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Speaker 2: Happy Birthday. It just does not appropriate.
Speaker 3: If I knew, if I knew a Happy New Year's song,
Speaker 3: I would sing that because it feels like a happy
Speaker 3: news I think we should have like the sound of
Speaker 3: bottles popping and confetti. Yes, Happy new Year, Tiffany.
Speaker 1: I know, happy return Democracy, Mandra Hey, Hey, hey, so
Speaker 1: that y'all know it is really us.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3: You know what, in five years of doing this show,
Speaker 3: tiff I've never once been nervous until today.
Speaker 2: Why am I nervous to talk to you. I don't
Speaker 2: know why.
Speaker 3: It's not like we you know we do. I love
Speaker 3: our audience and our listeners, and I feel the pressure because,
Speaker 3: like Tiffany and I were kind of talking a little
Speaker 3: bit before, I was like, save it, save it for
Speaker 3: the show. The comments though, like, can't wait to hear
Speaker 3: you guys. I can't wait to do. So what you
Speaker 3: guys have to say?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, what how about you tell me? Let's
Speaker 2: do the let's do the Where were you when?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: Okay, although I think a lot of people know where
Speaker 3: in the damn street like crazy listen, I think I
Speaker 3: blacked out.
Speaker 1: That was That was the most brown joy filled video
Speaker 1: you literally see Mannyboddy here. Well, I was like, she's
Speaker 1: catching the holy ghost in front of our house while
Speaker 1: walking with poor Molly.
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 1: Molly is like I'm not or what's happening? The dog
Speaker 1: was like all caught on the nest, crazy of the nest.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 3: My husband was like, you should probably check the nest.
Speaker 3: I so where was I? Sure? I'll go first? Thanks
Speaker 3: for thanks for asking. This was a really like the
Speaker 3: settim circum the fact that I was sitting on my
Speaker 3: couch watching CNN when the news actually happened. That never happens,
Speaker 3: Like who gets their news watching TV anymore?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 3: But anyway, I had done a really difficult like because
Speaker 3: I had so much nervous energy all week and I
Speaker 3: was keeping it together from my team at work and
Speaker 3: I was like staying positive, positive, positive. Everyone around me
Speaker 3: was so down. People were texting me like, what happened
Speaker 3: to Georgia? Where's Georgia? I thought Georgia was gonna flip.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, keep the faith, keep the faith. Thank
Speaker 3: God for my little brother who actually is in Georgia.
Speaker 3: And he was following some local reporters and he was like, listen,
Speaker 3: George's turning blue. You've gotta believe. And I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna you're my hail Mary, Alex, keep it, you know,
Speaker 3: keep me, keep me afloat. And I had all my
Speaker 3: nervous energy. I just kept working out. I mean, this
Speaker 3: was maybe a way to handle it, but I just
Speaker 3: kept peloton and I was like, oh god, I can't sleep.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna peloton. So I had peloton. I came upstairs, showered,
Speaker 3: put baby down for a nap, sat down on the couch,
Speaker 3: and like a minute later they called it. And I'm
Speaker 3: still you know how you like you after a workout,
Speaker 3: you still sweat for like two hours later if you're
Speaker 3: you know, out of shape like I am. And I
Speaker 3: just and it wasn't because at that point we pretty
Speaker 3: much knew right that it was gonna like very likely
Speaker 3: he was Biden was gonna win.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I just didn't.
Speaker 1: It's so crazy that we were all tiptoeing around the
Speaker 1: preschool head, preschooler in charge. Yeah, because it was like
Speaker 1: all of the statistics, all of the all the pull
Speaker 1: everything showed that, okay, he not only won this day,
Speaker 1: but this day, but there's just almost no way to
Speaker 1: come back, and no one wanted to call it because
Speaker 1: they were all tiptoeing around the feelings of this three
Speaker 1: year old that's in the White House, like weel, I.
Speaker 2: Don't, no, you know, I don't. He's gonna say it's
Speaker 2: not real. And it was called by some rando.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I forget the name of the outlet, like called No,
Speaker 1: it wasn't you Google.
Speaker 2: It's like help desk something.
Speaker 3: Okay, nobody wanted to be the first one. It's like
Speaker 3: someone's uncle calling it.
Speaker 2: For real exactly.
Speaker 1: I actually was like I had just taken like a
Speaker 1: really long walk and I was feeling tired, so I
Speaker 1: laid down on the couch. I had been avoiding social
Speaker 1: because my heart couldn't take it.
Speaker 2: I voted on Tuesday. I told myself I wasn't. I
Speaker 2: was pretty sure they were going to find a result.
Speaker 1: You know, Tuesday night, Wednesday morning, So I wasn't surprised
Speaker 1: when nothing came out, but I didn't I figured someone
Speaker 1: would tell me. I didn't want to watch blow by
Speaker 1: blow it was too much. So when Wednesday nothing happened,
Speaker 1: I was like fine. Thursday I was like, yea fine whatever.
Speaker 1: Then by the time I was laying down after my walk,
Speaker 1: I woke up from a nap and I guess by
Speaker 1: then they had already called and me and be like
Speaker 1: I don't know, I want to say, like an hour
Speaker 1: by then.
Speaker 2: And I woke up and I was like, is this real?
Speaker 3: So you're waking up I'm coming in the house from
Speaker 3: my my my block party.
Speaker 2: Yes, And I just was like so I had to
Speaker 2: I had to check all that.
Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, let me be your
Speaker 3: phone told you got a text alert?
Speaker 2: No, no, no no.
Speaker 1: I just happened to like cause I would take a
Speaker 1: peek on I G every once in a while just
Speaker 1: to see like it's the world over.
Speaker 3: So I picked on.
Speaker 1: IG and I was like, with one eye open, like
Speaker 1: we what. And then I was like, let me go
Speaker 1: see what Fox fox'es IG says. Because you know, if
Speaker 1: the if the of the head hater in charge of
Speaker 1: media Fox.
Speaker 3: I did the same thing. I was like, turn on
Speaker 3: box just to see what they were gonna say. You know.
Speaker 1: Oh, and when I tell you the the trumpets and
Speaker 1: the Fox Foxes comments were living.
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. They're like, oh you the new cn that.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean they've been mad all week. They've been mad.
Speaker 3: Oh we he's in charge over there. But they're like,
Speaker 3: m let's just uh, let's just follow the truth this week, guys.
Speaker 2: Let's yeah, could you imagine so weird?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, their people have been mad all week. I mean,
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I've taken great delight in going to I've never ever
Speaker 1: ever visited the head preschooler in charges on Twitter before
Speaker 1: ever ever. I've seen tweets obviously, like screenshotted, but I've
Speaker 1: never visited. So I visited just to see the trolls
Speaker 1: and the comments, and I'm not gonna lie. Y'all did
Speaker 1: not disappoint. I spent two days there. And that said, Tiffany,
Speaker 1: I think this is unhealthy.
Speaker 2: But the giggles because people are so witty.
Speaker 3: The Internet is too witty, it's too like, it's too fun.
Speaker 3: I couldn't keep up and you know, the same day
Speaker 3: with that the Four Seasons landscaping. Oh, I almost wish
Speaker 3: that that had had enough time to breathe and get
Speaker 3: its full you know, do in social media and the
Speaker 3: internet's all the memes. Oh my goodness, it's just like bam,
Speaker 3: bam bam. Like one minute, I'm laughing about that, or
Speaker 3: actually I learned about that. After that, I learned about Biden.
Speaker 3: But it was just that was just so what did
Speaker 3: you do when you find out? Like what was your
Speaker 3: physical reaction? I was shocked by my own but yeah,
Speaker 3: I just I just sat up and I said what what?
Speaker 3: I just couldn't believe it. And then instantly I was like,
Speaker 3: I started seeing you about to lose jo job.
Speaker 2: To get this dance.
Speaker 1: I was so joyful because I don't, you know, what's
Speaker 1: so crazy? So someone you know, there are a few
Speaker 1: haters in the comments on my comments, which I promptly blocked,
Speaker 1: but they were like, oh, this.
Speaker 2: Is not gonna change much of anything. I said. I
Speaker 2: don't think you guys understand.
Speaker 1: I think people think that we are holding Joe Biden
Speaker 1: up as a deity, the way folks many folks who
Speaker 1: love Trump hold them up.
Speaker 2: I'm like girl, what part of I'm not.
Speaker 1: Celebrating Joe Biden necessarily, I'm celebrating the fact that your
Speaker 1: dude ain't gonna be here. I don't think people understand that,
Speaker 1: Like this was for me, this was cutting out of
Speaker 1: cancer that had spread and was looking to kill the body.
Speaker 2: That's what this was for me.
Speaker 1: It was like, now, maybe this body has a chance
Speaker 1: to live a healthy, normal life.
Speaker 2: Maybe.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm like, I think a lot of the
Speaker 1: joy people don't realize is not so much that we're
Speaker 1: like yeah, yeah, yeay Joe Biden, and more so yeah
Speaker 1: yeay yay.
Speaker 2: Not Trump. Okay, it could have been ahead of Lettuce
Speaker 2: I would have the head.
Speaker 3: Well, I you know, right before I know we were
Speaker 3: so you know last when we did the last week's episode,
Speaker 3: we were like, oh god, you know, we're recording on Monday.
Speaker 3: What's the world going to be like? And the one
Speaker 3: hope I had was that the election would go off
Speaker 3: smoothly and that America could prove something that I think
Speaker 3: we've taken for granted, which is our fundamental right to
Speaker 3: cast a vote in a peaceful manner. I mean, this
Speaker 3: just doesn't happen in a lot of countries. And that
Speaker 3: is one of the cornerstones of our democracy. And I
Speaker 3: was like, listen, if we can't do this, I'm terrified
Speaker 3: for our future. And we did, like no evidence of fraud,
Speaker 3: you know, no evidence of real I mean, of course,
Speaker 3: there's all kinds of uh, you know, things to the
Speaker 3: work of amazing people like Stacy Abrams. We know all
Speaker 3: about voter suppression live and in color in twenty twenty,
Speaker 3: but by large, by and large, record numbers of Americans
Speaker 3: voted and oh my god. And at first I was like,
Speaker 3: you know, because because the mail in ballots were the
Speaker 3: ones that really came in, and I'm sure you saw
Speaker 3: the Avengers and Game meme, which like a favorite, my
Speaker 3: favor of it. I even went, I've never really looked
Speaker 3: for the source of a meme, but I made sure
Speaker 3: I gave that guy credit. John John PERETTI. I was like,
Speaker 3: he needs an oscar, but truly, truly, truly, and the
Speaker 3: real poetry of the mail in ballads coming in is
Speaker 3: that motherfucker thought he won I want real happy Tuesday night,
Speaker 3: and he woke up like what first of all, woke
Speaker 3: up because you told your people don't to you so
Speaker 3: male in ballanty me bruh, you literally.
Speaker 2: Lost by your own hand. You literally took a knife.
Speaker 2: It's your own fait.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean I just when I tell you the
Speaker 1: poetic justice the giggles, Like I said, I I literally
Speaker 1: was like, humm, who are all these main Republicans that
Speaker 1: talk Matt Smack on Twitter? I just I just want
Speaker 1: to see the comments. I just want to see the
Speaker 1: shambles of the comments. And like I said, folks did
Speaker 1: not disappoint. And I love the meme of a sister
Speaker 1: act two.
Speaker 2: Oh yes, that wasn't oh happy?
Speaker 1: That was another a great one. If you haven't giggled
Speaker 1: that one, so you can get your delight.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And who I know that that young woman, that prophetic
Speaker 1: young woman, you're about to lose your job.
Speaker 2: She did not know that she was going.
Speaker 1: To be a pivotal, a pivotal poetrys in this time
Speaker 1: of needs.
Speaker 2: I mean, everybody fired.
Speaker 3: Oh and the and it was like so yes, I
Speaker 3: was so. I was so overjoyed and relieved. And you're right,
Speaker 3: it wasn't just about it was bigger than Biden. And
Speaker 3: you know what's great about Biden is that he knew
Speaker 3: it was bigger than him. He let Kamala Harris go
Speaker 3: out first. He went out of his way to put
Speaker 3: a woman of color in that position. Of course, she
Speaker 3: earned her you know, she fought and she earned and
Speaker 3: she worked for that position. But at the end of
Speaker 3: the day, unfortunately he was another white man with a
Speaker 3: decision to make, and he could have gone a different way,
Speaker 3: and he chose not to.
Speaker 1: I was shocked when I'm not gonna like when I
Speaker 1: heard him say, you know, when they were like, we
Speaker 1: want a black woman.
Speaker 2: As vice president, I was like, yeah, girls, like that's
Speaker 2: not going to happen. And when he sh when he
Speaker 2: chose Kamala, Kamala.
Speaker 5: Kamala, Kamala, right when he told her, I was like, wait,
Speaker 5: is this real?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: And you know, I was really really shocked.
Speaker 1: And I just love how it came down to the
Speaker 1: very people that you try to disenfranchise. Hey, Philly, okay black,
Speaker 1: Hey Detroit okay black, Hey Atlanta blackly black black. It
Speaker 1: came down to some of the blackest cities in this
Speaker 1: country that pushed you out of office. Don't let anyone
Speaker 1: tell you that your vote doesn't count. I mean some
Speaker 1: places it was down to just a few thousand.
Speaker 3: He's only ten thousand in Georgia, and I need so
Speaker 3: there is still too close to call, but George Georgia, Georgia.
Speaker 3: I mean like, honestly, I was ready to accept whatever
Speaker 3: happened once I saw that Georgia had turned blue and
Speaker 3: let's not call it blue, let's call it purple because
Speaker 3: it is a razor thin margin. But every vote that
Speaker 3: in put Biden in the lead, I was like, I
Speaker 3: feel like, I know these people, like these are the
Speaker 3: people I try, like my family, my friends, the people
Speaker 3: that I know in Atlanta who haven't voted, who feel
Speaker 3: who have felt so who put their cynicism aside, because
Speaker 3: I think at our core, the past, especially the past
Speaker 3: year and four years for me, has been about putting
Speaker 3: aside the cynicism that I know I could feel, and
Speaker 3: choosing hope and trying to convince other people they're not convinced.
Speaker 3: I'm not like I had the power to convince anybody,
Speaker 3: but I am so proud that people put aside their cynicism.
Speaker 3: And maybe they went to the polls thinking it might
Speaker 3: not matter, but it must feel for anyone who voted,
Speaker 3: who wasn't going to vote, and you went anyway, or
Speaker 3: you mailed in your ballot. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 3: It made a difference. And if you hadn't, we might
Speaker 3: not be sitting here. So y'all are the real MVPs
Speaker 3: and it's not over. I am like my aunt, my
Speaker 3: cousins were all like, yeah, many, we did it. I'm like,
Speaker 3: what y'all doing on January fifth? Okay, deadline to registers?
Speaker 2: Because you already it's been too quiet.
Speaker 1: A toddler in the other room, that's quiet, yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean they have scissors inside the the for real.
Speaker 2: When a timeless too quiet, I'm like, the timeless too quiet?
Speaker 1: Yeah there, So I until until like it is done done.
Speaker 1: I just expect Sanny because he's not gonna take this quietly. Well,
Speaker 1: what president doesn't concede That's literally never happened in the
Speaker 1: history of our country. He is putting our democracy at
Speaker 1: risk around the world for his own personal gain.
Speaker 3: I didn't win, so I haven't though that matters, like
Speaker 3: his legal challenges, they really don't. I mean, maybe if
Speaker 3: we hadn't gotten Pennsylvania by such a clear, you know margin,
Speaker 3: maybe you know, we've been more nervous if it was
Speaker 3: down to like a recount here and a recount there,
Speaker 3: or a legal challenge there about ballots. But even if
Speaker 3: he won any frivolous lawsuit in Pennsylvania. I listened this morning.
Speaker 3: This was a New York Times that said, you know,
Speaker 3: or an expert on the New York Times or commentator
Speaker 3: or whatever. Someone said, someone real, real smart from New
Speaker 3: York Times, which I choose to believe in, said that
Speaker 3: even if he wins this legal challenge a number of votes,
Speaker 3: because he's trying to say that what they're trying to
Speaker 3: what they're trying to challenge is these votes that were
Speaker 3: mailed in but arrived three days after election day, which
Speaker 3: some a federal or a state court or federal court
Speaker 3: had ruled recently that they could accept those ballots, where
Speaker 3: in the past they wouldn't have accepted those ballots. So
Speaker 3: Trump and his cronies were trying to say, we must
Speaker 3: discount these votes because they came in a few days late.
Speaker 3: But anyway, there's not enough votes there to make up
Speaker 3: the difference. So but the thing is, like, you're right,
Speaker 3: it does not end here. I mean, I am listen.
Speaker 3: My next thing is what I think, you know, Trump
Speaker 3: is probably like the seventy million people voted for this guy,
Speaker 3: that should terrify everybody into staying vigilant. I feel like
Speaker 3: the you know, I feel like there's going to be
Speaker 3: we already have you know four chan or qwan on,
Speaker 3: Like we have these channels where I mean, this isn't
Speaker 3: even conservative, this is like very disturbing, you know.
Speaker 2: Right wing. I didn't know right waitnessy.
Speaker 3: They find their own place to communicate, and they're gonna
Speaker 3: do that. There's going to be like a new because
Speaker 3: you saw Twitter. One of my the favorite things for
Speaker 3: me was how Twitter started to actually block yes, like
Speaker 3: say no, this isn't true, that we're not even going
Speaker 3: to show you this tweet because we don't think it's true.
Speaker 3: And I think that they're going to go and start
Speaker 3: their own thing and you know, make it easier for
Speaker 3: folks to not see the facts. You got to stay engaged.
Speaker 3: And when I said, you know what are y'all doing?
Speaker 3: January fifth, If you know anybody in Georgia, this is
Speaker 3: what really really matters. There's two Senate runoffs, John Osoff
Speaker 3: and ah my brain is no, no, no, I got it.
Speaker 3: I got notes, you guys. This is how nervous I was.
Speaker 3: I put my notes down. Rafael Warnock, Reverend Rafael Warnock. Yes,
Speaker 3: so they're both facing runoff elections January fifth, and why
Speaker 3: are they? Someone at work was like, maybe can you
Speaker 3: explain the runoff situation in Georgia. So essentially, there were
Speaker 3: more candidates. There were enough candidates that if no one
Speaker 3: secured a majority of the vote, it goes to a runoff.
Speaker 3: So they take the top two vote getters and they say, okay,
Speaker 3: you're gonna into a runoff, or not the top two,
Speaker 3: but the top vote getters. So these are the two Democrats,
Speaker 3: Reverend Rafael Warnock and John Osoff. They're going up against
Speaker 3: Kelly Loffler. We heard of ke Do you know any
Speaker 3: about Kelly Loffler?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: She a nasty woman. When they say nasty women, this
Speaker 3: is what they really mean. So she's like a she's
Speaker 3: married to the well chairman of the of the Stock Exchange.
Speaker 3: She owns the dub the this is and talk about
Speaker 3: like Hipocrisiana. She owns the w NBA team, the Dream
Speaker 3: in Atlanta. Okay, so she owns a sports team made
Speaker 3: up of black woman And she was appointed to this seat.
Speaker 3: She didn't earn it. She was appointed because the former
Speaker 3: person who held the seat, Johnny Isaac Sen. He was.
Speaker 3: He stepped down for health care health reasons. I think,
Speaker 3: so she was appointed didn't have to run. But now
Speaker 3: she's on the ballot. And I mean, it was so
Speaker 3: bad this summer and I was reading about this the
Speaker 3: dream the team players wn W NBA players literally showed
Speaker 3: up at a game with Shirr said vote Warnock and
Speaker 3: against their own owner. Because that is how I mean.
Speaker 3: You should just I mean, I don't waste your time
Speaker 3: because I'll just make you mad. But you know, her
Speaker 3: her campaign messages is like, you know, of course she's
Speaker 3: trying to vote against abortion rights for gun rights. She
Speaker 3: did the whole campaign ad wearing the vest and the
Speaker 3: rifle over her shoulder, and you know she's a gajillionaire
Speaker 3: and all that stuff like this is who we're voting.
Speaker 3: You know, this is who could represent Georgia. And that
Speaker 3: is I'm sorry, that is not for me what George
Speaker 3: is about. So if you agree, if you agree, and
Speaker 3: you don't want someone like that for representing you in Congress,
Speaker 3: you've got to vote and tell anyone you know in Georgia. Okay,
Speaker 3: so here are some key dates. Tiffany, I promised you're
Speaker 3: gonna I'm gonna shut up soon, but I gotta say
Speaker 3: my I gotta say my dates, because here's my notes,
Speaker 3: my notes. Okay, So December seventh is not that far away.
Speaker 3: That is a deadline for new folks to register to vote.
Speaker 3: And if you know any teenagers who are going to
Speaker 3: be eighteen by January fifteen, twenty twenty one, they can
Speaker 3: still register. So get just tell them we're going to
Speaker 3: go for a short drive. Oh no, you don't have
Speaker 3: to drive anywhere. You can do it online. Register to
Speaker 3: vote by the seventh of December. Early voting starts the
Speaker 3: fourteenth of December, so you don't have to ruin your
Speaker 3: holiday plans. And the official election day for the runoff
Speaker 3: is January fifth. Why are these two seats so important
Speaker 3: other than Georgia deserves represented by people who actually represent
Speaker 3: their best interest. This will determine likely whether or not
Speaker 3: Democrats hold the majority in the Senate. The Senate, you guys,
Speaker 3: do you want to know why we've had all these
Speaker 3: conservative judges so from the Supreme Court, all the you know,
Speaker 3: down the line across the country appointed. It's because the
Speaker 3: Senate holds those votes. They hold that power, and if
Speaker 3: we don't hold the majority. Unfortunately, to say all this
Speaker 3: talk of bipartisanship and unity, that's bullshit, like they're going
Speaker 3: to vote along party line. So it's very important if
Speaker 3: you truly if you don't just support Biden and Harris
Speaker 3: and what they stand for, if you support the policies
Speaker 3: and the issues that Democrats support, working families, women's reproductive rights,
Speaker 3: gun uh uh uh? What is the right one? Is?
Speaker 3: What am I trying to say? Gun protections, gun restrictions?
Speaker 3: If you don't if and and forget, and I did
Speaker 3: mentioned the the pandemic, like if you support wearing a
Speaker 3: damn mask, like you want Democrats to hold the majority
Speaker 3: in the Senate. So unfortunately it all comes down to
Speaker 3: these you know, these two races in Georgia. But if
Speaker 3: you know anybody, that's my alarm. I have to wake
Speaker 3: up the baby from his late nap and he's going
Speaker 3: to be super annoyed by me. But uh, that's fine, anyway.
Speaker 3: I just Georgia, Georgia, Georgia, and this is this is
Speaker 3: really serious, and I am My cousins are already tired
Speaker 3: of me, but I don't care because I it's too
Speaker 3: too important and woof anyway, all right, now you talk,
Speaker 3: how did you celebrate? Did you celebrate? Were you in
Speaker 3: them streets without it, with the mask but not social distancing?
Speaker 1: No, I was it because I was just I'm not
Speaker 1: really one for crowds, but I just celebrated, just honestly.
Speaker 1: I just I must have been on Instagram for like
Speaker 1: hour straight, just soaking up the joy of folks and us.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm really cool with one of the well
Speaker 1: two of the co founders of Black Lives Matter.
Speaker 2: And I was just messaging with.
Speaker 1: Patrice Colors from What That Matter, because just it was
Speaker 1: just crazy because just a year or so ago she
Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter was getting the honor of getting the
Speaker 1: kidney of Sydney Peace Price, which is a huge, huge, huge,
Speaker 1: huge honor. And I was messaging with her and I said,
Speaker 1: you know what, look how I'm just telling her how
Speaker 1: proud I was of her, because she's she and the
Speaker 1: other founders were on the cover of Time magazine the
Speaker 1: one hundred Most Influential People, and some things she had posted,
Speaker 1: and I was like, look how the tide turns. This
Speaker 1: is what I told her, From being called a terrorist
Speaker 1: organization to changing the outcome of an election. There are
Speaker 1: those that said that activism was dead, but I say
Speaker 1: stiff ware.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you know that.
Speaker 1: With the little girl, it's like showing off her hair.
Speaker 1: She was like they tried to say my hair was stiff.
Speaker 1: Stiff ware basically like I'm dry, And she said, thanks.
Speaker 2: Love, it feels really good to be here.
Speaker 1: I just when I just tell you it just this
Speaker 1: is what whenever they tell you, oh, your social media
Speaker 1: activism doesn't mean anything. Let's be clear the Black Lives
Speaker 1: Matter movement. Had that not happened, then we likely would
Speaker 1: not have been here. I'm not gonna lie COVID, you
Speaker 1: know you you a salty hoe. But had COVID not happened,
Speaker 1: people would not have come out and masked voting via
Speaker 1: male and also too, I think a lot of people
Speaker 1: wouldn't have seen like, yo, this is really crazy. He
Speaker 1: don't really care like with then today out.
Speaker 3: Here, Yes, if and if you weren't terrified the pandemic,
Speaker 3: by the pandemic, it's so sad to me. But we
Speaker 3: have to thank Breonna Taylor and George Floyd and all
Speaker 3: the other aman operate, the Black Americans who were shot
Speaker 3: by Lease and it you know, add them to the
Speaker 3: list of people who had to die for us to
Speaker 3: get our shit together in so many ways. And I'm
Speaker 3: and you know, we have to thank them and their families.
Speaker 3: It's nothing that they ever wanted to be thankful for,
Speaker 3: I'm sure, but you're right. I mean, the COVID made
Speaker 3: us sitarases down these unjust killings by police officers, which listen,
Speaker 3: have happened and you know, I don't need to tell you,
Speaker 3: but have happened for decades, for generations. But it forced
Speaker 3: us to sit down and look and see what was
Speaker 3: going on. And I really felt hopeful this summer when
Speaker 3: I when I the conversations, we had the fact that
Speaker 3: my mother was talking to me about race, that my
Speaker 3: stepdad said he was going to vote Republican. I'm sorry,
Speaker 3: vote Democrat after being a lifelong Republican. These were signs
Speaker 3: that to me, things were changing.
Speaker 2: Honest, I wasn't that hopeful. I was like, because I
Speaker 2: was so devastated.
Speaker 3: I feel like I was always Pollyanna, and you were like,
Speaker 3: but because but to Tiffany, you have a right to
Speaker 3: be cynical.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't have to feel you know what
Speaker 1: it was. I didn't want my heart to be broken.
Speaker 1: I said, because honestly, I was mouth agape last time.
Speaker 1: I was caught so off guard, like wait what, wait?
Speaker 2: What? What? What? What?
Speaker 1: I did not want that to happen this time. So
Speaker 1: I said, you know what, if this is going to
Speaker 1: be I was talking to a friend of mine and
Speaker 1: he's kind of chubby, and I said, I'm nervous. He's like,
Speaker 1: I said, I have so much anxiety. He was like why,
Speaker 1: and he was I was like the elections. He was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I've decided regardless of what happened tomorrow,
Speaker 1: I still wake up fat and black. And I was real,
Speaker 1: it's true, though, I now, it's just like so that
Speaker 1: gate that took a little of the anxiety because basically
Speaker 1: what he was saying that there's still gonna be similar
Speaker 1: issues that are still here, and we will we have
Speaker 1: dealt with it, we will learn to deal with it
Speaker 1: and through it and and you know, we'll.
Speaker 2: Figure out a way. But so it helped a little bit.
Speaker 1: But certainly the anxiety was really high because the truth
Speaker 1: of the matter is half the country still voted one,
Speaker 1: why you know, And and surprisingly his numbers percentages rose
Speaker 1: and white women, and also numbers rose with black men.
Speaker 2: Numbers rose.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I mean, it ain't really rise with white men
Speaker 1: because it's like no more could have voted for him,
Speaker 1: like we already tapped you out fully, So it just
Speaker 1: one of the power. I don't know if you saw this,
Speaker 1: I'll send it to you on Instagram. One of the
Speaker 1: most powerful videos I saw was this Native American gentleman
Speaker 1: exit his car and dance. The joy in his dance
Speaker 1: and there was someone in the comments. It was just
Speaker 1: so beautiful and I didn't know. I knew the dance
Speaker 1: meant something, but I didn't know what because you could
Speaker 1: just it was just so purposeful. His foot footsteps right
Speaker 1: and a woman in the comments that I'm Native American
Speaker 1: right that right there is what he's doing is called
Speaker 1: the warrior dance.
Speaker 2: Is the dance that you do after you defeat an
Speaker 2: enemy when I tell you the boo hoo ing. Because
Speaker 2: it was so.
Speaker 1: Powerful and we were all just in like, you know
Speaker 1: the fact that she shared that with us, it was like,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm feeling.
Speaker 2: And I could just feel his joy in his relief.
Speaker 1: And he was wearing like a flannel shirt and some jeans,
Speaker 1: but you could you could see the regalia that wasn't
Speaker 1: there on him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so yeah, I'm just I just.
Speaker 3: Doesn't it feel it did to be a hero. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's and you don't need to be a super like
Speaker 3: this is the and I'm so like kids will see
Speaker 3: we made something happen because we did something very simple.
Speaker 3: You didn't have to be the smartest or the fastest,
Speaker 3: or the strongest, or the prettiest or the tallest. You
Speaker 3: just had to go and vote. That's all you had
Speaker 3: to do. And you saved this country in so many ways.
Speaker 3: And I that in people's expression of joy after so
Speaker 3: many months of pain and anguish and anxiety, like to
Speaker 3: see people feel and I think, and especially my own
Speaker 3: reaction that visceral need to run literally into my streets
Speaker 3: and up and down the block. I couldn't hold it in,
Speaker 3: like I just I just My husband's like, what are
Speaker 3: you doing, I'm like, I don't know, putting my shoes on,
Speaker 3: I have to be in the streets. And and and
Speaker 3: as you can see from all the footage on like
Speaker 3: cable network or news just in general, so many thousands
Speaker 3: of people felt the same. We just wanted to dance,
Speaker 3: We just wanted to scream, We wanted to be out
Speaker 3: there and rejoice and and and what made me sad
Speaker 3: is I know, like, for example, I live in a
Speaker 3: majority minority neighborhood were very progressive, and I felt very
Speaker 3: safe running my black cast down the street like no
Speaker 3: one's going to call the cops on me. Low key,
Speaker 3: I did bring the dogs, I would look less crazy.
Speaker 3: But anyway I felt, And even though on the video
Speaker 3: that I posted, I came back and took a little
Speaker 3: break because I was so tired. But a lot of
Speaker 3: my neighbors once I woke their us, once I woke
Speaker 3: them up, they were out in the streets too, and
Speaker 3: we were having a little like impromptu block party. But
Speaker 3: I felt very safe doing that. And I know, and
Speaker 3: from the comments I got on my video, that a
Speaker 3: lot of people don't live in places where they feel
Speaker 3: safe celebrating. And I just hope. I just don't want
Speaker 3: y'all to have to hold it in, like live in
Speaker 3: this joy, like take advantage of this rare moment of
Speaker 3: a win, in this dumpster fire of a year, find
Speaker 3: some way to celebrate in whatever way you can, and
Speaker 3: just go hug a baby, like I don't know.
Speaker 1: It was so crazy because I take a walk just
Speaker 1: about every day, and there are just because I mean
Speaker 1: North is largely like black and Hispanic like largely, and
Speaker 1: you know, in my neighborhood same you know, sprinkleove of
Speaker 1: other here and there. But there was maybe one or
Speaker 1: two houses that had a Trump sign. And I would
Speaker 1: walk by this one house in particular, which I thought
Speaker 1: was so odd because they had this a Puerto Rican
Speaker 1: flag and a Trump sign.
Speaker 2: I'm like, you don't remember how he create the Puerto
Speaker 2: Rico Latino.
Speaker 3: I mean, listen, like the majority of Latinos did vote
Speaker 3: against Trump, but there's a fair number who who who
Speaker 3: who voted for him.
Speaker 1: So yes, I just thought that was so idd considering
Speaker 1: in particular, like what happened, you know, like you know
Speaker 1: when once actually struck uh Puerto Rico and so anyway,
Speaker 1: so I so literally the next morning, you know, I
Speaker 1: went from my walk.
Speaker 2: Why I tell you them signs were down so fast.
Speaker 3: Oh JK, Hey, y'all hate Tiphany. Your neighborhoods are orgious
Speaker 3: those photos you posted. And someone told me black women
Speaker 3: in the suburbs, where do you live, I'm like, lots
Speaker 3: of black people live in the suburbs, Okay, Like it's
Speaker 3: and I mean, obviously, I'm sure we're in the minority.
Speaker 3: But you know that's what pissed me off the most.
Speaker 3: When you know Republicans and Trump would talk about people
Speaker 3: in the suburbs are coming to get you, they're coming
Speaker 3: for your they're going to be your neighbors. I'm like,
Speaker 3: we are the neighbors, and we bas already exists. So
Speaker 3: like we like white flight happened, like I don't know,
Speaker 3: fifty so fifty years ago, like that was a thing.
Speaker 1: That's why Newark is so very black right now because
Speaker 1: so many people left. And honestly, like you said that,
Speaker 1: I love my neighborhood. It's largely historic homes. But when
Speaker 1: I tell you so many times when I kne family
Speaker 1: moves in, I would say sixteen seventy percent of the
Speaker 1: time it's a black or brown family. And I love
Speaker 1: that because yes, you know, we still get phone calls
Speaker 1: every day you're looking to tell you how click. I'm
Speaker 1: not gentrification is trying hard here. But what I love
Speaker 1: about our mayor is that one his father was a
Speaker 1: Mary Baracker, who was like poet laureate and like very
Speaker 1: active in the black power movement in the sixties, and
Speaker 1: he is a student of that. So our Mayor ros
Speaker 1: Barrocka does not play that, which I love, and so yeah,
Speaker 1: it is a you know, people will say so much
Speaker 1: about Newark, but this neighborhood. I mean, certainly Newark obviously
Speaker 1: has its parts that's like not so cute, and you know,
Speaker 1: and I get that, but there are parts of Newark
Speaker 1: that are just so beautiful, and that's what I wanted
Speaker 1: to share, Like these are not even I mean, that
Speaker 1: was like a little short walk. I haven't even I
Speaker 1: have favorite houses that did not make the list. Some
Speaker 1: of these houses were built in nineteen ten and they're
Speaker 1: just so gorgeous, and the streets are quiet, and you know,
Speaker 1: and when I you know, so when people do come out,
Speaker 1: it's usually somebody brown waving hair wrapped up as they're
Speaker 1: walking their dog.
Speaker 2: I just love it.
Speaker 3: Honestly sounds like Atlanta, which, by the way, my heart
Speaker 3: has been tugging me back down south for quite some
Speaker 3: time now, and I don't know how much longer I'm
Speaker 3: gonna make it a burial. But I mean, I love
Speaker 3: my neighborhood so much and I'm so glad we found
Speaker 3: the little tiny Atlanta of Westchester County. But God, the joy,
Speaker 3: the joy, and thank you like Tiffany and Brown Ambition
Speaker 3: for giving us a place to share and amplify our joy,
Speaker 3: because there's people who don't have microphones and get to like,
Speaker 3: you know, share in that and feel like their voices
Speaker 3: are being heard. And I read every single one of
Speaker 3: y'all's comments and messages, whether you were you know, sending
Speaker 3: them to me on Insta or to the Brown Ambition Instagram,
Speaker 3: I read them. I relished in every last ounce of
Speaker 3: that joy. Keep sending us your you know, send us
Speaker 3: your reactions, send us you know messages, Let us know
Speaker 3: how you're feeling, let us know what you're doing next.
Speaker 3: You know. Yes, personally, I feel I didn't know you
Speaker 3: could have a happiness hangover, but like that's the thing
Speaker 3: that I've now invented. I guess I just felt like
Speaker 3: I could sleep for a week happiness hangover. Like last night,
Speaker 3: I was so tired, so tired, and just like what
Speaker 3: is this? I guess it's just it's like you had
Speaker 3: so much tension and the you know, you were just
Speaker 3: like this uphill battle for so long, and I feel
Speaker 3: like I needed a tiny little break. But I woke
Speaker 3: up this morning just feeling like what I need to
Speaker 3: do something like I need to get involved somehow locally
Speaker 3: in local politics. And if you guys are feeling the
Speaker 3: same way you and I know a lot of our
Speaker 3: audience are black women, so I wanted to talk. Just
Speaker 3: mentioned a couple of groups. I mentioned Higher Heights before,
Speaker 3: which is a nonprofit that seeks to get more women
Speaker 3: of color, especially black women, in office. And there's also
Speaker 3: a group called She Should Lead that you can check
Speaker 3: out and really great because they have tips and like
Speaker 3: even like little course is on how you And I'm
Speaker 3: not talking about running for president, I mean like town
Speaker 3: you know, school boards, you know, like these like town councils,
Speaker 3: you know these these small, many democracies within our democracy
Speaker 3: where you know your voice can have an impact, and
Speaker 3: it starts with it starts at the community level. And yeah,
Speaker 3: I just hope this momentum keeps going, Tiff. I hope
Speaker 3: that I hope that we never forget how hard it
Speaker 3: took us to go back the other direction. Yeah, but
Speaker 3: I'm so so proud. I'm so proud. I've never been
Speaker 3: more proud to be American.
Speaker 1: And just know that there are people now who are
Speaker 1: what my friend needs to call punching potatoes in the garage.
Speaker 2: So he would always say that.
Speaker 1: I know it's going to sound crazy, but he would
Speaker 1: always say, like, if we went somewhere and you know,
Speaker 1: let's just say, you know, some guy was trying to
Speaker 1: flex or whatever, and I'd be like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: he's acting crazy.
Speaker 2: He's like, man, you know.
Speaker 1: What what I learned, He said, I'll leave people alone
Speaker 1: because you don't know who's been in the garage for
Speaker 1: the last ten years punch of potatoes, basically preparing for
Speaker 1: the day that you say something and they spaz out,
Speaker 1: and now they have all the strength. And so what
Speaker 1: I'm just saying is that there are those who are like, Okay,
Speaker 1: they're right now punching potatoes in the garage, waiting for
Speaker 1: four years to come out in full force. So we
Speaker 1: can't forget, and we can't slack, and we can't be lax.
Speaker 1: This is just the beginning. We were going to have
Speaker 1: to come out with full force because the potato punchers
Speaker 1: certainly will be.
Speaker 3: Absolutely and a lot of those potato punchers, I mean
Speaker 3: I never refer to them that way, but I'm related
Speaker 3: to a lot of them. Yeah, I you know, the
Speaker 3: holidays are coming up, and I think people are really
Speaker 3: grateful that they have an excuse not to be gathering
Speaker 3: with their families. Sad enough. Sad enough, I personally would
Speaker 3: not be looking forward to some of my relatives around
Speaker 3: the things doving table, but I am looking forward to
Speaker 3: the holidays in general. And I have to do a
Speaker 3: quick shout out to doctor Aimani Walker because she was
Speaker 3: a guest on our show recently and she's on a
Speaker 3: Bravo show called Nary To Medicine. But she's a whole
Speaker 3: ass like psychiatrist there. She's amazing. And her podcast is
Speaker 3: called The Moni State of Mind. This is not a
Speaker 3: paid ad, although they have paid us in the past
Speaker 3: to run ads for them, but this.
Speaker 2: Is a breby.
Speaker 3: This is a breeby. I was looking for something to
Speaker 3: listen to while I was like doing It was wash
Speaker 3: day yesterday, and I was like, nothing political. I just
Speaker 3: want something, you know, interesting, but like not gonna you
Speaker 3: know not, just give me a break from politics. And
Speaker 3: I turned on her podcast and it was so it's
Speaker 3: so funny. It's her and her good friend whose name
Speaker 3: I forget now, but it reminds me of you and I, Tiff,
Speaker 3: and they talk about mental health issues and the episode
Speaker 3: was about seasonal depression and like, how you know, but anyway,
Speaker 3: I got my I got such a chuckle out of
Speaker 3: listening to her talk about how excited she is for
Speaker 3: the holidays, and I am too, and I really look
Speaker 3: forward to finishing out twenty twenty. Like let's try to
Speaker 3: end on a high note, like wear your damn masks,
Speaker 3: don't forget COVID's out there. But I'm just ready for
Speaker 3: more joy joy Joy Joy.
Speaker 2: Also I'm like, I got the joy joy joy Joy.
Speaker 2: Danny in my heart said, it reminded me of that. Oh,
Speaker 2: I can't wait to sear my books with you later.
Speaker 2: But we'll get there.
Speaker 3: We'll get there. But before we do, let's take a
Speaker 3: quick break and we'll come back and answer some questions.
Speaker 3: Question try to keep it non political, but.
Speaker 4: Yes, so happy.
Speaker 3: All right, y'all, we are back, and once again, if
Speaker 3: you guys want to hit us up with your questions.
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Speaker 2: That's why I just came in today.
Speaker 1: It did.
Speaker 2: I cannot wait.
Speaker 1: Literally, like, I just went downstairs and I was like, ooh,
Speaker 1: a bag a swag.
Speaker 3: We need pictures right now? Yes, okay, but let's get
Speaker 3: into these dms and get some questions up. Our first
Speaker 3: question comes from a listener who wants to remain anonymous,
Speaker 3: but we'll just call her. We'll just call her Cynthia
Speaker 3: for now. Cynthia says, I'm a twenty five year old
Speaker 3: single woman who recently started her first job. My credit
Speaker 3: score is great, and I've been really good at saving
Speaker 3: throughout college. I have about forty thousand dollars in the
Speaker 3: stock market, and I'm wondering if I should pull it
Speaker 3: out and use that as my down payment for a house.
Speaker 3: In addition, what are your thoughts on whether I should
Speaker 3: move my money to a managed investment account? Thank you
Speaker 3: so much for the show. It has been a fundamental
Speaker 3: part of my financial journey.
Speaker 1: So to be clear, the stock market, but this is
Speaker 1: not her this is not her retirement account.
Speaker 3: She doesn't say. She says the stock market, which is
Speaker 3: my question, like, what do you mean a stock market?
Speaker 3: Do you have a four h one k? But first
Speaker 3: of all, forty k at twenty five? Can we just
Speaker 3: sclow a clap for that? That is really really impressive?
Speaker 3: And she's looking to get a house already single, twenty five,
Speaker 3: recently started her first job, already has forty K. So
Speaker 3: I'm wondering if this is like a brokerage account. But nevertheless,
Speaker 3: like a lot of young people, she's looking at housing
Speaker 3: market wondering if she should jump in, and then like
Speaker 3: how do I pay for it? So yeah, so I mean, Tiff,
Speaker 3: what do you think about dipping into your Some people
Speaker 3: actually will invest so they can do this.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's right, I'm not opposed. Now I'm gonna caveat, caveat, caveat,
Speaker 1: I'm going to assume that when you say stock market
Speaker 1: you mean, because to me, there are two core avenues
Speaker 1: for investing. There's investing for retirement. That's for your old
Speaker 1: lady self, Rwanda, that's what I call my old lady's self.
Speaker 1: And then there's investing for wealth. So investing for retirement
Speaker 1: is for future, you know, future life. Investing for wealth,
Speaker 1: to me, it's the purpose is to make your life
Speaker 1: better now, you know. So I'm going to assume that
Speaker 1: you are investing for retirement, and this is not your
Speaker 1: retirement money.
Speaker 2: That's what we're just going to assume.
Speaker 1: That being said, I have no problem pulling money out
Speaker 1: of the investing for wealth bucket, because that's the purpose.
Speaker 1: When my sister did this, remember the one that you
Speaker 1: guys have won on here all the time, She's like, no, girl,
Speaker 1: But so Carol when years ago, Carol she's an engineer,
Speaker 1: and she was like, oh my gosh, my gosh, this
Speaker 1: company Tesla YadA YadA, Tesla Tesla. I was like, girl,
Speaker 1: I don't know what those words mean. And she's like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, Teshlo, teslo, Tesla. I think she bought
Speaker 1: it for thirty dollars a damn share and she scraped
Speaker 1: together fifteen hundred dollars, which was like so much money
Speaker 1: that because she was so young. Because if I was
Speaker 1: like in my I am, I'm like five or six
Speaker 1: years old than Carol. So if I was in my
Speaker 1: late twenties, she was like in her mid to early twenties.
Speaker 1: So she scraped together fifteen hundred dollars because she believed
Speaker 1: in it so much. Just I guess as being an engineer,
Speaker 1: she had studied whatever. So she did that, and then
Speaker 1: years later she sold it. I didn't want to say
Speaker 1: maybe had three hundred dollars. She so by the time
Speaker 1: she sold it, she had gotten her return on the
Speaker 1: fifteen hundred was about thirty thousand dollars. Now that makes
Speaker 1: it. It wasn't her retirement. It wasn't she and she used it.
Speaker 1: She and her husband, her her boyfriend at the time.
Speaker 1: She convinced him buy some Tesla as well well, and
Speaker 1: then they used it.
Speaker 2: They sold it and used it to pay for their wedding.
Speaker 1: To me, there's nothing wrong with that necessarily, because it's
Speaker 1: it's not investing for your retirement. It's not money that
Speaker 1: you're setting aside for your future older self. To me,
Speaker 1: investing for wealth is to be used now and especially
Speaker 1: now if you have your ears to the screets like
Speaker 1: I did. Warren Buffett has stated many times that he
Speaker 1: feels that this stock market is so overpriced by like
Speaker 1: over one hundred percent, meaning that the stocks are inflated,
Speaker 1: which means that those genes that you're buying for one
Speaker 1: hundred dollars really are more so worth twenty five.
Speaker 2: And eventually the market's going to correct itself. So it actually.
Speaker 1: Wouldn't be the worst thing to pull some money out
Speaker 1: now and put it towards something that you know that
Speaker 1: this is really the.
Speaker 3: Value Tiffany's opinion, not financial advice.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, psich, you did not see me, see your grandma,
Speaker 1: so it is what.
Speaker 3: She would do, not when you have to do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I look too like but there's nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with you your money there either. But I just want
Speaker 1: you to know that I think a lot of people
Speaker 1: would think manly that I'd be like, no, leave it.
Speaker 1: Not the investing for wealth bucket. I think that it's
Speaker 1: it's there to be used kind of like for things
Speaker 1: like this if you if you find it it fits
Speaker 1: your your ultimate financial plans and goals.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wasn't sure what my answer was to this
Speaker 3: question until I'm sitting here listening to you and I
Speaker 3: agree with You're with what you're saying to if you definitely,
Speaker 3: you know, if that's your purpose, and you've got your
Speaker 3: and you're still young, right, so you got plenty of
Speaker 3: time to you know, keep contributing to your retirement account
Speaker 3: and all of that, and you know, ownership. Home ownership
Speaker 3: is a great way to build wealth too. It can
Speaker 3: be you know, depending on it's a it's a slow
Speaker 3: and steady kind of way to build wealth and equity
Speaker 3: in your home but away. Nevertheless, So what I would
Speaker 3: say is, if you're thinking about, you know, cashing out
Speaker 3: your entire account, and I don't know necessarily what percentage
Speaker 3: that could be for a down payment. Maybe it's ten percent,
Speaker 3: maybe it's twenty, I will say one of the things
Speaker 3: that I wish I had done differently about my home
Speaker 3: perch was not not put so much cash down because
Speaker 3: I think I just got caught up in doing things
Speaker 3: the right way and I wanted to put twenty percent
Speaker 3: down so I would avoid PMI. And that's how you
Speaker 3: you know, you you you, that's the financially responsible way
Speaker 3: to get a house. You don't need to do it
Speaker 3: that way. And in fact, if you look at you know,
Speaker 3: the potential you have to gain by keeping your money
Speaker 3: in the stock market versus the potential you have for
Speaker 3: your home to appreciate in value. You know, you on average,
Speaker 3: you know, over a decent time horizon like five to
Speaker 3: ten years or longer, you probably will earn more in
Speaker 3: the stock market then your home will increase in value.
Speaker 3: Unless you know, you're you happen to get in right
Speaker 3: when the market is down and you know, hot real
Speaker 3: estate market and then like I don't know, Trader Joe's
Speaker 3: comes into town and then stock prices jump or something
Speaker 3: like that. But I would just think, you know, if
Speaker 3: I could do things differently, I might have put less
Speaker 3: down and kept more cash in my investment account because
Speaker 3: I could have definitely qualified for a low down payment mortgage.
Speaker 3: There was all kinds of you know, first time home
Speaker 3: buyer programs and you know loans out there. I could
Speaker 3: have gotten to keep more of my cash on hand
Speaker 3: for emergencies but also for stock market investing for the
Speaker 3: renovation that we did, you know all that. So that's
Speaker 3: all I would add to that. But I just think
Speaker 3: kudos for having forty K at all it took me
Speaker 3: a long time to get there, and I was not
Speaker 3: twenty five. I think I opened my four rowin k
Speaker 3: when I was twenty four, So yeah, yes, I.
Speaker 2: Actually I was there, but I didn't have the money investor.
Speaker 1: I think at twenty five, this is like before I'd
Speaker 1: mess up all my money. So it was like, you know,
Speaker 1: it's like basically, it's like I had I had a
Speaker 1: brand new car before I crashed it, because almost everyone
Speaker 1: crashes their first car in some way, shape or form. No,
Speaker 1: but as many said, kudos to you, but you know,
Speaker 1: make sure that we're not talking about your retirement account,
Speaker 1: because that's just a different animal. We really want you
Speaker 1: to set aside for your future, old Lady South.
Speaker 3: Yes, ma'am. All right, well, thank you very much for
Speaker 3: your question, and thanks for listening to the show Man.
Speaker 3: If you started listening five years ago, you were nineteen,
Speaker 3: that makes me so babies list Okay, okay, let's take
Speaker 3: another question. Question all this one made me a little
Speaker 3: bit sad. But I feel like a lot of folks, unfortunately,
Speaker 3: especially women who listen to our show me, may identify
Speaker 3: with the circumstances here and the feeling that this listener
Speaker 3: has we'll keep her anonymous. We'll call her. What's a name,
Speaker 3: tiff An. You think of a name, Sandra, We'll call
Speaker 3: her Sandra. Okay, Sandra says, yesterday, I was fired from
Speaker 3: my new job. I only worked there two full weeks.
Speaker 3: When I started working there, I was met with so
Speaker 3: much hate from the white women at this law firm
Speaker 3: like I have never seen before, like evilness. I feel
Speaker 3: like this election made them want to retaliate towards any
Speaker 3: black person around aka me. I've been a paralegal for
Speaker 3: fourteen years. The good news is that I've been listening
Speaker 3: to your podcast for years and have made it my
Speaker 3: business to save my money. So I have my expenses
Speaker 3: covered for the next few months. Do you know anywhere
Speaker 3: I can go and work as a blame black woman
Speaker 3: and feel safe and not attacked for being black. I
Speaker 3: live in Saint Louis, Missouri. I don't know if you'll
Speaker 3: see this, but maybe you will. Thank you, Oh Saint Louis,
Speaker 3: not that you said. I know this sounds kind of random,
Speaker 3: but I have a friend Christina, which don't laugh. Her
Speaker 3: name is Christina Aguilera.
Speaker 1: Are now wait Forristina y or sing Christina with a
Speaker 1: K but Christina's in her twenties. Oh she might have
Speaker 1: just turned thirty. But she is amazing. She is like
Speaker 1: almost single handedly buying up Saint Louis. This is where
Speaker 1: she's from, and she is turning some of these depressed
Speaker 1: neighborhoods with dilapidated houses. She is buying them, she is
Speaker 1: flipping them, and then she's making them beautiful, affordable homes
Speaker 1: for people.
Speaker 2: So she's amazing.
Speaker 1: So I wonder if you shot me an email. Just
Speaker 1: go to the budget lista dot com and click contact.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna hit Christina up.
Speaker 2: You never know. You know, she's in Saint Louis and
Speaker 2: you're paralegal. She's in real estate.
Speaker 1: So and she's honestly one of these people that wants
Speaker 1: to see other women, especially when so there might be
Speaker 1: something there. But also too, I have my attorney. Her
Speaker 1: name is Tony. She's amazing, amazing, amazing. Tony went to
Speaker 1: an Ivy League school and then I think she has
Speaker 1: her doctorate.
Speaker 2: She's just amazing, but it also might just help. She's
Speaker 2: also really kind.
Speaker 1: I'm already putting Tony out there, but maybe just helping
Speaker 1: to chat with someone about who's in that field, about
Speaker 1: you know, what are some options. I don't know that
Speaker 1: Tony herself is looking for someone, but she might she
Speaker 1: might know in that field. You know what a friend
Speaker 1: of mine is looking for someone. So I would say, Sondra,
Speaker 1: you've already taken the first core step, which is to
Speaker 1: ask for help, because you just don't know who people
Speaker 1: know or what opportunities are out there. But if you
Speaker 1: hit me up at budgetista dot com, you just click
Speaker 1: the contact me button, I will at the very least
Speaker 1: connect you with those two women, and you never know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, this is there's a couple different questions here.
Speaker 3: I feel like that aren't being but you know that
Speaker 3: are just wrapped up in this, which is like, oh shit,
Speaker 3: I had a job for two weeks and I was
Speaker 3: let go. You know, how do I position myself for
Speaker 3: the next opportunity? You know, do I put this on
Speaker 3: my resume? What if they call for ask for a reference, whatnot.
Speaker 3: But you've been working, you said, for fourteen years, so
Speaker 3: I imagine you've got good references on your file. I
Speaker 3: would say, you know, I'm not in the legal field,
Speaker 3: but if anyone listening knows anyone in the Saint Louis
Speaker 3: area looking for a par of legal services, and I
Speaker 3: bet even beyond Saint Louis because COVID times right, everyone's
Speaker 3: working for home. So if anybody needs paralegal services and
Speaker 3: want to give us, you know, shout us out, send
Speaker 3: us a note on Insta or at our email. You know,
Speaker 3: maybe we can connect you to Sandra or at least
Speaker 3: I love how you're we're using a fake name and
Speaker 3: we're both pronouncing it differently. You're Sandra Ira anyway anyway.
Speaker 3: And also just like the point, you know, how to
Speaker 3: working in a place where you don't feel welcome as
Speaker 3: a black woman, as a black woman, and do we
Speaker 3: know anywhere she could work where she doesn't have to
Speaker 3: feel this way? It's it's it's difficult. I think I've
Speaker 3: said on the show before, especially after this summer, I
Speaker 3: kind of made a commitment to myself. I wasn't going
Speaker 3: to work for another company as long as I had
Speaker 3: a choice that made me feel like inclusion was an
Speaker 3: afterthought or something that was just on paper but not
Speaker 3: in action. But it is a good question, like how
Speaker 3: do you know if the place you're working for is
Speaker 3: going to be friendly to you or where you're feel
Speaker 3: comfortable if you're a person of color, from a different background,
Speaker 3: or different sexuality or whatnot. And I would say you
Speaker 3: might have to be proactive because not every and not
Speaker 3: all companies are big, right, so not every employer is
Speaker 3: going to go out of their way to introduce you
Speaker 3: to other colleagues, to introduce you to folks you might
Speaker 3: be on your team if you were to be hired
Speaker 3: to have you talk to someone in HR who can
Speaker 3: answer questions about inclusivity. But you can ask for those
Speaker 3: things yourself, and that may that may help get you
Speaker 3: at least, you know, if you can't go physically in
Speaker 3: the building these days, if you are able to zoom
Speaker 3: some folks and you know, ask them about their experiences
Speaker 3: and kind of get a sense of do I want
Speaker 3: to work with these types of people? And that's no
Speaker 3: a fool proof plan. And I'm I.
Speaker 1: Certainly looked to see. And I was just talking to
Speaker 1: one of my sisters today. She used to work for
Speaker 1: this big company that we won't name, and she was
Speaker 1: mistreated really badly.
Speaker 3: To say, whenever you say that, people are like, I
Speaker 3: think it's Chase. I think it's I'm like, it's.
Speaker 2: Not, it's not Chase.
Speaker 1: But you're in I'll just say that. So, so yeah,
Speaker 1: she left, like this is Tracy who is now my
Speaker 1: bomb ass publicist who has beginning me on everything that
Speaker 1: you can think of. So she was mistreated by her
Speaker 1: her direct supervisor, like really bad, so much so she
Speaker 1: developed anxiety. It just was really really bad and they
Speaker 1: did nothing to protect her. She actually was we were
Speaker 1: talking today. She was just telling me that she went
Speaker 1: out to lunch with some of her old colleagues and
Speaker 1: they were saying how so many of them wanted to
Speaker 1: be in different roles or positions but went out to
Speaker 1: get a specific type of degree an NBA, but they
Speaker 1: didn't know that the roller the positions that they were
Speaker 1: looking for required a different type of higher level education.
Speaker 1: And if you've looked in those roles, there's no black
Speaker 1: people in those roles. And I just I think that
Speaker 1: that's something to take note of that if you're working
Speaker 1: for a place and you think to yourself, in ten years,
Speaker 1: in five years, I'd like to be dot dot dot,
Speaker 1: but there's no one that looks like you in that role.
Speaker 1: And it's not a small company. I could see if
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, under twenty people, under thirty people,
Speaker 1: but even then but there's no one in a company
Speaker 1: of hundreds of people in that role. Girl, run run
Speaker 1: as fast as you can. They're not interested in developing
Speaker 1: black and brown talent in that arena. You can't tell
Speaker 1: me that there's not a plethora of talented people.
Speaker 2: Of course there are, and.
Speaker 3: You can two. I have done this just for just
Speaker 3: to see, you know, let me see this company, and
Speaker 3: let's see who works there, and let's just do a
Speaker 3: quick scroll through profile picks exactly, or company websites where
Speaker 3: you can see who's on the board, who's at the
Speaker 3: C level, who's at the entry level.
Speaker 1: And sometimes it's just it's just and these companies. You
Speaker 1: know what's so crazy to me that this it's this
Speaker 1: is an old kind of legacy company and I suspect
Speaker 1: it'll be floundering soon because they have just not moved
Speaker 1: with the times and they're just not connecting in the
Speaker 1: way that they used to. And when their current clientele
Speaker 1: dies off, I don't know what they're going to do
Speaker 1: because young people ain't with it and they have.
Speaker 2: Refused to pivot, and so they lose.
Speaker 1: Just like the supervisor that that pushed her out, they
Speaker 1: are now pushing that woman out I'm like, look, how good.
Speaker 2: Works, don't you.
Speaker 3: Don't y'all keep your eye on your employers sometimes just
Speaker 3: to see how things. We all have those excess but like, yes,
Speaker 3: I see someone else left after me, Like, oh I
Speaker 3: saw went down.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it's funny how that worked out.
Speaker 1: So so it's it's it's even though it's terrible that
Speaker 1: you know, you felt pushed out, it's better for your
Speaker 1: mental emotional well being to find a place. And you know,
Speaker 1: we put the we put the APB out there.
Speaker 2: Reach out to me.
Speaker 1: Hopefully a b a listener might have a lead for you.
Speaker 1: But you've you've done the right thing, which is to
Speaker 1: open your mouth and ask for help.
Speaker 3: I love it all right, thank y'all so much for
Speaker 3: your questions. Don't mind the worrying behind me. That is
Speaker 3: a hot water heater that I hope will stop replenishing
Speaker 3: very soon.
Speaker 1: Yes, and now it's time to boost or break or
Speaker 1: boost or break or boost a break.
Speaker 2: I want to do a boosty breaky what about you, mandra.
Speaker 3: I am going to do a boost, but you can
Speaker 3: go first, because you said you were so excited.
Speaker 1: Yeah, start with a break, just because it's kind of
Speaker 1: like the audacity So someone wrote me today on Instagram.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say your name because you know, I
Speaker 1: don't want you to get dragged. She like, this is
Speaker 1: someone who's been messaging me like, oh my god, I
Speaker 1: love your message, you know, like just hitting on Instagram
Speaker 1: here and there. So she wrote me today, Hello there,
Speaker 1: I just want you to I know that I needed
Speaker 1: a breakthrough on how I looked at money. I was
Speaker 1: finally able to see it when I heard you.
Speaker 2: Oh so nice.
Speaker 1: But I want to be honest, I have a hard
Speaker 1: time following the black lingo you use lowercase B once.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, listen with her, keep going.
Speaker 1: If you speak plain English, I can follow you. You
Speaker 1: not yo, you just the letter you because you're no
Speaker 1: black lingo and understand you fifty percent of the time.
Speaker 1: I have no idea what you are saying as it
Speaker 1: is black slang.
Speaker 2: Girl. When I say to the audacity of Caucastidy, you
Speaker 2: know what I did. I said, black, you gonna have
Speaker 2: to get your break through someplace else, not here.
Speaker 3: You got lots of other options who do speak your language.
Speaker 4: Child.
Speaker 1: Yes, I mean, first of all, I I mean obviously, yes,
Speaker 1: I'm black. I don't I mean I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't.
Speaker 1: Even if I felt feel like I used a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of black slang and lingos, so what.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like I necessarily do. Certainly do. I
Speaker 2: throw it in here and there.
Speaker 1: But honestly, ma'am, I speak English obviously, because you got
Speaker 1: your breakthrough, okay, and now your breakthrough has been blocked.
Speaker 1: I just don't know what someone thought that you could
Speaker 1: reach out to ask me to change, to accommodate you,
Speaker 1: to accommodate you, as if you were my mother, my
Speaker 1: sister and my cousin, and even if you were the
Speaker 1: only person that I would change to accommodate, would be
Speaker 1: like a potential baby, because you don't have no choice.
Speaker 2: Girl, you tried it.
Speaker 1: I was roller, so you don't have to share it
Speaker 1: with In the group chat, we were flaming her.
Speaker 2: We were all just rolling.
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, she's gonna have to get her breakthrough
Speaker 1: from somebody else.
Speaker 2: And someone was.
Speaker 1: Like, if you don't understand, it's not for you. So
Speaker 1: it was just yeah, it was honest. I wasn't even
Speaker 1: I was more like mouth open, like.
Speaker 2: Oh, she tried it.
Speaker 1: I know she's gonna be like wait, am, I am,
Speaker 1: I blocked, you are I don't even know if she
Speaker 1: listened to.
Speaker 3: Like a Russian boy like that. I'm just like, I'm
Speaker 3: just joking, but that the it's hard for me to compute.
Speaker 3: And I've seen, you know, I know that there's crazy
Speaker 3: you know ships that on the internet. People feel real
Speaker 3: safe out there in the internet streets. But I am shocked.
Speaker 3: I'm genuinely like she really went out of her way.
Speaker 3: And she thought she was like being polite.
Speaker 1: She could tell a girl, you are so amazing, but girl,
Speaker 1: when you saw like a black girl, I'm.
Speaker 3: Surprised to talk to your manager so she could I know,
Speaker 3: not too bad, that's my CEO.
Speaker 1: So that is my break but whatever, that's a light break,
Speaker 1: my boost is I So remember last time I was
Speaker 1: having like a breakdown because I just was so overwhelmed,
Speaker 1: and I said, it's good things. But which time, I
Speaker 1: don't I know exactly, but just so many cookies, so
Speaker 1: many puppies, so many kick cookies.
Speaker 3: Oh my bad, that was that was weird, new mom,
Speaker 3: go ahead, right, and.
Speaker 1: So I and I remember I said that there was
Speaker 1: a woman that that emailed me a little while ago
Speaker 1: who said that she could help me to find a
Speaker 1: account a therapist, right, and so I could not remember
Speaker 1: her name. And then a brown Ambish and listener actually
Speaker 1: reached out to me and said, hey, Tiffany, you know,
Speaker 1: I know you were looking for someone. I heard you
Speaker 1: on the podcast and I'm not sure who she was,
Speaker 1: but my friend Stephanie, she's amazing and this is you know,
Speaker 1: she can help you. And I was like okay, And
Speaker 1: then I went to Stephanie's website. It was the same
Speaker 1: woman that had reached out to me like a month ago,
Speaker 1: and I was like, so it was just I just
Speaker 1: felt like it wasn't a coincidence, you know. So Stephanie
Speaker 1: and I had a call on Friday, and I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I was exhausted and I usually take my
Speaker 1: Fridays off and I just did not feel like speaking
Speaker 1: with anyone. I was like, why did I plan this
Speaker 1: on Friday?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: And so what I did was we had a call
Speaker 1: and I'm not gonna lie. It was amazing because one
Speaker 1: Stephanie herself is a therapist, and she started her company
Speaker 1: because she found that so many people they you know,
Speaker 1: that they they were misaligned with their therapists, Like are
Speaker 1: you sure that you need a therapist. Are you sure
Speaker 1: it's not a life coach or a psychiatrist or something else.
Speaker 1: And because she's a therapist herself, and she and the
Speaker 1: woman who actually wrote me thank you, shout out to you,
Speaker 1: miss Patterson. I won't say your first thing just in
Speaker 1: case she don't want people to know, but miss Patterson,
Speaker 1: gird you have all the letters after your name.
Speaker 2: Ed, ED, D, R, n C and Okay, I loved it.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I love smart bron women shed.
Speaker 1: Exactly. So she said, you know, she's like, you know,
Speaker 1: my girl Stephanie would. So I had the call with
Speaker 1: her and she was amazing. Definitely has her master's I'm
Speaker 1: not sure and I'm assuming in psychology or psychiatry or
Speaker 1: or whatever.
Speaker 2: So we we spoke for.
Speaker 1: About an hour and the purpose it was basically a session,
Speaker 1: but it was a session to see what I needed
Speaker 1: and after like, you know, talking through At first, she
Speaker 1: was like, let you know some you know, just from
Speaker 1: hearing you Tippy. At first, I'm thinking, is this a
Speaker 1: life coach that you need? But as I spoke a
Speaker 1: little bit more, She's like, Nope, I see the need
Speaker 1: for some therapy here.
Speaker 2: And I told her.
Speaker 1: You know, one of the things that was holding me
Speaker 1: back is that I know it's going to take time
Speaker 1: to weed through and find people. I just have been
Speaker 1: too overwhelmed to do so. And she's like, no, that's
Speaker 1: why I'm here. I'm going to take stock of all.
Speaker 1: She asked me a bunch of questions and we talked,
Speaker 1: and she said, I'm going to take stock of all
Speaker 1: that you're saying.
Speaker 2: I am going to vet.
Speaker 1: She's like, I have a huge network, and she uses
Speaker 1: some other online channels and then she's gonna whittle it
Speaker 1: down to about two to four typically three that you
Speaker 1: know that she's after reaching out to folks, and she's
Speaker 1: gonna want me to have like fifteen minute conversations with
Speaker 1: the two to four and then rate them, and then
Speaker 1: she and I will talk again and really pick the
Speaker 1: one that I think will be the best fit. She
Speaker 1: encourages her clients speak with have at least three sessions
Speaker 1: before saying it's not a fit, and then as you
Speaker 1: find that, you know it wasn't and we start the
Speaker 1: process again. But she herself was amazing.
Speaker 4: Girl.
Speaker 5: I was boohooing, Okay, yes, it was just like, yes,
Speaker 5: it was.
Speaker 2: Either.
Speaker 1: So her company is called navvy psyche so na b
Speaker 1: I P S y c H navvy psych and but
Speaker 1: she just her demeanor was just exactly what I needed.
Speaker 2: I felt heard, I felt seen, and.
Speaker 1: There were some things that I really like unlocked that
Speaker 1: I realized that like trauma, things that were I thought
Speaker 1: to myself, maybe one of the reasons that I've been
Speaker 1: feeling like out of touch with the success that's happening
Speaker 1: is because maybe it's just coming on too fast, too furious,
Speaker 1: and that's really just not it that I have built
Speaker 1: this trauma response that I've been living in this space
Speaker 1: for a long time because I don't allow myself to
Speaker 1: go too high or too low even before Budgetista, and
Speaker 1: it's because the I'm scared of how low the low is,
Speaker 1: and so I never get to experience how high the
Speaker 1: high is because it's just trauma response from things that
Speaker 1: I came up with. And I learned not to go
Speaker 1: too too happy. No no, no no, don't get too excited,
Speaker 1: because also too no no, no no, don't get too sad.
Speaker 1: So I have learned to live in the middle, which
Speaker 1: was helpful during those traumatic times, but it's enabling me
Speaker 1: from feeling the fullness of joy, because life honestly has
Speaker 1: never been better, not just on paper but in real life.
Speaker 1: Like my husband is awesome and amazing and so supportive.
Speaker 1: I've never been closer with my sisters. My parents and
Speaker 1: I were never super duper close, but now we're so
Speaker 1: much better. My niece and my nephew lived down the street,
Speaker 1: and that's like the light and highlight of my life.
Speaker 1: And I just things are good. And then I'm obviously
Speaker 1: professionally y'all know things are good, but like personally too,
Speaker 1: like I've gotten rid of all of the toxic relationships.
Speaker 1: I don't have any toxic friends anymore. They're all gone.
Speaker 1: And so the fact that I've not been able to
Speaker 1: feel it, I kin it to losing your sense of
Speaker 1: taste and smell. I know that life right now is delicious,
Speaker 1: and I can't taste it.
Speaker 2: I can see it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know this stays so good, but I
Speaker 1: can't taste it. And she said, mm hm, that's a
Speaker 1: trauma response that you taught yourself, and that's okay.
Speaker 2: She's like, someone can help you unlearn it.
Speaker 1: You know, when I it really clicked for me, Mandy,
Speaker 1: when we had the our Rich Journey people on Christina
Speaker 1: and aman So the level of joy in their voice.
Speaker 2: I thought, oh, maybe that's because I'm just working two
Speaker 2: hard as a bunch. He said, no, it wasn't.
Speaker 1: Something about them triggered me because I said, what's the
Speaker 1: last time you felt that level of joy even though
Speaker 1: joyful things are happening, Tiffany, and I realized, what is
Speaker 1: the last time I felt that like level of joy
Speaker 1: even though joyful things are happening. And that's when I
Speaker 1: realized something else is amiss. And so yeah, so I'm
Speaker 1: just excited because I cannot wait. I don't want to
Speaker 1: wait ten years. And it wasn't always like this. I
Speaker 1: have built up this resistance to feeling over time. The
Speaker 1: only time I don't kind of feel like this is
Speaker 1: that's why I see my niece and my nephew so often,
Speaker 1: because it's like the one time.
Speaker 2: That my guard is down.
Speaker 1: And I because she said, because kids have a way
Speaker 1: of disarming all of your foolishness.
Speaker 2: They're like, girl, I don't want to hear that play
Speaker 2: with me.
Speaker 1: You are Daniel Tiger and I am whatever the owl's
Speaker 1: name is, you know. And so that's one of the
Speaker 1: few times I'm in the moment feeling the joy. That's
Speaker 1: why I see them like darnier every day. I feel like,
Speaker 1: but yeah, it was just I feel so good about it.
Speaker 1: I I told her, I don't have any hang ups
Speaker 1: about therapy. I had a therapist in college, and I
Speaker 1: think it's healthy and great. I just I wasn't putting
Speaker 1: myself first as far as, like you know, making the
Speaker 1: time to find someone.
Speaker 2: And so now I'm excited that I'm.
Speaker 1: Getting help, and I'm just so excited about it because
Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, yes, I want to taste the food
Speaker 1: that's before me.
Speaker 2: I don't want to be eighty years old like ito.
Speaker 1: I used to be in the best food and I
Speaker 1: never got a chance to really taste it.
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm so happy for you because this is everything
Speaker 3: being able and this is something and it's not just
Speaker 3: you either. A lot of people struggle with gratitude in
Speaker 3: the moment and feeling the success and feeling like you
Speaker 3: have permission to be happy, and it's like you've earned
Speaker 3: right to be happy and to really enjoy the fruits
Speaker 3: of your labor. And I'm so proud of you.
Speaker 2: Finally she got up there.
Speaker 1: I'm so honestly just thank y'all be it because it wasn't.
Speaker 1: If it wasn't for Ms Patterson that sent me that
Speaker 1: like email, and then Stephanie who reached up prior to that,
Speaker 1: I don't I don't know that I would have made
Speaker 1: the leap because it just seemed so daunting to find
Speaker 1: somebody on my own. I just already felt like I
Speaker 1: was drowning. So just I feel so excited because honestly too,
Speaker 1: because these I'm still I have one more last hurrah
Speaker 1: with IVF and I'm not gonna lie. This round of
Speaker 1: medicines they have me on is a doozy. I mean,
Speaker 1: I was jumping for joy for the election and then
Speaker 1: I burst into tears and.
Speaker 2: I'm like, why are you crying? Is just joyful tears.
Speaker 2: They weren't hormones, And the poor Superman was looking at
Speaker 2: me and he was like, you just took your shot,
Speaker 2: didn't you. And I was like, oh, I did that.
Speaker 3: When I give you a hug, he did, Would.
Speaker 2: I tell you these hormones?
Speaker 1: I was like, because literally I was like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know, I'm crying. He was like, Babe, like I'm yeah,
Speaker 1: these hormones, Oh my gosh. So that definitely like what
Speaker 1: I liked about Stephanie two said she's going to look
Speaker 1: for therapists that have women that they've worked with that
Speaker 1: are gone through the IVF process. She said, because honestly, Tiffany,
Speaker 1: that plays a role in how you feel obviously too,
Speaker 1: So I want someone that's going to help you descend it,
Speaker 1: discern like you know, what's actually your feeling versus what's
Speaker 1: being triggered by the increased amount of hormones in your
Speaker 1: body as a result of IVF.
Speaker 2: So it was just, yes, manager, thank.
Speaker 1: You so much for like cause you put that battery
Speaker 1: in my back and I was like, I'm going to
Speaker 1: reach out and ask for help, and now I'm getting it,
Speaker 1: getting it.
Speaker 3: I mean, I knew when you weren't happy because you
Speaker 3: were on GMA. I was like, it's about time, Tiffany.
Speaker 3: If you're not going to enjoy these gifts, can I
Speaker 3: have something? No, I'm kidding, and I agree. I think
Speaker 3: for me the past year and the reason. So it's
Speaker 3: like you're somewhere in between, like Tiffany, you know, in
Speaker 3: the middle and like Mandy running in the streets with joy,
Speaker 3: Like somewhere in the middle is rancer a good place
Speaker 3: to be is but that level of joy that I
Speaker 3: literally dance and I felt so invigorated ever since I
Speaker 3: got back to work since maternity leave. And I don't
Speaker 3: think it was I think I'm ready to acknowledge that
Speaker 3: it's been having like it's been the baby, and it's
Speaker 3: been therapy, and it's been just all of these things
Speaker 3: kind of this confluence of events. And you're so right
Speaker 3: about you know, children and whether you know it's your
Speaker 3: an auntie or an uncle or a god a godmother
Speaker 3: or a godfather or cousin, whatever, children really do like
Speaker 3: I do feel like my capacity for joy and my
Speaker 3: willingness to show it because it makes you vulnerable, like
Speaker 3: right like when I was little, I never used to
Speaker 3: smile people who meet me or see me on social media.
Speaker 3: Now I legit have gotten messages from people like who
Speaker 3: is this person? I thought, like, you're not the person
Speaker 3: I knew in high school or and you know it
Speaker 3: will really in college, I started opening up. But it's
Speaker 3: it's a willingness to be vulnerab and it's and it's
Speaker 3: something that I really had to It's a muscle I've
Speaker 3: had to flex and flex and flex. It's like I
Speaker 3: will now go into an empty dance floor and dance
Speaker 3: mostly without needing alcohol to lubricate my my confidence. Ask
Speaker 3: anyone who came to my cousin's wedding two years ago anyway,
Speaker 3: but anyway, and I mean, I'm there and I think
Speaker 3: there's no time to waste. We need to like latch
Speaker 3: onto the joy. And I'm so happy for you because
Speaker 3: you deserve to feel it, you deserve.
Speaker 2: To taste it. Yes, I cannot wait. I'm just like, yeah, so.
Speaker 3: And even just doing it, it sounds like you sound lighter already,
Speaker 3: like I do.
Speaker 2: I feel it? Because I didn't know what was wrong.
Speaker 2: I was like, am I doing something wrong? Do I
Speaker 2: not like the buttonista? Do I?
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm like, I don't think that's it, because
Speaker 1: I don't feel unhappy.
Speaker 2: I just feel like, oh this is this food is great?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, like because I mean, honestly, I things would
Speaker 1: happened and people would say like, aren't you upset by that?
Speaker 1: Like the last IVF cycle it didn't go well, And
Speaker 1: I was explaining it to a front and she said,
Speaker 1: you're talking about like a math problem.
Speaker 2: Like it's okay to be sad tifany I was like, well,
Speaker 2: you know, it happens.
Speaker 1: She's like yeah, but and so that's what it clicked too,
Speaker 1: because I'm like, hmm, your lows are not really low,
Speaker 1: which it's okay for them for you to be upset,
Speaker 1: but your highs are not really high.
Speaker 2: What's going on? Tifny, Like you know you're there's.
Speaker 1: Something happening here where you you should legitimately be sad.
Speaker 1: It's okay to be sad and disappointed, and you're not.
Speaker 1: It's not not even that I'm not just saying it,
Speaker 1: I'm not feeling it, you know. And so like I said,
Speaker 1: she's like, that's protective. That's something you learn to do,
Speaker 1: and you have to learn a new way because you're
Speaker 1: not that little girl anymore that you know where you
Speaker 1: created that system for yourself. So for those of you
Speaker 1: who are listening for certain, for certain, for certain, if
Speaker 1: you're you know, like it's hard to like, I mean,
Speaker 1: there are there's is it?
Speaker 2: Black girl? What is the if you're looking for a
Speaker 2: black therapist therapy for black girls? Mm hmm, the therapy
Speaker 2: for black girls.
Speaker 1: But also too, like I said, nav navvy psych if
Speaker 1: you're if you're just like I don't even know where
Speaker 1: to start, and I want to pay someone to help.
Speaker 1: We do the therapist cycle for me. Stephanie, like I said,
Speaker 1: she herself was a therapist and was just absolutely amazing.
Speaker 1: I wanted to be like, are you gonna be my therapist?
Speaker 1: I can tell she was like, girl, don't get attached,
Speaker 1: nap and I'm here.
Speaker 2: I'm going to direct you. But yeah, so what about you?
Speaker 3: What is your boostie? Oh lord, I forgot all about that.
Speaker 3: We were in this segment. I need to have a boost.
Speaker 3: I do have a boost, It's on paper. Let me
Speaker 3: get my handy dandy notebook. Oh I don't need it
Speaker 3: because I remember ninety one. Well, first of all, black
Speaker 3: women is my boost? Just black women in general. I
Speaker 3: am so proud of us US us US. I talked
Speaker 3: about every relative, you know, badgery relatives to vote in Georgia.
Speaker 3: Every last one of them that I talked to was
Speaker 3: a black woman. My cousins and my aunt. My dad,
Speaker 3: on the other hand, tried to get to the great uncles,
Speaker 3: great uncles who are so cynical and listen, they have
Speaker 3: every right to be. They grew up in a very
Speaker 3: different Atlanta than the one that we have today. But anyway,
Speaker 3: the black men and my family were just just not
Speaker 3: as likely not as receptive to the call to action,
Speaker 3: but black women have so. I mean, but it's not
Speaker 3: just this election cycle. For generations, for decades, black women
Speaker 3: have been there fighting even before we had the right
Speaker 3: to vote, still fighting for it, even though we didn't
Speaker 3: get it first. It was all women first, White women first,
Speaker 3: and then you know, black women later. But I just
Speaker 3: wanted to shout us out. Ninety one percent, no other
Speaker 3: demographic voted more in the direction of Biden and Kamala
Speaker 3: Harris than black women beat black men. I mean, I
Speaker 3: can go down the line. Although black men were right
Speaker 3: behind black women. I know people are making a lot
Speaker 3: out of the fact that there was an increase in
Speaker 3: black men who voted for Trump, but they still were
Speaker 3: the second most likely. Black people in general, by and large,
Speaker 3: saved Joe Biden this election. And I can say that
Speaker 3: with my full chest because we see the numbers and
Speaker 3: this sliver tiny margins in these cities. So ninety one
Speaker 3: percent of Black women, thank you, thank you, thank you,
Speaker 3: And we actually see someone who looks like us in
Speaker 3: the White House. And those seeing Kamala on that stage
Speaker 3: when she gave her acceptance speech with her family and
Speaker 3: her nieces. Oh my God with the little cute white
Speaker 3: dresses and the white the little like poofs in their hair,
Speaker 3: it matters. And I just thank all of y'all, and
Speaker 3: I'll keep it short and sweet because I this is
Speaker 3: I just feel like I've been talking NonStop. But thank you,
Speaker 3: thank you, thank you, thank you, and thank you Tiffany,
Speaker 3: And I'm so grateful for this show and for every
Speaker 3: for every woman black woman out there who has been
Speaker 3: fighting where I think we're finally getting the recognition that
Speaker 3: we deserve and I'm glad to be here for it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, I just it does feel really good. And to
Speaker 1: be called out on the on the national stage. You know,
Speaker 1: normally they would just not do that. You would do
Speaker 1: all of this and you wouldn't be recognizing right to
Speaker 1: be seen, to be heard. And now it's time for
Speaker 1: game time. I saw that Petresa, the co founder of
Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter, I think via the New York Times,
Speaker 1: has penned the letter or Washington Post pen the letter
Speaker 1: to you know, President elect Joe Biden to say, Okay,
Speaker 1: we helped you get here.
Speaker 2: Here's what we're wanting.
Speaker 3: Yes, here's our commands, and you've got to hold them
Speaker 3: accountable from it. Just Joe Biden. Every look up who
Speaker 3: represents you in Congress. They check their email, they read
Speaker 3: their mail. You need to contact your elected officials and
Speaker 3: vote for them. We need to come collect on what
Speaker 3: we were. You know why we voted for them.
Speaker 1: Because here's the thing, they are now very very clear
Speaker 1: that we play an active role in who who puts
Speaker 1: butts in seats? And so you know, it's been on
Speaker 1: a world stage now where they're like, oh, this is
Speaker 1: no longer. Oh we don't have to no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: you do you do or you know, no one says
Speaker 1: we have to continue to vote in this and vote
Speaker 1: block in this way.
Speaker 3: Yep, amen to that, and thank you to Black Lives
Speaker 3: Matter and just black magic everywhere. I'm so you had
Speaker 3: us going, You had us going real good. We were
Speaker 3: real we were real stressed. We didn't know what else
Speaker 3: was going to end, but we ended up being our
Speaker 3: own heroes in the end. And yes, that's what I
Speaker 3: love about it. Again, you didn't have to wear a
Speaker 3: cape or you know, be you just you just had
Speaker 3: to vote, and we just got to keep voting. I'll
Speaker 3: never I'll never ever ever forget the past four years.
Speaker 3: I just it's It's burned into my into my DNA,
Speaker 3: and I hope it will just be inherited by every
Speaker 3: if I'm lucky enough to have more offspring. But just
Speaker 3: like Rio and all of his descendants, I hope that
Speaker 3: they remember the same way I will.
Speaker 2: Yeah, remember remember, I'm not gonna lie. It's like.
Speaker 3: And thank you, James Weird. I just whatever, Thanks y'all
Speaker 3: for listening.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love y'all.
Speaker 3: See y'all next week without my notepad, maybe