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Speaker 2: It's me, Tiffany, No in tiendo.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna do this the whole show in my terrible Spanish.

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Speaker 1: Now we're not. I would never do that to you.

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Speaker 2: Guys in Espanol. I could use the practice, to be honest.

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Speaker 2: My mother, my mother in law, came to visit this weekend,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, Mayra, you can teach her Espanol when

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Speaker 2: you're you know, giving us free child care for the

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Speaker 1: Oh, speaking of Molly, there is this awesome I G

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Speaker 1: account about the little like a dog. I wish I

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Speaker 1: see I can remember it. It's like this little dog.

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Speaker 1: This woman is a speech therapist and she has taught

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Speaker 1: has a word. It's like beach outside, water happy.

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Speaker 2: I saw that. So it's so silly looking. I've seen it. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't think that dog knows what it's saying. I

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Speaker 2: It's creepy. I don't know, No, I love it.

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Speaker 1: The dog is like outside outside, door open. I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: But it's also like how you think here we get

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Speaker 1: Well, I feel like that dog. Honestly. Mostly it's like outside, outside,

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Speaker 1: But anything new happening in your neck of the woods.

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Speaker 2: waste of time. Okay, but my anxious self. So what

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Speaker 2: But what I did is I mentioned it. I went

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Speaker 1: No, this is awesome though, I mean, your body is

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Speaker 2: I'll stop you right there. Brown Edition Podcast. I knew

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Speaker 2: she was gonna lose it. Brannambition Podcast at gmail dot

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Speaker 1: Real quick before we start, someone literally just messaged me.

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Speaker 1: Her name is Tiffyboo thirty five. Okay, Tiffany, where's my

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Speaker 1: Brown Ambition. I listen to you guys every week, sending

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Speaker 1: light and love to you and Mandy. I'm all caught

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Speaker 1: up on the episodes. I can't wait for the next one.

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Speaker 1: My name is Tiffany as well. Well I know that

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Speaker 1: Tippy Boo because that's your name on i G so

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Speaker 1: Tippy Boo, this is for you, So I just wanted

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Speaker 1: to share that. Literally just came in just now.

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Speaker 2: We're back Tippy Boo every Wednesday. Every Wednesday. All right,

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Speaker 2: let's take a question from the gram. Let's see from

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Speaker 2: let's Brenda. She says, thank you so much for the podcast.

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Speaker 2: You're both amazing. I really feel for Brenda and her question.

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Speaker 2: She's another in her mid twenties, kind of struggling to

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Speaker 2: find her place. So here's what she says, my issue

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Speaker 2: is something I have to deal with within myself, but

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Speaker 2: I'm hoping you guys can give me some direction. I'm

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Speaker 2: twenty five years old and I live in South Florida.

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Speaker 2: I feel as though my career path is in shambles.

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Speaker 2: I earned a degree in marketing and a minor in

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Speaker 2: hospitality management, but my experience is all over the place,

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Speaker 2: from sales to acquisition, I've done a lot. I'm extremely

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Speaker 2: disappointed in myself because I feel like I can't clearly

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Speaker 2: and precisely say what it is that i'd like to do.

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Speaker 2: This has taken a major toll on my confidence and emotions,

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Speaker 2: as I feel as though I should know what I

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Speaker 2: want to do by now, I feel as though I

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Speaker 2: don't know where to start. I'm not sure if you

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Speaker 2: can help, but I'd love to hear what you have

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Speaker 2: to say. Thank you, Oh, miss Brenda.

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Speaker 1: I'm around How old is Miss Brenda?

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Speaker 2: Twenty five? She says, God, I mean, honestly, you should

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Speaker 2: have it figured out bright now. I don't know what

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Speaker 2: your problem.

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Speaker 1: Is, girl, I was literally just moving out, like I'm thinking,

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Speaker 1: like Miss Brenda's like, I'm fifty five and I don't

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Speaker 1: And even then, if you are fifty five, I'd be like,

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Speaker 1: I mean, and you're human. First one, you're super young.

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Speaker 1: I know it doesn't feel like it because I know

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Speaker 1: at twenty five I didn't feel super young. I felt

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Speaker 1: like I should have the world already figured out. But

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Speaker 1: you are, you are super duper duper young. So it's

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Speaker 1: normal not to know, honestly. I mean I barely know sometimes,

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Speaker 1: so that's normal. And you know, I don't know how

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Speaker 1: much experience, like I'm assuming. She said she went to school, right.

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Speaker 2: Yep, So she'd studied marketing and hospitality management. And she's

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Speaker 2: twenty five. So let's say she's been out of school

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Speaker 2: for a few years. But she's worked jobs that are

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Speaker 2: kind of all over the map, she says, sales, then acquisitions.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't really know which direction she wants to go in.

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Speaker 2: I think that this is the right time to decide.

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Speaker 2: I actually told Royal systant Here, who graduated what two

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Speaker 2: years ago, a year and a half ago, and this

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Speaker 2: was kind of her first real job. I was like, girl,

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Speaker 2: if you're still here in two years, I'm gonna kick

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Speaker 2: you out, because I think this is a good job

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Speaker 2: for you to have as an assistant where you're kind

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Speaker 2: of figuring out what your next steps are. But you

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Speaker 2: should be thinking about your next steps. But so by

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Speaker 2: the time you're in your mid twenties, you're sort of

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Speaker 2: ready to go in the next direction. You're just at

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Speaker 2: that space where you need to kind of take a

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Speaker 2: step somewhere, hopefully in the right direction. So what I'd

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Speaker 2: recommend is take a look at what, like, sit down

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Speaker 2: and really think about the jobs that you've had in

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Speaker 2: the last few years, what you studied, what really makes

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Speaker 2: you happiest, Like what part of those jobs did you

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Speaker 2: find most fulfilling, and then try to seek out opportunities

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Speaker 2: that would give you more of that, and just kind

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Speaker 2: of follow that good feeling. And hopefully that good feeling

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Speaker 2: comes with money and a salary, but follow that and

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Speaker 2: that will lead you where you ultimately want to end up.

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Speaker 1: I love that follow that good feeling. Honest say, I

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Speaker 1: don't know that there's any any better advice than that

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Speaker 1: to follow that good feeling.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's got to be your gut. It can't

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Speaker 2: be what you think you because I almost feel like

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Speaker 2: if you were being honest, you would be thinking what

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Speaker 2: you I feel like you're in a place where you're

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Speaker 2: thinking I should be this, I should be that. I

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Speaker 2: should have my own you studied hospitality, should have You're

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Speaker 2: probably thinking I should have my own hotel. By now,

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Speaker 2: that's just not going to do you any good if

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Speaker 2: you focus, if you think about where you think you

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Speaker 2: should be, like what maybe you think about where you

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Speaker 2: want to end up, but like what is the next

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Speaker 2: step to get there? And it can't be you can't

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Speaker 2: go zero to one hundred immediately. You have to like

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Speaker 2: acknowledge to yourself it's not going to be an immediate

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Speaker 2: uh you know, express elevator ride to the top.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, and also too like to to kind

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Speaker 1: of like just add to that. One of the things

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Speaker 1: that helped me to kind of like figure out the

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Speaker 1: niche that I wanted to go into is I did

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Speaker 1: a lot of volunteering because it helped to like kind

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Speaker 1: of solidify like, oh, I actually do really like teaching,

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Speaker 1: or I do really like I mean, you know, like

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Speaker 1: and I don't know what that would look like in

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Speaker 1: corporate or whatever, but that helped because I volunteering helps

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Speaker 1: to strip away all that other stuff, Like it helps

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Speaker 1: to strip away what I'm worried about making. It helps

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Speaker 1: to strip away what I'm worried about people saying because

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Speaker 1: with volunteering, you're just giving of yourself. And what I

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Speaker 1: found was that I actually really did enjoy teaching. I

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Speaker 1: really did enjoy teaching financial education. But that came from

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Speaker 1: like stripping away all these other expectations and that helps

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Speaker 1: significantly for me to figure out what I wanted to

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Speaker 1: do with myself.

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Speaker 2: And be kind to yourself. I love that you asked

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Speaker 2: this question, but you know you're you may have another

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Speaker 2: like you may you may figure it out for now,

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Speaker 2: and then when you turn thirty, have this have the

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Speaker 2: next kind of inflection point where you're like, Okay, where

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Speaker 2: do I want to go now? I think everyone's got second, third,

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Speaker 2: four fifth acts in their life. I'm, you know, in

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Speaker 2: my early thirties now, and I'm thinking about what I

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Speaker 2: want the next five ten years to be. Like it

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00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 2: never ends. You just have to get comfortable with like

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Speaker 2: reinventing yourself and being open to not having a clear

556
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Speaker 2: life map all the time, because the sooner you get

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Speaker 2: comfortable with that, the more the happier you're going to be,

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Speaker 2: and the more care you know, the more relaxed you

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Speaker 2: can be about your decisions and ultimately you'll be open

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Speaker 2: to opportunities that I think could ultimately make you happy

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Speaker 2: because you're following what you want to do, not what

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Speaker 2: you think you should want to do exactly. All right,

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Speaker 2: miss Brenda, thank you for your question. Okay, let's take

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Speaker 2: another question. This one comes from Instagram listener. We'll call

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Speaker 2: her Jenna. Hello, Mandy, I know you're the one managing

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Speaker 2: this account. Okay, you got me. I love the podcast.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for creating this space of financial wellness for us.

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Speaker 2: I'm a teacher making thirty eight five hundred dollars. I

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Speaker 2: have student loans, I have rent to pay, car insurance, daycare,

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Speaker 2: and phone, and credit cards. After all these bills are paid,

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Speaker 2: I'm looking at next to nothing left emergency fund.

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Speaker 1: Ha.

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Speaker 2: I wish I'm broke, and I don't know what to

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Speaker 2: do next to improve my life for me and my daughter.

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Speaker 2: I listened faithfully, and I hear you guys share amazing tips, practices,

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Speaker 2: and ideas. But I always I am left feeling hopeless

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Speaker 2: because I don't have that extra income. I live at

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Speaker 2: home and I pay two hundred dollars in rent. I'm

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Speaker 2: doing everything I can to say because I can't afford

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Speaker 2: not to can you help this anonymous listener out words

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Speaker 2: of advice, encouragement? How do I get out of this cycle?

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Speaker 1: So I'll say this that I'll share. Have you ever

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Speaker 1: had Tila on here?

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Speaker 2: Have I ever had like you're not on the show too.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm just saying I'm thinking like, because I feel

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Speaker 1: like I was out once, I'm like, do we ever

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Speaker 1: have Tila on here?

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Speaker 2: I don't think Tala Tila talked about SOTCK trading, right, yes, yes.

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Speaker 1: So I remember when Tila came on, and I've just

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Speaker 1: spoken to Tila that she was in a similar position

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Speaker 1: in that she just felt like, you know, that she

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Speaker 1: wasn't making enough. But she was a single mom and

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Speaker 1: and she was like, there's just not enough time for

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Speaker 1: me to get a second job, take care of the

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Speaker 1: kids and make how do I make more? So Tila

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Speaker 1: learned how to trade. It was something she could do

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Speaker 1: from the house. I remember she told me this is

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Speaker 1: just recently. She told me that she spent a year

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Speaker 1: learning how to trade, like using a vestopedia, like they're free,

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Speaker 1: like she practiced on their free tools, so she didn't

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Speaker 1: trade any real money, and then she made it like

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Speaker 1: almost like a second job for herself, but at home,

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Speaker 1: and it took her two years, but she was able

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Speaker 1: to replace her income at her corporate job that she hated.

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Speaker 1: And so I just shared that because there are opportunities

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Speaker 1: that don't require you to uber drive or Airbnb or

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Speaker 1: leave the house or whatever. That to unearth those kind

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Speaker 1: of opportunities where how what can I do that can

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Speaker 1: earn because ultimately you're gonna have to make more money.

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Speaker 1: I suspect you don't have a spend more spend less

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Speaker 1: problem because typically when people don't enough money, it's they

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Speaker 1: either need to make more or they need to spend less.

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Speaker 1: And at thirty eight thousand dollars a year, you're probably

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Speaker 1: you probably can't spend less. It's really a make more issue.

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Speaker 1: So that's what I would focus on. What are some

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Speaker 1: creative ways that you can make more? And except for Tila,

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Speaker 1: she learned how to trade trading, meaning like buying stock

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Speaker 1: and she's not a day trader. She's not trading every day.

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Speaker 1: Tiala said she does about four trades a month. That

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Speaker 1: means when you buy a stock at a certain price

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Speaker 1: and then you sell it at a certain price.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, what does I will say? And I don't

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Speaker 2: want to get stuck on the trading thing, because for her,

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Speaker 2: she's probably like trade what.

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Speaker 1: Yes, But as I'm saying, like, it's not necessarily that,

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Speaker 1: but meaning that there's something out there like that that

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Speaker 1: you're able to do that doesn't require like you know

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Speaker 1: that you know, for example, you might I don't know,

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Speaker 1: like if someone watches your your children. But when I

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Speaker 1: was a teacher, I have made extra money tutoring, and

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Speaker 1: there are definitely online tutoring platforms. I made extra money babysitting.

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Speaker 1: So maybe you can't babysit because you live at home,

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Speaker 1: but there are, like I said, online platforms where you

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Speaker 1: could tutor and teach online other kids, other people's kids online.

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Speaker 1: So maybe that's an opportunity you can lean into. I

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Speaker 1: just mentioned Tila because she was creative and thinking of

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Speaker 1: a way and didn't require like her to leave the

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Speaker 1: house in a way that was going to be disruptive

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Speaker 1: to her taking care of her family. So just looking

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Speaker 1: into like a skill set that you already have, and

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Speaker 1: is there a way you can kind of do that

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Speaker 1: skill set digitally?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Are there any skills that you have that you

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Speaker 2: can leverage to earn money? I mean, there may be

645
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Speaker 2: something you can do that you may have been doing

646
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Speaker 2: for free, that you could start thinking of a business

647
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Speaker 2: plan for I mean, at thirty eight five hundred dollars

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Speaker 2: a month, if on that salary with a child, you're

649
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Speaker 2: having to live at home, I mean, it makes me

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Speaker 2: sad for teachers in general, because you'd think a job

651
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Speaker 2: that important should have a salary where you where you

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Speaker 2: feel like you can live a full life and you

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Speaker 2: want to stay in that career. But if it's you know,

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Speaker 2: if there's not a way for you to see, like

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm assuming you're a new teacher, maybe young,

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Speaker 2: you know their career advancement at the school. Maybe there

657
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 2: are schools that could pay you more. Or maybe if

658
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Speaker 2: you've got an advanced degree, you could earn more, and

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Speaker 2: you decide that that math works out, it's worth it

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Speaker 2: to invest in my education to get a higher degree

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Speaker 2: so I could potentially earn more. Or maybe you just

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Speaker 2: need a pivot, you know, away from that career to

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Speaker 2: something a little bit different, or you can find using

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Speaker 2: some skills that you have a way to bring an

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Speaker 2: additional income. But I would put all your energy into

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Speaker 2: not think not trying to count those pennies you have leftover,

667
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Speaker 2: because that's, like you said yourself, it's an exercise and

668
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Speaker 2: monotony or not a futility. What would matter more to

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Speaker 2: you and for your future is really starting to think

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Speaker 2: about ways you can build wealth with what you have

671
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Speaker 2: in front of you. There's just no other way to

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Speaker 2: do it. Like you already are doing the best you can,

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Speaker 2: you know, living at home. You say you have student

674
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Speaker 2: loans as a teacher, one thing that you can think

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Speaker 2: about is, you know, teach your loan forgiveness. Are you

676
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Speaker 2: working in an area where perhaps you could qualify for

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Speaker 2: some sort of forgiveness for your the debt you've taken

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Speaker 2: on to pursue a career as a teacher. I can

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Speaker 2: shoot a link to a good guide to teach a

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Speaker 2: loan forgiveness. That's one benefit of being a teacher. I

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Speaker 2: guess m h. Depending on what your what kind of

682
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Speaker 2: loans you have? Yeah, I get it. And the reason

683
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Speaker 2: I shared this question and knowing in advance there's no

684
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Speaker 2: easy answer is because this is not the first question

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Speaker 2: that we've gotten from listeners who are in that situation,

686
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Speaker 2: who are like, I just don't know what I'm doing.

687
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Speaker 2: I'm a single mom. I don't earn enough. All we

688
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Speaker 2: can say is you need to take the time to

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Speaker 2: invest in yourself and try to figure out a way

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Speaker 2: to build wealth and whatever in whatever way you can.

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Speaker 1: No, and I exactly like taking that that that extra

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Speaker 1: time and energy to invest in educating yourself because there's

693
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Speaker 1: so many, so many ways that you can make money

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Speaker 1: without that don't involve you necessarily having to leave the house.

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Speaker 1: But what are those ways like, Like, look at san

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Speaker 1: Remember we had Sandy on Sandy was full time at

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Speaker 1: HR professional and she started selling things on Amazon and

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Speaker 1: she taught herself so well. She made eighty thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: one year and she used it to pay off her

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Speaker 1: student loan debt. So you know, there are opportunities out there.

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Speaker 1: Is it a lot of work? Yes, I'm not going

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Speaker 1: to pretend like it's not, but at least it's possible,

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Speaker 1: and that's what you're looking for.

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Speaker 2: As you're looking for those opportunities. Protect yourself too, yes,

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Speaker 2: because there, I mean, you're in a vulnerable position and

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Speaker 2: a lot of people who are looking for, you know,

707
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Speaker 2: ways to build wealth. You can sometimes get sucked into

708
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Speaker 2: something that's too good to be true, So do your

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Speaker 2: due diligence with any opportunity that comes your way to

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Speaker 2: you know, make additional funds. But you have to start, hey,

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Speaker 2: to start looking. You know what, we haven't had Sandy

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Speaker 2: on the show.

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Speaker 1: Can you believe that we haven't had Sandy? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, we tried, but Sandy got sick.

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Speaker 1: That's right.

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Speaker 2: That's my resolution is to get her on the show

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Speaker 2: very soon. I tell you, Sandy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you guys would love Sandy.

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Speaker 2: Well, all right, thank you very much for your question.

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Speaker 2: Hang in there, hang in there, but start thinking now

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Speaker 2: of ways you can. You know better than anyone else.

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Speaker 2: You know what you have to offer and how you

723
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Speaker 2: can leverage that potentially to increase.

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Speaker 1: Your wealth exactly.

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Speaker 2: All right, guys again, shoot us your questions at Brandon

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Speaker 2: Mission Podcast on Instagram or you can send us an

727
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 2: email directly at Brandamission Podcast at gmail dot com.

728
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Speaker 1: And now it's time to boost a break for all

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Speaker 1: our family. You gotta boost. You're gonna break.

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Speaker 2: What you gonna do, Mandy, I'm gonna do a break,

731
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Speaker 2: and I don't want you guys to come for me,

732
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Speaker 2: but I have been feeling this way for quite a while.

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Speaker 2: I love me. Who doesn't love Oprah? No, one doesn't

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Speaker 2: love Oprah. Oprah is like, come on, She's like our

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Speaker 2: god on Earth. But I don't like Oprah's favorite things.

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Speaker 2: I'm kind of over it. I feel like every year

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Speaker 2: I look at her list and I want to like

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Speaker 2: the stuff that she has on it, but I just

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00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 2: can't get into it. It's like more pajamas, more really

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00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 2: expensive slippers. Like I checked out her favorite things this

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00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 2: year thinking I would find I don't know it. Also,

742
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 2: just like the word things, it's like, come on, just

743
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Speaker 2: got to buy a bunch of stuff, and all this

744
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 2: stuff on her list just none of it really appealed

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Speaker 2: to me. And I feel like she's lost her favorite things. Touch.

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Speaker 2: The one thing I think I would like from her

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Speaker 2: list is Michelle Obama's Michelle Obama did like a guided

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Speaker 2: journal that goes along with her book from last year

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Speaker 2: called Becoming, which Oprah added to her list, And that's

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Speaker 2: like the one thing. I just figured Oprah would have

751
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Speaker 2: some good gift ideas that wouldn't you feel like I

752
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,359
Speaker 2: was just buying stuff stuff. Yeah, people were gonna just like,

753
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 2: you know, throw into a closet. And I wanted to

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00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 2: cheat sheet this year. You know, I don't have time to,

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Speaker 2: you know, think about gifts and stuff. I thought she

756
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Speaker 2: would come through for me, but.

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Speaker 1: But I could see that though it is very consumer

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Speaker 1: consumer driven esques like.

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Speaker 2: Does she really wear Lady Gaga's might makeup? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't seem like, it doesn't seem authentical. Yeah, I'm

761
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Speaker 2: being serious, I'm being honest.

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Speaker 1: Well, I am going to boost. I'm gonna boost all

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Speaker 1: of those people who make Thanksgiving dinners for other people.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Vonda, because a sister like me don't really

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Speaker 1: cook like that. And so last year I think I

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00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:43,719
Speaker 1: ordered one year from this place called Just Fish. They

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00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 1: don't do just fish obviously, they do Thanksgiving dinners and

768
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Speaker 1: it was amazing. And then last year I did Vonda's.

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Speaker 1: I'm doing Vonda's again this year because everybody doesn't cook.

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Speaker 1: And what I love is that actually gets pretty economical,

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Speaker 1: like once you get the turk and usually like four

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Speaker 1: major sides. So we're having Thanksgiving for the first time

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Speaker 1: at our house this year because we didn't live here

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Speaker 1: last year, or we were, but it wasn't complete. So

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Speaker 1: I'm excited about that. And I just want to boost

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Speaker 1: the fact that, like you know, I know most people

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Speaker 1: have that stress about like oh, what am I going

778
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Speaker 1: to make? I'm like, what am I going to order?

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00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's when I'm boosted. Most of people who

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Speaker 1: make Thanksgiving dinners for other people like me who are

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Speaker 1: not the best. I'm not a terrible cook, but I'm

782
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Speaker 1: not like a cook cook, and I really don't want

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Speaker 1: to practice on Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm thankful that you know you're laying. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: because those of us who come to your house for

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Speaker 2: you know, those of your family who coach. I wasn't invaded,

787
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Speaker 2: but it's fine who come over. You don't want mediocre food? No, Like,

788
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Speaker 2: come on, Christine, know if you can't cook, just acknowledge it,

789
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Speaker 2: don't try, don't try.

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Speaker 1: No, you're exactly Yeah, I love it. We are.

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Speaker 2: I don't have any plans. I love to cook a

792
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:58,760
Speaker 2: big Thanksgiving dinner, but I'm tempted. I was tempted to try.

793
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 2: I kept talking myself out of it. But I'm not

794
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Speaker 2: gonna make a big plan to cook. We're gonna go

795
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Speaker 2: to a family's house and not bring anything. I might

796
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 2: be in labor, who knows, and then my water will

797
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Speaker 2: break in the middle of dinner. It'll be all.

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Speaker 1: Dramatic that you can tell your child your son. You

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Speaker 1: were born on Thanksgipping and you were the best thing

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Speaker 1: I was thankful for.

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Speaker 2: Well, that would be nice. We'll see. I would like

802
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 2: one last nice meal, you know, that would be That

803
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:30,839
Speaker 2: would be great. Well, I can't believe Thanksgiving is coming up.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's awesome. Though, you're gonna have your

805
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Speaker 2: first Thanksgiving in the new I.

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Speaker 1: Know, with both sides of the family, I'm not as

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Speaker 1: nervous as I was about like our sides of the

808
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 1: families combined, because they came together for the my birthday

809
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Speaker 1: party and I was like, Okay, it wasn't it wasn't

810
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Speaker 1: all of his family, but it was enough. So I'm like, okay,

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Speaker 1: this was cute, nothing crazy, so we should be good.

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Speaker 2: Wait, how long have y'all been together?

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Speaker 1: A long time? But it's been like sporadic, like for example,

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Speaker 1: like of course, like my sisters come over all the time,

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Speaker 1: and his siblings come over. But like you know, like

816
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Speaker 1: the older sides of our family, that's the part where it's.

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Speaker 2: Like, okay, gotcha, Yeah, good luck to anyone having debates

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Speaker 2: about politics Thanksgiving.

819
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that's gonna happen, hopefully, But so.

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Speaker 2: I'm looking at her list again, thirty five dollars hot sauce,

821
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Speaker 2: come on, oprah mm hmm, get out of here. Frankis

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Speaker 2: five dollars Max. Oh yeah, yeah, well happy pre holiday season.

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Speaker 2: Oh we are putting the lights up this weekend, just.

824
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Speaker 1: To get that out of the way.

825
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Speaker 2: It's on my to do list. I'm just gonna you know,

826
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Speaker 2: my to do list is as long as hell. I'm

827
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Speaker 2: just going to keep ticking it off until this baby comes.

828
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Speaker 2: I guess, get my life and get my life in order.

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Speaker 2: I'm very excited though, to get the lights up because

830
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Speaker 2: last year we didn't get a chance to do anything Christmasy.

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Speaker 2: Really didn't have a tree, didn't have lights outside because

832
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Speaker 2: the house wasn't done yet.

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Speaker 1: So try. Yeah, I definitely, I definitely want to do

834
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Speaker 1: a little Christmas this year. So I'm like, I feel

835
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Speaker 1: like we have such a great Chris because you've got

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Speaker 1: a fireplace and this nice like staircase where you're like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: i feel like we've got a really great Chris Christmas

838
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Speaker 1: y looking house staircase.

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Speaker 2: So you gotta do a family portrait, gotta get that

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Speaker 2: Garland going.

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Speaker 1: Yah, I can't wait.

842
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Speaker 2: Well, tell us how you guys are celebrating the holidays

843
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:17,479
Speaker 2: this year. Maybe you're not celebriating. Maybe you're not doing

844
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Speaker 2: this holidays this year. That's fine too. She does a Nope,

845
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Speaker 2: tweet us. We don't even share our Twitter anymore. We're

846
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 2: on Twitter and yeah we are at the BA podcast.

847
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Speaker 2: Hit us up on the Instagram again at Brown Envision

848
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Speaker 2: podcast on Instagram. I want to hear your holiday stories.

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Speaker 1: Oh there, I tell you before we leave out, did

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Speaker 1: I tell you that we have you know, I call

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Speaker 1: my husband Superman. I call Alyssa my stepdaughter supergirl. And

852
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Speaker 1: I call her mom, who's awesome chante supermom. So we're

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Speaker 1: we every every other Wednesday now we have our super

854
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Speaker 1: family dinner. And because I was like one of my

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Speaker 1: things that I was like, you know, like turning forty

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Speaker 1: had me reflective and I was like, what are some

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Speaker 1: of the relationships I want to strengthen even further? And

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Speaker 1: I was like, you know, that relationship between all of

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Speaker 1: less because we are one big family, you know, we

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Speaker 1: get our our Jada Picket Will Smith on, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, and so it's all so lucky.

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Speaker 1: So it's like it's been really it was really nice.

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Speaker 1: The first one was two Wednesdays ago and it was

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Speaker 1: really nice. I cooked, Yes, I do cook, not often,

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Speaker 1: but I do. I cook the food. It's good supposedly,

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Speaker 1: but it was nice because we just sat and laughed

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Speaker 1: and talked, you know. And so it's we're having having

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Speaker 1: it again. This time Superman's cooking. The next time it'll

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Speaker 1: be super Mom and then we'll see if we let

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Speaker 1: a Supergirl cook. But yeah, so it's been going good.

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Speaker 1: It's just she's thirteen now, and I just want to

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Speaker 1: like for it to be as she like to reiterate

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Speaker 1: to her that like we are all one family, that

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Speaker 1: there's that I mean, there's never really been any division

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Speaker 1: that's been what's so awesome because her mom is awesome.

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Speaker 1: But still it's important, especially at the age sheason now,

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Speaker 1: to see like mature relationships in action. You know.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, as a child of divorce, that was not

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Speaker 2: my experience. So I am all about that. It can

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Speaker 2: only mean and it's good for her too, because she's

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Speaker 2: a teenager now. She does not have time to go

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Speaker 2: to house to house exactly, she's gonna start cutting y'all,

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Speaker 2: you know, exactly cutting her out of your schedule, So

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Speaker 2: you're making it more efficient for her in her teenage years. Yes,

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Speaker 2: it all right, Well until next week. Be a fam

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Speaker 2: we bid you adi I do band manager,