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Speaker 1: Boles the second Date Update. The person on the phone
Speaker 1: for a second date Update today feels bad because they
Speaker 1: think they screwed up the date. It was a date
Speaker 1: that they weren't even on what actually a date that
Speaker 1: had nothing to do with them at all. But they
Speaker 1: think that they screwed it up and they want us
Speaker 1: to help fix it. Barbara is on the phone with us.
Speaker 1: Barbara thinks that she ruined her son's date. Oh hey, Barbara,
Speaker 1: how you doing? Oh I've been better? How are you
Speaker 1: not too bad? So this is an interesting story. We
Speaker 1: got your email and you feel like you ruined your
Speaker 1: son's date. Honestly, I don't think I know you know? Oh, okay,
Speaker 1: tell us what you did. Oh gosh, I became the
Speaker 1: mother I before i'd never be. I have a son, Jeremy.
Speaker 1: He's one, but he still lives home with me. And
Speaker 1: he went out on a date with a new girl
Speaker 1: and I wasn't really sure of where he was and
Speaker 1: what his plans were. But it, you know, it got
Speaker 1: to be rather late, and I got a little aunty,
Speaker 1: you know, because he usually home at a decent hour,
Speaker 1: and well I got kind of worried and started calling
Speaker 1: his phone. Okay, how many times did you start calling
Speaker 1: his phone? Oh? God, at least six seven times. It
Speaker 1: just kept going straight to voicemail, which made me even
Speaker 1: more anxious. Okay, so what'd you do, Barbara? Well, I
Speaker 1: kind of I guess at my age, you shouldn't be
Speaker 1: doing the social media's thing. But I went on his
Speaker 1: Facebook page and I posted on his page to all
Speaker 1: his friends. Does anybody know where Jeremy is? His mom?
Speaker 1: You know, he's you know, he's old, right, Barbara. You know,
Speaker 1: all I can say is it was like one, two
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning, and I went overboard. I really did.
Speaker 1: But it was two o'clock in the morning. So whatever
Speaker 1: was going on, clearly I ruined it. And I know
Speaker 1: what's going on that. Okay, let's not go down. So
Speaker 1: what was his reaction into that? I mean, I'm assuming
Speaker 1: he came home at a certain point. Yeah, he was.
Speaker 1: He was pretty angry. What did he say to you?
Speaker 1: He just came in, slamming the door and screaming at me,
Speaker 1: how could you do that? That was the best date
Speaker 1: I've had in a year, and you ruined it. You
Speaker 1: ruined it, And he just stormed off, and I'm like
Speaker 1: trying to talk and I'm saying what did I do?
Speaker 1: What did I do? And he starts screaming at me.
Speaker 1: Facebook mom, you facebooked it? So, Barbara, you actually now
Speaker 1: think it's a good idea to continue this line and
Speaker 1: call his date? Is what you want us to do?
Speaker 1: I mean, I just don't know what else to do.
Speaker 1: It's it's apparently he really really liked this girl and
Speaker 1: things were going quite well, and yeah, things turned after
Speaker 1: I did what I did. So how do you have
Speaker 1: this girl's phone number? Really? Yeah? Really, I went in
Speaker 1: this phone Osbara, you're just making you're worse, you know that, Barbara, Well,
Speaker 1: I was hoping with you guys, I could turn things around. Maybe.
Speaker 1: So your goal is to get this girl on the
Speaker 1: phone and convince her to go back out with your son,
Speaker 1: and I swear I'll stay away. Oh my gosh, if
Speaker 1: I got this call from a guy I was dating's mom,
Speaker 1: I would run eight thousand miles in the other directions. Sweet,
Speaker 1: it's not like I mean, can't we turn it into something?
Speaker 1: I mean, can't we find the laughter in it? I
Speaker 1: think it's funny. Yeah, well for us, not for her
Speaker 1: son for sure. Well I know not for him. But
Speaker 1: maybe if we can make her to laugh, she'll reconsider.
Speaker 1: If I swear to stay away until the wedding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe we don't. Don't bring up the wedding thing. That
Speaker 1: might be a bit much, I promise. Okay, So if
Speaker 1: you make this call and she doesn't want to go
Speaker 1: out with him again, and then she ends up calling
Speaker 1: your son and saying, hey, can you tell your mom
Speaker 1: to back off? He's already mad at you. Don't you
Speaker 1: think he's gonna get even more pissed. Well, I mean
Speaker 1: the way I look at it is they don't have
Speaker 1: a second date anyway. Yeah, so if she goes out
Speaker 1: with him, it's a win. If she doesn't go out
Speaker 1: with him, then it's status quo. Yeah, I guess you
Speaker 1: can't make her talk to him less if she's not
Speaker 1: talking to him after the date. Have I meddled in
Speaker 1: my son's life over the years, of course, but this
Speaker 1: is probably me at my absolute worst. And if you
Speaker 1: guys can help me fix this. It would mean everything,
Speaker 1: because as I just got crazy, I got crazy. Well,
Speaker 1: we'll give it a shot. We'll play a song, come back,
Speaker 1: call her and get your second date updates sort of.
Speaker 1: I don't really know how to say, but we'll play
Speaker 1: a song, come back, see if we can get her
Speaker 1: to go out with your son again. Okay, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you. Looking jubil in the morning, se I'm having
Speaker 1: kind of a difficult time trying to figure out how
Speaker 1: to do today's second date update. If you're just joining us.
Speaker 1: Barbara is on the phone. Barbara's son Jeremy, went out
Speaker 1: on a date with this girl named Nicole. While he
Speaker 1: was on the date, Barbara kind of freaked out because
Speaker 1: her son wasn't home yet. It was like two o'clock
Speaker 1: in the morning, so she was blowing up his phone
Speaker 1: and then finally posted on his Facebook page, has anybody
Speaker 1: seen Jeremy? I think he might be hurt. I don't know,
Speaker 1: you know, looking for his son and it embarrassed him
Speaker 1: and apparently the date saw it. So when he got
Speaker 1: home that night, he yelled at his mom saying that
Speaker 1: she screwed up his date with this girl. The problem
Speaker 1: that I'm having Barbara is I need to figure out
Speaker 1: exactly how to do it at the beginning when I
Speaker 1: get this girl on the phone, because normally I'll be like, hey,
Speaker 1: you know, you went on a date with Jeff and
Speaker 1: he wants to get a hold of you. Now it's like, hey,
Speaker 1: you went on a date with Jeremy and his mom's
Speaker 1: on the phone and wants I don't want to blow
Speaker 1: up your spot real quick, because that's probably going to
Speaker 1: creep her out even more if she knows that you're
Speaker 1: on the other line right away. Yeah, if you could
Speaker 1: maybe kind of warm her up a bit for you
Speaker 1: and Barbara, I didn't get it. Did you ever meet
Speaker 1: this girl? No? Oh god, so she has no idea
Speaker 1: even who you are. I mean, yeah, I guess all right?
Speaker 1: You ready to make the phone call? Ready as I'll
Speaker 1: ever be here? Here we go. Hello, can I speak
Speaker 1: to Nicole? Please? This isn't Nicoll. Hey Nicole, how are you?
Speaker 1: This is Jewil from Brook and Jewel in the Morning.
Speaker 1: Excuse me, this is Jewil from Brook and Jewel in
Speaker 1: the Morning radio show. I got an email about you. What. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you recently went out on a date with a guy
Speaker 1: named Jeremy. Yeah, and I got an email because apparently
Speaker 1: you're not calling Jeremy back. I'm just kind of curious.
Speaker 1: Can you tell me why your date didn't go very
Speaker 1: well with Jeremy. We have a nice time, but it
Speaker 1: was kind of weird. His mom, I seemed to be
Speaker 1: like really concerned where he was. She just kept like
Speaker 1: calling him, and she actually posted on his Facebook asking
Speaker 1: if anyone knew where he was. And that was just
Speaker 1: a little maybe just a little too much for me.
Speaker 1: Kind of killed it when his mom kept bugging him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I looked on Facebook. He went to the bathroom
Speaker 1: and I just went on Facebook and I saw the
Speaker 1: post and I brought it up to him and he
Speaker 1: immediately changed she I could tell you super embarrassed. But
Speaker 1: then he was just like really short with me, and
Speaker 1: it was it got a little awkward. And were you
Speaker 1: guys just out at a bar or something at this point. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we'd just been hanging out, kind of getting to know
Speaker 1: each other for a couple hours and then his mom
Speaker 1: kind of got involved. But tell you, I mean you
Speaker 1: could see it also as this guy has a really
Speaker 1: good relationship with his mother, which is a positive. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that's great. I like, I have a great
Speaker 1: relationship with my mom. I would hope that everyone gets
Speaker 1: to have a good relationship with their mom. But if
Speaker 1: I want to be in the middle of that is
Speaker 1: another I think I ask you a question, Nicole. If
Speaker 1: you were out on a date and your mom started
Speaker 1: doing that on your Facebook, what would you do. I'd
Speaker 1: probably do just what he did. He was super embarrassed.
Speaker 1: I'd be really embarrassed. I'd probably shut down and not
Speaker 1: really know how to deal with it. Luckily my mom
Speaker 1: wouldn't do that. Yeah, so how did you guys end
Speaker 1: the night? Then? Um, it felt a little abrupt because
Speaker 1: we were in the middle kind of of chatting and
Speaker 1: getting to know each other, and then I brought that
Speaker 1: up to him and it was kind of late anyway,
Speaker 1: So I think mutually we both kind of found a
Speaker 1: reason to call it a night. Not long after, he
Speaker 1: hasn't sent you any text messages trying to call you anything.
Speaker 1: There have been a few here and there. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, my schedule, it has been really busy, so
Speaker 1: it's been kind of hard to like keep track of. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what everyone says when they don't want to go
Speaker 1: out with somebody, Nicole, I have somebody on the other
Speaker 1: line that wants to talk to you. What do you
Speaker 1: mean he's not on the phone, is he Jeremy? Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: Jeremy isn't on the phone. His mom, Barbara is No. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she wanted to talk to you and see if she
Speaker 1: could smooth things over. Barbara. Oh, I'm here. Hello, Hi, Nicole.
Speaker 1: This is Barbara, otherwise known as the ever dreaded helicopter Mom.
Speaker 1: And I get it. I understand. I just went somewhere
Speaker 1: in my brain that I should have never gone, and
Speaker 1: I'm really calling to apologize to you. Jeremy doesn't know
Speaker 1: I'm making this call, and I'm hoping it kind of
Speaker 1: stays that way, but I just felt so so horrible
Speaker 1: because I know he really found you lovely. Barbara. I
Speaker 1: appreciate it you reaching out. I can tell that you're
Speaker 1: a very loving, an attentive mother, and you raised a
Speaker 1: wonderful man and I really enjoyed getting to know him.
Speaker 1: But I don't I'm not sure that, regardless of what
Speaker 1: part you played, if it was really going to work
Speaker 1: out with us. Nicole. Seriously, I understand, I understand that
Speaker 1: you're not a mom, and and if you're ever lucky
Speaker 1: enough to be a mother. Trust me when I tell you,
Speaker 1: you will look back on this and go uh huh.
Speaker 1: I promise you. I promise you. He's that boy. You know,
Speaker 1: he still lives with me. I generally know where he
Speaker 1: is at all times. But it's my son. I make
Speaker 1: him lunch every day to this day. This is my boy, Barbara.
Speaker 1: You might want to stop a little bit. You're making
Speaker 1: him sound like he's fifteen. No, no, no, no, it's
Speaker 1: just you really really have to be a mom to
Speaker 1: see it from my point of view. And I understand.
Speaker 1: I understand why you're saying what you're saying. But what
Speaker 1: I'd like to do is make Micole understand it from
Speaker 1: my point of view. It's it's a mom thing. Oh God,
Speaker 1: I hope not. I really hope not. I understand where
Speaker 1: you're coming from, Barbara, I do. I just think that
Speaker 1: maybe from why you're telling me, you're sim and I
Speaker 1: are in different places. I think that we're coming from
Speaker 1: different environments at this point, and I don't know that
Speaker 1: it's compatible. I mean, Nicole, please, I was I mean,
Speaker 1: how is your mother when you got your period? Wasn't
Speaker 1: she there for you? Be sure she was there for me?
Speaker 1: But that was also ten years ago. It doesn't change.
Speaker 1: It doesn't change. It needs to change. Barbara needs to change.
Speaker 1: I'm an adult. I'm twenty one, and my mom raised
Speaker 1: me and trusts me and knows that at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, if I need her, I will call her.
Speaker 1: But otherwise I am making my way as a person.
Speaker 1: And I hear you, your mom me every mom on
Speaker 1: the planet. When you don't know what your child is
Speaker 1: or where your child is, you get a little nutty.
Speaker 1: They get to be on him. This is from the
Speaker 1: mom heart. All right, well, I'm glad you were able
Speaker 1: to get that out. Barbara. Now comes the important question. Okay, Nicole,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out with her son Jeremy
Speaker 1: one more time? I will pay for a second date
Speaker 1: for you guys. I'm sorry, Barbara. I don't see this
Speaker 1: going anywhere, and I would rather appreciate our one date
Speaker 1: for what it was. I don't think that there's a
Speaker 1: second Nicole. You know, Nicole again, I hear what you're saying.
Speaker 1: I understand that you've said no, but I am going
Speaker 1: to go out on a limb so far because of
Speaker 1: what an extraordinary young man that Jeremy is. I will
Speaker 1: host a beautiful, beautiful dinner. I will do all the cooking.
Speaker 1: I will stay out of it, I will clean, I
Speaker 1: will do everything. Just give this young man the chance
Speaker 1: that he deserves. Please absolutely not. I know you're missing
Speaker 1: out on a really good one here, Nicole. I'm sure
Speaker 1: that I am all right. Nicole, thank you for your time.
Speaker 1: I appreciate it, of course. Barbara, I'm sorry that that
Speaker 1: didn't work out for you. Well. I thank you for
Speaker 1: trying in the future. I do have a suggestion for
Speaker 1: you for your son. Yea, they make these like little
Speaker 1: chips you can put in pets. You can find them everywhere.
Speaker 1: Get your son chipped and then you don't have to
Speaker 1: go on Facebook the morning. Boy. You know, he still
Speaker 1: lived with me. I generally know where he is at
Speaker 1: all times, but it's my son. I make him lunch
Speaker 1: every day to this day. Wow. A lot of text
Speaker 1: messages coming in at seven, eight, five, nine two saying
Speaker 1: cut the umbilical cord. It's Brooke and Jewel in the morning.
Speaker 1: If you missed the second date update that we just aired,
Speaker 1: a mom named Barbara wanted to call a girl named
Speaker 1: Nicole because Nicole went out with her son and during
Speaker 1: their date. Barbara didn't know where her son was. It
Speaker 1: was nearly two o'clock in the morning and he wasn't
Speaker 1: home yet, so she was blowing up his phone and
Speaker 1: then started posting on his Facebook wall like as anybody's
Speaker 1: seen my boy. And Nicole saw all that, it was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: this mom is way too into her kid's life. The
Speaker 1: kid is twenty one, not twelve. He is an adult. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so crazy. He needs to move out of his mom's house.
Speaker 1: A sound like somebody find that guy a job to
Speaker 1: give him some sort of like move in with another family.
Speaker 1: I don't know if she's making his lunch as you know,
Speaker 1: she's also doing his laundry everything, you know, every which
Speaker 1: means he is going to be a nightmare to date
Speaker 1: because he has never actually done his own dishes. So
Speaker 1: the mom wanted to get the girl on the phone
Speaker 1: to apologize for blowing up the phone and blowing up
Speaker 1: his Facebook and making things awkward on the date because
Speaker 1: her son came home very angry at his mom. Apparently
Speaker 1: storm yelled at her and then stormed off to his room,
Speaker 1: which sounds like he's not really actually an adult. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and he ruined everything. Mom slams the door. Text in
Speaker 1: at seven eight five Nights who says, you guys should
Speaker 1: have Mom's call in more often for second date updates.
Speaker 1: That was extremely awkward. I am abnormally close with my
Speaker 1: mother and she wouldn't even do something like that. Another
Speaker 1: text in at seven eight five Nights who says the
Speaker 1: second date update is the best birth control ever. And
Speaker 1: then another person said, oh my god, it's not a
Speaker 1: mom thing. I would hate to be her son. Yeah,
Speaker 1: a little too wrapped up in her kid's life. I
Speaker 1: think remember if you want a second date update, whether
Speaker 1: you're a mom, a grandmother, a great aunt, whatever, it
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. I have to do an email. The show
Speaker 1: Brook and Jewel at move nine two five dot com.
Speaker 1: We will call the person who didn't call you back.