Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is to let people know what you are excited about.
Speaker 1: People generally want to have other people in their lives
Speaker 1: be enthusiastic about what they are doing, so there is
Speaker 1: no need to curb your enthusiasm. I know that if
Speaker 1: there is something you want, it can feel hard to
Speaker 1: put yourself out there. When we are upfront about these things,
Speaker 1: the disappointment of not getting something might sting even more
Speaker 1: than if you had kept these hopes to yourself. But
Speaker 1: I still think that in life there is wisdom in
Speaker 1: being direct about what you want, whether that's a job
Speaker 1: you're applying for, a project or committee you want to
Speaker 1: be staffed, on the spot you want for your blanket
Speaker 1: at an outdoor concert, the destination you want to go
Speaker 1: to for a girl's trip, or even the restaurant you
Speaker 1: want to try for lunch. People cannot read your mind.
Speaker 1: You might not get something not because others didn't want
Speaker 1: you to have it, but because they never even thought
Speaker 1: about it. So when there is something you want, let
Speaker 1: other people know you are excited about it. Given that
Speaker 1: for many things other people are less excited or really
Speaker 1: just haven't thought it through. The odds increase that you
Speaker 1: will get what you want. So, for instance, if you
Speaker 1: are interviewing for a job, tell the person that you
Speaker 1: are excited about it. Tell them why Tell anyone you
Speaker 1: know who works at the organization that you are hopeful
Speaker 1: about this job too. They might put in a good
Speaker 1: word for you, which will increase your chances as well.
Speaker 1: For the committee you want to be staffed on, just
Speaker 1: assume everyone knows it's in your wheelhouse. People forget things,
Speaker 1: so tell them. Let your boss or volunteer leader or
Speaker 1: whoever is forming the committee know why you care and
Speaker 1: what skills and experiences you bring to the table. That
Speaker 1: doesn't guarantee anything, but it does increase the chances that
Speaker 1: you will be considered in social contexts too. Tell your
Speaker 1: friends what sounds good to you. Don't just stand around
Speaker 1: passively while others make plans that they may not care
Speaker 1: about either. See a spot where you'd like to sit
Speaker 1: for an outdoor concert, Say so, oh, look, I love
Speaker 1: that spot with a clear view of the stage and
Speaker 1: near the food trucks. Have a destination in mind for
Speaker 1: a trip with your college friends, what about going to
Speaker 1: Cape May. We can relax by the beach and rent
Speaker 1: a house where we can cook good food and have
Speaker 1: it feel like a slumber party every night. When you
Speaker 1: let people know what you are excited about, you won't
Speaker 1: necessarily get what you want. I think it goes without
Speaker 1: saying that if the group leans hard in another direction,
Speaker 1: you might decide to just go along to get along.
Speaker 1: But in general, people want to make others happy when
Speaker 1: they can. If you are planning something fun and other
Speaker 1: people don't seem to have particular interests or preferences, nothing
Speaker 1: is gained by suppressing your enthusiasm for a particular option.
Speaker 1: Being direct about your enthusiasm for what you want does
Speaker 1: lead to some vulnerability, for sure, but oh well, at
Speaker 1: least you'll know you made yourself clear, and if it
Speaker 1: can't happen this time, often you will be first in
Speaker 1: line for the next opportunity. In the meantime, this is Laura.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of
Speaker 1: our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've
Speaker 1: got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at
Speaker 1: Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a
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