1 00:00:02,040 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, welcome back to Betchler Happy Hour. I'm Joe 2 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: and I'm Serena, and we are here with none other 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:11,399 Speaker 1: than Mark Anderson. You're the only one I say I've 4 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 1: said their last name just because it's just it just 5 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:15,720 Speaker 1: goes just flowing to Mark Anderson. 6 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a good name. 7 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:19,240 Speaker 3: You know, a lot of celebrities have to change their 8 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:22,919 Speaker 3: name when they become celebrities because they just need a 9 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 3: better name. 10 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 2: You definitely wouldn't. Mark Anderson is a strong one. 11 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, that works, Thanks, mom and dad. Right, So what's 12 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: going on, Mark? How are you? 13 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:35,520 Speaker 4: I'm doing great. Thank you for letting me join in with. 14 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: You, of course, of course. So let's uh, let's kick 15 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: this thing off with your daughter. So your daughter goes 16 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:47,959 Speaker 1: on the Bachelor. How do you feel about that at 17 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: the time? 18 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I mean I hadn't really watched I hadn't 19 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 4: really watched Bachelor, Bachelorrette the series. I think, you know, 20 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 4: it'd been on TV and I walked through. I just 21 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 4: don't really watch a lot of TV. But Kelsey had 22 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:09,040 Speaker 4: called and said that she applied for a show, and 23 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:11,680 Speaker 4: it was it was in the summertime, like we were 24 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 4: going to Hilton Head, for a vacation. He said she 25 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 4: couldn't go because you know, she had interviews and stuff 26 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:20,320 Speaker 4: she had to do for that. And uh. And then 27 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 4: my youngest son, Matthew, and I were down in New 28 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 4: Orleans and Kelsey said that she got selected and she 29 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 4: was going to be on the Bachelor, and and we 30 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 4: were all excited, you know, we kind of had a 31 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 4: good time, and then you know, we get out, we leave, 32 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 4: and Matthew and I were driving back home and I'm 33 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 4: like on the on the phone looking up Bachelor to 34 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 4: get an idea what she's getting into, you know, and 35 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 4: you see these little short video snippets of a girl 36 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:52,560 Speaker 4: in a hallway having this emotional, distressful moment and cry 37 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 4: and and you know, so my heart sinks, thinking, oh, 38 00:01:56,360 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 4: what is she getting into? You know, But it was 39 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 4: you know, it was great. She got to come home 40 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:09,119 Speaker 4: right before she left, and we just kind of hung out, 41 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 4: went to a movie and stuff, and I had to 42 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 4: had to film some video stuff with her, and but 43 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:18,320 Speaker 4: it was really neat, you know. And I told her 44 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 4: how proud of her I was, you know, that she 45 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,919 Speaker 4: was going off to do some some great things, and 46 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 4: told her how she was much stronger than I. You 47 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 4: know that that she was going out and you know, 48 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:32,639 Speaker 4: going to give her. 49 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: Did you give her any advice or. 50 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 4: Just yeah, yeah, I said, you know, just be yourself. 51 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:44,519 Speaker 4: You know, let your heart guide you. You know, the 52 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 4: biggest thing is just be yourself. And if you yourself, 53 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 4: there's no surprises, there's no you know, everything just works. 54 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:54,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's always the advice I would give anyone to 55 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 1: that goes on the show. It's just like as simple 56 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 1: as it sounds, it's like, just be yourself, like and 57 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:02,359 Speaker 1: that's it. And if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. 58 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:04,640 Speaker 1: But then you don't have to like look back on 59 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: it and regret anything because you were where you were right. 60 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 1: So Kelsey makes it the hometowns. Did you have any 61 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 1: idea what that was? Did she did she prep you 62 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:18,680 Speaker 1: before she left? Like if I go, if I make 63 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 1: it pretty far, like you may have to you may 64 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: have to come, you may have to be on TV. No. 65 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 4: I got I got like a phone call for a producer. 66 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:29,960 Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Hey, you're setting up hometown 67 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 4: visits and uh and it was you know, at first, 68 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 4: I get a phone call and they're saying because I 69 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 4: hadn't heard from Kelsey, you know, and in today's age, 70 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 4: that's a tough thing. You know, Like she would be 71 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:46,360 Speaker 4: driving around, she'd be driving around her car or up 72 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 4: running and she'd call me up and say, hey, I 73 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 4: just got this weird feeling and you know, yeah. So 74 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 4: it was always kind of like, I don't know, communication, yeah, yeah, always, 75 00:03:57,040 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 4: and it was weird not being able to talk to 76 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 4: her and not be able to you know, hear from 77 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 4: her or know where she was at. So it was 78 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 4: you know, to hear from somebody saying, hey, Kelsey's doing fine. 79 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 4: So it was nice to hear that she was fine. Yeah. 80 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,160 Speaker 1: So you see her for the first time and with 81 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 1: how communication for however long it is, and you meet 82 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: the man that she potentially is going to get engaged to. 83 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: Are you okay with it? Are you happy? Like? What 84 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: are you? How are you feeling over it? 85 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:34,239 Speaker 4: That was you know, I was worried about the hometown 86 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:36,839 Speaker 4: visit because The Golden Bachelor was airing while she was 87 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 4: off filming, right, So I was I was kind of 88 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 4: gauging stuff off The Golden Bachelorette and I'm watching it 89 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 4: and like I was getting all this, you know, my 90 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 4: own internal I don't know, corrections to myself. I guess 91 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 4: like I was getting some inspiration from watching The Golden Bachelorette, 92 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 4: Like it was it was fantastic to see people in 93 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 4: my situation out looking for love, you know, And so 94 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 4: I was watching that, and then we went down for 95 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 4: Kelsey's hometown and when she walked in, it was just like, oh, finally, 96 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 4: you know, because it'd been a while I hadn't seen 97 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:19,040 Speaker 4: her and didn't know what she was up to. Joey 98 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 4: walked in and it was like a it was like 99 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:26,440 Speaker 4: a perfect first impression, you know, like you could tell 100 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 4: the way they walked in. You know, he was just 101 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 4: graceful with her and you know and patient let her, 102 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,279 Speaker 4: you know, get her hugs in and say hello to 103 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 4: the family that she hadn't seen for a while, and 104 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 4: then he just kind of fit right in in conversation 105 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:45,600 Speaker 4: and it just it was a it was a really 106 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 4: great it was a really great experience for a first impression, 107 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 4: Like it. 108 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 1: Was well, I mean, look it looked like watching it, 109 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:57,280 Speaker 1: you know, I remember watching him being like, yeah, this works, 110 00:05:57,440 --> 00:06:01,720 Speaker 1: and and and watching that whole season to Serena and 111 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 1: I mainly me, but it was pretty evident that Joey 112 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 1: was going to choose Kelsey. Yeah you think, yeah, how 113 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 1: is it? How is it now? After you know, all 114 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: said and done, they're engaged. Just Joey fitting into the 115 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:18,839 Speaker 1: family as everything. 116 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, this summer, we were out in the 117 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 4: Hilton Head for a week, you know, and so he's 118 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:28,040 Speaker 4: meeting my brother and his wife and family and and 119 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 4: we're just hanging out, going to the beach, playing golf, 120 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:34,039 Speaker 4: you know, and it was it was fantastic fit right in. 121 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: Going in golf. Who's better, Well, not me because Joey's 122 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:47,600 Speaker 1: pretty good, right, huh. Joey's a pretty good golfer, right. 123 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:51,920 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, ye. So it was my brother and Matthew, 124 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:56,719 Speaker 4: Joey and then my my brother's brother in law Alan. 125 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,560 Speaker 4: It was the was that that went out golfing. So 126 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 4: it was like Alan and Joey were playing that. My 127 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 4: brother was kind of the one given Matthew and I 128 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 4: lessons as we were playing. So we just played eighteen 129 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 4: and crack and it was it was a lot of fun. 130 00:07:14,840 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 2: Nice. 131 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: So so then so the show airs, Hometown airs, and 132 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: now there's going to be this spin off from The 133 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: Golden Bachelor to the Golden Bachelor att and a lot 134 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 1: of people are throwing your name out there. That was 135 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: like one of the biggest things in Joey's season was 136 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:37,240 Speaker 1: Kelsey's dad needs to be either the Golden Bachelor or 137 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: on the season of the Golden Bachelor. Att So what 138 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: was it like hearing that and were you Were you 139 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 1: ready for it? 140 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 4: Yeah? I wasn't. I don't know how you can be 141 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 4: ready for that. I mean, it was a it was 142 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 4: a huge surprise for me. Like I was more worried 143 00:07:55,720 --> 00:07:59,520 Speaker 4: going into that hometown, you know, the filming of that, Like, 144 00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 4: I was worried that, you know, I didn't want to 145 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 4: be the reason that Joey wouldn't pick Kelsey. You know, 146 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 4: if Kelsey picks him, Like she stayed there, so it's 147 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 4: a parent that she liked him, right, she thought there 148 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 4: was something there. So you know, I'm there to support 149 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 4: Kelsey one hundred percent, you know, and I didn't want 150 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:22,240 Speaker 4: to be the reason why he would say no. Like 151 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 4: so there's a little stress of you know, a little anxiety, 152 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 4: but it all went great, you know, I mean, it 153 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 4: went great. So my experience with that and then all 154 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,200 Speaker 4: of a sudden, all this internet starts up and like 155 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 4: I'm not a big social media person. You know, like 156 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 4: I had Facebook because my kids had Facebook when they 157 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 4: were little, and they were playing like farm Ville and stuff, right, 158 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 4: so I had to like send them animals and cows 159 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 4: and farm stuff. I don't know, it was it was crazy, 160 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 4: but we had social media to follow our kids, to keep, 161 00:08:56,200 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 4: you know, checking on them what they're doing. And it 162 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 4: was we were watching the Hometown episode. We were down 163 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 4: with Kelsey at her place and uh and Kelsey's on 164 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:10,320 Speaker 4: her phone and as where as it's airing, she's like, 165 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 4: oh my god, you know, she's like Dad, She's like 166 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 4: telling me, I don't even know it's you know, it 167 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 4: was just it was crazy. 168 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 1: So as a result of Hometown's airing and you're getting 169 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 1: all this love on social media and Kelsey's you know 170 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:33,319 Speaker 1: telling you like, hey, like you're you're going viral. Well, 171 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: what what's the craziest story you have for us from there? 172 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 4: Well, it was, you know, as we're watching it, it 173 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 4: was Kelsey's like, Dad, there's thirst straps about you. Like 174 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 4: it was a it was a commercial like right after 175 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 4: like the first part aired, and she's like, to ad, 176 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 4: there's thirst straps. I was like oh, and then she's 177 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 4: like no, really, and so she starts playing it and 178 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 4: she's like recording it. You know, I was like, oh 179 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 4: my gosh, like I don't know, it was it was 180 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 4: really crazy. But like after it aired, we got home, 181 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 4: like I started getting mail, like letters to my house. 182 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 4: I got really my phone calls, registered mail that I 183 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:14,840 Speaker 4: had to go sign for at the post office, Like. 184 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:18,080 Speaker 1: They said, what were these letters? Where were people writing 185 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:18,320 Speaker 1: to you? 186 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:23,679 Speaker 4: H It was a little variety of stuff, you know, 187 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:28,440 Speaker 4: like like like an introduction, you know, like saying, oh, 188 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 4: you know I lost my spouse or you know, my 189 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 4: husband passed away or which, you know. I was getting 190 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:41,240 Speaker 4: a lot of a lot of stuff on Instagram and 191 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 4: and like my my stuff was always private, you know, 192 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 4: like I just never really shared anything. I didn't think 193 00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:49,959 Speaker 4: anybody'd be interested. And like I put something on there 194 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:52,840 Speaker 4: like once a month if that, you know, yeah, cook 195 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 4: a brisket and take a picture of it, you know, 196 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:59,720 Speaker 4: like share it with the kids. So it really but 197 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:01,520 Speaker 4: then of a sudden, I'm getting all these messages right 198 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 4: and there was it was it was just I mean 199 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:07,400 Speaker 4: it was supportive, you know, like a lot of people 200 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:10,280 Speaker 4: were bringing up about you know, being on the Golden Bachelor, 201 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:13,960 Speaker 4: and yeah, and then they announced the Golden Bachelorette, you know, 202 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 4: and so it was really, you know, it was neat, 203 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:22,320 Speaker 4: like I mean, it was just a lot of attention 204 00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:25,240 Speaker 4: that I just like, I personally am not used to that, 205 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 4: Like I don't like, I don't thrive on that like it. 206 00:11:30,559 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 1: I don't know, I guess it's kind of shocking. 207 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:35,920 Speaker 4: It is. It's overwhelming. It's shocking. I'm not a you know, 208 00:11:35,960 --> 00:11:40,920 Speaker 4: I'm not an about me kind of person. So it 209 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:42,439 Speaker 4: was very overwhelming, you. 210 00:11:42,400 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 3: Know, like didn't make you nervous at all that people 211 00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 3: had your home address, like strangers had your home address. 212 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, a little bit, but the Internet, like everything is there, 213 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 4: Like yeah, I mean I got was a there was 214 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 4: a real estate I said, wow, I'm kind of surprised 215 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 4: you found my address, and she goes, oh, I'm in 216 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:00,320 Speaker 4: real estate. You know. She was like, honey, I'm in 217 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 4: real estate. I have more information on you than. 218 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 219 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:08,080 Speaker 1: I mean it's true. I mean honestly, like that's why 220 00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: all like people are always like worried about like their 221 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: information being stolen, but like it's all out there. 222 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, you know, like having to shred all your mail, 223 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 4: nobody wastes her time with that anymore. You know, it's 224 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 4: too easy to get it on the internet. 225 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, if somebody really wants to hack you, they'll they'll 226 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 1: figure it out. 227 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:36,839 Speaker 3: So hometowns ends You're viral on the internet. Kelsey's doing great. 228 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 3: You're doing great. Lots of love in the Anderson household. 229 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 3: They get engaged. We see that you go out for 230 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 3: the live finale of Joey's season the after the Final 231 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 3: Rows special. What was that experience like being there in 232 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:56,000 Speaker 3: the audience with a live audience, everyone knows who you are. 233 00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:57,800 Speaker 2: What was the response like. 234 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:01,319 Speaker 1: And there's also and there's also Golden Bachelor women there. 235 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:04,960 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, some of some of the Golden Bachelor women 236 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 3: are there as well, which I'm sure you got to 237 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 3: meet them. 238 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:11,319 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it was Uh so we were sitting, we 239 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 4: weren't out in the audience for the majority of the 240 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 4: of the episode, and then right before the rose ceremony, 241 00:13:16,720 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 4: we got to walk out, and as we walked out, 242 00:13:19,160 --> 00:13:23,800 Speaker 4: there's just like clapping and cheering, and I start looking 243 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 4: around like like, who's you know? Who just got here? 244 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 4: And uh, it was you? Yeah, And so we go in, 245 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:35,920 Speaker 4: we sit down. You know, my other kids are there 246 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:39,800 Speaker 4: with me and and and so we all get our 247 00:13:39,800 --> 00:13:43,160 Speaker 4: seats and uh, and we sit down and you can, 248 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 4: you know, I'm looking around and I can see back 249 00:13:45,160 --> 00:13:48,440 Speaker 4: over this way is a group of the women from 250 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:53,920 Speaker 4: Golden Bachelor. Of course, Joey's family was like right across 251 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 4: the little aisle from us, and uh, and then we 252 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:59,439 Speaker 4: got to watch the proposal, which was like that's the 253 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 4: first week saw yeah, which was really nice. Yeah, it was. 254 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:09,880 Speaker 4: It was great, you know, and to see that, you know, 255 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 4: as a parent, like I didn't. I didn't watch my 256 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 4: kids on a date, not like you know, not on 257 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:21,120 Speaker 4: a TV episode for sure, right, But and I was 258 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:23,280 Speaker 4: I wasn't sure if it was something I wanted to 259 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:26,120 Speaker 4: watch because I've never seen my other kids go on dates. 260 00:14:26,160 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 4: I didn't, you know, I don't. I mean, I'm worried 261 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 4: about them, right, I stay up, I do you know, 262 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 4: I check on them. 263 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 1: But yeah, but the idea of watching it just doesn't 264 00:14:34,880 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 1: even seem real. 265 00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:38,080 Speaker 3: It's like, right, like, yeah, you would never get that 266 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:41,160 Speaker 3: kind of access to your children's dating life. 267 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:46,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, like at all, Like who wants really, you know, 268 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:49,720 Speaker 4: but truly, who wants that? You know? Like they don't 269 00:14:49,720 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 4: want to see mine. 270 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 2: Well, you guys. 271 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:00,440 Speaker 4: Yeah, and but it was it was it was such 272 00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 4: a fantastic thing, you know, to watch that blossom and 273 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:09,080 Speaker 4: it just reinforced that that feeling that I got when 274 00:15:09,120 --> 00:15:13,000 Speaker 4: we're at Hometown's, you know when it started airing, to 275 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:20,520 Speaker 4: see that progression of a relationship, you know, and it 276 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:22,240 Speaker 4: was it was just it was very reassuring, It was 277 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 4: very it was just it was great. 278 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 3: You seem to have a very positive perception of the 279 00:15:28,600 --> 00:15:31,840 Speaker 3: journey and Kelsey's experience, which totally makes sense because she's 280 00:15:31,880 --> 00:15:35,040 Speaker 3: happily engaged to Joey, who's wonderful. Did you have any 281 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 3: hesitations though for her going on the show or when 282 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 3: she came off engaged? 283 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:41,360 Speaker 2: Was there any parental nerves there? 284 00:15:42,320 --> 00:15:46,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean there is. I mean, you know, it's 285 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 4: a one it's a TV show, right, it's a reality show. 286 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:54,320 Speaker 4: It you hope that the connections that are made are strong, 287 00:15:57,120 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 4: but it's a it's like a bubble, you know, and 288 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 4: what real life starts starts happening once reality really hits 289 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:07,400 Speaker 4: that reality show. It sometimes it doesn't work, you know, 290 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:13,240 Speaker 4: there's too many stressors or outside influences. You know. Luckily 291 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:18,800 Speaker 4: for them, they started that couple counseling immediately and it 292 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:22,480 Speaker 4: helped him tremendously. The communication piece was great. You know 293 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 4: that Joey's a fantastic speaker, like he he's a wonderful communicator, right, 294 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:33,680 Speaker 4: he listens and he speaks, you know, and and pays 295 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:39,440 Speaker 4: attention like. So like the match of them, I think 296 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:43,720 Speaker 4: is is is just right. Like and had Kelsey not 297 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 4: gone on the show, she would have never met Joey. Yeah, 298 00:16:49,520 --> 00:16:52,120 Speaker 4: you know, it's just the odds of odds of those 299 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 4: of those two meeting in any other situation that it 300 00:16:55,720 --> 00:17:01,520 Speaker 4: wouldn't have happened. So, you know, having talked with Kelsey 301 00:17:01,560 --> 00:17:03,560 Speaker 4: and Joey a little bit about that, you know, like 302 00:17:04,280 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 4: that was an opportunity. You know, they took that opportunity 303 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:10,480 Speaker 4: and it and for them it was you know, it 304 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:13,120 Speaker 4: was right, it was it was they got that magic right. 305 00:17:13,320 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 4: So and that's some you know, that's it's uh enlightening 306 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:23,359 Speaker 4: thinking about it. I mean, all the stuff on the 307 00:17:23,359 --> 00:17:26,480 Speaker 4: internet was saying, you know, a mark for Golden Bachelor 308 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 4: and all this, and and I was under you know, 309 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 4: I thought I'm not old enough. They were all like 310 00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:36,359 Speaker 4: sick up, you know, and here. 311 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:37,760 Speaker 1: I was going to ask, have you have you have 312 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:41,360 Speaker 1: you thought about yourself as golden? What does that mean? 313 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:42,160 Speaker 4: Yeah? 314 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 1: What does golden even mean? 315 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 4: I don't know. I mean, yeah, I guess it's like 316 00:17:47,119 --> 00:17:52,040 Speaker 4: an older time like gold it is it if you 317 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:54,280 Speaker 4: can sign it for a arp at fifty five? Is 318 00:17:54,280 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 4: it fifty five? 319 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: And up? 320 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:58,680 Speaker 4: I don't like, you know, like. 321 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:03,800 Speaker 3: I mean, it's more of a season of life, is 322 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:05,640 Speaker 3: like a specific age. 323 00:18:05,840 --> 00:18:10,119 Speaker 1: Okay, So so moving then towards your journey. So you know, 324 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: all this goes down and people like Mark for the 325 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 1: Golden Bachelor and then Joan becomes the Golden Bachelor. Att 326 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 1: how sure were you that you were ready to go 327 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 1: on her season? 328 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 4: I don't know if I was. I don't know if 329 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:33,240 Speaker 4: I was sure, like right away, I mean it was exciting, 330 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:35,719 Speaker 4: you know, and the thought of it was great, like 331 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:38,720 Speaker 4: I had to go, Like I had the hardest conversation 332 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 4: with my children before I even said yes, uh, And 333 00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:47,040 Speaker 4: that was to ask them if it was okay for 334 00:18:47,119 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 4: me to date because I'd never done that, right, like yeah, 335 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:56,239 Speaker 4: and you know, and and to ask them if it's 336 00:18:56,280 --> 00:18:58,119 Speaker 4: okay for me to date? And then the second follow 337 00:18:58,200 --> 00:18:59,959 Speaker 4: up question was is it okay for me to date 338 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:00,960 Speaker 4: on TV? You know. 339 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:04,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's a big second classig one. 340 00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 5: Yeah, but you know it was had any one of 341 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:12,720 Speaker 5: them said no, like I'm not ready for that, I 342 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 5: wouldn't have Yeah, but it was like the hardest thing 343 00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:20,440 Speaker 5: for me to do was was to ask my children 344 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:23,520 Speaker 5: that permission, and you know, not to say that I 345 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:27,040 Speaker 5: don't talk to them or I don't you know, encourage 346 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:28,720 Speaker 5: them to tell me what they think, or. 347 00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:33,399 Speaker 4: But for me to say, you know, I'm looking for 348 00:19:33,440 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 4: someone beside your mother, right, and you know, just to 349 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:41,360 Speaker 4: reinforce with them that I can't replace her. I will 350 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:44,240 Speaker 4: never replace her. She will never be replaced as their mother. 351 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:50,399 Speaker 4: But I had, you know, over the course of six years, 352 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:54,560 Speaker 4: thought well, what have I have? I kept them from 353 00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 4: having that someone that they can relate to, someone that 354 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:04,240 Speaker 4: they can talk to to confide in, you know, because 355 00:20:04,280 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 4: I hope that they would feel comfortable enough to talk 356 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 4: with me about anything. And I think for the most part, 357 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 4: they do. But there are things that a mother would 358 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:17,879 Speaker 4: talk to a child about just because it's the mother. 359 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,560 Speaker 4: I mean, like it's a it's a different thought process, right, 360 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:27,320 Speaker 4: Like brains are wired different between men and women, and 361 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:32,200 Speaker 4: you know that that mother figure is I think is needed. 362 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:35,520 Speaker 4: So you know, I thought maybe I was preventing them 363 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:39,560 Speaker 4: from having that outlet, right, that that source of communication 364 00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:42,000 Speaker 4: and confidence, you know. 365 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:45,680 Speaker 3: And what was their response when you asked them for 366 00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:46,400 Speaker 3: that permission? 367 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:49,760 Speaker 4: Oh, they're all yes, absolutely, go you know, like. 368 00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:53,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, very supportive, very very supportive. 369 00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,800 Speaker 4: And you know, but it was like I asked my kids, 370 00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:58,320 Speaker 4: and then I called my mom, I called my brother, 371 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:03,639 Speaker 4: I called my sister in law, my mother in law, 372 00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:08,000 Speaker 4: and my brother in law you know, and asked them, 373 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 4: you know, said hey, look is what I'm thinking about doing. 374 00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:14,800 Speaker 4: What do you think you know, because you know, it 375 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:19,520 Speaker 4: was something that they had to know, you know, for 376 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 4: my in laws to have encouraged me to date just 377 00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:29,200 Speaker 4: seemed you know, and that was early on, Like you know, 378 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 4: my sister in law she's like she's like a sister, 379 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 4: you know, like she's she's great, but she always she 380 00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:37,920 Speaker 4: always had marketing to get up. And he just wanted 381 00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:40,200 Speaker 4: you to to date. She wanted you to meet someone, 382 00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:42,000 Speaker 4: She wanted you to take care of somebody. She wanted 383 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:45,879 Speaker 4: you to enjoy life, you know. So so to have 384 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:50,000 Speaker 4: somebody pushing me like that, I mean, it was it's 385 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:50,920 Speaker 4: just great support. 386 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,919 Speaker 1: So then yeah. After hearing all their their love and 387 00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:57,639 Speaker 1: support and their acceptance of the whole idea of you 388 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:01,760 Speaker 1: going on, were you yourself hm ready? After that? 389 00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:07,600 Speaker 4: I mean, you know, I learned a lot watching the 390 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:14,800 Speaker 4: Golden Bachelor, so and that was really kind of like 391 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:21,159 Speaker 4: I had hard time. I had a hard time with 392 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:27,719 Speaker 4: with being okay with dating because I was, you know, 393 00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:30,600 Speaker 4: my Denise was in my heart, you know, she filled 394 00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 4: it completely, and how do I make room for someone new? 395 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 4: So the enlightening part of the Golden Bachelor was to hear, 396 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:42,200 Speaker 4: you know, the people on this show talk about how 397 00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:45,639 Speaker 4: you know, it is okay to love someone, it is 398 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:49,040 Speaker 4: okay to move on and have someone else in your life, 399 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:52,680 Speaker 4: you know, to enrich your own life with someone else. 400 00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:55,639 Speaker 4: It's empowering. 401 00:22:55,680 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 6: It's enlightening, you know, you know, and and just time, 402 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:08,480 Speaker 6: you know, six years was yeah time? 403 00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:09,399 Speaker 4: Yeah? 404 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:15,600 Speaker 1: If so, So you agree to do it. America wants 405 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:21,000 Speaker 1: you more than anyone. You step out of the limo 406 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,160 Speaker 1: and you and you see Joan. 407 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:28,040 Speaker 3: Oh wait, trek real quick, Kelsey is in the limo 408 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 3: with you. Yeah, yes, yes, what is the ride? What's 409 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,679 Speaker 3: that conversation to the mansion? Like she's done it before? 410 00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:38,679 Speaker 3: Now she's doing it with you, You're going to be. 411 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,680 Speaker 2: Stepping out of the level. What is that car ride? 412 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:45,480 Speaker 4: Like, you know, the car ride and the whole process 413 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:48,800 Speaker 4: through it. Like I didn't ask Kelsey about, you know, 414 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,200 Speaker 4: what should I expect. I didn't talk to Joey about 415 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:53,160 Speaker 4: how is this going to be? How, you know, what's it? 416 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:53,320 Speaker 6: Like? 417 00:23:53,440 --> 00:24:01,280 Speaker 4: What am I gonna They didn't really offer it, and 418 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,879 Speaker 4: I I did not ask it because I didn't want to. 419 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:06,159 Speaker 4: Like the most important question that I had asked Kelsey 420 00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:08,359 Speaker 4: is do I need to bring towels with me? You 421 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,600 Speaker 4: know when I got to back towels in my suitcase 422 00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:13,280 Speaker 4: too because I'm running out of the room. She was like, no, 423 00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:15,919 Speaker 4: you don't need towels. So you know, that was like 424 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 4: my big, my big question for you know, And then 425 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:20,480 Speaker 4: well that's that. 426 00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:23,479 Speaker 1: See that like that's insane to me that your daughter 427 00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:26,959 Speaker 1: just went out of the shelf and your only question 428 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 1: was should I bring towels? Wild? 429 00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:34,280 Speaker 4: Because you know, I wanted that experience, right, that's fair 430 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,159 Speaker 4: because I had to develop that experience. I had to 431 00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 4: you know, go through the go through the whatever journey 432 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,480 Speaker 4: that was, and I didn't want to, you know, I 433 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,120 Speaker 4: didn't want to know, I didn't want to. I didn't 434 00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 4: want to expect something and that and not not not 435 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,800 Speaker 4: get that but see something else. You know, it was 436 00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:54,200 Speaker 4: just better for me to experience it first. 437 00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 1: Makes sense. I I I get it, I get it. 438 00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,520 Speaker 1: Who do you think was more nervous in that level ride? 439 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:00,359 Speaker 1: You or your her? 440 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,760 Speaker 4: On me? Yeah? I was like, yeah, I mean we 441 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:09,359 Speaker 4: were just how we're laughing and joking, and you know, 442 00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:11,480 Speaker 4: when we pull up and and they opened the door 443 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,800 Speaker 4: and Kelsey got out and walked up, and you know, 444 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,919 Speaker 4: I could see him, I couldn't hear him. And I 445 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 4: saw Kelsey talk and I'm like, what she's saying because 446 00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:25,879 Speaker 4: I had no idea, you know, and then all of 447 00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 4: a sudden I saw her, you know, waved me up, 448 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,640 Speaker 4: and uh so then I get out and then it's 449 00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:34,359 Speaker 4: just a big blur, right like, yeah, it's just a 450 00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:36,520 Speaker 4: big blur. Had no idea what was going on. I 451 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,639 Speaker 4: don't know what I said. I know what I wanted 452 00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:40,600 Speaker 4: to say. I think I mumbled something, but. 453 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,080 Speaker 1: That that first, that first night, Yeah, I think that's 454 00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,280 Speaker 1: how majority of people feel like that when they when 455 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:51,320 Speaker 1: they get out of the limo and and and see 456 00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:53,440 Speaker 1: the Bachelorette for the first time, or or the. 457 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,919 Speaker 4: Back of the mansion, like you know, you walk up 458 00:25:55,960 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 4: into that setting like they're like romance novels and like 459 00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 4: centered on that right there, just that one tiny little experience, 460 00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:06,639 Speaker 4: Like it's incredible. Like if you could pick a place 461 00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,919 Speaker 4: to do a first date like that would be it. 462 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:09,720 Speaker 4: Just the life. 463 00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,480 Speaker 7: Yeah, Like it's like if it's like Disney, It's like 464 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:23,040 Speaker 7: it's like a Disney Yeah, Disney. 465 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:16,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. 466 00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:27,560 Speaker 1: Did you feel a spark between Joan that first day, 467 00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:29,240 Speaker 1: first night? 468 00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:36,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean yeah, like anytime anytime I talked with Joan, 469 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:41,239 Speaker 4: there's a spark. Yeah, you know, because she's just that 470 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,440 Speaker 4: kind of person. She's a wonderful just a beautiful woman, 471 00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:50,160 Speaker 4: like inside out, like she's just fantastic. She's so articulate. 472 00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:57,119 Speaker 4: She like yeah, I mean just fantastic, fantastic. You know. 473 00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:01,399 Speaker 4: She would talk to you and at first, you know, 474 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:03,240 Speaker 4: going in, I didn't know if I was the first person, 475 00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 4: last person, But when I got up there, it was 476 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,680 Speaker 4: like it was just her and on and every time 477 00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,199 Speaker 4: speaking with her, it was just her and me, like 478 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,199 Speaker 4: you never thought about anybody else because she made me 479 00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:18,720 Speaker 4: the most important person there. 480 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:20,399 Speaker 1: That's a good sign. 481 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:22,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, it was. It was, It was. It was great. 482 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:27,119 Speaker 1: Did you feel any pressure when you walked into the 483 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:30,520 Speaker 1: mansion and a lot of the guys knew who you were? 484 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:36,199 Speaker 4: Yeah, well yeah I had. I was, Yeah, I was 485 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:39,200 Speaker 4: nervous about that because, you know, I was like, oh, 486 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:39,960 Speaker 4: what's everyone? You know? 487 00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:42,480 Speaker 8: Yeah, one, you don't know, You're gonna walk into this 488 00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,080 Speaker 8: room with a bunch of guys and they're all like, 489 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,119 Speaker 8: you know, you don't know if it's testosterones like raging 490 00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:51,920 Speaker 8: or whatever, you know, because because of course I'm. 491 00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:55,600 Speaker 4: You know, doing some searches for you know, bachelorette you know. 492 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,679 Speaker 4: But it was, it was great. Like once I walked in, 493 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:06,399 Speaker 4: I got over the nerves of Kelsey being there and 494 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:09,760 Speaker 4: you know, and stumbled through talking with Joan and went 495 00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:15,240 Speaker 4: inside and just you know, everybody was already in little 496 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:17,119 Speaker 4: groups talking and I was like, well, there's a lot 497 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:21,359 Speaker 4: of guys here, and started talking to a couple of 498 00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,119 Speaker 4: people and kind of made my way outside because it 499 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,919 Speaker 4: was a nice, cool weather, you know, and got outside 500 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,760 Speaker 4: and walked up to the bar and nobody had said 501 00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:35,160 Speaker 4: anything to me, you know, up to that point of oh, 502 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,600 Speaker 4: are you that mark? You know, like and then I'm 503 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:43,640 Speaker 4: on at the bar and I hear, oh, I knew 504 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,360 Speaker 4: you were going to be here, and it was Keith. Right. 505 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:49,120 Speaker 4: Keith's like he walks up and he's like, yeah, I 506 00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:53,120 Speaker 4: knew you were going to be here, and I was like, oh, 507 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 4: you know, like, don't tell anybody. 508 00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 1: I forget. Keith is like a Bachelor fan. Keith like watched. 509 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, super fad Keith Keith. 510 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, he's like the super super fans. 511 00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 1: No. 512 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,920 Speaker 4: Wowbody was asking, hey, Keith, what do we what is that? 513 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:09,240 Speaker 1: Keith? 514 00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:09,560 Speaker 4: What is it? 515 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:11,800 Speaker 2: That's so funny. 516 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:15,560 Speaker 1: I love that between Keith and Charles's spreadsheet. That's where 517 00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:21,880 Speaker 1: everyone's getting all the information. Yeah, so we see. I 518 00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:24,400 Speaker 1: want to ask you this because it's like, Okay, so 519 00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,520 Speaker 1: you're in your so called golden years, but but you've 520 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:30,600 Speaker 1: you've lived a ton of life, right, you have a 521 00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:34,280 Speaker 1: ton of life experiences. And then you're sitting there talking 522 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,600 Speaker 1: to Joan. I think you guys were on like the 523 00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:39,840 Speaker 1: front steps or whatever, and it's when you guys have 524 00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 1: like your first kiss, Like, are do you feel like 525 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:46,040 Speaker 1: you're sixteen again? 526 00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:51,080 Speaker 4: Yeah? It was more like like thirteen or fourteen? Yeah, 527 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 4: it was. Yeah. I was nervous because you know, you 528 00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:58,040 Speaker 4: get to the point where you don't really notice the 529 00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:01,240 Speaker 4: cameras and stuff on. You just kind of like waited out. 530 00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:04,400 Speaker 4: And it was easy to do that with Joan because 531 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:10,400 Speaker 4: she's just right there and she just fills right and 532 00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,560 Speaker 4: you know, it was we're just playing the game. I 533 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:17,520 Speaker 4: was trying to keep things light, you know. Some of 534 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:19,680 Speaker 4: the guys had talked about how, you know, they wanted 535 00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,560 Speaker 4: to make sure they got this in and it was 536 00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:23,680 Speaker 4: like some heavy stuff already, and I was like, it's 537 00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 4: kind of you know, and like when we first met, 538 00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:32,480 Speaker 4: you know, I said something like you you know of me, 539 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,720 Speaker 4: I know of you, but we don't really know each other, Like, 540 00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:41,000 Speaker 4: you know, we don't really know each other. So I 541 00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,440 Speaker 4: tried to keep it light, try to keep things easy, 542 00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:46,280 Speaker 4: but let her know stuff about me, right Like I 543 00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:48,160 Speaker 4: spent twenty four years in the army and I got 544 00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,800 Speaker 4: to I got to spend like eleven of those years 545 00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:54,160 Speaker 4: in Germany, you know, So it was it was an 546 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:57,880 Speaker 4: easy thing to say, you know, do some flash guards 547 00:30:57,920 --> 00:30:59,720 Speaker 4: and see if she can guess what I'm saying. You know, 548 00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:06,040 Speaker 4: but her family's Dutch, it's pretty close, yeah, And so 549 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 4: I asked her if in German, if I could give 550 00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,720 Speaker 4: her a kiss, and she guessed that I said cuddle, 551 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:15,680 Speaker 4: and then I told her I said, well no, and 552 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,160 Speaker 4: I showed it to her as I was reading it. Right, 553 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,600 Speaker 4: it's actually if I can give you a kiss, yeah, 554 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:24,720 Speaker 4: and uh and she said, well yes, and so we 555 00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:26,360 Speaker 4: kissed and then she said, you could have said that 556 00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,440 Speaker 4: in English. So I said, that's what I said it 557 00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:31,520 Speaker 4: in English. We kissed again. So it was nice. I mean, 558 00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:33,400 Speaker 4: it was just it was fun, it was playful. It 559 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:36,480 Speaker 4: was just it felt very natural, right, like it was nice, 560 00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:39,440 Speaker 4: like it just it just like it just progressed into 561 00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 4: it nicely. 562 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:45,040 Speaker 1: Your your relationship with Joan up until this point seems 563 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,479 Speaker 1: very seems very natural. It really does just seem like 564 00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:50,560 Speaker 1: it's it's just you two. 565 00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:54,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, well yeah, because you know, I mean to me, 566 00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,280 Speaker 4: it felt like that, yeah, you know because when I 567 00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 4: when I'm spending time with her, it was just her 568 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:03,200 Speaker 4: and I. It was it was just us. Yeah, So 569 00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,520 Speaker 4: you think about that a lot, you know, You're like, oh, well, 570 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:08,600 Speaker 4: you know, but then everybody, you know, somebody I like 571 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:13,640 Speaker 4: to talk about, you know, and but it's it's okay, 572 00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:17,560 Speaker 4: you know because when when I'm with her, she's my girlfriend, right, 573 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:21,719 Speaker 4: like yeah, like we're dating. So it was just it 574 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:26,080 Speaker 4: was it was just interesting, like you never experienced anything 575 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:28,960 Speaker 4: like that in life except for there. 576 00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:31,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was gonna say, how how are you handling 577 00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:35,200 Speaker 1: how are you handling that thought process of when I'm 578 00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:38,440 Speaker 1: with her, she's my girlfriend, but also in the back 579 00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:41,880 Speaker 1: of your mind there's other guys that are experiencing that 580 00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:45,160 Speaker 1: at the same time. Is that throwing you off at 581 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,960 Speaker 1: all or or it's kind of like you've accepted that 582 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:49,480 Speaker 1: that's part of this process. 583 00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 4: No, I mean, honestly, you just have to accept it, 584 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:56,200 Speaker 4: you know. If you don't accept that and kind of 585 00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:58,880 Speaker 4: work work your mind to fit that. Right, if you 586 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:02,280 Speaker 4: don't accept it, that's where the aggression comes out, Like 587 00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:05,920 Speaker 4: the you know, there's just too much stuff that comes 588 00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:09,000 Speaker 4: out from that. Like if you think about dating someone, 589 00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:11,160 Speaker 4: if you go out with someone, you don't know if 590 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,680 Speaker 4: they just had a date with someone else yesterday on 591 00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:17,520 Speaker 4: a first date, Right, you don't know what their past 592 00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,480 Speaker 4: dating history is. I mean you could, I. 593 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,400 Speaker 1: Guess, but when you first shouldn't. 594 00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, right, But like if you don't, you don't know them, 595 00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:31,280 Speaker 4: you don't know who they just dated. I mean it's 596 00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:35,000 Speaker 4: kind of yeah, kind of the same thing. Yeah, I 597 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,360 Speaker 4: mean that's the way I That's the way I worked it, right, 598 00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:41,080 Speaker 4: And then when I was with her, we were boyfriend girlfriend, 599 00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:43,000 Speaker 4: you know. And it was kind of funny because as 600 00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 4: guys would go out on their on their first on 601 00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:49,480 Speaker 4: the one on one dates and they'd come back, it'd 602 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,280 Speaker 4: be like, Hey, are you talking about my girlfriend? Because 603 00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 4: they just finished a one on one, so she was 604 00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:57,600 Speaker 4: their girlfriend until there was another date, right, so it's like, 605 00:33:58,040 --> 00:33:59,680 Speaker 4: is that my girlfriend you're talking about? It was just 606 00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:05,920 Speaker 4: kind of a yeah, lighthearted this, you know, likes break 607 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:07,960 Speaker 4: the tension or the stress of it. 608 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:10,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I kind of kill a little bit of the awkwardness. 609 00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:15,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly what did this experience overall so far meant 610 00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:20,040 Speaker 3: to you. It's your first time really getting back in 611 00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:23,040 Speaker 3: the dating scene, and you're sharing this experience with Joanes, 612 00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:26,480 Speaker 3: someone who has also been through the experience of losing 613 00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:29,239 Speaker 3: a spouse. You seem to really be able to kind 614 00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:31,480 Speaker 3: of connect and bond over that. Was that a big 615 00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,920 Speaker 3: part of your relationship in this journey for you? 616 00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:39,680 Speaker 4: It was I mean, you know, like and we got 617 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:42,239 Speaker 4: to talk a little bit after after we did the 618 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:48,239 Speaker 4: mentell all but Beryl, after the men Barrel. We got 619 00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:53,440 Speaker 4: to talk a little bit and sit. You know, I 620 00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,560 Speaker 4: knew that that John had died of cancer, and you know, 621 00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:59,640 Speaker 4: and I just wanted to convey to her that, you know, 622 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:03,840 Speaker 4: having that commonality, you know, we both lost a spouse 623 00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:14,000 Speaker 4: to a horrible disease and knowing that process firsthand, you know, 624 00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:15,680 Speaker 4: I just wanted to be there to help her, to 625 00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:18,920 Speaker 4: support her when whatever she needed, you know, and for her, 626 00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,879 Speaker 4: I wanted her to know that when she has those 627 00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:25,000 Speaker 4: days where she thinks back on it, I understand that 628 00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:28,719 Speaker 4: because I have those days as well, you know, like 629 00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 4: where you think back and you can get you know, 630 00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:36,399 Speaker 4: you could have some pretty deep thoughts about it, get 631 00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:40,319 Speaker 4: emotional about it, and that's okay because that's a part 632 00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:44,399 Speaker 4: of it. And I understand that. You know, it's had 633 00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:46,839 Speaker 4: I had I gone through a divorce, it would would 634 00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:47,800 Speaker 4: have been different. 635 00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:48,640 Speaker 1: You know. 636 00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,759 Speaker 4: It could have been a it could have been a 637 00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:56,800 Speaker 4: not so not so good divorce where there's like animosity 638 00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:58,480 Speaker 4: and you're just happy to be rid of them and 639 00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:01,640 Speaker 4: you're like, not, finally I'm free, right, And it's it's 640 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,960 Speaker 4: like that instantaneous Okay, Now I can go focus on 641 00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:07,880 Speaker 4: me and you know, meet someone new that's right for me. 642 00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,520 Speaker 4: But when your spouse dies, it's like, that's not your choice. 643 00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:16,040 Speaker 4: You know, you didn't choose that, it just happened. And 644 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:19,440 Speaker 4: and you try to hold on to that because you 645 00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:22,799 Speaker 4: know you lost something that you that you wanted for 646 00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:25,359 Speaker 4: the rest of your life, you know, but you've lost it, 647 00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:28,439 Speaker 4: so you want to you want to kind of hold 648 00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:30,920 Speaker 4: on to it, not and not lose it because that 649 00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:36,560 Speaker 4: was what you wanted, you know. But eventually it with time, 650 00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:43,319 Speaker 4: you know, you start to miss things, and you know, 651 00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,399 Speaker 4: it's just nice to have someone else to be able 652 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:48,000 Speaker 4: to talk to and to share things with. You know. 653 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:51,640 Speaker 4: Love is love is a fantastic emotion. You know, it's 654 00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:54,200 Speaker 4: a feeling, it's an emotion. It's it's like a sense, 655 00:36:55,480 --> 00:37:00,480 Speaker 4: you know, and and it should be there, right, everybody 656 00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:01,040 Speaker 4: needs love? 657 00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:06,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. Did it make it easier to strip out camera 658 00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,280 Speaker 1: knowing that it was for stand up for All? 659 00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:15,040 Speaker 4: Yeah? So I had a lot of reservations about that. 660 00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,160 Speaker 4: You know, we walked in, we walked into this theater 661 00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,560 Speaker 4: and some big old t stage. You know, we're like, 662 00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:23,719 Speaker 4: we got a fashion show, right, but just the way 663 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:30,720 Speaker 4: going just yeah, I was definitely hopeful, but we're standing 664 00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:32,799 Speaker 4: up at the at the far end of this of 665 00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:35,239 Speaker 4: the this runway, you know, and then all these Chippendale 666 00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:41,480 Speaker 4: guys come out, you know or like God, and you know, 667 00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:45,080 Speaker 4: immediately I'm like, I'm not doing this. I just like, 668 00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:47,839 Speaker 4: I'm not going to do it. Yeah, I'm not doing it. 669 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,360 Speaker 4: And uh but I'm you know, we're going through the 670 00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:54,759 Speaker 4: stuff and they teach us. They bring out some some 671 00:37:55,000 --> 00:38:01,000 Speaker 4: original Chippendale dancers and uh so they're teaching us a routine, 672 00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:05,359 Speaker 4: you know, and throughout this whole teaching like, we're all 673 00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:08,560 Speaker 4: doing it and having fun, and and I'm thinking, yeah, 674 00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:13,000 Speaker 4: i am not you know, this is not me, Like 675 00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:15,680 Speaker 4: I don't go to that. I don't like I just 676 00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:20,520 Speaker 4: it's not me, you know, like yeah, and then they said, yeah, 677 00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:22,880 Speaker 4: so you'll be you'll be doing this dance for Joanes. 678 00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:25,279 Speaker 4: She'll be out there, you know, and so at this 679 00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:30,640 Speaker 4: one point you'll walk up and I'm like, there's no 680 00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:34,719 Speaker 4: way I'm going to disrespect this woman, right like, and 681 00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:37,319 Speaker 4: so I was just like I'm like, yeah, I'm not 682 00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:39,400 Speaker 4: doing it. And then you know, all of a suddenly 683 00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:42,759 Speaker 4: and now it's but it's a benefit and it's a 684 00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:46,799 Speaker 4: benefit for stand Up to Cancer. It was like mic drop. 685 00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:50,439 Speaker 4: You know, it's like just the instantaneous added hands drop, 686 00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:55,480 Speaker 4: let's go there we go. Yeah, it was it was 687 00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:59,399 Speaker 4: you couldn't like it just turned up. It turned from 688 00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:01,839 Speaker 4: I'm not doing it till you can't keep me off 689 00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:06,840 Speaker 4: the stage. You know, it meant a lot. You know, 690 00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:09,200 Speaker 4: they said they're trying to raise money for awareness and 691 00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:12,960 Speaker 4: stand up to cancer. Is is all about awareness, right, 692 00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:15,800 Speaker 4: like get the word up. The more the more people 693 00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:22,480 Speaker 4: you touch with the word of early detection, just the 694 00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,880 Speaker 4: greater the survival rate is. You know, and it's not 695 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:30,279 Speaker 4: a it's not a survival you know, you're not You're 696 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:34,080 Speaker 4: not talking about survival for for eternity, right, You're talking 697 00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:38,160 Speaker 4: about for right now. You know, it's just cancer just 698 00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:42,080 Speaker 4: destroys and that the treatments that are there, it destroys 699 00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:46,720 Speaker 4: the body. And you know, it's a it's a tough 700 00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,439 Speaker 4: thing to get through. You know, you can you can 701 00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:52,719 Speaker 4: put it off, you can delay it, but so many 702 00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:57,680 Speaker 4: times it comes back and you know you can just 703 00:39:57,719 --> 00:39:59,920 Speaker 4: fight it again and keep fighting it and keep fighting. 704 00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:03,879 Speaker 4: But if you're not checking and you're not finding out 705 00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:08,400 Speaker 4: if there's something there early, it's already so late stage 706 00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:12,839 Speaker 4: that you know, there's so little that you can honestly do, so, 707 00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:16,440 Speaker 4: you know, as a as a program, like one hundred percent, 708 00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,640 Speaker 4: I'm one hundred percent there for it, just as Joan 709 00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:21,239 Speaker 4: said that she was, you know, it meant a lot 710 00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:26,160 Speaker 4: to her as well. So yeah, it changed that attitude quick. 711 00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:28,640 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it changed the age. I'm sure for a 712 00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:30,879 Speaker 3: lot of the guys about the day in a good way. 713 00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:32,719 Speaker 2: It was oh yeah, a good way. 714 00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:32,839 Speaker 1: Yeah. 715 00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,640 Speaker 4: And I'm telling you there's some I think there were 716 00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,240 Speaker 4: some ringers in that too. 717 00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:39,120 Speaker 2: Some fantastic performances. 718 00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:42,439 Speaker 4: There were. There were performances I think that had done 719 00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:43,040 Speaker 4: that before. 720 00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:44,600 Speaker 2: I think so. 721 00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:48,520 Speaker 3: Possibly professionally possibly, I think so too. 722 00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:51,200 Speaker 4: In fact, I think somebody. I think somebody packed some 723 00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:52,759 Speaker 4: gold under rus. 724 00:40:54,280 --> 00:41:00,840 Speaker 1: Really Yeahathan Jonathan, Jonathan Jonathan that the lady did it before, 725 00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:03,040 Speaker 1: Like John that was in he was in his run 726 00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:03,560 Speaker 1: right there? 727 00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:04,840 Speaker 2: Surprisingly skilled. 728 00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:08,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, Mark, you want to play a quick game, 729 00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:09,800 Speaker 1: just a little rapid fire get to know you? 730 00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:14,759 Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, all right, let's do it rapid. 731 00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:19,600 Speaker 1: Fire with Mark. What musician would you love to see 732 00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:26,800 Speaker 1: perform that? Or alive that or alive? 733 00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:28,640 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Taylor Swift? 734 00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:32,759 Speaker 1: Okay, me too. What's your favorite food or cuisine. 735 00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:36,280 Speaker 4: Buffet. 736 00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:41,360 Speaker 1: What's your go to comfort movie or show comfort? 737 00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:43,040 Speaker 4: It's a wonderful life. 738 00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:47,040 Speaker 1: My mouse. What's one thing you would tell your younger 739 00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:54,480 Speaker 1: self's keep at it, keep doing what you're doing. What's 740 00:41:54,520 --> 00:42:00,360 Speaker 1: your favorite way to unwind motorcycle? What's a deal breaker 741 00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:00,719 Speaker 1: for you? 742 00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,080 Speaker 4: Mm hmm someone who's not kind? 743 00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:10,399 Speaker 1: If you could have any superpower, what would it be? 744 00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:16,480 Speaker 4: I don't know. My son asked me that all the time. 745 00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:21,759 Speaker 4: I'd love to fly. 746 00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:26,160 Speaker 1: What is your go to drink at a bar? 747 00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:27,600 Speaker 4: Moscow mew. 748 00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:31,080 Speaker 1: What's a piece of advice you've received and never gotten 749 00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:33,520 Speaker 1: and never forgotten? Never gotten? 750 00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:43,759 Speaker 4: Makes today a great day? 751 00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:49,880 Speaker 1: What is the most adventurous thing you've ever done? 752 00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:57,040 Speaker 4: I don't know. I've done a bit done sky been 753 00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:59,760 Speaker 4: repelling the helicopters. 754 00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:00,200 Speaker 1: And you stripped on TV. 755 00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:05,000 Speaker 4: The gold Bachelorette the first Yeah, there you go. 756 00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:10,080 Speaker 1: What's an accomplishment? You are very proud of my children? 757 00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:12,239 Speaker 1: What's your love language? 758 00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:14,720 Speaker 4: Big touch? 759 00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:18,360 Speaker 1: If you could describe Jones season of The Golden Bachelor 760 00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:21,480 Speaker 1: in one word without spoiling it, what would it be? 761 00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:23,440 Speaker 4: Incredible? 762 00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:26,680 Speaker 1: I like that. 763 00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:30,279 Speaker 3: Charles's spectacular, but a lot of positive adjectives, which is 764 00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:35,240 Speaker 3: good because usually in the regular seasons it's like drama. 765 00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:39,480 Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, Mark, honestly, thank you so much for taking 766 00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:41,799 Speaker 1: the time out of your busy day. We really appreciate it. 767 00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:45,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you, Joe, thank you, sir Any, thanks for coming, 768 00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:48,480 Speaker 3: and for all of our listeners, be sure to continue 769 00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:51,640 Speaker 3: to tune in to Bachelor Happy Hour. We have more 770 00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:53,879 Speaker 3: recaps and exclusive interviews coming your way. 771 00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:55,120 Speaker 1: Bye bye,