Speaker 1: O la o, la ola, what's.
Speaker 2: It's me, Tiffany, No in tiendo.
Speaker 1: We're gonna do this the whole show in my terrible Spanish.
Speaker 1: Now we're not. I would never do that to you.
Speaker 2: Guys in Espanol. I could use the practice, to be honest.
Speaker 2: My mother, my mother in law, came to visit this weekend,
Speaker 2: and she was so annoyed that my dog didn't understand
Speaker 2: her Spanish commands. And she's like, she's like, Molly Espanol.
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, Mayra, you can teach her Espanol when
Speaker 2: you're you know, giving us free child care for the
Speaker 2: next year.
Speaker 1: Oh, speaking of Molly, there is this awesome I G
Speaker 1: account about the little like a dog. I wish I
Speaker 1: could remember the name of the Ida account. Let me
Speaker 1: see I can remember it. It's like this little dog.
Speaker 1: This woman is a speech therapist and she has taught
Speaker 1: her dog how to use these buttons and each button
Speaker 1: has a word. It's like beach outside, water happy.
Speaker 2: I saw that. So it's so silly looking. I've seen it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I just see it.
Speaker 1: I love it. You don't love it.
Speaker 2: I don't think that dog knows what it's saying. I
Speaker 2: would like a treat right now, and also to go outside.
Speaker 2: It's creepy. I don't know, No, I love it.
Speaker 1: The dog is like outside outside, door open. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I think the dog knows what he's asked asking. Dogs
Speaker 1: are smart, they are.
Speaker 2: But it's also like how you think here we get
Speaker 2: you just like sit there and you think about all
Speaker 2: the things that your husband and your boyfriend's thinking about,
Speaker 2: and then you like you actually ask them what are
Speaker 2: you thinking about? And it's like never what you thought
Speaker 2: they were like, it's I don't know, a sandwich, Like
Speaker 2: what I'm gonna do after work, you know, it's something
Speaker 2: very simple. I feel like dogs are like that.
Speaker 1: Well, I feel like that dog. Honestly. Mostly it's like outside, outside,
Speaker 1: outside exactly. Dogs like I just want to go outside now.
Speaker 1: But anything new happening in your neck of the woods.
Speaker 2: Oh, you know, winding down. I have a couple of
Speaker 2: weeks left at the office, and of course all the
Speaker 2: things are happening are happening in the last two weeks,
Speaker 2: but I have a transition plan in place. I got
Speaker 2: my I have so many to do lists that I'm
Speaker 2: just like having a hell of a time, just like
Speaker 2: checking everything off and I feel fairly. I feel a
Speaker 2: lot more prepared this week than I did last week.
Speaker 2: I feel very good that baby boy has given me
Speaker 2: this time to get my act together. But yeah, just
Speaker 2: just preparing for whatever comes next. Thank you to the
Speaker 2: listeners who chimed in. I got like maybe ten emails
Speaker 2: from people who told me childbirthing childbirth classes were a
Speaker 2: waste of time. Okay, but my anxious self. So what
Speaker 2: ended up happening? So I actually, even though I wanted to,
Speaker 2: I thought it would be good to take a workshop
Speaker 2: on you know, labor and what all happens or whatever.
Speaker 2: I've read so much, like so many books and so
Speaker 2: many online articles about it. Like the technical part of
Speaker 2: it I get, but I still thought it'd be helpful.
Speaker 2: But these classes sold out, even I didn't even get
Speaker 2: a chance to spend the three hundred dollars because they
Speaker 2: were all just booked in my area.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: But what I did is I mentioned it. I went
Speaker 2: to the doctor and I was just kind of griping
Speaker 2: about it to my OB and she said, oh, well,
Speaker 2: we have a midwife hearing the practice who does classes
Speaker 2: and she makes house calls. So let me, you know,
Speaker 2: connect you to Lucy so look at little miss Lucy
Speaker 2: from Scotland, who's been a midwife for like thirty years,
Speaker 2: works at this works at my office's practice, and she
Speaker 2: came to our house and did like a two hour
Speaker 2: session with us, not on childbirth because I she quickly realized,
Speaker 2: I get the mechanics of it. I know what could
Speaker 2: go wrong. I know too much about what could go wrong.
Speaker 2: But what she did was like go over strategies on
Speaker 2: what I can do at home without having to go
Speaker 2: at the hospital, like basically had a labor at home
Speaker 2: and had to I don't know, not freak out and
Speaker 2: go so early that you have to be sent back
Speaker 2: home and stuff. And it was only one hundred bucks.
Speaker 1: That's awesome. Look look good, look.
Speaker 2: At God, I mean God. But yeah, no, that's awesome.
Speaker 2: Though it was helpful. I feel a lot. I feel
Speaker 2: a lot better. And then we did a class on
Speaker 2: we did I didn't end up getting into a class
Speaker 2: on infant CPR and like choking, yeah, because one of
Speaker 2: my husband's coworkers there. It's so so sad. I mean
Speaker 2: you always once in a while you hear the story
Speaker 2: of a toddler or someone who or or a child
Speaker 2: who chokes on food and dies and that's like one
Speaker 2: of my biggest fears. I don't know any I've never
Speaker 2: been trained in CPR or at the Heimlik or anything
Speaker 2: like that. So we took this class actually at this
Speaker 2: yoga studio where I take my prenatal yoga, and it
Speaker 2: had every It even had like the the digital babies
Speaker 2: that you know that tell you when you know when
Speaker 2: you're breathing too, when you're like pushing their chest too
Speaker 2: hard or you know whatever. So learned a lot of
Speaker 2: good info there and that was like one hundred bucks too,
Speaker 2: So you know, I'm trying to be prepared. I don't know,
Speaker 2: when you have all this time to think about things,
Speaker 2: you have time to think about all the things you
Speaker 2: don't know and all the things that can go wrong.
Speaker 2: So I'm feeling these things make me feel better.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, this is good. I think that's great. I mean,
Speaker 1: but I took like infant and like child CPR just
Speaker 1: because as a preschool teacher, we had we had to,
Speaker 1: and I thought it was like, you know it, but
Speaker 1: it's been so many years, so I wouldn't even I mean,
Speaker 1: some basic things I remember, but obviously not like super
Speaker 1: great with my memory. So no, I think that's honestly,
Speaker 1: that's honestly excellent. And the fact that you had like
Speaker 1: one on one your midwife come, I thought that's amazing
Speaker 1: because I'm sure it helped you to be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I can alase at least some of these fears, or
Speaker 1: at least you have some techniques to help.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I have a big yoga ball. Now I'm just
Speaker 2: gonna sit on the yoga ball and like be zen.
Speaker 2: And my husband also knows what he can do to help,
Speaker 2: because you know he did. Because I think that's the
Speaker 2: Like someone had written in and said that childbirth class
Speaker 2: was a waste of time for her because, like me,
Speaker 2: she did all the research because she'd been thinking about
Speaker 2: it for nine months like I have. But for her
Speaker 2: husband because it's like the dad, I don't know, I
Speaker 2: hate to be heteronormative. Sorry, if you have a male partner,
Speaker 2: it's harder for them to imagine themselves in that role.
Speaker 2: So the classes can be helpful for them. And I
Speaker 2: think for him, like it was really helpful because she
Speaker 2: was even coaching him on what words to say to
Speaker 2: me and what thinks not to say to me, Like
Speaker 2: there's a whole there's a whole section in her hand
Speaker 2: out on like what not to say and here's how
Speaker 2: you can actually encourage your partner when they're you know,
Speaker 2: pushing out this watermelon from the another region.
Speaker 1: That's hilarious. It's like, you can't do it. Shut at.
Speaker 2: The part when she was coaching me on how to
Speaker 2: massage my breast to you know, stimulate milk production. He
Speaker 2: was a little awkward during that, but I.
Speaker 1: Got he should know. It's like, you're touching yourself in
Speaker 1: front of this woman. I don't know how I feel
Speaker 1: about this. You know.
Speaker 2: The problem was that Lucy was touching her like she
Speaker 2: was demonstrating on her own body.
Speaker 1: Lucy, Okay, Lucien, what are you doing after this? Lucy
Speaker 1: wants some wine. That's awesome.
Speaker 2: Look at she is red d I'm gonna have the
Speaker 2: biggest glass of wine when I'm done. I cannot wait.
Speaker 1: Are you gonna be able to because you're breastfeeding? Right?
Speaker 1: Are you breastfeeding?
Speaker 2: I mean, I'll try it out and see if it works.
Speaker 2: But you can, like there's what you can drink. You
Speaker 2: just it's just like you know, I've read you have
Speaker 2: to like, you know, space it out over time. I'm
Speaker 2: not gonna binge, but I believe me. I want to
Speaker 2: glass of champagne as soon as this kid comes out.
Speaker 1: And plus, do you do this thing where I remember
Speaker 1: Drina used to call it like it's pump and dump. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like she can only like dream. It's like you like,
Speaker 1: it's like coffee. It's like her thing. But you know,
Speaker 1: so she was allowed to have, you know, I forget
Speaker 1: what I'm out at a certain time that she would
Speaker 1: pump sometimes dump and then that way, you know, her
Speaker 1: kid would be all hyped up coffee.
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't want to spend the whole show
Speaker 2: talking about my breast milk. But the breastfeeding is so
Speaker 2: hard to do. I'll feel blessed if I can do
Speaker 2: it well, like if I can pull it off and
Speaker 2: actually successfully breastfeed. But like once, if you if you
Speaker 2: struggle with it, it's like how could you throw it out?
Speaker 2: Like it's liquid gold? You work so hard for it.
Speaker 2: Any moms out there who struggle with breastfeeding. I spent
Speaker 2: like time talking this is a whole baby weekend for me.
Speaker 2: I went and visited a girlfriend of mine who just
Speaker 2: had a baby, and she struggled with breastfeeding, and she
Speaker 2: was like she she had literally she was she worked
Speaker 2: so hard to get like the four ounces or whatever
Speaker 2: it was of breast milk, and she dropped it on
Speaker 2: the floor and she was like, and that was my
Speaker 2: first time I cried over spilled milk. And I'm like,
Speaker 2: that expression doesn't make you. Of course you're gonna, you know,
Speaker 2: cry over spilled milk because you like blood, sweat and
Speaker 2: tears and you know, bleeding nipples. Like that's what it
Speaker 2: took to get that milk. So respect to any breastfeeding
Speaker 2: moms out there who've done it. I'm gonna see how
Speaker 2: it goes. I'm not if it doesn't go well whatever.
Speaker 2: I was a powder formula kid, I'll be my kid
Speaker 2: will be fine.
Speaker 1: No, my yeah, I don't think my I don't think
Speaker 1: my mom bustfed any of us. I know she didn't
Speaker 1: fit Lisa because I was like old enough to like,
Speaker 1: you know, watch, But I don't think she breastfed any
Speaker 1: of us, although she did have a natural birth with
Speaker 1: all of us, which I'm like five kids. She said
Speaker 1: it wasn't until like Lisa that she felt confident because
Speaker 1: back then epidorals were they weren't like how they are now,
Speaker 1: where it's like safe, and so she was like, nah,
Speaker 1: she passed, and then by the time Lisa came around,
Speaker 1: it was Lisa is much younger than me. They were safe,
Speaker 1: and but by the time she asked for when it
Speaker 1: was too late, and she's like, are you kidding me?
Speaker 1: So I came out five natural births. I'm like, oh, Sylvia,
Speaker 1: you are a soldier bless. I'm like, well, what made
Speaker 1: you want to have the next one? After the first one,
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm now she said, you forget.
Speaker 2: You forget that's the key.
Speaker 1: No, this is awesome though, I mean, your body is
Speaker 1: literally primed and built of this, like you know, it's
Speaker 1: like that's what it's created for. Women have been doing
Speaker 1: this in fields and in factories, at home and hospitals.
Speaker 1: So your body's like, yes, girl, that's what we made
Speaker 1: for girls. So that's awesome.
Speaker 2: I hope that's what she says. One in this time,
Speaker 2: But what about you? What's happening in your world?
Speaker 1: So I don't know. So I'm rinding up, like it's
Speaker 1: just such, we're like wrapping up the year for like,
Speaker 1: you know, at work, it's so like chill at home.
Speaker 1: It's nice because for the last two years. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's been house house, house, house, house, and then
Speaker 1: it was like we're in here now, decorate, decorate, decorate,
Speaker 1: and then But for the last couple of weeks it's
Speaker 1: been like because once my birthday hit, we were basically
Speaker 1: done decorating, you know, little things here and there, but
Speaker 1: nothing like, no overhauling. So it's been pretty chill. It's
Speaker 1: been chill at the Budgetista, although we are doing like
Speaker 1: we're doing. We're gonna be giving away a fourteen day
Speaker 1: free pass as like a gift this month to folks
Speaker 1: who want to try out the Literature Challenge the Literature Academy,
Speaker 1: So there's a little bit of hecticness there, but not
Speaker 1: not so much on my end. But yeah, it's been
Speaker 1: actually pretty chill. I'm working on wrapping up Molly Moore,
Speaker 1: wrapping up Financial Wholeness, my book that I'm writing, and
Speaker 1: that's like just a regular book for adults. But yeah,
Speaker 1: it's been nice not to have not to feel so
Speaker 1: frantic like I normally do at the end of the year.
Speaker 1: I'm sure it's coming, but for now I'm enjoying just relaxing.
Speaker 2: Do you know what the Literature Challenge is going to
Speaker 2: be this year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I decided to take a break and say, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do the Literature Challenge, but we're going to do
Speaker 1: the Savings Edition.
Speaker 2: Again, taking it back where it all.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so well, the first one was the Fundamental,
Speaker 1: so the Savings Edition was the second book was the
Speaker 1: second Challenge. I said, you know what, the team deserves
Speaker 1: a break. We have so much going on. Let's just
Speaker 1: revive the Savings Edition. And so that's what we're going
Speaker 1: to do collectively, because I feel like that's that's probably
Speaker 1: one of the biggest things that folks have been asking,
Speaker 1: like they're wanted to go back to the basics. But
Speaker 1: I do know for twenty twenty one, we're going to
Speaker 1: have the Investing Edition, but at least for now, like
Speaker 1: you know, going back to the basics. So yeah, it'll
Speaker 1: be nice to revisit. Okay, So you guys will get
Speaker 1: more info about that if you want to do. If
Speaker 1: you've never done a Literature Challenge, it's an awesome experience.
Speaker 1: It's just it's one of my free online courses that
Speaker 1: I give away every New Year. But what makes it
Speaker 1: special about doing it in the New Year is that,
Speaker 1: like thousands of us do it together collectively so you
Speaker 1: can keep on track. And it's just fun because we
Speaker 1: we meet online, we do it together, collectively, work through
Speaker 1: all the homework together. It's totally free. It's just my
Speaker 1: give back to folks who are wanting to get on
Speaker 1: financial track, but you know, maybe just don't have the
Speaker 1: assistance or the resources. So yeah, I did one with
Speaker 1: we did me and Mandy did when before Magne Well
Speaker 1: it's magnified money still considered magnified money or is it
Speaker 1: considered lending Tree?
Speaker 2: Oh we don't, man, my money still exist, it's just
Speaker 2: you know, under the umbrella lending Tree.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I think I think I don't know that
Speaker 1: we didn't do them Savings edition together. I think that
Speaker 1: matter Prime Money was a credit edition.
Speaker 2: I don't Yes, I remember, yeah, credit Building yep.
Speaker 1: So that one was a fun one. But yeah, so
Speaker 1: that's it. Honestly, it's pretty like I said, it's super chill,
Speaker 1: which is nice, which means that something crazy is gonna
Speaker 1: happen later. So I've learned. The big lesson that I'm
Speaker 1: learning is that if I'm not in a rush, don't rush.
Speaker 1: And I tell the team if we're not launching, don't
Speaker 1: be in launch mode that when you get a moment
Speaker 1: to chill, chill, because you know these moments don't last forever.
Speaker 2: I am like such a fan of and I think
Speaker 2: this comes with experience, Like you're at a point where
Speaker 2: you're like sometimes there's just value and slow in the
Speaker 2: hell down and like not always reaching to the next
Speaker 2: biggest thing, And especially at this job in the last
Speaker 2: few years, I'm so used to every three months there's
Speaker 2: a huge project and there's a bigger one, and there's
Speaker 2: a bigger one, and I would I would like a
Speaker 2: lot of my own self worth as a professional was
Speaker 2: based on the fact that I could I could rise
Speaker 2: to these challenges. In the last year, it's like we agreed, okay,
Speaker 2: we prove we can do some crazy stuff, but like
Speaker 2: we also almost killed ourselves several times.
Speaker 1: So yes, hell.
Speaker 2: Though we take our time, do less better has been
Speaker 2: the motto for this year. And we just got like,
Speaker 2: of course, two weeks before I'm due to leave, we
Speaker 2: just kind of got this big project dropped in our
Speaker 2: laps this week, and I am just like, look at
Speaker 2: Mandy in twenty nineteen versus Mandy in twenty eighteen, who
Speaker 2: would have been like, yes, I can do this immediately. Now,
Speaker 2: I'm like, so, let's take the month of December to
Speaker 2: think about this, and you know, maybe we'll reassess in
Speaker 2: January or you guys will because I ain't gonna be here.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what I'm talking about. And also too, you
Speaker 1: planned on so many seats. I was just saying, like,
Speaker 1: so many random, amazing things have been happening. Like I
Speaker 1: was like out eating and like the I don't know,
Speaker 1: some district attorney of something or and then another woman,
Speaker 1: another head of something for the Department of Education. She's like, hey,
Speaker 1: these two separate women at two step occasions came up
Speaker 1: to me while I was out eating out because that's
Speaker 1: my thing now, and they were like, hey, email me
Speaker 1: and I'd love to work with you. I remember one
Speaker 1: woman and I was like, oh, in what capacity. She's like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, do the thing that you do. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, I was like okay. And then like today,
Speaker 1: I just had this awesome call with like this production
Speaker 1: company of a very very very well known person, Like
Speaker 1: if I said her name, you'd be like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, and she called me ill Well. I
Speaker 1: called to speak to her about this other project that
Speaker 1: I'm working on well. She like we just got connected
Speaker 1: via a mutual person and they were like, oh, I
Speaker 1: think she'd be great, and I was like okay. And
Speaker 1: so as I'm talking, she's like, what about you. I
Speaker 1: would love to do a show about you with you,
Speaker 1: And I'm like, what, that's not even okay, And it
Speaker 1: was just so crazy. But I see all that to say,
Speaker 1: it's because of seeds planted, and the reason why you
Speaker 1: are able to say, hey, I could take this time
Speaker 1: off and we can move more slowly and more deliberately
Speaker 1: is because you have planted so many seeds that the
Speaker 1: harvest is so full that you can say, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm good on corn right now. You know what, I
Speaker 1: actually leave the tomatoes, you know, but that's only from
Speaker 1: seeds planted. And I was just really thinking and reflecting
Speaker 1: on that that you know, me and you are both beasts.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know people hear me because I'm so
Speaker 1: silly whatever, but yo, I'm a beast. Like I work
Speaker 1: really hard, and as a result now of ten years
Speaker 1: of damn near killing myself, which I don't recommend, I
Speaker 1: can say I'm reaping all of these you know, reaping
Speaker 1: all of the rewards of that, even though I feel
Speaker 1: slightly lazy. I guess I call it Tiffany lazy, where
Speaker 1: I'm not like killing myself like I normally do, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, Wow, all these opportunities and it's not it's
Speaker 1: because of seeds planted. So I think, like that's like
Speaker 1: a huge thing that I'm really just soaking up that.
Speaker 1: You know that sometimes I wasn't allowing myself to reap
Speaker 1: what I was sewing. I was just sewing constantly, and
Speaker 1: it's like it's okay to take a break and say, hey,
Speaker 1: this good thing is happening, and I don't have to
Speaker 1: kill myself for it because I've already put in the work.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that is the story people should hear
Speaker 2: people who are out there and grinding right now, working
Speaker 2: on your own business or working for other people, Like,
Speaker 2: eventually you will get to a place where you want
Speaker 2: to take a step back and acknowledge, look how far
Speaker 2: you've come, and how like what do you want to
Speaker 2: do next? How will you do things differently moving forward?
Speaker 2: How will you think more intentionally about what you do
Speaker 2: because you don't have to hustle us hard anymore?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because honest, I want to leave space for a baby.
Speaker 1: I want to leave space for like a kid where
Speaker 1: I don't want to be an absentee mom. Because even
Speaker 1: as she was saying like, oh, you know, I could
Speaker 1: see you with the show, ah, which is so crazy
Speaker 1: for me to be like, yeah, I got offered a
Speaker 1: show by some major production company, and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know, because I don't. I don't I want.
Speaker 1: I want that I'm leaving space in my life to
Speaker 1: be like really present, like my parents were really present,
Speaker 1: you know, Jirell's are really present. Dad. I don't want
Speaker 1: to be you know, the budget Nissa to my kid.
Speaker 1: You know, I want to be here, you know. And
Speaker 1: you know, I've worked on our finances in such a
Speaker 1: way that I don't have to do extra stuff to
Speaker 1: make sure we're supported, so you know, unless it's like
Speaker 1: I guess, professionally fulfilling, I don't necessarily have to do
Speaker 1: anything new. But yeah, it's just more important than anything
Speaker 1: else right now. To me. It's really just like where
Speaker 1: I stand with family and friends, and just like you
Speaker 1: know that that's what I've really been reflecting on, Like huh,
Speaker 1: even though it's so crazy because it's not like I'm eighty.
Speaker 1: But I'm just like, how do I want my life
Speaker 1: to go? I want to spend more time with people.
Speaker 1: I want to be here more. I mean, if you
Speaker 1: follow me on social I don't travel, not even one
Speaker 1: one quarter of the percentage of what I used to
Speaker 1: do before. I'm rarely on a plane now well I
Speaker 1: can't because of IVF anyway, but it slowed me down
Speaker 1: on purpose, and it's like, Okay, this is good. I
Speaker 1: really like being home, you know. And or if I'm
Speaker 1: going to go someplace, I'd rather go someplace on vacation
Speaker 1: versus another trip to speak, get another place. So yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like it's just such a good like chill time,
Speaker 1: although there is this underlying Tiffany that does I like
Speaker 1: working actually, you know? But I'm just more intentional on
Speaker 1: what it looks like in creating things that I when
Speaker 1: I like the work to do it, but then when
Speaker 1: I don't do the work, I don't have to suffer
Speaker 1: for it financially or anything like that. Then I can
Speaker 1: say I don't feel like putting in the work this week,
Speaker 1: and it doesn't. It doesn't affect the team or or
Speaker 1: like our standing financially in any kind of way. But Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's just like a really good, like reflective time.
Speaker 2: I love it. And the happier you are with your
Speaker 2: the choices you're making, the happier mom you're going to be,
Speaker 2: and that's a gift to a child, you know.
Speaker 1: I really feel like we've grown up with the show,
Speaker 1: right because the first time we were, like for those
Speaker 1: of you who have not listened to like earlier episodes.
Speaker 1: I remember one of my first questions was like, should
Speaker 1: I buy pack panties still? And Mandy's like, are you
Speaker 1: kidding me? Girl? Underwear? Look at that ask from pack
Speaker 1: panties to hospital panties post postpartum panties.
Speaker 2: That's the title of your memoir. I'll come up with
Speaker 2: my own. But yeah, generally, I know.
Speaker 1: We've got some amazing questions from our amazing listeners. It's
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Speaker 1: Real quick before we start, someone literally just messaged me.
Speaker 1: Her name is Tiffyboo thirty five. Okay, Tiffany, where's my
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Speaker 1: light and love to you and Mandy. I'm all caught
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Speaker 2: let's take a question from the gram. Let's see from
Speaker 2: let's Brenda. She says, thank you so much for the podcast.
Speaker 2: You're both amazing. I really feel for Brenda and her question.
Speaker 2: She's another in her mid twenties, kind of struggling to
Speaker 2: find her place. So here's what she says, my issue
Speaker 2: is something I have to deal with within myself, but
Speaker 2: I'm hoping you guys can give me some direction. I'm
Speaker 2: twenty five years old and I live in South Florida.
Speaker 2: I feel as though my career path is in shambles.
Speaker 2: I earned a degree in marketing and a minor in
Speaker 2: hospitality management, but my experience is all over the place,
Speaker 2: from sales to acquisition, I've done a lot. I'm extremely
Speaker 2: disappointed in myself because I feel like I can't clearly
Speaker 2: and precisely say what it is that i'd like to do.
Speaker 2: This has taken a major toll on my confidence and emotions,
Speaker 2: as I feel as though I should know what I
Speaker 2: want to do by now, I feel as though I
Speaker 2: don't know where to start. I'm not sure if you
Speaker 2: can help, but I'd love to hear what you have
Speaker 2: to say. Thank you, Oh, miss Brenda.
Speaker 1: I'm around How old is Miss Brenda?
Speaker 2: Twenty five? She says, God, I mean, honestly, you should
Speaker 2: have it figured out bright now. I don't know what
Speaker 2: your problem.
Speaker 1: Is, girl, I was literally just moving out, like I'm thinking,
Speaker 1: like Miss Brenda's like, I'm fifty five and I don't
Speaker 1: And even then, if you are fifty five, I'd be like,
Speaker 1: I mean, and you're human. First one, you're super young.
Speaker 1: I know it doesn't feel like it because I know
Speaker 1: at twenty five I didn't feel super young. I felt
Speaker 1: like I should have the world already figured out. But
Speaker 1: you are, you are super duper duper young. So it's
Speaker 1: normal not to know, honestly. I mean I barely know sometimes,
Speaker 1: so that's normal. And you know, I don't know how
Speaker 1: much experience, like I'm assuming. She said she went to school, right.
Speaker 2: Yep, So she'd studied marketing and hospitality management. And she's
Speaker 2: twenty five. So let's say she's been out of school
Speaker 2: for a few years. But she's worked jobs that are
Speaker 2: kind of all over the map, she says, sales, then acquisitions.
Speaker 2: She doesn't really know which direction she wants to go in.
Speaker 2: I think that this is the right time to decide.
Speaker 2: I actually told Royal systant Here, who graduated what two
Speaker 2: years ago, a year and a half ago, and this
Speaker 2: was kind of her first real job. I was like, girl,
Speaker 2: if you're still here in two years, I'm gonna kick
Speaker 2: you out, because I think this is a good job
Speaker 2: for you to have as an assistant where you're kind
Speaker 2: of figuring out what your next steps are. But you
Speaker 2: should be thinking about your next steps. But so by
Speaker 2: the time you're in your mid twenties, you're sort of
Speaker 2: ready to go in the next direction. You're just at
Speaker 2: that space where you need to kind of take a
Speaker 2: step somewhere, hopefully in the right direction. So what I'd
Speaker 2: recommend is take a look at what, like, sit down
Speaker 2: and really think about the jobs that you've had in
Speaker 2: the last few years, what you studied, what really makes
Speaker 2: you happiest, Like what part of those jobs did you
Speaker 2: find most fulfilling, and then try to seek out opportunities
Speaker 2: that would give you more of that, and just kind
Speaker 2: of follow that good feeling. And hopefully that good feeling
Speaker 2: comes with money and a salary, but follow that and
Speaker 2: that will lead you where you ultimately want to end up.
Speaker 1: I love that follow that good feeling. Honest say, I
Speaker 1: don't know that there's any any better advice than that
Speaker 1: to follow that good feeling.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's got to be your gut. It can't
Speaker 2: be what you think you because I almost feel like
Speaker 2: if you were being honest, you would be thinking what
Speaker 2: you I feel like you're in a place where you're
Speaker 2: thinking I should be this, I should be that. I
Speaker 2: should have my own you studied hospitality, should have You're
Speaker 2: probably thinking I should have my own hotel. By now,
Speaker 2: that's just not going to do you any good if
Speaker 2: you focus, if you think about where you think you
Speaker 2: should be, like what maybe you think about where you
Speaker 2: want to end up, but like what is the next
Speaker 2: step to get there? And it can't be you can't
Speaker 2: go zero to one hundred immediately. You have to like
Speaker 2: acknowledge to yourself it's not going to be an immediate
Speaker 2: uh you know, express elevator ride to the top.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, and also too like to to kind
Speaker 1: of like just add to that. One of the things
Speaker 1: that helped me to kind of like figure out the
Speaker 1: niche that I wanted to go into is I did
Speaker 1: a lot of volunteering because it helped to like kind
Speaker 1: of solidify like, oh, I actually do really like teaching,
Speaker 1: or I do really like I mean, you know, like
Speaker 1: and I don't know what that would look like in
Speaker 1: corporate or whatever, but that helped because I volunteering helps
Speaker 1: to strip away all that other stuff, Like it helps
Speaker 1: to strip away what I'm worried about making. It helps
Speaker 1: to strip away what I'm worried about people saying because
Speaker 1: with volunteering, you're just giving of yourself. And what I
Speaker 1: found was that I actually really did enjoy teaching. I
Speaker 1: really did enjoy teaching financial education. But that came from
Speaker 1: like stripping away all these other expectations and that helps
Speaker 1: significantly for me to figure out what I wanted to
Speaker 1: do with myself.
Speaker 2: And be kind to yourself. I love that you asked
Speaker 2: this question, but you know you're you may have another
Speaker 2: like you may you may figure it out for now,
Speaker 2: and then when you turn thirty, have this have the
Speaker 2: next kind of inflection point where you're like, Okay, where
Speaker 2: do I want to go now? I think everyone's got second, third,
Speaker 2: four fifth acts in their life. I'm, you know, in
Speaker 2: my early thirties now, and I'm thinking about what I
Speaker 2: want the next five ten years to be. Like it
Speaker 2: never ends. You just have to get comfortable with like
Speaker 2: reinventing yourself and being open to not having a clear
Speaker 2: life map all the time, because the sooner you get
Speaker 2: comfortable with that, the more the happier you're going to be,
Speaker 2: and the more care you know, the more relaxed you
Speaker 2: can be about your decisions and ultimately you'll be open
Speaker 2: to opportunities that I think could ultimately make you happy
Speaker 2: because you're following what you want to do, not what
Speaker 2: you think you should want to do exactly. All right,
Speaker 2: miss Brenda, thank you for your question. Okay, let's take
Speaker 2: another question. This one comes from Instagram listener. We'll call
Speaker 2: her Jenna. Hello, Mandy, I know you're the one managing
Speaker 2: this account. Okay, you got me. I love the podcast.
Speaker 2: Thank you for creating this space of financial wellness for us.
Speaker 2: I'm a teacher making thirty eight five hundred dollars. I
Speaker 2: have student loans, I have rent to pay, car insurance, daycare,
Speaker 2: and phone, and credit cards. After all these bills are paid,
Speaker 2: I'm looking at next to nothing left emergency fund.
Speaker 1: Ha.
Speaker 2: I wish I'm broke, and I don't know what to
Speaker 2: do next to improve my life for me and my daughter.
Speaker 2: I listened faithfully, and I hear you guys share amazing tips, practices,
Speaker 2: and ideas. But I always I am left feeling hopeless
Speaker 2: because I don't have that extra income. I live at
Speaker 2: home and I pay two hundred dollars in rent. I'm
Speaker 2: doing everything I can to say because I can't afford
Speaker 2: not to can you help this anonymous listener out words
Speaker 2: of advice, encouragement? How do I get out of this cycle?
Speaker 1: So I'll say this that I'll share. Have you ever
Speaker 1: had Tila on here?
Speaker 2: Have I ever had like you're not on the show too.
Speaker 1: No, I'm just saying I'm thinking like, because I feel
Speaker 1: like I was out once, I'm like, do we ever
Speaker 1: have Tila on here?
Speaker 2: I don't think Tala Tila talked about SOTCK trading, right, yes, yes.
Speaker 1: So I remember when Tila came on, and I've just
Speaker 1: spoken to Tila that she was in a similar position
Speaker 1: in that she just felt like, you know, that she
Speaker 1: wasn't making enough. But she was a single mom and
Speaker 1: and she was like, there's just not enough time for
Speaker 1: me to get a second job, take care of the
Speaker 1: kids and make how do I make more? So Tila
Speaker 1: learned how to trade. It was something she could do
Speaker 1: from the house. I remember she told me this is
Speaker 1: just recently. She told me that she spent a year
Speaker 1: learning how to trade, like using a vestopedia, like they're free,
Speaker 1: like she practiced on their free tools, so she didn't
Speaker 1: trade any real money, and then she made it like
Speaker 1: almost like a second job for herself, but at home,
Speaker 1: and it took her two years, but she was able
Speaker 1: to replace her income at her corporate job that she hated.
Speaker 1: And so I just shared that because there are opportunities
Speaker 1: that don't require you to uber drive or Airbnb or
Speaker 1: leave the house or whatever. That to unearth those kind
Speaker 1: of opportunities where how what can I do that can
Speaker 1: earn because ultimately you're gonna have to make more money.
Speaker 1: I suspect you don't have a spend more spend less
Speaker 1: problem because typically when people don't enough money, it's they
Speaker 1: either need to make more or they need to spend less.
Speaker 1: And at thirty eight thousand dollars a year, you're probably
Speaker 1: you probably can't spend less. It's really a make more issue.
Speaker 1: So that's what I would focus on. What are some
Speaker 1: creative ways that you can make more? And except for Tila,
Speaker 1: she learned how to trade trading, meaning like buying stock
Speaker 1: and she's not a day trader. She's not trading every day.
Speaker 1: Tiala said she does about four trades a month. That
Speaker 1: means when you buy a stock at a certain price
Speaker 1: and then you sell it at a certain price.
Speaker 2: So yeah, what does I will say? And I don't
Speaker 2: want to get stuck on the trading thing, because for her,
Speaker 2: she's probably like trade what.
Speaker 1: Yes, But as I'm saying, like, it's not necessarily that,
Speaker 1: but meaning that there's something out there like that that
Speaker 1: you're able to do that doesn't require like you know
Speaker 1: that you know, for example, you might I don't know,
Speaker 1: like if someone watches your your children. But when I
Speaker 1: was a teacher, I have made extra money tutoring, and
Speaker 1: there are definitely online tutoring platforms. I made extra money babysitting.
Speaker 1: So maybe you can't babysit because you live at home,
Speaker 1: but there are, like I said, online platforms where you
Speaker 1: could tutor and teach online other kids, other people's kids online.
Speaker 1: So maybe that's an opportunity you can lean into. I
Speaker 1: just mentioned Tila because she was creative and thinking of
Speaker 1: a way and didn't require like her to leave the
Speaker 1: house in a way that was going to be disruptive
Speaker 1: to her taking care of her family. So just looking
Speaker 1: into like a skill set that you already have, and
Speaker 1: is there a way you can kind of do that
Speaker 1: skill set digitally?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Are there any skills that you have that you
Speaker 2: can leverage to earn money? I mean, there may be
Speaker 2: something you can do that you may have been doing
Speaker 2: for free, that you could start thinking of a business
Speaker 2: plan for I mean, at thirty eight five hundred dollars
Speaker 2: a month, if on that salary with a child, you're
Speaker 2: having to live at home, I mean, it makes me
Speaker 2: sad for teachers in general, because you'd think a job
Speaker 2: that important should have a salary where you where you
Speaker 2: feel like you can live a full life and you
Speaker 2: want to stay in that career. But if it's you know,
Speaker 2: if there's not a way for you to see, like
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm assuming you're a new teacher, maybe young,
Speaker 2: you know their career advancement at the school. Maybe there
Speaker 2: are schools that could pay you more. Or maybe if
Speaker 2: you've got an advanced degree, you could earn more, and
Speaker 2: you decide that that math works out, it's worth it
Speaker 2: to invest in my education to get a higher degree
Speaker 2: so I could potentially earn more. Or maybe you just
Speaker 2: need a pivot, you know, away from that career to
Speaker 2: something a little bit different, or you can find using
Speaker 2: some skills that you have a way to bring an
Speaker 2: additional income. But I would put all your energy into
Speaker 2: not think not trying to count those pennies you have leftover,
Speaker 2: because that's, like you said yourself, it's an exercise and
Speaker 2: monotony or not a futility. What would matter more to
Speaker 2: you and for your future is really starting to think
Speaker 2: about ways you can build wealth with what you have
Speaker 2: in front of you. There's just no other way to
Speaker 2: do it. Like you already are doing the best you can,
Speaker 2: you know, living at home. You say you have student
Speaker 2: loans as a teacher, one thing that you can think
Speaker 2: about is, you know, teach your loan forgiveness. Are you
Speaker 2: working in an area where perhaps you could qualify for
Speaker 2: some sort of forgiveness for your the debt you've taken
Speaker 2: on to pursue a career as a teacher. I can
Speaker 2: shoot a link to a good guide to teach a
Speaker 2: loan forgiveness. That's one benefit of being a teacher. I
Speaker 2: guess m h. Depending on what your what kind of
Speaker 2: loans you have? Yeah, I get it. And the reason
Speaker 2: I shared this question and knowing in advance there's no
Speaker 2: easy answer is because this is not the first question
Speaker 2: that we've gotten from listeners who are in that situation,
Speaker 2: who are like, I just don't know what I'm doing.
Speaker 2: I'm a single mom. I don't earn enough. All we
Speaker 2: can say is you need to take the time to
Speaker 2: invest in yourself and try to figure out a way
Speaker 2: to build wealth and whatever in whatever way you can.
Speaker 1: No, and I exactly like taking that that that extra
Speaker 1: time and energy to invest in educating yourself because there's
Speaker 1: so many, so many ways that you can make money
Speaker 1: without that don't involve you necessarily having to leave the house.
Speaker 1: But what are those ways like, Like, look at san
Speaker 1: Remember we had Sandy on Sandy was full time at
Speaker 1: HR professional and she started selling things on Amazon and
Speaker 1: she taught herself so well. She made eighty thousand dollars
Speaker 1: one year and she used it to pay off her
Speaker 1: student loan debt. So you know, there are opportunities out there.
Speaker 1: Is it a lot of work? Yes, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to pretend like it's not, but at least it's possible,
Speaker 1: and that's what you're looking for.
Speaker 2: As you're looking for those opportunities. Protect yourself too, yes,
Speaker 2: because there, I mean, you're in a vulnerable position and
Speaker 2: a lot of people who are looking for, you know,
Speaker 2: ways to build wealth. You can sometimes get sucked into
Speaker 2: something that's too good to be true, So do your
Speaker 2: due diligence with any opportunity that comes your way to
Speaker 2: you know, make additional funds. But you have to start, hey,
Speaker 2: to start looking. You know what, we haven't had Sandy
Speaker 2: on the show.
Speaker 1: Can you believe that we haven't had Sandy? Oh?
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, we tried, but Sandy got sick.
Speaker 1: That's right.
Speaker 2: That's my resolution is to get her on the show
Speaker 2: very soon. I tell you, Sandy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you guys would love Sandy.
Speaker 2: Well, all right, thank you very much for your question.
Speaker 2: Hang in there, hang in there, but start thinking now
Speaker 2: of ways you can. You know better than anyone else.
Speaker 2: You know what you have to offer and how you
Speaker 2: can leverage that potentially to increase.
Speaker 1: Your wealth exactly.
Speaker 2: All right, guys again, shoot us your questions at Brandon
Speaker 2: Mission Podcast on Instagram or you can send us an
Speaker 2: email directly at Brandamission Podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: And now it's time to boost a break for all
Speaker 1: our family. You gotta boost. You're gonna break.
Speaker 2: What you gonna do, Mandy, I'm gonna do a break,
Speaker 2: and I don't want you guys to come for me,
Speaker 2: but I have been feeling this way for quite a while.
Speaker 2: I love me. Who doesn't love Oprah? No, one doesn't
Speaker 2: love Oprah. Oprah is like, come on, She's like our
Speaker 2: god on Earth. But I don't like Oprah's favorite things.
Speaker 2: I'm kind of over it. I feel like every year
Speaker 2: I look at her list and I want to like
Speaker 2: the stuff that she has on it, but I just
Speaker 2: can't get into it. It's like more pajamas, more really
Speaker 2: expensive slippers. Like I checked out her favorite things this
Speaker 2: year thinking I would find I don't know it. Also,
Speaker 2: just like the word things, it's like, come on, just
Speaker 2: got to buy a bunch of stuff, and all this
Speaker 2: stuff on her list just none of it really appealed
Speaker 2: to me. And I feel like she's lost her favorite things. Touch.
Speaker 2: The one thing I think I would like from her
Speaker 2: list is Michelle Obama's Michelle Obama did like a guided
Speaker 2: journal that goes along with her book from last year
Speaker 2: called Becoming, which Oprah added to her list, And that's
Speaker 2: like the one thing. I just figured Oprah would have
Speaker 2: some good gift ideas that wouldn't you feel like I
Speaker 2: was just buying stuff stuff. Yeah, people were gonna just like,
Speaker 2: you know, throw into a closet. And I wanted to
Speaker 2: cheat sheet this year. You know, I don't have time to,
Speaker 2: you know, think about gifts and stuff. I thought she
Speaker 2: would come through for me, but.
Speaker 1: But I could see that though it is very consumer
Speaker 1: consumer driven esques like.
Speaker 2: Does she really wear Lady Gaga's might makeup? I don't know.
Speaker 2: It doesn't seem like, it doesn't seem authentical. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 2: being serious, I'm being honest.
Speaker 1: Well, I am going to boost. I'm gonna boost all
Speaker 1: of those people who make Thanksgiving dinners for other people.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Vonda, because a sister like me don't really
Speaker 1: cook like that. And so last year I think I
Speaker 1: ordered one year from this place called Just Fish. They
Speaker 1: don't do just fish obviously, they do Thanksgiving dinners and
Speaker 1: it was amazing. And then last year I did Vonda's.
Speaker 1: I'm doing Vonda's again this year because everybody doesn't cook.
Speaker 1: And what I love is that actually gets pretty economical,
Speaker 1: like once you get the turk and usually like four
Speaker 1: major sides. So we're having Thanksgiving for the first time
Speaker 1: at our house this year because we didn't live here
Speaker 1: last year, or we were, but it wasn't complete. So
Speaker 1: I'm excited about that. And I just want to boost
Speaker 1: the fact that, like you know, I know most people
Speaker 1: have that stress about like oh, what am I going
Speaker 1: to make? I'm like, what am I going to order?
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's when I'm boosted. Most of people who
Speaker 1: make Thanksgiving dinners for other people like me who are
Speaker 1: not the best. I'm not a terrible cook, but I'm
Speaker 1: not like a cook cook, and I really don't want
Speaker 1: to practice on Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm thankful that you know you're laying. Yeah,
Speaker 2: because those of us who come to your house for
Speaker 2: you know, those of your family who coach. I wasn't invaded,
Speaker 2: but it's fine who come over. You don't want mediocre food? No, Like,
Speaker 2: come on, Christine, know if you can't cook, just acknowledge it,
Speaker 2: don't try, don't try.
Speaker 1: No, you're exactly Yeah, I love it. We are.
Speaker 2: I don't have any plans. I love to cook a
Speaker 2: big Thanksgiving dinner, but I'm tempted. I was tempted to try.
Speaker 2: I kept talking myself out of it. But I'm not
Speaker 2: gonna make a big plan to cook. We're gonna go
Speaker 2: to a family's house and not bring anything. I might
Speaker 2: be in labor, who knows, and then my water will
Speaker 2: break in the middle of dinner. It'll be all.
Speaker 1: Dramatic that you can tell your child your son. You
Speaker 1: were born on Thanksgipping and you were the best thing
Speaker 1: I was thankful for.
Speaker 2: Well, that would be nice. We'll see. I would like
Speaker 2: one last nice meal, you know, that would be That
Speaker 2: would be great. Well, I can't believe Thanksgiving is coming up.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's awesome. Though, you're gonna have your
Speaker 2: first Thanksgiving in the new I.
Speaker 1: Know, with both sides of the family, I'm not as
Speaker 1: nervous as I was about like our sides of the
Speaker 1: families combined, because they came together for the my birthday
Speaker 1: party and I was like, Okay, it wasn't it wasn't
Speaker 1: all of his family, but it was enough. So I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: this was cute, nothing crazy, so we should be good.
Speaker 2: Wait, how long have y'all been together?
Speaker 1: A long time? But it's been like sporadic, like for example,
Speaker 1: like of course, like my sisters come over all the time,
Speaker 1: and his siblings come over. But like you know, like
Speaker 1: the older sides of our family, that's the part where it's.
Speaker 2: Like, okay, gotcha, Yeah, good luck to anyone having debates
Speaker 2: about politics Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that's gonna happen, hopefully, But so.
Speaker 2: I'm looking at her list again, thirty five dollars hot sauce,
Speaker 2: come on, oprah mm hmm, get out of here. Frankis
Speaker 2: five dollars Max. Oh yeah, yeah, well happy pre holiday season.
Speaker 2: Oh we are putting the lights up this weekend, just.
Speaker 1: To get that out of the way.
Speaker 2: It's on my to do list. I'm just gonna you know,
Speaker 2: my to do list is as long as hell. I'm
Speaker 2: just going to keep ticking it off until this baby comes.
Speaker 2: I guess, get my life and get my life in order.
Speaker 2: I'm very excited though, to get the lights up because
Speaker 2: last year we didn't get a chance to do anything Christmasy.
Speaker 2: Really didn't have a tree, didn't have lights outside because
Speaker 2: the house wasn't done yet.
Speaker 1: So try. Yeah, I definitely, I definitely want to do
Speaker 1: a little Christmas this year. So I'm like, I feel
Speaker 1: like we have such a great Chris because you've got
Speaker 1: a fireplace and this nice like staircase where you're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: i feel like we've got a really great Chris Christmas
Speaker 1: y looking house staircase.
Speaker 2: So you gotta do a family portrait, gotta get that
Speaker 2: Garland going.
Speaker 1: Yah, I can't wait.
Speaker 2: Well, tell us how you guys are celebrating the holidays
Speaker 2: this year. Maybe you're not celebriating. Maybe you're not doing
Speaker 2: this holidays this year. That's fine too. She does a Nope,
Speaker 2: tweet us. We don't even share our Twitter anymore. We're
Speaker 2: on Twitter and yeah we are at the BA podcast.
Speaker 2: Hit us up on the Instagram again at Brown Envision
Speaker 2: podcast on Instagram. I want to hear your holiday stories.
Speaker 1: Oh there, I tell you before we leave out, did
Speaker 1: I tell you that we have you know, I call
Speaker 1: my husband Superman. I call Alyssa my stepdaughter supergirl. And
Speaker 1: I call her mom, who's awesome chante supermom. So we're
Speaker 1: we every every other Wednesday now we have our super
Speaker 1: family dinner. And because I was like one of my
Speaker 1: things that I was like, you know, like turning forty
Speaker 1: had me reflective and I was like, what are some
Speaker 1: of the relationships I want to strengthen even further? And
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, that relationship between all of
Speaker 1: less because we are one big family, you know, we
Speaker 1: get our our Jada Picket Will Smith on, you.
Speaker 2: Know, and so it's all so lucky.
Speaker 1: So it's like it's been really it was really nice.
Speaker 1: The first one was two Wednesdays ago and it was
Speaker 1: really nice. I cooked, Yes, I do cook, not often,
Speaker 1: but I do. I cook the food. It's good supposedly,
Speaker 1: but it was nice because we just sat and laughed
Speaker 1: and talked, you know. And so it's we're having having
Speaker 1: it again. This time Superman's cooking. The next time it'll
Speaker 1: be super Mom and then we'll see if we let
Speaker 1: a Supergirl cook. But yeah, so it's been going good.
Speaker 1: It's just she's thirteen now, and I just want to
Speaker 1: like for it to be as she like to reiterate
Speaker 1: to her that like we are all one family, that
Speaker 1: there's that I mean, there's never really been any division
Speaker 1: that's been what's so awesome because her mom is awesome.
Speaker 1: But still it's important, especially at the age sheason now,
Speaker 1: to see like mature relationships in action. You know.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, as a child of divorce, that was not
Speaker 2: my experience. So I am all about that. It can
Speaker 2: only mean and it's good for her too, because she's
Speaker 2: a teenager now. She does not have time to go
Speaker 2: to house to house exactly, she's gonna start cutting y'all,
Speaker 2: you know, exactly cutting her out of your schedule, So
Speaker 2: you're making it more efficient for her in her teenage years. Yes,
Speaker 2: it all right, Well until next week. Be a fam
Speaker 2: we bid you adi I do band manager,