WEBVTT - Ep173: 3lationship Goals Feat a Throuple 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:14.560 Welcome to Horrible This is like is not on this episode. 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:18.240 We're not using our our sex voices this week. Well, 0:00:18.360 --> 0:00:20.880 first of all, you want me to not use a 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:25.520 sex voice on the Throuble episode, ma'am? Anyway, y'all, I 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:28.040 don't know if y'all can hear the excitement through her 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:35.280 god damn voice my own handy. Y'all, Welcome to Horrible Decisions, 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:38.520 the show where we be stigmatized kings for the black 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:41.159 ass community we're in and if you're not in there, welcome, 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:43.640 We allow you to have a piece of it this hour. 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:46.360 My name's Wheezy and I'm joined by my co host. 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:49.800 Y'all already know, bitch, this is your motherfucking girl, Mandy 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:51.840 be a k A pit saying a k a full 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:55.280 corun aka that bitch because I am still that bitch. 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:58.320 Just know that y'all see me in the swimsuits on 0:00:58.360 --> 0:01:01.720 the ground. I know y'all see me because it's okay. 0:01:01.760 --> 0:01:04.440 I'm getting in the motherfucker's winning suits. Okay. And so 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:07.320 we also have other papers here we would love to talk. 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:10.959 I just had to say that. I just had to 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:13.679 say that real quick too before we start. I do 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:15.920 because someone I had to go off in the comments 0:01:16.160 --> 0:01:19.840 real quick, just so y'all know I'm on every week 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:24.000 talking about Peggy Niggers and sucking dick, and I've mentioned 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:26.400 that I've sucked dick at one point in my life 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:29.840 for money. So don't think for any any chance that 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:32.920 I'm going to be an example for any of you. 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:37.080 Host where they said it was in Miami. It's coronavirus. 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:38.800 Y'all know. I was telling y'all holes to stay in 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.720 the motherfucking house. They was like, damn, you're not setting 0:01:41.760 --> 0:01:43.800 a good example. I am not an example. I have 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:46.720 not pushed a human being out of this pussy and 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:49.440 until then, I didn't sign up to be an example 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:52.000 setter for any of you hoss that I don't know 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:56.559 ship in your drink today, I'm drinking water. I ain't 0:01:56.560 --> 0:02:03.600 even drinking no mother with the polar Spring. So I'm 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:08.079 excited for this episode. You guys, Vandy and I have 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:10.160 tried to meet with this truffle before. I think you 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:12.400 guys were gonna fly out in April, before you know, 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:15.600 COVID happened. So we're so excited that they're here with us. 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:17.440 So what I'm gonna do because we're gonna hear a 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:20.800 few voices in it might be difficult. Let's go, let's 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:24.360 go youngest to oldest. Why you got to bring the 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:31.040 are okay? So no, let's go with who's had sex 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:34.360 the most times in one night to the lowest. Okay, 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:36.200 look it's the one at the bottom of the screen. 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:39.200 She looking like you'll all right, so tell us when 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:42.040 you guys go in order. Um, what's your name is 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:47.080 and your sexual orientation? Alright, Well, my name is Sheila. 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:48.880 I don't have a whole bunch of a ks yet, 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:53.919 but I'm Shay, that's about it. And then sexual orientation, um, 0:02:53.960 --> 0:03:02.040 bisexual and polyamorous. Okay, so we don't know who the 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:09.600 young is next. My bad, my bad, my back. I'm James, 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:14.200 I'm I'm Scraat and ship Um, I got you just 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:18.720 put a C in this. You put it in there 0:03:19.320 --> 0:03:21.079 for Memphis, so I got. I got a little a 0:03:21.080 --> 0:03:23.840 little bit of accent still, but that's my a k 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:29.320 a about her call me Memphis, So that's okay. Cool. Hey, 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:33.680 And I'm Shanta a k a um and I'm bisexual 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:39.720 t Shae in Memphis boy your boy? What episode where about? 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.480 So I know you're all curious what are these three 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:48.480 doing on the podcast. Mandy and I actually have a 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:51.160 thing where we hate having more than two other mics 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:54.280 opposite us. But I had to for these three because 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:58.760 they all ain't gonna lie. I'm dying deep down inside, cringing. 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:01.280 But we're gonna get through this, and we're gonna work 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:06.440 on We're gonna do it. So we're gonna start with 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:08.800 our Vanilla Ship this week before we dive into a 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:10.520 bunch of questions. I almost feel like I have to 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.720 rush this because we're also pressed to figure out more 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:15.320 about you three. But Vanilla Ship is our segment where 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:16.960 we talk about sex in the news every week. And 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:20.640 this article comes from Time Out magazine and it's headline 0:04:20.680 --> 0:04:24.880 saying New York City launches a free condom delivery service. 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:27.440 This is from the Department of Health. It's a door 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:30.560 to door new home delivery service of safer sex products 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:34.160 and an HIV um self test kits. Now, I don't 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:35.839 know how many people are being born in New York 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.800 that they had to give y'all niggas free ubers to condoms. 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:42.960 But there's so many risks, and every year the Health 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:47.239 Department gives about thirty million male condoms out, some internal condoms, 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.800 lubricant um so over thirty five hundred nonprofit organizations. But 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:53.719 now they are going to be delivering it to your door, 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:59.680 a full array of condoms, including the legend excel don't fit. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:04.520 Okay here um the Art Condom NYC. I don't know 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:06.080 what comes on the Art condom. I don't know if 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:10.000 there's a boskiat version or what. What I do know is, uh, 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:13.040 it comes in the mail as well, discreetly packaged envelopes. 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:15.440 You can only get two products at a time. And 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:19.160 you said it's the art condom, right, serious Art Condom NYC. 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:22.040 So like the sleeves where you could put like fake 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:24.239 tattoos on your arm, I could get like some tattoo 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:29.680 dingling like party did I would be cool, and some 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:34.160 Von Dutch dick or something like that. I mean it's 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:40.240 I mean, it's it's written fancy and fancy levels like graffiti. Um. 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:42.320 So let me give you guys the phone number by 0:05:42.320 --> 0:05:44.240 the way, Okay, because this phone number that I'm gonna 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:46.160 give you is also going to tell you where to 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:49.800 get the HIV kits. So this is the NYC Sexual 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:53.360 Health Clinic. Put put this Uh, in your notes. Get 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:57.799 ready three four seven, three nine, six seven, nine five nine, 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:00.680 Monday through Friday, nine to three thirty on the line. 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:03.440 And this is a clinic hotline where you can get 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:05.680 advice on how to get free ship, how to get 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:10.200 the free condoms, um stuff about anti viral therapy if 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:13.559 you already have HIV STD questions because y'all been popping 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:16.880 that pussy during quarantine, just like Mandy's been popping the 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:20.200 pussy on the boat being a naughty really really bu 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:23.279 I wouldn't even popping no pussy, don't know, I got 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:26.040 I got a toy friend. Now, that's what we called it. 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:30.120 I got a toy friend now, so excuse me. You 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:37.039 know what you're talking about before, but out here, but 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:39.080 it's a very burning man crowd, and you can't pop 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:43.440 it out here like that man. Before we get to 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:46.800 another segment to something that again, with everything going on, 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:49.080 I know a lot of people's timelines are kind of 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:52.040 back to normal, but that doesn't mean that we are 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.240 not still fighting a fight. For those of you who 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:56.280 have not been able to make it out to protesting, 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:58.960 For those of you who do not have money, UM 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.920 to maybe donate something else that you can do. Of course, 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:05.080 I am bringing awareness to different petitions that you can sign. 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:07.880 It's literally with the click of a button, you literally 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:11.560 sign your first name, your last name in your email address. UM. 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:14.720 The petition that you guys can sign this week that 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:17.640 will be in the description of this episode is again 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.760 on change dot org and it is to reopen the 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:23.720 case involving the death of tom La Horsford. For those 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:26.040 of you who are not familiar with this case, this 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:29.720 is the mother of five who was found dead after 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:34.640 having a sleepover with UM a lot of white women. UM. 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:39.760 Apparently this happened in fourth in forsythe county UM which 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:43.160 is in which is in Georgia, so not to be 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:47.520 confused with North Carolina Forstykes County. But basically everyone involved 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:51.680 had some sort of UM relation to the politicians, the 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:54.760 sheriff in the city and they pretty much ruled it 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:58.680 a suicide that she jumped off of the second floor balcony. UM. 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:02.680 So what this petition does is looks it's it reopens 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:06.040 the case to look further into investigation on what was 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:09.880 the real cause of death to tom La Horsford. I 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:13.480 also want to UM say r I P two toy 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:17.239 and solos, that is, the activists who was found murdered. 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:21.760 They actually did UM find her murderer as well. So 0:08:21.800 --> 0:08:23.920 I just wanted to r I p to toy in 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:28.360 all right, now I can get back an older story 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:31.480 and it's crazy because it's just resurfacing and the picture 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:33.320 of that night, if you guys have ever seen it, 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:36.760 there's a picture of her with those women that night. Yeah, 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:40.720 it's really insane. But like again, so on top of 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:43.840 the police brutality, again, I think a lot of the 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:47.800 instances regarding black women have been kind of swept under 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:51.520 the rug. Um. Literally only one of the people involved 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:54.680 in the Brianna Taylor case has been fired, so no arrest, 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:58.800 no charges. Literally only only one of the officers were fired. 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:02.200 So UM also still fighting for justice for Brianna Taylor. 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:06.960 So we're gonna get to the horrid derv and hopefully 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:10.240 our throuble will have some insight on another piece of advice. 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:13.319 But everybody writes in every other fucking week on how 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:15.680 to have a threesome in three fucking years, I don't 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:17.920 know how much advice we've given. I don't know if 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:20.360 I'm just the token bitch to have threesomes on this show, 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:22.520 Mandy's having them, but y'all legit be coming up to 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:23.839 me and meet and Greef like, so will you fuck 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:26.160 me in my nigga? And I'm like, wow, there's another 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:35.400 girl right here, you you fan. So they're gonna keep 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:37.000 asking you with me and greet to join them, and 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:39.080 then I'm not the one it anymore. So anyway, here's 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:43.400 my advice, UM, for the threesomes. This is very simple advice. UM. 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:46.040 This is for not assuming a throuple obviously, but just 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:50.000 people that are starting out. Super basic but serious, because 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:52.640 I feel like every time we get an email about something, 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.240 this would have helped you in the beginning. Make sure 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:59.520 that everyone is excited about having it. I don't know why. 0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:04.359 For the love god, men are almost coercing their girlfriends 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:07.280 into fucking women that they don't want to fuck one 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:11.359 and two making them feel guilty about it, like, oh, 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:13.560 you know see, I can't never do shoot with you either. 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:15.640 You want you don't want me to cheat? You know 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:17.120 what I'm saying, It's okay, I'm You're just gonna have 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:20.760 me do this. That is gaslighting is disgusting. Why don't 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:23.240 you talk instead of make me feel bad about it, like, 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:27.120 do you understand that it's literally the definition of coercion. 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:29.120 How are you gonna, like, what if women did this 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:31.360 to you? Oh wow, you ain't gonna stuck a dick 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:37.160 with me, nigga? How you feel We're right? Guys have 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:41.600 given people any advice when it comes to three SOMs there? 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:44.160 Maybe when people are asking your advice, who's what's the 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:47.479 first piece that you go to? Hit on those waitresses? 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.760 I mean, hit on the waitresses. You're you're out, there's 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:54.280 people all around you. Hit on the you know, just 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:56.040 the people that you talked to. You might be in 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:59.320 a bar and hit it off with somebody, um, and 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:01.679 just get out of your comfort zone. I think for 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:04.360 James that was a lot easier for me. I don't 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:07.040 really hit on women a lot, so that was kind 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:09.000 of out of my comfort zone. But once I kind 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.000 of stepped out of that and decided, you know, I 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:13.400 was going to shoot my shot, then I would say 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:17.280 it works or you know again, James in the mix 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:19.760 of that, and I think I'm gonna lie. I actually 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:22.440 like that piece of advice. I don't think that. I 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:24.640 think people automatically think they have to go to a 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:28.120 strip club to find someone who would join them, and 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.960 instead you could easily just start off by, yeah, flirting 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:37.640 with your waitresses or your bartenders or and I would say, um, yeah, Sheyla, 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:40.520 I think you said that you're a little bit more shy, 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:44.800 and then James um would do the flirting. But I'll say, 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:47.720 as someone who was in that space as a waitress, 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:51.240 as a bartender, when the woman flirts with you, that's 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:53.920 when you know you kind of have more of the go. Um. 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:56.800 I think if the guy starts flirting, you don't know 0:11:56.880 --> 0:12:01.040 if it's just on some uncomfortable ship. If he describes so. 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:03.439 As a woman, as you know, in that position, you 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:05.720 don't really want to flirt back. So I would say 0:12:05.880 --> 0:12:08.320 for women in the situation, if you've already talked about 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.439 it with your partner and you do go the route 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:12.640 of flirting with the waitress and stuff like that, I 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:16.360 would say, Sheyla or or any any woman listening, you 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:19.800 be the first to flirt. Guys don't do it because 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:23.720 we we all know, we all know in trouble, right, 0:12:23.840 --> 0:12:26.160 That's right. That's what I be telling her too, because 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:29.440 she she left shy. Once I say something, Once I 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:31.959 say something, she all up and she with the ship, 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:38.439 But you gotta say something first. You gotta say something. 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:43.640 That's if I do I feel you though, sayla because 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:47.319 like my nigga literally has said, like, I'm not doing 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.319 ship if you don't talk, I'm not We're not getting 0:12:49.320 --> 0:12:51.880 in a fight about this whatever. But if he just 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:54.000 says one little thing, because sometimes I'll give it him 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:56.800 like okay, maybe her right, you know, and then it 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:59.480 kind of starts off like that. But have you found 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:03.120 that people are ever like when it's just been two 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:05.199 of you, whether it be you and Shante or you 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:09.280 and shape. Have you noticed that sometimes people are looking 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:11.319 at you and may have you ever felt like someone 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:13.079 wanted to invite? Can you tell me about a time 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:16.240 like that? I mean you can sometimes you can tell you. 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:20.120 They always ask questions, they hint, like they'll comment on 0:13:20.280 --> 0:13:22.600 the woman, like oh, she's so she's so pretty, she's 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:26.560 so beautiful, and then that's first to me, right obviously, 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:29.800 like oh she would just way too long. You just 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:39.000 said birtiful accent, but I didn't gonna hold you New 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:43.080 yorkful a little bit. He said birdiful. It is screen, 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:51.160 But yeah, I mean it comes and goes and ship 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:53.920 because I've been out here for about ten Levin, you're 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:59.920 so coming, sir, we hear exactly what you're Do you 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:04.800 have any advice to give someone looking to start or 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:08.080 have or introduce a threesome in their relationship or with 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:11.480 their partner. Well, I'm not a be. Prior to being 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:14.439 in this type of relationship, I was limited on how 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:17.679 many throesomes I didn't had. I'm not the one I 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:22.520 want to ask because, like what she was saying, like 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:24.880 with with them too, they would hit on like waitresses 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:28.160 and things like that. I just asked my best friend like, hey, 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:37.200 you know you wanna Okay, so you mean you uh yeah, 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:40.920 so so I guess let me ask ask you then. Um. 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:42.960 In terms of bringing in your friends, I think a 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:45.720 lot of people assume that bringing in your friends into 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:49.440 that environment ruins the relationship or the friendship or you 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:51.800 feel some type of way. Have you experienced that with 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:55.000 bringing your friends into the bedroom with you? Um? I 0:14:55.040 --> 0:14:58.080 did feel some type of way. I'm not gonna get 0:14:58.120 --> 0:15:00.600 into any details, but yeah I do. I did feel 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:04.200 some type of way. But we were so cool afterwards, okay. 0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:07.600 And I'd say for for us like we or for me, 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:10.320 We've had three sims of friends. I feel like I've 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:14.440 gone through all my friends, but it doesn't affect the relationship. 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:18.160 And my friends know like how I am. So we 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:20.720 might be fucking in front of them just to like 0:15:20.960 --> 0:15:23.280 be like, come on, come over here, you know, but 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:27.800 they all know me letting them know you could go 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:32.840 to the lobby or you could stay in the room. No, 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.840 but I mean again, it was which one of us 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:37.800 is gonna suck the perfect time going when they get 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:44.360 to our shows. Let me know, we've been trying to 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:46.760 give James a little surprised. So let's get right into 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:49.880 the horrible decision. Um, I couldn't hear what you said. 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:51.600 What did you say? They said they've been trying to 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.720 give me afford in the same house as y'all. I 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:58.080 ain't even gonna hold it. Let's it, let's she recorded 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:08.320 on a wei or just sketch. No, y'all got favorite. 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:11.760 Y'all gave her the like jankie WiFi the funk. I 0:16:11.960 --> 0:16:14.560 just came in from work, so my station was already 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:18.840 made up for me. Come on, stay okay, I want 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:22.760 to call this my girlfriend, girlfriend and I and the 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:24.440 only reason I'm going to give this a little bit 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:28.160 of mask possession is because for the most part, we 0:16:28.200 --> 0:16:31.840 have had more women dominate the conversation about threesomes. And 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:34.920 I'm kind of interested in obviously bouncing back and forth, 0:16:35.120 --> 0:16:38.640 but you do seem like the more dominant figure in 0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:42.160 these two in this situation, I could tell and I'm 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:44.360 curious to know how you guys met. Let's start with that, 0:16:44.680 --> 0:16:47.520 how you met, and then everybody kind of jumping about 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:51.160 what they were thinking of each other. She me and 0:16:51.160 --> 0:16:58.680 Sheila who you were talking to you? Um me and 0:16:58.360 --> 0:17:01.240 in school and high school ship on my my lad 0:17:01.320 --> 0:17:04.520 my senior year, I think she was I don't know 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:06.680 what the funk she was, but we made in school, 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:11.240 but um Me and chant Actually me and Chante actually 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:14.040 worked together. So I was flirting with and ship because 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:17.200 we was we was looking for a third but not 0:17:17.359 --> 0:17:19.720 looking for a third to be in our relationship because 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:21.760 we was actually just tired of the random three sims 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:24.359 and ship with motherfucker's just come in and out, in 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:29.879 and out, but ship. So I presented the presented it 0:17:29.920 --> 0:17:32.480 to Chante and I think she thought I was boyshit 0:17:32.520 --> 0:17:34.600 and she I was just you know, just talking. But 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:40.400 they had them meet up because if she wasn't with it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:43.240 I had had them meet first and ship, so so 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:46.400 if they didn't mesh, then we we wouldn't eve waste 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:50.920 our time with it, right yeah? Because so so can 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:59.119 I ask um you, Shante? Look you know what I mean, Chante? 0:17:59.240 --> 0:18:01.919 Can I ask you you kind of what that first 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:04.480 interaction and what that first meeting was like? And did 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:08.679 you guys at all like talk about becoming a couple. 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:10.720 Was that even in the conversation when you guys hung 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:13.879 out by yourselves, Um, that that seems like it was 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:17.399 so long ago. Um, But no, we we hit it 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:22.520 off perfectly. We we talked. We you know, it was 0:18:22.600 --> 0:18:25.240 like a little brunch setting, so it was like in 0:18:25.320 --> 0:18:29.240 a comfortable atmosphere. We chopped it up, um, and then 0:18:29.280 --> 0:18:32.760 afterwards we went smoke. But it was did you you know, 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:35.320 I'm curious to know did you feel like when you 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:40.359 met um When you met Umila, did you feel like 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:43.960 she was more like like it was a homegirl sister 0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:45.760 vibe or were you attracted her when you met her? 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:48.080 What did you what was that initial feeling I was 0:18:48.119 --> 0:18:50.760 attracted to her. I was like, Okay, she's cute, all right, 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:54.600 I see um. No, but I thought she was cute, 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:57.080 and I mean at first it's it's a little intimidating 0:18:57.119 --> 0:19:00.479 because you have a couple or a man telling you 0:19:00.480 --> 0:19:03.560 that him and his girl wants to somebody to join 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:06.960 the relationship. So meeting her, I was just like, I 0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:09.000 don't know about this. I was a little nervous getting 0:19:09.000 --> 0:19:11.080 out of the car. But like I said, like our conversation, 0:19:11.760 --> 0:19:14.960 you know, everything flowed, everything was perfect, and she was pretty. 0:19:15.000 --> 0:19:18.800 So yeah, what, um, how long have you guys been 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:25.719 together before we met, before Shante came into the relationship. 0:19:25.840 --> 0:19:29.400 Me and James have been together for what I'm really 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:33.200 bad at this stuff. I think like five or six years, Um, 0:19:33.240 --> 0:19:37.520 so about five I would say, how long did together? 0:19:38.280 --> 0:19:41.320 About almost two years? A year and a half or so. 0:19:43.080 --> 0:19:45.879 But and I definitely agree with what Santa said. We 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:48.960 try not to I would say, we try not to 0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:51.520 give the like the whole home homegirl vibe. Like I 0:19:51.600 --> 0:19:55.479 try not to give that because essentially my purpose is 0:19:56.560 --> 0:19:59.119 not to be a homegirl, like I want to fuck you. 0:19:59.200 --> 0:20:01.360 I want you to be my woman, and I want 0:20:01.359 --> 0:20:03.480 you to be in my name and everything too, so 0:20:03.680 --> 0:20:07.080 like I'm not there to be your friend. Um. But 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:09.160 I would say, like in the In the beginning, when 0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:12.639 James first told me about Chante, like he said, we 0:20:12.640 --> 0:20:16.480 weren't really actively looking anymore. Um. The looking processes is 0:20:17.160 --> 0:20:20.320 very dragging. Um. And we really open it up to 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:23.320 each other for us to flirt with who we want 0:20:23.359 --> 0:20:27.240 to to try to establish or bring that the person 0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:31.679 into the relationship. Um. But once we agreed on you 0:20:31.720 --> 0:20:34.720 brought her to my attention. I agreed. I thought she 0:20:34.800 --> 0:20:37.640 was very beautiful woman, met up with her, and honestly, 0:20:37.680 --> 0:20:39.480 going in, I wasn't even sure if she was gonna 0:20:39.480 --> 0:20:42.679 be for real because we had so many flakes and 0:20:42.760 --> 0:20:45.320 so many yeah, I want to do this, and yeah 0:20:45.400 --> 0:20:46.760 and this and this and not, and it just didn't 0:20:46.760 --> 0:20:53.080 work right right. So I'm curious to know. Do I 0:20:53.160 --> 0:20:58.600 wanna ask this question to Tay. Do people ever like 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:01.720 assume that you're in a controlling a relationship or like 0:21:01.760 --> 0:21:05.400 you don't want this because some dude bound you at 0:21:05.400 --> 0:21:07.679 work and got you living with him and his girlfriend, 0:21:07.680 --> 0:21:09.680 and like, had that happened to you when you've told 0:21:09.680 --> 0:21:11.920 your friends, because I'm assuming that with them, maybe they've 0:21:11.960 --> 0:21:13.679 already had some conversation with the friends better, But what 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:18.280 about you? You are the quote unquote third. Right. So, um, 0:21:18.320 --> 0:21:22.199 I've had people asked me if I'm settling because you know, 0:21:22.240 --> 0:21:26.840 obviously field relationships in the past, and they're like, okay, well, like, 0:21:27.000 --> 0:21:28.920 is it because you can't find a man of your 0:21:28.960 --> 0:21:31.159 own to where you have to be with some a 0:21:31.200 --> 0:21:34.240 man and a woman that's already been established, um, And 0:21:34.400 --> 0:21:36.720 I have to explain it to them, like, no, that's perfectly, 0:21:37.080 --> 0:21:39.240 that's not it. Because if I wanted to get a dude, 0:21:39.560 --> 0:21:41.280 which is me and that dude, I have no problem 0:21:41.440 --> 0:21:44.679 doing that. Um. It's just something that obviously was new 0:21:44.720 --> 0:21:46.639 and foreign to me. If I didn't like it, I 0:21:46.640 --> 0:21:48.600 would have left the relationship a long time ago. But 0:21:48.680 --> 0:21:51.280 obviously I liked it enough to stay. And it's like 0:21:51.320 --> 0:21:54.199 you build a relationship, but not only the man, but 0:21:54.280 --> 0:21:56.600 you build a relationship with the woman, and then you 0:21:56.600 --> 0:22:00.240 guys all build a relationship together. Um. So you like 0:22:00.280 --> 0:22:01.720 they say, you can knot get to you try it. 0:22:02.160 --> 0:22:04.800 I love that. Okay, I'm gonna take a quick break 0:22:04.800 --> 0:22:07.800 just to get to our ads. Hey guys, this week's 0:22:07.800 --> 0:22:11.199 episode is brought to you by no motherfucking body. I 0:22:11.240 --> 0:22:13.320 just want to say thank you to everyone who is 0:22:13.359 --> 0:22:17.000 a patron and everyone who supports the brand. For those 0:22:17.000 --> 0:22:20.000 of you who are all called up with horrible decisions, 0:22:20.359 --> 0:22:24.680 you can now become a patron at Patreon dot com 0:22:24.720 --> 0:22:29.240 backslash Horrible Decisions and get up to three bonus episodes 0:22:29.480 --> 0:22:33.399 every month. We're so excited. Stay tuned because at the 0:22:33.480 --> 0:22:36.080 end of this episode you will hear a five minute 0:22:36.080 --> 0:22:39.960 bonus clip from our Patreon bonus episode, and there are 0:22:40.080 --> 0:22:43.680 over seventy there for you to catch up on. So 0:22:43.960 --> 0:22:45.960 if you have caught up with all of the Horrible 0:22:46.000 --> 0:22:50.800 Decisions episodes, become a patron now at Patreon dot com 0:22:50.840 --> 0:22:55.320