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Speaker 3: male and I sixty two female, have been together for

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Speaker 3: I'm Riley, I'm Carly, and we're here to give good

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Speaker 3: advice goofully, But we don't have all the answers. We

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Speaker 3: you would do in the comments. And ohp says I

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Speaker 3: had a very rough, dysfunctional, harmful childhood. It took years

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Speaker 3: of therapy and tons of support from Jeff to get

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Speaker 3: to the other side and really learn how to love

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Speaker 3: and trust. I also have ADHD OCD and suffer from

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Speaker 3: severe anxiety and PTSD from my traumatic childhood man. Jeff

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Speaker 3: has always been supportive and actually maintained a great sense

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Speaker 3: about ten years ago, all right, So we were just

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Speaker 3: talking about AG. We met when my daughter, THEA, thirty four,

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Speaker 3: to give a brief glimpse of why I trust Jeff implicitly.

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Speaker 3: We have gone through so much together. There were times

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Speaker 3: When this man stopped us, he asked if my husband

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Speaker 3: was having an affair with his wife life what like

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Speaker 3: a random guy. Both this man and his wife are

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Speaker 3: a year. We asked him why he thought this was occurring,

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Speaker 3: we cannot be taken. We cannot be taken her words

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Speaker 1: For this low key someone has Alzheimer's or dementia. It's

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Speaker 1: it by zero. Guess what you get nothing? Zero? A yeah,

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Speaker 3: First, Maybe we don't everything that she says at face value.

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Speaker 3: We asked if he knew a time frame when this

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Speaker 3: This whole thing was so surreal. I was furious. I

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Speaker 1: Does she look like Betty White?

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Speaker 3: But what do you think?

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Speaker 1: Ah, dude, guys, guys, wait, wait, wait, wait wait, there

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Speaker 3: And it was wholly inappropriate and screamed the house down.

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Speaker 3: Alzheimer's choose Swiss cheese and the cerebellum, and to cope

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Speaker 3: What a truly awful situation for all of them. Ope,

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Speaker 3: First, I'm reading all of the comments and taking them

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Speaker 1: Get another story. We're gonna get. Miss Carly set it

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Speaker 3: Riley, keep going, Keep going, Riley.

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Speaker 3: And at that point, your marriage is over and you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this guy thinks that there's only one gender in

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Speaker 1: That's weird. That's weird. Color. What do you think?

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Speaker 1: and most people only go down to a sea cup,

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00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:42,080
Speaker 1: which is still plenty. You were definitely not the a hole.

439
00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:44,200
Speaker 1: I think your husband is the one with the issues

440
00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,159
Speaker 1: about your body, ope, says. I asked him, and he

441
00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:50,800
Speaker 1: said that it was a ridiculous comparison because one is

442
00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 1: life saving and one is vanity. Well, yeah, he called

443
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:57,840
Speaker 1: me stupid, making this ridiculous comparison. Comedy four. You might

444
00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:02,320
Speaker 1: lose an extra couple hundred pounds in emotional baggage along

445
00:21:02,359 --> 00:21:05,320
Speaker 1: with the front air bag tissue, and I could consider

446
00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,240
Speaker 1: that to be a good thing. Men truly don't understand

447
00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:10,520
Speaker 1: what it's like to have large front airbags.

448
00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:11,639
Speaker 3: Yeah.

449
00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:14,600
Speaker 1: I think it was like Bethany a while ago, we

450
00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:18,520
Speaker 1: were talking about, you know, boobs being big. Bethany. Yeah,

451
00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 1: it was a commenter. I remember it because it made

452
00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:21,160
Speaker 1: a funny comment.

453
00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:22,240
Speaker 3: You know, Bethany.

454
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:25,520
Speaker 1: Bethany, she had to deal with that weight for a

455
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,680
Speaker 1: long time, and she said that what guys could do

456
00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:29,360
Speaker 1: is were sandbags.

457
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:33,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, so that you feel like how the weight of

458
00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:37,280
Speaker 3: it and also like running, running going downstairs?

459
00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:38,119
Speaker 1: Gross?

460
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:39,159
Speaker 2: Are you gonna have the guys?

461
00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:40,400
Speaker 1: Imagine?

462
00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:43,199
Speaker 3: But I don't. You can't wear you can't do sandbags.

463
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:44,919
Speaker 3: If you're gonna do it, you gotta do like you

464
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 3: gotta get like the drag queen.

465
00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 2: The fake ones, the fake tatas gross.

466
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 1: Imagine a party where you're the man, the men that

467
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 1: come to the party have to wear front air bags.

468
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,880
Speaker 1: I love this, and the women get.

469
00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:01,560
Speaker 3: To have shoes all wearing made of Wait, hold.

470
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 1: On, this isn't your fantasy.

471
00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 3: It is now.

472
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:08,159
Speaker 1: But the women get to work, only one of you,

473
00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:11,120
Speaker 1: I think I know work.

474
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:13,000
Speaker 2: We'll spin a wheels the morning of.

475
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,640
Speaker 1: But the women get to wear like like not still

476
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 1: it's but like things that like make them taller than

477
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,399
Speaker 1: the guys, and the men have to know what it

478
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:23,399
Speaker 1: feels like to be the women.

479
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,240
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, So what I'm hearing is Halloween this year

480
00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 2: and all.

481
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:28,440
Speaker 3: We're all wearing packers.

482
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you think? I like? It be funny?

483
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 1: Why does OPI's husband think his opinion of her body

484
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 1: should outweigh her own opinion? Obie says. He said, because

485
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 1: plastic surgery is addictive, and since I have mental health problems,

486
00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 1: it must be therefore I want to change my body.

487
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:48,640
Speaker 1: And of course he admitted that he thinks my body

488
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 1: is beautiful and it shouldn't be altered, and that they're

489
00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:55,000
Speaker 1: not that big to begin with. Coming here six says

490
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:56,960
Speaker 1: how big are they after all? Hope?

491
00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:57,880
Speaker 3: Not really?

492
00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:01,480
Speaker 1: Any of your beeswax commenter, Uh, I'm not asking to

493
00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:05,040
Speaker 1: say your wish is not valid. I did the surgery myself.

494
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 1: I just want to understand how much of an a

495
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:11,480
Speaker 1: hole your husband is and Opie says, seventy five E

496
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:17,080
Speaker 1: euro numbers thirty four D d DDD.

497
00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:19,560
Speaker 3: Is it progratid and triple D.

498
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 1: That is wild. So yesterday I was here complaining about

499
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:25,800
Speaker 1: my husband, and my gut feelings were right after seeing

500
00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 1: the reactions here. My husband is crossing a boundary by

501
00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,679
Speaker 1: trying to control how my body looks. This morning, I

502
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 1: told him this. He just sat silently and listened to me.

503
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 1: Then he said that he wasn't trying to control me

504
00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 1: or coherse me. But at the same breath, he said

505
00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 1: he loved my body and if I am not taking

506
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 1: his opinion into consideration, then he knows that I don't

507
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 1: care about his opinion. He said he would not look

508
00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 1: at me the same way or touch me, which I

509
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:52,640
Speaker 1: guess head out.

510
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:57,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, bye, huh, that's it. I feel like, yeah, we've

511
00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:58,919
Speaker 3: made made our decision. He's leaving.

512
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:01,359
Speaker 1: I said that I I don't want to be married

513
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 1: to someone who doesn't want to touch me. Then he

514
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 1: said that then we won't be married. He added, but remember,

515
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 1: I love you, and you're breaking up with a man

516
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:12,119
Speaker 1: who loves you because of superficial changes you want to

517
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 1: make to your body.

518
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:15,880
Speaker 3: That's so funny. That's so funny for him to be like, yeah,

519
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:19,359
Speaker 3: you're being superficial, as if he's not being superficial.

520
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:22,360
Speaker 1: He said he would stay for the recovery then move

521
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 1: out after Christmas. I said I was going ahead with

522
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:28,639
Speaker 1: my surgery, and he just shook his head. He cried

523
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,399
Speaker 1: later in the garden, Oh, you guys have a garden.

524
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 1: I can't believe it. Me sounds final, like he's been

525
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 1: thinking about beforece for a while. I've been waiting for

526
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:39,520
Speaker 1: the surgery for two and a half years because of

527
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 1: how busy this doctor is. My prenetliminary surgery is in November,

528
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 1: and I have a consultation soon. I'm going ahead with

529
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:50,120
Speaker 1: my plans and he can go ahead with his. According

530
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:52,200
Speaker 1: to him, I'm free to choose whatever I want to

531
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,640
Speaker 1: do with my body. He is free to leave when

532
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:55,880
Speaker 1: it doesn't suit him anymore.

533
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 3: And this is true, and he can leave right now

534
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 3: because I don't want to look at him and anymore.

535
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,720
Speaker 1: Why many are asking about the surgery is a front

536
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 1: airbag redunction. And no, I'm not doing it for medical reasons,

537
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 1: since I have no back problems or head paints. I

538
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: am not that big to have these problems. It's purely cosmetic.

539
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 1: This is the most important part of my issue with him.

540
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: I know you mean well bringing up health benefits, but

541
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 1: this is about my right to control how I look.

542
00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 1: He would one hundred percent have supported me if it

543
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:29,119
Speaker 1: were for medical reasons, because he has in the past

544
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 1: that when now we have some comments, Carlie Sophia.

545
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:34,879
Speaker 3: I mean again, it doesn't really matter what the reason

546
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:39,719
Speaker 3: for your surgery is. It's your decision, it's your body.

547
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:42,199
Speaker 3: And if he doesn't, you know, agree with it, or

548
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 3: he's not to copy about it, and his love is

549
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:49,400
Speaker 3: only you know, a little like this deep and it's

550
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 3: then this marriage wasn't gonna last in the first place.

551
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:56,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, what's he gonna do when you, you know, are

552
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 4: old and you no longer look like that, or or

553
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 4: when you like, let's say that there is like a

554
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:04,359
Speaker 4: health thing or you have to like get a mistectomy

555
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:05,959
Speaker 4: because of cancer.

556
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 3: Like not that I'm you know, God forbid, but like,

557
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,119
Speaker 3: what if any of these things happened? Would he stay

558
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 3: because of those? You say, he's supported for other reasons,

559
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:17,719
Speaker 3: but you know, when superficial things change, I don't know

560
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 3: if he's gonna stick.

561
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:20,640
Speaker 1: Around yeah, you're still you're still gonna have boobs after

562
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 1: the surgery.

563
00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:24,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, well not with the mist to me, Oh she's

564
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 3: not getting them? Yeah, well all you mean like in

565
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 3: the hypotheticalness.

566
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, the second that she said, I've heard all the

567
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:33,159
Speaker 2: risks of the surgery, and it's still something that I

568
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 2: want just because I want it. That should have been

569
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 2: the end of that conversation, exactly. I mean, some people

570
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 2: even will get missectomies just if they have the gene

571
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 2: for cancer, Like, are you gonna be mad at her

572
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:48,159
Speaker 2: for not wanting to get cancer? Obviously that's not the

573
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,639
Speaker 2: reason for this one, but I want to was.

574
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 3: Enough why people who are born with boobs get reductions

575
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 3: or get rid of their bubes entirely? And it's really

576
00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 3: not anyone's decision. The only decision that he has any

577
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 3: right to make is to leave her.

578
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 2: Especially, it wasn't he's saying that she had dysphoria, like

579
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 2: body dysphoria.

580
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 3: He was saying that, yeah, right, which so then getting

581
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 3: the surgery could fix that. Yeah, maybe she wouldn't have that,

582
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 3: but yeah, I don't think that was his point.

583
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he she doesn't have that. She confirmed that.

584
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 1: I think he's just trying to find a loophole.

585
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's funny that he's like, you can't do that,

586
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 2: you have dysmorphia, and she's like, and that would help.

587
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 3: With like if she did have it. Yeah.

588
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: Oh, he clarifies the reason for the surgery. I had

589
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:35,640
Speaker 1: no medical reasons for the surgery. It's just for cosmetic reasons.

590
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 1: I'm only saying this because for me, the reason shouldn't matter.

591
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: He would probably side with me if it was medical condition,

592
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 1: but his issue is that it's just cosmetic. My issue

593
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: is is that I want to be able to decide

594
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:49,920
Speaker 1: how I look. Because he has read that the recovery

595
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 1: could take time. Yes, I know about the scars. I'm

596
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 1: thinking more about my appearance with clothes on less unwanted

597
00:27:57,080 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: attention at work. I'm very sensitive to being described as

598
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 1: she with the jest of big front airbags and a

599
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:08,400
Speaker 1: grined Dollie Parton. How do you think she went about.

600
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 3: Live happily Jamie Lee Curtis, but also Dolly Parton had

601
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 3: what's the word breast? She had a enhancement?

602
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:18,640
Speaker 1: You know what she did? You know what? The most

603
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 1: baller moved What I heard this? I forgot who I

604
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 1: heard this, but she would let the men look at

605
00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 1: her fun airbags for like two minutes. She's like, all right,

606
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:31,679
Speaker 1: look at him because like right before meeting, go ahead,

607
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 1: just like like all right, and then get to the meeting.

608
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 1: Because I think she hated like people like Yeah, I

609
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 1: have heard that too.

610
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 2: I also heard that if she's not in her like

611
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 2: full get up, you wouldn't recognize it.

612
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, streaks very different, which does make me.

613
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 2: Wonder if maybe they could also be some fake, like

614
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 2: fully removable ones.

615
00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 3: I honestly, I mean like, I think she's been pretty

616
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 3: like the like the drug which is like the drag

617
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 3: culture and stuff. But I do think she's been pretty Yeah,

618
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 3: I'm sure that a good her.

619
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's pretty dulled up, dolly. I have talked about

620
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 1: the scars with my doctor and they have come a

621
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: long way with minimizing the look I have after my

622
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 1: C section. That looks fine coming to one. I mean, yeah,

623
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: he is one hundred percent free to leave, like you're

624
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 1: free to do surgery. That's just how life is comedy. Three. Oh,

625
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 1: he's definitely going to spin it that she's the reason

626
00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:24,320
Speaker 1: for divorce and how horrible she is. He just can't

627
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 1: love her. If her front airbags are smaller. God forbid

628
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: she ever gets front airbag cancer, because in his eyes,

629
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 1: that would be scarring her body for nothing. Hope, he says.

630
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: He made it clear that I will be the reason,

631
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 1: because he said, I hope you can live with yourself

632
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 1: is op and therapy. I am in therapy since childhood.

633
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,719
Speaker 1: My husband does not want couples counseling. He wants a

634
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 1: psych evaluation. Anyway, he is getting his wishes, since I

635
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: got an email from the nurse about booking an appointment

636
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: for evaluation before surgery. Ugh, I agree.

637
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 3: He always went that sucks.

638
00:29:57,600 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

639
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, where they are. I listen to him. You should

640
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 3: just be like go back in and be like, hey,

641
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 3: I'm breaking up with this guy.

642
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

643
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 1: I do you think they're doing that just because I

644
00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 1: don't know? It's like a sniff of a postibility. Yeah.

645
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:16,719
Speaker 3: Probably they don't want Yeah, but I mean, like it

646
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 3: shouldn't be too hard. Hopefully it's just one thing.

647
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 1: I'll be response to a downloaded comment. But having the

648
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 1: surgery for vanity but not health reasons. My reasons might

649
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: be silly to you, but I'm tired of wearing loose

650
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 1: clothes all the time. Here's a small example of something

651
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: that happens more than I care for. We wear uniforms

652
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 1: that were our clients are ninety nine percent men. Even

653
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 1: if the shirt is modest, many of the men won't

654
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 1: even realize that they're taking alternate looks at the chest

655
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 1: area and actually the face while they're talking. My office

656
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 1: has a glass wall and near the reception desk. One time,

657
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Speaker 1: and both he and the receptionist laughed and did the

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Speaker 1: gesture again. Oh my gosh. I know this is a

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Speaker 1: problem not exclusively to me. I know it is a

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Speaker 1: problem every woman has faced. But it doesn't mean that

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Speaker 1: because it happens to everyone that I can't find it

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Speaker 1: seriously hurtful.

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's the.

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Speaker 1: End of that story. Yeah, nikes, dude, don't need to

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Speaker 1: do that. That sucks, dude. I just wish men were

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Speaker 1: more respectful towards you. Yeah, and uh, but.

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Speaker 3: I'm glad that you're divorcing this guy.

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Speaker 1: Making one change at a time getting rid of all

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Speaker 1: the yucky men out there. God Lee, I cannot imagine

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah and doing that.

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Speaker 3: My wife and did sharks in our backyard pool? Or

680
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Speaker 3: she's leaving me?

681
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Speaker 1: Get some sharks? Man?

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Speaker 3: No, I'm sorry, executive ruling over and for that sharks,

683
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Speaker 3: I'm out. Yes. To start off, my wife, the thirty

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Speaker 3: one female, and I thirty two male, have been together

685
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Speaker 3: for five years and things were going pretty great until

686
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Speaker 3: recent events. We met during speed dating and both quickly

687
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Speaker 3: took a liking to each other. Oh right. We both

688
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Speaker 3: have great jobs and plan on having kids pretty soon,

689
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Speaker 3: maybe within the next two to three years. Also, we

690
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Speaker 3: don't disagree on many things and rarely argue sometimes. Of course,

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from deleted and if you

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Speaker 3: slash Okay storytime separate it.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley.

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Speaker 3: I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice goofy,

696
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Speaker 3: but we don't have all the answers, We only know

697
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Speaker 3: what we'd do, so let us know what you would do.

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Speaker 3: In the comments, an op says, So, my wife and

699
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Speaker 3: I just bought a house in Florida, and she's crazy

700
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Speaker 3: about anything aquatic. I'm talking whales, fish, lobster. She just

701
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Speaker 3: loves things of the sea. One of the first things

702
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Speaker 3: she told me about herself on our first official date

703
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Speaker 3: was that she loved the seals. Not quite sure what

704
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Speaker 3: that was supposed to mean. Was it some type of

705
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Speaker 3: save the seals slogan you might hear for pandas. Anyways,

706
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Speaker 3: that didn't really strike me as too odd, since I

707
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Speaker 3: am an animal lover myself. In our first apartment, we

708
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Speaker 3: had a quaint fish tank that housed around ten fish,

709
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Speaker 3: but she always wanted more fish in the tank. I said, look,

710
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Speaker 3: we can't have any more fish in the tank. They

711
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Speaker 3: need space. She agreed, and the issue has not been

712
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Speaker 3: brought up since. Now.

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Speaker 1: She wants a whole ecosystem.

714
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Speaker 3: Clearly, she's like, I want the entire ocean in that tank.

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Speaker 1: Bring out ocean. She just wants the whole ocean. Yeah,

716
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Speaker 1: I mean, don't blame her. I'm just curious how big

717
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Speaker 1: the pool is. And well, it's.

718
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Speaker 3: Right now that she wants them in her tank, the

719
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Speaker 3: fish tank. Oh, we haven't even reached the pool. Okay, well, okay,

720
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Speaker 3: you're right to get to it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: As I said above, we just recently bought a house

723
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Speaker 3: in Florida. One of the most striking features that we

724
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Speaker 3: love about it is the giant pool. It isn't the

725
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Speaker 3: greatest looking pool, but it is definitely large. One of

726
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Speaker 3: the first things she mentioned after we purchased the place

727
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Speaker 3: is how cool would it be to have our own aquarium?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 3: Oh, I don't think you can legally do that. Girl.

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Speaker 1: Well, in Florida, you can get about with anything.

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Speaker 3: It's true. I go on to tell her that is

732
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Speaker 3: not wise for us to have an aquarium for various reasons.

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Speaker 3: It didn't seem to make her extremely angry, but I

734
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Speaker 3: could tell that she was a bit annoyed and frustrated

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Speaker 3: about the whole ordeal. A few days later, she brings

736
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Speaker 3: it up to me again, except this time she has

737
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Speaker 3: a legitimate plan, all written out. I was taken aback.

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Speaker 3: She used word to type up a detailed plan on

739
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Speaker 3: how we could get this aquarium to work. Bullet points

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Speaker 3: in all it went over the cost, the type of

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Speaker 3: aquatic creatures we would house in the aquarium, what type

742
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Speaker 3: of contractors and licenses we'd need to pull it off.

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Speaker 3: The craziest part, she wants to use the pool.

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Speaker 1: No, I would hear out, because you listen.

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Speaker 3: You hear her out and then you say, yeah, after

746
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Speaker 3: hearing that, I can't do it, Well, you have to.

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Speaker 1: You're out, Sophia. If you wrote a word document about

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Speaker 1: something you were interested.

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Speaker 3: In, yeah, you listened to it. Y, I'd listen to it,

750
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Speaker 3: and then you say, this isn't gonna work.

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Speaker 2: I would for that shark.

752
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Speaker 3: Yeah, for that sharks, I'm out shark.

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Speaker 1: Being the nice guy I am, I'd probably go to

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Speaker 1: a professional, someone that works in this area, and also ask, hey,

755
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Speaker 1: how much is this going to cost him month? What

756
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Speaker 1: does it look like? What are the rules? What is

757
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Speaker 1: this like?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how much do you have like a reasonable reason

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Speaker 3: that you can come back to her with for saying now?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Because I've seen a lot of times where someone

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Speaker 1: we read a story where someone got a snake, couldn't

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Speaker 1: take care of it, and someone had to like talk

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Speaker 1: to him that was like a snake professional like tooking snakes. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and he kind of talked him down. He was like, Hey,

765
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Speaker 1: this isn't good for the snake or this.

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Speaker 3: Exactly just tell her like, hey, it's not good idea

767
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Speaker 3: for the animals. Yeah, you love the seals, yeh, seals

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Speaker 3: don't love pools.

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Speaker 1: And hearing that from a professional, yeah, great, would I

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Speaker 1: would highly recommend it.

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Speaker 3: I agree. I told her that I thought it was

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Speaker 3: really sweet that her love for aquatic creatures had given

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Speaker 3: her the idea to have her own aquarium in our pool.

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Speaker 3: But I wasn't willing to spend nearly twenty thousand dollars

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Speaker 3: to do so. Oh, nor would I do it regardless

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Speaker 3: of the cost twenty k. Honestly, I thought it would

777
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Speaker 3: be way more to have an aquarium in your backyard.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy, But if it's a dream aquarium, it's like

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Speaker 1: having a dream car.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. The most shocking part is that she wants sharks

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Speaker 3: in a separate pool that we would have to build.

782
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Speaker 3: Why the heck would anyone want giant sharks in their backyard.

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Speaker 1: I thought she was thinking this.

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Speaker 3: I thought she was thinking like a little reef chart.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like, I want a great white Do you

786
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Speaker 1: understand how much space you need for that?

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Speaker 3: So much space? She told me that this was one

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Speaker 3: of her dreams ever since we had met, that we

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Speaker 3: would own a pool and start up some type of

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Speaker 3: backyard aquarium set up. You can't do it.

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Speaker 1: You literally need to own the Aquarium of San Diego

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Speaker 1: to have sharks in there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Her first sign was apparently you set you love

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Speaker 3: the seals too? Why this one is crazy?

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Speaker 1: What does that even mean? The seals and sharks are

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Speaker 1: two different animals.

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Speaker 3: So different. So now I'm thinking in my head that

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Speaker 3: I married someone so that they could have a potential

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Speaker 3: aquarium partner. She has now gone as far as saying

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Speaker 3: that she will leave me if I don't agree to this.

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Speaker 3: This woman is like maybe insane. I don't even know

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Speaker 3: what to do at this point. She claims that I'm

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Speaker 3: crushing her dreams. I'm just so confused about all of this.

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Speaker 3: We have been great for five going on six years,

805
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Speaker 3: and she wants to leave me because I won't agree

806
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Speaker 3: to having an aquarium and building a separate pool for sharks.

807
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Speaker 3: Is it even wise to try and work this out anymore?

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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm being put into a corner right

809
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Speaker 3: now and cannot do anything about it. She won't even

810
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Speaker 3: pick up my phone. Calls should I cave and build

811
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Speaker 3: the aquarium? I need your Outbreddit, and there are some

812
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Speaker 3: relevant comments real quick.

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Speaker 1: Whenever I first read this title, I literally had nightmares

814
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Speaker 1: as a kid there were sharks in my neighbor's Rogers

815
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Speaker 1: pool and that they were there waiting on me.

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Speaker 2: Well, I also was terrified that there were sharks in

817
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Speaker 2: the pool, but only in the deep end.

818
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Speaker 1: Yes, in the deep specifically, and you were.

819
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Speaker 2: Safe if you made it back to the shallow end

820
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Speaker 2: and the sharks didn't get you.

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Speaker 3: Exactly interesting thought processing going on from that side of

822
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Speaker 3: the room. But in this case, it seems it would

823
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Speaker 3: be true if a wife got her way. And I think,

824
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Speaker 3: if your wife is willing to end your marriage or

825
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Speaker 3: end your is his wife. Yeah, yeah, if your wife

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Speaker 3: is willing to end your marriage over kind of an

827
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Speaker 3: insane dream, like I don't know, maybe she could become

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Speaker 3: like a freaking aquarium worker.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, marine biologists going off of that, this is

830
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Speaker 1: my wife, not my girlfriend. I can't just break up.

831
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Speaker 1: I have to put a little bit more effort to

832
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Speaker 1: preserving this because it's not a it's not a direct

833
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Speaker 1: like she cheated.

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Speaker 3: Well, she wants to leave him, though, she's saying that

835
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Speaker 3: if I don't get my sharks.

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Speaker 1: I'd break it down. Hey, what is the real reason

837
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Speaker 1: you want to be near sharks an aquarium? Yeah? What's

838
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: this dream you got?

839
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Speaker 3: What's this dream about sharks?

840
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Speaker 1: Do you want to go back to school and become

841
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 1: an aquatic marian?

842
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 3: Life you closer to sharks?

843
00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: Yeah? Do you want to work in an aquarium?

844
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:20,720
Speaker 3: Like, why don't we swim with sharks?

845
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 1: Yeah? What do we have to do in order to

846
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 1: get you your dream? Because what you're asking is unreasonable

847
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: because I'm not a billionaire and I can't. I just

848
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:29,520
Speaker 1: can't do that.

849
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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's definitely jobs at aquariums that don't require you

850
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:36,360
Speaker 2: to be like anything with exactly. Yeah, she can definitely

851
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Speaker 2: find something.

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00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:39,920
Speaker 1: Yeah she feeds sharks. I don't know, but I would.

853
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Speaker 1: I would want to know what her deep desires are

854
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Speaker 1: and try to work with her.

855
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 2: Here, take this woman on a tropical vacation of sharks and.

856
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 3: Let her swim with the sharks. But Op says, when

857
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Speaker 3: responding to a deleted comment about this being animal abuse,

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Speaker 3: that's a pretty good comparison. And what you said about

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Speaker 3: animal abuse is one of the many reasons I told

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Speaker 3: her this was not going to work. It's one of

861
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Speaker 3: the reasons I'm having such a hard time grasping this.

862
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:07,399
Speaker 3: If she loves them so much, why would she want

863
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Speaker 3: to go about abusing them in that manner. I actually

864
00:40:10,440 --> 00:40:12,399
Speaker 3: brought this up to her and she said, I can't

865
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Speaker 3: believe you don't think I'd properly care for them. After that,

866
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Speaker 3: nothing has been said on that specific reason.

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Speaker 1: Dude top comments Sorry, if you wanted a shark, yeah, Hank,

868
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Speaker 1: you'd literally need a pond.

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Speaker 3: I just let me let me I want to know,

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Speaker 3: can we look up the legal amount of room you

871
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Speaker 3: need to like house a shark.

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Speaker 1: In a great like a great white?

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Speaker 3: A great Why she wants she wants a big shark,

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Speaker 3: so maybe not a great white. I don't think she

875
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Speaker 3: could legally have a great white.

876
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:37,320
Speaker 1: That's a big shark.

877
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 3: But like, what's what are big sharks?

878
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:40,680
Speaker 1: Tiger shark?

879
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:43,720
Speaker 3: Again, let's say tiger shark. She wants a tiger shark

880
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 3: in her backyard. How much room do we need?

881
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 2: A tiger shark requires a massive tank, starting with a

882
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 2: minimum of one hundred and sixty gallons for a juvenile

883
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:56,120
Speaker 2: and escalating to a minimum of nine hundred and sixty

884
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 2: gallons for a fully mature adult.

885
00:40:58,080 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 1: That doesn't seem like a lot of room.

886
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 3: So yes, one that's already not a lot of freimum yeah, minimum,

887
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 3: that's a minimum amount of room. The space that you're

888
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 3: gonna need. Do you even have that space on your property? Now?

889
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 3: You have to also create a pool that size or

890
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 3: tank that size, and then also the water bill, Oh yeah,

891
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 3: the amount of food that they need.

892
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 1: And they need to be salt water, and they need.

893
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 3: To be salt water. Oh my goodness. Top comments Robot

894
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 3: Warren says backyard Sharks would be a great band name.

895
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 3: She's bananas. You can try to negotiate an aquarium plan

896
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 3: which isn't ridiculous. You can get her to talk to

897
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 3: marine professionals about the logistics of her plan so she

898
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:40,840
Speaker 3: sees how it won't work. But honestly, if she's threatening

899
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:43,440
Speaker 3: to leave you because you don't want a swimming pool

900
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 3: full of sharks, I don't think anyone would blame you

901
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,280
Speaker 3: for taking her up on that offer. We're all joking

902
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 3: around about out insane this plan is, because it's pretty

903
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 3: hilariously insane. But on a serious note, how is her

904
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 3: mental health? Because the only people I've known who have

905
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:58,839
Speaker 3: said anything on the level of let's fill our pool

906
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:02,960
Speaker 3: with sharks, happy people who genuinely have serious mental health conditions.

907
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,840
Speaker 3: This sounds like, at the very least, an obsession. Could

908
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 3: you encourage her to see a professional You might need

909
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 3: to do it under the guise of suggesting individual therapy

910
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 3: alongside marriage counseling. That she has always loved fish but

911
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 3: never made a suggestion on the scale before may indicate

912
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 3: some sort of recent change in her thinking. And to

913
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 3: be honest, I feel like the fact she thinks this

914
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 3: is reasonable and realistic is bordering on delusion. Trickster says,

915
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 3: first off, you can't build a freaking aquarium in your

916
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:32,560
Speaker 3: freaking backyard. The zoning laws alone would be a nightmare.

917
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 3: She may have a plan, but is she a marine

918
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,720
Speaker 3: biologist who will know how to keep the pH levels,

919
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 3: salt levels, the basic mechanics of what chemicals are safe

920
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 3: for the animals. What does she get to do keep sharks,

921
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 3: even tiny sharks will eat all the other fish and

922
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:48,879
Speaker 3: need the dark because that's where they live.

923
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:52,720
Speaker 1: Well, if you, redditor they said about having a separate pool.

924
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:56,399
Speaker 3: Secondly, there are shows dedicated to showing what is going

925
00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:59,760
Speaker 3: into building One of these massive projects. They are usually

926
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 3: for companies that have some money to burn. Go watch

927
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 3: any episode of Tanked on Animal Planet and you'll get

928
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 3: an idea. Third, I knew a family that invested in

929
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,319
Speaker 3: an indoor aquarium, one that took up a wall in

930
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:16,240
Speaker 3: their basement. They had tanks, repeat tanks to recycle the water.

931
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,359
Speaker 3: It was beautiful, but holy ech, it was expensive.

932
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: I recently went to a rapper's house that's been sold

933
00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 1: and they had like an aquarium wall.

934
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 3: It's crazy.

935
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:29,120
Speaker 1: And the whole house was ridiculous. There was an elevator

936
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 1: for just three stories. Insane.

937
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 3: Don't have time to walk up those stairs.

938
00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 1: They really don't. And they had a whole backyard. It's

939
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: near Christian friend.

940
00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 2: Huh, it's near my apartment.

941
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:43,320
Speaker 1: That place is it's near Christian's friends. Ian's house is

942
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 1: remember he moved to a that's yeah, that's where. Yeah,

943
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:49,879
Speaker 1: that's where the house that's not near you wait, are.

944
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 2: Not talking about what you guys just went.

945
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 3: That's near in Sino.

946
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 2: We're thinking of different people.

947
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:55,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, not that rapper I'm talking about.

948
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 2: I thought they were talking about maybe no money, Yeah,

949
00:43:57,480 --> 00:43:57,799
Speaker 2: he lives.

950
00:43:57,880 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 1: I'm talking about kid Laroy's management.

951
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 2: No, oh yeah, yeah maybe none.

952
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:05,000
Speaker 1: Wow, that's like they had three pools there.

953
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you can get a lot of space.

954
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 1: It was a ten million dollar house anyways.

955
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 3: And Sina also, it's just like a pretty pricey.

956
00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: Nice but like I was, like, dang an aquarium wall.

957
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 3: Fourth, do not give into her crazy dreams. There are

958
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 3: people whose businesses in fish, who love fish but know

959
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 3: their limits when it comes to taking care of them.

960
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 3: A divorce and or couples counseling who'd be a combination

961
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 3: cheaper than the insanity she is proposing binary blasphemy. Is

962
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:34,759
Speaker 3: no one going to say that Opie's wife may be

963
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:38,799
Speaker 3: mentally ill? This is not a normal request. It's effing bananas.

964
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 1: But a part of me feels this is her dream. Yeah,

965
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 1: can't people dream in Florida?

966
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 3: Can't people dream big? Delete it, says. I'm a psychiatrist,

967
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 3: and I was thinking she's either mentally ill or just

968
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 3: not very bright. Dealita says, I can see the headlines

969
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 3: now Florida man unlived and backyard shark attack.

970
00:44:58,239 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 1: That's a good little truth.

971
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 3: It's a good phrase. Is a good headline.

972
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 1: What have you done? Have you done this before your

973
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:07,760
Speaker 1: Florida birthday? You look up your birthday and put Florida

974
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 1: man beside of it, and it shows you what that

975
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 1: person's done. Carly, do it here, everyone litsen, do it

976
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 1: real quick, Okay, in honor of Florida, since this person

977
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:19,360
Speaker 1: is in Florida.

978
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 3: Birthday, Florida man, so do.

979
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can do that. You do Florida man, or

980
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 1: just put it. Don't don't put your date. Just put

981
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 1: it in the day, like don't put in the year.

982
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:29,759
Speaker 3: Oh I'm putting well, but then it would be a

983
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 3: bunch of okay.

984
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 1: Okay, what's yours?

985
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:36,839
Speaker 2: Florida man tries to smuggle substances into jail with prosthetic leg.

986
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 3: Florida man, what wasn't for two thousand and one? It's

987
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,000
Speaker 3: just June twenty ninth. Yeah, this is just the Florida

988
00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 3: man who made grilled hamburgers stole from Wendy's. Then Rob

989
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 3: Wendy's authority say they were looking for hamburgers that stole

990
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:53,000
Speaker 3: money from two restaurants in Florida.

991
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,839
Speaker 1: Okay, mine says. Florida man brings drugs to beach and

992
00:45:56,880 --> 00:46:00,439
Speaker 1: locks himself and his own trunk and the sun goes down.

993
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:02,439
Speaker 1: He locked himself in a trunk.

994
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 3: Mine's not that interesting.

995
00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 2: Mine was from four years ago, so not from the

996
00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 2: year I was born.

997
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: I was last year. But that's still good. I think.

998
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 1: I think it's a great everybody, what's yours? Tell us

999
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 1: right now?

1000
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:12,479
Speaker 3: Tell us right now.

1001
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 1: Anyways, it's good to this update. I just wanted to

1002
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:18,839
Speaker 1: honor our Florida people. Hey, it's Sam Oghs. We're geet

1003
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:21,279
Speaker 1: back to these delectable stories. But here's three minutes of

1004
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 1: ads from our sponsors to help support the show.

1005
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 3: Update. Hello again everyone, Thank you so much for all

1006
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 3: your responses. I never would have thought I would receive

1007
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 3: so much good advice from all of you over such

1008
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 3: a weird issue. So things are a little better now,

1009
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:37,839
Speaker 3: I guess not really, As I left a voicemail saying

1010
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 3: that there could be some way for us to make

1011
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 3: a compromise, something that would not be harming these beings,

1012
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:44,880
Speaker 3: a proper way to care for them. It seems that

1013
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 3: now she has suddenly opened to the idea of doing

1014
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 3: this after two whole days of not speaking to me.

1015
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 3: Reddit you'll love her reasoning for this. She has legitimately

1016
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 3: told me that she wanted to test how far I

1017
00:46:55,840 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 3: would go for us.

1018
00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 1: Oh did you pass the test. Okay, did you pass

1019
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 1: the test saying Hey, this is a ridiculous request. I

1020
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 1: love you, but I can't do this. Did you pass it?

1021
00:47:11,239 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: Because like what if it was, Hey, I want to aquarium.

1022
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:15,839
Speaker 1: Hey now I want a whole ship. Hey, I want

1023
00:47:15,880 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 1: to own an ocean.

1024
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 3: And it's like I just can't do all that.

1025
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 1: Are you a people pleaser? I don't know. How did

1026
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 1: you do in a test? Is what I'm wondering.

1027
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 3: I'm very curious why she would propose such a fantastical

1028
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:27,879
Speaker 3: and cruel idea to see if I would simply do it.

1029
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 3: I admit, for a good portion of our marriage I

1030
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 3: have been a classic pushover, bending to her will on

1031
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 3: things I would rather not do if it was truly

1032
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 3: up to me.

1033
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 1: Okay, okay.

1034
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 3: I feel like somewhere along the way, my opinions and

1035
00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 3: reasoning has lost value in her eyes and has lost

1036
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:44,840
Speaker 3: value in my own eyes. This is just something that

1037
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 3: I could not allow, and I think it royally pissed

1038
00:47:47,160 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 3: her off simply because I would not do it. Basically,

1039
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 3: she would have let this happen if I would have

1040
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 3: been willing to, but she made it sound more crazy

1041
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:56,319
Speaker 3: to see how far I would take it to help

1042
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 3: her live her dream. I think I've lost myself read it.

1043
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 3: This feels even worse than her not speaking to me

1044
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 3: for two days over this whole bizarre ordeal. A lot

1045
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:07,360
Speaker 3: of you has said that she's nuts. I'm starting to

1046
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:09,840
Speaker 3: believe it after this crap. I'm not quite sure I

1047
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 3: should be with someone that is willing to test me

1048
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 3: over something that would cause great harm to other living things,

1049
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 3: just to see if I would go through with it.

1050
00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 3: I feel like I've been manipulated this whole time, like

1051
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:22,759
Speaker 3: it's some sham marriage or something so she could live

1052
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 3: a lavish dream. I don't really know what to do

1053
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:27,080
Speaker 3: at this point. We sure as heck aren't going to

1054
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 3: build an aquarium. I'm leaning towards telling her to go

1055
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 3: get counseling, or us getting counseling together, or just trying

1056
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 3: to settle this in a civil manner because I do

1057
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 3: not feel like being tested again. I feel that it

1058
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 3: would surely happen again. I actually have no doubt in

1059
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 3: my mind knowing how manipulative people continue this behavior. Thank

1060
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 3: you again everyone, from the bottom of my heart. Maybe

1061
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,760
Speaker 3: I'll post an update if you want in a few days.

1062
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 3: There is a small update, but any final thoughts.

1063
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:58,560
Speaker 1: She wanted an aquarium would now she's mad at you

1064
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 1: that you let her want an aquarium and tested you. Yeah.

1065
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 3: I don't even understand quite what the test was.

1066
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:09,000
Speaker 1: It seems like you still failed it because you didn't

1067
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 1: stand up for yourself.

1068
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:12,880
Speaker 3: I don't know. I think at the point at this point,

1069
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 3: she's testing you and that's weird, and I don't think

1070
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:16,320
Speaker 3: this relationship is working.

1071
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:19,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like it if it was a test

1072
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:22,359
Speaker 1: and she had like a legit, Oh this is what

1073
00:49:22,400 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: I got out of this?

1074
00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:23,840
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1075
00:49:23,920 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 1: Cool, I'm just speechless, hurt. Yeah, I'm gonna go to

1076
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 1: an aquarium. A thing about it.

1077
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:34,560
Speaker 3: I'm going to the aquarium right now. But we got

1078
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:37,240
Speaker 3: a small update. My wife and I have talked heavily

1079
00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 3: about it since I posted this update, and she has

1080
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:42,800
Speaker 3: decided to go to counseling. Okay, so they're trying to

1081
00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 3: work it out. Lately, she says that she has been

1082
00:49:45,080 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 3: having growing obsessions for things. Ooh wait, so I'm confused.

1083
00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 3: First she said it was a test and that she

1084
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:52,600
Speaker 3: didn't actually mean it, but now she seems like this

1085
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 3: is actually something that she was wanting. Hunt Sorry, lately,

1086
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:00,240
Speaker 3: she says that she's been having growing obsessions for things

1087
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 3: almost this type of level, but has been bottling it

1088
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 3: up inside. She took me not agreeing with this as

1089
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:08,240
Speaker 3: a personal attack against her. She has also not really

1090
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 3: felt like herself lately, and I have taken notice of that. Okay, well,

1091
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 3: if this is like totally different than yeah, go freakin'

1092
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:19,399
Speaker 3: get a doctor's appointment, psychologist, psychiatrist, any one of those.

1093
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 3: Apparently she has been trying to self diagnose by reading online,

1094
00:50:22,680 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 3: which I have heard is not a good way to

1095
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:28,440
Speaker 3: go about mental health. Her job is extremely stressful and toxing,

1096
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:30,720
Speaker 3: and this seems to have been some type of outlet.

1097
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 3: No agreement has been reached on an alternative to the aquarium.

1098
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 3: I'm starting to doubt she even wanted this whole thing

1099
00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 3: to go through to begin with. It's worrisome. I'm not

1100
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:41,879
Speaker 3: really sure if my wife is in her right mind

1101
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 3: at the moment, because this is such extreme behavior and

1102
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:48,240
Speaker 3: she's never acted like this. Yeah, if she's never acted

1103
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:50,440
Speaker 3: like this, then definitely take her to a doctor. I

1104
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 3: do love her greatly, though, and we'll support her one

1105
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:55,239
Speaker 3: hundred percent through counseling. I do feel bad about all

1106
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:57,279
Speaker 3: this in a way like I should have noticed something

1107
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:59,959
Speaker 3: was going on, but I truly did not see this coming.

1108
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 3: We both live extremely busy lives, which is not an excuse,

1109
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:07,799
Speaker 3: but I feel is a contributing factor to my possible negligence.

1110
00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 3: And that is the end at that story. Well, good luck.

1111
00:51:10,760 --> 00:51:12,680
Speaker 3: I hope that you know, if you're not divorcing, I

1112
00:51:12,680 --> 00:51:15,360
Speaker 3: hope that your your wife gets help that she needs.

1113
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:20,600
Speaker 1: Carly, how long are you gonna go to counseling see

1114
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:21,759
Speaker 1: how this works out? How long are you.

1115
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 2: Gonna take am I the one that wants the shark

1116
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 2: or the one that's been duped?

1117
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 1: Duped?

1118
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:26,640
Speaker 3: Months?

1119
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 2: Six months?

1120
00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 1: Maybe six months? You've given it six months?

1121
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 3: How many six months to a year?

1122
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 1: How many months of counseling would you do?

1123
00:51:31,920 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 2: Be?

1124
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:32,279
Speaker 3: A year?

1125
00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1126
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 3: Same year.

1127
00:51:34,040 --> 00:51:35,680
Speaker 2: I feel like the counselor would also have like a

1128
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 2: timeline of like, yeah, it's not resolved in here, we.

1129
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 3: Got like a bigger problem.

1130
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:42,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I've also got Keon's Florida man was caught

1131
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,800
Speaker 2: dancing on top of a police cruiser says he's threatened

1132
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 2: by vampires.

1133
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 1: That's a good one.

1134
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:48,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like that one.

1135
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 1: I've seen a lot of crazy Florida man. Every one

1136
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 1: of the comments type your Florida man.

1137
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 2: They've been doing it. There's some good ones in there.

1138
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: I would give it. This sounds harsh. I'd eave it

1139
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:03,880
Speaker 1: three months, m because I would like to see something working.

1140
00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:05,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, that's fair.

1141
00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 1: But now I feel bad because you guys say six

1142
00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 1: months a year.

1143
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:10,880
Speaker 3: I just feel like, yeah, some people are saying brain tremor.

1144
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:12,759
Speaker 3: I think there's a lot of reasons and stuff I

1145
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:15,280
Speaker 3: would just but I also understand like wanting to see

1146
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 3: some like reasoning or change or you know, like some progression.

1147
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:22,160
Speaker 2: I think I gave so much because I was expecting

1148
00:52:22,239 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 2: that there would be progress, Like, yes, that's what I

1149
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 2: was thinking.

1150
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 3: I'd be shocked.

1151
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:28,880
Speaker 1: I was saying, like the first hint of progress, How

1152
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 1: long would you take until you're like I'm out, like

1153
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 1: a like a year, Like if there's a year in

1154
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 1: no progress, or would you do six months no progress?

1155
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:37,319
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1156
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 1: I do three months.

1157
00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story, folks, and the

1158
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Speaker 3: end of this episode. So if you love us, make

1159
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:44,560
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1160
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