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Speaker 2: So I really think about home being where you feel safe,

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Speaker 1: Hope today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Cultivating her Space tests dedicated to uplifting women

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Speaker 2: like you. We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Broussard, a college

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Speaker 1: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 1: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 2: Hey, Lady is doctor dom here from the Cultivating her

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Speaker 2: forward to hearing from you. All right, lady, Our quote

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Speaker 2: In a world where black women are underrepresented and misunderstood,

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Speaker 2: we initiate authentic conversations from everything to fibroids to fake

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Speaker 1: Homecoming, Coming Home. There's so much that we want to

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Speaker 1: cover today's ladies, So we're just gonna jump on end

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Speaker 1: first question that we want to ask you and ourselves

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Speaker 1: is have you ever felt unwelcomed in your physical home

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Speaker 1: answer is absolutely hell yes, like yeah, yeah, yeah, probably

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Speaker 1: most of my life. Doc, do you want to jump

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Speaker 1: in first with like any things that come to mind

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Speaker 1: for you around feeling like unwelcome in either home.

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Speaker 2: So when I hear this question, and I love how

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Speaker 2: And I also say brick and mortar, but for some

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Speaker 2: folks that might not be work and more right, the

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Speaker 2: environment that you're living in, right, but then also your

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Speaker 2: internal home. And when I was reflecting on this question,

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Speaker 2: I can't recall a time where I didn't feel welcomed

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Speaker 2: it didn't feel like mine. So I think of times

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Speaker 2: when I've had roommates, and it's not anything that any

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Speaker 3: That one time in college where I have had amazing roommates,

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Speaker 2: And so it wasn't a sense of being unwelcome, it

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Speaker 2: just wasn't mine. As an adult, being able to have

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Speaker 1: So what about for you, Tee, Well, those were great examples.

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Speaker 1: I'm just taking in your examples. Even the roommate situation

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Speaker 1: bit very you know, high level, lady, But you know,

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Speaker 1: like fourteen plus homes air quotes, including like a shelter

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Speaker 1: then in my body absolutely. I mean I think about

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Speaker 1: Like I just felt icky, you know, being in this skin. Right.

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Speaker 1: I think about like you said, ailments, right, so when

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Speaker 2: Me, and that I'm just like, ah, it's not the norm.

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Speaker 1: I want to ask don when you think about home,

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Speaker 1: I know you relocated recently, and I remember talking to

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Speaker 1: But we had her toys, she had her parents here,

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Speaker 2: This is where I feel safe, right, But I also

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Speaker 2: What is happening for you internally? Where are you in

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Speaker 2: the physical sense, And so for me that's home. And

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Speaker 2: so lady, as you are thinking about for yourself what

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Speaker 2: about that, what is home?

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Speaker 1: What is home? I do think it's important to define

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Speaker 1: it because I find that when we get clarity and

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Speaker 1: makes me think about my grandmother's house. She's owned that home,

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Speaker 1: even though she's now my grandfather passed away. They've own

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Speaker 1: Don You are so on points because I'm thinking, I'm

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Speaker 1: How can we usher a new energy or how can

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Speaker 1: us as podcasters, right, because we're on this journey with you,

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Speaker 1: would say I'm a mom now, that's one thing, and

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Speaker 1: I'm walking into I would say a new season. Life

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Speaker 1: is happening right now, don So I'm gonna I'm gonna

434
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Speaker 1: pass it back to you while I get the doorbell.

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Speaker 2: So when we first started, I had some of those

436
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Speaker 2: same fears that Tea that you had, that oh, I've

437
00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 2: never done podcasting before, Like, yeah, what if I'm messed up?

438
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Speaker 2: Like how long are we gonna do this? Because what

439
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 2: if we run out of content? And I don't necessarily

440
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Speaker 2: like the way my voice sounds on when I play

441
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Speaker 2: it back for myself, Like what makes me think that

442
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Speaker 2: other people are gonna like it? And am I a

443
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Speaker 2: good enough psychologist to come on and talk about mental health?

444
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Speaker 2: And so like all of the all of the insecurities,

445
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Speaker 2: like we're coming up for me, right, like can I

446
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Speaker 2: really do this? Can I really show up as the

447
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:04,639
Speaker 2: mental health profession? Right? And then as we have gotten

448
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 2: deeper into this, I'm like definitely way more confident right

449
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 2: about who I am and confident and comfortable in who

450
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Speaker 2: I am. And I think that also it doing the podcast.

451
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Speaker 2: Like we listen to our episodes, right, Like I mean

452
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 2: we have to listen to them in multiple steps along

453
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Speaker 2: the process, but we listen to our episodes, and I

454
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 2: have grown, I have learned a lot from the guests

455
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Speaker 2: that we have brought on. And we'll talk some more

456
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Speaker 2: about some of our guests. But I have learned a

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Speaker 2: lot and I have grown a lot from the work

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Speaker 2: that we're doing.

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Speaker 1: That's so beautiful, Domina I. You know, we often talk

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Speaker 1: about this off off air, but I remember when we

461
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,199
Speaker 1: started the podcast, we had this big vision of goal.

462
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Speaker 1: And we'll talk about our origins during a bit, but

463
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Speaker 1: I remember two of the biggest goals that we both had, right,

464
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Speaker 1: Do you remember where they were?

465
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Speaker 2: I remember both of us wanting to and this is

466
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 2: part of our origin story, right, is that both of

467
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 2: us wanted to have a space. Well first of all,

468
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Speaker 2: before we even got into the idea, came up with

469
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 2: the idea of podcasting, right that we wanted to figure

470
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Speaker 2: out a way that we could impact black women's mental

471
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Speaker 2: health in a positive way. And now I know that

472
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 2: wasn't the goal, the ultimate goal, but that was a

473
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Speaker 2: thing that stood out to me and when we connected,

474
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 2: is that both of us had this shared vision of

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Speaker 2: finding a way to improve the lives of black women

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Speaker 2: around their mental health.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I would agree, I think that and

478
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Speaker 1: just uplifting conversation, you know, just initiating these uplifting conversations

479
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 1: and again finding that space to just be because I

480
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 1: feel like there is just with We often work in

481
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 1: fields where we are outnumbered, and again, like we said

482
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Speaker 1: in the in the intra right, we're underrepresented, we're misunderstood.

483
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,200
Speaker 1: So having this space where we hear from so many

484
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Speaker 1: black women who are living in parts of the world

485
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Speaker 1: where they're like, I don't have community, I don't really have,

486
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Speaker 1: you know, sisters and black girls and black women around

487
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:29,639
Speaker 1: me that I can chat with that I put on

488
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 1: the podcast and I feel like we you know, all

489
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 1: my homegirls in my head and we chatting and we're

490
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: talking about all these different topics. So this was just

491
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: so important to us and who could have imagined don

492
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 1: like where we where we would have ended up like that,

493
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 1: we'd be nearly two hundred episodes in millions of downloads. Lady,

494
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 1: we just appreciate you for being on this journey with us.

495
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 1: I was also thinking about our personal goals because they

496
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 1: were so near and near at our heart and we,

497
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Speaker 1: I mean, we struggled a lot behind the scenes, but

498
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Speaker 1: we talked about this in the Manifestation episode. But Dom

499
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 1: was working on becoming a licensed psychologist and I was

500
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 1: working on becoming a mom. I was at the phase

501
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Speaker 1: of life I was like, this is this is important

502
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Speaker 1: to me. I want to be a mom and I

503
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 1: was having a tough time and just to see us

504
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 1: document how we didn't have what we really wanted but

505
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 1: then we were able to manifest it and around the

506
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 1: same time, which was so amazing to me, Like that

507
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 1: was that was so beautiful, This was destiny dom We

508
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 1: were destined to be together.

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Speaker 2: In this way.

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Speaker 1: It's just so it's so special, lady. And so let's

511
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Speaker 1: go ahead, and we're going to dive in a bit deeper.

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Speaker 1: Let me see, don where we're going, Where we're going go.

513
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Speaker 1: I'm looking at our at our notes here outline.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, So we're talking more about our origin story,

515
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 2: right and how we met. And you know, I think

516
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Speaker 2: I am convinced to him that an a firm believer

517
00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 2: that things happen in your life for a certain reason

518
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 2: and at the right at the time that they're supposed to.

519
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 2: You know, my favorite for one of my favorite phrases,

520
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 2: trust the problem right, that things happened the way that

521
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 2: they are supposed to, even if it's not how we

522
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 2: wanted it right or how we envisioned it. And so

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Speaker 2: I think about had I not been working at the

524
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 2: University of San Francisco. I don't know if we would

525
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Speaker 2: have met right well.

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Speaker 1: Really quick. Tom. In addition to that, though, one of

527
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Speaker 1: my old colleagues from Saint John's University when I was

528
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Speaker 1: living in Queens, she worked at USF and invited me there.

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Speaker 1: So if she wouldn't, it's just how everything is connected.

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Speaker 1: If she wouldn't have invited me there, we would have

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Speaker 1: Who knows if we would have met or how we

532
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Speaker 1: would have met, But when you look back in hindsight,

533
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: it's just like, that was so amazing how it worked

534
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:49,959
Speaker 1: out with us. We weren't able to meet together for months,

535
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Speaker 1: but I just had to add that other piece in

536
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Speaker 1: there because I was like, she was connected, we were connected,

537
00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 1: she connected me, then we got connected. It's just bor

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Speaker 1: trust the process for real.

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Speaker 2: Cool. Yes, yes, so a lady, if you want to

540
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Speaker 2: We're not in the interest of time, We're not going

541
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 2: to die fully into how we met. If you want

542
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 2: to get that full team, you have to check out

543
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 2: our very first episode, Eason one, Episode one. Yes, Welcome

544
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 2: to the her Space podcast, And because I think that

545
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:31,719
Speaker 2: that episode really gives you that immediate perspective of how

546
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 2: how we met right exactly, our motivational speaker, brand strategists,

547
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 2: college professor psychologists meet and have a shared vision. Yes,

548
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 2: and here we are.

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Speaker 1: Here we are. I mean you got to go to

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Speaker 1: an in, lady, because we talk about how to how

551
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 1: strangers meet, become great friends and build this an incredible

552
00:31:58,480 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 1: brand together.

553
00:31:59,040 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 2: Right.

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00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 1: It doesn't happen by act, so definitely tune into that.

555
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,479
Speaker 1: And I would say down in the interest of like,

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00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 1: you know, homecoming for us and what's coming in the future.

557
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 1: One of our biggest goals right now, lady, is how

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00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: do we feel more connected to you? Because so many

559
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 1: people listen to the podcast. We're pretty active on social media,

560
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 1: but we're just trying to figure out, Like we talked

561
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 1: about doing live events for the longest, but of course

562
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 1: COVID happened that interrupted that for us. But we want

563
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,160
Speaker 1: to figure out how can we get more connected to you.

564
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: We don't want this to be a one sided relationship

565
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: where like, you know all our business, right, you know

566
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 1: all about us because we were talking on the podcast,

567
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 1: but we don't know about you. We don't know where

568
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: you're from. We have surveys, so if you have ideas,

569
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: feel free to head on over to our Instagram We're

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Speaker 1: going to go ahead and post a till square on Instagram,

571
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: right So what you need to do is go to

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00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:45,240
Speaker 1: our Instagram at her Space podcast just scroll until you

573
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 1: see the till square. It's going to kind of be

574
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 1: an insider. So folks that are on Instagram that haven't

575
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 1: tuned in, they may not know what to do on

576
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 1: the till square, but She'll know what to do.

577
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 2: We want you to.

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Speaker 1: Share with us what ideas do you have for how

579
00:32:56,800 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: we can build deeper connection with you, and also let

580
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 1: us know what has been your favorite episode if you

581
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: want to go above and beyond, like if you want

582
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 1: to just like low us away and let us know

583
00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 1: what episode is your favorite, drop that in the comment

584
00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:11,400
Speaker 1: section on the till Square. And then Domini right now

585
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Speaker 1: are going to share our top five favorite episodes just

586
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 1: so you can know what's in the archives, because again,

587
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,960
Speaker 1: almost two hundred episodes. So domald I'm just going to

588
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:22,680
Speaker 1: jump on in and let me know, Okay, connect to me.

589
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Speaker 1: I'm so excited. This was hard to choose. Can I

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Speaker 1: just say this was really difficult because as I'm looking

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Speaker 1: at all the list of five, I'm thinking of other

592
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Speaker 1: episodes wh I'm like, oh, Damn, I forgot that one,

593
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Speaker 1: but I'm just saying right, okay, So here we go.

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Speaker 2: First.

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Speaker 1: My first one is and this is in no particular order.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure I forgot some, but Season twelve, episode eight,

597
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Speaker 1: it Ain't about You boo, how to stop taking things

598
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: personally right? That was a good one. That was so

599
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Speaker 1: good because I remember us both being like, well, we're

600
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 1: very sensitive people, we take things personally. How can we

601
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Speaker 1: work on ourselves but also help the community so that

602
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 1: we don't take things personally right because it doesn't often service.

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Speaker 1: So that was one. Number two for me is season thirteen,

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Speaker 1: episode one, Vibrate Hire, Eleven things to leave in the

605
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 1: past year and how to have your best year yet.

606
00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:10,640
Speaker 1: This is like a listener favorite because I feel like

607
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 1: everyone has tuned into this, They've shared it with friends.

608
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 1: It has so many downloads. This was such a fun episode,

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Speaker 1: and we also promoted our workshop ladies, so you want

610
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 1: to check that out, our Vibrate Higher Workshop, So if

611
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 1: you go to New Year Workshop dot com you can

612
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: register for that, catch the replay, tune in. It was

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Speaker 1: really magical. We got to meet some of you in person,

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Speaker 1: well not in person, but on zoom and have an

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Speaker 1: intimate conversation. Okay, number three, it's season twelve, episode fourteen,

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Speaker 1: Why Billionaires use Astrology and how you can do with

617
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:47,040
Speaker 1: Janelle Bloom. Right, we got our birth charts read on

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Speaker 1: the episode, don That was a really juicy one. Okay. Now,

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Speaker 1: next one is season eight episode seven, The Art of Manifestation,

620
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Speaker 1: Keeping hope alive while you wait for what you you want?

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Speaker 1: Another listener favorite there. That one was very good. And

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Speaker 1: then season nine episode thirteen, How to be Whole and

623
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Speaker 1: Happy while being Estranged from your Mom. So we talked

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Speaker 1: a lot about mommy issues, daddy issues, and that was

625
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 1: a very intimate episode about my relationship with my mom,

626
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,359
Speaker 1: how the process having a baby when you're not close

627
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Speaker 1: to your mom or not in communication. So those are

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Speaker 1: my top five.

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Speaker 2: Ooh okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, I want

630
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Speaker 2: to talk about them, but okay, I'm going to give

631
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Speaker 2: you my top circle back okay, okay, all right, And

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Speaker 2: so these are in no particular order, and lady, if

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Speaker 2: you're listening, you will note that we do have some

634
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Speaker 2: shared episodes in common. So all right, So my top

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Speaker 2: five Season eight episode twelve, Mommy Issues, addressing the wounds

636
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Speaker 2: from your mother daughter relationship that was with Doctor Tama

637
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Speaker 2: and Lady Doctor Tama is just amazing. So what I

638
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 2: enjoyed about that episode was because also for me personally

639
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 2: at the time, I was going through some things with

640
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 2: in my own relationship with my mom and so I

641
00:36:15,800 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 2: think that having doctor tamer On not only helped our audience,

642
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:22,239
Speaker 2: and that was like one of the first conversations that

643
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 2: we had that allowed us to kind of dive into

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Speaker 2: the mother daughter relationship because that dynamic is so complex.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, that one was That's one. And then season nine,

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Speaker 2: episode eight, What's a Chakra Sex Healing and Balance with

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Speaker 2: Alisa Bukin. Now, let me tell you Alisa like, we

648
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Speaker 2: just love her. She was actually our very first guest

649
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:58,280
Speaker 2: in season two. That episode. I think what I really

650
00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 2: that episode was also about was part of our sex

651
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 2: and Love and Relationship series. And what I love about

652
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:11,360
Speaker 2: that episode is that she talked about chakras and she

653
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: gave us a beginner's overview of what chakras are and

654
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 2: how that affects your relationship right and how who you

655
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:23,399
Speaker 2: are the healing that you need to do affects your

656
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,360
Speaker 2: sex life as well, which I think is something that

657
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:29,879
Speaker 2: we don't often think about. So all right, so that's

658
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 2: one episode, or that's my second one. My next one

659
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:40,840
Speaker 2: TU already mentioned ours Vibrate Higher episode, So season thirteen,

660
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 2: episode one, Vibrate Higher eleven things to leave in the

661
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 2: past year and how to have your best year yet

662
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:50,800
Speaker 2: in addition to it opening the doors for our first

663
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 2: ever workshop, I think for me personally, what it did

664
00:37:56,800 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 2: was it gave me space to really think about and

665
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:11,280
Speaker 2: level set going into this new year, right and because

666
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 2: also I personally was in a space of I had

667
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 2: just moved and you know, really diving into a new job,

668
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 2: and so time to reset and really think of recalibrate.

669
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 2: So that one was really important for me personally. And

670
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 2: then my next one was another one that you also

671
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 2: mentioned t Season eight, episode seven, the Art of Manifestation,

672
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:41,839
Speaker 2: keeping hope alive while you wait for what you want.

673
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 2: I think again, I think what my top five are?

674
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 2: My top five because those were specific episodes that I

675
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 2: resonated with on a personal level. And so in this

676
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 2: Art of Manifestation episode, you and I both talked about

677
00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:00,360
Speaker 2: our personal goals that we had as we say started

678
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:03,000
Speaker 2: the podcast, and how we were now at the point

679
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:08,479
Speaker 2: where we had manifested those goals, so that that's that's

680
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:11,440
Speaker 2: probably if I had to rank them, that one would

681
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:13,760
Speaker 2: probably be the number one.

682
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 1: You're reading my mind because I was gonna ask you

683
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 1: that I didn't want to make it hard. I was

684
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 1: gonna say, what's your number one episode? Okay? Cool? I

685
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 1: thought that would be number one. I'm with you.

686
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 2: And then and I'm realizing as I'm looking over I

687
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,879
Speaker 2: notes that I put six. But so we're just gonna

688
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 2: roll with it. We're gonna let me slide with the

689
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 2: the six my number my number five is an episode

690
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 2: with doctor Janis Moody, who's a good friend of mine

691
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:43,880
Speaker 2: season and she's appeared on a couple of episodes, but

692
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 2: this particular episode, Season eight, episode eleven, coming to grips

693
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 2: with being enough. I think why I love why this

694
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 2: episode resonated is that as black women, we are often

695
00:39:56,400 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 2: given indirectly and sometimes directly the I suggest that we

696
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 2: are not enough, And in this episode we got to

697
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 2: talk about no girl. Hold on, sis, let's back up,

698
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:14,320
Speaker 2: and let's remind ourselves that I am enough. So, lady,

699
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:16,839
Speaker 2: if you are having that moment where you were like

700
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 2: looking at your Superwoman cape hanging over there in the

701
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 2: closet and you're like, I need to go put this on,

702
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,840
Speaker 2: but I'm tired. Leave that cape over there and go

703
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:30,240
Speaker 2: listen to that episode because you are enough period.

704
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:34,200
Speaker 1: Okay. Also, before we jump into our most surprising guests

705
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 1: and episodes, Lady, this will be a good time again

706
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 1: in the effort of the homecoming right to think back

707
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:40,359
Speaker 1: on your life and think about what are your top

708
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 1: five moments or your top five accomplishments. Like, we don't

709
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 1: take enough time to sit and celebrate ourselves. And I

710
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, if you're anything like us, I

711
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:50,879
Speaker 1: feel like we're like kind of type a personality down

712
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 1: where you know where go getters will work really hard,

713
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:55,759
Speaker 1: and we're also once we achieve a goal, we're kind

714
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:57,360
Speaker 1: of like, Okay, cool, that's cute. That's on to the

715
00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 1: next one. So I think just taking a moment to breathe,

716
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,800
Speaker 1: to sit with yourself and really think about your accomplishments

717
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: and what you've done, you know, since you've been on

718
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 1: this earth. I think that is that is something that

719
00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 1: we should do more of. And I know sometimes lady,

720
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: it's hard for us to see ourselves. So if you

721
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 1: have to ask a friend, phone, a friend, a cousin, homeboy, somebody,

722
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 1: Okay to get some support. So now we're going to

723
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:23,960
Speaker 1: dive into our most surprising guest. We definitely had plenty

724
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 1: of moments where we have fan girled out, and we've

725
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 1: had guests we were like, oh my god, I cannot

726
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,759
Speaker 1: believe that Yvonne Orgy for me is definitely one of those.

727
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 1: That's Season twelve, episode two. Yeah, yeah, damn boozzled by

728
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 1: Jesus y'all. When we interviewed with evon Org. Unfortunately we

729
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: couldn't record the video, but we got to be on

730
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,240
Speaker 1: video with her, and she was just such a vibe,

731
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: so cool, so down to earth, even though she's so successful,

732
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:48,840
Speaker 1: and she was like on this you know, crazy tour

733
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 1: for her comedy special, on her movie and her book.

734
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 1: She just treated us with so much kindness and we've

735
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: really had a great conversation. So I would say yvon

736
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 1: Orgy was definitely one where I was like, oh my gosh,

737
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 1: we have you on origin on the podcast.

738
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:05,080
Speaker 2: I would say also that was not one of mine too,

739
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:10,000
Speaker 2: right because of that, right, like, because I just felt

740
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:12,400
Speaker 2: like in that conversation, like I think that sometimes we

741
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 2: have this perception that when you're interviewing someone high profile

742
00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 2: that there's going to be a lot of these stipulations

743
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:25,399
Speaker 2: and don't ask this and avoid this, and then they

744
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 2: come on and they're just like, Okay, this is just

745
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 2: one more thing to check off my list of in

746
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:32,239
Speaker 2: my long list to do, which I can understand, but

747
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 2: that is not at all. I will say, we have

748
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 2: not had that experience with any of our guests, right,

749
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:41,759
Speaker 2: I've heard of people being like that, but Yvonne was

750
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 2: just so like it felt like kicking it with the homies.

751
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 1: It definitely did girl that spot on. I would say

752
00:42:49,640 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 1: also to Sean de Duckett, if you don't know who

753
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 1: to Shona Duckett is definitely go google her.

754
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 2: Lady.

755
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:58,880
Speaker 1: That's Thha s u n Da Duckett. She's doing amazing

756
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:00,839
Speaker 1: work in the world. And that episode that was also

757
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:04,400
Speaker 1: a good episode Season seven, episode five, Executive Women Living

758
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:07,520
Speaker 1: your Purpose and exploring the myth of balance. She dropped

759
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:11,800
Speaker 1: so many gems. She's extremely successful. I was just blown

760
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:14,319
Speaker 1: away down. I think we learned so much from our

761
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 1: guests and I felt super blessed to be able to

762
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 1: have a chance to converse with her. Now, this next guest.

763
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 1: I feel like I just really wish I could call

764
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 1: my grandmother and be like, you have to tell me

765
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 1: if you let your grandmother know too. I wish I

766
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 1: could call my grandmother and be like my mom.

767
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 2: Guess why.

768
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 1: I interviewed so Ronda Ross, right, Diana Ross and Barry

769
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 1: Gordy's daughter, Ronda Ross, who was incredible. She's an incredible

770
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 1: artist and performer and mother, and she just had such

771
00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 1: a beautiful spirit and beautiful story. And one of the

772
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 1: things to sit out to me Dom and that conversation

773
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 1: is the idea of what was it Dom? It was

774
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 1: shining bright in an already bright sky. I thought that

775
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:54,880
Speaker 1: was such a beautiful way to put it. When you

776
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 1: think about someone that comes from greatness and then having

777
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:01,399
Speaker 1: this expectation of pressure to be great in your own

778
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 1: right and figure following the steps of your parents who

779
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 1: are like these global superstars. That was such an incredible conversation,

780
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 1: and I just I had such a great time with her.

781
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:14,840
Speaker 2: So Yes, to answer your question, I did bring it

782
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 2: up to my grandmother and then my godmother and my mom,

783
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 2: and they were all like excited because they were like

784
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 2: because they yeah, so they because they know motown and

785
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 2: they know, like Diana Ross and they were like, oh oh,

786
00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:31,280
Speaker 2: and so they they definitely were excited.

787
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 1: So dope, I love it. I love it, and I

788
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:35,680
Speaker 1: have two more, lady, and then down, I'm going to

789
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:37,320
Speaker 1: pass it over to you. So the next person is

790
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: Joy Taylor. That was episode eleven. I'm sorry, Season eleven,

791
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 1: episode eight, why we need Black women in sports media,

792
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:46,440
Speaker 1: Joy Taylor. If you don't know Joy Taylor, need a

793
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:50,320
Speaker 1: google her too. But she's making strides in the sports

794
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 1: media industry for black women. That was such a great

795
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:55,279
Speaker 1: interview too. She was definitely one of those folks where

796
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my gosh, Joy's on TV every

797
00:44:57,600 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 1: day and she's so dope and she's accomplished and she's

798
00:44:59,840 --> 00:45:01,680
Speaker 1: doing great things in the world and we get to,

799
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 1: you know, have a conversation with her. So that was

800
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 1: super exciting. And then the last person we've had her

801
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 1: on twice and we actually saw her on Red Table

802
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:12,760
Speaker 1: Talk and decided to picture and that's doctor Romeny der Vasila,

803
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 1: and we did an episode with her season six, episode eight.

804
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 1: She's in six, episode seven, My Apologies Raised by a

805
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:24,760
Speaker 1: Narcissist signs symptoms and how to recover that. Doctor Romeny's

806
00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 1: always amazing. That was mind blowing. And then we had

807
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 1: season ten, episode three, how to Finally Leave your Narcissistic Partner.

808
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: Doctor Romney talks to all things narcissism and narcissists, and

809
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:39,640
Speaker 1: so I'm just always blown away when whenever I hear

810
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 1: those conversations. And one thing that stood out to me

811
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:45,400
Speaker 1: don from the conversations with doctor Romeny is that oftentimes

812
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 1: you cannot change a narcissist and they don't change. And

813
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 1: I think for me that has given me the confidence

814
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 1: to really truly cut people off and distance myself and

815
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:58,839
Speaker 1: be okay with not being in a relationship with them,

816
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 1: despite with their title or role might be in my life.

817
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 1: But if they are having these if they identify as

818
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:06,759
Speaker 1: this person and that's how they're showing up, there's no

819
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 1: you can't change people. But I think having this overly

820
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 1: optimistic view of life sometimes it kind of sometimes makes

821
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:15,520
Speaker 1: me fall into this naive pattern of oh, well, because

822
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:17,839
Speaker 1: I changed so much and I'd like to evolve, this

823
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 1: person's going to do the same. But oftentimes narcissists don't.

824
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 1: So that was a great episode, both of them.

825
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:28,800
Speaker 2: I love all the episodes that you named because I'm like, yes,

826
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 2: those were all like really like important guests that we

827
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 2: had and for various reasons, right, And so I will

828
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 2: say that Yvonne and I mentioned you know why, and

829
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 2: Rhonda Ross also both So those two immediately came to

830
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:45,400
Speaker 2: mind for me in terms of guests that were like

831
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 2: surprising or really cool that I'm glad we had that experience,

832
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 2: So mine the others on my list have a different

833
00:46:54,800 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 2: shift to them. Right. So one of the season nine

834
00:47:01,680 --> 00:47:07,080
Speaker 2: episode six, Two Husbands and One Boyfriend demystifying polyamory and

835
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:11,319
Speaker 2: polygamy with Kenya Stevens. So I will say I put

836
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 2: that in like my like surprise you know guest episodes

837
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 2: because I know for me personally going into that interview,

838
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 2: I generally consider myself to be pretty open minded, and

839
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:34,280
Speaker 2: so going into that interview, I really was like curious

840
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:38,359
Speaker 2: and like, how does this really work? Can it really work? Right?

841
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:43,319
Speaker 2: Like a level of curiosity, mix of curiosity and skepticism, right.

842
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:48,760
Speaker 2: And what I loved about this interview is that Kenya

843
00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 2: came in and she knew what people were coming in with, right.

844
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:54,120
Speaker 2: She knew that people were gonna have that skepticism, and

845
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,839
Speaker 2: a lot of folks have skepticism that's like and pessimism

846
00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:00,440
Speaker 2: that's way deeper than what I was how I was

847
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 2: coming in right, And so what I appreciated was that

848
00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 2: she really did demystify all of those things that would

849
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 2: have had folks saying, now, this ain't for me, right,

850
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 2: So I that's why I'm really that's one of my

851
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 2: like top like surprise guest episodes because like she really

852
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 2: I think helped open more minds. My next episode or

853
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:33,839
Speaker 2: guest is doctor James Widley, and he appeared on season eight,

854
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 2: episode three, getting It in Sex, Intimacy and Dating in

855
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 2: the Times of Quarantine. Yes, child, listen, listen, listen, Linda.

856
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 2: That episode was so fun. So I know doctor Widley,

857
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 2: and so I'm used to his energy and I and

858
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:58,239
Speaker 2: so that's the one reason why I wanted to have

859
00:48:58,400 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 2: him on the show. But I have appreciated having a

860
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 2: man's energy in that space and being able to talk

861
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Speaker 2: about sex right, like loved it. So then my next

862
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Speaker 2: one would be Good Mom's Bad Choices Meila and Erica.

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00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 2: I love them. So we were talking about so in

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Speaker 2: season eight, episode four, we were talking about daddy issues

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Speaker 2: and how it impacts your relationship and sex life. And Lady,

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Speaker 2: if you haven't listened to Good Mom's Bad Choices podcast,

867
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Speaker 2: definitely go and check it out. Meila and Erica are

868
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 2: such a vibe and they brought that energy into the

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Speaker 2: episode right, Like I think, I was initially skeptical about

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Speaker 2: how it would go having four women right recording right,

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Speaker 2: and we weren't in person, and that flowed just as

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Speaker 2: if we were all sitting around somebody's living room having

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Speaker 2: a good conversation.

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Speaker 1: It was so good, Dom, I just want to say,

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Speaker 1: I love that we were able to share four different

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Speaker 1: perspectives on relationships with dads, and we talked a little

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Speaker 1: bit about moms too, but that was really really good.

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Speaker 2: I love it.

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Speaker 1: Your episode is a really great girl, I love the

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Speaker 1: Choices and Lady. Now we're just going to jump into

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Speaker 1: a couple more things, just kind of give you an

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00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:21,919
Speaker 1: idea of what's happened for us on this journey since

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Speaker 1: we started, and so yeah, let's jump on in. So

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Speaker 1: January first, twenty nineteen, that's when we released our very

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Speaker 1: first episode, and since that time, let me just say

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00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:34,440
Speaker 1: we have had a bunch of highs and lows personally

887
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 1: and professionally, one of which we had to change, and

888
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 1: you got to go back to the archives to listen

889
00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:42,280
Speaker 1: to this episode that we had with our amazing trademark attorney,

890
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Speaker 1: Rookie to Johnny. We had to change our podcast name

891
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 1: in the midst of the journey, so we already had

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Speaker 1: our name, our social media handles, we even had some

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Speaker 1: merch I think, yes, we had merched and everything, and

894
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Speaker 1: we found out that we weren't able to trademark the name.

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Speaker 1: So we ran into that, had to make some changes,

896
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Speaker 1: but we got it and now we finally have our trademark,

897
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Speaker 1: so we are officially cultivating her space. So we own

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Speaker 1: that we hired our first team member right now, we

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Speaker 1: actually have a team now. We have three people that

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00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:11,600
Speaker 1: we work with typically on a weekly basis to get

901
00:51:11,640 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 1: this podcast out to you, lady, and that helps us

902
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:17,279
Speaker 1: delegate and be more creative and dedicate more time to

903
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:18,960
Speaker 1: just be on the mic so we can chat with you.

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Speaker 1: What else do we have, don We.

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Speaker 2: Had our first workshop ever, our New Year workshop, So lady, again,

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Speaker 2: if you are looking to even though you know it

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Speaker 2: might not be the first of the year, when you're

908
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:36,080
Speaker 2: listening to this episode, it's always it's always a good

909
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 2: time to have a reset. And so if you go

910
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:42,399
Speaker 2: to New Year Workshop dot com you can access all

911
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 2: of that amazing content. And we're hoping that we do

912
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Speaker 2: put on more workshops in the future.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: And then the next thing is if you've been listening

915
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Speaker 2: and hell, honestly, if you're listening to this episode and

916
00:51:59,239 --> 00:52:05,359
Speaker 2: you already know that we have been welcoming sponsorships from

917
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 2: some amazing brands, and lady, we just want to let

918
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:14,480
Speaker 2: you know that any ad that you hear read from

919
00:52:14,760 --> 00:52:18,800
Speaker 2: Terry or Eye or both of us, then that means

920
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Speaker 2: that that's a product that we try and that we

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00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:25,680
Speaker 2: are putting it out there because we believe it's something

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Speaker 2: that you could benefit from as well.

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Speaker 1: Lady, just real quick, we are not thirsty. We have

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00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:32,720
Speaker 1: had people come to us trying to give us money

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00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:34,839
Speaker 1: and we went to their site, like, let me check

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Speaker 1: out this brand. Would our listeners like it? And they

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Speaker 1: might have like a whole bunch of white women on

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Speaker 1: the page, and it's like not a good fit, and

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Speaker 1: we're just like, we can't do it. So when, like

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00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:45,319
Speaker 1: Don said, when we when you hear an ad with

931
00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:47,920
Speaker 1: our voice, know that one it costs money to keep

932
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:49,399
Speaker 1: a podcast up, so we gotta do what we gotta

933
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 1: do because this is a free offering that we give

934
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 1: you a free labor of love. But we really do

935
00:52:54,239 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 1: take into account the brands that we decide to partner with,

936
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Speaker 1: and then that takes us too what to expect over

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Speaker 1: the next few months. So I'm going to give it

938
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Speaker 1: over to don to do this since my background is

939
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Speaker 1: super lit over here with all the horns and honking.

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Speaker 2: So that's something that you can expect over the next

941
00:53:11,400 --> 00:53:16,239
Speaker 2: few months. Right that we as Terry gets situated in

942
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:19,880
Speaker 2: her new space. If you are following us on Patreon,

943
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:22,719
Speaker 2: then you might see that there's a couple of episodes

944
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:25,239
Speaker 2: where we start and stop because of the noise in

945
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:28,279
Speaker 2: her background, or you might see that her background looks

946
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:32,279
Speaker 2: different because she's recording in a different space. So know

947
00:53:32,400 --> 00:53:35,920
Speaker 2: that that's something you know. Don't get surprised by the change.

948
00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:39,839
Speaker 2: Know that we're doing this. We're adjusting to make sure

949
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 2: that we are continuously putting out the good content for you.

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Speaker 2: The next thing that we're hoping to do is we

951
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:50,719
Speaker 2: are hoping to have more live streams. We're wanting to

952
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:55,799
Speaker 2: have host quarterly wind downs. Basically, we are wanting to

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00:53:55,840 --> 00:54:00,040
Speaker 2: get more engaged with you. Lady, So listen as you

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Speaker 2: you are putting, you are responding to that blue teal

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00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:08,799
Speaker 2: on that blue teal square on Instagram. Also, let us

956
00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:12,279
Speaker 2: know how you want to be in community with us,

957
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:16,759
Speaker 2: because we want to make sure that we are providing

958
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:21,880
Speaker 2: things that you want. We don't want to host a

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00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 2: quarterly wine down and y'all are like, well, we don't

960
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 2: want to sit on zoom and drink wine in to

961
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:28,920
Speaker 2: you with y'all want to We want to have a

962
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:32,399
Speaker 2: kickback in person. If that's what you want, let us

963
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:35,279
Speaker 2: know so that we can figure it out and bring

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00:54:35,320 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 2: it to you, lady.

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Speaker 1: All right, all right, and then let's see then the

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Speaker 1: last thing, lady, we want to manifest some amazing guests. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so help us out. If you have connections, let us

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Speaker 1: system know. Hit us up in the DM email us

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Speaker 1: heirspacepodcast at gmail dot com and the subject line put

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Speaker 1: I got the connect Okay, we want to interview b Simone.

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Speaker 1: We are huge fans of b Simone and her friend

972
00:54:57,360 --> 00:55:00,200
Speaker 1: of Megan Brooks. They have an amazing podcast. Listen every

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Speaker 1: episode down. I'm obsessed be Simeone, Omegan Brooks. We got

974
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Speaker 1: Taraji p Henson is Ray. We want her on the show.

975
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Speaker 1: We're manifesting trap Yoga Bay. We were close, but schedules

976
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Speaker 1: didn't the line, So Trap Yoga Bay, Michelle Obama, Beyonce okay,

977
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Speaker 1: and and of course okay the one as Oh all right.

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Speaker 1: So those are some of the guests that we would

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Speaker 1: like to manifest. So help a sister out, help your

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Speaker 1: sisters out, and your lady. We hope you enjoyed this episode.

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Speaker 1: We'll see you again, same time, same place, you know,

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Speaker 1: every Friday we release the episode and we thank you

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Speaker 1: for tuning in you. Hey, lady, It's Terry here from

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Speaker 1: the Cultivating her Space podcast. I'm hosting a free podcasting

985
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Speaker 1: masterclass where I'm going to teach you how to create

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Speaker 1: of income. You can visit podcast with Terry dot com

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Speaker 1: to register for free. I hope to see you there.

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Speaker 2: Thanks for joining us today. Please note that our show

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Speaker 2: makes conversations about self help, advice, self empowerment, and mental health,

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Speaker 2: but is by no means meant to be a substitute

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Speaker 2: for an ongoing formal relationship with a trained mental health provider.

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Speaker 2: mental health care. Please visit a Therapy for Black Girls

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