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Speaker 1: Maybe you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues

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Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beach. I just

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Speaker 1: I'm clearly in my healing journey to see you it

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Speaker 1: those tips, those episodes I'm working out to every day

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Speaker 1: planning trips. I've cut out so many talks to people

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Speaker 1: I'm currently in school to pursue a career in law.

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Speaker 1: It pays, you know, that's a very male predominant field,

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Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you for doing therapy, for cutting

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