Speaker 1: Welcome to Horrible This is like is not on this episode.
Speaker 1: We're not using our our sex voices this week. Well,
Speaker 1: first of all, you want me to not use a
Speaker 1: sex voice on the Throuble episode, ma'am? Anyway, y'all, I
Speaker 1: don't know if y'all can hear the excitement through her
Speaker 1: god damn voice my own handy. Y'all, Welcome to Horrible Decisions,
Speaker 1: the show where we be stigmatized kings for the black
Speaker 1: ass community we're in and if you're not in there, welcome,
Speaker 1: We allow you to have a piece of it this hour.
Speaker 1: My name's Wheezy and I'm joined by my co host.
Speaker 1: Y'all already know, bitch, this is your motherfucking girl, Mandy
Speaker 1: be a k A pit saying a k a full
Speaker 1: corun aka that bitch because I am still that bitch.
Speaker 1: Just know that y'all see me in the swimsuits on
Speaker 1: the ground. I know y'all see me because it's okay.
Speaker 1: I'm getting in the motherfucker's winning suits. Okay. And so
Speaker 1: we also have other papers here we would love to talk.
Speaker 1: I just had to say that. I just had to
Speaker 1: say that real quick too before we start. I do
Speaker 1: because someone I had to go off in the comments
Speaker 1: real quick, just so y'all know I'm on every week
Speaker 1: talking about Peggy Niggers and sucking dick, and I've mentioned
Speaker 1: that I've sucked dick at one point in my life
Speaker 1: for money. So don't think for any any chance that
Speaker 1: I'm going to be an example for any of you.
Speaker 1: Host where they said it was in Miami. It's coronavirus.
Speaker 1: Y'all know. I was telling y'all holes to stay in
Speaker 1: the motherfucking house. They was like, damn, you're not setting
Speaker 1: a good example. I am not an example. I have
Speaker 1: not pushed a human being out of this pussy and
Speaker 1: until then, I didn't sign up to be an example
Speaker 1: setter for any of you hoss that I don't know
Speaker 1: ship in your drink today, I'm drinking water. I ain't
Speaker 1: even drinking no mother with the polar Spring. So I'm
Speaker 1: excited for this episode. You guys, Vandy and I have
Speaker 1: tried to meet with this truffle before. I think you
Speaker 1: guys were gonna fly out in April, before you know,
Speaker 1: COVID happened. So we're so excited that they're here with us.
Speaker 1: So what I'm gonna do because we're gonna hear a
Speaker 1: few voices in it might be difficult. Let's go, let's
Speaker 1: go youngest to oldest. Why you got to bring the
Speaker 1: are okay? So no, let's go with who's had sex
Speaker 1: the most times in one night to the lowest. Okay,
Speaker 1: look it's the one at the bottom of the screen.
Speaker 1: She looking like you'll all right, so tell us when
Speaker 1: you guys go in order. Um, what's your name is
Speaker 1: and your sexual orientation? Alright, Well, my name is Sheila.
Speaker 1: I don't have a whole bunch of a ks yet,
Speaker 1: but I'm Shay, that's about it. And then sexual orientation, um,
Speaker 1: bisexual and polyamorous. Okay, so we don't know who the
Speaker 1: young is next. My bad, my bad, my back. I'm James,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm Scraat and ship Um, I got you just
Speaker 1: put a C in this. You put it in there
Speaker 1: for Memphis, so I got. I got a little a
Speaker 1: little bit of accent still, but that's my a k
Speaker 1: a about her call me Memphis, So that's okay. Cool. Hey,
Speaker 1: And I'm Shanta a k a um and I'm bisexual
Speaker 1: t Shae in Memphis boy your boy? What episode where about?
Speaker 1: So I know you're all curious what are these three
Speaker 1: doing on the podcast. Mandy and I actually have a
Speaker 1: thing where we hate having more than two other mics
Speaker 1: opposite us. But I had to for these three because
Speaker 1: they all ain't gonna lie. I'm dying deep down inside, cringing.
Speaker 1: But we're gonna get through this, and we're gonna work
Speaker 1: on We're gonna do it. So we're gonna start with
Speaker 1: our Vanilla Ship this week before we dive into a
Speaker 1: bunch of questions. I almost feel like I have to
Speaker 1: rush this because we're also pressed to figure out more
Speaker 1: about you three. But Vanilla Ship is our segment where
Speaker 1: we talk about sex in the news every week. And
Speaker 1: this article comes from Time Out magazine and it's headline
Speaker 1: saying New York City launches a free condom delivery service.
Speaker 1: This is from the Department of Health. It's a door
Speaker 1: to door new home delivery service of safer sex products
Speaker 1: and an HIV um self test kits. Now, I don't
Speaker 1: know how many people are being born in New York
Speaker 1: that they had to give y'all niggas free ubers to condoms.
Speaker 1: But there's so many risks, and every year the Health
Speaker 1: Department gives about thirty million male condoms out, some internal condoms,
Speaker 1: lubricant um so over thirty five hundred nonprofit organizations. But
Speaker 1: now they are going to be delivering it to your door,
Speaker 1: a full array of condoms, including the legend excel don't fit.
Speaker 1: Okay here um the Art Condom NYC. I don't know
Speaker 1: what comes on the Art condom. I don't know if
Speaker 1: there's a boskiat version or what. What I do know is, uh,
Speaker 1: it comes in the mail as well, discreetly packaged envelopes.
Speaker 1: You can only get two products at a time. And
Speaker 1: you said it's the art condom, right, serious Art Condom NYC.
Speaker 1: So like the sleeves where you could put like fake
Speaker 1: tattoos on your arm, I could get like some tattoo
Speaker 1: dingling like party did I would be cool, and some
Speaker 1: Von Dutch dick or something like that. I mean it's
Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's written fancy and fancy levels like graffiti. Um.
Speaker 1: So let me give you guys the phone number by
Speaker 1: the way, Okay, because this phone number that I'm gonna
Speaker 1: give you is also going to tell you where to
Speaker 1: get the HIV kits. So this is the NYC Sexual
Speaker 1: Health Clinic. Put put this Uh, in your notes. Get
Speaker 1: ready three four seven, three nine, six seven, nine five nine,
Speaker 1: Monday through Friday, nine to three thirty on the line.
Speaker 1: And this is a clinic hotline where you can get
Speaker 1: advice on how to get free ship, how to get
Speaker 1: the free condoms, um stuff about anti viral therapy if
Speaker 1: you already have HIV STD questions because y'all been popping
Speaker 1: that pussy during quarantine, just like Mandy's been popping the
Speaker 1: pussy on the boat being a naughty really really bu
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even popping no pussy, don't know, I got
Speaker 1: I got a toy friend. Now, that's what we called it.
Speaker 1: I got a toy friend now, so excuse me. You
Speaker 1: know what you're talking about before, but out here, but
Speaker 1: it's a very burning man crowd, and you can't pop
Speaker 1: it out here like that man. Before we get to
Speaker 1: another segment to something that again, with everything going on,
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people's timelines are kind of
Speaker 1: back to normal, but that doesn't mean that we are
Speaker 1: not still fighting a fight. For those of you who
Speaker 1: have not been able to make it out to protesting,
Speaker 1: For those of you who do not have money, UM
Speaker 1: to maybe donate something else that you can do. Of course,
Speaker 1: I am bringing awareness to different petitions that you can sign.
Speaker 1: It's literally with the click of a button, you literally
Speaker 1: sign your first name, your last name in your email address. UM.
Speaker 1: The petition that you guys can sign this week that
Speaker 1: will be in the description of this episode is again
Speaker 1: on change dot org and it is to reopen the
Speaker 1: case involving the death of tom La Horsford. For those
Speaker 1: of you who are not familiar with this case, this
Speaker 1: is the mother of five who was found dead after
Speaker 1: having a sleepover with UM a lot of white women. UM.
Speaker 1: Apparently this happened in fourth in forsythe county UM which
Speaker 1: is in which is in Georgia, so not to be
Speaker 1: confused with North Carolina Forstykes County. But basically everyone involved
Speaker 1: had some sort of UM relation to the politicians, the
Speaker 1: sheriff in the city and they pretty much ruled it
Speaker 1: a suicide that she jumped off of the second floor balcony. UM.
Speaker 1: So what this petition does is looks it's it reopens
Speaker 1: the case to look further into investigation on what was
Speaker 1: the real cause of death to tom La Horsford. I
Speaker 1: also want to UM say r I P two toy
Speaker 1: and solos, that is, the activists who was found murdered.
Speaker 1: They actually did UM find her murderer as well. So
Speaker 1: I just wanted to r I p to toy in
Speaker 1: all right, now I can get back an older story
Speaker 1: and it's crazy because it's just resurfacing and the picture
Speaker 1: of that night, if you guys have ever seen it,
Speaker 1: there's a picture of her with those women that night. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's really insane. But like again, so on top of
Speaker 1: the police brutality, again, I think a lot of the
Speaker 1: instances regarding black women have been kind of swept under
Speaker 1: the rug. Um. Literally only one of the people involved
Speaker 1: in the Brianna Taylor case has been fired, so no arrest,
Speaker 1: no charges. Literally only only one of the officers were fired.
Speaker 1: So UM also still fighting for justice for Brianna Taylor.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna get to the horrid derv and hopefully
Speaker 1: our throuble will have some insight on another piece of advice.
Speaker 1: But everybody writes in every other fucking week on how
Speaker 1: to have a threesome in three fucking years, I don't
Speaker 1: know how much advice we've given. I don't know if
Speaker 1: I'm just the token bitch to have threesomes on this show,
Speaker 1: Mandy's having them, but y'all legit be coming up to
Speaker 1: me and meet and Greef like, so will you fuck
Speaker 1: me in my nigga? And I'm like, wow, there's another
Speaker 1: girl right here, you you fan. So they're gonna keep
Speaker 1: asking you with me and greet to join them, and
Speaker 1: then I'm not the one it anymore. So anyway, here's
Speaker 1: my advice, UM, for the threesomes. This is very simple advice. UM.
Speaker 1: This is for not assuming a throuple obviously, but just
Speaker 1: people that are starting out. Super basic but serious, because
Speaker 1: I feel like every time we get an email about something,
Speaker 1: this would have helped you in the beginning. Make sure
Speaker 1: that everyone is excited about having it. I don't know why.
Speaker 1: For the love god, men are almost coercing their girlfriends
Speaker 1: into fucking women that they don't want to fuck one
Speaker 1: and two making them feel guilty about it, like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know see, I can't never do shoot with you either.
Speaker 1: You want you don't want me to cheat? You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, It's okay, I'm You're just gonna have
Speaker 1: me do this. That is gaslighting is disgusting. Why don't
Speaker 1: you talk instead of make me feel bad about it, like,
Speaker 1: do you understand that it's literally the definition of coercion.
Speaker 1: How are you gonna, like, what if women did this
Speaker 1: to you? Oh wow, you ain't gonna stuck a dick
Speaker 1: with me, nigga? How you feel We're right? Guys have
Speaker 1: given people any advice when it comes to three SOMs there?
Speaker 1: Maybe when people are asking your advice, who's what's the
Speaker 1: first piece that you go to? Hit on those waitresses?
Speaker 1: I mean, hit on the waitresses. You're you're out, there's
Speaker 1: people all around you. Hit on the you know, just
Speaker 1: the people that you talked to. You might be in
Speaker 1: a bar and hit it off with somebody, um, and
Speaker 1: just get out of your comfort zone. I think for
Speaker 1: James that was a lot easier for me. I don't
Speaker 1: really hit on women a lot, so that was kind
Speaker 1: of out of my comfort zone. But once I kind
Speaker 1: of stepped out of that and decided, you know, I
Speaker 1: was going to shoot my shot, then I would say
Speaker 1: it works or you know again, James in the mix
Speaker 1: of that, and I think I'm gonna lie. I actually
Speaker 1: like that piece of advice. I don't think that. I
Speaker 1: think people automatically think they have to go to a
Speaker 1: strip club to find someone who would join them, and
Speaker 1: instead you could easily just start off by, yeah, flirting
Speaker 1: with your waitresses or your bartenders or and I would say, um, yeah, Sheyla,
Speaker 1: I think you said that you're a little bit more shy,
Speaker 1: and then James um would do the flirting. But I'll say,
Speaker 1: as someone who was in that space as a waitress,
Speaker 1: as a bartender, when the woman flirts with you, that's
Speaker 1: when you know you kind of have more of the go. Um.
Speaker 1: I think if the guy starts flirting, you don't know
Speaker 1: if it's just on some uncomfortable ship. If he describes so.
Speaker 1: As a woman, as you know, in that position, you
Speaker 1: don't really want to flirt back. So I would say
Speaker 1: for women in the situation, if you've already talked about
Speaker 1: it with your partner and you do go the route
Speaker 1: of flirting with the waitress and stuff like that, I
Speaker 1: would say, Sheyla or or any any woman listening, you
Speaker 1: be the first to flirt. Guys don't do it because
Speaker 1: we we all know, we all know in trouble, right,
Speaker 1: That's right. That's what I be telling her too, because
Speaker 1: she she left shy. Once I say something, Once I
Speaker 1: say something, she all up and she with the ship,
Speaker 1: But you gotta say something first. You gotta say something.
Speaker 1: That's if I do I feel you though, sayla because
Speaker 1: like my nigga literally has said, like, I'm not doing
Speaker 1: ship if you don't talk, I'm not We're not getting
Speaker 1: in a fight about this whatever. But if he just
Speaker 1: says one little thing, because sometimes I'll give it him
Speaker 1: like okay, maybe her right, you know, and then it
Speaker 1: kind of starts off like that. But have you found
Speaker 1: that people are ever like when it's just been two
Speaker 1: of you, whether it be you and Shante or you
Speaker 1: and shape. Have you noticed that sometimes people are looking
Speaker 1: at you and may have you ever felt like someone
Speaker 1: wanted to invite? Can you tell me about a time
Speaker 1: like that? I mean you can sometimes you can tell you.
Speaker 1: They always ask questions, they hint, like they'll comment on
Speaker 1: the woman, like oh, she's so she's so pretty, she's
Speaker 1: so beautiful, and then that's first to me, right obviously,
Speaker 1: like oh she would just way too long. You just
Speaker 1: said birtiful accent, but I didn't gonna hold you New
Speaker 1: yorkful a little bit. He said birdiful. It is screen,
Speaker 1: But yeah, I mean it comes and goes and ship
Speaker 1: because I've been out here for about ten Levin, you're
Speaker 1: so coming, sir, we hear exactly what you're Do you
Speaker 1: have any advice to give someone looking to start or
Speaker 1: have or introduce a threesome in their relationship or with
Speaker 1: their partner. Well, I'm not a be. Prior to being
Speaker 1: in this type of relationship, I was limited on how
Speaker 1: many throesomes I didn't had. I'm not the one I
Speaker 1: want to ask because, like what she was saying, like
Speaker 1: with with them too, they would hit on like waitresses
Speaker 1: and things like that. I just asked my best friend like, hey,
Speaker 1: you know you wanna Okay, so you mean you uh yeah,
Speaker 1: so so I guess let me ask ask you then. Um.
Speaker 1: In terms of bringing in your friends, I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people assume that bringing in your friends into
Speaker 1: that environment ruins the relationship or the friendship or you
Speaker 1: feel some type of way. Have you experienced that with
Speaker 1: bringing your friends into the bedroom with you? Um? I
Speaker 1: did feel some type of way. I'm not gonna get
Speaker 1: into any details, but yeah I do. I did feel
Speaker 1: some type of way. But we were so cool afterwards, okay.
Speaker 1: And I'd say for for us like we or for me,
Speaker 1: We've had three sims of friends. I feel like I've
Speaker 1: gone through all my friends, but it doesn't affect the relationship.
Speaker 1: And my friends know like how I am. So we
Speaker 1: might be fucking in front of them just to like
Speaker 1: be like, come on, come over here, you know, but
Speaker 1: they all know me letting them know you could go
Speaker 1: to the lobby or you could stay in the room. No,
Speaker 1: but I mean again, it was which one of us
Speaker 1: is gonna suck the perfect time going when they get
Speaker 1: to our shows. Let me know, we've been trying to
Speaker 1: give James a little surprised. So let's get right into
Speaker 1: the horrible decision. Um, I couldn't hear what you said.
Speaker 1: What did you say? They said they've been trying to
Speaker 1: give me afford in the same house as y'all. I
Speaker 1: ain't even gonna hold it. Let's it, let's she recorded
Speaker 1: on a wei or just sketch. No, y'all got favorite.
Speaker 1: Y'all gave her the like jankie WiFi the funk. I
Speaker 1: just came in from work, so my station was already
Speaker 1: made up for me. Come on, stay okay, I want
Speaker 1: to call this my girlfriend, girlfriend and I and the
Speaker 1: only reason I'm going to give this a little bit
Speaker 1: of mask possession is because for the most part, we
Speaker 1: have had more women dominate the conversation about threesomes. And
Speaker 1: I'm kind of interested in obviously bouncing back and forth,
Speaker 1: but you do seem like the more dominant figure in
Speaker 1: these two in this situation, I could tell and I'm
Speaker 1: curious to know how you guys met. Let's start with that,
Speaker 1: how you met, and then everybody kind of jumping about
Speaker 1: what they were thinking of each other. She me and
Speaker 1: Sheila who you were talking to you? Um me and
Speaker 1: in school and high school ship on my my lad
Speaker 1: my senior year, I think she was I don't know
Speaker 1: what the funk she was, but we made in school,
Speaker 1: but um Me and chant Actually me and Chante actually
Speaker 1: worked together. So I was flirting with and ship because
Speaker 1: we was we was looking for a third but not
Speaker 1: looking for a third to be in our relationship because
Speaker 1: we was actually just tired of the random three sims
Speaker 1: and ship with motherfucker's just come in and out, in
Speaker 1: and out, but ship. So I presented the presented it
Speaker 1: to Chante and I think she thought I was boyshit
Speaker 1: and she I was just you know, just talking. But
Speaker 1: they had them meet up because if she wasn't with it. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I had had them meet first and ship, so so
Speaker 1: if they didn't mesh, then we we wouldn't eve waste
Speaker 1: our time with it, right yeah? Because so so can
Speaker 1: I ask um you, Shante? Look you know what I mean, Chante?
Speaker 1: Can I ask you you kind of what that first
Speaker 1: interaction and what that first meeting was like? And did
Speaker 1: you guys at all like talk about becoming a couple.
Speaker 1: Was that even in the conversation when you guys hung
Speaker 1: out by yourselves, Um, that that seems like it was
Speaker 1: so long ago. Um, But no, we we hit it
Speaker 1: off perfectly. We we talked. We you know, it was
Speaker 1: like a little brunch setting, so it was like in
Speaker 1: a comfortable atmosphere. We chopped it up, um, and then
Speaker 1: afterwards we went smoke. But it was did you you know,
Speaker 1: I'm curious to know did you feel like when you
Speaker 1: met um When you met Umila, did you feel like
Speaker 1: she was more like like it was a homegirl sister
Speaker 1: vibe or were you attracted her when you met her?
Speaker 1: What did you what was that initial feeling I was
Speaker 1: attracted to her. I was like, Okay, she's cute, all right,
Speaker 1: I see um. No, but I thought she was cute,
Speaker 1: and I mean at first it's it's a little intimidating
Speaker 1: because you have a couple or a man telling you
Speaker 1: that him and his girl wants to somebody to join
Speaker 1: the relationship. So meeting her, I was just like, I
Speaker 1: don't know about this. I was a little nervous getting
Speaker 1: out of the car. But like I said, like our conversation,
Speaker 1: you know, everything flowed, everything was perfect, and she was pretty.
Speaker 1: So yeah, what, um, how long have you guys been
Speaker 1: together before we met, before Shante came into the relationship.
Speaker 1: Me and James have been together for what I'm really
Speaker 1: bad at this stuff. I think like five or six years, Um,
Speaker 1: so about five I would say, how long did together?
Speaker 1: About almost two years? A year and a half or so.
Speaker 1: But and I definitely agree with what Santa said. We
Speaker 1: try not to I would say, we try not to
Speaker 1: give the like the whole home homegirl vibe. Like I
Speaker 1: try not to give that because essentially my purpose is
Speaker 1: not to be a homegirl, like I want to fuck you.
Speaker 1: I want you to be my woman, and I want
Speaker 1: you to be in my name and everything too, so
Speaker 1: like I'm not there to be your friend. Um. But
Speaker 1: I would say, like in the In the beginning, when
Speaker 1: James first told me about Chante, like he said, we
Speaker 1: weren't really actively looking anymore. Um. The looking processes is
Speaker 1: very dragging. Um. And we really open it up to
Speaker 1: each other for us to flirt with who we want
Speaker 1: to to try to establish or bring that the person
Speaker 1: into the relationship. Um. But once we agreed on you
Speaker 1: brought her to my attention. I agreed. I thought she
Speaker 1: was very beautiful woman, met up with her, and honestly,
Speaker 1: going in, I wasn't even sure if she was gonna
Speaker 1: be for real because we had so many flakes and
Speaker 1: so many yeah, I want to do this, and yeah
Speaker 1: and this and this and not, and it just didn't
Speaker 1: work right right. So I'm curious to know. Do I
Speaker 1: wanna ask this question to Tay. Do people ever like
Speaker 1: assume that you're in a controlling a relationship or like
Speaker 1: you don't want this because some dude bound you at
Speaker 1: work and got you living with him and his girlfriend,
Speaker 1: and like, had that happened to you when you've told
Speaker 1: your friends, because I'm assuming that with them, maybe they've
Speaker 1: already had some conversation with the friends better, But what
Speaker 1: about you? You are the quote unquote third. Right. So, um,
Speaker 1: I've had people asked me if I'm settling because you know,
Speaker 1: obviously field relationships in the past, and they're like, okay, well, like,
Speaker 1: is it because you can't find a man of your
Speaker 1: own to where you have to be with some a
Speaker 1: man and a woman that's already been established, um, And
Speaker 1: I have to explain it to them, like, no, that's perfectly,
Speaker 1: that's not it. Because if I wanted to get a dude,
Speaker 1: which is me and that dude, I have no problem
Speaker 1: doing that. Um. It's just something that obviously was new
Speaker 1: and foreign to me. If I didn't like it, I
Speaker 1: would have left the relationship a long time ago. But
Speaker 1: obviously I liked it enough to stay. And it's like
Speaker 1: you build a relationship, but not only the man, but
Speaker 1: you build a relationship with the woman, and then you
Speaker 1: guys all build a relationship together. Um. So you like
Speaker 1: they say, you can knot get to you try it.
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Speaker 1: So we are back, and so I have a question
Speaker 1: because um chantay, you were first, I guess in the
Speaker 1: relationship with James. Correct. I really thought I was doing good,
Speaker 1: damn it. Um, So, I guess my question is because
Speaker 1: anytime we've heard of lou Will, we've heard of I mean,
Speaker 1: all these athletes that go about having two girlfriends. But
Speaker 1: what happens is people feel like they're the primary girlfriend
Speaker 1: and then there's a secondary There's one that's more in
Speaker 1: charge and one that's underneath. There's one that has kids
Speaker 1: and the other one doesn't have kids, so maybe she's
Speaker 1: not as worthy. How do you not not damn, that's
Speaker 1: not a petty but how do you, guys, um, I guess,
Speaker 1: go about this relationship without feeling like there's a hierarchy
Speaker 1: in the relationship between the two of you. So number one,
Speaker 1: it was transparency, transparency from the beginning that there wasn't
Speaker 1: going to be a hierarchy between any of us. You know.
Speaker 1: Of course James is dominant so and he's the only
Speaker 1: man in the relationship. But between me and Schanta, like,
Speaker 1: I don't even really like using the word third when
Speaker 1: it comes to her, because I see her as just
Speaker 1: as important and her needs and her ons are just
Speaker 1: as important as mine. I will say before you just
Speaker 1: you know, open it all up to to a woman
Speaker 1: in your relationship and to your man, and to you
Speaker 1: make sure she's for real, you know, and not her
Speaker 1: intentions are true. When Shante came into the relationship, she
Speaker 1: made it crisp and clear that she wasn't here to
Speaker 1: steal nobody's man. Like she made sure we we really
Speaker 1: put on our time for me and hers relationship before
Speaker 1: even like her and James got to really get a
Speaker 1: solid solid relationship. We had that bond, and so did
Speaker 1: you ever have moments of jealousy because she was the
Speaker 1: new fresh like you? Of course? I feel like it's
Speaker 1: a myth that Polly people don't get jealous, but yeah,
Speaker 1: uh I get jealous. But I think what helps the
Speaker 1: jealousy is my reaction. Number One, you gotta put yourself
Speaker 1: in check. Am I getting jealous because he kissed her
Speaker 1: on the cheek and didn't kiss me on the cheek?
Speaker 1: Or like, is it a serious thing that we all
Speaker 1: need to talk about, Like I'm not getting no dick?
Speaker 1: What's up? You know? But that'll be brought up quick.
Speaker 1: I actually like that you mentioned that, James. I want
Speaker 1: to ask you, as a man, do you feel the
Speaker 1: pressure if you dick one down, you gotta go dick
Speaker 1: the other one down? Or if you give one a kiss,
Speaker 1: you gotta give the other kids. Is there any pressure
Speaker 1: for you as a man to feel like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: can't show favoritism or I don't want them to think
Speaker 1: there's any favoritism. Do you feel like if you give
Speaker 1: one something, you have to give the other something as well?
Speaker 1: Um as far as six, I say no, because we don't.
Speaker 1: We're try not to keep count and it's just like
Speaker 1: whenever we're spending our one on one time together, if
Speaker 1: we're so, happened to funk in that time, Dan, we
Speaker 1: fun but in and we don't talk like Silo or
Speaker 1: Nita Chanta, and I asked me, oh, y'all funk with
Speaker 1: y'alls together, So we're not like keeping counting of it
Speaker 1: like that. But it do like if I kiss one on,
Speaker 1: like if I'm leaving the house and both on, I
Speaker 1: gotta kiss both of them though, because they look at
Speaker 1: me stupid, like come on, like stop playing with me?
Speaker 1: Do you James? I want to ask you this um.
Speaker 1: There was a very popular show on Showtime some years
Speaker 1: ago called Polyamory, and it was the first time it
Speaker 1: might have been even been ten years ago the people
Speaker 1: really saw thruffles and even what do you call quad
Speaker 1: dripple whatever in relationships living together. And the guy made
Speaker 1: a joke and he was like, my friends be like, damn,
Speaker 1: you gotta going on and he's like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: like this ship is stressful as fun. I'm missing shampoo
Speaker 1: raisers third too much. Do you think that there is
Speaker 1: a hype to you having at all? Do you feel
Speaker 1: like there is a lot of work in being with
Speaker 1: two women. It is. It is a lot of work.
Speaker 1: And yet um, it's a lot of hype around it
Speaker 1: because people see it and they'd be like, damn, I
Speaker 1: because we just had as somebody over recently, damn Like
Speaker 1: how you get two girlfriend? I want to I want
Speaker 1: to get like that. I'm like, there's a lot of
Speaker 1: work and a lot of a lot of paperwork going.
Speaker 1: Um involved too, you gotta like it's you gotta pay
Speaker 1: for two women dinners when we go out. You gotta
Speaker 1: you gotta get to know two different women. You gotta understand,
Speaker 1: like you, it's hard to please one woman, get to
Speaker 1: know one woman, and you gotta satisfy both women needs.
Speaker 1: And these two Sila and chante, they they receive love
Speaker 1: two different ways. So you gotta learn how to love
Speaker 1: each woman separately because women don't they at least them do.
Speaker 1: They don't receive it the same way. Are you guys
Speaker 1: familiar with love languages? And if so, do you guys
Speaker 1: know which ones your love languages? We did a test
Speaker 1: like what a few weeks ago, things like months whatever,
Speaker 1: one of our shows. But um, so I would say
Speaker 1: right now, we're actually kind of doing the love language,
Speaker 1: the five Love Languages. So one week we did Words
Speaker 1: of Affirmation, and this was Shawnta's idea. You guys are
Speaker 1: doing different weeks, and and actually that is really loved
Speaker 1: the Words of Affirmation week. I think that so far
Speaker 1: that's been the one that we've really stuck to it
Speaker 1: the most and made sure we did that every day.
Speaker 1: And then it just reminds you of why you love,
Speaker 1: why I love her, why I love him? Like what
Speaker 1: I appreciate what you guys did. I think that any
Speaker 1: couple listening to this, or anyone in a relationship, I
Speaker 1: think taking those not even just taking the test, but
Speaker 1: going through the five love languages and getting taking a
Speaker 1: week out for each one and just to remind yourself
Speaker 1: the love that you guys do have for each other,
Speaker 1: but displaying it in different ways. I love that starting.
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna do that with my toy friends.
Speaker 1: The tests, and you know, I don't even remember what
Speaker 1: our results were from the test, but I remember when
Speaker 1: we were doing it week by week, which one was
Speaker 1: the one that I really felt the most. So doing it,
Speaker 1: doing the tests and then doing it weekly really does help. YO.
Speaker 1: Shout out to you James by the way, he was like,
Speaker 1: you know what they see a little differently. Now I
Speaker 1: want to ask let's start with let's go what you say.
Speaker 1: Do your friends and family know? And how did that
Speaker 1: work out? So not everybody in my family knows. There's
Speaker 1: like a certain amount that know, um. And then there's
Speaker 1: a certain amount that have met both of them, not together.
Speaker 1: But did they think, um, no, what I don't live
Speaker 1: with them? Okay, yeah, so but they come over, um
Speaker 1: almost all the time. But my sister, I would say,
Speaker 1: my youngest sister, me and her really close. Um. She
Speaker 1: kind of she when it first, when she first found out,
Speaker 1: she was the one that was just like, are you settling?
Speaker 1: She was kind of worried, like like what is my
Speaker 1: sister doing? Like I still want you to um, you know,
Speaker 1: have kids and things like that. So there was a
Speaker 1: lot of things that she thought I wouldn't be able
Speaker 1: to experience ends because I was with these two. Um.
Speaker 1: But yeah, but I told her that wasn't the case. Okay, James,
Speaker 1: how do you do? First of all, do any of
Speaker 1: you have children? I do? I have a daughter. You
Speaker 1: have a daughter? Okay, And even more interesting, man, I
Speaker 1: asked how old she is five, So five? Is this
Speaker 1: is this something that you've introgued? Like have you introduced
Speaker 1: her to both of your your girlfriend? Yeah? Because my
Speaker 1: daughter was born like right out, like right before me
Speaker 1: and Sheila got together. So she's known Saila her entire life,
Speaker 1: her whole life. So and then and right now we um,
Speaker 1: she she see some she she see my bad a
Speaker 1: lot because she's over a lot, and um, she knows
Speaker 1: she knows her right now, it is just shelo best friend. Okay,
Speaker 1: I can. I can understand that'd be hard for a
Speaker 1: five year older. Consist, it's really hard and it's difficult.
Speaker 1: I would appreciate anybody that understands that, because I know
Speaker 1: there's always somebody that's like, damn, well, why that's a lot?
Speaker 1: You know, how do you feel about having kids with
Speaker 1: both of your girlfriends? And and how do you guys
Speaker 1: have conversations about that? Um, we'll start with you, James,
Speaker 1: and then we'll go to the girls. Yeah. Um, it's
Speaker 1: a conversation we had. They both still want kids, and
Speaker 1: I'm obviously we had that conversation. Obviously I agree to it,
Speaker 1: or both of them would have been gone already because
Speaker 1: they you know, because they know they firm on on
Speaker 1: what they want and like they're not gonna If I'm
Speaker 1: not willing to give it to them, then they're gonna
Speaker 1: be out. So I'm open to it and we we
Speaker 1: haven't crossed their line as of yet, but it's coming.
Speaker 1: Let me ask another question. People assume when they see
Speaker 1: a throuble or anything like this or a man with
Speaker 1: two women polygamy, we think of TLC's sister wives. Do
Speaker 1: y'all feel like you're in that relationship or now sisters
Speaker 1: in sectionn't be in same sentence, can speak, So we're
Speaker 1: not sister wives. I just want to make that clear.
Speaker 1: So that does have some ancestry is doing. That's some WPS.
Speaker 1: I mean technically we out here calling Nigga's daddy, so
Speaker 1: it's just daddy is I guess my question you brought
Speaker 1: up earlier that uh and this is to James. You
Speaker 1: brought up earlier that not only is paperwork involved kind
Speaker 1: of as as far as money is involved with um
Speaker 1: taking care of two meals when you go out, UM
Speaker 1: bills of course, UM whenever both of them decided to
Speaker 1: move in, waink Wa want to hear to update on that,
Speaker 1: But do you think that someone that does not have
Speaker 1: their money in order can successfully have two girlfriends or
Speaker 1: do you think it is something where you need to
Speaker 1: be financially able to provide for two women in order
Speaker 1: to be in this type of relationship. I mean it
Speaker 1: can be eat it just it depends, I guess, because um,
Speaker 1: we they both have really good jobs and and they
Speaker 1: get paid good. But at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: there are two women. They're gonna look to you as
Speaker 1: to man to provide because that's your job essentially. But
Speaker 1: come on, I feel like, but I feel like, um,
Speaker 1: you shouldn't even want them to to pay for everything
Speaker 1: and to provide for you because it's they can go
Speaker 1: into any any other relationship and have demand provide for
Speaker 1: just them shape I'm let know right now, but is
Speaker 1: about to be coming for the thing, but because he
Speaker 1: think he thinks he needs to provide for us. But
Speaker 1: I have a strong mindset that I'm a provide for myself,
Speaker 1: so and she has the same strong mindset. So it
Speaker 1: depends on who you with if you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: you guys are gonna have you can all see. I
Speaker 1: feel like, I mean, I'm just speaking just I think
Speaker 1: Mandy would agree you'll have a prosperous relationship if you
Speaker 1: all think like that, Because I mean, I think what
Speaker 1: he's saying is great. But when you have two women
Speaker 1: that are also like that, y'all, vacations ain't gonna be
Speaker 1: no bullshit, you know. And I feel like I feel
Speaker 1: like you can budget together too, if if you're in
Speaker 1: that type of relationship, if you if you went two
Speaker 1: women and y'all put your money together, you guys, can
Speaker 1: you know, take some things that I don't require to
Speaker 1: bawl out every time you go to dinner and like that? Right? Right,
Speaker 1: let's get some questions. Well, first off, well that's what
Speaker 1: I was about to ask. Actually, we was getting into
Speaker 1: the sex part because I was just talking with my
Speaker 1: toy friend about this and I wanted to know. And
Speaker 1: this is the question for all of y'all, be cause
Speaker 1: we has also been in a throuble when we have
Speaker 1: this word and mindset of a throuble, Yes, we know
Speaker 1: that there's three people involved. But could a throuble consists
Speaker 1: of two men and a girl? And if so, would
Speaker 1: a throuble do the two people who are the same
Speaker 1: sex have to have sex together? Otherwise, as it calls
Speaker 1: something else, let me know what a thrupple is. Oh, so,
Speaker 1: if it is two men and a woman and a woman,
Speaker 1: obviously they don't have to have sex unless the men
Speaker 1: are by um, you can't have two straight men each other,
Speaker 1: and then it would be a V. Right, it would
Speaker 1: be a V. So with that being said, it would
Speaker 1: be the man being in a relationship with both women,
Speaker 1: but the women not being in a relationship with each other,
Speaker 1: or for your example, the two men not being relationship
Speaker 1: with each other, but the woman being the focal point.
Speaker 1: But the reason why it's a V. It's not that
Speaker 1: connected triangle because the two men and or two women
Speaker 1: aren't sexually aren't sexually triangle. Okay, so here's my question
Speaker 1: that everybody is not going to be surprised that I'm asking.
Speaker 1: So here we go. Are your period SYNCD up? And
Speaker 1: if no, my nigga, are you like bye? I gotta
Speaker 1: guess y'all knew she was gonna bring up the blood
Speaker 1: love blood. They're almost I think she'll start before I do,
Speaker 1: and then I'll start on it when she's like on
Speaker 1: the tail end of hers, like when she's on day
Speaker 1: four or five, then I'll start mine. So he gets
Speaker 1: a break for him. He don't want them to be
Speaker 1: sinced because then there is no breaks. But I'm trying
Speaker 1: to hurry up and get them sinced because when you
Speaker 1: want your period and then then you gotta right right,
Speaker 1: you eat, you puss and you sucking dick. But you
Speaker 1: can't do too much else. But if I was, you
Speaker 1: have a masker. No, I don't talk about the stuff. Okay,
Speaker 1: thank you? Wait, wait, didn't even makes us wait two
Speaker 1: days after our period before he'll suck us, because I
Speaker 1: know that's right. He said he don't. He said he
Speaker 1: don't want the red blood or the brownstand right now
Speaker 1: because he's only acting like that because he has another option.
Speaker 1: Nigga that don't have another option. We have to deal
Speaker 1: with a little bit of barbecue, okay, right, he has
Speaker 1: something also turned to he needs some They are tricked
Speaker 1: me sometimes. Don't say like I'm two days off. I'll
Speaker 1: be like, no, I'm keeping up with this ship. Whause
Speaker 1: is it because you love to eat that? Yeah, I'll
Speaker 1: be trying to get down there and get it in.
Speaker 1: So that's what they say. So we's the asked who
Speaker 1: is the kinkiest of the three of you? See, I
Speaker 1: would say that because I like to try, like I'm
Speaker 1: trying to peg someone and James won't like it. Looks James,
Speaker 1: little man. If I want to do that, well you can't.
Speaker 1: So the even pegging, I mean you could still do
Speaker 1: the act of a strap on with tay Tell. That's
Speaker 1: something that you would be into it. All. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: told her I would let her. She want to pay,
Speaker 1: but see, and that's the thing. I want to pay
Speaker 1: a nigga to like that. The thing I just like,
Speaker 1: all right, I know you're trying to help. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get I'm gonna get ta. We're definitely gonna get there.
Speaker 1: But I'm trying to peck another nigga. So so let
Speaker 1: me ask you that, because um, James, you have two girlfriends,
Speaker 1: and you do have a girlfriend that does want to
Speaker 1: try something sexually that you don't want to do. Is
Speaker 1: that something where you would allow either one of them
Speaker 1: to partake in something sexual with another manogamous? I meant
Speaker 1: to ask that. I mean, I already gave her to
Speaker 1: green light to do it with somebody else because it
Speaker 1: ain't gonna be me. I just want to know an
Speaker 1: advance though, you know, I mean, she can't just do
Speaker 1: it behind my back and know she's like that, but
Speaker 1: keep it a hunting. Just tell me, and because it's
Speaker 1: definitely gonna be me. Ladies, what's wrong with James? Because
Speaker 1: he sounds great, right, he got six tones. He's petty,
Speaker 1: that's what's wrong. He's petty and petty petty. Does James
Speaker 1: have a big dick? Because we feel like we hear
Speaker 1: b d through the screen. I need to know, yes,
Speaker 1: he does. Look look at said it. She said what
Speaker 1: she was asking about? Yeah, yeah, the dick is there, James,
Speaker 1: I told you five. Okay, See that's enough. That's all
Speaker 1: we need. It's the national average. I bless you with
Speaker 1: a big dig a cool attitude and money and make
Speaker 1: you six five. We will well, I beg to differ
Speaker 1: because that's what the whole manum athletes. My toy friend
Speaker 1: is tall and he got all that other qualities going on.
Speaker 1: UM So, I guess let me ask you um as
Speaker 1: well just before we I think you know, we're trying
Speaker 1: to get all these sex questions in two with you guys.
Speaker 1: Um So, you guys are in a threesome. You got
Speaker 1: all the pussy you would want. James, has there ever
Speaker 1: been a conversation about y'all bringing in a fourth or
Speaker 1: maybe doing something at like a sex club, or just
Speaker 1: adding other people into the bedroom now that there's three
Speaker 1: of you. Yeah, that was supposed to bring a fourth
Speaker 1: for my birthday. But they ain't do that. They don't
Speaker 1: get they don't get a chance to do that. But uh,
Speaker 1: we we talked about it and ship. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: bringing a fourth to the bed room. Not necessarily to
Speaker 1: our relationship though, because our relationship, I feel like two
Speaker 1: of them is enough. I'm good with just them too,
Speaker 1: But when it comes up, when it fucking oh yeah,
Speaker 1: we can bring a fourth, we can do that. Man,
Speaker 1: we supposed it. Where do you guys, Phoenix or Gilbert Arizona?
Speaker 1: So well, my my toy friend are talking about watching
Speaker 1: someone virtually, like well, having someone watch us virtually and
Speaker 1: having like a virtual thing with each other's. Um. The
Speaker 1: sex clubs are starting to open here, but I ain't listen.
Speaker 1: I'm going to Miami, but I ain't that bowl to
Speaker 1: just be up in the sex club just yet. Um.
Speaker 1: So we are like trying to introduce voyeurhythm a little bit. Um. So,
Speaker 1: I mean I'm down to watch y'all, y'all can watch
Speaker 1: us you know go that way. But um, I was
Speaker 1: watching your face. How do you feel about other men
Speaker 1: being involved? If it's swapping or not swapping, how do
Speaker 1: you feel about that? Um? Me and Sla, Me and
Speaker 1: Shila actually has done it before Chante was before Shante
Speaker 1: came into relationship. I guess we waste you missed all
Speaker 1: the fun, but you gotta catch up. You put tell
Speaker 1: them we need another exactly. So I guess we was
Speaker 1: quote unquote swingers. I guess we Me and Syla and
Speaker 1: I've been a swinger clubs and she liked that and
Speaker 1: funked around with other clubs and full swap, soft swap.
Speaker 1: We've done all this ship so we don't know that
Speaker 1: as a trio. How do you feel about it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I'm weirded. Chant has limitations, so we had
Speaker 1: to ease into it for her. Let's talk about that, Shante,
Speaker 1: what are your what are your? Um? Well, going into
Speaker 1: it like swapping, I probably wouldn't be able to do
Speaker 1: that just I don't know. I just can't suck somebody
Speaker 1: I don't know, like just but then watching and I'll
Speaker 1: just feel uneasy. It was yeah, watching that, I mean
Speaker 1: I can watch, but I just don't touch me? Like,
Speaker 1: can I all three of y'all? And I mean we
Speaker 1: can start, um, she, since you're the most open, we'll
Speaker 1: start with you, and then Tay and then James. I'm
Speaker 1: curious to know what opened you guys up to the
Speaker 1: idea of not being in an exclusive bonogamy relationship and
Speaker 1: instead pursuing a throuble and even James for you to
Speaker 1: say that y'all have swapped and been in the swinger lifestyle.
Speaker 1: How how was that introduced to you guys because horrible decisions.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it was us, but I'm curious
Speaker 1: to know how these conversations start for people who may
Speaker 1: not listen to our show, or or if it came about,
Speaker 1: you know, in another way. Yeah, So I would say
Speaker 1: with me and James are openness started at the very
Speaker 1: beginning of our relationship. Um, I was more like by
Speaker 1: curious at that stage, I would say, So I was
Speaker 1: down to have the threesome and to do that, and
Speaker 1: from the threesomes, we're like, well, what else is there?
Speaker 1: You know, we you know, we don't fund all my
Speaker 1: friends and stuff. What else is there to do? So
Speaker 1: that's when we got into the swinger The swinging um
Speaker 1: and the swapping even like you said, letting people watch
Speaker 1: us fuck watching other people fuck um. And it's throughout
Speaker 1: our entire relationship because we were even open for a
Speaker 1: little bit too, Like that's just been me and James
Speaker 1: like that. That's just been how our relationship has been.
Speaker 1: And for me personally, it's opened me up because I'm
Speaker 1: more of a I'm a curious person and I don't
Speaker 1: feel like there's been other dudes that I've talked to about,
Speaker 1: you know, Polly three, someome things like that that wouldn't
Speaker 1: be okay with this type of relationship. They don't want
Speaker 1: me and love with someone else. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: I don't feel like for the rest of my life
Speaker 1: I should have to choose dick or pussy. And then
Speaker 1: at the same time, just with safety reasons, just not
Speaker 1: having a whole bunch of randoms. You know, we got
Speaker 1: to the point where it was like, yeah, we got
Speaker 1: to know him when we stayed friends with a few
Speaker 1: of the people that we like, swapped with and things
Speaker 1: like that, but we wanted someone to chill with that night,
Speaker 1: to cuddle with and go on dates with and get
Speaker 1: to really know and love. So that's where it came
Speaker 1: from for me, and then just to try to by
Speaker 1: the way all the love through the screens, from just
Speaker 1: the love language talk to even just how you all
Speaker 1: speak on I want to give a shout to shape
Speaker 1: real quick, because I think that a lot of women
Speaker 1: have mentioned this and don't exactly act like you are.
Speaker 1: Like I've even heard other troubles where they'll don't not
Speaker 1: speak down to the person that maybe became after they
Speaker 1: had met their initial partner, but they're just gonna be like, well,
Speaker 1: you know, well us. But like you were very clear
Speaker 1: in saying you didn't even like calling her your third
Speaker 1: which I didn't even mean to say disrespectfully, but you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, I think you you put
Speaker 1: a lot of emphasis on making sure that she feels
Speaker 1: good about what you all have going on, and I
Speaker 1: think it mainly should be coming from you. I think
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure is put on the man to like, oh,
Speaker 1: you're the one who's got two women, but it's like, nah,
Speaker 1: imagine how you must feel oay feeling like okay, well
Speaker 1: is she really comfortable? Because I knew him first, you know.
Speaker 1: And I think that women could learn a lot from
Speaker 1: what you're doing because we do put a lot of
Speaker 1: pressure on the man. For example, Mandy and I both agreed, like, um,
Speaker 1: you know, if a dude comes up and says something
Speaker 1: first blah blah blah blah blah, like there is a
Speaker 1: lot to be said with the woman in that. And
Speaker 1: I think, I don't know if take it agree, but
Speaker 1: it does sound like you do a lot to make
Speaker 1: her feel up, which I've noticed from just an hour.
Speaker 1: I appreciate that, And I guess I have another question too,
Speaker 1: because what you said with your other partners, they don't
Speaker 1: want you to love someone else. Um, James, how do
Speaker 1: you hold in your jealousy or insecurity? I think we
Speaker 1: we attached those characteristics to women a lot without thinking
Speaker 1: that men also get jealous or men have insecurities. How
Speaker 1: do you check yourself when maybe they're having fun, or
Speaker 1: they want to have a girl's night out, or they
Speaker 1: do want to just spend time alone. How do you
Speaker 1: check you check? You know, I don't they do it
Speaker 1: for me? Um, right, But my I guess it comes
Speaker 1: from me most of the time, where it's like if
Speaker 1: if one of them and myself are arguing or something,
Speaker 1: they always tend to comfort each other and besides, like
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, I want some little too, like I'm
Speaker 1: piste off, Like show me some little like she could
Speaker 1: be mad for a little bit, right right, right, that's
Speaker 1: what they'd be saying. I'd be like, and we and
Speaker 1: we had that conversation and I addressed it, and that's
Speaker 1: what um we big on just communicating it and and
Speaker 1: we we've had the discussions about it, but they still
Speaker 1: do it. But and it's it's all good because it's expected.
Speaker 1: And but for the like nights out and she's like that,
Speaker 1: I encourage them to have they have their girls time
Speaker 1: and like build a relationship for our for our foundation
Speaker 1: can be strong. How do you feel about when people
Speaker 1: may be asking for advice other men? What do you
Speaker 1: think it's different about you than men that have tried
Speaker 1: this before or maybe friends, you know, like, what do
Speaker 1: you think it is different about your quality that you
Speaker 1: have that makes this dynamic work. That's it. I don't
Speaker 1: feel like it's nothing too too too crazy, that just
Speaker 1: I'm open. And I was honest with Shaila from the
Speaker 1: beginning about what I wanted and what I was trying
Speaker 1: to experience, and she was open to it. She was
Speaker 1: a little hesitant at first. Um, but like she said,
Speaker 1: she was always curious about curious about it. And I
Speaker 1: just feel like, I'm, um, I'm I'm open to them,
Speaker 1: and I'm I'm open to Shaila like loving Chante. I'm
Speaker 1: not a selfish type of nigger. So it's just you
Speaker 1: got you have to be a certain type of way.
Speaker 1: You have to throw your your pride to the side
Speaker 1: and realize it ain't about you most of the time,
Speaker 1: because the foundation is built really on the queens in
Speaker 1: the relationship, and and that's just what it is. Said. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was actually gonna say what you just said is
Speaker 1: you said you were honest, up front with what you wanted.
Speaker 1: I know, along the relationship, you guys grew more curious.
Speaker 1: But a lot of times we get letters that are
Speaker 1: written in or even when I'm talking to friends, they're like, man,
Speaker 1: but my partner would never do that. So I ain't
Speaker 1: even gonna ask. So the fact that you literally just
Speaker 1: opened the conversation. I think so many people think they
Speaker 1: know their partner, especially in this kink space or when
Speaker 1: you want to try to introduce more people, they just
Speaker 1: be like, no, man, I know if I ask her
Speaker 1: for that, she's gonna think I'm cheating or she's gonna
Speaker 1: go crazy, and a lot of times you'd be surprised
Speaker 1: what your partner is actually open to doing if you
Speaker 1: just open the dialogue to to having that and seeing
Speaker 1: their comfortability levels. So I'm glad that you just said
Speaker 1: I was honest. I said what I wanted. Sheila, you said,
Speaker 1: you're curious what more can we do? And I think
Speaker 1: those early conversations are what got y'all to you know,
Speaker 1: you're successful throuble now, So I appreciate you saying that
Speaker 1: I'm curious to know. Okay, two questions, Who is the
Speaker 1: best pussy you go with? Bullshit? I would say probably, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think we've had this conversation before, like on our podcast.
Speaker 1: So they both had me so well because before her,
Speaker 1: I never really experienced with a woman, So you know,
Speaker 1: but it's still like man, but you in it now
Speaker 1: and she hasn't been scared about it. You know. That's
Speaker 1: another thing. All all your friends that ate your pussy
Speaker 1: before this, they coming for you back, is gonna come
Speaker 1: to you now? Your friends no day, Okay, that's for James,
Speaker 1: ship don't like Okay, you don't have to which one
Speaker 1: of y'all like giving Dick the most because that's normally
Speaker 1: the one who sucks it out of the two. Y'all
Speaker 1: stuck better Dick. I don't know. I think we're we
Speaker 1: both make him come right. And I've been sucking his
Speaker 1: dick for a minute now, so I know what to
Speaker 1: do if I want to make him come real quick.
Speaker 1: Because we didn't mention it in the beginning of the show,
Speaker 1: but you mentioned your podcast. So the three of you
Speaker 1: guys share a podcast together, yes, often, and you guys
Speaker 1: often talk about like what for the people listening because
Speaker 1: because I know we missed that in the beginning, for
Speaker 1: the people listening who are curious to maybe hear more
Speaker 1: from you guys, what is your podcast about? And what
Speaker 1: is it named? It's three relationship goes and it's basically,
Speaker 1: you know, Surrounded about Surrounded a Polly polyamory um our life.
Speaker 1: We have three segments, um, so we have the good
Speaker 1: bad reality. We have a good bad reality, you know,
Speaker 1: where we kind of just you know, give the good,
Speaker 1: the bad and reality. Obviously, we have the kinky cravings
Speaker 1: all about sex, and then we have the tips of
Speaker 1: the week, um, just a little factor questions. So it's dope.
Speaker 1: We like it. We've been doing it for almost a
Speaker 1: year now. You guys will have to come to one
Speaker 1: of our live shows and be a guess, because we
Speaker 1: was gonna come to the one in Vegas, but you
Speaker 1: know all this year happen listen Vegas, Vegas opening, and
Speaker 1: so we wait closer. We probably want to lead y'all
Speaker 1: will fuck someone from the audience, right, yeah, no, for sure,
Speaker 1: jobs just make it seem like our audience has just
Speaker 1: given the puss. Alright, they just kiss me, that's it.
Speaker 1: Whenever y'all have one, though, we're definitely gonna come. No,
Speaker 1: we have so let us know. I would really like, really,
Speaker 1: let's get into our home mail really quick before we
Speaker 1: all get out of here. Um to say the name
Speaker 1: of your podcast one more time? Is it three? What
Speaker 1: three relationship goals? So it's number three relationship goals. We're
Speaker 1: gonna put it in our in our description, y'all, se
Speaker 1: y'all can see it. But I mean, obviously we all
Speaker 1: want to tune in because this ship sounds good as fun.
Speaker 1: I want I want to know how to fight go
Speaker 1: I don't know club no toxic love. We ain't going
Speaker 1: We ain't gonnahy I'm here, But anyway, here's a wail.
Speaker 1: I do like the homemail for this week. UM again,
Speaker 1: if you guys have a homemail, please send it into us.
Speaker 1: It's horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Um. This one
Speaker 1: actually kind of relays back to the episode with damage
Speaker 1: um on kind of just decision making in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I really like this. It says, Hello, Louisian Mandy. I'm
Speaker 1: a huge fan. I've been listening for about a year.
Speaker 1: Love you guys. Here we go. So about a week
Speaker 1: or so after the riots started happening about George Floyd,
Speaker 1: everybody had their opinion on what's going on. For the
Speaker 1: most part, the people around me are pretty much on
Speaker 1: the same page with lots with a lot of these issues.
Speaker 1: But I'm a black man and my wife is Mexican.
Speaker 1: We have a daughter and a son together, and we
Speaker 1: pretty much have the same idea on how we want
Speaker 1: to raise our kids. So to teach our kids on
Speaker 1: how change comes about. We went to our local protests
Speaker 1: and peacefully protested. Later that night, my wife was on
Speaker 1: the phone with her mother. She was explaining that we
Speaker 1: went to the protests and everything went great. My stepmother
Speaker 1: cuts her off mid sentence and starts regurgitating the Candice
Speaker 1: Owen's video on George Floyd. And she literally was saying
Speaker 1: the most nasty, most racist things I ever thought would
Speaker 1: come out of her mouth. Mind you, she always does
Speaker 1: say slick, racist things under her breath, but I choose
Speaker 1: to ignore it because of respect for my wife. But
Speaker 1: this time I had enough, so I took the phone
Speaker 1: and started explaining to her mother what was going on,
Speaker 1: and she cut me off and didn't even want to listen.
Speaker 1: She explained to me that she doesn't care what's going on.
Speaker 1: She's not black, so why should she care? And I
Speaker 1: said okay, then hung up. So my wife and I
Speaker 1: made the conscious decision to not bring our children around
Speaker 1: her mother or her husband because of their social and
Speaker 1: political views. She's not even taking in the fact that
Speaker 1: it's her crandkids that are both half black, and they
Speaker 1: might go through the same things that he thinks other
Speaker 1: people of color are are going to go through. Are
Speaker 1: we wrong for this? I don't want to keep my
Speaker 1: kids away from my grandmother, but with a toxic mind
Speaker 1: like that, I cannot have the kids around them. Are
Speaker 1: we wrong? Are we over exaggerating or are we already
Speaker 1: doing the right thing. This happened almost two weeks ago,
Speaker 1: and I feel bad, but at the same time, I
Speaker 1: feel like doing what's right. I love that mail and
Speaker 1: I just want to say something. I want to quote
Speaker 1: the Dr Umar, a man of my life. He said,
Speaker 1: and I quote when you mixed chocolate milk and regular
Speaker 1: milk and half chocolate milk chocolate milk one and too.
Speaker 1: Just a side note, this is exactly why non black
Speaker 1: pocs do not need to be saying because I've said it.
Speaker 1: This is why God they just as racist, well not
Speaker 1: not all of them. I when we're speaking, I don't
Speaker 1: want to say all, but I know that we had
Speaker 1: the conversation some of you guys may have heard with
Speaker 1: Brianda Um we put it in in a few episodes ago.
Speaker 1: But I have the conversations with my Latina friends that
Speaker 1: I don't want them to say the N word, but
Speaker 1: specifically because their parents are grandparents and the people that
Speaker 1: I know they were raised by don't have a good
Speaker 1: view on black people or dark skin. I don't even
Speaker 1: want to say just black people, because there are Afro Latina's.
Speaker 1: They get the same treatment as as black people because
Speaker 1: of the color of their skin. Um, I'll say my advice,
Speaker 1: and then I would love to hear what you guys
Speaker 1: UM say. I say that racism is you're not born
Speaker 1: with it, you're taught it. And so to me, the
Speaker 1: influence of what your grandparents could have on your children,
Speaker 1: I would say that that's not conducive to what we
Speaker 1: want our future to look like. Um. So I would
Speaker 1: say it's unfortunate. I think that there's a way to
Speaker 1: be around your your grandparents while they're with your kids.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say leave them alone. I think it's also
Speaker 1: unfortunate to keep certain family members away from children. But
Speaker 1: they're also children, so they'll be fine. Um, they can
Speaker 1: go to the funeral. That was really bad to say,
Speaker 1: But anyway, I just I just honestly, I have no
Speaker 1: no type of sympathy. I guess empathy, yes, but y'all
Speaker 1: know I'll be forgetting words and ship, but I have
Speaker 1: no empathy for this. Um. It's something that happened with
Speaker 1: with my white side of my family. Um Uh. A
Speaker 1: lot of my white side of my family didn't accept
Speaker 1: all of us for being black. I know as far
Speaker 1: as my mom dating, it was very she made sure
Speaker 1: to let anyone that she was dating that wasn't black.
Speaker 1: Let it be known that her children were black, because
Speaker 1: she wasn't gonna stand for someone making us uncomfortable or
Speaker 1: making us feel less sand. So I think that it's
Speaker 1: important for you, as a black man, to not only
Speaker 1: educate your wife, but let her know your reasoning for
Speaker 1: not wanting your kids around. All right, Nick, and I
Speaker 1: feel the same way because um me personally, my daughter, UM,
Speaker 1: my daughter mom is white, so um and men. Her
Speaker 1: and I just had a conversation recently because I was
Speaker 1: I mentioned it with everything going on, and we was like,
Speaker 1: she's turning five, so we're looking into schools and ship
Speaker 1: so we are the schools around her is like they're
Speaker 1: not very like diverse, so there's not that many like
Speaker 1: black students in the in the in the in the schools.
Speaker 1: So I was telling her, like, either school we she
Speaker 1: goes to, I'm gonna have to teach her black history.
Speaker 1: And she she agreed, like and she and she agreed
Speaker 1: like I don't want to teach her to her. I
Speaker 1: feel more comfortable with you teaching it to her, which
Speaker 1: ultimately I was gonna say anyway. But and it's just
Speaker 1: like certain family members on her side too, I think
Speaker 1: feel the same way as like, oh he's the black guy,
Speaker 1: Like why are you dating the black guy? But right,
Speaker 1: But she she she has a tendency of like going
Speaker 1: off and on them too because she she um, she
Speaker 1: loves her daughter obviously, and she really she don't. She
Speaker 1: don't play that ship when it comes to her, and
Speaker 1: that's one thing I command her on. She really big
Speaker 1: on like keeping them family members away from her with
Speaker 1: our commander. And you also just got to check them.
Speaker 1: And I think he tried to check the grandmother and
Speaker 1: she cut her off and wasn't listening. So I mean,
Speaker 1: you're weezy. Do you have anything to add to that? No,
Speaker 1: I mean I actually I find it super interesting. Oh shoot,
Speaker 1: I think their WiFi might cut off, you see that. No, No,
Speaker 1: they're back okay cool? Oh wait maybe not? Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, Well, I love what they said.
Speaker 1: I'm going to wrap this up for them really quickly. Um. Oh,
Speaker 1: you guys are back, okay, So I want you guys
Speaker 1: to do us a favor just just to wrap this up.
Speaker 1: I'm sure everybody really loved this episode, and um, honestly,
Speaker 1: it's something that we've been talking about for so long,
Speaker 1: like this is obviously a quote unquote much more real
Speaker 1: throatle You know, mine was very brief. Uh, what happened
Speaker 1: to it? I never I ain't never listened to I
Speaker 1: ain't hear in the episodes about what happened to do it?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? She kind of just left.
Speaker 1: We was wondering great. I talked about this on Patreon,
Speaker 1: but honestly, Scissors and I we are still great friends. Um,
Speaker 1: we broke up and that basically crumbled the triad, so
Speaker 1: to speak. But you know, I think for a long
Speaker 1: time coming, maybe I saw this happening because her and
Speaker 1: I were friends for so long that that connection and
Speaker 1: that attraction to each other was never really leaving. But
Speaker 1: when we knew that some values weren't adding up or
Speaker 1: some things wouldn't match for like longevity, it didn't work. Um,
Speaker 1: And right now we're we're we're still great friends. And
Speaker 1: don't want to give a shout out to her because
Speaker 1: she just started dating someone. She's got a boyfriend, and
Speaker 1: she said that the boyfriend was like, what the fund
Speaker 1: this bitch be calling you at midnight? Is still your ex?
Speaker 1: And she's like, okay, well this is one x that
Speaker 1: can't go. This is cast to be in my life
Speaker 1: and we are really good friends. Actually got a conversation
Speaker 1: on Twitter. Y'all know this is messy. I was like,
Speaker 1: if I got married, would I not be allowed to
Speaker 1: have her as a risemaid? And people were like, are
Speaker 1: you kiddy? But that's how close he is to me,
Speaker 1: and um, I will say, like, that's why I wanted
Speaker 1: to ask you guys about how it felt when you met,
Speaker 1: because it's weird when you're super attracted to someone but
Speaker 1: you also click. And I can only describe it as
Speaker 1: to hetero people when you meet someone and you call
Speaker 1: them your best friend. Oh my god, he's like my
Speaker 1: best friend. It can really be like that when you
Speaker 1: meet another woman and it's this weird almost like I
Speaker 1: don't want to use the word sisterhood, but like when
Speaker 1: you feel this closeness to a woman, that femininity and
Speaker 1: you're able to have sex together, it's just like unheard of.
Speaker 1: But yeah, and it's crazy because her and I almost
Speaker 1: jumped back into friendship too quick. We were like, okay,
Speaker 1: we can't, we can't, we can't, we can't, but now
Speaker 1: we're great. It feels good and I also think the
Speaker 1: thing with my throatle that I will say distance. I
Speaker 1: don't think we've always all lived in a different city.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's realistic at all. The only good
Speaker 1: thing was you get to funk on Vaca and every
Speaker 1: time you see each other, right, I mean the anticipation.
Speaker 1: I'm sure it was a good funck. But I mean
Speaker 1: you're like, you're like waiting, right, and the other two
Speaker 1: are with each other and your FaceTime and the other
Speaker 1: one like it's almost too much. But this is such
Speaker 1: a great example, and I think what he also makes
Speaker 1: it better is it shows a side of the man
Speaker 1: where you also hear him being dominant but respectful, because
Speaker 1: we don't put those two together when it comes to
Speaker 1: a man dating two women. I feel like ever we
Speaker 1: think like he got it going on and these girls
Speaker 1: are just along for the ride. But YouTube, I mean,
Speaker 1: you three all seem in love and I love I
Speaker 1: love love. Yea, we were able to get y'all on here. Um,
Speaker 1: we are going to put not only their podcasts in
Speaker 1: the description of this, but you guys can. We'll tag
Speaker 1: you guys on Twitter, on Instagram. We'll get your individual
Speaker 1: I know we won't because I feel like people gonna
Speaker 1: try to hollest so we are one that we do
Speaker 1: together because together. So we'll make sure to put well,
Speaker 1: we'll make sure to um post handle so that you
Speaker 1: guys can we even through and maybe find a fourth um.
Speaker 1: But I want to thank you guys so much for
Speaker 1: joining us. This was fun and you guys, specifically um
Speaker 1: Tay and and Sheyla, you let it be known that
Speaker 1: you guys really enjoy each other. You guys respect each other,
Speaker 1: and you don't feel like you're settling. I think a
Speaker 1: lot of women think that, oh, well, y'all are just
Speaker 1: doing this because y'all are settling, or whatever people may
Speaker 1: think of when two women decide to join in a
Speaker 1: relationship like this. So I love how both of you
Speaker 1: respected each other and and definitely showed the bothy y'all
Speaker 1: love Big Dick James over there. I want to think
Speaker 1: again you guys for tuning in weezy. Do you have
Speaker 1: any drops or anything to let the people know, just
Speaker 1: so y'all know we got you know ship comes right.
Speaker 1: You can hear me on another podcast called for Facts Sake.
Speaker 1: If you guys thought I had a white voice, now
Speaker 1: wait to hear me. My friend Eddie every week we
Speaker 1: talk about different topics. Uh, we did conspiracy theories. Last week,
Speaker 1: we do weird depths. I think this week is cheese.
Speaker 1: It just gets crazy. But um, we are going to
Speaker 1: do one on black names. And I don't know who
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get for this, but I've been learning so much.
Speaker 1: Just you know, quarantine makes me YouTube. Ship all the asha's,
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Speaker 1: kings and queens, and people make fun of us for
Speaker 1: the issha and this and that and ship, but little
Speaker 1: do you know your name is Regal And I really
Speaker 1: want to celebrate black names. And I'm trying to find
Speaker 1: a great guest to have on and yeah, it'll be dope.
Speaker 1: So check it out. You guys will love it. Um,
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Speaker 1: has been another episode of Horrible Decisions. Friend. I have
Speaker 1: a friend that when I'm sick, I call her bitch.
Speaker 1: When I'm breaking up with my nigga, I call her.
Speaker 1: If I think I want to kill someone, I'm going
Speaker 1: to call her bitch. If I need to do a
Speaker 1: scam on my AMEX, I'm calling that bitch because she
Speaker 1: knows that is Tammy. How Tammy, motherfucking guy advice for
Speaker 1: every goddamn thing. And you knew she was gonna raised
Speaker 1: a hand. I know because look every time we say,
Speaker 1: if anyone wants to talk, raise your hand. Tammy Tammy
Speaker 1: was me in school. Me, I know the answer, me
Speaker 1: tap pick on me. You know what I mean? Tammy
Speaker 1: Tammy could do this show. Okay, let's get into the
Speaker 1: horrible decision. I don't want to talk too much about
Speaker 1: breath control because I know you're about to do a
Speaker 1: whole episode on it. But look at my Look how
Speaker 1: bad he is? He just biting my hand bra you see, body, Well,
Speaker 1: maybe you shouldn't have bought a cat. Crackhead. I love him.
Speaker 1: I love my little crackhead Katy. Out out, crackhead Katie. Alright,
Speaker 1: crackhead Katy, alright, crackhead, not gonna sing a song about
Speaker 1: my crackhead cat. We're not gonna do that. Okay, Now,
Speaker 1: this is a very basic one, but I only picked
Speaker 1: it because it's actually happening to me, and I'm curious
Speaker 1: to know if you guys are experiencing this. So headline
Speaker 1: women are having a lot of bad sex during COVID. Okay,
Speaker 1: let me explain, not blaming my niggad. Just hear me
Speaker 1: more sex and can you hear you right now? He's
Speaker 1: not home yet, but I'm gonna say it's not so
Speaker 1: this is why you're talking about having bad dick for
Speaker 1: the last four months. Can you do know his dick
Speaker 1: is great? But just hear me. My book is not working.
Speaker 1: Just let me get this out. So a team of
Speaker 1: researcher has got in touch with about sixty women who
Speaker 1: had already surveyed their sex lives in the six months,
Speaker 1: six or twelve months prior to COVID. Most of them
Speaker 1: are having more sex weekly and worse sex. Many people
Speaker 1: have been in a withdrawal response, but others have an
Speaker 1: approach response. Sex can be a stress reliever or distraction. However,
Speaker 1: despite having more sex, women are coming less. Their quality
Speaker 1: of sex isn't getting as good, and they have a
Speaker 1: significant getting deterioration and sexual functioning like arousal lubrication and
Speaker 1: the ability to origas them. Bitch, I'm telling you for
Speaker 1: some reason, I don't know if it's because I'm working
Speaker 1: too much, but it's like I can't come anymore. My
Speaker 1: pussy Just start working. All I do is masturbate all
Speaker 1: of the time. If this nigga is working and he
Speaker 1: can't suck me, I go masturbate, and then during sex
Speaker 1: it's like I can't It's like I can't concentrate or
Speaker 1: I'm sucking too much. It's like three times a day, bitch.
Speaker 1: So not my problem. Um, it ain't new dick, Bro,
Speaker 1: I ain't never Honestly, I know how long it listens. Listen, however,
Speaker 1: let me tell y'all right, Yes, in the pictures seven years,
Speaker 1: like once a week for damn near almost seven years.
Speaker 1: Got it? Got it? Got it? This nigga I have
Speaker 1: seen every single day since we met. And it's not
Speaker 1: an exaggeration. It's yeah, but I've never somebody left every
Speaker 1: day for two months. When did you meet it, Mandy, Bro?
Speaker 1: Like two months ago? Okay, please raise your hand class
Speaker 1: if two month dick is new dick. But no, no,
Speaker 1: wait wait wait for the raising your hand, because yes,
Speaker 1: it's new dick. But when is it when you meet
Speaker 1: somebody that you see them every day for two months straight?
Speaker 1: Ain't nobody doing that? Bro, this is the love of
Speaker 1: your life. We get it, but it's still new. Bro.
Speaker 1: That's fine that it's new, but in y'all. He four times,
Speaker 1: like every time we fuck that nigga nut and the
Speaker 1: dick stay hard and we go again. So it's four
Speaker 1: times every day for the last two months. Bro, I
Speaker 1: think I fussed him more than seven already. That's what
Speaker 1: it feels like. Well that's what it is. But I'm
Speaker 1: comment I'm telling you, I'm coming you, ma'am have been abstinent,
Speaker 1: so your pussy is backed up. I mean I was
Speaker 1: asking it for like two months, bro. Now this menu
Speaker 1: is trying to tell what she ain't man as that long.
Speaker 1: I mean I was. I told him before you got
Speaker 1: in the room. I was. I lied to them one moment.
Speaker 1: No bit, you better not all fuck you up pussy anyway?
Speaker 1: Has anybody I'm curious to know because I have been
Speaker 1: having honeymoon phase, you guys, that's it. I have been
Speaker 1: like fucking so much. And don't get me wrong, Nika
Speaker 1: stroke games lit, We've been making lit videos. I just
Speaker 1: I think my pussy broken and I need to bring
Speaker 1: it back to life. I broken pussy. We need somebody
Speaker 1: to sing the song. Who know? I mean, we know
Speaker 1: you know the song, but actually no, Emmy looked like
Speaker 1: she ready to sing broken pussy broken, pussy now, okay,
Speaker 1: all right,