We have a lot of fun. Honestly, I 157 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: enjoy my time with you so much, like you're my 158 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 1: favorite person to hang out with and I'm fine with it. 159 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: I've never felt that way, right. 160 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to be with you all day every day. 161 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:57,200 Speaker 1: We too dude, I love eating with you, I love 162 00:06:57,279 --> 00:07:00,120 Speaker 1: writing bikes with you. Like we just I've never I've 163 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 1: ever been able to get away. And I've said this 164 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: so many times, but I really truly mean it, like 165 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:05,599 Speaker 1: where it's like, oh, I'm so excited to get away 166 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 1: just with you and we have dinner and we don't 167 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 1: necessarily have to talk about anything. It's just we're there 168 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 1: and we're just happy. And we've been sober. Yeah, that's 169 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: been huge for us too, Like both of us been sober, 170 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: like no cannabis, no alcohol. 171 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 2: Just shrooms a couple times. 172 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 1: A couple times when we went to Big Sur to 173 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: celebrate our three years, we did shrooms and not like 174 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: crazy amounts. You guys, it's not like and we don't 175 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: do it to like, oh let's fucking party and like 176 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: get crazy. Like we're always super intentional about like being 177 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: spiritually aligned and doing it for spiritual reasons. And it 178 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 1: was beautiful. We got in the jacuzzie and we just 179 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 1: talked and we just talked. It was so awesome. Yeah, yeah, 180 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 1: it was awesome. 181 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 2: This one was a good one because we were functional 182 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:52,559 Speaker 2: and we were able to have really great conversations. Yeah, 183 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 2: in a jacuzzie overlooking a mountain. Yeah, like it was incredible. 184 00:07:56,200 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: It was awesome. We were in nature. I swear I 185 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: was like talking to the trees and not like talking 186 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: to the ship. But I was like, dude, they're alive. 187 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 1: They're alive, And it just made me appreciate nature so 188 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 1: much in the moment. It was so awesome. You guys, 189 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 1: And for those of you shrooms they sound really bad, 190 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 1: but they're mushrooms. Okay, they come from the earth, you 191 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: guys are psychedelic psilocybin. It comes from the earth. It's supernatural. 192 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: They're medicinal. And if you don't know more about it, 193 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: maybe one day we can talk about it. We talked 194 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: about it on the pod. We're gonna probably have to 195 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:23,920 Speaker 1: invite someone to come and really get into it now 196 00:08:23,960 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 1: that we have a set. But like, I feel like 197 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: there even I always say this even better than Thailand, 198 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: or even better than a lot of things that we 199 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:32,280 Speaker 1: eat and drink on a daily basis. But that's just 200 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: my opinion. And we're grown ups and we're good. But 201 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:38,439 Speaker 1: we do it together and we're on the same frequency, 202 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:41,320 Speaker 1: and I feel like it's really helped our relationship as well. Yeah, 203 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: a lot. 204 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 2: My favorite benefit of you know, psilocybin is how present 205 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 2: it makes us. And every time we've had it, whether 206 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 2: it felt like it was a bad trip or not, 207 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 2: it always brought out what needed to come out. And 208 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 2: oh my god, yes, because sometimes we have we're smooth, say, 209 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:02,720 Speaker 2: and sometimes it gets a little rocky and rough, but 210 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 2: after it's like it brings out the things that we 211 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:08,800 Speaker 2: might be holding in and we talk, we talk, we 212 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 2: sit there, we cry together, we let everything out. And 213 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:16,199 Speaker 2: I think that's like there's always a benefit after. 214 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: We do it. Yeah, absolutely, And I always pray God, 215 00:09:20,160 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: this medicine that comes from like the earth that you 216 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 1: have provided, like let it like enter my body and 217 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 1: bring out only the best. And I remember right now 218 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:28,560 Speaker 1: that you brought that up. And I'm not sure if 219 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 1: we've ever talked about it or I did. But when 220 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:34,440 Speaker 1: we did it one time in Zion and we had 221 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 1: a massive argument, you guys before going into like the 222 00:09:37,880 --> 00:09:40,680 Speaker 1: narrows and we were supposed to we had this whole 223 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 1: day plan, had our little snacks, everything so excited and 224 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:45,839 Speaker 1: then it just kicked in right when we parked and 225 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: it was crazy, like we had really not horrible like 226 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 1: we're hitting each other, no, but we just had a 227 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: very deep discussion and I started crying and he was crying, 228 00:09:57,320 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 1: and I left the car and then like I felt 229 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 1: like a little girl like something. I don't know remember. 230 00:10:01,360 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: I don't even remember what the argument was about, but 231 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:05,680 Speaker 1: I just remember after that, I just we walked into 232 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:07,679 Speaker 1: the narrows together and it was just so awesome. 233 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 2: Yeah. I also don't remember what the argument was about 234 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 2: or what the conversation was about, but that time, like 235 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:18,680 Speaker 2: I hold onto that time. I feel it a lot. 236 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:22,560 Speaker 2: I get reminded of it a lot, especially when we 237 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 2: do shrooms, because what I take from it it was 238 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 2: it made us be present with each other and you know, 239 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:30,959 Speaker 2: express the things that we needed to express, and then 240 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:34,600 Speaker 2: it felt clean, And which is why I like to go. 241 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: To took out some junk, I guess. 242 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:38,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, which is why I like to go to 243 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 2: places like that with you, because we're like so close 244 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 2: to the earth, and I feel like I believe Mother 245 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 2: Nature created those places for us to go there, and 246 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 2: and it's she's doing wonders for us and like cleans 247 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 2: us and she's like, you know what, come here, be 248 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,559 Speaker 2: grounded here with me, and I'll clean you up a 249 00:10:55,600 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 2: little bit. Yeah, and we leave rejuvenated. Yeah, rejuvenated face cream, 250 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:02,320 Speaker 2: face cream, ice cream. 251 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,679 Speaker 1: Every time I say rejuvenated, guys, Now he's like face cream. 252 00:11:06,360 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 1: He uses my products and he loves them, don't. 253 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,439 Speaker 2: Like I do every day every day he uses. 254 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 1: My skincare products. Does it feel different like now that 255 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:21,199 Speaker 1: you're my fiance? Like? Does it feel different like? Because 256 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: I know, like there are times you, guys, and he 257 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: gets so mad at me when I'm with my boyfriend. 258 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 1: He's like, I'm here what I'm oh? Yeah, I'm sorry, 259 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 1: my fiance. I haven't done that. 260 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 2: I've done that maybe once or twice. 261 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, But. 262 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 2: I feel more connected to you for sure being fiancee, 263 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 2: and I feel like we're It means like we're you know, 264 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 2: committed to the same path, to the same things that 265 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 2: we want in our life. And it's just like it 266 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 2: to me, it's that prep It's that you know, right 267 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:53,880 Speaker 2: before husband and wife. 268 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 1: So it's like starting to feel like more what's the 269 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:57,520 Speaker 1: word solidified? 270 00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 2: Yes, I feel that a lot. 271 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: He taught me how to say that word correctly, guys, 272 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 1: because I used to say what felicitate youit felicity facilitate. 273 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, you're right. Babe, sorry, and then I 274 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 1: said solidified or sacilic. I don't know what I used 275 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 1: to say, but anyways, it's the word. But yes, it 276 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: does feel more so, it does. It does, and I 277 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:21,160 Speaker 1: like it. I like it, and I feel I feel 278 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: like we're in a really good place. And I don't know, 279 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 1: I really do see us eventually helping other couples out. 280 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:32,080 Speaker 1: I mean, because I've been very open about myself and 281 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 1: the things that I've had to work through and within 282 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: myself and my past relationships. And he's, as you guys 283 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 1: could see, he's very like level headed and very mature 284 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: and like he really grounds me. And I feel that 285 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: that's why it's worked, because you've been so so patient. 286 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: It's like the word that I can like, you've been very. 287 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 1: You've given me a lot of grace because I've been 288 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:59,599 Speaker 1: very honest and said, hey, this is I let it 289 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 1: all hang out, this is who I am yo, you know, 290 00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: And and he's been okay cool, like I let him know, 291 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:08,199 Speaker 1: and he's been very he's really helped me through it 292 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 1: and and I'm just I think, I don't know, and 293 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 1: we're in a good place because we're doing couples therapy. 294 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: You guys, Yeah, it's helped. 295 00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 2: A lot, which like reminds me of like what I 296 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:21,960 Speaker 2: wanted to say about being a fiance. It's even even this, 297 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 2: I would say, almost a year of being engaged. It's 298 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 2: changed dramatically since the beginning of our engagement to even now. 299 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 2: And I feel one of the biggest things that I 300 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 2: took from our premarital counting is that everyone's pre marital here. Yeah. 301 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 1: I was like, it's not a couples therapy. 302 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:45,439 Speaker 2: Okay, everyone plans for a wedding, but no one plans 303 00:13:45,440 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 2: for a marriage. And I think the difference between us 304 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:52,840 Speaker 2: and maybe you know, anyone else who's maybe not prepping 305 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 2: correctly is that we are prepping. We're putting in the 306 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 2: work this year preparing for our marriage, and we're like 307 00:13:58,920 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 2: getting things in line so that once we're married, we're 308 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 2: not like, what do you think about this? What do 309 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 2: you think about and yeah, And we're doing everything before 310 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:10,160 Speaker 2: it happens. And I think that's why we feel so ready. 311 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 2: We put in the work to prep for it, and 312 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 2: I think that's why we get are excited and we're 313 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 2: not really worried about as many things we were worried 314 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:20,640 Speaker 2: before that come with spending the rest of your life 315 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 2: with someone. Yeah, So that's why I feel. 316 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 1: Like we're both very open to the process, very open 317 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: and talking about There's certain things out in premarital counseling, 318 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: like I feel nervous to tell him, just him and 319 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 1: I because I'm like, I don't want to hurt his 320 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 1: feelings or what if I say it wrong. But I 321 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 1: go in there and I'm like, I have to be honest. 322 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 1: This is my chance. And he takes it so well 323 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:41,040 Speaker 1: and I take it so well. And I think because 324 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:44,560 Speaker 1: we're both just open to growing and making this relationship right, 325 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 1: Like we have to choose each other every single day. 326 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: And that's once that clicked in my mind. It's like, 327 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:53,000 Speaker 1: this is a choice. I have to choose this person, 328 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 1: which means I have to make certain adjustments. I have 329 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: to be willing to compromise, and that wasn't as easy 330 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:01,560 Speaker 1: for me before. But you also give me the room 331 00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:04,000 Speaker 1: for that, you know. I think it's because we're both ready, 332 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:07,680 Speaker 1: you know, And it makes the biggest difference in the world. Yeah. 333 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 2: I think one of the biggest things that we learned 334 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:13,480 Speaker 2: was that were a team and that was like one 335 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 2: and even like what that really means and in our 336 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 2: daily life and our language towards each other and how 337 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:21,720 Speaker 2: we say things and how we decide on things, and 338 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,480 Speaker 2: it's and it's never gonna just be you versus me. 339 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 2: It will never be you versus me. It's always us, 340 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:30,400 Speaker 2: and you know, and I think switching our mind into 341 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 2: that mentality, it's it's helped a lot versus like there's 342 00:15:34,760 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 2: there's no half and half, it's we're one, you know. 343 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:40,080 Speaker 2: So it's it's changed. 344 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:43,720 Speaker 1: A lot for sure. And that's another thing that I 345 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:46,240 Speaker 1: was listening to a to a friend of mine, and 346 00:15:47,840 --> 00:15:52,480 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful because she was explaining like how her 347 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:55,200 Speaker 1: partner is like, well, if we have to go to therapy, 348 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 1: then that means we shouldn't be together. And I was 349 00:15:58,680 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: just like shit, like that's so which that's not the 350 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 1: right way to see things, Like it's like it's not, oh, 351 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:05,840 Speaker 1: if I have to go to therapy, something's wrong with me, 352 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:08,960 Speaker 1: I'm damaged, I'm this and that, Like, no, it's it's 353 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:11,760 Speaker 1: really we're two different people, you guys. This is why 354 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: I'm such a huge advocate of of you know, counseling, 355 00:16:14,920 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 1: of life coaching, of therapy, is because we're two different 356 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 1: people coming together and that could be very difficult because 357 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: we're so said in our ways. But if we're open 358 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 1: to expanding and becoming one, it's not necessarily losing myself 359 00:16:29,680 --> 00:16:31,160 Speaker 1: because that was what I was scared of. I was like, 360 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: oh no, I still want to be me. I still 361 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 1: want to be free, I still want to like and 362 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:37,040 Speaker 1: I now I know I can be myself and I 363 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 1: can't also let him be himself, not let him he 364 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:42,320 Speaker 1: should be and I should be. And then we just 365 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: come together and discuss certain things. And I think that's 366 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:47,320 Speaker 1: what dude, I've grown so much, even like in the 367 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: past freaking few months, like where I'm like, oh, dude, 368 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 1: like it's I had an epiphany. I'm like I'm always evolving. 369 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 1: I'm always like, oh my god, I'm so glad because 370 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 1: like I used to see this differently. Now I'm like, yes, 371 00:16:56,720 --> 00:16:59,520 Speaker 1: we're a team. And it just completely switched everything for me. 372 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 1: And I wasn't very easy, but I wanted to, you know, 373 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 1: and you know, and we even talked about IVF in 374 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:08,600 Speaker 1: you know, premarital you know, and it's like with something 375 00:17:08,640 --> 00:17:10,000 Speaker 1: like you guys really got to talk about this. Do 376 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:11,880 Speaker 1: you guys really want kids? And I was like, well, 377 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:14,359 Speaker 1: I'm eighty percent. No. I was like I'm chilling, Like 378 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:17,520 Speaker 1: I'm like I'm already at this age, like I barely 379 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:20,640 Speaker 1: like Johnny's just moved out, Like I'm just I'm really 380 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:23,720 Speaker 1: trying to figure myself out. But then so many things happen. 381 00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 1: It's like we talked about it and we were just 382 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:29,520 Speaker 1: like we decided even on we'll go back to IVF 383 00:17:29,560 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 1: for now. But even with like the wedding date, like 384 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:34,359 Speaker 1: I was, I don't know where right and you were 385 00:17:34,520 --> 00:17:36,680 Speaker 1: were we weren't in the same city. I was traveling. 386 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:39,280 Speaker 1: I don't remember where we were at. But anyways, I 387 00:17:39,359 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 1: was thinking and we had talked about, okay, so are 388 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:44,480 Speaker 1: we really going to get married like next year, like 389 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 1: what's the plan? And then we kind of like had 390 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:50,199 Speaker 1: a little discussion. I was in Mexico, actually I was 391 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:53,200 Speaker 1: in TJ, and we kind of it was like starting 392 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:55,199 Speaker 1: to become like a little bit of an argument. And 393 00:17:55,200 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 1: then I was like, you know what, we'll talk about 394 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:57,760 Speaker 1: it when we get home. You're like, yeah, let's talk 395 00:17:57,760 --> 00:17:59,159 Speaker 1: about it because this is something I really want to 396 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,119 Speaker 1: talk about. Like I was like, oh shoot, I was 397 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 1: like all right. So I started thinking about it and 398 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:04,480 Speaker 1: I was like I'm going to pray about this. I 399 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:06,600 Speaker 1: was like, let me just settle and then I was like, Okay, 400 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to talk to him about this and I 401 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 1: have a plan. I have a plan. Hopefully he'll be 402 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 1: on board and see what he thinks or whatever. And 403 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:14,560 Speaker 1: the crazy thing is is when I came and I said, Babe, 404 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 1: this is what I was thinking, what if we just 405 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 1: do this type of wedding? And he's like what I 406 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:22,600 Speaker 1: was thinking the same exact thing. Yeah, right, yeah, And 407 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:24,600 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, this is god. I 408 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 1: was like, okay, yeah. 409 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 2: Because I felt a little nervous, but like I just 410 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 2: felt a little antsy because things a lot of things 411 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:33,879 Speaker 2: started happening quickly, and I. 412 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 1: Was like my career. 413 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:37,800 Speaker 2: I was like, what's going to happen? And you know, 414 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:40,360 Speaker 2: and I don't know. I kind of figured I kind 415 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:42,200 Speaker 2: of put the pieces together for the rest of the year. 416 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,880 Speaker 2: And then it was exactly what you were thinking as well. 417 00:18:46,119 --> 00:18:49,199 Speaker 1: It's because like you just got to talk about it, 418 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:51,560 Speaker 1: and I think he felt like, hello, we had like, well, 419 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:53,160 Speaker 1: where's the wedding going to fit in? Because we both 420 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:55,040 Speaker 1: were like we don't want to be engaged for a 421 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:56,640 Speaker 1: long time, like that's not what we want. We want 422 00:18:56,640 --> 00:18:59,040 Speaker 1: to get married. But then I started getting a bunch 423 00:18:59,080 --> 00:19:02,200 Speaker 1: of opportunities and then he's, you know, with his career, 424 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,879 Speaker 1: and we're like, oh wait, what's really going to happen? 425 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 1: You know, It's like so anyways, he was worried, I 426 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:11,359 Speaker 1: was worried, and it just so happened to be that 427 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:12,879 Speaker 1: we were on the same page and now we have 428 00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:15,640 Speaker 1: a plan and it's like great, and IVF is done. 429 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:16,840 Speaker 1: Actually talking about. 430 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:19,399 Speaker 2: IBF, Yeah, I kind of wanted to say something on that. 431 00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 2: I think about when you were like, you know, eighty 432 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 2: percent now, you always leaned more towards you didn't want 433 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 2: to have kids. Yeah, And I think as our relationship 434 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:34,719 Speaker 2: has progressed and we've been more secure about our future 435 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:36,359 Speaker 2: and what we want and. 436 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:37,880 Speaker 1: You makes me feel safe that's why. 437 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:42,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, so do you. And also creating the space in 438 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:47,200 Speaker 2: our lives for that with you know, it really got 439 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:50,440 Speaker 2: us to a place to where you felt open to it. 440 00:19:50,840 --> 00:19:53,440 Speaker 2: And then as things started happening, I just was sitting back. 441 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:55,479 Speaker 2: I didn't want to like say anything, but like I 442 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:58,239 Speaker 2: was really sitting back through the IVF process and like 443 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 2: letting it sink into your head. Yeah, I saw the 444 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:07,639 Speaker 2: excitement growing each week, and for me, I was like, 445 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:11,920 Speaker 2: you deserve this, and I felt that out seeing you 446 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:16,439 Speaker 2: excited about finally being open to having kids, Like I 447 00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:18,239 Speaker 2: was like, you deserve this, You deserve to have all 448 00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:20,639 Speaker 2: these things, and it shouldn't you should not have that 449 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:22,680 Speaker 2: because you were scared of anything. 450 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:26,080 Speaker 1: Or yeah, I was. I had a lot of things 451 00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 1: that I hadn't even impact. I thought it was for 452 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 1: one reason or another, and it was just a bunch 453 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: of reasons. And but then at the end of the day, 454 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,639 Speaker 1: I'm like, what the heck, Like I would love to 455 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:39,720 Speaker 1: see a little human that we can grow like together 456 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: and then mold. And it was just started becoming very 457 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:45,359 Speaker 1: excited then to see you, Like I knew he was 458 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,160 Speaker 1: going to be a great dad, And we talked about 459 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: this on one of the first episodes, like I'm like 460 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:51,679 Speaker 1: one with Ryu with our dog, how you are just 461 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 1: so patient and like the way you train him. And 462 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:56,159 Speaker 1: I know, obviously you can't like compare a dog to 463 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 1: like a human being, but when I saw that, I 464 00:20:58,560 --> 00:20:59,880 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, he's so patient. It wakes 465 00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:01,680 Speaker 1: up every like three hours, and it's like I'm like, 466 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:04,000 Speaker 1: he'd be a really good dad because I'm like then, 467 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:05,879 Speaker 1: I'm like, I wouldn't mind you be my baby daddy. 468 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:07,880 Speaker 1: You know I ain't got no other baby mama drama. 469 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:11,200 Speaker 1: I'm chilling, like you know, you have a beautiful family, 470 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:13,960 Speaker 1: you have a beautiful mind. Like I knew, if God 471 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 1: forbid anything ever happened to me and I have to 472 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 1: leave this earth, I know my baby would be in 473 00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:21,760 Speaker 1: great hands. And that's what to me is so important 474 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 1: because I didn't have the best father figure. You know, 475 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,280 Speaker 1: he was a good dad, but so much shit happen, 476 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 1: as you guys know, you know, and he's out of 477 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 1: my life, and I just want to make sure that 478 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:34,879 Speaker 1: you know my baby has a good family. And I 479 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 1: love your family. I love your mother, I love your 480 00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:39,480 Speaker 1: g I love your whole family. And it's just such 481 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:42,200 Speaker 1: a blessing. So is there any advice that you would 482 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:44,919 Speaker 1: like to give any guys out there that are going 483 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,000 Speaker 1: and be honest, because I know I was a handful, 484 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,440 Speaker 1: but was it really I don't know say the truth 485 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:51,280 Speaker 1: about IVF. Is there any type of advice that you 486 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:52,560 Speaker 1: would like to give anybody out. 487 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:58,439 Speaker 2: There, because it's what I really want and I know 488 00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 2: I want this with you there wasn't a real part 489 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 2: of the process that was like like, ah, this is 490 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,400 Speaker 2: too hard or this is the only thing I can 491 00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:10,080 Speaker 2: think of is just seeing you going through, you know, 492 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:13,240 Speaker 2: all the medications and you being you know, a little 493 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:16,480 Speaker 2: sluggish and the pain of you physically putting a needle 494 00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:21,639 Speaker 2: in you. But besides that physical toll on you, like, 495 00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 2: the entire process emotionally is honestly more exciting than scary, 496 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:31,920 Speaker 2: and especially knowing what we were going for and learning 497 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 2: about it, learning about your body. Like, I felt really 498 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,800 Speaker 2: excited throughout the entire process versus scary. The only thing 499 00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:41,400 Speaker 2: that was a little scary and I got a little 500 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:44,400 Speaker 2: sad on was just you and physical pain. But one 501 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:48,000 Speaker 2: thing too, though, I'm really glad that we were only 502 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:49,160 Speaker 2: able to I mean. 503 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:50,840 Speaker 1: That we only had to go through it once. 504 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 2: Yes, that we only had to go through at one time. 505 00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: I prayed for that a lot. Guys. 506 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. I could imagine how tough it could 507 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 2: be if we had to do it two, three, maybe 508 00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 2: even four times. 509 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:08,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, recommend Yeah, And I admire the women that have 510 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:10,760 Speaker 1: because it is a lot on your body, you know 511 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:12,879 Speaker 1: what I mean, and on your emotional state, and you 512 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 1: feel like oh my god, why do I There are 513 00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:16,879 Speaker 1: moments where I was like, Okay, it sucks that I 514 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:18,560 Speaker 1: have to do this, you know, But then I'm like, well, no, 515 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:20,399 Speaker 1: this is a blessing. And I would go back and forth, 516 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:22,359 Speaker 1: and it's just I prayed for it so much. I 517 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:23,639 Speaker 1: was like, God, please, I just want to do this 518 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:26,200 Speaker 1: one time. The entire year, I was thinking about work, 519 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 1: I was thinking about my body. I was thinking about 520 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 1: just so many different things that I was like, I'm 521 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 1: so grateful, and you're right, you know, because it is women. 522 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 1: We go through a lot. You guys, we go through 523 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 1: a lot. 524 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 2: One thing on the amount of where the regret if 525 00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,840 Speaker 2: we didn't do it or if we did. For us, 526 00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:47,159 Speaker 2: I told you after we retrieved eggs, So just for 527 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,920 Speaker 2: general knowledge, like if people want one kid, the doctor 528 00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 2: recommends to have at least two healthy eggs. If they 529 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 2: want more than two kids, it's you know, three four. 530 00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,400 Speaker 2: But you know, were we agreed, we're okay with one. 531 00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,639 Speaker 2: So our goal was for two. And I told you 532 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 2: that before we get the results back on if they're 533 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 2: healthy or not. I if we got if we got 534 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:15,359 Speaker 2: one and we needed to, I would probably push for 535 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,680 Speaker 2: a conversation to be like, hey, maybe we should try 536 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 2: this one more time. Yeah, because I felt like we're 537 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:23,720 Speaker 2: kind of right there, right if we got none. I 538 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 2: told you we wouldn't have to go through it again 539 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,960 Speaker 2: if you didn't want to. And I'm okay with at 540 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 2: my peace with us trying and if it happens naturally, 541 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:35,640 Speaker 2: happens naturally. But that's where I was with the numbers, 542 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:39,120 Speaker 2: and I was totally okay with not doing it again 543 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 2: if we got zero. But yeah, but the. 544 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 1: Goodness, you know, we've got twelve total, and then we 545 00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 1: got seven after like they retrieve them or like they 546 00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:50,679 Speaker 1: do the thing, right, was it? 547 00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:52,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, once they mixed it, Yeah, once they mixed. 548 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:57,399 Speaker 1: Yeah. So anyways, that's IVF And I'm so grateful and like, 549 00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:01,679 Speaker 1: I'm so appreciative that I have a partner that's so 550 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 1: great and so like understanding because it is something that 551 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,080 Speaker 1: I felt like, oh my god, that sucks, like he's 552 00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 1: gonna think something's wrong with him. But in reality, it's not. 553 00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 1: That's not it, you guys. It's just it's time. It's 554 00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:15,920 Speaker 1: it's life. It's what happens, and it's part of being 555 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:18,720 Speaker 1: a woman. And I see it in a different way, 556 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:20,800 Speaker 1: and it really I'm really happy that I did it. 557 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I am. Also because I've always told you that 558 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,240 Speaker 2: I'm okay if we don't have kids, because you can't, like, 559 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:32,159 Speaker 2: I won't ever put that on you. Not trying is 560 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,119 Speaker 2: a different thing. But yeah, I feel like you findly 561 00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:38,800 Speaker 2: believe me now now that we have done IVF to 562 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:42,080 Speaker 2: where you know you you believe what I say. I'm like, 563 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,640 Speaker 2: this is what I want. If we can do it, great. 564 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 2: If we can't, it's also okay. And there's you know, 565 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:49,800 Speaker 2: I won't ever like hold that against you in any 566 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:50,359 Speaker 2: sort of way. 567 00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:52,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know you've been You've been good. You said 568 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:59,400 Speaker 1: you'd be fine with just me, my handful. It's a lot. Whatever. 569 00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:08,439 Speaker 1: So now that the Johnny has moved out, how do 570 00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,199 Speaker 1: you feel about that? We haven't really talked about it 571 00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 1: too much. I mean we have that we miss. 572 00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:16,640 Speaker 2: Him, little comments for sure, little comments here and there. 573 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:23,040 Speaker 2: It does feel weird. I'll go downstairs and I'm like, 574 00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:26,600 Speaker 2: there's no one else here, and I'm like, and and 575 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,360 Speaker 2: we just had routines and we just bump into each 576 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:35,200 Speaker 2: other and we just would talk, and it it does. 577 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:39,399 Speaker 2: It's bittersweet because it does if I miss Johnny, I 578 00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,720 Speaker 2: miss Johnny in the house and it feels weird with 579 00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:44,600 Speaker 2: him not there, like super close, even though he still 580 00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:46,679 Speaker 2: is kind of close, but it's not as close as like, hey, John, 581 00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:48,480 Speaker 2: come downstairs. 582 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:50,560 Speaker 1: But uh, I love you. 583 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:52,919 Speaker 2: I love john I know. 584 00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:54,200 Speaker 1: I love that they love each other. 585 00:26:54,280 --> 00:27:00,159 Speaker 2: Dude. I'm also like just super happy for him to 586 00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 2: like see his growth from you know, from when I 587 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 2: met you guys to now. And yeah, you know the 588 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:10,080 Speaker 2: thing that like kind of like I'm okay with is 589 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,360 Speaker 2: saying how happy he is right now. I've never seen 590 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:17,560 Speaker 2: him so just he's thriving, comfortable and thriving and super happy. 591 00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,679 Speaker 2: And I'll drive by his building and I was like, oh, 592 00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:21,520 Speaker 2: he's one that he's good. 593 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:26,879 Speaker 1: I know, same same, but yeah, it's crazy. Sorry, it's okay. 594 00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 1: You don't have to be sorry. I love that about you. 595 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,640 Speaker 1: I love that, you know, there's so much like we've 596 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,800 Speaker 1: talked about this as well, that you know, being latinos 597 00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,000 Speaker 1: and stuff, and it's like, oh, guys, don't cry, And 598 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 1: I like, I love the fact that you're so willing 599 00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 1: to be vulnerable and not a lot of guys are. 600 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:41,719 Speaker 1: And I think that's why I fall in love with you, 601 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:45,840 Speaker 1: because you're just you're just I don't know. I think 602 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,200 Speaker 1: I found you or you found me. We found each 603 00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:50,920 Speaker 1: other at the right time, because it wouldn't have worked 604 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:52,600 Speaker 1: if like the things that you say that how you 605 00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,920 Speaker 1: were before and how I was, it just wouldn't have worked. 606 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:56,600 Speaker 1: Like we had to go through everything we went through 607 00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,000 Speaker 1: in order to be here. So, if anything, I am 608 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:01,520 Speaker 1: so grateful that you loved me, because I've been in 609 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:03,879 Speaker 1: situations where it's been the complete opposite and it was 610 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,399 Speaker 1: the worst thing ever for me. So the fact that 611 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:09,679 Speaker 1: you've always been so you've always embraced him. And he 612 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 1: texts you, I think more than he texted me. I 613 00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:13,399 Speaker 1: love you, I miss you. Like It's like, I'm like, 614 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,399 Speaker 1: it makes me so happy. I'm like, just like I 615 00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: love this. I love it. And he wants us to 616 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:18,480 Speaker 1: have a kid so bad. You have no idea. Yeah, 617 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:20,679 Speaker 1: He's like, this is it. This is a guy. You 618 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:22,159 Speaker 1: need to have a kid. This is it. I see it. 619 00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:23,800 Speaker 1: It's going to happen this year. I'm like, oh my god. 620 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 1: And he's and we all know he's a little psychic. Yeah, 621 00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: so he's a prophet. So I'm just like, dude, I 622 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,200 Speaker 1: like it's I guess Johnny said, we got to do 623 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:31,560 Speaker 1: it many. 624 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why anytime he tells us anything, I'm like, Okay, 625 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:38,440 Speaker 2: it's gonna happen. I have to worry about it. 626 00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:40,840 Speaker 1: I know, it's like, dude, he's the youngest, but it's 627 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:42,360 Speaker 1: like a lot of the ship that he has said, 628 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, fuck, he's right. I mean, I know it, 629 00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:48,120 Speaker 1: and he always has valid reasons about a lot of things. 630 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,960 Speaker 1: But it's just that it's crazy. He has a gift. 631 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:53,640 Speaker 2: I think that's also why I connected so much of John, 632 00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 2: because I feel like we think the same things, and 633 00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,479 Speaker 2: I feel like we're always on the same page. And 634 00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,640 Speaker 2: so like anytime he says something and everyone goes against them, 635 00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:03,560 Speaker 2: I'm like. 636 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 1: I agree with him. I agree with you. 637 00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:08,040 Speaker 2: You know. Shit. 638 00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:13,440 Speaker 1: Sorry if but he knows ship, he really does, he 639 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,200 Speaker 1: really does. Yeah. I mean, I'm so grateful. I want 640 00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 1: to play a game with you, a game that I 641 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:21,239 Speaker 1: think you may very well know because you shoot all 642 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:22,640 Speaker 1: their pictures. 643 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:26,040 Speaker 2: Who are not really strangers. Yeah nice, yea. 644 00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:27,400 Speaker 1: I bought a bunch of them. 645 00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 2: I thought we were already getting deep deeper. 646 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,400 Speaker 1: We'll pull out a couple of cards. We have had 647 00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:37,440 Speaker 1: these cards. He knows the owner and I know them too. 648 00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: I met them through him, but he does all their 649 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:42,040 Speaker 1: product pictures and they're in Target. Actually it's pretty cool. 650 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:46,160 Speaker 1: But anyways, I really love this, this this game, and 651 00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:47,560 Speaker 1: I've never played it with him. We've had it in 652 00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 1: our drawer in the nightstand and we've never played it. Actually, look, 653 00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:55,080 Speaker 1: we've never played it. I'm not lying. So do you 654 00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,840 Speaker 1: want to help me unwrap these real quick? Yes? It's 655 00:29:57,840 --> 00:29:59,600 Speaker 1: a couple's addition, and we're going to get to know 656 00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:01,440 Speaker 1: each other a little bit more. These are like having 657 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:04,920 Speaker 1: This is about having a real conversation with strangers, with 658 00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:07,160 Speaker 1: your couple, with your friends, with your family, and really 659 00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:10,440 Speaker 1: talking about deep shit that usually you wouldn't talk about. 660 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:16,760 Speaker 1: So this facilitates it. I couldn't say anonymous before either, 661 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:18,840 Speaker 1: and I learned that one too. I don't know why. 662 00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 1: I would just get like a little difficult to pronounce 663 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:22,880 Speaker 1: certain words. 664 00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:24,920 Speaker 2: Different levels. Yes, the one that you grab. 665 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:28,200 Speaker 1: This one, this is three, and this is two. Okay, 666 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:30,240 Speaker 1: all right, I give this a miss Kim over there? 667 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,560 Speaker 1: All right, guys, So basically, I mean we've done this before. 668 00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:35,880 Speaker 1: I pulled out a three cards, But anyways, this is 669 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 1: the couple's edition and we're gonna pull you one, two 670 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:38,960 Speaker 1: or three. 671 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:42,680 Speaker 2: We should I think we should do whatever you want. 672 00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,160 Speaker 2: I say, let's do one, two, three. But if you 673 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 2: want to go one. 674 00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,480 Speaker 1: Two, three, three, okay, cool? Can you pick one from 675 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:48,080 Speaker 1: level one? 676 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 2: Describe the first time we met through your perspective in detail, the. 677 00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:59,440 Speaker 1: First time we through my perspective. Okay, guys, So this 678 00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:02,560 Speaker 1: is this is the truth. I met him when I 679 00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:04,720 Speaker 1: was going through a really tough time. I was going 680 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:08,880 Speaker 1: through separation and emotionally, I was nowhere near like wanting 681 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:12,320 Speaker 1: or in any business trying to get into a relationship. 682 00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:12,560 Speaker 2: I was. 683 00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:14,320 Speaker 1: It was a really bad place for me. But I 684 00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:16,880 Speaker 1: remember him walking in and because he was taking pictures 685 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,280 Speaker 1: of me. It was for We've talked about it a 686 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:22,239 Speaker 1: little bit, but it was he was taking pictures of 687 00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:25,080 Speaker 1: me for a video shoot that I was going to 688 00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,239 Speaker 1: have with Becky g for Joelene and anyways, we were 689 00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,800 Speaker 1: in the pandemic. So anyways, that's how I met him. 690 00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:32,200 Speaker 1: Why I met him And he came into the house 691 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:33,400 Speaker 1: and I just remember I'm like, oh my god. I 692 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:34,920 Speaker 1: was like there was something about him, like he just 693 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,120 Speaker 1: smiles it Hi I'm a Milia And I'm like, oh, Hi, 694 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:39,040 Speaker 1: and I just looked and I was like, damn ye, 695 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,000 Speaker 1: it's really pretty eyes. I didn't say anything, obviously. I 696 00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:42,680 Speaker 1: was just I thought it and I told my makeup 697 00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,960 Speaker 1: people and I was like, oh my god, like, you know, 698 00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:50,040 Speaker 1: he's very cute, and I'm like, can you ask if 699 00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:53,120 Speaker 1: he's married? And it was Carlos. He's doing my makeup 700 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,640 Speaker 1: that day. His name is Carlos Tomorrow and anyways, and 701 00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:57,240 Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, don't ture bitch. I got it. So 702 00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:59,040 Speaker 1: I was like, okay. So he's like you're mis sneak 703 00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:00,959 Speaker 1: in there, and I guess he asked you right, are 704 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:04,479 Speaker 1: you married? And then you said no? And then I 705 00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,240 Speaker 1: was and I was like, well, does he have a girlfriend? 706 00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:07,360 Speaker 1: I was like did you ask if he has a 707 00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 1: girlfriend the follow up question? And he's like, no, bitch, 708 00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 1: but he ain't married, so that don't matter. And I 709 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:14,240 Speaker 1: was like, okay, fine. I was like, well, I guess 710 00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:15,840 Speaker 1: you know, but I was like, you know what, I'm 711 00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:17,840 Speaker 1: going through way too much. I'm separated right now, but 712 00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:19,719 Speaker 1: there's a lot of things I have to unpack. So 713 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:21,160 Speaker 1: I just was like whatever, and then I was like, okay, 714 00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:23,640 Speaker 1: be professional. So I was I think very professional. 715 00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:24,080 Speaker 2: I don't know. 716 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,240 Speaker 1: You tell me if I was. I thought that I was. 717 00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:30,560 Speaker 1: I did, but for the most part, I wasn't like, 718 00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,360 Speaker 1: was I being flirty a little. 719 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 2: Bit a little slightly okay? 720 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,520 Speaker 1: Maybe yeah, okay, cool, then I was being flirty, but 721 00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:39,240 Speaker 1: I felt like I was being respectful. But yes, I 722 00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:40,800 Speaker 1: did tell him. I was like, hey, I like your eyeballs, 723 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,560 Speaker 1: That's what I told him. And he was very professional, 724 00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: you guys, which I love. He was very professional. I 725 00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,520 Speaker 1: didn't even think that he was like into me or anything. 726 00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:50,520 Speaker 1: He was just very nice. 727 00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:54,240 Speaker 2: And then you were looking a little thick that day. 728 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,360 Speaker 1: I was a little little thick, but yeah, so then 729 00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:00,400 Speaker 1: that's it was really nice. And I remember I was like, Okay, 730 00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,760 Speaker 1: he's really cute and he was so professional. He was 731 00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:04,960 Speaker 1: so nice, and that was what I thought. That was 732 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:06,960 Speaker 1: my perspective when we first met, and then we met 733 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,280 Speaker 1: again after that, and that was even That was Bunner. 734 00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,800 Speaker 1: But that's not the question, okay. So like usually the 735 00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,040 Speaker 1: way the game works, you guys, is that we both 736 00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:16,480 Speaker 1: have to respond. So I went deeper in it. So 737 00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:18,440 Speaker 1: if you want to add anything, babe, real quick, and 738 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:19,960 Speaker 1: then I'll choose one because I want to ask. 739 00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:24,320 Speaker 2: Him yeah, I our first. We know our first and 740 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:27,080 Speaker 2: second time. We kind of like mixed them together because 741 00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:28,240 Speaker 2: we know each other. 742 00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:29,680 Speaker 1: But what did you think of me? 743 00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:35,040 Speaker 2: Describe the first time we met? Through you we met. 744 00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 2: I remember when you came out of your glam m hmm. 745 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,080 Speaker 2: This has never happened to me, and I'm sure it 746 00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,240 Speaker 2: really did happen, but you came out of that glamor 747 00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:48,200 Speaker 2: room in slow motion and I was like, oh my god. 748 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:51,600 Speaker 2: And then we came up to each other and then 749 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:55,040 Speaker 2: we were both like I would say, how are you? 750 00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:58,120 Speaker 2: And that that actually happened for real? Has it never 751 00:33:58,120 --> 00:33:59,600 Speaker 2: happened in my life? And that happened? 752 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:01,760 Speaker 1: Told me that I had like this glow around like 753 00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:03,600 Speaker 1: in the movies. Yeah, he told me that. 754 00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:05,360 Speaker 2: I was like, really, you were across the room and 755 00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,680 Speaker 2: you were walking to motion. I was like, oh my god. 756 00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:10,520 Speaker 2: And then I couldn't speak. 757 00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:11,640 Speaker 1: I hope it ever goes away. 758 00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:14,080 Speaker 2: It doesn't, Oh my god. 759 00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:19,680 Speaker 1: Okay, I don't choose what this is fun? Okay, Oh 760 00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:25,000 Speaker 1: my god, I would choose this freaking card. Okay, there 761 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,279 Speaker 1: you go. When was the last time I hurt you? 762 00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:28,840 Speaker 1: Perhaps unintentionally? 763 00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:32,160 Speaker 2: Oh all right, we're getting into it. 764 00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:32,759 Speaker 1: Let's do it. 765 00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:42,640 Speaker 2: Oh man, Uh, the last time you hurt me, I 766 00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:46,880 Speaker 2: would say, oh, he's like two hours ago, and I 767 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:51,960 Speaker 2: was kidding. You know, Thankfully, we don't really hurt each 768 00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:55,359 Speaker 2: other a lot in this relationship. I think we're both 769 00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,880 Speaker 2: mature enough to understand that things do happen, and you know, 770 00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:02,759 Speaker 2: we do spend every day interacting with each other. And 771 00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:09,880 Speaker 2: but I feel sometimes, you know, if if I'm in 772 00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:14,719 Speaker 2: a jolly mood and maybe you're not, and sometimes it 773 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,719 Speaker 2: might feel to me that you might take something out 774 00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:22,760 Speaker 2: on me. But I've also learned that, you know, unless 775 00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,759 Speaker 2: I really know I did something to you, it's it's 776 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,759 Speaker 2: something that likes to be patient. You know, we're both 777 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:31,640 Speaker 2: going through a lot of things every single day, and 778 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:36,040 Speaker 2: I don't take things personal from you if I know 779 00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:41,279 Speaker 2: that it's not intended for me. But but yeah, just. 780 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:43,160 Speaker 1: Sometimes that my tone of voice, huh. 781 00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and it makes me think, like, oh, she 782 00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:47,520 Speaker 2: not love me today? Why is she being mean? Is that? 783 00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:51,440 Speaker 1: You know? Yeah? But yeah, and that's something that you 784 00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:53,480 Speaker 1: brought up to me, like not so long ago, where 785 00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:55,440 Speaker 1: you're like, you know what, sometimes like your tone of voice, 786 00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,080 Speaker 1: you know, it makes me feel a certain way and 787 00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,279 Speaker 1: I'm like, shit, Like, it's not the first time I 788 00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:03,080 Speaker 1: hear that, so I'm like, damn, I really want I 789 00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:05,080 Speaker 1: definitely don't want to hurt you. You're one person that 790 00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:06,719 Speaker 1: I don't want to hurt. So I'm just like, every 791 00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:08,880 Speaker 1: time you bring something to my attention, I'm like, I 792 00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:10,799 Speaker 1: need to fix it. I want to fix it, you know. 793 00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,799 Speaker 1: And I think that I've done pretty good with that 794 00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,000 Speaker 1: with the things that you tell me, but it is 795 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:19,319 Speaker 1: sometimes I'm not even I'm dealing with so much, so 796 00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:21,120 Speaker 1: many other things that have nothing to do with the 797 00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 1: relationship that you. We tend to take it out on 798 00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:27,080 Speaker 1: the closest person to us, and I admit to that. 799 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,480 Speaker 1: And for the most part, I'm very good at like 800 00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:31,440 Speaker 1: if I'm upset at one person, i'm upset at that person, 801 00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,120 Speaker 1: and I don't take it out on the world. But 802 00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 1: for some reason, my partner, because I'm he's you're the 803 00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,480 Speaker 1: closest person to me, and I'm like so vulnerable with 804 00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,640 Speaker 1: you and everything, like you get the shorter end of 805 00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:44,080 Speaker 1: the stick and that's not fair. So I get that, 806 00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:47,160 Speaker 1: and I and I I'm sorry about that, and I 807 00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:52,120 Speaker 1: love you and I'm sorry about that. That's okay, so yeah, okay, 808 00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:54,600 Speaker 1: what about you and take another one. It'll be the 809 00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:55,080 Speaker 1: last one. 810 00:36:55,200 --> 00:37:00,400 Speaker 2: Okay, what did this conversation teach you about our relationship? 811 00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:02,320 Speaker 2: What did it teach you about yourself? 812 00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:11,000 Speaker 1: Hmmm? It taught me about our relationship that that we're 813 00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:14,359 Speaker 1: in a really good place that I'm very proud of us. 814 00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:21,719 Speaker 1: It taught me that there's always room to grow, that 815 00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:28,480 Speaker 1: I continue to learn more about myself and things that 816 00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:32,400 Speaker 1: I want to work on for the betterment of our relationship. 817 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,279 Speaker 1: And I love having these conversations with you because I 818 00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:39,719 Speaker 1: have the deepest conversations with you about our relationship and 819 00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,640 Speaker 1: things that have nothing to do with our relationship, and 820 00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:45,680 Speaker 1: I always learn something and I'm just grateful. It taught 821 00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:47,319 Speaker 1: me to just be grateful for the person that I 822 00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 1: have in front of me and to just continue on 823 00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:56,000 Speaker 1: this path that we're on. That's what That's what. 824 00:37:55,920 --> 00:38:02,400 Speaker 2: It taught me. That because because I've said this before 825 00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:05,840 Speaker 2: last time, but we really talk to each other like 826 00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:08,680 Speaker 2: this every day, and for me, what it's making me 827 00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:12,400 Speaker 2: kind of realize is like how normal it is in 828 00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,719 Speaker 2: our relationship that we have these conversations a lot, because 829 00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,920 Speaker 2: I don't feel like pressure around them. I don't feel 830 00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:22,640 Speaker 2: scared around them, but obviously today we're doing it on 831 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,360 Speaker 2: your podcast, so now it made me see it different 832 00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,520 Speaker 2: where I'm like, what is there to be scared of 833 00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:30,400 Speaker 2: because or nervous because we do this. We do this 834 00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:35,759 Speaker 2: every day and these conversations are how they go, and 835 00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:41,399 Speaker 2: you know, I think it's something that is so it's 836 00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:45,640 Speaker 2: such a benefit for relationships. And I think if more 837 00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:49,960 Speaker 2: people were more comfortable with speaking to their partners in 838 00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:53,399 Speaker 2: a calm manner and actually listening, a lot of things 839 00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:55,359 Speaker 2: can be resolved. And I think that's why we've been 840 00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:56,560 Speaker 2: able to have so much growth. 841 00:38:56,880 --> 00:39:01,960 Speaker 1: Absolutely, I agree, yeah, you And I love this conversation. 842 00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:05,319 Speaker 1: And I love my podcast because I'm able to just 843 00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,480 Speaker 1: be vulnerable and share and be transparent with people and 844 00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:14,879 Speaker 1: help other people through my experiences, through our experiences. And 845 00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,279 Speaker 1: thank you for being open enough to be on this 846 00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:21,719 Speaker 1: podcast again and taking me with everything that I do, 847 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,359 Speaker 1: because it's not just my podcast. I do quite a bit. 848 00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,640 Speaker 1: And you freaking are awesome. You're fucking trooper man. Thanks, 849 00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:29,880 Speaker 1: And I'm cool with you, like you know, shooting sexy 850 00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,120 Speaker 1: ass girls, you know, and I'm cool with it, and 851 00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:33,680 Speaker 1: it's okay because you love me. 852 00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:36,319 Speaker 2: I love you so much and you show me every day. 853 00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,000 Speaker 1: Yes, I do. So you want to kiss me or no? 854 00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:43,799 Speaker 1: Oh sorry dude? 855 00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:49,160 Speaker 2: Oh my god? 856 00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:54,080 Speaker 1: Nice? Nice? Anyways, you guys. Anyways, you guys, here's my mic. 857 00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:59,040 Speaker 1: Thank you for joining us on this episode of Cheeky's 858 00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:01,520 Speaker 1: and Chill catch me on the one babe. Anything you 859 00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:02,680 Speaker 1: want to tell anybody before we go? 860 00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 2: No, thank you for having me. I'm glad we were 861 00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:08,720 Speaker 2: able to do this. And if anyone ever has questions 862 00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:11,200 Speaker 2: for us, we love to help people. We love to 863 00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:14,160 Speaker 2: help relationships, and for sure it's something that we're really 864 00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:17,040 Speaker 2: passionate about. So yeah, if we can help other people, 865 00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:18,759 Speaker 2: you know, I love that, that'd be great. 866 00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:20,440 Speaker 1: I think we will one day, some way, somehow. I 867 00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:21,839 Speaker 1: feel it. 868 00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:22,400 Speaker 2: Nice. 869 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:29,319 Speaker 1: Peace out, guys, I love you so much. 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