1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:03,840 Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:07,440 --> 00:00:10,760 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey 4 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: FM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could 5 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 1: be reading your letter live on the air, just like 6 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one. Here that jay right here, 7 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 1: right now, abbit, buggle up and hold on tight. We 8 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. 9 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:32,720 Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject her hood rat mentality is bad 10 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:36,199 Speaker 1: for business. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a married man, but 11 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: I have not been happily married in a while. I 12 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: have no mention, no intention of leaving my wife, and 13 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: I'm not a cheater. I own a small bar downtown 14 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: and my best employee is also my worst employee. She's 15 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:53,279 Speaker 1: been with me for so long that I've overlooked her 16 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: raunchy behavior for years. She is a hood rat, and 17 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: I knew that when I hired her as a bartender. 18 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: This was supposed to be a part time job, but 19 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:05,320 Speaker 1: now it's the only job she has because she is 20 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:09,039 Speaker 1: loud and unprofessional. She is fifty three years old, but 21 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 1: she has a body like Cardie B and she's gorgeous. 22 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 1: She wears her stomach out with short shorts and heels, 23 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 1: so my male customers love her. Recently, I had to 24 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:24,679 Speaker 1: temporarily lay her off because of the pandemic. I offered 25 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:26,839 Speaker 1: to give her a thousand dollars to help her out 26 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:30,320 Speaker 1: while she was not working. She asked me what she 27 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: had to do for the extra money. I was confused 28 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: at first, and then I figured it out. She told 29 00:01:36,400 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 1: me that nothing is free, and she has been working 30 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 1: her side hustle for a while right out of my bar. 31 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,119 Speaker 1: Several of my married customers give her money and gifts 32 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:49,120 Speaker 1: in exchange for a good time. She told me that 33 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: she knows I'm not happy at home and I haven't 34 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: had sex in a while, so she could help me out. 35 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 1: I wanted to lay her across that barb right then 36 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 1: and there and do her. But I have my dignity 37 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: and a woman like that is nothing but troubled. I 38 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 1: told her she can't be tricking out of my bar, 39 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: and she told me whatever she does in her spare 40 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 1: time is her business. She's valuable for my business, but 41 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: she can't keep tricking with my customers. Should I talk 42 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: to the guys or fire her. Okay, you're a business 43 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: owner and she's good for business, So what's the problem. 44 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: I mean, I really don't think it's so much that 45 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 1: she's from the hood that you have a problem with 46 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: an issue with, because, like you said, you knew that 47 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: when you hired her. You also said she's valuable for 48 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: your business. I think, in spite of what you say, 49 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: there's something going on or that you think about when 50 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: it comes to her. I think you're attracted to her, 51 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 1: and I think you really want her there your words, 52 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: she's gorgeous with a body like Cardi b with her 53 00:02:57,480 --> 00:03:00,919 Speaker 1: stomach out, her short shorts and her heels, and your 54 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 1: mail customers love her. That's business for you. You know 55 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 1: they're in there, they come to see her. They they're 56 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: spending money. You know, they spend money when they come. 57 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,239 Speaker 1: So that helps your business. So when you laid her 58 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 1: off and she offered to pay you back for your 59 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: generous one thousand dollars, you said you wanted to take her. 60 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,360 Speaker 1: You wanted to take her up on it and throw 61 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:26,080 Speaker 1: her across, do her right there on the bar. But 62 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:28,959 Speaker 1: you're smart and you didn't. You have dignity. You didn't 63 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 1: do it, you said, because a woman like that is 64 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: nothing but trouble. And I do commend you for that 65 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: because even though you said you're unhappy at home, you 66 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: let us know that. In the beginning of the letter, 67 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: you said you would never cheat on your wife, so 68 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: you didn't take your bartender up on her offer. Like 69 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: I said, you didn't take the bait. I do like 70 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: that about you. Now, as far as her seeing mail customers, 71 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:58,840 Speaker 1: you didn't even know that. That's how good she is. 72 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: You didn't even know that, Okay, but you know it now. 73 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: I don't know how you're gonna get her to stop 74 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: doing that because what she does in her home is 75 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: her business. I just say, watch her and you know, 76 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: make sure it doesn't get out of hand and get crazy, 77 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: because you definitely don't want to lose your business if 78 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: it does. Should you fire her? Why would you fire 79 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:26,039 Speaker 1: someone that's good for business? I mean, you know you're 80 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: the business owner and it's about business, So why would 81 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:31,279 Speaker 1: you do that. Should you talk to the guys, I 82 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:34,159 Speaker 1: don't know what that's gonna do. They're gonna leave probably 83 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: if you talk to them, So you do have a 84 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:39,040 Speaker 1: dilemma on your hands. But firing her and talking to 85 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: him talking to guys. I don't think that's the way, Steve. 86 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 1: I am completely stunned at your answers. This is something's 87 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: going on with you, Shirley. Well, this is not the 88 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: Shirley Strawberry. I've known him for twenty years. I don't 89 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:02,800 Speaker 1: know where this damn answer came from. I don't know 90 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: who helps you with your Strawberry letter, but this don't 91 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:09,719 Speaker 1: sound like low damn Shirley Strawberry talking right here. I 92 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:12,359 Speaker 1: don't know who got hold of this letter and change 93 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: your answer. But I don't understand why you even wrote, Bro, 94 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 1: I really don't. I have no idea how old you are, 95 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,840 Speaker 1: but you've got to be a fully grown ass man. 96 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:30,920 Speaker 1: So because the girl is fifty three years old, so 97 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: you goodn't grown. So now let's talk about what this 98 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:36,679 Speaker 1: good and grown man. He opens up the letter saying 99 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:39,679 Speaker 1: talking about how he married, but he ain't been happily 100 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:43,279 Speaker 1: married for a while. That's how the letter opened. But 101 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 1: the letter ain't even about his marriage though, So why 102 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:52,160 Speaker 1: did you feel compelled to tell us this information right here? See? Bro, 103 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 1: when you're talking to me, I just I know the 104 00:05:56,200 --> 00:06:00,799 Speaker 1: male psyche so well everything Shirley said, man, perfect sense. 105 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:03,520 Speaker 1: I just couldn't leave her ass, saying I was gonna 106 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:05,720 Speaker 1: ask you that after you gave your answer. What's wrong 107 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:08,719 Speaker 1: with my answer? Well, no, it made perfect sense. But 108 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 1: it sounds like something I was safe. Oh doesn't, Yeah, 109 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: because it sounds like a man answer. But dog, this 110 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 1: ain't a man letter though. You see your problem is dog. 111 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 1: You told us at the top of the letter you 112 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 1: ain't think about leaving your wife. You're not a cheetah. 113 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:31,000 Speaker 1: I'm unhappily man for a while, No intention, I got 114 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 1: a small My best employee is also my worst employee. Well, 115 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 1: it sounds like you got one person work. All right, listen, Steve, 116 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: we'll have her too response coming up at twenty three 117 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Today's subject her hood rat mentality 118 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: is bad for business. We'll get back into it right 119 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve, Come on, 120 00:06:56,760 --> 00:07:00,919 Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. Her hood ratman tality is 121 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 1: bad for business. Yeah, this married dude just been selling 122 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: telling us he unhappy he had grown man. You know, 123 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: so I know you're goodn't grown, but he's married. He 124 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 1: ain't been happy for a while. No intention, leaving my wife. 125 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 1: I'm not a cheetah. If the letter isn't about you 126 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: being happy or a cheetah, why did you have to 127 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 1: mention that at the beginning. Bro, something's a miss hill, 128 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: and I think I'm gonna find out what it is. 129 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 1: You're on a small bar. Your best employee is also 130 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: your worst employee. Now, before we left, I said it 131 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 1: was sound to me like you got one employee. Now. 132 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:39,040 Speaker 1: She has been with me so long, so long, which 133 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 1: ages him too, that I've overlooked her raunchy behavior for years. 134 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: So she's a hood rat and I knew that when 135 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: I hired her as a bartender. Excuse me, Bro, I'm 136 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:57,960 Speaker 1: not following you here. I've overlooked her raunchy behavior for years. 137 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: She's a hood rat, and I knew that when I 138 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: hired as a bartender. If you knew she was a 139 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 1: hood rat when you hired as a bartender, when did 140 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: you start overlooking the raunchy behavior at the interview with 141 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:16,960 Speaker 1: the banging CARDI b body see is that when you 142 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 1: overlooked the raunchy behavior because you knew you wanted herby 143 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 1: standing behind that bar because it would draw your customers. 144 00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: Come on, BRO, you're talking to another grown man. Now, 145 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 1: this is supposed to be a part time job, but 146 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: now it's the only job she has because she's loud 147 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 1: and unprofessional. Well with reading this letter, its ain't the 148 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:39,200 Speaker 1: only job she got. See, she didn't turn a part 149 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:42,200 Speaker 1: time job into a full time job. Partner. She fifty 150 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 1: three years old. She got a body like Cardi b 151 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 1: And she's gorgeous. Excuse me, that's why you hide the 152 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: hood rat dog in the beginning. That's why you overlooked 153 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 1: the raunchy behavior because of how she looked you a man. 154 00:08:59,480 --> 00:09:04,320 Speaker 1: She wear her stomach out well, you know, with short 155 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:09,559 Speaker 1: shots and heels. Okay, you ain't saying nothing about that. 156 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:13,680 Speaker 1: So my male customers love her, and so does the 157 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: dude that hired her, that's been unhappily married for a 158 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:19,800 Speaker 1: long time. But you're not a cheating You have no 159 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 1: intentions of leaving your wife. Why that's even in the letter, 160 00:09:23,400 --> 00:09:29,680 Speaker 1: you explaining yourself as you go. Recently, male customers love her. Recently, 161 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 1: I had to temporary layer off because of the pandemic. 162 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 1: I offered to give her a thousand dollars to help 163 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 1: her out while she was not working. She asked me 164 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:42,600 Speaker 1: what she had to do for the extra money. I 165 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:46,640 Speaker 1: was confused at first, then I figured it out. She 166 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 1: told me ain't nothing free, and she'd been working her 167 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 1: side wholesome for a while right out of my bar. 168 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 1: Several of my married customers give her money and gives 169 00:09:56,000 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 1: in exchange for a good time. That's why I thought 170 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 1: Shirley would be just through it. He But now all 171 00:10:02,040 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: of a sudden she hood She told me that she 172 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: knows I'm not happy at home and I haven't had 173 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 1: sex in a while, so she could help me out. 174 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:16,680 Speaker 1: I wanted to lay her cross that ball right the dude, huh, 175 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Now, here's where the next 176 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: which was true? But I have my dignity. Okay, we 177 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: all have that, bro, all of us have that, and 178 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:36,840 Speaker 1: a woman like that, it's nothing but trouble. She's been 179 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: working for you for years. She ain't been no trouble 180 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 1: up into now. A matter of fact, she'd probably the 181 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:48,960 Speaker 1: real reason your boss still open. So now I told 182 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:51,040 Speaker 1: her she can't be tricking out of my bars. She 183 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:53,199 Speaker 1: told me whatever she does in her spare time is 184 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:56,720 Speaker 1: her business. That's a hood rat comment. That's a business comment. 185 00:10:57,800 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: I've heard people say that business meetings before. She's valuable 186 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,839 Speaker 1: for my business, but she can't keep tricking with my customers. 187 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:09,199 Speaker 1: Should I talk to the guys or fire her? Let 188 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 1: me ask you a question, bro, what exactly will you 189 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: say to the guys or should I fire her? Fire her? 190 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 1: What should you talk to the guys about? What you say? 191 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 1: What are you gonna ask them? Excuse me? Man? Are 192 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 1: you are you sleeping with her? Yeah? Yeah, women? Holder? Man? 193 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: Why are you doing that? She my bartender? Oh? She ain't. Yeah, 194 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 1: I'm a holder. But but hold of them, man, I'm 195 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 1: telling you, she my bartender. And I'm asking y'all, man, 196 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 1: could y'all stop hitting on her and giving this extra 197 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: money so she could just, you know, be my bartender? 198 00:11:52,280 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: Can I just say this? The only reason I come 199 00:11:54,559 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: here is for her? Damn she fixed drinks and she 200 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 1: fixed everything than I don't know which you do? Why? 201 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:05,720 Speaker 1: Why are we not gonna come? So now back to 202 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:09,439 Speaker 1: the letter, I'm asking the audience, now that you've heard 203 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 1: from several men who have potential customer road all over them, 204 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: what would I say to these guys? Or fire her? 205 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: Fire huh dog? Fire her your bar clothes? Causing a pandemic. Now, 206 00:12:24,679 --> 00:12:27,640 Speaker 1: she thought that the thousand dollars meant she had to 207 00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 1: do something, because that's what the thousand dollars do every 208 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:35,280 Speaker 1: other time. Yeah, but the cold part was you thought 209 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:39,800 Speaker 1: about it. Now, what your real question is should I 210 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:41,760 Speaker 1: fire her? Because if I bring her back in here, 211 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:44,680 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it. That's the question right there. Don't 212 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:47,280 Speaker 1: write me no more like this. Don't poster comments on 213 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:51,400 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter. 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