WEBVTT - I Do! Wait, You Don't?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect. And just like Dad, we're back

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<v Speaker 1>on the air. Welcome back to another Carefully Reckless episode

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<v Speaker 1>with your girl dress hilarious. Now, listen, two things happened

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<v Speaker 1>to me in the past week that I need to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to you all about. All right, grab your t

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<v Speaker 1>grab your halls. It's story time. Okay. So me and

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<v Speaker 1>my homegirl we're at a restaurant, okay, and it's five star.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really nice. It's a couple sitting across from us.

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<v Speaker 1>Now this is like a dating scene or whatever, or

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to just get dressed up and go

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<v Speaker 1>out have fun with your home girls, take some drinks

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<v Speaker 1>and ship. This is the place to get dressed up for.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I said, five star restaurant. The ambiance is beautiful,

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<v Speaker 1>nothing less than ballroom. Okay. Back to the couple across

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<v Speaker 1>from us. Now we see them. They're into each other.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like loving on each other. He's complimenting her and

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<v Speaker 1>we're nosy, so we hear this. She's complimenting him back.

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<v Speaker 1>They're cute. I love it, little cute, beautiful black couple.

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<v Speaker 1>Now she had on a beautiful gown It wasn't like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, giving Taylor Swift like stupid gowns. It was

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<v Speaker 1>given like, oh, I'm a bad bitch. It was giving

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<v Speaker 1>like adult prom like. It was very cute though it's

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<v Speaker 1>very cute. He had on his nice little fitted suit.

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<v Speaker 1>It was cute without the blazer though. It wasn't like

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<v Speaker 1>giving church like, but it was given like very Kirk Franklin. Issh. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>if y'all know anything about Kirk Franklin, y'all know what

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<v Speaker 1>that man can dress his ass off. I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>So he had his nice little waves and she had

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<v Speaker 1>her cute little weave. They were cute. He gets up,

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<v Speaker 1>he goes to the bathroom. Now, I'm a very complimentative woman.

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<v Speaker 1>I compliment any woman that looks good, even if she don't.

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<v Speaker 1>It's nothing wrong with uplifting somebody. Even if you see

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<v Speaker 1>a girl and maybe she ain't in tip top shape,

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<v Speaker 1>tell her she's in tip top shape. Give her some

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<v Speaker 1>motivation to go get in tip top shape. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Whatever I go over to I tell

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<v Speaker 1>her you look so fucking cute. You and your date

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<v Speaker 1>look great as a whole. Blah blah blah. She's like,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, so much. She's like, you're Jess. I'm like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Samantha. She's like you're lying. I'm like, okay, it's me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Jess. And so I walk away or whatever I

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<v Speaker 1>tell her. She looks cute. He comes back, the exchange

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<v Speaker 1>a few words. He never sat down. This man got

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<v Speaker 1>on his knee and he pulled a ring out of

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<v Speaker 1>his little man purse. Now, yes, he did have a

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<v Speaker 1>man purse. He did not walk in there with it

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<v Speaker 1>like carrying it, you know what I'm saying over his shoulder,

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<v Speaker 1>because that would look like tragically stupid. But he had

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<v Speaker 1>a man purse. He pulled a ring box out of

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<v Speaker 1>his man purse right, got on his knee. I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>He bent up that slippery earl. Now, if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what a slippery earl is, you ain't black. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a church sho But his was cute. It was like

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<v Speaker 1>a cute little doch in gabana church shoe. He was.

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<v Speaker 1>He was very, very cute. He proposed to this beautiful girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Me and my homegirl was so fucking happy. I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about we were screaming like we was telling other tables

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<v Speaker 1>alert them, like look y'all, look, pay attention to y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>He about to propose to her. This is beautiful. So

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<v Speaker 1>now the whole fucking restaurant just about is looking at them,

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<v Speaker 1>and he goes, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah, will you

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<v Speaker 1>marry me? Bitch? I like to just die. I pulled

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<v Speaker 1>out my phone and we recorded everybody recording this ship

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<v Speaker 1>and she said no. Yeah, she she said no to

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<v Speaker 1>my man's and everybody immediately immediately stopped recording. It was

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<v Speaker 1>not a moment for that. And um, it was very sad,

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<v Speaker 1>i'm gonna say, because the whole restaurant got quiet. It

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<v Speaker 1>was like silence. Not even a fucking cricket was present.

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<v Speaker 1>It was even more awkward than if a cricket would

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<v Speaker 1>be present there. Um, so I just started clapping. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, well, great, maybe y'all are not ready. And

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<v Speaker 1>he turned around and he noticed who I was, and

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<v Speaker 1>he was like even more embarrassed because he had saw

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<v Speaker 1>me recording. And I was like, I will never post this.

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<v Speaker 1>I will never hurt your feelings or put your business

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<v Speaker 1>out there like that. But here I am today talking

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<v Speaker 1>about it on the podcast, which I think is more

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<v Speaker 1>respectful than posting the video with with a guy proposing

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<v Speaker 1>and a girl saying now, now listen, that's that story time.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, I got another story I'm gonna get too later,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is what I want to talk to you

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<v Speaker 1>all about. That brings me to my question, is it

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<v Speaker 1>a dale breaker? Is the relationship over when the girl

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<v Speaker 1>says no, or even the guy? But in this case,

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<v Speaker 1>when the girl says no, is the relationship over? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it should be for quite a few reasons. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all gonna ask me why I know this. Listen, I

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<v Speaker 1>told you they were all over each other. They were

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<v Speaker 1>like loving on each other. Usually these days, you go

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<v Speaker 1>out and you see people on dates, but they're in

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<v Speaker 1>their phones. They're not looking at each other, they're not

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<v Speaker 1>playing foot seas, they're not touching one another anymore than

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<v Speaker 1>I looking into each other's eyes. They were doing all

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<v Speaker 1>of that. Do you understand what I'm saying? They were

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<v Speaker 1>still a beautiful couple, and I can tell that they

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<v Speaker 1>have a lot of love for each other. No, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know them. I don't know her, don't know him.

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<v Speaker 1>From Adam and Eve. But I can tell they share

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of love and a lot of similarities. However,

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<v Speaker 1>they're not on the same page, or she wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>said no. That does not mean she does not want

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<v Speaker 1>to be with him. She even cried, she shed a tear,

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<v Speaker 1>she did. But that is a woman who was sure

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<v Speaker 1>of herself that she's not ready to take that step

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<v Speaker 1>to get married. If I had more time, and if

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<v Speaker 1>I had known her, I would have asked her, well,

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<v Speaker 1>why did you say no? Is it because he's not

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<v Speaker 1>ready you you feel like he has more growing up

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<v Speaker 1>to do, or you guys are not on the same page.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there something that he just did? Is he just

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<v Speaker 1>proposing to make ship right because he just cheated? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, and I couldn't assume. But what I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>say is the level of attention that they were giving

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<v Speaker 1>each other, it doesn't lead me to believe that they

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<v Speaker 1>were over after that night. She just wasn't ready to

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<v Speaker 1>get married, or maybe she wasn't ready to marry him

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<v Speaker 1>because she didn't think he was ready. There could have

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<v Speaker 1>been so many reasons why she didn't say yes. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>marriage is not in her future. A lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>feel like they don't need to be married. A lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people may feel like they don't need that contractual

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<v Speaker 1>agreement because marriage is a contract. Yes it is. It's

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<v Speaker 1>something very sacred and it's beyond contracts, but illegally it's

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<v Speaker 1>an agreement, and and you're buying it to a person,

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<v Speaker 1>and a lot of people feel that that's not necessary

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<v Speaker 1>to be together, you know what I'm saying. So she

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<v Speaker 1>could have thought that way, but she could be cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just say that she she just she couldn't know.

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<v Speaker 1>She ain't ship and didn't want to take this man's

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<v Speaker 1>hand in marriage because she still got some working on

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<v Speaker 1>herself to do. Also, it could be him. It could

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<v Speaker 1>be he is just not ready. Now, listen, it takes

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<v Speaker 1>a lot for a guy to get down on his

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<v Speaker 1>knee and propose. It really does. So I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>say he wasn't ready. I can't say that maybe he's

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<v Speaker 1>not ready to her. There are so many factors. It's

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<v Speaker 1>so many. And when she shed that tear, she did

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<v Speaker 1>tell him that she was sorry, and she took his

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<v Speaker 1>hand and she told him to get up, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>pulled him up, and she kissed him and she hugged

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<v Speaker 1>him he was piste off as a motherfucker. Let me

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<v Speaker 1>tell you. He turned around when he saw me. He

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<v Speaker 1>was like, yo, like he looks so defeated, Like, please

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<v Speaker 1>don't post that. I'm like, I promise, sir, I will not.

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<v Speaker 1>I will not. But y'all look so good, and I

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<v Speaker 1>want to tell y'all, whatever y'all path is, y'all build

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<v Speaker 1>that ship together, keep it straight. Nobody can take her

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<v Speaker 1>away from you. I don't even know that. And can't

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<v Speaker 1>nobody take you away from her? I don't know you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, But those are my positive words

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<v Speaker 1>to them, and they left. I don't even think he

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<v Speaker 1>paid the fucking bill. He was so embarrassed. I said, Si,

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<v Speaker 1>I should have paid it for him. But brings me

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<v Speaker 1>to my next question and the carefully reckless discussion. When

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<v Speaker 1>is the right time to ask someone to marry you?

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<v Speaker 1>When is the right time to propose? Now? I know

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people go back and forth in their

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<v Speaker 1>minds or whatever. I don't think you should propose if

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<v Speaker 1>you've never heard your partner talk about marriage. Ever, some

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<v Speaker 1>people just don't have it in their future. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>are just not there yet. Some people just don't even

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<v Speaker 1>think of it. And this looks like a fairly young couple.

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<v Speaker 1>Not saying it's it's bad to get married young. In

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<v Speaker 1>some instances it very well is. But they looked younger

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<v Speaker 1>than me. I'm twenty nine, you know I'm and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a hard twenty nine bitch. Sometimes I look thirty, sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I look twenty two. Very seldomly do I look twenty two.

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<v Speaker 1>But so what they look like they were like, but

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<v Speaker 1>they carried themselves very very maturely. I don't think there's

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<v Speaker 1>ever like there's ever a right time. I just think

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<v Speaker 1>you just have to know there is going to be

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<v Speaker 1>a thought in your mind, something that comes over you

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<v Speaker 1>where you just know it's a feeling, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, It's like a static that goes through you.

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<v Speaker 1>Has to be it has to be. Nobody is just

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<v Speaker 1>going out buying rings and getting on their knees and

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<v Speaker 1>proposing to bitches. Nobody's just doing that. He loved that girl, period, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And if this has happened to you, taken to consideration

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<v Speaker 1>in real time, there are issues that won't allow someone

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<v Speaker 1>to say yes. But it does that mean a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>is over? No? No, And then listen, you have to understand,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know what I'm saying. Like I'm not saying everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>but some people do. Like and I spoke about this

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<v Speaker 1>briefly on another podcast episode, like I think it was

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<v Speaker 1>like the fourth or fifth episode. I said, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>people they get married for the look of it. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. They get married because it's tradition

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<v Speaker 1>or I just want to be a wife. People love

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<v Speaker 1>that label as a wife. You know what I'm saying

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<v Speaker 1>when you haven't even learned yourself as an individual, but

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna jump into a marriage that could have been

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<v Speaker 1>that girl's preservation that could have been heard like you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, No, I don't even know myself. And when

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<v Speaker 1>I say that you don't know yourself, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>know yourself in and out before you are willing to

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<v Speaker 1>walk down the aisle and become one with someone else.

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<v Speaker 1>Because if you know yourself, you know what you won't take,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you have to know the other person because

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<v Speaker 1>you'll know what they won't take. It's a very very

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<v Speaker 1>big step. That's the biggest step in a relationship that

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<v Speaker 1>I say that people take blindly. Look at Erica and Safari.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe that they loved the hype. I believe she

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<v Speaker 1>loved the hype of being married. She's always wanted it.

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<v Speaker 1>She's beautiful. He is a beautiful guy too, very beautiful personality,

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<v Speaker 1>what have you. You know what I'm saying. But they

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<v Speaker 1>hate each other now they have two children, or that's

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<v Speaker 1>at least what they want us to believe. Whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>fake or not, because you never know what's real anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>but they can't stand each other on the show online

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know, I don't know what happens behind

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<v Speaker 1>closed doors, but what they show us is they can't

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<v Speaker 1>stand each other. Two nights ago, Eric ameniz As was

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<v Speaker 1>with fucking Natalie None at a fucking lounge talking about

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, oh, throwing middle fingers up, whatever whatever, you

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<v Speaker 1>still got two kids with this man, goofy, You still

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<v Speaker 1>got two kids with this man. You can live? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you can, you can live. Because that they were in

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<v Speaker 1>the comments like, oh, she's speaking from a hurt place,

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<v Speaker 1>and she gets upset when we tell her the truth.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the only time she's she's ever accepted the

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<v Speaker 1>truth was from Wendy Williams. But we she hates that

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<v Speaker 1>and I love Erica, I do, but I just feel

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<v Speaker 1>like she's trying so hard to show him that she

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<v Speaker 1>can move on to that it's reflecting on her poorly,

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<v Speaker 1>very poorly. She's going through it and we know this,

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<v Speaker 1>we know it. But baby, you're gonna be okay. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to do all of that, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. And she probably like, bitch minjo business I whatever, Bitch, No,

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<v Speaker 1>you put it out there, so it's my business now,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. But you don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>end up like that. So at times you can't just

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<v Speaker 1>say yes, and when everything doesn't properly align, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>just say yes. Now, should she have done it differently

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<v Speaker 1>with you know what I'm saying to you save him

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<v Speaker 1>the embarrassment, you know what I'm saying, because that could

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<v Speaker 1>scar him from ever doing that ship again if they

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<v Speaker 1>do make it, which I think they will, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, because they walked out holding hands still,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, even though she led, he was very embarrassed,

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<v Speaker 1>like a scream for him. But do you think she

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<v Speaker 1>should have said yes in the restaurant and then got

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<v Speaker 1>in the car or got at home, like look, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>I said yes, but I don't want to do it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, because a lot of people say yes to

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<v Speaker 1>spare the God's feelings. You know a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>do that. Now, how would I have done it? I

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<v Speaker 1>would have done it the same way depending on where

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<v Speaker 1>we were. Now, if we were around like his family

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<v Speaker 1>or like my family, or you know, at a party

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<v Speaker 1>where you know, he he invited people that I know

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<v Speaker 1>and all that ship, I would have definitely told him

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<v Speaker 1>no in front of them, just to save all the hype,

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<v Speaker 1>just to save everybody's hopes getting up and ship, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. Like, I definitely don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be the barrier of bad news, but I definitely don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to say yes just to be nice. And people

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<v Speaker 1>are taking pictures. I told you we were recording that couple.

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<v Speaker 1>If somebody records me, it's going up anyway. It's me ship,

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<v Speaker 1>Why the funk Whitney record? And they're gonna be posting

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<v Speaker 1>and I say no, that's gonna be the first thing

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<v Speaker 1>on all the blogs. That is not what I want

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<v Speaker 1>to do. I would never want to embarrass my partner,

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<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend, my my man. I would never want to

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<v Speaker 1>embarrass him like that. So I would definitely say, Babe,

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<v Speaker 1>not yet, not yet or not yet not even no,

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<v Speaker 1>just not yet. Even if I don't plan to ever

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<v Speaker 1>marry him, I'm gonna say not yet. That's still saving

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<v Speaker 1>his feelings. But being as honest as you can without

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<v Speaker 1>being disrespectful or being you know, being mean about it

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<v Speaker 1>or coming off mean. You can come off very mean

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<v Speaker 1>and not even be aware of that. You understand. So

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<v Speaker 1>if this has ever ever happened to you, make sure

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<v Speaker 1>you hit me up in the d M or the

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<v Speaker 1>email and tell me about the time. Because I want

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<v Speaker 1>to help people do this ship. There's no just fix

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<v Speaker 1>my mess today. I want to help you all privately.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to try to help you all on

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast. You know what I'm saying. Y'all think I

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<v Speaker 1>make fun of everything, and I do, but I will

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<v Speaker 1>gladly help. Like, do not leave somebody just because they

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<v Speaker 1>said no to your proposal. It could be so many reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>Now listen, second thing that happened to me this week?

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<v Speaker 1>Hold up, Hold up, I know the ship getting good,

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<v Speaker 1>but listen to just the couple seconds of a commercial.

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<v Speaker 1>If you love me, you'll listen. I'm dating I'm dating

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<v Speaker 1>this guy. He's the only one I'm dating at this point.

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<v Speaker 1>It's still in the end, the beginning stages, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, we're months in and I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>irritated him a little bit just with my selfishness. And

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes you don't know that you're being selfish. Right, So

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<v Speaker 1>he has this thing going on. I have my thing

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<v Speaker 1>going on. Right. He's forever supporting me. He knows my

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<v Speaker 1>schedule before I even tell him, Like he knows where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going before I even tell him, because he's involved.

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<v Speaker 1>He is very hands on with me. He pays attention

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<v Speaker 1>to everything. He is a very attentive guy to me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love it. However, it's not that way vice versa.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. And I was just out

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<v Speaker 1>of town recently. I had to shoot a movie in Houston,

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<v Speaker 1>produced by Jamie Fox and the Torry Turner. Congratulations to me, y'all, y'all, huh,

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<v Speaker 1>give me the applause, y'all. M much more coming to

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<v Speaker 1>the screen now. I was on set all night, thirteen

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<v Speaker 1>fourteen hours. Right back here at home, he had an event. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>he's an event planner. He that's what he does. So

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<v Speaker 1>I text him like eleven o'clock and they like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>are you home, just to see because I hadn't heard

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<v Speaker 1>from him, you know, in a couple of hours. I'm like, okay, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you're home. You're good because he had checked on me.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I noticed that he stopped texting me. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, hey, you home, like you sleep? What's up?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, keeping tabs, because that's just

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<v Speaker 1>what you do. You keep tabs on your man when

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<v Speaker 1>you know when you do that. He faced tim to

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<v Speaker 1>me two hours later and he's like, you didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>where I was? And I was like, no, I thought

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<v Speaker 1>you were home. He was like, I had such and

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<v Speaker 1>such to do. I had this. How did you not

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<v Speaker 1>know that? And I was like I didn't know babies,

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<v Speaker 1>Like how could you not know? Like it's like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in your world. I'm only in your world. You have

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<v Speaker 1>no regard for what I do. It's like you don't

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<v Speaker 1>care about what I'm doing. But I always care about

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<v Speaker 1>what you do. I always ask you, oh, how is

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<v Speaker 1>your show? I always tell you before you show, you

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<v Speaker 1>better go kill it. I know where you're gonna be,

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<v Speaker 1>I know what's going on, which your schedule. I know

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<v Speaker 1>everything about your schedule and what you do, but you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know shit. You can't keep up with nothing that

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<v Speaker 1>I do, and it's like you don't care, you have

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<v Speaker 1>no fucking regard. And I was like, for a second,

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<v Speaker 1>who the funk you talking to? But then I had

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<v Speaker 1>to realize, I'm like, this is very, very true, and

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes you have to take a step back and you

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<v Speaker 1>look and you have to see how selfish you are.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so spoiled, And yes, I can be very selfish.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a very very good person, sweetheart. But one thing

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<v Speaker 1>I do, I do notice, and he brought it to

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<v Speaker 1>my attention. I go to extra mouth for you. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't do that for me. I'm in your world, so

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<v Speaker 1>you have to kind of collide worlds. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like, look at it is give and take

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<v Speaker 1>in fifty fifty I want How am I gonna expect

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<v Speaker 1>this man to love and support everything I do when

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even take the time too and it can

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<v Speaker 1>literally take me ten seconds to learn his schedule or

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<v Speaker 1>to you know, he he does this ship all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like, y'all, I should know this stuff. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Especially if you're seriously dating somebody. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're not funk, would they do? You know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, if you're just getting a dick and you

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<v Speaker 1>just you know by bone real quick and yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>serious dating, Yes, you have to be just as attentive

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<v Speaker 1>to your partner as you want him to be to you.

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<v Speaker 1>And that goes for the guys as well. And after

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<v Speaker 1>that conversation we were able to move on. He didn't

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<v Speaker 1>hold the grudge. He even said a little joke because

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<v Speaker 1>I was in the chair getting my makeup done before

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<v Speaker 1>I actually went to film on said film my scene.

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<v Speaker 1>He's very understanding. So that brings me back to the

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<v Speaker 1>first topic. Marriage. Don't relate it to me right now. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to get married, but that's not in my

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<v Speaker 1>plans right now. Listen, right now, I'm just dating, so

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<v Speaker 1>shut up. You have to know someone inside and out.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to learn how to be selfless. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to make a lot of sacrifices and compromise to get

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<v Speaker 1>to that point where you say yes wholeheartedly when you're

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<v Speaker 1>being proposed to. That goes for men and women. And

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<v Speaker 1>I want y'all to take that with y'all. If y'all

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<v Speaker 1>didn't take anything else, you have to be mindful of

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<v Speaker 1>the partner of who you are with, because if you

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<v Speaker 1>jump into it, you're gonna jump right out of it.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna wish you never did. And nobody wants to

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<v Speaker 1>get married just to get divorced. So it doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's over if she says no, and it doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's over if he says no. I love you, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>because I know y'all love me. Tune in next Wednesday,

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