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Speaker 1: According to People magazine, Steve Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez

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Speaker 1: have settled their divorce, which will be finalized a week

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Speaker 1: after Valentine's Day. When Jalo and Ben wed thirty months ago,

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Speaker 1: they did not sign a prenup. The pair agreed to

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Speaker 1: a reasonable split of their finances. Each will keep what

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Speaker 1: they earned while married. Neither will provide spousal report took

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Speaker 1: Affleck's name when they married in the summer of twenty two.

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Speaker 1: She's asked the courts to return to her former name,

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Speaker 1: Jennifer Lynn Lopez. So here's a question, Steve. We know

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Speaker 1: divorce can be stressful. We know that any advice from you,

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Speaker 1: anydes or don't that you can share for anyone that

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Speaker 1: is going through a divorce.

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Speaker 2: And just what would you want to know? Just ask

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Speaker 2: me a question. There's so many levels. Would ask me

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Speaker 2: a question about it.

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Speaker 1: So, will you ever, you think you can move on

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Speaker 1: from this situation because it's like a death in the

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Speaker 1: family or something like that, How are you able to

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Speaker 1: move on?

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Speaker 2: No, mine wasn't like a death in the family. It

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Speaker 2: wasn't well, mine was like the birth of a new child, man,

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Speaker 2: dawning of a new day.

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Speaker 3: It was yeah, but how were you able to do that?

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Speaker 3: That's I was.

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Speaker 2: I was at the divorce court. It damn it felt

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Speaker 2: like a baby shower.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I heard angels singing and rejoicing, you know, light and

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Speaker 2: stuff like that.

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Speaker 3: Did you did you forgive? Oh?

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Speaker 4: Did you forget? Did I forgive? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Because it takes that also to move on.

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Speaker 2: I can move on. I can move on without forgiving.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I moved right on without forgiving.

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Speaker 4: So done.

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Speaker 1: But there are some people right now, yeah, going through

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Speaker 1: a divorce.

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Speaker 3: They're not celebrities, and you know they don't have.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's the same. It's hard.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here's the deal. Divorce is hard. But you can

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Speaker 2: move on. But you have to understand what the ending

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Speaker 2: can represent. If you not only look at it as

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Speaker 2: an ending, you can also look at it as a

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Speaker 2: new beginning.

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Speaker 4: Because that's what it has to be.

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Speaker 2: But what cripples you is when you stay in the

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Speaker 2: ending phase. I put all these years in and we

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Speaker 2: ain't got nothing. When you was in it, you didn't

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Speaker 2: have nothing. That's why you got a divorce. So to

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Speaker 2: stay in something that's not growing, fruitful, beneficial, helpful, why

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Speaker 2: staying in that.

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Speaker 4: Is not good for you? As a person.

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Speaker 2: So once you get the divorce, there is a transition

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Speaker 2: period where you realize it's over. And I'm not saying

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Speaker 2: you don't grieve, you don't mourn it. You can, but

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Speaker 2: you got to pick yourself up because let me tell

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Speaker 2: you something, the other person is they gonna pick up

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Speaker 2: and move on. Now you can lay that in wallow.

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Speaker 2: But very rarely do you see two people just bemoan

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Speaker 2: the divorce. Very rarely do you see the man and

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Speaker 2: the woman all it's the worst thing ever happened to me.

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Speaker 4: It's usually one person over.

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Speaker 3: Joy parties, all of that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's usually one person. And in that I would

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Speaker 2: match that person's energy. Yes, junior, I'm saying, when you

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Speaker 2: get the court, do y'all even speak or have a

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Speaker 2: discussion before y'all talking. No, try not to even look

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Speaker 2: over them. Cut your eyes. You're gonna learn a lot

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Speaker 2: of little stuff, Like you know how to roll your eyes.

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Speaker 2: Like I never rolled my eyes till I went to

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Speaker 2: the divorce court. Then I learned how to roll my

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Speaker 2: eyes because you because you ain't allowed to say nothing

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Speaker 2: because you say something what like I used to say

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Speaker 2: when I first got divorced, I would I didn't know

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Speaker 2: you couldn't what man?

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Speaker 4: Hell now, sir, sir, sir.

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Speaker 3: You're cann't be held in content if you don't.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you can't say nothing. I'm going with.

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Speaker 2: Damn, you just asked them and they just lied. Well,

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Speaker 2: you can't say nothing about to lie till you.

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Speaker 4: Get up there. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I'm just tapping my lawyer writing stuff. I had

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Speaker 2: legal pad full of information. I thought I went to

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Speaker 2: law school. I was taking so many damn notes.

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Speaker 3: And now you can go to zoom court. You know

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Speaker 3: you can do that too.

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Speaker 2: They didn't have that when I was saying I had

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Speaker 2: to show up every time. Yeah, already losing enough the

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Speaker 2: whole time, that hussing under my brother, all right, and

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Speaker 2: then when they be lying, you can't say nothing.

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Speaker 4: I bet there. Hell no, you can't get that. You

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Speaker 4: can't saying in.

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Speaker 1: For the nephew with today's brank phone call. Right after this,

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