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Speaker 1: The Thread is a new hit podcast from Assy Media

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry letter subject she won't get in My Bed.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I have been dating a beautiful woman

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Speaker 1: for about five months. Everything is great, she's special and

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Speaker 1: she does a lot for me. Here's the problem. We've

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Speaker 1: run into a big issue. Whenever we discussed her sleeping

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Speaker 1: over at my house, she asked me how many sexual

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Speaker 1: partners have I had, and undoubtedly there have been quite

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Speaker 1: a few. Then she asked me how many women have

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Speaker 1: been in my bed? That was a tough question to answer.

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Speaker 1: Undoubtedly there have been quite a few. She got very

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Speaker 1: upset and demanded that I buy a whole new bed

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Speaker 1: because she doesn't want to sleep in a bed that

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Speaker 1: another woman has been in. I bought that bed and

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Speaker 1: mattress a few years ago, and it is a very nice,

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Speaker 1: king sized bed that I spent over a thousand dollars on.

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Speaker 1: Should I spend more of my money to buy another bed.

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Speaker 1: Should I go ahead and buy another car while I'm

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Speaker 1: at it because other women have been in my car?

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Speaker 1: If so, she should have to buy new underwear because

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Speaker 1: other men may have seen her in it. This is crazy,

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Speaker 1: and I hope we don't break up because of this.

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Speaker 1: Am I wrong? Please help? I don't think you're wrong

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Speaker 1: at all. I think you're right. This is crazy. But

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Speaker 1: you really surprised me on this one by answering her

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Speaker 1: how many women have you have been have you been

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Speaker 1: with or have been in your bed? Question? Why? Why

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Speaker 1: did you answer that? I mean, everyone has a past,

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Speaker 1: and you should have kept that in the past. It

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Speaker 1: serves no purpose here and it's really none of her business.

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Speaker 1: I mean, what difference does it make? Uh? You know,

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Speaker 1: was the bed clean? Those are my answer, Those are

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Speaker 1: my questions I have for you. You changed the sheets

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Speaker 1: and everything right, didn't look fresh and clean in there?

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Speaker 1: After only five months. She wants you to throw your

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Speaker 1: bed out and get a new one. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: could see if you guys were together for a long

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Speaker 1: time and like planning on getting married and stuff, then

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Speaker 1: you might invest in a new bed and some new

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Speaker 1: furniture while you're at it. You know, to start your

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Speaker 1: new life with her. Um until then, until you know,

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Speaker 1: either she sleeps in your bed, the one you have,

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Speaker 1: you know, as long as it's clean and everything, or

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Speaker 1: you go over to her house and sleep in her bed.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, Uh Sureley, I happen to disagree with

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Speaker 1: you on this, and I'll tell you why. He says.

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Speaker 1: Is he wrong for this? He did wrong? He did

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Speaker 1: wrong because dude, you bought this on yourself. Hm, damn dog,

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Speaker 1: you've been dating this girl five most. She's special to you.

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Speaker 1: See you said it. She's special to you, so not.

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Speaker 1: If she's special to you, then you gotta expect to

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Speaker 1: treat her special. So here's how you treat her special.

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Speaker 1: First of all, when she came to you and said

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Speaker 1: this ain't the time for you to come talk about

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Speaker 1: your conquering skills and how many women you didn't really had.

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Speaker 1: Then she asked you how many women have been in

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Speaker 1: this bed? And you said, well, quite naturally, quite a few.

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Speaker 1: For what right, Joe, stupid ass say that fault? You're

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Speaker 1: dumb dog. Listen to me, y'all got to start learning

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Speaker 1: how this game go. Let me teach a couple of things.

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Speaker 1: First of all, ladies, if a man asked you how

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Speaker 1: many men you've been with? Whatever, I told old y'all.

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Speaker 1: Your maximum number is three? Right? Three? Three is your

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Speaker 1: maximum numbers, Lady, I don't give a damn if you

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Speaker 1: was a hooker in the eighties, is your damn limit? Three?

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Speaker 1: That's your number. I don't give a damn what you did.

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Speaker 1: That's your number. Guys, your maximum number can never exceed five.

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Speaker 1: I know that's not true, but shut your damn mouth.

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Speaker 1: How many women been over here? Not very many, man.

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Speaker 1: I've always been very selective in my process, so I've

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Speaker 1: always carefully picked women who've been in this bed. Nobody

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Speaker 1: but you Now, I haven't done some things on that

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Speaker 1: in that garage, but it ain't nobody been. Man, what

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Speaker 1: I'm lying, But you gotta know when to lie. You

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Speaker 1: know about this king size bed for a thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: three years ago. Now, she don't want to come in

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Speaker 1: this bed all these other women because you did not.

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Speaker 1: You're not not this woman who's special to you. You're

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Speaker 1: not telling her she ain't special no more. Because everybody

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Speaker 1: hadn't been up here. You bought this on yourself. So

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Speaker 1: do you have to go get another bed? Yeah, now

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Speaker 1: you can do a try a couple of options. You

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Speaker 1: can flip the mattress and say nobody been on this side.

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Speaker 1: You could try that. And these is all new sheets.

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Speaker 1: You could try that. You could you could eat if

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Speaker 1: your headboard is would you could stay in the new color.

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Speaker 1: If it's a fabric, you can get it covered. So

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Speaker 1: you're saying he should buy a whole new bed. I

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Speaker 1: think he's gonna have to shirley because he bought this

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Speaker 1: on it self and it's just a damn bed. But

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Speaker 1: you ain't got to buy another bed though, you could

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Speaker 1: just buy a frame, get a full time. You gotta

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Speaker 1: do something. It's got a little different. But you're gonna

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Speaker 1: lose this girl right here. And then you stupid and say, what,

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Speaker 1: I gotta buy another car now because a lot of

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Speaker 1: women been in the car. Why you keep wanting to

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Speaker 1: talk about these lot of women, your dumb ass, stupid

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Speaker 1: ass dude, damn always trying to show what we got.

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Speaker 1: Now you've got yourself in the quandary here because this

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Speaker 1: girl who you say is special, now she want to

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Speaker 1: be special to you, and she don't want to fall

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Speaker 1: in line. Now you got to do something about that.

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Speaker 1: Now you ain't got to get a new car. But

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Speaker 1: how you go? Why you gotta tell her how many

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Speaker 1: being in there? You're stupid and you to wrote to

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Speaker 1: the letter and it's on national radio show. You're dumb.

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Speaker 1: You need to buy a new can of bed clothing,

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Speaker 1: everything you need? You just now you his dumb ass?

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Speaker 1: Do she need to buy some new underwear because me

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Speaker 1: and didn't seen that? You don't boy? Part two of

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Speaker 1: your response to Today's Strawberry Letters subject this board this

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Speaker 1: woman he think it's special. He stupid dude to told

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Speaker 1: this woman who who think is special? How many women

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Speaker 1: have been in his bed? Now she don't wanna sleep

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Speaker 1: in the bed? No, okay, cool, So now you gotta

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Speaker 1: fix this. I think you do have to get another

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Speaker 1: bed or at least a new frame and head board.

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Speaker 1: Probably can keep the mattress, but you're gonna have to

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Speaker 1: flip it that the mattress. You want to slip the mattress,

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Speaker 1: or you could just all you could just buy a

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Speaker 1: foster care or see you and sew it on the mattress,

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Speaker 1: make it look new. Yeah, there's a lot of ways

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Speaker 1: you this, but you don't have to do something. So

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Speaker 1: surely I want you to be the girl, and I

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Speaker 1: want you to ask me questions about women and let

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Speaker 1: me come. I'm gonna show you how he set himself up.

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Speaker 1: Just ask me anythings? Should it go ahead? So I'm

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Speaker 1: the young dude trying to impress her young Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: So how many women have been in your bedroom? Would

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Speaker 1: you think? Who? Girl? Oh, it's kind of last who

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Speaker 1: ain't never good? Good? Well, I'm waiting, hasn't been that many?

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Speaker 1: He's saying, Joseph, say these finger in Hennessyi Garu Lamborghini? Yeah, girl,

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Speaker 1: can we can you get back to meet them all?

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Speaker 1: Because I got you can't come up with though? Has

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Speaker 1: it been that many? You can't think of it? Stop doing? Who? Stop? Who?

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Speaker 1: I mean? You know I'm gonna need a couple of

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Speaker 1: days complete the list? Wow? Well did you sleep with

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Speaker 1: them all in this bad right here? Well, let's see,

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Speaker 1: uh oh damn about you? Who oh there's one time?

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Speaker 1: Let me see you're going back down? Yeah? Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: have some people up here. What kind of bad is this? Oh?

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Speaker 1: This is a bad thing. I'm about just saying about

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Speaker 1: three years. Damn that wore this thing about three years

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Speaker 1: twenty year matches. I don't damn put twenty years in three. Well,

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Speaker 1: at least your sheets and everything are, you know, are

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Speaker 1: nice and everything looks clean. Don't sit right there. I

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Speaker 1: got clean these sheets because girl, I'm I'm missing good

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Speaker 1: because you know, I'll be on the All Counts stuff video.

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Speaker 1: You know it's luping kids only here all on here,

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Speaker 1: jelly long cabin girl, some stuff on here. Well do

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Speaker 1: you have another bedroom, perhaps with a different bed in it? Uh? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I got that, but that there for the kids when

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Speaker 1: the kids come over. Oh, because six of the women

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Speaker 1: over here got got kids about to ask him this thing? Okay,

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Speaker 1: So all these women that just taking you a few days,

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Speaker 1: so they've all been in your bedroom here at the house.

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Speaker 1: You've been getting busy like that. Yeah you in here,

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Speaker 1: ain't you? Yeah? But I'm about to leave. I'm about

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Speaker 1: to leave. Oh you're gonna leave all this hill, all

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Speaker 1: of that. I'm gonna let you have memories. Yeah, you've

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Speaker 1: been way too busy, My brother, I ain't been too busy.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to get busy. I mean what you want

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Speaker 1: me to do nothing? I want you to do nothing

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Speaker 1: right now, wait on you to come around. I ain't

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Speaker 1: know you right you didn't and now that I know you,

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Speaker 1: I'm out. You've only known me for five months. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: where are you going? We need hair turning? We look hill.

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Speaker 1: We had time break this beady and good. No, that's

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Speaker 1: all right, that's been broken in you already let us know,

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Speaker 1: but not this side of the mattress. I flipped it

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Speaker 1: for you, so you're on the new side. Good. You

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Speaker 1: know you like after I've been sleeping on the pillar

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Speaker 1: all night and you're flipping to get the cool side.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You're on the cool side

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Speaker 1: of my life. Girl. No, that's okay, come just like

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Speaker 1: that did come. Yeah, it's like that. You probably got

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Speaker 1: on some panties that another dude is seeing you fit

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Speaker 1: about all new drawls. I might have on new panties.

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Speaker 1: You don't know what kind of panties I got on.

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Speaker 1: Were talking about this mastress. We're talking about this mattress

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Speaker 1: though right now, Well, I can't see the panties unless

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Speaker 1: you get on the mattress right back in here working

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Speaker 1: for okay, Steve, let j be the girl too. You

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Speaker 1: good girl. I do getel real good. Your asses just

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Speaker 1: nasty straight okay, and I ain't got time for nasty.

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Speaker 1: Man use nasty, use very nasty. I'm nash. I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: surprised something maybe fell off your ass yet because that's

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Speaker 1: just nasty. Well, what's gonna fall off for me? Because

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Speaker 1: you have been doing too many things in this bit.

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Speaker 1: I ain't get hold up draw right here? Uh huh?

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Speaker 1: How many counter rubbers in there? That's just straightened? Nast?

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Speaker 1: You know what many columns in this draw? And from

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Speaker 1: what I heard and don't nothing, I'm sick. Well some

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Speaker 1: of them feel I just hain't get them on in time.

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Speaker 1: I went to Keff, I got the kids room over

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Speaker 1: here to yeah, Trember, what you ain't from to do

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Speaker 1: with dog? My kids out? God, God, God bless me

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Speaker 1: with them. I didn't play it on, none of them

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Speaker 1: being here, but God playing is different. Tommy, Tommy, you

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Speaker 1: want to be too good? Come on, Tommy, not seconds seconds?

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Speaker 1: All right, we gotta go, guys after this email us

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