1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:02,560 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for telling the bride I 2 00:00:02,600 --> 00:00:05,680 Speaker 1: don't want to wear the bridesmaid's dress chosen for me? 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: And again, this is to answer the question when is 4 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 1: it worth it to stand up for yourself? And adventurous 5 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: Lemon one nine seven says I, forty female, was invited 6 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:18,960 Speaker 1: to be a bridesmaid for my good friend who I'll 7 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: call Beth, thirty two female. We've been friends for almost 8 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:25,799 Speaker 1: eight years after we met at a support group. WHOA 9 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: so she was twenty four and you were thirty two. 10 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 2: Wow. 11 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: I happily agreed to be Beth's bridesmaid and assumed I'd 12 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: be one of many. However, Beth told me her friend 13 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 1: just had a baby and her other friend will be 14 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: having gallbladder surgery at that time, so it will only 15 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 1: be me, her three younger sisters, and her sister in law. 16 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 1: I was okay with this at first until they actually 17 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: saw them. They look very very young. They're all between 18 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 1: nineteen to twenty eight. They're extremely slim. I look much 19 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: older than all of them. That made me feel pretty uncomfortable. 20 00:01:04,680 --> 00:01:09,639 Speaker 1: I don't know if this is right unless Opie's friend 21 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 1: does something to make her feel uncomfortable or make her 22 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: feel like if she picks a dress that makes her 23 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable, that's a different story. But I think right now, 24 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: I think you kind of have to push through just 25 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: right now, because if it's just a matter of oh, 26 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:31,040 Speaker 1: some people are younger with me, people have people, people 27 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 1: are friends with younger people all the time. 28 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, I'm young and I'm friends with John. 29 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:35,720 Speaker 3: Yeah. 30 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 1: No, I think right now I'm not seeing the issue, 31 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: but maybe it'll rise later. Missed the old joke. On 32 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: top of that, she allowed her sisters to choose the 33 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 1: dress because I was not able to go with them 34 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: to the appointment as it was too early for me. 35 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: The girls chose the sexy, silky satin dress that looks 36 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: very very tight on their bodies, which on them looks 37 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 1: fantastic as they are young with young your bodies, But 38 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: on me it will look terrible. 39 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 2: I just know it will. 40 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:09,519 Speaker 1: Okay, Oh, I was very nice and told my friend 41 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: that I'd like to choose a dress that would be 42 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 1: more flattering to my body type as I'm older and 43 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:17,119 Speaker 1: bigger than her sisters. It'd be the same color and fabric, 44 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 1: just something I want. I think that's a more fair 45 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 1: like request to ask just saying, hey, if we could, 46 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 1: if I could choose a dress that fits my body type, Yeah, 47 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: of course, Yeah, I think that's more fair. As long 48 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:31,920 Speaker 1: as it's the same color, I think it's okay. My 49 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: friend was annoyed and said her sisters chose the dress 50 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:38,919 Speaker 1: themselves and had already purchased it. It's done. We went 51 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: back and forth for several hours. I was trying to 52 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: make her understand my point. I will be the oldest 53 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: one there. Everyone's going to be looking at me and 54 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: comparing me to her younger, slimmer sisters. I don't want 55 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 1: that kind of attention. I don't know. It seems like 56 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:57,239 Speaker 1: she has a lot of insecurities, and I think it's 57 00:02:57,360 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 1: it's totally fair for her to say, I, you know, 58 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: I'm not comfortable wearing that dress. But I think she's 59 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:07,239 Speaker 1: kind of leaning into those insecurities before. Yeah, Katie Lynn 60 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 1: says she hasn't tried on the dress. It seems like 61 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 1: she has like the anxiety and she's thinking about what 62 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 1: other people will think of her when she's wearing it, 63 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:17,799 Speaker 1: but like it hasn't happened yet. 64 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely see some insecurities here. 65 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, But Pamela Roa says, same color dress 66 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:26,919 Speaker 1: is the best option. I think not everyone has the 67 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 1: same body type, which I agree, I think the issue. 68 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,959 Speaker 1: I think she should definitely have a right to choose 69 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:35,200 Speaker 1: the dress that fits her body type. But I think 70 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: it's also a little bit Yeah, Elizabeth Miller says she 71 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: seems a little self conscious. Yeah, I don't know. It 72 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: seems like she's making their younger I'm older a bigger 73 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: problem than it has to be. Yeah, Creature Blaze says, understand. Ope, 74 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: but the way she's saying certain stuff is rubbing me. 75 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 4: The wrong way. 76 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 5: No. 77 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 3: I agree. 78 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:00,240 Speaker 1: That's why I'm like a little bit confused because one 79 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: and again, I think she has a right to want 80 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 1: to wear a dress that makes her comfortable, but she's 81 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: also thinking up like she's thinking up the worst scenarios 82 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: and none of it's happened yet. Yeah, that's where I'm at. 83 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:16,160 Speaker 1: I think my friend was irritated and said that her 84 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 1: fiancees also in his forties and his five grooms men 85 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: are between forty to fifty years of age. On top 86 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 1: of that, her sister in law is actually forty eight. 87 00:04:24,640 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 1: She just looks good for her age. Wow, that made 88 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: me feel even worse. 89 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 3: No she goes. 90 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 1: Everyone has different ages and sizes, and I need to 91 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: let it go. I thought we were making some headway 92 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 1: and she was gonna let me choose a different dress 93 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:42,479 Speaker 1: until she left a nasty voicemail early this morning. She 94 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: told me to get the dress or I can't be 95 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,479 Speaker 1: part of it anymore. I'm adding too much stress to 96 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:50,840 Speaker 1: her wedding over stupid insecurities and that her family isn't 97 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 1: there to see me or to see what I'm wearing 98 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 1: or how I fit into a dress. They are there 99 00:04:55,880 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 1: for her and her husband. So either I show up 100 00:04:58,240 --> 00:05:00,520 Speaker 1: as a bridesmaan in the dress or a shoe as 101 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 1: a guest, and if I don't get with the program, 102 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:06,279 Speaker 1: she'll have her cousin take my place. I feel like 103 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: she could have said it nicer than she did. She 104 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 1: was very nasty towards me. I also feel like she's 105 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: not being sensitive. I decided to remove myself as a 106 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 1: bridesmaid since she won't be flexible. But my husband said 107 00:05:18,520 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: it was very rude. Am I the a hole? And 108 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 1: there is an edit before before we get into it, 109 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:30,599 Speaker 1: But yeah, I do want to know what y'all are saying. 110 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:34,279 Speaker 1: Jesse Jessbell says she couldn't even be bothered to show 111 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:37,159 Speaker 1: up to pick the dress though, that's on her, and 112 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 1: Rebecca Parala says she had an opportunity to go shopping 113 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 1: and have an opinion, but it was too early. Yeah, 114 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:47,480 Speaker 1: and then Vali Lily says, here's the argument that will 115 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: win fair. I'm wearing the dress, but don't get mad 116 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 1: when every one talks about how silly the chubby bridesman 117 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 1: looked in that too small dress. Oh okay, well that's also 118 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:59,240 Speaker 1: I mean, we don't want her to talk bad about herself. 119 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:04,599 Speaker 1: I think I think she should maybe fry on the 120 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:08,280 Speaker 1: dress first, and if she still feels uncomfortable in it, 121 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:10,160 Speaker 1: I don't think that she should be forced to wear 122 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:11,599 Speaker 1: a dress that she's uncomfortable in it. 123 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 6: I think that's my thing. Yeah, they'll be on the fence. 124 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:19,440 Speaker 6: Don't be nice. Pick one side a hole or not. 125 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 6: You can be an a whole, it's fine. Pick a side. 126 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: Are we saying, Oh, p is the a hole? 127 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 5: Oh? 128 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 6: Kati Lyne just said kind of yes. I think I 129 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 6: think if you say kind of yes, then it's yes. 130 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 6: I just want to see a hole or not. 131 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 1: I think she is kind of being the a hole, 132 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: yes or no. 133 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 2: No, I think she's gonna no kind of yes. No, yeah, 134 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 2: so no, she's not the a hole. 135 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:39,239 Speaker 1: No, I think she's gotta be the ahole. 136 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 6: You have to pick a hole, picking kind of a whole. No, 137 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 6: don't put kind of cut you picked a whole. 138 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: Okay, but I think that, but I think it is 139 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:50,919 Speaker 1: a little bit more complicated. I don't think this is 140 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 1: a clear cut a hole because she has a right 141 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 1: to not feel comfortable in uh in a dress. So 142 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:00,120 Speaker 1: that's why I don't think she's fully the aholes. So 143 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: I you won't. You won't force me into this. 144 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 2: You picked a hole. 145 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:06,720 Speaker 1: I didn't. I said kind of a hole. You literally 146 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: can't force me into it. 147 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 2: The fence about everything, the. 148 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: Life is shades of gray, man, life is shades with gray. 149 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 6: Yeah, sometimes you just need to pick a side of 150 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 6: a fence. No, and the and the and the wire 151 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 6: on it is too pokey for you to stand on. 152 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 1: I literally won't. I'm just saying, yeah, Kitty says, I'm 153 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:27,520 Speaker 1: saying you're the a hole because she didn't even try 154 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:28,000 Speaker 1: the dress on. 155 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 2: That I think you said you're the a whole. Boom. 156 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 1: That is why That's where I'm at, Guys, this is 157 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: where I'm at. I'm thinking she should try on the 158 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: dress and if she still feels uncomfortable, then she brings 159 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 1: that up to the bride, and if the bride is 160 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: like too bad, then the bride's a little bit the 161 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 1: a hole. Josephine Medola Beerqui says, don't want my memory 162 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:51,119 Speaker 1: of a friend's wedding being filled with anxiety and shame. 163 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 1: Very fair, And I think that if if she feels 164 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: as because it seems that even if she's in I'm 165 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,640 Speaker 1: worried that if she's an address that she does feel 166 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: comfortable in, she'll still have other worries about the younger 167 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: bridesmaids and stuff, because it seems as if the dress 168 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 1: is not the only problem here. 169 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I can see them. 170 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think if she's not comfortable, then she 171 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: just shouldn't agree to be a bridesmaid. I think that 172 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: is the best solution if the bride is not willing 173 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 1: to make concessions for her. 174 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 3: M h yeah, I. 175 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 1: Think maybe maybe I'm you know what I think I'm on. 176 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 1: Everyone's a little bit the ahoyer. That is a thing 177 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:32,080 Speaker 1: that we can pick. Everyone is a little bit the 178 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:37,120 Speaker 1: a hole here, that's what I'm saying. I'm putting that down. Yeah, 179 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 1: but let's read this edit. 180 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 2: Everyone's saying a hole, all right, let's get into it. 181 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 4: Edits. 182 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: I am getting the same questions, so I will answer. 183 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 1: Bride and I met in a support group for chronic 184 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 1: pain sufferers. We both have fibro Malaysia and the bride 185 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:52,480 Speaker 1: has lupus, which is why the wedding is happening a 186 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 1: little faster. Bride made the dress appointment for eleven, and 187 00:08:55,880 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: my flare ups happen in the Morning's pretty bad, which 188 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:01,360 Speaker 1: she's aware of, but she still chose to do it 189 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:03,960 Speaker 1: at the time because everyone else could only do that time. 190 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:06,440 Speaker 1: She is doing her wedding at night, which is the 191 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:09,439 Speaker 1: only reason I can be part of it. It wouldn't 192 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:11,840 Speaker 1: have been possible if it was during the day. Also, 193 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 1: we talked about it late last night. She said, as 194 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 1: she wants to come with me to try on the dress, 195 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: and if I absolutely can't do it, then I can 196 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:20,839 Speaker 1: either find a dress that has to look like it's 197 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:23,360 Speaker 1: twin or I can come as a guest. She's okay 198 00:09:23,400 --> 00:09:27,680 Speaker 1: with either, Okay, okay. The problem with the dress is 199 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:29,680 Speaker 1: that it's satin, which means I know it's going to 200 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: be tight because satin always fits tight and the top 201 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:35,199 Speaker 1: part is a corset style. Even if I size up, 202 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 1: the part will probably end up being too loose at 203 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: the top due to my small chest. Okay, honestly, I 204 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: think that they sorted out. Yeah, I think this is 205 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 1: a good ending. What did I fibro Malaysia? 206 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 4: Yeah? 207 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:51,559 Speaker 1: How do you pronounce it? 208 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:53,320 Speaker 2: I don't know. Don't ask me. 209 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:54,959 Speaker 1: I don't know how to pronounce it. 210 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 6: So I thought it was funny, and I wasn't gonna 211 00:09:57,280 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 6: say anything because you bully me all the time and 212 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:00,120 Speaker 6: ever I say something wrong, So I was going to 213 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 6: give you the benefit of a doubt. 214 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:03,719 Speaker 1: Oh you're allowed to You're allowed if you know how 215 00:10:03,720 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 1: to pronounce it, you're allowed to tell me. 216 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:07,679 Speaker 2: Well I don't, so. 217 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:11,280 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I don't know how to pronounce that. 218 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 2: But an expert about this, like, hey, here's the situation, 219 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 2: what fabric would be better? 220 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 7: Yeah? 221 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:22,560 Speaker 2: Oh oh you could? 222 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 1: They could call an expert. 223 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:27,400 Speaker 6: We could we have an expert on the line. I think, 224 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 6: oh we do. Yeah, okay, my girlfriend, Oh about fabric? 225 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 6: About fabric, that's true. 226 00:10:33,640 --> 00:10:39,440 Speaker 1: We could see fibro my alga, alga fibro my alga, 227 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:42,319 Speaker 1: thank you for everyone who told me how to pronounce that. 228 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 1: I think that maybe try on the dress, but it 229 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:49,679 Speaker 1: seems as if both the bride and Ope have a 230 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 1: good solution of trying the dress and then if not, 231 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,480 Speaker 1: we find a dress that's similar. But yeah, Op is 232 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:58,079 Speaker 1: more comfortable in it. I think that is that is 233 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 1: a good answer. Tanja Sisney says she seems to stress 234 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 1: about things before they actually happen, and Jay Rose says 235 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 1: OPI is making assumptions based on insecurities. She needs to 236 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 1: at least try on the dress before deciding she needs 237 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 1: a different one. 238 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 3: I agree. 239 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:17,400 Speaker 1: Cherish high Vibes says as an older plus sized person, 240 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 1: I get it. I guess try it on and see 241 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: what they're working with. Maybe there are adjustments they can do. 242 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 1: I think that. 243 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 8: Yeah. 244 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 1: I think just trying it on is the first step 245 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 1: because that's the only way that she can kind of 246 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 1: prove to the bride, Hey, this doesn't work for me 247 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:35,000 Speaker 1: and I'm uncomfortable in it. But I think the bride 248 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: seems like she's getting a little mad because Op hasn't 249 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 1: tried it on. But it seems like the ending is 250 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 1: this ended well, they came to an agreement. They came 251 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:48,560 Speaker 1: back and they talked about it and they worked through 252 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 1: the issue. So, you know what, everyone sucks for a 253 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: little bit. But now everyone's good. 254 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:59,559 Speaker 2: Everyone's chill. Everyone's chilling, lest great chilling day, chilling. Oh 255 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 2: oh oh, I got it on the line. We're gonna 256 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:05,040 Speaker 2: see what the best solution for this person could be 257 00:12:05,080 --> 00:12:07,960 Speaker 2: fabric wise, what do you think I have? 258 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:08,679 Speaker 4: I don't know. 259 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:16,400 Speaker 2: Hello, can you hear me if you're on the show? Yeah? Actually, yeah, yeah, 260 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 2: actually you guys hear Okay. So basically there was a 261 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 2: plus you. 262 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 6: Can say plus yeah, all right, there was a plus 263 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:29,440 Speaker 6: sized woman, uh, getting invited to be a bridesmaid bridesmaid 264 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 6: and everyone wore very tight satin clothes and she didn't 265 00:12:36,240 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 6: want to wear them. What kind of like fabric do 266 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 6: you think she could have worn? 267 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 2: Or like, gosh, put spot. 268 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:49,200 Speaker 9: I reason like those a lot of kills on your body. 269 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: I think it's just because it's so shiny. 270 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:54,440 Speaker 9: Okay, so if something wasn't as shiny, then that would 271 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:58,680 Speaker 9: probably help. But yeah, because obviously, like the light reflects in, 272 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:01,320 Speaker 9: it can show all the old dibits and curves and 273 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:04,400 Speaker 9: everything that people might not want shown. But I mean, 274 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:07,120 Speaker 9: I feel like there could be some sort of like 275 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:10,480 Speaker 9: shapewear that could be worn to kind of smooth things out. 276 00:13:10,520 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 9: But of course that's pretty uncomfortable, so not a lot 277 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 9: of people want that. 278 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:17,360 Speaker 2: Boom, there you have it. 279 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: So not shiny. 280 00:13:18,559 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 2: Fabric, shiny, not shiny fabric. 281 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:23,559 Speaker 1: Not shiny fabric, That's what I'm thinking. 282 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:25,400 Speaker 2: All right, cool, thank you for your time. 283 00:13:25,559 --> 00:13:32,800 Speaker 1: Alrightye, yeah, no, I think that's I think. Yeah, if 284 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:38,360 Speaker 1: we're looking about how we fixing the solution of what dress, yeah, 285 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:40,959 Speaker 1: not satin. I was also going to say, because a 286 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:43,760 Speaker 1: lot of people were saying shapewear, but I think she 287 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 1: because she does have fibro mayalgia. 288 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:47,920 Speaker 4: There we go. 289 00:13:48,679 --> 00:13:52,199 Speaker 1: I believe we shapewear. I don't know. I don't know 290 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: the exact like how that works or what kind of 291 00:13:57,040 --> 00:13:59,559 Speaker 1: symptoms go along with that, but I don't know if 292 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:05,920 Speaker 1: that might be uncomfortable to wear if you yeah, physical pain. Yeah, 293 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 1: so I think that, Yeah, possibly looking for a different 294 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:11,080 Speaker 1: fabric would be the solution. 295 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, cool? Yeah. 296 00:14:15,360 --> 00:14:18,560 Speaker 6: Do you want to hear about the happy ending? The 297 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:19,520 Speaker 6: happy ending one? 298 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:24,680 Speaker 1: I suppose? So, Hello, Hello, what's up? 299 00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:26,800 Speaker 3: All right? 300 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 2: Can you tell us a little bit. 301 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:28,960 Speaker 1: Tell us about the story. 302 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 2: Tell us about the story real quick. 303 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:36,240 Speaker 5: Uh So, when I was nineteen and twenty twelve, I, oh, 304 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:40,760 Speaker 5: my god, Tricksy, go away. Sorry my dog. When I 305 00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:43,560 Speaker 5: was like nineteen and twenty twelve, I was in Esthetusian 306 00:14:43,640 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 5: school and I'm going to tell my dog to stop. 307 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:48,520 Speaker 7: Tricksy. 308 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:50,520 Speaker 2: The dog wants to be in the video like I 309 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:50,880 Speaker 2: want to. 310 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 5: She really does. She's a weader dog too. But basically 311 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 5: I I went to institution school and we had like placements, 312 00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 5: and at the placements, I was like already working somewhere 313 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:07,800 Speaker 5: I was, so it was fine. But there was this 314 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:13,920 Speaker 5: like quite large woman, like like plus size individual that 315 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 5: I went to school with. And when I say plus size, 316 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:17,800 Speaker 5: I mean she was very very short, so it was 317 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 5: like amplified and one of the issues that she had 318 00:15:23,880 --> 00:15:27,960 Speaker 5: was like finding accommodations for her size. So this inner 319 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:31,120 Speaker 5: this place had reached out and said they'll take someone on. 320 00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:34,760 Speaker 5: And so she went to the parlor, which is like 321 00:15:34,760 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 5: an esthetician school or assitician, you know what I mean, 322 00:15:38,400 --> 00:15:42,160 Speaker 5: like a beauty like a saw. So she went there 323 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 5: and she said on her first day she was just 324 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 5: doing laundry in the back. But then like she saw 325 00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 5: this little bell at the front, and someone hit the 326 00:15:50,440 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 5: bell and then all the women lined up and like 327 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 5: the person who paid for it would just pick one 328 00:15:57,280 --> 00:15:59,400 Speaker 5: and they would go in a room, and like that 329 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:03,560 Speaker 5: was it. And so like a couple weeks went by 330 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:05,200 Speaker 5: and she was telling me this every day, like I'm 331 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 5: uncomfortable and like you had got to get. 332 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 4: Out of this. 333 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Like I'm. 334 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 5: Like, you got to get out of this. And she's like, oh, 335 00:16:11,080 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 5: I'm gonna you know, I'm thinking about it. I'm thinking 336 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 5: about it, but they'll never want me anyway, like she thought, 337 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:17,920 Speaker 5: was like she has like a confidence issue. I was 338 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 5: always like, girl, you're better than you think. 339 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:21,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. 340 00:16:21,640 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: But so one day she was there and this was 341 00:16:24,680 --> 00:16:25,520 Speaker 1: the quitting point. 342 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:28,920 Speaker 5: She basically went and was doing laundry and she was 343 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 5: at the front to go talk to her manager when 344 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 5: someone dang the bell and the guy picked. 345 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:35,000 Speaker 1: Her no. 346 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 5: Yeah, And so she freaked out and through the towel 347 00:16:39,960 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 5: and was like e f this and left. And I 348 00:16:42,680 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 5: was like when she told me the next day, I 349 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:46,760 Speaker 5: was like, girl, you like, oh my god, that's oh 350 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 5: my god. You dodged a bullet, Like you needed to 351 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 5: leave earlier. 352 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:51,400 Speaker 2: But holy crap, did she like them. 353 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 5: Yeah, we ended up reporting them to the school. And 354 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:55,800 Speaker 5: this is in Canada by the way. 355 00:16:55,960 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: Okay, so the fact that the fact that they didn't 356 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:00,200 Speaker 1: disclose that before. 357 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 5: Yeah, and what was crazy was like the school didn't 358 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 5: know and so like we had to go with like 359 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:09,320 Speaker 5: to talk to the dean and like all of that. 360 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:13,720 Speaker 5: But yeah, they got canceled. Thank got from our school roster, 361 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:16,680 Speaker 5: so like they would never be allowed to take someone 362 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 5: on again. 363 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:20,159 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, is that Wait? What is the rules 364 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 2: about happy endings and Canada? 365 00:17:24,480 --> 00:17:27,800 Speaker 5: Well, there aren't very many rules for estheticians in Canada 366 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:33,520 Speaker 5: or anything happy ending, which is really stupid. Yeah, Basically, 367 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:38,200 Speaker 5: they have to give a health inspection notice over three 368 00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:42,080 Speaker 5: weeks in advance, so the place, like the establishment will 369 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:45,199 Speaker 5: just clean it up really really fast right before the 370 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 5: like date, so like it never get caught. And it's 371 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 5: what they that place was doing was they were having 372 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:56,080 Speaker 5: her clean as like an unpaid labor because it was 373 00:17:56,119 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 5: a placement, and so she was doing all the cleaning 374 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:03,200 Speaker 5: and stuff before the inspector would come, and the girls 375 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:07,119 Speaker 5: would pretend they were just regular estheticians and it was 376 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:08,240 Speaker 5: very strange. 377 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:10,800 Speaker 1: Were the other Wait, I don't know if you said this, 378 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:13,480 Speaker 1: were the other girls sent from that school or they 379 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:14,399 Speaker 1: were sent from something. 380 00:18:14,520 --> 00:18:17,920 Speaker 5: No, they were just workers that they applied to be there, 381 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:20,280 Speaker 5: and they were there to make bank with their tips. 382 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:24,440 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Glad she got out of there. 383 00:18:24,720 --> 00:18:25,879 Speaker 2: Glad she got out of there. 384 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:29,199 Speaker 5: Well, yeah, I have a lot of other stories. But 385 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 5: another time, yeah, another time. 386 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:35,680 Speaker 1: That was a great story. That's exactly what I would 387 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:37,480 Speaker 1: want out of the story about having. 388 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:40,879 Speaker 5: It was a little scary, but you know, it worked 389 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:42,720 Speaker 5: out in the sense that she got to run away. 390 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 2: And yeah. 391 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, thank you, thank you, thank. 392 00:18:47,320 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 2: You and uh for your time and calling in for 393 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:51,560 Speaker 2: it with us. 394 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:54,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, well, thank you for having me on the show. 395 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:57,919 Speaker 5: And yeah, maybe I'll submit more stuff. 396 00:18:57,960 --> 00:18:58,480 Speaker 7: But do you. 397 00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:02,160 Speaker 1: Please do please do have a good one, have a good, 398 00:19:03,080 --> 00:19:04,879 Speaker 1: great story. Wow, exactly what I wanted. 399 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:05,880 Speaker 4: I love that. 400 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 1: I was really worried about the happy ending stories and 401 00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 1: that was the perfect one. 402 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 6: Yeah, you can trust you can trust us. You could 403 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:15,320 Speaker 6: tell me you can trust us and chat. We never 404 00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:18,560 Speaker 6: do anything like that for to you. Actually maybe we 405 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 6: would or to you. 406 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:23,240 Speaker 1: So the question of today and actually that story fit 407 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:26,600 Speaker 1: into our question perfect When do you stand up for yourself. 408 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:29,240 Speaker 1: You stand up to yourself. When you get paid they 409 00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 1: ask you to freaking yeah, they pick you for a happytas. 410 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:35,119 Speaker 2: Honestly, if I was heard the soul so selfish, I 411 00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:37,880 Speaker 2: would stay until they picked me to be like would 412 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:40,960 Speaker 2: anyone want me to do that? And then I'd be like, 413 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 2: all right, I'm done. What Sometimes I apply to things 414 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:45,399 Speaker 2: just to see if I. 415 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 1: Don't like your confidence? 416 00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:47,640 Speaker 3: Yeah? 417 00:19:47,680 --> 00:19:50,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, like sir, I applied to early college just to see. 418 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:52,240 Speaker 6: If I'd get accepted and then it ended up going 419 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:55,119 Speaker 6: Or like sometimes I would apply to jobs just to 420 00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 6: see if i'd get like, you know, a round or 421 00:19:57,560 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 6: two in with my experience. 422 00:19:59,119 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 1: Interesting? 423 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:02,320 Speaker 2: Interesting, but I never like, you know, do it? 424 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 3: Wow? 425 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:07,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, you love us. Make sure to subscribe We love 426 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:09,240 Speaker 2: you and see you tomorrow. 427 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:12,840 Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives. 428 00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:19,399 Speaker 8: Time for okop Relash fired me with no notice. Fine, 429 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 8: I'll destroy your entire company. Why not just be a 430 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,920 Speaker 8: simp for capitalism? Why not just be a cog in 431 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:25,439 Speaker 8: the machine. 432 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:28,320 Speaker 7: Why can we not just be at the beckon bow 433 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:29,640 Speaker 7: of our corporate overlord? 434 00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:32,440 Speaker 8: Why can't you just lean over and let the monopoly 435 00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 8: man stick a whole honking hard bunch of cash up 436 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:38,119 Speaker 8: that tight little sphincter. 437 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:39,399 Speaker 3: You got that, oh judge. 438 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 8: So start of December, I was let go of my 439 00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 8: job because they didn't have the time to train me 440 00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:47,240 Speaker 8: for the job role. I need to take out a 441 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:49,520 Speaker 8: loan to survive, as it took me three weeks to 442 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 8: find something new. I was hired for a customer services 443 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 8: administrator role and I'd never done that type of work. 444 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,199 Speaker 8: And I was told I'd be given full training on 445 00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 8: the job. You know, like may be for a job 446 00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:02,480 Speaker 8: you have a numb before, they give you full training. 447 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 8: Even for a job you have done before, usually there 448 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:05,679 Speaker 8: is some training. 449 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:08,840 Speaker 7: Sam that is that is unacceptable. He should come in 450 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:09,840 Speaker 7: with no training and know. 451 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:12,640 Speaker 8: Exactly how to do it. Yeah, unacceptable. Hey, why aren't 452 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:15,320 Speaker 8: you a robot? Why aren't you the freaking terminator. 453 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 4: Already? 454 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 3: Let me give you these Please terminate these actions. 455 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,600 Speaker 7: That's gonna be those that's gonna be the voice of 456 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:25,920 Speaker 7: chat GBT once it starts talking to us. 457 00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:27,399 Speaker 3: What do you want to know? 458 00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:30,639 Speaker 8: The girls in my office never bothered, and I simply 459 00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 8: learnt the job myself. I was then told my performance 460 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:37,880 Speaker 8: was more than they expected, but suddenly was called into 461 00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 8: the office at eight thirty am and when I arrived 462 00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:43,199 Speaker 8: and they told me they were really sorry, but they 463 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:45,680 Speaker 8: didn't have the time to train me, so I would 464 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:49,119 Speaker 8: be let go immediately with no warning or notice. And 465 00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 8: I was completely shocked by this. 466 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:52,760 Speaker 4: We don't have the time. 467 00:21:56,720 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 8: Yeah, I swear, I swear God to add my contracts 468 00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:03,240 Speaker 8: stated I was to be given twenty eight days notice 469 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:09,440 Speaker 8: of termination. So they be breaching contract. Yoh, they think 470 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 8: they're too big for their breches. Little do they know 471 00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:16,720 Speaker 8: that there are some breaching bitches, as in breaching that contract. 472 00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:21,640 Speaker 8: Oh damn. The company who worked more uses government grants 473 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 8: as a form of payment, so they would regularly claim 474 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 8: they have done certain things they haven't to make more 475 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:32,800 Speaker 8: profits from the government, such as forging signatures what and 476 00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:36,159 Speaker 8: lying about the work they have done to get more funding. 477 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:39,080 Speaker 7: What bro They definitely need to be shut down. 478 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 3: What it sounds like a shitty, shitty company. 479 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:45,320 Speaker 7: Op aside, like this is it's fraud. This is literally fraud. 480 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:48,360 Speaker 8: Basically, we get funding from the government for providing services 481 00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:51,159 Speaker 8: to lower income customers and that's all I can say. 482 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,399 Speaker 8: It's a small company, and the director would constantly hassle them. 483 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:57,000 Speaker 8: The forged signatures as we can get the jobs through 484 00:22:57,080 --> 00:23:00,280 Speaker 8: quicker if we do so, and if we had an it, 485 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,560 Speaker 8: he would go to prison for what was being done. 486 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:05,760 Speaker 8: Oh my god. 487 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:06,160 Speaker 4: Bro. 488 00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,359 Speaker 8: When I got laid off not by my manager but 489 00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:11,960 Speaker 8: someone who worked at the same level in my department, 490 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 8: I was absolutely livid. 491 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:14,639 Speaker 4: Yeah. 492 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:17,439 Speaker 8: I mean they dragged me in a sixty to eighty 493 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:20,480 Speaker 8: minute drive across town for me to leave two minutes 494 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,560 Speaker 8: later and I got home and so I immediately called 495 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:26,200 Speaker 8: the fraud whistleblower helpline. 496 00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:29,400 Speaker 3: So, oh ope, he's gone nuclear. Bro, Ope, he's gone nuclear. 497 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:29,760 Speaker 3: All right. 498 00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:34,520 Speaker 8: Nothing came of this until oh a week later, okay 499 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 8: of roller Coaster, when the FED wanted more details. Thing is, 500 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:42,480 Speaker 8: I'm very good at being silent and taking in my surroundings. 501 00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:46,119 Speaker 8: Ohp he is an observant as heck man. I was 502 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:49,000 Speaker 8: able to tell them which accounts had been forged and 503 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:52,439 Speaker 8: lied about. I also had considerable email evidence of what 504 00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:53,240 Speaker 8: had been going on. 505 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:53,640 Speaker 4: Yo. 506 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,399 Speaker 8: Yeah, if you're going to do illegal shit, don't record 507 00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:58,439 Speaker 8: it and don't email about it. I hate all these 508 00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:01,280 Speaker 8: videos of kids like knocking some other kid out and 509 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:05,119 Speaker 8: be like world store that posted on their Instagram and 510 00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:07,560 Speaker 8: then they get an assault charge, Like you're gonna be stupid, 511 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:08,919 Speaker 8: don't be stupid in public. 512 00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:11,240 Speaker 7: That's like do you remember Boom Gang was that he 513 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:13,440 Speaker 7: was this dude in Florida. He would take shit and 514 00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:16,320 Speaker 7: like run away. That was his classic thing. But one 515 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,840 Speaker 7: of his his specialty was like going into a fast 516 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:22,400 Speaker 7: food place like dunkin Donuts or like KFC and literally 517 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:25,000 Speaker 7: he like go into dunkin Donuts, jump over the counter 518 00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:26,040 Speaker 7: and just take a whole. 519 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 4: Rack of donuts and just walk out. Did yeah. 520 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,960 Speaker 7: He eventually he he eventually got like he likes you know, 521 00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:34,879 Speaker 7: it's like petty theft or whatever. 522 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:40,159 Speaker 8: Wow, imagine stealing a tray of dunkin Donuts. But Internet points, bro, 523 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:41,800 Speaker 8: how dumb do you have to be? 524 00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:42,159 Speaker 7: So? 525 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 3: Long story short. 526 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:47,880 Speaker 8: A few weeks later, the majority lost their jobs, including 527 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,119 Speaker 8: the people who couldn't be bothered to train me and 528 00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,879 Speaker 8: went running to the director to fire me, including the 529 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 8: director who is now being investigated for fraud and facing 530 00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:03,000 Speaker 8: time in prison and a massive fine. I always lived 531 00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:05,560 Speaker 8: by the mantra fuck around and find. 532 00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:10,440 Speaker 4: Out they found out. Honestly, that's some. 533 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:13,360 Speaker 3: That's some some like a grade revenge. 534 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:17,320 Speaker 7: This is this is a legendary, like like anti work, 535 00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:19,800 Speaker 7: malicious compliance to the maximum. 536 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 8: Oh yeah, OP should teach a masterclass in corporate espionage actually, 537 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:29,760 Speaker 8: because you know, Coke would probably pay a billion dollars 538 00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:34,199 Speaker 8: for this PEPSI kidding me. Nestley, Wow, look up NESTLEI 539 00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 8: they do some. 540 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:36,600 Speaker 3: Fucked up ship Uh. 541 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 4: Oh you know, Nesli, I mean I know. 542 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:43,919 Speaker 3: No, they literally have slaves, really literally slaves. 543 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,960 Speaker 8: Oh my god for what? Uh for chocolate product? Oh 544 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:51,160 Speaker 8: my chocolate. Nestle is in insanity. A messed up company. Geez, 545 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,440 Speaker 8: but you know what, it's also messed up in the 546 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:55,680 Speaker 8: delicious way. 547 00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:57,240 Speaker 3: Slide. 548 00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,000 Speaker 4: Okayo pie, what a twist? 549 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:04,640 Speaker 8: Doould you submit your amazing stories and your delicious, delectable 550 00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:07,639 Speaker 8: secrets are slash OKOP show so we can react and 551 00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:08,080 Speaker 8: read to them. 552 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,479 Speaker 3: Send them in, Send him in, Baby. I didn't pay 553 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:15,399 Speaker 3: my fiance's mother five thousand dollars, so she ruined my 554 00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 3: life and now we're homeless. Okay, welcome to OKOP. 555 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,320 Speaker 8: I'm Samuel Daughter and I'm John Fratt, and we tell 556 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,560 Speaker 8: the funniest stories on the Internet. 557 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,199 Speaker 3: And John, I have a title for you right now. 558 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 4: I am excited. We got some good ones today. 559 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:32,960 Speaker 3: I didn't pay my fiance's mother five thousand dollars. So 560 00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:36,160 Speaker 3: she ruined my life and now we're homeless. 561 00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:39,159 Speaker 7: Man, you know, five thousand dollars and your life is 562 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,639 Speaker 7: ruined and you're homeless. Like rough, We're not off to 563 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:44,480 Speaker 7: it because we haven't read the first sentence and we 564 00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:46,400 Speaker 7: are not in a good place right. 565 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 3: Here we go. This just emotionally strapping. This one's tough. 566 00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:55,200 Speaker 8: This story is extremely hard for me to tell because 567 00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:57,480 Speaker 8: I'm still feeling the effects of it. However, I feel 568 00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:01,080 Speaker 8: like I need to because this story features the most 569 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:03,560 Speaker 8: entitled parents I've ever met. 570 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,840 Speaker 3: In my whole life. But we've had a lot of le. 571 00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:09,479 Speaker 4: Parents. 572 00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:11,520 Speaker 3: This stacks up, baby. 573 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 5: See. 574 00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,159 Speaker 8: This is the story of how my life has been 575 00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,640 Speaker 8: ruined because, like the title states, I refuse to pay 576 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:26,719 Speaker 8: my fiance's mother five thousand dollars Buckarooney's sand dollars. Zimbabwayan knuckles, Well, 577 00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:29,440 Speaker 8: there'd be a lot more zimbabwe do Yeah, dude, it's 578 00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:32,399 Speaker 8: like what like a trillion dollars one American dollar something 579 00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,439 Speaker 8: like that. Started out simple enough, as any story starts 580 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:38,560 Speaker 8: in August of twenty nineteen, when my fiance and I 581 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,159 Speaker 8: were dating my parents, who I was staying with at 582 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,760 Speaker 8: the time to care for my stepmother after a surgery. 583 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:47,359 Speaker 8: Another story in itself, wanted me to leave because they 584 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,159 Speaker 8: couldn't make out and do them as much as they 585 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:50,600 Speaker 8: wanted to. 586 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:54,720 Speaker 3: Could you imagine you gotta go because I gotta go. 587 00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:59,960 Speaker 3: I got it. We're gonna make some Simba noises over 588 00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:02,680 Speaker 3: some simp noises. I don't know. 589 00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 8: My buddy sent me a picture of some lions getting 590 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 8: it on. Oh, and then I sent it to my 591 00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:12,879 Speaker 8: friend who was single, and I'm like, you'll find your 592 00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:15,960 Speaker 8: special someone soon. So they told me this in a 593 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:19,080 Speaker 8: very abrupt manner and expected me to leave fairly quickly, 594 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,119 Speaker 8: giving me no time to prepare. 595 00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:24,480 Speaker 3: Guess when you gotta get it on, you gotta get 596 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:24,639 Speaker 3: it on. 597 00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:30,520 Speaker 7: Absurdity of the scenario like I cannot even imagine. 598 00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:34,240 Speaker 8: My fiance kindly asked his mother, who he was staying with, 599 00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:36,439 Speaker 8: if I could live with them long enough for us 600 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 8: to get in an apartment together. He stressed to her 601 00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:40,600 Speaker 8: that it would be difficult for us to get an 602 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 8: apartment ourselves because we're just starting out, and while we 603 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:47,000 Speaker 8: could cover monetary expenses, we would still most likely need 604 00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:49,440 Speaker 8: a co signer. Dude like getting an apartment is tough 605 00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:51,719 Speaker 8: without a co signer. I think I needed my parents 606 00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:54,200 Speaker 8: to co sign my first apartment because I didn't have 607 00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:55,760 Speaker 8: any income when I came out of college. 608 00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,120 Speaker 7: This is true, I will say the last two apartments 609 00:28:58,200 --> 00:28:59,600 Speaker 7: I co signed myself. 610 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:01,920 Speaker 3: Big man, look at you. 611 00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,560 Speaker 8: She promised both me and him that if we couldn't 612 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:11,080 Speaker 8: qualify for an apartment ourselves, she would co sign for us, 613 00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,840 Speaker 8: which seems nice. Maybe not an entitled parent, after all. 614 00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 7: We will see by the way I want to do 615 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,040 Speaker 7: this with the entitled parents. At the end, we should 616 00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:22,840 Speaker 7: give zero out of ten karens. 617 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,480 Speaker 8: Out of ten karens, how many karens? This so I 618 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 8: moved from Illinois to Florida Within a week of me 619 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:32,000 Speaker 8: being in the house. Fiance's mother made. 620 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:33,719 Speaker 3: Our lives are living. 621 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,600 Speaker 4: They just need to hire you for Jurassic. 622 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:46,680 Speaker 3: What are my noises? 623 00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:50,600 Speaker 7: If only these stories featured dinosaurs. 624 00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:54,200 Speaker 8: When I first met my girlfriend's parents, the feedback that 625 00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:57,080 Speaker 8: I got from Ariana's I think you could have stopped 626 00:29:57,120 --> 00:30:00,800 Speaker 8: pretending to be a Tyrannosaurus Rex for a little bit 627 00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:07,200 Speaker 8: more time. Apparently I did my t Rex impression too 628 00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,560 Speaker 8: often in front of her parents. Meeting her for the 629 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:12,000 Speaker 8: first time. But the t Rex impression is so good. 630 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:13,600 Speaker 4: Let's see it. Let's see it. 631 00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 7: Oh my god, listen. If if my daughter came home 632 00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:31,800 Speaker 7: with that, I would be like, why is there not 633 00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:32,840 Speaker 7: a ring yet? 634 00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:36,240 Speaker 3: Why is there not a kind of part? 635 00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:36,720 Speaker 8: I need? 636 00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:40,160 Speaker 3: John? So t Rex should be a selling point, baby, 637 00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,040 Speaker 3: go off, king, King of the jungle. 638 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,560 Speaker 4: King of the fucking prestar era whatever the fuck era 639 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:47,320 Speaker 4: the dinosase? 640 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, ship, give me that ship, bro. 641 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:52,880 Speaker 8: Despite me landing a job within a week and having 642 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:55,440 Speaker 8: to work late nights for said job, she would come 643 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:59,280 Speaker 8: into the living room each morning at varying stupidly early 644 00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:04,240 Speaker 8: hours to tell you need to do something doctor, While 645 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:08,080 Speaker 8: she goes back to sleep like a dumb little dumb 646 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:11,600 Speaker 8: dumb dummerson until nine am, she would complain that we 647 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,920 Speaker 8: weren't cleaning the dishes. Did she sounds like an evil stepmother? 648 00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:18,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely not cleaning the dishes, and. 649 00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:20,240 Speaker 3: That we had used to make a meal, or that 650 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:21,520 Speaker 3: we were still eating. 651 00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:22,200 Speaker 4: How dare you? 652 00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 3: How dare you not cleaning the dishes while you're still eating? 653 00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 8: She would gaslight and pick petty fights with my fiance 654 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,840 Speaker 8: and then play the victim like a true narcissist. It 655 00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:35,640 Speaker 8: got so bad that a few weeks in we decided 656 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 8: to rent a hotel room for the weekend, just to 657 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:40,040 Speaker 8: get away from her and have some alone time. We 658 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,800 Speaker 8: had our apartment picked out anyway, all we need to 659 00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:45,280 Speaker 8: do when we got back was sign some paperwork and 660 00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:50,640 Speaker 8: then we'd be away from her deathly grip. Hallelujah, hallelujah, 661 00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 8: and it'll be fine. 662 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:55,200 Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, wrong, wrong. 663 00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:59,000 Speaker 8: After the weekend, fiance's mother drove us back to her house. 664 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,880 Speaker 8: On the way back, she sprung something on me. 665 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:06,760 Speaker 3: She wanted us to pay her five thousand dollars five 666 00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:11,600 Speaker 3: thousand smack of rooms twenty trillion Zimbabwe dollars. I want 667 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:12,960 Speaker 3: everything to be in Zimbabwe. 668 00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 4: Do everything now is adjusted for hyper hyper inflation? 669 00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,080 Speaker 8: Yeah, dude, I want to invest in I guess I 670 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:20,680 Speaker 8: should invest in Zimbabwe dollars. 671 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:25,360 Speaker 7: I know I should maybe maybe you know, it's gotten 672 00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:27,760 Speaker 7: to a point where like what goes up must come down. 673 00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,280 Speaker 7: So if the inflation has gone so high, guys, I 674 00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:34,520 Speaker 7: think we found the next bitcoin here or I was just. 675 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:36,640 Speaker 8: About to say, probab, they're probably just gonna move to bitcoin, 676 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:37,840 Speaker 8: like all this small country is. 677 00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:40,320 Speaker 4: Like they should they should shout out, shout out eight coin. 678 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:44,160 Speaker 8: Yeah, shout out El Salvador. They're on the bitcoin train. 679 00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:47,080 Speaker 8: For context, my fiance was going to be receiving a 680 00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,400 Speaker 8: nine thousand dollars medical settlement a few months from that point. 681 00:32:50,520 --> 00:32:52,800 Speaker 8: Before he met me, he had told his mother that 682 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:55,440 Speaker 8: if he was still single, he would give her five 683 00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:58,280 Speaker 8: thousand dollars. Bro, that's a lot towards a trailer that 684 00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,720 Speaker 8: they would both own and live intogether. You know, this 685 00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:02,120 Speaker 8: doesn't sound like a good deal. 686 00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:03,240 Speaker 4: It's just weird. 687 00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:06,560 Speaker 3: It's like his mom that in a trailer that, like, 688 00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:07,840 Speaker 3: doesn't he already have a house? 689 00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:08,360 Speaker 5: Yeah? 690 00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:09,840 Speaker 4: I wondered that as well. 691 00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:13,360 Speaker 7: And also the proposition of like, if I'm single, I 692 00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:15,560 Speaker 7: will give you five thousand dollars for a space. 693 00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,560 Speaker 4: It's just kind of a weird. I mean, it's cool 694 00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:19,880 Speaker 4: that he's giving his mom. 695 00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:23,240 Speaker 3: I don't know, like the if I'm single, it gives me. 696 00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:26,360 Speaker 3: It gives me a funk. What's that? What's that story? 697 00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:30,480 Speaker 3: The Greek story about the guy that hooks up with 698 00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:30,920 Speaker 3: his mom? 699 00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:31,200 Speaker 4: Oh? 700 00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:32,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I'm talking about. Right? 701 00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:33,480 Speaker 4: Why are they always banging? 702 00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:38,600 Speaker 3: It's not like sis, it's not it's a it's it's 703 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:41,160 Speaker 3: a complex Oedipus. 704 00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:41,640 Speaker 4: There we go. 705 00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,520 Speaker 8: Yeah, like my main man Oedipus. This guy's got an 706 00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:46,720 Speaker 8: Oedipus complex. Yeah, that's a deep cut. 707 00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:49,520 Speaker 4: Deep yeah, bro o. 708 00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,080 Speaker 8: Like when I was on a call and this guy 709 00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:56,080 Speaker 8: referenced some like Disney like about like like ducktails. You 710 00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:58,320 Speaker 8: referenced that, and he's like, that's a deep cut, and 711 00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:00,760 Speaker 8: I'm like, I fucking love that. I'm gonna steal it. Yeah, 712 00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:03,680 Speaker 8: So I'm gonna start saying deep cuts now. Since my 713 00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,640 Speaker 8: spouse and I are dating and very serious at the time, 714 00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:11,000 Speaker 8: this was extremely confusing that she would demand this. My 715 00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,160 Speaker 8: fiance tried to explain to her that he had only 716 00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:16,360 Speaker 8: promised to give her money if he was single. He's like, ma, 717 00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:20,520 Speaker 8: you cramp my style and my style. Ma, the hooks 718 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:24,000 Speaker 8: with this This young lady or man, I'm not really young, 719 00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 8: is young? Yeah, this sweet young thang. 720 00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:30,960 Speaker 3: And you're like, let's move into a trailer together and also. 721 00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:32,480 Speaker 4: Pay for it. I'll pass. 722 00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,360 Speaker 8: Yeah, no, thank you, no, thank you. This kind of 723 00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,279 Speaker 8: relates back to the beginning of the story. If you're 724 00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:41,319 Speaker 8: trying to spang after the wedding, like you don't want 725 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:48,400 Speaker 8: your mom to begin the worst threesome. Ever, she was 726 00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,680 Speaker 8: having none of it and attempted to gaslight him about it. 727 00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:55,000 Speaker 8: When that didn't work, she turned to me and requested 728 00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:58,000 Speaker 8: that this show is sponsored by Better Help. We've seen 729 00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:02,160 Speaker 8: some wild stories with some great relationships, and although we 730 00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:05,560 Speaker 8: love reading these stories, I think sometimes it could be 731 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:09,160 Speaker 8: helpful to have someone who can really help and talk through. 732 00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:10,160 Speaker 4: These things exactly. 733 00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,600 Speaker 7: Maybe asking strangers on the internet isn't the best place 734 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:15,759 Speaker 7: to get advice, but it is a fun place. It's 735 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,720 Speaker 7: a fun place. 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I could like swallow 748 00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:54,279 Speaker 3: twenty cucumbers right now. 749 00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:57,600 Speaker 7: Well, Sam, I know you love gobbling down them cucumbers. 750 00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:01,240 Speaker 7: But look, eating healthy doesn't mean you have to be sloppy, Samuel. 751 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:04,280 Speaker 7: The best way to eat fresh is with Hello Fresh. 752 00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:08,400 Speaker 8: He's so easy we should cancel all grocery stores and 753 00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:10,440 Speaker 8: move them to a deserted island because. 754 00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:13,880 Speaker 3: HelloFresh is way more convenient. And they send meals right 755 00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:15,480 Speaker 3: to your door. 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I only 775 00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:08,360 Speaker 8: had about five thousand dollars in my bank account at 776 00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:11,120 Speaker 8: the time, so I could not do that and pay 777 00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:13,560 Speaker 8: the rent for the apartment at the same time. So, uh, 778 00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 8: OPI is is screwed When she realized she couldn't squeeze 779 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:18,680 Speaker 8: blood from a stone. 780 00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:19,560 Speaker 3: Which what a great mind. 781 00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:21,480 Speaker 4: I thought, that was, like, Wow, what a great. 782 00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:22,280 Speaker 3: Great metaphor. 783 00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:26,719 Speaker 8: My fiance's mother finally declared, well, I guess you don't 784 00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:28,239 Speaker 8: have a coin that. 785 00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:32,239 Speaker 3: With my fiance, which which sucks because now they can't 786 00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:32,880 Speaker 3: get an apartment. 787 00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:33,000 Speaker 5: Bro. 788 00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:34,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not good. 789 00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,360 Speaker 8: With my fiance being on SSI, which I think is 790 00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:40,040 Speaker 8: like disability due to injuries that left him disabled, and 791 00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:42,919 Speaker 8: me making a minimum wage, her refusing to co sign 792 00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:47,240 Speaker 8: to an apartment essentially left us with no housing options. 793 00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:50,520 Speaker 8: Florida requires applicants to make three times the price of 794 00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 8: the rent on any given place, and rent in our 795 00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:57,200 Speaker 8: area is very high. Finding a roommate situation that accepts 796 00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:01,120 Speaker 8: couples is nigh on impossible, and renting houses were out 797 00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:03,560 Speaker 8: as well, once again due to not having enough income, 798 00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:05,600 Speaker 8: so they're just they're in a tough situation. They don't 799 00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:07,120 Speaker 8: have enough money to get anything. 800 00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:08,600 Speaker 4: Rock and a hardy bro situation. 801 00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:10,480 Speaker 8: And like it's not like in the nineteen fifties. We're 802 00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:13,160 Speaker 8: like I got my patriock today, I think we'll buy 803 00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:16,200 Speaker 8: a house. It's like bro, like every everyone's out here 804 00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,839 Speaker 8: trying to fucking survive. Yeah, for real, no one can 805 00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:21,640 Speaker 8: buy a house these days. Nah nah na unless you 806 00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,399 Speaker 8: unless you're rich and you're going off that okop money, 807 00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:28,719 Speaker 8: that's right. Just we're not making any money. Yes, eventually 808 00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:32,040 Speaker 8: soon come, maybe we should make a Patreon. I feel 809 00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:33,839 Speaker 8: like we people would support our patreon. 810 00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:35,520 Speaker 7: Right, yeah, that's true. Put in the comments if you 811 00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:36,720 Speaker 7: would support our patreon. 812 00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:38,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, let us put in the comments. Please. 813 00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:43,280 Speaker 8: We're broke. We're broke. We're very broke. My fiance's mother's 814 00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:47,040 Speaker 8: behavior worsened. With nowhere to go, we jump ship and 815 00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:49,960 Speaker 8: move to a local hotel. But only three months of 816 00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:53,480 Speaker 8: this drained our finances because hotels damn expensive. 817 00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:56,200 Speaker 7: Why would you, I guess I get it's hard, but 818 00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:59,920 Speaker 7: why hotel because hotels are like at such a premium. 819 00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:00,759 Speaker 4: Yeah, I would do. 820 00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:03,080 Speaker 7: I would do like a room in someone's house on Craigslist. 821 00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:04,520 Speaker 7: That's that's a hack for anyone. 822 00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:06,480 Speaker 3: That's the move. That's a move. 823 00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:08,200 Speaker 8: Actually, I need to I need to talk one of 824 00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:10,640 Speaker 8: my friends, Mike is probably the best traveler I know, 825 00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,440 Speaker 8: and he literally travels for free everywhere. 826 00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:14,000 Speaker 4: Wow. 827 00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:17,600 Speaker 8: And he's just this app called Couchsurfer. Oh, or you 828 00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:19,920 Speaker 8: can stay anywhere for free, right right right. You have 829 00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:21,839 Speaker 8: to build up like credibility or whatever on the app. 830 00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,040 Speaker 8: But like he was literally in Kyrgyzstan for the past 831 00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:29,040 Speaker 8: three months, riding horses through these kurful planes. Yeah, Krgyzstan. Wow, 832 00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:30,680 Speaker 8: it's like in the middle of nowhere. I feel like 833 00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:32,720 Speaker 8: I've never actually heard Yeah. 834 00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:34,560 Speaker 3: I did Kirgyzstan. I only heard of it before. 835 00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:38,239 Speaker 4: Kurdistan, Kirgustan, Kirgustan. I don't know about no Kurk. 836 00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:45,600 Speaker 3: I know about kurd I don't know about k It's beautiful, guys. 837 00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:47,680 Speaker 7: The next the next episode of Okay with people from 838 00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:51,200 Speaker 7: be from a couch in Kyrgyzstan with horses in the background. 839 00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:55,239 Speaker 8: Dude, he's like such a talented photographer. It's I'm like you. 840 00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:57,239 Speaker 8: By the way, if anyone wants to look it up. 841 00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:00,560 Speaker 7: That's right, blow up his page comment and eggplant on 842 00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:06,560 Speaker 7: his latest picture. Oh wow, yeah he was there. Oh 843 00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:14,319 Speaker 7: my gosh, wow, that's crazy. It's just like pure nature. Wow, 844 00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:17,719 Speaker 7: that's that's all. All of that is krghyzstan Wow. 845 00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:20,080 Speaker 3: Dang for the chat like this is my friend Mike 846 00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:23,160 Speaker 3: or for the for everyone. 847 00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:30,560 Speaker 8: Come on here, we can see that close enough. But anyway, 848 00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:33,000 Speaker 8: I Mike you on Instagram if you want to check 849 00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:36,360 Speaker 8: it out. So uh, it drained his finances. I did 850 00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,239 Speaker 8: totally to that plan this. We then couchsurfed with some 851 00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:43,319 Speaker 8: of my fiances acquaintances, but a lot of them were 852 00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:46,600 Speaker 8: not good people and we were used and stolen from 853 00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:51,520 Speaker 8: several times. Those the eight Friends bro No, all right, 854 00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:53,920 Speaker 8: this actually just kind of gets sad. We ended up 855 00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:58,120 Speaker 8: sleeping in the deep freezer of an abandoned Hooters until 856 00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:00,760 Speaker 8: the building was almost torn down in as by construction 857 00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:01,560 Speaker 8: workers one day. 858 00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:03,760 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, dude, does. 859 00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:07,399 Speaker 4: Not sound like a hoot, the antithesis of a hoot. 860 00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:10,839 Speaker 8: After that, my fiance's mother bought us a tent. How 861 00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:13,200 Speaker 8: nice it for a tent, and we ended up living 862 00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,080 Speaker 8: in the woods. Well, I tried to hold down a job. 863 00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:19,320 Speaker 8: See camping is nice at all, but camping for survival 864 00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:20,279 Speaker 8: is less nice, bro. 865 00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:23,200 Speaker 7: Also, what what mother is like, Hey, get out of 866 00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:25,640 Speaker 7: my house. I'm gonna make you sleep in a freezer 867 00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:27,319 Speaker 7: and sleep in the woods like. 868 00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:29,440 Speaker 3: Terrible mother, a terrible mother. 869 00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:29,840 Speaker 4: Awful. 870 00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:32,520 Speaker 8: There's there's some crap going on beneath the surface that 871 00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:36,040 Speaker 8: probably isn't covered in this post. But damn yeah, I'm 872 00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:37,439 Speaker 8: just I'm just grateful for my mom. 873 00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:43,120 Speaker 3: Man. True, I've met John's mother. Mom's never do that 874 00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:43,719 Speaker 3: to John. 875 00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:45,160 Speaker 4: She really would never. 876 00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:49,920 Speaker 7: So short story, we we did a speaking gig together 877 00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:53,200 Speaker 7: in Nashville and my mom literally came out to see 878 00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:53,840 Speaker 7: Dave Ramsey. 879 00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:58,600 Speaker 4: But also, yeah, and she drove us everywhere everywhere. She's 880 00:41:58,640 --> 00:41:59,200 Speaker 4: a real one. 881 00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:02,080 Speaker 3: She is is my favorite. 882 00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,080 Speaker 8: My favorite encounter with John's mom was when she was 883 00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:08,320 Speaker 8: talking about movies and she was like, Oh, I forgot 884 00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:10,319 Speaker 8: what movie it was, but let's just say like, oh, 885 00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,560 Speaker 8: for the for the purpose of conversation, Oh, I love 886 00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:15,960 Speaker 8: that new movie Dune, but I didn't like all the 887 00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:17,280 Speaker 8: swearing too much. 888 00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:19,000 Speaker 4: She says, she has heard. 889 00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:21,680 Speaker 7: Her distinction is she's fine with swearing in the movie 890 00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:23,359 Speaker 7: as long as it's germane to the plot. 891 00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:26,760 Speaker 4: That is the key. It must be germane to the plots. 892 00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:27,520 Speaker 3: I love that. 893 00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:29,360 Speaker 4: Shout out to my mom by the way she she 894 00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:31,000 Speaker 4: watches and comments on these sometimes. 895 00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:34,120 Speaker 3: Hell yeah, John's Bob is literally the nicest person I know. 896 00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:35,520 Speaker 4: She's she's super awesome. 897 00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:36,680 Speaker 3: Shout out. 898 00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:43,600 Speaker 7: Okay, uh, we will make it. Guys like you, We're good. 899 00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:46,359 Speaker 7: I saddled Sam up with a fat one. 900 00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:51,200 Speaker 3: We've been homeless on and off for two years now. 901 00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:52,520 Speaker 3: Two years. 902 00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:56,840 Speaker 8: I've been attacked twice because being homeless has put us 903 00:42:56,960 --> 00:43:01,120 Speaker 8: in dangerous and unsafe situations. I've witnessed someone almost shoot 904 00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,200 Speaker 8: my spouse, and the fiance's mother. 905 00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:05,040 Speaker 4: Didn't care, didn't care, insane. 906 00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:07,600 Speaker 3: It seemed like she enjoyed watching us suffer. 907 00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:12,240 Speaker 4: That's real, like really bad mental yeah image. 908 00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:15,800 Speaker 8: Finally, in early twenty twenty, when we were practically begging 909 00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:20,040 Speaker 8: on our knees, fiance's mother co signed on our apartment, 910 00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,840 Speaker 8: a two bedroom model we couldn't afford, but she insisted 911 00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:28,920 Speaker 8: it was death or nothing. But after everything was finalized, 912 00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:33,239 Speaker 8: she told us, uh, you can't have roommates. We had 913 00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:36,239 Speaker 8: to try and keep ourselves afloat during the pandemic, something 914 00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:39,520 Speaker 8: that ruined our finances more than they already were ruined, 915 00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:42,560 Speaker 8: and when our lease ended in April, fiance's mom insisted 916 00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:45,360 Speaker 8: she had fulfilled her promise, so she had no obligation 917 00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:48,000 Speaker 8: to help us, even if that action co signed us 918 00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:50,719 Speaker 8: to the streets again. We're homeless again now, and she 919 00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,280 Speaker 8: continues to lie about us to the rest of the family, 920 00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:56,400 Speaker 8: saying we ruined the apartment, which we left in perfect condition, 921 00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:58,880 Speaker 8: and saying that's the reason she won't co sign for 922 00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:01,120 Speaker 8: us again. To tie up this story, I found out 923 00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:04,239 Speaker 8: recently that refusing to co sign and watching our finances 924 00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:08,319 Speaker 8: dwindle was very much intentional on the mother's part. During 925 00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:11,160 Speaker 8: the weekend, my fiance and I went to the hotel 926 00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,480 Speaker 8: for a week and escape. His mother went to a 927 00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:16,560 Speaker 8: family get together. We weren't invited to this event because 928 00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:20,920 Speaker 8: my fiance has dissociative identity disorder in addition to his 929 00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:24,640 Speaker 8: physical limitations, and the rest of the family ostracizes him 930 00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:27,400 Speaker 8: because he's crazy. I mean, but he's well behaved and 931 00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:30,440 Speaker 8: it all works together, so this is like, seems utterly ridiculous. 932 00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:33,640 Speaker 8: Doing his best, sing his best, that situation for it, 933 00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:35,560 Speaker 8: but they've treated him this way as whole life. During 934 00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:38,480 Speaker 8: the family event, someone joked that I probably had more 935 00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:41,120 Speaker 8: money than my fiance's mother, which I don't know is 936 00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:43,480 Speaker 8: true because the woman gets five thousand dollars a month 937 00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,719 Speaker 8: due to a combination of retirement pension and money she 938 00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:49,880 Speaker 8: inherited from her late husband, So I severely doubt it. 939 00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:53,360 Speaker 8: According to a family member, she calmly said in response, 940 00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:56,000 Speaker 8: let's see how much money that bad word for a 941 00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:57,760 Speaker 8: gay person has when I'm. 942 00:44:57,640 --> 00:44:58,120 Speaker 4: Done with her. 943 00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:01,680 Speaker 3: WHOA, Oh my gosh, this. 944 00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:06,560 Speaker 8: Is a shit situation. Yeah, this is really so fricking shitty. 945 00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:09,080 Speaker 8: I can't even imagine. I can't even imagine. 946 00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:12,759 Speaker 7: OP is definitely like, I mean, shout out to you 947 00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:15,399 Speaker 7: and and and your significant other because you have both 948 00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:20,120 Speaker 7: been through so much and yeah, impressive, impressive how you've 949 00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:22,239 Speaker 7: just like kind of pushed through it. 950 00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:22,680 Speaker 4: Yeah. 951 00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:28,040 Speaker 8: And also OP is LGBTQ, so I imagine that probably 952 00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:29,920 Speaker 8: it seems like that has something to do with how 953 00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:33,560 Speaker 8: they're being treated, yep. And but there are resources to 954 00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:35,720 Speaker 8: help with that, and like, there's also a lot of churches, 955 00:45:35,960 --> 00:45:38,320 Speaker 8: especially in the Orlando area, that are LGBTQ. 956 00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:38,840 Speaker 3: Family. 957 00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:42,600 Speaker 8: I saw some comments pointing OP in that direction, so 958 00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:45,200 Speaker 8: it seems like OP might get the help that they need. 959 00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:48,480 Speaker 4: I definitely, definitely hope, so yeah,