1 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:15,120 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, my beautiful people, Welcome to yet another episode 2 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 1: of Cheeky's and Chill. Today is a very special episode 3 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:23,119 Speaker 1: because a very special person is here. Is my guest, 4 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:26,200 Speaker 1: my special guest and very special to my heart. And 5 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: if some of you guessed my fiance, well you're absolutely right. 6 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 2: Hi Vabe, how are you? 7 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 3: It's good. 8 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:35,280 Speaker 1: I'm good. 9 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:37,519 Speaker 3: It's exciting to hear you say my fiance. 10 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: I know, right, Oh my god, I was about to 11 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,639 Speaker 1: say that because the last time you were on the podcast, well, 12 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 1: we didn't have the set first of all, and then 13 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 1: it was a year ago. 14 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 2: And we were just boyfriend and girlfriend. Yeah we were, 15 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 2: and now we're fiances. Yeah, how do you feel about that? 16 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 3: I'm excited. It feels great. It's uh, you know, almost 17 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 3: a year later, and I still get excited when you 18 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 3: say my fiance, my fiance. I like saying it too. 19 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 2: What about when I say my husband? 20 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 3: Oh? I don't know if I can handle that one. 21 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:06,959 Speaker 2: Oh? Why why? 22 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 3: I'm excited for that? I'm excited. 23 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 2: Yeah you're not scared? No, no at all, not even Yeah, 24 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 2: I'm not there anymore. Nothing feel good? 25 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, we can get into that. 26 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:21,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, let's get into that I love that. 27 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 1: Hell yeah, we're gonna have a serious conversation. 28 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:25,039 Speaker 2: Mind you guys. 29 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:26,480 Speaker 1: He has no idea what I'm going to ask him 30 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 1: what we're going to talk about. I just wanted him 31 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:29,760 Speaker 1: to come on the podcast because it's a new set. 32 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: I'm so excited that we're just like celebrating three seasons 33 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 1: of Cheeky's and chilling thanks to you guys. And well, 34 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: I want to bring people that I had on the 35 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:39,560 Speaker 1: first two seasons to the set, and of course I 36 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: have to have you on here. So I just have 37 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: notes here just so that I don't forget certain things. 38 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 1: But I'm just gonna let the conversation flow. There's certain 39 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: things that I just wanted to talk about, like, yes, 40 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 1: we are engaged, you guys, And do we have a 41 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: date set for the wedding? 42 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 3: Yes, we do. 43 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 2: Exclusive with Amelia Sanchez, Yes we do. 44 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: And I want to keep it very private, but we 45 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: do have a date. It's going to be a small, intimate, 46 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:10,800 Speaker 1: like I said on the podcast, you guys, a small, 47 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:15,320 Speaker 1: big wedding because we want it very intimate. But it's 48 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:17,240 Speaker 1: not gonna be like twenty people. That's what I mean 49 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: by small. 50 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, right, And also it'll be super tight, but also 51 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 3: it's a small wedding, but there'll probably be a lot 52 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:29,279 Speaker 3: of big energy between us, super. 53 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 2: Tight like my face. Eh, it's my podcast. We cut 54 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 2: out whatever we want or not, who cares. We're just in. 55 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 2: You know, you know me, my love, This is why 56 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 2: you love me? Hi? Are you sure you want this forever? 57 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 3: Yes? 58 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 2: I do. 59 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, let's see, there's a lot to talk about. 60 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:49,880 Speaker 1: Like I mean, it's been a whole year since you've 61 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: been on the podcast, so now, yes, we're engaged, we 62 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: have a date. We did the IVF thing. I feel 63 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: great after I did that. Honestly, I feel like I 64 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: can just enjoy our relationship without pressure. 65 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 2: How do you feel, Yeah, we've talked about it, but 66 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 2: you know. 67 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I know something on that. Before we did it, 68 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 3: people always said, even like more natural way, people always said, 69 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 3: if you're trying, it's not gonna happen, and if you 70 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 3: just forget about it and let go, it'll happen naturally. 71 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. 72 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 3: When you don't have a backup like IVF, I feel 73 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 3: like you can't just let go of it and not 74 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 3: think about it for sure. And I think this what 75 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 3: this has done for me it truly has let me 76 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 3: let go of it of like not worrying about it. 77 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 3: So now I feel like I don't think about it now. 78 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 3: Yeah I think about us having kids and stuff, but 79 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 3: I don't think of the pressure of like, oh my god, 80 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 3: is it going to happen or not? 81 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 2: Yeah? 82 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, And it really has helped us out. 83 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: Like in our relationship, I feel like it's not I mean, 84 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: I think I was a little bit more argumentative in 85 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: regards to it, where it's like, Okay, well what if 86 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: I can't and this and that, and like what are 87 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: you gonna do? Or are you gonna leave me here? 88 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:00,240 Speaker 1: And like, you know, I would just start bail for 89 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: no reason and he'd be like, dude, get over it. 90 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: But then now I feel like, Okay, I don't have 91 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 1: to worry about that because I want. 92 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 2: To work this day. 93 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: I sat down with him because couple's therapy has helped 94 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 1: us a lot, guys, Yeah, and I sat down and 95 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 1: I said, look, babe, this is what I'm thinking this year. 96 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,520 Speaker 1: I really want I have Diamond, you know, my whole 97 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: idea with you know, Diamond tour, with the album. I 98 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: was like, I want to give it all that I 99 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 1: got obviously we're both turning a year older, and as 100 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 1: a woman, you know, my eggs are deteriorating, you know, 101 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: their their quality, the quality the eggs aren't as good 102 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: as they were a year ago, two years ago. So 103 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: I was like, I just want to do it. I 104 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: know I had said I didn't want to do it. 105 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 1: We're going to try naturally. Whatever, and we're still going 106 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: to try naturally. 107 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 3: That's the plan, right, Yeah, we're at a place in 108 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 3: our life where I don't think we should stop it 109 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 3: from happening. 110 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, but but way we have a plan though. 111 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:49,720 Speaker 3: I like our I love our plan. 112 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I love our plan. 113 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 3: I love our plan. I love the outcome of our plan. 114 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 2: Yes, but if it happens, you mean. 115 00:04:56,320 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 3: I wouldn't I'd be extremely excited. Yeah, but knowing our 116 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 3: plan is super exciting to sea. 117 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:04,839 Speaker 2: Yes, me too. 118 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 1: That's why I'm like, I want us to be on 119 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:07,919 Speaker 1: the same page where it's like okay, because I follow 120 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 1: like my little calendar thing. If you guys don't have 121 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 1: a period tracker, ladies, it's awesome, but like you like 122 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:14,719 Speaker 1: put it in there, like okay, I started my period today, 123 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 1: I finished my period, and it like helps you like 124 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: on the calendar with like your frtility day. 125 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 2: So it's like it's not that. 126 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 1: We're not going to do it those days, but we 127 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 1: got to be just extra careful because we're on we 128 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: have a plan. I just want to make sure because 129 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: I'm something. I mean, I don't feel like I'm pressuring you. 130 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:31,480 Speaker 1: Like I just said, hey, this is what I would like, 131 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 1: and you like agreed, You're like hell, yeah, Like, let's 132 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:36,719 Speaker 1: do this and then next year we'll talk about, Okay, 133 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: let's start banging it. 134 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 2: Out and seeing what happens. Yeah, and have fun what 135 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:41,599 Speaker 2: we're doing it. 136 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. Absolutely, I think we're having because we're. 137 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 2: Still banging it out, but now like now intentionally. 138 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 3: I think we're having the most fun, right, Yeah, because 139 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 3: of the pressure is off. Yeah, Like we haven't sure. 140 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 3: We haven't even talked about since we've done this, we 141 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 3: haven't talked about do you think we can have kids 142 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 3: or not? Like we haven't even had that conversation because 143 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 3: we don't think about it anymore. We're not worrying about it. 144 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. 145 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: Honestly, I think it's one of the best things I 146 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:08,160 Speaker 1: could have done. It was very emotionally like it was 147 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: a lot, you know, I think, but you were with 148 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: me the entire way, and I'm so grateful for you 149 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 1: because I told him already that like you would mix 150 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 1: the medicine for me, like you would help me. You 151 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: were there holding my hand, trying to go to every appointment, 152 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,039 Speaker 1: only missed one because you had to work, and I 153 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:22,680 Speaker 1: was like, don't feel bad, go but you wanted me 154 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: to FaceTime you and everything, like he's been very he 155 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 1: was very good. And you know what, like we just 156 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:29,520 Speaker 1: celebrated three years. I can't believe that it's gonna it 157 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 1: was three years. I mean, I don't know who asked 158 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: this the other day, but they're like, does it feel 159 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:35,799 Speaker 1: like three years? And I'm like, it doesn't. It feels 160 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 1: like shorter. That's a good thing, right. I don't feel like, 161 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'll go with this guy forever. Like 162 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:40,919 Speaker 1: I feel like it's so brad now. 163 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 2: I'm like three years already because we were never fought. 164 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: We have we have a lot of fun. Honestly, I 165 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: enjoy my time with you so much, like you're my 166 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 1: favorite person to hang out with and I'm fine with it. 167 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: I've never felt that way, right. 168 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to be with you all day every day. 169 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:57,200 Speaker 1: We too dude, I love eating with you, I love 170 00:06:57,279 --> 00:07:00,160 Speaker 1: writing bikes with you. Like we just I've never i'vever 171 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: been able to get away. And I've said this so 172 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: many times, but I really truly mean it, like where 173 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: it's like, oh, I'm so excited to get away just 174 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 1: with you and we have dinner and we don't necessarily 175 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 1: have to talk about anything. It's just we're there and 176 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 1: we're just happy. 177 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 2: And we've been sober. 178 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's been huge for us too, Like both of 179 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: us been sober, like no cannabis, no alcohol. 180 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 3: Just shrooms a couple times. 181 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 1: A couple times when we went to Big Sur to 182 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: celebrate our three years, we did shrooms and not like 183 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: crazy amounts. You guys, it's not like and we don't 184 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: do it to like, oh let's fucking party and like 185 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: get crazy. Like we're always super intentional about like being 186 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 1: spiritually aligned and doing it for spiritual reasons. 187 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 2: And it was beautiful. We got in the jacuzzie and 188 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 2: we just talked and we just talked. It was so awesome. Yeah, yeah, 189 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 2: it was awesome. 190 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 3: This one was a good one because we were functional 191 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:52,559 Speaker 3: and we were able to have really great conversations. Yeah, 192 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 3: in a jacuzzie overlooking a mountain. Yeah, like it was incredible. 193 00:07:56,200 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 2: It was awesome. 194 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: We were in nature. I swear I was like talking 195 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 1: to the trees and not like talking to the ship. 196 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 1: But I was like, dude, they're alive. They're alive, And 197 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: it just made me appreciate nature so much in the moment. 198 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 2: It was so awesome. 199 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: You guys, And for those of you shrooms they sound 200 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: really bad, but they're mushrooms. Okay, they come from the earth, 201 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 1: you guys are psychedelic psilocybin. It comes from the earth. 202 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: It's supernatural. They're medicinal. And if you don't know more 203 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 1: about it, maybe one day we can talk about it. 204 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: We talked about it on the pod. We're gonna probably 205 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:23,680 Speaker 1: have to invite someone to come and really get into 206 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 1: it now that we have a set. But like, I 207 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: feel like there even I always say this even better 208 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 1: than Thailand, or even better than a lot of things 209 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:31,880 Speaker 1: that we eat and drink on a daily basis. But 210 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 1: that's just my opinion. And we're grown ups and we're good. 211 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:38,439 Speaker 1: But we do it together and we're on the same frequency, 212 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: and I feel like it's really helped our relationship as well. 213 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot. 214 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 3: My favorite benefit of you know, psilocybin is how present 215 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 3: it makes us. And every time we've had it, whether 216 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 3: it felt like it was a bad trip or not, 217 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 3: it always brought out what needed to come out. And 218 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 3: oh my god, yes, because sometimes we have we're smooth, say, 219 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:02,720 Speaker 3: and sometimes it gets a little rocky and rough, but 220 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:05,839 Speaker 3: after it's like it brings out the things that we 221 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:08,800 Speaker 3: might be holding in and we talk, we talk, we 222 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 3: sit there, we cry together, we let everything out. And 223 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:16,199 Speaker 3: I think that's like there's always a benefit after. 224 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 2: We do it. 225 00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:20,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, And I always pray God, this medicine that 226 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,840 Speaker 1: comes from like the earth that you have provided, like 227 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:25,719 Speaker 1: let it like enter my body and bring out only 228 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:27,840 Speaker 1: the best. And I remember right now that you brought 229 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:29,079 Speaker 1: that up. And I'm not sure if we've ever talked 230 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 1: about it or I did. But when we did it 231 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: one time in Zion and we had a massive argument, 232 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: you guys before going into like the narrows and we 233 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: were supposed to we had this whole day plan, had 234 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: our little snacks, everything so excited and then it just 235 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:48,720 Speaker 1: kicked in right when we parked and it was crazy, 236 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: like we had really not horrible like we're hitting each other, no, 237 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 1: but we just had a very deep discussion and I 238 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:57,840 Speaker 1: started crying and he was crying, and I left the 239 00:09:57,880 --> 00:09:59,839 Speaker 1: car and then like I felt like a little girl 240 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 1: like something. 241 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 2: I don't know remember. I don't even remember what the 242 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:02,680 Speaker 2: argument was. 243 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 1: About, but I just remember after that, I just we 244 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:07,679 Speaker 1: walked into the narrows together and it was just so awesome. 245 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 3: Yeah. I also don't remember what the argument was about 246 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 3: or what the conversation was about, but that time, like 247 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:18,680 Speaker 3: I hold onto that time. I feel it a lot. 248 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:22,560 Speaker 3: I get reminded of it a lot, especially when we 249 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 3: do shrooms, because what I take from it it was 250 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 3: it made us be present with each other and you know, 251 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:30,959 Speaker 3: express the things that we needed to express, and then 252 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:34,600 Speaker 3: it felt clean, And which is why I like to go. 253 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 2: To took out some junk, I guess. 254 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:38,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, which is why I like to go to 255 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 3: places like that with you, because we're like so close 256 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 3: to the earth, and I feel like I believe Mother 257 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 3: Nature created those places for us to go there, and 258 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 3: and it's she's doing wonders for us and like cleans 259 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 3: us and she's like, you know what, come here, be 260 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,559 Speaker 3: grounded here with me, and I'll clean you up a 261 00:10:55,600 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 3: little bit. Yeah, and we leave rejuvenated. Yeah, rejuvenated face cream, 262 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:02,320 Speaker 3: face cream, face cream. 263 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,679 Speaker 1: Every time I say rejuvenated, guys, Now he's like face cream. 264 00:11:06,360 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 2: He uses my products and he loves them, don't lie. 265 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:10,439 Speaker 3: I do every day every day he uses. 266 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 2: My skincare products. Does it feel different like now that 267 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:19,559 Speaker 2: you're my fiance? 268 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:19,840 Speaker 3: Like? 269 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:20,840 Speaker 2: Does it feel different like? 270 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:22,599 Speaker 1: Because I know, like there are times you guys, and 271 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: he gets so mad at me when I'm with my boyfriend. 272 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 2: He's like, I'm here what I'm oh? Yeah, I'm sorry, 273 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 2: my fiance. I have done that. 274 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 3: I've done that maybe once or twice. 275 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, But. 276 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 3: I feel more connected to you for sure being fiancee, 277 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 3: and I feel like we're It means like we're you know, 278 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 3: committed to the same path, to the same things that 279 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 3: we want in our life. And it's just like it 280 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 3: to me, it's that prep It's that you know, right 281 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:53,880 Speaker 3: before husband and wife. 282 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 2: So it's like starting to feel like more what's the 283 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:57,520 Speaker 2: word solidified? 284 00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 3: Yes, I feel that a lot. 285 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 2: He taught me how to say that word correctly, guys, 286 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 2: because I used to say, what felicitate? You felicit felicity facilitate. 287 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, you're right, babe. Sorry, and then I 288 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 1: said solidified or sacilic. I don't know what I used 289 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 1: to say, but anyways, it's the word. But yes, it 290 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: does feel more so, it does. It does, and I 291 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:21,160 Speaker 1: like it. I like it, and I feel I feel 292 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: like we're in a really good place. And I don't know, 293 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 1: I really do see us eventually helping other couples out. 294 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:32,080 Speaker 1: I mean, because I've been very open about myself and 295 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 1: the things that I've had to work through and within 296 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: myself and my past relationships. And he's, as you guys 297 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 1: could see, he's very like level headed and very mature 298 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 1: and like. 299 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 2: He really grounds me. 300 00:12:45,520 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 1: And I feel that that's why it's worked, because you've 301 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: been so so patient. 302 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 2: It's like the word that I can like. You've been very. 303 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 1: You've given me a lot of grace because I've been 304 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:59,599 Speaker 1: very honest and said, hey, this is I let it 305 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 1: all hang out. Is who I am yo, you know, 306 00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: And and he's been okay cool, like I let him know, 307 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:08,199 Speaker 1: and he's been very He's really helped me through it 308 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 1: and and I'm just I think, I don't know, and 309 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 1: we're in a good place because we're doing couples therapy. 310 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 2: You guys, Yeah, it's helped. 311 00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 3: A lot, which like reminds me of like what I 312 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:21,960 Speaker 3: wanted to say about being a fiance. It's even even this, 313 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 3: I would say, almost a year of being engaged. It's 314 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 3: changed dramatically since the beginning of our engagement to even now. 315 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 3: And I feel one of the biggest things that I 316 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 3: took from our premarital counting is that everyone's pre marital here. Yeah. 317 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 2: I was like, it's not a couples therapy. 318 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:45,439 Speaker 3: Okay, everyone plans for a wedding, but no one plans 319 00:13:45,440 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 3: for a marriage. And I think the difference between us 320 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:52,840 Speaker 3: and maybe you know, anyone else who's maybe not prepping 321 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 3: correctly is that we are prepping. We're putting in the 322 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:58,800 Speaker 3: work this year, yeah, preparing for our marriage, and we're 323 00:13:58,840 --> 00:14:00,800 Speaker 3: like getting things in line so that once we're married, 324 00:14:00,840 --> 00:14:03,160 Speaker 3: we're not like, what do you think about this? 325 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:03,839 Speaker 2: What do you think about that? 326 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 3: And yeah, and we're doing everything before it happens. And 327 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:11,040 Speaker 3: I think that's why we feel so ready. We put 328 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:13,200 Speaker 3: in the work to prep for it, and I think 329 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 3: that's why we get are excited and we're not really 330 00:14:15,840 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 3: worried about as many things we were worried before that 331 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:21,120 Speaker 3: come with spending the rest of your life with someone. 332 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 2: Yeah. 333 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 3: So that's why I feel. 334 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 1: Like we're both very open to the process, very open 335 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: and talking about there's certain things out in premarital counseling, 336 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: like I feel nervous to tell him, just him and 337 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 1: I because I'm like, I don't want to hurt his 338 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 1: feelings or what if I say it wrong. But I 339 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 1: go in there and I'm like, I have to be honest. 340 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 1: This is my chance. And he takes it so well 341 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:41,040 Speaker 1: and I take it so well. And I think because 342 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:44,560 Speaker 1: we're both just open to growing and making this relationship right, 343 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 1: Like we have to choose each other every single day. 344 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: And that's once that clicked in my mind. It's like, 345 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:53,000 Speaker 1: this is a choice. I have to choose this person, 346 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 1: which means I have to make certain adjustments. I have 347 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: to be willing to compromise, and that wasn't as easy 348 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:01,560 Speaker 1: for me before. But you also give me the room 349 00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:04,000 Speaker 1: for that, you know. I think it's because we're both ready, 350 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 1: you know, And it makes the biggest difference in the world. 351 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:09,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. I think one of the biggest things that we 352 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 3: learned was that were a. 353 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 2: Team and that was like one. 354 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 3: And even like what that really means and in our 355 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 3: daily life and our language towards each other and how 356 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:21,720 Speaker 3: we say things and how we decide on things, and 357 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,480 Speaker 3: it's and it's never gonna just be you versus me. 358 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 3: It will never be you versus me. It's always us. 359 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:30,400 Speaker 3: And you know, and I think switching our mind into 360 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 3: that mentality, it's it's helped a lot versus like there's 361 00:15:34,760 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 3: there's no half and half, it's we're one, you know. 362 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:40,080 Speaker 3: So it's it's changed. 363 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:41,120 Speaker 2: A lot, for sure. 364 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 1: And that's another thing that I was listening to a 365 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:49,240 Speaker 1: to a friend of mine, and I'm so grateful because 366 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:53,920 Speaker 1: she was explaining like how her partner is like, well, 367 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: if we have to go to therapy, then that means 368 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:56,640 Speaker 1: we shouldn't be together. 369 00:15:57,680 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 2: And I was just. 370 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:01,560 Speaker 1: Like shit, like that's so which that's not the right 371 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 1: way to see things, Like it's like it's not, oh, 372 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:05,840 Speaker 1: if I have to go to therapy, something's wrong with me, 373 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:08,960 Speaker 1: I'm damaged, I'm this and that Like, no, it's it's 374 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:11,760 Speaker 1: really we're two different people, you guys. This is why 375 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: I'm such a huge advocate of of you know, counseling, 376 00:16:14,920 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 1: of life coaching, of therapy, is because we're two different 377 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 1: people coming together and that could be very difficult because 378 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: we're so said in our ways. But if we're open 379 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 1: to expanding and becoming one, it's not necessarily losing myself 380 00:16:29,680 --> 00:16:31,160 Speaker 1: because that was what I was scared of. I was like, 381 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: oh no, I still want to be me. I still 382 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 1: want to be free, I still want to like and 383 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:37,040 Speaker 1: I now I know I can be myself and I 384 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 1: can't also let him be himself, not let him he 385 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:42,320 Speaker 1: should be and I should be. And then we just 386 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: come together and discuss certain things. And I think that's 387 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:47,320 Speaker 1: what dude, I've grown so much, even like in the 388 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: past freaking few months, like where I'm like, oh, dude, 389 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,520 Speaker 1: like it's I had an epiphany. I'm like, I'm always evolving. 390 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 1: I'm always like, oh my god, I'm so glad because 391 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 1: like I used to see this differently. 392 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 2: Now I'm like, yes, we're a team. 393 00:16:57,480 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 1: And it just completely switched everything for me. And I 394 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: wasn't very easy, but I wanted to, you know, and 395 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:07,359 Speaker 1: you know, and we even talked about IVF in you know, premarital, 396 00:17:07,600 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 1: you know, and it's like with something like you guys 397 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:09,919 Speaker 1: really got to talk about this. 398 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:11,880 Speaker 2: Do you guys really want kids? And I was like, well, 399 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:12,760 Speaker 2: I'm eighty percent. 400 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 1: No. I was like I'm chilling, Like I'm like I'm 401 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:18,520 Speaker 1: already at this age, like I barely like Johnny's just 402 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:21,280 Speaker 1: moved out, Like I'm just I'm really trying to figure 403 00:17:21,320 --> 00:17:24,040 Speaker 1: myself out. But then so many things happen. It's like 404 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 1: we talked about it and we were just like we 405 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,840 Speaker 1: decided even on we'll go back to IVF for now. 406 00:17:29,840 --> 00:17:32,119 Speaker 1: But even with like the wedding date, like I was 407 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:35,119 Speaker 1: I don't know where right and you were were we 408 00:17:35,119 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 1: weren't in the same city. I was traveling. I don't 409 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:39,880 Speaker 1: remember where we were at. But anyways, I was thinking 410 00:17:39,920 --> 00:17:42,120 Speaker 1: and we had talked about, okay, so are we really 411 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 1: going to get married like next year, like what's the plan? 412 00:17:45,119 --> 00:17:47,720 Speaker 1: And then we kind of like had a little discussion. 413 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:51,400 Speaker 1: I was in Mexico, actually I was in TJ, and 414 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 1: we kind of it was like starting to become like 415 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:55,600 Speaker 1: a little bit of an argument. And then I was like, 416 00:17:55,600 --> 00:17:56,960 Speaker 1: you know what, we'll talk about it when we get home, 417 00:17:56,960 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: and You're like, yeah, let's talk about it because this 418 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:00,080 Speaker 1: is something I really want to talk about. Like I 419 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 1: was like, oh shoot, I was like all right, So 420 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 1: I started thinking about it, and I was like, I'm 421 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: going to pray about this. I was like, let me 422 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:06,879 Speaker 1: just settle. And then I was like, okay, I'm going 423 00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: to talk to him about this and I have a plan. 424 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:09,280 Speaker 2: I have a plan. 425 00:18:09,359 --> 00:18:11,280 Speaker 1: Hopefully he'll be on board and see what he thinks 426 00:18:11,320 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 1: or whatever. And the crazy thing is is when I 427 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 1: came and I said, Babe, this is what I was thinking. 428 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 1: What if we just do this type of wedding And 429 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:20,800 Speaker 1: he's like what I was thinking the same exact thing. 430 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:23,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, right, yeah, And I was like, oh my god, 431 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 2: this is god. I was like, okay, yeah. 432 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 3: Because I felt a little nervous, but like I just 433 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 3: felt a little antsie because things a lot of things 434 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:33,879 Speaker 3: started happening quickly, and I. 435 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 2: Was like my career. 436 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:37,800 Speaker 3: I was like, what's going to happen? And you know, 437 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:40,360 Speaker 3: and I don't know. I kind of figured I kind 438 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:42,200 Speaker 3: of put the pieces together for the rest of the year. 439 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,880 Speaker 3: And then it was exactly what you were thinking as well. 440 00:18:46,119 --> 00:18:49,199 Speaker 2: It's because like you just got to talk about it. 441 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:51,560 Speaker 1: And I think he felt like, hello, we had like, well, 442 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:53,160 Speaker 1: where's the wedding going to fit in? Because we both 443 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:55,040 Speaker 1: were like we don't want to be engaged for a 444 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:56,360 Speaker 1: long time like that's not what we want. 445 00:18:56,359 --> 00:18:57,200 Speaker 2: We want to get married. 446 00:18:57,200 --> 00:19:00,119 Speaker 1: But then I started getting a bunch of opportunities and 447 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:02,760 Speaker 1: then he's, you know, with his career, and we're like, 448 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 1: oh wait, what's really going to happen? You know, It's 449 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:10,199 Speaker 1: like so anyways, he was worried, I was worried, and 450 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:11,680 Speaker 1: it just so happened to be that we were on 451 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:13,439 Speaker 1: the same page and now we have a plan and 452 00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:15,640 Speaker 1: it's like great and IVF is done. 453 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:16,840 Speaker 2: Actually talking about. 454 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:19,399 Speaker 3: IBF, Yeah, I kind of wanted to say something on that. 455 00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 3: I think about when you were like, you know, eighty 456 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 3: percent now you always leaned more towards you didn't want 457 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 3: to have kids. Yeah, and I think as our relationship 458 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:34,719 Speaker 3: has progressed and we've been more secure about our future 459 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:36,680 Speaker 3: and what we want and you makes. 460 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:37,880 Speaker 2: Me feel safe that's why. 461 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:42,439 Speaker 3: Yeah, so do you. And also creating the space in 462 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:47,200 Speaker 3: our lives for that with you know, it really got 463 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:50,440 Speaker 3: us to a place to where you felt open to it. 464 00:19:50,840 --> 00:19:53,440 Speaker 3: And then as things started happening, I just was sitting back. 465 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:55,479 Speaker 3: I didn't want to like say anything, but like I 466 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:58,239 Speaker 3: was really sitting back through the IVF process and like 467 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:00,760 Speaker 3: letting it sink into your head. 468 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:01,640 Speaker 2: Yeah. 469 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 3: I saw the excitement growing each week, and for me, 470 00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:11,040 Speaker 3: I was like, you deserve this, and I felt that 471 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:15,719 Speaker 3: out seeing you excited about finally being open to having kids, Like, 472 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 3: I was like, you deserve this, You deserve to have 473 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,440 Speaker 3: all these things, and it shouldn't you should not have 474 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:22,680 Speaker 3: that because you were scared of anything. 475 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:26,080 Speaker 1: Or yeah I was. I had a lot of things 476 00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 1: that I hadn't even impact. I thought it was for 477 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 1: one reason or another, and it was just a bunch 478 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: of reasons. And but then at the end of the day, 479 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,639 Speaker 1: I'm like, what the heck, Like I would love to 480 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:39,720 Speaker 1: see a little human that we can grow like together 481 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: and then mold. And it was just started becoming very 482 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:45,359 Speaker 1: excited then to see you, Like I knew he was 483 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,160 Speaker 1: going to be a great dad, And we talked about 484 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: this on one of the first episodes, like I'm like 485 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:51,679 Speaker 1: one with Ryu with our dog, how you are just 486 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 1: so patient and like the way you train him. And 487 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:56,159 Speaker 1: I know, obviously you can't like compare a dog to 488 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 1: like a human being, but when I saw that, I 489 00:20:58,560 --> 00:20:59,880 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, he's so patient. He wakes 490 00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:01,680 Speaker 1: up every like three hours, and it's like I'm like 491 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:04,000 Speaker 1: he'd be a really good dad because I'm like then, 492 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:05,879 Speaker 1: I'm like, I wouldn't mind you be my baby daddy. 493 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:07,880 Speaker 2: You know I ain't got no other baby mama drama. 494 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:11,200 Speaker 1: I'm chilling, like you know, you have a beautiful family, 495 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:13,960 Speaker 1: you have a beautiful mind, Like I knew, if God 496 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 1: forbid anything ever happened to me and I have to 497 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 1: leave this earth, I know my baby would be in 498 00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:21,760 Speaker 1: great hands. And that's what to me is so important 499 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 1: because I didn't have the best father figure. You know, 500 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,280 Speaker 1: he was a good dad, but so much shit happen, 501 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 1: as you guys know, you know, and he's out of 502 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 1: my life, and I just want to make sure that 503 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:34,879 Speaker 1: you know my baby has a good family. And I 504 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 1: love your family. I love your mother, I love your 505 00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:39,480 Speaker 1: g I love your whole family. And it's just such 506 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:42,200 Speaker 1: a blessing. So is there any advice that you would 507 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:44,919 Speaker 1: like to give any guys out there that are going 508 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,000 Speaker 1: and be honest, because I know I was a handful, 509 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,440 Speaker 1: but was it really I don't know say the truth 510 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:51,280 Speaker 1: about IVF. Is there any type of advice that you 511 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:52,600 Speaker 1: would like to give anybody out there? 512 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:58,639 Speaker 3: Because it's what I really want and I know I 513 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 3: want this with you. There wasn't a real part of 514 00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:05,280 Speaker 3: the process that was like like, ah, this is too 515 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:07,600 Speaker 3: hard or this is the Only thing I can think 516 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:10,280 Speaker 3: of is just seeing you going through, you know, all 517 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:14,240 Speaker 3: the medications and you being you know, a little sluggish, 518 00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,720 Speaker 3: and the pain of you physically putting a needle in you. 519 00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:22,520 Speaker 3: But besides that physical toll on you, like, the entire 520 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:30,280 Speaker 3: process emotionally is honestly more exciting than scary, and especially 521 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 3: knowing what we were going for and learning about it, 522 00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:35,720 Speaker 3: learning about your body. Like, I felt really excited throughout 523 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:39,439 Speaker 3: the entire process versus scary. The only thing that was 524 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,760 Speaker 3: a little scary and I got a little sad on 525 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:45,080 Speaker 3: was just you and physical pain. But one thing too, though, 526 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:49,160 Speaker 3: I'm really glad that we were only able to I mean. 527 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:50,840 Speaker 2: That we only had to go through it once. 528 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 3: Yes, that we only had to go through at one time. 529 00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 2: I prayed for that a lot. Guys. 530 00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't. I could imagine how tough it could 531 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 3: be if we had to do it two, three, maybe 532 00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 3: even four times. 533 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:08,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, recommend Yeah, And I admire the women that have 534 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:10,760 Speaker 1: because it is a lot on your body, you know 535 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:12,879 Speaker 1: what I mean, and on your emotional state. And you 536 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 1: feel like, oh my god, why do I There are 537 00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:16,879 Speaker 1: moments where I was like, Okay, it sucks that I 538 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:18,560 Speaker 1: have to do this, you know, But then I'm like, well, no, 539 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:20,399 Speaker 1: this is a blessing. And I would go back and forth, 540 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:22,359 Speaker 1: and it's just I prayed for it so much. I 541 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:23,639 Speaker 1: was like, God, please, I just want to do this 542 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:26,200 Speaker 1: one time. The entire year, I was thinking about work, 543 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 1: I was thinking about my body. I was thinking about 544 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 1: just so many different things that I was like, I'm 545 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 1: so grateful, and you're right, you know, because it is women. 546 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 2: We go through a lot. You guys, we go through 547 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 2: a lot. 548 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 3: One thing on the amount of where the regret if 549 00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,840 Speaker 3: we didn't do it or if we did for us, 550 00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:47,159 Speaker 3: I told you after we retrieved eggs. So just for 551 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,920 Speaker 3: general knowledge, like if people want one kid, the doctor 552 00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 3: recommends to have at least two healthy eggs. If they 553 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 3: want more than two kids, it's you know, three four. 554 00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,400 Speaker 3: But you know, were we agreed we're okay with one. 555 00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,639 Speaker 3: So our goal was for two. And I told you 556 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 3: that before we get the results back on if they're 557 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 3: healthy or not. I if we got if we got 558 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:15,359 Speaker 3: one and we needed to, I would probably push for 559 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,680 Speaker 3: a conversation to be like, hey, maybe we should try 560 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 3: this one more time. Yeah, because I felt like we're 561 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:23,720 Speaker 3: kind of right there, right if we got none, I 562 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 3: told you we wouldn't have to go through it again 563 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,960 Speaker 3: if you didn't want to. And I'm okay with at 564 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 3: my peace with us trying and if it happens naturally, 565 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:35,640 Speaker 3: happens naturally. But that's where I was with the numbers, 566 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:39,120 Speaker 3: and I was totally okay with not doing it again 567 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:39,960 Speaker 3: if we got zero. 568 00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:43,480 Speaker 1: But yeah, butin goodness, you know, we've got twelve total, 569 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:48,840 Speaker 1: and then we got seven after like they retrieve them 570 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:50,280 Speaker 1: or like they do the thing. 571 00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:50,679 Speaker 2: Right, was it? 572 00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, once they mixed it, Yeah, once they mixed Yeah. 573 00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:57,399 Speaker 1: So anyways, that's IVF And I'm so grateful and like, 574 00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:01,679 Speaker 1: I'm so appreciative that I have a partner that's so 575 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 1: great and so like understanding because it is something that 576 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,080 Speaker 1: I felt like, oh my god, that sucks, like he's 577 00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 1: gonna think something's wrong with him. But in reality, it's not. 578 00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 1: That's not it, you guys. It's just it's time. It's 579 00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:15,920 Speaker 1: it's life. It's what happens, and it's part of being 580 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:18,720 Speaker 1: a woman. And I see it in a different way, 581 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:20,800 Speaker 1: and it really I'm really happy that I did it. 582 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, I am. Also because I've always told you that 583 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,240 Speaker 3: I'm okay if we don't have kids, because you can't, like, 584 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:32,159 Speaker 3: I won't ever put that on you. Not trying is 585 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,000 Speaker 3: a different thing. But yeah, I feel like you find 586 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,760 Speaker 3: and believe me now now that we have done IVF 587 00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:41,720 Speaker 3: to where you know you you believe what I say. 588 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:43,880 Speaker 3: I'm like, this is what I want. If we can 589 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,760 Speaker 3: do it, great. If we can't, it's also okay. And 590 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,280 Speaker 3: there's you know, I won't ever like hold that against 591 00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:50,359 Speaker 3: you in any sort of way. 592 00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:52,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know you've been You've been good. You said 593 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:59,400 Speaker 2: you'd be fine with just me, my handful. It's a lot. Whatever. 594 00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:08,439 Speaker 1: So now that the Johnny has moved out, how do 595 00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,199 Speaker 1: you feel about that? We haven't really talked about it 596 00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:12,600 Speaker 1: too much. 597 00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 2: I mean we have we miss. 598 00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:16,640 Speaker 3: Him, little comments for sure, little comments here and there. 599 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:23,000 Speaker 3: It does feel weird. I'll go downstairs and I'm like, 600 00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:26,600 Speaker 3: there's no one else here, and I'm like, and and 601 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,360 Speaker 3: we just had routines and we just bump into each 602 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:35,160 Speaker 3: other and we just would talk and it it does. 603 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:39,399 Speaker 3: It's bittersweet because it does. If I miss Johnny. I 604 00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,720 Speaker 3: miss Johnny in the house and it feels weird with 605 00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:44,600 Speaker 3: him not there, like super close, even though he still 606 00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:46,679 Speaker 3: is kind of close, but it's not as close as like, hey, John, 607 00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:48,480 Speaker 3: come downstairs. 608 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:50,560 Speaker 2: But uh, I love you. 609 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:52,919 Speaker 3: I love John I know. 610 00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:54,200 Speaker 2: I love that they love each other. 611 00:26:54,280 --> 00:27:00,159 Speaker 3: Dude. I'm also like just super happy for him to 612 00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 3: like see his growth from you know, from when I 613 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 3: met you guys to now. And yeah, you know the 614 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:10,080 Speaker 3: thing that like kind of like I'm okay with is 615 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,360 Speaker 3: saying how happy he is right now. I've never seen 616 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:17,560 Speaker 3: him so just he's thriving, comfortable and thriving and super happy. 617 00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,679 Speaker 3: And I'll drive by his building and I was like, oh, 618 00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:21,520 Speaker 3: he's one that he's good. 619 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:26,879 Speaker 2: I know, same, same, But yeah, it's crazy. Sorry, it's okay. 620 00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 2: You don't have to be sorry. I love that about you. 621 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,640 Speaker 1: I love that, you know, there's so much like we've 622 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,800 Speaker 1: talked about this as well, that you know, being latinos 623 00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,000 Speaker 1: and stuff, and it's like, oh, guys, don't cry, And 624 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 1: I like, I love the fact that you're so willing 625 00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 1: to be vulnerable and not a lot of guys are. 626 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:41,719 Speaker 1: And I think that's why I fall in love with you, 627 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:44,920 Speaker 1: because you're just You're just. 628 00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,200 Speaker 2: I don't know. I think I found you or you 629 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:47,639 Speaker 2: found me. 630 00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 1: We found each other at the right time, because it 631 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:52,080 Speaker 1: wouldn't have worked if like the things that you say 632 00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:54,159 Speaker 1: that how you were before and how I was, it 633 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:54,920 Speaker 1: just wouldn't have worked. 634 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:56,600 Speaker 2: Like we had to go through everything we went through 635 00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:57,360 Speaker 2: in order to be here. 636 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,280 Speaker 1: So, if anything, I am so grateful that you loved me, 637 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 1: because I've been in situations where it's been the complete 638 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 1: opposite and it was the worst thing ever for me. 639 00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:07,879 Speaker 1: So the fact that you've always been so you've always 640 00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,919 Speaker 1: embraced him. And he texts you, I think more than 641 00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:12,639 Speaker 1: he texted me, I love you, I miss you. Like 642 00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:14,919 Speaker 1: it's like, I'm like, it makes me so happy. I'm like, 643 00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 1: just like I love this. 644 00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:17,159 Speaker 2: I love it. And he wants us to have a 645 00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:19,359 Speaker 2: kid so bad. You have no idea. Yeah, He's like, 646 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:20,920 Speaker 2: this is it. This is a guy. You need to 647 00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 2: have a kid. This is it. I see it. It's 648 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:23,800 Speaker 2: going to happen this year. I'm like, oh my god. 649 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 1: And he's and we all know he's a little psychic. Yeah, 650 00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,960 Speaker 1: so he's a prophet. So I'm just like, dude, I 651 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,440 Speaker 1: like it's I guess Johnny said, we got to do it, man. 652 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, That's why anytime he tells us anything, I'm like, Okay, 653 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:38,440 Speaker 3: it's gonna happen. I have to worry about it. 654 00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:40,840 Speaker 1: I know, it's like, dude, he's the youngest, but it's 655 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:42,360 Speaker 1: like a lot of the ship that he has said, 656 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:43,360 Speaker 1: I'm like. 657 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:44,360 Speaker 2: Fuck, he's right. 658 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 1: I mean, I know it, and he always has valid 659 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,120 Speaker 1: reasons about a lot of things. 660 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,960 Speaker 2: But it's just that it's crazy. He has a gift. 661 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:53,320 Speaker 3: I think that's also why I connected so much of 662 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:57,120 Speaker 3: john because I feel like we think the same things, 663 00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:58,960 Speaker 3: and I feel like we're always on the same page. 664 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,040 Speaker 3: And so like anytime he says something and everyone goes 665 00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:03,560 Speaker 3: against them, I'm like. 666 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:08,040 Speaker 2: I agree with him. I agree with you. You know shit, 667 00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:13,440 Speaker 2: sorry if but you know ship, he really does. He 668 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,959 Speaker 2: really does. Yeah. I mean, I'm so grateful. 669 00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 1: I want to play a game with you, a game 670 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,840 Speaker 1: that I think you may very well know because you 671 00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:22,640 Speaker 1: shoot all their pictures. 672 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:26,040 Speaker 3: Who are not really strangers. Yeah nice, yea. 673 00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:27,400 Speaker 2: I bought a bunch of them. 674 00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 3: I thought we were already getting deep deeper. 675 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,400 Speaker 1: We'll pull out a couple of cards. We have had 676 00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:37,440 Speaker 1: these cards. He knows the owner, and I know them too. 677 00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: I met them through him, but he does all their 678 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,120 Speaker 1: product pictures and they're in Target. 679 00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:42,040 Speaker 2: Actually it's pretty cool. 680 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:46,160 Speaker 1: But anyways, I really love this, this this game, and 681 00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:47,560 Speaker 1: I've never played it with him. We've had it in 682 00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 1: our drawer in the nightstand and we've never played it. Actually, look, 683 00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:52,760 Speaker 1: we've never played it. 684 00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,560 Speaker 2: I'm not lying. So do you want to help me 685 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 2: unwrap these real quick? Yes? 686 00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:59,520 Speaker 1: It's a couple's addition, and we're going to get to 687 00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:01,120 Speaker 1: know each other a little bit more. These are like 688 00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 1: having This is about having a real conversation with strangers, 689 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:06,840 Speaker 1: with your couple, with your friends, with your family, and 690 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:10,440 Speaker 1: really talking about deep shit that usually you wouldn't talk about. 691 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:16,760 Speaker 2: So this facilitates it. I couldn't say anonymous before either, 692 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:18,840 Speaker 2: and I learned that one too. I don't know why. 693 00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 1: I would just get like a little difficult to pronounce 694 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:22,880 Speaker 1: certain words. 695 00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:24,920 Speaker 3: Different levels. Yes, the one that you grab. 696 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:28,200 Speaker 1: This one, this is three, and this is two. Okay, 697 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:30,240 Speaker 1: all right, I give this a miss Kim over there? 698 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,560 Speaker 1: All right, guys, So basically, I mean we've done this before. 699 00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:35,880 Speaker 1: I pulled out a three cards. But anyways, this is 700 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,960 Speaker 1: the Couple's edition. And we're gonna pull one, two or three. 701 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:42,680 Speaker 3: We should I think we should do whatever you want. 702 00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,160 Speaker 3: I say, let's do one, two three. But if you 703 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 3: want to go one. 704 00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,480 Speaker 2: Two, three, three, okay, cool? Can you pick one from 705 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:48,080 Speaker 2: level one? 706 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 3: Describe the first time we met through your perspective in detail, the. 707 00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,800 Speaker 2: First time we through my perspective. 708 00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 1: Okay, guys, So this is this is the truth. I 709 00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:04,320 Speaker 1: met him when I was going through a really tough time. 710 00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:07,560 Speaker 1: I was going through separation and emotionally, I was nowhere 711 00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 1: near like wanting or in. 712 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,320 Speaker 2: Any business trying to get into a relationship. 713 00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:12,560 Speaker 3: I was. 714 00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 2: It was a really bad place for me. 715 00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:16,320 Speaker 1: But I remember him walking in and because he was 716 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,160 Speaker 1: taking pictures of me. It was for We've talked about 717 00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,680 Speaker 1: it a little bit, but it was he was taking 718 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 1: pictures of me for a video shoot that I was 719 00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:28,000 Speaker 1: going to have with Becky g for Joelene and anyways, 720 00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:30,440 Speaker 1: we were in the pandemic. So anyways, that's how I 721 00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:31,960 Speaker 1: met him. Why I met him and he came into 722 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 1: the house and I just remember I'm like, oh my god. 723 00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:34,760 Speaker 1: I was like there was something about him, like he 724 00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:36,720 Speaker 1: just smiles it Hi, I'm a Milia And I'm like 725 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:38,640 Speaker 1: oh hi, and I just looked and I was like, 726 00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:40,880 Speaker 1: damn ye, it's really pretty eyes. I didn't say anything, obviously. 727 00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:42,280 Speaker 1: I was just I thought it and I told my 728 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:44,480 Speaker 1: makeup people and I was like, oh my god, like, 729 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:49,640 Speaker 1: you know, he's very cute, and I'm like, can you 730 00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 1: ask if he's married? And it was Carlos. He's doing 731 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:55,560 Speaker 1: my makeup that day. His name is Carlos Tomorrow and anyways, 732 00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:56,000 Speaker 1: and he's. 733 00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:57,360 Speaker 2: Like, yeah, don't ture bitch. I got it. So I 734 00:31:57,360 --> 00:31:57,800 Speaker 2: was like, okay. 735 00:31:57,840 --> 00:31:59,680 Speaker 1: So he's like you want to sneak in there, and 736 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:02,000 Speaker 1: I guess he asked you, right, are you married? And 737 00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:04,960 Speaker 1: then you said no? And then I was and I 738 00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:06,560 Speaker 1: was like, well, does he have a girlfriend. I was like, 739 00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:07,680 Speaker 1: did you ask if he has a girlfriend? 740 00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:09,640 Speaker 2: The follow up question? And he's like, no, bitch, but. 741 00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:13,200 Speaker 1: He ain't married, so that don't matter. And I was like, okay, fine. 742 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:14,400 Speaker 2: I was like, well, I guess you know. 743 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,240 Speaker 1: But I was like, you know what, I'm going through 744 00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,160 Speaker 1: way too much. I'm separated right now, but there's a 745 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,000 Speaker 1: lot of things I have to unpack. So I just 746 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:21,880 Speaker 1: was like whatever, and then I was like, okay, be professional. 747 00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:23,640 Speaker 1: So I was I think very professional. 748 00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:24,080 Speaker 3: I don't know. 749 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,240 Speaker 2: You tell me if I was. I thought that I was. 750 00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:30,560 Speaker 2: I did, but for the most part, I wasn't. Like, 751 00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,360 Speaker 2: was I being flirty a little. 752 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 3: Bit a little slightly okay? 753 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,520 Speaker 1: Maybe? Yeah, okay, cool, then I was being flirty, but 754 00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:38,880 Speaker 1: I felt like I was being respectful. 755 00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:39,640 Speaker 2: But yes, I did tell him. 756 00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 1: I was like, hey, I like your eyeballs, That's what 757 00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:44,880 Speaker 1: I told him. And he was very professional, you guys, 758 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:48,000 Speaker 1: which I love. He was very professional. I didn't even 759 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:49,560 Speaker 1: think that he was like into me or anything. He 760 00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:50,520 Speaker 1: was just very nice. 761 00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:54,240 Speaker 3: And then you were looking a little thick that day. 762 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,360 Speaker 1: I was a little little thick, but yeah, so then 763 00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:00,400 Speaker 1: that's it was really nice. And I remember I was like, Okay, 764 00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:01,840 Speaker 1: he's really cute and he. 765 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:03,520 Speaker 2: Was so professional. He was so nice, and that was 766 00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:06,240 Speaker 2: what I thought. That was my perspective when we first. 767 00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:08,040 Speaker 1: Met, and then we met again after that, and that 768 00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,920 Speaker 1: was even That was bunner. But that's not the question, okay. 769 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,160 Speaker 1: So like, usually the way the game works, you guys, 770 00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 1: is that we both have to respond. So I went 771 00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:17,840 Speaker 1: deeper in it. So if you want to add anything, babe, 772 00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 1: real quick, and then I'll choose one because I want 773 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:20,120 Speaker 1: to ask him. 774 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:24,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, I our first we know our first and second time. 775 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:27,840 Speaker 3: We kind of like mixed them together because we know 776 00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:28,240 Speaker 3: each other. 777 00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:29,680 Speaker 2: But what did you think of me? 778 00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:35,040 Speaker 3: Describe the first time we met? Through you we met. 779 00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 3: I remember when you came out of your glam m hmm. 780 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,080 Speaker 3: This has never happened to me, and I'm sure it 781 00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,240 Speaker 3: really did happen, but you came out of that glamor 782 00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:48,200 Speaker 3: room in slow motion and I was like, oh my god. 783 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:51,600 Speaker 3: And then we came up to each other and then 784 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 3: we were both like. 785 00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:55,040 Speaker 2: I would say, how are you? 786 00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:58,120 Speaker 3: And that that actually happened for real? Has it never 787 00:33:58,120 --> 00:33:59,600 Speaker 3: happened in my life? And that happened? 788 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:01,760 Speaker 2: Told me that I had like this glow around like 789 00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:03,600 Speaker 2: in the movies. Yeah, he told me that. 790 00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:05,360 Speaker 3: I was like, really, you were across the room and 791 00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,680 Speaker 3: you were walking to motion. I was like, oh my god. 792 00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:10,520 Speaker 3: And then I couldn't speak. 793 00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:11,640 Speaker 2: I hope it ever goes away. 794 00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:14,080 Speaker 3: It doesn't, Oh my god. 795 00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:19,680 Speaker 1: Okay, I don't choose what this is fun? Okay, Oh 796 00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:25,000 Speaker 1: my god, I would choose this freaking card. Okay, there 797 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,279 Speaker 1: you go. When was the last time I hurt you? 798 00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:28,840 Speaker 1: Perhaps unintentionally? 799 00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:32,160 Speaker 3: Oh all right, we're getting into it. 800 00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:32,759 Speaker 2: Let's do it. 801 00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:42,640 Speaker 3: Oh man, Uh, the last time you hurt me, I 802 00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:46,880 Speaker 3: would say, oh, he's like two hours ago, and I 803 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:51,960 Speaker 3: was kidding. You know, Thankfully, we don't really hurt each 804 00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:55,359 Speaker 3: other a lot in this relationship. I think we're both 805 00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,880 Speaker 3: mature enough to understand that things do happen, and you know, 806 00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:02,759 Speaker 3: we do spend every day interacting with each other. And 807 00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:09,880 Speaker 3: but I feel sometimes, you know, if if I'm in 808 00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:14,719 Speaker 3: a jolly mood and maybe you're not, and sometimes it 809 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,719 Speaker 3: might feel to me that you might take something out 810 00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:22,760 Speaker 3: on me. But I've also learned that, you know, unless 811 00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,759 Speaker 3: I really know I did something to you, it's it's 812 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,759 Speaker 3: something that likes to be patient. You know, we're both 813 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:31,640 Speaker 3: going through a lot of things every single day, and 814 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:36,040 Speaker 3: I don't take things personal from you if I know 815 00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:41,279 Speaker 3: that it's not intended for me. But but yeah, just. 816 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:43,160 Speaker 2: Sometimes that my tone of voice, huh. 817 00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and it makes me think, like, oh, she 818 00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:46,919 Speaker 3: not love me today? Why is she being mean? 819 00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:47,520 Speaker 1: Is that? 820 00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:48,360 Speaker 2: You know? Yeah? 821 00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:52,120 Speaker 1: But yeah, and that's something that you brought up to me, 822 00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:54,000 Speaker 1: like not so long ago, where you're like, you know what, 823 00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:56,680 Speaker 1: sometimes like your tone of voice, you know, it makes 824 00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:59,000 Speaker 1: me feel a certain way and I'm like, shit, Like 825 00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:02,360 Speaker 1: it's not the first time I hear that, so I'm like, damn, 826 00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:04,279 Speaker 1: I really want I definitely don't want to hurt you. 827 00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:06,040 Speaker 1: You're one person that I don't want to hurt. So 828 00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:08,080 Speaker 1: I'm just like, every time you bring something to my attention, 829 00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:09,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, I need to fix it. 830 00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:10,799 Speaker 2: I want to fix it, you know. 831 00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,799 Speaker 1: And I think that I've done pretty good with that 832 00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,000 Speaker 1: with the things that you tell me, but it is 833 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:19,319 Speaker 1: sometimes I'm not even I'm dealing with so much, so 834 00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:21,120 Speaker 1: many other things that have nothing to do with the 835 00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 1: relationship that you. We tend to take it out on 836 00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:27,080 Speaker 1: the closest person to us, and I admit to that. 837 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,480 Speaker 1: And for the most part, I'm very good at like 838 00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:31,440 Speaker 1: if I'm upset at one person, I'm upset at that person, 839 00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:32,600 Speaker 1: and I don't take it out on the world. 840 00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:35,800 Speaker 2: But for some reason, my partner, because I'm. 841 00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:38,319 Speaker 1: He's you're the closest person to me, and I'm like 842 00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:41,080 Speaker 1: so vulnerable with you and everything, like you get the 843 00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:42,880 Speaker 1: shorter end of the stick and that's not fair. So 844 00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:46,440 Speaker 1: I get that, and I and I I'm sorry about that, 845 00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:47,640 Speaker 1: and I love you. 846 00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:48,920 Speaker 2: And I'm sorry about that. 847 00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:52,839 Speaker 1: That's Okay, so yeah, okay, what about you and take 848 00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:53,319 Speaker 1: another one. 849 00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:55,080 Speaker 2: It'll be the last one. 850 00:36:55,200 --> 00:37:00,400 Speaker 3: Okay. What did this conversation teach you about our relationship? 851 00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:02,320 Speaker 3: What did it teach you about yourself? 852 00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:03,800 Speaker 2: Hmmm? 853 00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:11,040 Speaker 1: It taught me about our relationship that that we're in 854 00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:14,359 Speaker 1: a really good place that I'm very proud of us. 855 00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:21,719 Speaker 1: It taught me that there's always room to grow, that 856 00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:28,480 Speaker 1: I continue to learn more about myself and things that 857 00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:32,400 Speaker 1: I want to work on for the betterment of our relationship. 858 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,279 Speaker 1: And I love having these conversations with you because I 859 00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:39,719 Speaker 1: have the deepest conversations with you about our relationship and 860 00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,640 Speaker 1: things that have nothing to do with our relationship, and 861 00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:45,680 Speaker 1: I always learn something and I'm just grateful. It taught 862 00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:47,319 Speaker 1: me to just be grateful for the person that I 863 00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 1: have in front of me and to just continue on 864 00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:54,520 Speaker 1: this path that we're on. 865 00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:56,000 Speaker 2: That's what That's what. 866 00:37:55,920 --> 00:38:02,400 Speaker 3: It taught me. That because because I've said this before 867 00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:05,840 Speaker 3: last time, but we really talk to each other like 868 00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:08,680 Speaker 3: this every day, and for me, what it's making me 869 00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:12,400 Speaker 3: kind of realize is like how normal it is in 870 00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,719 Speaker 3: our relationship that we have these conversations a lot, because 871 00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,920 Speaker 3: I don't feel like pressure around them. I don't feel 872 00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:22,640 Speaker 3: scared around them, but obviously today we're doing it on 873 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,360 Speaker 3: your podcast, so now it made me see it different 874 00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,520 Speaker 3: where I'm like, what is there to be scared of 875 00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:30,400 Speaker 3: because or nervous because we do this. We do this 876 00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:35,759 Speaker 3: every day and these conversations are how they go, and 877 00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:41,399 Speaker 3: you know, I think it's something that is so it's 878 00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:45,640 Speaker 3: such a benefit for relationships. And I think if more 879 00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:49,960 Speaker 3: people were more comfortable with speaking to their partners in 880 00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:53,399 Speaker 3: a calm manner and actually listening, a lot of things 881 00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:55,359 Speaker 3: can be resolved. And I think that's why we've been 882 00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:56,560 Speaker 3: able to have so much growth. 883 00:38:56,880 --> 00:39:01,960 Speaker 1: Absolutely, I agree, yeah, you and I love this conversation. 884 00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:05,319 Speaker 1: And I love my podcast because I'm able to just 885 00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,480 Speaker 1: be vulnerable and share and be transparent with people and 886 00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:14,879 Speaker 1: help other people through my experiences, through our experiences. And 887 00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,279 Speaker 1: thank you for being open enough to be on this 888 00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:21,719 Speaker 1: podcast again and taking me with everything that I do, 889 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,239 Speaker 1: because it's not just my podcast. I do quite a 890 00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,759 Speaker 1: bit and you freaking are awesome. You're fucking trooper man. 891 00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:29,920 Speaker 1: Thanks And I'm cool with you, like you know, shooting. 892 00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:31,839 Speaker 2: Sexy ass girls, you know, and I'm cool with it. 893 00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:33,680 Speaker 2: And it's okay because you love me. 894 00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:36,279 Speaker 3: I love you so much and you show me every day. 895 00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,000 Speaker 2: Yes, I do. So you want to kiss me? Or no? 896 00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:43,799 Speaker 2: Oh sorry dude? 897 00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:49,160 Speaker 3: God? 898 00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:54,080 Speaker 2: Nice? Nice? Anyways, you guys. Anyways, you guys, here's my mic. 899 00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:59,040 Speaker 1: Thank you for joining us on this episode of Cheeky's 900 00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:01,520 Speaker 1: and Chill catch me on the one babe. Anything you 901 00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:02,680 Speaker 1: want to tell anybody before we go? 902 00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 3: No, thank you for having me. I'm glad we were 903 00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:08,720 Speaker 3: able to do this. And if anyone ever has questions 904 00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:11,200 Speaker 3: for us, we love to help people. We love to 905 00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:14,160 Speaker 3: help relationships, and for sure it's something that we're really 906 00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:17,040 Speaker 3: passionate about. So yeah, if we can help other people, 907 00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:18,759 Speaker 3: you know, I love that, that'd be great. 908 00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:20,440 Speaker 1: I think we will one day, some way, somehow. I 909 00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:21,839 Speaker 1: feel it. 910 00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:22,400 Speaker 3: Nice. 911 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:24,279 Speaker 2: Peace out, guys, I love you so much. 912 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:33,040 Speaker 1: This is a production of iHeartRadio and Mike wa podcast Network. 913 00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:37,200 Speaker 1: Follow us on Instagram at mike Podcasts and follow me 914 00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:41,160 Speaker 1: Cheeky's That's c h i q u y s. For 915 00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:45,440 Speaker 1: more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, 916 00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:49,960 Speaker 1: or wherever you get your favorite shows.