1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:04,560 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:08,960 Speaker 1: advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more, please 3 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:12,799 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:17,880 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:20,120 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read this. 6 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: When you hear it, you hear it right here, right now. 7 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:24,439 Speaker 1: Hear it, We hear it. Buck it up and hold 8 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you. Here. It is 9 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. All right, it says hot and ready for 10 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 1: my younger man. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a sixty seven 11 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 1: year old woman married to a very handsome gentleman that 12 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 1: is thirteen years younger than me. We've been married for 13 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 1: four years, but we've been we've known each other for 14 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: six years. When we first met, he waited a while 15 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: to have sex with me, and it finally happened when 16 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: we were away on vacation. I have always been the 17 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: aggressor in the bedroom, and he would just let me 18 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: take advantage of him in all kinds of freaky way. 19 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 1: Two years ago, I decided to switch things up because 20 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:07,120 Speaker 1: I got tired of always initiating sex and doing the 21 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 1: most work in the bedroom. I also got tired of 22 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 1: suggesting different places for us to have sex throughout the house. Well, 23 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 1: when I pulled back, he did not step up, and 24 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: we've gone for weeks at a time without having sex. 25 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:24,120 Speaker 1: When we do have it, it's a quickie and then 26 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 1: he goes straight to sleep. I have asked him if 27 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: he's okay or if his sex drive was decreased because 28 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:33,560 Speaker 1: of his age, and he says he's fine. He works 29 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,680 Speaker 1: long hours and when he comes home he's too tired 30 00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 1: to do anything. He goes to bed around ten pm 31 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:42,479 Speaker 1: most nights, so I feel bad about waking him up 32 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: for sex. I planned a nice vacation for us and 33 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: we had our own cabana on the water. I thought 34 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: it would be a perfect romantic setting. But all he 35 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: did was drink pina coladas till he passed out nightly. 36 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: It says till he passed nightly in the cup in 37 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:04,440 Speaker 1: the level, but I'm sure she meant passed out. I'm 38 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: hot and ready for him all the time, but he's 39 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: never in the mood. I confided in my male cousin 40 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: and asked for his advice. He told me to stop 41 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 1: taking the lead in the home. And with finances and 42 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:18,400 Speaker 1: let my husband step up and be a man. I 43 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: have a very dominant personality. I'm a very dominant person, 44 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: but I never intended to emasculate my man. Is this 45 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: all my fault? Well, this letter kind of took a 46 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:34,360 Speaker 1: turn hard left at the end with you asking about 47 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,639 Speaker 1: emasculating your man and everything. I don't know about all 48 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 1: of that, and I didn't even know that you were 49 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: financing everything. You didn't mention that till the very end. 50 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: But I do think your cousin is right, your male cousin, 51 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 1: I think you're doing way too much. You definitely need 52 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:51,959 Speaker 1: to let your husband step up and be a man, 53 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: And if he doesn't, you should stop trying to make 54 00:02:55,560 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: him and realize what's going on here. Because on a sleep. Honestly, 55 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:03,640 Speaker 1: and I hate to say this, I really do, but 56 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: he doesn't sound like he's interested in you. He doesn't 57 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 1: sound like he wants to do it, or that he 58 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 1: cares if you do it, or his interest lies someplace else. 59 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:18,399 Speaker 1: Because he's not interested, you're always the aggressor because all 60 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:22,920 Speaker 1: the signs are there. He never initiates sex. You said it, 61 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 1: he's too tired after work, he goes to bed at 62 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 1: ten pm, straight to sleep. When you pulled back, huh nothing, Oh, 63 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: when he's too tired after work, When you pulled back 64 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: because you were tired of always being the aggressor, he 65 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: didn't step up, He didn't do anything. You guys just 66 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: didn't have sex, and you said to yourself, he's never 67 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: in the mood. Never again. The signs are there, ma'am. 68 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: The signs are all there. On vacation, he gets drunk 69 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: and passes out every night. And why are you trying 70 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: to finance everything? I mean, he's fifty four. What does 71 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: he do? Is he working? Does he contribute to the 72 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: household or to you in any way? It just doesn't 73 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: sound like it, because you didn't say that in the letter. 74 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: I think you know, if you're gonna stay here with 75 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 1: this loser, get used to this behavior because he's not 76 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:22,840 Speaker 1: gonna change. I certainly hope you get wise and see 77 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:25,919 Speaker 1: that he's not interested and move on with your life. 78 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: You're sixty seven, you still have a healthy sex life 79 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 1: and all of that. You sound energetic. You can do 80 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:41,480 Speaker 1: way better than this guy. Steve, what, Shirley, we didn't 81 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: read it two different damn letters? Right? We did? I 82 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: didn't see none of this that you saw in this letter. 83 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: You know, I normally started the top of the letter. 84 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 1: But see you got throwed off in the letter by 85 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 1: her cousin. He threw you off. Course he not finn 86 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 1: to throw me off. She went to the cousin to 87 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 1: ask for his advice because she's getting under sexed. He 88 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: told her to stop taking the lead in the home 89 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 1: and with finances and let my husband step up and 90 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 1: be a man. What the question was, I'm being under sexed. 91 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 1: What can I do to get him to take the lead? 92 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 1: Your dumb ass cousin talking about finances and something that 93 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 1: take him? Let him be a man at the house. 94 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 1: That ain't what this damn letter about. Let me tell 95 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 1: you what's really wrong in this damn letter. Your old 96 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 1: ass is too damn much. That's what's one with this 97 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:46,280 Speaker 1: damn that right here, he's not interesting. Let me just 98 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:50,359 Speaker 1: walk you through, girl, he ain't got a chance to 99 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: be interested. Let me walk you through this letter so 100 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: you can understand it. Six or seven year old woman 101 00:05:56,320 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 1: sixty seven mad to a handsome man thirteen years younger 102 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:04,440 Speaker 1: than her. That mean he fifty four. They've known each 103 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 1: other for six years. That mean she met him when 104 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 1: she was sixty one. They've been marrit for four years. Yeah, man, 105 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:18,120 Speaker 1: when he was fifty, she was sixty one. She was 106 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:23,720 Speaker 1: sixty one. Now she ain't talking about no. We waited 107 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: a while to have sex with me. You was sixty one? 108 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:32,559 Speaker 1: What what do you mean? Waited a while? A while 109 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:36,080 Speaker 1: for her? Could have been three weeks. She fast, Shirley, 110 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: I want to come back. I'm gonna tell you what's 111 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 1: wrong with her. This woman is two damn much. He's 112 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:43,359 Speaker 1: not interested in All right, we'll have heard two of 113 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hours, 114 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: subject hot and Ready for my younger Man. We'll get 115 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:54,479 Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show, 116 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:57,720 Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter, 117 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: subject hot and Ready for my younger Man. You and 118 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 1: I disagreed completely on this letter. Go ahead completely, and 119 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:10,760 Speaker 1: I'll tell you why this letter is title hot and 120 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: Ready for my younger Man. The whole letter three ninety 121 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: eight percent of the words in here is pertaining to sex. 122 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: She decided, saying she's getting under sex to go to 123 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: her male cousin and confide in him. After all this 124 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: talk about sex. His advice was he told her to 125 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: stop taking the lead in the home and with finances 126 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: and let my husband step up and be a man. 127 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: What did he even listen to you? So that's why 128 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: I think your cousin is stupid. Surely this ain't got 129 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 1: nothing to do with how much money this man makes. 130 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: She taking care of finances. She that ain't what this 131 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 1: let about. It's sending the letter. She said, stop taking 132 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:07,120 Speaker 1: the lead on financing me. She taking the money paying 133 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 1: bills and all this. Here the man working, and it's 134 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:13,000 Speaker 1: saying the letter. He worked all the time and he 135 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:15,679 Speaker 1: come home tied. So it ain't like he ain't working. 136 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:17,840 Speaker 1: He got money. All right. Let me let me show 137 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 1: you this ship. Six seven year old woman man to 138 00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 1: this dude thirteen years younger than me, he fifty four. 139 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: They dated for six years. First he waited a while, 140 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: he has sex with me, and it finally happened we 141 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:34,960 Speaker 1: were away on vacation. Then she said, I have always 142 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:39,319 Speaker 1: been the aggressor in the bedroom. Okay, right there, since 143 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:42,319 Speaker 1: you always the aggressor, you don't know how to sit 144 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:45,040 Speaker 1: your old ass down and wait on nothing. You're pushing 145 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 1: the button every time you come through the damn house. Okay, 146 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: he didn't got used to that. You started that. He 147 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 1: would just letting me take advantage of him in all 148 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 1: kinds of freaky ways. Well, let me tell you something. 149 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: You was freaky with him at sixty one. You've been 150 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 1: married six years. You ain't the same. I'm just gonna 151 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: tell you that right now. You ain't the same. The 152 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 1: position that was sexy when you was fifty, that position 153 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: at sixty seven has changed. I'm just telling you what 154 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: you used to be able to put your foot up 155 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,959 Speaker 1: on when you was sixty, it's a little different putting 156 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:23,560 Speaker 1: your foot up there at sixty seven. So I'm just 157 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:26,480 Speaker 1: letting you know, a little miss hot Mama, your ass 158 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:29,839 Speaker 1: ain't all that damn hot. You might be aggravating at 159 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:32,439 Speaker 1: this point. To tell you the truth, I take advantage 160 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,680 Speaker 1: him in all kinds of freaky ways. You sixty seven, 161 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:39,439 Speaker 1: stop saying freaky? What does I have to do with anything? 162 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:43,080 Speaker 1: Because she stopped saying freaky. You're sixty seven, you're too old. 163 00:09:43,120 --> 00:09:48,080 Speaker 1: We're telling something. Damn foot right, Okay, we'll listen to 164 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 1: this my letter now, Shirley. Two years ago, I decided 165 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: to push things up because I got tired of always 166 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:58,840 Speaker 1: initiating sex and doing the most work in the bedroom. 167 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:01,560 Speaker 1: She and that got hamles stuff, bringing in all these 168 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:06,680 Speaker 1: tools and stuff, got suitcases, luggage, video film in that, 169 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: breaking paper in there, got rope with them all down 170 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:14,079 Speaker 1: at ace, hardware, buying equipment in you and that with 171 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 1: a junger. You don't put up a junger gym in 172 00:10:16,679 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: the damn bed room. Tired of your ass two damn much, 173 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:25,200 Speaker 1: got a sandbox in there, and bud No, nobody want 174 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 1: all this old freaking ass down and all people, all 175 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 1: people freaking different, you know, if they don't know all 176 00:10:33,559 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 1: the new stuff that's down at the sex stores and 177 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:39,120 Speaker 1: at the adult story. She all up in the room 178 00:10:39,160 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 1: with bacon, grease and stuff. Don't nobody won't that no more. 179 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: They have lubricants and stuff that they use down there 180 00:10:47,200 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: that's scented with flavors in it. You got all this 181 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 1: crisco in the room. Everybody won't that on you? Some 182 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: damn west at all. So now I got tired of 183 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: suggesting different replaces for us to have sex throughout the 184 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:07,839 Speaker 1: house sixty seven throughout the house. What is you in 185 00:11:07,880 --> 00:11:10,800 Speaker 1: the basement leaning up against the furnace fault. Bring your 186 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:15,319 Speaker 1: ass upstairs where we can see. It's dogged down here 187 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 1: in this damn basement. You're all up in the up. 188 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: You're all up in the addict, hanging on to the 189 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 1: beams and stuff like you meet me in a sex tape. 190 00:11:27,920 --> 00:11:30,840 Speaker 1: You can't do all that. Put that shower curtain down. 191 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: That is not for us. We're not swinging on this shower. 192 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: He does anything, well, then I pulled back. He didn't 193 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:43,720 Speaker 1: step up, Hell, because he's scared. He didn't step up, 194 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:47,560 Speaker 1: step up. He need a break. He's fifty. You always 195 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 1: hurt of her whole ass in here with all these 196 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:56,439 Speaker 1: ideas every damn night. Okay, well, we can't even take 197 00:11:56,480 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 1: a walk because your ass wants to have sex. That's 198 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: go down to the park. Hold up, before we go, 199 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:08,880 Speaker 1: let me give you a little something. M I've asked 200 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: him if he's okay. If his sex drive has increased, Hell, 201 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 1: has yours has increased? That's the problem. It ain't that 202 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 1: his has decreased. It's just that your ass thinks you 203 00:12:21,200 --> 00:12:24,440 Speaker 1: way sexy than you really are. See, you're fighting what's 204 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: really happening to you, and you're trying to overprove that 205 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 1: you're still sexy. Now you sixty seven and you're doing 206 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: two damn much. Clothes don't fit like they used to. 207 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 1: You're just you're just too much. Now, let's stop all this. 208 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:40,319 Speaker 1: Sit your he go to bed at ten o'clock. Old people, 209 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 1: go to bed. Your ass supposed to be sleep somewhere, 210 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:50,440 Speaker 1: sixty seven, Get your damn rest. I think, all right, Ven, 211 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: she sounds worthsome to me. Che that ain't. He just 212 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:02,199 Speaker 1: doesn't want her, He's not interested, all right. Listen post 213 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 1: your comments on today's Strawberry Letters. Steve Harvey f them 214 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 1: on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast 215 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:12,439 Speaker 1: on demand. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.