WEBVTT - Ep 242 - Black Magic Everywhere

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<v Speaker 1>Mandra, Do you know what I need? I need to

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<v Speaker 3>I had to do the fifteen out size for my

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<v Speaker 3>big sister because she drinks coffee like nobody's business.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you know, I'm the budgetish to write any special offer.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm also very glad you asked that question, Tiffany. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait to see y'all in these BA streets

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<v Speaker 1>repping BA bam with your BA swag.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy Birthday. It just does not appropriate.

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<v Speaker 3>If I knew, if I knew a Happy New Year's song,

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<v Speaker 3>I would sing that because it feels like a happy

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<v Speaker 3>news I think we should have like the sound of

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<v Speaker 3>bottles popping and confetti. Yes, Happy new Year, Tiffany.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, happy return Democracy, Mandra Hey, Hey, hey, so

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<v Speaker 1>that y'all know it is really us.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what, in five years of doing this show,

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<v Speaker 3>tiff I've never once been nervous until today.

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<v Speaker 2>Why am I nervous to talk to you. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know why.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not like we you know we do. I love

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<v Speaker 3>our audience and our listeners, and I feel the pressure because,

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<v Speaker 3>like Tiffany and I were kind of talking a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit before, I was like, save it, save it for

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<v Speaker 3>the show. The comments though, like, can't wait to hear

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<v Speaker 3>you guys. I can't wait to do. So what you

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<v Speaker 3>guys have to say?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, what how about you tell me? Let's

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<v Speaker 2>do the let's do the Where were you when?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, although I think a lot of people know where

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<v Speaker 3>in the damn street like crazy listen, I think I

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<v Speaker 3>blacked out.

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<v Speaker 1>That was That was the most brown joy filled video

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<v Speaker 1>you literally see Mannyboddy here. Well, I was like, she's

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<v Speaker 1>catching the holy ghost in front of our house while

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<v Speaker 1>walking with poor Molly.

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<v Speaker 3>I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Molly is like I'm not or what's happening? The dog

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<v Speaker 1>was like all caught on the nest, crazy of the nest.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>My husband was like, you should probably check the nest.

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<v Speaker 3>I so where was I? Sure? I'll go first? Thanks

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<v Speaker 3>for thanks for asking. This was a really like the

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<v Speaker 3>settim circum the fact that I was sitting on my

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<v Speaker 3>couch watching CNN when the news actually happened. That never happens,

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<v Speaker 3>Like who gets their news watching TV anymore?

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<v Speaker 4>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>But anyway, I had done a really difficult like because

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<v Speaker 3>I had so much nervous energy all week and I

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<v Speaker 3>was keeping it together from my team at work and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like staying positive, positive, positive. Everyone around me

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<v Speaker 3>was so down. People were texting me like, what happened

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<v Speaker 3>to Georgia? Where's Georgia? I thought Georgia was gonna flip.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, keep the faith, keep the faith. Thank

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<v Speaker 3>God for my little brother who actually is in Georgia.

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<v Speaker 3>And he was following some local reporters and he was like, listen,

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<v Speaker 3>George's turning blue. You've gotta believe. And I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna you're my hail Mary, Alex, keep it, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>keep me, keep me afloat. And I had all my

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<v Speaker 3>nervous energy. I just kept working out. I mean, this

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<v Speaker 3>was maybe a way to handle it, but I just

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<v Speaker 3>kept peloton and I was like, oh god, I can't sleep.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna peloton. So I had peloton. I came upstairs, showered,

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<v Speaker 3>put baby down for a nap, sat down on the couch,

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<v Speaker 3>and like a minute later they called it. And I'm

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<v Speaker 3>still you know how you like you after a workout,

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<v Speaker 3>you still sweat for like two hours later if you're

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<v Speaker 3>you know, out of shape like I am. And I

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<v Speaker 3>just and it wasn't because at that point we pretty

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<v Speaker 3>much knew right that it was gonna like very likely

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<v Speaker 3>he was Biden was gonna win.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I just didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so crazy that we were all tiptoeing around the

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<v Speaker 1>preschool head, preschooler in charge. Yeah, because it was like

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<v Speaker 1>all of the statistics, all of the all the pull

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<v Speaker 1>everything showed that, okay, he not only won this day,

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<v Speaker 1>but this day, but there's just almost no way to

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<v Speaker 1>come back, and no one wanted to call it because

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<v Speaker 1>they were all tiptoeing around the feelings of this three

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<v Speaker 1>year old that's in the White House, like weel, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't, no, you know, I don't. He's gonna say it's

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<v Speaker 2>not real. And it was called by some rando.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, I forget the name of the outlet, like called No,

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't you Google.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like help desk something.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, nobody wanted to be the first one. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>someone's uncle calling it.

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<v Speaker 2>For real exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually was like I had just taken like a

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<v Speaker 1>really long walk and I was feeling tired, so I

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<v Speaker 1>laid down on the couch. I had been avoiding social

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<v Speaker 1>because my heart couldn't take it.

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<v Speaker 2>I voted on Tuesday. I told myself I wasn't. I

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<v Speaker 2>was pretty sure they were going to find a result.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Tuesday night, Wednesday morning, So I wasn't surprised

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<v Speaker 1>when nothing came out, but I didn't I figured someone

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<v Speaker 1>would tell me. I didn't want to watch blow by

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<v Speaker 1>blow it was too much. So when Wednesday nothing happened,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like fine. Thursday I was like, yea fine whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Then by the time I was laying down after my walk,

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<v Speaker 1>I woke up from a nap and I guess by

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<v Speaker 1>then they had already called and me and be like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I want to say, like an hour

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<v Speaker 1>by then.

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<v Speaker 2>And I woke up and I was like, is this real?

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<v Speaker 3>So you're waking up I'm coming in the house from

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<v Speaker 3>my my my block party.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, And I just was like so I had to

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<v Speaker 2>I had to check all that.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, you know what, let me be your

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<v Speaker 3>phone told you got a text alert?

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no no.

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<v Speaker 1>I just happened to like cause I would take a

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<v Speaker 1>peek on I G every once in a while just

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<v Speaker 1>to see like it's the world over.

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<v Speaker 3>So I picked on.

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<v Speaker 1>IG and I was like, with one eye open, like

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<v Speaker 1>we what. And then I was like, let me go

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<v Speaker 1>see what Fox fox'es IG says. Because you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>the if the of the head hater in charge of

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<v Speaker 1>media Fox.

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<v Speaker 3>I did the same thing. I was like, turn on

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<v Speaker 3>box just to see what they were gonna say. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, and when I tell you the the trumpets and

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<v Speaker 1>the Fox Foxes comments were living.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my goodness. They're like, oh you the new cn that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh my god. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean they've been mad all week. They've been mad.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh we he's in charge over there. But they're like,

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<v Speaker 3>m let's just uh, let's just follow the truth this week, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's yeah, could you imagine so weird?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, their people have been mad all week. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>I've taken great delight in going to I've never ever

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<v Speaker 1>ever visited the head preschooler in charges on Twitter before

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<v Speaker 1>ever ever. I've seen tweets obviously, like screenshotted, but I've

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<v Speaker 1>never visited. So I visited just to see the trolls

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<v Speaker 1>and the comments, and I'm not gonna lie. Y'all did

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<v Speaker 1>not disappoint. I spent two days there. And that said, Tiffany,

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<v Speaker 1>I think this is unhealthy.

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<v Speaker 2>But the giggles because people are so witty.

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<v Speaker 3>The Internet is too witty, it's too like, it's too fun.

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't keep up and you know, the same day

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<v Speaker 3>with that the Four Seasons landscaping. Oh, I almost wish

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<v Speaker 3>that that had had enough time to breathe and get

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<v Speaker 3>its full you know, do in social media and the

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<v Speaker 3>internet's all the memes. Oh my goodness, it's just like bam,

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<v Speaker 3>bam bam. Like one minute, I'm laughing about that, or

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<v Speaker 3>actually I learned about that. After that, I learned about Biden.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was just that was just so what did

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<v Speaker 3>you do when you find out? Like what was your

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<v Speaker 3>physical reaction? I was shocked by my own but yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I just I just sat up and I said what what?

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<v Speaker 3>I just couldn't believe it. And then instantly I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I started seeing you about to lose jo job.

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<v Speaker 2>To get this dance.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so joyful because I don't, you know, what's

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<v Speaker 1>so crazy? So someone you know, there are a few

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<v Speaker 1>haters in the comments on my comments, which I promptly blocked,

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<v Speaker 1>but they were like, oh, this.

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<v Speaker 2>Is not gonna change much of anything. I said. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think you guys understand.

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<v Speaker 1>I think people think that we are holding Joe Biden

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<v Speaker 1>up as a deity, the way folks many folks who

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<v Speaker 1>love Trump hold them up.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like girl, what part of I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>Celebrating Joe Biden necessarily, I'm celebrating the fact that your

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<v Speaker 1>dude ain't gonna be here. I don't think people understand that,

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<v Speaker 1>Like this was for me, this was cutting out of

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<v Speaker 1>cancer that had spread and was looking to kill the body.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what this was for me.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like, now, maybe this body has a chance

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<v Speaker 1>to live a healthy, normal life.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I'm like, I think a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>joy people don't realize is not so much that we're

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<v Speaker 1>like yeah, yeah, yeay Joe Biden, and more so yeah

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<v Speaker 1>yeay yay.

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<v Speaker 2>Not Trump. Okay, it could have been ahead of Lettuce

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<v Speaker 2>I would have the head.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I you know, right before I know we were

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<v Speaker 3>so you know last when we did the last week's episode,

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<v Speaker 3>we were like, oh god, you know, we're recording on Monday.

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<v Speaker 3>What's the world going to be like? And the one

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<v Speaker 3>hope I had was that the election would go off

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<v Speaker 3>smoothly and that America could prove something that I think

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<v Speaker 3>we've taken for granted, which is our fundamental right to

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<v Speaker 3>cast a vote in a peaceful manner. I mean, this

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<v Speaker 3>just doesn't happen in a lot of countries. And that

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<v Speaker 3>is one of the cornerstones of our democracy. And I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, listen, if we can't do this, I'm terrified

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<v Speaker 3>for our future. And we did, like no evidence of fraud,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, no evidence of real I mean, of course,

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<v Speaker 3>there's all kinds of uh, you know, things to the

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<v Speaker 3>work of amazing people like Stacy Abrams. We know all

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<v Speaker 3>about voter suppression live and in color in twenty twenty,

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<v Speaker 3>but by large, by and large, record numbers of Americans

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<v Speaker 3>voted and oh my god. And at first I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, because because the mail in ballots were the

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<v Speaker 3>ones that really came in, and I'm sure you saw

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<v Speaker 3>the Avengers and Game meme, which like a favorite, my

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<v Speaker 3>favor of it. I even went, I've never really looked

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<v Speaker 3>for the source of a meme, but I made sure

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<v Speaker 3>I gave that guy credit. John John PERETTI. I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>he needs an oscar, but truly, truly, truly, and the

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<v Speaker 3>real poetry of the mail in ballads coming in is

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<v Speaker 3>that motherfucker thought he won I want real happy Tuesday night,

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<v Speaker 3>and he woke up like what first of all, woke

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<v Speaker 3>up because you told your people don't to you so

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<v Speaker 3>male in ballanty me bruh, you literally.

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<v Speaker 2>Lost by your own hand. You literally took a knife.

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<v Speaker 2>It's your own fait.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I mean I just when I tell you the

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<v Speaker 1>poetic justice the giggles, Like I said, I I literally

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<v Speaker 1>was like, humm, who are all these main Republicans that

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<v Speaker 1>talk Matt Smack on Twitter? I just I just want

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<v Speaker 1>to see the comments. I just want to see the

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<v Speaker 1>shambles of the comments. And like I said, folks did

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<v Speaker 1>not disappoint. And I love the meme of a sister

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<v Speaker 1>act two.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yes, that wasn't oh happy?

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<v Speaker 1>That was another a great one. If you haven't giggled

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<v Speaker 1>that one, so you can get your delight.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And who I know that that young woman, that prophetic

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<v Speaker 1>young woman, you're about to lose your job.

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<v Speaker 2>She did not know that she was going.

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<v Speaker 1>To be a pivotal, a pivotal poetrys in this time

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<v Speaker 1>of needs.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, everybody fired.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh and the and it was like so yes, I

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<v Speaker 3>was so. I was so overjoyed and relieved. And you're right,

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<v Speaker 3>it wasn't just about it was bigger than Biden. And

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<v Speaker 3>you know what's great about Biden is that he knew

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<v Speaker 3>it was bigger than him. He let Kamala Harris go

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<v Speaker 3>out first. He went out of his way to put

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<v Speaker 3>a woman of color in that position. Of course, she

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<v Speaker 3>earned her you know, she fought and she earned and

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<v Speaker 3>she worked for that position. But at the end of

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<v Speaker 3>the day, unfortunately he was another white man with a

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<v Speaker 3>decision to make, and he could have gone a different way,

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<v Speaker 3>and he chose not to.

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<v Speaker 1>I was shocked when I'm not gonna like when I

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<v Speaker 1>heard him say, you know, when they were like, we

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<v Speaker 1>want a black woman.

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<v Speaker 2>As vice president, I was like, yeah, girls, like that's

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<v Speaker 2>not going to happen. And when he sh when he

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<v Speaker 2>chose Kamala, Kamala.

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<v Speaker 5>Kamala, Kamala, right when he told her, I was like, wait,

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<v Speaker 5>is this real?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, I was really really shocked.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just love how it came down to the

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<v Speaker 1>very people that you try to disenfranchise. Hey, Philly, okay black,

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Detroit okay black, Hey Atlanta blackly black black. It

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<v Speaker 1>came down to some of the blackest cities in this

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<v Speaker 1>country that pushed you out of office. Don't let anyone

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<v Speaker 1>tell you that your vote doesn't count. I mean some

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<v Speaker 1>places it was down to just a few thousand.

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<v Speaker 3>He's only ten thousand in Georgia, and I need so

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<v Speaker 3>there is still too close to call, but George Georgia, Georgia.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean like, honestly, I was ready to accept whatever

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<v Speaker 3>happened once I saw that Georgia had turned blue and

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<v Speaker 3>let's not call it blue, let's call it purple because

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<v Speaker 3>it is a razor thin margin. But every vote that

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<v Speaker 3>in put Biden in the lead, I was like, I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like, I know these people, like these are the

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<v Speaker 3>people I try, like my family, my friends, the people

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<v Speaker 3>that I know in Atlanta who haven't voted, who feel

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<v Speaker 3>who have felt so who put their cynicism aside, because

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<v Speaker 3>I think at our core, the past, especially the past

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<v Speaker 3>year and four years for me, has been about putting

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<v Speaker 3>aside the cynicism that I know I could feel, and

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<v Speaker 3>choosing hope and trying to convince other people they're not convinced.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not like I had the power to convince anybody,

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<v Speaker 3>but I am so proud that people put aside their cynicism.

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<v Speaker 3>And maybe they went to the polls thinking it might

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<v Speaker 3>not matter, but it must feel for anyone who voted,

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<v Speaker 3>who wasn't going to vote, and you went anyway, or

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<v Speaker 3>you mailed in your ballot. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>It made a difference. And if you hadn't, we might

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<v Speaker 3>not be sitting here. So y'all are the real MVPs

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<v Speaker 3>and it's not over. I am like my aunt, my

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<v Speaker 3>cousins were all like, yeah, many, we did it. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>what y'all doing on January fifth? Okay, deadline to registers?

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<v Speaker 2>Because you already it's been too quiet.

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<v Speaker 1>A toddler in the other room, that's quiet, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean they have scissors inside the the for real.

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<v Speaker 2>When a timeless too quiet, I'm like, the timeless too quiet?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah there, So I until until like it is done done.

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<v Speaker 1>I just expect Sanny because he's not gonna take this quietly. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>what president doesn't concede That's literally never happened in the

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<v Speaker 1>history of our country. He is putting our democracy at

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<v Speaker 1>risk around the world for his own personal gain.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't win, so I haven't though that matters, like

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<v Speaker 3>his legal challenges, they really don't. I mean, maybe if

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<v Speaker 3>we hadn't gotten Pennsylvania by such a clear, you know margin,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe you know, we've been more nervous if it was

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<v Speaker 3>down to like a recount here and a recount there,

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<v Speaker 3>or a legal challenge there about ballots. But even if

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<v Speaker 3>he won any frivolous lawsuit in Pennsylvania. I listened this morning.

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<v Speaker 3>This was a New York Times that said, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>or an expert on the New York Times or commentator

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever. Someone said, someone real, real smart from New

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<v Speaker 3>York Times, which I choose to believe in, said that

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<v Speaker 3>even if he wins this legal challenge a number of votes,

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<v Speaker 3>because he's trying to say that what they're trying to

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<v Speaker 3>what they're trying to challenge is these votes that were

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<v Speaker 3>mailed in but arrived three days after election day, which

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<v Speaker 3>some a federal or a state court or federal court

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<v Speaker 3>had ruled recently that they could accept those ballots, where

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<v Speaker 3>in the past they wouldn't have accepted those ballots. So

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<v Speaker 3>Trump and his cronies were trying to say, we must

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<v Speaker 3>discount these votes because they came in a few days late.

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<v Speaker 3>But anyway, there's not enough votes there to make up

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<v Speaker 3>the difference. So but the thing is, like, you're right,

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<v Speaker 3>it does not end here. I mean, I am listen.

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<v Speaker 3>My next thing is what I think, you know, Trump

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<v Speaker 3>is probably like the seventy million people voted for this guy,

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<v Speaker 3>that should terrify everybody into staying vigilant. I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>the you know, I feel like there's going to be

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<v Speaker 3>we already have you know four chan or qwan on,

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<v Speaker 3>Like we have these channels where I mean, this isn't

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<v Speaker 3>even conservative, this is like very disturbing, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Right wing. I didn't know right waitnessy.

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<v Speaker 3>They find their own place to communicate, and they're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>do that. There's going to be like a new because

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<v Speaker 3>you saw Twitter. One of my the favorite things for

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<v Speaker 3>me was how Twitter started to actually block yes, like

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<v Speaker 3>say no, this isn't true, that we're not even going

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<v Speaker 3>to show you this tweet because we don't think it's true.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think that they're going to go and start

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<v Speaker 3>their own thing and you know, make it easier for

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<v Speaker 3>folks to not see the facts. You got to stay engaged.

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<v Speaker 3>And when I said, you know what are y'all doing?

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<v Speaker 3>January fifth, If you know anybody in Georgia, this is

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<v Speaker 3>what really really matters. There's two Senate runoffs, John Osoff

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<v Speaker 3>and ah my brain is no, no, no, I got it.

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<v Speaker 3>I got notes, you guys. This is how nervous I was.

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<v Speaker 3>I put my notes down. Rafael Warnock, Reverend Rafael Warnock. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>so they're both facing runoff elections January fifth, and why

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<v Speaker 3>are they? Someone at work was like, maybe can you

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<v Speaker 3>explain the runoff situation in Georgia. So essentially, there were

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<v Speaker 3>more candidates. There were enough candidates that if no one

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<v Speaker 3>secured a majority of the vote, it goes to a runoff.

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<v Speaker 3>So they take the top two vote getters and they say, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>you're gonna into a runoff, or not the top two,

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<v Speaker 3>but the top vote getters. So these are the two Democrats,

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<v Speaker 3>Reverend Rafael Warnock and John Osoff. They're going up against

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<v Speaker 3>Kelly Loffler. We heard of ke Do you know any

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<v Speaker 3>about Kelly Loffler?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 3>She a nasty woman. When they say nasty women, this

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<v Speaker 3>is what they really mean. So she's like a she's

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<v Speaker 3>married to the well chairman of the of the Stock Exchange.

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<v Speaker 3>She owns the dub the this is and talk about

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<v Speaker 3>like Hipocrisiana. She owns the w NBA team, the Dream

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<v Speaker 3>in Atlanta. Okay, so she owns a sports team made

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<v Speaker 3>up of black woman And she was appointed to this seat.

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<v Speaker 3>She didn't earn it. She was appointed because the former

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<v Speaker 3>person who held the seat, Johnny Isaac Sen. He was.

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<v Speaker 3>He stepped down for health care health reasons. I think,

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<v Speaker 3>so she was appointed didn't have to run. But now

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<v Speaker 3>she's on the ballot. And I mean, it was so

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<v Speaker 3>bad this summer and I was reading about this the

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<v Speaker 3>dream the team players wn W NBA players literally showed

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<v Speaker 3>up at a game with Shirr said vote Warnock and

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<v Speaker 3>against their own owner. Because that is how I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>You should just I mean, I don't waste your time

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<v Speaker 3>because I'll just make you mad. But you know, her

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<v Speaker 3>her campaign messages is like, you know, of course she's

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<v Speaker 3>trying to vote against abortion rights for gun rights. She

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<v Speaker 3>did the whole campaign ad wearing the vest and the

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<v Speaker 3>rifle over her shoulder, and you know she's a gajillionaire

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<v Speaker 3>and all that stuff like this is who we're voting.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, this is who could represent Georgia. And that

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<v Speaker 3>is I'm sorry, that is not for me what George

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<v Speaker 3>is about. So if you agree, if you agree, and

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<v Speaker 3>you don't want someone like that for representing you in Congress,

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<v Speaker 3>you've got to vote and tell anyone you know in Georgia. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>so here are some key dates. Tiffany, I promised you're

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<v Speaker 3>gonna I'm gonna shut up soon, but I gotta say

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<v Speaker 3>my I gotta say my dates, because here's my notes,

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<v Speaker 3>my notes. Okay, So December seventh is not that far away.

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<v Speaker 3>That is a deadline for new folks to register to vote.

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<v Speaker 3>And if you know any teenagers who are going to

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<v Speaker 3>be eighteen by January fifteen, twenty twenty one, they can

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<v Speaker 3>still register. So get just tell them we're going to

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<v Speaker 3>go for a short drive. Oh no, you don't have

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<v Speaker 3>to drive anywhere. You can do it online. Register to

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<v Speaker 3>vote by the seventh of December. Early voting starts the

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<v Speaker 3>fourteenth of December, so you don't have to ruin your

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<v Speaker 3>holiday plans. And the official election day for the runoff

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<v Speaker 3>is January fifth. Why are these two seats so important

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<v Speaker 3>other than Georgia deserves represented by people who actually represent

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<v Speaker 3>their best interest. This will determine likely whether or not

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<v Speaker 3>Democrats hold the majority in the Senate. The Senate, you guys,

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<v Speaker 3>do you want to know why we've had all these

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<v Speaker 3>conservative judges so from the Supreme Court, all the you know,

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<v Speaker 3>down the line across the country appointed. It's because the

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<v Speaker 3>Senate holds those votes. They hold that power, and if

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<v Speaker 3>we don't hold the majority. Unfortunately, to say all this

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<v Speaker 3>talk of bipartisanship and unity, that's bullshit, like they're going

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<v Speaker 3>to vote along party line. So it's very important if

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<v Speaker 3>you truly if you don't just support Biden and Harris

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<v Speaker 3>and what they stand for, if you support the policies

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<v Speaker 3>and the issues that Democrats support, working families, women's reproductive rights,

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<v Speaker 3>gun uh uh uh? What is the right one? Is?

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<v Speaker 3>What am I trying to say? Gun protections, gun restrictions?

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<v Speaker 3>If you don't if and and forget, and I did

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<v Speaker 3>mentioned the the pandemic, like if you support wearing a

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<v Speaker 3>damn mask, like you want Democrats to hold the majority

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<v Speaker 3>in the Senate. So unfortunately it all comes down to

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<v Speaker 3>these you know, these two races in Georgia. But if

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<v Speaker 3>you know anybody, that's my alarm. I have to wake

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<v Speaker 3>up the baby from his late nap and he's going

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<v Speaker 3>to be super annoyed by me. But uh, that's fine, anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>I just Georgia, Georgia, Georgia, and this is this is

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<v Speaker 3>really serious, and I am My cousins are already tired

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<v Speaker 3>of me, but I don't care because I it's too

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<v Speaker 3>too important and woof anyway, all right, now you talk,

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<v Speaker 3>how did you celebrate? Did you celebrate? Were you in

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<v Speaker 3>them streets without it, with the mask but not social distancing?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I was it because I was just I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>really one for crowds, but I just celebrated, just honestly.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I must have been on Instagram for like

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<v Speaker 1>hour straight, just soaking up the joy of folks and us.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm really cool with one of the well

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<v Speaker 1>two of the co founders of Black Lives Matter.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was just messaging with.

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<v Speaker 1>Patrice Colors from What That Matter, because just it was

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<v Speaker 1>just crazy because just a year or so ago she

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<v Speaker 1>Black Lives Matter was getting the honor of getting the

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<v Speaker 1>kidney of Sydney Peace Price, which is a huge, huge, huge,

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<v Speaker 1>huge honor. And I was messaging with her and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, look how I'm just telling her how

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<v Speaker 1>proud I was of her, because she's she and the

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<v Speaker 1>other founders were on the cover of Time magazine the

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred Most Influential People, and some things she had posted,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, look how the tide turns. This

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<v Speaker 1>is what I told her, From being called a terrorist

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<v Speaker 1>organization to changing the outcome of an election. There are

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<v Speaker 1>those that said that activism was dead, but I say

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<v Speaker 1>stiff ware.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you know that.

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<v Speaker 1>With the little girl, it's like showing off her hair.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like they tried to say my hair was stiff.

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<v Speaker 1>Stiff ware basically like I'm dry, And she said, thanks.

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<v Speaker 2>Love, it feels really good to be here.

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<v Speaker 1>I just when I just tell you it just this

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<v Speaker 1>is what whenever they tell you, oh, your social media

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<v Speaker 1>activism doesn't mean anything. Let's be clear the Black Lives

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<v Speaker 1>Matter movement. Had that not happened, then we likely would

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<v Speaker 1>not have been here. I'm not gonna lie COVID, you

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<v Speaker 1>know you you a salty hoe. But had COVID not happened,

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<v Speaker 1>people would not have come out and masked voting via

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<v Speaker 1>male and also too, I think a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't have seen like, yo, this is really crazy. He

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<v Speaker 1>don't really care like with then today out.

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<v Speaker 3>Here, Yes, if and if you weren't terrified the pandemic,

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<v Speaker 3>by the pandemic, it's so sad to me. But we

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<v Speaker 3>have to thank Breonna Taylor and George Floyd and all

0:22:55.320 --> 0:22:59.720
<v Speaker 3>the other aman operate, the Black Americans who were shot

0:22:59.720 --> 0:23:04.080
<v Speaker 3>by Lease and it you know, add them to the

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<v Speaker 3>list of people who had to die for us to

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<v Speaker 3>get our shit together in so many ways. And I'm

0:23:08.040 --> 0:23:11.840
<v Speaker 3>and you know, we have to thank them and their families.

0:23:13.000 --> 0:23:15.040
<v Speaker 3>It's nothing that they ever wanted to be thankful for,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure, but you're right. I mean, the COVID made

0:23:17.920 --> 0:23:24.760
<v Speaker 3>us sitarases down these unjust killings by police officers, which listen,

0:23:24.920 --> 0:23:26.520
<v Speaker 3>have happened and you know, I don't need to tell you,

0:23:26.560 --> 0:23:30.240
<v Speaker 3>but have happened for decades, for generations. But it forced

0:23:30.280 --> 0:23:32.840
<v Speaker 3>us to sit down and look and see what was

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<v Speaker 3>going on. And I really felt hopeful this summer when

0:23:36.960 --> 0:23:39.159
<v Speaker 3>I when I the conversations, we had the fact that

0:23:39.200 --> 0:23:41.679
<v Speaker 3>my mother was talking to me about race, that my

0:23:41.720 --> 0:23:44.320
<v Speaker 3>stepdad said he was going to vote Republican. I'm sorry,

0:23:44.440 --> 0:23:48.120
<v Speaker 3>vote Democrat after being a lifelong Republican. These were signs

0:23:48.240 --> 0:23:50.040
<v Speaker 3>that to me, things were changing.

0:23:51.160 --> 0:23:53.440
<v Speaker 2>Honest, I wasn't that hopeful. I was like, because I

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<v Speaker 2>was so devastated.

0:23:54.680 --> 0:23:56.520
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I was always Pollyanna, and you were like,

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<v Speaker 3>but because but to Tiffany, you have a right to

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<v Speaker 3>be cynical.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I don't have to feel you know what

0:24:03.240 --> 0:24:05.800
<v Speaker 1>it was. I didn't want my heart to be broken.

0:24:06.000 --> 0:24:10.080
<v Speaker 1>I said, because honestly, I was mouth agape last time.

0:24:10.119 --> 0:24:12.160
<v Speaker 1>I was caught so off guard, like wait what, wait?

0:24:12.240 --> 0:24:13.520
<v Speaker 2>What? What? What? What?

0:24:13.920 --> 0:24:15.439
<v Speaker 1>I did not want that to happen this time. So

0:24:15.520 --> 0:24:18.560
<v Speaker 1>I said, you know what, if this is going to

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<v Speaker 1>be I was talking to a friend of mine and

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<v Speaker 1>he's kind of chubby, and I said, I'm nervous. He's like,

0:24:25.040 --> 0:24:27.280
<v Speaker 1>I said, I have so much anxiety. He was like why,

0:24:27.880 --> 0:24:29.520
<v Speaker 1>and he was I was like the elections. He was like,

0:24:29.520 --> 0:24:31.840
<v Speaker 1>you know what, I've decided regardless of what happened tomorrow,

0:24:31.840 --> 0:24:34.680
<v Speaker 1>I still wake up fat and black. And I was real,

0:24:35.520 --> 0:24:39.600
<v Speaker 1>it's true, though, I now, it's just like so that

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<v Speaker 1>gate that took a little of the anxiety because basically

0:24:42.119 --> 0:24:44.639
<v Speaker 1>what he was saying that there's still gonna be similar

0:24:44.680 --> 0:24:46.960
<v Speaker 1>issues that are still here, and we will we have

0:24:47.119 --> 0:24:49.399
<v Speaker 1>dealt with it, we will learn to deal with it

0:24:49.440 --> 0:24:51.360
<v Speaker 1>and through it and and you know, we'll.

0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:54.000
<v Speaker 2>Figure out a way. But so it helped a little bit.

0:24:54.040 --> 0:24:57.480
<v Speaker 1>But certainly the anxiety was really high because the truth

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<v Speaker 1>of the matter is half the country still voted one,

0:25:00.040 --> 0:25:04.960
<v Speaker 1>why you know, And and surprisingly his numbers percentages rose

0:25:05.040 --> 0:25:11.920
<v Speaker 1>and white women, and also numbers rose with black men.

0:25:12.840 --> 0:25:13.560
<v Speaker 2>Numbers rose.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, I mean, it ain't really rise with white men

0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:17.239
<v Speaker 1>because it's like no more could have voted for him,

0:25:17.320 --> 0:25:21.320
<v Speaker 1>like we already tapped you out fully, So it just

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<v Speaker 1>one of the power. I don't know if you saw this,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll send it to you on Instagram. One of the

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<v Speaker 1>most powerful videos I saw was this Native American gentleman

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<v Speaker 1>exit his car and dance. The joy in his dance

0:25:31.800 --> 0:25:33.760
<v Speaker 1>and there was someone in the comments. It was just

0:25:33.760 --> 0:25:36.280
<v Speaker 1>so beautiful and I didn't know. I knew the dance

0:25:36.320 --> 0:25:38.120
<v Speaker 1>meant something, but I didn't know what because you could

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<v Speaker 1>just it was just so purposeful. His foot footsteps right

0:25:40.840 --> 0:25:43.119
<v Speaker 1>and a woman in the comments that I'm Native American

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<v Speaker 1>right that right there is what he's doing is called

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<v Speaker 1>the warrior dance.

0:25:46.040 --> 0:25:47.800
<v Speaker 2>Is the dance that you do after you defeat an

0:25:47.880 --> 0:25:51.359
<v Speaker 2>enemy when I tell you the boo hoo ing. Because

0:25:51.359 --> 0:25:52.040
<v Speaker 2>it was so.

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<v Speaker 1>Powerful and we were all just in like, you know

0:25:56.800 --> 0:25:58.679
<v Speaker 1>the fact that she shared that with us, it was like,

0:25:58.720 --> 0:25:59.600
<v Speaker 1>that's what I'm feeling.

0:25:59.680 --> 0:26:02.240
<v Speaker 2>And I could just feel his joy in his relief.

0:26:02.280 --> 0:26:05.080
<v Speaker 1>And he was wearing like a flannel shirt and some jeans,

0:26:05.359 --> 0:26:08.240
<v Speaker 1>but you could you could see the regalia that wasn't

0:26:08.240 --> 0:26:08.960
<v Speaker 1>there on him.

0:26:09.080 --> 0:26:12.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and so yeah, I'm just I just.

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<v Speaker 3>Doesn't it feel it did to be a hero. Yeah,

0:26:15.119 --> 0:26:18.159
<v Speaker 3>it's and you don't need to be a super like

0:26:18.200 --> 0:26:21.720
<v Speaker 3>this is the and I'm so like kids will see

0:26:22.000 --> 0:26:25.600
<v Speaker 3>we made something happen because we did something very simple.

0:26:25.640 --> 0:26:28.480
<v Speaker 3>You didn't have to be the smartest or the fastest,

0:26:28.520 --> 0:26:31.800
<v Speaker 3>or the strongest, or the prettiest or the tallest. You

0:26:32.000 --> 0:26:34.880
<v Speaker 3>just had to go and vote. That's all you had

0:26:34.880 --> 0:26:38.359
<v Speaker 3>to do. And you saved this country in so many ways.

0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:41.720
<v Speaker 3>And I that in people's expression of joy after so

0:26:41.960 --> 0:26:45.919
<v Speaker 3>many months of pain and anguish and anxiety, like to

0:26:45.960 --> 0:26:49.240
<v Speaker 3>see people feel and I think, and especially my own

0:26:49.240 --> 0:26:52.720
<v Speaker 3>reaction that visceral need to run literally into my streets

0:26:52.800 --> 0:26:55.800
<v Speaker 3>and up and down the block. I couldn't hold it in,

0:26:56.000 --> 0:26:58.800
<v Speaker 3>like I just I just My husband's like, what are

0:26:58.840 --> 0:27:00.879
<v Speaker 3>you doing, I'm like, I don't know, putting my shoes on,

0:27:00.920 --> 0:27:03.639
<v Speaker 3>I have to be in the streets. And and and

0:27:04.760 --> 0:27:06.679
<v Speaker 3>as you can see from all the footage on like

0:27:06.760 --> 0:27:11.000
<v Speaker 3>cable network or news just in general, so many thousands

0:27:11.040 --> 0:27:13.919
<v Speaker 3>of people felt the same. We just wanted to dance,

0:27:14.000 --> 0:27:16.960
<v Speaker 3>We just wanted to scream, We wanted to be out

0:27:17.000 --> 0:27:20.600
<v Speaker 3>there and rejoice and and and what made me sad

0:27:20.720 --> 0:27:23.800
<v Speaker 3>is I know, like, for example, I live in a

0:27:23.840 --> 0:27:28.240
<v Speaker 3>majority minority neighborhood were very progressive, and I felt very

0:27:28.240 --> 0:27:31.639
<v Speaker 3>safe running my black cast down the street like no

0:27:31.720 --> 0:27:33.840
<v Speaker 3>one's going to call the cops on me. Low key,

0:27:33.880 --> 0:27:35.800
<v Speaker 3>I did bring the dogs, I would look less crazy.

0:27:38.359 --> 0:27:42.000
<v Speaker 3>But anyway I felt, And even though on the video

0:27:42.040 --> 0:27:44.520
<v Speaker 3>that I posted, I came back and took a little

0:27:44.520 --> 0:27:46.600
<v Speaker 3>break because I was so tired. But a lot of

0:27:46.640 --> 0:27:48.640
<v Speaker 3>my neighbors once I woke their us, once I woke

0:27:48.680 --> 0:27:50.800
<v Speaker 3>them up, they were out in the streets too, and

0:27:50.840 --> 0:27:53.320
<v Speaker 3>we were having a little like impromptu block party. But

0:27:53.960 --> 0:27:56.040
<v Speaker 3>I felt very safe doing that. And I know, and

0:27:56.119 --> 0:27:57.879
<v Speaker 3>from the comments I got on my video, that a

0:27:57.880 --> 0:28:00.280
<v Speaker 3>lot of people don't live in places where they feel

0:28:00.320 --> 0:28:04.359
<v Speaker 3>safe celebrating. And I just hope. I just don't want

0:28:04.440 --> 0:28:06.240
<v Speaker 3>y'all to have to hold it in, like live in

0:28:06.280 --> 0:28:09.240
<v Speaker 3>this joy, like take advantage of this rare moment of

0:28:09.280 --> 0:28:13.080
<v Speaker 3>a win, in this dumpster fire of a year, find

0:28:13.119 --> 0:28:15.239
<v Speaker 3>some way to celebrate in whatever way you can, and

0:28:15.400 --> 0:28:18.560
<v Speaker 3>just go hug a baby, like I don't know.

0:28:19.560 --> 0:28:21.760
<v Speaker 1>It was so crazy because I take a walk just

0:28:21.840 --> 0:28:24.400
<v Speaker 1>about every day, and there are just because I mean

0:28:24.400 --> 0:28:27.560
<v Speaker 1>North is largely like black and Hispanic like largely, and

0:28:28.119 --> 0:28:30.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, in my neighborhood same you know, sprinkleove of

0:28:30.520 --> 0:28:33.040
<v Speaker 1>other here and there. But there was maybe one or

0:28:33.040 --> 0:28:35.040
<v Speaker 1>two houses that had a Trump sign. And I would

0:28:35.040 --> 0:28:36.920
<v Speaker 1>walk by this one house in particular, which I thought

0:28:36.920 --> 0:28:39.160
<v Speaker 1>was so odd because they had this a Puerto Rican

0:28:39.160 --> 0:28:40.160
<v Speaker 1>flag and a Trump sign.

0:28:40.200 --> 0:28:42.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, you don't remember how he create the Puerto

0:28:42.080 --> 0:28:43.520
<v Speaker 2>Rico Latino.

0:28:43.960 --> 0:28:46.920
<v Speaker 3>I mean, listen, like the majority of Latinos did vote

0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:50.720
<v Speaker 3>against Trump, but there's a fair number who who who

0:28:50.760 --> 0:28:51.800
<v Speaker 3>who voted for him.

0:28:51.880 --> 0:28:54.440
<v Speaker 1>So yes, I just thought that was so idd considering

0:28:54.760 --> 0:28:58.560
<v Speaker 1>in particular, like what happened, you know, like you know

0:28:58.600 --> 0:29:03.280
<v Speaker 1>when once actually struck uh Puerto Rico and so anyway,

0:29:03.360 --> 0:29:06.200
<v Speaker 1>so I so literally the next morning, you know, I

0:29:06.200 --> 0:29:06.920
<v Speaker 1>went from my walk.

0:29:07.200 --> 0:29:09.240
<v Speaker 2>Why I tell you them signs were down so fast.

0:29:10.440 --> 0:29:17.800
<v Speaker 3>Oh JK, Hey, y'all hate Tiphany. Your neighborhoods are orgious

0:29:17.840 --> 0:29:22.360
<v Speaker 3>those photos you posted. And someone told me black women

0:29:22.400 --> 0:29:24.960
<v Speaker 3>in the suburbs, where do you live, I'm like, lots

0:29:25.000 --> 0:29:28.280
<v Speaker 3>of black people live in the suburbs, Okay, Like it's

0:29:28.360 --> 0:29:31.520
<v Speaker 3>and I mean, obviously, I'm sure we're in the minority.

0:29:31.560 --> 0:29:33.720
<v Speaker 3>But you know that's what pissed me off the most.

0:29:33.800 --> 0:29:37.040
<v Speaker 3>When you know Republicans and Trump would talk about people

0:29:37.080 --> 0:29:39.200
<v Speaker 3>in the suburbs are coming to get you, they're coming

0:29:39.280 --> 0:29:41.640
<v Speaker 3>for your they're going to be your neighbors. I'm like,

0:29:41.760 --> 0:29:44.360
<v Speaker 3>we are the neighbors, and we bas already exists. So

0:29:44.440 --> 0:29:46.840
<v Speaker 3>like we like white flight happened, like I don't know,

0:29:47.080 --> 0:29:49.200
<v Speaker 3>fifty so fifty years ago, like that was a thing.

0:29:49.480 --> 0:29:51.640
<v Speaker 1>That's why Newark is so very black right now because

0:29:51.680 --> 0:29:54.200
<v Speaker 1>so many people left. And honestly, like you said that,

0:29:54.320 --> 0:29:58.360
<v Speaker 1>I love my neighborhood. It's largely historic homes. But when

0:29:58.400 --> 0:30:00.440
<v Speaker 1>I tell you so many times when I kne family

0:30:00.480 --> 0:30:03.000
<v Speaker 1>moves in, I would say sixteen seventy percent of the

0:30:03.040 --> 0:30:05.160
<v Speaker 1>time it's a black or brown family. And I love

0:30:05.240 --> 0:30:07.840
<v Speaker 1>that because yes, you know, we still get phone calls

0:30:07.840 --> 0:30:09.720
<v Speaker 1>every day you're looking to tell you how click. I'm

0:30:09.720 --> 0:30:13.040
<v Speaker 1>not gentrification is trying hard here. But what I love

0:30:13.040 --> 0:30:17.320
<v Speaker 1>about our mayor is that one his father was a

0:30:17.360 --> 0:30:20.320
<v Speaker 1>Mary Baracker, who was like poet laureate and like very

0:30:20.360 --> 0:30:23.920
<v Speaker 1>active in the black power movement in the sixties, and

0:30:24.040 --> 0:30:27.200
<v Speaker 1>he is a student of that. So our Mayor ros

0:30:27.200 --> 0:30:31.320
<v Speaker 1>Barrocka does not play that, which I love, and so yeah,

0:30:31.440 --> 0:30:33.520
<v Speaker 1>it is a you know, people will say so much

0:30:33.560 --> 0:30:37.520
<v Speaker 1>about Newark, but this neighborhood. I mean, certainly Newark obviously

0:30:37.520 --> 0:30:39.680
<v Speaker 1>has its parts that's like not so cute, and you know,

0:30:39.800 --> 0:30:42.160
<v Speaker 1>and I get that, but there are parts of Newark

0:30:42.160 --> 0:30:44.360
<v Speaker 1>that are just so beautiful, and that's what I wanted

0:30:44.400 --> 0:30:47.240
<v Speaker 1>to share, Like these are not even I mean, that

0:30:47.400 --> 0:30:49.520
<v Speaker 1>was like a little short walk. I haven't even I

0:30:49.560 --> 0:30:52.600
<v Speaker 1>have favorite houses that did not make the list. Some

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:54.880
<v Speaker 1>of these houses were built in nineteen ten and they're

0:30:54.920 --> 0:30:59.239
<v Speaker 1>just so gorgeous, and the streets are quiet, and you know,

0:30:59.280 --> 0:31:01.680
<v Speaker 1>and when I you know, so when people do come out,

0:31:02.320 --> 0:31:05.480
<v Speaker 1>it's usually somebody brown waving hair wrapped up as they're

0:31:05.520 --> 0:31:06.200
<v Speaker 1>walking their dog.

0:31:06.320 --> 0:31:06.880
<v Speaker 2>I just love it.

0:31:06.920 --> 0:31:11.920
<v Speaker 3>Honestly sounds like Atlanta, which, by the way, my heart

0:31:11.920 --> 0:31:14.280
<v Speaker 3>has been tugging me back down south for quite some

0:31:14.400 --> 0:31:17.000
<v Speaker 3>time now, and I don't know how much longer I'm

0:31:17.000 --> 0:31:19.320
<v Speaker 3>gonna make it a burial. But I mean, I love

0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:21.520
<v Speaker 3>my neighborhood so much and I'm so glad we found

0:31:21.600 --> 0:31:26.080
<v Speaker 3>the little tiny Atlanta of Westchester County. But God, the joy,

0:31:26.200 --> 0:31:30.360
<v Speaker 3>the joy, and thank you like Tiffany and Brown Ambition

0:31:30.640 --> 0:31:33.480
<v Speaker 3>for giving us a place to share and amplify our joy,

0:31:33.640 --> 0:31:37.280
<v Speaker 3>because there's people who don't have microphones and get to like,

0:31:37.600 --> 0:31:39.640
<v Speaker 3>you know, share in that and feel like their voices

0:31:39.640 --> 0:31:42.000
<v Speaker 3>are being heard. And I read every single one of

0:31:42.040 --> 0:31:45.000
<v Speaker 3>y'all's comments and messages, whether you were you know, sending

0:31:45.000 --> 0:31:48.360
<v Speaker 3>them to me on Insta or to the Brown Ambition Instagram,

0:31:48.560 --> 0:31:51.680
<v Speaker 3>I read them. I relished in every last ounce of

0:31:51.720 --> 0:31:54.880
<v Speaker 3>that joy. Keep sending us your you know, send us

0:31:54.880 --> 0:31:57.520
<v Speaker 3>your reactions, send us you know messages, Let us know

0:31:57.560 --> 0:31:59.960
<v Speaker 3>how you're feeling, let us know what you're doing next.

0:32:00.240 --> 0:32:04.040
<v Speaker 3>You know. Yes, personally, I feel I didn't know you

0:32:04.040 --> 0:32:06.320
<v Speaker 3>could have a happiness hangover, but like that's the thing

0:32:06.320 --> 0:32:08.960
<v Speaker 3>that I've now invented. I guess I just felt like

0:32:08.960 --> 0:32:12.520
<v Speaker 3>I could sleep for a week happiness hangover. Like last night,

0:32:12.560 --> 0:32:15.280
<v Speaker 3>I was so tired, so tired, and just like what

0:32:15.400 --> 0:32:18.120
<v Speaker 3>is this? I guess it's just it's like you had

0:32:18.240 --> 0:32:21.920
<v Speaker 3>so much tension and the you know, you were just

0:32:21.960 --> 0:32:25.960
<v Speaker 3>like this uphill battle for so long, and I feel

0:32:26.040 --> 0:32:29.080
<v Speaker 3>like I needed a tiny little break. But I woke

0:32:29.160 --> 0:32:32.440
<v Speaker 3>up this morning just feeling like what I need to

0:32:32.480 --> 0:32:35.120
<v Speaker 3>do something like I need to get involved somehow locally

0:32:35.520 --> 0:32:38.160
<v Speaker 3>in local politics. And if you guys are feeling the

0:32:38.200 --> 0:32:40.760
<v Speaker 3>same way you and I know a lot of our

0:32:40.760 --> 0:32:43.280
<v Speaker 3>audience are black women, so I wanted to talk. Just

0:32:43.400 --> 0:32:46.080
<v Speaker 3>mentioned a couple of groups. I mentioned Higher Heights before,

0:32:46.280 --> 0:32:49.840
<v Speaker 3>which is a nonprofit that seeks to get more women

0:32:49.880 --> 0:32:52.800
<v Speaker 3>of color, especially black women, in office. And there's also

0:32:53.480 --> 0:32:56.000
<v Speaker 3>a group called She Should Lead that you can check

0:32:56.040 --> 0:32:58.960
<v Speaker 3>out and really great because they have tips and like

0:32:59.000 --> 0:33:01.280
<v Speaker 3>even like little course is on how you And I'm

0:33:01.320 --> 0:33:04.080
<v Speaker 3>not talking about running for president, I mean like town

0:33:04.480 --> 0:33:08.680
<v Speaker 3>you know, school boards, you know, like these like town councils,

0:33:08.800 --> 0:33:13.360
<v Speaker 3>you know these these small, many democracies within our democracy

0:33:13.680 --> 0:33:16.120
<v Speaker 3>where you know your voice can have an impact, and

0:33:16.160 --> 0:33:20.320
<v Speaker 3>it starts with it starts at the community level. And yeah,

0:33:20.600 --> 0:33:24.040
<v Speaker 3>I just hope this momentum keeps going, Tiff. I hope

0:33:24.080 --> 0:33:28.320
<v Speaker 3>that I hope that we never forget how hard it

0:33:28.360 --> 0:33:31.120
<v Speaker 3>took us to go back the other direction. Yeah, but

0:33:31.240 --> 0:33:34.440
<v Speaker 3>I'm so so proud. I'm so proud. I've never been

0:33:34.440 --> 0:33:35.560
<v Speaker 3>more proud to be American.

0:33:35.880 --> 0:33:37.920
<v Speaker 1>And just know that there are people now who are

0:33:37.960 --> 0:33:40.480
<v Speaker 1>what my friend needs to call punching potatoes in the garage.

0:33:40.520 --> 0:33:42.560
<v Speaker 2>So he would always say that.

0:33:43.200 --> 0:33:44.720
<v Speaker 1>I know it's going to sound crazy, but he would

0:33:44.720 --> 0:33:47.760
<v Speaker 1>always say, like, if we went somewhere and you know,

0:33:47.920 --> 0:33:49.560
<v Speaker 1>let's just say, you know, some guy was trying to

0:33:49.600 --> 0:33:51.240
<v Speaker 1>flex or whatever, and I'd be like, oh my gosh,

0:33:51.280 --> 0:33:51.960
<v Speaker 1>he's acting crazy.

0:33:52.000 --> 0:33:52.720
<v Speaker 2>He's like, man, you know.

0:33:52.680 --> 0:33:55.040
<v Speaker 1>What what I learned, He said, I'll leave people alone

0:33:55.440 --> 0:33:57.320
<v Speaker 1>because you don't know who's been in the garage for

0:33:57.360 --> 0:34:00.200
<v Speaker 1>the last ten years punch of potatoes, basically preparing for

0:34:00.240 --> 0:34:03.240
<v Speaker 1>the day that you say something and they spaz out,

0:34:03.480 --> 0:34:06.160
<v Speaker 1>and now they have all the strength. And so what

0:34:06.200 --> 0:34:09.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying is that there are those who are like, Okay,

0:34:09.440 --> 0:34:11.799
<v Speaker 1>they're right now punching potatoes in the garage, waiting for

0:34:11.840 --> 0:34:14.120
<v Speaker 1>four years to come out in full force. So we

0:34:14.160 --> 0:34:17.240
<v Speaker 1>can't forget, and we can't slack, and we can't be lax.

0:34:17.960 --> 0:34:20.239
<v Speaker 1>This is just the beginning. We were going to have

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<v Speaker 1>to come out with full force because the potato punchers

0:34:23.120 --> 0:34:23.920
<v Speaker 1>certainly will be.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely and a lot of those potato punchers, I mean

0:34:27.160 --> 0:34:28.960
<v Speaker 3>I never refer to them that way, but I'm related

0:34:28.960 --> 0:34:33.400
<v Speaker 3>to a lot of them. Yeah, I you know, the

0:34:33.400 --> 0:34:35.959
<v Speaker 3>holidays are coming up, and I think people are really

0:34:35.960 --> 0:34:38.280
<v Speaker 3>grateful that they have an excuse not to be gathering

0:34:38.320 --> 0:34:43.000
<v Speaker 3>with their families. Sad enough. Sad enough, I personally would

0:34:43.040 --> 0:34:46.080
<v Speaker 3>not be looking forward to some of my relatives around

0:34:46.080 --> 0:34:48.800
<v Speaker 3>the things doving table, but I am looking forward to

0:34:48.840 --> 0:34:50.680
<v Speaker 3>the holidays in general. And I have to do a

0:34:50.719 --> 0:34:53.480
<v Speaker 3>quick shout out to doctor Aimani Walker because she was

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<v Speaker 3>a guest on our show recently and she's on a

0:34:55.160 --> 0:34:57.800
<v Speaker 3>Bravo show called Nary To Medicine. But she's a whole

0:34:57.840 --> 0:35:02.800
<v Speaker 3>ass like psychiatrist there. She's amazing. And her podcast is

0:35:02.840 --> 0:35:04.480
<v Speaker 3>called The Moni State of Mind. This is not a

0:35:04.480 --> 0:35:06.120
<v Speaker 3>paid ad, although they have paid us in the past

0:35:06.160 --> 0:35:07.600
<v Speaker 3>to run ads for them, but this.

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<v Speaker 2>Is a breby.

0:35:08.680 --> 0:35:11.120
<v Speaker 3>This is a breeby. I was looking for something to

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<v Speaker 3>listen to while I was like doing It was wash

0:35:13.200 --> 0:35:15.440
<v Speaker 3>day yesterday, and I was like, nothing political. I just

0:35:15.480 --> 0:35:19.080
<v Speaker 3>want something, you know, interesting, but like not gonna you

0:35:19.120 --> 0:35:21.279
<v Speaker 3>know not, just give me a break from politics. And

0:35:21.320 --> 0:35:23.680
<v Speaker 3>I turned on her podcast and it was so it's

0:35:23.719 --> 0:35:26.160
<v Speaker 3>so funny. It's her and her good friend whose name

0:35:26.200 --> 0:35:29.160
<v Speaker 3>I forget now, but it reminds me of you and I, Tiff,

0:35:29.160 --> 0:35:32.840
<v Speaker 3>and they talk about mental health issues and the episode

0:35:32.840 --> 0:35:36.400
<v Speaker 3>was about seasonal depression and like, how you know, but anyway,

0:35:36.440 --> 0:35:38.239
<v Speaker 3>I got my I got such a chuckle out of

0:35:38.520 --> 0:35:41.200
<v Speaker 3>listening to her talk about how excited she is for

0:35:41.239 --> 0:35:45.040
<v Speaker 3>the holidays, and I am too, and I really look

0:35:45.120 --> 0:35:48.400
<v Speaker 3>forward to finishing out twenty twenty. Like let's try to

0:35:48.480 --> 0:35:51.080
<v Speaker 3>end on a high note, like wear your damn masks,

0:35:51.160 --> 0:35:54.440
<v Speaker 3>don't forget COVID's out there. But I'm just ready for

0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:56.000
<v Speaker 3>more joy joy Joy Joy.

0:35:57.000 --> 0:35:59.520
<v Speaker 2>Also I'm like, I got the joy joy joy Joy.

0:35:59.600 --> 0:36:04.480
<v Speaker 2>Danny in my heart said, it reminded me of that. Oh,

0:36:04.640 --> 0:36:06.360
<v Speaker 2>I can't wait to sear my books with you later.

0:36:06.880 --> 0:36:07.879
<v Speaker 2>But we'll get there.

0:36:08.080 --> 0:36:10.320
<v Speaker 3>We'll get there. But before we do, let's take a

0:36:10.400 --> 0:36:13.400
<v Speaker 3>quick break and we'll come back and answer some questions.

0:36:14.000 --> 0:36:16.440
<v Speaker 3>Question try to keep it non political, but.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, so happy.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, y'all, we are back, and once again, if

0:36:54.400 --> 0:36:56.920
<v Speaker 3>you guys want to hit us up with your questions.

0:36:57.480 --> 0:36:59.880
<v Speaker 3>I know that this y'all already know where to go,

0:37:00.080 --> 0:37:01.920
<v Speaker 3>where to do it, but I just can't help myself.

0:37:02.239 --> 0:37:04.880
<v Speaker 3>Brand Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com if you want

0:37:04.920 --> 0:37:07.080
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0:37:07.120 --> 0:37:10.760
<v Speaker 3>up on Instagram, where I Brown Ambition podcast on the Gram,

0:37:11.360 --> 0:37:13.560
<v Speaker 3>and I should never have told y'all to message me

0:37:13.640 --> 0:37:19.080
<v Speaker 3>directly as a because that is what's been happening. I

0:37:19.120 --> 0:37:22.000
<v Speaker 3>too have to before I read some questions. Tip. One

0:37:22.040 --> 0:37:26.680
<v Speaker 3>of our listenersh sent a message to the BA install account.

0:37:26.719 --> 0:37:29.279
<v Speaker 3>And remember I told y'all basically I am Brown and

0:37:29.360 --> 0:37:32.839
<v Speaker 3>I'm Brown Ambition customer support for the online store, which

0:37:32.880 --> 0:37:36.840
<v Speaker 3>is fine. Y'all are very good customers. But this one listener,

0:37:37.480 --> 0:37:40.880
<v Speaker 3>her name is ash Ashley Ashy. She messaged me and

0:37:40.960 --> 0:37:42.960
<v Speaker 3>was like, look, I really want to get my daughter,

0:37:43.280 --> 0:37:45.560
<v Speaker 3>you know, at an outfit. But the onesie is like

0:37:45.960 --> 0:37:49.240
<v Speaker 3>twenty five dollars, but the but the sweatshirt's three dollars,

0:37:49.280 --> 0:37:51.319
<v Speaker 3>Like how does that work? And I'm like, you know what,

0:37:51.440 --> 0:37:53.200
<v Speaker 3>she's right, and she was like, I don't know how

0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:56.760
<v Speaker 3>merchandising work. Or she said, I don't know how merchandising works,

0:37:56.840 --> 0:37:58.880
<v Speaker 3>but maybe y'all could look into that. And I was like,

0:37:58.920 --> 0:38:02.000
<v Speaker 3>you know what, Ash, I don't know how merchandising works either.

0:38:02.200 --> 0:38:05.400
<v Speaker 3>That is why the prices are Craig Cray. So thanks

0:38:05.440 --> 0:38:07.120
<v Speaker 3>to her. I mean, that was a really good point.

0:38:07.160 --> 0:38:09.439
<v Speaker 3>It was pretty dumb, and I think I just went

0:38:09.440 --> 0:38:13.600
<v Speaker 3>by the printful recommended prices. But listen, I have reduced

0:38:13.719 --> 0:38:17.400
<v Speaker 3>the price of our Brown Ambition onesies for your children,

0:38:17.480 --> 0:38:20.959
<v Speaker 3>so go pick them up. They're like nine dollars off

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<v Speaker 3>and now I know why they weren't selling. Okay, fair,

0:38:23.800 --> 0:38:26.960
<v Speaker 3>fair point, miss Ashy. So thanks y'all, and again, Brown

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<v Speaker 3>Ambitionstore dot com is where you can pick up your

0:38:30.880 --> 0:38:35.520
<v Speaker 3>Brown Ambition swag. And I've never felt more excited to

0:38:35.640 --> 0:38:36.439
<v Speaker 3>rock that logo.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I just came in today.

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<v Speaker 1>It did.

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<v Speaker 2>I cannot wait.

0:38:40.600 --> 0:38:43.000
<v Speaker 1>Literally, like, I just went downstairs and I was like, ooh,

0:38:43.080 --> 0:38:44.680
<v Speaker 1>a bag a swag.

0:38:46.400 --> 0:38:50.960
<v Speaker 3>We need pictures right now? Yes, okay, but let's get

0:38:50.960 --> 0:38:54.560
<v Speaker 3>into these dms and get some questions up. Our first

0:38:54.600 --> 0:38:57.040
<v Speaker 3>question comes from a listener who wants to remain anonymous,

0:38:57.080 --> 0:39:00.400
<v Speaker 3>but we'll just call her. We'll just call her Cynthia

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<v Speaker 3>for now. Cynthia says, I'm a twenty five year old

0:39:03.280 --> 0:39:06.399
<v Speaker 3>single woman who recently started her first job. My credit

0:39:06.480 --> 0:39:08.720
<v Speaker 3>score is great, and I've been really good at saving

0:39:08.719 --> 0:39:11.520
<v Speaker 3>throughout college. I have about forty thousand dollars in the

0:39:11.520 --> 0:39:13.680
<v Speaker 3>stock market, and I'm wondering if I should pull it

0:39:13.680 --> 0:39:16.040
<v Speaker 3>out and use that as my down payment for a house.

0:39:16.560 --> 0:39:18.920
<v Speaker 3>In addition, what are your thoughts on whether I should

0:39:18.960 --> 0:39:22.040
<v Speaker 3>move my money to a managed investment account? Thank you

0:39:22.080 --> 0:39:24.000
<v Speaker 3>so much for the show. It has been a fundamental

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<v Speaker 3>part of my financial journey.

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<v Speaker 1>So to be clear, the stock market, but this is

0:39:29.480 --> 0:39:31.200
<v Speaker 1>not her this is not her retirement account.

0:39:31.280 --> 0:39:33.759
<v Speaker 3>She doesn't say. She says the stock market, which is

0:39:33.800 --> 0:39:35.840
<v Speaker 3>my question, like, what do you mean a stock market?

0:39:35.880 --> 0:39:38.279
<v Speaker 3>Do you have a four h one k? But first

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<v Speaker 3>of all, forty k at twenty five? Can we just

0:39:40.640 --> 0:39:43.480
<v Speaker 3>sclow a clap for that? That is really really impressive?

0:39:43.920 --> 0:39:49.160
<v Speaker 3>And she's looking to get a house already single, twenty five,

0:39:49.160 --> 0:39:52.560
<v Speaker 3>recently started her first job, already has forty K. So

0:39:52.600 --> 0:39:56.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm wondering if this is like a brokerage account. But nevertheless,

0:39:57.000 --> 0:40:00.400
<v Speaker 3>like a lot of young people, she's looking at housing

0:40:00.440 --> 0:40:02.560
<v Speaker 3>market wondering if she should jump in, and then like

0:40:02.640 --> 0:40:05.520
<v Speaker 3>how do I pay for it? So yeah, so I mean, Tiff,

0:40:05.560 --> 0:40:08.560
<v Speaker 3>what do you think about dipping into your Some people

0:40:08.600 --> 0:40:11.839
<v Speaker 3>actually will invest so they can do this.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's right, I'm not opposed. Now I'm gonna caveat, caveat, caveat,

0:40:18.400 --> 0:40:20.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to assume that when you say stock market

0:40:21.040 --> 0:40:24.560
<v Speaker 1>you mean, because to me, there are two core avenues

0:40:24.600 --> 0:40:28.200
<v Speaker 1>for investing. There's investing for retirement. That's for your old

0:40:28.280 --> 0:40:30.520
<v Speaker 1>lady self, Rwanda, that's what I call my old lady's self.

0:40:30.719 --> 0:40:33.600
<v Speaker 1>And then there's investing for wealth. So investing for retirement

0:40:33.760 --> 0:40:36.880
<v Speaker 1>is for future, you know, future life. Investing for wealth,

0:40:37.280 --> 0:40:39.799
<v Speaker 1>to me, it's the purpose is to make your life

0:40:39.800 --> 0:40:44.319
<v Speaker 1>better now, you know. So I'm going to assume that

0:40:44.480 --> 0:40:47.640
<v Speaker 1>you are investing for retirement, and this is not your

0:40:47.640 --> 0:40:48.480
<v Speaker 1>retirement money.

0:40:48.520 --> 0:40:49.680
<v Speaker 2>That's what we're just going to assume.

0:40:50.520 --> 0:40:53.359
<v Speaker 1>That being said, I have no problem pulling money out

0:40:53.400 --> 0:40:56.600
<v Speaker 1>of the investing for wealth bucket, because that's the purpose.

0:40:57.040 --> 0:40:58.719
<v Speaker 1>When my sister did this, remember the one that you

0:40:58.760 --> 0:41:00.879
<v Speaker 1>guys have won on here all the time, She's like, no, girl,

0:41:01.239 --> 0:41:07.240
<v Speaker 1>But so Carol when years ago, Carol she's an engineer,

0:41:07.280 --> 0:41:08.560
<v Speaker 1>and she was like, oh my gosh, my gosh, this

0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:11.000
<v Speaker 1>company Tesla YadA YadA, Tesla Tesla. I was like, girl,

0:41:11.040 --> 0:41:12.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what those words mean. And she's like, no,

0:41:12.880 --> 0:41:15.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you, Teshlo, teslo, Tesla. I think she bought

0:41:15.840 --> 0:41:21.080
<v Speaker 1>it for thirty dollars a damn share and she scraped

0:41:21.080 --> 0:41:24.359
<v Speaker 1>together fifteen hundred dollars, which was like so much money

0:41:24.400 --> 0:41:26.520
<v Speaker 1>that because she was so young. Because if I was

0:41:26.600 --> 0:41:30.120
<v Speaker 1>like in my I am, I'm like five or six

0:41:30.200 --> 0:41:31.759
<v Speaker 1>years old than Carol. So if I was in my

0:41:32.080 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 1>late twenties, she was like in her mid to early twenties.

0:41:34.080 --> 0:41:37.000
<v Speaker 1>So she scraped together fifteen hundred dollars because she believed

0:41:37.000 --> 0:41:40.040
<v Speaker 1>in it so much. Just I guess as being an engineer,

0:41:40.080 --> 0:41:43.440
<v Speaker 1>she had studied whatever. So she did that, and then

0:41:43.760 --> 0:41:46.600
<v Speaker 1>years later she sold it. I didn't want to say

0:41:46.600 --> 0:41:48.920
<v Speaker 1>maybe had three hundred dollars. She so by the time

0:41:49.000 --> 0:41:50.640
<v Speaker 1>she sold it, she had gotten her return on the

0:41:50.680 --> 0:41:54.719
<v Speaker 1>fifteen hundred was about thirty thousand dollars. Now that makes

0:41:54.760 --> 0:41:58.000
<v Speaker 1>it. It wasn't her retirement. It wasn't she and she used it.

0:41:58.000 --> 0:42:01.000
<v Speaker 1>She and her husband, her her boyfriend at the time.

0:42:01.040 --> 0:42:03.880
<v Speaker 1>She convinced him buy some Tesla as well well, and

0:42:03.920 --> 0:42:04.799
<v Speaker 1>then they used it.

0:42:04.800 --> 0:42:06.640
<v Speaker 2>They sold it and used it to pay for their wedding.

0:42:06.840 --> 0:42:10.800
<v Speaker 1>To me, there's nothing wrong with that necessarily, because it's

0:42:10.920 --> 0:42:13.480
<v Speaker 1>it's not investing for your retirement. It's not money that

0:42:13.480 --> 0:42:16.080
<v Speaker 1>you're setting aside for your future older self. To me,

0:42:16.160 --> 0:42:18.920
<v Speaker 1>investing for wealth is to be used now and especially

0:42:19.000 --> 0:42:21.480
<v Speaker 1>now if you have your ears to the screets like

0:42:21.560 --> 0:42:25.319
<v Speaker 1>I did. Warren Buffett has stated many times that he

0:42:25.520 --> 0:42:28.319
<v Speaker 1>feels that this stock market is so overpriced by like

0:42:28.360 --> 0:42:32.560
<v Speaker 1>over one hundred percent, meaning that the stocks are inflated,

0:42:32.640 --> 0:42:35.600
<v Speaker 1>which means that those genes that you're buying for one

0:42:35.640 --> 0:42:38.600
<v Speaker 1>hundred dollars really are more so worth twenty five.

0:42:38.680 --> 0:42:42.000
<v Speaker 2>And eventually the market's going to correct itself. So it actually.

0:42:41.760 --> 0:42:44.879
<v Speaker 1>Wouldn't be the worst thing to pull some money out

0:42:44.960 --> 0:42:47.080
<v Speaker 1>now and put it towards something that you know that

0:42:47.120 --> 0:42:47.920
<v Speaker 1>this is really the.

0:42:48.840 --> 0:42:51.760
<v Speaker 3>Value Tiffany's opinion, not financial advice.

0:42:51.880 --> 0:42:54.640
<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes, psich, you did not see me, see your grandma,

0:42:54.719 --> 0:42:55.719
<v Speaker 1>so it is what.

0:42:55.680 --> 0:42:57.799
<v Speaker 3>She would do, not when you have to do.

0:42:58.160 --> 0:42:59.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I look too like but there's nothing wrong

0:42:59.800 --> 0:43:01.359
<v Speaker 1>with you your money there either. But I just want

0:43:01.400 --> 0:43:03.000
<v Speaker 1>you to know that I think a lot of people

0:43:03.000 --> 0:43:04.719
<v Speaker 1>would think manly that I'd be like, no, leave it.

0:43:06.000 --> 0:43:08.400
<v Speaker 1>Not the investing for wealth bucket. I think that it's

0:43:08.560 --> 0:43:10.799
<v Speaker 1>it's there to be used kind of like for things

0:43:10.840 --> 0:43:12.880
<v Speaker 1>like this if you if you find it it fits

0:43:12.920 --> 0:43:15.160
<v Speaker 1>your your ultimate financial plans and goals.

0:43:15.560 --> 0:43:17.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I wasn't sure what my answer was to this

0:43:18.000 --> 0:43:20.640
<v Speaker 3>question until I'm sitting here listening to you and I

0:43:21.040 --> 0:43:23.200
<v Speaker 3>agree with You're with what you're saying to if you definitely,

0:43:23.520 --> 0:43:26.040
<v Speaker 3>you know, if that's your purpose, and you've got your

0:43:26.280 --> 0:43:28.759
<v Speaker 3>and you're still young, right, so you got plenty of

0:43:28.800 --> 0:43:32.040
<v Speaker 3>time to you know, keep contributing to your retirement account

0:43:32.040 --> 0:43:35.000
<v Speaker 3>and all of that, and you know, ownership. Home ownership

0:43:35.040 --> 0:43:36.680
<v Speaker 3>is a great way to build wealth too. It can

0:43:36.760 --> 0:43:39.360
<v Speaker 3>be you know, depending on it's a it's a slow

0:43:39.360 --> 0:43:41.800
<v Speaker 3>and steady kind of way to build wealth and equity

0:43:41.800 --> 0:43:45.439
<v Speaker 3>in your home but away. Nevertheless, So what I would

0:43:45.480 --> 0:43:48.719
<v Speaker 3>say is, if you're thinking about, you know, cashing out

0:43:48.719 --> 0:43:53.000
<v Speaker 3>your entire account, and I don't know necessarily what percentage

0:43:53.040 --> 0:43:55.240
<v Speaker 3>that could be for a down payment. Maybe it's ten percent,

0:43:55.280 --> 0:43:57.480
<v Speaker 3>maybe it's twenty, I will say one of the things

0:43:57.520 --> 0:43:59.719
<v Speaker 3>that I wish I had done differently about my home

0:43:59.719 --> 0:44:02.920
<v Speaker 3>perch was not not put so much cash down because

0:44:02.920 --> 0:44:04.440
<v Speaker 3>I think I just got caught up in doing things

0:44:04.480 --> 0:44:06.400
<v Speaker 3>the right way and I wanted to put twenty percent

0:44:06.440 --> 0:44:08.960
<v Speaker 3>down so I would avoid PMI. And that's how you

0:44:08.960 --> 0:44:12.239
<v Speaker 3>you know, you you you, that's the financially responsible way

0:44:12.280 --> 0:44:14.319
<v Speaker 3>to get a house. You don't need to do it

0:44:14.360 --> 0:44:16.680
<v Speaker 3>that way. And in fact, if you look at you know,

0:44:16.800 --> 0:44:19.439
<v Speaker 3>the potential you have to gain by keeping your money

0:44:19.440 --> 0:44:22.799
<v Speaker 3>in the stock market versus the potential you have for

0:44:22.840 --> 0:44:26.600
<v Speaker 3>your home to appreciate in value. You know, you on average,

0:44:27.200 --> 0:44:29.759
<v Speaker 3>you know, over a decent time horizon like five to

0:44:29.760 --> 0:44:33.520
<v Speaker 3>ten years or longer, you probably will earn more in

0:44:33.560 --> 0:44:36.080
<v Speaker 3>the stock market then your home will increase in value.

0:44:36.200 --> 0:44:38.839
<v Speaker 3>Unless you know, you're you happen to get in right

0:44:38.880 --> 0:44:40.879
<v Speaker 3>when the market is down and you know, hot real

0:44:40.960 --> 0:44:43.400
<v Speaker 3>estate market and then like I don't know, Trader Joe's

0:44:43.400 --> 0:44:46.200
<v Speaker 3>comes into town and then stock prices jump or something

0:44:46.280 --> 0:44:48.799
<v Speaker 3>like that. But I would just think, you know, if

0:44:48.840 --> 0:44:51.680
<v Speaker 3>I could do things differently, I might have put less

0:44:51.840 --> 0:44:56.280
<v Speaker 3>down and kept more cash in my investment account because

0:44:56.360 --> 0:44:59.960
<v Speaker 3>I could have definitely qualified for a low down payment mortgage.

0:45:00.000 --> 0:45:01.879
<v Speaker 3>There was all kinds of you know, first time home

0:45:01.920 --> 0:45:04.279
<v Speaker 3>buyer programs and you know loans out there. I could

0:45:04.320 --> 0:45:06.680
<v Speaker 3>have gotten to keep more of my cash on hand

0:45:06.800 --> 0:45:10.200
<v Speaker 3>for emergencies but also for stock market investing for the

0:45:10.239 --> 0:45:13.160
<v Speaker 3>renovation that we did, you know all that. So that's

0:45:13.200 --> 0:45:15.879
<v Speaker 3>all I would add to that. But I just think

0:45:15.960 --> 0:45:19.160
<v Speaker 3>kudos for having forty K at all it took me

0:45:19.200 --> 0:45:20.400
<v Speaker 3>a long time to get there, and I was not

0:45:20.520 --> 0:45:23.160
<v Speaker 3>twenty five. I think I opened my four rowin k

0:45:23.280 --> 0:45:26.279
<v Speaker 3>when I was twenty four, So yeah, yes, I.

0:45:26.280 --> 0:45:28.520
<v Speaker 2>Actually I was there, but I didn't have the money investor.

0:45:28.520 --> 0:45:30.040
<v Speaker 1>I think at twenty five, this is like before I'd

0:45:30.040 --> 0:45:33.400
<v Speaker 1>mess up all my money. So it was like, you know,

0:45:33.440 --> 0:45:35.040
<v Speaker 1>it's like basically, it's like I had I had a

0:45:35.040 --> 0:45:37.320
<v Speaker 1>brand new car before I crashed it, because almost everyone

0:45:37.360 --> 0:45:40.000
<v Speaker 1>crashes their first car in some way, shape or form. No,

0:45:40.120 --> 0:45:43.239
<v Speaker 1>but as many said, kudos to you, but you know,

0:45:43.320 --> 0:45:46.080
<v Speaker 1>make sure that we're not talking about your retirement account,

0:45:46.080 --> 0:45:47.759
<v Speaker 1>because that's just a different animal. We really want you

0:45:47.800 --> 0:45:50.520
<v Speaker 1>to set aside for your future, old Lady South.

0:45:50.800 --> 0:45:53.160
<v Speaker 3>Yes, ma'am. All right, well, thank you very much for

0:45:53.200 --> 0:45:55.680
<v Speaker 3>your question, and thanks for listening to the show Man.

0:45:55.719 --> 0:45:57.920
<v Speaker 3>If you started listening five years ago, you were nineteen,

0:45:58.120 --> 0:46:03.399
<v Speaker 3>that makes me so babies list Okay, okay, let's take

0:46:03.640 --> 0:46:07.319
<v Speaker 3>another question. Question all this one made me a little

0:46:07.320 --> 0:46:10.400
<v Speaker 3>bit sad. But I feel like a lot of folks, unfortunately,

0:46:10.480 --> 0:46:13.640
<v Speaker 3>especially women who listen to our show me, may identify

0:46:13.760 --> 0:46:17.120
<v Speaker 3>with the circumstances here and the feeling that this listener

0:46:17.160 --> 0:46:22.080
<v Speaker 3>has we'll keep her anonymous. We'll call her. What's a name,

0:46:22.120 --> 0:46:24.520
<v Speaker 3>tiff An. You think of a name, Sandra, We'll call

0:46:24.560 --> 0:46:29.040
<v Speaker 3>her Sandra. Okay, Sandra says, yesterday, I was fired from

0:46:29.080 --> 0:46:31.760
<v Speaker 3>my new job. I only worked there two full weeks.

0:46:31.920 --> 0:46:33.840
<v Speaker 3>When I started working there, I was met with so

0:46:33.960 --> 0:46:36.080
<v Speaker 3>much hate from the white women at this law firm

0:46:36.400 --> 0:46:40.160
<v Speaker 3>like I have never seen before, like evilness. I feel

0:46:40.160 --> 0:46:42.959
<v Speaker 3>like this election made them want to retaliate towards any

0:46:43.000 --> 0:46:46.640
<v Speaker 3>black person around aka me. I've been a paralegal for

0:46:46.719 --> 0:46:49.520
<v Speaker 3>fourteen years. The good news is that I've been listening

0:46:49.560 --> 0:46:51.600
<v Speaker 3>to your podcast for years and have made it my

0:46:51.680 --> 0:46:54.520
<v Speaker 3>business to save my money. So I have my expenses

0:46:54.560 --> 0:46:58.600
<v Speaker 3>covered for the next few months. Do you know anywhere

0:46:58.640 --> 0:47:00.520
<v Speaker 3>I can go and work as a blame black woman

0:47:00.640 --> 0:47:03.799
<v Speaker 3>and feel safe and not attacked for being black. I

0:47:03.880 --> 0:47:06.359
<v Speaker 3>live in Saint Louis, Missouri. I don't know if you'll

0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:10.680
<v Speaker 3>see this, but maybe you will. Thank you, Oh Saint Louis,

0:47:10.760 --> 0:47:12.399
<v Speaker 3>not that you said. I know this sounds kind of random,

0:47:12.400 --> 0:47:14.640
<v Speaker 3>but I have a friend Christina, which don't laugh. Her

0:47:14.719 --> 0:47:15.960
<v Speaker 3>name is Christina Aguilera.

0:47:16.040 --> 0:47:20.279
<v Speaker 1>Are now wait Forristina y or sing Christina with a

0:47:20.320 --> 0:47:23.759
<v Speaker 1>K but Christina's in her twenties. Oh she might have

0:47:23.840 --> 0:47:28.120
<v Speaker 1>just turned thirty. But she is amazing. She is like

0:47:28.160 --> 0:47:30.839
<v Speaker 1>almost single handedly buying up Saint Louis. This is where

0:47:30.840 --> 0:47:35.200
<v Speaker 1>she's from, and she is turning some of these depressed

0:47:35.920 --> 0:47:39.480
<v Speaker 1>neighborhoods with dilapidated houses. She is buying them, she is

0:47:39.880 --> 0:47:42.680
<v Speaker 1>flipping them, and then she's making them beautiful, affordable homes

0:47:42.680 --> 0:47:43.040
<v Speaker 1>for people.

0:47:43.080 --> 0:47:43.840
<v Speaker 2>So she's amazing.

0:47:44.200 --> 0:47:47.719
<v Speaker 1>So I wonder if you shot me an email. Just

0:47:47.719 --> 0:47:49.840
<v Speaker 1>go to the budget lista dot com and click contact.

0:47:50.160 --> 0:47:51.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna hit Christina up.

0:47:51.360 --> 0:47:54.239
<v Speaker 2>You never know. You know, she's in Saint Louis and

0:47:54.280 --> 0:47:56.400
<v Speaker 2>you're paralegal. She's in real estate.

0:47:56.560 --> 0:47:59.160
<v Speaker 1>So and she's honestly one of these people that wants

0:47:59.160 --> 0:48:02.400
<v Speaker 1>to see other women, especially when so there might be

0:48:02.480 --> 0:48:06.920
<v Speaker 1>something there. But also too, I have my attorney. Her

0:48:07.000 --> 0:48:10.480
<v Speaker 1>name is Tony. She's amazing, amazing, amazing. Tony went to

0:48:10.520 --> 0:48:12.960
<v Speaker 1>an Ivy League school and then I think she has

0:48:12.960 --> 0:48:13.920
<v Speaker 1>her doctorate.

0:48:14.640 --> 0:48:17.719
<v Speaker 2>She's just amazing, but it also might just help. She's

0:48:17.760 --> 0:48:18.359
<v Speaker 2>also really kind.

0:48:18.360 --> 0:48:20.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm already putting Tony out there, but maybe just helping

0:48:20.719 --> 0:48:24.840
<v Speaker 1>to chat with someone about who's in that field, about

0:48:24.960 --> 0:48:26.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, what are some options. I don't know that

0:48:26.719 --> 0:48:29.239
<v Speaker 1>Tony herself is looking for someone, but she might she

0:48:29.360 --> 0:48:30.839
<v Speaker 1>might know in that field. You know what a friend

0:48:30.840 --> 0:48:33.920
<v Speaker 1>of mine is looking for someone. So I would say, Sondra,

0:48:34.080 --> 0:48:37.560
<v Speaker 1>you've already taken the first core step, which is to

0:48:37.760 --> 0:48:40.720
<v Speaker 1>ask for help, because you just don't know who people

0:48:40.880 --> 0:48:43.360
<v Speaker 1>know or what opportunities are out there. But if you

0:48:43.440 --> 0:48:45.560
<v Speaker 1>hit me up at budgetista dot com, you just click

0:48:45.600 --> 0:48:48.040
<v Speaker 1>the contact me button, I will at the very least

0:48:48.040 --> 0:48:49.920
<v Speaker 1>connect you with those two women, and you never know.

0:48:50.719 --> 0:48:53.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean, this is there's a couple different questions here.

0:48:53.200 --> 0:48:54.840
<v Speaker 3>I feel like that aren't being but you know that

0:48:54.920 --> 0:48:57.200
<v Speaker 3>are just wrapped up in this, which is like, oh shit,

0:48:57.280 --> 0:48:58.680
<v Speaker 3>I had a job for two weeks and I was

0:48:58.760 --> 0:49:01.600
<v Speaker 3>let go. You know, how do I position myself for

0:49:01.640 --> 0:49:04.200
<v Speaker 3>the next opportunity? You know, do I put this on

0:49:04.239 --> 0:49:07.360
<v Speaker 3>my resume? What if they call for ask for a reference, whatnot.

0:49:07.360 --> 0:49:09.200
<v Speaker 3>But you've been working, you said, for fourteen years, so

0:49:09.239 --> 0:49:12.200
<v Speaker 3>I imagine you've got good references on your file. I

0:49:12.360 --> 0:49:15.200
<v Speaker 3>would say, you know, I'm not in the legal field,

0:49:15.680 --> 0:49:18.840
<v Speaker 3>but if anyone listening knows anyone in the Saint Louis

0:49:18.880 --> 0:49:21.600
<v Speaker 3>area looking for a par of legal services, and I

0:49:21.600 --> 0:49:25.240
<v Speaker 3>bet even beyond Saint Louis because COVID times right, everyone's

0:49:25.239 --> 0:49:29.080
<v Speaker 3>working for home. So if anybody needs paralegal services and

0:49:29.200 --> 0:49:32.080
<v Speaker 3>want to give us, you know, shout us out, send

0:49:32.160 --> 0:49:34.600
<v Speaker 3>us a note on Insta or at our email. You know,

0:49:34.640 --> 0:49:36.520
<v Speaker 3>maybe we can connect you to Sandra or at least

0:49:36.920 --> 0:49:38.680
<v Speaker 3>I love how you're we're using a fake name and

0:49:38.680 --> 0:49:46.960
<v Speaker 3>we're both pronouncing it differently. You're Sandra Ira anyway anyway.

0:49:47.520 --> 0:49:49.960
<v Speaker 3>And also just like the point, you know, how to

0:49:50.440 --> 0:49:52.560
<v Speaker 3>working in a place where you don't feel welcome as

0:49:52.560 --> 0:49:55.799
<v Speaker 3>a black woman, as a black woman, and do we

0:49:55.920 --> 0:49:57.800
<v Speaker 3>know anywhere she could work where she doesn't have to

0:49:57.840 --> 0:50:00.880
<v Speaker 3>feel this way? It's it's it's difficult. I think I've

0:50:00.920 --> 0:50:03.640
<v Speaker 3>said on the show before, especially after this summer, I

0:50:03.680 --> 0:50:05.480
<v Speaker 3>kind of made a commitment to myself. I wasn't going

0:50:05.560 --> 0:50:07.120
<v Speaker 3>to work for another company as long as I had

0:50:07.120 --> 0:50:11.200
<v Speaker 3>a choice that made me feel like inclusion was an

0:50:11.239 --> 0:50:13.640
<v Speaker 3>afterthought or something that was just on paper but not

0:50:13.680 --> 0:50:16.040
<v Speaker 3>in action. But it is a good question, like how

0:50:16.040 --> 0:50:17.759
<v Speaker 3>do you know if the place you're working for is

0:50:17.800 --> 0:50:20.879
<v Speaker 3>going to be friendly to you or where you're feel

0:50:20.880 --> 0:50:23.160
<v Speaker 3>comfortable if you're a person of color, from a different background,

0:50:23.239 --> 0:50:26.520
<v Speaker 3>or different sexuality or whatnot. And I would say you

0:50:26.560 --> 0:50:29.319
<v Speaker 3>might have to be proactive because not every and not

0:50:29.360 --> 0:50:32.319
<v Speaker 3>all companies are big, right, so not every employer is

0:50:32.360 --> 0:50:34.080
<v Speaker 3>going to go out of their way to introduce you

0:50:34.120 --> 0:50:36.560
<v Speaker 3>to other colleagues, to introduce you to folks you might

0:50:36.560 --> 0:50:38.160
<v Speaker 3>be on your team if you were to be hired

0:50:38.480 --> 0:50:41.040
<v Speaker 3>to have you talk to someone in HR who can

0:50:41.080 --> 0:50:44.000
<v Speaker 3>answer questions about inclusivity. But you can ask for those

0:50:44.000 --> 0:50:47.080
<v Speaker 3>things yourself, and that may that may help get you

0:50:47.440 --> 0:50:49.360
<v Speaker 3>at least, you know, if you can't go physically in

0:50:49.360 --> 0:50:52.200
<v Speaker 3>the building these days, if you are able to zoom

0:50:52.239 --> 0:50:55.399
<v Speaker 3>some folks and you know, ask them about their experiences

0:50:55.440 --> 0:50:57.399
<v Speaker 3>and kind of get a sense of do I want

0:50:57.400 --> 0:51:00.440
<v Speaker 3>to work with these types of people? And that's no

0:51:00.480 --> 0:51:02.560
<v Speaker 3>a fool proof plan. And I'm I.

0:51:02.480 --> 0:51:04.640
<v Speaker 1>Certainly looked to see. And I was just talking to

0:51:04.640 --> 0:51:06.680
<v Speaker 1>one of my sisters today. She used to work for

0:51:06.719 --> 0:51:10.759
<v Speaker 1>this big company that we won't name, and she was

0:51:11.040 --> 0:51:12.360
<v Speaker 1>mistreated really badly.

0:51:13.760 --> 0:51:15.640
<v Speaker 3>To say, whenever you say that, people are like, I

0:51:15.640 --> 0:51:18.280
<v Speaker 3>think it's Chase. I think it's I'm like, it's.

0:51:18.160 --> 0:51:19.080
<v Speaker 2>Not, it's not Chase.

0:51:19.640 --> 0:51:26.680
<v Speaker 1>But you're in I'll just say that. So, so yeah,

0:51:26.719 --> 0:51:29.279
<v Speaker 1>she left, like this is Tracy who is now my

0:51:29.560 --> 0:51:32.080
<v Speaker 1>bomb ass publicist who has beginning me on everything that

0:51:32.120 --> 0:51:35.120
<v Speaker 1>you can think of. So she was mistreated by her

0:51:35.880 --> 0:51:38.160
<v Speaker 1>her direct supervisor, like really bad, so much so she

0:51:38.239 --> 0:51:41.319
<v Speaker 1>developed anxiety. It just was really really bad and they

0:51:41.320 --> 0:51:43.680
<v Speaker 1>did nothing to protect her. She actually was we were

0:51:43.680 --> 0:51:46.000
<v Speaker 1>talking today. She was just telling me that she went

0:51:46.000 --> 0:51:48.040
<v Speaker 1>out to lunch with some of her old colleagues and

0:51:48.680 --> 0:51:52.680
<v Speaker 1>they were saying how so many of them wanted to

0:51:52.680 --> 0:51:55.560
<v Speaker 1>be in different roles or positions but went out to

0:51:55.640 --> 0:51:59.400
<v Speaker 1>get a specific type of degree an NBA, but they

0:51:59.440 --> 0:52:03.120
<v Speaker 1>didn't know that the roller the positions that they were

0:52:03.160 --> 0:52:07.440
<v Speaker 1>looking for required a different type of higher level education.

0:52:07.560 --> 0:52:10.319
<v Speaker 1>And if you've looked in those roles, there's no black

0:52:10.320 --> 0:52:13.920
<v Speaker 1>people in those roles. And I just I think that

0:52:13.920 --> 0:52:16.640
<v Speaker 1>that's something to take note of that if you're working

0:52:16.680 --> 0:52:19.160
<v Speaker 1>for a place and you think to yourself, in ten years,

0:52:19.200 --> 0:52:21.160
<v Speaker 1>in five years, I'd like to be dot dot dot,

0:52:21.239 --> 0:52:24.160
<v Speaker 1>but there's no one that looks like you in that role.

0:52:24.200 --> 0:52:25.640
<v Speaker 1>And it's not a small company. I could see if

0:52:25.640 --> 0:52:28.600
<v Speaker 1>it's like, you know, under twenty people, under thirty people,

0:52:28.640 --> 0:52:31.320
<v Speaker 1>but even then but there's no one in a company

0:52:31.400 --> 0:52:35.480
<v Speaker 1>of hundreds of people in that role. Girl, run run

0:52:35.520 --> 0:52:37.840
<v Speaker 1>as fast as you can. They're not interested in developing

0:52:37.880 --> 0:52:40.279
<v Speaker 1>black and brown talent in that arena. You can't tell

0:52:40.280 --> 0:52:42.960
<v Speaker 1>me that there's not a plethora of talented people.

0:52:42.960 --> 0:52:44.879
<v Speaker 2>Of course there are, and.

0:52:44.840 --> 0:52:47.960
<v Speaker 3>You can two. I have done this just for just

0:52:48.000 --> 0:52:50.759
<v Speaker 3>to see, you know, let me see this company, and

0:52:50.800 --> 0:52:52.279
<v Speaker 3>let's see who works there, and let's just do a

0:52:52.320 --> 0:52:56.160
<v Speaker 3>quick scroll through profile picks exactly, or company websites where

0:52:56.200 --> 0:52:58.960
<v Speaker 3>you can see who's on the board, who's at the

0:52:59.000 --> 0:53:01.920
<v Speaker 3>C level, who's at the entry level.

0:53:03.200 --> 0:53:05.480
<v Speaker 1>And sometimes it's just it's just and these companies. You

0:53:05.520 --> 0:53:07.960
<v Speaker 1>know what's so crazy to me that this it's this

0:53:08.080 --> 0:53:11.240
<v Speaker 1>is an old kind of legacy company and I suspect

0:53:11.280 --> 0:53:14.560
<v Speaker 1>it'll be floundering soon because they have just not moved

0:53:14.560 --> 0:53:18.799
<v Speaker 1>with the times and they're just not connecting in the

0:53:18.840 --> 0:53:21.719
<v Speaker 1>way that they used to. And when their current clientele

0:53:21.880 --> 0:53:23.960
<v Speaker 1>dies off, I don't know what they're going to do

0:53:24.000 --> 0:53:27.000
<v Speaker 1>because young people ain't with it and they have.

0:53:27.040 --> 0:53:29.520
<v Speaker 2>Refused to pivot, and so they lose.

0:53:29.560 --> 0:53:32.520
<v Speaker 1>Just like the supervisor that that pushed her out, they

0:53:32.520 --> 0:53:36.480
<v Speaker 1>are now pushing that woman out I'm like, look, how good.

0:53:36.320 --> 0:53:38.600
<v Speaker 2>Works, don't you.

0:53:38.840 --> 0:53:41.680
<v Speaker 3>Don't y'all keep your eye on your employers sometimes just

0:53:41.719 --> 0:53:45.000
<v Speaker 3>to see how things. We all have those excess but like, yes,

0:53:45.520 --> 0:53:47.880
<v Speaker 3>I see someone else left after me, Like, oh I

0:53:47.920 --> 0:53:48.839
<v Speaker 3>saw went down.

0:53:49.680 --> 0:53:52.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like it's funny how that worked out.

0:53:53.239 --> 0:53:55.960
<v Speaker 1>So so it's it's it's even though it's terrible that

0:53:56.040 --> 0:53:58.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, you felt pushed out, it's better for your

0:53:58.840 --> 0:54:02.719
<v Speaker 1>mental emotional well being to find a place. And you know,

0:54:02.719 --> 0:54:04.399
<v Speaker 1>we put the we put the APB out there.

0:54:04.440 --> 0:54:05.040
<v Speaker 2>Reach out to me.

0:54:05.560 --> 0:54:08.239
<v Speaker 1>Hopefully a b a listener might have a lead for you.

0:54:08.320 --> 0:54:10.239
<v Speaker 1>But you've you've done the right thing, which is to

0:54:10.640 --> 0:54:12.120
<v Speaker 1>open your mouth and ask for help.

0:54:12.520 --> 0:54:14.759
<v Speaker 3>I love it all right, thank y'all so much for

0:54:14.800 --> 0:54:17.520
<v Speaker 3>your questions. Don't mind the worrying behind me. That is

0:54:17.560 --> 0:54:21.719
<v Speaker 3>a hot water heater that I hope will stop replenishing

0:54:22.800 --> 0:54:23.279
<v Speaker 3>very soon.

0:54:24.239 --> 0:54:28.360
<v Speaker 1>Yes, and now it's time to boost or break or

0:54:28.480 --> 0:54:31.080
<v Speaker 1>boost or break or boost a break.

0:54:32.040 --> 0:54:34.520
<v Speaker 2>I want to do a boosty breaky what about you, mandra.

0:54:34.800 --> 0:54:37.279
<v Speaker 3>I am going to do a boost, but you can

0:54:37.320 --> 0:54:39.360
<v Speaker 3>go first, because you said you were so excited.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, start with a break, just because it's kind of

0:54:42.760 --> 0:54:46.600
<v Speaker 1>like the audacity So someone wrote me today on Instagram.

0:54:46.640 --> 0:54:47.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna say your name because you know, I

0:54:47.960 --> 0:54:50.800
<v Speaker 1>don't want you to get dragged. She like, this is

0:54:50.800 --> 0:54:52.440
<v Speaker 1>someone who's been messaging me like, oh my god, I

0:54:52.440 --> 0:54:54.560
<v Speaker 1>love your message, you know, like just hitting on Instagram

0:54:54.640 --> 0:54:57.359
<v Speaker 1>here and there. So she wrote me today, Hello there,

0:54:58.920 --> 0:55:01.640
<v Speaker 1>I just want you to I know that I needed

0:55:01.680 --> 0:55:04.719
<v Speaker 1>a breakthrough on how I looked at money. I was

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<v Speaker 1>finally able to see it when I heard you.

0:55:07.480 --> 0:55:08.360
<v Speaker 2>Oh so nice.

0:55:08.840 --> 0:55:11.840
<v Speaker 1>But I want to be honest, I have a hard

0:55:11.920 --> 0:55:16.239
<v Speaker 1>time following the black lingo you use lowercase B once.

0:55:16.840 --> 0:55:19.080
<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, listen with her, keep going.

0:55:19.760 --> 0:55:23.200
<v Speaker 1>If you speak plain English, I can follow you. You

0:55:23.360 --> 0:55:25.600
<v Speaker 1>not yo, you just the letter you because you're no

0:55:26.080 --> 0:55:29.799
<v Speaker 1>black lingo and understand you fifty percent of the time.

0:55:29.880 --> 0:55:33.040
<v Speaker 1>I have no idea what you are saying as it

0:55:33.080 --> 0:55:34.160
<v Speaker 1>is black slang.

0:55:35.600 --> 0:55:39.799
<v Speaker 2>Girl. When I say to the audacity of Caucastidy, you

0:55:39.840 --> 0:55:43.040
<v Speaker 2>know what I did. I said, black, you gonna have

0:55:43.040 --> 0:55:45.359
<v Speaker 2>to get your break through someplace else, not here.

0:55:46.719 --> 0:55:49.520
<v Speaker 3>You got lots of other options who do speak your language.

0:55:50.239 --> 0:55:50.479
<v Speaker 4>Child.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I mean, first of all, I I mean obviously, yes,

0:55:54.400 --> 0:55:56.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm black. I don't I mean I don't know.

0:55:56.320 --> 0:55:58.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't.

0:55:59.360 --> 0:56:01.919
<v Speaker 1>Even if I felt feel like I used a whole

0:56:01.920 --> 0:56:03.879
<v Speaker 1>bunch of black slang and lingos, so what.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like I necessarily do. Certainly do. I

0:56:06.680 --> 0:56:07.520
<v Speaker 2>throw it in here and there.

0:56:07.520 --> 0:56:10.759
<v Speaker 1>But honestly, ma'am, I speak English obviously, because you got

0:56:10.800 --> 0:56:14.520
<v Speaker 1>your breakthrough, okay, and now your breakthrough has been blocked.

0:56:14.600 --> 0:56:18.759
<v Speaker 1>I just don't know what someone thought that you could

0:56:18.760 --> 0:56:22.000
<v Speaker 1>reach out to ask me to change, to accommodate you,

0:56:22.520 --> 0:56:25.520
<v Speaker 1>to accommodate you, as if you were my mother, my

0:56:25.600 --> 0:56:28.239
<v Speaker 1>sister and my cousin, and even if you were the

0:56:28.280 --> 0:56:31.960
<v Speaker 1>only person that I would change to accommodate, would be

0:56:32.120 --> 0:56:35.720
<v Speaker 1>like a potential baby, because you don't have no choice.

0:56:35.760 --> 0:56:36.719
<v Speaker 2>Girl, you tried it.

0:56:36.800 --> 0:56:38.320
<v Speaker 1>I was roller, so you don't have to share it

0:56:38.320 --> 0:56:40.640
<v Speaker 1>with In the group chat, we were flaming her.

0:56:40.680 --> 0:56:41.479
<v Speaker 2>We were all just rolling.

0:56:41.520 --> 0:56:43.480
<v Speaker 1>They're like, oh, she's gonna have to get her breakthrough

0:56:43.480 --> 0:56:44.440
<v Speaker 1>from somebody else.

0:56:44.840 --> 0:56:45.520
<v Speaker 2>And someone was.

0:56:45.560 --> 0:56:48.000
<v Speaker 1>Like, if you don't understand, it's not for you. So

0:56:48.040 --> 0:56:50.839
<v Speaker 1>it was just yeah, it was honest. I wasn't even

0:56:50.920 --> 0:56:52.560
<v Speaker 1>I was more like mouth open, like.

0:56:52.560 --> 0:56:53.719
<v Speaker 2>Oh, she tried it.

0:56:54.160 --> 0:56:55.719
<v Speaker 1>I know she's gonna be like wait, am, I am,

0:56:55.760 --> 0:56:58.200
<v Speaker 1>I blocked, you are I don't even know if she

0:56:58.239 --> 0:56:58.600
<v Speaker 1>listened to.

0:56:59.239 --> 0:57:03.279
<v Speaker 3>Like a Russian boy like that. I'm just like, I'm

0:57:03.320 --> 0:57:08.080
<v Speaker 3>just joking, but that the it's hard for me to compute.

0:57:08.400 --> 0:57:10.440
<v Speaker 3>And I've seen, you know, I know that there's crazy

0:57:10.600 --> 0:57:12.839
<v Speaker 3>you know ships that on the internet. People feel real

0:57:12.880 --> 0:57:16.960
<v Speaker 3>safe out there in the internet streets. But I am shocked.

0:57:17.080 --> 0:57:19.680
<v Speaker 3>I'm genuinely like she really went out of her way.

0:57:19.800 --> 0:57:21.720
<v Speaker 3>And she thought she was like being polite.

0:57:22.240 --> 0:57:25.400
<v Speaker 1>She could tell a girl, you are so amazing, but girl,

0:57:26.080 --> 0:57:28.160
<v Speaker 1>when you saw like a black girl, I'm.

0:57:27.960 --> 0:57:30.480
<v Speaker 3>Surprised to talk to your manager so she could I know,

0:57:31.320 --> 0:57:32.800
<v Speaker 3>not too bad, that's my CEO.

0:57:34.840 --> 0:57:36.760
<v Speaker 1>So that is my break but whatever, that's a light break,

0:57:37.040 --> 0:57:40.240
<v Speaker 1>my boost is I So remember last time I was

0:57:40.240 --> 0:57:42.680
<v Speaker 1>having like a breakdown because I just was so overwhelmed,

0:57:42.720 --> 0:57:45.280
<v Speaker 1>and I said, it's good things. But which time, I

0:57:45.320 --> 0:57:48.280
<v Speaker 1>don't I know exactly, but just so many cookies, so

0:57:48.360 --> 0:57:49.880
<v Speaker 1>many puppies, so many kick cookies.

0:57:49.920 --> 0:57:54.040
<v Speaker 3>Oh my bad, that was that was weird, new mom,

0:57:54.120 --> 0:57:55.920
<v Speaker 3>go ahead, right, and.

0:57:56.000 --> 0:57:59.000
<v Speaker 1>So I and I remember I said that there was

0:57:59.040 --> 0:58:01.240
<v Speaker 1>a woman that that emailed me a little while ago

0:58:01.520 --> 0:58:05.080
<v Speaker 1>who said that she could help me to find a

0:58:05.080 --> 0:58:08.920
<v Speaker 1>account a therapist, right, and so I could not remember

0:58:08.960 --> 0:58:11.880
<v Speaker 1>her name. And then a brown Ambish and listener actually

0:58:11.920 --> 0:58:15.160
<v Speaker 1>reached out to me and said, hey, Tiffany, you know,

0:58:15.280 --> 0:58:17.480
<v Speaker 1>I know you were looking for someone. I heard you

0:58:17.520 --> 0:58:19.160
<v Speaker 1>on the podcast and I'm not sure who she was,

0:58:19.160 --> 0:58:23.720
<v Speaker 1>but my friend Stephanie, she's amazing and this is you know,

0:58:24.200 --> 0:58:25.920
<v Speaker 1>she can help you. And I was like okay, And

0:58:25.960 --> 0:58:28.680
<v Speaker 1>then I went to Stephanie's website. It was the same

0:58:28.720 --> 0:58:31.680
<v Speaker 1>woman that had reached out to me like a month ago,

0:58:31.760 --> 0:58:34.040
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, so it was just I just

0:58:34.040 --> 0:58:37.240
<v Speaker 1>felt like it wasn't a coincidence, you know. So Stephanie

0:58:37.240 --> 0:58:40.520
<v Speaker 1>and I had a call on Friday, and I'm not

0:58:40.520 --> 0:58:43.280
<v Speaker 1>gonna lie. I was exhausted and I usually take my

0:58:43.280 --> 0:58:47.560
<v Speaker 1>Fridays off and I just did not feel like speaking

0:58:47.600 --> 0:58:49.920
<v Speaker 1>with anyone. I was like, why did I plan this

0:58:50.000 --> 0:58:50.760
<v Speaker 1>on Friday?

0:58:51.240 --> 0:58:51.480
<v Speaker 2>You know?

0:58:53.120 --> 0:58:55.400
<v Speaker 1>And so what I did was we had a call

0:58:55.600 --> 0:58:58.240
<v Speaker 1>and I'm not gonna lie. It was amazing because one

0:58:58.520 --> 0:59:02.560
<v Speaker 1>Stephanie herself is a therapist, and she started her company

0:59:02.600 --> 0:59:07.280
<v Speaker 1>because she found that so many people they you know,

0:59:07.360 --> 0:59:11.480
<v Speaker 1>that they they were misaligned with their therapists, Like are

0:59:11.520 --> 0:59:14.400
<v Speaker 1>you sure that you need a therapist. Are you sure

0:59:14.400 --> 0:59:18.720
<v Speaker 1>it's not a life coach or a psychiatrist or something else.

0:59:18.760 --> 0:59:22.840
<v Speaker 1>And because she's a therapist herself, and she and the

0:59:22.880 --> 0:59:24.960
<v Speaker 1>woman who actually wrote me thank you, shout out to you,

0:59:25.160 --> 0:59:26.760
<v Speaker 1>miss Patterson. I won't say your first thing just in

0:59:26.800 --> 0:59:29.040
<v Speaker 1>case she don't want people to know, but miss Patterson,

0:59:29.080 --> 0:59:30.800
<v Speaker 1>gird you have all the letters after your name.

0:59:30.880 --> 0:59:34.520
<v Speaker 2>Ed, ED, D, R, n C and Okay, I loved it.

0:59:34.560 --> 0:59:38.560
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, I love smart bron women shed.

0:59:39.520 --> 0:59:42.360
<v Speaker 1>Exactly. So she said, you know, she's like, you know,

0:59:42.360 --> 0:59:44.080
<v Speaker 1>my girl Stephanie would. So I had the call with

0:59:44.120 --> 0:59:46.880
<v Speaker 1>her and she was amazing. Definitely has her master's I'm

0:59:46.880 --> 0:59:51.760
<v Speaker 1>not sure and I'm assuming in psychology or psychiatry or

0:59:51.960 --> 0:59:52.320
<v Speaker 1>or whatever.

0:59:52.400 --> 0:59:53.440
<v Speaker 2>So we we spoke for.

0:59:53.360 --> 0:59:57.120
<v Speaker 1>About an hour and the purpose it was basically a session,

0:59:57.360 --> 0:59:59.680
<v Speaker 1>but it was a session to see what I needed

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<v Speaker 1>and after like, you know, talking through At first, she

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<v Speaker 1>was like, let you know some you know, just from

1:00:04.960 --> 1:00:06.600
<v Speaker 1>hearing you Tippy. At first, I'm thinking, is this a

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<v Speaker 1>life coach that you need? But as I spoke a

1:00:09.000 --> 1:00:11.280
<v Speaker 1>little bit more, She's like, Nope, I see the need

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<v Speaker 1>for some therapy here.

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<v Speaker 2>And I told her.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, one of the things that was holding me

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<v Speaker 1>back is that I know it's going to take time

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<v Speaker 1>to weed through and find people. I just have been

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<v Speaker 1>too overwhelmed to do so. And she's like, no, that's

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<v Speaker 1>why I'm here. I'm going to take stock of all.

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<v Speaker 1>She asked me a bunch of questions and we talked,

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<v Speaker 1>and she said, I'm going to take stock of all

1:00:27.400 --> 1:00:28.000
<v Speaker 1>that you're saying.

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<v Speaker 2>I am going to vet.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, I have a huge network, and she uses

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<v Speaker 1>some other online channels and then she's gonna whittle it

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<v Speaker 1>down to about two to four typically three that you

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<v Speaker 1>know that she's after reaching out to folks, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna want me to have like fifteen minute conversations with

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<v Speaker 1>the two to four and then rate them, and then

1:00:48.520 --> 1:00:50.920
<v Speaker 1>she and I will talk again and really pick the

1:00:50.960 --> 1:00:53.240
<v Speaker 1>one that I think will be the best fit. She

1:00:53.360 --> 1:00:56.240
<v Speaker 1>encourages her clients speak with have at least three sessions

1:00:56.240 --> 1:00:58.280
<v Speaker 1>before saying it's not a fit, and then as you

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<v Speaker 1>find that, you know it wasn't and we start the

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<v Speaker 1>process again. But she herself was amazing.

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<v Speaker 4>Girl.

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<v Speaker 5>I was boohooing, Okay, yes, it was just like, yes,

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<v Speaker 5>it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Either.

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<v Speaker 1>So her company is called navvy psyche so na b

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<v Speaker 1>I P S y c H navvy psych and but

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<v Speaker 1>she just her demeanor was just exactly what I needed.

1:01:26.160 --> 1:01:28.720
<v Speaker 2>I felt heard, I felt seen, and.

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<v Speaker 1>There were some things that I really like unlocked that

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<v Speaker 1>I realized that like trauma, things that were I thought

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<v Speaker 1>to myself, maybe one of the reasons that I've been

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like out of touch with the success that's happening

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<v Speaker 1>is because maybe it's just coming on too fast, too furious,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's really just not it that I have built

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<v Speaker 1>this trauma response that I've been living in this space

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<v Speaker 1>for a long time because I don't allow myself to

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<v Speaker 1>go too high or too low even before Budgetista, and

1:01:56.960 --> 1:01:59.920
<v Speaker 1>it's because the I'm scared of how low the low is,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I never get to experience how high the

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<v Speaker 1>high is because it's just trauma response from things that

1:02:05.320 --> 1:02:07.600
<v Speaker 1>I came up with. And I learned not to go

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<v Speaker 1>too too happy. No no, no no, don't get too excited,

1:02:10.520 --> 1:02:12.840
<v Speaker 1>because also too no no, no no, don't get too sad.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have learned to live in the middle, which

1:02:15.800 --> 1:02:20.040
<v Speaker 1>was helpful during those traumatic times, but it's enabling me

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<v Speaker 1>from feeling the fullness of joy, because life honestly has

1:02:25.200 --> 1:02:27.320
<v Speaker 1>never been better, not just on paper but in real life.

1:02:27.360 --> 1:02:30.640
<v Speaker 1>Like my husband is awesome and amazing and so supportive.

1:02:30.880 --> 1:02:33.320
<v Speaker 1>I've never been closer with my sisters. My parents and

1:02:33.360 --> 1:02:36.040
<v Speaker 1>I were never super duper close, but now we're so

1:02:36.160 --> 1:02:38.760
<v Speaker 1>much better. My niece and my nephew lived down the street,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's like the light and highlight of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just things are good. And then I'm obviously

1:02:44.520 --> 1:02:47.439
<v Speaker 1>professionally y'all know things are good, but like personally too,

1:02:47.720 --> 1:02:50.840
<v Speaker 1>like I've gotten rid of all of the toxic relationships.

1:02:50.840 --> 1:02:53.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't have any toxic friends anymore. They're all gone.

1:02:53.760 --> 1:02:55.480
<v Speaker 1>And so the fact that I've not been able to

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<v Speaker 1>feel it, I kin it to losing your sense of

1:02:58.280 --> 1:03:01.560
<v Speaker 1>taste and smell. I know that life right now is delicious,

1:03:01.600 --> 1:03:02.560
<v Speaker 1>and I can't taste it.

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<v Speaker 2>I can see it.

1:03:03.720 --> 1:03:05.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I know this stays so good, but I

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<v Speaker 1>can't taste it. And she said, mm hm, that's a

1:03:07.280 --> 1:03:11.040
<v Speaker 1>trauma response that you taught yourself, and that's okay.

1:03:11.160 --> 1:03:12.840
<v Speaker 2>She's like, someone can help you unlearn it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, when I it really clicked for me, Mandy,

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<v Speaker 1>when we had the our Rich Journey people on Christina

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<v Speaker 1>and aman So the level of joy in their voice.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought, oh, maybe that's because I'm just working two

1:03:24.440 --> 1:03:27.000
<v Speaker 2>hard as a bunch. He said, no, it wasn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Something about them triggered me because I said, what's the

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<v Speaker 1>last time you felt that level of joy even though

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<v Speaker 1>joyful things are happening, Tiffany, and I realized, what is

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<v Speaker 1>the last time I felt that like level of joy

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<v Speaker 1>even though joyful things are happening. And that's when I

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<v Speaker 1>realized something else is amiss. And so yeah, so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just excited because I cannot wait. I don't want to

1:03:46.320 --> 1:03:48.960
<v Speaker 1>wait ten years. And it wasn't always like this. I

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<v Speaker 1>have built up this resistance to feeling over time. The

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<v Speaker 1>only time I don't kind of feel like this is

1:03:55.120 --> 1:03:56.920
<v Speaker 1>that's why I see my niece and my nephew so often,

1:03:57.160 --> 1:03:58.880
<v Speaker 1>because it's like the one time.

1:03:58.680 --> 1:03:59.520
<v Speaker 2>That my guard is down.

1:03:59.560 --> 1:04:02.320
<v Speaker 1>And I because she said, because kids have a way

1:04:02.320 --> 1:04:03.840
<v Speaker 1>of disarming all of your foolishness.

1:04:03.880 --> 1:04:05.680
<v Speaker 2>They're like, girl, I don't want to hear that play

1:04:05.720 --> 1:04:05.920
<v Speaker 2>with me.

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<v Speaker 1>You are Daniel Tiger and I am whatever the owl's

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<v Speaker 1>name is, you know. And so that's one of the

1:04:11.680 --> 1:04:14.560
<v Speaker 1>few times I'm in the moment feeling the joy. That's

1:04:14.560 --> 1:04:16.600
<v Speaker 1>why I see them like darnier every day. I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, it was just I feel so good about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I I told her, I don't have any hang ups

1:04:20.280 --> 1:04:22.760
<v Speaker 1>about therapy. I had a therapist in college, and I

1:04:22.760 --> 1:04:25.680
<v Speaker 1>think it's healthy and great. I just I wasn't putting

1:04:25.680 --> 1:04:27.480
<v Speaker 1>myself first as far as, like you know, making the

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<v Speaker 1>time to find someone.

1:04:28.680 --> 1:04:30.800
<v Speaker 2>And so now I'm excited that I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Getting help, and I'm just so excited about it because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, yes, yes, I want to taste the food

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<v Speaker 1>that's before me.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to be eighty years old like ito.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to be in the best food and I

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<v Speaker 1>never got a chance to really taste it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I'm so happy for you because this is everything

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<v Speaker 3>being able and this is something and it's not just

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<v Speaker 3>you either. A lot of people struggle with gratitude in

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<v Speaker 3>the moment and feeling the success and feeling like you

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<v Speaker 3>have permission to be happy, and it's like you've earned

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<v Speaker 3>right to be happy and to really enjoy the fruits

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<v Speaker 3>of your labor. And I'm so proud of you.

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<v Speaker 2>Finally she got up there.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so honestly just thank y'all be it because it wasn't.

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<v Speaker 1>If it wasn't for Ms Patterson that sent me that

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<v Speaker 1>like email, and then Stephanie who reached up prior to that,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't I don't know that I would have made

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<v Speaker 1>the leap because it just seemed so daunting to find

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<v Speaker 1>somebody on my own. I just already felt like I

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<v Speaker 1>was drowning. So just I feel so excited because honestly too,

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<v Speaker 1>because these I'm still I have one more last hurrah

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<v Speaker 1>with IVF and I'm not gonna lie. This round of

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<v Speaker 1>medicines they have me on is a doozy. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I was jumping for joy for the election and then

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<v Speaker 1>I burst into tears and.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, why are you crying? Is just joyful tears.

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<v Speaker 2>They weren't hormones, And the poor Superman was looking at

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<v Speaker 2>me and he was like, you just took your shot,

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<v Speaker 2>didn't you. And I was like, oh, I did that.

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<v Speaker 3>When I give you a hug, he did, Would.

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<v Speaker 2>I tell you these hormones?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, because literally I was like, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, I'm crying. He was like, Babe, like I'm yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>these hormones, Oh my gosh. So that definitely like what

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<v Speaker 1>I liked about Stephanie two said she's going to look

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<v Speaker 1>for therapists that have women that they've worked with that

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<v Speaker 1>are gone through the IVF process. She said, because honestly, Tiffany,

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<v Speaker 1>that plays a role in how you feel obviously too,

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<v Speaker 1>So I want someone that's going to help you descend it,

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<v Speaker 1>discern like you know, what's actually your feeling versus what's

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<v Speaker 1>being triggered by the increased amount of hormones in your

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<v Speaker 1>body as a result of IVF.

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<v Speaker 2>So it was just, yes, manager, thank.

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<v Speaker 1>You so much for like cause you put that battery

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<v Speaker 1>in my back and I was like, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>reach out and ask for help, and now I'm getting it,

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<v Speaker 1>getting it.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I knew when you weren't happy because you

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<v Speaker 3>were on GMA. I was like, it's about time, Tiffany.

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<v Speaker 3>If you're not going to enjoy these gifts, can I

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<v Speaker 3>have something? No, I'm kidding, and I agree. I think

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<v Speaker 3>for me the past year and the reason. So it's

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<v Speaker 3>like you're somewhere in between, like Tiffany, you know, in

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<v Speaker 3>the middle and like Mandy running in the streets with joy,

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<v Speaker 3>Like somewhere in the middle is rancer a good place

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<v Speaker 3>to be is but that level of joy that I

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<v Speaker 3>literally dance and I felt so invigorated ever since I

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<v Speaker 3>got back to work since maternity leave. And I don't

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<v Speaker 3>think it was I think I'm ready to acknowledge that

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<v Speaker 3>it's been having like it's been the baby, and it's

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<v Speaker 3>been therapy, and it's been just all of these things

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<v Speaker 3>kind of this confluence of events. And you're so right

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<v Speaker 3>about you know, children and whether you know it's your

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<v Speaker 3>an auntie or an uncle or a god a godmother

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<v Speaker 3>or a godfather or cousin, whatever, children really do like

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<v Speaker 3>I do feel like my capacity for joy and my

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<v Speaker 3>willingness to show it because it makes you vulnerable, like

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<v Speaker 3>right like when I was little, I never used to

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<v Speaker 3>smile people who meet me or see me on social media.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I legit have gotten messages from people like who

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<v Speaker 3>is this person? I thought, like, you're not the person

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<v Speaker 3>I knew in high school or and you know it

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<v Speaker 3>will really in college, I started opening up. But it's

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<v Speaker 3>it's a willingness to be vulnerab and it's and it's

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<v Speaker 3>something that I really had to It's a muscle I've

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<v Speaker 3>had to flex and flex and flex. It's like I

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<v Speaker 3>will now go into an empty dance floor and dance

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<v Speaker 3>mostly without needing alcohol to lubricate my my confidence. Ask

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<v Speaker 3>anyone who came to my cousin's wedding two years ago anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>but anyway, and I mean, I'm there and I think

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<v Speaker 3>there's no time to waste. We need to like latch

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<v Speaker 3>onto the joy. And I'm so happy for you because

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<v Speaker 3>you deserve to feel it, you deserve.

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<v Speaker 2>To taste it. Yes, I cannot wait. I'm just like, yeah, so.

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<v Speaker 3>And even just doing it, it sounds like you sound lighter already,

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<v Speaker 3>like I do.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel it? Because I didn't know what was wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, am I doing something wrong? Do I

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<v Speaker 2>not like the buttonista? Do I?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm like, I don't think that's it, because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't feel unhappy.

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<v Speaker 2>I just feel like, oh this is this food is great?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, like because I mean, honestly, I things would

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<v Speaker 1>happened and people would say like, aren't you upset by that?

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<v Speaker 1>Like the last IVF cycle it didn't go well, And

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<v Speaker 1>I was explaining it to a front and she said,

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<v Speaker 1>you're talking about like a math problem.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's okay to be sad tifany I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, it happens.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like yeah, but and so that's what it clicked too,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm like, hmm, your lows are not really low,

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<v Speaker 1>which it's okay for them for you to be upset,

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<v Speaker 1>but your highs are not really high.

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<v Speaker 2>What's going on? Tifny, Like you know you're there's.

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<v Speaker 1>Something happening here where you you should legitimately be sad.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay to be sad and disappointed, and you're not.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not not even that I'm not just saying it,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not feeling it, you know. And so like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>she's like, that's protective. That's something you learn to do,

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<v Speaker 1>and you have to learn a new way because you're

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<v Speaker 1>not that little girl anymore that you know where you

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<v Speaker 1>created that system for yourself. So for those of you

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<v Speaker 1>who are listening for certain, for certain, for certain, if

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<v Speaker 1>you're you know, like it's hard to like, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>there are there's is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Black girl? What is the if you're looking for a

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<v Speaker 2>black therapist therapy for black girls? Mm hmm, the therapy

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<v Speaker 2>for black girls.

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<v Speaker 1>But also too, like I said, nav navvy psych if

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<v Speaker 1>you're if you're just like I don't even know where

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<v Speaker 1>to start, and I want to pay someone to help.

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<v Speaker 1>We do the therapist cycle for me. Stephanie, like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>she herself was a therapist and was just absolutely amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to be like, are you gonna be my therapist?

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<v Speaker 1>I can tell she was like, girl, don't get attached,

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<v Speaker 1>nap and I'm here.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to direct you. But yeah, so what about you?

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<v Speaker 3>What is your boostie? Oh lord, I forgot all about that.

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<v Speaker 3>We were in this segment. I need to have a boost.

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<v Speaker 3>I do have a boost, It's on paper. Let me

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<v Speaker 3>get my handy dandy notebook. Oh I don't need it

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<v Speaker 3>because I remember ninety one. Well, first of all, black

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<v Speaker 3>women is my boost? Just black women in general. I

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<v Speaker 3>am so proud of us US us US. I talked

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<v Speaker 3>about every relative, you know, badgery relatives to vote in Georgia.

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<v Speaker 3>Every last one of them that I talked to was

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<v Speaker 3>a black woman. My cousins and my aunt. My dad,

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<v Speaker 3>on the other hand, tried to get to the great uncles,

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<v Speaker 3>great uncles who are so cynical and listen, they have

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<v Speaker 3>every right to be. They grew up in a very

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<v Speaker 3>different Atlanta than the one that we have today. But anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>the black men and my family were just just not

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<v Speaker 3>as likely not as receptive to the call to action,

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<v Speaker 3>but black women have so. I mean, but it's not

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<v Speaker 3>just this election cycle. For generations, for decades, black women

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<v Speaker 3>have been there fighting even before we had the right

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<v Speaker 3>to vote, still fighting for it, even though we didn't

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<v Speaker 3>get it first. It was all women first, White women first,

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<v Speaker 3>and then you know, black women later. But I just

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to shout us out. Ninety one percent, no other

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<v Speaker 3>demographic voted more in the direction of Biden and Kamala

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<v Speaker 3>Harris than black women beat black men. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 3>can go down the line. Although black men were right

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<v Speaker 3>behind black women. I know people are making a lot

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<v Speaker 3>out of the fact that there was an increase in

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<v Speaker 3>black men who voted for Trump, but they still were

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<v Speaker 3>the second most likely. Black people in general, by and large,

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<v Speaker 3>saved Joe Biden this election. And I can say that

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<v Speaker 3>with my full chest because we see the numbers and

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<v Speaker 3>this sliver tiny margins in these cities. So ninety one

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<v Speaker 3>percent of Black women, thank you, thank you, thank you,

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<v Speaker 3>And we actually see someone who looks like us in

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<v Speaker 3>the White House. And those seeing Kamala on that stage

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<v Speaker 3>when she gave her acceptance speech with her family and

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<v Speaker 3>her nieces. Oh my God with the little cute white

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<v Speaker 3>dresses and the white the little like poofs in their hair,

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<v Speaker 3>it matters. And I just thank all of y'all, and

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<v Speaker 3>I'll keep it short and sweet because I this is

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<v Speaker 3>I just feel like I've been talking NonStop. But thank you,

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<v Speaker 3>thank you, thank you, thank you, and thank you Tiffany,

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm so grateful for this show and for every

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<v Speaker 3>for every woman black woman out there who has been

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<v Speaker 3>fighting where I think we're finally getting the recognition that

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<v Speaker 3>we deserve and I'm glad to be here for it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I just it does feel really good. And to

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<v Speaker 1>be called out on the on the national stage. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>normally they would just not do that. You would do

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<v Speaker 1>all of this and you wouldn't be recognizing right to

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<v Speaker 1>be seen, to be heard. And now it's time for

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<v Speaker 1>game time. I saw that Petresa, the co founder of

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<v Speaker 1>Black Lives Matter, I think via the New York Times,

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<v Speaker 1>has penned the letter or Washington Post pen the letter

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<v Speaker 1>to you know, President elect Joe Biden to say, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>we helped you get here.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's what we're wanting.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, here's our commands, and you've got to hold them

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<v Speaker 3>accountable from it. Just Joe Biden. Every look up who

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<v Speaker 3>represents you in Congress. They check their email, they read

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<v Speaker 3>their mail. You need to contact your elected officials and

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<v Speaker 3>vote for them. We need to come collect on what

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<v Speaker 3>we were. You know why we voted for them.

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<v Speaker 1>Because here's the thing, they are now very very clear

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<v Speaker 1>that we play an active role in who who puts

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<v Speaker 1>butts in seats? And so you know, it's been on

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<v Speaker 1>a world stage now where they're like, oh, this is

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<v Speaker 1>no longer. Oh we don't have to no, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you do you do or you know, no one says

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<v Speaker 1>we have to continue to vote in this and vote

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<v Speaker 1>block in this way.

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<v Speaker 3>Yep, amen to that, and thank you to Black Lives

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<v Speaker 3>Matter and just black magic everywhere. I'm so you had

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<v Speaker 3>us going, You had us going real good. We were

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<v Speaker 3>real we were real stressed. We didn't know what else

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<v Speaker 3>was going to end, but we ended up being our

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<v Speaker 3>own heroes in the end. And yes, that's what I

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<v Speaker 3>love about it. Again, you didn't have to wear a

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<v Speaker 3>cape or you know, be you just you just had

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<v Speaker 3>to vote, and we just got to keep voting. I'll

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<v Speaker 3>never I'll never ever ever forget the past four years.

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<v Speaker 3>I just it's It's burned into my into my DNA,

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<v Speaker 3>and I hope it will just be inherited by every

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<v Speaker 3>if I'm lucky enough to have more offspring. But just

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<v Speaker 3>like Rio and all of his descendants, I hope that

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<v Speaker 3>they remember the same way I will.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, remember remember, I'm not gonna lie. It's like.

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<v Speaker 3>And thank you, James Weird. I just whatever, Thanks y'all

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<v Speaker 3>for listening.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we love y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>See y'all next week without my notepad, maybe