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Speaker 1: My wife invited her online friend to live with us.

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Speaker 1: He's still here nine years later.

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Speaker 2: How could you ever invite someone you met online to

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Speaker 3: He's still here six months later, still here.

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Speaker 1: My wife, thirty seven female, and I thirty eight male,

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Speaker 1: have been married for eleven years, together for a few

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Speaker 1: years before that, and have known each other for over

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Speaker 1: twenty years. We met online when she was just sixteen

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Speaker 1: going on seventeen and still in high school, and I

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Speaker 1: was seventeen and just start in college. For the sake

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Speaker 1: of this rant, we'll call her Connie. Connie by the way,

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Speaker 1: this comes from a throwaway account on the r slash

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Speaker 1: Okay story times sub So, Connie and I lived several

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Speaker 1: states away, and at first there was some attraction on

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Speaker 1: her part, but I just wanted to stay friends. Over

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Speaker 1: several years, we grew closer and decided to have a

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Speaker 1: long distance Relationshipoo.

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Speaker 3: You guys have a crush on each other.

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Speaker 1: And it's it's a long crush. That's the long bridge

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Speaker 1: of gaps and stage times. Over several years, we grew

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Speaker 1: and decided I have a long distance relationship. I was

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Speaker 1: always awkward with girls in high school and it continued

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Speaker 1: into adulthood. With Connie, things just felt natural. Though, after

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Speaker 1: a couple of years, when we were talking about meeting

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Speaker 1: in person, she destroyed me to let me know that

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Speaker 1: she had been having multiple other online relationships and one

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Speaker 1: of these men came to meet her and she wanted

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Speaker 1: to be with him. What tragic? What tragic? Multiple online relationships? Oh,

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Speaker 1: juggle could juggle? It can only be me looking back,

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Speaker 1: The smart thing to do would have been to end

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Speaker 1: the story there. Nearly a year later, though, he reached

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Speaker 1: out to me, saying she was sorry she missed her friendship.

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Speaker 1: I decided to give friendship another chance, and for a

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Speaker 1: while it worked. She had a couple other relationships. We'd

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Speaker 1: talk and text regularly, but over time, old feelings they

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Speaker 1: came back. I admitted to her that I had feelings,

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Speaker 1: and she said she felt the same. We decided to

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Speaker 1: give things another shot. Eventually she came to visit me,

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Speaker 1: and then we would alternate visits. We talked about her

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Speaker 1: Actually about that they were friends for as.

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Speaker 3: They were friends for ages, but yeah, and then okay.

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Speaker 1: She worked for a national chain store, so the plan

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Speaker 1: was for her to simply transfer locations. She didn't do that. Instead,

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Speaker 1: she quit After a couple of attempts at finding work.

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Speaker 1: He asked if she could stay at home and take

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Speaker 1: care of the house, cook, clean, et cetera, and I

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Speaker 1: agreed since we didn't really have many expenses. She also

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Speaker 1: refused to get her own bank account, instead using mine

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Speaker 1: and calling everything our money, like, oh, like, I know

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Speaker 1: you have like one hundred thousand dollars in there, but

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna put this dollar in there, and now

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Speaker 1: it's our money.

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Speaker 3: Since they're not married, and not that you have to

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Speaker 3: be married to Shayl like.

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Speaker 1: A bank account finances.

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Speaker 3: But since they're not married and they haven't been together that.

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Speaker 1: Long, I'm just getting red after red flag.

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Speaker 3: These are giant, red flag, giant. This is her trying

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Speaker 3: to take advantage of Yeah and love.

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Speaker 1: Looking back, the red flags are so blatantly obvious. But

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Speaker 1: I was young and love. I remember when she said

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Speaker 1: she was going to cook and clean and take care

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Speaker 1: of the house. She never cleaned, she rarely cooked. Instead,

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Speaker 1: we ordered out most of the time, wasting any money

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Speaker 1: I had saved. We got several pets at her insistence.

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Speaker 1: She begged me for over a year to get her

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Speaker 1: pregnant because she wanted a baby. I said, I wanted

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Speaker 1: He is a mooch and she's trying to baby trap

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Speaker 1: that man. When my daughter was an infant, we bought

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Speaker 1: a house in order to have more space. He also

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Speaker 1: Warcraft friends who will call Aaron.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, she literally just wants OPI to pay for

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Speaker 3: her life so that she can go see other people.

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Speaker 1: Wait, so you shifted where you got a house so

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Speaker 1: your wife could be closer to one of her online friends.

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Speaker 1: Isn't the point of an online friend that you could

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Speaker 3: Stay in online, stay online.

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Speaker 1: It was because of Aaron I learned of her fixating behavior.

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Speaker 1: She will find a male best friend online, become besties

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Speaker 1: with them, and then eventually find someone else. After Aaron,

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Speaker 1: it was Roy. Roy left further away but was in

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Speaker 1: thinking about unlive and Connie begged me to let him

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Speaker 1: This random dude, admitting she had already invited to him, defeated.

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Speaker 1: I agreed since I didn't want to make someone homeless.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. This is like when you invite someone to

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Speaker 3: a party and then you text someone You're like, oh,

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Speaker 3: who's throwing the party? You're like, Hey, is it okay

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Speaker 3: if I invite this person?

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Speaker 1: You've already invited that them.

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Speaker 3: Why are you asking? You have to ask permission first.

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Speaker 1: Do you think they're like spicy texting? Yeah? I think

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Speaker 1: they're spicy texting. I don't know if they're sleeping together.

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Speaker 3: There's warcraft. You're in your world of warcraft characters. I

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Speaker 1: You make me come to cocker this. Yeah, Conny, he's

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Speaker 1: twin peaks. Oh got him. I'm an elf in the

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Speaker 1: streets and an ogre in the sheets. You know, about

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Speaker 1: to go goblin mode with us for a year before

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Speaker 1: he was able to find a job. He's still living

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Speaker 1: with us nearly nine years later.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Oh we did have a job and now he's living

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Speaker 1: nine years later.

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Speaker 3: Nine years later. Your wife doesn't support you, she doesn't cook,

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Speaker 3: then you have an aaron, You have another baby.

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Speaker 1: Basically, wait, we have three babies, all right? At this point,

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Speaker 1: like I feel like this is on you man. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like like like you can say anything for years, super sucks,

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Speaker 1: but it's your house.

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Speaker 3: It's a little bit like it's like fool me once,

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Speaker 3: jame on you.

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Speaker 1: But only for nine years, shame on me. Like that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: It's his fault.

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Speaker 1: Yes, the wife is her fault, but it's kind of

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Speaker 1: your fault. It sucks, I feel. Yeah, Opie's wife has

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Speaker 2: Three months in. If he's not paying rent, pick him

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Speaker 1: We got more to his story. So, and to be

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Speaker 1: quite honest, it's because of him. I haven't gone completely

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Speaker 1: insane yet. Connie still barely does any housework. Roy is

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Speaker 3: Oh I missed Okay, sorry, So so there was Aaron.

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Speaker 3: Now it's Roy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Roy's next. Roy is next.

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Speaker 3: So Roy is the one who's lived with them for

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Speaker 3: nine years and is apparently a better partner than Kanye.

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Speaker 1: Is no dude. I mean if he cooks, yeah, if

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Speaker 1: Kanyie has access to his bank account and regularly spends

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Speaker 1: his money the point of overdrafts everyone.

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Speaker 3: This is her harem?

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Speaker 4: How does she do that?

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Speaker 3: She literally made a harem and was like.

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Speaker 1: She's just crushing it. She's just crushing it. In the

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Speaker 1: interim years, I've mostly separated my money from hers. There

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Speaker 1: with some savings and from which I pay our bills.

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Speaker 1: If I didn't do this, she would spend me to

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Speaker 1: overdraft as well. Some of my paycheck goes into a

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Speaker 1: shared account for her, which she regularly overdrafts. After Roy

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Speaker 1: be friends with, and the cycle continued. How are you

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Speaker 1: allowing this? Like, you should leave, dude, leave, take leave.

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Speaker 1: We have two children now and she barely spends any

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Speaker 1: time with them, preferring instead to smoke the Devil's lettuce

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Speaker 1: it's legal here and play video games for the entirety

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Speaker 3: I maybe I'm just like, this is my top personality.

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine just playing video games every day.

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Speaker 1: Probably haven't haven't played the right I know, I know,

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Speaker 3: Is maybe my personality. I just couldn't imagine.

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Speaker 1: I get for me if I watch TV for too long,

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Speaker 3: I headache, yeah, or if I restless.

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Speaker 1: For me, like, the only things that I can do

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but those are like outside.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I could only do like those outside activities. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: of it untouched. I knew she had mental health issues

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Speaker 1: Every time I criticize her for ordering stuff we don't need,

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Speaker 3: In good medication.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, just saying that you have a thing doesn't

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Speaker 3: That, yes, And I know that I'm bad at scheduling,

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Speaker 2: That is true. That is true, I didn't know about Sam's,

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Speaker 2: but that is true with Sophia.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean you know what? I go? Okay,

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Speaker 2: I guess I didn't know, like I guess I didn't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I got massive energy swings and so I've curated

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Speaker 1: He probably does have it, but she's undiagnosed. She won't

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Speaker 1: her antidepressants, which have helped, but not with everything. And

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Speaker 1: the thing is, I have plenty of friends with ADHD.

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Speaker 1: They view it as part of them which needs to

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Speaker 1: be addressed and worked around. Slash through. She sees it

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Speaker 3: Yeah. No, it's an explanation, not an excuse.

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Speaker 1: Yes, bam. Yeah. You can't say, oh, like, sorry, i'm

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Speaker 1: a dick, I have ADHD. No, You'll be like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm a dick. I'm going to working on it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and now that I know that I have ADHD. I'm

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Speaker 1: things stuff like that. Recently, I'm not going It sounds

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Speaker 1: like I'm adding Sophia. Sophia has not forgot anything in particular.

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Speaker 1: I can know it right now.

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Speaker 3: Like they didn't really affect it but me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Anyway, recently we went on vacation and she asked

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Speaker 1: while we were away, though Roy would be there, so

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Speaker 3: Absolutely for everything she's paid for nothing. You can absolutely

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Speaker 1: And it's not like she's done a good job at

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Speaker 1: Duroy's just doing thor dash I need. Oh, he's freaking money.

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Speaker 3: Oh? My god, leave as soon as possible. Leave out

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Speaker 3: But let's get into this next story. I told my

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Speaker 1: You'd like to think, wouldn't you?

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Speaker 3: Oh, At first it was a struggle while I was

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 3: My day starts every day around five thirty to six am.

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Speaker 1: She's doing nothing, he's not.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but his systems must be great to be able

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Speaker 3: But apparently my life is on easy street compared to hers.

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Speaker 3: Good job. My feet hurt from walking all day during

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Speaker 1: I think Op has known for a while this relationship

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Speaker 1: And it's not you know, like, that's not a dig

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Speaker 3: That, yeah, realize that there this is kind of a

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Speaker 3: I'm sure I'll be hearing from the manly men have

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Speaker 3: the typical stay at home mom experience, because neither my

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Speaker 3: friends or colleagues who are single parents can say she is.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure the masses of Holier than Thou redditors will

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Speaker 3: consider this a poorly written fanfic, but it is what

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Speaker 3: it is, and you can be out Holier than Thou

443
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Speaker 3: redditor by joining us live on YouTube every weekday at

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Speaker 3: three pm PS two. You just tap her profile.

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Speaker 1: Also, Jonaka says, maybe she's depressed and we all do

446
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Speaker 1: have an update in to hear. But just again, just

447
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Speaker 1: because she's depressed doesn't mean it's to put it on

448
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Speaker 1: gets to be absolved of everything she's doing. Like it

449
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Speaker 1: sounds like OPI has been taking care of this forefront

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Speaker 1: of a while everything, and you know, like if you

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Speaker 1: are depressed, you know, then it's like in which maybe

452
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Speaker 1: she is, but it's probably more situational where she's like

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Speaker 1: not doing anything with her life, yeah, you know, and

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Speaker 1: like she's allowed herself to become to become lazy and

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Speaker 1: complacent because she's she has no responsibility and in some

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Speaker 1: ways OPI has enabled that behavior by just doing everything

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Speaker 1: for her not to put blame on Ope, but like

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Speaker 1: that's like over time.

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Speaker 3: She's she's what's.

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Speaker 1: This is the dynamic that that has has appeared to expect.

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Speaker 1: So I think, yes, she might need to be depressed,

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Speaker 1: But honestly, for Ope's sake, who cares? Like I think, like,

463
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Speaker 1: I know that's that's that's tough. But like if she's

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Speaker 1: not doing anything to it, if she's not bringing it.

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Speaker 3: Is harming Ope's mental health, then yeah.

466
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Speaker 1: And it's worth it. She's not doing anything to.

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Speaker 2: Contributing, not being a team player.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think there is a possibility that they could

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Speaker 3: he get off a conversation and say are you depressed?

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Speaker 3: Is is there something else contributing to this? Because I

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Speaker 3: cannot live like this anymore?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe maybe the hail Mary is like, hey, I'm

473
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Speaker 1: thinking about leaving. Are you depressed? If you are, let's

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Speaker 1: get you the help you need. Yes, because right now

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Speaker 1: what this is I'm not going to do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah I will, I'm not going to do anymore.

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Speaker 1: And Zari his postpartum is difficult though. Absolutely we also

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Speaker 1: don't even where it's a big conjecture like yeah, like it.

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Speaker 3: Really is dependent. But right now I think they need

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Speaker 3: communication desperately because it cannot keep going like this. There

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Speaker 3: is an update though not sure if anyone read this,

482
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Speaker 3: but thank you for those who have reached out and

483
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Speaker 3: shit chatted. Well, I know I've kept my friend friends

484
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Speaker 3: here updated. I figured I just update my post and

485
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Speaker 3: keep it short. I showed my wife my post the

486
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Speaker 3: following weekend and she read it and all the comments.

487
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Speaker 3: Long story, short argument. You left our house to stay

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Speaker 3: with her sister, and I've been a well parent since

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Speaker 3: we're already.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: They put in single parenting quotes. Sad to say. Aside

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Speaker 3: from the good nights to our kids, it's all pretty

493
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Speaker 3: much the same routine. Nothing much else to say other

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Speaker 3: than thank you for all the kind words of encouragement.

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Speaker 1: I feel like op I through his writing. It just

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Speaker 1: sounds he's like he's very defeated.

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Speaker 4: He's a very defeated You know.

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Speaker 1: I have an update for anyone who cares to read it.

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Speaker 1: He left the same Yeah. Kase says they have communication issues,

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Speaker 1: mostly on her side. They need therapy. Yeah. Frederick the

501
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Speaker 1: Murderfly says you can be depressed without belitting your partner,

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Speaker 1: suffering and trying to one up them when they need

503
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Speaker 1: to vent. Yeah, there's a difference between being depressed and

504
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Speaker 1: then being cruel, and I feel like she has a

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Speaker 1: she's doing a combination of the both. This is an

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Speaker 1: episode from Deep within the Archives.

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Speaker 4: Time for kop Relash. Did I f up?

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Speaker 1: I hook it up with a girl in a mental hospital?

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Speaker 5: That sounds like a potentially precarious situation.

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Speaker 1: Honestly a crazy situation. Yeah, so this ALP been a

511
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Speaker 1: while ago. I seventeen male. Remember the exact day I

512
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Speaker 1: was admitted to the psych ward. It was the day

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Speaker 1: after New Year's great to start the year.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I won't mention how I ended up in a mental hospital,

516
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Speaker 1: but I will hint that it involves some illicit substances.

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Speaker 4: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Also, just you guys know, a psych ward isn't what

519
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Speaker 1: it's like in the movies. It's actually rather chill, and

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Speaker 1: I personally found it to be a good place to

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Speaker 1: express myself and be a better person than I was beforehand.

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Speaker 4: I mean, that's great to hear.

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Speaker 1: Actually, Yeah, I always thought like, whenever you think of

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Speaker 1: psych word, I think that like like like spooky.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, like almost like like in the movies where

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Speaker 5: they have like like it like the jail, where it's

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Speaker 5: like the psych word of a jail.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then it's like like people in straight jacket. Yes, yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it sounds like or it's like like horror like I

530
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Speaker 1: think of like horror movies. Anyways, after about two days

531
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Speaker 1: of being there and surprisely making a lot of mentally

532
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 1: ill friends, hey, I meet a girl sixteen, let's call

533
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Speaker 1: her Ashley going into the psych ward. Ashley was the

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Speaker 1: first person to catch my eye. She was extremely attractive

535
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Speaker 1: and very friendly. After getting to talk to her, we

536
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Speaker 1: would talk every day constantly, and I ended up asking

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Speaker 1: her for her Instagram on both of our last days

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Speaker 1: in the psych ward. Okay ym well, waiting for our rides,

539
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Speaker 1: I remember Ashley asking straight up do you want to kiss?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Okay yo? This this sounds like Perks of being a Wallflower,

542
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Speaker 1: like coming of age, angsty teenage story. Right here.

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Speaker 4: This is like a there's some indie music just playing.

544
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Speaker 1: Actually, this reminds me of the plot of its kind

545
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Speaker 1: of a funny story. Have you ever heard of that?

546
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Speaker 1: It's not exactly the same, but it's a great great

547
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Speaker 1: It's like, if you like Perks of Being a Wallplower,

548
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Speaker 1: you'll probably like that that movie. It's pretty good, or

549
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Speaker 1: at least I remember it being good when I watched it.

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Speaker 1: At first, I thought she was so I laughed and

551
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Speaker 1: told her to stop playing. She told me she was serious.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, well, adding a smirk to her face.

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Speaker 3: Ooh.

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Speaker 1: I was still suspicious, so I told her you lean

555
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Speaker 1: in first. She did, so I decided to as well,

556
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Speaker 1: and to my surprise, we ended up smooching.

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Speaker 5: Oh, it's kind of cute.

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Speaker 1: It's pretty cute. The first kiss was short and more

559
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Speaker 1: of a than We kissed again, and then again, and

560
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Speaker 1: then it turned into a full arm makeout.

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Speaker 5: Sessh aren't they like in front of the pickup area where.

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Speaker 1: Their parents are Yeah, exactly funny. Keep in mind we

563
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Speaker 1: are still in the psych ward, just in an area

564
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Speaker 1: where there are no cameras or nurses watching. Dang. Yeah.

565
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Speaker 1: After a few minutes of kissing, I heard my name

566
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Speaker 1: being yelled by one of the nurses, saying my mom

567
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Speaker 1: was here. So I awkwardly wave her goodbye and skipped

568
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Speaker 1: to my freedom while saying goodbye to my other mentally

569
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Speaker 1: ill friends. I love that goodbye to my mommy. So

570
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Speaker 1: I'm out of the psych word. I feel good. Everything

571
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Speaker 1: is good. But I ended up forgetting Ashley's Instagram, so

572
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Speaker 1: I didn't try to bother and look her up a.

573
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Speaker 4: Moment, wait, wait, wait, and give up but nothing.

574
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're not gonna look up her name, not even

575
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Speaker 1: try Ashley. Yeah, come on, look for mutuals.

576
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 4: Come on.

577
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Speaker 1: So a week pass, I'm in school when suddenly I

578
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:18,360
Speaker 1: get a call from the office. My mom is here

579
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Speaker 1: to pick me up. I asked her why she came unannounced,

580
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Speaker 1: and she said she told me a detective had called

581
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Speaker 1: her and left her a voicemail telling me to come

582
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Speaker 1: to the town name police department to talk about something

583
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Speaker 1: that happened at the mental hospital I was issued at.

584
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Speaker 1: Oh my, okay, I'm a little concerned. I don't know

585
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Speaker 1: what was having. I get scared, obviously, because I have

586
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Speaker 1: no clue why I need to see a detective. We

587
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Speaker 1: make it to the police station and I go in

588
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 1: and was greeted by the detective. He makes me walk

589
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Speaker 1: with him alone to a room where we both sat down.

590
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 1: I felt like it was in a damn movie. He

591
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Speaker 1: has a few files on the table along with the recorder.

592
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Speaker 1: It's small. He says that I can leave it anytime

593
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 1: and not answer any questions that well, and then starts

594
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:04,160
Speaker 1: asking simple questions like why I was in town, name

595
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 1: hospital and what people and what people did I see?

596
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 1: So I'm thinking maybe someone got murdered and I'm the witness.

597
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 1: I mean like probably, Yeah.

598
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Speaker 5: You're just like in this like this is a serious

599
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 5: interrogation scenario and you're just like, I have no idea why.

600
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's crazy.

601
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 1: So I'm thinking maybe someone got murdered and I was

602
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 1: a witness. And then the detective drops the bomb, what

603
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 1: is it? I brought you in today because a lady

604
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: is saying you essayed her, you assaulted her. I genuinely

605
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,400
Speaker 1: gasped aloud and got really defensive, which must have looked

606
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 1: really such. Yes, I said, who said I essayed them?

607
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 1: I would never do that? What the heck? The dective pulls

608
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,679
Speaker 1: out this photo and it's a photo of Ashley. He

609
00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 1: says if I know her? And I say yes, Then

610
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 1: I tell him everything from what I knew. I said

611
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 1: that she gave me one one hundred percent permission to

612
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,480
Speaker 1: kiss her, and I didn't force myself onto her or

613
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Speaker 1: make her do anything. She was the one that asked

614
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:54,160
Speaker 1: first and leaned in first. I thought to myself, how

615
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Speaker 1: could she do this to me? The first week I

616
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Speaker 1: get out of the psych word, and now I'm instantly

617
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Speaker 1: being accused of assaults, which is kind of rough. Bro,

618
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 1: we kind of know why, possibly why this is happening.

619
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Speaker 1: Do you know what? And he guesses, he gets out,

620
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 1: forgets her Instagram. They share this moment.

621
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Speaker 5: Oh, I mean like, to me, this is like like

622
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 5: this this his reddist story would be a great cover

623
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Speaker 5: up if he like like to get everyone on his side.

624
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. Or but what if he

625
00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 1: is telling the truth? What do you think? What's the reason?

626
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Speaker 4: Then that's why I'm lost.

627
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:27,399
Speaker 5: I don't know.

628
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Speaker 4: She has like hallucinations like.

629
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Speaker 1: Let's keep going. The detective stops the recording and says,

630
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 1: that's all for today. He told me if I did

631
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:37,639
Speaker 1: do anything without consent, they would find out trying to

632
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 1: intimidate me, and then I should confess. Now I shouldn't

633
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Speaker 1: have said anything without a lawyer. That was also my

634
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Speaker 1: f up, which honestly, yeah, you've always been a lawyer

635
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: for detective. But seventeen year old kid, you're just like, yeah, like,

636
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Speaker 1: I don't know what do I do. The detective calls

637
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:52,400
Speaker 1: my mom privately, and then we both leave. My mom

638
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: is angry to basically on my side. So what happened

639
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,800
Speaker 1: after that? Absolutely nothing. The case was dropped, I guess

640
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 1: because I never got a call back from the detective

641
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 1: or from any cops. I also called the department to

642
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 1: ask about the case, and they said that it didn't exist.

643
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Speaker 5: Is he having a who like, like disassociating from reality

644
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 5: or something?

645
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 4: I do not know.

646
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: I'm truly guessing I learned something today. Don't kiss anyone

647
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 1: in a mental hospital. They're there for a reason to

648
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 1: get better, not whatever the f that was. I have

649
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: a theory. Go ahead, assuming that Opie's telling the truth.

650
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 4: Uh huh.

651
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 1: I think they shared a beautiful moment, sounded super cute,

652
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: and she thought he was going to message her right right,

653
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 1: and he didn't. Yes, and so maybe she wanted to

654
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Speaker 1: enact revenge.

655
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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, going down the rabbit. Yea yeah, yes, yes, yes.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I think that that's my theory.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 5: I think it's either that or either he's got a

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Speaker 5: great cover up to get all of like all of.

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Speaker 1: It on his side, and he could show this to

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Speaker 1: the detective.

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Speaker 5: Man, this is such a he said, She said, yeah,

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Speaker 5: scenario right here, Yeah, away from all the king, I

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Speaker 5: like I was like we were this one spot away

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Speaker 5: from all the cameras.

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Speaker 1: And all of the nurses. Yeah, that's a.

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Speaker 4: Little sus Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I don't know what to make of it because it's

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Speaker 5: like two people coming back from a mental mental hospital,

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Speaker 5: like I don't and they're both super young.

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Speaker 4: Yeah sixteen, they're seventeen.

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, this is actually so this is a comment

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Speaker 1: from funk clab on the post. So they said, I

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Speaker 1: worked in a I worked in a psych hospital where

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Speaker 1: the nurses would collect a folder of handwritten patient stories. Basically,

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Speaker 1: when someone would meet their significant other in a psych

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Speaker 1: board and then something horrific would happen, they would have

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Speaker 1: that patient right down the story in the binder. When

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Speaker 1: they saw someone who was clearly getting infatuated with another

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Speaker 1: patient on the unit, they'd break out the binder. It

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Speaker 1: was about five inches thick and they'd have the love

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Speaker 1: birds browsed through it. Relationships that begin in mental institutions

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Speaker 1: are almost always doomed. Don't make the same mistake.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, fools, that's a good Yeah, that's a good perspective

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Speaker 5: to hear from someone who actually wore Wow, that's crazy.

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Speaker 5: They have a whole binder just full of that's that's

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Speaker 5: a smart like, hey, do you want.

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Speaker 1: To go down this road?

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Speaker 4: Here's where, here, here it is.

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Speaker 1: We want to know what you think and so put

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Speaker 1: it in the comments. Who do you agree with, who

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Speaker 1: do you not agree with? Who's the A hole, who's

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Speaker 1: not the A hole,