WEBVTT - Don't curb your enthusiasm

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to let people know what you are excited about.

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<v Speaker 1>People generally want to have other people in their lives

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<v Speaker 1>be enthusiastic about what they are doing, so there is

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<v Speaker 1>no need to curb your enthusiasm. I know that if

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<v Speaker 1>there is something you want, it can feel hard to

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<v Speaker 1>put yourself out there. When we are upfront about these things,

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<v Speaker 1>the disappointment of not getting something might sting even more

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<v Speaker 1>than if you had kept these hopes to yourself. But

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<v Speaker 1>I still think that in life there is wisdom in

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<v Speaker 1>being direct about what you want, whether that's a job

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<v Speaker 1>you're applying for, a project or committee you want to

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<v Speaker 1>be staffed, on the spot you want for your blanket

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<v Speaker 1>at an outdoor concert, the destination you want to go

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<v Speaker 1>to for a girl's trip, or even the restaurant you

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<v Speaker 1>want to try for lunch. People cannot read your mind.

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<v Speaker 1>You might not get something not because others didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>you to have it, but because they never even thought

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<v Speaker 1>about it. So when there is something you want, let

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<v Speaker 1>other people know you are excited about it. Given that

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<v Speaker 1>for many things other people are less excited or really

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<v Speaker 1>just haven't thought it through. The odds increase that you

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<v Speaker 1>will get what you want. So, for instance, if you

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<v Speaker 1>are interviewing for a job, tell the person that you

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<v Speaker 1>are excited about it. Tell them why Tell anyone you

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<v Speaker 1>know who works at the organization that you are hopeful

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<v Speaker 1>about this job too. They might put in a good

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<v Speaker 1>word for you, which will increase your chances as well.

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<v Speaker 1>For the committee you want to be staffed on, just

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<v Speaker 1>assume everyone knows it's in your wheelhouse. People forget things,

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<v Speaker 1>so tell them. Let your boss or volunteer leader or

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<v Speaker 1>whoever is forming the committee know why you care and

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<v Speaker 1>what skills and experiences you bring to the table. That

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't guarantee anything, but it does increase the chances that

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<v Speaker 1>you will be considered in social contexts too. Tell your

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<v Speaker 1>friends what sounds good to you. Don't just stand around

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<v Speaker 1>passively while others make plans that they may not care

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<v Speaker 1>about either. See a spot where you'd like to sit

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<v Speaker 1>for an outdoor concert, Say so, oh, look, I love

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<v Speaker 1>that spot with a clear view of the stage and

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<v Speaker 1>near the food trucks. Have a destination in mind for

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<v Speaker 1>a trip with your college friends, what about going to

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<v Speaker 1>Cape May. We can relax by the beach and rent

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<v Speaker 1>a house where we can cook good food and have

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<v Speaker 1>it feel like a slumber party every night. When you

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<v Speaker 1>let people know what you are excited about, you won't

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily get what you want. I think it goes without

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<v Speaker 1>saying that if the group leans hard in another direction,

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<v Speaker 1>you might decide to just go along to get along.

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<v Speaker 1>But in general, people want to make others happy when

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<v Speaker 1>they can. If you are planning something fun and other

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<v Speaker 1>people don't seem to have particular interests or preferences, nothing

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<v Speaker 1>is gained by suppressing your enthusiasm for a particular option.

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<v Speaker 1>Being direct about your enthusiasm for what you want does

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<v Speaker 1>lead to some vulnerability, for sure, but oh well, at

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<v Speaker 1>least you'll know you made yourself clear, and if it

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<v Speaker 1>can't happen this time, often you will be first in

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<v Speaker 1>line for the next opportunity. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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