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Speaker 3: I'm also very glad you asked that question, Tiffany. Yes,

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Speaker 2: Happy Birthday. It just does not appropriate.

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Speaker 3: If I knew, if I knew a Happy New Year's song,

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Speaker 3: bottles popping and confetti. Yes, Happy new Year, Tiffany.

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Speaker 1: I know, happy return Democracy, Mandra Hey, Hey, hey, so

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Speaker 3: You know what, in five years of doing this show,

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Speaker 3: tiff I've never once been nervous until today.

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Speaker 2: Why am I nervous to talk to you. I don't

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Speaker 3: It's not like we you know we do. I love

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, what how about you tell me? Let's

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Speaker 3: She a nasty woman. When they say nasty women, this

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Speaker 3: these you know, these two races in Georgia. But if

435
00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:30,200
Speaker 3: you know anybody, that's my alarm. I have to wake

436
00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:32,679
Speaker 3: up the baby from his late nap and he's going

437
00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:36,520
Speaker 3: to be super annoyed by me. But uh, that's fine, anyway.

438
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:39,679
Speaker 3: I just Georgia, Georgia, Georgia, and this is this is

439
00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 3: really serious, and I am My cousins are already tired

440
00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:46,480
Speaker 3: of me, but I don't care because I it's too

441
00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:50,560
Speaker 3: too important and woof anyway, all right, now you talk,

442
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:53,480
Speaker 3: how did you celebrate? Did you celebrate? Were you in

443
00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:56,480
Speaker 3: them streets without it, with the mask but not social distancing?

444
00:20:56,760 --> 00:20:58,280
Speaker 1: No, I was it because I was just I'm not

445
00:20:58,359 --> 00:21:01,960
Speaker 1: really one for crowds, but I just celebrated, just honestly.

446
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:04,879
Speaker 1: I just I must have been on Instagram for like

447
00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:09,040
Speaker 1: hour straight, just soaking up the joy of folks and us.

448
00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:10,600
Speaker 1: You know, I'm really cool with one of the well

449
00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:13,000
Speaker 1: two of the co founders of Black Lives Matter.

450
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 2: And I was just messaging with.

451
00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:20,879
Speaker 1: Patrice Colors from What That Matter, because just it was

452
00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:24,159
Speaker 1: just crazy because just a year or so ago she

453
00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:30,160
Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter was getting the honor of getting the

454
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:32,960
Speaker 1: kidney of Sydney Peace Price, which is a huge, huge, huge,

455
00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:36,400
Speaker 1: huge honor. And I was messaging with her and I said,

456
00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:39,000
Speaker 1: you know what, look how I'm just telling her how

457
00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:40,679
Speaker 1: proud I was of her, because she's she and the

458
00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:43,919
Speaker 1: other founders were on the cover of Time magazine the

459
00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:47,160
Speaker 1: one hundred Most Influential People, and some things she had posted,

460
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 1: and I was like, look how the tide turns. This

461
00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,360
Speaker 1: is what I told her, From being called a terrorist

462
00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:55,120
Speaker 1: organization to changing the outcome of an election. There are

463
00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:58,440
Speaker 1: those that said that activism was dead, but I say

464
00:21:58,480 --> 00:21:59,119
Speaker 1: stiff ware.

465
00:21:59,200 --> 00:21:59,920
Speaker 2: I don't know if you know that.

466
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:02,160
Speaker 1: With the little girl, it's like showing off her hair.

467
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 1: She was like they tried to say my hair was stiff.

468
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:08,400
Speaker 1: Stiff ware basically like I'm dry, And she said, thanks.

469
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:09,680
Speaker 2: Love, it feels really good to be here.

470
00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 1: I just when I just tell you it just this

471
00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:17,879
Speaker 1: is what whenever they tell you, oh, your social media

472
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:21,600
Speaker 1: activism doesn't mean anything. Let's be clear the Black Lives

473
00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:25,800
Speaker 1: Matter movement. Had that not happened, then we likely would

474
00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:28,840
Speaker 1: not have been here. I'm not gonna lie COVID, you

475
00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 1: know you you a salty hoe. But had COVID not happened,

476
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 1: people would not have come out and masked voting via

477
00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:39,920
Speaker 1: male and also too, I think a lot of people

478
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:42,520
Speaker 1: wouldn't have seen like, yo, this is really crazy. He

479
00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,480
Speaker 1: don't really care like with then today out.

480
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 3: Here, Yes, if and if you weren't terrified the pandemic,

481
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:50,920
Speaker 3: by the pandemic, it's so sad to me. But we

482
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:55,280
Speaker 3: have to thank Breonna Taylor and George Floyd and all

483
00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 3: the other aman operate, the Black Americans who were shot

484
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 3: by Lease and it you know, add them to the

485
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 3: list of people who had to die for us to

486
00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 3: get our shit together in so many ways. And I'm

487
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 3: and you know, we have to thank them and their families.

488
00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 3: It's nothing that they ever wanted to be thankful for,

489
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,880
Speaker 3: I'm sure, but you're right. I mean, the COVID made

490
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 3: us sitarases down these unjust killings by police officers, which listen,

491
00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 3: have happened and you know, I don't need to tell you,

492
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 3: but have happened for decades, for generations. But it forced

493
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,840
Speaker 3: us to sit down and look and see what was

494
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 3: going on. And I really felt hopeful this summer when

495
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,159
Speaker 3: I when I the conversations, we had the fact that

496
00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:41,679
Speaker 3: my mother was talking to me about race, that my

497
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 3: stepdad said he was going to vote Republican. I'm sorry,

498
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:48,120
Speaker 3: vote Democrat after being a lifelong Republican. These were signs

499
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 3: that to me, things were changing.

500
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 2: Honest, I wasn't that hopeful. I was like, because I

501
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 2: was so devastated.

502
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 3: I feel like I was always Pollyanna, and you were like,

503
00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 3: but because but to Tiffany, you have a right to

504
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:01,280
Speaker 3: be cynical.

505
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: You know, I don't have to feel you know what

506
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 1: it was. I didn't want my heart to be broken.

507
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 1: I said, because honestly, I was mouth agape last time.

508
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 1: I was caught so off guard, like wait what, wait?

509
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 2: What? What? What? What?

510
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:15,439
Speaker 1: I did not want that to happen this time. So

511
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 1: I said, you know what, if this is going to

512
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 1: be I was talking to a friend of mine and

513
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:24,960
Speaker 1: he's kind of chubby, and I said, I'm nervous. He's like,

514
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: I said, I have so much anxiety. He was like why,

515
00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 1: and he was I was like the elections. He was like,

516
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 1: you know what, I've decided regardless of what happened tomorrow,

517
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,680
Speaker 1: I still wake up fat and black. And I was real,

518
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: it's true, though, I now, it's just like so that

519
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 1: gate that took a little of the anxiety because basically

520
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:44,639
Speaker 1: what he was saying that there's still gonna be similar

521
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:46,960
Speaker 1: issues that are still here, and we will we have

522
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:49,399
Speaker 1: dealt with it, we will learn to deal with it

523
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:51,360
Speaker 1: and through it and and you know, we'll.

524
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 2: Figure out a way. But so it helped a little bit.

525
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: But certainly the anxiety was really high because the truth

526
00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,879
Speaker 1: of the matter is half the country still voted one,

527
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 1: why you know, And and surprisingly his numbers percentages rose

528
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 1: and white women, and also numbers rose with black men.

529
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 2: Numbers rose.

530
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 1: Honestly, I mean, it ain't really rise with white men

531
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:17,239
Speaker 1: because it's like no more could have voted for him,

532
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: like we already tapped you out fully, So it just

533
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:22,879
Speaker 1: one of the power. I don't know if you saw this,

534
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 1: I'll send it to you on Instagram. One of the

535
00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 1: most powerful videos I saw was this Native American gentleman

536
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 1: exit his car and dance. The joy in his dance

537
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 1: and there was someone in the comments. It was just

538
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 1: so beautiful and I didn't know. I knew the dance

539
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:38,120
Speaker 1: meant something, but I didn't know what because you could

540
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 1: just it was just so purposeful. His foot footsteps right

541
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,119
Speaker 1: and a woman in the comments that I'm Native American

542
00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: right that right there is what he's doing is called

543
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:45,920
Speaker 1: the warrior dance.

544
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 2: Is the dance that you do after you defeat an

545
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 2: enemy when I tell you the boo hoo ing. Because

546
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 2: it was so.

547
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 1: Powerful and we were all just in like, you know

548
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:58,679
Speaker 1: the fact that she shared that with us, it was like,

549
00:25:58,720 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 1: that's what I'm feeling.

550
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 2: And I could just feel his joy in his relief.

551
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: And he was wearing like a flannel shirt and some jeans,

552
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 1: but you could you could see the regalia that wasn't

553
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:08,960
Speaker 1: there on him.

554
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so yeah, I'm just I just.

555
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 3: Doesn't it feel it did to be a hero. Yeah,

556
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:18,159
Speaker 3: it's and you don't need to be a super like

557
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:21,720
Speaker 3: this is the and I'm so like kids will see

558
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 3: we made something happen because we did something very simple.

559
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:28,480
Speaker 3: You didn't have to be the smartest or the fastest,

560
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 3: or the strongest, or the prettiest or the tallest. You

561
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 3: just had to go and vote. That's all you had

562
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:38,359
Speaker 3: to do. And you saved this country in so many ways.

563
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,720
Speaker 3: And I that in people's expression of joy after so

564
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:45,919
Speaker 3: many months of pain and anguish and anxiety, like to

565
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:49,240
Speaker 3: see people feel and I think, and especially my own

566
00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 3: reaction that visceral need to run literally into my streets

567
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 3: and up and down the block. I couldn't hold it in,

568
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 3: like I just I just My husband's like, what are

569
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:00,879
Speaker 3: you doing, I'm like, I don't know, putting my shoes on,

570
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,639
Speaker 3: I have to be in the streets. And and and

571
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:06,679
Speaker 3: as you can see from all the footage on like

572
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 3: cable network or news just in general, so many thousands

573
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 3: of people felt the same. We just wanted to dance,

574
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 3: We just wanted to scream, We wanted to be out

575
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 3: there and rejoice and and and what made me sad

576
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 3: is I know, like, for example, I live in a

577
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 3: majority minority neighborhood were very progressive, and I felt very

578
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 3: safe running my black cast down the street like no

579
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 3: one's going to call the cops on me. Low key,

580
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 3: I did bring the dogs, I would look less crazy.

581
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 3: But anyway I felt, And even though on the video

582
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 3: that I posted, I came back and took a little

583
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 3: break because I was so tired. But a lot of

584
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 3: my neighbors once I woke their us, once I woke

585
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 3: them up, they were out in the streets too, and

586
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 3: we were having a little like impromptu block party. But

587
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 3: I felt very safe doing that. And I know, and

588
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:57,879
Speaker 3: from the comments I got on my video, that a

589
00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 3: lot of people don't live in places where they feel

590
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 3: safe celebrating. And I just hope. I just don't want

591
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 3: y'all to have to hold it in, like live in

592
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 3: this joy, like take advantage of this rare moment of

593
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 3: a win, in this dumpster fire of a year, find

594
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,239
Speaker 3: some way to celebrate in whatever way you can, and

595
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 3: just go hug a baby, like I don't know.

596
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 1: It was so crazy because I take a walk just

597
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 1: about every day, and there are just because I mean

598
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 1: North is largely like black and Hispanic like largely, and

599
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 1: you know, in my neighborhood same you know, sprinkleove of

600
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 1: other here and there. But there was maybe one or

601
00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 1: two houses that had a Trump sign. And I would

602
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 1: walk by this one house in particular, which I thought

603
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 1: was so odd because they had this a Puerto Rican

604
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 1: flag and a Trump sign.

605
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 2: I'm like, you don't remember how he create the Puerto

606
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 2: Rico Latino.

607
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 3: I mean, listen, like the majority of Latinos did vote

608
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:50,720
Speaker 3: against Trump, but there's a fair number who who who

609
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 3: who voted for him.

610
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 1: So yes, I just thought that was so idd considering

611
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 1: in particular, like what happened, you know, like you know

612
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 1: when once actually struck uh Puerto Rico and so anyway,

613
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 1: so I so literally the next morning, you know, I

614
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 1: went from my walk.

615
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 2: Why I tell you them signs were down so fast.

616
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 3: Oh JK, Hey, y'all hate Tiphany. Your neighborhoods are orgious

617
00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 3: those photos you posted. And someone told me black women

618
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 3: in the suburbs, where do you live, I'm like, lots

619
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 3: of black people live in the suburbs, Okay, Like it's

620
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:31,520
Speaker 3: and I mean, obviously, I'm sure we're in the minority.

621
00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 3: But you know that's what pissed me off the most.

622
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 3: When you know Republicans and Trump would talk about people

623
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 3: in the suburbs are coming to get you, they're coming

624
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 3: for your they're going to be your neighbors. I'm like,

625
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 3: we are the neighbors, and we bas already exists. So

626
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 3: like we like white flight happened, like I don't know,

627
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 3: fifty so fifty years ago, like that was a thing.

628
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: That's why Newark is so very black right now because

629
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: so many people left. And honestly, like you said that,

630
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 1: I love my neighborhood. It's largely historic homes. But when

631
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 1: I tell you so many times when I kne family

632
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 1: moves in, I would say sixteen seventy percent of the

633
00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: time it's a black or brown family. And I love

634
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:07,840
Speaker 1: that because yes, you know, we still get phone calls

635
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 1: every day you're looking to tell you how click. I'm

636
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 1: not gentrification is trying hard here. But what I love

637
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: about our mayor is that one his father was a

638
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: Mary Baracker, who was like poet laureate and like very

639
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: active in the black power movement in the sixties, and

640
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 1: he is a student of that. So our Mayor ros

641
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 1: Barrocka does not play that, which I love, and so yeah,

642
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 1: it is a you know, people will say so much

643
00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 1: about Newark, but this neighborhood. I mean, certainly Newark obviously

644
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: has its parts that's like not so cute, and you know,

645
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 1: and I get that, but there are parts of Newark

646
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 1: that are just so beautiful, and that's what I wanted

647
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 1: to share, Like these are not even I mean, that

648
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: was like a little short walk. I haven't even I

649
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 1: have favorite houses that did not make the list. Some

650
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 1: of these houses were built in nineteen ten and they're

651
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Speaker 1: just so gorgeous, and the streets are quiet, and you know,

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Speaker 1: and when I you know, so when people do come out,

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Speaker 1: it's usually somebody brown waving hair wrapped up as they're

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Speaker 1: walking their dog.

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Speaker 2: I just love it.

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Speaker 3: Honestly sounds like Atlanta, which, by the way, my heart

657
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 3: has been tugging me back down south for quite some

658
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Speaker 3: time now, and I don't know how much longer I'm

659
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Speaker 3: gonna make it a burial. But I mean, I love

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Speaker 3: my neighborhood so much and I'm so glad we found

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Speaker 3: the little tiny Atlanta of Westchester County. But God, the joy,

662
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 3: the joy, and thank you like Tiffany and Brown Ambition

663
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Speaker 3: for giving us a place to share and amplify our joy,

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Speaker 3: because there's people who don't have microphones and get to like,

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Speaker 3: you know, share in that and feel like their voices

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Speaker 3: are being heard. And I read every single one of

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Speaker 3: y'all's comments and messages, whether you were you know, sending

668
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Speaker 3: them to me on Insta or to the Brown Ambition Instagram,

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Speaker 3: I read them. I relished in every last ounce of

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Speaker 3: that joy. Keep sending us your you know, send us

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Speaker 3: your reactions, send us you know messages, Let us know

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Speaker 3: how you're feeling, let us know what you're doing next.

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Speaker 3: You know. Yes, personally, I feel I didn't know you

674
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Speaker 3: could have a happiness hangover, but like that's the thing

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Speaker 3: that I've now invented. I guess I just felt like

676
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 3: I could sleep for a week happiness hangover. Like last night,

677
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 3: I was so tired, so tired, and just like what

678
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Speaker 3: is this? I guess it's just it's like you had

679
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Speaker 3: so much tension and the you know, you were just

680
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 3: like this uphill battle for so long, and I feel

681
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 3: like I needed a tiny little break. But I woke

682
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 3: up this morning just feeling like what I need to

683
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 3: do something like I need to get involved somehow locally

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Speaker 3: in local politics. And if you guys are feeling the

685
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Speaker 3: same way you and I know a lot of our

686
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Speaker 3: audience are black women, so I wanted to talk. Just

687
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Speaker 3: mentioned a couple of groups. I mentioned Higher Heights before,

688
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Speaker 3: which is a nonprofit that seeks to get more women

689
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Speaker 3: of color, especially black women, in office. And there's also

690
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Speaker 3: a group called She Should Lead that you can check

691
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 3: out and really great because they have tips and like

692
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Speaker 3: even like little course is on how you And I'm

693
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Speaker 3: not talking about running for president, I mean like town

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Speaker 3: you know, school boards, you know, like these like town councils,

695
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Speaker 3: you know these these small, many democracies within our democracy

696
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Speaker 3: where you know your voice can have an impact, and

697
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Speaker 3: it starts with it starts at the community level. And yeah,

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Speaker 3: I just hope this momentum keeps going, Tiff. I hope

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Speaker 3: that I hope that we never forget how hard it

700
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Speaker 3: took us to go back the other direction. Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: I'm so so proud. I'm so proud. I've never been

702
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Speaker 3: more proud to be American.

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Speaker 1: And just know that there are people now who are

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Speaker 1: what my friend needs to call punching potatoes in the garage.

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Speaker 2: So he would always say that.

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Speaker 1: I know it's going to sound crazy, but he would

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Speaker 1: always say, like, if we went somewhere and you know,

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Speaker 1: let's just say, you know, some guy was trying to

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Speaker 1: flex or whatever, and I'd be like, oh my gosh,

710
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Speaker 1: he's acting crazy.

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Speaker 2: He's like, man, you know.

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Speaker 1: What what I learned, He said, I'll leave people alone

713
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Speaker 1: because you don't know who's been in the garage for

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Speaker 1: the last ten years punch of potatoes, basically preparing for

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Speaker 1: the day that you say something and they spaz out,

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Speaker 1: and now they have all the strength. And so what

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying is that there are those who are like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: they're right now punching potatoes in the garage, waiting for

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Speaker 1: four years to come out in full force. So we

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Speaker 1: can't forget, and we can't slack, and we can't be lax.

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Speaker 1: This is just the beginning. We were going to have

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Speaker 1: to come out with full force because the potato punchers

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Speaker 1: certainly will be.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely and a lot of those potato punchers, I mean

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Speaker 3: I never refer to them that way, but I'm related

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Speaker 3: to a lot of them. Yeah, I you know, the

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Speaker 3: holidays are coming up, and I think people are really

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Speaker 3: grateful that they have an excuse not to be gathering

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Speaker 3: with their families. Sad enough. Sad enough, I personally would

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Speaker 3: not be looking forward to some of my relatives around

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Speaker 3: the things doving table, but I am looking forward to

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Speaker 3: the holidays in general. And I have to do a

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Speaker 3: quick shout out to doctor Aimani Walker because she was

734
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Speaker 3: a guest on our show recently and she's on a

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Speaker 3: Bravo show called Nary To Medicine. But she's a whole

736
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Speaker 3: ass like psychiatrist there. She's amazing. And her podcast is

737
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Speaker 3: called The Moni State of Mind. This is not a

738
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Speaker 3: paid ad, although they have paid us in the past

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Speaker 3: to run ads for them, but this.

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Speaker 2: Is a breby.

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Speaker 3: This is a breeby. I was looking for something to

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Speaker 3: listen to while I was like doing It was wash

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Speaker 3: day yesterday, and I was like, nothing political. I just

744
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 3: want something, you know, interesting, but like not gonna you

745
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Speaker 3: know not, just give me a break from politics. And

746
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Speaker 3: I turned on her podcast and it was so it's

747
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Speaker 3: so funny. It's her and her good friend whose name

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Speaker 3: I forget now, but it reminds me of you and I, Tiff,

749
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Speaker 3: and they talk about mental health issues and the episode

750
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Speaker 3: was about seasonal depression and like, how you know, but anyway,

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Speaker 3: I got my I got such a chuckle out of

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Speaker 3: listening to her talk about how excited she is for

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Speaker 3: the holidays, and I am too, and I really look

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Speaker 3: forward to finishing out twenty twenty. Like let's try to

755
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Speaker 3: end on a high note, like wear your damn masks,

756
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Speaker 3: don't forget COVID's out there. But I'm just ready for

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Speaker 3: more joy joy Joy Joy.

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Speaker 2: Also I'm like, I got the joy joy joy Joy.

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Speaker 2: Danny in my heart said, it reminded me of that. Oh,

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Speaker 2: I can't wait to sear my books with you later.

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Speaker 2: But we'll get there.

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Speaker 3: We'll get there. But before we do, let's take a

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Speaker 3: quick break and we'll come back and answer some questions.

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Speaker 3: Question try to keep it non political, but.

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Speaker 4: Yes, so happy.

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Speaker 3: All right, y'all, we are back, and once again, if

767
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 3: you guys want to hit us up with your questions.

768
00:36:57,480 --> 00:36:59,880
Speaker 3: I know that this y'all already know where to go,

769
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Speaker 3: where to do it, but I just can't help myself.

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Speaker 3: Brand Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com if you want

771
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Speaker 3: to send us an email, or you can hit us

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Speaker 3: up on Instagram, where I Brown Ambition podcast on the Gram,

773
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Speaker 3: and I should never have told y'all to message me

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Speaker 3: directly as a because that is what's been happening. I

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Speaker 3: too have to before I read some questions. Tip. One

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Speaker 3: of our listenersh sent a message to the BA install account.

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Speaker 3: And remember I told y'all basically I am Brown and

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Speaker 3: I'm Brown Ambition customer support for the online store, which

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Speaker 3: is fine. Y'all are very good customers. But this one listener,

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Speaker 3: her name is ash Ashley Ashy. She messaged me and

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Speaker 3: was like, look, I really want to get my daughter,

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Speaker 3: you know, at an outfit. But the onesie is like

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Speaker 3: twenty five dollars, but the but the sweatshirt's three dollars,

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Speaker 3: Like how does that work? And I'm like, you know what,

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Speaker 3: she's right, and she was like, I don't know how

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Speaker 3: merchandising work. Or she said, I don't know how merchandising works,

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Speaker 3: but maybe y'all could look into that. And I was like,

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Speaker 3: you know what, Ash, I don't know how merchandising works either.

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Speaker 3: That is why the prices are Craig Cray. So thanks

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Speaker 3: to her. I mean, that was a really good point.

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Speaker 3: It was pretty dumb, and I think I just went

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Speaker 3: by the printful recommended prices. But listen, I have reduced

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Speaker 3: the price of our Brown Ambition onesies for your children,

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Speaker 3: so go pick them up. They're like nine dollars off

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Speaker 3: and now I know why they weren't selling. Okay, fair,

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Speaker 3: fair point, miss Ashy. So thanks y'all, and again, Brown

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Speaker 3: Ambitionstore dot com is where you can pick up your

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Speaker 3: Brown Ambition swag. And I've never felt more excited to

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Speaker 3: rock that logo.

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Speaker 2: That's why I just came in today.

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Speaker 1: It did.

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Speaker 2: I cannot wait.

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Speaker 1: Literally, like, I just went downstairs and I was like, ooh,

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Speaker 1: a bag a swag.

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Speaker 3: We need pictures right now? Yes, okay, but let's get

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Speaker 3: into these dms and get some questions up. Our first

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Speaker 3: question comes from a listener who wants to remain anonymous,

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Speaker 3: but we'll just call her. We'll just call her Cynthia

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Speaker 3: for now. Cynthia says, I'm a twenty five year old

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Speaker 3: single woman who recently started her first job. My credit

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Speaker 3: score is great, and I've been really good at saving

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Speaker 3: throughout college. I have about forty thousand dollars in the

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Speaker 3: stock market, and I'm wondering if I should pull it

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Speaker 3: out and use that as my down payment for a house.

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Speaker 3: In addition, what are your thoughts on whether I should

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Speaker 3: move my money to a managed investment account? Thank you

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Speaker 3: so much for the show. It has been a fundamental

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Speaker 3: part of my financial journey.

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Speaker 1: So to be clear, the stock market, but this is

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Speaker 1: not her this is not her retirement account.

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Speaker 3: She doesn't say. She says the stock market, which is

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Speaker 3: my question, like, what do you mean a stock market?

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Speaker 3: Do you have a four h one k? But first

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Speaker 3: of all, forty k at twenty five? Can we just

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Speaker 3: sclow a clap for that? That is really really impressive?

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Speaker 3: And she's looking to get a house already single, twenty five,

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Speaker 3: recently started her first job, already has forty K. So

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Speaker 3: I'm wondering if this is like a brokerage account. But nevertheless,

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Speaker 3: like a lot of young people, she's looking at housing

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Speaker 3: market wondering if she should jump in, and then like

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Speaker 3: how do I pay for it? So yeah, so I mean, Tiff,

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Speaker 3: what do you think about dipping into your Some people

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Speaker 3: actually will invest so they can do this.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's right, I'm not opposed. Now I'm gonna caveat, caveat, caveat,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to assume that when you say stock market

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Speaker 1: you mean, because to me, there are two core avenues

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Speaker 1: for investing. There's investing for retirement. That's for your old

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Speaker 1: lady self, Rwanda, that's what I call my old lady's self.

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Speaker 1: And then there's investing for wealth. So investing for retirement

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Speaker 1: is for future, you know, future life. Investing for wealth,

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Speaker 1: to me, it's the purpose is to make your life

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Speaker 1: better now, you know. So I'm going to assume that

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Speaker 1: you are investing for retirement, and this is not your

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Speaker 1: retirement money.

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Speaker 2: That's what we're just going to assume.

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Speaker 1: That being said, I have no problem pulling money out

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Speaker 1: of the investing for wealth bucket, because that's the purpose.

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Speaker 1: When my sister did this, remember the one that you

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Speaker 1: guys have won on here all the time, She's like, no, girl,

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Speaker 1: But so Carol when years ago, Carol she's an engineer,

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Speaker 1: and she was like, oh my gosh, my gosh, this

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Speaker 1: company Tesla YadA YadA, Tesla Tesla. I was like, girl,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what those words mean. And she's like, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, Teshlo, teslo, Tesla. I think she bought

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Speaker 1: it for thirty dollars a damn share and she scraped

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Speaker 1: together fifteen hundred dollars, which was like so much money

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Speaker 1: that because she was so young. Because if I was

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Speaker 1: like in my I am, I'm like five or six

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Speaker 1: years old than Carol. So if I was in my

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Speaker 1: late twenties, she was like in her mid to early twenties.

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Speaker 1: So she scraped together fifteen hundred dollars because she believed

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Speaker 1: in it so much. Just I guess as being an engineer,

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Speaker 1: she had studied whatever. So she did that, and then

864
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Speaker 1: years later she sold it. I didn't want to say

865
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Speaker 1: maybe had three hundred dollars. She so by the time

866
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 1: she sold it, she had gotten her return on the

867
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: fifteen hundred was about thirty thousand dollars. Now that makes

868
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:58,000
Speaker 1: it. It wasn't her retirement. It wasn't she and she used it.

869
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 1: She and her husband, her her boyfriend at the time.

870
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 1: She convinced him buy some Tesla as well well, and

871
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 1: then they used it.

872
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 2: They sold it and used it to pay for their wedding.

873
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:10,800
Speaker 1: To me, there's nothing wrong with that necessarily, because it's

874
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:13,480
Speaker 1: it's not investing for your retirement. It's not money that

875
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 1: you're setting aside for your future older self. To me,

876
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:18,920
Speaker 1: investing for wealth is to be used now and especially

877
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 1: now if you have your ears to the screets like

878
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 1: I did. Warren Buffett has stated many times that he

879
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 1: feels that this stock market is so overpriced by like

880
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:32,560
Speaker 1: over one hundred percent, meaning that the stocks are inflated,

881
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 1: which means that those genes that you're buying for one

882
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:38,600
Speaker 1: hundred dollars really are more so worth twenty five.

883
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 2: And eventually the market's going to correct itself. So it actually.

884
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:44,879
Speaker 1: Wouldn't be the worst thing to pull some money out

885
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 1: now and put it towards something that you know that

886
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 1: this is really the.

887
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:51,760
Speaker 3: Value Tiffany's opinion, not financial advice.

888
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, psich, you did not see me, see your grandma,

889
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: so it is what.

890
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:57,799
Speaker 3: She would do, not when you have to do.

891
00:42:58,160 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I look too like but there's nothing wrong

892
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:01,359
Speaker 1: with you your money there either. But I just want

893
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: you to know that I think a lot of people

894
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 1: would think manly that I'd be like, no, leave it.

895
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,400
Speaker 1: Not the investing for wealth bucket. I think that it's

896
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 1: it's there to be used kind of like for things

897
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: like this if you if you find it it fits

898
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 1: your your ultimate financial plans and goals.

899
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wasn't sure what my answer was to this

900
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 3: question until I'm sitting here listening to you and I

901
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 3: agree with You're with what you're saying to if you definitely,

902
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 3: you know, if that's your purpose, and you've got your

903
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 3: and you're still young, right, so you got plenty of

904
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 3: time to you know, keep contributing to your retirement account

905
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 3: and all of that, and you know, ownership. Home ownership

906
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 3: is a great way to build wealth too. It can

907
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:39,360
Speaker 3: be you know, depending on it's a it's a slow

908
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 3: and steady kind of way to build wealth and equity

909
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:45,439
Speaker 3: in your home but away. Nevertheless, So what I would

910
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:48,719
Speaker 3: say is, if you're thinking about, you know, cashing out

911
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 3: your entire account, and I don't know necessarily what percentage

912
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:55,240
Speaker 3: that could be for a down payment. Maybe it's ten percent,

913
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 3: maybe it's twenty, I will say one of the things

914
00:43:57,520 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 3: that I wish I had done differently about my home

915
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,920
Speaker 3: perch was not not put so much cash down because

916
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 3: I think I just got caught up in doing things

917
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 3: the right way and I wanted to put twenty percent

918
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 3: down so I would avoid PMI. And that's how you

919
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 3: you know, you you you, that's the financially responsible way

920
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,319
Speaker 3: to get a house. You don't need to do it

921
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:16,680
Speaker 3: that way. And in fact, if you look at you know,

922
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:19,439
Speaker 3: the potential you have to gain by keeping your money

923
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 3: in the stock market versus the potential you have for

924
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 3: your home to appreciate in value. You know, you on average,

925
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 3: you know, over a decent time horizon like five to

926
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 3: ten years or longer, you probably will earn more in

927
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:36,080
Speaker 3: the stock market then your home will increase in value.

928
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,839
Speaker 3: Unless you know, you're you happen to get in right

929
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:40,879
Speaker 3: when the market is down and you know, hot real

930
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 3: estate market and then like I don't know, Trader Joe's

931
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:46,200
Speaker 3: comes into town and then stock prices jump or something

932
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 3: like that. But I would just think, you know, if

933
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:51,680
Speaker 3: I could do things differently, I might have put less

934
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:56,280
Speaker 3: down and kept more cash in my investment account because

935
00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 3: I could have definitely qualified for a low down payment mortgage.

936
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:01,879
Speaker 3: There was all kinds of you know, first time home

937
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 3: buyer programs and you know loans out there. I could

938
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 3: have gotten to keep more of my cash on hand

939
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 3: for emergencies but also for stock market investing for the

940
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 3: renovation that we did, you know all that. So that's

941
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,879
Speaker 3: all I would add to that. But I just think

942
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 3: kudos for having forty K at all it took me

943
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 3: a long time to get there, and I was not

944
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 3: twenty five. I think I opened my four rowin k

945
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:26,279
Speaker 3: when I was twenty four, So yeah, yes, I.

946
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 2: Actually I was there, but I didn't have the money investor.

947
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 1: I think at twenty five, this is like before I'd

948
00:45:30,040 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 1: mess up all my money. So it was like, you know,

949
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 1: it's like basically, it's like I had I had a

950
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:37,320
Speaker 1: brand new car before I crashed it, because almost everyone

951
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 1: crashes their first car in some way, shape or form. No,

952
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 1: but as many said, kudos to you, but you know,

953
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:46,080
Speaker 1: make sure that we're not talking about your retirement account,

954
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:47,759
Speaker 1: because that's just a different animal. We really want you

955
00:45:47,800 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: to set aside for your future, old Lady South.

956
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 3: Yes, ma'am. All right, well, thank you very much for

957
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:55,680
Speaker 3: your question, and thanks for listening to the show Man.

958
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 3: If you started listening five years ago, you were nineteen,

959
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:03,399
Speaker 3: that makes me so babies list Okay, okay, let's take

960
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:07,319
Speaker 3: another question. Question all this one made me a little

961
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 3: bit sad. But I feel like a lot of folks, unfortunately,

962
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 3: especially women who listen to our show me, may identify

963
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 3: with the circumstances here and the feeling that this listener

964
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 3: has we'll keep her anonymous. We'll call her. What's a name,

965
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:24,520
Speaker 3: tiff An. You think of a name, Sandra, We'll call

966
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 3: her Sandra. Okay, Sandra says, yesterday, I was fired from

967
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:31,760
Speaker 3: my new job. I only worked there two full weeks.

968
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:33,840
Speaker 3: When I started working there, I was met with so

969
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 3: much hate from the white women at this law firm

970
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 3: like I have never seen before, like evilness. I feel

971
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:42,959
Speaker 3: like this election made them want to retaliate towards any

972
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 3: black person around aka me. I've been a paralegal for

973
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 3: fourteen years. The good news is that I've been listening

974
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 3: to your podcast for years and have made it my

975
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 3: business to save my money. So I have my expenses

976
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:58,600
Speaker 3: covered for the next few months. Do you know anywhere

977
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 3: I can go and work as a blame black woman

978
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:03,799
Speaker 3: and feel safe and not attacked for being black. I

979
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:06,359
Speaker 3: live in Saint Louis, Missouri. I don't know if you'll

980
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 3: see this, but maybe you will. Thank you, Oh Saint Louis,

981
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:12,399
Speaker 3: not that you said. I know this sounds kind of random,

982
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 3: but I have a friend Christina, which don't laugh. Her

983
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 3: name is Christina Aguilera.

984
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 1: Are now wait Forristina y or sing Christina with a

985
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,759
Speaker 1: K but Christina's in her twenties. Oh she might have

986
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:28,120
Speaker 1: just turned thirty. But she is amazing. She is like

987
00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:30,839
Speaker 1: almost single handedly buying up Saint Louis. This is where

988
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 1: she's from, and she is turning some of these depressed

989
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:39,480
Speaker 1: neighborhoods with dilapidated houses. She is buying them, she is

990
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: flipping them, and then she's making them beautiful, affordable homes

991
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:43,040
Speaker 1: for people.

992
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:43,840
Speaker 2: So she's amazing.

993
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 1: So I wonder if you shot me an email. Just

994
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 1: go to the budget lista dot com and click contact.

995
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 1: I'm gonna hit Christina up.

996
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,239
Speaker 2: You never know. You know, she's in Saint Louis and

997
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:56,400
Speaker 2: you're paralegal. She's in real estate.

998
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: So and she's honestly one of these people that wants

999
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 1: to see other women, especially when so there might be

1000
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 1: something there. But also too, I have my attorney. Her

1001
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 1: name is Tony. She's amazing, amazing, amazing. Tony went to

1002
00:48:10,520 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 1: an Ivy League school and then I think she has

1003
00:48:12,960 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 1: her doctorate.

1004
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 2: She's just amazing, but it also might just help. She's

1005
00:48:17,760 --> 00:48:18,359
Speaker 2: also really kind.

1006
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: I'm already putting Tony out there, but maybe just helping

1007
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:24,840
Speaker 1: to chat with someone about who's in that field, about

1008
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 1: you know, what are some options. I don't know that

1009
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 1: Tony herself is looking for someone, but she might she

1010
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:30,839
Speaker 1: might know in that field. You know what a friend

1011
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 1: of mine is looking for someone. So I would say, Sondra,

1012
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 1: you've already taken the first core step, which is to

1013
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:40,720
Speaker 1: ask for help, because you just don't know who people

1014
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:43,360
Speaker 1: know or what opportunities are out there. But if you

1015
00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:45,560
Speaker 1: hit me up at budgetista dot com, you just click

1016
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:48,040
Speaker 1: the contact me button, I will at the very least

1017
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:49,920
Speaker 1: connect you with those two women, and you never know.

1018
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, this is there's a couple different questions here.

1019
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:54,840
Speaker 3: I feel like that aren't being but you know that

1020
00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:57,200
Speaker 3: are just wrapped up in this, which is like, oh shit,

1021
00:48:57,280 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 3: I had a job for two weeks and I was

1022
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 3: let go. You know, how do I position myself for

1023
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 3: the next opportunity? You know, do I put this on

1024
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:07,360
Speaker 3: my resume? What if they call for ask for a reference, whatnot.

1025
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 3: But you've been working, you said, for fourteen years, so

1026
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 3: I imagine you've got good references on your file. I

1027
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:15,200
Speaker 3: would say, you know, I'm not in the legal field,

1028
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:18,840
Speaker 3: but if anyone listening knows anyone in the Saint Louis

1029
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 3: area looking for a par of legal services, and I

1030
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:25,240
Speaker 3: bet even beyond Saint Louis because COVID times right, everyone's

1031
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 3: working for home. So if anybody needs paralegal services and

1032
00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 3: want to give us, you know, shout us out, send

1033
00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 3: us a note on Insta or at our email. You know,

1034
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:36,520
Speaker 3: maybe we can connect you to Sandra or at least

1035
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:38,680
Speaker 3: I love how you're we're using a fake name and

1036
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 3: we're both pronouncing it differently. You're Sandra Ira anyway anyway.

1037
00:49:47,520 --> 00:49:49,960
Speaker 3: And also just like the point, you know, how to

1038
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 3: working in a place where you don't feel welcome as

1039
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 3: a black woman, as a black woman, and do we

1040
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:57,800
Speaker 3: know anywhere she could work where she doesn't have to

1041
00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 3: feel this way? It's it's it's difficult. I think I've

1042
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,640
Speaker 3: said on the show before, especially after this summer, I

1043
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 3: kind of made a commitment to myself. I wasn't going

1044
00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 3: to work for another company as long as I had

1045
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:11,200
Speaker 3: a choice that made me feel like inclusion was an

1046
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 3: afterthought or something that was just on paper but not

1047
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 3: in action. But it is a good question, like how

1048
00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 3: do you know if the place you're working for is

1049
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:20,879
Speaker 3: going to be friendly to you or where you're feel

1050
00:50:20,880 --> 00:50:23,160
Speaker 3: comfortable if you're a person of color, from a different background,

1051
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:26,520
Speaker 3: or different sexuality or whatnot. And I would say you

1052
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:29,319
Speaker 3: might have to be proactive because not every and not

1053
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:32,319
Speaker 3: all companies are big, right, so not every employer is

1054
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:34,080
Speaker 3: going to go out of their way to introduce you

1055
00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 3: to other colleagues, to introduce you to folks you might

1056
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 3: be on your team if you were to be hired

1057
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 3: to have you talk to someone in HR who can

1058
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:44,000
Speaker 3: answer questions about inclusivity. But you can ask for those

1059
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 3: things yourself, and that may that may help get you

1060
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 3: at least, you know, if you can't go physically in

1061
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:52,200
Speaker 3: the building these days, if you are able to zoom

1062
00:50:52,239 --> 00:50:55,399
Speaker 3: some folks and you know, ask them about their experiences

1063
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:57,399
Speaker 3: and kind of get a sense of do I want

1064
00:50:57,400 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 3: to work with these types of people? And that's no

1065
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 3: a fool proof plan. And I'm I.

1066
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 1: Certainly looked to see. And I was just talking to

1067
00:51:04,640 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 1: one of my sisters today. She used to work for

1068
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:10,759
Speaker 1: this big company that we won't name, and she was

1069
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:12,360
Speaker 1: mistreated really badly.

1070
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 3: To say, whenever you say that, people are like, I

1071
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:18,280
Speaker 3: think it's Chase. I think it's I'm like, it's.

1072
00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 2: Not, it's not Chase.

1073
00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 1: But you're in I'll just say that. So, so yeah,

1074
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:29,279
Speaker 1: she left, like this is Tracy who is now my

1075
00:51:29,560 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 1: bomb ass publicist who has beginning me on everything that

1076
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 1: you can think of. So she was mistreated by her

1077
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: her direct supervisor, like really bad, so much so she

1078
00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 1: developed anxiety. It just was really really bad and they

1079
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 1: did nothing to protect her. She actually was we were

1080
00:51:43,680 --> 00:51:46,000
Speaker 1: talking today. She was just telling me that she went

1081
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: out to lunch with some of her old colleagues and

1082
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 1: they were saying how so many of them wanted to

1083
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 1: be in different roles or positions but went out to

1084
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:59,400
Speaker 1: get a specific type of degree an NBA, but they

1085
00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: didn't know that the roller the positions that they were

1086
00:52:03,160 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 1: looking for required a different type of higher level education.

1087
00:52:07,560 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 1: And if you've looked in those roles, there's no black

1088
00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 1: people in those roles. And I just I think that

1089
00:52:13,920 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 1: that's something to take note of that if you're working

1090
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 1: for a place and you think to yourself, in ten years,

1091
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 1: in five years, I'd like to be dot dot dot,

1092
00:52:21,239 --> 00:52:24,160
Speaker 1: but there's no one that looks like you in that role.

1093
00:52:24,200 --> 00:52:25,640
Speaker 1: And it's not a small company. I could see if

1094
00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:28,600
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, under twenty people, under thirty people,

1095
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:31,320
Speaker 1: but even then but there's no one in a company

1096
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:35,480
Speaker 1: of hundreds of people in that role. Girl, run run

1097
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:37,840
Speaker 1: as fast as you can. They're not interested in developing

1098
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 1: black and brown talent in that arena. You can't tell

1099
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 1: me that there's not a plethora of talented people.

1100
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:44,879
Speaker 2: Of course there are, and.

1101
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:47,960
Speaker 3: You can two. I have done this just for just

1102
00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 3: to see, you know, let me see this company, and

1103
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 3: let's see who works there, and let's just do a

1104
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:56,160
Speaker 3: quick scroll through profile picks exactly, or company websites where

1105
00:52:56,200 --> 00:52:58,960
Speaker 3: you can see who's on the board, who's at the

1106
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,920
Speaker 3: C level, who's at the entry level.

1107
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 1: And sometimes it's just it's just and these companies. You

1108
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:07,960
Speaker 1: know what's so crazy to me that this it's this

1109
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:11,240
Speaker 1: is an old kind of legacy company and I suspect

1110
00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:14,560
Speaker 1: it'll be floundering soon because they have just not moved

1111
00:53:14,560 --> 00:53:18,799
Speaker 1: with the times and they're just not connecting in the

1112
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:21,719
Speaker 1: way that they used to. And when their current clientele

1113
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:23,960
Speaker 1: dies off, I don't know what they're going to do

1114
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 1: because young people ain't with it and they have.

1115
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 2: Refused to pivot, and so they lose.

1116
00:53:29,560 --> 00:53:32,520
Speaker 1: Just like the supervisor that that pushed her out, they

1117
00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 1: are now pushing that woman out I'm like, look, how good.

1118
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:38,600
Speaker 2: Works, don't you.

1119
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 3: Don't y'all keep your eye on your employers sometimes just

1120
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 3: to see how things. We all have those excess but like, yes,

1121
00:53:45,520 --> 00:53:47,880
Speaker 3: I see someone else left after me, Like, oh I

1122
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:48,839
Speaker 3: saw went down.

1123
00:53:49,680 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it's funny how that worked out.

1124
00:53:53,239 --> 00:53:55,960
Speaker 1: So so it's it's it's even though it's terrible that

1125
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 1: you know, you felt pushed out, it's better for your

1126
00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 1: mental emotional well being to find a place. And you know,

1127
00:54:02,719 --> 00:54:04,399
Speaker 1: we put the we put the APB out there.

1128
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:05,040
Speaker 2: Reach out to me.

1129
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:08,239
Speaker 1: Hopefully a b a listener might have a lead for you.

1130
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:10,239
Speaker 1: But you've you've done the right thing, which is to

1131
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:12,120
Speaker 1: open your mouth and ask for help.

1132
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 3: I love it all right, thank y'all so much for

1133
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 3: your questions. Don't mind the worrying behind me. That is

1134
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 3: a hot water heater that I hope will stop replenishing

1135
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:23,279
Speaker 3: very soon.

1136
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:28,360
Speaker 1: Yes, and now it's time to boost or break or

1137
00:54:28,480 --> 00:54:31,080
Speaker 1: boost or break or boost a break.

1138
00:54:32,040 --> 00:54:34,520
Speaker 2: I want to do a boosty breaky what about you, mandra.

1139
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:37,279
Speaker 3: I am going to do a boost, but you can

1140
00:54:37,320 --> 00:54:39,360
Speaker 3: go first, because you said you were so excited.

1141
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, start with a break, just because it's kind of

1142
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 1: like the audacity So someone wrote me today on Instagram.

1143
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say your name because you know, I

1144
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:50,800
Speaker 1: don't want you to get dragged. She like, this is

1145
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 1: someone who's been messaging me like, oh my god, I

1146
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:54,560
Speaker 1: love your message, you know, like just hitting on Instagram

1147
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:57,359
Speaker 1: here and there. So she wrote me today, Hello there,

1148
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:01,640
Speaker 1: I just want you to I know that I needed

1149
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:04,719
Speaker 1: a breakthrough on how I looked at money. I was

1150
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:06,880
Speaker 1: finally able to see it when I heard you.

1151
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:08,360
Speaker 2: Oh so nice.

1152
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:11,840
Speaker 1: But I want to be honest, I have a hard

1153
00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:16,239
Speaker 1: time following the black lingo you use lowercase B once.

1154
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, listen with her, keep going.

1155
00:55:19,760 --> 00:55:23,200
Speaker 1: If you speak plain English, I can follow you. You

1156
00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:25,600
Speaker 1: not yo, you just the letter you because you're no

1157
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:29,799
Speaker 1: black lingo and understand you fifty percent of the time.

1158
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 1: I have no idea what you are saying as it

1159
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 1: is black slang.

1160
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:39,799
Speaker 2: Girl. When I say to the audacity of Caucastidy, you

1161
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 2: know what I did. I said, black, you gonna have

1162
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:45,359
Speaker 2: to get your break through someplace else, not here.

1163
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:49,520
Speaker 3: You got lots of other options who do speak your language.

1164
00:55:50,239 --> 00:55:50,479
Speaker 4: Child.

1165
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:54,359
Speaker 1: Yes, I mean, first of all, I I mean obviously, yes,

1166
00:55:54,400 --> 00:55:56,239
Speaker 1: I'm black. I don't I mean I don't know.

1167
00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't.

1168
00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:01,919
Speaker 1: Even if I felt feel like I used a whole

1169
00:56:01,920 --> 00:56:03,879
Speaker 1: bunch of black slang and lingos, so what.

1170
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:06,640
Speaker 2: I don't feel like I necessarily do. Certainly do. I

1171
00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:07,520
Speaker 2: throw it in here and there.

1172
00:56:07,520 --> 00:56:10,759
Speaker 1: But honestly, ma'am, I speak English obviously, because you got

1173
00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 1: your breakthrough, okay, and now your breakthrough has been blocked.

1174
00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:18,759
Speaker 1: I just don't know what someone thought that you could

1175
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 1: reach out to ask me to change, to accommodate you,

1176
00:56:22,520 --> 00:56:25,520
Speaker 1: to accommodate you, as if you were my mother, my

1177
00:56:25,600 --> 00:56:28,239
Speaker 1: sister and my cousin, and even if you were the

1178
00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:31,960
Speaker 1: only person that I would change to accommodate, would be

1179
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:35,720
Speaker 1: like a potential baby, because you don't have no choice.

1180
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:36,719
Speaker 2: Girl, you tried it.

1181
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:38,320
Speaker 1: I was roller, so you don't have to share it

1182
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:40,640
Speaker 1: with In the group chat, we were flaming her.

1183
00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:41,479
Speaker 2: We were all just rolling.

1184
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, she's gonna have to get her breakthrough

1185
00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:44,440
Speaker 1: from somebody else.

1186
00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 2: And someone was.

1187
00:56:45,560 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 1: Like, if you don't understand, it's not for you. So

1188
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:50,839
Speaker 1: it was just yeah, it was honest. I wasn't even

1189
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:52,560
Speaker 1: I was more like mouth open, like.

1190
00:56:52,560 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 2: Oh, she tried it.

1191
00:56:54,160 --> 00:56:55,719
Speaker 1: I know she's gonna be like wait, am, I am,

1192
00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 1: I blocked, you are I don't even know if she

1193
00:56:58,239 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 1: listened to.

1194
00:56:59,239 --> 00:57:03,279
Speaker 3: Like a Russian boy like that. I'm just like, I'm

1195
00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 3: just joking, but that the it's hard for me to compute.

1196
00:57:08,400 --> 00:57:10,440
Speaker 3: And I've seen, you know, I know that there's crazy

1197
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:12,839
Speaker 3: you know ships that on the internet. People feel real

1198
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 3: safe out there in the internet streets. But I am shocked.

1199
00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:19,680
Speaker 3: I'm genuinely like she really went out of her way.

1200
00:57:19,800 --> 00:57:21,720
Speaker 3: And she thought she was like being polite.

1201
00:57:22,240 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: She could tell a girl, you are so amazing, but girl,

1202
00:57:26,080 --> 00:57:28,160
Speaker 1: when you saw like a black girl, I'm.

1203
00:57:27,960 --> 00:57:30,480
Speaker 3: Surprised to talk to your manager so she could I know,

1204
00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 3: not too bad, that's my CEO.

1205
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:36,760
Speaker 1: So that is my break but whatever, that's a light break,

1206
00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:40,240
Speaker 1: my boost is I So remember last time I was

1207
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:42,680
Speaker 1: having like a breakdown because I just was so overwhelmed,

1208
00:57:42,720 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 1: and I said, it's good things. But which time, I

1209
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:48,280
Speaker 1: don't I know exactly, but just so many cookies, so

1210
00:57:48,360 --> 00:57:49,880
Speaker 1: many puppies, so many kick cookies.

1211
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 3: Oh my bad, that was that was weird, new mom,

1212
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:55,920
Speaker 3: go ahead, right, and.

1213
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 1: So I and I remember I said that there was

1214
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 1: a woman that that emailed me a little while ago

1215
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:05,080
Speaker 1: who said that she could help me to find a

1216
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:08,920
Speaker 1: account a therapist, right, and so I could not remember

1217
00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:11,880
Speaker 1: her name. And then a brown Ambish and listener actually

1218
00:58:11,920 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 1: reached out to me and said, hey, Tiffany, you know,

1219
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 1: I know you were looking for someone. I heard you

1220
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:19,160
Speaker 1: on the podcast and I'm not sure who she was,

1221
00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:23,720
Speaker 1: but my friend Stephanie, she's amazing and this is you know,

1222
00:58:24,200 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 1: she can help you. And I was like okay, And

1223
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:28,680
Speaker 1: then I went to Stephanie's website. It was the same

1224
00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:31,680
Speaker 1: woman that had reached out to me like a month ago,

1225
00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:34,040
Speaker 1: and I was like, so it was just I just

1226
00:58:34,040 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 1: felt like it wasn't a coincidence, you know. So Stephanie

1227
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:40,520
Speaker 1: and I had a call on Friday, and I'm not

1228
00:58:40,520 --> 00:58:43,280
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I was exhausted and I usually take my

1229
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:47,560
Speaker 1: Fridays off and I just did not feel like speaking

1230
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:49,920
Speaker 1: with anyone. I was like, why did I plan this

1231
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: on Friday?

1232
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 2: You know?

1233
00:58:53,120 --> 00:58:55,400
Speaker 1: And so what I did was we had a call

1234
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:58,240
Speaker 1: and I'm not gonna lie. It was amazing because one

1235
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 1: Stephanie herself is a therapist, and she started her company

1236
00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 1: because she found that so many people they you know,

1237
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:11,480
Speaker 1: that they they were misaligned with their therapists, Like are

1238
00:59:11,520 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 1: you sure that you need a therapist. Are you sure

1239
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:18,720
Speaker 1: it's not a life coach or a psychiatrist or something else.

1240
00:59:18,760 --> 00:59:22,840
Speaker 1: And because she's a therapist herself, and she and the

1241
00:59:22,880 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 1: woman who actually wrote me thank you, shout out to you,

1242
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 1: miss Patterson. I won't say your first thing just in

1243
00:59:26,800 --> 00:59:29,040
Speaker 1: case she don't want people to know, but miss Patterson,

1244
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:30,800
Speaker 1: gird you have all the letters after your name.

1245
00:59:30,880 --> 00:59:34,520
Speaker 2: Ed, ED, D, R, n C and Okay, I loved it.

1246
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:38,560
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I love smart bron women shed.

1247
00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: Exactly. So she said, you know, she's like, you know,

1248
00:59:42,360 --> 00:59:44,080
Speaker 1: my girl Stephanie would. So I had the call with

1249
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:46,880
Speaker 1: her and she was amazing. Definitely has her master's I'm

1250
00:59:46,880 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 1: not sure and I'm assuming in psychology or psychiatry or

1251
00:59:51,960 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 1: or whatever.

1252
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 2: So we we spoke for.

1253
00:59:53,360 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 1: About an hour and the purpose it was basically a session,

1254
00:59:57,360 --> 00:59:59,680
Speaker 1: but it was a session to see what I needed

1255
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:02,880
Speaker 1: and after like, you know, talking through At first, she

1256
01:00:02,960 --> 01:00:04,960
Speaker 1: was like, let you know some you know, just from

1257
01:00:04,960 --> 01:00:06,600
Speaker 1: hearing you Tippy. At first, I'm thinking, is this a

1258
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:08,960
Speaker 1: life coach that you need? But as I spoke a

1259
01:00:09,000 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 1: little bit more, She's like, Nope, I see the need

1260
01:00:11,320 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 1: for some therapy here.

1261
01:00:13,080 --> 01:00:13,640
Speaker 2: And I told her.

1262
01:00:13,680 --> 01:00:14,960
Speaker 1: You know, one of the things that was holding me

1263
01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 1: back is that I know it's going to take time

1264
01:00:17,560 --> 01:00:19,200
Speaker 1: to weed through and find people. I just have been

1265
01:00:19,240 --> 01:00:21,080
Speaker 1: too overwhelmed to do so. And she's like, no, that's

1266
01:00:21,080 --> 01:00:23,480
Speaker 1: why I'm here. I'm going to take stock of all.

1267
01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:25,520
Speaker 1: She asked me a bunch of questions and we talked,

1268
01:00:25,560 --> 01:00:27,400
Speaker 1: and she said, I'm going to take stock of all

1269
01:00:27,400 --> 01:00:28,000
Speaker 1: that you're saying.

1270
01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:28,960
Speaker 2: I am going to vet.

1271
01:00:29,080 --> 01:00:32,520
Speaker 1: She's like, I have a huge network, and she uses

1272
01:00:32,800 --> 01:00:35,520
Speaker 1: some other online channels and then she's gonna whittle it

1273
01:00:35,560 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 1: down to about two to four typically three that you

1274
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:42,160
Speaker 1: know that she's after reaching out to folks, and she's

1275
01:00:42,200 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 1: gonna want me to have like fifteen minute conversations with

1276
01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 1: the two to four and then rate them, and then

1277
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:50,920
Speaker 1: she and I will talk again and really pick the

1278
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:53,240
Speaker 1: one that I think will be the best fit. She

1279
01:00:53,360 --> 01:00:56,240
Speaker 1: encourages her clients speak with have at least three sessions

1280
01:00:56,240 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 1: before saying it's not a fit, and then as you

1281
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:00,640
Speaker 1: find that, you know it wasn't and we start the

1282
01:01:00,680 --> 01:01:03,040
Speaker 1: process again. But she herself was amazing.

1283
01:01:03,080 --> 01:01:03,280
Speaker 4: Girl.

1284
01:01:03,280 --> 01:01:09,520
Speaker 5: I was boohooing, Okay, yes, it was just like, yes,

1285
01:01:09,800 --> 01:01:12,000
Speaker 5: it was.

1286
01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:13,000
Speaker 2: Either.

1287
01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 1: So her company is called navvy psyche so na b

1288
01:01:17,680 --> 01:01:22,320
Speaker 1: I P S y c H navvy psych and but

1289
01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:26,120
Speaker 1: she just her demeanor was just exactly what I needed.

1290
01:01:26,160 --> 01:01:28,720
Speaker 2: I felt heard, I felt seen, and.

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01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:30,440
Speaker 1: There were some things that I really like unlocked that

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01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:34,160
Speaker 1: I realized that like trauma, things that were I thought

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01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:36,800
Speaker 1: to myself, maybe one of the reasons that I've been

1294
01:01:36,840 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 1: feeling like out of touch with the success that's happening

1295
01:01:40,760 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 1: is because maybe it's just coming on too fast, too furious,

1296
01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 1: and that's really just not it that I have built

1297
01:01:46,480 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 1: this trauma response that I've been living in this space

1298
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:53,360
Speaker 1: for a long time because I don't allow myself to

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01:01:53,400 --> 01:01:56,880
Speaker 1: go too high or too low even before Budgetista, and

1300
01:01:56,960 --> 01:01:59,920
Speaker 1: it's because the I'm scared of how low the low is,

1301
01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 1: and so I never get to experience how high the

1302
01:02:02,080 --> 01:02:04,720
Speaker 1: high is because it's just trauma response from things that

1303
01:02:05,320 --> 01:02:07,600
Speaker 1: I came up with. And I learned not to go

1304
01:02:07,680 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 1: too too happy. No no, no no, don't get too excited,

1305
01:02:10,520 --> 01:02:12,840
Speaker 1: because also too no no, no no, don't get too sad.

1306
01:02:13,120 --> 01:02:15,360
Speaker 1: So I have learned to live in the middle, which

1307
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:20,040
Speaker 1: was helpful during those traumatic times, but it's enabling me

1308
01:02:20,640 --> 01:02:25,160
Speaker 1: from feeling the fullness of joy, because life honestly has

1309
01:02:25,200 --> 01:02:27,320
Speaker 1: never been better, not just on paper but in real life.

1310
01:02:27,360 --> 01:02:30,640
Speaker 1: Like my husband is awesome and amazing and so supportive.

1311
01:02:30,880 --> 01:02:33,320
Speaker 1: I've never been closer with my sisters. My parents and

1312
01:02:33,360 --> 01:02:36,040
Speaker 1: I were never super duper close, but now we're so

1313
01:02:36,160 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 1: much better. My niece and my nephew lived down the street,

1314
01:02:38,800 --> 01:02:41,760
Speaker 1: and that's like the light and highlight of my life.

1315
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:44,520
Speaker 1: And I just things are good. And then I'm obviously

1316
01:02:44,520 --> 01:02:47,439
Speaker 1: professionally y'all know things are good, but like personally too,

1317
01:02:47,720 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 1: like I've gotten rid of all of the toxic relationships.

1318
01:02:50,840 --> 01:02:53,320
Speaker 1: I don't have any toxic friends anymore. They're all gone.

1319
01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:55,480
Speaker 1: And so the fact that I've not been able to

1320
01:02:55,480 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 1: feel it, I kin it to losing your sense of

1321
01:02:58,280 --> 01:03:01,560
Speaker 1: taste and smell. I know that life right now is delicious,

1322
01:03:01,600 --> 01:03:02,560
Speaker 1: and I can't taste it.

1323
01:03:03,000 --> 01:03:03,680
Speaker 2: I can see it.

1324
01:03:03,720 --> 01:03:05,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know this stays so good, but I

1325
01:03:05,720 --> 01:03:07,200
Speaker 1: can't taste it. And she said, mm hm, that's a

1326
01:03:07,280 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 1: trauma response that you taught yourself, and that's okay.

1327
01:03:11,160 --> 01:03:12,840
Speaker 2: She's like, someone can help you unlearn it.

1328
01:03:13,360 --> 01:03:15,000
Speaker 1: You know, when I it really clicked for me, Mandy,

1329
01:03:15,120 --> 01:03:18,800
Speaker 1: when we had the our Rich Journey people on Christina

1330
01:03:18,840 --> 01:03:22,240
Speaker 1: and aman So the level of joy in their voice.

1331
01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:24,400
Speaker 2: I thought, oh, maybe that's because I'm just working two

1332
01:03:24,440 --> 01:03:27,000
Speaker 2: hard as a bunch. He said, no, it wasn't.

1333
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 1: Something about them triggered me because I said, what's the

1334
01:03:30,280 --> 01:03:32,120
Speaker 1: last time you felt that level of joy even though

1335
01:03:32,160 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 1: joyful things are happening, Tiffany, and I realized, what is

1336
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:38,360
Speaker 1: the last time I felt that like level of joy

1337
01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:41,000
Speaker 1: even though joyful things are happening. And that's when I

1338
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:43,720
Speaker 1: realized something else is amiss. And so yeah, so I'm

1339
01:03:43,760 --> 01:03:46,160
Speaker 1: just excited because I cannot wait. I don't want to

1340
01:03:46,320 --> 01:03:48,960
Speaker 1: wait ten years. And it wasn't always like this. I

1341
01:03:48,960 --> 01:03:53,760
Speaker 1: have built up this resistance to feeling over time. The

1342
01:03:53,760 --> 01:03:55,080
Speaker 1: only time I don't kind of feel like this is

1343
01:03:55,120 --> 01:03:56,920
Speaker 1: that's why I see my niece and my nephew so often,

1344
01:03:57,160 --> 01:03:58,880
Speaker 1: because it's like the one time.

1345
01:03:58,680 --> 01:03:59,520
Speaker 2: That my guard is down.

1346
01:03:59,560 --> 01:04:02,320
Speaker 1: And I because she said, because kids have a way

1347
01:04:02,320 --> 01:04:03,840
Speaker 1: of disarming all of your foolishness.

1348
01:04:03,880 --> 01:04:05,680
Speaker 2: They're like, girl, I don't want to hear that play

1349
01:04:05,720 --> 01:04:05,920
Speaker 2: with me.

1350
01:04:06,400 --> 01:04:09,520
Speaker 1: You are Daniel Tiger and I am whatever the owl's

1351
01:04:09,560 --> 01:04:11,680
Speaker 1: name is, you know. And so that's one of the

1352
01:04:11,680 --> 01:04:14,560
Speaker 1: few times I'm in the moment feeling the joy. That's

1353
01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:16,600
Speaker 1: why I see them like darnier every day. I feel like,

1354
01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:18,760
Speaker 1: but yeah, it was just I feel so good about it.

1355
01:04:18,760 --> 01:04:20,280
Speaker 1: I I told her, I don't have any hang ups

1356
01:04:20,280 --> 01:04:22,760
Speaker 1: about therapy. I had a therapist in college, and I

1357
01:04:22,760 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 1: think it's healthy and great. I just I wasn't putting

1358
01:04:25,680 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 1: myself first as far as, like you know, making the

1359
01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:28,640
Speaker 1: time to find someone.

1360
01:04:28,680 --> 01:04:30,800
Speaker 2: And so now I'm excited that I'm.

1361
01:04:30,640 --> 01:04:33,720
Speaker 1: Getting help, and I'm just so excited about it because

1362
01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, yes, I want to taste the food

1363
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:37,480
Speaker 1: that's before me.

1364
01:04:37,760 --> 01:04:39,360
Speaker 2: I don't want to be eighty years old like ito.

1365
01:04:39,440 --> 01:04:40,880
Speaker 1: I used to be in the best food and I

1366
01:04:40,960 --> 01:04:42,360
Speaker 1: never got a chance to really taste it.

1367
01:04:42,600 --> 01:04:48,240
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm so happy for you because this is everything

1368
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:50,800
Speaker 3: being able and this is something and it's not just

1369
01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:53,920
Speaker 3: you either. A lot of people struggle with gratitude in

1370
01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:57,240
Speaker 3: the moment and feeling the success and feeling like you

1371
01:04:57,240 --> 01:04:59,919
Speaker 3: have permission to be happy, and it's like you've earned

1372
01:05:00,160 --> 01:05:02,120
Speaker 3: right to be happy and to really enjoy the fruits

1373
01:05:02,160 --> 01:05:05,400
Speaker 3: of your labor. And I'm so proud of you.

1374
01:05:05,560 --> 01:05:07,440
Speaker 2: Finally she got up there.

1375
01:05:07,600 --> 01:05:10,919
Speaker 1: I'm so honestly just thank y'all be it because it wasn't.

1376
01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:13,560
Speaker 1: If it wasn't for Ms Patterson that sent me that

1377
01:05:13,680 --> 01:05:15,800
Speaker 1: like email, and then Stephanie who reached up prior to that,

1378
01:05:15,920 --> 01:05:18,440
Speaker 1: I don't I don't know that I would have made

1379
01:05:18,480 --> 01:05:20,560
Speaker 1: the leap because it just seemed so daunting to find

1380
01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:22,440
Speaker 1: somebody on my own. I just already felt like I

1381
01:05:22,480 --> 01:05:26,520
Speaker 1: was drowning. So just I feel so excited because honestly too,

1382
01:05:26,520 --> 01:05:29,320
Speaker 1: because these I'm still I have one more last hurrah

1383
01:05:29,400 --> 01:05:31,680
Speaker 1: with IVF and I'm not gonna lie. This round of

1384
01:05:31,720 --> 01:05:34,760
Speaker 1: medicines they have me on is a doozy. I mean,

1385
01:05:35,360 --> 01:05:37,880
Speaker 1: I was jumping for joy for the election and then

1386
01:05:37,880 --> 01:05:39,280
Speaker 1: I burst into tears and.

1387
01:05:39,240 --> 01:05:42,400
Speaker 2: I'm like, why are you crying? Is just joyful tears.

1388
01:05:42,400 --> 01:05:45,720
Speaker 2: They weren't hormones, And the poor Superman was looking at

1389
01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:47,479
Speaker 2: me and he was like, you just took your shot,

1390
01:05:47,520 --> 01:05:50,000
Speaker 2: didn't you. And I was like, oh, I did that.

1391
01:05:52,880 --> 01:05:56,360
Speaker 3: When I give you a hug, he did, Would.

1392
01:05:56,160 --> 01:05:57,200
Speaker 2: I tell you these hormones?

1393
01:05:57,360 --> 01:06:01,080
Speaker 1: I was like, because literally I was like, yeah, I

1394
01:06:01,120 --> 01:06:05,840
Speaker 1: don't know, I'm crying. He was like, Babe, like I'm yeah,

1395
01:06:05,920 --> 01:06:08,360
Speaker 1: these hormones, Oh my gosh. So that definitely like what

1396
01:06:08,400 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 1: I liked about Stephanie two said she's going to look

1397
01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:13,880
Speaker 1: for therapists that have women that they've worked with that

1398
01:06:13,920 --> 01:06:16,520
Speaker 1: are gone through the IVF process. She said, because honestly, Tiffany,

1399
01:06:16,800 --> 01:06:19,120
Speaker 1: that plays a role in how you feel obviously too,

1400
01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:21,320
Speaker 1: So I want someone that's going to help you descend it,

1401
01:06:21,440 --> 01:06:25,960
Speaker 1: discern like you know, what's actually your feeling versus what's

1402
01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:28,480
Speaker 1: being triggered by the increased amount of hormones in your

1403
01:06:28,480 --> 01:06:29,680
Speaker 1: body as a result of IVF.

1404
01:06:29,760 --> 01:06:32,080
Speaker 2: So it was just, yes, manager, thank.

1405
01:06:32,000 --> 01:06:33,760
Speaker 1: You so much for like cause you put that battery

1406
01:06:33,800 --> 01:06:34,760
Speaker 1: in my back and I was like, I'm going to

1407
01:06:34,800 --> 01:06:36,920
Speaker 1: reach out and ask for help, and now I'm getting it,

1408
01:06:37,520 --> 01:06:37,880
Speaker 1: getting it.

1409
01:06:38,200 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 3: I mean, I knew when you weren't happy because you

1410
01:06:39,800 --> 01:06:42,080
Speaker 3: were on GMA. I was like, it's about time, Tiffany.

1411
01:06:42,320 --> 01:06:44,000
Speaker 3: If you're not going to enjoy these gifts, can I

1412
01:06:44,040 --> 01:06:47,120
Speaker 3: have something? No, I'm kidding, and I agree. I think

1413
01:06:47,160 --> 01:06:50,080
Speaker 3: for me the past year and the reason. So it's

1414
01:06:50,080 --> 01:06:52,720
Speaker 3: like you're somewhere in between, like Tiffany, you know, in

1415
01:06:52,760 --> 01:06:55,200
Speaker 3: the middle and like Mandy running in the streets with joy,

1416
01:06:55,360 --> 01:06:58,040
Speaker 3: Like somewhere in the middle is rancer a good place

1417
01:06:58,080 --> 01:07:01,840
Speaker 3: to be is but that level of joy that I

1418
01:07:03,160 --> 01:07:08,120
Speaker 3: literally dance and I felt so invigorated ever since I

1419
01:07:08,160 --> 01:07:10,160
Speaker 3: got back to work since maternity leave. And I don't

1420
01:07:10,200 --> 01:07:12,720
Speaker 3: think it was I think I'm ready to acknowledge that

1421
01:07:12,760 --> 01:07:15,480
Speaker 3: it's been having like it's been the baby, and it's

1422
01:07:15,480 --> 01:07:19,120
Speaker 3: been therapy, and it's been just all of these things

1423
01:07:19,200 --> 01:07:22,160
Speaker 3: kind of this confluence of events. And you're so right

1424
01:07:22,200 --> 01:07:26,080
Speaker 3: about you know, children and whether you know it's your

1425
01:07:26,160 --> 01:07:29,760
Speaker 3: an auntie or an uncle or a god a godmother

1426
01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:34,200
Speaker 3: or a godfather or cousin, whatever, children really do like

1427
01:07:34,280 --> 01:07:37,840
Speaker 3: I do feel like my capacity for joy and my

1428
01:07:37,920 --> 01:07:41,400
Speaker 3: willingness to show it because it makes you vulnerable, like

1429
01:07:41,560 --> 01:07:43,960
Speaker 3: right like when I was little, I never used to

1430
01:07:44,000 --> 01:07:47,560
Speaker 3: smile people who meet me or see me on social media.

1431
01:07:47,680 --> 01:07:50,680
Speaker 3: Now I legit have gotten messages from people like who

1432
01:07:50,760 --> 01:07:53,479
Speaker 3: is this person? I thought, like, you're not the person

1433
01:07:53,480 --> 01:07:55,240
Speaker 3: I knew in high school or and you know it

1434
01:07:55,280 --> 01:07:58,360
Speaker 3: will really in college, I started opening up. But it's

1435
01:07:58,600 --> 01:08:02,640
Speaker 3: it's a willingness to be vulnerab and it's and it's

1436
01:08:02,640 --> 01:08:04,840
Speaker 3: something that I really had to It's a muscle I've

1437
01:08:04,840 --> 01:08:07,520
Speaker 3: had to flex and flex and flex. It's like I

1438
01:08:07,560 --> 01:08:10,960
Speaker 3: will now go into an empty dance floor and dance

1439
01:08:11,800 --> 01:08:17,280
Speaker 3: mostly without needing alcohol to lubricate my my confidence. Ask

1440
01:08:17,360 --> 01:08:19,839
Speaker 3: anyone who came to my cousin's wedding two years ago anyway,

1441
01:08:20,640 --> 01:08:22,679
Speaker 3: but anyway, and I mean, I'm there and I think

1442
01:08:22,960 --> 01:08:25,080
Speaker 3: there's no time to waste. We need to like latch

1443
01:08:25,080 --> 01:08:27,200
Speaker 3: onto the joy. And I'm so happy for you because

1444
01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:29,600
Speaker 3: you deserve to feel it, you deserve.

1445
01:08:29,360 --> 01:08:33,400
Speaker 2: To taste it. Yes, I cannot wait. I'm just like, yeah, so.

1446
01:08:33,479 --> 01:08:36,080
Speaker 3: And even just doing it, it sounds like you sound lighter already,

1447
01:08:36,360 --> 01:08:37,000
Speaker 3: like I do.

1448
01:08:37,040 --> 01:08:38,679
Speaker 2: I feel it? Because I didn't know what was wrong.

1449
01:08:38,720 --> 01:08:40,599
Speaker 2: I was like, am I doing something wrong? Do I

1450
01:08:40,640 --> 01:08:42,559
Speaker 2: not like the buttonista? Do I?

1451
01:08:42,560 --> 01:08:44,800
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm like, I don't think that's it, because

1452
01:08:44,840 --> 01:08:46,120
Speaker 1: I don't feel unhappy.

1453
01:08:46,200 --> 01:08:49,679
Speaker 2: I just feel like, oh this is this food is great?

1454
01:08:49,960 --> 01:08:53,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, like because I mean, honestly, I things would

1455
01:08:53,560 --> 01:08:56,240
Speaker 1: happened and people would say like, aren't you upset by that?

1456
01:08:56,360 --> 01:08:58,800
Speaker 1: Like the last IVF cycle it didn't go well, And

1457
01:08:58,800 --> 01:09:00,719
Speaker 1: I was explaining it to a front and she said,

1458
01:09:00,760 --> 01:09:04,720
Speaker 1: you're talking about like a math problem.

1459
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:06,120
Speaker 2: Like it's okay to be sad tifany I was like, well,

1460
01:09:06,200 --> 01:09:07,000
Speaker 2: you know, it happens.

1461
01:09:07,520 --> 01:09:10,240
Speaker 1: She's like yeah, but and so that's what it clicked too,

1462
01:09:10,280 --> 01:09:12,840
Speaker 1: because I'm like, hmm, your lows are not really low,

1463
01:09:13,000 --> 01:09:15,479
Speaker 1: which it's okay for them for you to be upset,

1464
01:09:15,600 --> 01:09:16,800
Speaker 1: but your highs are not really high.

1465
01:09:16,880 --> 01:09:19,959
Speaker 2: What's going on? Tifny, Like you know you're there's.

1466
01:09:19,760 --> 01:09:23,320
Speaker 1: Something happening here where you you should legitimately be sad.

1467
01:09:23,360 --> 01:09:26,519
Speaker 1: It's okay to be sad and disappointed, and you're not.

1468
01:09:26,800 --> 01:09:28,720
Speaker 1: It's not not even that I'm not just saying it,

1469
01:09:28,760 --> 01:09:32,439
Speaker 1: I'm not feeling it, you know. And so like I said,

1470
01:09:32,439 --> 01:09:34,800
Speaker 1: she's like, that's protective. That's something you learn to do,

1471
01:09:35,040 --> 01:09:37,920
Speaker 1: and you have to learn a new way because you're

1472
01:09:37,920 --> 01:09:39,960
Speaker 1: not that little girl anymore that you know where you

1473
01:09:40,040 --> 01:09:42,600
Speaker 1: created that system for yourself. So for those of you

1474
01:09:42,680 --> 01:09:44,519
Speaker 1: who are listening for certain, for certain, for certain, if

1475
01:09:44,560 --> 01:09:46,880
Speaker 1: you're you know, like it's hard to like, I mean,

1476
01:09:46,920 --> 01:09:47,680
Speaker 1: there are there's is it?

1477
01:09:47,760 --> 01:09:50,040
Speaker 2: Black girl? What is the if you're looking for a

1478
01:09:50,040 --> 01:09:53,160
Speaker 2: black therapist therapy for black girls? Mm hmm, the therapy

1479
01:09:53,200 --> 01:09:53,800
Speaker 2: for black girls.

1480
01:09:53,800 --> 01:09:58,160
Speaker 1: But also too, like I said, nav navvy psych if

1481
01:09:58,160 --> 01:09:59,599
Speaker 1: you're if you're just like I don't even know where

1482
01:09:59,600 --> 01:10:01,400
Speaker 1: to start, and I want to pay someone to help.

1483
01:10:01,439 --> 01:10:04,800
Speaker 1: We do the therapist cycle for me. Stephanie, like I said,

1484
01:10:04,920 --> 01:10:09,120
Speaker 1: she herself was a therapist and was just absolutely amazing.

1485
01:10:09,520 --> 01:10:11,080
Speaker 1: I wanted to be like, are you gonna be my therapist?

1486
01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:15,160
Speaker 1: I can tell she was like, girl, don't get attached,

1487
01:10:15,400 --> 01:10:16,400
Speaker 1: nap and I'm here.

1488
01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:21,519
Speaker 2: I'm going to direct you. But yeah, so what about you?

1489
01:10:21,760 --> 01:10:25,160
Speaker 3: What is your boostie? Oh lord, I forgot all about that.

1490
01:10:25,200 --> 01:10:27,679
Speaker 3: We were in this segment. I need to have a boost.

1491
01:10:28,160 --> 01:10:29,800
Speaker 3: I do have a boost, It's on paper. Let me

1492
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:31,600
Speaker 3: get my handy dandy notebook. Oh I don't need it

1493
01:10:31,600 --> 01:10:34,760
Speaker 3: because I remember ninety one. Well, first of all, black

1494
01:10:34,800 --> 01:10:38,680
Speaker 3: women is my boost? Just black women in general. I

1495
01:10:38,720 --> 01:10:41,400
Speaker 3: am so proud of us US us US. I talked

1496
01:10:41,400 --> 01:10:44,040
Speaker 3: about every relative, you know, badgery relatives to vote in Georgia.

1497
01:10:44,160 --> 01:10:46,200
Speaker 3: Every last one of them that I talked to was

1498
01:10:46,240 --> 01:10:49,599
Speaker 3: a black woman. My cousins and my aunt. My dad,

1499
01:10:49,640 --> 01:10:51,879
Speaker 3: on the other hand, tried to get to the great uncles,

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Speaker 3: great uncles who are so cynical and listen, they have

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01:10:55,960 --> 01:10:58,360
Speaker 3: every right to be. They grew up in a very

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01:10:58,360 --> 01:11:00,599
Speaker 3: different Atlanta than the one that we have today. But anyway,

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01:11:01,120 --> 01:11:03,040
Speaker 3: the black men and my family were just just not

1504
01:11:03,120 --> 01:11:06,080
Speaker 3: as likely not as receptive to the call to action,

1505
01:11:06,200 --> 01:11:09,360
Speaker 3: but black women have so. I mean, but it's not

1506
01:11:09,439 --> 01:11:13,479
Speaker 3: just this election cycle. For generations, for decades, black women

1507
01:11:13,520 --> 01:11:16,160
Speaker 3: have been there fighting even before we had the right

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01:11:16,200 --> 01:11:18,120
Speaker 3: to vote, still fighting for it, even though we didn't

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01:11:18,120 --> 01:11:20,599
Speaker 3: get it first. It was all women first, White women first,

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01:11:20,600 --> 01:11:23,600
Speaker 3: and then you know, black women later. But I just

1511
01:11:23,640 --> 01:11:27,599
Speaker 3: wanted to shout us out. Ninety one percent, no other

1512
01:11:28,120 --> 01:11:32,240
Speaker 3: demographic voted more in the direction of Biden and Kamala

1513
01:11:32,280 --> 01:11:35,600
Speaker 3: Harris than black women beat black men. I mean, I

1514
01:11:35,600 --> 01:11:38,000
Speaker 3: can go down the line. Although black men were right

1515
01:11:38,040 --> 01:11:40,400
Speaker 3: behind black women. I know people are making a lot

1516
01:11:40,400 --> 01:11:42,600
Speaker 3: out of the fact that there was an increase in

1517
01:11:42,640 --> 01:11:44,960
Speaker 3: black men who voted for Trump, but they still were

1518
01:11:44,960 --> 01:11:48,719
Speaker 3: the second most likely. Black people in general, by and large,

1519
01:11:48,960 --> 01:11:51,639
Speaker 3: saved Joe Biden this election. And I can say that

1520
01:11:52,000 --> 01:11:54,280
Speaker 3: with my full chest because we see the numbers and

1521
01:11:54,320 --> 01:11:58,320
Speaker 3: this sliver tiny margins in these cities. So ninety one

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01:11:58,360 --> 01:12:00,400
Speaker 3: percent of Black women, thank you, thank you, thank you,

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01:12:00,800 --> 01:12:03,800
Speaker 3: And we actually see someone who looks like us in

1524
01:12:03,840 --> 01:12:07,719
Speaker 3: the White House. And those seeing Kamala on that stage

1525
01:12:07,760 --> 01:12:11,160
Speaker 3: when she gave her acceptance speech with her family and

1526
01:12:11,200 --> 01:12:13,920
Speaker 3: her nieces. Oh my God with the little cute white

1527
01:12:14,000 --> 01:12:16,479
Speaker 3: dresses and the white the little like poofs in their hair,

1528
01:12:17,600 --> 01:12:20,080
Speaker 3: it matters. And I just thank all of y'all, and

1529
01:12:20,120 --> 01:12:22,960
Speaker 3: I'll keep it short and sweet because I this is

1530
01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:26,160
Speaker 3: I just feel like I've been talking NonStop. But thank you,

1531
01:12:26,320 --> 01:12:28,360
Speaker 3: thank you, thank you, thank you, and thank you Tiffany,

1532
01:12:28,600 --> 01:12:32,320
Speaker 3: And I'm so grateful for this show and for every

1533
01:12:32,520 --> 01:12:35,240
Speaker 3: for every woman black woman out there who has been

1534
01:12:36,000 --> 01:12:39,000
Speaker 3: fighting where I think we're finally getting the recognition that

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01:12:39,040 --> 01:12:42,200
Speaker 3: we deserve and I'm glad to be here for it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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01:12:43,479 --> 01:12:46,160
Speaker 1: No, I just it does feel really good. And to

1538
01:12:46,160 --> 01:12:48,880
Speaker 1: be called out on the on the national stage. You know,

1539
01:12:49,200 --> 01:12:51,080
Speaker 1: normally they would just not do that. You would do

1540
01:12:51,120 --> 01:12:53,320
Speaker 1: all of this and you wouldn't be recognizing right to

1541
01:12:53,360 --> 01:12:56,160
Speaker 1: be seen, to be heard. And now it's time for

1542
01:12:56,240 --> 01:12:59,040
Speaker 1: game time. I saw that Petresa, the co founder of

1543
01:12:59,040 --> 01:13:01,920
Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter, I think via the New York Times,

1544
01:13:01,960 --> 01:13:04,960
Speaker 1: has penned the letter or Washington Post pen the letter

1545
01:13:05,400 --> 01:13:09,719
Speaker 1: to you know, President elect Joe Biden to say, Okay,

1546
01:13:09,800 --> 01:13:10,680
Speaker 1: we helped you get here.

1547
01:13:10,720 --> 01:13:11,679
Speaker 2: Here's what we're wanting.

1548
01:13:11,800 --> 01:13:14,120
Speaker 3: Yes, here's our commands, and you've got to hold them

1549
01:13:14,120 --> 01:13:18,280
Speaker 3: accountable from it. Just Joe Biden. Every look up who

1550
01:13:18,320 --> 01:13:22,240
Speaker 3: represents you in Congress. They check their email, they read

1551
01:13:22,280 --> 01:13:25,120
Speaker 3: their mail. You need to contact your elected officials and

1552
01:13:25,200 --> 01:13:28,560
Speaker 3: vote for them. We need to come collect on what

1553
01:13:28,720 --> 01:13:33,440
Speaker 3: we were. You know why we voted for them.

1554
01:13:32,120 --> 01:13:35,120
Speaker 1: Because here's the thing, they are now very very clear

1555
01:13:35,640 --> 01:13:40,639
Speaker 1: that we play an active role in who who puts

1556
01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:44,080
Speaker 1: butts in seats? And so you know, it's been on

1557
01:13:44,080 --> 01:13:45,800
Speaker 1: a world stage now where they're like, oh, this is

1558
01:13:45,840 --> 01:13:47,559
Speaker 1: no longer. Oh we don't have to no, no, no, no,

1559
01:13:48,160 --> 01:13:51,400
Speaker 1: you do you do or you know, no one says

1560
01:13:51,400 --> 01:13:53,639
Speaker 1: we have to continue to vote in this and vote

1561
01:13:53,640 --> 01:13:54,479
Speaker 1: block in this way.

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01:13:54,680 --> 01:13:58,599
Speaker 3: Yep, amen to that, and thank you to Black Lives

1563
01:13:58,640 --> 01:14:06,000
Speaker 3: Matter and just black magic everywhere. I'm so you had

1564
01:14:06,040 --> 01:14:08,360
Speaker 3: us going, You had us going real good. We were

1565
01:14:08,400 --> 01:14:10,920
Speaker 3: real we were real stressed. We didn't know what else

1566
01:14:11,000 --> 01:14:14,080
Speaker 3: was going to end, but we ended up being our

1567
01:14:14,120 --> 01:14:17,360
Speaker 3: own heroes in the end. And yes, that's what I

1568
01:14:17,400 --> 01:14:19,360
Speaker 3: love about it. Again, you didn't have to wear a

1569
01:14:19,400 --> 01:14:22,160
Speaker 3: cape or you know, be you just you just had

1570
01:14:22,200 --> 01:14:24,519
Speaker 3: to vote, and we just got to keep voting. I'll

1571
01:14:24,560 --> 01:14:28,439
Speaker 3: never I'll never ever ever forget the past four years.

1572
01:14:28,680 --> 01:14:32,240
Speaker 3: I just it's It's burned into my into my DNA,

1573
01:14:32,439 --> 01:14:35,360
Speaker 3: and I hope it will just be inherited by every

1574
01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:37,680
Speaker 3: if I'm lucky enough to have more offspring. But just

1575
01:14:37,680 --> 01:14:39,760
Speaker 3: like Rio and all of his descendants, I hope that

1576
01:14:39,840 --> 01:14:42,639
Speaker 3: they remember the same way I will.

1577
01:14:43,479 --> 01:14:49,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, remember remember, I'm not gonna lie. It's like.

1578
01:14:51,960 --> 01:15:01,040
Speaker 3: And thank you, James Weird. I just whatever, Thanks y'all

1579
01:15:01,080 --> 01:15:02,000
Speaker 3: for listening.

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01:15:02,400 --> 01:15:03,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love y'all.

1581
01:15:03,280 --> 01:15:16,320
Speaker 3: See y'all next week without my notepad, maybe