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Speaker 2: Justin is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up. He's getting ghosted by Laurie. Find out what

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Speaker 2: they did on their date in just a second. But first, Justin,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from LORI?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been probably like three weeks.

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Speaker 4: So what was your last interaction with Laurie?

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Speaker 5: Like what?

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Speaker 3: So we went on a we went on a date

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Speaker 3: and ended up having a nice night and went back

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Speaker 3: to my house and you know, had a nice night.

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Speaker 3: We hooked up. Oh, then that was the last time

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Speaker 3: I saw her. So it was after that date that

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Speaker 2: So you guys actually hooked up and she's ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So there was a weird moment earlier on in

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Speaker 3: the night that I had made reservations at a nice

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Speaker 3: much later in the evening then I had originally planned.

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Speaker 3: So we got there, realized the reservation was wrong, and

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Speaker 3: so we just had a lot of time to kill

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Speaker 3: before our dinner. So we ended up just walking down well,

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Speaker 3: ended up walking down the street. There was a bowling

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Speaker 3: alley and we decided to go bowling, and it felt

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Speaker 3: I feel like the only reason that she'd be ghosting

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I mean, she ended up hooking up with you, anyway,

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Speaker 6: I don't know that that really was a deal breaker

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Speaker 6: for her.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but she didn't.

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Speaker 6: Even text you, like thank you for the hookup or

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Speaker 3: There was nothing afterwards she left, So I had got

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Speaker 4: Not even a goodbye, justin what did you do?

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Speaker 2: And that's what I want to try to find that,

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Speaker 2: So you don't have any idea.

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Speaker 3: My only thought would have been the weird mix up

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Speaker 3: with the reservation. I can't think of anything else that happened.

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Speaker 4: Well, what happened in bed?

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Speaker 6: Was there anything weird that happened there that might have

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Speaker 6: scared her away, Like I don't know if you baby

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Speaker 3: I don't think I did it, not, you know, not

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Speaker 3: to my knowledge at LEAs.

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Speaker 4: Okay, good, So have you actually tried to reach out

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Speaker 4: to her though? Were you like it was? Did you

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Speaker 3: I mean I definitely have texted. I mentioned, you know, like, hey,

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Speaker 3: sorry for the mix up at the restaurant. I sent

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Speaker 3: that in a text, But you know, like I said,

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Speaker 6: I was also just thinking if you didn't reach out

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Speaker 6: I mean that's true, because they're like communication can be

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she left out really saying anything. I felt very felt,

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Speaker 2: Okay, we'll try to figure it out for your play song.

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Speaker 2: Come back and then call her and see what she

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting you, and try to get

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Speaker 2: you another date. If you still won't okay, sounds good.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first Day follow up.

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Speaker 2: Justin is on the phone and it's been three weeks

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Speaker 2: since he's heard from Laurie and he really liked her too.

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Speaker 2: They actually had what sounds like a lot of fun

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Speaker 2: try to find out why she's ghosting, Justin, justin refresh

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Speaker 2: everybody's memory about your date with Louri.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we went on a date three weeks ago.

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Speaker 3: I made a reservation at a nice restaurant. We ended

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Speaker 4: Drummer set man fed bowling in a good night.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, we're about to call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's seeing Are you ready? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: let's do it all right here we go. Hello, him,

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Speaker 2: I speak to LORI please?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, him, this Glori.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Laurie, how are you. My name is Jubel and

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Speaker 2: I host a show called the Jubile Show. It's a

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Speaker 4: The whole show's here, LORI.

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Speaker 6: Hi?

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Speaker 5: Oh what Hi? Everybody?

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Speaker 2: I'm Victoria Victoria and I probably shouldn't host the show.

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Speaker 2: It's really terrible that description. Yeah, what's the power you?

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, it's a party? Okay, Hi, what's that?

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Speaker 2: Not much any idea why we're calling you?

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Speaker 7: I've heard of like radio stations calling people for like

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Speaker 5: That's not what this is.

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Speaker 2: Well it's not. It's a first date follow up. It's

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Speaker 2: the same but different. That is actually what it is, though.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, wait, oh my god, no way, are you shooting me?

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Speaker 2: No, you went on a date recently and you've been

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Speaker 2: ghosting them for like three weeks, and they want to

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Speaker 5: I mean, there's.

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Speaker 7: Only one person I can think of that I've been avoiding.

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Speaker 5: I mean, not like anything wrong with him exactly, but

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Speaker 7: Did he call you guys to find out like where

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Speaker 2: He emailed us and said that he was trying to

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Speaker 2: wants to go out with you again. His name is Justin.

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Speaker 5: Yes, Yes, I know. Yeah. We went on a day.

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Speaker 5: We went bowling.

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Speaker 7: It was pretty fun actually, and I spent a night

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Speaker 7: I really liked him a lot actually, and I was

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Speaker 7: And also I just felt really serious because like, who

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Speaker 5: Life, you know what of it's family. Oh I don't

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Speaker 7: I mean that's kind of maybe weird too, if it's

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Speaker 5: He was hiding something from me.

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Speaker 6: Well, it wasn't a drawer, so it wasn't it wasn't

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Speaker 7: I mean, I just I didn't know like if it

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Speaker 5: It just spooped me a little bit.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, because I just, yeah, I don't want to

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Speaker 6: That's completely understandable, but there is no part of you

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Speaker 7: Well, I didn't want him to think I was snooping either,

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Speaker 5: You know, I wasn't like going through his drawers.

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Speaker 7: I was legitimately trying to just write like a cute note.

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Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, sure, yeah, that'd be great.

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Speaker 5: To you, what stop it? Oh my god, Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: I'd love to explain it to you if if if.

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Speaker 3: So I totally get that. I I know that that

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Speaker 5: is it over?

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Speaker 3: I mean we had we had a great two years.

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Speaker 2: Would you be willing to burn the picture in front

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Speaker 7: your entire history in front of me or any Hell yeah,

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Speaker 7: I mean I appreciate you telling me.

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Speaker 5: Thank you. You know, I I really do like you.

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Speaker 7: I think you're really great, and you know I would

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Speaker 7: like to spend more time with you and get.

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Speaker 5: To know you better.

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Speaker 2: So, Laurie, would you like to go on another date

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Speaker 2: with Justin? Will pay for it?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I would do that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, Justin quick clean your apartment out, got to burn pictures,

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Speaker 6: First date follow up