1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:10,440 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: tip is to let people know what you are excited about. 4 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:23,760 Speaker 1: People generally want to have other people in their lives 5 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: be enthusiastic about what they are doing, so there is 6 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: no need to curb your enthusiasm. I know that if 7 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 1: there is something you want, it can feel hard to 8 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 1: put yourself out there. When we are upfront about these things, 9 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 1: the disappointment of not getting something might sting even more 10 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: than if you had kept these hopes to yourself. But 11 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:53,239 Speaker 1: I still think that in life there is wisdom in 12 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: being direct about what you want, whether that's a job 13 00:00:56,960 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 1: you're applying for, a project or committee you want to 14 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 1: be staffed, on the spot you want for your blanket 15 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 1: at an outdoor concert, the destination you want to go 16 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 1: to for a girl's trip, or even the restaurant you 17 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:12,319 Speaker 1: want to try for lunch. People cannot read your mind. 18 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:17,320 Speaker 1: You might not get something not because others didn't want 19 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: you to have it, but because they never even thought 20 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: about it. So when there is something you want, let 21 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: other people know you are excited about it. Given that 22 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: for many things other people are less excited or really 23 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 1: just haven't thought it through. The odds increase that you 24 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:40,959 Speaker 1: will get what you want. So, for instance, if you 25 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 1: are interviewing for a job, tell the person that you 26 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:47,880 Speaker 1: are excited about it. Tell them why Tell anyone you 27 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: know who works at the organization that you are hopeful 28 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: about this job too. They might put in a good 29 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: word for you, which will increase your chances as well. 30 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: For the committee you want to be staffed on, just 31 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: assume everyone knows it's in your wheelhouse. People forget things, 32 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: so tell them. Let your boss or volunteer leader or 33 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:13,240 Speaker 1: whoever is forming the committee know why you care and 34 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 1: what skills and experiences you bring to the table. That 35 00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 1: doesn't guarantee anything, but it does increase the chances that 36 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: you will be considered in social contexts too. Tell your 37 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:31,360 Speaker 1: friends what sounds good to you. Don't just stand around 38 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: passively while others make plans that they may not care 39 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 1: about either. See a spot where you'd like to sit 40 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: for an outdoor concert, Say so, oh, look, I love 41 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: that spot with a clear view of the stage and 42 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: near the food trucks. Have a destination in mind for 43 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: a trip with your college friends, what about going to 44 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 1: Cape May. We can relax by the beach and rent 45 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: a house where we can cook good food and have 46 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 1: it feel like a slumber party every night. When you 47 00:02:57,480 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 1: let people know what you are excited about, you won't 48 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:03,919 Speaker 1: necessarily get what you want. I think it goes without 49 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: saying that if the group leans hard in another direction, 50 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:11,120 Speaker 1: you might decide to just go along to get along. 51 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:14,919 Speaker 1: But in general, people want to make others happy when 52 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:19,000 Speaker 1: they can. If you are planning something fun and other 53 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 1: people don't seem to have particular interests or preferences, nothing 54 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: is gained by suppressing your enthusiasm for a particular option. 55 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: Being direct about your enthusiasm for what you want does 56 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: lead to some vulnerability, for sure, but oh well, at 57 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: least you'll know you made yourself clear, and if it 58 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 1: can't happen this time, often you will be first in 59 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: line for the next opportunity. In the meantime, this is Laura. 60 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of 61 00:03:55,800 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've 62 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at 63 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:18,800 Speaker 1: Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a 64 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 1: production of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, please visit 65 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 1: the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to 66 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:28,360 Speaker 1: your favorite shows.