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Speaker 1: It features my sister and best friend, Jennica, this is

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Speaker 1: Cheese and Chew. As you know, UM a millennial, which

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Speaker 1: Jennica said, if you're gonna go to school, you have

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Speaker 1: to be passionate. Like they both said, you have to

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Speaker 1: just be passionate about what you're doing, at what you're

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Speaker 1: learning about, whatever it may be. It's just having something

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Speaker 1: of your own to fall back on is so important.

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Speaker 1: And that's why I'm an advocate for education and I

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Speaker 1: want to give out or scholarships because I don't care

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Speaker 1: what it is if you're going to go to a

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Speaker 1: traditional college to be a psychologist, let's say, or you're

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Speaker 1: gonna go to cosmetology school, like I want to be

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Speaker 1: able to help people achieve their dreams. I just knowledge

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Speaker 1: is power, that's all it is. That's my take on it.

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Speaker 1: But I was very curious to see how you guys felt.

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Speaker 1: You guys know that I support all the decisions you make.

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Speaker 1: Now you guys vaping, Jessica, I see it more now

438
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 1: than ever. You always have a vape in your hand,

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Speaker 1: and I see a lot of gen zs with vapes

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Speaker 1: in their hand. Can I ask why, like, like, is

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00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:46,640
Speaker 1: it like something to do? Does it help with your anxiety? Okay?

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00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:50,000
Speaker 1: For me, I used to be against it until everyone

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Speaker 1: started having it around me, and then it did help

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00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 1: with my anxiety. Like I just grab it and I

445
00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 1: was like, okay, just take some deep breasts, etcetera, etcetera.

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Speaker 1: But now I've moved done. It's more of a habit

447
00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:05,240
Speaker 1: for me. It's not like I absolutely needed to survive. No,

448
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 1: I feel like I just like blowing out the air.

449
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 1: So I switched over to like these zero nicotine ones,

450
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Speaker 1: so it doesn't really like mess with my lungs and

451
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:16,960
Speaker 1: my body and all that. But some other people really

452
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Speaker 1: like it. I agree. It's not the healthiest for your body.

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Speaker 1: So that's why, like I just move on to like

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Speaker 1: other alternatives or just no weed. All right, Yeah that

455
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Speaker 1: I was gonna ask, what about marijuana? I like it? Yeah,

456
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Speaker 1: I just can't function every day high, Like me, Why

457
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Speaker 1: do you smoke weeds so much? Johnny? Well, when I started, honestly,

458
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Speaker 1: it's just because I had so many, so many moments

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Speaker 1: of like introspection alone, and I don't know, I just

460
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Speaker 1: started realizing, like a lot of my problems like we're fixable.

461
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Speaker 1: That's where it first started. I'm like, I love the introspection.

462
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Speaker 1: I love that I felt like I was like learning

463
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Speaker 1: a lot about myself. And then music, music and movies, dude,

464
00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:58,560
Speaker 1: they're just better music, especially like especially when I always

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Speaker 1: say I'm going to take a break from smoke and weed,

466
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:04,160
Speaker 1: it's always music. I'm like, I really want to listen

467
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Speaker 1: to this, to this high. I think there are so

468
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Speaker 1: many benefits with smoking marijuana. Of course, responsibly, you guys,

469
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,359
Speaker 1: our elders, they saw it, and I don't know if

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Speaker 1: they still do, but saw it is something so negative,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, because that's how we grew up.

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Speaker 1: I mean, for a long time it was illegal. Now

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Speaker 1: it's legal here in California. But I smoke weed and

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Speaker 1: I've I've shared this with you guys before here on

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Speaker 1: the podcast. I do it to sleep, to relax. It's

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Speaker 1: helped me with headaches, with stress. You guys, I just

477
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Speaker 1: feel a lot better, you know what I mean, since

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Speaker 1: I've been kind of smoking. You and your brother Mikey

479
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Speaker 1: are are stoners for sure, you guys. Wake in bake huh, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I was waking and baking through my bond all of

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Speaker 1: February and I would do it before I ran. Dude,

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Speaker 1: it helps, that's crazy, see, And I think it just

483
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Speaker 1: it works differently for everyone. I mean, I can't smoke

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Speaker 1: during the day, like it's just not my things. And

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Speaker 1: it's not even every day. I can't, it's like every

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Speaker 1: other day a because it can make me a little

487
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:04,360
Speaker 1: lethargic I feel sometimes, but for sure to work out.

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Speaker 1: I've never tried it, but it's for sure medicinal. You

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Speaker 1: guys anyways, Okay, let's talk about tattoos. You both have tattoos,

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Speaker 1: plenty of them. They used to be very taboo. I

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Speaker 1: mean when I got my first tattoo, I was eighteen,

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Speaker 1: and one of our uncles was so upset and said,

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Speaker 1: you are the first one to have a tattoo in

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Speaker 1: the family, how dare you? Of course, it was a

495
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 1: tramp stamp. Now I removed it. I regret it. I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna lie. You know. I don't regret many things

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Speaker 1: in my life, but I do regret the tattoo because

498
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Speaker 1: it was just dumb. Thank goodness, you guys are smarter

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Speaker 1: than me, and you're all of your tattoos have a

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Speaker 1: lot of thought in them. But when I was growing up,

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Speaker 1: it was like, oh my gosh, you have tattoos, Like,

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Speaker 1: oh my gosh, how ladies don't do that? You know?

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Speaker 1: But I think, like the tattoos on you guys look

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Speaker 1: so nice. Why has it changed? Why is it just

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Speaker 1: more acceptable now? I think that people have meaning for them.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that it's necessarily a problem. Like if

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Speaker 1: my kids want to have tattoos, go for it. I

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Speaker 1: would never hold them. Like mom didn't like tattoo is. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Mom didn't like them. She didn't have one. Yeah, well

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Speaker 1: I think that was she wanted to, but she was

511
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Speaker 1: like afraid because of her mom. Yeah, because grandma. Grandma

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Speaker 1: didn't like tattoos and didn't want her to have any,

513
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 1: so she wanted to. She was curious, but she was like, no,

514
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 1: how are they going to look when I turned sixty

515
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 1: or seventy, I'm gonna be a grandma with all these tattoos.

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00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:22,159
Speaker 1: Is not gonna look cute. But she let me have it.

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Speaker 1: I never got a tattoo without asking her, So I

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Speaker 1: was just even when I was not living at home,

519
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: like came, mom, I want to get a tattoo, are

520
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: you quote with it? But anyways, I mean I was

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Speaker 1: just wondering because I feel like tattoos, I see them

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Speaker 1: as something nice, you know, I see them as a

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Speaker 1: form of expression, now you know. Okay, So last question.

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Speaker 1: Celebrities versus influencers are the same. What's the definition of

525
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Speaker 1: someone famous? How how has it changed? I don't know.

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00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 1: I feel like they're the same in what way celebrities

527
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:55,679
Speaker 1: can influence people? Like you're a singer, right, You're an artist,

528
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 1: but you are able to get these brands to influence

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Speaker 1: people to purchase products, not necessarily a brand, but even

530
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 1: on your day to day things that you use, Like

531
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Speaker 1: you influence people. A celebrity influences people to change things,

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00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 1: like Kim Kardashian, Like she's a celebrity and everybody looks

533
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 1: up to her. But hasn't hasn't it always just been lned?

534
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:17,360
Speaker 1: I do because they use celebrities like singers, actors for

535
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 1: marketing campaigns and put them on b board advertisements. That's

536
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 1: all it is, exactly. I feel like it on Instagram now, yeah,

537
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:27,120
Speaker 1: it just happens to be on social media. I feel

538
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 1: like it's the same thing. Okay, yeah, because for a

539
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 1: long time it was. I mean, I've gotten this so

540
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 1: many times like, oh, you're not a singer, You're an influencer,

541
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 1: and I'm like, uh, no, I am a singer, and yes,

542
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 1: I also am an influencer. I guess there's a huge

543
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 1: difference between being an influencer and actually being influential. So

544
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 1: that's something that I had to also accept because it

545
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 1: was kind of like frowned upon that I would do

546
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 1: kind of both. And I feel like it's a blessing

547
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: that I can seeing and write books and be an

548
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,160
Speaker 1: author and stuff, but I can also get on Instagram

549
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 1: and be honest and transparent with people. I think again,

550
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 1: going back to our elders, they would see it as

551
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,120
Speaker 1: you haven't worked as hard as we did to get

552
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 1: where you're at because you have everything in your fingertips

553
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:14,399
Speaker 1: through social media. And I'm like two middle fingers up

554
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:16,760
Speaker 1: in the air for you, because it's still hard. You know,

555
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: it's a lot of work in doing videos and reels

556
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: and all this stuff. You know, it's it's work. Yeah,

557
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: But honestly, dude, I feel like if Mom was here,

558
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 1: she would have like ended up being a queen of it,

559
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 1: Like she would have mastered it, oh for sure. Because

560
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 1: if we think about it, celebrities came from like acting

561
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 1: and singing, just that, you know. So now some people

562
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,159
Speaker 1: are like, oh, influencers just just social media. So do

563
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 1: you guys see them as influencers? Like, for instance, let's

564
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:47,880
Speaker 1: say Ellanites. You know, he's our homie. Do you see

565
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:49,480
Speaker 1: him as a celebrity or do you see him as

566
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 1: an influencer? Influencer? It's hard, it's hard to Yeah, I

567
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:58,199
Speaker 1: get the difference, but it's I don't know, that's a

568
00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:01,400
Speaker 1: weird topic. I don't know. I think it's just it's

569
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:07,159
Speaker 1: just fame, dude, That's all it is. Like it's at

570
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: the end of the day, all it goes down to.

571
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 1: It just fame and no shape like people. Obviously I'm

572
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 1: an influencer to like, people gotta make their money. Everyone

573
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 1: has their own way to make their money. And I

574
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: don't think that it's a problem for people to use

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00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:22,440
Speaker 1: social media as an outlet for money, Like, if that's

576
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: where it's coming from, Like, go ahead, go for it.

577
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 1: If you're doing something else, good for you to Like,

578
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 1: I don't think it downgrades how much effort or work

579
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:34,239
Speaker 1: that you do. I feel like you're putting just as

580
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: much work as anybody else. Yeah, and that's one thing

581
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 1: that um, I had to kind of come to peace

582
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 1: with because the first time I ever heard the word

583
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 1: influencer was when I was trying to get a show

584
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 1: on a network, right, and they were like, okay, so

585
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: but what do you do And I'm like, well, I'm

586
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: come on reality shows and like no, but we need

587
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 1: you to do something and I'm like what, Like They're like,

588
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 1: but you're more like an influencer, and it was kind

589
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 1: of like a negative connotation, you know, and I'm like, no,

590
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 1: wait a second, like we just said, you know, it

591
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 1: takes a lot of work and it's time consuming to

592
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 1: also be an influencer. But anyways, yes, I agree, whether

593
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 1: you know, I think it's a blessing that you can

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00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:17,720
Speaker 1: use social media now to have your own business to

595
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 1: sell products. You know, it's a blessing. So whatever works

596
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 1: for whoever it is, I think it's it's fine. Yep,

597
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 1: I agree. I loved this conversation that we've had, and

598
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 1: thank you both for being a part of this podcast

599
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 1: and just having an open conversation. I wanted to just

600
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: kind of get in your guys mind, see what you

601
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 1: guys were thinking. I think because we come from the

602
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: same womb and you guys were raised by wonderful, powerful,

603
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 1: great women. You know, just kidding, You guys are great.

604
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 1: I just wanted to hear your guys thoughts and your

605
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 1: opinions on these things, because I mean, I don't know.

606
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel like I'm a traditional in some ways

607
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 1: and then in other ways I'm not. I'm very open minded.

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00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 1: I just think it has to do lot with how

609
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 1: you're raised. At the end of the day, al right, guys,

610
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: so thank you again. If you guys want to share

611
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 1: your social media's, let's start with Johnny Angel. Share your

612
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:13,680
Speaker 1: social media. I'm on Twitter and Instagram as the great single. Okay,

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Speaker 1: what about you, Jennica, I am Jennica Underscore Lopez on

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Speaker 1: Instagram and we have overcomfort. Gonna plug that into mm hmm.

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00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 1: That's awesome. Okay, guys, Well make sure to follow them.

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00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 1: They are wonderful human beings, not just because they're my siblings,

617
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: but they really are, so go ahead and follow them

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00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 1: on the socials. And as you guys know, we always

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Speaker 1: end every episode with a motivational quote, and I feel

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Speaker 1: like it goes very well with what we're talking about.

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Speaker 1: The quote is love is the greatest gift that one

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Speaker 1: generation can leave another. So it doesn't matter if you're

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Speaker 1: a millennial or a gen Z doesn't matter. At the

624
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Speaker 1: end of the day, love of is the moving force

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Speaker 1: of the universe. Thank you guys so much for listening

626
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 1: and I will see you here on the next episode

627
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 1: of Cheeks and Chill. Do you need advice on love, relationships,

628
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Speaker 1: health emas. I'm so excited to share with you that

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Speaker 1: my Cheeks and Chill podcast will have an extra episode

630
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:24,719
Speaker 1: drop each week. I'll be answering all your questions. Just

631
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: leave me a voice message. All you have to do

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