WEBVTT - Generation Gap: Millennials vs. Gen Zers 0:00:03.640 --> 0:00:05.440 I'm happy that I have both of you on here 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:08.000 because I feel like, Jennica, you're a little bit more 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:11.040 traditional and certain things, and Johnny is a little bit 0:00:11.080 --> 0:00:15.040 more of a gen Z for sure. Growing up, Grandma 0:00:15.040 --> 0:00:16.840 and Grandpa would always say, Okay, when a you're gonna 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:18.799 have kids, Do you feel that pressure, Jennica or No? 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:21.239 I don't and I don't feel like I need to 0:00:21.280 --> 0:00:26.400 have children now. Do you guys believe in monotony? I've 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:29.200 never been in any kind of polyamorous relationship, but you know, 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:32.920 monogamous relationships. I've noticed as I've gotten older, they've gotten 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:41.000 more challenging for me. Hey what up? Everyone, Welcome to 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:44.440 Cheeks and Chill. I hope you're having a beautiful day. 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:46.479 I'm not sure what day you're listening to this episode, 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:48.599 but whichever day it is, I hope you're having a 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:51.960 really great one. Today's episode is going to be really fun. 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:54.920 It features my sister and best friend, Jennica, this is 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:58.240 your second time on the Chickens and Chill podcast, and Johnny, 0:00:58.320 --> 0:01:00.560 my baby boy brother who's not really a baby anymore. 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:03.680 He's twenty one. So we're gonna be talking about generational divide. 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:06.560 We'll be weighing in on a range of topics to 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:12.119 see how millennials feel about certain things versus gen zars. Okay, 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:15.200 so I'm super excited to have them both here on 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:26.280 Cheese and Chew. As you know, UM a millennial, which 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:29.160 means I was born between the years of nineteen eighty 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:33.720 one and nineteen nine, and both Johnny and Jessica are 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:37.440 from the generation gen Z, which means they were both 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:42.800 born after. So let's just get into it. Hi, Johnny 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:46.240 and Jessica, how are you, guys. I'm good. I'm excited. 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:49.160 I feel like I'm still like millennial. I'm only a 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:53.040 year after the cut off N seven, So you feel 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:54.960 like you're on the cuss Yeah, I feel like I'm 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:56.040 on the cusp. Like I feel like I have a 0:01:56.040 --> 0:01:58.440 little bit of both. Yeah, she is on the cusp. 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:00.840 There was like a whole thing like for nineties kids 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:04.240 and nine. They grew up with like nineties stuff, but 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:06.000 like they still had like two thousands. So like they're 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.560 in between like gen Z Millennia. It's a weird thing. 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:10.600 They have their own thing going on. Okay, which is 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.920 great because I'm happy that I have both of you 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:15.120 on here because I feel like, Jessica, you're a little 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:19.400 bit more traditional and certain things, and Johnny is a 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:22.239 little bit more of a gen Z for sure. I 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:23.400 don't know. Do you feel like you're a little bit 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:26.720 more open minded? Johnny? Yeah, to an extent. I definitely 0:02:26.760 --> 0:02:28.520 feel like I have an old soul, but a lot 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:30.640 of certain things about you know, maybe the way I 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:33.920 carry myself. But definitely. As I've gotten older and I 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:35.679 started talking to more people in my age because I 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:37.919 didn't used to do that before, I've noticed, I'm like, Okay, 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:40.320 there's some things I have in common. There's a natural 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:43.280 open mindedness nice. And I think it also has to 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:45.200 do with who you were raised by, you know. I 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:47.799 think feel like Mom was very like open minded in 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:50.799 certain things and then very traditional and not to sound bad, 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:53.280 but narrow minded kind of in a sense in certain things. 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:56.280 Let's just call it more traditional, I guess whatever. But 0:02:57.000 --> 0:03:00.360 moving forward, this is your sister talking. It's not your 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:03.120 second mother. Okay, so let's be very open and have 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:07.560 an open conversation. Can we agree to agree? All right? 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:12.800 So let's start with marriage. Okay, how do you feel 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:16.920 about marriage, Jessica? Okay, the way that we grew up, 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:22.239 Mom had multiple divorces, so me, I don't know if 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:25.840 marriage is ideal for me, and I feel like marriage 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:29.600 kind of tends to like ruin things. I feel like 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:32.680 it's not necessary to me if I've been with someone 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:36.960 for like, let's say seven eight years and they want 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:38.480 to get married all of a sun. Now, I feel 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:41.040 like we basically are married, if we've already lived together, 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:44.960 if we have a kid or etcetera, etcetera. I think 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.160 it's beautiful. I would love to have a wedding, but 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:49.839 I don't know if it's not like necessary for me 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:53.120 to get married. I'm kind of over the I have 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:55.360 a kid after marriage, have said like all that stuff. Like, 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:57.280 I'm kind of over. I feel like that's like old 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:00.000 and honestly depends on how you were raised. I don't 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:02.760 feel like it's necessary if someone wants proposed and yeah, 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:04.280 and I feel like it's like you have to find 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:06.280 that certain balance. But I feel like if you've been 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:09.680 with someone for so long, you're basically married already. Okay, 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:12.480 So do you feel like your life would be complete 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.360 even if you don't get married. Yeah, I feel like 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:18.239 it's just a title. Even when, like nowadays, when people 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:20.800 ask you to be their boyfriend girlfriend. I don't feel 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:24.159 like it's necessary, like titles aren't important. I know what 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:27.040 about you, John, Her thoughts really echo mind, dude, and 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:29.320 that's why I'm so surprised. Well, you guys are both 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:31.600 gen z s. I know. It's just like I thought 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:33.520 it was just me, you know. I mean, I've always 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:37.920 felt like my life circumstances may have made me unfit 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:40.760 for marriage obviously, like when you're raised, you're growing up 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:42.839 and you're thinking about like that as like an angle 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:45.360 or something. But it's just I don't know, it's our 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:48.760 life circumstances have been so different, and I feel like 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.440 if I am going to marry someone, I would need 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:53.239 to put in a lot of work with myself before 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:55.400 I do something like that. And I'm talking like not 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:57.240 like two or three years more. I'm talking about like 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:00.000 like seven years or something. I feel like you guys, 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:03.440 is they're both too young personally. That's there, he would go, 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:05.840 there's the mother in me. I'm thinking because they're too young. 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:08.640 But I honestly feel that people shouldn't get married in 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.240 the twenties personally. That's the time where you guys should 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:14.760 just get to know yourself and build a relationship and 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:17.279 then maybe later on in life. I don't know. That's 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:19.040 the whole like rule I have of myself is I 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:22.000 don't want to get married until after I'm thirty. System 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:24.560 open rolled myself. But I also just not that I'm 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:26.960 like calling that upon me. But it's just it's hard 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:29.840 to envision a marriage lasting. But that's also just because 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:32.960 we don't know. Our bloodline has run in so much divorce. 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:37.320 I know, but we are going to break generational curses. Guys, Okay, 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:39.760 it's going to start with us. It is starting with us. 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.680 But do you think the issue is more getting married 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:46.479 period or getting married to the wrong person, maybe to 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:48.240 the wrong person. And I was kind of thinking that 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:51.320 what General was talking, because I think my first relationship 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:54.880 I felt really hard, and now whenever I date anyone, 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:57.280 it's really hard for me to like fall like that 0:05:57.400 --> 0:05:59.280 or just I don't know, it's almost like I'm one 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:01.880 ft in one it out, So to make a step 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:05.360 like marriage is like, I don't know, it's hard, it's 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:07.680 probably the wrong person. What about Eugenica or just in general, 0:06:07.839 --> 0:06:11.480 you're just not interested. It's not that I'm not interested. 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:14.000 I'm not opposed to getting married I just, like I said, 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:16.840 I don't find it necessary and I don't find it 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:19.480 necessary for someone to ask me to be their girlfriend, 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:21.719 like a whole little proposal thing. Like I don't know, 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:26.360 I feel like titles are so overrated now later on, Yeah, sure, 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:28.560 Like ultimately I don't want to have to get divorced, 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:31.320 so obviously married the right person. Well that makes sense, 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:35.039 that makes sense as a millennial, I don't know. I 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:37.200 think it has to do also with how we grew up, 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.599 where I wasn't like that type of girl that was like, 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:41.080 oh my gosh, I dream of the day that I'm 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:42.760 gouna get married in my dress and this is what 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.440 I want. Like I was never that type of girl, 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:46.520 but when it came around, and I really did want 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:48.600 to get married when I got married, and we all 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:50.919 know what happened with that. But I guess it's weird 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:54.120 because I'm like, I wouldn't mind getting married again, but 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:56.680 I'm okay if I don't. I think as far as marriage, 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:58.599 it has to do with how we grew up. What 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.000 is what's your take on children? Do you guys want 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.960 to have kids? Johnny wants to have a kid already. 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:09.200 I just feel like I'm very content with my nieces 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:12.480 and nephews that I don't need to have my own 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:16.520 unless I am with someone that I'm going to be 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:18.720 with for the rest of my life. I think it 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:22.240 is important to have children with the right people personally, 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:24.200 I mean, how are you supposed to know? Everyone changes? 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:26.360 You know? But yeah, but you don't feel like in 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:30.000 a rush. You don't feel like me growing up, I 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:32.800 felt like Grandma and Grandpa would always say like, okay, 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:36.400 when you're gonna have kids, like I want grandchildren, and 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:38.000 like you're getting older, and it's like I felt all 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.640 this pressure of if I don't have kids now, I'm like, 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:44.800 I'm useless. Like someone once told me, you're here to reproduce. 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.360 That's not the only thing I'm here for. I'm here 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:50.040 to do what I'm doing now. Not having children doesn't 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:52.160 make me less of a woman. Do you feel that pressure, 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:56.280 Jennika Arne, No, I don't, And I don't feel like 0:07:56.400 --> 0:08:01.080 I need to have children now. Ultimately, it's like, whatever 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:04.160 I want to choose. Even when I'm with someone like 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:06.720 say my husband, like and he wants to have kids, 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:08.680 I feel like I still have that right and that 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:10.960 decision to choose when I want to have the baby 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:15.440 or not, because it's just my body and what I 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:17.840 personally prefer. I'm not I'm not in a rush. I'm 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:19.560 not in a rush to even get married or to 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:23.480 even be with anyone. I do agree like having kids young. 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:25.200 I don't want to have kids when i'm like i'm 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:27.480 fifty because I want to be able to enjoy them. 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:29.520 I want to be able to have fun and like 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:32.600 grow with them, and I don't want to be old. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.640 But I do think that there's no rush. I feel 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:37.760 like when the time is right, the time right. So 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:40.199 do you think I'm too old to have children to come? No? 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:44.280 Absolutely not? Okay, cool, that's good, Yeah, because I don't 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:45.880 feel it, you know. I just like I always say 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:48.000 this all the time, like I don't feel like I 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:51.120 need to have children right now because I feel a 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.200 lot younger than I am, to be honest, And I'm 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:54.880 not just saying I just really do feel that. Like 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:56.880 sometimes when I say my age, I'm like, what when 0:08:56.880 --> 0:09:01.120 did that even happen? But it should. I'm sexy, you know, 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:04.520 but whatever I think you could be sexy at fifty sixty, that's, 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:07.439 you know, not the case. But anyways, Johnny, You've told 0:09:07.440 --> 0:09:09.959 me plenty of times you need to have a child, 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:11.760 you need to leave something on this earth. Do you 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:15.040 still feel that way? Yeah? Yeah, I really really don't. 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:17.400 It's just something I feel like it would it would 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:19.319 be fulfilling for me. I would love to have a 0:09:19.360 --> 0:09:24.280 many me. Yeah. Okay, Jennica, what's what age do you 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:27.120 think if you were to have children, how would you 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:30.560 want to be. I'm twenty four going on twenty five. 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:36.600 I feel like, I don't know, probably like thirty five. Okay, Johnny. 0:09:36.760 --> 0:09:38.480 That's just me, just because I've always wanted to be 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:41.520 like a more youthful dad. Hopefully I can get my 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:44.240 ship together by the time as much as I can, 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:48.640 but I don't. And when you guys have conversations with 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:51.959 your friends, do you guys hear them say like they 0:09:51.960 --> 0:09:54.679 want to have kids to or I've heard a lot 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:57.160 of conversations even myself. I think I've told you this 0:09:57.200 --> 0:09:58.800 to Johnny, where I'm like, how am I going to 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:02.360 bring a child into this world? You know? Those are 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:05.160 my personal concerns or like even you know we're overpopulated. 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:08.240 I don't know. I think about everything you can't help, 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:11.520 but think of those things sometimes I think for me, 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:14.719 I've had conversations like this too, like or they want 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:18.760 to have kids young, like by thirty and I don't 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:22.560 think about the overpopulation, like I feel like, whatever happens happened, 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:25.480 God lets it happen. He'll make the earth binger. I 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:36.079 don't know. Now, let's move on to home ownership. You guys, 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:39.520 how important do you feel it is to own your 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:42.480 own home? Do you think it's necessary? I mean, we 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:44.760 grew up, like you got to work to buy your 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:47.560 own home. Mom owned her first home at nineteen years old. 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:51.079 I owned my first home at thirty two. I think 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:54.520 it was What do you guys think about that? Well, 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.839 I owned my own home. Yes, the blessing. Yes, I 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:00.800 don't know how old I was. Yes, it is very 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:04.600 much a blessing. I believe I was twenty one when 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:07.600 I got the house, and that was something Mom wanted 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:09.400 for us. She says she was going to give us 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:11.959 X amount of money for a down payment. So shout 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:14.080 out to Mama up in heaven. Thank you. But do 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:16.720 you feel like it's a marker of success? Do you 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:20.640 feel like good saying, oh, I own my own home. Yeah, No, 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:23.320 I believe that it's super important. I always felt like 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:26.800 I always felt like I was wasting money renting at 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:30.400 an apartment or why am I spending so much here 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:32.320 when I could put it towards something that I can own, 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:35.400 versus not being able to put up my own fucking 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.240 like tease or like the core stuff like that because 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:40.600 of an apartment rules or stuff like that. I feel 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:42.760 like it's superpartment. And ultimately I think it's an investment 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:47.480 because either way it adds on to your name. And yeah, well, 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:50.680 because Jennica left at eighteen, you guys, she just said, 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:53.640 peace out. I'm eighteen. I want to be independent. I mean, 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:55.760 I'm glad we're having this conversation because I feel like 0:11:55.800 --> 0:11:57.920 I'm a little bit more like Johnny. I really thought 0:11:58.000 --> 0:11:59.800 that I was going to live in mom's house forever. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:02.800 I was comfortable. I felt like, I'm not going to 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:05.360 get married. I'm gonna live my life for my mom, 0:12:05.559 --> 0:12:08.520 for my siblings and be there for them. And until 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:10.400 my mom literally had to push me out, was like, 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:12.319 you know, you gotta go, but Johnny, and I'm not 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:13.839 asking this question because I want you to move out. 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:15.439 You know, I love having you here, and I would 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:18.840 love having Jessica here if she wanted. But I understand, 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:21.520 you know, but I want to hear you a little bit. 0:12:22.160 --> 0:12:24.680 It's definitely a goal. It's just more so with me 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:27.280 figuring out and this is going to be the right 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:30.320 time for me to take some step like that. Especially 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:33.480 more so it's a it's an emotional thing. I think 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:35.880 we've been so tesched to one another for so long. 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:38.880 That's where it gets really difficult. But it's definitely like 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:41.760 a goal. And I look at videos like one mom 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:45.720 had her househoming party, and I wonder how she felt there, 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:47.480 you know what I mean. It's just something to think about, 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:50.240 use some vision what it would be like to be 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:53.280 in those shoes, you know what I mean? Yeah, Okay, 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:58.000 So monogamy, I'm interested in this. Do you guys believe 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:02.000 in monogamy? When you do get in a relationship, do 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:05.120 you feel like I respect this person. I don't believe 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:09.560 in having an open relationship. Oh yeah, unless there's like 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:11.240 clear bound. He's like, hey, you know what, like I 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:15.640 kind of just want to suck like then sure, okay, 0:13:15.679 --> 0:13:19.560 so you are d t F Yeah basically, well I 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:23.320 don't know right now as of today. No, you're chilling 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:27.000 I'm chilling, but I do believe like one partner at 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:30.160 a time, I don't want you dating anybody else. We're 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:33.960 talking you to anybody else. Okay, yeah, same, all right, Okay, yeah, 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:37.600 because I've asked myself, I've spoken to other gen zs 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:39.839 and and they're kind of like, no, I want to 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:42.080 have an open relationship, and they're pretty straight up about it. 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:46.000 They're like, I will tell the person i'm dating, hey, yeah, 0:13:46.040 --> 0:13:48.959 you're the only guy I'm dating. But I also like 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:51.920 to kiss girls once in a while, and I'll let 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:53.640 you know, like I'm at least I'm being honest sort 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.960 of thing, you know, which is cool. Whatever tickles your pickle. 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:59.000 What about you, John, Yeah, I definitely think it's like 0:13:59.400 --> 0:14:02.200 monogonamous relationships can be great. I've never been in any 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:05.959 kind of polyamorous relationship at all, but you know, monogamous relationships, 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:09.240 I've noticed as I've gotten older, they've gotten more challenging 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:12.920 for me. I don't know what exactly it is, but 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:15.840 I remember my first relationship it was very easy for 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:18.680 me just to be loyal. But also I think that 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:20.600 also has to do with the fact that I just 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.120 don't let myself fall as in love as I did 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:26.160 the first time, because you know, when you love like 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:27.880 you ceased to be you know what I mean, Like 0:14:27.960 --> 0:14:31.280 you lose your individuality a little bit. So you feel 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:34.080 that did that first relationship scare you a little bit? 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:40.960 And you feel like, maybe, well, yeah, basically just because 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:43.160 I went through so much, I was cheated on and 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:47.600 I came out publicly and I found out that, you know, 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:51.280 it was that week actually that I had gotten cheated on, 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:56.000 and so I felt like I made myself look so stupid, 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:57.720 and it's like, I don't ever want to make myself 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:00.560 look that stupid. Yeah, you felt like it was a 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:01.920 slap in your face, And if I could just give 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:04.320 you some advice as your sister, as a friend, I 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:05.760 don't think that you should look at it that way 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:07.560 where you feel like you made yourself look stupid. I 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:09.800 think you were being honest with yourself in that season 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:11.480 of your life, and this is what I'm living. You're 0:15:11.560 --> 0:15:15.640 being honest and open, and I think that you made 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:18.120 a lot of people feel a lot more comfortable in 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:21.880 their own sexuality. And that's something that I feel like, eventually, 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:24.040 maybe we can have another conversation where we could talk 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:25.800 a little bit more about that, so you could elaborate 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:27.760 if you like. But I don't think that you should 0:15:27.760 --> 0:15:30.320 feel stupid. And I don't think that because that one 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:34.200 relationship where you were monogamous and you were faithful didn't 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:37.520 work out, does that mean that everyone else is going 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:38.880 to be the same, you know, And I think it's 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:40.680 just gonna take time. I think right now, you guys 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:42.760 are young. You're young, Johnny, you're twenty one, Like, this 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:45.160 is the time for you to explore your body, to 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:48.120 meet other people, to day different people. And I'm not 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:50.240 saying just go and just give your penis to everyone. 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:52.000 That's not what I'm saying. I mean, whatever you want 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:54.280 to do. But I mean what I'm saying is, right 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:56.880 now your twenties is to kind of figure out, Okay, 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.160 who am I? What do I want in life? Just 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:01.160 to get your ship to get other So don't feel 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:04.280 bad about that. Yeah, That's how I've been taking in 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:06.960 I and all all I heard going into my twenties 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:10.320 was that your twenties was just you finding yourself, losing yourself, 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:13.840 and just finding yourself all over again until you're dirty. Absolutely, 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:16.120 that's exactly what it is, and you just have to 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:22.640 be compassionate with the process entrepreneurship. Okay, Jennica, you are 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:26.520 an entrepreneur. You have Overcomfort now more than ever. I 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:28.720 feel like everyone wants to be like a CEO, own 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:31.920 their own business versus having a nine to five job. 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:34.680 How do you feel about that. I believe that everyone 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:38.360 could be an entrepreneur. I believe that people that have 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:45.080 a nine to five are limiting their mind and creativity 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:48.640 to be something greater. I personally don't think I could 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:50.640 ever do a nine to five. I like what I 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:53.760 do now. I like being able to help people, and 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:56.480 I mean nine to five like a corporate There's only 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.680 so much that you could do in a nine to five, 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:02.040 like working for someone else. And I like knowing that 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:04.680 I could do things for myself and create my own 0:17:04.720 --> 0:17:07.399 schedule and at the end of the day, for me 0:17:07.720 --> 0:17:11.200 at least for Overcomfort, it's it's something that can help 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:14.720 people and inspire people on the daily. I feel like 0:17:14.720 --> 0:17:19.000 there's room at the table for everybody, Like, no matter 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:22.080 what it is, whatever you want to create. But yeah, 0:17:22.320 --> 0:17:24.919 I feel like entrepreneurship is the way to go. And 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:26.800 also I feel like that's the way Mom raised me 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:29.840 as well. Mom was very hands on like businesswoman and 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:32.040 all that, so I feel like it's the only way 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:34.400 I know versus actually going to work out at nine 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:37.439 to five. I agree, there are times where I have 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:39.800 thought it is just going to be easier if I 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:42.520 do a nine to five, I'd have less stress, you 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:45.560 know what I mean. But I do enjoy what I do, 0:17:45.680 --> 0:17:48.000 so I get that. I mean now talking about college, 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:50.800 I've thought about it so many times or it's like 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:52.600 I wish I would have gone to college in the 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:54.760 earlier years of my life. I feel like it's never 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:56.960 too late and there's no shame you guys, just going 0:17:56.960 --> 0:17:59.800 back to the nine five, there's no shame in doing 0:17:59.800 --> 0:18:03.199 an into five whatever works for you. And now we 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:07.640 do have more opportunities because of social media to push businesses, 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:09.600 which I think is awesome as well, but it's a 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:12.080 lot of work. Like Jessica said, to have your own 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:14.879 your own business, which takes me back to what I 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:16.720 was saying in the college thing. You know, for a 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:18.320 long time, I thought like I should have gone to 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:21.720 college because I had dedicated my life we know the 0:18:21.800 --> 0:18:24.719 story already, to my mom, to my to my family, 0:18:24.760 --> 0:18:26.920 and I thought like that's something that no one can 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:29.439 ever take away from me my education, you know, learning 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:32.200 something a trade of my own, so that I did 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:34.239 not find myself at twenty six like what the hell 0:18:34.280 --> 0:18:35.840 am I going to do with my life? But I 0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:37.919 feel like now more than ever, I understand and I'm 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:41.480 grateful for how things went. But I still kind of 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:43.080 want to go to college. Sometimes you guys, do you 0:18:43.080 --> 0:18:44.600 guys feel like you want to go to college? Like, 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:46.320 I don't know. I mean, Johnny, I know you tried. 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:48.200 What school? Did you go to again? Papa? It was 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:52.280 the Hollywood What school? Yes? I was going up until 0:18:52.440 --> 0:18:56.040 January February this year. I just because everything not so 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:58.639 hectic with mom and stuff that I thought I'm not 0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:00.639 gonna be able to give it the time it means. 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:05.120 But I've even though it's been online, but I spent 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:09.240 about three months of it in an actual like everyday school. 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:12.879 I was getting up early and whatnot. And I enjoyed 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:15.960 the experience like it was. It was fun and it 0:19:16.040 --> 0:19:18.840 was different. But I don't know, I just have to 0:19:18.840 --> 0:19:22.199 be passionate about whatever I'm doing because something actually that 0:19:22.280 --> 0:19:24.840 scared me about choosing something to do in college was 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:27.919 I always heard about how so many people end up 0:19:28.040 --> 0:19:31.119 usually switching their majors. I'm glad I went for something 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:33.800 that I know it was like, you know, not necessarily 0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:36.440