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Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to this episode of Keep It Positive. Sweetie.

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Speaker 1: I'm Christine and Hazlet and today I have with me

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Speaker 1: my dear dear dear friend, Keanu Watson. Hi, y'all. We

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Speaker 1: got Keana Watson on the sofa. Oh my goodness, I've

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Speaker 1: been trying to get you here. You're so busy. Yes,

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Speaker 1: so thank you for even today you came in on

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Speaker 1: the phone closing deals.

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Speaker 2: Always always thank you for having me. Of course, it's

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Speaker 2: such a great vibe with you.

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Speaker 3: Always. I look forward to us having a like a

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Speaker 3: chat like we always like.

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Speaker 1: We always do listen. We always make time for each

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Speaker 1: other and take you like, okay, girl, we gotta go

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Speaker 1: on the calendar. Yes, yes, because we're so busy. So

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Speaker 1: that's one thing I love about you. You're so you're

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Speaker 1: so committed to making sure that you have time with

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Speaker 1: your girls. Absolutely. I love that.

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Speaker 3: And it's like we go through our calendar.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever seen that meme that says, you know,

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Speaker 2: look at two people in business and all they do

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Speaker 2: is check their calendars for their availability. It may take

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Speaker 2: us about an hour, but we come up with the

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Speaker 2: date and time due and we stick to it.

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Speaker 1: And I love that me too, Yeah too, because you'll

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Speaker 1: be like what about this, And I'm like, no, that

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Speaker 1: don't work. What about this? And no that don't work.

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Speaker 1: You're like, all right, what about this. When you're like

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Speaker 1: that one works, You're like, all right, this is it.

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Speaker 2: And I like the intentionality because like when we get

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Speaker 2: with each other, we try to not touch our phones

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Speaker 2: and not be on our phone so we can really

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Speaker 2: engage in connecting that time and it's just a perfect

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Speaker 2: it's always a perfect setting for us.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, you're a good friend.

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Speaker 1: You are too. I love you. When I think about you, Ken,

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Speaker 1: I always start the show with a song girl quote,

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Speaker 1: and when I think about you, I think about how

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Speaker 1: you are. So this what you see is what you

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Speaker 1: get like you. It's no fakeness about you. You're very

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Speaker 1: matter of fact. And the quote that comes to mind

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Speaker 1: is find out who you are and do it on purpose.

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Speaker 1: Oh I love that. Yeah, I mean every like I said,

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Speaker 1: I really feel like you're one of my friends where

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Speaker 1: every day you wake up you wake up with purpose, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: and you're one of the most go get her women

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Speaker 1: I know, which is why today we're going to talk

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Speaker 1: about can the alpha woman have it all?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 1: Because I know for me, as an alpha woman, I

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Speaker 1: have gotten to a point where I say, well, maybe

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Speaker 1: I can't have it all, you know, because in my

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Speaker 1: life love that one area always seems to kind of

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Speaker 1: fall short. You got your list, and you're like, well,

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Speaker 1: I got this, I got that, I got that all right? Lord,

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Speaker 1: I got everything. Else where's the man? Where?

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Speaker 2: So?

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Speaker 1: I thought you were the perfect person to bring on.

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Speaker 1: You are just so amazing and we can talk. I

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Speaker 1: know we can tell right this forever. Let me start

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Speaker 1: by saying this.

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Speaker 2: I think when people hear the word alpha, I want

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Speaker 2: any male that's here in this does not mean non feminine,

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Speaker 2: all right. Alpha means leader, Alpha means someone that is

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Speaker 2: in charge. But that doesn't mean that this person is

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Speaker 2: walking around with masculine energy. And I feel like that's

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Speaker 2: the immediate thing that a man thinks when you say

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Speaker 2: alpha anything. I want to debunk that immediately because as

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Speaker 2: I navigate my business, you know, I am in a

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Speaker 2: male dominated field, you know, running a real estate brokerage

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Speaker 2: and doing this all the other things I do. But

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Speaker 2: when I come home, I don't want to I want

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Speaker 2: to be feminine.

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Speaker 3: I want to be soft.

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Speaker 2: I want to be able to have someone tell me

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Speaker 2: make plans and let me just walk into that soft energy. So,

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Speaker 2: an alpha female is someone that definitely dominates in their

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Speaker 2: life and their world. And I think you name your

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Speaker 2: personal life you want to have, You have a direction

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Speaker 2: you want to take in, but that doesn't necessarily mean

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, you know, and let's take like having it all?

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 2: I think that that was I think it's such a

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Speaker 2: profound statement.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: This year has been a very rocky year for me

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 3: And I said, if I was going.

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Speaker 2: To talk about this with anybody, I was listening to

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Speaker 2: a sermon and it said, y'all have these public relationships

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Speaker 2: and you want everybody to fall in love with you,

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Speaker 2: where really you're sharing the highlight.

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Speaker 3: Reel of your life, right, Wow?

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Speaker 2: And then when something devastating happens, you get quiet and

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Speaker 2: close up and I think that you know it does

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Speaker 2: Everyone's looking like, now you don't want to tell us

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Speaker 2: what happens.

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Speaker 1: Everything you know you shared everything else.

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Speaker 2: And I'll start off with the immediate thing. I think

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Speaker 2: that we all have to have time to process before

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Speaker 2: we share absolutely, you know, and I think in the

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Speaker 2: be careful with how we share because there's more people

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Speaker 2: involved than just the two people or the nosy people

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Speaker 2: that want to be nosy are the people that could.

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Speaker 3: Be praying and cheering you on.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes you have to say, this is an ad my

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Speaker 2: real life has to matter first. Let me figure, let

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Speaker 2: this in my real life, and now I can publicly

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Speaker 2: address it way. So can we have it all? I'm

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Speaker 2: going to be I don't think so. Not at the

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Speaker 2: same time. I don't think that you can have it

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Speaker 2: all at the same time. Wow, I don't think you

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Speaker 1: Why do you think that you have way more experience

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Speaker 1: than I believe. So I'm definitely curious because I want

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that when I look at I work

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Speaker 1: These incredible careers.

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Speaker 2: And when I look at my career, I don't have children,

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Speaker 2: to have a dog. And when I was married and

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Speaker 2: able to just focus on my work, yes, and just

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Speaker 2: stay focused on my work. And by doing that, you know,

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Speaker 2: I would say this year, with the challenges I faced

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Speaker 3: Because I was too busy.

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Speaker 2: And you know, as a woman, when you're going around

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Speaker 2: and you know, I'm on these stages like you contended gracefully.

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Speaker 2: Came to one of my online training events, right, you

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Speaker 2: saw firsthand. It's like I'm standing in line, I'm taking

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Speaker 2: pictures for an hour and the person you're with is like,

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Speaker 2: at that time, they're no longer that person's name. They

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 2: I've had people say that and my prior relationship, they

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Speaker 1: Wow, Like like he loses his identity.

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Speaker 2: They lose their identity. And it's not what you do

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Speaker 2: as a person. It's just that you have this notoriety

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Speaker 1: I'm tunnel vision too. Literally, it's bad.

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Speaker 2: And so when you when you don't see anything else,

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Speaker 2: unless someone verbally pulls you to the side and say, listen,

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Speaker 2: I'm not happy here, which most men don't. They want

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Speaker 2: want you to see how they feel like you should

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Speaker 2: be in tune with me. So nobody's pulling you to

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, I and you know and you And the

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Speaker 3: first thing.

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Speaker 2: I did when I when I when I recognize so like,

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Speaker 2: my relationship is in trouble.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: I looked at my I went through my life. I

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Speaker 2: went through my phone, I went through my archives, stories,

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: I have my person with me, So I think, when

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Speaker 2: with you because that's not intimate time. Those are that's

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Speaker 2: your stage time. Think about that when we're at events.

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Speaker 2: And so I do think that when you are building

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Speaker 2: You're going to have to decide what's most important.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what in that moment when you said you realized

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Speaker 1: my relationship is in trouble. What were some of those

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Speaker 1: hard conversations that you had to have because a lot

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Speaker 1: not going to tell you, hey, this is what I need.

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Speaker 1: You need to be in tune with me. And I

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Speaker 1: think a lot of women do that too. We sit around,

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Speaker 1: we're like you should just know, yes, you know, and

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Speaker 1: communicating is so like important in relationship absolutely. What was

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Speaker 1: that moment like and what were some of those hard

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Speaker 1: conversations where you were like even had to look within

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Speaker 1: through the calendar, you went through your Instagram, Like, where

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Speaker 1: was I like, Oh, I really have just been focused

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Speaker 1: on my work. What were some of those conversations.

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Speaker 2: Like for me when I started to look through my

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Speaker 2: schedule and I'm adding up these timelines, and I'm you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm obsessive.

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Speaker 3: With everything, so whatever, whatever it is.

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Speaker 1: I became obsessed with it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I said to myself, I was to be.

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Speaker 2: I was too busy focusing on what I wanted to gain.

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Speaker 2: I just now became intentional even with my friendships, because

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Speaker 2: I was too busy focusing on building my career. And

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Speaker 2: I'm like, Okay, well they see what I'm doing, they

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Speaker 2: can wait. So that hard conversation was is if you

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Speaker 2: were on the other side, if you were on the

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Speaker 2: receiving end of this, how would you have handled it?

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Speaker 2: Would you have felt neglected? And when I asked myself

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Speaker 2: those questions, the only difference is I would have felt neglected,

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Speaker 2: but I would have communicated that neglect exactly. I would

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Speaker 2: have communicated it. I wouldn't have let it fester. But

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Speaker 2: that's because it's a level of communication that I have

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Speaker 2: and maturity that I have about life and change. But

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Speaker 2: I would have absolutely felt neglected.

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Speaker 3: I would have. So I asked myself.

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Speaker 3: We need therapy in church. Let's mix it together.

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Speaker 3: You can hear God if you are not doing the work.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, it's beautiful. I remember your husband made

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Speaker 1: How can you get it? How is it that you

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Speaker 2: But I recognize that these are broken people, and hurt

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Speaker 2: her in this way. That's the least I can do.

443
00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:29,639
Speaker 1: Wow, you know, I know that definitely caught us all

444
00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:32,560
Speaker 1: off guard. I'm close to both of you. Yeah, Anthony's

445
00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 1: helped renovate my home with his team, and you two

446
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:39,520
Speaker 1: have built this amazing business together, and I want to

447
00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:42,439
Speaker 1: speak to that too. I had called you one day

448
00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:45,520
Speaker 1: before all this had happened, and I said, hey. I

449
00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:47,320
Speaker 1: was like, I'm looking for a general contractor. The one

450
00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:49,560
Speaker 1: I had is like charging way too much. He said, oh,

451
00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:51,920
Speaker 1: Anthony can do it. He's got a team. I said, okay, cool.

452
00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:55,040
Speaker 1: Then all this happened and we went to my I

453
00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:56,800
Speaker 1: went to Miami and you were like I'm coming yes,

454
00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:02,920
Speaker 1: So you're like, oh girl, I gotta kid. And I

455
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:04,760
Speaker 1: was like, if you don't want me to work with him,

456
00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:06,399
Speaker 1: let me know. He was like, no, I do not

457
00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:09,479
Speaker 1: want him to lose any clients. And in that moment,

458
00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:13,160
Speaker 1: you were so broken, but your heart posture was still

459
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:16,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to take anything away from this man, absolutely,

460
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 1: and I said, my God, like that spoke volumes to

461
00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:23,560
Speaker 1: why I love you as my friend. And the type

462
00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 1: of person that you are in the integrity that you

463
00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:29,080
Speaker 1: have to be at your lowest but still not want

464
00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:31,360
Speaker 1: to see the person that caused the pain to you

465
00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:34,520
Speaker 1: suffer in any kind of way. And I was like,

466
00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:36,440
Speaker 1: my goodness, I was like, if I could take anything

467
00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:38,800
Speaker 1: away from this whole situation, it's just how you handled

468
00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:41,760
Speaker 1: it with so much grace. He really did.

469
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:44,240
Speaker 2: And I say that, and I tell people God has

470
00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:45,000
Speaker 2: been carrying me.

471
00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 3: You know it's intentional.

472
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Speaker 2: I remember when we went to that basketball game and

473
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Speaker 2: I said, I'm looking for a good church, and you said,

474
00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 2: go to change church. And I started going. And I

475
00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 2: have been out of town, I've been out the country,

476
00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:59,280
Speaker 2: but I will either be on my cell phone and

477
00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,960
Speaker 2: watching I'll watch the replay. Are at tending person, And

478
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 2: I think I wouldn't say that diligence in getting really

479
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:10,439
Speaker 2: connected and having someone to be a vessel to really

480
00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 2: give me that, give me that word and allow me

481
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 2: to and want me to yearn for more. So I'll

482
00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,440
Speaker 2: research on my own and started opening my own Bible

483
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,680
Speaker 2: and ordering books and ordering things to help me.

484
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:23,840
Speaker 3: Pray through what I'm going through.

485
00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 2: I will say that is what has carried me through

486
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 2: this because I tell people you can be you can

487
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:32,440
Speaker 2: literally be broke, but you cannot be broken.

488
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:33,240
Speaker 3: Right.

489
00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 2: So as much as the situation broke me, it didn't

490
00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:37,000
Speaker 2: break me.

491
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:38,920
Speaker 1: You know that's a message.

492
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:40,439
Speaker 3: Yes, it did not break me.

493
00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:44,240
Speaker 2: I was I was able to steal function you were, Yeah,

494
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 2: and I'm grateful for that.

495
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:51,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's beautiful. During this journey, I know it's taken

496
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:53,800
Speaker 1: a lot of self reflection. What have you learned about

497
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:54,880
Speaker 1: Kana through all this.

498
00:22:55,640 --> 00:23:00,000
Speaker 2: I've learned that I can definitely be a little selfish

499
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:02,120
Speaker 2: and when it comes to what I want and how

500
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 2: I see things, So actually being open to other people

501
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:10,920
Speaker 2: and allowing everyone to feel seen is something that's important

502
00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 2: to me.

503
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 1: I think also through this situation, what I've.

504
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:18,199
Speaker 2: Learned is you can love people, and you can have

505
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 2: people close to you, but you have to be the

506
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:24,200
Speaker 2: alpha and the Omega of your own life and your

507
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 2: own decisions. And I've learned that I'm not easily influenced

508
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 2: by other people's ins I'm like, you can think what

509
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:34,840
Speaker 2: you want, but I'm gonna do what I want. And

510
00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:38,800
Speaker 2: I love that about me because I know that at

511
00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 2: the end of this life that I have and I

512
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 2: tell people this story all the time. You know, my dad,

513
00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 2: he passed away from cancer. He was only fifty two,

514
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 2: and he did not He had sarcoma cancer.

515
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 3: Star coma cancer was this cancer.

516
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 2: Of the soft tissues. They removed a seventeen pound tumor.

517
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,919
Speaker 2: He went to everything, he got better, and then he

518
00:23:56,960 --> 00:23:59,399
Speaker 2: immediately got worse and passed away in like a year

519
00:23:59,440 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 2: and a half.

520
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 3: And he didn't want to suffer.

521
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 2: And at the end of his days, when I was

522
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 2: spending time with him, he reminded me to live my

523
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:13,760
Speaker 2: life unapologetically. He reminded me that you need to make

524
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 2: sure that you live this life for you. And I'm

525
00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 2: reminded of that every time i have to make a

526
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:18,639
Speaker 2: difficult decision.

527
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, every time i have.

528
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,720
Speaker 2: To face some adversity, I'm like, this is my one

529
00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:25,880
Speaker 2: life and as long as I'm internally happy and I'm

530
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 2: pleasing God.

531
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:29,280
Speaker 1: I don't care what you you or you think about that.

532
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,439
Speaker 2: So that's one thing I learned is my strength and

533
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 2: that and then I want to say my best trait

534
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 2: that I've learned is now I'm very intentional.

535
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:40,360
Speaker 1: I am very intentional.

536
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 2: About checking in with everything I'm talking about. From spending

537
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 2: time with my nieces, my nephew, my mom, my friends.

538
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:52,160
Speaker 2: You know, even in my business, making sure, I feel

539
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 2: like it's softened me. It's the situation has softened me.

540
00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:59,480
Speaker 2: Like I check into my team, I check into everybody

541
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,919
Speaker 2: more because because I recognize that being that one, like

542
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 2: being on that train and just pushing forward. It's a

543
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:11,159
Speaker 2: lonely ride if you don't have people with you.

544
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 1: That is so true. That is so true. And with

545
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 1: all that, what has this process taught you about forgiveness?

546
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: I know that's a tough thing to do sometimes when

547
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: you're the one that was hurt.

548
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 2: I'm still forgiving. I'm still forgiving. I give myself the grace.

549
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: But I do know this. The closer I get to

550
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: the forgiveness part, the lighter I feel.

551
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:39,199
Speaker 2: The lighter, the better my days are, right, you know,

552
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:45,360
Speaker 2: the easier it is for me to enjoy my life fully.

553
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,120
Speaker 2: Joy from within me, right, that glow that you get

554
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:51,240
Speaker 2: so like, I can see that glow. It's coming because

555
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 2: I'm allowing myself to say, you have to forgive what

556
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 2: you can't forget. And there was some one actually gifted

557
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 2: me a book and said, learning to forgive what you

558
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 2: can can't forget.

559
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,920
Speaker 1: Oh, and she's gifted me this book and I.

560
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,120
Speaker 2: Started to read it and I'm working to finish it,

561
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 2: and I plan to finish it through the holiday seasons

562
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:13,480
Speaker 2: because what I recognize, if you cannot truly forgive someone,

563
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 2: how can you expect God to forgive you? Because none

564
00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:19,919
Speaker 2: of us are perfect. We have done imperfect things in

565
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 2: this world. I have done so many imperfect things. I

566
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:26,400
Speaker 2: have made so many decisions that I feel like, dang,

567
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 2: that was a terrible decision. Or I was a terrible friend,

568
00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 2: I was a terrible sister or a terrible daughter, And

569
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 2: if I want God to forgive me, I'm going to

570
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:35,959
Speaker 2: have to forgive that person.

571
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:36,239
Speaker 3: Right.

572
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,199
Speaker 2: So forgiveness is one thing, and then reconciliation is another.

573
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 2: So I'm working on the forgiveness part now because I

574
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:47,119
Speaker 2: gotta forgive or it's going to eat me up and

575
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 2: I don't want that.

576
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,159
Speaker 1: Pen talked about that at church on Sunday, saying that

577
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,480
Speaker 1: a lot of times forgiveness isn't about the other person,

578
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 1: it's about your own healing. Yes, yeah, that's so true.

579
00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:00,439
Speaker 3: It is so Forgiveness is something I'm still working, but

580
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 3: I take it the day at.

581
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 2: A time, and I recognize my feelings and I talked

582
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:10,160
Speaker 2: through them and that has helped me towards that forgiveness journey.

583
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, so good. I think it's something that you and

584
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 1: I both have discussed and that we have in common

585
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 1: is that we're in our forties but have not had

586
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 1: children yet. Right. Do you feel like, because your career

587
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: was just taking off, that that was something that you

588
00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 1: just felt in the back burner or did you not

589
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,679
Speaker 1: even want to have children? What was the decision in that.

590
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:29,879
Speaker 2: It's a lot of factors in that. That's like a

591
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 2: that is a layered question. I'll say when we when

592
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:36,479
Speaker 2: I first got married, I was on birth control. So

593
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 2: most people assume, oh, she can't have kids. It's like

594
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,959
Speaker 2: child I was on the depot shot before I got married.

595
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:44,119
Speaker 2: I stayed on the depot shot. I didn't have a

596
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 2: period for almost seven years because the demo shot took

597
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 2: it away and I was enjoying my life. So that's

598
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 2: when I met my husband and when we were when

599
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:56,920
Speaker 2: we got married. So then when it was time to like, Okay,

600
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:58,400
Speaker 2: do you want to have kids, so I get off

601
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,920
Speaker 2: the shot. Yes, get off shot. They do all these

602
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 2: tests and it took me a whole year and a

603
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 2: half to start having a cycle again.

604
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 1: Oh wow, what did you have to do to st

605
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:06,439
Speaker 1: just had to.

606
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:07,720
Speaker 2: Wait, said you had to wait, and you had to

607
00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:10,439
Speaker 2: take it was like your progestion levels were off and

608
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 2: all that stuff, and so they were like, take these vitamins,

609
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 2: take that.

610
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 1: And so then.

611
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 2: Once everything started to even now you know, we start

612
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 2: having these testing.

613
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:21,400
Speaker 1: So we're taking tests.

614
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 2: I'm getting my test and he's getting his tests. And

615
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 2: I'll say, with respect to a little bit of our privacy,

616
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 2: it's always it's sometimes it's both people, or sometimes it's

617
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 2: one person. It's the assumption is always said it's the woman. Yeah, right,

618
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 2: that's gonna be the easiest thing to assume. But in

619
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 2: my situation, that's not the case. Right now, you know

620
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 2: my eggs are geriatric.

621
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 1: They gonna tell you that child.

622
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 3: Can I just say a disclaimer.

623
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 2: If you are in your early mid twenties, early twenties,

624
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 2: late early early thirties and you say, I don't know

625
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 2: if I want to have a child, and you're financially able,

626
00:28:56,800 --> 00:29:00,040
Speaker 2: please go freeze your eggs because by the time you

627
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 2: get over thirty five, they will call them geriatric. I

628
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 2: don't care how good you look. You can drink all

629
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 2: the green tea, eat all the salad.

630
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 1: Your eggs are But it's true. It's like they literally

631
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 1: just put me in the grave.

632
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 2: I'm like, yes, this geriatric can I And so when

633
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 2: you when that happens, I think that I came to

634
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 2: terms with it.

635
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 1: We went through an IVF cycle.

636
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 2: It was unsuccessful, and I was like, well, we have

637
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 2: a beautiful life. You love me, we have a dog,

638
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 2: we travel, I'm a great aunt. You know, you already

639
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 2: have a daughter, so everything is beautiful.

640
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 1: I don't I'm indifferent.

641
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 2: I'm indifferent about having a kid now because now I

642
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,840
Speaker 2: don't I don't necessarily want to commit to going through the.

643
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 3: Process and.

644
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 2: Having that type of failure or blow come again.

645
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 3: Right. So I would say it was a combination of

646
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 3: all of it. And I came to that conclusion at

647
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 3: the end, like I don't you know if as long

648
00:29:57,440 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 3: as it's us, like you know how like mister big

649
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 3: and Kerry was like me and you're just too Yes,

650
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 3: I was.

651
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 2: I was fine with that, you know, And that's just

652
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 2: the decision that it's a lot of It's like I said,

653
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 2: it's a lot of caveats that come with that. There's

654
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 2: a lot of layers in my situation. It is not

655
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 2: just that my eggs is geriatric. It is the person

656
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:18,320
Speaker 2: that I want to conceive with also has some challenges.

657
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 2: And so that is how it all kind of rolls.

658
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 1: Right. Did that affect you guys anywhere? Did you both

659
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 1: agree like we both we love each other and were good?

660
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 3: We both agree that we loved each other and we

661
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 3: were good.

662
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 2: And then it's like, but now as we're going through

663
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Speaker 2: our challenges, is an agree. It's like, maybe we want

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Speaker 2: to revisit it. Maybe you want to see what can

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Speaker 2: be done, and so we shall see.

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Speaker 1: You know, I love that. I know a lot of

667
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Speaker 1: people talk about freezing eggs and you've gone through the

668
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Speaker 1: whole and beatrop process. What was that like? Because I've

669
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Speaker 1: never done it. I'm actually scared because I've heard a

670
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Speaker 1: lot of different stories about it.

671
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Speaker 3: I want to say, if you're scared, if you're afraid

672
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Speaker 3: of needles, you're.

673
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Speaker 1: Going to have a hard time.

674
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Speaker 2: And you feel I kind of felt like a loan

675
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 2: scientist because there are certain things you have to mix yourself.

676
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 2: Everything is not pre mixed, so certain things you're gonna

677
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 2: have to watch a little video and mix it and

678
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 2: put it. Yeah, so then when you get everything set up,

679
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 2: and you know, you get your get into your flow

680
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Speaker 2: and you don't mind sticking yourself.

681
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Speaker 1: Is it like a needle, like that's just poking out

682
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 1: of it? Like is it inside a cartridge that you

683
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: just punch? Yes, like it's a cartridge car. Okay, So

684
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 1: now that one where you can see the needle and

685
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 1: you're like sticking it in yourself or it's like you

686
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 1: just like this and punch it.

687
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Speaker 2: You just go like that and punch it. Okay, so

688
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 2: you're gonna have to punch it. And but it changed

689
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Speaker 2: my one. Of course, I got bloated everybody I think

690
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 2: they get bloated in but beyond being bloated, it changed

691
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 2: my temperament. Like literally I became a completely different temperament

692
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 2: because again, when I'm in work mode and we had

693
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Speaker 2: just launched Watson Realty Code and I was having a

694
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Speaker 2: team meeting and I am I do not cry for

695
00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 2: real like that, I started crying to my agent because

696
00:31:57,920 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 2: I was like, this is my first agent. I'll never

697
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 2: forget get Kiara, my very first ad man. She's stilled

698
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 2: my agent buility to this day. And I was like,

699
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,239
Speaker 2: you have to sell at least this dollar amount. It

700
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 2: was a certain dollar now I needed her to sell

701
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:13,600
Speaker 2: and I started crying and she was looking at me

702
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 2: like what is going on?

703
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: And I was like, is this even me? It's like watching.

704
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 2: Yourself in an outer body experience and you're experiencing emotions

705
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 2: that you know normally you wouldn't have. And I think

706
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 2: that those are the two that would be the biggest

707
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 2: thing for you. Forget the bloating I heard a bigger shirt,

708
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 2: but not being able to control my emotions, especially in

709
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 2: the business field, that was the biggest thing that I

710
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 2: would say watch out for when you go through it.

711
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 2: Don't be in a position where you got to make

712
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 2: a lot of hard decisions quickly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good. That's good. I want to switch gears

714
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:50,520
Speaker 1: a little bit and talk about watching reality code. Okay,

715
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Speaker 1: and how we met? Yah. I met you in twenty

716
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 1: seventeen when I was purchasing my first home. Yes, and

717
00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 1: we were like four houses in now like, yeah, you

718
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 1: have been with me every step of the way and

719
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 1: it's grown way past being my relator. But I remember

720
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Speaker 1: not knowing anything that my friend Chevin. She was like, oh,

721
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 1: my boyfriend time he knows a realtor. Her name is

722
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Speaker 1: Keana and I was like, okay, well give me your

723
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Speaker 1: information and she black and she was like, yes, that's perfect,

724
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 1: and we met and we ended up finding this townhouse

725
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 1: that I just loved. Yes, and it ended up being

726
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 1: one of your preferred lenders, was their preferred lender, so

727
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 1: we like didn't have any clothes. It was like five

728
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 1: thousand dollars, touch your closing calls, all these things just

729
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 1: lining up. And I remember we got to the house

730
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Speaker 1: and the guy, the person who was doing the open

731
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Speaker 1: house said, well, somebody's already left to go get their

732
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: earnest money. Keana literally like all right, well we'll wait,

733
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 1: and he's like, I said, we're gonna go get our

734
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Speaker 1: earnest money, We're gonna come back, and we're gonna wait.

735
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Speaker 1: And the person never came back, so we gave him

736
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Speaker 1: by NESCA and while we were once we came back

737
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 1: with the earnest check. You literally sat with me at

738
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Speaker 1: that dining room table and read the entire contract with

739
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 1: me so that I understand that didn't explained it to me,

740
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 1: which makes sense why you do agent tools for success now,

741
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:09,879
Speaker 1: because you want people to understand what they're signing up for. Absolutely,

742
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 1: there were no when I got the house. It was

743
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,319
Speaker 1: first of all, I was seamless because of you. But

744
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:16,840
Speaker 1: I also learned so much during that process because you

745
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 1: weren't just trying to get a check, no, And that

746
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: was before you had your own brokerau, you know, so

747
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 1: you've always taken it serious. So for anybody who may

748
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: be watching that wants to be a relator, can you

749
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:29,879
Speaker 1: kind of walk me through the process of what even

750
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 1: made you want to be a realator and what that

751
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 1: journey was like.

752
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 2: Okay, when I first got my real estate license, I

753
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 2: just thought I'm just gonna be successful.

754
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:39,839
Speaker 3: I'm good with people. I can make this work.

755
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 2: But it wasn't until I spent some time in property

756
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,839
Speaker 2: management that I got a better understanding of reading through

757
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 2: documents and interpreting meals and running reports and understanding the market.

758
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 2: So when I really jumped into real estate full time,

759
00:34:56,280 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 2: and that was in twenty fifteen, September twenty fifteen, what

760
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 2: I recognize is that I have a certain.

761
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 3: Way that people trust me.

762
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 2: Right, It's like people come around me and because I've

763
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 2: always been hungry and not thirsty, and let me tell

764
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 2: you the day, let me tell you the difference. The

765
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 2: difference is I can take my time with you. I

766
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 2: can show you six houses, I can show you ten houses,

767
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 2: I can show you one, and I can make sure

768
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:27,400
Speaker 2: you understand what you're doing and understand every step of

769
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 2: the way. And so I'm big on putting together processes.

770
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:31,719
Speaker 2: So I'd be like, well, let me write this down

771
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 2: so that way they can understand, or let me break

772
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 2: this down in layman's terms, so in comparison to what

773
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 2: they see on this contract.

774
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 1: This makes sense to them.

775
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 2: And I just started to run my business that way

776
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 2: because you never know where someone is going to lead you.

777
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 2: And I always tell people start how you want to finish, right,

778
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:49,400
Speaker 2: start how you want to finish. And so if you're

779
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 2: a future I think for me when it came to

780
00:35:51,520 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 2: real estate, I recognize that one. I love houses, I

781
00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 2: love people, and I love winning. So when you have

782
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 2: that salesmanship, you're going to enjoy this business.

783
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:04,760
Speaker 3: Because it's beyond the customer service.

784
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 2: The same way the woman there, she wanted us to

785
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 2: increase our offer while we were waiting for the other officer. Yeah,

786
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I'm not gonna increase nothing. I'm gonna

787
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 2: save you some money so we can wait here until

788
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 2: the doors closed At six and now the doors are closed.

789
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 2: You're gonna take this offer at this price? Yes, and

790
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 2: we and everything worked out. So you gotta you have

791
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 2: to enjoy sales, and then you have to enjoy people.

792
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you definitely didn't. You made that. You made

793
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,799
Speaker 1: all the process. It's so seamless. Even I know I

794
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,760
Speaker 1: had found a house on Mount Pairing. Well, Tyler actually

795
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 1: found the house. Oh lord, and I said. Keana was like,

796
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 1: Tyler didn't found this house. And she goes, all right,

797
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 1: let me find out who's who's listening it is. And

798
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:45,319
Speaker 1: we went and looked at it, and You're like, it's

799
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:48,840
Speaker 1: gonna be a lot of work. I was like, hmmm, okay,

800
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 1: it's a lot a lot of work. And then nine

801
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 1: months later I was like I can't do this anymore

802
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:56,479
Speaker 1: because we got the house and it was taken forever

803
00:36:56,520 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 1: to get permits. And I called Tyler and I said, hey,

804
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: I think I found the house I like. And he's like,

805
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 1: we'll send me pictures of it. So I sent pictures. Yes,

806
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 1: and then he goes, go get your house out, buy

807
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 1: the other house. Girl. And I said Kean, I said

808
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 1: I want to go look at this house. She's like,

809
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:14,360
Speaker 1: let's go, let's go, and within like every time I

810
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 1: call you, because I'm the type of person where I

811
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 1: may need to see it a few times. Every time

812
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 1: I call you, you were right there. He needed to

813
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 1: see it, and You're like, I'm there. And it was

814
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 1: another house we had already. It was another one in

815
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 1: the middle, had the.

816
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 3: Offer us and we over there still looking at house.

817
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 3: It was a whole nother house.

818
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:33,320
Speaker 1: The whole that house was beautiful. It was beautiful.

819
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 3: It was just.

820
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 1: Position wrong, but it was gorgeous. We already had an

821
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 1: offer on the other house under contract. We was under contract.

822
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 1: I said, this girl is crazy.

823
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:44,440
Speaker 2: But at the same time I also recognized, I know,

824
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 2: I know Georgia law.

825
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:46,600
Speaker 1: I know we're within the.

826
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:48,799
Speaker 2: Time period that she can get her earnest money back.

827
00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 2: So if you're going to have second thoughts, you need

828
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,840
Speaker 2: to have them right now. Yes, before we get past

829
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,240
Speaker 2: this contingency, which is called the due diligence period.

830
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 1: If you guys want to know.

831
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 2: So, the state of Georgia only is that's the only

832
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:01,799
Speaker 2: time on the persons cele agree with that you can

833
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:04,720
Speaker 2: terminate without calls. That means you can get your earnest

834
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 2: money back. You don't have to have a reason, so

835
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 2: I knew we needed that and I and I felt like,

836
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 2: this is such a huge purchase, you know, so you

837
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:16,360
Speaker 2: want to be as you want to be extremely happy

838
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,799
Speaker 2: and extremely sure about that decision exactly. So it was,

839
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,280
Speaker 2: it was, But it's always good touring with you guys.

840
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, Oh my god.

841
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 2: When Tyler shows up, it's just hilarious.

842
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:29,320
Speaker 1: Tyler Perry Perry.

843
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 2: I'm like, Tyler, it's hilarious because he has on all

844
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 2: this stuff like nobody.

845
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:37,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, like he's and then the guy we leave it

846
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:39,240
Speaker 1: in there like is that.

847
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:42,280
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, and I'm thinking to myself,

848
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 2: you may may maybe you maybe not.

849
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: And I'm like he needs to be a realtor at

850
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:49,479
Speaker 1: this point. No, seriously, yes, well you know his first

851
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:53,239
Speaker 1: passion was architecture, so yes, when we went to that house,

852
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: he literally sat in this in his car, pulled out

853
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:57,359
Speaker 1: a piece of type and paper and started drawing up

854
00:38:57,360 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: the plans and he was like, this is what I

855
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 1: want the house to look like architects. And I was like,

856
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: I don't like this house, but I like what you

857
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 1: just drew.

858
00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:05,280
Speaker 3: But I want to be here.

859
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:07,720
Speaker 1: You can make this look like this, And we're good.

860
00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 1: But you've always been there. I just I just love

861
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 1: that now when it comes to actually running your own brokerage,

862
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 1: getting to this alpha woman that you are, what is

863
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 1: that like? Because you you have a beautiful office, you

864
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 1: have so many amazing ladies that work under you, that

865
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:27,280
Speaker 1: you mentor that look up to you with such adoration.

866
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 1: What is that like on a day day? Basis knowing

867
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 1: that you have all these women that are depending on

868
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 1: you and your guidance to succeed, and knowing that this

869
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 1: business has your name on the on the front door.

870
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 1: It's a lot of pressure, you know.

871
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 2: I had someone ask me it was like, it looks

872
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 2: like you can't like you've changed, And I'm like, you

873
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 2: have to change when your level of responsibility changes to

874
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 2: who much is given, much is required? Yeah, you cannot

875
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,319
Speaker 2: move and operate the same way. You have to be

876
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 2: mindful of what you've built, who's looking to you. And

877
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,279
Speaker 2: these the agents that work for me, they're full time,

878
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:06,400
Speaker 2: most of them are full time, and so under my tutelage,

879
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 2: under my brokerage, they're feeding their families, they're taking care

880
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:13,399
Speaker 2: of themselves. And what I found is have I make

881
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 2: sure that I cross my t's and I dot my

882
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 2: eyes like I've always done. So instead of doing that

883
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 2: like with a contract like I did with you, I

884
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 2: do that when it comes to my business. I want

885
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 2: to make sure we have the right training, the right resources.

886
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,799
Speaker 2: They're getting the right leadership and they know that they can.

887
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 2: They're looking to someone that not only has done the work,

888
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:35,880
Speaker 2: but encourages them throughout the process. And that is what's

889
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 2: so important in leadership.

890
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 1: People. You have to lead from the front. Yes, yes,

891
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 1: when you lead from.

892
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:47,839
Speaker 2: The front, people will absolutely follow. And that pressure is

893
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:51,319
Speaker 2: you know, pressure sometimes burst pipes, right because sometimes like yeah,

894
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 2: I just want to be soft babes, worry about none

895
00:40:55,160 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 2: of this, y'all go break them emails, emails, read yourselves

896
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 2: something of the laptop slams, the slap, laptop shut right.

897
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,359
Speaker 2: Sometimes some days it is like this because you're like whoa.

898
00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, it's rewarding to

899
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:15,920
Speaker 2: know that you what you worked extremely hard for is

900
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:18,919
Speaker 2: now coming to fruition and it's being successful and people

901
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:22,400
Speaker 2: are receiving it well. So that is something that I

902
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 2: just day to day I manage it.

903
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:26,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Now what is it like having to fire

904
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 1: somebody being the boss? I know, you grow so close

905
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 1: to these women. Oh yeah, and you care about them?

906
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 1: What is that putting that hat on?

907
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 2: Like okay, so I've had to do that and it's

908
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 2: not directly a fire because well, well this is two parts. Okay,

909
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:43,480
Speaker 2: I've had to fire some assistants. Those are people that

910
00:41:43,520 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 2: have worked for me. An agent, you just kind of

911
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:49,240
Speaker 2: dissolve the relationship because there are independent contractors. You can say, listen,

912
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:51,279
Speaker 2: I just don't. I no longer want to hold your

913
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 2: license here. And I made that tough decision as I

914
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 2: was growing this brokerage at the top of the year,

915
00:41:58,040 --> 00:42:00,399
Speaker 2: I was like, next thing, I blinked and I had

916
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 2: like sixty agents.

917
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 3: What I'm like, how.

918
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 1: Did this happen?

919
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:04,239
Speaker 3: Right?

920
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 2: Because everybody want to work with and so there are

921
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 2: people coming from my other team. People are recruited because

922
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 2: I was thinking this, I just get more agents, and

923
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 2: you know, I'm going to do less work. And at

924
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 2: the same time as I'm growing more agents, I'm getting

925
00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:21,319
Speaker 2: all these development relationships. Right, So now I'm representing subdivisions.

926
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 2: It's no longer one house. Now, need to say that again.

927
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 2: Now it's no longer one house, it's a subdivision. Yes,

928
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 2: But that was like ten houses.

929
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:32,720
Speaker 3: You need to list this fifteen house community.

930
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 2: You need to list this enclave of six houses, and

931
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:38,239
Speaker 2: they're all new construction. It's a great developer. Thank you

932
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 2: to Delfis and Nick and brothers. And through that relationship,

933
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 2: now I have like eight different developers that I work with.

934
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:49,320
Speaker 2: And I said, oh, I'm being and I'm very aware

935
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 2: of who I am. And I said, okay, I am

936
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 2: being pulled.

937
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 1: I'm being pulled.

938
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 2: In a whole lot of directions because now I have

939
00:42:56,520 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 2: all these agents with me and they have their demands.

940
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:02,320
Speaker 2: I have my online training academy that has its demand.

941
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:05,320
Speaker 2: I have my own book of business that's a demand.

942
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 2: I have the Q Watson team that's a demand goodness,

943
00:43:09,160 --> 00:43:12,759
Speaker 2: and then I have Watson Realty Code and all that.

944
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 2: And I said, you know, I can't. I have to

945
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:20,760
Speaker 2: first evaluate what brings me the most joy and then secondly,

946
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:24,279
Speaker 2: what brings me the most income. Joy and income was

947
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 2: the first two things that I calculated, and I said,

948
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:28,919
Speaker 2: I have to I'm gonna have to trim this fat.

949
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:33,240
Speaker 2: And they were producing agents. They were producing agents. Shout

950
00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 2: out to all of them. I'm still really good cool

951
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 2: with a lot of them, and some of them I

952
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 2: want to say this directly. I don't want you to

953
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 2: feel away. It comes to the point where you have

954
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 2: to put your own oxygen mask on first.

955
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:45,720
Speaker 1: Yep.

956
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 2: And when I recognize I'm getting these development relationships, I

957
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:53,720
Speaker 2: can't not build this part of my business and cater

958
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 2: to the demands is that they feel are necessary to

959
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 2: be a leader in this part of the business. So

960
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 2: I made the tough decision to release them respectfully, and

961
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:06,879
Speaker 2: I did it in such a respect way. I gave

962
00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:09,879
Speaker 2: them back all their listings. Most brokers, when you write

963
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 2: a contract with the brokerage, even if you leave, that

964
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 2: contract is in the name of the brokerage and they

965
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 2: get to keep it and they can release you and

966
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 2: keep your contracts so they can keep your buyers, they

967
00:44:19,600 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 2: can keep your sellers. It doesn't belong to you because

968
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 2: you like to say you work with me. You get

969
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 2: ten people under contract and it's under Watson Realty Code,

970
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 2: and I say, you know what, Crystal, you can no

971
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 2: longer work with us.

972
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 1: You have to leave you.

973
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:35,880
Speaker 2: I can release your license and those are technically my contracts.

974
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 2: But that is that's how the law works. That's why

975
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:41,960
Speaker 2: it's a brokerage. It's a pass through and I gave

976
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:45,360
Speaker 2: everybody all their deals, gave it as long as it

977
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 2: enclosed within three days of them leaving. I gave them

978
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 2: all their deals back, and I did it in the

979
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:53,040
Speaker 2: best way.

980
00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:55,320
Speaker 3: But it wasn't about them. I think that people always

981
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 3: want everything to be about them. It was about me.

982
00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 2: I have worked extremely hard in this capacity, in this career,

983
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 2: and this happened before I thought, before the relationship issues came. Okay, honey,

984
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 2: let me make that clear, because everybody's like, oh.

985
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 1: She had relationship. Is she let go these agents? Right?

986
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:15,320
Speaker 2: The agent got let go before I, before the relationship

987
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 2: issues transpired. I released the agents because I had to

988
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 2: choose me. I said, I am not going to be

989
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 2: stretched thin in this season. I remember that I can't

990
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 2: do it. I want to enjoy my life. I want

991
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 2: to enjoy the people that love me, and if I

992
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 2: continue to stretch myself.

993
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 3: Then I won't have anything left for me.

994
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

995
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 2: So I just made the decision to choose again, which

996
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 2: gave me, what gave me the most joy, and which

997
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 2: gave me the most income.

998
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:39,879
Speaker 1: I love that we talked about the industry being such

999
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:43,399
Speaker 1: a male dominated industry that you work in and for

1000
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: alpha women When men are alpha alpha men, they are successful,

1001
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:51,840
Speaker 1: they're the most successful out of the group. They're elite,

1002
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 1: a leader of breadwinner. But when women are the alpha female,

1003
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: then it's oh, she's a bit, she's vicious, she's cold.

1004
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: Has it been like navigating those areas? I feel like

1005
00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:04,440
Speaker 1: as women like I said.

1006
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:06,280
Speaker 2: That's why I say, when you say that word alpha,

1007
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 2: that just means leader. That doesn't necessarily mean I'm cold.

1008
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 2: But in certain aspects of my business it can. It

1009
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 2: can feel cold. When I had to send those emails

1010
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 2: to release those agents, it could. I'm pretty sure it

1011
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 2: felt cold because I But at the same time it

1012
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 2: was direct, a certain assertive for the situation.

1013
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:26,880
Speaker 3: It was right.

1014
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:29,880
Speaker 2: I think that we have to be mindful that you

1015
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,399
Speaker 2: cannot run a business like you run your personal life.

1016
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 1: No, you can.

1017
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 2: What Beyonce says, she said in business being polite does

1018
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:39,160
Speaker 2: not mix. But she did say you can be fair,

1019
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 2: but when you're when you're out here being polite, you're

1020
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:43,440
Speaker 2: being unfair to yourself.

1021
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,680
Speaker 3: And I have a learned that in business.

1022
00:46:47,760 --> 00:46:51,040
Speaker 1: In business, you cannot always just be polite to people.

1023
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 2: You have to be fair and stand in your stand,

1024
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 2: strong in your integrity and move forward.

1025
00:46:56,400 --> 00:47:01,880
Speaker 1: I love that. Oh my goodness. I want to ask Keana,

1026
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 1: with everything that you've gone through in the year of

1027
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: twenty twenty three, yes, what are you going to do

1028
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,279
Speaker 1: different in twenty twenty four? And how do you want

1029
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:10,720
Speaker 1: to move.

1030
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 3: Forward in twenty twenty four.

1031
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 2: I want to continue to really nurture my relationship with God.

1032
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:21,400
Speaker 2: I want to be so in tune with God that

1033
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 2: I hear his voice very clearly, so when he tells

1034
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 2: me to move, I move.

1035
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:28,520
Speaker 1: Yeah. I want to move slower.

1036
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:34,280
Speaker 2: I am an intentional person, and if I don't like something,

1037
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 2: or if something is not going the way that Keana

1038
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 2: says it should go, I quickly disassociate and I quickly

1039
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 2: make decisions and I don't.

1040
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:43,960
Speaker 1: That's another thing.

1041
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:45,839
Speaker 2: You cannot run your personal life like.

1042
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:47,880
Speaker 1: I would make the same decisions in my business life.

1043
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:48,440
Speaker 1: That's good.

1044
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:51,399
Speaker 2: So I want to go into twenty twenty four slowing down,

1045
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 2: like not being so.

1046
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 1: Quick to decide.

1047
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 2: And I want to spend more time enjoying the little things.

1048
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,120
Speaker 2: Think that I got so caught up, Like I want

1049
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:03,960
Speaker 2: to go to Central Peg went to I want to

1050
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:04,879
Speaker 2: go to Italy, went to Italy.

1051
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 1: I want to go to this, you know, I got

1052
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:06,839
Speaker 1: to be on.

1053
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:07,359
Speaker 3: This big boat.

1054
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 1: I did.

1055
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 2: I did it now, I definitely did Paris at least

1056
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 2: three times.

1057
00:48:13,560 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 1: Right, I just want to go have chicken wings and

1058
00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:18,319
Speaker 1: all of that.

1059
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:21,439
Speaker 2: Right, But I oh, not only you know, let's let's

1060
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,760
Speaker 2: not forget being the VI p risers and watch Beyonce

1061
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:25,960
Speaker 2: with your friend Chrystal.

1062
00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:29,800
Speaker 1: I bet y'all didn't.

1063
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 3: But I want to do one of the small things.

1064
00:48:32,960 --> 00:48:36,280
Speaker 2: I want to be able to have like intentional lunches

1065
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 2: like we did the other day with my friends and

1066
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:40,880
Speaker 2: not let it does. Everything doesn't have to be a

1067
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 2: photo op or video op. Right, we didn't take We

1068
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 2: spend a lot of time together and we don't take pictures.

1069
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:48,839
Speaker 2: We won't take pictures at the events because again we're

1070
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 2: on the stage. But we know we have a personal relationship.

1071
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:54,839
Speaker 2: You have nothing to prove because we call each other

1072
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:55,359
Speaker 2: all the time.

1073
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:58,880
Speaker 1: You have my real personal number, not just the public business. Hello,

1074
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:01,760
Speaker 1: I got k.

1075
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:03,239
Speaker 3: And so I want to spend more time.

1076
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:04,399
Speaker 1: I want to spend more time with.

1077
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:05,400
Speaker 3: Friends and family.

1078
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:10,000
Speaker 2: I want to enjoy more of the little things and

1079
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:11,879
Speaker 2: still sprinkling a lot of the big things.

1080
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Well, I just want you to know that

1081
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:17,440
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you. I'm You're constantly in my prayers.

1082
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:21,279
Speaker 1: I'm one of those friends that I'm cheering you on,

1083
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,560
Speaker 1: and I hope that you feel the support and that

1084
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:27,399
Speaker 1: I only want you to be happy and whatever that

1085
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 1: looks like.

1086
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:31,239
Speaker 2: For Keana, absolutely, you are one of the most non

1087
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:34,840
Speaker 2: judgment judgmental people, but you also are very much so.

1088
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:39,560
Speaker 1: Like I heard you and then you give me your opinion.

1089
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:42,840
Speaker 3: Without it being a judgmental opinion.

1090
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:46,320
Speaker 2: People really can't help themselves when it takes a certain

1091
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 2: special type of person to be able to give an

1092
00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 2: opinion that's not biased or based on their own experiences.

1093
00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:56,640
Speaker 2: So I appreciate that and I feel that love, and

1094
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:58,880
Speaker 2: I hope that you feel the same. I am always

1095
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 2: supporting you out I'd be watching your show. I'll be

1096
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 2: watching your show, but beyond that, I'm always just rooting

1097
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 2: for you and your greatness.

1098
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 1: You know, I you know I love watching the show.

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Speaker 2: I called her one day and I'm not going to

1100
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Speaker 2: say what happened, but I said, I watched this episode

1101
00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 2: and I think you need to take this date.

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00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:20,480
Speaker 1: I won't.

1103
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 3: I won't ever. I will because the thing about it

1104
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 3: you have built and guess what.

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00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 1: You can have it all, but maybe not at the

1106
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 1: not at all.

1107
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Speaker 3: At the same time, think about this hiatus.

1108
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 1: Because I think you do. There are some things have

1109
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:35,920
Speaker 1: to take a sacrifice, yes, and I'm learning that. And

1110
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 1: so you've done all the hard work.

1111
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 2: You know how much you have to work, and when

1112
00:50:40,120 --> 00:50:42,760
Speaker 2: it's gonna be done, you don't have to over exert yourself.

1113
00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 2: And you could focus on a relationship if that's what

1114
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 2: you choose, okay.

1115
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 1: Or you can be you can be.

1116
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:57,560
Speaker 2: You could be a walking Haylo walking fake filter and

1117
00:50:57,680 --> 00:51:00,040
Speaker 2: just and let everybody see your greatness. But whatever and

1118
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 2: whatever it is that you want.

1119
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:04,759
Speaker 1: Out of this life, I support it. Thank you so much.

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00:51:04,800 --> 00:51:07,720
Speaker 1: Sins Oh my goodness, Kiyata, thank you.

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00:51:07,800 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you so much.

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00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:16,399
Speaker 1: Love you, I love you so much. Now we are

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Speaker 1: going to do one of my favorite parts. It's positive outcomes,

1124
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: where our listeners write into us and we give them advice. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, so this one says Hi Crystal. I recently

1126
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,080
Speaker 1: turned forty one this year with no kids, and I've

1127
00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:30,040
Speaker 1: been working in education since the age of thirteen. My

1128
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:32,600
Speaker 1: career is going great. I brought my first home at

1129
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:35,359
Speaker 1: the age of thirty nine, and I'm very independent I

1130
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:37,880
Speaker 1: absolutely hate dependent on a man to do anything for me.

1131
00:51:38,200 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 1: My dad taught me how to change my own tires

1132
00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: and breaks who grew Okay, all right, I don't know

1133
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 1: how to do that. However, my hyperindependence has caused a

1134
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 1: lot of confusion and past relationships. Should I just play

1135
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 1: the damsel in distress, which would literally irk my nerves?

1136
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Speaker 1: Help us us out? Well? First of all, I've had

1137
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:59,319
Speaker 1: to learn this because I was a single for so

1138
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:03,200
Speaker 1: long that when I did have a man in my life,

1139
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 1: I didn't know how to allow him to lead. I

1140
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 1: didn't know how to let him do things like if

1141
00:52:07,120 --> 00:52:08,879
Speaker 1: I did get a flat tire, I would just sell

1142
00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 1: you s to handling everything on my own. That I

1143
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 1: didn't make the man feel needed. And I don't think

1144
00:52:13,719 --> 00:52:15,719
Speaker 1: you have to be a damsel in distressed because I

1145
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:18,880
Speaker 1: feel like if you play that role, eventually's gonna get

1146
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 1: on the man's nerves. Yes, of course, yeah, But I

1147
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:24,720
Speaker 1: do know that it's important to let the man feel

1148
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:27,920
Speaker 1: like he is needed in the relationship. Let me tell

1149
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:28,440
Speaker 1: you something.

1150
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:31,600
Speaker 2: Oh, I remember I did this podcast, y'all, and I

1151
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:36,240
Speaker 2: was on the stage with my prior relationship, and I said,

1152
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 2: I don't need a man, I want you as my man.

1153
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 1: I said that.

1154
00:52:42,160 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 2: I meant it when I said it, because I in

1155
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 2: my mind, I'm thinking, tell you that you wanted.

1156
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 1: Yes, it's going to elevate like it's like yeah.

1157
00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 2: But for a man, it's like, oh, you don't need me.

1158
00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 2: It's a different thing. I would say, you got to

1159
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:57,319
Speaker 2: learn to let these men lead, and you need to

1160
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:59,640
Speaker 2: be the damsel in distressed. I can with my past

1161
00:52:59,640 --> 00:53:01,960
Speaker 2: relationship ship and us trying to work through it. The

1162
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:03,719
Speaker 2: first thing I said is I want to be a

1163
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:04,680
Speaker 2: paper princess.

1164
00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:06,920
Speaker 3: I can't figure out nothing.

1165
00:53:09,239 --> 00:53:09,719
Speaker 1: Tell me what.

1166
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:10,640
Speaker 3: Time to show up.

1167
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:12,640
Speaker 2: I don't care, like I don't want to be in

1168
00:53:12,719 --> 00:53:16,319
Speaker 2: charge of the tickets. Wherever you decide we sit, that's

1169
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 2: where we sit and right, because see, sometimes we can

1170
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:19,359
Speaker 2: get like that too.

1171
00:53:19,680 --> 00:53:20,200
Speaker 3: As women.

1172
00:53:20,239 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 1: We're like I want to sit on this road at

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00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 1: this section.

1174
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 2: Yes, first, but sometimes let the man lead and whatever

1175
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:28,680
Speaker 2: they can do and however they want to do it,

1176
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 2: let them.

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Speaker 3: Do it and show up and be happy for it.

1178
00:53:31,840 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 1: Because they didn't have to do it.

1179
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 3: They didn't have to plan a date for you.

1180
00:53:35,160 --> 00:53:38,040
Speaker 2: They didn't have to plan this, so instead maybe they

1181
00:53:38,080 --> 00:53:40,399
Speaker 2: planned a picnic, but you wanted to go and.

1182
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:45,080
Speaker 3: Have five strips of Wagou with extra trouffle. Relax. I think,

1183
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 3: relax and read the room.

1184
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 2: And I think that if I could give her any advice,

1185
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:52,600
Speaker 2: I would say, you say that you don't need a man,

1186
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:54,879
Speaker 2: but let's be clear, you don't need a man, maybe

1187
00:53:54,920 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 2: for your financial support or for that physical support. Since

1188
00:53:58,520 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 2: the girl can change his higher that's emotional support of

1189
00:54:04,040 --> 00:54:09,360
Speaker 2: a man. No girlfriend can feel it. Yeah, No, a

1190
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:13,319
Speaker 2: man can't fulfill that emotional support from your girlfriends and

1191
00:54:13,320 --> 00:54:16,720
Speaker 2: your family that love. Each of those love pockets are different,

1192
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 2: and that love pocket from a man.

1193
00:54:19,600 --> 00:54:22,480
Speaker 1: You do need that. So I had to recamp my message.

1194
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:23,239
Speaker 1: I do need a man.

1195
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:26,160
Speaker 3: I want a man and I need I.

1196
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 1: Want that emotional support. I want that love pocket.

1197
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:32,000
Speaker 2: Feel you need to really think about that and stop

1198
00:54:32,040 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 2: saying that you don't so you can get what you

1199
00:54:34,239 --> 00:54:35,360
Speaker 2: need and live your life.

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Speaker 1: Oh I'm taking that advice, Keanu, because I definitely has

1201
00:54:39,280 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 1: said I don't need a man, but I want one

1202
00:54:43,840 --> 00:54:45,920
Speaker 1: and I feel and I thought the same thing. I

1203
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:47,880
Speaker 1: thought that when I say I want you, it's a

1204
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:50,560
Speaker 1: choice that I'm making that I want you, and I

1205
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 1: thought that meant something they want to feel they do.

1206
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:57,279
Speaker 1: That's so good. Thank you so much for writing in,

1207
00:54:57,480 --> 00:55:04,600
Speaker 1: and please take her advice because I'm gonna take the

1208
00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:06,640
Speaker 1: next thing we do is what I'm going through and

1209
00:55:06,680 --> 00:55:10,880
Speaker 1: what I'm growing through. Okay, And just off of what

1210
00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:14,400
Speaker 1: we talked about, I am I definitely need to work

1211
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 1: on allowing men to lead when I do have that

1212
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:22,720
Speaker 1: opportunity again, allowing them to lead, not being in control.

1213
00:55:23,239 --> 00:55:25,520
Speaker 1: To what you said about, I need to sit on

1214
00:55:25,560 --> 00:55:28,080
Speaker 1: this road. I want my WAGU with the extra troufle

1215
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:30,439
Speaker 1: I want to go this way. I want to drive

1216
00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:33,320
Speaker 1: this kind of car like I want to fly first class.

1217
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:35,359
Speaker 1: I want to say this kind of hotel like I

1218
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 1: have all these things that this is what I like.

1219
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 1: I have to allow the man to leave, yes, and

1220
00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:42,880
Speaker 1: preparing myself. I think those are things I need to

1221
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 1: work on so that when the next one comes I

1222
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:45,800
Speaker 1: can be ready.

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00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:50,160
Speaker 2: I absolutely think so. I think it's a beautiful thing

1224
00:55:50,200 --> 00:55:54,279
Speaker 2: to allow a man to lead. And if you like

1225
00:55:54,360 --> 00:55:55,640
Speaker 2: my aunt told me, I had to go.

1226
00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:57,439
Speaker 1: I had to go talk to my old school aunt.

1227
00:55:57,520 --> 00:56:00,200
Speaker 2: I know that as I'm dealing with and going and

1228
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 2: growing through what I'm growing through, and they were like,

1229
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:04,080
Speaker 2: you know, the man is the head, but the woman

1230
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 2: controls the neck. And she said, Keana, if you want

1231
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:12,080
Speaker 2: a man, if you control in the neck, they're going

1232
00:56:12,160 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 2: to turn whatever way that you're controlling a man, and

1233
00:56:15,280 --> 00:56:20,920
Speaker 2: men are controlled with nurturing. With love and nurturing and femininity,

1234
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 2: you'll get more instead of demanding.

1235
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:25,640
Speaker 1: And I bet you you'll still end up having the

1236
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 1: wagoon with the extra truffle if they have to work.

1237
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:31,000
Speaker 2: Two jobs to make sure you get it, because now

1238
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:33,080
Speaker 2: you're controlling the neck and they want to.

1239
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:36,080
Speaker 1: Do it for you. Yes, that's beautiful. Yeah, freakame y'all,

1240
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:39,480
Speaker 1: she just gave it to you. That's so good. So

1241
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:42,799
Speaker 1: what are you going through and growing through? I would

1242
00:56:42,840 --> 00:56:43,640
Speaker 1: say I'm.

1243
00:56:43,440 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 3: Going through.

1244
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 2: My personal relationship battles and really trying to make sure

1245
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:53,720
Speaker 2: I find the light in that whatever however that turns

1246
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 2: out right, and being okay with knowing that I'm allowing

1247
00:56:57,640 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 2: God to.

1248
00:56:58,120 --> 00:57:01,040
Speaker 1: Grow me through the situation. I feel like even in.

1249
00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 2: That growth, I'm going through it, but I'm growing through

1250
00:57:03,680 --> 00:57:06,399
Speaker 2: it because at the end of all this, I'm going

1251
00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 2: to be a much better woman, and that is an

1252
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 2: overall woman, to a mate, to a friend.

1253
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:15,320
Speaker 1: To a better daughter. Better sister, better aunt.

1254
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 2: So you know, I feel like situations happen sometimes to

1255
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:21,240
Speaker 2: really humble you and to make you look at the

1256
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:23,640
Speaker 2: mirror and say, you know, maybe you are not as

1257
00:57:23,640 --> 00:57:26,920
Speaker 2: together as you thought. And that's what I'm growing through

1258
00:57:26,960 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 2: right now.

1259
00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:35,040
Speaker 1: It's so beautiful. I love it. Before we close out,

1260
00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:37,640
Speaker 1: we do what it's called keep it blame sweetie, Okay,

1261
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:41,440
Speaker 1: And when I think of you, I think of keep

1262
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:48,920
Speaker 1: it keep it private, sweetie. Oh yeah, yeah, certain things.

1263
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 1: Just keep it to yourself. There's things to share because

1264
00:57:52,800 --> 00:57:54,720
Speaker 1: you want to help other people learn and grow through

1265
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 1: their experiences based off of what you've you've dealt with.

1266
00:57:57,880 --> 00:58:00,120
Speaker 1: But there are some things where you say, I'm going

1267
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:02,440
Speaker 1: to keep to myself like that. Yeah, I love that.

1268
00:58:02,840 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 1: I'm in that season.

1269
00:58:03,960 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 2: It's definitely keep it private with you, and I don't

1270
00:58:08,640 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 2: think it's anything wrong with that. What can you really

1271
00:58:11,560 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 2: think about it? What you really love, you protect, you do,

1272
00:58:14,880 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 2: and what you truly love and you care about you protect.

1273
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:19,720
Speaker 2: If you see me with my nieces, I'll say, send

1274
00:58:19,760 --> 00:58:20,880
Speaker 2: you a picture of video or.

1275
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:23,480
Speaker 1: How often have.

1276
00:58:23,440 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 2: You seen them on my social media page?

1277
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 1: Same. It's why I just asked the other day, did

1278
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:28,520
Speaker 1: I have any siblings because I don't.

1279
00:58:28,760 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 2: You know why I don't because I really love them

1280
00:58:30,800 --> 00:58:33,200
Speaker 2: and I want to protect them, and I realize that

1281
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 2: there are so many outside forces that I don't have

1282
00:58:35,880 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 2: control of. And they didn't ask for this type of platform.

1283
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:42,160
Speaker 2: They didn't ask for these people to take a screenshot

1284
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:45,520
Speaker 2: of them and try to criticize them. So you protect

1285
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:48,000
Speaker 2: what you love, and that can be friendships.

1286
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 1: So even though we may not post each other.

1287
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:52,560
Speaker 2: All the time, every single meet up, we know what

1288
00:58:52,600 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 2: we have and we're probably post a picture and say, hey,

1289
00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 2: we went to this event, But every single meetup is

1290
00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:01,640
Speaker 2: not a photo. Some thing that you absolutely love and

1291
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:04,520
Speaker 2: you trust, you keep close to you, keep it to yourself.

1292
00:59:04,560 --> 00:59:08,000
Speaker 1: It's so good. What would you say, keep it blank, sweetie.

1293
00:59:09,080 --> 00:59:14,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say, keep it real, sweety.

1294
00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:17,720
Speaker 1: I heard it. Keep it real, sweetie.

1295
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:20,440
Speaker 2: I'm in that a space where I'm keeping it real

1296
00:59:20,520 --> 00:59:22,360
Speaker 2: with myself. I'm keeping it real with people that are

1297
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:25,880
Speaker 2: around me. And by keeping it real with yourself, people

1298
00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:28,920
Speaker 2: are forced to accept you for who you are because

1299
00:59:28,920 --> 00:59:29,680
Speaker 2: you are no.

1300
00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:31,680
Speaker 3: Longer walking around with some mask.

1301
00:59:32,200 --> 00:59:34,720
Speaker 2: Because guess what, a mask that you walk around with

1302
00:59:34,800 --> 00:59:36,439
Speaker 2: will always eventually fall off.

1303
00:59:36,560 --> 00:59:38,520
Speaker 1: So keep it real, Sweetie. I love that. That is

1304
00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 1: so good. Thank you so much, thank you. I'm so

1305
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:44,240
Speaker 1: so proud of you, guys. Thank you so much for

1306
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:46,640
Speaker 1: tuning into this episode of Keep It Positive Sweety. If

1307
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:49,120
Speaker 1: you want to write into our Positive Outcomes listener letter,

1308
00:59:49,400 --> 00:59:51,720
Speaker 1: you can write into Keep It Positive Sweete at gmail

1309
00:59:51,760 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 1: dot com and that's Sweetye with an Ie. You can

1310
00:59:54,360 --> 00:59:57,200
Speaker 1: follow kIPS on all platforms at Keep It Positive, Sweety,

1311
00:59:57,400 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 1: and you can follow me on all platforms at luv Chrystaline. Keana.

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01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 1: Tell the people where they can find you.

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Speaker 2: You can find me at Keana Watson dot com, Keanu

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Speaker 2: Watson on Instagram, Keanu Watson on social media, and of

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Speaker 2: course Watson Realty Co. That's my real estate brokers here

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Speaker 2: in the metro Atlanta area. Any of the twenty five

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Speaker 2: agents can service you, and then my online training academy

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Speaker 2: for those that are looking for guidance and growing your

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Speaker 2: real estate careers go to Agent twosfosuccess dot net and

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Speaker 2: you can find me on all those platforms.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and if you want to learn more about Keana,

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Speaker 1: she has a book. I forgot to say that you're

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Speaker 1: also an author. Oh yes, yes, clear to clothes. We

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Speaker 1: were talking about how beautiful you were on the cover.

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Speaker 1: Thank but yes, give us more insight on her life

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Speaker 1: and everything that it took to get to where you

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Speaker 1: are today. Absolutely yeah, we couldn't get it all. I

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Speaker 1: couldn't get it all in an hour. But you can

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Speaker 1: purchase the book as well and learn so much more

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Speaker 1: about this amazing woman that I'm so honored to call

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Speaker 1: my friend.

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Speaker 3: You are such a great I love you, I love

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Speaker 3: you more.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for knowing this. This is a safe space

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Speaker 1: for sharing your story and I know so many women

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Speaker 1: are going to be from this. I pray. I love you.

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Speaker 1: I love you. Yes, so good. Dear God, thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for this day. Thank you for waking us up.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for your mercies. Dear God, how ask that

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Speaker 1: you continue to allow us to reach everyone with this podcast,

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Speaker 1: spreading more positivity into the world. Dear God, as that

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Speaker 1: you use me and Keana. We know that so many

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Speaker 1: people look up to us and look to us for

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Speaker 1: inspiration and light their God. But I want to shed truth.

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Speaker 1: I want to shed some love today. I want people

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Speaker 1: to see the authentic us, to let them know that

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Speaker 1: we are just like them. Dear God, Thank you, for Donor.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for her guidance. Thank you for the annoyting

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Speaker 1: that you have in our life. Their God, God blessed

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Speaker 1: why I am. Thank you for his talents. Thank you

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Speaker 1: for allowing him to be a part of this family.

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Speaker 1: Dear God, we love you and Jesus. Then we pray Amen, Amen, Amen,