WEBVTT - Ep. 196 — The Magical Power of Slowing Down 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:19.880 O la o, la ola, what's. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:26.960 It's me, Tiffany, No in tiendo. 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:32.680 We're gonna do this the whole show in my terrible Spanish. 0:00:32.760 --> 0:00:34.159 Now we're not. I would never do that to you. 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:38.280 Guys in Espanol. I could use the practice, to be honest. 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:40.680 My mother, my mother in law, came to visit this weekend, 0:00:40.720 --> 0:00:43.040 and she was so annoyed that my dog didn't understand 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:48.120 her Spanish commands. And she's like, she's like, Molly Espanol. 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:51.120 I'm like, okay, Mayra, you can teach her Espanol when 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:53.040 you're you know, giving us free child care for the 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:53.480 next year. 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:58.040 Oh, speaking of Molly, there is this awesome I G 0:00:58.240 --> 0:01:01.760 account about the little like a dog. I wish I 0:01:01.760 --> 0:01:03.440 could remember the name of the Ida account. Let me 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:06.200 see I can remember it. It's like this little dog. 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:11.000 This woman is a speech therapist and she has taught 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:13.760 her dog how to use these buttons and each button 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:16.959 has a word. It's like beach outside, water happy. 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:21.080 I saw that. So it's so silly looking. I've seen it. Yeah, 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:22.080 I just see it. 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:23.959 I love it. You don't love it. 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:28.920 I don't think that dog knows what it's saying. I 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:31.920 would like a treat right now, and also to go outside. 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:35.120 It's creepy. I don't know, No, I love it. 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:39.560 The dog is like outside outside, door open. I'm like, oh, 0:01:39.800 --> 0:01:42.680 I think the dog knows what he's asked asking. Dogs 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:44.160 are smart, they are. 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:46.840 But it's also like how you think here we get 0:01:46.920 --> 0:01:48.480 you just like sit there and you think about all 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:50.800 the things that your husband and your boyfriend's thinking about, 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:54.240 and then you like you actually ask them what are 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:56.120 you thinking about? And it's like never what you thought 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:59.440 they were like, it's I don't know, a sandwich, Like 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:02.640 what I'm gonna do after work, you know, it's something 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:04.160 very simple. I feel like dogs are like that. 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:08.160 Well, I feel like that dog. Honestly. Mostly it's like outside, outside, 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:13.799 outside exactly. Dogs like I just want to go outside now. 0:02:13.840 --> 0:02:18.480 But anything new happening in your neck of the woods. 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:20.240 Oh, you know, winding down. I have a couple of 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:23.520 weeks left at the office, and of course all the 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:26.000 things are happening are happening in the last two weeks, 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:28.520 but I have a transition plan in place. I got 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:31.600 my I have so many to do lists that I'm 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:33.280 just like having a hell of a time, just like 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:36.920 checking everything off and I feel fairly. I feel a 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:39.520 lot more prepared this week than I did last week. 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:42.080 I feel very good that baby boy has given me 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:45.799 this time to get my act together. But yeah, just 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:49.200 just preparing for whatever comes next. Thank you to the 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:52.040 listeners who chimed in. I got like maybe ten emails 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.640 from people who told me childbirthing childbirth classes were a 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:59.160 waste of time. Okay, but my anxious self. So what 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:01.919 ended up happening? So I actually, even though I wanted to, 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:04.200 I thought it would be good to take a workshop 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:06.640 on you know, labor and what all happens or whatever. 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:08.640 I've read so much, like so many books and so 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:10.799 many online articles about it. Like the technical part of 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.400 it I get, but I still thought it'd be helpful. 0:03:13.440 --> 0:03:16.120 But these classes sold out, even I didn't even get 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:18.120 a chance to spend the three hundred dollars because they 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:19.880 were all just booked in my area. 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:20.760 Wow. 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:22.720 But what I did is I mentioned it. I went 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:24.360 to the doctor and I was just kind of griping 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:27.480 about it to my OB and she said, oh, well, 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:29.880 we have a midwife hearing the practice who does classes 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:31.880 and she makes house calls. So let me, you know, 0:03:32.480 --> 0:03:36.520 connect you to Lucy so look at little miss Lucy 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.760 from Scotland, who's been a midwife for like thirty years, 0:03:39.960 --> 0:03:43.080 works at this works at my office's practice, and she 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:45.400 came to our house and did like a two hour 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:49.720 session with us, not on childbirth because I she quickly realized, 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:51.600 I get the mechanics of it. I know what could 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:54.800 go wrong. I know too much about what could go wrong. 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.680 But what she did was like go over strategies on 0:03:57.720 --> 0:03:59.480 what I can do at home without having to go 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:02.160 at the hospital, like basically had a labor at home 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:04.160 and had to I don't know, not freak out and 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:05.760 go so early that you have to be sent back 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.960 home and stuff. And it was only one hundred bucks. 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:12.320 That's awesome. Look look good, look. 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:16.080 At God, I mean God. But yeah, no, that's awesome. 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:18.880 Though it was helpful. I feel a lot. I feel 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:20.479 a lot better. And then we did a class on 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:23.520 we did I didn't end up getting into a class 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:27.120 on infant CPR and like choking, yeah, because one of 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:30.280 my husband's coworkers there. It's so so sad. I mean 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:32.159 you always once in a while you hear the story 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:34.680 of a toddler or someone who or or a child 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:38.000 who chokes on food and dies and that's like one 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:39.760 of my biggest fears. I don't know any I've never 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:43.359 been trained in CPR or at the Heimlik or anything 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:45.839 like that. So we took this class actually at this 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:49.120 yoga studio where I take my prenatal yoga, and it 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:52.040 had every It even had like the the digital babies 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:55.520 that you know that tell you when you know when 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:58.440 you're breathing too, when you're like pushing their chest too 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:01.200 hard or you know whatever. So learned a lot of 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:03.920 good info there and that was like one hundred bucks too, 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:07.840 So you know, I'm trying to be prepared. I don't know, 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:09.520 when you have all this time to think about things, 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:11.599 you have time to think about all the things you 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:13.080 don't know and all the things that can go wrong. 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:15.640 So I'm feeling these things make me feel better. 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:18.160 Yeah, no, this is good. I think that's great. I mean, 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:21.760 but I took like infant and like child CPR just 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:23.599 because as a preschool teacher, we had we had to, 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:25.400 and I thought it was like, you know it, but 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.000 it's been so many years, so I wouldn't even I mean, 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:31.920 some basic things I remember, but obviously not like super 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:35.400 great with my memory. So no, I think that's honestly, 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:37.720 that's honestly excellent. And the fact that you had like 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:42.599 one on one your midwife come, I thought that's amazing 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:44.840 because I'm sure it helped you to be like, Okay, 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:47.600 I can alase at least some of these fears, or 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:49.520 at least you have some techniques to help. 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:52.000 Yeah, I have a big yoga ball. Now I'm just 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.360 gonna sit on the yoga ball and like be zen. 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:57.599 And my husband also knows what he can do to help, 0:05:57.680 --> 0:05:59.919 because you know he did. Because I think that's the 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:03.000 Like someone had written in and said that childbirth class 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:04.599 was a waste of time for her because, like me, 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:06.720 she did all the research because she'd been thinking about 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:09.080 it for nine months like I have. But for her 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:12.200 husband because it's like the dad, I don't know, I 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.919 hate to be heteronormative. Sorry, if you have a male partner, 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:18.600 it's harder for them to imagine themselves in that role. 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:21.800 So the classes can be helpful for them. And I 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:25.240 think for him, like it was really helpful because she 0:06:25.360 --> 0:06:27.159 was even coaching him on what words to say to 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:29.240 me and what thinks not to say to me, Like 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.400 there's a whole there's a whole section in her hand 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:34.120 out on like what not to say and here's how 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:36.800 you can actually encourage your partner when they're you know, 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:40.320 pushing out this watermelon from the another region. 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:45.919 That's hilarious. It's like, you can't do it. Shut at. 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:49.400 The part when she was coaching me on how to 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:52.640 massage my breast to you know, stimulate milk production. He 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:54.159 was a little awkward during that, but I. 0:06:54.320 --> 0:07:01.280 Got he should know. It's like, you're touching yourself in 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:02.520 front of this woman. I don't know how I feel 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:03.760 about this. You know. 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.240 The problem was that Lucy was touching her like she 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:07.720 was demonstrating on her own body. 0:07:10.400 --> 0:07:14.480 Lucy, Okay, Lucien, what are you doing after this? Lucy 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:17.600 wants some wine. That's awesome. 0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:21.800 Look at she is red d I'm gonna have the 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:24.000 biggest glass of wine when I'm done. I cannot wait. 0:07:25.840 --> 0:07:27.600 Are you gonna be able to because you're breastfeeding? Right? 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:28.360 Are you breastfeeding? 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:30.720 I mean, I'll try it out and see if it works. 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:33.960 But you can, like there's what you can drink. You 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:36.320 just it's just like you know, I've read you have 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:38.080 to like, you know, space it out over time. I'm 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:39.880 not gonna binge, but I believe me. I want to 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:41.840 glass of champagne as soon as this kid comes out. 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:44.640 And plus, do you do this thing where I remember 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:48.160 Drina used to call it like it's pump and dump. Yeah, 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:50.120 like she can only like dream. It's like you like, 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:53.280 it's like coffee. It's like her thing. But you know, 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:55.920 so she was allowed to have, you know, I forget 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:58.120 what I'm out at a certain time that she would 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:00.360 pump sometimes dump and then that way, you know, her 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:02.560 kid would be all hyped up coffee. 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:04.440 I mean, I don't want to spend the whole show 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:08.120 talking about my breast milk. But the breastfeeding is so 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:10.400 hard to do. I'll feel blessed if I can do 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:12.280 it well, like if I can pull it off and 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:15.480 actually successfully breastfeed. But like once, if you if you 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:18.320 struggle with it, it's like how could you throw it out? 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:20.800 Like it's liquid gold? You work so hard for it. 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:23.520 Any moms out there who struggle with breastfeeding. I spent 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:25.720 like time talking this is a whole baby weekend for me. 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:27.400 I went and visited a girlfriend of mine who just 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:30.040 had a baby, and she struggled with breastfeeding, and she 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:33.800 was like she she had literally she was she worked 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:36.120 so hard to get like the four ounces or whatever 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:39.240 it was of breast milk, and she dropped it on 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:41.520 the floor and she was like, and that was my 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:45.000 first time I cried over spilled milk. And I'm like, 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:48.920 that expression doesn't make you. Of course you're gonna, you know, 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:51.679 cry over spilled milk because you like blood, sweat and 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:54.760 tears and you know, bleeding nipples. Like that's what it 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:58.640 took to get that milk. So respect to any breastfeeding 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:01.280 moms out there who've done it. I'm gonna see how 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:04.240 it goes. I'm not if it doesn't go well whatever. 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:07.200 I was a powder formula kid, I'll be my kid 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:08.520 will be fine. 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:12.040 No, my yeah, I don't think my I don't think 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:14.719 my mom bustfed any of us. I know she didn't 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:17.320 fit Lisa because I was like old enough to like, 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:19.360 you know, watch, But I don't think she breastfed any 0:09:19.360 --> 0:09:22.080 of us, although she did have a natural birth with 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:24.400 all of us, which I'm like five kids. She said 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:27.720 it wasn't until like Lisa that she felt confident because 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:31.520 back then epidorals were they weren't like how they are now, 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:33.760 where it's like safe, and so she was like, nah, 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:36.600 she passed, and then by the time Lisa came around, 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:39.680 it was Lisa is much younger than me. They were safe, 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:41.560 and but by the time she asked for when it 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:43.120 was too late, and she's like, are you kidding me? 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:46.080 So I came out five natural births. I'm like, oh, Sylvia, 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:51.320 you are a soldier bless. I'm like, well, what made 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:53.240 you want to have the next one? After the first one, 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:55.800 She's like, I'm now she said, you forget. 0:09:55.800 --> 0:09:57.680 You forget that's the key. 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:00.640 No, this is awesome though, I mean, your body is 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:04.200 literally primed and built of this, like you know, it's 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.400 like that's what it's created for. Women have been doing 0:10:06.920 --> 0:10:11.440 this in fields and in factories, at home and hospitals. 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:13.240 So your body's like, yes, girl, that's what we made 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:15.080 for girls. So that's awesome. 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:18.240 I hope that's what she says. One in this time, 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:20.520 But what about you? What's happening in your world? 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:25.880 So I don't know. So I'm rinding up, like it's 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:29.960 just such, we're like wrapping up the year for like, 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:32.679 you know, at work, it's so like chill at home. 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:35.200 It's nice because for the last two years. I feel 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:37.480 like it's been house house, house, house, house, and then 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:40.040 it was like we're in here now, decorate, decorate, decorate, 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:44.280 and then But for the last couple of weeks it's 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:46.640 been like because once my birthday hit, we were basically 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:49.360 done decorating, you know, little things here and there, but 0:10:49.400 --> 0:10:52.199 nothing like, no overhauling. So it's been pretty chill. It's 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:54.800 been chill at the Budgetista, although we are doing like 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:56.960 we're doing. We're gonna be giving away a fourteen day 0:10:57.360 --> 0:11:01.560 free pass as like a gift this month to folks 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.440 who want to try out the Literature Challenge the Literature Academy, 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:06.920 So there's a little bit of hecticness there, but not 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:09.640 not so much on my end. But yeah, it's been 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:13.840 actually pretty chill. I'm working on wrapping up Molly Moore, 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:17.160 wrapping up Financial Wholeness, my book that I'm writing, and 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:20.960 that's like just a regular book for adults. But yeah, 0:11:21.040 --> 0:11:24.160 it's been nice not to have not to feel so 0:11:24.280 --> 0:11:26.280 frantic like I normally do at the end of the year. 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:29.400 I'm sure it's coming, but for now I'm enjoying just relaxing. 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:31.960 Do you know what the Literature Challenge is going to 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:32.640 be this year. 0:11:33.720 --> 0:11:36.760 Yeah, I decided to take a break and say, I'm 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.640 gonna do the Literature Challenge, but we're going to do 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:39.680 the Savings Edition. 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:42.120 Again, taking it back where it all. 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:45.520 Yeah, and so well, the first one was the Fundamental, 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:47.760 so the Savings Edition was the second book was the 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:50.880 second Challenge. I said, you know what, the team deserves 0:11:50.920 --> 0:11:52.800 a break. We have so much going on. Let's just 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:56.600 revive the Savings Edition. And so that's what we're going 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:59.439 to do collectively, because I feel like that's that's probably 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.480 one of the biggest things that folks have been asking, 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:03.640 like they're wanted to go back to the basics. But 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:05.160 I do know for twenty twenty one, we're going to 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:07.840 have the Investing Edition, but at least for now, like 0:12:07.920 --> 0:12:10.360 you know, going back to the basics. So yeah, it'll 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:15.439 be nice to revisit. Okay, So you guys will get 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:16.920 more info about that if you want to do. If 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:19.400 you've never done a Literature Challenge, it's an awesome experience. 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:22.920 It's just it's one of my free online courses that 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.880 I give away every New Year. But what makes it 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:27.679 special about doing it in the New Year is that, 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:31.440 like thousands of us do it together collectively so you 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:34.280 can keep on track. And it's just fun because we 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:37.000 we meet online, we do it together, collectively, work through 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:39.439 all the homework together. It's totally free. It's just my 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:43.440 give back to folks who are wanting to get on 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.880 financial track, but you know, maybe just don't have the 0:12:46.880 --> 0:12:49.600 assistance or the resources. So yeah, I did one with 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.560 we did me and Mandy did when before Magne Well 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:54.760 it's magnified money still considered magnified money or is it 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:56.040 considered lending Tree? 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:58.600 Oh we don't, man, my money still exist, it's just 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:00.960 you know, under the umbrella lending Tree. 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:03.280 Yeah, so I think I think I don't know that 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:05.680 we didn't do them Savings edition together. I think that 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:07.360 matter Prime Money was a credit edition. 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:11.240 I don't Yes, I remember, yeah, credit Building yep. 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:14.200 So that one was a fun one. But yeah, so 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:17.840 that's it. Honestly, it's pretty like I said, it's super chill, 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:19.800 which is nice, which means that something crazy is gonna 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:22.640 happen later. So I've learned. The big lesson that I'm 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:24.920 learning is that if I'm not in a rush, don't rush. 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:27.560 And I tell the team if we're not launching, don't 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:29.679 be in launch mode that when you get a moment 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:32.800 to chill, chill, because you know these moments don't last forever. 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:36.679 I am like such a fan of and I think 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:39.000 this comes with experience, Like you're at a point where 0:13:39.000 --> 0:13:41.040 you're like sometimes there's just value and slow in the 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:43.920 hell down and like not always reaching to the next 0:13:43.960 --> 0:13:46.920 biggest thing, And especially at this job in the last 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:49.480 few years, I'm so used to every three months there's 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.400 a huge project and there's a bigger one, and there's 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:53.360 a bigger one, and I would I would like a 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.640 lot of my own self worth as a professional was 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:58.680 based on the fact that I could I could rise 0:13:58.720 --> 0:14:02.440 to these challenges. In the last year, it's like we agreed, okay, 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:04.480 we prove we can do some crazy stuff, but like 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:06.320 we also almost killed ourselves several times. 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.320 So yes, hell. 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:13.000 Though we take our time, do less better has been 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:16.360 the motto for this year. And we just got like, 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:18.640 of course, two weeks before I'm due to leave, we 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:20.720 just kind of got this big project dropped in our 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:23.880 laps this week, and I am just like, look at 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:26.920 Mandy in twenty nineteen versus Mandy in twenty eighteen, who 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:28.760 would have been like, yes, I can do this immediately. Now, 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:31.040 I'm like, so, let's take the month of December to 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:35.160 think about this, and you know, maybe we'll reassess in 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:37.440 January or you guys will because I ain't gonna be here. 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.640 Yes, that's what I'm talking about. And also too, you 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:43.080 planned on so many seats. I was just saying, like, 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:46.520 so many random, amazing things have been happening. Like I 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:49.520 was like out eating and like the I don't know, 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:53.520 some district attorney of something or and then another woman, 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:58.440 another head of something for the Department of Education. She's like, hey, 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:01.040 these two separate women at two step occasions came up 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:03.360 to me while I was out eating out because that's 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:06.520 my thing now, and they were like, hey, email me 0:15:06.600 --> 0:15:08.720 and I'd love to work with you. I remember one 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:10.520 woman and I was like, oh, in what capacity. She's like, 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:12.920 I don't know, do the thing that you do. And 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:20.440 I'm like, I was like okay. And then like today, 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:23.400 I just had this awesome call with like this production 0:15:23.520 --> 0:15:25.720 company of a very very very well known person, Like 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:27.600 if I said her name, you'd be like, oh my god. 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:31.800 And I'm like, and she called me ill Well. I 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:34.280 called to speak to her about this other project that 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:37.280 I'm working on well. She like we just got connected 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:39.320 via a mutual person and they were like, oh, I 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:41.240 think she'd be great, and I was like okay. And 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:44.200 so as I'm talking, she's like, what about you. I 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:46.280 would love to do a show about you with you, 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:51.080 And I'm like, what, that's not even okay, And it 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:54.560 was just so crazy. But I see all that to say, 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:58.280 it's because of seeds planted, and the reason why you 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.720 are able to say, hey, I could take this time 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:03.920 off and we can move more slowly and more deliberately 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:07.520 is because you have planted so many seeds that the 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:09.880 harvest is so full that you can say, you know what, 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:12.440 I'm good on corn right now. You know what, I 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:15.600 actually leave the tomatoes, you know, but that's only from 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:17.920 seeds planted. And I was just really thinking and reflecting 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:21.360 on that that you know, me and you are both beasts. 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:23.000 I mean, I know people hear me because I'm so 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:25.680 silly whatever, but yo, I'm a beast. Like I work 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:29.800 really hard, and as a result now of ten years 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:32.760 of damn near killing myself, which I don't recommend, I 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:36.360 can say I'm reaping all of these you know, reaping 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:39.560 all of the rewards of that, even though I feel 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:42.560 slightly lazy. I guess I call it Tiffany lazy, where 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:44.760 I'm not like killing myself like I normally do, and 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:47.720 I'm like, Wow, all these opportunities and it's not it's 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:49.880 because of seeds planted. So I think, like that's like 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:52.040 a huge thing that I'm really just soaking up that. 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:55.480 You know that sometimes I wasn't allowing myself to reap 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:58.400 what I was sewing. I was just sewing constantly, and 0:16:58.440 --> 0:17:01.280 it's like it's okay to take a break and say, hey, 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:03.240 this good thing is happening, and I don't have to 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:05.280 kill myself for it because I've already put in the work. 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:08.440 Yeah, I mean that is the story people should hear 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:10.399 people who are out there and grinding right now, working 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:13.239 on your own business or working for other people, Like, 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:16.240 eventually you will get to a place where you want 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:18.320 to take a step back and acknowledge, look how far 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:21.240 you've come, and how like what do you want to 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:23.800 do next? How will you do things differently moving forward? 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:26.520 How will you think more intentionally about what you do 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:28.520 because you don't have to hustle us hard anymore? 0:17:28.960 --> 0:17:30.840 Yeah, because honest, I want to leave space for a baby. 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:32.680 I want to leave space for like a kid where 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:35.280 I don't want to be an absentee mom. Because even 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:36.920 as she was saying like, oh, you know, I could 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:39.600 see you with the show, ah, which is so crazy 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:40.840 for me to be like, yeah, I got offered a 0:17:40.880 --> 0:17:43.480 show by some major production company, and I'm like, yeah, 0:17:43.600 --> 0:17:47.920 I don't know, because I don't. I don't I want. 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:50.439 I want that I'm leaving space in my life to 0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:53.280 be like really present, like my parents were really present, 0:17:53.720 --> 0:17:56.520 you know, Jirell's are really present. Dad. I don't want 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:59.200 to be you know, the budget Nissa to my kid. 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:02.440 You know, I want to be here, you know. And 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:05.639 you know, I've worked on our finances in such a 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:08.280 way that I don't have to do extra stuff to 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:13.119 make sure we're supported, so you know, unless it's like 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:15.960 I guess, professionally fulfilling, I don't necessarily have to do 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:20.320 anything new. But yeah, it's just more important than anything 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:22.200 else right now. To me. It's really just like where 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:25.520 I stand with family and friends, and just like you 0:18:25.560 --> 0:18:28.560 know that that's what I've really been reflecting on, Like huh, 0:18:28.560 --> 0:18:30.200 even though it's so crazy because it's not like I'm eighty. 0:18:30.640 --> 0:18:32.560 But I'm just like, how do I want my life 0:18:32.640 --> 0:18:35.040 to go? I want to spend more time with people. 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:37.639 I want to be here more. I mean, if you 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:41.080 follow me on social I don't travel, not even one 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:43.359 one quarter of the percentage of what I used to 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:48.000 do before. I'm rarely on a plane now well I 0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:50.560 can't because of IVF anyway, but it slowed me down 0:18:50.560 --> 0:18:53.320 on purpose, and it's like, Okay, this is good. I 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:56.240 really like being home, you know. And or if I'm 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:58.200 going to go someplace, I'd rather go someplace on vacation 0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:02.640 versus another trip to speak, get another place. So yeah, 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:05.440 it's like it's just such a good like chill time, 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:08.240