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Speaker 1: You've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the

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Speaker 1: Fred Show. Hey Connor, good morning, Welcome to the program.

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Speaker 1: How are you.

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Speaker 2: I'm good. How are you guys doing?

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Speaker 1: We're doing great. So what's going on with this woman, Phoebe?

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Speaker 1: Can you kind of feel us in about how you

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Speaker 1: met and then tell us about any dates that you've

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Speaker 2: Of course. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So I was just scrolling on Instagram as I always do,

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Speaker 3: and one day I was on explore page and she

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Speaker 3: popped up and I saw we had mutual friends and

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Speaker 3: she was so beautiful, and so I followed her, and

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Speaker 3: then she followed me right back, and we were talking

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Speaker 3: here and there, you know, for a few weeks, replying

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Speaker 3: to stories.

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Speaker 2: And liking posts and stuff.

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Speaker 3: And then finally I was like, okay, I'm going to

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Speaker 3: slide into her DM and we talked.

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Speaker 2: And it was amazing, and I got her number.

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Speaker 3: And then I asked her out to dinner and we

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Speaker 3: went and it was it was perfect, Like it was

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Speaker 3: one of the best dates I've ever been on in

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Speaker 3: my life, and I'm dying this year again.

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Speaker 2: So I reached out and nothing, no, wow.

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Speaker 3: Completely ghosted and I'm like shocked because I don't know

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Speaker 3: what went wrong.

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Speaker 2: It's like the bet date.

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Speaker 1: Wow, well, I mean it was perfect in yourest, I mean,

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Speaker 1: we don't we you're good, but I mean you're saying flawless,

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Speaker 2: Ten nine point nine to nine.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh wow. Okay, all right, so you're confused because

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Speaker 1: you I mean, it was a really great date, clearly,

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Speaker 1: and you haven't heard from her since the date, and

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Speaker 1: that's confusing.

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Speaker 2: I had no doubt in my mind would go out again.

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Speaker 1: So okay, well, let's call Phoebe. We'll see if we

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Speaker 1: can get her on the phone here in a second,

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Speaker 1: and we'll ask these questions for you. You'll be on the

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Speaker 1: phone as well. At some point you're welcome to jump in.

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Speaker 1: And the hope is that we can straighten this whole

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Speaker 1: thing out and then set you guys up on another

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Speaker 1: date that we pay for.

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Speaker 2: Sound good, sounds perfect? Yeah, fingers crop, All.

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Speaker 1: Right, hang out one second, we'll be back in two minutes.

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Speaker 1: Good morning, it's the Fred Show, Part two of Waiting

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Speaker 1: by the phone. Hey Connor, Yeah, all right, welcome back, man.

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Speaker 1: Let's call Phoebe. You went on what you describe is

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Speaker 1: a perfect date. It was perfect. Nine point nine to nine,

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Speaker 1: is what you said, right?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's okay, all right, except you have not heard

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Speaker 1: from this woman since the date. You had no doubt.

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Speaker 1: These are your words. You had no doubt you would

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Speaker 1: see her again, and you're confused.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I reached out and nothing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, let's call her now. Good luck?

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hi is this Phoebe. This is hey Phoebe. Good morning.

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Speaker 1: My name is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred's Show,

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Speaker 1: the other radio program, and I do have to tell

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Speaker 1: you that we are on the radio right now, and

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Speaker 1: I would need your permission to continue with the call.

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Speaker 1: Can which have for just a second? Yeah, okay, people

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Speaker 1: get program now. Anyway, I'm sorry this won't take very long,

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Speaker 1: but we're calling on behalf of a guy named Connor

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Speaker 1: who reached out to us. I guess you guys recently

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Speaker 1: went on a date that he described as perfect. Do

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Speaker 1: you remember this?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I do. Okay, Well, something tells me that you

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Speaker 1: you would not describe it the same way. I don't

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Speaker 1: know that, but he did mention that he had no

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Speaker 1: not heard from you since the date. You haven't responded

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Speaker 1: to him, So what happened? What's your side of the story.

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Speaker 4: I I actually had a really great time on the date,

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Speaker 4: so much so that I went and like he talked

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Speaker 1: It's not good girl.

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Speaker 4: You know, he has a reputation, and I was just like, oh,

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Speaker 4: that's not it for me.

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Speaker 1: little bit here. So you went out with this guy.

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Speaker 1: He left the dates thinking the same thing, like this

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Speaker 1: was a great date. Yeah, you bring this up to

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so yeah, we have quite a few mutual friends

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Speaker 4: and they were like, you know, he's always out with

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Speaker 4: He like never really kind of like sees them again,

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Speaker 4: or like if he does, he's like dating multiples at

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Speaker 4: my close friends at the same time. Oh and yeah,

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Speaker 4: and and you know, like go for that, do you

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Speaker 4: want to you know, date around like that's cool, that's

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Speaker 4: just like not what I'm looking for. My last relationship,

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Speaker 4: the guy was like that and it's just not for me.

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Speaker 1: Okay, And there's no way that he could have met

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Speaker 1: you and felt differently. There's no way that that you know,

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Speaker 4: You know, I it's like the dream, like every girl's

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Speaker 4: dream is like I'm going to change him. He's going

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Speaker 4: enough now to know that that's just not true.

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Speaker 1: That's not true. I don't know about that. But let

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Speaker 1: Connor's shore. I'm extremely forgetful, and I just forgot that

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Speaker 1: he was listening to all of this. Connor, are you

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Speaker 1: a player for the Himalayas? Like what's going on here?

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Speaker 1: Like are you not able to keep them all straight?

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Speaker 1: Are you trying to date like twins? What are we doing?

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Speaker 3: And I'm actually pretty shocked to hear this, because you know,

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Speaker 3: if you heard these things, like why would you not

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Speaker 3: just come to me ask me and be like, hey,

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Speaker 4: Because een to like lie about that and like our

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Speaker 4: mutual friends, like they're our mutual friends, like they're your

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you like, not an accurate Yeah, he's

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Speaker 1: I guess I don't know why you don't give him

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Speaker 1: at least you could talk to him about it, you know,

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Speaker 4: I like, I mean, he's not could be honest with

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Speaker 1: Well, Connor, did you sleep your way around through town?

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Speaker 2: Not even a little bit? Me. Okay, maybe I've been

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Speaker 3: You know, I've had a couple relations but not I'm

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Speaker 3: not some whatever whatever, this is no, not at all.

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Speaker 3: I really had an amazing time, you know, and I

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Speaker 2: And you know, would love to see you again because I.

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Speaker 1: Don't know, I've been singing for a very long time.

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Speaker 1: If you've been listening to the show, you know that,

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Speaker 1: and I don't know, but ultimately I would love to

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Speaker 1: that's that's simply I haven't had the time. But nonetheless,

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Speaker 1: I'm a man of the people. Okay, But nonetheless I

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Speaker 1: So why not give him another shot? Talk to him

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're right, he's probably not gonna be like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm a hoe. But but at the same time, you

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I just I have a hard time

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Speaker 1: Kiki got nothing out me because you're you're in a relationship,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think she should have definitely had the conversation

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Speaker 5: But she didn't have a conversation. So I mean, hey,

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Speaker 5: but if it you know, different strokes for different folks.

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Speaker 1: Do you guys, ladies, do you if you hear that

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Speaker 1: reputation for hooking up with people, does that does that

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Speaker 1: mean that he will definitely do that to you? I mean,

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Speaker 6: But I also don't know how to pick man so

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Speaker 6: you know, if you're in high demand, like, let me

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure if I went on, if I said

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Speaker 1: to you guys, yeah, this girl's hooked up with a

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I would get nailed for that. Yes

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Speaker 1: to the christ Yeah, yeah, that's way worse than I thought.

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Speaker 5: He was a standard on that for sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I don't mind it, and I don't I

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Speaker 1: hate to the guy who argues makes an argument based

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Speaker 1: on the double standard, but it's true anyway. So look,

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Speaker 1: would you give this guy another chance, phoebe one more date,

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Speaker 1: We'll pay for it, let's see what happens, or you're

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Speaker 1: just gonna draw a line in the stand right here.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I really appreciate you guys reaching out, but

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Speaker 4: I yeah, I just I don't see it going for it,

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Speaker 4: and I don't want to waste either of our times

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Speaker 4: or your money.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, well, Connor, I mean it doesn't sell you,

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Speaker 1: there's much of a shortage, so I guess, my man,

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Speaker 1: My man, get back out there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Why would I be with someone who doesn't want

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Speaker 2: to be with me? Onto the next whatever?

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Speaker 1: Fair enough, back to the streets, yeah I mean yeah yeah,

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Speaker 1: my man. All right, good luck out there guys. Thank

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Speaker 1: you both for your time.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.