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Speaker 3: My question is this idea of like the Boss Chick

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Speaker 4: That has it served us? Is that the question out?

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Speaker 3: Or is it is it destroying the black family ecosystem.

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Speaker 4: I think you have to say on some level it's

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Speaker 4: destructive to a traditional black uh family ecosystem. I think

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Speaker 4: just the facts bear that out right. So that's not feelings,

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Speaker 4: that's not subjective, that's just the reality is. As you

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Speaker 4: just pointed out, Uh, there is a huge numbers gap

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Speaker 4: undergrad and professional schools at sometimes six seven times the

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Speaker 4: rate of our brothers. And by the way, if you

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Speaker 4: ask most Black women, that's not something that we enjoy

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Speaker 4: or appreciate, Like, it's not a situation. And I think

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Speaker 4: black women are out here strategically competing against black men. No, sir,

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Speaker 4: we most of us want to be in relationship with

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Speaker 4: so not necessarily from this altruistic place of oh, we

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Speaker 4: but there's a self interested element of that right that says,

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Speaker 4: you describe, for early forties, making, you know, five hundred

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Speaker 4: And that's why when we say we are attracted to

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Speaker 4: of us are saying we need a man to make

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Speaker 3: Well, let me interject one thing, because this this is

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Speaker 3: so a thirty five year old single woman who's making

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Speaker 3: But it's like, the difficult part about that is that

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Speaker 3: So now it's like, okay, you're either forced with a

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Speaker 3: Because now it's equal, it's hard to find that equal counterpart. Men.

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Speaker 4: What makes a man highly desirable in a dating market.

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Speaker 4: there's a reason why you know this six sixty sixth thing.

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Speaker 4: Five and up. Women who've got these big incomes and

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Speaker 4: Which is why personally I enjoy dating older men because

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Speaker 4: I'm living this. I'm not just talking and writing about it, guys.

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Speaker 4: I think you damn sure, because I got girlfriends that

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Speaker 4: There is exactly what you said. They want their forty

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Speaker 4: they don't have kids. They don't want him to have kids. Right.

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Speaker 4: So one of the reasons I'm sure we'll get into this.

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Speaker 4: And one of the reasons I'm doing that is because

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Speaker 4: the situation of older men are. They've had their child,

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Speaker 4: So now that's a small pool anyway. And now you're

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Speaker 4: have to start making strategic whether you want to call

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Speaker 4: have to start deciding what's important. So for me, being

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Speaker 4: no matter who has it. You better know that. Okay.

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Speaker 4: How many women right now or men are in domestically

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Speaker 4: to leave an unfulfilling relationship because I love how people

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Speaker 4: stop that Tyler Perry bullshit. What the reality is a

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Speaker 4: lot of them are unhappy in those relationships, just stuck together.

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Speaker 2: We just woke about this.

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Speaker 4: Literally, they fiscally. Look at these interest rates, Look at

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Speaker 4: Get the hell out of here, So let me go

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Speaker 4: ahead and get this mortgage situation going. So you know,

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Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child

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Speaker 1: Donald J. Trump's leadership. I'm Christy Noman, the United States

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Speaker 1: Secretary of Homeland Security. Under President Trump, attempted illegal border

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Speaker 1: crossings are at the lowest levels ever recorded, and over

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Speaker 1: one hundred thousand illegal aliens have been arrested. If you

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Speaker 1: Do what's right. Leave now. Under President Trump, America's laws,

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Speaker 1: border and families will be protected.

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Speaker 2: Sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security,