WEBVTT - 74: The Night Call Guide to Self-Care 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:05.080 Welcome to Nightcall, a production of I Heart Radio. It's 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:09.200 twelve thirty four a m. In the heavy Side Layer 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:26.319 and you're listening to Night Call. Welcome to Nightcall, a 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:30.480 podcast for your strange days and lonely nights. My name 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:35.960 is Emmily Orshida. I am here in Los Angeles. City 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:41.040 of Stars were two of my favorite right shining stars 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:48.360 City of Pods, Molly Lamber. Molly Lambert and Tessalynch. Hello, guys, 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:54.040 today we're gonna have a very chill, relaxed episode of Nightcall. 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:57.240 It's the middle of summer, um. I think you know, 0:00:57.440 --> 0:00:59.960 the East Coast just got through with a very brue 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:03.080 will heat wave. I feel like everybody's just kind of 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:08.040 feeling the heat in general right now, the heat. So 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:12.200 we're we're gonna we're gonna do a chill to a 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:15.640 little night sessh right now. Yeah. We wanted to talk 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:19.000 last week in our last podcast about some self care 0:01:19.200 --> 0:01:21.600 tips that we had kind of found our way too, 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:23.600 and then we ended up bumping it to this week. 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:25.479 But it's perfect because I'm in the mood to talk 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:27.679 about self care. I'm sitting in front of a giant 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:32.800 salad um. Yeah, we said today all all rules are off. 0:01:33.240 --> 0:01:40.000 Our famously formal podcast has even less structure today than usual. Um, 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:43.080 and I went on a podcast hosted by Kate Raft 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:47.880 and Drew Spears called this podcast is self Care? Was it? 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:49.920 It was great? Everybody should listen to it? Was it 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:53.080 self care? Did it feel self caring? Yeah? And they 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:55.680 specified that that is it's the only podcast that if 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.760 you listen to it, it is self care. But then 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:02.040 they said, also night call count thank you listening, and 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:03.920 I call your self care. Do you guys remember when 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:06.640 we did a Hoodies episode where we didn't have the 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:09.119 table and we just were on bean bags or something. Yes, 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:10.679 we were. We did a floor pod. We did a 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:13.840 floor pod in low light. We should do that. It 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:16.520 was great. We can. We're gonna do more field recording 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:20.160 episodes for sure, slumber party pods. It just it changes 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:26.680 your voice, I think when you're like in a reclining pose. Yeah, Um, yeah, 0:02:26.760 --> 0:02:29.560 it was. It was great. We'll bring it back next time. 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.959 Reclining is self care. Reclining is self care. Everything counts 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:35.280 as self care in a way, it is not actually 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:37.160 self care for me right now, Like I'm having a 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:40.079 hard time lying down because clining, sitting up straight of 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:43.040 self care for you right now? Or it's like I'm 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:44.799 not sure what it is? What is though, because I've 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:46.560 been writing in a lot of lifts out here and 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:49.359 that's also not fun, Like I have to be kind 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:52.000 of I don't know, I have to have like lumbar support. 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:55.240 I feel like I'm eighty year. Is that self grandparenting? 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:58.680 Self grandparenting? Yeah, it's saying, you know what, my back hurts, 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:01.280 and I'm going to tend to it instead of pretending 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:05.280 I can just soldier. Self grandparenting was the concept I 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:08.880 brought to Kate Raft and do Spirits podcast, but they 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:13.000 have had other guests talk about such topics as going outside, 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:20.760 oh yeah, um Joan Hailey Ford, who is a person 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:25.359 I really like, did she did something about selfiees of 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:31.160 self care? How? Because I think it's like they're not. 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:35.800 It's just kind of like confronting and accepting your like 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:38.720 documenting yourself as you are instead of being like I 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:41.640 shouldn't do it because I don't want to be like imperfect, 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:43.960 just me and like here's what I look like. Here, 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:47.040 I am world, I'm great. I do those on the 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:49.880 um on the photo Booth app on the on the 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:51.800 computer a lot, and I was really kind of bummed 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:53.760 because I lost my computer at the end of last 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:57.160 year and I had all of these just disk top 0:03:57.480 --> 0:04:00.480 selfies basically that I had taken usually I was like 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:04.680 writing something or just sort of procrastinating and just hanging 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:06.880 out and like my hoodie and my living room or something, 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:10.040 and so they were not like nice pictures. It was 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:12.040 just like, here's my domb face today. And I had 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:14.920 this like huge stream of them, and I lost them 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:16.719 and it kind of felt like losing a diary a 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:19.320 little bit. I was like, oh, I mean, nobody'll ever 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:22.400 see those. But still I like the low rez photo 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:25.040 booth pictures I have. I have a bunch of those 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:27.279 from a while ago. But then my mom, it's my 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:29.080 computer is really old. And now I have like a 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:32.080 smudge that won't go away, so I look like I'm 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:36.200 I'm too ghosty. It's a little spooky. Yeah, I feel 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:37.880 like we talked about this a lot, but it's like 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:40.200 the idea that tech would be this way to archive 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:44.520 everything forever has clearly proven to be not true and 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.920 so very ephemeral. I got really sad also because tiny 0:04:47.960 --> 0:04:50.719 pick was going down now oh man, it was like 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:54.200 tiny pick like an institution. I didn't even realize some 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:58.640 of these things would could go go away, just people 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:01.599 places you hosted. I want to know your favorite forms 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:04.919 of self care. Well, I told you guys that I 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:10.880 have recently, as in the past week, gotten into face massage. 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:14.599 Self face massage, which if you look on YouTube you 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:17.080 can find a bunch of ladies who will show you 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:21.640 what's it called, like MYO Fascial, MYO face Show. I 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:23.599 don't know, Like a lot of them have this book 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:27.560 that this um this Korean book that like they're like, 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:29.480 I don't know how to read this, but I found 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:31.800 this and it's got these amazing things, and so a 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:34.400 lot of it is kind of like the same. It's 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:38.400 like the same kind of pseudo science of like a 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:41.240 fake face rollers and stuff where you're just sort of like, 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:44.839 you know, there's a there's a real function to that 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:47.640 stuff that has nothing to do with like jade or 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:50.120 like rose courts or whatever they make these rollers out 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:53.159 of that supposedly like calm your wrinkles or something like. 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:56.400 Isn't it like lymphatically drainage? It's your lymphatic system. So 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:58.960 you have all these like lymph nodes on the sides 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:02.000 of your face and some here on like what's this 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:04.960 called here, like not your temples, but actually there I 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.240 think there are some on your temples. And so if 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:10.400 you're like not getting rest or you're just like you know, 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:13.440 not taking care of yourself, or you're dehydrated and stuff like, 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:15.159 you can get kind of like puffy, and so you 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:17.920 can you know, massage that out. You don't need a 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:22.200 hundred fifty dollar jade roller from group. But um, but 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:25.240 I find it very very calming, like because you're just 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.640 sort of mirroring. Like there's this like Russian lady who 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:30.480 does them, who I find very calming, and you just 0:06:30.520 --> 0:06:32.240 sort of mirror her because she does it in real 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:34.960 time and it's just like my brain just like drifts 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:36.960 off to another planet while I do it. Here's my 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:39.640 problem with lymphatic massage. Because I got really into this. 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:43.239 I noticed there was something of someone posted a picture 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:44.839 or something where they did it to half their face 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:46.880 and not to the other half, and they were definitely 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:49.080 like less puffy and looked all dowy on the side 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:51.279 where they've done it. But then I started doing it, 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:53.919 and I the more I started thinking about my lymph nodes. 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:57.039 The more I started to become a crazy hypochondriac. And 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:59.760 then I started reading people being like, oh, yeah, so 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:03.040 and the stuff will drain into like your lower lymph nodes, 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:05.599 so they might be swollen, and don't freak out. It's like, 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:08.279 don't freak out tests, don't freak out. But it was 0:07:08.360 --> 0:07:10.560 totally freaking out. I have to do one. There's the 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:13.680 last step is to go down and like, I guess 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:15.680 they can all go into your chest or something. But 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:19.480 then isn't that bad? It sounded so scary. Also, I 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:21.280 would be like, wow, I have to see the dentist, 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:23.040 Like what does it mean if it hurts my jaw? 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:25.560 Like I have to see the Like this is not 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:30.720 I find it like a little intimidating because I feel 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:32.480 like those spot First of all, it just makes you 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:34.800 think about the fact that there's a skull inside your head. 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:38.160 There's so much stuff. I love. It makes you think 0:07:38.160 --> 0:07:41.080 about like how the bones are in there a lot, 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:44.080 and it just feels so weird when you touch it. 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.840 It's almost like I shouldn't be doing this right, Like 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:50.560 when you touch your belly button, you're sort of like something. 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:53.120 There's like I'm not supposed to go here. Oh no, 0:07:53.280 --> 0:07:55.520 I love I love the fac thing. I mean I 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:57.760 one of my favorite things to think about every once 0:07:57.800 --> 0:07:59.200 in a while is that I'll never get to see 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:04.480 my own skeleton. And like everybody's skeleton, but your own theory, 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:07.520 why don't you like envision a better world? Or maybe 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:11.960 you will so. I actually see this amazing glass sculpture 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:14.800 yesterday that somebody posted where it was a glass sculpture 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:17.840 of a person's soul leaving their body. It was like 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:19.600 the best thing I've ever seen. But like, what if 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:23.120 your skeleton just like, yeah, you could. I guess you could, 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:26.840 like um, do a mapping of it and then make 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:30.400 it out of fiberglass or but depending on what kind 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:33.200 of imaging you used, you'd be exposing yourself to a 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:37.240 ton of radiation and then your skeleton would be its 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:40.000 days would be numbered, I guess. And I get to 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.680 see that skelet that's true. I really want to see 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:46.120 my skeleton. I can imagine what mine looks like, but 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:48.160 it might be surprising. Do you think you have a 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:51.400 really good one? I don't know. We'll see your own skull. Yeah, 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:53.240 I want to see my school because I feel like 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.000 my head is so huge, and so I'd like to 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:59.160 really see what it has been the body world. Absolutely, 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:05.040 I've never in I keeping it well, it is interesting 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.880 and bad. It's pretty bad. It's pretty bad. And then 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:10.400 all the people that they use for the because they 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:15.040 say the corpses are donated willingly, the original supposedly, yeah, 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:18.240 they're supposedly originally, but also the guy who made it up, 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:20.800 like they show pictures of him and he looks like 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:23.760 the Nazi from Rachel's Lost art. You know, he's like 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:27.320 an Austrian scientist or something, and they're like, he invented plastinization, 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:32.040 the process of turning bodies into plastics. But then one 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:33.840 of the things I've heard is that the bodies they 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:38.760 use now are bodies of prisoners in China, specifically people 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:45.240 who are in Fallon Goong. M h really yes, So 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:49.160 when Falon Gong is doing their protests and being like 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:52.480 the Chinese government is like fucking you know, putting us 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:57.080 in prison and like killing people, maybe that's true. Okay, 0:09:57.440 --> 0:09:59.640 so you want to call in and and somebody us 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:04.079 a show Young and Fallonong expert um because I when 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:06.160 everybody was doing the shen Yon memes, I was like, 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:08.920 everyone's going to get into fallonong is self care because 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:13.120 I'm kind of surprised white people haven't tried to ruin 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:18.319 taichi more yet. You know they have tried, Yeah, but 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:22.079 just like it's because taichi doesn't make you hot, you 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:25.599 know it though, like yoga and everything else, if you 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:28.280 can find a vanity angle of it, then it will 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:30.480 get co opted. Tchi does make you hot because it's 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:33.480 like constant movement. I just feel like it's so in 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:35.720 the goop sphere that they would be like your energy 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:38.640 is flowing that they would like ruin it. Yeah, it's 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:44.559 weird how resistant it's been. Yeah, it's interesting. Um. I 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:47.400 not not that these things are related at all, but 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:50.679 because I've been having this back trouble, I did. I 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:52.880 was walking around where I'm staying in l A and 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:56.679 I did go by a chiropracticum place, and I was thinking, like, 0:10:56.880 --> 0:10:59.360 what if this is the time, maybe what if they 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:02.920 make it work bird I've never I mean, I'm not 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:05.280 a backcracker at all. It could be that I have 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:08.839 like a hundred cracks in my back and no not 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:13.000 on my back, on your back, M I have phone 0:11:13.080 --> 0:11:14.680 role in my back. But I don't do it regular 0:11:14.720 --> 0:11:17.160 I do it regularly, and it changed my life. I'm 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:19.920 like evangelist for foone roll. When the last time I 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:22.520 went to visit my parents, my mom was like, she 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:24.400 was like, hold on, I have something for you. And 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:26.000 I was like, what's it going to be? And she 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:29.839 came dragging this foam roll in the kitchen and was 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:32.120 like lie down, and I was like I don't. I 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:34.440 don't want to. She was like, lie down, It'll change 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:36.439 your life. But I was so scared. I was like, 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:38.920 what is this. She didn't say what it was, and 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:41.160 I've never done it before, and she's like, now you're 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:44.080 sinking into the floor. I was like, it was too much. 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:45.839 It's too much for you. I mean, it is a lot. 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:48.319 It is. It's like it's like massaging your face, but 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:51.040 for your body. Right. But the thing about the doing 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:53.520 the back on the phone roller is that you do 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:56.120 have to keep your body somewhat stiff in order to 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:59.200 like actually do the role. So I kind of feel 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.480 like that's a little bit it self defeating. Like I 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:03.760 do my legs, like I'll do like my quads and 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:05.800 my butt and stuff, because you can just kind of 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:07.760 like relax on it and just like turn yourself into 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:10.559 jelly and go over the thing. But um, I don't know. 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:13.240 You can also do it with like a tennis ball. Yeah, 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.439 I know that one. It's just like it makes me 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:18.600 feel like a cat in a way that I love. 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:21.959 You know, it like combines a lot of things I like, 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.320 and it does really fuck me up, Like I find 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:26.720 that I will be like drooling by that and something. 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:29.800 That's That's what scares me a lot is that it's 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:32.880 like it's such a potent feeling. It seems like it 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:36.160 shouldn't be available that easily. Now. I've been looking into 0:12:36.240 --> 0:12:38.599 it because I keep being like, is there any scientific Like, 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:42.800 is there anything scientific to this? Because all sports medicine 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:47.720 is very opaque to me. You know, rhyslactic acid, that's real, 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:51.480 I know. But anytime anyone talks about like how exercise works, 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:54.040 I'm just like, that's crazy. I don't know what you're talking. 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.600 You know, releases. This always gets me in a weird 0:12:57.720 --> 0:13:01.240 thing about rab dough and CrossFit it where you know 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:03.760 about that where it's I mean, there are just it's 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:06.160 a horrible hole to go down where you can read 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:09.160 people's experience and part of my self cares that. I 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:13.520 think people need to stop maximizing themselves, right. I just 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:17.559 hate the trend towards like full optimization of like every 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:20.800 moment of your life is like scheduled towards a target goal, 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:24.240 and like every time you're not working out, you're like 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:27.800 relaxing in a cryod chamber. Why do you guys think about, 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:31.840 like um standing desks or jim balls for a chair. 0:13:32.120 --> 0:13:34.440 I hate them, honestly, I hate them, both of them. 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:37.880 Thank you. I was not expected. I was wondering where 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:40.280 you are going? I find not Where do you guys 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:44.720 like to do work? I'm always outside on my back 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:50.079 And it's true though I do, but outside is good too. 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:53.360 I like, yeah, if I just have to read stuff, 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:55.520 I love having the excuse to just go to the 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:57.920 park and lie down and read for I do work 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.400 in my car a lot. Interesting. Yeah, my cars my 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:03.760 office because it's just like a contained small there's not 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:06.040 much to distract do, Like all my interviews out of 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:09.920 my car interesting, like phone interviews. Yeah, because I don't 0:14:09.960 --> 0:14:12.520 have a Like my house is not a place I 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:15.240 can get work done. For some reason, I just then 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:17.199 I want to like I get distracted by like I 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:19.040 have to do chores. This is the thing I miss 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:21.000 about having cars and being in l A is that 0:14:21.040 --> 0:14:22.960 you do kind of have your own little personal closet 0:14:22.960 --> 0:14:25.480 that you can drive around in, keep your stuff in, 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:29.280 like make phone calls. Right, Like, that's close as I'll 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:32.560 ever get to like a coworking space, because I just 0:14:32.720 --> 0:14:35.240 like the idea of tend freeway is your coworking space. 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:37.760 I have a back porch where I where I do 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:41.960 my my like work, but it's I do a lot 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:44.120 of it from home and over the summer when both 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:46.680 of my kids are home where it's really awkward because 0:14:46.680 --> 0:14:51.280 I'm like, I'm gonna go work outside. Stay inside, don't 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:54.080 come outside, and there's like soccer balls and like a 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:56.160 dome to climb on. I'm like, no, you can't have 0:14:56.280 --> 0:15:00.280 it because now I'm outside. Better to delineate space his 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:02.240 home as being like this is the place where things 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:04.080 get done because you're like, it's also the place where 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:06.240 I sleep and cook and do all the other things. Well, 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:09.160 that's a big thing. Um. This is actually a very 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:12.040 big self care thing that I learned probably a while ago, 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.280 like maybe eight years or ten years ago or something. 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.080 Don't try to get anything done in your bedroom or 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:20.960 the area where you sleep, sleep for you forever. Yeah, 0:15:21.480 --> 0:15:23.720 just so you can. You have to compartmentalize, like this 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:25.560 is my place where I rest, and like the more 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:27.840 that you can keep that. And also like I find 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:30.000 like the less stuff I have in my room, which 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:33.040 is kind of impossible impossibility in my current apartment, but 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:36.720 in general I like to keep my room pretty empty 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.400 of things to look at. Um, I can like finish 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:42.440 things at my house, I just can't start them. I 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:44.680 have to leave the house to start at. This is 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:46.840 none of this is self care. We're talking about being productive. 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:50.240 What happens when you try and self care. This is 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:54.440 the modern conundrum though. This is like the mindfulness thing. 0:15:54.560 --> 0:15:57.360 Well that's like this is also the self grandparenting thing. 0:15:57.400 --> 0:15:59.040 I decided on was I was like, you can't be 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:02.160 productive all the time, and like it just sucks to 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:05.520 like feel bad about yourself when you're not being productive 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:07.920 because it's so out of your control for the most 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:11.400 part for so many people. Um, and the world might 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:14.960 end because the climate change. So take up all those 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:18.920 great hobbies, take those walks and gardens, do that, do 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:24.200 all the early retirement stuff that you fantasize about doing. Later. Yeah, 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:27.280 what is you know to wrap up self care? Molly? 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:31.000 What's your favorite self care? Wow? Something, I'll tell you 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:32.680 something I want to get into. My favorite self care 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:36.760 is chopping vegetables and cooking. I love cooking or like 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:40.920 doing food prep for your It's productive, but it's also 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:42.560 like you're taking care of yourself because you're going to 0:16:42.600 --> 0:16:45.520 eat better that week. Yeah. I just like prepping that, 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:48.840 like prepping meals totally. Always like that. I guess I 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:51.200 also worked in kitchens and I liked it then too. 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:54.960 I just find it calming. Um. But something I want 0:16:55.000 --> 0:16:58.400 to get into stained glass. I just decided took a 0:16:58.440 --> 0:17:01.760 stained glass class this them or did she like finishing it? 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:05.359 She did not. She told me it was not really 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:07.760 what she expected and she probably wouldn't stick with it. 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:09.639 She was glad she didn't like go all in and 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:11.720 get all the supplies. And I'm talking more about just 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:17.080 like buying one and like painting it. Ok. She is 0:17:17.119 --> 0:17:19.520 doing the stuff where you have the pieces of glass 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:22.800 and you arrange them and then you do the like soddering. Yeah. 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:24.720 I don't know if I'm ready to get into soldering. 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:26.439 I think I just want to paint on some glass. 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:31.440 Yeah about what about you mento gardening right now? But 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:33.680 also just I think we've talked a lot about this 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:36.560 and just cutting stuff down with a saw. Um. I 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:40.920 had a stressful day yesterday and I ended up buying 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:44.320 so much mulch. It was like, that's also part of 0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:45.960 it is that I buy all this mulch that is 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:49.080 so hard to carry, and then I'm like, curry yourself 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:51.119 and I like carry it, and then I just like 0:17:51.520 --> 0:17:54.680 we'll carry it in buckets, you know, to and fro, 0:17:55.320 --> 0:17:58.520 and there's like no real point in my mind. I'm like, okay, 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:01.480 well it you know, it helps plants retain water, and 0:18:01.560 --> 0:18:04.159 it like eventually breaks down into nutrients and stuff. But 0:18:04.240 --> 0:18:06.480 it's really just that I want to carry heavy stuff 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:10.520 around but not own more stuff or do anything complicated, 0:18:10.840 --> 0:18:12.680 not in a cross fit way. It's like a kid 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:14.600 when a kid is like you want to like just 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:18.040 you bring like the bucket goes over here, and it's 0:18:18.160 --> 0:18:21.359 just very it's to arrange things. I know. I'm into pruning. 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:24.479 I also am obsessed with like controlling the ants right 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:28.080 now because it's aunt season and I normally am very 0:18:28.240 --> 0:18:30.440 I try and be very respectful of every living but 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:34.359 those cants, I'm mowed down. I went outside with white 0:18:34.440 --> 0:18:37.560 vinegar and castile so open like blasted them because they 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:39.720 were like near the doors and it was just starting 0:18:39.760 --> 0:18:43.040 to they were encroaching. Um So my self care is 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:48.760 aunt murder, but not always just seasonally. My self care 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:55.600 doesn't cost any lives. But okay, um no, I I 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:58.560 mean the gardening thing in a very small scale way, 0:18:59.320 --> 0:19:02.080 like I'm is uh and now it's sort of not 0:19:02.200 --> 0:19:04.040 really relevant anymore because all of my stuff kind of 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:07.159 withered for the summer. But um, I did just do 0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:11.879 like window boxes on my fire escape and like having 0:19:11.960 --> 0:19:14.080 that because usually spend the first part of my day 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:16.040 in the kitchen where we had those. So I would 0:19:16.040 --> 0:19:18.480 just like have some time in the morning where I 0:19:18.480 --> 0:19:20.920 would just like check on everything. I would kind of 0:19:20.960 --> 0:19:22.800 trim stuff. I would pull out little weeds that had 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:25.240 popped up in it. Like it was very It felt 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:28.200 like having one of those gardening games or like fill 0:19:28.320 --> 0:19:30.199 or something, because it was something that I could literally 0:19:30.280 --> 0:19:31.880 like this, this is how far I had to reach 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:33.960 out to get to the end of it. So I 0:19:34.000 --> 0:19:36.400 could and I just had like a rugela I still 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:40.760 have um basil and meant that I'm growing there. But um, 0:19:41.240 --> 0:19:43.920 I tried to grow peppers, but they're not doing anything. 0:19:44.080 --> 0:19:46.440 But so hard with the Everybody says peppers are easy. 0:19:46.480 --> 0:19:48.840 I've never had luck with pepper. Our peppers are just 0:19:49.040 --> 0:19:51.520 like failing right now. I don't know why. But one 0:19:51.560 --> 0:19:54.080 time I got those ornamental peppers from Trader Joe's. They 0:19:54.080 --> 0:19:56.119 have those like ornamental pepper plants, and I had them 0:19:56.160 --> 0:19:58.240 on a table and we had a guest over and 0:19:58.640 --> 0:20:01.000 he just started eating the But by the time we 0:20:01.119 --> 0:20:02.920 noticed he had eaten so many, we didn't want to 0:20:02.920 --> 0:20:06.600 be like, oh stop, they're not edible, they're like probably poisonous. 0:20:06.600 --> 0:20:08.960 So we just let him eat all the peppers off 0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:11.680 the plant. Just never said anything. I feel bad about that. 0:20:11.840 --> 0:20:21.760 They're still alive. Yeah, unlike those ants. I just want 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:25.240 to take a nightcall. Yeah, we got a good night 0:20:25.280 --> 0:20:29.119 call this week. But it has a video component and 0:20:29.280 --> 0:20:32.520 so we'll share it on our social media. Well wherever 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:34.600 you follow us. You can't find it there because it 0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:38.280 is a very good video. Um, it is a ghost 0:20:39.000 --> 0:20:42.160 is a ghost video. It is a ghost video. Bring 0:20:42.200 --> 0:20:43.640 it up. Do you want me to read it? I haven't. 0:20:44.000 --> 0:20:47.240 Oh yeah, sure, Okay, So this comes from Alex, Hey, 0:20:47.359 --> 0:20:49.879