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Speaker 1: Talking to We Talk Back, where we encourage you to
Speaker 1: hustle hard, laugh, letter and always keep it cute. So
Speaker 1: grab your coffee, cocktail and crown because it's about to
Speaker 1: go down talk talk.
Speaker 3: You're just too unapologizely black women with an opinion. Who talks?
Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, it's your girl, AJ Holiday, what's up, tam Dam.
Speaker 3: Y'all's official tam Oh? No am my official Tambam. I'm
Speaker 3: just Tambam. I love y'all.
Speaker 1: Hey, AJ, you change your Instagram name?
Speaker 3: No, that's it, but I already say my Instagram name crazy.
Speaker 1: I'm good girl. How you feeling?
Speaker 3: You know what? I always enjoy spring because you know
Speaker 3: the season is changing. But when I tell you this,
Speaker 3: pollar is whooping my ass like real bad this year,
Speaker 3: like worse than ever before. I can't handle it. I
Speaker 3: understand that the trees gotta have sex, but it is
Speaker 3: I didn't ask to be a part of the orgy.
Speaker 3: I did not ask to be a part of it.
Speaker 1: Girl, Like Zertac can't take enough of my fucking money.
Speaker 1: I'm getting like the big packs from Costco. Okay, my
Speaker 1: mama even text me ask me if I needed some
Speaker 1: more zyrt Tech because it's real nasty. Like my car
Speaker 1: was green. Yeah, I didn't know my car that much
Speaker 1: last week and it just looked like an abandoned car
Speaker 1: after a while.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just gross. It really is gross outside, but
Speaker 3: I still went out in it. I went, oh, we
Speaker 3: know that I went to in New York. I went
Speaker 3: to Saint It's a restal lounge. I don't know what
Speaker 3: that means to me, that it's a club, but the
Speaker 3: owner told me it's not a club, it's a restal lounge.
Speaker 3: So I guess that's like a.
Speaker 1: Club restaurant slash lounge.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess yeah, because they do sell really good food.
Speaker 3: And then he bought me a drink at the end
Speaker 3: of the night and I was like, I want what
Speaker 3: you drinking. There was a mistake, baby, when I tell you,
Speaker 3: I was drukist.
Speaker 1: Fuck.
Speaker 3: I had to go home after that drink. I had
Speaker 3: to leave in my business. But that was it. Oh
Speaker 3: and I also we went to Pergola, so we went
Speaker 3: to two hooga bars. It was cool, but then I
Speaker 3: was supposed to go out on Sunday. I can't do
Speaker 3: two days in a row. It's one or the other
Speaker 3: peak one because that's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, from six to ten. That was my operational hours,
Speaker 1: six to ten. If you don't got me out the
Speaker 1: house by six o'clock at any one weeknd notice in advance,
Speaker 1: and if you don't got me out by six. It's
Speaker 1: a rap. Okay. I had a good weekend too, and
Speaker 1: you know, I really I had a tough week last week. Right,
Speaker 1: So Saturday morning was actually my test to see if
Speaker 1: I can do all the things. Okay, So I really
Speaker 1: had to push myself to get up four point thirty
Speaker 1: in the morning, put makeup on, all this shit, get
Speaker 1: dressed for a great cause. Though. So one of my
Speaker 1: friends friends, so my homegirl, volunteered me for this thing
Speaker 1: and I just committed to it. And I committed to
Speaker 1: it a month ago, so I had to follow through.
Speaker 1: But I almost I almost told them bitches, I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna be able to make it. But I'm glad I
Speaker 1: pushed through. But so, she's one of my friend's friend
Speaker 1: is doing a reality TV show and it's about the
Speaker 1: women in the world of merchant semens. Right. So yeah,
Speaker 1: so it's a great, great, great, great great idea. So
Speaker 1: we actually did like a panel interview for a couple
Speaker 1: of people who actually showed up to and I feel
Speaker 1: like she's gonna have a good cast too, which I need.
Speaker 3: You were helping interview people to participate to.
Speaker 1: Be yeah on the reality like the cast members right.
Speaker 3: So why are you men to get up at four
Speaker 3: thirty in the morning.
Speaker 1: Because it was from eight to twelve, and yeah, we
Speaker 1: were recording everything. It was really nice set up and
Speaker 1: you know, real professional. So it's called Beyond the Anchor.
Speaker 1: So it's going to be following the lives of women
Speaker 1: who are in this very hard industry. A lot of
Speaker 1: people in Charleston our merchant semens, so they work alongside
Speaker 1: the Navy on these ships, you know, around the world
Speaker 1: all year long. They're away from away from their families, children,
Speaker 1: So it's it's it's some good ass storylines going off.
Speaker 1: You know what.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of merchant symen in Virginia too. I
Speaker 3: know a lot of people who do that in Virginia. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: so we are smith.
Speaker 1: The casting was the casting was basically from head to
Speaker 1: Virginia essentially because a lot of the boats are docked
Speaker 1: in Charleston, a lot of them docked in Virginia. The
Speaker 1: port cities, right, Miami.
Speaker 3: That's gonna be very interesting. They came up with something good.
Speaker 1: Yes, so we'll see Chad. So that was my weekend
Speaker 1: and then I just was for real in the bed
Speaker 1: from maybe four o'clock Saturday to twelve o'clock Sunday.
Speaker 3: Girl, listen, let me tell you how I missed up.
Speaker 3: I was. I stayed out drinking all night Saturday. And
Speaker 3: let me tell y'all that niggas was outside. They was
Speaker 3: on the kid. That's where they was like, they was
Speaker 3: lined up. I was like, okay, wait.
Speaker 1: One second, next bit, you better get one of the
Speaker 1: little things. We all get a number.
Speaker 3: Every take a number and stand in line with your
Speaker 3: number is called please push for it because that's what
Speaker 3: it was given. You got clear?
Speaker 1: Do you have clear?
Speaker 3: Nigga? Right pre check? Send him to me for TSA
Speaker 3: for aj PreCheck period. So after that Sunday, I had
Speaker 3: to get up and do some hair. Girl like, I
Speaker 3: don't know why I signed up for that, but I
Speaker 3: had to get up and do it so in it
Speaker 3: hurts so bad. I'm not built to be outside and
Speaker 3: go I remember when I was younger, I could. I
Speaker 3: could literally party TI time to go to work and
Speaker 3: be good. Baby. It hurts so bad. I was like,
Speaker 3: I can't wait. God bless me, y'all sub like, subscribe
Speaker 3: our shit, buy some T shirts from us. So I
Speaker 3: gotta do this no more. I don't want to do here,
Speaker 3: no more so anyway. And then Sunday I stayed in
Speaker 3: bed all day. All day, I didn't I took a
Speaker 3: shower and laid back down and that was it. I
Speaker 3: could not go back outside.
Speaker 1: And those that's my favorite thing to do.
Speaker 3: That's what you need to make the shirts.
Speaker 1: I love lay Down.
Speaker 3: I love it because I will buy it. Let's get
Speaker 3: in the scene, all.
Speaker 1: Right, y'all what we got going on? I need streets
Speaker 1: with a case. So y'all know that, uh, the infamous,
Speaker 1: super famous. I guess it was a YouTube Dayton show
Speaker 1: at this point. Now they're heading the Netflix. Okay, so
Speaker 1: beginning April tenth, twenty twenty five, viewers will tune in
Speaker 1: every Thursday at eight pm for a roller coaster of romance, chaos,
Speaker 1: and enough tension to make your stomach drop. So thanks
Speaker 1: to the thanks to The Bachelor, think oh yeah, think
Speaker 1: of The Bachelor. Okay, but with balloons. So y'all know
Speaker 1: the pop the Balloon Dayton Show. They're heading to Netflix.
Speaker 1: I'm excited for that.
Speaker 3: I'm congratulations. Round up a plot.
Speaker 1: They got over like one hundred million like YouTube views,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Since they've been on YouTube
Speaker 1: that's when.
Speaker 3: People really enjoy that shit. I could never go on
Speaker 3: no Pop to Balloon. I couldn't pop a balloon, nor
Speaker 3: could I be the I couldn't be the poppy or
Speaker 3: the popper because I don't want to pop and hurt
Speaker 3: nobody feeling. And if you pop a balloon on me,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna cry. So I'm a cry or fight. I
Speaker 3: don't know which one is or both. So I don't
Speaker 3: need to be on them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that shit is damn that show is treacherous.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: I don't think my my esteem is set up to
Speaker 1: go on that shit, okay, because you are not going
Speaker 1: to be for everybody. So imagine going into a room
Speaker 1: where you're not for anybody in there.
Speaker 3: Anybody, and you walk out and everybody like pop hop
Speaker 3: pop pop.
Speaker 1: For real. I'm crying like right there on the spot.
Speaker 1: So I commend those people, you know, who get up
Speaker 1: there with all that.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So the series creators Bolia Mandu, I believe their
Speaker 1: husband and wife, right.
Speaker 3: No, I don't think so because the last names aren't
Speaker 3: the same.
Speaker 1: And are let Amalie Amalie. That's what we see doing
Speaker 1: the she's a host right now, So now she's going
Speaker 1: to be the executive producer of the show, and basically
Speaker 1: she won't be like you.
Speaker 3: Know, yeah, we love her from Insecure the Virgin. I
Speaker 3: wonder if she's still a virgin, why would she not be?
Speaker 1: Might as well? We ain't heard about her getting married.
Speaker 1: I did see she was dating, so yeah, come this
Speaker 1: far to turn back? Now, I doubt it. Now. I
Speaker 1: am not a TV watcher for real, right, but I
Speaker 1: have kept up with Atlanta Housewives every so often, like
Speaker 1: I'll skip around years and seasons. I don't know why
Speaker 1: I decided to watch the season. It's probably because Portia
Speaker 1: is back on the show and I want to see
Speaker 1: what the fuck is going on with her and Simon
Speaker 1: and all the things. Like I just knew it was
Speaker 1: going to be a good time, so I have been
Speaker 1: tuning in. Now. I did not catch this most recent episode,
Speaker 1: but apparently some shit is going on.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 1: I did catch like some of the shade with some
Speaker 1: of the new cast members. And then you have like
Speaker 1: some of the older castmates still around. Okay, so Kenya
Speaker 1: Kenya Moore is still around, Porscha is back on the show,
Speaker 1: what's Cynthia's there?
Speaker 3: Dora?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so there's a newcomer. Her name is Brittany Edie eighty.
Speaker 1: She was added to this current season and this last episode.
Speaker 1: I saw the preview preview for it. I hadn't watched
Speaker 1: it yet, but you can see the tension between her
Speaker 1: and Kenya. So apparently Kenya tweeted out about how she
Speaker 1: was threatened by Brittany like behind the scenes on set.
Speaker 1: It says this year, Brittany Edie was added to the
Speaker 1: cast of season sixteen, which is currently being filmed. However,
Speaker 1: Edie's time on the show might not last very long,
Speaker 1: as there was allegedly a severe situation on set with
Speaker 1: Kenya Moore. According to the Neighborhood Talk, So they got
Speaker 1: into the argument and Brittany basically says says, I have
Speaker 1: a gun for bitches like you, whether she had a
Speaker 1: gun at the time or just saying, you know, for
Speaker 1: future reference, bitch, I got a gun for you. Kenya
Speaker 1: Moore did not take that shit lightly at all, and
Speaker 1: she shouldn't. You can't just threaten me with a gun.
Speaker 1: You can't leave out this building before me either, right
Speaker 1: because basically you just tell me you'll kill me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's the only thing I would hear right, So,
Speaker 1: as it stands, is unclear what went down between needs
Speaker 1: to However, what we do know is that people on
Speaker 1: set were shook. Photographer Eric Robinson was at the scene
Speaker 1: and on social media he revealed just how shaken up
Speaker 1: he was by everything and quotes it says, I am
Speaker 1: still trying to recover myself. I couldn't even take a photo.
Speaker 1: My mouth fell to the floor and I am just
Speaker 1: in awe, Like, what was the most deadliest scene? Probably?
Speaker 1: We were what.
Speaker 3: You can't readbitch? You said it was the that was
Speaker 3: the most deadliest scene, probably in the franchise history for him,
Speaker 3: that's what he's saying. But I mean, didn't nobody die?
Speaker 3: So he might have been like reaching with that statement,
Speaker 3: but did anybody didn't get it? Supposed to be like classy,
Speaker 3: you know, women with money? She teld me, I got
Speaker 3: a gun for bitches. Like take that to love and
Speaker 3: hip hop, Atlanta. You on the wrong show. This is
Speaker 3: real high sis. We don't do that here.
Speaker 1: And I can't recall what this girl's husband name is
Speaker 1: on the show, but one he doesn't seem to like her.
Speaker 1: It's a couple of people who like the men that
Speaker 1: they have with them. On the show, like does he
Speaker 1: even like you?
Speaker 3: For real?
Speaker 1: Like I'm questioning it just how they are responding to
Speaker 1: their wives on camera.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying is like Drusi Door and her husband
Speaker 1: all over again with some of these new cast mates.
Speaker 1: So I don't know her husband. It seems like I
Speaker 1: don't know if he was an accident of something. His
Speaker 1: face is like half frozen kind of. He looks dangerous
Speaker 1: as far as I'm conservage, and I think they might
Speaker 1: be from New York. I don't know, but about right,
Speaker 1: that shit sound about right. She looked like she might be.
Speaker 1: She heard her say yes, But her husband looked like
Speaker 1: he done did some shit, damn okay, and he looked
Speaker 1: like you got these cameras in my life and I'm
Speaker 1: just here because you won't do this shit. He really
Speaker 1: look like he be on some bullshit. But anyway, so yeah,
Speaker 1: so shout out to Real Housewives of Atlanta child kenymore
Speaker 1: you better and you know she'd be strapped up too
Speaker 1: now because Kenya has talked about you know, how.
Speaker 3: She makes to you know, use it on the castmates.
Speaker 1: It's crazy, right, Yeah, you're tripping. Yeah, yeah, so we'll see.
Speaker 3: But let's talk about all right. So last week we
Speaker 3: did Waited to Exhale and we analyzed all the characters
Speaker 3: and I really enjoy that. That was a lot of fun.
Speaker 3: So this week we're gonna do a thin line between
Speaker 3: love and hate and just talk about how they tried
Speaker 3: to get us to hate Brandy when the movie came out,
Speaker 3: but really it was Darius Darnell. Darnell, Darnell motherfucked the mask.
Speaker 1: We know Darnell's Okay, Darnell is alive, and well.
Speaker 3: When we get back from this break, we're gonna get
Speaker 3: into it.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all. So again, okay, so this week we
Speaker 1: want to break down a thin line between love hate
Speaker 1: and you know, we try to like associate it with
Speaker 1: dating today, right because it is the same bullshit. We
Speaker 1: know the Darnell's in life, We know the Brandy's in life.
Speaker 1: Brandy was like the crazy bitch on the show, right,
Speaker 1: but really was she crazy? You know a lot of
Speaker 1: people like to drive you crazy and then call you crazy,
Speaker 1: and that'd be the fuck that thing. Like you get
Speaker 1: me to one hundred. Now you're trying to tell me
Speaker 1: this a verity of the situation, No, bitch, you're gaslighting me, okay,
Speaker 1: because I know I'm not crazy. And you know how
Speaker 1: I know I'm not crazy because I'll call my friends first,
Speaker 1: tell them what I did, tell them what that other
Speaker 1: person did, and bitch, am I crazy? Or am I
Speaker 1: tripping before I while out on your ass? See, maybe
Speaker 1: Brandy was skippings the steps because she ain't have no friends.
Speaker 3: That's the problem. She didn't consult with her Really, she.
Speaker 1: Really was consulting with her fucking subconscious mind and them
Speaker 1: intrusive thoughts was telling her to kill niggas because I
Speaker 1: believe she had killed and X, but the.
Speaker 3: Ex was physically violent or so she said. We don't remember.
Speaker 1: She beat herself up now and Darnelle arrested, So she
Speaker 1: probably did that in the last situation too, because you
Speaker 1: mentioned that'll be.
Speaker 3: Her own ass to get you in trouble. You don't
Speaker 3: need to fuck.
Speaker 1: Whoop yond as. Don't whoop me whoop yond ass.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's next level.
Speaker 1: All right, let's let's so let's do a deep dive. Right, So,
Speaker 1: when's the last time you watched then line between leven?
Speaker 3: I watched it last night?
Speaker 1: Did you really?
Speaker 3: I did?
Speaker 1: I didn't rewatch it. Okay, So y'all known Temy already,
Speaker 1: always know all the fucking movies anyway, so this shit
Speaker 1: is fresh on her frontal lobe.
Speaker 3: Yeah, anyway, it was. I didn't even have to watch
Speaker 3: it over because I know this movie. This movie is
Speaker 3: so triggering. I was cussing Martin Lawrence ass out the
Speaker 3: whole movie, like the entire movie, even before he started
Speaker 3: cutting up. I was like, because I knew what was coming.
Speaker 3: It's like, you motherfucker right.
Speaker 1: And so the movie is still relevant today's because we're
Speaker 1: talking about like toxic relationships, karma, emotional manipulation, and like
Speaker 1: the blurred lines between love and obsession. Because I have
Speaker 1: seen people online say, if my man don't do this,
Speaker 1: he don't love me, like and it bes like some stalkershit.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, if you've never been stalked before, you
Speaker 1: really don't know how that feels. And you don't want that.
Speaker 1: You don't want somebody to really be obsessed with you. See,
Speaker 1: y'all bitches, when y'all want to do magic and shit,
Speaker 1: that'd be the main thing y'all want to do is
Speaker 1: get somebody to fall in love with you. And when
Speaker 1: you're ready to get rid of that nigga, You're not
Speaker 1: gonna be able to. Now, you got to call the police. Now,
Speaker 1: you got to get the course involved to get a
Speaker 1: restrained in order against this nigga, because you don't put
Speaker 1: his ass in a jar. Honey, Okay, yeah, I'm careful.
Speaker 3: So have you ever been in a situation where in
Speaker 3: love turned into something dangerous?
Speaker 1: Absolutely?
Speaker 3: Hell?
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like I talk about it a lot
Speaker 1: on here, and maybe not in depth like situation the situation,
Speaker 1: but I have been in some real sticky shit in relationships,
Speaker 1: and I feel like I'm usually Yeah, I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm usually the one that's a little bit more sane, right.
Speaker 1: But when men feel feelings get involved, they get different,
Speaker 1: They turn different, you know, because I think they have
Speaker 1: a different idea also of what love is. Because men,
Speaker 1: when they love you now they feel like they like
Speaker 1: kind of own you, like you are their property. I
Speaker 1: saw this post on social media last week, and it
Speaker 1: was a guy asking a lady like, what's the big
Speaker 1: problem with a man saying that you're his property? You know,
Speaker 1: don't you want? Exactly right? It's the verbiage. He was like,
Speaker 1: how is he supposed to care for you, die for you,
Speaker 1: provide for you if he doesn't own you. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: am I a car? Because I know a lot of
Speaker 1: niggas with dirty asked cars, and they'll start killing me
Speaker 1: about that dirty ass car.
Speaker 3: He's not a car, I'm not he can't own me.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So a lot of people, a lot of men
Speaker 1: like when they fall in love and their feelings get involved.
Speaker 1: Is different, And I've experienced some fucking crazy shit.
Speaker 3: I ain't never I've never been in love with someone crazy.
Speaker 3: I think I luckily have like witnessed like, oh I
Speaker 3: see their flag, I see the red flags, and when
Speaker 3: you showed me a little bit of crazy, I will
Speaker 3: get up out of there. I remember I had this
Speaker 3: one guy and he was just too aggressive with how
Speaker 3: he handled me mm hm, even just playfully, it was
Speaker 3: just too much. I was like, oh no, I got
Speaker 3: to get up out of here. I remember he picked
Speaker 3: me up and put me on the top of the
Speaker 3: car and then grabbed my legs and was like pulling
Speaker 3: me off the car, playing.
Speaker 1: Oh how is that fun?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Who is this fun for? Because it's not fun
Speaker 3: for me. Let me go and put me down. Now.
Speaker 3: All the stalkers that I've ever had, I've never had
Speaker 3: relationships with them, they be mad because I don't want
Speaker 3: to be like I've had female stalkers and I've.
Speaker 1: Had mad bitch. I remember that bitch.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're not gonna talk about that. We don't want
Speaker 3: to bring that bitch up.
Speaker 1: But scary ass. Yeah, yeah, that shit was scary.
Speaker 3: That is scary when you had somebody really like obsessed
Speaker 3: with you and threatening you and saying all kind of
Speaker 3: crazy shit for no reason like they got clearly got
Speaker 3: mental illness. This is definitely terrifying. But this wasn't the
Speaker 3: case with Brandy and Darnell because she pretty much let
Speaker 3: him know, don't fucking play with me, because she ain't
Speaker 3: say I ain't raped tight. But she was given signs,
Speaker 3: you know, the science, and he thought it was the game.
Speaker 3: So let's let's break down the characters.
Speaker 1: So I did Google. Now, this is what Google says.
Speaker 1: Google says that darn Now was in his twenties, like
Speaker 1: early to mid twenties, and Brandy was in her late thirties.
Speaker 1: And mind you remember Brandy was previously married to somebody,
Speaker 1: and she was like you could tell like she had
Speaker 1: her whole shit together, like money. Okay, she was that girl.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, she was a real estate of executive of
Speaker 3: some sort, like she had her she was in her bag,
Speaker 3: she was showing million dollar homes, she had a driver,
Speaker 3: she had she had looked like a million dollar home
Speaker 3: of her own.
Speaker 1: Mm hm. So she had her life together and Darnell
Speaker 1: was outside playing like he still was a playboy.
Speaker 3: Okay, a womanizer.
Speaker 1: M hmm. Yeah, so Darnell he's a charming ladies man
Speaker 1: who plays games with women's hearts but meets his match
Speaker 1: in Brandy. Essentially he's a womanizer, we could say that, right. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's emotionally immature and he probably he also like underestimates
Speaker 1: the power of emotions.
Speaker 3: That the title was so perfect in line between love
Speaker 3: and hate, and it really is. You can see that
Speaker 3: shit happening right now in real life every day women
Speaker 3: and men relationships dis all and they went from I
Speaker 3: love you so much to I can't I hate that motherfucker?
Speaker 3: Look at Cardi b in offset right should. I had
Speaker 3: a situation just recently too.
Speaker 1: I saw a nigga I used to fuck with and
Speaker 1: he was literally outside rubbing a bitch feet under the table,
Speaker 1: like in my face, just recently, and I was like,
Speaker 1: then I blocked this nigga on social media recently, right,
Speaker 1: But I could have sworn I ben had him blocked
Speaker 1: like on the phone, don't you know. And I know
Speaker 1: he probably doesn't know my life right now because we
Speaker 1: don't talk, but he asked me, like to meet him out.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, nigga, I just seen you two weeks
Speaker 1: ago rubbing a bitch feet under the table, like are
Speaker 1: you stupid?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: And he just like lie, he was like, girl, hush,
Speaker 1: this is he texts me, girl hush. And I say,
Speaker 1: you lucky that I'm playing because I almost embarrassed both
Speaker 1: of us. I probably, like I really wanted to spit
Speaker 1: on that nigga, not because like I have any type
Speaker 1: of real feelings for him, and no shit like that anymore.
Speaker 1: It's just that who the fuck you think you're playing with?
Speaker 1: And the problem is men be counting on our integrity, right,
Speaker 1: they be counting on us to keep it fucking cool.
Speaker 1: But everybody ain't gonna be like me. Right, you want
Speaker 1: to run into a.
Speaker 3: Brandy, run into a brandy, and they're gonna ruin your
Speaker 3: whole shit for you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So it's Darnelle truly like the villain or just
Speaker 1: the immature guy who met the wrong woman at the
Speaker 1: wrong time or at the right fucking time, get his
Speaker 1: ass together.
Speaker 3: I want to consider him a villain, you know, he's
Speaker 3: I would say he was real selfish because he was
Speaker 3: playing the game. You know, he wanted he bet with Tea.
Speaker 3: He had a bet with Tea that he couldn't get her,
Speaker 3: you know, and he was like, oh, watch watch this,
Speaker 3: I can get any woman I want because I'm not charming.
Speaker 3: I'm that cool. I got the finess and watch how
Speaker 3: I finess her. So I don't think he realized how
Speaker 3: serious it could get, you know, when you're playing with
Speaker 3: people emotions, because that woman definitely was like, look, I've
Speaker 3: been hurt I pretty much. I stay clear of y'all
Speaker 3: motherfuckers because I don't want to be hurt again. And
Speaker 3: then here you come, and how he did it, like
Speaker 3: like she finally let this nigga in. He laid in
Speaker 3: her bed and said I love you, and she made
Speaker 3: they made love or she made love to him and
Speaker 3: he just got some pussy and yeah. Then right after
Speaker 3: he calls his homeboy to let him know that he
Speaker 3: got the draws basically like I won and tell me
Speaker 3: I'm the man and then now she's all, I'm fully in,
Speaker 3: I'm letting down my guard. I'm going to show you
Speaker 3: that I care about you. And then she took him
Speaker 3: shopping on her birthday and bought him designing shit in
Speaker 3: nice clothes and was like, take my car, handle your business.
Speaker 3: Meet me tonight, it's my birthday. And then she had
Speaker 3: a cake. Can you imagine sitting in your house with
Speaker 3: the cake waiting on the Nigga, you just bought all
Speaker 3: his clothes for her on your birthday and he never
Speaker 3: show up. That is so hurtful.
Speaker 1: He dropped her off the crazy like literally like put
Speaker 1: her in the car and drove her there and then
Speaker 1: called her fucking crazy. And how about the part where
Speaker 1: he like like she's trying to cuddle with him after
Speaker 1: sex and he like moves his hand her hand off
Speaker 1: of him. Now this is where you know I had
Speaker 1: I'm guilty of telling men like if you don't really
Speaker 1: fuck with a woman and you want to fuck, like
Speaker 1: don't be getting but don't be getting butt naked having
Speaker 1: sex with a bitch, like just pull your dick out
Speaker 1: the hole. So you know what it is like that
Speaker 1: skin to skin shit is a problem too, And if
Speaker 1: you're not going to verbally say hey, I just want
Speaker 1: to fuck, And you may not have said that, but
Speaker 1: everything else you're doing just says you want to fuck.
Speaker 1: Like Martin Lawrence, he really just he wasn't. He never
Speaker 1: said I just want to fuck. He was doing all
Speaker 1: the things to ma sure that he was interested in her,
Speaker 1: like seriously, right.
Speaker 3: But then you do like he the man came to
Speaker 3: her fucking job, he made an appointment with her, wasting
Speaker 3: her time where she could be selling the house to
Speaker 3: somebody who really wants to buy a house. And then,
Speaker 3: I mean he went the extra mile. He had his
Speaker 3: homeboy that Sutter drive him in a fine car up
Speaker 3: there so it looked like he got a little more
Speaker 3: than he got. And then he put a lot of
Speaker 3: leak baby bird in the house prior to them getting
Speaker 3: there so she could see it because he knew that
Speaker 3: she was into crystals. Like you are doing the most
Speaker 3: to just want some pussy, right, y'a say that. Listen,
Speaker 3: I've had a guy do me like this at all. Right, y'all,
Speaker 3: I met this guy. He had been in my DMS
Speaker 3: for a while, but I ain't ignored him. And then
Speaker 3: he was like, I'm coming to Charlotte. I want to
Speaker 3: see you. No, He's like, I'm he sent me a
Speaker 3: message like, oh I'm in Charlotte. I was like, enjoying
Speaker 3: the Queen City. I was not interested, right, I wasn't
Speaker 3: paying him, even though he was good looking, but he
Speaker 3: just looked like you know how sometimes he on some bullshit,
Speaker 3: like he looked like he got to be a fuck nigga, right,
Speaker 3: And I just felt that in my spirit, and that's
Speaker 3: why I wasn't giving him no chance. So he was like,
Speaker 3: what are you doing? And I was like, I'm going
Speaker 3: to a white party with my friends so you can
Speaker 3: enjoy the Queen City. So then I see this motherfucker
Speaker 3: at this white party in Red. He's like I found
Speaker 3: every white party in the city and I had to
Speaker 3: pay extra to get in here with Red. But I
Speaker 3: knew I had to come see you.
Speaker 1: Oh lord girl, he a whole demon.
Speaker 3: Demon, right, So then then he started showing me and
Speaker 3: my friends like he bought us bottles drinks. He was
Speaker 3: doing the most, like showing making my friends laugh and shit,
Speaker 3: you know, doing the most. So then my homegirls was like, girl,
Speaker 3: he following you around like a put be giving him
Speaker 3: a chance, give him a chance. So I'm like, okay,
Speaker 3: So then I let this man take me on a night.
Speaker 3: Like we went to dinner, and the next night we
Speaker 3: went to dinner. We went to a nice dinner. I
Speaker 3: mean he was whining and dyning me, like he asked
Speaker 3: me what did I like to drink? And when we
Speaker 3: got to the table, was sitting there already waiting on me,
Speaker 3: like just real smooth. He was smooth or whatever. We started,
Speaker 3: we'd be on the phone. Now I'm starting to like, okay,
Speaker 3: entertain him. He's a businessman. He got this shit together,
Speaker 3: you know. He said he want a wife, all these things,
Speaker 3: and he's attractive. And we started spending a bunch of
Speaker 3: time together. I wouldn't sleep with him still. I was
Speaker 3: just like being very cautious with my body, you know.
Speaker 3: And we had went out this particular night. We had
Speaker 3: spent the night together, but I you know, I wasn't
Speaker 3: ready for sex and I let him know. And the
Speaker 3: only reason we spent the nights because we were both drunk. Anyway,
Speaker 3: So we went out again. We went to Fahrenheit and
Speaker 3: Charlotte and we were on the rooftop. We were drinking.
Speaker 3: It was so beautiful. We left We went to my apartment,
Speaker 3: and with my building had a rooftop and fire pits.
Speaker 3: We're out there at the fire pit, just chilling. I
Speaker 3: had wine, so we were drinking wine. And y'all know
Speaker 3: I'm a cancer. So I got emotional and I was like,
Speaker 3: I just want to thank you for being such a
Speaker 3: good person, Like I meet a lot of people who
Speaker 3: try to take advantage of my good heart, and I
Speaker 3: really appreciate it. And I think I might have had
Speaker 3: to shed a little thug tear. Right if I'm a
Speaker 3: cry baby, got a thug tear, the energy shifted immediately,
Speaker 3: all the energy changed, right, so, and I felt it
Speaker 3: and it was weird. And then he left shortly after,
Speaker 3: and then he ghosted. I didn't hear from him. He
Speaker 3: didn't answer my call the next day, he didn't respond
Speaker 3: to text. So then a few maybe like three months
Speaker 3: goes by and he reaches out to me, and now
Speaker 3: I'm like, what the fuck do you want? Basically, do
Speaker 3: you know this motherfucker told me that he was married,
Speaker 3: that his wife was a travel nurse and that's why
Speaker 3: she was never around, and that's how he was able
Speaker 3: to spend so much time with me and be on
Speaker 3: the phone with me because she was out in California
Speaker 3: working for three months as a nurse, you know, and
Speaker 3: he was out here, and him and a bitch from
Speaker 3: a Facebook group that I was in made a bet
Speaker 3: on who they could who could fuck me first? Her girl?
Speaker 1: What the bitch was on thet Yeah, it was.
Speaker 3: Her or him, which one to fuck me first?
Speaker 1: Did you know the girl? Yeah?
Speaker 3: She was pursuing me too.
Speaker 1: Did you fuck the girl?
Speaker 3: I never know? I did not. I did not fuck the.
Speaker 1: Girl, y'all know. We got to ask TAMPI ship four
Speaker 1: to five times.
Speaker 3: Me and her never even hung out, you know, me
Speaker 3: and her never hung out, but we were all that wild?
Speaker 3: Ain't that wild? And he was like, I like, once
Speaker 3: I was spending time with you, I just assumed you
Speaker 3: were different than what you were and I didn't. I
Speaker 3: couldn't do you like that. And I guess he thought
Speaker 3: I was gonna be like, well, thank you for not
Speaker 3: taking me. Yeah, I said, bitch, y'all, spit in your face.
Speaker 3: That's how I responded, because you wasted my time and
Speaker 3: play with me. Still, even if you grew up conscious
Speaker 3: in that moment, you still.
Speaker 1: A grown ass man doing this, Like why what if
Speaker 1: I still go ahead and to send a shit to
Speaker 1: your wife, because this is the type of stop of
Speaker 1: shit you out here doing.
Speaker 3: Right, And that's what I should have done. But I
Speaker 3: just told him, don't ever contact me again, or I'll
Speaker 3: spit in your face, bitch or something along the rides
Speaker 3: a real life Darnell, Because that's a real life Darnell.
Speaker 1: A grown ass Darnell, Like what are you doing? What
Speaker 1: are you and this bitch doing? Why y'all look at
Speaker 1: me and thought y'all could play with me like that? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Like what are times somebody played with me? You know?
Speaker 1: Because people are gonna try everybody, right, But I always
Speaker 1: this is where I be fucking up, right, because I'd
Speaker 1: be trying to figure out, Okay, where did I what
Speaker 1: did I do? Like how did I invite this energy?
Speaker 1: What am I doing at somebody think that they can
Speaker 1: play with me like this? Like, so, I, even though
Speaker 1: I know it has nothing to do with me, I
Speaker 1: still find myself questioning, like what could I have done
Speaker 1: differently for a different result?
Speaker 3: There was nothing you could have done. How was I
Speaker 3: to know that this was playing in the background, you know?
Speaker 1: Like right, nuts, So, y'all, this is our character breakdown
Speaker 1: for Brandy Web. Okay, so and look, we know real
Speaker 1: Brandy Web in real life too. But she ain't a killer,
Speaker 1: I don't think. But that's just her first and last name.
Speaker 1: But so, she's wealthy, elegant, elegant woman with deep emotional
Speaker 1: scars from past relationships. Her character traits, she's like super sophisticated, confident,
Speaker 1: but deeply wounded and vengeful with fucking hurt and hate. Okay,
Speaker 1: so she was hesitant at first, but eventually falls with
Speaker 1: Darnielle's charm. She does show super early signs of possessiveness,
Speaker 1: you know when she stabbed that fucking cake. Okay, and
Speaker 1: like she did like a quick transformation from lover to stalker.
Speaker 1: Now I got a homegirl like she just real. She
Speaker 1: not crazy like Brandy, but she's real vindictive like cause
Speaker 1: she go well, she and my homegirl anymore. This a
Speaker 1: whole nother reasons why we're not friends no more. But
Speaker 1: I have seen her do some really fucked up shit
Speaker 1: to people that I would could never like fathom in
Speaker 1: my mind to do right. But she she is the
Speaker 1: type of person that will go above and beyond, and
Speaker 1: those type of people are necessary, right. She helps people financially,
Speaker 1: just with her time and shit like that, and the
Speaker 1: minute you fuck her over, like she's really studying, like
Speaker 1: how to fuck your whole life up.
Speaker 3: Though.
Speaker 1: I know for sure she got two niggas in prison
Speaker 1: right now, Like she help the police put their ass
Speaker 1: in jail because they owe her money. They ended up
Speaker 1: going to jail with something like one nigga he was
Speaker 1: on parole and he flashing guns on social media. So
Speaker 1: she sent that shit to his po M money yeah,
Speaker 1: because he owed her money, like fuck you out here.
Speaker 1: And then she actually talked to a girl that he
Speaker 1: was fucking with and the girl basically told her like, yeah,
Speaker 1: we use that money that you gave him to get
Speaker 1: our apartment. So she just saw red after that.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I could see why though, like oh you think
Speaker 3: it's a game. Yeah, now now you got to live
Speaker 3: in the cell.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So just like my friend, my ex friend, right,
Speaker 1: was Brandy always dangerous or Darnelle pushed her over the edge?
Speaker 3: Basically, No, she was all that bitch was always dangerous,
Speaker 3: but she I feel like she was loving to him
Speaker 3: and she wanted him to love her. And I don't
Speaker 3: think he would have seen that side of her if
Speaker 3: he didn't bring it out, you know, I don't think
Speaker 3: that would have came up, because she was ready to
Speaker 3: give him everything. Take my car, here's some clothes, here's
Speaker 3: some money, here's whatever. I'm gonna teach you how to
Speaker 3: ride a horse. I'm gonna teach you all these things
Speaker 3: because I like you and I feel like you like me.
Speaker 1: But so she's really not dangerous, like this thing has
Speaker 1: to be induced, this thing that comes out.
Speaker 3: She's still fooled though, because after he dumped her, essentially
Speaker 3: she was in his house trying to make breakfast. Then
Speaker 3: I remember like, son.
Speaker 1: Because I'm we're not done until I say.
Speaker 3: But they already said it. He came to her house
Speaker 3: and she was like, it's finny while I lasted, you know,
Speaker 3: acting unbothered. Right Like, basically she.
Speaker 1: Knew at that point, she knew at that point she
Speaker 1: had to kill him.
Speaker 3: Though, no, but then no, but then she acted unbothered.
Speaker 3: And then the next day he woke up smelling some
Speaker 3: shit burning in the kitchen and she was at his
Speaker 3: house trying to like bake some biscuits and some shit
Speaker 3: like baby and in here trying to cook, and he
Speaker 3: was like, get the fucking pushed her up against the
Speaker 3: wall and then she's like, you put your hands on
Speaker 3: the wrong one. And that's when that she switched up
Speaker 3: because she was trying to get her nigga back. She
Speaker 3: was in there trying to bake biscuits and she's like,
Speaker 3: don't go, I love you, and that's when the signals
Speaker 3: got crossed.
Speaker 1: Noah, no, look I'm with Brandy. Okay, don't tit if
Speaker 1: you don't want me fucking tatten, just don't. And you
Speaker 1: don't know who's going to be crazy. So your best
Speaker 1: bet is just to be the best person you could
Speaker 1: be in every single situation. But the oftentimes men aren't.
Speaker 1: They be misleading people intentionally. And the thing is, if
Speaker 1: you don't have the wherewithal right, just it just bes
Speaker 1: you gotta pay attention to that may not be right
Speaker 1: in front of your face.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: I can understand why she was misled me.
Speaker 3: Too, but she did. She do have some issues because
Speaker 3: remember she was sitting in the house and he ain't
Speaker 3: show up, and she stabbed that cake. She don't know,
Speaker 3: he could have been hurt, he could have been all
Speaker 3: these different You didn't know yet you know you already
Speaker 3: went immediately to enrage, stabbing a cake Like that is
Speaker 3: next level of nuts, because what if something happened to him?
Speaker 3: There was no social media. We didn't even have cell
Speaker 3: phones back then, so it might have been cell phones,
Speaker 3: but many people didn't have them. So you ain't know
Speaker 3: what was going on with that nigga before you went
Speaker 3: to level ten.
Speaker 1: What's that Salmon Walker song? Session thirty two?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: I love that you don't? Yeah, it's like real short.
Speaker 1: I need her to make it until a five to
Speaker 1: ten minute song, right, But that you don't know what
Speaker 1: love is. If you don't stay up all night, if
Speaker 1: you don't call one hundred times to me, that's not love.
Speaker 1: If I call somebody phone one hundred times, I've lost
Speaker 1: my mind. Yeah, somebody calls my phone one hundred times.
Speaker 1: Your fucking nuts, because I, like you just said, I
Speaker 1: could be dead, I could be anything could be happening. Right,
Speaker 1: So you call on my phone that many times has
Speaker 1: nothing to do with actually being concerned about me. It
Speaker 1: has more to do what you just wanting me to
Speaker 1: acquiesce to how you want me to be right now.
Speaker 1: You want me to answer that phone and probably just
Speaker 1: say nothing. You keep calling just so I can answer
Speaker 1: the phone. If I call you one time and text
Speaker 1: you one time. I'm not calling back until you respond.
Speaker 1: That's it. A hundred times you see me call the
Speaker 1: first time. So now you're trying to force a response
Speaker 1: out of somebody, and that's where that shit get fucking nuts.
Speaker 3: If I if you my nigga, I might call three,
Speaker 3: but that's it.
Speaker 1: I might call three and then block you because who
Speaker 1: the fuck are you playing with? Now? I'm gonna turn
Speaker 1: the abuse. That's my abusive way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll give you. I'll call three, but after three,
Speaker 3: I ain't calling back. And when you call back, who died?
Speaker 1: You better have a Oh did you just get out?
Speaker 1: What hospital room were you in?
Speaker 3: Who? Like?
Speaker 1: Nah? Three times? And enough if you miss the whole
Speaker 1: twenty four hours talking to me. First of all, we
Speaker 1: done broke up. You just don't know it yet. It'd
Speaker 1: be like, really, boyfriend girlfriend twenty four hours past. I'll
Speaker 1: give somebody a day, I won't. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I bet like still, that's kind of pushing it, but
Speaker 1: I'll give you twenty four hours and then tomorrow I
Speaker 1: better have it better be a real good reason. I'm
Speaker 1: not fucking with you no more, but I'm not calling
Speaker 1: a hundred times. That is very stockerish. So for anybody
Speaker 1: who thinks that's okay to do to a boyfriend is not.
Speaker 1: It's not okay to call somebody's phone that many times.
Speaker 3: Now you just to charge for that at that point.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're trying to force a response like I'm
Speaker 1: too playing for that shit. I don't never want a
Speaker 1: nigga to be able to show the next nigga hide
Speaker 1: on call a for one hundred times like they stroll
Speaker 1: and do this shit like this bitch, don't call me,
Speaker 1: Absolutely not.
Speaker 3: So let's talk about Regina King's character, all right. She's
Speaker 3: Durnall's childhood friend, the woman who genuinely loves him for him.
Speaker 3: She knows him in real life, not all the ness,
Speaker 3: the player, the club, She knew him before all of that.
Speaker 3: Her character Trace is loyal, grounded, the complete opposite of Brandy.
Speaker 3: She ain't got no whole lot of money. Even though
Speaker 3: they had her with that master sergeant rank in the
Speaker 3: Air Force, and I was like, who they're playing with
Speaker 3: because anybody who really know the Air Force, No, there's
Speaker 3: no way Mia can have that much rain.
Speaker 1: That age right now, who's g I Jane? She was
Speaker 1: like in her twenties as well, right straight.
Speaker 3: From high school. And I was like, oh, they played
Speaker 3: on our top with that. Oh, let's go.
Speaker 1: Back to him, her being the childhood friend and genuinely
Speaker 1: loves him for who he is.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: Do men really like people to really know exactly who
Speaker 1: they are?
Speaker 3: I think so.
Speaker 1: I think that's when you start having problems with men
Speaker 1: when you know them in and out, you know, and
Speaker 1: a lot of times that's why relationships spoil and then
Speaker 1: they go on to somebody who don't know the old them.
Speaker 1: Like actually, when they get their money money, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like, that's why the first baby mama,
Speaker 1: that's who you want to consult with. If you're fucking
Speaker 1: with the baby daddy, right, you won't always consult with
Speaker 1: that first If he just has one baby mama, that
Speaker 1: would be great, right, But if he has a couple
Speaker 1: of them three two, consult with the first one because
Speaker 1: she knows exactly who he is. And that's why oftentimes
Speaker 1: they hate that first baby mama because she saw their struggle.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: So, do men really like you to know who they
Speaker 1: are through and through? I don't think so, because they
Speaker 1: put on for their friend that you know, exactly who they.
Speaker 3: Are except who they are through you know, once they
Speaker 3: can be that comfortable and just strip away all the
Speaker 3: armor and all the facade and all that stuff.
Speaker 1: No, I don't think so, I really I still don't
Speaker 1: think so do we all? Do we ever know anybody
Speaker 1: through them through?
Speaker 3: Do we know our else all the way through and through?
Speaker 3: I think it's always a growth. You're always growing, You're
Speaker 3: always changing. So that's why i'd be like the first baby,
Speaker 3: may I'm a new one version of you, the youngest
Speaker 3: version of you, the one who just probably becoming an
Speaker 3: adult half the time. Mm hmm. Because I believe men
Speaker 3: they're growing change too, you know, so who they was
Speaker 3: with their first baby Mama might not be who they
Speaker 3: are with you. You don't think so it's possible.
Speaker 1: And then I honestly don't think people change that much,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like we might tweak a
Speaker 1: little bit depending on who we are with now, right,
Speaker 1: We do do that, We compromise in relationships, We kind
Speaker 1: of sweak who we are to suit this this current.
Speaker 1: But I deep down inside, do people really three do
Speaker 1: three sixties? No?
Speaker 3: No, maybe not a three sixty, but like just growth,
Speaker 3: you know, some growth.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just feel like I don't know if you
Speaker 1: capable of something at any point in your life is
Speaker 1: still in you somewhere, Like if you capable of some
Speaker 1: like real foul shit, I just don't see you, like
Speaker 1: because it's just certain shit I'm not going to do
Speaker 1: because it's just not in my DNA to do. So
Speaker 1: I'll always be looking at the person like, damn, that's you.
Speaker 1: It's surprising and I can't ever forget that because I
Speaker 1: feel like you're still capable of that.
Speaker 3: Do you think about it? I think about like, uh,
Speaker 3: girls that you knew was like super holes in their
Speaker 3: twenties and now the pastor at the church or liked
Speaker 3: to Sunday announcements.
Speaker 1: They're still capable a sucking dick on Saturday. Absolutely, that
Speaker 1: is what I expect.
Speaker 3: You're not no more. They've just grown from that version.
Speaker 1: Oh we know, they probably got better at hiding it.
Speaker 3: See.
Speaker 1: You know you don't give people we ain't talking about
Speaker 1: no church people, man, that that right there.
Speaker 3: You don't give people enough credit the growth and changing.
Speaker 1: I know, school teacher, that's why my fucking extra credit. Okay,
Speaker 1: Then we got Bobby Brown, which is just like the
Speaker 1: comic relief. He's supposedly the voice of reason right. He's
Speaker 1: Darnell's best friend and fellow club promoter. He's fun loving,
Speaker 1: he's blind, provides comedic relief, but often speaks the truth.
Speaker 1: He warns Donnell about Brandy being dangerous. Darnell did not
Speaker 1: take heed, Okay, he gets caught in the crossfire. Darnell's
Speaker 1: poor decision because didn't he get shot? Didn't she accidentally
Speaker 1: shoot him? No, Darnell got shot.
Speaker 3: No, didn't nobody get shot. They just fighting. Yeah, they
Speaker 3: were tussling the good in the air and then they
Speaker 3: fell out the window.
Speaker 1: So how important do you think his character is in
Speaker 1: the show.
Speaker 3: Or is he?
Speaker 1: Is? He at fault for some of the ship Like
Speaker 1: the Homeboy.
Speaker 3: He was complicit in the behavior a lot of the time.
Speaker 3: It wasn't like because, I mean, he was the reason
Speaker 3: why he was going. It was so hard to bet
Speaker 3: because he told him he couldn't get that bitch right. So,
Speaker 3: I mean his character was important. But he definitely told
Speaker 3: him to calm down with the foolishness before you get hurt.
Speaker 3: But it was the old I feel like it was
Speaker 3: the old Nigga, the club owner who was really like
Speaker 3: telling him it's a thin line between no. Dela Reices
Speaker 3: told him that, but he told him stop playing with
Speaker 3: these bitches because when emotions get involved, somebody could get hurt.
Speaker 3: And then ultimately he was he was hurting the most
Speaker 3: out of everybody because this club got burned down. He
Speaker 3: had heard damage, water damage, electrical damage. That bitch came
Speaker 3: through and pretty much like like your friend, like I
Speaker 3: would end everything you love.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm yeah, because I mean take it you putting
Speaker 1: somebody in jailous This is essentially like metaphorically taking a
Speaker 1: life away.
Speaker 3: Right when she saw Birdie, I can't believe this is
Speaker 3: the little nappy head that you played me for.
Speaker 1: So is Brandy that stereotypical crazy ex or is her
Speaker 1: behavior rooted in something much deeper? You know? Because men
Speaker 1: love to say, oh this one was crazy, that one
Speaker 1: was crazy, but they neglect to tell you the shit
Speaker 1: that they did, you know, make them crazy? And can
Speaker 1: somebody make you crazy? Right? Is your mental health your responsibility?
Speaker 3: Oh that's a good question. Your mental health is ultimately
Speaker 3: your responsibility. I was just watching something and say, like,
Speaker 3: nobody could make you angry. You know, you decide to
Speaker 3: display anger based on someone else's action, and that's a choice, right.
Speaker 3: So I mean I get that, but in theory, in theory, right,
Speaker 3: because in real life and I'm not on that level
Speaker 3: of actual self actualization, I guess, because people do have
Speaker 3: the power to hurt my feelings, to make me angry,
Speaker 3: to make me want revenge and things like that. You know. Now, Brandy,
Speaker 3: although she had the right to be upset and want revenge,
Speaker 3: she took it to a level that was it was
Speaker 3: greater than what darnell. The consequences were greater than the action.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's what I was talking about with that
Speaker 1: severity thing, right, Who can tell me how to respond? Right? So, yes,
Speaker 1: my mental health and you know, all that is it
Speaker 1: is definitely up to me. Right, But that could be
Speaker 1: like somebody, like just disrespect can be like a deadly
Speaker 1: sin for somebody, and apparently it was for Brandy. So
Speaker 1: who determines like what's serious and what's not serious?
Speaker 3: Right? That's why I always say it's just in your
Speaker 3: best bed to just be kind to people, because you
Speaker 3: don't know what a person's mental state, and you're one
Speaker 3: thing that might seem small to you might be the
Speaker 3: one thing that pushed them over the top and now
Speaker 3: they're in there boiling your bunny. You know what that
Speaker 3: movie is?
Speaker 1: You know what?
Speaker 3: No, not a line. Fatal attraction. Oh right, yeah, that's
Speaker 3: another one. That bitch went nuts. Please don't play with her.
Speaker 1: On her own.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she was already nuts. He didn't that was warranted.
Speaker 1: But yeah she didn't. Nobody like induce that, Like she
Speaker 1: just was like that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she just was fatally attracted to the motherfucker.
Speaker 1: And that's what I'm saying. Like Brandy was minding her
Speaker 1: fucking business because she knows she's crazy, right, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Because I know I'm crazy. Let me
Speaker 1: just and a lot of women might feel like that.
Speaker 1: That might be why a lot of women now are
Speaker 1: choosing to be by themselves too, because they just they
Speaker 1: don't feel like being feeling crazy no more. They don't
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, the ups and downs and emotions,
Speaker 1: like it's just too scary to start over for somebody else,
Speaker 1: with somebody else and possibly go through the same shit
Speaker 1: that you've been through in previous relationships. It's just tough.
Speaker 1: One of the girls this past weekend, she was like, girl,
Speaker 1: the only reason why I stole date? Uh, stole fuck
Speaker 1: with men is because I ain't gay. That's the only
Speaker 1: reason why, Because I mean, we got we need to
Speaker 1: get some other sexes out here. But this is the
Speaker 1: only reason why I'm so fucking with niggas, because I
Speaker 1: don't like bitches. I love me.
Speaker 3: When I was outside, when I was outside Saturday and
Speaker 3: Saint and they was lining up, I was like, lord, one,
Speaker 3: how do I pick one? Like I don't want one?
Speaker 1: I just say one enough things from the d m
Speaker 1: V man A little little ticket snatches.
Speaker 3: Yes, I need one of those socking pants around, baby,
Speaker 3: because the niggas is outside. But then on Valentine's Day
Speaker 3: when I didn't pick one, and now I'm by myself
Speaker 3: on Valentine's Day, I be sad. I gotta figure it out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta. You gotta pick one and just see
Speaker 1: what happened. Just I don't know, maybe you gotta write
Speaker 1: their names on the thing and put it in a
Speaker 1: jar and shake it around and pick.
Speaker 3: Went out at this point, because yes, and see what happens.
Speaker 1: But you know things I always tell people, you know, relationships,
Speaker 1: stuff like hurt. That shit kind of changes your DNA.
Speaker 1: Because I am not the same person I was. I
Speaker 1: would say, six years ago, like, I'm not the same
Speaker 1: I don't have the same like emotions in relationships. I
Speaker 1: just don't. And it might come off a little bit
Speaker 1: a little cold, right, because I realized that even in
Speaker 1: a relationship. And I'm not telling anybody to be selfish,
Speaker 1: but you got to make sure you're not losing yourself
Speaker 1: as a woman, right because we be doing all the
Speaker 1: things for a man in a relationship. You got to
Speaker 1: make sure you still be putting yourself first. And I
Speaker 1: feel like most of the time we be putting ourselves
Speaker 1: on the back burner.
Speaker 3: And you don't want to end up bitter or jaded,
Speaker 3: you know. And that's the hard part, because so many
Speaker 3: times of being played with will ultimately make you start
Speaker 3: making you turn bitter or make you start feeling jaded
Speaker 3: and displaying negative you know, characteristics and characters traits toward relationships,
Speaker 3: and then you end up like Brandy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've seen this post online. I can't I probably
Speaker 1: won't be able to find it, but it was on
Speaker 1: Instagram and it was a guy saying like once you break,
Speaker 1: and it's for women in particular, no matter of fact,
Speaker 1: it may not just just have been for women. It
Speaker 1: said Basically, once you break someone's trust, it takes like
Speaker 1: X amount of time to build that trust back. So like,
Speaker 1: imagine you breaking your weird woman's trust four times out
Speaker 1: the years, like she's just finding out some bullshit, you
Speaker 1: cheating money miss whatever it is, right, it might take
Speaker 1: ten years for her to get over that shit. Who
Speaker 1: can tell me how long it's gonna take for me
Speaker 1: to be okay with you?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: I can tell you how much it's gonna take, but
Speaker 1: I can't tell you how long? Right cause it you
Speaker 1: get me about five million dollars, Bitch, I done forgot everything,
Speaker 1: like he ain't nothing ever happened.
Speaker 3: We started from scratching it.
Speaker 1: You're brand new nigga. So I could tell you how
Speaker 1: much is gonna cost you, but I can't tell how
Speaker 1: long it's gonna take.
Speaker 3: Right, But after like think about the relationships where money
Speaker 3: has never been an issue. You know, they've always had
Speaker 3: a bunch of money, and now you're doing shit. You
Speaker 3: can't buy your way out of something that's already spent.
Speaker 3: You know you already got money, so now what right
Speaker 3: you know? But we we don't know about that. So
Speaker 3: if you got five.
Speaker 1: Leagues, money always gonna fuck people up. It don't matter
Speaker 1: how much you got. This is why men still fight
Speaker 1: women and divorces and vice versa. Like nobody wants nobody
Speaker 1: playing with their fucking money. So money is actually where
Speaker 1: you hit them at. That's how you get people together.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm saying, if you're in a marriage where
Speaker 3: a woman has access to millions of dollars already, then
Speaker 3: it's kind of like giving her, you know, more money.
Speaker 3: Is that gonna that's what you're saying.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I guess at that point then you well listen,
Speaker 1: you threat divorce right, and I'm gonna take half that
Speaker 1: because so leaving now, So when you got millions of
Speaker 1: dollars already, the threat of leaving right could get your
Speaker 1: ass killed, right that part. So money is still the root.
Speaker 1: Money is still going to be like the thing that'll
Speaker 1: make somebody stop acting up or forget right for me,
Speaker 1: For me, I don't know about everybody else, but for me,
Speaker 1: you know, my forgiveness can be bought. Sorry, So toxic
Speaker 1: masculinity and accountability. So Darnell's lack of emotional maturity, the
Speaker 1: lesson and taking responsibility for how you treat people. Do
Speaker 1: you think he learned his lessons, so now he could
Speaker 1: be in a better relationship or I guess if him
Speaker 1: and Mia decide to be together. His childhood friend he was.
Speaker 3: Laying in that hospital bed sipping from that straw. I
Speaker 3: think he definitely learned a valuable listening about how to
Speaker 3: handle people in their emotions.
Speaker 1: I used to be with this guy in my twenties,
Speaker 1: and I would always tell him because I'm not the
Speaker 1: crazy bitch, right, but I would always warn him. I'm like,
Speaker 1: somebody gonna do something to you one day, because the
Speaker 1: things he would do would definitely have a crazy bitch
Speaker 1: doing a lot of shit to him and my ex fiance,
Speaker 1: Like this bitch was pulling up and knocking on the
Speaker 1: bedroom window and shit like that. Like that's a crazy person,
Speaker 1: and you still putting dick in her.
Speaker 3: Yeah. My grandma said she's seen somebody cut her brother.
Speaker 3: I brought him a suit and cut the suit off
Speaker 3: his ass out of the juke joint when they're young.
Speaker 3: What cutting him right out of the suit. He had
Speaker 3: to go home and ask naked. I like him up.
Speaker 1: I guess I'm indifferent about Brandy character. I really feel
Speaker 1: like she's not that crazy, Like she is crazy in
Speaker 1: theory like she is, but she is not just right.
Speaker 3: She ain't just crazy for the strength of being crazy. No,
Speaker 3: you led her there, you took her there, and you
Speaker 3: got you suffer the consequences of it, and that's a
Speaker 3: valuable lesson. It's a lot of people missing from this
Speaker 3: earth today because they played with somebody feelings mm hm.
Speaker 3: And that flies to women too, y'all, y'all, don't play
Speaker 3: with these niggas because they got emotions too.
Speaker 1: And you know, there is truly a thin line between
Speaker 1: love and hate, because I believe that they're the same emotion, right,
Speaker 1: loving somebody and hating them. It's like, it's very, very
Speaker 1: extremely strong emotions, especially like being in love with somebody
Speaker 1: and ain't getting hurt like that shit will alter who
Speaker 1: you are a little bit. So yeah, like just this,
Speaker 1: it's the same on different ends of the spectrum. Be
Speaker 1: fucking careful.
Speaker 3: But they so close together. Ain't that the crazy part?
Speaker 1: Mm hmm? Yeah, So set your emotional boundaries, Okay, tell
Speaker 1: people who you are upfront. Hey, I'm crazy, you put
Speaker 1: that dick in me, raw, shit gonna get lit, Okay,
Speaker 1: just letting you know upfront, out of that for some reason,
Speaker 1: and they keep fucking crazy bitch. They keep putting dick
Speaker 1: and the girl who be busting a card when doing
Speaker 1: stuff like that, and that is just not who I am.
Speaker 1: So maybe that's why our relationships be going array with
Speaker 1: me because I'm not crazy. I know, men like mean girls.
Speaker 1: I am a mean bitch. Now I could be a
Speaker 1: mean girl, but I'm not a crazy girl. You know,
Speaker 1: I might sound like like your mama a little bit
Speaker 1: when I'm telling you to do some shit.
Speaker 3: See, I think I have I identify more with Brandy, like
Speaker 3: I'd be nice and nice and nice and nice, and
Speaker 3: then I spit in your face, bitch, like I told
Speaker 3: Hi anything like. I know he was surprised to hear
Speaker 3: me say that because I've been like this. Sweet you know,
Speaker 3: I saw little thing the whole time again. Now you
Speaker 3: took me here and now just how I'm talking to you,
Speaker 3: and I mean it by working on that, y'all. I'm
Speaker 3: working on it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we are all work in progress, and I'm working
Speaker 1: on not being mean. Right. It is just shit. Shit
Speaker 1: just make you be mean sometimes. Man. That's not my
Speaker 1: normal setting either. It wasn't. It used to not be
Speaker 1: my normal setting. But things I've been through some shit. Okay,
Speaker 1: that just it just has me different, and I might
Speaker 1: not even care enough to be mean nowadays, so it's
Speaker 1: really not even I don't even say nothing anymore for real.
Speaker 1: So that might be a problem too, because now like,
Speaker 1: even if you don't feel like some shit is festering,
Speaker 1: it might be festering. And so when you finally do
Speaker 1: say something about it, it might come out in anger, right,
Speaker 1: because you've just been just not saying.
Speaker 3: It, holding on to it. So what's your last last
Speaker 3: for the girls and guys listening.
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit of brandy, okay, just a tiny
Speaker 1: bit of brandy, tiny tiny bit of brandy, A little
Speaker 1: bit of brandy. Like one of my homegirls sent the
Speaker 1: nigga who she's pregnant for some balloons to his birthday
Speaker 1: party that his bitch planned for him. She sent congratulations
Speaker 1: it's a boy, big dumb ass balloons that had him
Speaker 1: delivered via Instacart to his birthday party. That's my level
Speaker 1: of crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's nice. Yeah, that's not too much.
Speaker 1: Just in case somebody didn't know, right, everybody who love
Speaker 1: you that's in here, No, you got a baby on
Speaker 1: the way, right, Yeah, Like I think that's nice. That's
Speaker 1: my level of crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's not too much. You know, nobody gonna die,
Speaker 3: nobody getting shot, you know, that's right. But if he
Speaker 3: wasn't outside playing, that wouldn't happened to him. He wouldn't
Speaker 3: begin in balloons if he was being having integrity And
Speaker 3: I'm real honest, yeah, with some and that's my last last.
Speaker 3: Just operate with integrity and then you don't have to
Speaker 3: worry about nobody being Brandy, right, being a Brandy sending
Speaker 3: you no balloons or calling you a bitch and telling
Speaker 3: you that they gonna spit on you. You know.
Speaker 1: Allright, y'all listen, be careful out here because Brandy's be
Speaker 1: fucking lurking, maybe lurking, y'all niggas, be careful out here
Speaker 1: with y'all dating these these bitches. I like this, y'all.
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